So to be honest to everyone here, please don’t wait to honour mental hunger no matter how crazy it is 😩 I had some degree of osteoporosis and lots of other health issues due to anorexia even though I wasn’t underweight anymore. The body is so so smart, I still eat to mental hunger and it needs to be respected, and yes even with more weight than u would want to have. There’s no other way around I’m sorry
Perfect timing! Really struggled today with trying to ignore my mental hunger by distracting myself, eating an apple, delaying meals. And I have all sorts of hunger other than standard physical hunger...mental hunger, extreme hunger and even dream hunger! Watching this video I just had a flash of one of my dreams last night and it involved a cafeteria just full of apple based desserts...apple tarts, strudels, pies, muffins...can't make this stuff up 🤦These videos are really helping me push a bit more every day. Thanks so so much!!
Perfect timing! Challenge accepted although I’m terrified. I’m struggling really bad to still go out to dinner and eat even with all the food I’ve eaten today.
You’re so right here - we interpret physical hunger signals as being so much more legitimate and valid than mental hunger. Tbh I didn’t actually really consider constantly thinking about food as a form of extreme hunger. Interesting concept… I think there is a part of me that hopes by ignoring all the food thoughts that they will eventually magically disappear. I keep telling myself the thoughts are just habitual/ingrained thought patterns that will go away over time. Hasn’t happened yet though! (Who knew!?!) 🙈 Thanks for another thought provoking video Becky. Enjoy your special time with little Hazel ! 💗
I never thought about how much I do that you are completely right by the time it's time to eat or go to the restaurant you are absolutely mentally exhausted but more of a problem and effort
Thanks for the challenge idea. Shows just how much control I actually have when asked to let someone else choose or serve me….never do it…not even a cup of tea…just automatic that I do it all. Will give it a go. On mental hunger I do have a Q. I do not have extreme physical hunger and I would say I don’t think about or plan food beyond normal family catering. But I do spend most of my spare mental time thinking about recovery and vacillating between determination and despair, looking at Insta recovery accounts and yes some TH-cam videos. Is this mental hunger in disguise? Can anyone else relate to that? I have tried deleting everything before but then after the initial relief the thoughts come back and the feeling that I want to change etc etc…Maybe I have just been missing the elephant in the room 🤔
All of what you listed above is absolutely mental hunger. The fact you keep returning to recovery content is indicative you want to, and need to, change. Fear is getting in the way, it’s time to run into that fear!👊🏼
Totally needed to hear all of this. I'm gaining weight and am constantly thinking about how awful it feels and how I want my gain to be gone. Its consuming me and I'm fixated on all of it...weight, food, movement, etc., etc. Its makes sense that its my body taking over..it wants to recover and even if I'm restricting or excessive moving its not going to give up. It wants to revover irregardless what im doing or thinking. Hope this makes sense. I just ate to mental hunger which obviously feels like a binge to me snd my thoughts are a mess. I wish I could just truly give up my ed, I don't know why I'm so afraid to trust my body and the process
You’re afraid bc that’s the nature of an Ed and you have an Ed! Make your life mission right now to prove to your body you are not afraid of weight gain via your actions! Think food abundance!
I had this really messed up situation a few days ago where I was talking to my ED therapist and I was basically saying everything you are saying in this video, and she was telling me that I need to have some element of control (after 25 years of anorexia!) and should stop at a reasonable portion! I asked her reasoning why I should t respond fully to mental hunger and she said because at the moment my body can’t register fullness, so I have to ‘teach’ it when to stop until my hunger cues kick in again. To me, this feels like deprivation?! I’m so confused. Please help
Physical fullness cues aren’t reliable, she is right about that, however thankfully, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t eat, listen to that mental hunger, your body really does know how to do this.
I've been really trying this last week, thanks to your videos Becky. I realised just how much mental hunger I have. But I get so full up physically, and so worried about having to eat the next meal/snack, that I don't know how to find the balance.
@@beckyfreestone9908 thank you!!!!! Its amazing that you take the time to reply, as well as post all this amazing content (as well as work and family!!!)
So to be honest to everyone here, please don’t wait to honour mental hunger no matter how crazy it is 😩 I had some degree of osteoporosis and lots of other health issues due to anorexia even though I wasn’t underweight anymore. The body is so so smart, I still eat to mental hunger and it needs to be respected, and yes even with more weight than u would want to have. There’s no other way around I’m sorry
Perfect timing! Really struggled today with trying to ignore my mental hunger by distracting myself, eating an apple, delaying meals. And I have all sorts of hunger other than standard physical hunger...mental hunger, extreme hunger and even dream hunger! Watching this video I just had a flash of one of my dreams last night and it involved a cafeteria just full of apple based desserts...apple tarts, strudels, pies, muffins...can't make this stuff up 🤦These videos are really helping me push a bit more every day. Thanks so so much!!
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Find myself performing mental gymnastics when it comes to going out to eat, especially after having a day or fully honoring my hunger
Perfect timing! Challenge accepted although I’m terrified. I’m struggling really bad to still go out to dinner and eat even with all the food I’ve eaten today.
OMG I call it mental gymnastics when it came to going out when I was tracking, etc!! I love these videos!!!
You’re so right here - we interpret physical hunger signals as being so much more legitimate and valid than mental hunger.
Tbh I didn’t actually really consider constantly thinking about food as a form of extreme hunger. Interesting concept…
I think there is a part of me that hopes by ignoring all the food thoughts that they will eventually magically disappear. I keep telling myself the thoughts are just habitual/ingrained thought patterns that will go away over time. Hasn’t happened yet though! (Who knew!?!) 🙈
Thanks for another thought provoking video Becky. Enjoy your special time with little Hazel ! 💗
You got it. Brb getting that chocolate bar.
I never thought about how much I do that you are completely right by the time it's time to eat or go to the restaurant you are absolutely mentally exhausted but more of a problem and effort
Thanks for the challenge idea. Shows just how much control I actually have when asked to let someone else choose or serve me….never do it…not even a cup of tea…just automatic that I do it all. Will give it a go. On mental hunger I do have a Q. I do not have extreme physical hunger and I would say I don’t think about or plan food beyond normal family catering. But I do spend most of my spare mental time thinking about recovery and vacillating between determination and despair, looking at Insta recovery accounts and yes some TH-cam videos. Is this mental hunger in disguise? Can anyone else relate to that? I have tried deleting everything before but then after the initial relief the thoughts come back and the feeling that I want to change etc etc…Maybe I have just been missing the elephant in the room 🤔
All of what you listed above is absolutely mental hunger. The fact you keep returning to recovery content is indicative you want to, and need to, change. Fear is getting in the way, it’s time to run into that fear!👊🏼
Thanks Becky. Will have an honest appraisal of where I am . Really helpful. X
Thank you so much. Amazing advice, as always.
Totally needed to hear all of this. I'm gaining weight and am constantly thinking about how awful it feels and how I want my gain to be gone. Its consuming me and I'm fixated on all of it...weight, food, movement, etc., etc. Its makes sense that its my body taking over..it wants to recover and even if I'm restricting or excessive moving its not going to give up. It wants to revover irregardless what im doing or thinking. Hope this makes sense. I just ate to mental hunger which obviously feels like a binge to me snd my thoughts are a mess. I wish I could just truly give up my ed, I don't know why I'm so afraid to trust my body and the process
You’re afraid bc that’s the nature of an Ed and you have an Ed! Make your life mission right now to prove to your body you are not afraid of weight gain via your actions! Think food abundance!
Such a great challenge !!
I had this really messed up situation a few days ago where I was talking to my ED therapist and I was basically saying everything you are saying in this video, and she was telling me that I need to have some element of control (after 25 years of anorexia!) and should stop at a reasonable portion!
I asked her reasoning why I should t respond fully to mental hunger and she said because at the moment my body can’t register fullness, so I have to ‘teach’ it when to stop until my hunger cues kick in again. To me, this feels like deprivation?! I’m so confused. Please help
Physical fullness cues aren’t reliable, she is right about that, however thankfully, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t eat, listen to that mental hunger, your body really does know how to do this.
Ugh- yup, guilty. Terrifies me to imagine just letting go.
Don’t imagine it then, just do it!🤷🏻♀️
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If not now, when???
@@beckyfreestone9908 I just cannot imagine the long term commitment and the very real likelihood i will become overweight, as those are my genetics.
What’s your alternative?
I've been really trying this last week, thanks to your videos Becky. I realised just how much mental hunger I have. But I get so full up physically, and so worried about having to eat the next meal/snack, that I don't know how to find the balance.
There doesn’t need to be a balance. You may feel full for a very long time in recovery. It’s ok, eat to mental hunger!
@@beckyfreestone9908 thank you!!!!! Its amazing that you take the time to reply, as well as post all this amazing content (as well as work and family!!!)
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