i'm building out a whole playlist on detox-ing from social media 😊check it out: th-cam.com/play/PLqrBN0N5p3T2pkaMHZbERX7HxPlZjsJR2.html&si=qUSceMFJu_pe3zjB
The maintaining relationships just because it’s easy online is SO TRUE. It really shows who genuinely wants to keep in touch when you get off those platforms, it’s baffling
totallyyyy takes some adjusting too 😮💨but then the connections you form after and the people who do choose to stay in touch intentionally are that much more deep friends❣and i'd take that every time!
Says you...I'm just like I am online as I am in real life. People online and real life are all just as fake and sensitive. Been on the net since the 90s and in chat rooms...and my personsality has gotten me banned more times and these days timed out in Discords. LOL. Been banned with FB too many times before i just left it 5 years ago. Bout a year ago i tipped my toe back into IG and Threads and just don't fit with anyone there either. Just Deactivated those. All i have is TH-cam and it's so easy to ignore and just walk aawy from it.
I joined Facebook in 2009 when I turned 13 after begging my mum to let me have an account. Like many others, I was hooked on social media for years, and it became such a normal part of life. By 2020, I decided to delete all my social media accounts (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.), and honestly, it has been a life-changing experience. I feel so much lighter and more present without the constant noise. That said, one thing I did not expect was how many people would stop sharing news or updates directly because they just assume you have seen it online. It made me realise how much our communication has shifted, and there is this unspoken expectation that everyone is plugged in all the time. While it is a little sad, I have found it also makes for deeper, more intentional conversations when people do reach out, depending on the person.
our timelines with this journey are SO similar!!! and I completely agree with your observation how broadly our communication has shifted with the expectation for us to be "plugged in" always!i it's so frustrating but like you said - makes for much deeper connections with the circle you keep because it requires that extra intentional effort ♥ thank you for sharing your story!! we're 100% on the same wavelength here, i'm so glad you chimed in 😊living under a rock together 🥂
I'm 23 and I deleted all my social media apps three weeks ago, I feel better mentally, knowing I'm not comparing myself and life to others and then there's no bullying going on and no negativity and most importantly no more migraines from being on my phone 7 hours a day.
CONGRATULATIONS on taking those huge steps Lyss!!!!☀🎉 i'm so happy for you!! it's reallyyyy hard at first but it will get better with time I promise 💛so glad to hear you're already feeling a weight lifted and the positive effects of not being sucked into the apps every day! i appreciate you sharing your experience!!! we're all in this together and can learn from sharing our stories with each other 🌸
I’m a guy the same age as you and just felt like saying I quit in 2022 by slowly getting off it then I eventually found the most efficient way was to just bite my tongue and delete the ACCOUNTS not just the apps and I swear I had this pain in my side for about a week till I just felt relieved. The biggest thing that was your life is going to get really boring if you’re only three weeks out. So I just wanted to come here and advise that you start going outside. You get into drawing or painting, Playing an instrument, reading. Because after getting on and off of it for the last three years, what ultimately got me off permanently was finding better hobby’s.
Rosy!! that's so exciting!! it's a journey navigating getting off them but it's sooo well worth it! you should totally share your reflections some day further down the line as well! it's challenging but so valuable to have the time and mental clarity back 🌼
I quit Instagram over a year ago and it’s been the best decision. For me, I noticed the confidence I’ve experienced was less about looks (I wasn’t worried about that) but more about my decision-making as an adult. I no longer feel like I’m being monitored and I can do whatever I want (within reason). I just care less about opinions now. And I also savour mundane experiences and actually text my friends/family to share it with, if I want.
oooo this is something i didn't touch on in my video but is really really valid so thank you for bringing it up!!! the judgemental nature of the digital world makes it hard to come to your own decisions about things and cut through all the noise to discover your own identity, morals, and values!! i 100% relate to that as well - people have so many opinions and are WAY too quick to share them online😓you bring up such a wonderful point!! "savouring mundane experiences" is own of my favorite pastimes 🥰we're definitely similar in that way!! thank you so much for sharing your perspective, i can't believe i didn't touch on this ❣
I deleted social media except for TH-cam and WhatsApp at the beginning of this year, and I did a 100-day challenge to track my progress. I feel so calm and happy, and I have started focusing on my life. I do a lot of activities, and time feels like it’s moving very slowly. I think I will stay like this for the rest of my life, and I encourage everyone to start this challenge .
that sounds like a really fantastic challenge - i'm glad it's been so beneficial for you!! time feeling like it's moving very slowly is such a precious feeling that is often lost this day & age 🥰
I feel you on this! I felt time slowed and I did more activities for myself and for the physical people around me and it gave me sooooo much more joy! ❤
i'm so glad this connected with you!!! that means a lot 💗i think it's such an important experience and message to share given how prevalent social media is - something i'm going to continue to talk about big time on this channel!
I reasonate with this video so much, especially with the stalking part. I barely have had convos with these random people and I'm just addicted to stalking them. I used to check peoples profiles off the wake up. I eventually stopped but I still sometimes find myself stalking those from my past or randoms. I'm currently on my 30 day social media cleanse even though I have failed numerous times, but I am going to keep trying because it truly is deteriorating my mental health.
i know exactlyyy how that feels!!! it is SO hard when you can point at the thing that's causing you stress/mental health strain (ie. social media) but physically can't bring yourself to get off of it because of how addictive it is!! i'm glad you're trying the 30 day cleanse 😊it'll be REALLY valuable even with a few slip ups!! and if you're already on your way with detoxes here & there, deactivating for periods of time, then you're at least aware of the dynamic it's causing you which is the first step!! cold turkey is the only thing that worked for me ultimately, but it is definitely not a one-size-fits-all solution, it's such a personal decision! I know you'll find your way through ✨💙 i'm going to continue to make videos on this topic because i'm very passionate about it, i have an entire "social media detox" playlist i'm filling out if you're ever interested: th-cam.com/play/PLqrBN0N5p3T2pkaMHZbERX7HxPlZjsJR2.html it's challenging but we're navigating this together ☘good luck with the rest of your cleanse!!
So true about the brainrot disconnects! It’s genuinely disturbing to see people continuously consume throughout their whole day - where is the time to think and live and experience?
i know...... 😔i fear some people aren't experiencing at all!! hence wanting to point some of this out and make a channel dedicated to sharing the message :)
Near the end when you said it’s interesting to see who reaches out. Your preaching to the choir. I had SOOO many friends in highschool etc (I’m 23, I quit when I was 20) barely ANYONE kept me in their lives. I’m happily married and don’t really feel like I need a lot of friends but it was kind of wild how quickly my social life died because I wasn’t online but I made new friends, a new life. It’s well worth it
the new friends you build and community you create in your life after social media are SO much deeper connections because of being offline (at least that's what i find!!). and then the handful of people from the past who do stay in touch and reach out intentionally on an individual level become really valuable, long-lasting friends ❤it's a weird adjustment period but i think you get muchhh deeper relationships coming out of it!! which i would chose any day over the many many fake friends who i only keep in touch with on social media platforms 🌱
Your comment is spot on I'm 35 and 3 years ago deleted everyone I hadn't had a conversation with verbal words. I got better relationships once I did that. I did have one person berate and bully me, my mum and my brothers because I deleted her off my social media. I'm like girl ..I'm 35, we aren't 7 anymore, get over it..we hadn't spoken in 11 years 😂😂 and last time she spoke she bashed me for "loving the gays" so I'm glad she's gone forever.
Currently decompressing with this video, and also realizing that I myself am addicted to youtube and streaming platforms as well. I have deleted all socials off my phone and limited my time for them on all my devices. The addiction is real was feeling depressed about spending time offline the internet was really my first addiction. Looking forward to quitting social media, I quit alcohol so I know I can do this! Thanks for sharing all these insights !!
thank you SO much for sharing your story Katherine❣it's so challenging to navigate this type of addiction because the world is soo driven by these types of technology and there's less of a support system in place as there may be with quitting alcohol (at least that's my assumption from the outside - you would know better than me!). it can be really isolating and depressing 😕but we're in it together and there's certainly more people sharing their experiences now which I find really comforting🌻 congratulations on being conscious and taking the first steps 💛you are so strong and 100% will be able to build a healthy relationship with the socials/YT if you're conscious and intentional about your consumption :) here for you!!!
@@kate.cassidy Awe you are so kind! You're so right they are. regular part of our lives, integrates with work and personal activities! Definately less support for quitting social media and managing our tech relationships, but it starts with videos and conversations like these ! We're in it together!
Im in this boat too. I’ve definitely replaced a lot of my content time with YT, and I tell myself that the longer forum content is better for attention span, and that I have better control over the algorithm thru channel subscriptions… but in the end who knows. Overall I feel a lot better though.
When I first got into social media, I was living in the times where meeting people in person was a real thing, still. What made me quit social media is when I started to realized the threat I put myself and many people I care about out in the open. Social media is a tine wasting machine and it makes for people to follow you and judge you as a person instead of actually getting to see you in person and really get to learn about you. Social media lowers your value because of the abundance of what most people are looking for online, without the concern of supply and demand. I love to see more people in our generation waking up to see social media for what it really is.
"social media lowers your value because of the abundance of what most people are looking for online" - this is a FASCINATING point!!! thank you so much for sharing! i agree we're somehow almost cheapening ourselves by putting on this funny show on platforms like Instagram, curating an image of ourselves for others to consume rather than keeping some things private for ourselves!📱 i'm also very very happy more people are starting to wake up to the dangers of these platforms! like you allude to, it's so much more worthwhile to get to see people in person and really connect/learn about each other more deeply! 🌄we're living under a rock together hahaha
From far, the most honest video that I ever saw about quitting on youtube. For me It’s been one year and a half . At the begging you think that everything changed, but no one tells you how hard is to break patterns of validation and vanity. You get used to be self centered, always in worry about your self image like it was normal, and it isn’t. And even after this time off, I constantly need to remember what makes sense to me, pushing myself to focus on what really matters and remembering my purpose and value to break this addicted cycle over and over again. Thanks for your video, was the daily reminder for me. Hugs from Brasil! 🇧🇷
congratulations on deleting!!! "lighter" is the PERFECT word to describe the feeling of being off the apps 💛🌻it's so freeing!! thank you for sharing your story :)
Hey Kate - I just got a new phone today. As I was reinstalling apps I was contemplating life without social media. I chose not to install one of my accounts, but I think you've convinced me to remove them all. My wife and I do enjoy sending videos/reels back and forth, but I think we could get behind the idea of just talking. What a novel concept! Peace under a rock sounds fantastic!
Hahah regular old conversations with each other?? unheard of!! it's worth trying out life without them and seeing how it feels! if you find yourself missing the little videos, then you can go back to them in a balanced/intentional way - it's just good to be aware of our consumption patterns given these platforms are built to be addictive! when i was first getting off being hooked on the reels/tiktoks, i challenged myself to watch long form content just to heal my attention span - you and your wife could start a new tradition of movie nights :) lots to explore in testing out being off social media!
YAY i'm so excited for you to start the journey to figure out your own relationship with social media ☀congratulations!!! it's hard to do (especially at first) but you learn sooo much in the process! good luck - we're in it together 😊
This is my favourite video about deleting social media. I can relate to much of what you said, particularly when it comes to wanting deeper relationships
I'm so glad this resonated with you Conor 😊I don't think everyone is drawn to building deeper relationship but I most certainly am and sounds like you're of a similar mindset there as well 🌻 I also didn't have music in this one so it must've been easier to listen to 🙈been experimenting with different styles in my early months here so again - thanks so much for your feedback!
Yeah, I'm done with all social media as well outside of TH-cam. I use it as a cable replacement, for educational purposes, and mainly watch it on the television. What still annoys me is being out in public and just seeing the # of people constantly having their phones out for social media takes. Like, can anyone just live in the moment?? It also irks me when watching a movie with a group somewhere or at the movie theater and they still are scrolling through whatever social media app. TikTok syndrome is real, people's attention spans are shrinking to the point where they can't even sit and enjoy a simple movie that they paid for.
oh i know how that feels.... especially once you've gotten off social media it becomes impossible to not start seeing how addicted other people are 😓i notice it the most on my commutes, seeing other people scrolling endlessly on the train, never looking up! it's like we need to start to build intentional communities for people who are trying to spend less time online/are off social media so we can all meet each other and hang out 😄 i haven't been to a movie in a while but that is WILD that people are doing it still in the movie theater - so grim!! even at home i try to be super intentional - when i'm putting a movie, i'm *watching that movie fully* and put my phone away! it's a good push way to push my attention span too 🌻 thank you so much for your comment!! i'm really glad this resonated so much with you ♥it's a crazy world out there but we're in it together!
deleting social media was the best decision i could have done for my mid to late twenties, ive been off since 2019. The part where you mentioned the struggle being off of instagram due to the businesses using it as their sole platform is the only thing that sucks about not having instagram. also as time goes by the more its difficult to view any links to any social media from friends or family that want to send me something specific they want me to see, and now if they want to send me a tiktok i tell them to record the screen to send it to me which is hella inconvenient. on the plus side though, all the relationships i have are more real because theres effort because no one can assume how i am or what im doing, we have to literally be curious and investigative in each others lives. thank you for your message Kate, this resonated for someone whose been off of social media.
hahah the experience of needing friends to screenrecord or download a tiktok they really want me to see is too real 😂and just last night i was at a bar/restaurant whose entire menu was on Instagram story 🤦♀like come onnnnn i'm glad you also have found that the relationships you form and cultivate after social media have felt deeper and more real ❣i think this connections are sooo much more valuable than have many half-friends online!! i appreciate you sharing your story and perspective💛thank YOU!!
I’m so glad to watch this video. I quit most social media last year, except Facebook and Twitter. Due to increasing privacy concerns, I deleted FB a few weeks ago. I am now severely limiting my time in Twitter, as it’s so toxic, with a goal to quit soon. I want to be completely free from social media. I’m finding, similar to your point, that I need to make more effort now to find information, but I’m okay with that. It’s been so good for my brain. I read a whole book this week! I used to be a voracious reader, but haven’t been able to read more than one page at once in years. I want to have deeper, more meaningful relationships. I’m tired of the very superficial, very negative at times, relationships I’ve had for a long time. I’m enjoying reconnecting with myself and connecting more with others. Thanks for your video and channel! Edited to add: I think the most important thing in your video that stood out to me is the concept of living my life for me, not for the on,one image. This is what I’m enjoying the most right now. I’m doing what I want, simply for the love of doing it, not for what I can post or tweet about it.
"I’m doing what I want, simply for the love of doing it, not for what I can post or tweet about it." - this is so powerful 💓and such a wonderful thing to experience that I'm afraid some people never do if they're really sucked into the addictive apps :/ i found myself SO out of touch with who I truly was because of all the noise and influence from socials! getting off was the only way I could cut through all the toxicity. And re: needing to put in more effort to find information.... I have literally come to love "web surfing" in the truest, old school form LOL 🤣like a random site with a bunch of pop up ads or going directly to news articles. There's something so much more fun about it honestly :)
totally resonated with the whole video... never had snapchat nor TikTok, thank god, but instagram is what really got to me. lately. I don't spend that much time, but I have noticed that as soon as I press on it, and start seeing the posts, stories, my anxiety turns on. its like automatically, news, fear and scaremongering, aesthetic and overconsumption, expensive items that I know realistically ill never buy, others homes, cars, lives, realationships ... the whole thing, feels just totally and completely off. And that's what 2024 for me was all about: slowly wean off in preparation to discard it all. we should all be living normal happy lives! not being depressed anxious psychos ( adults) in a forever high school drama 😂
thank you so much for sharing your experience Olesea ☀that instant anxiety increase of being on one of the platforms is too real unfortunately!! i actually think you make really wonderful and astute points on how the companies benefit from fear-mongering and pushing overconsumption or content that plays into our insecurities/social comparison etc! now I want to make a video digging into this phenomenon even deeper so thank you for the insightful inspiration 🌻 I'm glad to hear you don't spend that much time on there!! I hope you find your own rhythm and balance with Instagram - for me completely quitting was the only thing to give me peace but i know they're also helpful platforms to have for many reasons 🤷♀it's a very personal decision but it sounds like you're pretty grounded with your conscious and intentional consumption 😊power to you!!
I’ll be 24 in 3 weeks and decided to delete it all this morning. Not sure what it’ll look like but telling myself it’s only 3 weeks for now is an attainable goal. Excited to see what happens and maybe not get it back!!
congrats on deciding to take the first and hardest step by deleting 🤩i'm such it will be an interesting experience to navigate at first (i know it was for me!!) but you got this❣i hope it's feels great to take a break for yourself!! also happy almost birthday🥳💖my birthday is in ~3weeks as well 👀great people born in this period :)
I deleted all of my social media in 2020 for a year and a half after having social media since MySpace days, starting in the 8th grade. I was chronically online. I finally allowed myself the space to GROW, because I did not have any distractions. It was truly life changing and eye opening. So many releasing of pent up emotions, so many reflections. I fully believe social media can stunt mental (and spiritual) growth. I decided to get back on in 2022 bc of work but now feeling the urge to delete it again more than ever.
reé - we sound completely of the same mindset here 🧘♀thank you for sharing your story!! i completely believe the days I spent chronically online hindered my ability to grow and become more spiritually attuned with myself (honestly - part of the premise of my most recent video🌻). we all got on these platforms soooo young and all the noise and digital signals/stimuli we received really warped our senses of identity (or i can say that was the case for me at least😅) I'm so happy you had that time for deep reflection :) i'm sure you'll figure out how to navigate your relationship with these apps moving forward! it's such a personal decision but i can tell you're a really conscious person and deep thinker so you're on the right path 🌱we're in it together!
34 years old and finally realizing how addicted I am to instagram. I have deleted the app and am finding myself with a lot more spare time to enjoy my hobbies. Loved your video!
This video is very wholesome and I agree with every single thing you said. Having social media is like having something literally tied you down. Life without social media is so freeing and liberating. Amazing video, keep it up and keep inspiring ❤
i'm so so glad this resonated with you 😊i appreciate the kind words! it really is so much of a more free and intentional way to live when you aren't as tied down by social media. it's a hard thing to pull yourself away from though given how it's built - i definitely want to continue to make content on this topic!! it's so important in this day and age 🌻
Really amazing video! I’ve been off tiktok for 2 years now, and I feel so much better without it. Totally agree about harm of the entire “tiktok rot” normalization. This was a high quality and well made video, you have a new subscriber!! :)
i'm so glad this message resonated with you Ashley ❣i really appreciate your kind words and support 😊i actually made a whole video on the "brain rot" issue specifically 😅i feel strongly about thatone! so glad you've also found life to be more fulfilling 2 years off!! we're in it together 🌻keeping our peace hehe
I resonate with this so much! but most importantly I love love love your mindset! and the points you made about meaningless connections is so true, I recently stopped using snapchat and now I feel like all the conversations I hold with people are a lot more purposeful as we have to go out of our way to talk to each other. Yes my friendship circle is so much smaller now but all my friendships now seem so much more meaningful to me. Getting rid of instagram and TikTok to stop my doomscrolling is my next step, can't wait to see my mind have a break from it all 😆
i'm so glad this mindset connected with you 🤩we're definitely on the same wavelength!! it is so wild how much more meaningful things become when you remove the low-barrier-of-entry ways of keeping in contact! i don't think i understood how many "less friends" it would feel like i have when i first deleted it, but i really just have much deeper friendships with my smaller circle 😊and i would so much rather it be that way! good luck getting off IG and TikTok 💖those ones were MUCH harder for me too but i promise it's SO worth it (after the initial withdrawal period😅)
I've been on and off social media for years for almost a decade. My reasons were many and they changed over the years. I deleted Instagram this past July for the last time (it was the only account that I continuously created over a over) and never felt better. I also dislike so much that some businesses build everything around their social media presence and it's a bit tricky to find information sometimes. Social media companies offer a neverending catalogue of everything and that takes a toll in many aspects. The most important thing about deleting social media is to feel calmer and better. My life's intentional and more meaningful. Less stressed about all that digital clutter as well. I totally recommend to delete the accounts not just the apps. Great video, it felt like chatting with a friend.
"Social media companies offer a neverending catalogue of everything" - this is SO well said!! it could not be more true! and we're still so early into having these types of digital platforms it's impossible to know the full effects they have on us✍i'm really glad you found your way to a more intentional life as well 🌻it makes all the difference! thank you so much for sharing your story and the support 😊 trying to get better at talking more naturally on camera as I start my YT journey so i'm really glad this one resonated with you!!
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Found you from the algorithm and this is really refreshing! I’ve always struggled with this because deep down, I love a slower, minimal and more intentional way of living. That said, as a full time business owner (cinematographer and photographer) Instagram is the only social media I use to promote business. I wish I could let it go but it just generates too many leads and it’s a really easy and logical place to post work when folks ask for references. And Facebook just has some church group stuff I need for updates or hang outs. Goal is to strictly use these platforms as tools and not distractions. Love your content, Kate. Keep up the great work!
Bennett!! I'm so glad you found your way here 😊 i reallyyyy resonate with you saying how you want a "slower, more intentional way of living"! it's hard to do that in this busy world and that is very challenging when you need to maintain a social presence for professional reasons but want to regulate your usage on them from the personal standpoint! I think you 100% have the right approach using them as tools not distractions (also love that saying) - they can be super helpful in certain spaces! if you can consciously and intentionally use them in the right way and not sacrifice your own mental well being, then that is the right place to be! thank you so much for the kind words on my content 🥰i have sooo much more I want to share it's hard to keep up 😅
I appreciate how honest you were in this video. ❤ I've stepped away from Instagram for weeks at a time once I had my daughter because I didn't want to be on my phone around her, and I realized I was addicted. The more I take a break, the more I realize how much I hate it and how it makes me feel. After watching this, I think I'm going to do an Instagram-free year. Thank you for this video. ❤
this is AWESOME to hear, congratulations on going for the instagram-free year 🥰such a powerful resolution!! also i think you're such a good mother for being cognizant and conscious of your screen usage around your daughter 💓A+ intentional parenting right there!! i think this will be such a healthy and healing decision for the whole family to benefits from! thank you for sharing your story
Love love love your channel and so happy I found it. I have had most of these issues too. I wrote a blog on struggles with social media last year and felt like everyone around me was blind to how much social media was taking over all our lives. Now I feel hope for the future seeing more and more videos like this! I also felt shame for my addiction, so you are not alone!
Helena!!! I'm so happy you found your way here 💙We're most certainly in it together (as is everyone in this comment section 🥰we're not alone in feeling some people are blind to the harms of this tech!!). I'm hoping with enough of us craving a more conscious lifestyle with less consumption, we'll maybe start to see a pendulum swing into a society where we're all more engaged and in touch with reality and EXPERIENCING things fully ☀fingers crossed!!
oooo you're in for a TREAT when you realize how amazing it is to have the time and your mental peace back 🥰your hobbies are about to BLOSSOM!!🌷congratulations on taking the first steps to healing your relationship to social media!!
Thanks a ton from the core of my heart for such a valuable content ❣️ In fact, earlier when there was no social media, we always enjoyed the present moment and most importantly, we were complacent with whatever we had. But now, I feel there's always an urge to post our every moment on social media instead of living in the present moment. Honestly, I feel everytime I look for a chance to capture pictures not for the memories, but just for showing them to the ones who wouldn't even remember those pictures after viewing them. And what is more disheartening is the fact that despite knowing the downsides of social media , we still are actively engaged with it, no matter where it will take us in future. Your video is a sincere reminder to take our life seriously. Thanks once again! Much love ❤
Khushboo ❤thank you so much for your heartfelt comment!! I miss the simpler days without these easy distractions when it was more common to live and enjoy the present moment!! Honestly.... I feel like my memory got WORSE with my reliance on pictures to capture everything in some ways! there's so much to unpack on this topic but i'm glad to have connected with like-minded people like you!! sending love 🌺
It's awesome that you have the self-awareness to admit you had a problem with these apps. Most of society is completely addicted and doesn't even realize it.
honestly that's why i felt compelled to make it - sooo much goes into this technology that most people don't know 😵💫 i hope sharing my story helps others and sparks a conversation!!
Thank you for talking about this, I've been feeling so done with social media for months. Slowly been working on my screen time first. But it's really nice to see this video and know im not alone in this 💖
oh my gosh you're very much not alone 💛i think more people feel this way than even realize it!! feels like we're at a cultural tipping point sometimes.... but maybe that's just me😂
thank you so much for the kind words 💛I certainly hope to try and offer some perspective, especially as someone who's been behind-the-scenes at these companies!! if i can help just one person then that makes everything worthwhile & fulfilling 🤗
Thank you for your honesty, I quit social media months ago, and out of nowhere now I see my friends often in real life, something that never happened before, I'm having a social life for reals this time and now I'm present in the moment, every moment, with my boyfriend and my family and friends ❤
that sounds like a truly magical evolution, Judy!!! I'm so happy that this has been your experience 💓life can be so much more fulfilling and deeper when we channel our energy into the real, tangible, present moment💛
Love ❤️ I've been off social media for about 3 weeks. My life has slowed down tremendously. I still struggle with picking up my phone too much to scroll pinterest but for the most part I am journaling more, reading more, and believing now that my goals are achievable 🎉❤
having other healthy hobbies to replace scrolling time with is so important 🥰i'll admit... to this day I have trouble with phone pick ups hahah my weather app is my most opened app for sure! "believing now that my goals are achievable" is a beautiful thing that comes from spending less of your time scrolling 💛i'm SO happy this was your experience- thank you for sharing!! we're in this journey together 🌻
U r really inspiring. It's been 4 months since I deleted social media now I have focused more on my real life . the world need inspiring people like u , love from india 🇮🇳😇❤️✨
thank you so much for the kind words Krishna!! sending love from the USA to India ❣we have so much that unites us across the planet🏵we're in this together!!
Just deleted my TikTok and Twitter accounts while watching this video. I still need Instagram and TH-cam for my business, but I'm working on trying to have more of a creator mindset to them rather than a consumer mindset. It's certainly been hard to transition.
it's so funny how this is such a real feeling!! our brains weren't meant to keep up with all of these fleeting relationships from different points in our lives 😂and you know that person from the college class is probably feeling the exact same way.... it's such an interesting online song & dance! i'd rather just opt out entirely hahah
Makes total sense. Thanks for making this video, needed some confirmation that I don't have any issues haha. I started by unfriending people that I knew affected my mental health in a bad way and ended up deleting everything and now feeling much better.
I also unfriended a TON of people before I finally took the leap and completely delete! it's like the stepping stone before realizing you don't need it at all 😂 i'm really glad you're feeling better and your mental health is improving now that you've spent some time off the apps it's hard at first but soo worth it! we're in this together🌻
CONGRATULATIONS!!! it will be soooo refreshing to have all the time back to enjoy life and focus on what is important 🤩it'll be hard at first but i'm so excited for you 🌻
Your point about how scrolling holds you back from all your potential in life really resonated with me. I hate social media addiction. I feel so mentally and physically dulled out when i end up scrolling too much. I have wanted to delete socials media apps, but my job is an artist in a more niche community where the only way i can gain attention to my work is on social media... I would never be able to sell anything without it. Thats what holds me back from deleting the apps😟
you're not the only one who's commented about needing it for their business, i wish i had advice to shareit's so challenging navigating your personal relationship with social media when you need to have it for professional reasons as well! i know you're on the right path because you're conscious of how it's making you feel and know you need to regulate your usage! i'm confident in you💗wish you the best!!!
Such a wonderful video. I am 25 and I deleted my social media account (i only had an instagram account) permanently. Now I am able to focus more on my studies. I am more calm and relaxed now. I dont have that sudden unexpected anxiety attacks. Have a lot of JOMO 😅. I am also able to focus and listen to podcasts and also to people in a conversation. Attention span is much better now. Happy to see this video. Love from India 🤗.
"JOMO" OMG how had i never heard this one before??? i LOVE that energy!!🥰 also I completely relate to being able to focus more to people in conversations once i was off social media - it's crazy the subtle ways that instagram addiction can impact things like your ability to hold a conversation and have enough attention for it! i'm really happy it sounds like you're healing and having a great experience off the apps!! i hope more and more people start to join us living offline 🤠sending love to India!!
hello from Portugal 🇵🇹 I loved your video and your channel, I've been without social media for months and months but I still scroll a lot on my phone, what social media does to us is so strong... I'm extremely happy to see that many more people are getting it free yourself from them and start living life. It's been a difficult journey but I'm glad there are people like you here to help! 🌸
oh my gosh Portugal!!! i'm so happy you found your way here 😊i love your home country, i've been twice 🥰 you were so right in saying "what social media does to us is so strong"!! i also still struggle with my phone even years later - it's funny though, when you've deleted social media it's like the weather app i that check when i open my phone 😂 i'm also SO happy to see more people resonating with this message and joining the "delete social media" movement!! it's sooo challenging to navigate the journey weening off the platforms but we can all share our stories and be in it together 💓thank you so much for your kind comment and sharing your story!!
thanks Shayene 🥰i'm so glad you found it!! also something crazy - Oxford Dictionary literally JUST named "brain rot" their "word of the year" 😳SO wild, definitely going to need to do a video on that soon!! i just found it out
@ OMG yes! I saw that and was like there is no way they’re trying to make “brain rot” a normal part of people’s vocabulary????? Absolutely would love to see a video on this!
I quit when I hit 40 (2 yrs ago) and had a health crisis resulting in major surgery. I swear it aided my mental and physical recovery by not exposing myself or being exposed to other peoples ‘social media’ lives. I feel now that if you find out about people’s life changing events (engagements, births, marriages, deaths) via social media, then I would question the validity of that friendship. If only I could quit the TH-cam rabbit hole………..😵💫
finding out about major life events only through social media is SO telling about the level/depth of your friendship with someone 😔all my closest friends know that if they want me to hear about it, they've gotta reach out directly and take that intentional next step 🥰 YT is an interesting platform i'm definitely figuring out myself!! i think after taking a majorrrr break period from any of these types of digital media platforms i just don't find myself consuming very much (and i don't touch Shorts at all - that side of YT is a no-go for me). i did make a seperate video on some specific tips you may find helpful 🤷♀some of the basics we often forget about like monitoring/limiting screen time, etc: th-cam.com/video/FEEGens8HGc/w-d-xo.html (bear with the quality, it was my second video ever hahaha) also i hope you're doing well from the surgery recovery 🌻
Thank you. And thank you for taking the time to read and reply personally to every comment, that’s so amazing! I will check out the other video you recommend x
This was such an awesome video, and that last point is a really interesting observation. I've listened to a few different people speak about their experience off social media and this has been the most insightful. Tysm!!
thank you so much Emily ❣i'm really glad it resonated!!! i definitely think having worked on the platform side gives me a slightly different perspective that is sometimes offered (and makes me feel obligated to talk about it more because i know how these businesses operate😅). i appreciate your kind words 😊going to keep unpacking these sorts of topics on my channel!!
HAHA when you swore 😂 Omg you're adorbs. The algo brought this to me two months later but THANK YOU for talking about this, two months ago! Late stage social media is my fav topic to talk about aaaaand to listen to. I'm a creator with a lil paying/private community so I feel a liiiiiiittle beholden to show up for them (they all came from Insta over the years), but I have struggled with Instagram addiction since 2011 when I first downloaded it, lol. So it was SUPER interesting listening to you talking about your experience with Insta as one of the OG's too! I managed to delete the app and stay off of it for three whole weeks over the holidays in December, and I couldnt effing believe it. I felt SO peaceful, so much clarity! So much grounded-ness and self-assuredness and also productivity and creativity and just all the things. But.... as addictions go, I found myself back on this week and my mental health and creativity and productivity has done a total nosedive. Anyway, loved listening!! Thank you so much for sharing, I def wanna come live under the rock with you haha subscriiiiiiibbbbed girlie and I'll check out the playlist you made on detoxing! 🥰
thanks so much for sharing your story, Brandy!!! 🧡sounds like we share a lot going on in our heads/content hahah you gained a subscriber in me as well ☺ i hope in the new year you're able to navigate your relationship with the socials!! it's definitely challenging when you have a business or presence like it sounds like you do on instagram... i do not envy that position but i know it's such a real experience for small business owners/content creators! i'm sure that taste of grounded-ness and creativity that you got in your 3 weeks off inspired some reevaluation of how you'll use the platform moving forward🌻it's such a personal thing to figure out (i know not everyone can go cold-turkey like me 😅) but it sounds like you're 1000% on the right path by being conscious of how it makes you feel 🥰 excited to hear where your journey takes you this year!! especially with writing your memoir i'm sure you'll naturally be cutting back on social media time ☀good things to come!
On the friendship piece, I’m the person who sucks at reaching out to folks. I work a high demand job, side hustles etc. So I do appreciate being able to keep up with folks on a quicker beat. When I see a story, remember that person and send a quick note, I’ve found it helpful to keep connected with low effort. I do have a few close friends that I do text and connect with more but I do think some of those comments on stories or posts, does help re-spark relationships that you may not maintain as intensely as others.
this is an extremely valid approach as well - thank you for sharing your experience!!! it's a super personal choice and sounds like you have a very healthy mindset😊i found the quick check-ins via socials to lack a level of depth that i crave from my relationships, BUT it's not without major trade offs!! i've fallen out of touch with a lot of people I otherwise may have kept somewhat in touch with 🤷just need to figure it out on an individual level! i love your counter-perspective 💙
i'm so excited you're exploring this next chapter off social media 💌it is definitely a hard decision to make and it does take courage!! the beginning is honestly super challenging but will be SO worth it when you look back on this moment years later!! proud of you already - good luck with the journey ☘
I loved this video!! I've been wanting to deactivate my social media for a lot of the reasons you described in this video, and you've convinced me that it's something I just need to do. The way you speak is so refreshing and eloquent - I'm excited to watch more of your videos! Subcribed 😊
hayleigh!!! i'm so glad you found your way here 🤩really excited for you as you start your journey to building a healthy relationship with these platforms🌻it's challenging when you're so used to using them all the time.... but i promise it's AWESOME in retrospect!! and oh my gosh thank you for the kind words 😅i really feel like i was long-winded and rambling in this video so i'm glad it didn't come off that way!! appreciate your feedback ♥
I’ve been off instagram for a couple of weeks and feel so good without it. Apart from Snapchat, I think it’s one of the worst social media’s these days.
i completelyyyy agree!!! there's something so unsettling about Instagram to me... all these curated projections of people's lives, just begging to have your fall victim to social comparison issues, and then a SPAMMY amount of ads! no thank you, i choose mental peace 😊🌺
A few years back I was constantly on Social Media. Primarily Reddit, and Twitter. It wasn't even me necessarily posting anything just constant doom scrolling. and scrolling on things that didn't pertain to me or something that I could have no material effect on. For some reason though it itched my brain in the right ways, but it takes it's toll in a way. I found myself feeling generally hopeless about situations in the world, and wasted hours upon hours doing nothing on those platforms. I eventually cut it out, and replaced it with hobbies. Gaming, Gunpla, Tabletop games, reading, watching movies, 3d printing, and now electronics repair. It was literally liberating. I feel so much more fulfilled with the time I spend, and my days don't feel wasted like they did before. I still scroll Reddit from time to time, or check Twitter, however that's only after I've heavily curated to be what I want those platforms to be for me. Reddit for hobby discussions, Twitter for news (less so anymore, and thinking of dropping it entirely), and facebook for local community stuff. I hope more take this dive, as there is much more to life than just constant scrolling. Just wanted to also say, great video. You really hit the nail on the head with this.
I’m from the AIM/Myspace age. About 8 years ago I took a break for a good 3 years, and then a year ago took another break. I got back on TikTok for a few months with my messages shut off and now am just done with all of it again. Realized I don’t want to talk or engage with anyone. My life is so much more peaceful and mindful without it. I’m not tempted to constantly check and doom scroll. I own a small art business and that’s where my focus is, as well as reading and spending time outside. Social media has its time and place but life without it is just better.
i'm so happy you got to this peaceful, mindful place 💗it's funny how dipping back onto social media after being off it for a while you realize "oh wait.... i don't need to be here" hahah it doesn't hit the same anymore!! and having something so authentic and creative to you like your art business to channel you're energy into 🤌THAT is precious - that's the good stuff in life!
@ it is bizarre. It used to be SO important! And when I got back on it was like, “why am I even on this?” But yes you’re correct, there are things so much more worthwhile!!
i deleted my socials this past new year’s eve and it feels so refreshing. of course i would frequently take breaks, but once i log back into them, i would spend hours just “catching up” you also made a good point i hadn’t realized.. the stalking part 😂sheesh, why are we like this lmao.
our brains are so funny in this way 😅but the apps are literally built to grab our attention like this!! i'm glad you're trying a little ~detox~ with the new year - i think it'll be an awesome journey for you 💛
it's so good and healthy to take breaks! helps keep you balanced and in charge of your own consumption - then you can go back on in an intentional way!
that's so awesome, Alyssa!! I'm so glad you're leaning into your productive energy with less time sucked into socials 🌻it sounds like you've found a good balance!!
I’m off of social media for a year. Started a few days ago. I already feel better. It’s likely that I’ll never log back into my accounts once the year is up. However, I work in social media management so I do have to log into other client’s accounts every day. I cannot fully escape it.
i feel that SO hard - it's really challenging to try to limit social media usage and generally wanting to be more "unplugged" when our jobs require it sometimes 😑 but i'm really glad to hear you're already feeling better from limiting your personal consumption😄 it's all about being aware & conscious of your own relationship with this tech!! you're doing it right 👏we're in it together!!
thank you, i'm glad you enjoyed and something resonated 🤩ya... honestly part of the reason i felt inspired to start a channel. i feel pretty obligated to share about the industry because i think a lot of people don't realize everything that goes on behind-the-scenes. i'll definitely be digging into it deeper in future videos
i left a gym club because every women were filming and i wrote to the manager "it's not the price is right tv set here, you should respect member privacy, there are even people in cloackroom filming my naked body on background when the film themselves in the miror". what a nightmare that gym was. horrible experience. tiktok users are so selfcentered that they can't even imagine their content can violate people privacy, making the buzz on people who never gave explicit content ever. it's like everyone is filming 24/7 now, nobody could control or blame one, because you must blame all others. it's just accepted to be shamed and humiliated on internet by random tiktoker. sometimes you don't notice the phone, and you have a woman yelling at you "I WAS FILMING". sorry i didn't noticed you privatized all the gym club, i didn't get the memo.
How I wish I didn't go back on Instagram; all I had left was TH-cam for any form of social media. I do agree on how cool it feels to catch up with people you haven't seen in a long time, recently meet up with a friend in my hometown, and it was just kinda strange to say but, a human experience. Same when I meet up with my other friend, we've caught lunch or dinner about 6 times throughout the past 3 years, always love hearing how people change and what's going on.
"a human experience" ❣sometimes it feels like this is what is lost with all of us being connected online allllll of the time!! the simple things like the joy of catching up with an old pal 😊it sounds like you're already pretty conscious about how you're interesting with your social media vs. real life relationships so i think you're in a great spot ☀being conscious and embracing the simple pleasures of the "offline" world is the key! :) appreciate you sharing your experience with this!!!
I quit social media because real friends would stop calling or inviting you to do anything in real life. I think people got sucked into thinking sharing reels and chatting from time to time on Facebook and instagram was equivalent to normal human connection.
yes!!! exactly!!! it's soooo strange how this happened! but by being off it forces that extra IRL reach out and deeper connections to be formed 🌼you may lose some "friends" along the way but i want my social circle to be more authentic than the surface-level social media interactions 🤷we're definitely in the same mindset here :)
you know, as long as you learn from your mistake and don't go back to instagram, don't keep dating the violent kind of men you hated, you can only be a wonderful person. we all do mistakes. i do sports to get mental strenght, to learn how i could be even more nice everyday. until the day you die life has every day something to teach you, if you have the humily to question yourself.
I am 35 and have been deleting each app over the last couple of years.. I just recently deleted my last one, and i feel so good. It has helped my mental health
i'm so happy you've also had mental health improvements from being off them!!! 💗i know i certainly have as well so we're in the same boat!! thank you for sharing your perspective✨
This was very useful. It's something I've been thinking about for a long time. I guess for me one of the biggest things is what you also mentioned, the part related to "needing" to brain tot on Instagram. But I am actively trying to find different things to do when I don't feel like doing anything. Which is not on my phone.
i think once you find the few hobbies that really *click* for you, it'll become easier to redirect your energy from brain rotting/the endless scroll 😊but it takes timeeee to figure that out, i know how it goes!! for me to be honest, i was basically entirely fitness related. can't be scrolling on my phone while on a nice long walk outside, listening to a podcast or audiobook and taking in the scenery 🤷♀not for everyone but really worked for me!
i'm so so glad you found your way here 💓you're definitely not alone in what you're experiencing because I most certainly have been there BIG time! i hope you find your balance 🧘♀
I quit 3 years ago too and boyyyy howdy, my life is so much better. I did it to be more present with my 8-year-old daughter, to not be an example of what I'd hate for her to become. Now she hears me say "Consumption is not a hobby" at least five times a day. 😂 I know I probably won't be able to keep her completely off socials (abstinence not working and all that), but hopefully she'll hear my voice echoing around in her skull while she's scrolling the same way I hear my dad's every time I leave an unnecessary light on in my house lol
you are such a wonderful parent for making the conscious decision to be more present with your daughter 💖that is a really powerful decision and i wish more parents followed in your footsteps!! also OBSESSED with the phrase "Consumption is not a hobby" oh my gosh that is GOLD ⭐i'm so confident that will stick with her the same way your dad's wisdom of shutting of the lights did for you 😂thank you so much for sharing - a lot of wisdom in there!!
I deleted Facebook and Instagram without missing them at all. I just deleted TikTok and I will say in struggling a little bit more. I do feel like it’s helped me a lot with stress levels & time management.
I started to move away from Facebook. My wife checks occasionally so if people want to know what is going on with us she can post something. We are middle aged and our relatives and friends our age are so into attention seeking and validation. When I first joined a few years ago due to a travel group that used the platform, I got friend requests from people I knew years ago and learned how many of them are just awful people, posting borderline or just flat out racist stuff. It's depressing.
the attention seeking and wanting external validation is so real, it's strange these platforms bring that side out in us 😵💫it's a shame!! i'm glad you're finding your own balance with it and cultivating your own safe space online - none of us need to see the borderline racist or toxic sides of each other that the social media sites unfortunately perpetuate 😒
What is bizarre to me is that we get social media when we are all in university, which is quite possibly when we have more access to like minded, young people than any other time of our lives. Make it make sense.
WOW that is such a good point too!! for me it was even younger, middle school is when my peers and I started sneakily lying about out ages to get on facebook 😵💫but exactlyyy - it's like they almost take away the best part of our youth, the fact that we *can* be so connected to like-minded communities and living closer together and have this great opportunity for deep real-life relationships! i am optimistic that in the future we'll do digital literacy education at an earlier age but man.... these platforms have run away with our time & attention for so long with their addictive qualities 😕
OMG the stalking people lol YEAH… i just realized last few days i really need to deactivate my insta and today am like now fs going to, bc it has been causing i think a lot of anxiety i wasn’t aware it was putting on me. Thank you for this video its what i need❤
i'm so glad you found it valuable 💗thank you for sharing your story!! it's hard to do at first but then it's soooo worthwhile when you're off!! you don't even realize the amount of anxiety it is inducing until you spend some time off of it! good luck, you got this!! 🍀
god bless you and sorry for the trolls on tiktok. that's usually what happen when you share you're private life with random strangers, not everyone is a good person who make a good use of your knowledge, you have all kind of dangerous viewers that you wouldn't share your intimacy with. pokiman is moving once a year because of that. i have only 1 hater but because i am his target, he makes my life almost impossible.
"Life opens up when walking away" - this is so beautiful ☀and 100% true!!! if only more people took the time to realize it... but i do feel like people are getting more fed up and frustrated with how the platforms make us feel (like you said with FB getting on your last nerve) so i'm hopingggg our culture starts to wake up to it more!!! time will tell!
i’ve been debating on deleting social media for so long but i worry on what i’m going to miss out on. but after i finished the video i deleted everything. fingers crossed i don’t just go back
i'm so proud of you for trying out life unplugged from the socials 💖it's REALLY hard to do at first, but i promise it gets better with time!! sending positive energy your way as you start this journey☀you got this!!
I'm so glad you found something that resonated with you here 😊this is why I started making videos - to connect with like minded individuals! thank you so much for your support ❣
I quit at the start of the new year! Not sure if I’m thinking of permanently deleting, but definitely don’t want to be addicted the way I was. So far I’m feeling sooo much better. Tik tok was killing my mental health
Jamie!! Congratulations!! i'm so excited for you to start this journey!!! exploring your personal relationship with the social platforms is such a great thing to invest in as we start 2025 🌹i hope you continue to feel better & better and your mental health gets stronger without the stress of apps like TikTok (i have beeeeeeen there so i feel you - i didn't truly realize how much it impacted my own mental health until i was fully off). really happy for you and glad you found your way here 😊we're in it together!!
I deleted social media two days ago.is it normal to feel empty ? I feel I'm sad but at the same time I don't wanna go back you emmm I don't know how to explain it
firstly - CONGRATULATIONS on taking the first step and deleting!!! that's really really hard to do so i'm proud of you for that❣🌺 I would say there is definitelyyyy a long adjustment period where emotions can be really complicated😒it's like having withdrawal symptoms from other types of addictions!! sadness is very normal but it WILL pass with time!!🌻for me what helped was re-channeling my energy and time into IRL/physical/tactile things - spending time with friends/family, physical movement (walks, yoga, etc!), hobbies! just my own experience - it's *so* personal so i encourage you to play around with it and see what feels good for you😊 remember you're not alone!! we're in this together 💌
sometimes calm / peace can feel like emptiness if you’re used to the constant dopamine spikes or adrenaline rushes from distressing posts. breathe and enjoy the moment! proud of you for deleting social media ❤
i'm so happy you found your way here 😊that's my biggest goal of my channel, educating and reminding everyone of the positive stuff ☀we can all live our best lives and flourish together hehe and i'm 27, knocking on 28's door 😅
Congratulations on making some intentional choices on where you invest your time and attention! While I'm pretty sure I only spend minimal time on social media, I wonder if/when I'll get off it entirely...
thank you so much Rob!! it's been soooo beneficial for me - i think so long as you're intentional with your consumption and wary of some of the detrimental effects, it can be fine 😄if you do ever want to get off I have a whole social media detox series on my channel! if you ever get off entirely or try to take a full break, would love for you to come back and share your experience :) it's such an individual journey!
i'm building out a whole playlist on detox-ing from social media 😊check it out: th-cam.com/play/PLqrBN0N5p3T2pkaMHZbERX7HxPlZjsJR2.html&si=qUSceMFJu_pe3zjB
The maintaining relationships just because it’s easy online is SO TRUE. It really shows who genuinely wants to keep in touch when you get off those platforms, it’s baffling
totallyyyy takes some adjusting too 😮💨but then the connections you form after and the people who do choose to stay in touch intentionally are that much more deep friends❣and i'd take that every time!
Says you...I'm just like I am online as I am in real life. People online and real life are all just as fake and sensitive. Been on the net since the 90s and in chat rooms...and my personsality has gotten me banned more times and these days timed out in Discords. LOL. Been banned with FB too many times before i just left it 5 years ago. Bout a year ago i tipped my toe back into IG and Threads and just don't fit with anyone there either. Just Deactivated those. All i have is TH-cam and it's so easy to ignore and just walk aawy from it.
I joined Facebook in 2009 when I turned 13 after begging my mum to let me have an account. Like many others, I was hooked on social media for years, and it became such a normal part of life. By 2020, I decided to delete all my social media accounts (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.), and honestly, it has been a life-changing experience. I feel so much lighter and more present without the constant noise.
That said, one thing I did not expect was how many people would stop sharing news or updates directly because they just assume you have seen it online. It made me realise how much our communication has shifted, and there is this unspoken expectation that everyone is plugged in all the time. While it is a little sad, I have found it also makes for deeper, more intentional conversations when people do reach out, depending on the person.
our timelines with this journey are SO similar!!! and I completely agree with your observation how broadly our communication has shifted with the expectation for us to be "plugged in" always!i it's so frustrating but like you said - makes for much deeper connections with the circle you keep because it requires that extra intentional effort ♥ thank you for sharing your story!! we're 100% on the same wavelength here, i'm so glad you chimed in 😊living under a rock together 🥂
I'm 23 and I deleted all my social media apps three weeks ago, I feel better mentally, knowing I'm not comparing myself and life to others and then there's no bullying going on and no negativity and most importantly no more migraines from being on my phone 7 hours a day.
CONGRATULATIONS on taking those huge steps Lyss!!!!☀🎉 i'm so happy for you!! it's reallyyyy hard at first but it will get better with time I promise 💛so glad to hear you're already feeling a weight lifted and the positive effects of not being sucked into the apps every day!
i appreciate you sharing your experience!!! we're all in this together and can learn from sharing our stories with each other 🌸
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I’m a guy the same age as you and just felt like saying I quit in 2022 by slowly getting off it then I eventually found the most efficient way was to just bite my tongue and delete the ACCOUNTS not just the apps and I swear I had this pain in my side for about a week till I just felt relieved. The biggest thing that was your life is going to get really boring if you’re only three weeks out. So I just wanted to come here and advise that you start going outside. You get into drawing or painting, Playing an instrument, reading. Because after getting on and off of it for the last three years, what ultimately got me off permanently was finding better hobby’s.
@ Aw thank you for replying to my comment! I draw, paint, do yoga, go to the gym and I dance and sing as well.
Valuable! I’m quitting at 36 and I can’t wait to see what good comes from it! ♥️
Rosy!! that's so exciting!! it's a journey navigating getting off them but it's sooo well worth it! you should totally share your reflections some day further down the line as well! it's challenging but so valuable to have the time and mental clarity back 🌼
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I’ve quit all mine too, only TH-cam as educational and use it for a fitness routine 😊
so many people desperately need to hear this. thank you for sharing this. i’ve been deleting my socials this week and it’s scary but freeing.
"scary but freeing" is SO ACCURATE!!! so proud of you for taking the leap congratulations!!!🌻
I quit Instagram over a year ago and it’s been the best decision. For me, I noticed the confidence I’ve experienced was less about looks (I wasn’t worried about that) but more about my decision-making as an adult. I no longer feel like I’m being monitored and I can do whatever I want (within reason). I just care less about opinions now. And I also savour mundane experiences and actually text my friends/family to share it with, if I want.
oooo this is something i didn't touch on in my video but is really really valid so thank you for bringing it up!!! the judgemental nature of the digital world makes it hard to come to your own decisions about things and cut through all the noise to discover your own identity, morals, and values!! i 100% relate to that as well - people have so many opinions and are WAY too quick to share them online😓you bring up such a wonderful point!!
"savouring mundane experiences" is own of my favorite pastimes 🥰we're definitely similar in that way!! thank you so much for sharing your perspective, i can't believe i didn't touch on this ❣
sooo true it felt like i was being monitored and now i feel so much freer to just be me!
I deleted social media except for TH-cam and WhatsApp at the beginning of this year, and I did a 100-day challenge to track my progress. I feel so calm and happy, and I have started focusing on my life. I do a lot of activities, and time feels like it’s moving very slowly. I think I will stay like this for the rest of my life, and I encourage everyone to start this challenge .
would you mind sharing the challenge? good luck
that sounds like a really fantastic challenge - i'm glad it's been so beneficial for you!! time feeling like it's moving very slowly is such a precious feeling that is often lost this day & age 🥰
I feel you on this! I felt time slowed and I did more activities for myself and for the physical people around me and it gave me sooooo much more joy! ❤
YT isnt social media
Probably the best video on why you shouldn’t be on social media
i'm so glad this connected with you!!! that means a lot 💗i think it's such an important experience and message to share given how prevalent social media is - something i'm going to continue to talk about big time on this channel!
I reasonate with this video so much, especially with the stalking part. I barely have had convos with these random people and I'm just addicted to stalking them. I used to check peoples profiles off the wake up. I eventually stopped but I still sometimes find myself stalking those from my past or randoms. I'm currently on my 30 day social media cleanse even though I have failed numerous times, but I am going to keep trying because it truly is deteriorating my mental health.
i know exactlyyy how that feels!!! it is SO hard when you can point at the thing that's causing you stress/mental health strain (ie. social media) but physically can't bring yourself to get off of it because of how addictive it is!! i'm glad you're trying the 30 day cleanse 😊it'll be REALLY valuable even with a few slip ups!! and if you're already on your way with detoxes here & there, deactivating for periods of time, then you're at least aware of the dynamic it's causing you which is the first step!!
cold turkey is the only thing that worked for me ultimately, but it is definitely not a one-size-fits-all solution, it's such a personal decision! I know you'll find your way through ✨💙 i'm going to continue to make videos on this topic because i'm very passionate about it, i have an entire "social media detox" playlist i'm filling out if you're ever interested: th-cam.com/play/PLqrBN0N5p3T2pkaMHZbERX7HxPlZjsJR2.html
it's challenging but we're navigating this together ☘good luck with the rest of your cleanse!!
@@kate.cassidy thank you!!
So true about the brainrot disconnects! It’s genuinely disturbing to see people continuously consume throughout their whole day - where is the time to think and live and experience?
i know...... 😔i fear some people aren't experiencing at all!! hence wanting to point some of this out and make a channel dedicated to sharing the message :)
Near the end when you said it’s interesting to see who reaches out. Your preaching to the choir. I had SOOO many friends in highschool etc (I’m 23, I quit when I was 20) barely ANYONE kept me in their lives. I’m happily married and don’t really feel like I need a lot of friends but it was kind of wild how quickly my social life died because I wasn’t online but I made new friends, a new life. It’s well worth it
the new friends you build and community you create in your life after social media are SO much deeper connections because of being offline (at least that's what i find!!). and then the handful of people from the past who do stay in touch and reach out intentionally on an individual level become really valuable, long-lasting friends ❤it's a weird adjustment period but i think you get muchhh deeper relationships coming out of it!! which i would chose any day over the many many fake friends who i only keep in touch with on social media platforms 🌱
Your comment is spot on I'm 35 and 3 years ago deleted everyone I hadn't had a conversation with verbal words. I got better relationships once I did that. I did have one person berate and bully me, my mum and my brothers because I deleted her off my social media. I'm like girl ..I'm 35, we aren't 7 anymore, get over it..we hadn't spoken in 11 years 😂😂 and last time she spoke she bashed me for "loving the gays" so I'm glad she's gone forever.
Currently decompressing with this video, and also realizing that I myself am addicted to youtube and streaming platforms as well. I have deleted all socials off my phone and limited my time for them on all my devices. The addiction is real was feeling depressed about spending time offline the internet was really my first addiction. Looking forward to quitting social media, I quit alcohol so I know I can do this! Thanks for sharing all these insights !!
thank you SO much for sharing your story Katherine❣it's so challenging to navigate this type of addiction because the world is soo driven by these types of technology and there's less of a support system in place as there may be with quitting alcohol (at least that's my assumption from the outside - you would know better than me!). it can be really isolating and depressing 😕but we're in it together and there's certainly more people sharing their experiences now which I find really comforting🌻
congratulations on being conscious and taking the first steps 💛you are so strong and 100% will be able to build a healthy relationship with the socials/YT if you're conscious and intentional about your consumption :) here for you!!!
@@kate.cassidy Awe you are so kind! You're so right they are. regular part of our lives, integrates with work and personal activities! Definately less support for quitting social media and managing our tech relationships, but it starts with videos and conversations like these ! We're in it together!
Im in this boat too. I’ve definitely replaced a lot of my content time with YT, and I tell myself that the longer forum content is better for attention span, and that I have better control over the algorithm thru channel subscriptions… but in the end who knows. Overall I feel a lot better though.
When I first got into social media, I was living in the times where meeting people in person was a real thing, still. What made me quit social media is when I started to realized the threat I put myself and many people I care about out in the open. Social media is a tine wasting machine and it makes for people to follow you and judge you as a person instead of actually getting to see you in person and really get to learn about you. Social media lowers your value because of the abundance of what most people are looking for online, without the concern of supply and demand. I love to see more people in our generation waking up to see social media for what it really is.
"social media lowers your value because of the abundance of what most people are looking for online" - this is a FASCINATING point!!! thank you so much for sharing! i agree we're somehow almost cheapening ourselves by putting on this funny show on platforms like Instagram, curating an image of ourselves for others to consume rather than keeping some things private for ourselves!📱
i'm also very very happy more people are starting to wake up to the dangers of these platforms! like you allude to, it's so much more worthwhile to get to see people in person and really connect/learn about each other more deeply! 🌄we're living under a rock together hahaha
From far, the most honest video that I ever saw about quitting on youtube. For me It’s been one year and a half . At the begging you think that everything changed, but no one tells you how hard is to break patterns of validation and vanity. You get used to be self centered, always in worry about your self image like it was normal, and it isn’t. And even after this time off, I constantly need to remember what makes sense to me, pushing myself to focus on what really matters and remembering my purpose and value to break this addicted cycle over and over again.
Thanks for your video, was the daily reminder for me. Hugs from Brasil! 🇧🇷
Deleting Facebook was literally the best thing I ever did. I feel so much lighter without it.
congratulations on deleting!!! "lighter" is the PERFECT word to describe the feeling of being off the apps 💛🌻it's so freeing!! thank you for sharing your story :)
Hey Kate - I just got a new phone today. As I was reinstalling apps I was contemplating life without social media. I chose not to install one of my accounts, but I think you've convinced me to remove them all. My wife and I do enjoy sending videos/reels back and forth, but I think we could get behind the idea of just talking. What a novel concept! Peace under a rock sounds fantastic!
Hahah regular old conversations with each other?? unheard of!!
it's worth trying out life without them and seeing how it feels! if you find yourself missing the little videos, then you can go back to them in a balanced/intentional way - it's just good to be aware of our consumption patterns given these platforms are built to be addictive!
when i was first getting off being hooked on the reels/tiktoks, i challenged myself to watch long form content just to heal my attention span - you and your wife could start a new tradition of movie nights :) lots to explore in testing out being off social media!
That’s it I’m doing it, told my therapist been thinking about it & this is probably what I needed to hear
YAY i'm so excited for you to start the journey to figure out your own relationship with social media ☀congratulations!!! it's hard to do (especially at first) but you learn sooo much in the process! good luck - we're in it together 😊
This is my favourite video about deleting social media. I can relate to much of what you said, particularly when it comes to wanting deeper relationships
I'm so glad this resonated with you Conor 😊I don't think everyone is drawn to building deeper relationship but I most certainly am and sounds like you're of a similar mindset there as well 🌻
I also didn't have music in this one so it must've been easier to listen to 🙈been experimenting with different styles in my early months here so again - thanks so much for your feedback!
Yeah, I'm done with all social media as well outside of TH-cam. I use it as a cable replacement, for educational purposes, and mainly watch it on the television. What still annoys me is being out in public and just seeing the # of people constantly having their phones out for social media takes. Like, can anyone just live in the moment?? It also irks me when watching a movie with a group somewhere or at the movie theater and they still are scrolling through whatever social media app. TikTok syndrome is real, people's attention spans are shrinking to the point where they can't even sit and enjoy a simple movie that they paid for.
oh i know how that feels.... especially once you've gotten off social media it becomes impossible to not start seeing how addicted other people are 😓i notice it the most on my commutes, seeing other people scrolling endlessly on the train, never looking up! it's like we need to start to build intentional communities for people who are trying to spend less time online/are off social media so we can all meet each other and hang out 😄
i haven't been to a movie in a while but that is WILD that people are doing it still in the movie theater - so grim!! even at home i try to be super intentional - when i'm putting a movie, i'm *watching that movie fully* and put my phone away! it's a good push way to push my attention span too 🌻
thank you so much for your comment!! i'm really glad this resonated so much with you ♥it's a crazy world out there but we're in it together!
deleting social media was the best decision i could have done for my mid to late twenties, ive been off since 2019. The part where you mentioned the struggle being off of instagram due to the businesses using it as their sole platform is the only thing that sucks about not having instagram. also as time goes by the more its difficult to view any links to any social media from friends or family that want to send me something specific they want me to see, and now if they want to send me a tiktok i tell them to record the screen to send it to me which is hella inconvenient. on the plus side though, all the relationships i have are more real because theres effort because no one can assume how i am or what im doing, we have to literally be curious and investigative in each others lives. thank you for your message Kate, this resonated for someone whose been off of social media.
hahah the experience of needing friends to screenrecord or download a tiktok they really want me to see is too real 😂and just last night i was at a bar/restaurant whose entire menu was on Instagram story 🤦♀like come onnnnn
i'm glad you also have found that the relationships you form and cultivate after social media have felt deeper and more real ❣i think this connections are sooo much more valuable than have many half-friends online!!
i appreciate you sharing your story and perspective💛thank YOU!!
I’m so glad to watch this video. I quit most social media last year, except Facebook and Twitter. Due to increasing privacy concerns, I deleted FB a few weeks ago. I am now severely limiting my time in Twitter, as it’s so toxic, with a goal to quit soon. I want to be completely free from social media. I’m finding, similar to your point, that I need to make more effort now to find information, but I’m okay with that. It’s been so good for my brain. I read a whole book this week! I used to be a voracious reader, but haven’t been able to read more than one page at once in years. I want to have deeper, more meaningful relationships. I’m tired of the very superficial, very negative at times, relationships I’ve had for a long time. I’m enjoying reconnecting with myself and connecting more with others. Thanks for your video and channel!
Edited to add: I think the most important thing in your video that stood out to me is the concept of living my life for me, not for the on,one image. This is what I’m enjoying the most right now. I’m doing what I want, simply for the love of doing it, not for what I can post or tweet about it.
"I’m doing what I want, simply for the love of doing it, not for what I can post or tweet about it." - this is so powerful 💓and such a wonderful thing to experience that I'm afraid some people never do if they're really sucked into the addictive apps :/
i found myself SO out of touch with who I truly was because of all the noise and influence from socials! getting off was the only way I could cut through all the toxicity.
And re: needing to put in more effort to find information.... I have literally come to love "web surfing" in the truest, old school form LOL 🤣like a random site with a bunch of pop up ads or going directly to news articles. There's something so much more fun about it honestly :)
totally resonated with the whole video... never had snapchat nor TikTok, thank god, but instagram is what really got to me. lately. I don't spend that much time, but I have noticed that as soon as I press on it, and start seeing the posts, stories, my anxiety turns on. its like automatically, news, fear and scaremongering, aesthetic and overconsumption, expensive items that I know realistically ill never buy, others homes, cars, lives, realationships ... the whole thing, feels just totally and completely off.
And that's what 2024 for me was all about: slowly wean off in preparation to discard it all.
we should all be living normal happy lives! not being depressed anxious psychos ( adults) in a forever high school drama 😂
SAME!
thank you so much for sharing your experience Olesea ☀that instant anxiety increase of being on one of the platforms is too real unfortunately!! i actually think you make really wonderful and astute points on how the companies benefit from fear-mongering and pushing overconsumption or content that plays into our insecurities/social comparison etc! now I want to make a video digging into this phenomenon even deeper so thank you for the insightful inspiration 🌻
I'm glad to hear you don't spend that much time on there!! I hope you find your own rhythm and balance with Instagram - for me completely quitting was the only thing to give me peace but i know they're also helpful platforms to have for many reasons 🤷♀it's a very personal decision but it sounds like you're pretty grounded with your conscious and intentional consumption 😊power to you!!
I’ll be 24 in 3 weeks and decided to delete it all this morning. Not sure what it’ll look like but telling myself it’s only 3 weeks for now is an attainable goal. Excited to see what happens and maybe not get it back!!
congrats on deciding to take the first and hardest step by deleting 🤩i'm such it will be an interesting experience to navigate at first (i know it was for me!!) but you got this❣i hope it's feels great to take a break for yourself!!
also happy almost birthday🥳💖my birthday is in ~3weeks as well 👀great people born in this period :)
Happy Birthday 🎂
your points hit so hard because you never fail to acknowledge the cons. and your vulnerability/transparency is so refreshing
❤️ all i can do is share my truth!! i'm really glad this video resonated with you 😊
I deleted all of my social media in 2020 for a year and a half after having social media since MySpace days, starting in the 8th grade. I was chronically online. I finally allowed myself the space to GROW, because I did not have any distractions. It was truly life changing and eye opening. So many releasing of pent up emotions, so many reflections. I fully believe social media can stunt mental (and spiritual) growth. I decided to get back on in 2022 bc of work but now feeling the urge to delete it again more than ever.
reé - we sound completely of the same mindset here 🧘♀thank you for sharing your story!! i completely believe the days I spent chronically online hindered my ability to grow and become more spiritually attuned with myself (honestly - part of the premise of my most recent video🌻). we all got on these platforms soooo young and all the noise and digital signals/stimuli we received really warped our senses of identity (or i can say that was the case for me at least😅)
I'm so happy you had that time for deep reflection :) i'm sure you'll figure out how to navigate your relationship with these apps moving forward! it's such a personal decision but i can tell you're a really conscious person and deep thinker so you're on the right path 🌱we're in it together!
34 years old and finally realizing how addicted I am to instagram. I have deleted the app and am finding myself with a lot more spare time to enjoy my hobbies. Loved your video!
This video is very wholesome and I agree with every single thing you said. Having social media is like having something literally tied you down. Life without social media is so freeing and liberating. Amazing video, keep it up and keep inspiring ❤
i'm so so glad this resonated with you 😊i appreciate the kind words! it really is so much of a more free and intentional way to live when you aren't as tied down by social media. it's a hard thing to pull yourself away from though given how it's built - i definitely want to continue to make content on this topic!! it's so important in this day and age 🌻
Really amazing video! I’ve been off tiktok for 2 years now, and I feel so much better without it. Totally agree about harm of the entire “tiktok rot” normalization. This was a high quality and well made video, you have a new subscriber!! :)
i'm so glad this message resonated with you Ashley ❣i really appreciate your kind words and support 😊i actually made a whole video on the "brain rot" issue specifically 😅i feel strongly about thatone!
so glad you've also found life to be more fulfilling 2 years off!! we're in it together 🌻keeping our peace hehe
I resonate with this so much! but most importantly I love love love your mindset! and the points you made about meaningless connections is so true, I recently stopped using snapchat and now I feel like all the conversations I hold with people are a lot more purposeful as we have to go out of our way to talk to each other. Yes my friendship circle is so much smaller now but all my friendships now seem so much more meaningful to me. Getting rid of instagram and TikTok to stop my doomscrolling is my next step, can't wait to see my mind have a break from it all 😆
i'm so glad this mindset connected with you 🤩we're definitely on the same wavelength!! it is so wild how much more meaningful things become when you remove the low-barrier-of-entry ways of keeping in contact! i don't think i understood how many "less friends" it would feel like i have when i first deleted it, but i really just have much deeper friendships with my smaller circle 😊and i would so much rather it be that way!
good luck getting off IG and TikTok 💖those ones were MUCH harder for me too but i promise it's SO worth it (after the initial withdrawal period😅)
I've been on and off social media for years for almost a decade. My reasons were many and they changed over the years. I deleted Instagram this past July for the last time (it was the only account that I continuously created over a over) and never felt better. I also dislike so much that some businesses build everything around their social media presence and it's a bit tricky to find information sometimes. Social media companies offer a neverending catalogue of everything and that takes a toll in many aspects.
The most important thing about deleting social media is to feel calmer and better. My life's intentional and more meaningful. Less stressed about all that digital clutter as well.
I totally recommend to delete the accounts not just the apps.
Great video, it felt like chatting with a friend.
"Social media companies offer a neverending catalogue of everything" - this is SO well said!! it could not be more true! and we're still so early into having these types of digital platforms it's impossible to know the full effects they have on us✍i'm really glad you found your way to a more intentional life as well 🌻it makes all the difference!
thank you so much for sharing your story and the support 😊 trying to get better at talking more naturally on camera as I start my YT journey so i'm really glad this one resonated with you!!
@@kate.cassidy thank you for sharing YOUR story too! Keep it up!
@@kate.cassidy I’m seeing your channel, I have some On-Page SEO Problem in your TH-cam Channel. On-Page SEO Means Your Video Title,Tag,Descriptions optimized. You are not using High Volume and Low competitions keyword research according to your video content.
Found you from the algorithm and this is really refreshing!
I’ve always struggled with this because deep down, I love a slower, minimal and more intentional way of living. That said, as a full time business owner (cinematographer and photographer) Instagram is the only social media I use to promote business. I wish I could let it go but it just generates too many leads and it’s a really easy and logical place to post work when folks ask for references. And Facebook just has some church group stuff I need for updates or hang outs.
Goal is to strictly use these platforms as tools and not distractions. Love your content, Kate. Keep up the great work!
Bennett!! I'm so glad you found your way here 😊 i reallyyyy resonate with you saying how you want a "slower, more intentional way of living"! it's hard to do that in this busy world
and that is very challenging when you need to maintain a social presence for professional reasons but want to regulate your usage on them from the personal standpoint! I think you 100% have the right approach using them as tools not distractions (also love that saying) - they can be super helpful in certain spaces! if you can consciously and intentionally use them in the right way and not sacrifice your own mental well being, then that is the right place to be!
thank you so much for the kind words on my content 🥰i have sooo much more I want to share it's hard to keep up 😅
Amazing level of honesty in this video!
I appreciate how honest you were in this video. ❤ I've stepped away from Instagram for weeks at a time once I had my daughter because I didn't want to be on my phone around her, and I realized I was addicted. The more I take a break, the more I realize how much I hate it and how it makes me feel. After watching this, I think I'm going to do an Instagram-free year. Thank you for this video. ❤
this is AWESOME to hear, congratulations on going for the instagram-free year 🥰such a powerful resolution!! also i think you're such a good mother for being cognizant and conscious of your screen usage around your daughter 💓A+ intentional parenting right there!! i think this will be such a healthy and healing decision for the whole family to benefits from! thank you for sharing your story
Love love love your channel and so happy I found it. I have had most of these issues too. I wrote a blog on struggles with social media last year and felt like everyone around me was blind to how much social media was taking over all our lives. Now I feel hope for the future seeing more and more videos like this! I also felt shame for my addiction, so you are not alone!
Helena!!! I'm so happy you found your way here 💙We're most certainly in it together (as is everyone in this comment section 🥰we're not alone in feeling some people are blind to the harms of this tech!!).
I'm hoping with enough of us craving a more conscious lifestyle with less consumption, we'll maybe start to see a pendulum swing into a society where we're all more engaged and in touch with reality and EXPERIENCING things fully ☀fingers crossed!!
you have such a peaceful and reassuring voice. we can feel you have no anger or hostily. i could listen your inspired thoughts for hours.
I needed to hear this. I just turned 36 and I think i'm finally ready to be done and make time to explore my other hobbies.
oooo you're in for a TREAT when you realize how amazing it is to have the time and your mental peace back 🥰your hobbies are about to BLOSSOM!!🌷congratulations on taking the first steps to healing your relationship to social media!!
Thanks a ton from the core of my heart for such a valuable content ❣️ In fact, earlier when there was no social media, we always enjoyed the present moment and most importantly, we were complacent with whatever we had. But now, I feel there's always an urge to post our every moment on social media instead of living in the present moment. Honestly, I feel everytime I look for a chance to capture pictures not for the memories, but just for showing them to the ones who wouldn't even remember those pictures after viewing them. And what is more disheartening is the fact that despite knowing the downsides of social media , we still are actively engaged with it, no matter where it will take us in future. Your video is a sincere reminder to take our life seriously. Thanks once again! Much love ❤
Khushboo ❤thank you so much for your heartfelt comment!! I miss the simpler days without these easy distractions when it was more common to live and enjoy the present moment!! Honestly.... I feel like my memory got WORSE with my reliance on pictures to capture everything in some ways! there's so much to unpack on this topic but i'm glad to have connected with like-minded people like you!! sending love 🌺
It's awesome that you have the self-awareness to admit you had a problem with these apps. Most of society is completely addicted and doesn't even realize it.
honestly that's why i felt compelled to make it - sooo much goes into this technology that most people don't know 😵💫 i hope sharing my story helps others and sparks a conversation!!
This is so great to hear from someone who grew up on social media as it began too! Thanks for posting
we were in the chaos together from the beginning, Colin!! what a wild experience it has been seeing social media change over the years! 🎢
Thank you for talking about this, I've been feeling so done with social media for months. Slowly been working on my screen time first. But it's really nice to see this video and know im not alone in this 💖
oh my gosh you're very much not alone 💛i think more people feel this way than even realize it!! feels like we're at a cultural tipping point sometimes.... but maybe that's just me😂
I loved this! "You are meant for more than what you are when you're scrolling social media." ❤
it's true 🌻i'm really glad it resonated with you 🥰
„Monetize our eyeballs“ wow you are smart. Thank you for your thoughts. ❤ you are helping.
thank you so much for the kind words 💛I certainly hope to try and offer some perspective, especially as someone who's been behind-the-scenes at these companies!! if i can help just one person then that makes everything worthwhile & fulfilling 🤗
Thank you for your honesty, I quit social media months ago, and out of nowhere now I see my friends often in real life, something that never happened before, I'm having a social life for reals this time and now I'm present in the moment, every moment, with my boyfriend and my family and friends ❤
that sounds like a truly magical evolution, Judy!!! I'm so happy that this has been your experience 💓life can be so much more fulfilling and deeper when we channel our energy into the real, tangible, present moment💛
Love ❤️ I've been off social media for about 3 weeks. My life has slowed down tremendously. I still struggle with picking up my phone too much to scroll pinterest but for the most part I am journaling more, reading more, and believing now that my goals are achievable 🎉❤
having other healthy hobbies to replace scrolling time with is so important 🥰i'll admit... to this day I have trouble with phone pick ups hahah my weather app is my most opened app for sure!
"believing now that my goals are achievable" is a beautiful thing that comes from spending less of your time scrolling 💛i'm SO happy this was your experience- thank you for sharing!! we're in this journey together 🌻
@kate.cassidy 🥰
hi kate, thanks for your kind words. you can't imagine how much it helps to feel better. i hope you're having a great day. take care.
U r really inspiring. It's been 4 months since I deleted social media now I have focused more on my real life . the world need inspiring people like u , love from india 🇮🇳😇❤️✨
thank you so much for the kind words Krishna!! sending love from the USA to India ❣we have so much that unites us across the planet🏵we're in this together!!
Just deleted my TikTok and Twitter accounts while watching this video. I still need Instagram and TH-cam for my business, but I'm working on trying to have more of a creator mindset to them rather than a consumer mindset. It's certainly been hard to transition.
10:58 this! The guilt I would feel about unfollowing people I used to have one college class with or something like that.
it's so funny how this is such a real feeling!! our brains weren't meant to keep up with all of these fleeting relationships from different points in our lives 😂and you know that person from the college class is probably feeling the exact same way.... it's such an interesting online song & dance! i'd rather just opt out entirely hahah
It is wild how long it takes people to notice, and even more interesting, who you stay in touch with when you're gone.
10000%!! something I didn't realize when I first got off, but honestly... a really insightful learning into the depth of my friendships!!
Makes total sense. Thanks for making this video, needed some confirmation that I don't have any issues haha.
I started by unfriending people that I knew affected my mental health in a bad way and ended up deleting everything and now feeling much better.
I also unfriended a TON of people before I finally took the leap and completely delete! it's like the stepping stone before realizing you don't need it at all 😂
i'm really glad you're feeling better and your mental health is improving now that you've spent some time off the apps it's hard at first but soo worth it! we're in this together🌻
started yesterday. i'm hoping the extra time i have from not scrolling will allow me to enjoy my life more and do better in college.
CONGRATULATIONS!!! it will be soooo refreshing to have all the time back to enjoy life and focus on what is important 🤩it'll be hard at first but i'm so excited for you 🌻
Your point about how scrolling holds you back from all your potential in life really resonated with me.
I hate social media addiction. I feel so mentally and physically dulled out when i end up scrolling too much. I have wanted to delete socials media apps, but my job is an artist in a more niche community where the only way i can gain attention to my work is on social media... I would never be able to sell anything without it. Thats what holds me back from deleting the apps😟
you're not the only one who's commented about needing it for their business, i wish i had advice to shareit's so challenging navigating your personal relationship with social media when you need to have it for professional reasons as well! i know you're on the right path because you're conscious of how it's making you feel and know you need to regulate your usage! i'm confident in you💗wish you the best!!!
Such a wonderful video. I am 25 and I deleted my social media account (i only had an instagram account) permanently. Now I am able to focus more on my studies. I am more calm and relaxed now. I dont have that sudden unexpected anxiety attacks. Have a lot of JOMO 😅. I am also able to focus and listen to podcasts and also to people in a conversation. Attention span is much better now. Happy to see this video. Love from India 🤗.
"JOMO" OMG how had i never heard this one before??? i LOVE that energy!!🥰
also I completely relate to being able to focus more to people in conversations once i was off social media - it's crazy the subtle ways that instagram addiction can impact things like your ability to hold a conversation and have enough attention for it!
i'm really happy it sounds like you're healing and having a great experience off the apps!! i hope more and more people start to join us living offline 🤠sending love to India!!
hello from Portugal 🇵🇹
I loved your video and your channel, I've been without social media for months and months but I still scroll a lot on my phone, what social media does to us is so strong... I'm extremely happy to see that many more people are getting it free yourself from them and start living life. It's been a difficult journey but I'm glad there are people like you here to help! 🌸
oh my gosh Portugal!!! i'm so happy you found your way here 😊i love your home country, i've been twice 🥰
you were so right in saying "what social media does to us is so strong"!! i also still struggle with my phone even years later - it's funny though, when you've deleted social media it's like the weather app i that check when i open my phone 😂
i'm also SO happy to see more people resonating with this message and joining the "delete social media" movement!! it's sooo challenging to navigate the journey weening off the platforms but we can all share our stories and be in it together 💓thank you so much for your kind comment and sharing your story!!
I love this video! What you said about brain rot is soooo real and so scary.
thanks Shayene 🥰i'm so glad you found it!! also something crazy - Oxford Dictionary literally JUST named "brain rot" their "word of the year" 😳SO wild, definitely going to need to do a video on that soon!! i just found it out
@ OMG yes! I saw that and was like there is no way they’re trying to make “brain rot” a normal part of people’s vocabulary????? Absolutely would love to see a video on this!
I quit when I hit 40 (2 yrs ago) and had a health crisis resulting in major surgery. I swear it aided my mental and physical recovery by not exposing myself or being exposed to other peoples ‘social media’ lives. I feel now that if you find out about people’s life changing events (engagements, births, marriages, deaths) via social media, then I would question the validity of that friendship. If only I could quit the TH-cam rabbit hole………..😵💫
finding out about major life events only through social media is SO telling about the level/depth of your friendship with someone 😔all my closest friends know that if they want me to hear about it, they've gotta reach out directly and take that intentional next step 🥰
YT is an interesting platform i'm definitely figuring out myself!! i think after taking a majorrrr break period from any of these types of digital media platforms i just don't find myself consuming very much (and i don't touch Shorts at all - that side of YT is a no-go for me). i did make a seperate video on some specific tips you may find helpful 🤷♀some of the basics we often forget about like monitoring/limiting screen time, etc: th-cam.com/video/FEEGens8HGc/w-d-xo.html (bear with the quality, it was my second video ever hahaha)
also i hope you're doing well from the surgery recovery 🌻
Thank you. And thank you for taking the time to read and reply personally to every comment, that’s so amazing!
I will check out the other video you recommend x
@@sallyredgrave7051 of course 🥰this is the best part about starting to create on here!! wishing you the best 🌼
I‘m 25 and I deleted all my social media. Haven’t regretted it a day.
that is SO awesome!!! really excited for you ☀i love this community of us who live under rocks together 😊🪨
This was such an awesome video, and that last point is a really interesting observation. I've listened to a few different people speak about their experience off social media and this has been the most insightful. Tysm!!
thank you so much Emily ❣i'm really glad it resonated!!! i definitely think having worked on the platform side gives me a slightly different perspective that is sometimes offered (and makes me feel obligated to talk about it more because i know how these businesses operate😅). i appreciate your kind words 😊going to keep unpacking these sorts of topics on my channel!!
HAHA when you swore 😂 Omg you're adorbs. The algo brought this to me two months later but THANK YOU for talking about this, two months ago! Late stage social media is my fav topic to talk about aaaaand to listen to. I'm a creator with a lil paying/private community so I feel a liiiiiiittle beholden to show up for them (they all came from Insta over the years), but I have struggled with Instagram addiction since 2011 when I first downloaded it, lol. So it was SUPER interesting listening to you talking about your experience with Insta as one of the OG's too! I managed to delete the app and stay off of it for three whole weeks over the holidays in December, and I couldnt effing believe it. I felt SO peaceful, so much clarity! So much grounded-ness and self-assuredness and also productivity and creativity and just all the things. But.... as addictions go, I found myself back on this week and my mental health and creativity and productivity has done a total nosedive. Anyway, loved listening!! Thank you so much for sharing, I def wanna come live under the rock with you haha subscriiiiiiibbbbed girlie and I'll check out the playlist you made on detoxing! 🥰
thanks so much for sharing your story, Brandy!!! 🧡sounds like we share a lot going on in our heads/content hahah you gained a subscriber in me as well ☺
i hope in the new year you're able to navigate your relationship with the socials!! it's definitely challenging when you have a business or presence like it sounds like you do on instagram... i do not envy that position but i know it's such a real experience for small business owners/content creators! i'm sure that taste of grounded-ness and creativity that you got in your 3 weeks off inspired some reevaluation of how you'll use the platform moving forward🌻it's such a personal thing to figure out (i know not everyone can go cold-turkey like me 😅) but it sounds like you're 1000% on the right path by being conscious of how it makes you feel 🥰
excited to hear where your journey takes you this year!! especially with writing your memoir i'm sure you'll naturally be cutting back on social media time ☀good things to come!
On the friendship piece, I’m the person who sucks at reaching out to folks. I work a high demand job, side hustles etc. So I do appreciate being able to keep up with folks on a quicker beat. When I see a story, remember that person and send a quick note, I’ve found it helpful to keep connected with low effort. I do have a few close friends that I do text and connect with more but I do think some of those comments on stories or posts, does help re-spark relationships that you may not maintain as intensely as others.
this is an extremely valid approach as well - thank you for sharing your experience!!! it's a super personal choice and sounds like you have a very healthy mindset😊i found the quick check-ins via socials to lack a level of depth that i crave from my relationships, BUT it's not without major trade offs!! i've fallen out of touch with a lot of people I otherwise may have kept somewhat in touch with 🤷just need to figure it out on an individual level! i love your counter-perspective 💙
You listed some exceptional points! I’m gathering the courage to get off! Let’s see how I do.
i'm so excited you're exploring this next chapter off social media 💌it is definitely a hard decision to make and it does take courage!! the beginning is honestly super challenging but will be SO worth it when you look back on this moment years later!! proud of you already - good luck with the journey ☘
I loved this video!! I've been wanting to deactivate my social media for a lot of the reasons you described in this video, and you've convinced me that it's something I just need to do. The way you speak is so refreshing and eloquent - I'm excited to watch more of your videos! Subcribed 😊
hayleigh!!! i'm so glad you found your way here 🤩really excited for you as you start your journey to building a healthy relationship with these platforms🌻it's challenging when you're so used to using them all the time.... but i promise it's AWESOME in retrospect!!
and oh my gosh thank you for the kind words 😅i really feel like i was long-winded and rambling in this video so i'm glad it didn't come off that way!! appreciate your feedback ♥
I’ve been off instagram for a couple of weeks and feel so good without it. Apart from Snapchat, I think it’s one of the worst social media’s these days.
i completelyyyy agree!!! there's something so unsettling about Instagram to me... all these curated projections of people's lives, just begging to have your fall victim to social comparison issues, and then a SPAMMY amount of ads! no thank you, i choose mental peace 😊🌺
Love the call for intentionality. ❤
it's what I'm all about 🥰❣i'm glad it resonated with you!!!
A few years back I was constantly on Social Media. Primarily Reddit, and Twitter. It wasn't even me necessarily posting anything just constant doom scrolling. and scrolling on things that didn't pertain to me or something that I could have no material effect on. For some reason though it itched my brain in the right ways, but it takes it's toll in a way. I found myself feeling generally hopeless about situations in the world, and wasted hours upon hours doing nothing on those platforms. I eventually cut it out, and replaced it with hobbies. Gaming, Gunpla, Tabletop games, reading, watching movies, 3d printing, and now electronics repair. It was literally liberating. I feel so much more fulfilled with the time I spend, and my days don't feel wasted like they did before. I still scroll Reddit from time to time, or check Twitter, however that's only after I've heavily curated to be what I want those platforms to be for me. Reddit for hobby discussions, Twitter for news (less so anymore, and thinking of dropping it entirely), and facebook for local community stuff. I hope more take this dive, as there is much more to life than just constant scrolling.
Just wanted to also say, great video. You really hit the nail on the head with this.
I’m from the AIM/Myspace age. About 8 years ago I took a break for a good 3 years, and then a year ago took another break. I got back on TikTok for a few months with my messages shut off and now am just done with all of it again. Realized I don’t want to talk or engage with anyone. My life is so much more peaceful and mindful without it. I’m not tempted to constantly check and doom scroll. I own a small art business and that’s where my focus is, as well as reading and spending time outside. Social media has its time and place but life without it is just better.
i'm so happy you got to this peaceful, mindful place 💗it's funny how dipping back onto social media after being off it for a while you realize "oh wait.... i don't need to be here" hahah it doesn't hit the same anymore!! and having something so authentic and creative to you like your art business to channel you're energy into 🤌THAT is precious - that's the good stuff in life!
@ it is bizarre. It used to be SO important! And when I got back on it was like, “why am I even on this?” But yes you’re correct, there are things so much more worthwhile!!
i deleted my socials this past new year’s eve and it feels so refreshing. of course i would frequently take breaks, but once i log back into them, i would spend hours just “catching up”
you also made a good point i hadn’t realized.. the stalking part 😂sheesh, why are we like this lmao.
our brains are so funny in this way 😅but the apps are literally built to grab our attention like this!! i'm glad you're trying a little ~detox~ with the new year - i think it'll be an awesome journey for you 💛
i can fully relate to this even though i only took a few months away from social media. my mental health and productivity improved greatly.
it's so good and healthy to take breaks! helps keep you balanced and in charge of your own consumption - then you can go back on in an intentional way!
I deleted Instagram 3 years ago and I’ve never been happier. Not using TikTok, Twitter or Facebook either. Life’s bliss.
I haven’t gotten rid of social media completely but i’ve significantly reduced time spent on it which has increased my productivity tenfold!
that's so awesome, Alyssa!! I'm so glad you're leaning into your productive energy with less time sucked into socials 🌻it sounds like you've found a good balance!!
I’m off of social media for a year. Started a few days ago. I already feel better. It’s likely that I’ll never log back into my accounts once the year is up. However, I work in social media management so I do have to log into other client’s accounts every day. I cannot fully escape it.
i feel that SO hard - it's really challenging to try to limit social media usage and generally wanting to be more "unplugged" when our jobs require it sometimes 😑 but i'm really glad to hear you're already feeling better from limiting your personal consumption😄 it's all about being aware & conscious of your own relationship with this tech!! you're doing it right 👏we're in it together!!
I just quick social media, this really helped. Thank you!
YAY cassie!!! congratulations 🥳💗welcome to the beginning of the rest of your life (seriously!)
Very refreshing take! Thanks for sharing your perspective, particularly as you have an insider perspective, having worked with Tiktok.
thank you, i'm glad you enjoyed and something resonated 🤩ya... honestly part of the reason i felt inspired to start a channel. i feel pretty obligated to share about the industry because i think a lot of people don't realize everything that goes on behind-the-scenes. i'll definitely be digging into it deeper in future videos
i left a gym club because every women were filming and i wrote to the manager "it's not the price is right tv set here, you should respect member privacy, there are even people in cloackroom filming my naked body on background when the film themselves in the miror". what a nightmare that gym was. horrible experience. tiktok users are so selfcentered that they can't even imagine their content can violate people privacy, making the buzz on people who never gave explicit content ever. it's like everyone is filming 24/7 now, nobody could control or blame one, because you must blame all others. it's just accepted to be shamed and humiliated on internet by random tiktoker. sometimes you don't notice the phone, and you have a woman yelling at you "I WAS FILMING". sorry i didn't noticed you privatized all the gym club, i didn't get the memo.
How I wish I didn't go back on Instagram; all I had left was TH-cam for any form of social media. I do agree on how cool it feels to catch up with people you haven't seen in a long time, recently meet up with a friend in my hometown, and it was just kinda strange to say but, a human experience. Same when I meet up with my other friend, we've caught lunch or dinner about 6 times throughout the past 3 years, always love hearing how people change and what's going on.
"a human experience" ❣sometimes it feels like this is what is lost with all of us being connected online allllll of the time!! the simple things like the joy of catching up with an old pal 😊it sounds like you're already pretty conscious about how you're interesting with your social media vs. real life relationships so i think you're in a great spot ☀being conscious and embracing the simple pleasures of the "offline" world is the key! :) appreciate you sharing your experience with this!!!
I quit social media because real friends would stop calling or inviting you to do anything in real life. I think people got sucked into thinking sharing reels and chatting from time to time on Facebook and instagram was equivalent to normal human connection.
yes!!! exactly!!! it's soooo strange how this happened! but by being off it forces that extra IRL reach out and deeper connections to be formed 🌼you may lose some "friends" along the way but i want my social circle to be more authentic than the surface-level social media interactions 🤷we're definitely in the same mindset here :)
you know, as long as you learn from your mistake and don't go back to instagram, don't keep dating the violent kind of men you hated, you can only be a wonderful person. we all do mistakes. i do sports to get mental strenght, to learn how i could be even more nice everyday. until the day you die life has every day something to teach you, if you have the humily to question yourself.
omg the online stalking random people is real :( I feel you!
I am 35 and have been deleting each app over the last couple of years.. I just recently deleted my last one, and i feel so good. It has helped my mental health
i'm so happy you've also had mental health improvements from being off them!!! 💗i know i certainly have as well so we're in the same boat!! thank you for sharing your perspective✨
This was very useful. It's something I've been thinking about for a long time.
I guess for me one of the biggest things is what you also mentioned, the part related to "needing" to brain tot on Instagram.
But I am actively trying to find different things to do when I don't feel like doing anything. Which is not on my phone.
i think once you find the few hobbies that really *click* for you, it'll become easier to redirect your energy from brain rotting/the endless scroll 😊but it takes timeeee to figure that out, i know how it goes!! for me to be honest, i was basically entirely fitness related. can't be scrolling on my phone while on a nice long walk outside, listening to a podcast or audiobook and taking in the scenery 🤷♀not for everyone but really worked for me!
Wow I’m in the same boat as you used to be. I can relate so much. This video was much much needed to me.
i'm so so glad you found your way here 💓you're definitely not alone in what you're experiencing because I most certainly have been there BIG time! i hope you find your balance 🧘♀
I quit 3 years ago too and boyyyy howdy, my life is so much better. I did it to be more present with my 8-year-old daughter, to not be an example of what I'd hate for her to become. Now she hears me say "Consumption is not a hobby" at least five times a day. 😂 I know I probably won't be able to keep her completely off socials (abstinence not working and all that), but hopefully she'll hear my voice echoing around in her skull while she's scrolling the same way I hear my dad's every time I leave an unnecessary light on in my house lol
you are such a wonderful parent for making the conscious decision to be more present with your daughter 💖that is a really powerful decision and i wish more parents followed in your footsteps!!
also OBSESSED with the phrase "Consumption is not a hobby" oh my gosh that is GOLD ⭐i'm so confident that will stick with her the same way your dad's wisdom of shutting of the lights did for you 😂thank you so much for sharing - a lot of wisdom in there!!
"consumption is not a hobby" 🙌🙌🙌 yes ma'am!!!
I deleted Facebook and Instagram without missing them at all. I just deleted TikTok and I will say in struggling a little bit more. I do feel like it’s helped me a lot with stress levels & time management.
i just made a follow-up video on how to deal with FOMO being off social media! check it out: th-cam.com/video/xKu_8UblEsA/w-d-xo.html
I JUST deactivated Facebook and Instagram. Needed this video!
i'm so glad that it resonated 🌺i think you're going to look back on this choice and be so grateful 😄welcome to the club!!!
I started to move away from Facebook. My wife checks occasionally so if people want to know what is going on with us she can post something. We are middle aged and our relatives and friends our age are so into attention seeking and validation. When I first joined a few years ago due to a travel group that used the platform, I got friend requests from people I knew years ago and learned how many of them are just awful people, posting borderline or just flat out racist stuff. It's depressing.
the attention seeking and wanting external validation is so real, it's strange these platforms bring that side out in us 😵💫it's a shame!! i'm glad you're finding your own balance with it and cultivating your own safe space online - none of us need to see the borderline racist or toxic sides of each other that the social media sites unfortunately perpetuate 😒
What is bizarre to me is that we get social media when we are all in university, which is quite possibly when we have more access to like minded, young people than any other time of our lives. Make it make sense.
WOW that is such a good point too!! for me it was even younger, middle school is when my peers and I started sneakily lying about out ages to get on facebook 😵💫but exactlyyy - it's like they almost take away the best part of our youth, the fact that we *can* be so connected to like-minded communities and living closer together and have this great opportunity for deep real-life relationships!
i am optimistic that in the future we'll do digital literacy education at an earlier age but man.... these platforms have run away with our time & attention for so long with their addictive qualities 😕
OMG the stalking people lol YEAH… i just realized last few days i really need to deactivate my insta and today am like now fs going to, bc it has been causing i think a lot of anxiety i wasn’t aware it was putting on me. Thank you for this video its what i need❤
i'm so glad you found it valuable 💗thank you for sharing your story!! it's hard to do at first but then it's soooo worthwhile when you're off!! you don't even realize the amount of anxiety it is inducing until you spend some time off of it! good luck, you got this!! 🍀
god bless you and sorry for the trolls on tiktok. that's usually what happen when you share you're private life with random strangers, not everyone is a good person who make a good use of your knowledge, you have all kind of dangerous viewers that you wouldn't share your intimacy with. pokiman is moving once a year because of that. i have only 1 hater but because i am his target, he makes my life almost impossible.
I have Facebook and TH-cam only. Facebook is on my last nerve and I only use it as needed. Life opens up when walking away!
"Life opens up when walking away" - this is so beautiful ☀and 100% true!!! if only more people took the time to realize it... but i do feel like people are getting more fed up and frustrated with how the platforms make us feel (like you said with FB getting on your last nerve) so i'm hopingggg our culture starts to wake up to it more!!! time will tell!
i’ve been debating on deleting social media for so long but i worry on what i’m going to miss out on. but after i finished the video i deleted everything. fingers crossed i don’t just go back
Good luck!! You can do it ❤
@@Jarnierae thank you so much
i'm so proud of you for trying out life unplugged from the socials 💖it's REALLY hard to do at first, but i promise it gets better with time!! sending positive energy your way as you start this journey☀you got this!!
Such a insightful video. loved it.
I'm so glad you found something that resonated with you here 😊this is why I started making videos - to connect with like minded individuals! thank you so much for your support ❣
I quit at the start of the new year! Not sure if I’m thinking of permanently deleting, but definitely don’t want to be addicted the way I was. So far I’m feeling sooo much better. Tik tok was killing my mental health
Jamie!! Congratulations!! i'm so excited for you to start this journey!!! exploring your personal relationship with the social platforms is such a great thing to invest in as we start 2025 🌹i hope you continue to feel better & better and your mental health gets stronger without the stress of apps like TikTok (i have beeeeeeen there so i feel you - i didn't truly realize how much it impacted my own mental health until i was fully off). really happy for you and glad you found your way here 😊we're in it together!!
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hola!!! that is so wonderful and exciting to hear this message has made it to Cuba ❣i'm so happy you're here! thank you for commenting 😊
Really helpful and important discussion
I'm so glad you found it valuable 💙we're all moving through this funky, digital-driven world together!!
I deleted social media two days ago.is it normal to feel empty ? I feel I'm sad but at the same time I don't wanna go back you emmm I don't know how to explain it
firstly - CONGRATULATIONS on taking the first step and deleting!!! that's really really hard to do so i'm proud of you for that❣🌺
I would say there is definitelyyyy a long adjustment period where emotions can be really complicated😒it's like having withdrawal symptoms from other types of addictions!! sadness is very normal but it WILL pass with time!!🌻for me what helped was re-channeling my energy and time into IRL/physical/tactile things - spending time with friends/family, physical movement (walks, yoga, etc!), hobbies! just my own experience - it's *so* personal so i encourage you to play around with it and see what feels good for you😊
remember you're not alone!! we're in this together 💌
You get to fill that space ❤🎉
Find a hobby 😊helps
sometimes calm / peace can feel like emptiness if you’re used to the constant dopamine spikes or adrenaline rushes from distressing posts. breathe and enjoy the moment! proud of you for deleting social media ❤
Not sure how old you are, but you're definitely younger than me, and you give me great hope!
i'm so happy you found your way here 😊that's my biggest goal of my channel, educating and reminding everyone of the positive stuff ☀we can all live our best lives and flourish together hehe
and i'm 27, knocking on 28's door 😅
Congratulations on making some intentional choices on where you invest your time and attention!
While I'm pretty sure I only spend minimal time on social media, I wonder if/when I'll get off it entirely...
thank you so much Rob!! it's been soooo beneficial for me - i think so long as you're intentional with your consumption and wary of some of the detrimental effects, it can be fine 😄if you do ever want to get off I have a whole social media detox series on my channel!
if you ever get off entirely or try to take a full break, would love for you to come back and share your experience :) it's such an individual journey!
awwwww you said a bad wordddddd.... Lol loved this video! Motivated me to delete some apps off my phone.