as a trans guy dating another trans guy, it isn't all bad,, a lot of people think that it will trigger someones dysphoria being with another trans guy but because i find so much comfort being with him its like none of that even matters whenever hes with me
to be honest i don't understand the perspective that being with another trans person would make someone dysphoric. i wanna empathize but i really don't get it. and even if it would cause some dysphoria, i feel that's literally nothing compared to the abuse and disrespect trans people can face on a daily basis trying to date cis people. at least if you get dysphoric your partner will understand the feeling. but if you date a cis person and your dysphoria kicks in, they will never quite know what it's like.
I understand. I think the problem with the trans community is that we grow to hate ourselves and each other. We're brainwashed by society and people into thinking that we're less, we're not normal, "freaks". Thus, we don't want to be part of the community, we refuse to accept ourselves and each other. And it sucks. Because we're valid, we're normal and we're not less worthy of love and respect than anyone on this planet. Great movie with great meaning. Thank you, sir.
Dream 20 EVERYONE deserves love, no matter their gender, race...WHATEVER... I can’t even begin to think what people go thru who r ostracized, shown hate instead of luv. My heart goes out to each and every one of u. It takes courage to b who u r sometimes...if only u were given support and luv on the way .... Try not to live w/regrets. We need to tear off our shackles, embrace the new person we r striving to b and DONT look back. We cannot live for other people. If u do, u will lose yourself in the mix. I feel nowadays for every step we take forwards, we r taking ten steps back... I don’t understand HATE, I never will. It sickens me. It turns a persons soul and nrg (energy) black like the moonless nights. I pray all u tortured souls find peace, happiness and luv in your life and heart Fr across the waters Canada 🇨🇦 🐥🐥🐥hugs and all that stuff
@@GEGE-bx3fj Thank you so much ❤ I really needed this and your comment really brightened my day. Hate is what weak people use to feel powerful. I keep telling myself this. Their hate doesn't define us. I know myself I'm a normal human being with dreams and I'm good and I deserve to be here. I won't let their hate erase my identity or my right to exist and to be happy. Sending you much love and support. ❤
Dream 20 As dumb as this sounds, every day take time out to sit down, p/u a pen and write down what u r thankful for. Even if it’s something s simple as taking THAT shower. Slowly all these positive thoughts will start to override the negative emotions u r going thru. I promise it works but a person needs to b diligent, stick w/it as it does take TIME for it to work .,.. (Depending on how far down the drain pipe u have traveled) I luv your attitude. Keep telling yourself that u MATTER Surround yourself w/friends who r your FRIENDS... they r the ones who will stick w/u no matter what. They ask for nothing in return ... Whatever u r going thru I hope and pray u have the love and support of your family. If u don’t, then they aren’t much of a family are they ??? It’s a child’s inherent wish to please their parents...however there comes a time when a child must take a stand and become their OWN person. We are not put here to please other people. That will cone naturally and w/grace if a person is shown luv and respect. If we aren’t shown that, it turns to distrust, hate and all that’s negative... A person can try and make amends but if it’s not accepted, don’t beat yourself up. U did your best, NOT them. Time to move on. Don’t settle for anything less ... one day the right person will be there for u. I keep saying this, but try not to live w/regrets... Try and stay positive. Be happy Be well Be at PEACE fr across the waters Canada 🇨🇦 🐥🐥🐥hugs and all that stuff
FINALLY is everyone seeing this, cause this is the the whole shitting truth right here everyone is JUST a human being but be warned...making mistakes, like judging, is also what makes us human
Being trans is the reason I don’t let myself date or get too close to friends. Everybody just leaves me in the end. It’s also why I HATE going to the doctors.
Bryce W. I was that way for years, but things will get better! There are good, loving people out there, and you just need to find them. Wishing you all the best man!
dvp458 I understand that. I said I was sad about it, not that he was transphobic because of it. People can be sad if two people they shipped together don’t end up together. I was simply stating I was sad about it. I did not blame Rocky.
My brother is trans and some nurses will treat him like shit, a dental assistant "forgot" to give him pain shots after she found out his name is Oliver, and not the name on his paperwork. Absolutely sickens me.
Finally a film that doesn't only talk about the exterior transformation. A film that doesn't just talk about the society and how it accepts us. It's a film that puts a mirror in front of our eyes as a community👏 It's a great film. As a ftm person I feel like I have no character to identify with when I watch series or movies so thank you so much 🙏
You are right, I didn't thought that this shows more than the exterior transformation... Also this film shows two uncommon things that I've never saw on a screen: Being trans and being gay at the same time. Also shows the fear that We feel on the streets, the ridiculous discrimination We can see even on hospitals. You can see why so many lgbt+ people end up on drugs, bars and places alike, they give us refuge.
I am a teenage girl who is trans, I want to be a male, and I haven't told many people about this, and I want to feel accepted, and more people accept me than I do myself, so it feel good to know there are people just like me❤❤❤❤🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
Finally a trans story! I just went through telling my mom and having her cry being her only daughter out of three kids but she accepts me and im so lucky. It's a constant struggle waking up every morning and being in a body that doesn't feel like you. The amount of times I have heard "it's a phase" is too many times. It isn't a phase, but it is who I am and who all of the other trans people are. I love this so much, amazing work!
sam langevin they always say it’s just a phase Like bitch please if it was I would be perfectly healthy and not stay up all night crying over my body and how I am not who I really am
@@boiledkettles6066 my friend ordered me a binder and my mom got to it before me and she yelled for me to come down stairs and when I did and I saw the binder on her lap I froze with fear,she then started to yell at me for the binder and her and her fiance said that that is something I ask them to buy but like I *would* IF I felt safe,loved,accepted,and supported by them but *NO* they know and have known for a *LONG TIME* that I am trans and I have had my friend tell my mom I'm trans but she still continues to buy me feminine clothing,deadname me,and misgender me and is so freaking annoying and I'm just so tired of it (this was 2 days ago) (12/7/20)
For me as a Ftm Guy its still shocking how much even I get brainwashed that I think I am kinda freak...Thanks this Video remembered me to be confident and Be proud of my Trans Self...🏳️🌈
Nah you're not a freak, people who think they are freaks in a negative way dont make sense to me I'm glad you're proud of your amazing identity, at the end of the day we only have ourselves :)
Normal as in just blend in. Not be the one who stands out in a bad or “abnormal”way. When so much of the world is cis and binary...it is very difficult to even be a trans person who is trying to go with the binary flow. Anxiety and dysphoria make so many of us trans people not want to celebrate ourselves and how unique and more rare we are...as compared to cis binary types. So most of us spend far too much time just wanting to be looked over and blend in with the crowd. Not be on the receiving end of questioning and wondering looks that most of the time transform into fear and hate that can quickly turn into aggression. Too often being trans feels like wearing your deepest and darkest insecurities on a t-shirt and hoping no one laughs, points, looks disgusted, gets offended, turns mean or calls you out...in a public place.
I am not a transgender guy, but I have a lot of sympathy and empathy for the beautiful people who are trans. I believe it is fair for me to call myself pansexual - in any case, I know it is important for all of us to know, experience and share authentic love. There is joy in such living. We all deserve that. None of us are freaks, rather people trying to live.
Interesting how you coin the term "fair" when referring to your sexual orientation, as if some might deem it as "unfair." If you're pan, you're pan. Truly nothing wrong with that label, my friend. It's totally "fair." 🙂
As a medical student, I find it so horrific that such transphobia exists in healthcare. Yes this story is fictional but it is my understanding that it sadly reflects real experiences of trans people. I promise to do better and speak out against such things when I qualify 💜
Yeah it's hard for trans guys especially gay ones because we get hated by the gay community coz we don't have a bio dick so some gay cis guys won't date us like it really sucks, I haven't watched the movie yet but I can already tell imma cry lol
@@riverday4783 I did not know this! Why they treat you like this! I mean I respect you guys so much but gay guys have been through a lot. They should know for better how you feel...I hope from my deepest hearts for the they you guys be respected for who you are.🧡🧡🧡🧡
@@benjaminreyes3624 you are so right. But hating is a different matter. No one should be hated...not gay guys who I love a lot and respect them even more for they fought their way to be right here standing with their heads up(i know it is still hard but da...things are much better now) not even trans guys.
@@benjaminreyes3624 we aren't women. Just say 'I'm not into trans guys because I don't prefer vaginas' if you have to but saying we're women is just not based on biological evidence. Some trans guys have penises and no uteri, some cis women don't have uteri either. Intersex people are a thing. And science is about keeping an open mind when presented with empirical data. Before we learned about germs, did they still exist? We learn more about biology, DNA and neurology more every year. I'd suggest you try to keep up.
The film left me wondering about myself and of others dealing with discrimination. I felt the pain, the hatred and feeling alone. Thank you for sharing your film.
Damn, my daughter is trans. Is this what I have to look forward to? God, I hope not. She’s my beautiful baby boy trapped in the wrong body. I’m expecting the complete change within this year (2021). I’m excited for her, and love her to pieces! We’ve had many talks, and I’m so proud of her. Education, education, education!!! That’s the bottom line here. For those in the back, GROW UP! Mind your own business! Just a thought. 🙏
Ma’am I do not wish to be rude, but as a pre transition trans male, um, you said “she’s my beautiful baby boy” you used female pronouns while speaking about your trans son, I don’t wish to be rude, I just wanted to point out the little mistake…
@@Seth-lq3uw Let's keep in mind this is a new experience for this person and they're trying very hard to be good and supportive and are watching things about the trans experience. Let's also keep in mind we don't know their child's preferences yet and that pronouns don't equal gender, and that their child may still want to use specific pronouns for now for various reasons we don't know. ❤
It's so heartbreaking. I would like to hug any person who suffers from discrimination and hatred. We're all just human beings who deserve to be respected and loved. Stay strong.
Lucky enough to have met Jake and his wife at Bloomberg Equality Summit this yr. Your story is really inspiring and I do hope you guys continue to spread LGBT awareness in the world.
Brilliant premise. Loved the film. So well acted and directed - in so short a film. I loved the witnessing that when people have chemistry - are attracted to each other - it doesn't matter who they are. So now the question is begged - will this chemistry - love - rise above their fears and bring them back together.
This film is great for educating cis folk, but as a gay trans guy it was just too triggering. The traumatic, soul-crushing moments could have really used balance with trans joy. That’s how we survive.
Dear god, yes. This is just like back when gay people in movies always died and never got a happy ending. Like when Brokeback Mountain was the best representation EVER. That's not quite what you said in your comment, I'm just adding to it because I, too, found it pretty triggering and now I sad for no good reason (as in there's nothing good being done by my feeling this way). And I'm an ftm married to a gay cis guy, feeling socially accepted - so how triggering would I find this if I were unhappily single?
Just watched this and this was an amazing short film... I was raised by loving everyone that comes into this earth no matter what your color, sexuality, or features are, so we need to spread out there that everyone is needing to treat everyone with respect and dignity. I applaud you for this film and looking forward to seeing more from you. Hugs and Love from Las Vegas
The nurse is the first time I've been exposed to hard core transphobia (lucky for me) and I was LIVID. I kept trying to convince myself that the actor didn't think that and it was just for the movie but the look on my face in the reflection of my brother's glasses when I looked at him in shock is one I will never forget
I've just re-watched it. It's so powerful and heartbreaking! I wish that one day, in the near future, everyone will be able to accept one another regardless of label society put on people, and above all, I wish that people will accept and love themselves for who they are! I love you Jake Graf Proud Ally here! 💙💟💙💟💙💟
Honestly I don't understand that, why two trans guys freaking to each other instead of thinking "oh, I found a mate who exactly knows how it is to be trans", but really who do we wait for acceptance if even trans people are transphobic.
Absolutely beautiful piece of art. The acting👏👏👏. Honestly the troubles trans men go through isn't talked about enough, so this was wonderful. Hate crimes make my skin burn and wish I were superman to protect everyone. Really hope to see more trans masc representation in media🤞🥰
I'm a queer trans man that's dealt with this kind of internalized homophobia and transphobia, and I think that it's something that isn't talked enough about in the community as a whole. I don't pass, I just got my first masculine haircut two weeks ago, and I still experience some attraction to women, so I can't 100% relate. However, I too have struggled with the idea that there are only a select few people out there that would be willing to date a trans person even if they did pass, and worried that it would extend to other trans people as well. Being trans is like navigating a mental maze sometimes, and every time you think you see the exit, there's a gardener planting a thousand more giant hedges. But sometimes, the hedges grow roses, and you get to see how lovely their colors are and smell how lovely they smell. I hope that you're having a happy pride month, and thank you for making such a wonderful short film with such a strong and resonating message.
I hated myself more than society ever could, I called myself a freak, an abomination of god among other things.. I held so much hate for myself & im still disgusted by the person I used to be.. but I still feel that hate I held in my heart for most of my life in fleeting moments every once in a while. Im in a much better state of mind nowadays, happy pride!
I definitely understand your struggle. But seriously, what is “normal”? I’ve learnt that suppressing how you feel in the long run will make it a hell of a lot worse if you let it go on.... you’re only on this rock once 😉
You guys have all my support. Im proud of the ones who never stops being theirselves. The only thing that you got to worry is being happy. Dont matter how. Be strong.
Wow! That was a really powerful movie. I didn't see the surprise coming. You told an amazing story and I'm so glad I took the time to stop and ask you what your TH-cam channel was. I am even more glad that you were kind enough to respond. Cheers for that!
As a straight male I try to see the good in everyone these stories are so inspiring to watch. Trans people are just people trying to live their lives best they can.
My friend and I are only out to my family and several close friends. I had a student in my school last year that was going through the transgender. His family were very supportive of him but some teachers were not. But we had very strict bullying policies and as Dean of students I made sure all followed them.
This story kinda reminds me of a time when I dated this lovely man...who I didn't know was trans until our third date. It didn't matter to me, because not only was he damn fine, but he was intelligent as well and I simply grew to love him from the moment we met. My biggest regret is not telling him sooner how I felt. I still think of him.
Brilliant film Jake. This film has totally changed me and i see trans in a different way. I would be thankful to meet an honest, loving and caring trans guy.
That was a very informative short, though I was a bit confused by the rejection at the end. Then reading the comments below made me discover something I never really thought about, and a very very interesting human behaviour in that situation.
once a trans was asked, when did you decide to be gay or trans...the boy replied when you have decided to be not... The man said I am born the way I am...the boy smiled, ❤🔥💖
Yah, my mom thinks chest binding is this horrendous thing that’ll ruin my life. Like, to be honest. I don’t care. Let me bind my goddamn chest, or get my chest surgery! I’ll gladly pay for the binder, Hell, I’ll pay for new clothes and a new haircut too, just let me bind my fucking chest.
agreed, but you should also be somewhat self aware. chest binding is fine as long as you bind safely. you csnt just wear it 24/7 and ignore the risk, though.
this is such a slap to the face but so true, raw and beautiful in a way. as a trans dude ive had my fair share of insecurities when it comes to partners but even tho i havent come across a fellow trans dude whenever i think about it my stomach twists a bit, not because of disgust or anything that has to do with them but its mostly my self hatred and how much the idea of that triggers me which is stupid... they would understand me more than any other person and still.
Don’t be afraid to be your self !!! And fuck what people think about you! Be happy and love your self the way you are ( sorry for my english im from belgium)
I'm so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine. I hope you can stay safe and maybe one day go somewhere where you will find love and acceptance. Sending love.
This film is great! I learned a lot! I didn't know trans ppl would have problems with other trans ppl. (Hope I got this right) I hope we can change the society of our world faster so being ourselfs is normal! And we all can see how beautiful we are and be proud of ourselfs! And everyone will be respected!💜💜💜💜💜
i love people who are different and if u are different be who u are and dont care wut other people think and loved urself the way u are dont try to change not saying if ur a boy stay a boy just saying be trans! be gay be who ever u are or want to be
Working in the health care field ,I see nurse and residents and doctor that discriminate daily it may not be like this film with words,but rather a silent and just not check on patient as they would others. Going for my RN one year and hopefully can work someday with the LGBTQ community and lower income. This was a great film and maybe should be played in schools. Try to be as open and honest with someone you meet up with.
Mentally I'm at that point where Rocky is... Not that I have anything against any other trans guy, or think any of this about anyone else, but to me... I just want to feel normal. I can't see myself as normal. I'm struggling a lot, and I can't even see myself as likeable most days. It seems like everyone else around me sees me as a girl with a short haircut, as NOT normal... It's hard not to see anything but what they do.
Angelic Exo-L 6104 you just misgendered them. If you respect your sibling you’d refer to them correctly even when they aren’t around to hear it. If they’ve told you it doesn’t matter what you call them I promise they are catering to your needs and not taking care of their own. Don’t contribute to the problem
As a disability support worker at a Residential Support Service, there’s a client a 50 something year old (male) who lives there for the past 10 years or so as a cross dresser but for the last five years insisted that he’s a she despite not going for the surgery and hormone treatment. It’s sad that she can’t do that but or the younger generation I hope you can.
Wow I was so confused I didn’t understand why this was a trans short film for a while until they revealed the one guy was trans and then when the other guy turned out to be trans too?! I was blown away. They both pass so fucking well.
desperate/ruptured/cataclysmic/explosive/bracing! But seriously, having watched the film, it is a sensitive and realistic portrayal of a truly challenging subject.
Jake has been my role model for over a year now and dysphoria hits me pretty hard but I'm non-binary so I kindof get two way dysphoria, some days I want to grow my hair back out/get a wig and my male dysphoria hits harder but I still have that female dysphoria and I don't know what to do it's ripping me apart
PAL ME TOO. being genderfluid can be the absolute pits. i've started to wear more masculine "women's" clothes, which seems to be helping, and letting myself have more feminine mannerisms whenever i feel comfortable enough. i've also started dabbling in masculinising makeup, and i suspect a good wig will be next. it's so hard to know what's going to be good or bad! my inbox is open for you. there are a few facebook groups i can suggest, but please 100% know that you're not alone!
Honestly, i am what i am and what i am DEFINITELY needs NO EXCUSES. Ultimately it’s ALL about SELF LOVE and SELF ACCEPTANCE. Being in an absolute HONEST and FEARLESS relationship with myself arouses MY CONFIDENCE. That state of mind opens up every door to the outside... ready to love whoever i want to love... b.t.w., i’m perfectly straight! This world isn’t about how to fit in... it’s about creating your own amazing and unique true self! 1/Torpedoing and not accepting your own self is the worst scenario... change that attitude! 2/ Don’t let the world decide or force you to become someone you’re not! Don’t accept it! It’s your human right to be who you are! Love and support from Germany 🌈
He want to be seen as a normal person but when he knowing that the guy he likes were trans (same as him) he walk away cs he said he dont wanna be like him? I cant be more confuse than this
and maybe he was thinking that if he falls in love with another trans guy that would make him accept and love himself the way he is.. which is something that he never did before (because of all the hate he was used to receiving) and that scared him in a strange way.
Sometimes when you yourself are trans it can be harder to date someone else who is also trans because in a way you’re taking their worries and dysphoria with your own which in a way could make it worse or maybe it’s because he’s grown to have such a deep hatred for being trans that he doesn’t want to date someone whose trans
That was FUCKING AMAZING -- well written, brilliantly acted, I was deeply touched on a few occasions. Jake Graf (Adam, also the writer of this project) and Harry Rundle (Rocky) are very appealing, utterly convincing and don't at all feel like they're "acting." The weak spot in the film for me was the violence: there was no innovation in how to convey its message in a new way. I've seen non-gay films where the camera came in extremely close or shot from afar. That one scene felt like, "I've seen this before and hated it before."
Great story-telling Jake Graf. There's a story within a story, which I really enjoyed... confronting who we're attracted to when all of the labels are not in place. Very thought provoking...
![Connor & Oliver | Their full story (1/2) [HTGAWM]](/img/n.gif)
as a trans guy dating another trans guy, it isn't all bad,, a lot of people think that it will trigger someones dysphoria being with another trans guy but because i find so much comfort being with him its like none of that even matters whenever hes with me
@@Tom-cn4cm i'm bi, but if a dude is with a dude, there is nothing straight about that
T4t relationships are some of the best, I've been in one and it was honestly my best relationship
Thank you for sharing that with us. I was in tears after watching this short film and needed to know that it's not always like that. 💜
Ya some people can get dysphoric but it's also easier because then partners understand how they both feel and can usually help easier
to be honest i don't understand the perspective that being with another trans person would make someone dysphoric. i wanna empathize but i really don't get it. and even if it would cause some dysphoria, i feel that's literally nothing compared to the abuse and disrespect trans people can face on a daily basis trying to date cis people. at least if you get dysphoric your partner will understand the feeling. but if you date a cis person and your dysphoria kicks in, they will never quite know what it's like.
I understand. I think the problem with the trans community is that we grow to hate ourselves and each other. We're brainwashed by society and people into thinking that we're less, we're not normal, "freaks". Thus, we don't want to be part of the community, we refuse to accept ourselves and each other. And it sucks. Because we're valid, we're normal and we're not less worthy of love and respect than anyone on this planet. Great movie with great meaning. Thank you, sir.
You got me, you're right sir
Dream 20 EVERYONE deserves love, no matter their gender, race...WHATEVER...
I can’t even begin to think what people go thru who r ostracized, shown hate instead of luv. My heart goes out to each and every one of u.
It takes courage to b who u r sometimes...if only u were given support and luv on the way ....
Try not to live w/regrets. We need to tear off our shackles, embrace the new person we r striving to b and DONT look back.
We cannot live for other people. If u do, u will lose yourself in the mix.
I feel nowadays for every step we take forwards, we r taking ten steps back...
I don’t understand HATE, I never will. It sickens me. It turns a persons soul and nrg (energy) black like the moonless nights.
I pray all u tortured souls find peace, happiness and luv in your life and heart
Fr across the waters
Canada 🇨🇦
🐥🐥🐥hugs and all that stuff
@@GEGE-bx3fj Thank you so much ❤ I really needed this and your comment really brightened my day. Hate is what weak people use to feel powerful. I keep telling myself this.
Their hate doesn't define us. I know myself I'm a normal human being with dreams and I'm good and I deserve to be here. I won't let their hate erase my identity or my right to exist and to be happy.
Sending you much love and support. ❤
Dream 20 As dumb as this sounds, every day take time out to sit down, p/u a pen and write down what u r thankful
for. Even if it’s something s simple as taking THAT shower.
Slowly all these positive thoughts will start to override the negative emotions u r going thru.
I promise it works but a person needs to b diligent, stick w/it as it does take TIME for it to work .,.. (Depending on how far down the drain pipe u have traveled)
I luv your attitude. Keep telling yourself that u MATTER
Surround yourself w/friends who r your FRIENDS... they r the ones who will stick w/u no matter what. They ask for nothing in return ...
Whatever u r going thru I hope and pray u have the love and support of your family.
If u don’t, then they aren’t much of a family are they ???
It’s a child’s inherent wish to please their parents...however there comes a time when a child must take a stand and become their OWN person. We are not put here to please other people. That will cone naturally and w/grace if a person is shown luv and respect.
If we aren’t shown that, it turns to distrust, hate and all that’s negative...
A person can try and make amends but if it’s not accepted, don’t beat yourself up. U did your best, NOT them. Time to move on.
Don’t settle for anything less ... one day the right person will be there for u.
I keep saying this, but try not to live w/regrets...
Try and stay positive.
Be happy
Be well
Be at PEACE
fr across the waters
Canada 🇨🇦
🐥🐥🐥hugs and all that stuff
Dream 20 Thank you so much for the lovely comment!😊
You are normal in my eyes. Everyone is just human being.
FINALLY
is everyone seeing this, cause this is the the whole shitting truth right here
everyone is JUST a human being
but be warned...making mistakes, like judging, is also what makes us human
ŁUKASZ Fantini Yeah! Your the joke! XD
Everyone is human ya dingus
Thank you
@@deadbrew6867 u are garbage.
or being in-human
Being trans is the reason I don’t let myself date or get too close to friends. Everybody just leaves me in the end. It’s also why I HATE going to the doctors.
Bryce W. I was that way for years, but things will get better! There are good, loving people out there, and you just need to find them. Wishing you all the best man!
Bryce W. Aww
Wanna be trans friends?
Bryce W. How old are you
Bryce W. Same
My heart broke when Rocky said he wouldn’t want to be with a trans guy
dvp458 I understand that. I said I was sad about it, not that he was transphobic because of it. People can be sad if two people they shipped together don’t end up together. I was simply stating I was sad about it. I did not blame Rocky.
That nurse is one of the reasons i hate people knowing im trans.
You're still human
@@orangetheog Thankyou
Thats why i never tell any1 that im trans. Unless they ask it.
@@Daisy-pr5bj sadly that's for the best
My brother is trans and some nurses will treat him like shit, a dental assistant "forgot" to give him pain shots after she found out his name is Oliver, and not the name on his paperwork. Absolutely sickens me.
Finally a film that doesn't only talk about the exterior transformation.
A film that doesn't just talk about the society and how it accepts us.
It's a film that puts a mirror in front of our eyes as a community👏
It's a great film.
As a ftm person I feel like I have no character to identify with when I watch series or movies so thank you so much 🙏
th-cam.com/video/y1cC4KWFKuE/w-d-xo.html ,..
You are right, I didn't thought that this shows more than the exterior transformation... Also this film shows two uncommon things that I've never saw on a screen: Being trans and being gay at the same time.
Also shows the fear that We feel on the streets, the ridiculous discrimination We can see even on hospitals. You can see why so many lgbt+ people end up on drugs, bars and places alike, they give us refuge.
I am a teenage girl who is trans, I want to be a male, and I haven't told many people about this, and I want to feel accepted, and more people accept me than I do myself, so it feel good to know there are people just like me❤❤❤❤🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
@@gamerslove8227if you ever want to talk with some one I will be here for you
Finally a trans story! I just went through telling my mom and having her cry being her only daughter out of three kids but she accepts me and im so lucky. It's a constant struggle waking up every morning and being in a body that doesn't feel like you. The amount of times I have heard "it's a phase" is too many times. It isn't a phase, but it is who I am and who all of the other trans people are. I love this so much, amazing work!
sam langevin Thanks so much!
sam langevin they always say it’s just a phase
Like bitch please if it was I would be perfectly healthy and not stay up all night crying over my body and how I am not who I really am
You’re really lucky to be accepted by your mum, I’m really scared of telling people
@@boiledkettles6066 my friend ordered me a binder and my mom got to it before me and she yelled for me to come down stairs and when I did and I saw the binder on her lap I froze with fear,she then started to yell at me for the binder and her and her fiance said that that is something I ask them to buy but like I *would* IF I felt safe,loved,accepted,and supported by them but *NO* they know and have known for a *LONG TIME* that I am trans and I have had my friend tell my mom I'm trans but she still continues to buy me feminine clothing,deadname me,and misgender me and is so freaking annoying and I'm just so tired of it (this was 2 days ago) (12/7/20)
A very well payed short movie, touching, realistic and quite real. God some people don't have an easy life. Take care and thanks for sharing
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@@muchasgracias5527 AHAHHAHAHA TF THATS SO RANDOM BUT I LOVE IT
Nice pic
Nice 👌😊💋💋💋💋💋💋💋
For me as a Ftm Guy its still shocking how much even I get brainwashed that I think I am kinda freak...Thanks this Video remembered me to be confident and Be proud of my Trans Self...🏳️🌈
janeen2311 This is SO true!
Nah you're not a freak, people who think they are freaks in a negative way dont make sense to me
I'm glad you're proud of your amazing identity, at the end of the day we only have ourselves :)
When I get asked out, I always reject them. It's like I hate my body so much, It feels impossible for anyone to ever like it.
Taehyung's cat For Life I’m sure you’re beautiful
@@yeeyee8314 nahh but thanks
I relate 💯 percent
In the photo u look good
I reject it, bcuz I am unable to bind my chest. So, when a guy likes me, he doesn't even see me for myself. What's the point
English is not my mother tongue, I had difficult to understand but I still cried all along, I'm trans ftm.
same
Hi
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"I just wanna be normal"... define NORMAL. There is no such thing as 'normal'. Everybody IS as they are. Full stop. Great film that.
Pero Schmidt Normal is what we make it
As Morticia Addams said
"the spider's normal is the fly's chaos" normal is defined as common
Normal as in just blend in. Not be the one who stands out in a bad or “abnormal”way. When so much of the world is cis and binary...it is very difficult to even be a trans person who is trying to go with the binary flow. Anxiety and dysphoria make so many of us trans people not want to celebrate ourselves and how unique and more rare we are...as compared to cis binary types. So most of us spend far too much time just wanting to be looked over and blend in with the crowd. Not be on the receiving end of questioning and wondering looks that most of the time transform into fear and hate that can quickly turn into aggression. Too often being trans feels like wearing your deepest and darkest insecurities on a t-shirt and hoping no one laughs, points, looks disgusted, gets offended, turns mean or calls you out...in a public place.
Maybe what he/she was saying was the he wish he had not cut his.
&: THAT, me friend, is NORMAL!
I’m a cisgender girl watching on the recommendation of a trans friend. Thank you Jake for bringing these issues to light in such an eloquent way 💜
So Rocky is trans, but when he realises Adam is trans too he gets disgusted? Thi is sad :(
Self-hate is harder than homophobic fists.
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dang thats a twist. i need to stop reading the comment section before watching the video.
David Vanpatten an Ftm trans MAN who likes MEN would be considered gay.
@@bcbock some people aren't comfortable in a TLT relationship and that's okay
I am not a transgender guy, but I have a lot of sympathy and empathy for the beautiful people who are trans. I believe it is fair for me to call myself pansexual - in any case, I know it is important for all of us to know, experience and share authentic love. There is joy in such living. We all deserve that. None of us are freaks, rather people trying to live.
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Just a stranger on the internet, but much love and respect to you Steve! ❤
Interesting how you coin the term "fair" when referring to your sexual orientation, as if some might deem it as "unfair." If you're pan, you're pan. Truly nothing wrong with that label, my friend. It's totally "fair." 🙂
As a medical student, I find it so horrific that such transphobia exists in healthcare. Yes this story is fictional but it is my understanding that it sadly reflects real experiences of trans people. I promise to do better and speak out against such things when I qualify 💜
Great response!
Thank you
"i just want to be normal" famous last words
i relate so hard
it's tiring to try so hard to be normal all the time
Nice job... we need to change the world, tolerance, respect, compassion and comunication.
I'm all in with you, man, but I prefer 'acceptance' than 'tolerance' any day.
My first time watching a film about trans guys...I am so sad...how dare people treat them like this! Its crazy and not fair...
Yeah it's hard for trans guys especially gay ones because we get hated by the gay community coz we don't have a bio dick so some gay cis guys won't date us like it really sucks, I haven't watched the movie yet but I can already tell imma cry lol
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@@riverday4783 I did not know this! Why they treat you like this! I mean I respect you guys so much but gay guys have been through a lot. They should know for better how you feel...I hope from my deepest hearts for the they you guys be respected for who you are.🧡🧡🧡🧡
@@benjaminreyes3624 you are so right. But hating is a different matter. No one should be hated...not gay guys who I love a lot and respect them even more for they fought their way to be right here standing with their heads up(i know it is still hard but da...things are much better now) not even trans guys.
@@benjaminreyes3624 we aren't women. Just say 'I'm not into trans guys because I don't prefer vaginas' if you have to but saying we're women is just not based on biological evidence. Some trans guys have penises and no uteri, some cis women don't have uteri either. Intersex people are a thing.
And science is about keeping an open mind when presented with empirical data. Before we learned about germs, did they still exist? We learn more about biology, DNA and neurology more every year. I'd suggest you try to keep up.
The film left me wondering about myself and of others dealing with discrimination. I felt the pain, the hatred and feeling alone. Thank you for sharing your film.
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Damn, my daughter is trans. Is this what I have to look forward to? God, I hope not. She’s my beautiful baby boy trapped in the wrong body. I’m expecting the complete change within this year (2021). I’m excited for her, and love her to pieces! We’ve had many talks, and I’m so proud of her.
Education, education, education!!!
That’s the bottom line here.
For those in the back, GROW UP! Mind your own business!
Just a thought. 🙏
With your support and love, she’ll be just fine.😀❤️
Ma’am I do not wish to be rude, but as a pre transition trans male, um, you said “she’s my beautiful baby boy” you used female pronouns while speaking about your trans son, I don’t wish to be rude, I just wanted to point out the little mistake…
@@Seth-lq3uw Let's keep in mind this is a new experience for this person and they're trying very hard to be good and supportive and are watching things about the trans experience. Let's also keep in mind we don't know their child's preferences yet and that pronouns don't equal gender, and that their child may still want to use specific pronouns for now for various reasons we don't know. ❤
@@bandichree Ik, I was just using precaution, sorry if I offended anyone
Please support him/her I got harassed at school today and it wasn’t fun:(
It's so heartbreaking. I would like to hug any person who suffers from discrimination and hatred. We're all just human beings who deserve to be respected and loved. Stay strong.
That’s sad, everyone is entitled to be loved, we’re all human. The body is just a vessel, it’s the soul inside that counts.
Yes Peter......perfectly said
Lucky enough to have met Jake and his wife at Bloomberg Equality Summit this yr. Your story is really inspiring and I do hope you guys continue to spread LGBT awareness in the world.
Thanks buddy! Hope you're good. :)
Brilliant premise. Loved the film. So well acted and directed - in so short a film. I loved the witnessing that when people have chemistry - are attracted to each other - it doesn't matter who they are. So now the question is begged - will this chemistry - love - rise above their fears and bring them back together.
This film is great for educating cis folk, but as a gay trans guy it was just too triggering. The traumatic, soul-crushing moments could have really used balance with trans joy. That’s how we survive.
Dear god, yes. This is just like back when gay people in movies always died and never got a happy ending. Like when Brokeback Mountain was the best representation EVER. That's not quite what you said in your comment, I'm just adding to it because I, too, found it pretty triggering and now I sad for no good reason (as in there's nothing good being done by my feeling this way). And I'm an ftm married to a gay cis guy, feeling socially accepted - so how triggering would I find this if I were unhappily single?
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I am speechless. All I can say for now is that this is a beautiful film and needs to be seen. Thank you for creating such a powerful story.
Just watched this and this was an amazing short film... I was raised by loving everyone that comes into this earth no matter what your color, sexuality, or features are, so we need to spread out there that everyone is needing to treat everyone with respect and dignity. I applaud you for this film and looking forward to seeing more from you. Hugs and Love from Las Vegas
As a trans man this hits very close too home.
welp, as a closeted trans guy, this didnt exactly comfort me
but great movie!
This is such an incredible short film.
NeonPegasus Thanks so much!!😊
NeonPegasus i agree!
The nurse is the first time I've been exposed to hard core transphobia (lucky for me) and I was LIVID. I kept trying to convince myself that the actor didn't think that and it was just for the movie but the look on my face in the reflection of my brother's glasses when I looked at him in shock is one I will never forget
I've just re-watched it. It's so powerful and heartbreaking! I wish that one day, in the near future, everyone will be able to accept one another regardless of label society put on people, and above all, I wish that people will accept and love themselves for who they are! I love you Jake Graf Proud Ally here! 💙💟💙💟💙💟
I'm concerned
How can they go to the club so much? Bruh I can hardly leave my house once a week😂😂
el stupid You and me are the same
We are all !
I literally never leave my house unless I have too
Exactly! But now for spring bream ima go roller skating at least 2 times a week
Lmao during covid anyone leaving their house.
Honestly I don't understand that, why two trans guys freaking to each other instead of thinking "oh, I found a mate who exactly knows how it is to be trans", but really who do we wait for acceptance if even trans people are transphobic.
Absolutely beautiful piece of art. The acting👏👏👏. Honestly the troubles trans men go through isn't talked about enough, so this was wonderful. Hate crimes make my skin burn and wish I were superman to protect everyone. Really hope to see more trans masc representation in media🤞🥰
I'm a queer trans man that's dealt with this kind of internalized homophobia and transphobia, and I think that it's something that isn't talked enough about in the community as a whole. I don't pass, I just got my first masculine haircut two weeks ago, and I still experience some attraction to women, so I can't 100% relate. However, I too have struggled with the idea that there are only a select few people out there that would be willing to date a trans person even if they did pass, and worried that it would extend to other trans people as well. Being trans is like navigating a mental maze sometimes, and every time you think you see the exit, there's a gardener planting a thousand more giant hedges. But sometimes, the hedges grow roses, and you get to see how lovely their colors are and smell how lovely they smell. I hope that you're having a happy pride month, and thank you for making such a wonderful short film with such a strong and resonating message.
I hated myself more than society ever could, I called myself a freak, an abomination of god among other things.. I held so much hate for myself & im still disgusted by the person I used to be.. but I still feel that hate I held in my heart for most of my life in fleeting moments every once in a while. Im in a much better state of mind nowadays, happy pride!
I love this short film. It is short but deep about the trans' issue. Cheers, Jake Graf, for your history and acting.
this is my strugle, I just want to be normal. I can relate to them so much, sadly I'm not in a place I can come out yet.
I definitely understand your struggle. But seriously, what is “normal”? I’ve learnt that suppressing how you feel in the long run will make it a hell of a lot worse if you let it go on.... you’re only on this rock once 😉
Same
I hope you will, you have the right to be you! Love 😘
Rein know that no one is normal or perfect . your Imperfect is your strongest weapons.
itll be okay i promise ❤️😌
This is the best trans short film ive ever seen. And ive seen a lot. Great job!
monal Pattanaik Thanks so much!!
You guys have all my support. Im proud of the ones who never stops being theirselves.
The only thing that you got to worry is being happy. Dont matter how.
Be strong.
Thank you
Wow! That was a really powerful movie. I didn't see the surprise coming. You told an amazing story and I'm so glad I took the time to stop and ask you what your TH-cam channel was. I am even more glad that you were kind enough to respond. Cheers for that!
Thanks for watching, Tod!
I thought I recognised the very handsome Jake Graf! Well done - art is the very best way to explain, educate and inspire everyone for a better life!
Thanks so much!!😘
As a straight male I try to see the good in everyone these stories are so inspiring to watch. Trans people are just people trying to live their lives best they can.
This was so freaking awesome and compelling!!... Great acting too!!.. Thanks for the peek inside!!
Néli Nels Thanks so much for watching!😊
This was a great short. I'm a gay guy and I wouldn't have any issue with dating a trans guy.
He'd be Gay becuase the trans guy is a guy
My friend and I are only out to my family and several close friends. I had a student in my school last year that was going through the transgender. His family were very supportive of him but some teachers were not. But we had very strict bullying policies and as Dean of students I made sure all followed them.
This story kinda reminds me of a time when I dated this lovely man...who I didn't know was trans until our third date. It didn't matter to me, because not only was he damn fine, but he was intelligent as well and I simply grew to love him from the moment we met. My biggest regret is not telling him sooner how I felt. I still think of him.
Brilliant film Jake.
This film has totally changed me and i see trans in a different way.
I would be thankful to meet an honest, loving and caring trans guy.
probably the best trans short film on utube
Thank you so much!!
That was a very informative short, though I was a bit confused by the rejection at the end.
Then reading the comments below made me discover something I never really thought about, and a very very interesting human behaviour in that situation.
Let's hope that tomorrow is sooner than we dreamed of...
You Have no idea How Deep This Comment Hit Me...😢😢💗
Nice 😋💋💋
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once a trans was asked, when did you decide to be gay or trans...the boy replied when you have decided to be not... The man said I am born the way I am...the boy smiled, ❤🔥💖
Another AWESOME film. Thank you. Was wishing them stayed together though!!
This was well made. Sad ending. But I guess realistic. I can only imagine what Trans males go through.
Well made and acted. The tragedy here though are the haters. Love is love, no matter who you're with
Yah, my mom thinks chest binding is this horrendous thing that’ll ruin my life. Like, to be honest. I don’t care. Let me bind my goddamn chest, or get my chest surgery! I’ll gladly pay for the binder, Hell, I’ll pay for new clothes and a new haircut too, just let me bind my fucking chest.
agreed, but you should also be somewhat self aware. chest binding is fine as long as you bind safely. you csnt just wear it 24/7 and ignore the risk, though.
That’s a mood
this gave me goosebumps, Extremly powerful sceneries. Good Cast. Heavy Thematics covered in an understandfull way.
Thanks, that was a good one.
Thanks so much!!
Enjoyed it. Hope to see more Trans stories told by trans people in the culture. Keep 'em comin'!
This was a fantastic film. Beautiful acting, character development, and cinematography. Wonderful. Happy Pride! 💖🏳️🌈
T4T love is the most healing thing and it's so sad when someone hates themselves too much to experience it.
this is such a slap to the face but so true, raw and beautiful in a way. as a trans dude ive had my fair share of insecurities when it comes to partners but even tho i havent come across a fellow trans dude whenever i think about it my stomach twists a bit, not because of disgust or anything that has to do with them but its mostly my self hatred and how much the idea of that triggers me which is stupid... they would understand me more than any other person and still.
I'm scared to be myself
...me too
Don’t be afraid to be your self !!! And fuck what people think about you! Be happy and love your self the way you are ( sorry for my english im from belgium)
I understand that. But there are or will be people that love and accept you and i hope one day you will be one of those people
Big love and support to you ❤️
"i just wanna be normal.". yeah, me too.
being trans in saudi arabia is the worst. absolutely the worst.
I'm so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine. I hope you can stay safe and maybe one day go somewhere where you will find love and acceptance. Sending love.
This film is great! I learned a lot! I didn't know trans ppl would have problems with other trans ppl. (Hope I got this right)
I hope we can change the society of our world faster so being ourselfs is normal! And we all can see how beautiful we are and be proud of ourselfs! And everyone will be respected!💜💜💜💜💜
i love people who are different and if u are different be who u are and dont care wut other people think and loved urself the way u are dont try to change not saying if ur a boy stay a boy just saying be trans! be gay be who ever u are or want to be
Working in the health care field ,I see nurse and residents and doctor that discriminate daily it may not be like this film with words,but rather a silent and just not check on patient as they would others. Going for my RN one year and hopefully can work someday with the LGBTQ community and lower income. This was a great film and maybe should be played in schools. Try to be as open and honest with someone you meet up with.
Mentally I'm at that point where Rocky is... Not that I have anything against any other trans guy, or think any of this about anyone else, but to me... I just want to feel normal. I can't see myself as normal. I'm struggling a lot, and I can't even see myself as likeable most days. It seems like everyone else around me sees me as a girl with a short haircut, as NOT normal... It's hard not to see anything but what they do.
Ok! That male actor at the first’s acting is freaking good af!!!
thank you for this, from a queer trans man. art like this makes me feel seen, understood, and real. i hope you make more
They are both good and beautiful guys.. Adam has got agood accent
The film distressed me greatly, I canimagine how tough it is for a trans to be accepted. Lots of us fail there.
May God bless you, Jake!
So very insightful!
My elder sister is transgender and me, our parents and friends love & support him with all our hearts.
Angelic Exo-L 6104 you just misgendered them. If you respect your sibling you’d refer to them correctly even when they aren’t around to hear it. If they’ve told you it doesn’t matter what you call them I promise they are catering to your needs and not taking care of their own. Don’t contribute to the problem
As a disability support worker at a Residential Support Service, there’s a client a 50 something year old (male) who lives there for the past 10 years or so as a cross dresser but for the last five years insisted that he’s a she despite not going for the surgery and hormone treatment. It’s sad that she can’t do that but or the younger generation I hope you can.
Best film I've ever watched, I think this film is great. I mean I was so surprised with the twists. Just amazing!!!
Thanks so much! That means a lot. :)
Wow I was so confused I didn’t understand why this was a trans short film for a while until they revealed the one guy was trans and then when the other guy turned out to be trans too?! I was blown away. They both pass so fucking well.
Por fin alguien que me aclarara la película , no entendía ni mierda que pasaba, además la traducción de Google es muy mala.
desperate/ruptured/cataclysmic/explosive/bracing! But seriously, having watched the film, it is a sensitive and realistic portrayal of a truly challenging subject.
You should add subtitles. There are some things it's hard to understand, at least for me. English is not my mother language 🤪. But I love it!
Wow, this was very intense and very good.
Laughter Baru
The title says it all . Nice short movie ! ❤️
Jake has been my role model for over a year now and dysphoria hits me pretty hard but I'm non-binary so I kindof get two way dysphoria, some days I want to grow my hair back out/get a wig and my male dysphoria hits harder but I still have that female dysphoria and I don't know what to do it's ripping me apart
PAL ME TOO. being genderfluid can be the absolute pits. i've started to wear more masculine "women's" clothes, which seems to be helping, and letting myself have more feminine mannerisms whenever i feel comfortable enough. i've also started dabbling in masculinising makeup, and i suspect a good wig will be next. it's so hard to know what's going to be good or bad!
my inbox is open for you. there are a few facebook groups i can suggest, but please 100% know that you're not alone!
What does dysphoria mean?
Well done with this short film! 👏👏👏
wow, powerful message and excellently portrayed
Thanks so much! :)
Madelief Girl About to make a proof of concept short film for my feature! Stay tuned..!😉
Love this movie, thank you for making it
Honestly, i am what i am and what i am DEFINITELY needs NO EXCUSES. Ultimately it’s ALL about SELF LOVE and SELF ACCEPTANCE. Being in an absolute HONEST and FEARLESS relationship with myself arouses MY CONFIDENCE. That state of mind opens up every door to the outside... ready to love whoever i want to love... b.t.w., i’m perfectly straight! This world isn’t about how to fit in... it’s about creating your own amazing and unique true self! 1/Torpedoing and not accepting your own self is the worst scenario... change that attitude! 2/ Don’t let the world decide or force you to become someone you’re not! Don’t accept it! It’s your human right to be who you are! Love and support from Germany 🌈
You can't love someone else unless you love yourself first....
Can we have a full movie of this?!?! PLEASE!
He want to be seen as a normal person but when he knowing that the guy he likes were trans (same as him) he walk away cs he said he dont wanna be like him? I cant be more confuse than this
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and maybe he was thinking that if he falls in love with another trans guy that would make him accept and love himself the way he is.. which is something that he never did before (because of all the hate he was used to receiving) and that scared him in a strange way.
Sometimes when you yourself are trans it can be harder to date someone else who is also trans because in a way you’re taking their worries and dysphoria with your own which in a way could make it worse or maybe it’s because he’s grown to have such a deep hatred for being trans that he doesn’t want to date someone whose trans
It's not easy... I tried n trying lots... Only God n people like us know how much we struggle everyday
What a touching storyline, nicely portrayed and which throws up a lot of questions✌️
A great film featuring two beautiful men, who just happen to also be very normal.
So sad! I don't know why people have to lable everything. Can we not all just get along and let each other be what they want to be.
That was FUCKING AMAZING -- well written, brilliantly acted, I was deeply touched on a few occasions. Jake Graf (Adam, also the writer of this project) and Harry Rundle (Rocky) are very appealing, utterly convincing and don't at all feel like they're "acting."
The weak spot in the film for me was the violence: there was no innovation in how to convey its message in a new way. I've seen non-gay films where the camera came in extremely close or shot from afar. That one scene felt like, "I've seen this before and hated it before."
Great story-telling Jake Graf. There's a story within a story, which I really enjoyed... confronting who we're attracted to when all of the labels are not in place. Very thought provoking...
👀👀 this was so powerful my like ugh 💔😭 I cried
Omg, I can not thank you enough for this....bless you....
Brutally real, excellent acting and damn Rocky is cute . Bravo for this film !
Pls write someone Russian or English subtitles. Auto-generated comments are bad