Dang, that’s crazy!!! I have NEVER seen that in my career (thank God) I’ve def seen “unhelpful” nurses in certain situations, but not to that point. There’s always a few of those but most nurses where I’ve worked will run their a$$es off to help in a life-or-death situation 😳
One can have such negative character traits. That where empathy is required, you don't have it and even let people die. Dee, have you ever experienced or heard of this yourself?
I am a pharmacist but I have witnessed this behavior. I was working at a pediatric oncology hospital. A received a frantic call from a nurse needing a drip for a patient. The protocol was for someone in nursing to come to the pharmacy for pick up. It was night shift and I was the only pharmacist in house. I could tell she was in a panic so I ran it up to her floor. When I walked on the unit she was running back and forth between two critical patients. There were other nurses sitting at the nursing station. No lie, one was painting her nails and the other was writing checks for her bills. I could have cried for that nurse. It had to be awful knowing no one was going to help with her patient. I went directly to the nurse supervisor and told him the circumstances. The two nurses not helping were both seasoned RNs with 10-15yrs, the RN struggling was new to our hospital. We don’t need high school mean girl behavior when taking care of patients. Sorry for the rant but this happened 25 yrs ago and I still remember it.
As an African American nurse working in ICU, I can totally relate to this story. They think you are incompetent and you shouldn’t be working in a critical care setting, but I let them know the first time they try me, “Honey, I can run circles around you, don’t play with me because I’m confident in my skills and God approved this transfer to this unit, not you”.
You shouldn’t have to be like that nurses should be operating off of empathy not competition gossip demeaning and downplaying each other that’s a sick environment
As a male RN I can say this is true. The fellas, we watched in disbelief how poorly the ladies treated each other. Patients are at risk because of this.
Of course. If a patient is crashing, why are you standing at the door whispering and not finding ways to be useful. Contact the other patients then, or answer call bells.
Can I ask you if you’ve had discrimination as a male RN? Only because I’m an RN (ANP) and having a lot of hostility and almost bullying….actually I’m downplaying it..absolute bullying from female coworkers. And I’m embarrassed to even say it..men don’t usually get recognition for this happening and it makes you feel like a fraud. I wondered what other male nurses experiences were.
@@JC-lv2oo it starts at such a young age unfortunately too it’s so disgusting to watch any female at any age be a “mean girl” it happens a lot in office settings as well
Show me the personality disorder, and I'll show you the nurse that fits it. I've been a nurse since '03. I'm glad you nailed these psychos. I can't wait to retire.
I was bullied in nursing school. I was bullied working as a CNA. I was bullied during my preceptorship. And my first nursing job. And my second. For almost 10 years. And I finally just had enough and left the bedside. This is why there is a nursing shortage. It's not because there aren't competent people. They don't want to work in toxic, understaffed, dangerous conditions where management doesn't support you and people are enabled to treat you like shit. Healthcare needs to change. Badly.
I can relate here! I had the same issues working as a CNA. They have a candy like " I will send you home" to scare and intimidate you and when you want to speak your voice they say that you become defensive! Not all of them of course but a great percentage of the nurses and the CNAs!
Jealousy is everywhere... But in the nursing field it's rampant, its sickening. If the seniors doesn't like you for any stupid, trivial reasons, you'll suffer a lot even if you are doing your very best. I am unfortunately undergoing bullying in my workplace. I'm doing self talk everyday, mind conditioning, they make sarcastic remarks, making me feel I'm not good enough, but I'm a fighter and I love being a PICU nurse, may God help me.
GOD With You. Stand Your Ground On Those Evil People GOD Did Not Give You A Spirit Of Fear Fight On Your Knees In PRAYER And Fight Back Respectfully By Knowing The Ins And Outs Of Your Nursing Profession And Your Rights You Are Paving The Way For Others. It’s Unfortunate People Get Bullied In School Now The Work Place So Just Remember The Evil You Do Others Will Come Back To You. If They Don’t Get It Their Children Will That Is A Fact! Do No One Evil.
No one can ‘make you’ feel anything. You allow it. Ignore the ignorance, you are above it. I for one, love nurses, you work so hard. Keep up the good work!
I don't know your beliefs and I'm not a bible thumper but I have had my moments with Jesus; remember he said if they hate you remember they hated me first.
I just truly don’t understand why people go out of their way to bully and put other people down. I really thought bullying was like a school issue. Apparently adults are just older children.
I always tell people about my start in ICU ( specifically night shift). I snapped one good time on the “ring leader”, never had that problem again. We never really spoke again (outside of patient care), but she knew she wasn’t trying me again. A Win is a WIN! ☺️
I am not a Nurse but have worked at a particular workplace for 29 years and Sis ain't neeeeevvvva lied!!! These DEVILS be De 👏vi👏lin'👏 They need to be in a group though, cause when they are alone, away from the group, they're humble and timid as hell😑
I totally understand what you are speaking of. I was a RN in a neuro ICU. I was the only black nurse in that unit for almost all of the 15 years l worked there. I had many incidents of other nurses trying to sabotage me and the sad part is most of it came from the nurse managers and the supervisors. I prayed and cried a lot but l was determined that l would be leaving that institution on my terms. I was not going to let them run me off. I retired from there after 28 years, long after many of my saboteurs were long gone. God is good.
Sorry you had to deal with this All of you!!! In a building where it's mainly women that kind of opens up a battle ground to see who has more knowledge? I found i always learned by watching or helping and that's what we have to do is stick together. Learn from one another!
I u understand exactly how u feel and your experience although Iam not a nurse Iam black and a patient care tech and when I was in the ICU it was like there were people how were waiting on me to come to work just setup bad interactions with me I stayed 10 years to long but I was like u Iam going to leave on my own terms when I got ready no one was going to run me off
Wow this is so inspiring all Glory to God . Am Vicky too 😊and about to start my RN nursing carrier I pray God gives me the grace not to allow toxic people make me quit my job but to stay and do my job and let them go instead . I remember during my internships in the hospital I experienced nurse colleagues who usually enjoyed sabotaging me for no reasons. I don’t know if it’s Cos I am pretty and nice sometimes I just get confused what people gain when they aim at getting others fired from their jobs and sources of income…🤷♀️ for no justifiable reason Lord Jesus please protect the real nurses and expose the fake ones.🙏🏾
I'm not a nurse but I've dealt with similar issues. I was the only minority on my team (Asian) and my white colleagues would always try to look down on me and pay me less. The second I got a new job offer, they begged me to stay. I learned to always stand up for yourself in workplaces, otherwise you will get stepped on.
OMG...I got so bullied as a new nurse in the ICU that I never went back. All of this is true in EVERY institution. Its truly sad what nurses do to each other. Spot on, girl!
Same here! I accepted a job in the ICU as a new grad and I only lasted 5 weeks. I transferred to a med/surg unit within the hospital and it is truly a breath of fresh air. The environment is like night and day compared to the ICU. I've heard a lot of stories about ICU being the unit where all the mean girls go but I never believed it until I actually experienced it first hand. And it's not even that I was being bullied directly because I wouldn't call it that but rather they would not step in to help me at all when I needed help. My preceptors all made me feel dumb for not knowing how to carry out specific skills. It just was not a supportive environment at all for a new grad.
I wish I saw this video before I started my nursing career - this was my entire experience in the hospital. They would sit around and take a notes on me and not speak to me the entire shift, and then I would get called into the manager’s office and they would have sheets that they would read out loud to me about how horrible I was, and all the infractions I did, not accounting for the circumstances or the lack of help that I received. I was completely overwhelmed without any help and I didn’t know how to stand up for myself at work, so they eventually fired me thinking that I wasn’t a good employee. Never going back. I worked at a clinic for a short while afterwards, but now I’m a stay at home mom and I am so much happier and my mental health is so much better.
@ Anna Holmes....I'm sorry u had that experience...it's crazy to me how nurses actually BULLY other nurses! Like you are a team and they should be in place to support! This is necessary! You will always have your skill set they can't remove that from you....your mental health is PARAMOUNT because if you don't have that then what are we left with? I'm glad your happy.....it's the holy grail of life....finding that...
This sound eerily like what happened to me. I’m so glad I’m out now. Like you, I wound up disillusioned and after my son was born I had little motivation to go back for very long. Nursing sucks.
I recently retired as a Labor & Delivery OB nurse after 22 years. Some nurses can be so mean spirited. Whenever we got a new nurse, I’ve always went out of my way to be nice to new nurses. How do we expect for new nurses to learn, we old nurses have to teach them and have patience. Hang in there and trust God.
Exactly @Yvonne I always do my best to make new nurses feel welcomed and appreciated. I hate toxic work environments. I have always stood by the fact that EVERY nurse was once a new nurse, I don’t care how long you been a nurse we ALL had to start somewhere.
I was very lucky as a new grad on Labor and Delivery. We had wonderful experienced RNs when I oriented on days. When I went to nights there were also very experienced RNs who took the two of us new grads under their wings. And night shift has always been incredibly tight, nurses always materializing when there was an emergency.
I just can’t with the medical field anymore. It is so freaking toxic. I’ve had colleagues disrespect me like this too and it’s bullsh!t. The bullying starts in nursing school. “Nurses eat their own” “I’m not about to be anyones breakfast, lunch or dinner!” That’s right!!!
It’s not just in nursing. All medical fields have it including doctors. A hospitalist I knew at a hospital who is female and from the Middle East was getting bullied by the other doctors. She said only 2 RT’s ever talk to her besides asking for an order and she only trusted us two because we got to know her and become friends. It’s sad. I was bullied from elementary school through HS and even as a paramedic student and as an RT. My paramedic partner tried to rape me by throwing me on the bed and jumping on top. I fought him off and he threatened to blackmail me. I was hazed by that other crew, my partner, and the captain. All men. Other counties as well and even as a server in a restaurant because f a piece of jewelry I wore. He couldn’t be bothered to count accurately the number of points on the star I wore. He said I wore a 5 pointed star and I was going to hell in the middle of the dining room. That’s a pentagram. I had on a 6 pointed star which is the Star of David which is the Jewish star and that was mean what he did in the middle of the dining room on a star with the points he couldn’t count. Don’t get me started on my preceptor when I was a paramedic student. He almost made me fail with bad scores until I finally had had it with the abuse and threatened to quit. They took all of my reviews out and saw when I had different preceptors I had good scores. Only with my main one he gave me the worst trying to make me quit. I was given credit for not punching him out for mental and physical abuse (I was struck in the head with a CD and no apology. They laughed and thought it was funny). I said exactly what all they did in her previous video if you want to read what this POS did to me
I confirm this....I was a nurse for 12 years and I quit. I'm about to finish masters in information technology, already looking for a job as cloud operations administrator.
“ Nurses eat their young” was what I was told as a new nurse. So VERY pathetic. Was a Nursing Assistant, Treated like trash by most RNs and LPNs. As an LPN same treatment by RNs. As an RN treated badly by “ Graduate RNs ( my degree was an associates). Had a 40 year career and loved it, was kind and caring ignoring the meanness. My patients, and families loved me, so did ancillary staff, and new nurses.
I was told that exact same thing when I was in nursing school and I will tell you I was a CNA I went and I'm an LPN I never went on to get my RN but I love being an LPN and you're right I was stepped on by the LPN to RN when I was a CNA and then when I was in LPN the our ends put me down but I will tell you I meant more LPNs that I would let take care of me and my family than I did at times RN I just had a hospital stay from a surgery and I was there for days now the nurses I could tell where New I don't have a problem with that but these nurses did not have good clinicals did not know what they were doing the one that put my IV in me I had one infiltrate I had another one where you could see it just coming up through my skin I mean it was awful the care was the worst surgery was great at my doctors were great the pre-op and post-op people were awesome but the nursing staff that took care of me was just so bad I mean the pain medicine they were giving me I kept asking her what she was giving me and she said oh it's your pain medicine but she wasn't telling me what kind finally I told her look I'm a nurse what kind of medicine are you giving me because it's not working and she told me it was toradol and toradol does not work for me I need morphine and so she's like oh I guess that's why I'm having to give it to you you know as often as it says I can and I said get on the phone and please get morphine order well she took her ass sit out at the nurses station until the morning nurse came in because this is a night shift nurse and she had like an hour before she was to get off from her shift and instead of getting an order then for my morphine she waited and was going to let the morning shift nurse to it which ended up being a long time so throughout the whole night and part of the day I was in pain from the entire time that I woke up from surgery and that seems what we're getting from the new nurses today they're not out here with the empathy and wanting to take care of these patients they're wanting a check they really don't care😢
@@pamelaincerta6428 You paint brush was to sweeping . You sound like you are Trying to make yourself look good . I would want a beginning nurse . I worked at two major hospitals in California and so many RN 'S opinions of themselves was more Highly than they should have been thinking.
@@dotsan8543 I'm not trying to make myself look good it's just what I went through when I worked I'm retired now it's been a long time since I've worked and I remember when I had a code on a patient I was the one to stay with that patient write down everything that happened and the fact that the rooms are small and everybody wants to come in and there's not enough room for everybody and there's a lot going on at the time and I'm not an RN I'm an LPN so if you took it as I'm trying to make myself look good you took it the wrong way and it may have been the way that I put it I apologize but that's not what I was trying to do
I’m an experienced nurse now, but this happened when I was an LPN in a nursing home. I came into work on the evening shift and the day shift charge nurse told me that I needed to fill out an incident report on a patient that I had previously. However, the incident didn’t occur on my shift it occurred on the shift prior to mine. This particular charge nurse didn’t care for LPN’s that were in school to become registered nurses. So she tried to get me to falsify an incident report. But she didn’t know that I wasn’t Boo boo the fool and I wasn’t going to fill out a report that happened while I wasn’t even in the building.
I was also belittled as a new LVN on a neurosurgical ward in the 70’s. There were 3 cna’s that were after me for whatever reason. Wouldn’t help me turn a patient, offer me any assistance whatsoever. I left there after a year and a half . It was awful. Just treated like crap. I did find my niche in a dr’s office for 20 plus years and loved it.
I am a nurse who went thru alot of bullying with my current job. I stuck it out and got those people off of me. Cause the pay and the healthcare provided to patients were top notch and I want to learn. Honey I am proud to say I just had my 5yr anniversary for this job last month. 💃💃 And I am so glad I stuck it out.
YESSSS! Stand up, Stand Strong and know your sh**t. As a black nurse, no matter were you work…THEY WILL TRY YOU! Shut them up and continue to work your black girl magic.
Going through this at my current job. Being a black female manager with a bunch of white male managers. Had one of them finish my shift for me as if I’m not capable of running my own shift.
Sadly this is the truth. I have been working for 27 years. They have ALWAYS tried to send Black Nurse to Med Surg.. stand firm young Sistahs stand firm!!!!
My wife is a retired ICU nurse with 41 years' experience. She backed you up 100%. She was the charge nurse for most of her career at an inner-city hospital. She knew her stuff and she did not take any crap, and she was fair. And she is a Sista who was trained in Boston but came to California.
Have you been struggling with NCLEX be it LPN or RN, have you taken the exam for more than once? Are you taking it for the first time? Do you have a too busy schedule to study? Get to Dr Needham for your NCLEX assistance
I was in nursing school 50 yrs ago.I started out as LPN.At that time the attitude was how dare you think you able to get your RN.as they are the smarter ones.I was also bullied by LPNs.To those struggline do not give up.Just because they think .your too dumb. for anything in health care you will find your way.I did two days a week while getting my RN and I was sent all over the hosp.Some areas are well staffed and some horrible.And working the evening is much harder then the other shifts.I wish I had a mentor.
I know exactly what you mean. I was on a Travel Assignment in Memphis and my patient coded. Called for a code, nobody responded. Charge Nurse said she had her own patients Asked the CNA to come do the vitals, she said "Oh no boo boo it's on you". They all was looking at me outside the door through the glass window. I had to call the Nurses from the other Med surg/ Tele unit to come help me. Code team finally got there, patient had to transported to ICU. Then the Holiday came up (forgot which one), and the Department Head (African American Nurse) was making rounds, and she said I have been getting good reviews form your patients would you like to extend for 6 more months? I pulled her in the break room and told her that I had been a RN for 20 years and I have NEVER been in a code by myself, told her what happened, her mouth dropped open with disbelief, she had to go ask the Nurses that came help me if it was true. She was visibly upset and I told her, I would have taken the extension but this unit is unsafe for me and I need my license and jail does not suit me well. When my contract was over, my last day, I ran out the hospital and I drove all the way from Memphis to Louisiana, My husband said will you let me drive sum? I was 1/2 mile from home by then and I let him took over. I have never take another contract in Memphis.
The ones that stand at the glass door looking in are the ones that grinds my gears. I’ve concluded that they’re not knowledgeable and pretend that they are. Lol at your husband asking to drive, 🤣🤣🤣. I home the management lady whipped them into shape. Some nurses are just awful.
I’m from Memphis and most of my jobs have been in Memphis. I am a home health private duty nurse and my patients are in the hood. People always asking me aren’t you afraid? I feel safer in the hood than at any nursing facilities. The gangsters actually protect nurses brave enough and loving enough to come and care for their loved ones in the home in the hood.
"you stood there ate the door, you weren't doing nothing" perioddddd. As a new nurse, I really do hope to stand up for myself and my practice like this.
As a nursing student the amount of bullying I’ve gotten from some nurses is so degrading and humiliating the only reason I’ve stuck through is because of my loans but I am genuinely terrified of how toxic this field can be at times 🥺
Stand strong chica. You got this. Stand up for yourself, know your rights & policies, and don’t let ANYONE belittle you. You worked HARD for this. You deserve it. 💯🎯
Become a traveling nurse or work through a agency. Because you can pick where you want to go & if you don't want an assignment then you don't have to take it.
What about being a nurse practitioner, and working at resorts?! That would be soooo cool, and you could work two weeks and off for two weeks. If I had been smarter, this is what I would’ve done, but I was always in the hospital. Good luck, with your future employment, whatever you decide. 🙏❤️
Let me give you a little advice... I use to write down any things that went wrong the days I was working... Like a journal... Just in case you end up called (summoned) into court... They trust your journal... Dates, times, names, unit, floor, room #, what happened, what you did, and so forth... Best believe it will save your career! It will also jog your memory... You will forget a lot because court won't be next week... It will be years!!!
Absolutely 100% document ev.er.y.thing. Dates, times, who was there. I have an endless scroll in my iphone notes from my last job. Thankfully never had to use it.
Technically, you were correct. According to BLS CPR algorithm, for a witnessed arrest, you can leave the patient to activate the rapid response team. You only went to the door to yell for help and to get attention. That nurse just wanted to find something wrong with your performance. You did everything correctly in my book.
Sounds like basic BLS CPR 101. Call for HELP! That Nurse critiquing should’ve jumped in and asked you how can I help. Some folks don’t understand TEAMWORK.
You should see the event industries.... people don't need therapy they need a pop in the mouth. I went back to a concert gig last 3 years and I thought things would be different because they're dealing with a new generation of employees.... nope...it was like I never left 10 years ago. Same bully supervisors and follower employees who enabled them.
My ex husband and I are both nurses of 16 years. My son is 17 years old and starting his pre reqs for nursing. He’s always wanted to be a nurse. Everyone around him are nurses. We encourage him. He’s a smart, handsome caring young man. I’m so scared in a way offering him up on a silver platter with how toxic nursing is now in 2023. I’m hoping for these younger nurses. It changes. Because it’s going to be my son in 4 years. We are all going to eventually retire. We need nurses that are younger too take our places. Please let’s stop eating these baby nurses alive. Mold them. Educate them into strong knowledgeable nurses who you’d want to take care of your family.
I had an anesthesiologist yell at me one day when I worked in the ED, because I couldn't find the OR packets with his consent form on It (the secretary had stepped away for a moment), I spoke up and said I am not your personal secretary, find your own form, and I walked away! Everyone's jaws dropped, but I am not putting up with that shit!
I don’t get why. Being a nurse why other nurse bullies each other I never heard of that in my life I never heard lawyers and doctors and teachers being bullied by their own kind like why?
I’ve learned that the nursing field attracts some narcissists because of the thrill of life versus death and also having control of someone’s life and needing a hero complex. My cousin is a covert narcissist and let her facade slip one day then I realized how poorly she thinks of me and my family but also herself. She is a nurse and that’s kinda frightening.
A nurse who got mad because I would not entertain her bs reported me to the board of nursing under false statements. My license was suspended for 6 months until the investigation was over. I have 4 kids and I'm a single mother. Everything crumbled during that time in my life. So, even though I have been known to stand up for myself I now know how dirty nurses can get. So I do understand why the nurse left. Sometimes it really is not worth it. Me and my kids took a horrible financial blow due to this and it was the worst year of my life! Pick your battles wisely. I was in that nurses shoes, stood up and had a nurse plot on me. Bypassing all chain of commands and went straight to the board because she knew that would impact my license. I agree with you Mrs. Kendra to stand up but also know when to hold them and when to fold them.
Very true, thank you for your insight. What you went through was horrendous and I hope things are better for you now. Could you have went the legal route for slander or defamation?
I'm asian, I got bullies by a male black nurse when I was doing my clinical. Racism exist in every race, in every platform. However, the best experiences I had from mentors are also from black nurses as well. I never forget that one thing she said to me "nobody dies on my watch". Love that woman.
Im sure the person who experienced it would have an idea from the their experiences and exactly what type of treatment they were receiving whether it was rascism or not. Don't think we can judge or invalidate their experience given that we weren't in the situation .
As a new nurses I have always left a job over other nurses, because as a new nurse you already unsecured about your skill, but some nurses will purposely get you in trouble and try to mess up on your licenses
Just 3 years ago I was hospitalized for 12 nights for gallbladder surgery and the nurses were so mean to each other. I remember thinking i could never work in such a catty environment. Its crazy
I may not be a black nurse but I’ve had very similar experiences unfortunately. I hate confrontation and used to let other nurses walk all over me (sometimes still do). I hate asking for help most of the time. I don’t sit to chart 96% of the time because I like to care for my patients and not be distracted. With all that said, I really look up to you as a nurse and the way you handled those situations. Not only did you advocate for yourself but your patient too. We all know that patient wouldn’t be getting the best care if you would have continued to let those nurses walk all over you. As I like to say, “we teach others how to treat us.” Great video ❤
@@stevesalvant80 would love to get a better understanding of the history of why they eat their young tho. It's so sad. Because I know from first hand stories of family and friends that are nurses and SM videos and forums. Too many sad stories. And it's been a big factor to me not further pursuing my nursing studies. I have a great job now but always had that bug but I'm like eeesh if the gotta deal with that BS on TOP of the stress of helping sick and dying patients...thats just downright pitiful that this is the case. Shame on those kinds of nurses. So happy the world has nurses like her tho! But so sickening she and others like her must deal with that.
I just would like to comment because you mentioned you weren’t black. Why? Could you have just commented on your experience because that was really your need to comment right? I don’t care how many times some try to question rather things happen because we are black or not I will always know the truth. We have eyes and we have intelligence. You see the difference in how others are treated and how they walk through. As black people you really don’t want to see differences you really don’t. It’s tiring to go through and see the same differences all your life. I’m 60 and I will leave it there.
As a retired nurse with 35 years in the profession, this story described countless incidents in my “normal” work life. I graduated from nursing school in 1989, and thankfully over the more recent years there have been efforts in most hospitals to acknowledge lateral violence. It’s a shame how cruel a lot of nurses are to their coworkers, and usually to someone who is either a new graduate or new to the organization, or in some way perceived as outside the established group. I was triggered almost to tears listening and remembering my experiences. Thank you for sharing your story.
I was bullied by a few nurses. I didn't know if I could talk back to them because they were my "higher-ups". I was young, maybe 20. Anyway, the charge nurse told me to change this lady's shirt. She would spit up this nasty phlegm all over herself. While I was in the bathroom with her, she started to become combative. I didn't know what to do so I left to get help. I walked into another residence room and he was almost on the floor! He was supposed to be a Hoyer lift but the LPN and CNA did a two-person transfer. I helped guide his butt, in the bed so he wouldn't fall. When we were done, I asked the other CNA, if she could help me get this lady's shirt off. All of a sudden, the charge nurse changes in the room, she is in my face pointing her finger at me and yelling, I TOLD YOU TO GO AND CHANGE, SO AND SO!!! I just stood there in shock, about to cry. I ran to the bathroom to help the lady that was fighting me, she still is. She is grabbing her shirt, not allowing me to take it off, trying to scratch kick hit, and bite me. I was new, I didn't know how to handle her. The charge nurse, again goes into the bathroom and yells at me some more. "when I tell you to do something, you better do it", or else I'll write you up"! I was so scared I thought I was going to get fired. She knew she scared me, she loved to intimidate me. I finally had enough of her BS and turned her into the DOM. She changed up after that. 😊
As a new grad nurse I really needed to hear this because I’m more on the quiet and not trying to start any issues side and I know I probably wouldn’t have advocated for myself if I gone through this. Definitely needed to hear this you’re awesome and a huge inspiration for all nurses!!
As a Registered Nurse in the UK I can relate to the bullying. Years ago as a newly graduated Nurse I suffered from bullying and it was terrible. There was always a clique on a unit, and some managers ignore or are part of it. It has gone on for years and is disgusting, I admire you very much for bringing it out on You Tube, Good Luck x
There has always been cliiques. I always just got on with my work. Sure, we have all worked with people we don't like but my mantra was..they'll never know. I like to gently guide and encourage the new generation of nurses. We have to encourage, even nurture those that will take over.
Bullying. One of Nursing's oldest traditions. I fought it for 20 years. Bizarre, horrific & passed along like child abuse. Each new generation has embraced it.
I’m a mental health professional and I came across your channel as I have a client who is a nursing student. I’m doing research and trying to gather information to better understand her world better. My client is experiencing a lot of distress from dealing with the politics of nursing school and the nurse professors. From what my client has shared with me and from what I have heard (after watching a few of your videos). This doesn’t seem to start from the gate of the hospital. But from the nursing programs themselves. My client has shared on numerous occasions how professors (who are the experienced nurses) use scare tactics (which is a form of bullying). And this is the third time I’ve heard the phrase “nurses eat their young”. My client is BIPOC. And we are working on her advocating for herself and using assertive communication. Everything you said about how “you are not the one” resonated. My goal is for my client to get it down packed now, so when she graduates and is ready to work, she is firm within herself and prepared for what is ahead. This method of scare tactics on novice nurses seems to be a generational practice - a mentality of “I learned to be a nurse this way and so should you”. This truly is a systemic issue starting at the school level and continued into the working profession. - you gave great advice. Set firm boundaries, document interactions, and assert yourself. To the aspiring nurses, don’t be scared to speak up. Use your voice, you are not less than. - To the more seasoned nurses, break the dysfunctional cycle. If you witness an injustice, say something. Don’t sit complicit. Be a mentor and look to uplift one another. There’s enough divide in this country. - Grow collectively. It never hurts to seek out help and work on your mental and emotional health. If you’re constantly burned out, you won’t be at your best, and won’t have anything else to give. Sending love, light, and hope.
Nurse bullying is real. My best friend was hired in ICU and was bullied by an NP and nurses who made her shift hell. She was recently moved to step down.
Sheesh this happened to me too!!! I was new. I only had been a nurse for a few months. The patient was about to be discharged and literally passed out fell on me and coded. I got him back on his bed and pushed codeblue button. A few came in to start the code until the code team came. The man survived the episode but they all said it was a terrible code. They blamed me. They were like it was pure chaos. The DON happened to come and was like you botched that code I was like how? She said it wasn’t smooth… I asked her Did he live? She said yes. I said is he stabilized? She said yes. I said Dud you hop in as a leader and help she said well it’s underway. I said so he lived he’s stabilized and you took issue and didn’t correct as the Don? She looked at me… He lived right I asked again… She said yes. I said What’s the problem? She sat down and stared at me. You know I reported her and all of them when I later did my exit interview.
I’m not a nurse but I work in a cell therapy lab and I’m dealing with the same thing. I came to the position and they were supposed to train me but I’m pretty much getting a book thrown at me and I’m teaching myself. Every time I advance and come up with something to help me they say it’s not allowed because it’s not the SOP. My trainer will tell me to do something and throw the SOP at me and when I do it and get in trouble by the director she’ll throw me under the bus. I’m getting tired of it
@@BlackGirlLovesAnime6 Saw your reply in my notifications but not here. Such a toxic environment for you. There is life after that. Collect unemployment as you look for another and better job. Been there, done that - you will move on and get something better.
As a black nurse and I'm so happy that you have spoken on this. It amazes me how we always have an attitude when we stand up for ourselves. But there is no mention of why or who deliberately gave us the attitude.
A "BLACK" NURSE ??.......WHAT DOES RACE HAVE TO DO WITH YOUR PROFESSION?.......WHEN YOU ARE PROVIDING CARE FOR YOUR PATIENTS.......IS THIS WITH THE UNDERSTANDING I AM A "BLACK" NURSE ? OR I AM A NURSE....A HIGHLY TRAINED PROFESSIONAL........ WHEN DEALING WITH YOUR COWORKERS ARE THOSE INTERACTIONS BASED ON BEING A "BLACK" NURSE OR SIMPLY BEING A FELLOW COWORKER IN THE NURSING PROFESSION.
@@cuquee12 Understand you are the creator of everything that is experienced in your life. The people, places, events are all your creation......These things are a reflection of your inner reality.......In other words.....All your thoughts, fears, insecurities are projected into your physical reality.......All self created....By your own mind.....All of this is based on choices, you create these experiences as a human to learn and evolve.....Everything and everyone is a lesson.......Everything begins and ends with you.....All of this may seem a bit esoteric......But is the reality of our existence as human beings on this planet.....We are all powerfull creators...Some of us are aware of this, some are not.....Every human being is a teacher .....your own reflection.....looking back at you......Many people live their lives in fear and insecurity......not realizing that it is their fears and insecurities that create the reality they experience......The people who were biased towards you are a result of your own fears and securities.....You litterally created them into your reality.....They cannot exist without your confirmation of them.....This off course may seem proprosperous to many.....And that is ok.....It is part of having free will to choose......The people who may hate you.....were created by you.....they are your teachers......The race issue is also a choice...you made a choice in race being a factor of what you may have experience....so it became your reality......all self created......Understand the world you see and experience is a reflection of your inner world.....if your programming is based on fear and insecurity.......That will be the "movie" you will be in......Writer, director, actor of it all. Understand the universe is not concerned with race and skin color.....only about one's vibrations.....Blessings.
@@glenoneill3950 When you work in an area with few colored people you can be picked on especially if you know what you are doing. Why? I don't know what makes these other nurses so angry. One said I didn't seem to need much orientation to the area and this made her mad. She said it took her longer to do what I did so easily. I couldn't believe it. Neither could the manager for the area. She had to tell her my qualifications and experience before this job and that this was way less than I was used to doing. Needless to say after a year and a half I could no longer work in such toxic environment. That was my last job. I miss the patients but I don't miss the job. Life is too short to feel stressed going to work among unhappy people!!
@@jenniferjemison636 "COLORED PEOPLE" ?.......AM I TO UNDERSTAND THAT "COLORED PEOPLE " WILL NOT PICK ON YOU?.........I AM GLAD YOU MADE THE MOVE FROM AN UNHAPPY SITUATION......BLESSINGS.
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This is making me crazy. As a nurse who worked for 28 yrs in NICU I never had to deal with crap like this. I worked with the best group of men & women you could ask for. We worked as a team always. We were white, black, Hispanic and Asian. There is no place in nursing for people who tear their co-workers down.
Girl girl girl u let them know how it goes for real. So so proud of you. When I first started working in the OR I had a hard time handing a surgeon an instrument. Just couldn’t get it right. So this surgeon says to me, “even a fool could do this.” Well I said to him, then next time bring your wife. He demanded me off the surgical field so I left and my preceptor scrubbed in. The only person that stood up for me was the nurse educator who can down to encourage me not to quit. She laughed hysterically when she heard what I told the surgeon. The other nurses said I would never make it in the OR. Well I became the head nurse lol I have so many experiences but let me leave this right here
That person was an asshole. Cocky and rude. Even if you are a vet, be humble with how you carry yourself. Also, I would really like to hear about more of your experiences!
Ego is such a problem! Why can't ppl just share their knowledge so we can all work as a team properly? Or why do they have to "bully" new employees because they experienced it when they were starting?
Exactly, they forget they were inexperienced before becoming experienced. Nursing is learnt on the floor. Helping build each other is the best feeling ever.
Been a nurse since 2004. The environment is cliquish, and catty. These women will be in their 40’s still acting like the mean girls in high school. They will lie, gossip, and run to management with yt tears. Nursing is stressful enough without having to deal with all of these Karen’s. I had this vision of changing this type of culture. I was told they (management) wants nurses to feel intimidated. They are ruling by fear and therefore you have to subscribe to that to become a supervisor there. All the drama and stress led to burnout. I definitely heard of other nurses experiencing this. But when you’re dealing with it alone, it feels like there’s no one to turn to. I definitely advocated for myself. But being one of two black nurses on a unit of more than 150 nurses, they did not appreciate me standing up for myself. It was a nightmare! I’m actually wondering if I’d have a better experience in a union hospital or an area with a black population and black management.
It’s a trickle down effect. Management contributes to the toxicity that runs rampant throughout some of these units. It’s so hard to say where you’ll have a better experience because I’ve been in rural areas, predominantly white population and they were amazing. There’s no guarantee.
@@ikr2377 agreed. The profession is littered with women and anywhere there is an abundance of women there are too many issues. Same with elementary school teachers...mostly women and lots of problems. If you are in any of these professions and have avoided problems you are lucky
It’s not a solely racial problem though. Imagine saying that about any other race. “Run to whoever with their black/Asian/mexican tears.” Just seems a bit much.
Unfortunately the Management most likely were one of two categories. Either *they* were the mean girls bullying the new nurses. Or *they* were the bullied nurse and they *accepted* the crappy treatment as “just how it is” in the nursing field. So they keep the cycle going. There aren’t too many bosses/those in authority who recognize toxic workplace practices and actively try to change it.
Sooo a couple things here. I’m pretty sure you have a God given talent of being not just an amazing nurse who cares for her patients but a great advocate for herself and other new nurses. Girl, you need to become a nurse mentor to us new nurses. I graduate from RN school 9/23 and would love to have someone like you mentor students and future nurses like myself! ❤keep using your gifts!
Miss Kendra: you handled this situation perfectly. I'm an Old Combat Veteran of the U.S. Army; with absolutely no tolerance for STUPID. I would have fed her my fist, and she wouldn't have had the opportunity to walk away. Have spent several weeks in the Hospital, recently. The Nurses and Aids have always been more than helpful. Seeing your video(s) has been my first exposure to Nurse Bullying. Never would have thought that it would actually exist. Hear of Nurse Shortages across Our Country; and, now it is starting to make sense. I wouldn't sign up for that abuse, either. Hope you are doing well. You are tougher than the sum of your adversaries. God Bless You.
I get anxiety just listening to this. I worked on the floor for 10 years and to me, dealing with the bullying and attitudes never got easier. I never had an issue with the job itself or the patients. It was the staff that made my life a living hell. I work from home now, still use my RN degree, but I prayed hard for a job that would get me away from that environment. Btw, you handled everything perfectly in my book.
Excellent video. I was bullied at my first job by an experienced nurse in the ER. She was awful to me. Instead of reprimanding her, they told me not to worry about her. She is like that with all the new people. WTF??? They didn't mind losing new nurses as long as they kept her. I always wish I will meet her in public someday cuz I got some shizz to say to her.
Lol love it! Luckily, when i first started nursing there was a lot of new grads, and the ppl on more floor were generally helpful. Of course there were a few nurses like this but mostly on other floors. But even a student there were nurses like this, i dont get. Some ppl feel better about themselves by trying to put others down. Quite pathetic!
I’ve been a nurse over 30 years. Nurse Bullying is real but as a supervisor I did not nor will not now tolerate it. The veteran nurses must help teach the new nurses coming and the new nurses has to be strong and stand their ground!
Amen sister!! Almost a year in the ICU and that lateral violence is so true!! I just freeze up when I experience the bullying. I wish had your confidence!
I graduated from nursing school in 2004, by 2008 I was doing Utilization Review for a health insurance company and I haven't turned back since. I couldn't take the bullying from these WW over, and over, and over. It was breaking me mentally and emotionally. Getting paid nursing salary from behind a desk at home-best decision I've ever made!
As an African American woman, I "had" to move from Admin Assistant to Incoming Call Center (not telemarketing). It was the office politics. After about 3 years of "mess", I was happy to sit in a cube and talk to customers. It's hard out there for a... Queen 👑
YOU MADE A CHOICE TO MOVE FROM AN ADMING POSITION TO THAT OF DEALING WITH CUSTOMERS,,,,,,,,,,WHAT DOES BEING AN AFRO PERSON HAVE TO WITH THIS DECISION ?
As someone who’s now worked in numerous different environments (retail, medical, business, law, etc) there are always those bullies that will unnecessarily try to cause chaos. After multiple experiences, I’m convinced that it’s either because 1) the individual is absolutely miserable with their home life and they need punching bags at work 2) they’re genuinely sick in the head and THRIVE off misfortune and drama 3) some ppl are bored to death with their jobs and will turn to gossiping or sabotaging others just for the excitement of it. It’s just really unfortunate that this is so common within hospital/healthcare settings because people’s lives are literally on the line. There’s no time for petty high school nonsense. It’s the one place everyone absolutely must work together for the sake of societal health. I applaud anyone in any field who decides to do the uncomfortable thing and speak up about this type of bullying (low-key abuse and harassment).
I’m a retired black RN and had a great experience my career. But I was a hard worker and studied and learned quickly as a medical/surgical RN and a strong advocate for myself. I finished my last 10 years as a labor and delivery RN. While I don’t have an ICU experience I agree with your experiences and applaud your advocacy of other nurses. I heard a medical resident say to one of our nurses “ you all are terrible and known for EATING your young!” What a true and terrible insult! Sadly I see it hasn’t changed.
I'm taking a vow right now to stand up for myself once I reach my goal of becoming a nurse. It might be hard for me as I'm very gentle most times and can be nervous in new circumstances but, im learning from you! Thank you sincerely!
I used to be a patient advocate at a hospital in NYC. I can't tell you how many times I had to deal with nurses arguing, yelling at each other in front of patients or being spitefully "inactive" in critical situations that affect direct patient care. EEO was also quite busy with them. I decided to go into exercise physiology as a second career instead.
@@elizawilson5981 I agree. I understand what you mean about nursing, although I am not one. I was very close to a lot of the nursing staff as I started as a ward secretary, and eventually a WHEN hours administrator before the advocate job. That's when I learned that nurses are the hands of healthcare. Not only do you administer the care, you also catch critical errors... And deal with doctors.
👏👏👏👏 Yessssssss!!!! I am a nursing student done April 2023 my BSN program and let me tell u that Nursing is something u learn on the floor . The best experience I get is in Clinicals when my nurse allows me to be the nurse and gives me feedback . You don’t come out of nursing school knowing everything …. Don’t let anyone bully or try you . Respect goes both ways I don’t care if you have been here for 25 years and this is my first day . Preach Babygirl !!!! Facts this is my motto !!!
Reason number 2345 why I went into Nurse Informatics. I finished my BS in Health Information Management with WGU and I prefer the administrative side of Nursing. I can say that clinical Nursing may not have been my passion but my passion is in Healthcare. For years, I've had doctors, my nurse managers and other interdisciplinary team tell me how good I am with computers. I was always the unofficial trainer for EMR software that we used: EPIC, PointClickCare and Athena. If you find yourself loving "Nursing" but not direct care, the beauty of this career is that it's vast in other specialities. I encourage nurses (LPNs and RNs) to explore other options than direct care.
Thank you for this comment because I am in nursing school and the type of personality I have I will literally breakdown if ppl try and bully me I seriously cannot manage the emotions that come with it very stressful to even think about having to potentially face in the future so this sounds like a great avenue for me. I have my previous bachelors in health informatics but also halfway thru nursing. How did you get into that side?
Thank you so much needed to hear this. I have been so discouraged with going back to nursing school because of nurse bullying. I am one class away from obtaining the license.
I know this is redundant; but you did that code correctly. in my 17 years working at my hospital, if you're alone with the patient and you have that moment to call for help before they start to actually code--use it! you did amazing.
I’m actually really glad she’s addressing this. I’m sure there are so many nurses out there being bullied and felt like they couldn’t don’t say anything.
I am a retired RN. I didnot work in adult ICU, and I totally admire you for being an ICU nurse. Just want you to know I experienced alot of bullying in my 40 years as an RN. Probably the meanest bully was one of my Med-Surg nurse managers. She did everything in her power to intimidate, brow beat, and overall belittle me. One of the hardest things I ever did was stick it out on her unit ( 2 years and 2 months ) until I transferred to another department. In retirement, I work a few hours a month with medically fragile children which is very rewarding. The main reason I stuck with it over the years was because the pay was good and I was able to support myself. I hope there will be more RNs like you who channel their energy and use their skills and knowlege to support other nurses to do good work and deliver good patient care. Thank you.
I have been bullied myself when I first started nursing and I try hard to help those who struggled just like me. Unfortunately, I have come to notice that most of the time management doesn't really care especially if it's the older nurses that are causing all the problems. I get more disappointed each time I think about it.
holy shit.... You are a legend. Even just hearing your story about it, is so frustrating and anxiety inducing. I deeply respect and admire how well you advocate for yourself. I'm so sorry to hear that some high school level drama and foolishness happens in this line of work where people need your help, and people can't put aside their immature behaviours to do what you came to do. Thank you for sharing your story, and others stories as well.
I’m in nursing school and working as a nurse tech and this video is the reprieve I needed. I’ve always noticed this with nurses even when I worked as an EMT in the ED. Now that I’m getting into the field, you inspire me to not perpetuate this.
That happened to me working in surgery years back, I went straight to the hospital president and went immediately to him, jumped over the chain of command, he immediately listened to me, contacted the President Of Nursing to come speak to him, everything was fixed immediately. I was sent to the office of my manager for changing a sharps box that was stuffed full. She said that wasn't my room in surgery for that day, etc, and that's all our jobs, if we see a full sharps box, it must be changed. I was hurt, confused, didn't care, I had worked in surgery many years, was up for employee of the year, etc Unbelievable, and I stood up for myself..... Always stand up for yourself, and your patients, and all you know what's right. Bullying is getting worse as years pass. Praying for everyone that faces bullying. 🙏
@Kendra RN, I love me some YOU! Nursing is,have always and will forever be glamorized career. Not many speak of what you all go through day in and day out🥺💔. My cousin is a nurse and have days she call me in tears. God bless each of you whether you’re a nurse or simply just fighting to navigate through the medical Field. I’m convinced People see dollar signs and a glamorized career vs what it really takes to be a great nurse! Thanks for all you’ve done and do💛👑🤟🏽
I just found Kendra and I immediately subbed. I’m not a nurse but I’m a nuclear medicine tech and for us black folks it’s all the same to them. My clinical experience was hell at some of these hospitals. These people will reap what they sow!
@@TheeMrsChampion I fully understand! Do all you can to protect your mental. Because I know when they see “us” the plan isn’t to see us flourish. Continue forward no matter what 👑❤️
I have been in healthcare for years but recently became a nurse and I hate it. They constantly try to put their own work on me and then want to blame me when it doesn’t get done. I honestly am over the negative attitudes the constant backbiting and aggression is ridiculous.
I worked for a hospital for many years. I worked with Nurses. They were the biggest bullies. Wow it was unreal how cruel they could be. I would always tell people that nurses are the biggest bullies. Those nurses toughened me up. I learned that I never want to be a bully. ✌🏽Great video.
LOVE IT!! Kendra you did beautifully telling that CAT the truth!! There's always those types of "nurses" trying to embarrass their colleagues......pitiful. Love that you stood your ground!!
THANK YOU, Kendra, for sharing your experiences! I hope you don't mind if I share my own. I had to switch jobs when my husband transferred to a new location. I had been 29 years at a great, progressive NICU. I had experienced great autonomy in my career, been involved in hospital committees, precepted, acted as charge nurse etc, at my original unit. Naively, I thought moving to a new hospital in the same organization would be fine. IT WAS NOT. It was somewhat clique-y. Apparently, rumors (!?) about me began before I even arrived. It took a year before anyone told me about these rumors, which were so crazy and false. In that first year, one nurse in particular "spearheaded" a campaign of bullying, stating she would not work in the same "pod" as me. I never found out the reason but she was rude and merciless. When she was charge nurse, she never checked in with me to see how my day was going. She would (try to) embarrass me in front of others. I would frequently cry on my drive home after a particularly difficult day of BS. Well, I decided, early on, to try to understand what the heck was happening and I learned A LOT about nurse bullying and lateral violence. I also, painstakingly, decided not to let any of it change my positive outlook in my day-to-day work. I eventually took on precepting and charge roles and developed supportive friendships with many of my colleagues. I was able to share concerns about the unit culture with management, but the culture was just so different. I ended up staying there for three years, until my husband got transferred back to our previous city. To be back in my original unit was such an incredibly positive experience. I was immediately respected and surrounded by old friends and new. But I had changed. I was so, so careful make sure I was welcoming and helpful to anybody new. I ended up retiring from this unit after six more years. I know this is a long post, but I hope it helps someone learn that it is possible to stay strong, recover from targeting and move on with confidence.
Literally, Kendra, you are speaking my thoughts! I, too, am a newish (18 months) ICU RN. I, also transitioned from Med-Surg and persevered against bullies. You go girl!
I worked as a unit secretary for almost a year at a hospital. So much foolishness , bullying, and downright dangerous behavior between nursing staff, and others. Not right. Should be professional, caring and working together but nope. Best staff were the nursing staff who came to us from a mental hospital. They said outright they knew teamwork, and were kind to non nursing staff I really appreciated them. They were great workers too no egos i.e. teamwork. I do have good memories of some staff and still 21 years later appreciate them
Your comment is soooo true. Former Unit Secretary also. Unbelievable, unprofessional happenings at that nurse's station. So many to name but one instance was the admiration of several nurses to a new doctor, which lead to the firing of a nurse.
Great job Kendra! The educator needed to grow some courage, she sounds like she was enabling. The nurse who writes the stuff is ALWAYS the recorder. And the educator apologizing for them? Nope! So glad you spoke. Strong work!
I’ve been a ICU nurse for about 3 years now and it will get better with the more skills you acquire and confidence will truly make a difference . I felt that way in the beginning but know you BELONG there and once you get your one year in, you can go anywhere and you’ll only get better and better . I promise it gets easier . A good team makes all the difference. Even as a travel nurse now , I had a horrible team once in Charlotte NC and I left after 3 weeks. That’s something I will not deal with .
Yes! Always stand up for yourselves and against the bullies. It goes the other way too. I know of an amazing RN with a wide range of experiences and skills (open heart, flight nursing, ECMO, Balloon Pump, educator, exceptional preceptor, amazing patient advocate, and quite knowledgeable) . Yet, many of the newer RN’s in that ICU disrespected her wisdom and led her to quit. The hospital lost a great nurse.
@@KendraRN they might have felt threatened by her skill base. Honestly this happens for sure a lot in UK. Many black nurses are made to feel incompetent and its also from our own black nurses and doctors who do this to us. We ourselves are our own enemies sometimes. I have experienced two black people bullying me.
As a clinically licensed psychotherapist who worked nightshift in a fully functioning psychiatric hospital for years I can agree that a LOT of nurses are bullies and will try you! One of the things that gave me that extra push to go into private practice, was tge inability to tolerate the nurses I'd developed. They try to be "Mean Girls" and will test the patience of the most patient individual. Lol... they will leave you with no choice but to gather them with the quickness and swiftness! Once they've been gathered, they love back-peddling and play victim. I've seen some of them have a doctor get them together. They are the thing I miss least in the workforce. I'm soooo happy I no longer have to deal with them. A lot of the white nurses carry an attitude that ANY DOCTOR, OTHER NURSE, PSYCHIATRIST, THERAPIST, ETC...ARE BENEATH THEM. It is quite bizarre being that all of the previously mentioned have education and clinical licenses that surpasses theirs. Ppl think of nurses and think of a caring, kind, compassionate, nurturing, individual, which is why so many are shocked to find that is not the case for many of them. I've seen white ones who refused to address black doctors as "Doctor" but only used their first names. It got so bad that admin had to get involved. I honestly have never in my 9yrs in the hospital setting encountered a rude male nurse though.
Last year I was a patient in a hospital, but not ICU. There was a new young R.N.on night shift for the first time . All of a sudden 2 female nurses and 1 male nurse came on the floor and just about ran her off the floor !!! They were shouting at her , telling her what to do even though she kept telling them she knew what to do . I felt so sorry for her , so I stood at the entrance of my room giving them the EVIL EYE !!!!! They said are you ok , I told them how I felt and what I would do if it were me they were bullying !!! I stood there and they didn't like it , but dared not say anything to me . I finally went to bed slamming my door as hard as I could ! Later that night the new young nurse came into my room to apologize for the things that went on . I told her no need to apologize and I pray that you will report them to the charge nurse , because I sure will !!! And I did !! 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡
OMGGGG!!!!!! Thank you so much for this!!!!! I needed to hear this. It’s so sad that experienced nurses want to bully new nurses and make the job difficult for them. Nurses should work as a team and be professional. I can’t stand women!!!!!!
I was shocked fairly recently to learn that nurses who I’ve always considered earth angels bully each other. I was a teacher in a tough situation and we gave total support. Even if we didn’t like each other we had each other’s backs. Wow. Just wow.
Exactly sis!!!! They let the exterior fool them… what you see on the outside is not what you get on inside!!!! And this is exactly what I teach my nursing students!!!
I’m really glad you stood up for yourself. It’s pathetic that GROWN WOMEN treat other NURSES like this. I’m not a nurse. I’ve only been a patient and I always assumed most Nurses were kind people who just wanted to help others but you’re showing me a lot of these women just act like middle schoolers and start drama. Just pathetic. Keep being you. You are what a Nurse SHOULD BE! ♥️♥️
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The scariest thing about nursing is that nurses will watch you mess up even if it can cost a patient their life
Crazy right! Jealousy and hatred. What's with the competition?
oh my goodness
Dang, that’s crazy!!! I have NEVER seen that in my career (thank God)
I’ve def seen “unhelpful” nurses in certain situations, but not to that point. There’s always a few of those but most nurses where I’ve worked will run their a$$es off to help in a life-or-death situation 😳
One can have such negative character traits. That where empathy is required, you don't have it and even let people die.
Dee, have you ever experienced or heard of this yourself?
@@msch3891 unfortunately, not only here in the usa.
I am a pharmacist but I have witnessed this behavior. I was working at a pediatric oncology hospital. A received a frantic call from a nurse needing a drip for a patient. The protocol was for someone in nursing to come to the pharmacy for pick up. It was night shift and I was the only pharmacist in house. I could tell she was in a panic so I ran it up to her floor. When I walked on the unit she was running back and forth between two critical patients. There were other nurses sitting at the nursing station. No lie, one was painting her nails and the other was writing checks for her bills. I could have cried for that nurse. It had to be awful knowing no one was going to help with her patient. I went directly to the nurse supervisor and told him the circumstances. The two nurses not helping were both seasoned RNs with 10-15yrs, the RN struggling was new to our hospital. We don’t need high school mean girl behavior when taking care of patients. Sorry for the rant but this happened 25 yrs ago and I still remember it.
Yeah they did that shit to me when I was a new grad too. Now I call them out.
Start recording them for day and put a report on them
Wow😮!!! Now that's atrocious!!!
Yup this is the type of stuff you need to record and document and report to higher ups. Back up your good nurses. Enough is enough.
@@Pharmatee writing checks? How many years ago was this? Did you report those RNs????
As an African American nurse working in ICU, I can totally relate to this story. They think you are incompetent and you shouldn’t be working in a critical care setting, but I let them know the first time they try me, “Honey, I can run circles around you, don’t play with me because I’m confident in my skills and God approved this transfer to this unit, not you”.
Yasss for this response
I love this.❤
You shouldn’t have to be like that nurses should be operating off of empathy not competition gossip demeaning and downplaying each other that’s a sick environment
@@pallasa2032 Very toxic and stressful!
Yes, God did! ❤
As a male RN I can say this is true. The fellas, we watched in disbelief how poorly the ladies treated each other. Patients are at risk because of this.
Of course. If a patient is crashing, why are you standing at the door whispering and not finding ways to be useful. Contact the other patients then, or answer call bells.
Can I ask you if you’ve had discrimination as a male RN? Only because I’m an RN (ANP) and having a lot of hostility and almost bullying….actually I’m downplaying it..absolute bullying from female coworkers. And I’m embarrassed to even say it..men don’t usually get recognition for this happening and it makes you feel like a fraud. I wondered what other male nurses experiences were.
@@JC-lv2oo it starts at such a young age unfortunately too it’s so disgusting to watch any female at any age be a “mean girl” it happens a lot in office settings as well
It’s a shame that the healers of the world have some of the most unhealthy practices. There’s no excuse for the bullying we see in the medical field.
In many ways! So true!
Expose them
There’s no excuse for bullying ANYWHERE in the adult world.
@@wintermatherne2524 not just the adult world but the whole world
I don't think they are healers at all. I believe they're there for the money, only.😢
Show me the personality disorder, and I'll show you the nurse that fits it. I've been a nurse since '03. I'm glad you nailed these psychos. I can't wait to retire.
That is so true! Just retired after 30 years in a cardiac ICU and am so damn HAPPY now! Hang in here and just let it roll off your back.
Nursing has thought me that the world can not be run fully by women
@@Softsoul.😂
Focus on the present duty and ignore the Nonsence , report unsafe conduct
Keep records .
@@Softsoul. It can't be fully run by men either. Just look around at its state.
I was bullied in nursing school. I was bullied working as a CNA. I was bullied during my preceptorship. And my first nursing job. And my second. For almost 10 years. And I finally just had enough and left the bedside. This is why there is a nursing shortage. It's not because there aren't competent people. They don't want to work in toxic, understaffed, dangerous conditions where management doesn't support you and people are enabled to treat you like shit. Healthcare needs to change. Badly.
did you do nursing in a different area? You are a kind person, I completely understand you...
I can relate here! I had the same issues working as a CNA. They have a candy like " I will send you home" to scare and intimidate you and when you want to speak your voice they say that you become defensive! Not all of them of course but a great percentage of the nurses and the CNAs!
That right
Agree 💯%
YEP
Jealousy is everywhere... But in the nursing field it's rampant, its sickening. If the seniors doesn't like you for any stupid, trivial reasons, you'll suffer a lot even if you are doing your very best. I am unfortunately undergoing bullying in my workplace. I'm doing self talk everyday, mind conditioning, they make sarcastic remarks, making me feel I'm not good enough, but I'm a fighter and I love being a PICU nurse, may God help me.
GOD With You. Stand Your Ground On Those Evil People GOD Did Not Give You A Spirit Of Fear Fight On Your Knees In PRAYER And Fight Back Respectfully By Knowing The Ins And Outs Of Your Nursing Profession And Your Rights You Are Paving The Way For Others. It’s Unfortunate People Get Bullied In School Now The Work Place So Just Remember The Evil You Do Others Will Come Back To You. If They Don’t Get It Their Children Will That Is A Fact! Do No One Evil.
No one can ‘make you’ feel anything. You allow it. Ignore the ignorance, you are above it. I for one, love nurses, you work so hard. Keep up the good work!
I don't know your beliefs and I'm not a bible thumper but I have had my moments with Jesus; remember he said if they hate you remember they hated me first.
I pray that it gets better….I do !!! We need more caring Nurses
@@dcg590 I don't care for victim blaming. No one can make you feel anything?? What rock are you living under? We're human, not made of steel.
I just truly don’t understand why people go out of their way to bully and put other people down. I really thought bullying was like a school issue. Apparently adults are just older children.
Insecure adult children!!!!!!
Insecurity and immaturity.
WOW! You blew that nurse out of the water! 🤣🤣🤣 She thought she was the fox but she's found out she's the chicken 😂😂
I always tell people about my start in ICU ( specifically night shift). I snapped one good time on the “ring leader”, never had that problem again. We never really spoke again (outside of patient care), but she knew she wasn’t trying me again. A Win is a WIN! ☺️
A win is a WIN!!!! Proud of you Shannon, keep standing up.
I am not a Nurse but have worked at a particular workplace for 29 years and Sis ain't neeeeevvvva lied!!! These DEVILS be De 👏vi👏lin'👏
They need to be in a group though, cause when they are alone, away from the group, they're humble and timid as hell😑
Good for you being strong enough to stand up to them!
I totally understand what you are speaking of. I was a RN in a neuro ICU. I was the only black nurse in that unit for almost all of the 15 years l worked there. I had many incidents of other nurses trying to sabotage me and the sad part is most of it came from the nurse managers and the supervisors. I prayed and cried a lot but l was determined that l would be leaving that institution on my terms. I was not going to let them run me off. I retired from there after 28 years, long after many of my saboteurs were long gone. God is good.
Sorry you had to deal with this All of you!!! In a building where it's mainly women that kind of opens up a battle ground to see who has more knowledge? I found i always learned by watching or helping and that's what we have to do is stick together. Learn from one another!
I u understand exactly how u feel and your experience although Iam not a nurse Iam black and a patient care tech and when I was in the ICU it was like there were people how were waiting on me to come to work just setup bad interactions with me I stayed 10 years to long but I was like u Iam going to leave on my own terms when I got ready no one was going to run me off
Amen Alléluia
Wow this is so inspiring all Glory to God . Am Vicky too 😊and about to start my RN nursing carrier I pray God gives me the grace not to allow toxic people make me quit my job but to stay and do my job and let them go instead .
I remember during my internships in the hospital I experienced nurse colleagues who usually enjoyed sabotaging me for no reasons.
I don’t know if it’s Cos I am pretty and nice sometimes I just get confused what people gain when they aim at getting others fired from their jobs and sources of income…🤷♀️
for no justifiable reason
Lord Jesus please protect the real nurses and expose the fake ones.🙏🏾
@@victorydoh4948 blessings and Gods protection over you in your career and life.
I'm not a nurse but I've dealt with similar issues. I was the only minority on my team (Asian) and my white colleagues would always try to look down on me and pay me less. The second I got a new job offer, they begged me to stay.
I learned to always stand up for yourself in workplaces, otherwise you will get stepped on.
It's illegal to pay less to someone because of their ethnicity.
That has legal grounds to go to court.
Yes, racism isn’t just towards Black people.
POC needs to stand up more for themselves and help each other as well.
What field are you in? Just curious
@@ibrahim10rock I totally agree!
OMG...I got so bullied as a new nurse in the ICU that I never went back. All of this is true in EVERY institution. Its truly sad what nurses do to each other. Spot on, girl!
Same here! I accepted a job in the ICU as a new grad and I only lasted 5 weeks. I transferred to a med/surg unit within the hospital and it is truly a breath of fresh air. The environment is like night and day compared to the ICU. I've heard a lot of stories about ICU being the unit where all the mean girls go but I never believed it until I actually experienced it first hand. And it's not even that I was being bullied directly because I wouldn't call it that but rather they would not step in to help me at all when I needed help. My preceptors all made me feel dumb for not knowing how to carry out specific skills. It just was not a supportive environment at all for a new grad.
You just have to work thru it. Stop needing to be pampered. Ignore the idiots and just learn what u need to!!
I wish I saw this video before I started my nursing career - this was my entire experience in the hospital. They would sit around and take a notes on me and not speak to me the entire shift, and then I would get called into the manager’s office and they would have sheets that they would read out loud to me about how horrible I was, and all the infractions I did, not accounting for the circumstances or the lack of help that I received. I was completely overwhelmed without any help and I didn’t know how to stand up for myself at work, so they eventually fired me thinking that I wasn’t a good employee. Never going back. I worked at a clinic for a short while afterwards, but now I’m a stay at home mom and I am so much happier and my mental health is so much better.
@ Anna Holmes....I'm sorry u had that experience...it's crazy to me how nurses actually BULLY other nurses! Like you are a team and they should be in place to support! This is necessary! You will always have your skill set they can't remove that from you....your mental health is PARAMOUNT because if you don't have that then what are we left with? I'm glad your happy.....it's the holy grail of life....finding that...
Crazy.
I’m sorry that that happened to you. I didn’t know nurses behaved as such, wow
This sound eerily like what happened to me.
I’m so glad I’m out now. Like you, I wound up disillusioned and after my son was born I had little motivation to go back for very long. Nursing sucks.
I recently retired as a Labor & Delivery OB nurse after 22 years. Some nurses can be so mean spirited. Whenever we got a new nurse, I’ve always went out of my way to be nice to new nurses. How do we expect for new nurses to learn, we old nurses have to teach them and have patience. Hang in there and trust God.
Exactly @Yvonne
I always do my best to make new nurses feel welcomed and appreciated. I hate toxic work environments. I have always stood by the fact that EVERY nurse was once a new nurse, I don’t care how long you been a nurse we ALL had to start somewhere.
Thank you for your kindness.
I was very lucky as a new grad on Labor and Delivery. We had wonderful experienced RNs when I oriented on days. When I went to nights there were also very experienced RNs who took the two of us new grads under their wings. And night shift has always been incredibly tight, nurses always materializing when there was an emergency.
Amen to this comment!
The Nclex test is very difficult to pass, I can’t believe I failed after studying with so many materials😔💔💔💔💔
I just can’t with the medical field anymore. It is so freaking toxic. I’ve had colleagues disrespect me like this too and it’s bullsh!t. The bullying starts in nursing school.
“Nurses eat their own”
“I’m not about to be anyones breakfast, lunch or dinner!”
That’s right!!!
I figured this much. I've seen toxic nurses all over and wonder how they function each day. At some point they need to go on a long vacation.
It’s not just in nursing. All medical fields have it including doctors. A hospitalist I knew at a hospital who is female and from the Middle East was getting bullied by the other doctors. She said only 2 RT’s ever talk to her besides asking for an order and she only trusted us two because we got to know her and become friends. It’s sad. I was bullied from elementary school through HS and even as a paramedic student and as an RT. My paramedic partner tried to rape me by throwing me on the bed and jumping on top. I fought him off and he threatened to blackmail me. I was hazed by that other crew, my partner, and the captain. All men. Other counties as well and even as a server in a restaurant because f a piece of jewelry I wore. He couldn’t be bothered to count accurately the number of points on the star I wore. He said I wore a 5 pointed star and I was going to hell in the middle of the dining room. That’s a pentagram. I had on a 6 pointed star which is the Star of David which is the Jewish star and that was mean what he did in the middle of the dining room on a star with the points he couldn’t count. Don’t get me started on my preceptor when I was a paramedic student. He almost made me fail with bad scores until I finally had had it with the abuse and threatened to quit. They took all of my reviews out and saw when I had different preceptors I had good scores. Only with my main one he gave me the worst trying to make me quit. I was given credit for not punching him out for mental and physical abuse (I was struck in the head with a CD and no apology. They laughed and thought it was funny). I said exactly what all they did in her previous video if you want to read what this POS did to me
I confirm this....I was a nurse for 12 years and I quit. I'm about to finish masters in information technology, already looking for a job as cloud operations administrator.
💯
Same can be said about in pharmacy. It's not the field, it's the people that join the field.
“ Nurses eat their young” was what I was told as a new nurse. So VERY pathetic. Was a Nursing Assistant,
Treated like trash by most RNs and LPNs. As an LPN same treatment by RNs. As an RN treated badly by “ Graduate
RNs ( my degree was an associates). Had a 40 year career and loved it, was kind and caring ignoring the meanness. My patients, and families loved me, so did ancillary staff, and new nurses.
I was told that exact same thing when I was in nursing school and I will tell you I was a CNA I went and I'm an LPN I never went on to get my RN but I love being an LPN and you're right I was stepped on by the LPN to RN when I was a CNA and then when I was in LPN the our ends put me down but I will tell you I meant more LPNs that I would let take care of me and my family than I did at times RN I just had a hospital stay from a surgery and I was there for days now the nurses I could tell where New I don't have a problem with that but these nurses did not have good clinicals did not know what they were doing the one that put my IV in me I had one infiltrate I had another one where you could see it just coming up through my skin I mean it was awful the care was the worst surgery was great at my doctors were great the pre-op and post-op people were awesome but the nursing staff that took care of me was just so bad I mean the pain medicine they were giving me I kept asking her what she was giving me and she said oh it's your pain medicine but she wasn't telling me what kind finally I told her look I'm a nurse what kind of medicine are you giving me because it's not working and she told me it was toradol and toradol does not work for me I need morphine and so she's like oh I guess that's why I'm having to give it to you you know as often as it says I can and I said get on the phone and please get morphine order well she took her ass sit out at the nurses station until the morning nurse came in because this is a night shift nurse and she had like an hour before she was to get off from her shift and instead of getting an order then for my morphine she waited and was going to let the morning shift nurse to it which ended up being a long time so throughout the whole night and part of the day I was in pain from the entire time that I woke up from surgery and that seems what we're getting from the new nurses today they're not out here with the empathy and wanting to take care of these patients they're wanting a check they really don't care😢
There you go. When those that you serve, enjoy and appreciate you....your co-workers...will not be liking any of it.
@@pamelaincerta6428 You paint brush was to sweeping . You sound like you are
Trying to make yourself look good .
I would want a beginning nurse .
I worked at two major hospitals in California and so many RN 'S opinions of
themselves was more Highly than they should have been thinking.
@@dotsan8543 I'm not trying to make myself look good it's just what I went through when I worked I'm retired now it's been a long time since I've worked and I remember when I had a code on a patient I was the one to stay with that patient write down everything that happened and the fact that the rooms are small and everybody wants to come in and there's not enough room for everybody and there's a lot going on at the time and I'm not an RN I'm an LPN so if you took it as I'm trying to make myself look good you took it the wrong way and it may have been the way that I put it I apologize but that's not what I was trying to do
I’m an experienced nurse now, but this happened when I was an LPN in a nursing home. I came into work on the evening shift and the day shift charge nurse told me that I needed to fill out an incident report on a patient that I had previously. However, the incident didn’t occur on my shift it occurred on the shift prior to mine. This particular charge nurse didn’t care for LPN’s that were in school to become registered nurses. So she tried to get me to falsify an incident report. But she didn’t know that I wasn’t Boo boo the fool and I wasn’t going to fill out a report that happened while I wasn’t even in the building.
But that is not bullying, the charge nurse tried to use you to cover up their mistake.
Thank you for standing up for yourself; and, doing the right thing.
@@4dyamondx745 It is a form of Bullying. Think about it.
I was also belittled as a new LVN on a neurosurgical ward in the 70’s. There were 3 cna’s that were after me for whatever reason. Wouldn’t help me turn a patient, offer me any assistance whatsoever. I left there after a year and a half . It was awful. Just treated like crap. I did find my niche in a dr’s office for 20 plus years and loved it.
I am a nurse who went thru alot of bullying with my current job. I stuck it out and got those people off of me. Cause the pay and the healthcare provided to patients were top notch and I want to learn. Honey I am proud to say I just had my 5yr anniversary for this job last month. 💃💃 And I am so glad I stuck it out.
🥳🥳🥳 Happy Anniversary! Standing up for yourself is the best!
YESSSS! Stand up, Stand Strong and know your sh**t. As a black nurse, no matter were you work…THEY WILL TRY YOU! Shut them up and continue to work your black girl magic.
I had nothing to lose at that point. They got it together quick after that. Never tried me again.
AMEN, SIS!
A lot of people just suck.
Going through this at my current job. Being a black female manager with a bunch of white male managers. Had one of them finish my shift for me as if I’m not capable of running my own shift.
Sadly this is the truth. I have been working for 27 years. They have ALWAYS tried to send Black Nurse to Med Surg.. stand firm young Sistahs stand firm!!!!
My wife is a retired ICU nurse with 41 years' experience. She backed you up 100%. She was the charge nurse for most of her career at an inner-city hospital. She knew her stuff and she did not take any crap, and she was fair. And she is a Sista who was trained in Boston but came to California.
🙏🙌🙌
Have you been struggling with NCLEX be it LPN or RN, have you taken the exam for more than once? Are you taking it for the first time? Do you have a too busy schedule to study? Get to Dr Needham for your NCLEX assistance
Good
I was in nursing school 50 yrs ago.I started out as LPN.At that time the attitude was how dare you think you able to get your RN.as they are the smarter ones.I was also bullied by LPNs.To those struggline do not give up.Just because they think .your too dumb. for anything in health care you will find your way.I did two days a week while getting my RN and I was sent all over the hosp.Some areas are well staffed and some horrible.And working the evening is much harder then the other shifts.I wish I had a mentor.
I know exactly what you mean. I was on a Travel Assignment in Memphis and my patient coded. Called for a code, nobody responded. Charge Nurse said she had her own patients
Asked the CNA to come do the vitals, she said "Oh no boo boo it's on you". They all was looking at me outside the door through the glass window. I had to call the Nurses from the
other Med surg/ Tele unit to come help me. Code team finally got there, patient had to transported to ICU. Then the Holiday came up (forgot which one), and the Department Head
(African American Nurse) was making rounds, and she said I have been getting good reviews form your patients would you like to extend for 6 more months? I pulled her in the
break room and told her that I had been a RN for 20 years and I have NEVER been in a code by myself, told her what happened, her mouth dropped open with disbelief, she had
to go ask the Nurses that came help me if it was true. She was visibly upset and I told her, I would have taken the extension but this unit is unsafe for me and I need my license
and jail does not suit me well. When my contract was over, my last day, I ran out the hospital and I drove all the way from Memphis to Louisiana, My husband said will you let me
drive sum? I was 1/2 mile from home by then and I let him took over. I have never take another contract in Memphis.
The ones that stand at the glass door looking in are the ones that grinds my gears. I’ve concluded that they’re not knowledgeable and pretend that they are. Lol at your husband asking to drive, 🤣🤣🤣. I home the management lady whipped them into shape. Some nurses are just awful.
I'm speechless...I'm a nursing assistant and everyone is supposed to help. You're dealing with a person's life!
I’m from Memphis and most of my jobs have been in Memphis. I am a home health private duty nurse and my patients are in the hood. People always asking me aren’t you afraid? I feel safer in the hood than at any nursing facilities. The gangsters actually protect nurses brave enough and loving enough to come and care for their loved ones in the home in the hood.
@@rebeccayoung6344 100%. People are grateful that you are there.
Wow! I would not have finished that contract!
"you stood there ate the door, you weren't doing nothing" perioddddd. As a new nurse, I really do hope to stand up for myself and my practice like this.
"Guess what we all unprofessional here" I'm going to use this one next time I have someone trying to bully me at work. 😂
Yes!!!! Lol
As a nursing student the amount of bullying I’ve gotten from some nurses is so degrading and humiliating the only reason I’ve stuck through is because of my loans but I am genuinely terrified of how toxic this field can be at times 🥺
FEAR AND INSECURITY CREATES "BULLIES".......FEAR AND INSECURITY ALSO CREATES "TOXIC" ENVIRONMENTS......IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT THE PROFESSION MAY BE
Stand strong chica. You got this. Stand up for yourself, know your rights & policies, and don’t let ANYONE belittle you. You worked HARD for this. You deserve it. 💯🎯
Girl it is horrible. Try to get out if you can
Become a traveling nurse or work through a agency. Because you can pick where you want to go & if you don't want an assignment then you don't have to take it.
What about being a nurse practitioner, and working at resorts?! That would be soooo cool, and you could work two weeks and off for two weeks. If I had been smarter, this is what I would’ve done, but I was always in the hospital. Good luck, with your future employment, whatever you decide. 🙏❤️
Let me give you a little advice... I use to write down any things that went wrong the days I was working... Like a journal... Just in case you end up called (summoned) into court... They trust your journal... Dates, times, names, unit, floor, room #, what happened, what you did, and so forth... Best believe it will save your career! It will also jog your memory... You will forget a lot because court won't be next week... It will be years!!!
Very very true
Yes, yes yes, document document document
I’ll take this advice as a new RN
Absolutely 100% document ev.er.y.thing. Dates, times, who was there. I have an endless scroll in my iphone notes from my last job. Thankfully never had to use it.
Very good advice.
Technically, you were correct. According to BLS CPR algorithm, for a witnessed arrest, you can leave the patient to activate the rapid response team. You only went to the door to yell for help and to get attention. That nurse just wanted to find something wrong with your performance. You did everything correctly in my book.
Thank you! I appreciate that.
Correct.
Sounds like basic BLS CPR 101. Call for HELP! That Nurse critiquing should’ve jumped in and asked you how can I help. Some folks don’t understand TEAMWORK.
@@tarreemhacaruso2687 exactly! Last time I checked, teamwork is vital for successful resuscitation!
Amen
I’m not a nurse, but I really love your videos about bullying. I feel encouraged and think your advice applies to other careers.
Super
@ Tiffany Cooper....it ABSOLUTELY applies to other careers.....BELIEVE me......
EXACTLY 💯
You should see the event industries.... people don't need therapy they need a pop in the mouth. I went back to a concert gig last 3 years and I thought things would be different because they're dealing with a new generation of employees.... nope...it was like I never left 10 years ago. Same bully supervisors and follower employees who enabled them.
My ex husband and I are both nurses of 16 years.
My son is 17 years old and starting his pre reqs for nursing.
He’s always wanted to be a nurse. Everyone around him are nurses.
We encourage him.
He’s a smart, handsome caring young man.
I’m so scared in a way offering him up on a silver platter with how toxic nursing is now in 2023.
I’m hoping for these younger nurses. It changes. Because it’s going to be my son in 4 years.
We are all going to eventually retire. We need nurses that are younger too take our places. Please let’s stop eating these baby nurses alive. Mold them. Educate them into strong knowledgeable nurses who you’d want to take care of your family.
Yes Kendra! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Nurses will bully other nurses but won’t dare stand up for themselves when the toxic doctors bark at them smh
Exactly! It's disgusting all around.
Nor will they stand up to toxic mgmt. #SMH
I had an anesthesiologist yell at me one day when I worked in the ED, because I couldn't find the OR packets with his consent form on It (the secretary had stepped away for a moment), I spoke up and said I am not your personal secretary, find your own form, and I walked away! Everyone's jaws dropped, but I am not putting up with that shit!
I don’t get why. Being a nurse why other nurse bullies each other I never heard of that in my life I never heard lawyers and doctors and teachers being bullied by their own kind like why?
@@bettysmith4527 Good!
I’ve learned that the nursing field attracts some narcissists because of the thrill of life versus death and also having control of someone’s life and needing a hero complex. My cousin is a covert narcissist and let her facade slip one day then I realized how poorly she thinks of me and my family but also herself. She is a nurse and that’s kinda frightening.
A nurse who got mad because I would not entertain her bs reported me to the board of nursing under false statements. My license was suspended for 6 months until the investigation was over. I have 4 kids and I'm a single mother. Everything crumbled during that time in my life. So, even though I have been known to stand up for myself I now know how dirty nurses can get. So I do understand why the nurse left. Sometimes it really is not worth it. Me and my kids took a horrible financial blow due to this and it was the worst year of my life! Pick your battles wisely. I was in that nurses shoes, stood up and had a nurse plot on me. Bypassing all chain of commands and went straight to the board because she knew that would impact my license. I agree with you Mrs. Kendra to stand up but also know when to hold them and when to fold them.
im so sorry this happened to you. May karma strike those nurses where it hurts! How are you doing now?
Very true, thank you for your insight. What you went through was horrendous and I hope things are better for you now. Could you have went the legal route for slander or defamation?
Mercy 😮😮
Mercy God... blessing to you double I pray.
@@rumbabygal-5758 I've had my license restored and rebuilding. Thank you for asking🌹🌹🌹❤
I’m so so proud of you for standing up for yourself!❤️❤️
Thank you! I wasn’t a new nurse, just new to ICU. Imagine if I was a new nurse.😳😳😳
I'm asian, I got bullies by a male black nurse when I was doing my clinical. Racism exist in every race, in every platform. However, the best experiences I had from mentors are also from black nurses as well. I never forget that one thing she said to me "nobody dies on my watch". Love that woman.
We have to speak up on these issues. Silence does nothing and I’m sorry you experienced that.
prejudice and being mean is not racism
@@psychosis4432 I think you are right. Maybe that guy was just plain being nasty.
Im sure the person who experienced it would have an idea from the their experiences and exactly what type of treatment they were receiving whether it was rascism or not. Don't think we can judge or invalidate their experience given that we weren't in the situation .
Yes!!!
As a new nurses I have always left a job over other nurses, because as a new nurse you already unsecured about your skill, but some nurses will purposely get you in trouble and try to mess up on your licenses
I know!!! I’m speaking up in behalf of all the nurses who’ve been mistreated. It’s not right and it has to stop.
This happens in the lab setting too straight narcissistic behaviors it’s sick
True I've experienced this
Yup
It happens during clinicals too. I had a nurse that tried to get me to do an IV push when she knew that I was not allowed to do one.
Just 3 years ago I was hospitalized for 12 nights for gallbladder surgery and the nurses were so mean to each other. I remember thinking i could never work in such a catty environment. Its crazy
I may not be a black nurse but I’ve had very similar experiences unfortunately. I hate confrontation and used to let other nurses walk all over me (sometimes still do). I hate asking for help most of the time. I don’t sit to chart 96% of the time because I like to care for my patients and not be distracted.
With all that said, I really look up to you as a nurse and the way you handled those situations. Not only did you advocate for yourself but your patient too. We all know that patient wouldn’t be getting the best care if you would have continued to let those nurses walk all over you. As I like to say, “we teach others how to treat us.”
Great video ❤
I appreciate your kind words Michelle! ❤️
But why they do that.
@@happinesswatts Bc they work in an isolated environment they developed their own culture it’s a long story
@@stevesalvant80 would love to get a better understanding of the history of why they eat their young tho. It's so sad. Because I know from first hand stories of family and friends that are nurses and SM videos and forums. Too many sad stories. And it's been a big factor to me not further pursuing my nursing studies. I have a great job now but always had that bug but I'm like eeesh if the gotta deal with that BS on TOP of the stress of helping sick and dying patients...thats just downright pitiful that this is the case. Shame on those kinds of nurses. So happy the world has nurses like her tho! But so sickening she and others like her must deal with that.
I just would like to comment because you mentioned you weren’t black. Why? Could you have just commented on your experience because that was really your need to comment right? I don’t care how many times some try to question rather things happen because we are black or not I will always know the truth. We have eyes and we have intelligence. You see the difference in how others are treated and how they walk through. As black people you really don’t want to see differences you really don’t. It’s tiring to go through and see the same differences all your life. I’m 60 and I will leave it there.
As a retired nurse with 35 years in the profession, this story described countless incidents in my “normal” work life. I graduated from nursing school in 1989, and thankfully over the more recent years there have been efforts in most hospitals to acknowledge lateral violence.
It’s a shame how cruel a lot of nurses are to their coworkers, and usually to someone who is either a new graduate or new to the organization, or in some way perceived as outside the established group.
I was triggered almost to tears listening and remembering my experiences.
Thank you for sharing your story.
Wow! Thank you for your service! Nurses like yourself are so valuable to the profession.
I was bullied by a few nurses. I didn't know if I could talk back to them because they were my "higher-ups". I was young, maybe 20. Anyway, the charge nurse told me to change this lady's shirt. She would spit up this nasty phlegm all over herself. While I was in the bathroom with her, she started to become combative. I didn't know what to do so I left to get help. I walked into another residence room and he was almost on the floor! He was supposed to be a Hoyer lift but the LPN and CNA did a two-person transfer. I helped guide his butt, in the bed so he wouldn't fall. When we were done, I asked the other CNA, if she could help me get this lady's shirt off. All of a sudden, the charge nurse changes in the room, she is in my face pointing her finger at me and yelling, I TOLD YOU TO GO AND CHANGE, SO AND SO!!! I just stood there in shock, about to cry. I ran to the bathroom to help the lady that was fighting me, she still is. She is grabbing her shirt, not allowing me to take it off, trying to scratch kick hit, and bite me. I was new, I didn't know how to handle her. The charge nurse, again goes into the bathroom and yells at me some more. "when I tell you to do something, you better do it", or else I'll write you up"! I was so scared I thought I was going to get fired. She knew she scared me, she loved to intimidate me. I finally had enough of her BS and turned her into the DOM. She changed up after that. 😊
As a new grad nurse I really needed to hear this because I’m more on the quiet and not trying to start any issues side and I know I probably wouldn’t have advocated for myself if I gone through this. Definitely needed to hear this you’re awesome and a huge inspiration for all nurses!!
As a Registered Nurse in the UK I can relate to the bullying. Years ago as a newly graduated Nurse I suffered from bullying and it was terrible. There was always a clique on a unit, and some managers ignore or are part of it. It has gone on for years and is disgusting, I admire you very much for bringing it out on You Tube, Good Luck x
There has always been cliiques. I always just got on with my work. Sure, we have all worked with people we don't like but my mantra was..they'll never know. I like to gently guide and encourage the new generation of nurses. We have to encourage, even nurture those that will take over.
Bullying. One of Nursing's oldest traditions. I fought it for 20 years. Bizarre, horrific & passed along like child abuse. Each new generation has embraced it.
It's like going to school and have to stand up to bullies in grade school
My sister has experienced this🤬 She stuck it out and put them on their place, professionally. I'm so proud of her! We need APRN's like this❣️❣️
Love it! Kudos to your sis!
I’m a mental health professional and I came across your channel as I have a client who is a nursing student. I’m doing research and trying to gather information to better understand her world better.
My client is experiencing a lot of distress from dealing with the politics of nursing school and the nurse professors. From what my client has shared with me and from what I have heard (after watching a few of your videos). This doesn’t seem to start from the gate of the hospital. But from the nursing programs themselves.
My client has shared on numerous occasions how professors (who are the experienced nurses) use scare tactics (which is a form of bullying). And this is the third time I’ve heard the phrase “nurses eat their young”. My client is BIPOC. And we are working on her advocating for herself and using assertive communication.
Everything you said about how “you are not the one” resonated. My goal is for my client to get it down packed now, so when she graduates and is ready to work, she is firm within herself and prepared for what is ahead.
This method of scare tactics on novice nurses seems to be a generational practice - a mentality of “I learned to be a nurse this way and so should you”. This truly is a systemic issue starting at the school level and continued into the working profession. - you gave great advice. Set firm boundaries, document interactions, and assert yourself.
To the aspiring nurses, don’t be scared to speak up. Use your voice, you are not less than. - To the more seasoned nurses, break the dysfunctional cycle. If you witness an injustice, say something. Don’t sit complicit. Be a mentor and look to uplift one another. There’s enough divide in this country. - Grow collectively. It never hurts to seek out help and work on your mental and emotional health. If you’re constantly burned out, you won’t be at your best, and won’t have anything else to give. Sending love, light, and hope.
Love your fierce attitude!! Don't let the haters hate!
Nurse bullying is real. My best friend was hired in ICU and was bullied by an NP and nurses who made her shift hell. She was recently moved to step down.
That’s their mission. It’s really unfortunate this happens to so many nurses.
Black anything is toxic you everywhere not just nurses, they bring TOXIC attitudes to ALL and EVERY JOB. I am Black so I can Say this .
Step down sane way too
Sheesh this happened to me too!!! I was new. I only had been a nurse for a few months. The patient was about to be discharged and literally passed out fell on me and coded. I got him back on his bed and pushed codeblue button. A few came in to start the code until the code team came. The man survived the episode but they all said it was a terrible code. They blamed me. They were like it was pure chaos. The DON happened to come and was like you botched that code I was like how? She said it wasn’t smooth… I asked her Did he live? She said yes. I said is he stabilized? She said yes. I said Dud you hop in as a leader and help she said well it’s underway. I said so he lived he’s stabilized and you took issue and didn’t correct as the Don? She looked at me… He lived right I asked again… She said yes. I said What’s the problem? She sat down and stared at me. You know I reported her and all of them when I later did my exit interview.
Darn right sister!
How long did you continue to work until you reported and left? had there been past incidents with this leader?
I’m not a nurse but I work in a cell therapy lab and I’m dealing with the same thing. I came to the position and they were supposed to train me but I’m pretty much getting a book thrown at me and I’m teaching myself. Every time I advance and come up with something to help me they say it’s not allowed because it’s not the SOP. My trainer will tell me to do something and throw the SOP at me and when I do it and get in trouble by the director she’ll throw me under the bus. I’m getting tired of it
@@BlackGirlLovesAnime6 Hate how they are treating you. hope you can find a better place.
@@BlackGirlLovesAnime6 Saw your reply in my notifications but not here. Such a toxic environment for you. There is life after that. Collect unemployment as you look for another and better job. Been there, done that - you will move on and get something better.
As a black nurse and I'm so happy that you have spoken on this. It amazes me how we always have an attitude when we stand up for ourselves. But there is no mention of why or who deliberately gave us the attitude.
A "BLACK" NURSE ??.......WHAT DOES RACE HAVE TO DO WITH YOUR PROFESSION?.......WHEN YOU ARE PROVIDING CARE FOR YOUR PATIENTS.......IS THIS WITH THE UNDERSTANDING I AM A "BLACK" NURSE ? OR I AM A NURSE....A HIGHLY TRAINED PROFESSIONAL........ WHEN DEALING WITH YOUR COWORKERS ARE THOSE INTERACTIONS BASED ON BEING A "BLACK" NURSE OR SIMPLY BEING A FELLOW COWORKER IN THE NURSING PROFESSION.
@@glenoneill3950 You don't get it. We would never have to mention our race if our race wasn't the reason for the bias treatment.
@@cuquee12 Understand you are the creator of everything that is experienced in your life. The people, places, events are all your creation......These things are a reflection of your inner reality.......In other words.....All your thoughts, fears, insecurities are projected into your physical reality.......All self created....By your own mind.....All of this is based on choices, you create these experiences as a human to learn and evolve.....Everything and everyone is a lesson.......Everything begins and ends with you.....All of this may seem a bit esoteric......But is the reality of our existence as human beings on this planet.....We are all powerfull creators...Some of us are aware of this, some are not.....Every human being is a teacher .....your own reflection.....looking back at you......Many people live their lives in fear and insecurity......not realizing that it is their fears and insecurities that create the reality they experience......The people who were biased towards you are a result of your own fears and securities.....You litterally created them into your reality.....They cannot exist without your confirmation of them.....This off course may seem proprosperous to many.....And that is ok.....It is part of having free will to choose......The people who may hate you.....were created by you.....they are your teachers......The race issue is also a choice...you made a choice in race being a factor of what you may have experience....so it became your reality......all self created......Understand the world you see and experience is a reflection of your inner world.....if your programming is based on fear and insecurity.......That will be the "movie" you will be in......Writer, director, actor of it all. Understand the universe is not concerned with race and skin color.....only about one's vibrations.....Blessings.
@@glenoneill3950 When you work in an area with few colored people you can be picked on especially if you know what you are doing. Why? I don't know what makes these other nurses so angry. One said I didn't seem to need much orientation to the area and this made her mad. She said it took her longer to do what I did so easily. I couldn't believe it. Neither could the manager for the area. She had to tell her my qualifications and experience before this job and that this was way less than I was used to doing. Needless to say after a year and a half I could no longer work in such toxic environment. That was my last job. I miss the patients but I don't miss the job. Life is too short to feel stressed going to work among unhappy people!!
@@jenniferjemison636 "COLORED PEOPLE" ?.......AM I TO UNDERSTAND THAT "COLORED PEOPLE " WILL NOT PICK ON YOU?.........I AM GLAD YOU MADE THE MOVE FROM AN UNHAPPY SITUATION......BLESSINGS.
I don’t even have words , WOMAN IF EVERY NURSE WAS LIKE YOU 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼YOU ARE INCREDIBLE
This is making me crazy. As a nurse who worked for 28 yrs in NICU I never had to deal with crap like this. I worked with the best group of men & women you could ask for. We worked as a team always. We were white, black, Hispanic and Asian. There is no place in nursing for people who tear their co-workers down.
Girl girl girl u let them know how it goes for real. So so proud of you. When I first started working in the OR I had a hard time handing a surgeon an instrument. Just couldn’t get it right. So this surgeon says to me, “even a fool could do this.” Well I said to him, then next time bring your wife. He demanded me off the surgical field so I left and my preceptor scrubbed in. The only person that stood up for me was the nurse educator who can down to encourage me not to quit. She laughed hysterically when she heard what I told the surgeon. The other nurses said I would never make it in the OR. Well I became the head nurse lol
I have so many experiences but let me leave this right here
The moment I read your response I knew you where a proper yoruba girl. Never go home to get a response. Wasere darling😘
you are hilarious
That person was an asshole. Cocky and rude. Even if you are a vet, be humble with how you carry yourself.
Also, I would really like to hear about more of your experiences!
Your clapback was 🤌🏽🤣😂🤣😂😂
🤣🤣😭😭😭
Ego is such a problem! Why can't ppl just share their knowledge so we can all work as a team properly? Or why do they have to "bully" new employees because they experienced it when they were starting?
Exactly!
Beacuse they are arogant . And many are disenfranchised because they don't get paid what they think they should
Exactly, they forget they were inexperienced before becoming experienced. Nursing is learnt on the floor. Helping build each other is the best feeling ever.
Been a nurse since 2004. The environment is cliquish, and catty. These women will be in their 40’s still acting like the mean girls in high school. They will lie, gossip, and run to management with yt tears. Nursing is stressful enough without having to deal with all of these Karen’s. I had this vision of changing this type of culture. I was told they (management) wants nurses to feel intimidated. They are ruling by fear and therefore you have to subscribe to that to become a supervisor there. All the drama and stress led to burnout. I definitely heard of other nurses experiencing this. But when you’re dealing with it alone, it feels like there’s no one to turn to. I definitely advocated for myself. But being one of two black nurses on a unit of more than 150 nurses, they did not appreciate me standing up for myself. It was a nightmare! I’m actually wondering if I’d have a better experience in a union hospital or an area with a black population and black management.
It’s a trickle down effect. Management contributes to the toxicity that runs rampant throughout some of these units. It’s so hard to say where you’ll have a better experience because I’ve been in rural areas, predominantly white population and they were amazing. There’s no guarantee.
I am working with black nurses and believe me things are not better
@@ikr2377 agreed. The profession is littered with women and anywhere there is an abundance of women there are too many issues. Same with elementary school teachers...mostly women and lots of problems. If you are in any of these professions and have avoided problems you are lucky
It’s not a solely racial problem though. Imagine saying that about any other race. “Run to whoever with their black/Asian/mexican tears.” Just seems a bit much.
Unfortunately the Management most likely were one of two categories.
Either *they* were the mean girls bullying the new nurses.
Or *they* were the bullied nurse and they *accepted* the crappy treatment as “just how it is” in the nursing field. So they keep the cycle going.
There aren’t too many bosses/those in authority who recognize toxic workplace practices and actively try to change it.
Sooo a couple things here. I’m pretty sure you have a God given talent of being not just an amazing nurse who cares for her patients but a great advocate for herself and other new nurses. Girl, you need to become a nurse mentor to us new nurses. I graduate from RN school 9/23 and would love to have someone like you mentor students and future nurses like myself! ❤keep using your gifts!
Miss Kendra: you handled this situation perfectly. I'm an Old Combat Veteran of the U.S. Army; with absolutely no tolerance for STUPID. I would have fed her my fist, and she wouldn't have had the opportunity to walk away. Have spent several weeks in the Hospital, recently. The Nurses and Aids have always been more than helpful. Seeing your video(s) has been my first exposure to Nurse Bullying. Never would have thought that it would actually exist. Hear of Nurse Shortages across Our Country; and, now it is starting to make sense. I wouldn't sign up for that abuse, either. Hope you are doing well. You are tougher than the sum of your adversaries. God Bless You.
Lol, Keith thank you. I appreciate you watching.
I get anxiety just listening to this. I worked on the floor for 10 years and to me, dealing with the bullying and attitudes never got easier. I never had an issue with the job itself or the patients. It was the staff that made my life a living hell.
I work from home now, still use my RN degree, but I prayed hard for a job that would get me away from that environment.
Btw, you handled everything perfectly in my book.
ALL "BULLIES" ARE INSECURE......CREATED IN THE IMAGE OF THEIR CREATORS......
Excellent video. I was bullied at my first job by an experienced nurse in the ER. She was awful to me. Instead of reprimanding her, they told me not to worry about her. She is like that with all the new people. WTF??? They didn't mind losing new nurses as long as they kept her. I always wish I will meet her in public someday cuz I got some shizz to say to her.
Lol love it! Luckily, when i first started nursing there was a lot of new grads, and the ppl on more floor were generally helpful. Of course there were a few nurses like this but mostly on other floors. But even a student there were nurses like this, i dont get. Some ppl feel better about themselves by trying to put others down. Quite pathetic!
Why would they want to keep an inexperienced nurse?
I’ve been a nurse over 30 years. Nurse Bullying is real but as a supervisor I did not nor will not now tolerate it. The veteran nurses must help teach the new nurses coming and the new nurses has to be strong and stand their ground!
@ Pammy RN thanks for being one of the good ones....
Their lives are a so sad and miserable they have to make others suffer as well. Keep doing what you love ❤
Amen sister!! Almost a year in the ICU and that lateral violence is so true!! I just freeze up when I experience the bullying. I wish had your confidence!
It will come. One day at a time.
I graduated from nursing school in 2004, by 2008 I was doing Utilization Review for a health insurance company and I haven't turned back since. I couldn't take the bullying from these WW over, and over, and over. It was breaking me mentally and emotionally. Getting paid nursing salary from behind a desk at home-best decision I've ever made!
Please how did you get the job? What can I do to qualify ?
Do you need any certifications in order to get into Utilization review???
I'm curious about utilization review as well..
As an African American woman, I "had" to move from Admin Assistant to Incoming Call Center (not telemarketing). It was the office politics. After about 3 years of "mess", I was happy to sit in a cube and talk to customers. It's hard out there for a... Queen 👑
Lol. When you trying to get the money for tha rent!
YOU MADE A CHOICE TO MOVE FROM AN ADMING POSITION TO THAT OF DEALING WITH CUSTOMERS,,,,,,,,,,WHAT DOES BEING AN AFRO PERSON HAVE TO WITH THIS DECISION ?
@@glenoneill3950 shut up
As someone who’s now worked in numerous different environments (retail, medical, business, law, etc) there are always those bullies that will unnecessarily try to cause chaos. After multiple experiences, I’m convinced that it’s either because 1) the individual is absolutely miserable with their home life and they need punching bags at work 2) they’re genuinely sick in the head and THRIVE off misfortune and drama 3) some ppl are bored to death with their jobs and will turn to gossiping or sabotaging others just for the excitement of it.
It’s just really unfortunate that this is so common within hospital/healthcare settings because people’s lives are literally on the line. There’s no time for petty high school nonsense. It’s the one place everyone absolutely must work together for the sake of societal health. I applaud anyone in any field who decides to do the uncomfortable thing and speak up about this type of bullying (low-key abuse and harassment).
I wholeheartedly agree. One more thing to add is that sometimes you intimidate them. So they will try to knock you down a peg.
You nailed it. Amazing comment!!!!!!
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@mzsurr
You are 💯 percent correct!!
Thank you!
It’s also in the law enforcement field. Heck, I believe wherever there’s ppl, there’s drama, stress, bullying, gossip etc. I don’t even like people. 🤣
I’m a retired black RN and had a great experience my career. But I was a hard worker and studied and learned quickly as a medical/surgical RN and a strong advocate for myself. I finished my last 10 years as a labor and delivery RN. While I don’t have an ICU experience I agree with your experiences and applaud your advocacy of other nurses. I heard a medical resident say to one of our nurses “ you all are terrible and known for EATING your young!” What a true and terrible insult! Sadly I see it hasn’t changed.
I'm taking a vow right now to stand up for myself once I reach my goal of becoming a nurse. It might be hard for me as I'm very gentle most times and can be nervous in new circumstances but, im learning from you! Thank you sincerely!
I used to be a patient advocate at a hospital in NYC. I can't tell you how many times I had to deal with nurses arguing, yelling at each other in front of patients or being spitefully "inactive" in critical situations that affect direct patient care. EEO was also quite busy with them. I decided to go into exercise physiology as a second career instead.
Not good. There is a lot of stress in the job that only nurses understand. We shouldn't be yelling though.
@@elizawilson5981 I agree. I understand what you mean about nursing, although I am not one. I was very close to a lot of the nursing staff as I started as a ward secretary, and eventually a WHEN hours administrator before the advocate job. That's when I learned that nurses are the hands of healthcare. Not only do you administer the care, you also catch critical errors... And deal with doctors.
Omg no way😭😭😭
👏👏👏👏 Yessssssss!!!! I am a nursing student done April 2023 my BSN program and let me tell u that Nursing is something u learn on the floor . The best experience I get is in Clinicals when my nurse allows me to be the nurse and gives me feedback . You don’t come out of nursing school knowing everything …. Don’t let anyone bully or try you . Respect goes both ways I don’t care if you have been here for 25 years and this is my first day . Preach Babygirl !!!! Facts this is my motto !!!
Love it! I sense that you’ll be just fine😉
That's right !!!! I love this speak Queen
Amen, Sister!
Reason number 2345 why I went into Nurse Informatics. I finished my BS in Health Information Management with WGU and I prefer the administrative side of Nursing. I can say that clinical Nursing may not have been my passion but my passion is in Healthcare. For years, I've had doctors, my nurse managers and other interdisciplinary team tell me how good I am with computers. I was always the unofficial trainer for EMR software that we used: EPIC, PointClickCare and Athena. If you find yourself loving "Nursing" but not direct care, the beauty of this career is that it's vast in other specialities. I encourage nurses (LPNs and RNs) to explore other options than direct care.
Thank you so much for this amazing insight. Nursing has so many different avenues.
Thank you for this comment because I am in nursing school and the type of personality I have I will literally breakdown if ppl try and bully me I seriously cannot manage the emotions that come with it very stressful to even think about having to potentially face in the future so this sounds like a great avenue for me. I have my previous bachelors in health informatics but also halfway thru nursing. How did you get into that side?
Thank you so much needed to hear this. I have been so discouraged with going back to nursing school because of nurse bullying. I am one class away from obtaining the license.
Don’t let anyone or thing hold you back. Go for it!
I know this is redundant; but you did that code correctly. in my 17 years working at my hospital, if you're alone with the patient and you have that moment to call for help before they start to actually code--use it! you did amazing.
Thank you for acknowledging that. The most important thing is calling for help.
I’m actually really glad she’s addressing this. I’m sure there are so many nurses out there being bullied and felt like they couldn’t don’t say anything.
I am a retired RN. I didnot work in adult ICU, and I totally admire you for being an ICU nurse.
Just want you to know I experienced alot of bullying in my 40 years
as an RN. Probably the meanest bully was one of my Med-Surg nurse managers. She did everything in her power to intimidate, brow beat, and overall belittle me. One of the hardest things I ever did was stick it out on her unit ( 2 years and 2 months ) until I transferred to another department. In retirement,
I work a few hours a month with medically fragile children which is very rewarding.
The main reason I stuck with it over the years was because the pay was good and I was able to support myself.
I hope there will be more RNs like you who channel their energy and use their skills and knowlege to support other nurses to do good work and deliver good patient care.
Thank you.
I have been bullied myself when I first started nursing and I try hard to help those who struggled just like me. Unfortunately, I have come to notice that most of the time management doesn't really care especially if it's the older nurses that are causing all the problems. I get more disappointed each time I think about it.
holy shit.... You are a legend. Even just hearing your story about it, is so frustrating and anxiety inducing. I deeply respect and admire how well you advocate for yourself. I'm so sorry to hear that some high school level drama and foolishness happens in this line of work where people need your help, and people can't put aside their immature behaviours to do what you came to do. Thank you for sharing your story, and others stories as well.
Thank you! That kind of behavior has no place in the hospital. Everyone should be willing to help.
I’m in nursing school and working as a nurse tech and this video is the reprieve I needed. I’ve always noticed this with nurses even when I worked as an EMT in the ED. Now that I’m getting into the field, you inspire me to not perpetuate this.
That happened to me working in surgery years back, I went straight to the hospital president and went immediately to him, jumped over the chain of command, he immediately listened to me, contacted the President Of Nursing to come speak to him, everything was fixed immediately.
I was sent to the office of my manager for changing a sharps box that was stuffed full. She said that wasn't my room in surgery for that day, etc, and that's all our jobs, if we see a full sharps box, it must be changed.
I was hurt, confused, didn't care, I had worked in surgery many years, was up for employee of the year, etc
Unbelievable, and I stood up for myself.....
Always stand up for yourself, and your patients, and all you know what's right.
Bullying is getting worse as years pass.
Praying for everyone that faces bullying. 🙏
@Kendra RN, I love me some YOU! Nursing is,have always and will forever be glamorized career. Not many speak of what you all go through day in and day out🥺💔. My cousin is a nurse and have days she call me in tears.
God bless each of you whether you’re a nurse or simply just fighting to navigate through the medical Field.
I’m convinced People see dollar signs and a glamorized career vs what it really takes to be a great nurse! Thanks for all you’ve done and do💛👑🤟🏽
My freshman year in college my first nursing professor said, "You may not be rich but will eat everyday and have a little left." LOL
@@garlicgirl3149 😂
I just found Kendra and I immediately subbed. I’m not a nurse but I’m a nuclear medicine tech and for us black folks it’s all the same to them. My clinical experience was hell at some of these hospitals. These people will reap what they sow!
@@TheeMrsChampion I fully understand! Do all you can to protect your mental. Because I know when they see “us” the plan isn’t to see us flourish. Continue forward no matter what 👑❤️
Sorry some of y'all nurses have to go through bullying and bs with your co workers! Thank y'all nurses for all the good that you do!
We appreciate you❤️
When I first started my job.. I kept my mouth shut and listened and learned , got at least a year.
Rosey
I have been in healthcare for years but recently became a nurse and I hate it. They constantly try to put their own work on me and then want to blame me when it doesn’t get done. I honestly am over the negative attitudes the constant backbiting and aggression is ridiculous.
I worked for a hospital for many years. I worked with Nurses. They were the biggest bullies. Wow it was unreal how cruel they could be. I would always tell people that nurses are the biggest bullies. Those nurses toughened me up. I learned that I never want to be a bully. ✌🏽Great video.
And the problem is when we respond they claim we are aggressive and they are fearful ...smh.... bullies ... troublemakers
I agree!
LOVE IT!! Kendra you did beautifully telling that CAT the truth!! There's always those types of "nurses" trying to embarrass their colleagues......pitiful. Love that you stood your ground!!
Thank you for your comment. I appreciate you taking the time to type it ❤️
THANK YOU, Kendra, for sharing your experiences! I hope you don't mind if I share my own. I had to switch jobs when my husband transferred to a new location. I had been 29 years at a great, progressive NICU. I had experienced great autonomy in my career, been involved in hospital committees, precepted, acted as charge nurse etc, at my original unit. Naively, I thought moving to a new hospital in the same organization would be fine. IT WAS NOT. It was somewhat clique-y. Apparently, rumors (!?) about me began before I even arrived. It took a year before anyone told me about these rumors, which were so crazy and false. In that first year, one nurse in particular "spearheaded" a campaign of bullying, stating she would not work in the same "pod" as me. I never found out the reason but she was rude and merciless. When she was charge nurse, she never checked in with me to see how my day was going. She would (try to) embarrass me in front of others. I would frequently cry on my drive home after a particularly difficult day of BS. Well, I decided, early on, to try to understand what the heck was happening and I learned A LOT about nurse bullying and lateral violence. I also, painstakingly, decided not to let any of it change my positive outlook in my day-to-day work. I eventually took on precepting and charge roles and developed supportive friendships with many of my colleagues. I was able to share concerns about the unit culture with management, but the culture was just so different. I ended up staying there for three years, until my husband got transferred back to our previous city. To be back in my original unit was such an incredibly positive experience. I was immediately respected and surrounded by old friends and new. But I had changed. I was so, so careful make sure I was welcoming and helpful to anybody new. I ended up retiring from this unit after six more years. I know this is a long post, but I hope it helps someone learn that it is possible to stay strong, recover from targeting and move on with confidence.
People can be very cruel. I appreciated reading your story❤❤❤
40 year nurse here. You did right. 100% whoever wrote it transcribes it. Tell it like it is. Another place thats toxic is mental health.
Your response to her deserves an award.🤣🤣🤣 You MUST stand up for yourself. You just helped save another person from her. 💛
Literally, Kendra, you are speaking my thoughts! I, too, am a newish (18 months) ICU RN. I, also transitioned from Med-Surg and persevered against bullies. You go girl!
I worked as a unit secretary for almost a year at a hospital. So much foolishness , bullying, and downright dangerous behavior between nursing staff, and others. Not right. Should be professional, caring and working together but nope.
Best staff were the nursing staff who came to us from a mental hospital. They said outright they knew teamwork, and were kind to non nursing staff I really appreciated them. They were great workers too no egos i.e. teamwork.
I do have good memories of some staff and still 21 years later appreciate them
Your comment is soooo true. Former Unit Secretary also. Unbelievable, unprofessional happenings at that nurse's station. So many to name but one instance was the admiration of several nurses to a new doctor, which lead to the firing of a nurse.
I fucking love you, and hope to be as professional and assertive as you
🥰🥰🥰. Took me a little while but I learned to stand up for myself.
Great job Kendra! The educator needed to grow some courage, she sounds like she was enabling. The nurse who writes the stuff is ALWAYS the recorder. And the educator apologizing for them? Nope! So glad you spoke. Strong work!
I’ve been a ICU nurse for about 3 years now and it will get better with the more skills you acquire and confidence will truly make a difference . I felt that way in the beginning but know you BELONG there and once you get your one year in, you can go anywhere and you’ll only get better and better . I promise it gets easier . A good team makes all the difference. Even as a travel nurse now , I had a horrible team once in Charlotte NC and I left after 3 weeks. That’s something I will not deal with .
Do your colleagues start treating you better? Or do they just find new nurses to pick on? What changes?
It seems all of hc is like this. Why bring misery into a field already tackled by pain suffering?
Yes! Always stand up for yourselves and against the bullies.
It goes the other way too. I know of an amazing RN with a wide range of experiences and skills (open heart, flight nursing, ECMO, Balloon Pump, educator, exceptional preceptor, amazing patient advocate, and quite knowledgeable) . Yet, many of the newer RN’s in that ICU disrespected her wisdom and led her to quit. The hospital lost a great nurse.
Happens often.
@@KendraRN they might have felt threatened by her skill base. Honestly this happens for sure a lot in UK. Many black nurses are made to feel incompetent and its also from our own black nurses and doctors who do this to us. We ourselves are our own enemies sometimes. I have experienced two black people bullying me.
As a clinically licensed psychotherapist who worked nightshift in a fully functioning psychiatric hospital for years I can agree that a LOT of nurses are bullies and will try you! One of the things that gave me that extra push to go into private practice, was tge inability to tolerate the nurses I'd developed. They try to be "Mean Girls" and will test the patience of the most patient individual. Lol... they will leave you with no choice but to gather them with the quickness and swiftness! Once they've been gathered, they love back-peddling and play victim. I've seen some of them have a doctor get them together. They are the thing I miss least in the workforce. I'm soooo happy I no longer have to deal with them. A lot of the white nurses carry an attitude that ANY DOCTOR, OTHER NURSE, PSYCHIATRIST, THERAPIST, ETC...ARE BENEATH THEM. It is quite bizarre being that all of the previously mentioned have education and clinical licenses that surpasses theirs. Ppl think of nurses and think of a caring, kind, compassionate, nurturing, individual, which is why so many are shocked to find that is not the case for many of them. I've seen white ones who refused to address black doctors as "Doctor" but only used their first names. It got so bad that admin had to get involved. I honestly have never in my 9yrs in the hospital setting encountered a rude male nurse though.
Why does everyone always be like white people this and that. Every race has people that are this or that… stop bringing race into this… be better!
Last year I was a patient in a hospital, but not ICU.
There was a new young R.N.on night shift for the first time .
All of a sudden 2 female nurses and 1 male nurse came on the floor and just about ran her off the floor !!!
They were shouting at her , telling her what to do even though she kept telling them she knew what to do .
I felt so sorry for her , so I stood at the entrance of my room giving them the EVIL EYE !!!!!
They said are you ok , I told them how I felt and what I would do if it were me they were bullying !!!
I stood there and they didn't like it , but dared not say anything to me .
I finally went to bed slamming my door as hard as I could !
Later that night the new young nurse came into my room to apologize for the things that went on .
I told her no need to apologize and I pray that you will report them to the charge nurse , because I sure will !!!
And I did !!
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OMGGGG!!!!!! Thank you so much for this!!!!! I needed to hear this. It’s so sad that experienced nurses want to bully new nurses and make the job difficult for them. Nurses should work as a team and be professional. I can’t stand women!!!!!!
😆😆 I know what you mean. What’s a good email for you?
You are are a inspiration Thank you for your support ❤
Thank you for standing up for yourself! African American nurses, deserve so much better! I see it at my work place too, and I’m not having it!
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I was shocked fairly recently to learn that nurses who I’ve always considered earth angels bully each other. I was a teacher in a tough situation and we gave total support. Even if we didn’t like each other we had each other’s backs. Wow. Just wow.
Exactly sis!!!! They let the exterior fool them… what you see on the outside is not what you get on inside!!!! And this is exactly what I teach my nursing students!!!
Love it!!!
You are amazing! You did the right thing to stand up for yourself. That insecure nurse needs to learn her lesson.
Thank you so much!
I’m really glad you stood up for yourself. It’s pathetic that GROWN WOMEN treat other NURSES like this. I’m not a nurse. I’ve only been a patient and I always assumed most Nurses were kind people who just wanted to help others but you’re showing me a lot of these women just act like middle schoolers and start drama. Just pathetic. Keep being you. You are what a Nurse SHOULD BE! ♥️♥️