Something I believe that was left out in what men are searching for... At 55 yo and seeing the changes here in the US in the past 2 decades, I think most men would just like to be seen. Acknowledged. There is also a lack of appreciation for what men bring. I'm not speaking for everyone of course, but it's a widespread reality these days.
What I've learned throughout my life, as an educated man who has dated women from various educational backgrounds, is that less educated women tend to be more easygoing. Based on my dating experiences, I've observed that the more educated a woman is, the more intellectual she becomes. She tends to intellectualize her life, her feelings, her sexuality, and virtually everything else. This intellectualization makes her less likely to let things go, which can create challenges in romantic relationships, particularly in matters of intimacy. I haven't noticed the same pattern with men, who can often be easygoing regardless of their status or intellectual background. While I can't say definitively that intellect always prevents a woman from being physical, it does seem to play a significant role. This tendency also extends to daily life, where highly educated women sometimes draw unexpected and questionable conclusions about random matters. As a result, I've become less inclined to date highly educated women, despite my appreciation for deep conversations.
Educated Filipinas in the big cities do tend to be westernized, and do have that mind set. They are looking for a guy that "brings more to the table", than they do. Also many women are resentful when they earn more than their partner. They do not realize that one of the reasons that they have been able to do so well is due to the fact that, in addition to their ambition and hard work, it is their partners support has allowed them the opportunity to advance. Instead of appreciating what was done to help them, there is anger.
I have some friendly disagreements/differences of opinion with Maya and Gio about this topic: - It doesn't matter to me if a woman has/makes more money than me. It doesn't factor in one way or another to whether I want to be with her. This is a source of irritation for western women because they think being a lawyer or a physical therapist or whatever is some huge selling point...but I couldn't care less. 🤷♂️ In my mind, their career is no more valuable than an unemployed woman's unemployment. It is THE WEALTHY WOMAN who is going to be bothered by the fact that she has/makes more money than I do. - There are PLENTY of "leftover women" in the Philippines if we define that term to mean "single women 35 and older." The dating sites are full of them. From what I have seen, the main reasons expats may want younger women are 1. The older women haven't maintained their appearance (most don't look like Shay from "Shay Wonders"). Since men are attracted most by beauty, why would they pick a woman who is overweight? 2. The older women have had time to have several kids whereas younger women are likely to have only one or two. - Maya paints a too rosy picture of Filipinas as a whole. I have seen a lot of Filipinas interviewed (including on this channel) who spout the same "strong, independent woman" and "single mothers are amazing!" nonsense that has led to the complete collapse of male-female relationships in the west. The feminist mind virus has been spread to the Philippines via social media and movies, but because those mediums call it "progress", Filipinas don't recognize it for what it is. If things don't turn around, expats will no longer come to the Philippines for a wife because the women there will be no different than the man-hating, selfie-taking women in the west.
I saw a video of this Vlogger in China and he was at some kind of huge public gathering for girls and their families trying to find husbands. A few people he talked to first thing they asked was how much money do you make and how much assets do you have. I think China has become super materialistic. Maybe it is the same principal, if you want a good Chinese girl you have to go to their Provinces.
I have only just discovered this whole Filipina thing over the last couple of weeks. It is amazing how traditional many of the women there seem. I love it and it gives me joy and hope!
You missed the biggest point. There are simply not opportunities for Filipinas to make boatloads of cash, therefore no temptation. I think if you gave a Filipina a chance to make hundreds of thousands or millions of dollars per year pursuing a career, the temptation would be too much to ignore. Case in point: look at Filipina Pea. She’s one of the rare Filipinas who gives up all of her time to pull in probably 250 grand per year. She’s voluntarily & willingly headed to leftover woman land. My nephew who makes 80 grand once asked my why I work so much. I replied “if you had the chance to make $1M/year by working 80 hours a week, would you dive in?” Absolutely yes, he replied. Now he understands…
Low hanging fruit, left over women, etc., etc. have always been a part of the equation here. Come one, come all, providers and 'pay piggies.' It's worse these days because the 'left over' women are starting to overvalue themselves due to social media: "You go girl!" Meanwhile, many guys are catching on, and starting to realize that putting on that stepdad cape is much more costly (not just in terms of money) in many ways. Even so, not to worry there is no shortage of older beta men, willing to step in and save the day.
The problem I have dating Filipinas is a woman leaves her family to become ONE with her man, NOT the man becoming one with her family. The package deal is a toxic trend that most foreigners aren't aware of. Supporting a whole family is the most ridiculous financial abuse and having people interfere in one's relationship is a deal breaker. Not to mention unannounced visits and uninvited guests to come freeload is disrespectful and insensitive. A man should have his culture honored not the other way around.
Awww I think it depends on perspectives, leftovers for others but a treassure to others 😊😊😊 find someone that see your worth, see your value and prioritize you no matter what. Thank you for this amazing topic Maya & Gio 🎉
Japanese and Chinese women don't count. I have seen lots of videos where they say that they won't take a man who doesn't own two houses, have a US$250K income, and isn't over 6 feet tall. Gio is right. We need to be needed. I am retiring soon because of that. Maybe you'll see me!
According to the PSA (Philippines statistics authority) median age, and 35% of filipinas get married at age 27. At age 35, it drops to 6%. Yes there are leftovers in PH. Another fact is that 49% of women here are single.
I want to feel like I have a partner, NOT a competitor.There has to be a contribution to the relationship, on the part of both parties. If I have to bring something to the table, and I have to bring the table, and I have to bring the house in which the table resides, why do I need you sitting at the table?
I agree that being married to a Filipina is great. I had met a Filipina online who was 8 years younger than me. Who had to leave college after her first year due to a lack of financial means. I went to visit her in the Philippines, where one of my Filipino friends introduced me to a friend of his daughter who was 20 years my junior with a teacher's degree. They were both very attractive woman for their ages. My friend attempted to get me to switch partners. My having a Masters degree didn't influence my staying with the woman closer to my age i just found more in common with her. Either Filipinas make wonderful and caring wives.
Nice video Maya - something that women in many countries need to think about. You only have one life to live. Prioritize the things in life that really matter. Being content with a family is a much better option than being rich and having a career and lonely.
On a hopeful note, I think we're starting to see a change in life priorities in the West. Hopefully in the next 10 to 20 years, as the Philippines westernizes, what the West is will change to have more traditional values.
I'm an American. My perspective is a little different. I prefer to accept a woman on her terms. If I make a lot of money and she also values her own career and doesn't want to give it up, why would I want her to? I value our happiness and fulfillment, not just my own. A traditional or non-traditional relationship is not a criteria for me in terms of who I would date or pursue a relationship with.
My age appropriate wife of 10+ years is from Cebu. We reside in NE Texas. She has a degree,speaks 4 languages,etc. Key to our success is age appropriate since we live in the USA. Maybe if I had moved to PI a much younger wife would have worked but my wife is the best so I ain't looking for a change.
I would just like to say thanks again for both of your Vlogs. Having been following you for over three years now and have help me understand my girlfriend and now wife....
I look at emotional stability, emotional maturity, emotional security, emotionally available and optimistic number one. I only date college educated women. These qualities are similar to me. Vietnamese younger women are number one for me. Very different than Filipinas. Much less drama and the culture is very different than in the Philippines that contribute to a healthy relationship
I personally would like to see either divorce or an easier path to annulment for these women who have been separated for years. They are wonderful wives that have been abandoned and an expat would love to have them in their lives. Congress has passed it and the senate has put it to the side for now but Marcos has indicated that he would sign it if it was approved by the senate. A Filipina who is 30 or older who isn't married with children is considered an old maid and has lost her honor. A married woman who is abandoned is a woman who has had their honor taken away from them and their children.
It’s an interesting conversation to have; I hate to generalize about men or women on any subject because we’re all different in so many ways; as for me, I don’t care how much money my lady makes nor how educated she is; what matters to me is do we connect and have good chemistry, is she loyal, faithful and honest, is she family oriented, does she prefer the simple things in life and is not materialistic, does she have a positive attitude and is she consistent and predictable in her moods and is she kind and considerate of others; I’m sure there are other traits as well but these are the things that are very important to me.
I wouldn’t mind if a woman made more money than me. However, it’s a non issue because, generally, I’m invisible to women who make more money. So ultimately, it doesn’t matter how I feel about this issue.
My fiancé might have been considered a leftover Filipina. I wanted her because I was wanting a mature woman. One I can and she can relate to. That we can share our heart with each other. I never even heard the term “leftover” until months after I knew she was the one. I feel we are both very lucky. We met on Christian Filipina. We were both about to close our accounts. Then I saw her picture….for the second time! We chatted before, but at that time I was being asked for money from so many. She is everything I wanted and she wanted. I hope when I move to the Philippines in December we have the opportunity to meet both of you guys. Blessings
I can care less if a woman makes more than me. If the woman I'm with has career aspirations, I'm supporting her so she can achieve her goals. If she wants to be a housewife, that's fine also. Either path is fine as long as we both make time for the relationship. And social media is changing women all over the world. They all have FB, IG, TikTok, OnlyFans, Snapchat, etc. Western values and influence is spreading; I think the Philippines will be very westernized in 3-4 years, especially in the larger cities (BGC, Makati, etc).
What a sad word "leftover women". The Filipina I am going to meet in August is 35. She does not have kids and has never been married. She is not a career girl and live in the province. She is beautiful and a very kind woman.
I can be a good provider. I can be unselfish in my decision making. I can remain calm in the Face of adversity. I can handle all the worries and problems that come from outside the home. In return , I do not wish to live with a contentious woman.
Im 55 met my girlfriend when I was in my late 40s. She is 9 years younger than me and I found that very attractive. I could never date a woman 1/2 my age or whatever. It just feels strange to me. I’m sure there are many men that feel the same. But I can say that my girlfriend is in amazing shape and takes care of her appearance. I could care less where she works. It’s not important to me .
Social media has really changed the world forever. Best advice I can give is get a woman that is not on it, doesn’t talk to guys, and not a single mother. Preferably religious or a virgin. And of course someone honest. Also from a good big family might be good as well.
In China it's also divorced women who are considered as a leftover women. I dated 2 younger Chinese women here in the USA. One in her 30's who was widowed and one in her 40's who was divorced. I'm 66. Both mentioned they were considered a leftover women. Chinese divorce is on the uptick big time...as for money status...yes men here in the USA could care less about what a women makes. ...Gio is spot on that...but he is too far removed from the USA now about wanting to be the bread winner. Unfortunately these days for the most part both the men and women have to work now in the USA just to pay the bills...the best marriages and relationships here are where the man and women are working towards each other as issues arise...there are still excellent man/women relationships here...a better than average job for the women here helps but I agree a women attorney may have what we call a boss babe mentality...and this is where relationships here do break down as rolls become blurred and confused...hypergamy is also on the upswing in the USA with at now about 50% of the women believing in it especially with younger women...it's real tough with the younger women here very much about the $$$ a man makes...and quite delusional as well.....I experience from both Chinese women I dated that they were very dialed in on the money aspect of what men have to offer...as for Filipinas one could make a case that the married but separated Filipina is a leftover women. Their limited in their men choices and without divorce....at best living with another man as bf/gf but both under risk...especially for a foreigner man. As for Asian women partners for western men the Filipinas speaking English gives the Filipina a big edge! One of the Chinese women I dated was very poor in English. A dead-end relationship.....on another topic there is a huge amount of men in the USA...mostly older men but even some younger men that have checked out of the dating game going solo!...between their dating/living experiences with women....their work...their friends...and other reasons they've put dating on their backburner for now. Thanks for sharing.
I think there are many leftover Filipinas because I have met several that were the eldest of a large family where they went OfW to provide for their younger siblings to go to school and college. At the end they are typically too old for marriage and families of their own.
I think it is 27 and above in mainland China. Part of their problem is demands for bride prices, homes put in their names, cars put in their names, total control of their own income AND their husbands, etc. So the male Chinese said they don't need to swallow such good deals.
No, Maya some of them will fall through the cracks and become leftover women. Most men do not want women in there 30s. Look on the dating sites. There are a lot of Filipinas in their 30s on the dating sites 🤔
Being a consumer of content regarding the Philippines, it is being said that the "leftover women" culture is starting to creep into the society of the Philippines. It's a fact that women are dominating the job market and higher education. Therefore, most Filipino guys are considered "dating down" economically. Another issue that is starting to really take effect is the huge number of single mothers. Many men are not interested in a woman with kids from a previous relationship. Then, you also have to take into consideration the absence of divorce, which is a real problem for relationships. Most men will not be in a relationship with a married woman for legal and moral reasons. So the number of women without a partner is rising. Technically, married women and single mothers aren't considered "leftover women" by definition, but they also "muddy the waters" in the dating pool. I can't say that I know this to be factual, but it is being talked about. The Philippines may start dealing with the "leftover women" issue in the very near future.
Sorry leftover women are in Philippines too. ( or its coming) I m 56 yo Australian guy and omg the amount of women 40-70 on filipina dating sites, and CF Christian filipina is the worst for that. I don't want a woman in their 50's and so many my age and older message me. And the family orientated is a bit false becoz most filipinas on dating sites are single mom's. I dont wanna date a 28 with 2-3 kids. Which is daily , my experience. I m on the sites. , but spent lot of time " boots on the ground" in Philippines . So you guys being married don't see it.. it's coming there. T he more independent and pro education they become... I see so many filipinas with degrees and never use them.
Catalogs are NOT MAIL ORDER BRIDES. I met my wife thru one last century, but we communicated at length before I flew there. Mail order brides are women who were literally that, ordered, and went out west.
The Philippines may be poor in money, however, "rich" in life and character !!! America may be rich in money, however, severely "poor" in life and character !!! I know this for a fact, because I have perspective living in Cebu City for 2 years now, moving from "Shithole" / "Hellhole" California where Love is non existent...
Since I know that Americans have been stabbed in China and I don't want to deal with the CCP, I don't think that as an American I would date Chinese girls. I have also seen news reports about China interfering with the Philippines Coast Guard and its waterways. Therefore, I would fly to a less conversational nation like the Philippines to see if I can meet someone there. If so, we may travel to South Korea, Japan, or other parts of the world.
Hey Gio & Maya, It’s me Pete, another great blog. I agree with 90% of everything you shared. Maya, if you’re talking about really “old school” men, who have that extremely old fashioned tradition of women belonging in the kitchen, barefoot & pregnant, it’s what really “old fashioned, old school” men want, in a Filipina. I’m sure there are a lot of men like me, that would prefer a woman like 🫠Maya🫠. Although you are young, you’re very intelligent, and can hold your own, in any conversation. Also, I believe you make your “own” money, in your work from home business. A woman like you, but in her mid 50’s to early 60’s, is the “only” woman for me, 😎😉❤️. Gio, you, and I were both stationed in Germany. You near Heidelberg, and I, right across from the Frankfurt airport, at Rhine Main Air Base. The Italian philosophy, is also the same in Germany, and probably throughout Europe. Germans don’t live to work, they work to live, 😎😉❤️.
IMO, The amount of single moms in the PI will ensure a whole slew of women will age alone, and hence will be 'leftover' unless some simp saves them by wifing them up and raising another man's DNA. It's survival there too, so can't really blame the women for hitting up the easy targets. Guys that intend to marry--a mistake in today's world--should go for single no kids women under the age of 30. Otherwise just date, stay free, and enjoy your peace and quiet.
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me I will not want a lady that will not work 40 hours a week at some job. If she is able to make more money than me more power to her
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Most women who want a career value the attention and money that brings. It has nothing to do with feeling emasculated for me. A career woman doesn't value family and values her husband less! A guaranteed recipe for eventual divorce. I have never seen a career woman who has not eventually cheated. No I'm not bitter... just observant.
Traditionally both men and women don’t have much. In the west and in china the culture has changed the focus to the person who has more money has more power in relationships. That’s improper. I believe that the order in the family should be God, Husband, Wife and then Children. This was the order set up by God but the west has replaced Gods principles with the love of money. Women and men are capable of earning lots of money and that has confused many people. Also men don’t necessarily want a woman that is needy. Most men want a woman that values him and their family. It’s more about traditional values rather than money.
As long as you can speak to each other in one language, I'd say that's education enough. Career ?, I've never been with a lady who wanted a career, even though some has had lots of education, in the west that is, their focus was usually to have family and kids, not to climb "the corporate ladder". My ex wanted to be a housewife again prior to our divorce, even though our kids were approaching their teens. Now, I was the breadwinner, but at the time we needed her income too, due to all our commitments, like our house, car, etc. I remember I told her to keep working, even though she was quite uneasy with the job she had. She said some of the other ladies who worked there were quite mean to her,. In those days, women who treated each other badly in the workplace wasn't all that unusual, at least not in my home country. Well, maybe needless to say, that didn't end well 😆
Different view and experienced respectfully. Asian women, Thai, Filipina, Vietnamese, Korean, hit their peak looking-wise in their 30's, they're much more attractive, way more beautiful. Also, their maturity and shape of their bodies are more beautiful into their 30's hitting their baby making peak. And the confidence, emotional/mental maturity also can shine through past 30, that adds to the way they carry themselves and look. They're more picky, not naïve, and smarter, so most the 30 year old's, are not diving after any Expat or Filipino in desperation, so they're harder to find and land. They're the prize whereas the younger one's are a dime a dozen, and there's another $1.20 of them on the next block. Just about any hot Filipina that's taken, married, or settled down is the one's we see in the TH-cam videos with the Expats or MotoVlogs, are the 30+ year old's. They've all been scooped up and hard to find. Not throw-a way's, the prize men are searching for, because those are the long term partners that the relationship works with. Younger, are just temporaries and they're all the same. If this is pertaining to Expats, 18,000,000 single Filipinas from ages 18-40, and estimated 150,000 Expats. This is single, never married, Filipinas. There are also many beautiful, awesome single Mother Filipinas with a child out there also not included in the 18M. Majority of Filipinas, 40,000,000 are married or have boyfriends, are single Mom's, or not adults yet. To add, Philippines is an extremely young population, average age in PH is 25.7 years, with males at 25.1 years and females at 26.3, which makes that choice gold prize of a 30 year old even more special and hard to find. Just my view and way of thinking. And I dismiss the hundreds of younger Filipinas until I came across a valued 30+ year old. Just in my experience, it seems to be about 100:1 20 year old's contacts vs. the rare 30 year old's available. Maybe different for others, and just what I've experienced.
Something I believe that was left out in what men are searching for... At 55 yo and seeing the changes here in the US in the past 2 decades, I think most men would just like to be seen. Acknowledged. There is also a lack of appreciation for what men bring. I'm not speaking for everyone of course, but it's a widespread reality these days.
What I've learned throughout my life, as an educated man who has dated women from various educational backgrounds, is that less educated women tend to be more easygoing. Based on my dating experiences, I've observed that the more educated a woman is, the more intellectual she becomes. She tends to intellectualize her life, her feelings, her sexuality, and virtually everything else. This intellectualization makes her less likely to let things go, which can create challenges in romantic relationships, particularly in matters of intimacy.
I haven't noticed the same pattern with men, who can often be easygoing regardless of their status or intellectual background. While I can't say definitively that intellect always prevents a woman from being physical, it does seem to play a significant role. This tendency also extends to daily life, where highly educated women sometimes draw unexpected and questionable conclusions about random matters.
As a result, I've become less inclined to date highly educated women, despite my appreciation for deep conversations.
good post
Educated Filipinas in the big cities do tend to be westernized, and do have that mind set. They are looking for a guy that "brings more to the table", than they do.
Also many women are resentful when they earn more than their partner. They do not realize that one of the reasons that they have been able to do so well is due to the fact that, in addition to their ambition and hard work, it is their partners support has allowed them the opportunity to advance. Instead of appreciating what was done to help them, there is anger.
Man want peace in the relationship
I confess to loving the retro 1960 Filipina attitude towards relationships.
It’s only retro to us to them. It’s a way of life.
Universally- i think men are looking for ‘respect’ and women ‘love’
Yes that's it. I'm tired of being disrespected. Love and respect.
I have some friendly disagreements/differences of opinion with Maya and Gio about this topic:
- It doesn't matter to me if a woman has/makes more money than me. It doesn't factor in one way or another to whether I want to be with her. This is a source of irritation for western women because they think being a lawyer or a physical therapist or whatever is some huge selling point...but I couldn't care less. 🤷♂️ In my mind, their career is no more valuable than an unemployed woman's unemployment. It is THE WEALTHY WOMAN who is going to be bothered by the fact that she has/makes more money than I do.
- There are PLENTY of "leftover women" in the Philippines if we define that term to mean "single women 35 and older." The dating sites are full of them. From what I have seen, the main reasons expats may want younger women are
1. The older women haven't maintained their appearance (most don't look like Shay from "Shay Wonders"). Since men are attracted most by beauty, why would they pick a woman who is overweight?
2. The older women have had time to have several kids whereas younger women are likely to have only one or two.
- Maya paints a too rosy picture of Filipinas as a whole. I have seen a lot of Filipinas interviewed (including on this channel) who spout the same "strong, independent woman" and "single mothers are amazing!" nonsense that has led to the complete collapse of male-female relationships in the west. The feminist mind virus has been spread to the Philippines via social media and movies, but because those mediums call it "progress", Filipinas don't recognize it for what it is. If things don't turn around, expats will no longer come to the Philippines for a wife because the women there will be no different than the man-hating, selfie-taking women in the west.
I saw a video of this Vlogger in China and he was at some kind of huge public gathering for girls and their families trying to find husbands. A few people he talked to first thing they asked was how much money do you make and how much assets do you have. I think China has become super materialistic. Maybe it is the same principal, if you want a good Chinese girl you have to go to their Provinces.
@@franky3231 women all over the world are attracted to things we already know: looks, money, status. Doesn't matter which countries they are from.
@Franky3231
Sorry to inform you, but, Chinese have always been highly focused on social status ie.monetary.
I have only just discovered this whole Filipina thing over the last couple of weeks. It is amazing how traditional many of the women there seem. I love it and it gives me joy and hope!
You missed the biggest point. There are simply not opportunities for Filipinas to make boatloads of cash, therefore no temptation. I think if you gave a Filipina a chance to make hundreds of thousands or millions of dollars per year pursuing a career, the temptation would be too much to ignore. Case in point: look at Filipina Pea. She’s one of the rare Filipinas who gives up all of her time to pull in probably 250 grand per year. She’s voluntarily & willingly headed to leftover woman land. My nephew who makes 80 grand once asked my why I work so much. I replied “if you had the chance to make $1M/year by working 80 hours a week, would you dive in?” Absolutely yes, he replied. Now he understands…
She has a boy friend as of late.
@@madrugade8242 Pea has a man, but if she didn’t… I would probably be quite willing to take his place.
You do know the Pea has a foreign boyfriend.
Great topic Maya. The term "strong independent women" is a deal breaker for most men of any nationality but especially Western men.
Low hanging fruit, left over women, etc., etc. have always been a part of the equation here. Come one, come all, providers and 'pay piggies.' It's worse these days because the 'left over' women are starting to overvalue themselves due to social media: "You go girl!" Meanwhile, many guys are catching on, and starting to realize that putting on that stepdad cape is much more costly (not just in terms of money) in many ways. Even so, not to worry there is no shortage of older beta men, willing to step in and save the day.
The problem I have dating Filipinas is a woman leaves her family to become ONE with her man,
NOT the man becoming one with her family.
The package deal is a toxic trend that most foreigners aren't aware of.
Supporting a whole family is the most ridiculous financial abuse and having people interfere in one's relationship is a deal breaker.
Not to mention unannounced visits and uninvited guests to come freeload is disrespectful and insensitive.
A man should have his culture honored not the other way around.
Awww I think it depends on perspectives, leftovers for others but a treassure to others 😊😊😊 find someone that see your worth, see your value and prioritize you no matter what. Thank you for this amazing topic Maya & Gio 🎉
So true! Thanks for watching ☺️💓
Japanese and Chinese women don't count. I have seen lots of videos where they say that they won't take a man who doesn't own two houses, have a US$250K income, and isn't over 6 feet tall.
Gio is right. We need to be needed. I am retiring soon because of that. Maybe you'll see me!
According to the PSA (Philippines statistics authority) median age, and 35% of filipinas get married at age 27. At age 35, it drops to 6%. Yes there are leftovers in PH. Another fact is that 49% of women here are single.
You mean single moms
I want to feel like I have a partner, NOT a competitor.There has to be a contribution to the relationship, on the part of both parties.
If I have to bring something to the table, and I have to bring the table, and I have to bring the house in which the table resides, why do I need you sitting at the table?
I agree that being married to a Filipina is great. I had met a Filipina online who was 8 years younger than me. Who had to leave college after her first year due to a lack of financial means. I went to visit her in the Philippines, where one of my Filipino friends introduced me to a friend of his daughter who was 20 years my junior with a teacher's degree. They were both very attractive woman for their ages. My friend attempted to get me to switch partners. My having a Masters degree didn't influence my staying with the woman closer to my age i just found more in common with her. Either Filipinas make wonderful and caring wives.
Very interesting discussion,we see that's very complicated to date sometimes,many variants, thanks.
These older guys need to quit with the, "Men want to be providers" talk. Those guys get screwed over too much.
Maya, if you ask him a question it would be nice to hear his answer without you constantly cutting him off 😢
Nice video Maya - something that women in many countries need to think about. You only have one life to live. Prioritize the things in life that really matter. Being content with a family is a much better option than being rich and having a career and lonely.
A woman is a fertility object . And a man is a security object.
Good info, thanks for sharing!😀
A lot of of us prefer Filipino women because their traditional way of life and thinking it’s really that simple relationship wise
Thanks for the topic Maya and Gio . Enjoyed it . Great t shirt 😂Gio
On a hopeful note, I think we're starting to see a change in life priorities in the West. Hopefully in the next 10 to 20 years, as the Philippines westernizes, what the West is will change to have more traditional values.
Maya? Tell Gio I like his shirt, where can I get one?
I'm an American. My perspective is a little different. I prefer to accept a woman on her terms. If I make a lot of money and she also values her own career and doesn't want to give it up, why would I want her to? I value our happiness and fulfillment, not just my own. A traditional or non-traditional relationship is not a criteria for me in terms of who I would date or pursue a relationship with.
Social media ruined the relationship.
My age appropriate wife of 10+ years is from Cebu. We reside in NE Texas. She has a degree,speaks 4 languages,etc. Key to our success is age appropriate since we live in the USA. Maybe if I had moved to PI a much younger wife would have worked but my wife is the best so I ain't looking for a change.
I would just like to say thanks again for both of your Vlogs. Having been following you for over three years now and have help me understand my girlfriend and now wife....
I'm glad Gio didn't move back to the states
I look at emotional stability, emotional maturity, emotional security, emotionally available and optimistic number one. I only date college educated women. These qualities are similar to me. Vietnamese younger women are number one for me. Very different than Filipinas. Much less drama and the culture is very different than in the Philippines that contribute to a healthy relationship
I hope you're not talking about lib colleges in the US. Gross.
I personally would like to see either divorce or an easier path to annulment for these women who have been separated for years. They are wonderful wives that have been abandoned and an expat would love to have them in their lives. Congress has passed it and the senate has put it to the side for now but Marcos has indicated that he would sign it if it was approved by the senate. A Filipina who is 30 or older who isn't married with children is considered an old maid and has lost her honor. A married woman who is abandoned is a woman who has had their honor taken away from them and their children.
It’s an interesting conversation to have; I hate to generalize about men or women on any subject because we’re all different in so many ways; as for me, I don’t care how much money my lady makes nor how educated she is; what matters to me is do we connect and have good chemistry, is she loyal, faithful and honest, is she family oriented, does she prefer the simple things in life and is not materialistic, does she have a positive attitude and is she consistent and predictable in her moods and is she kind and considerate of others; I’m sure there are other traits as well but these are the things that are very important to me.
Great video very informative.
I wouldn’t mind if a woman made more money than me. However, it’s a non issue because, generally, I’m invisible to women who make more money. So ultimately, it doesn’t matter how I feel about this issue.
Gio, I want a shirt like that!
Gio does have good sense of humor
Hell yeah, I was going to comment on that shirt as well !
Yes Maya...Christianfilipina is very good... BUT I HAVE A SERIUS PROBLEM, my list is 211 beautiful woman now🤩🤔🤔
yayyy 😅
Wow, gonna interview Gio again- great I guess.
My fiancé might have been considered a leftover Filipina. I wanted her because I was wanting a mature woman. One I can and she can relate to. That we can share our heart with each other. I never even heard the term “leftover” until months after I knew she was the one. I feel we are both very lucky. We met on Christian Filipina. We were both about to close our accounts. Then I saw her picture….for the second time! We chatted before, but at that time I was being asked for money from so many. She is everything I wanted and she wanted. I hope when I move to the Philippines in December we have the opportunity to meet both of you guys. Blessings
Mail order catalogs, Gio? Was return shipping included?
I meant mail order brides obviously 🙄
in the Philippines also
Ging is probably taken she is no leftover she is young , beautiful , sexy with no kids
Leftover women are the same in ANY country. Women over the age of 30 and women who have children already regardless of their age.
I can care less if a woman makes more than me. If the woman I'm with has career aspirations, I'm supporting her so she can achieve her goals. If she wants to be a housewife, that's fine also. Either path is fine as long as we both make time for the relationship. And social media is changing women all over the world. They all have FB, IG, TikTok, OnlyFans, Snapchat, etc. Western values and influence is spreading; I think the Philippines will be very westernized in 3-4 years, especially in the larger cities (BGC, Makati, etc).
What a sad word "leftover women". The Filipina I am going to meet in August is 35. She does not have kids and has never been married. She is not a career girl and live in the province. She is beautiful and a very kind woman.
If you get to the PH and three 24 year old girls ask you out, you may change your mind..
My very best wishes to you my man. Hope it works out!
It's not too late for them! I married a filipina who was 41 years old when we married. I was 47. I like it that she's close to my age.
I can be a good provider. I can be unselfish in my decision making. I can remain calm in the Face of adversity. I can handle all the worries and problems that come from outside the home. In return , I do not wish to live with a contentious woman.
Im 55 met my girlfriend when I was in my late 40s. She is 9 years younger than me and I found that very attractive. I could never date a woman 1/2 my age or whatever. It just feels strange to me.
I’m sure there are many men that feel the same. But I can say that my girlfriend is in amazing shape and takes care of her appearance.
I could care less where she works. It’s not important to me .
Social media has really changed the world forever. Best advice I can give is get a woman that is not on it, doesn’t talk to guys, and not a single mother. Preferably religious or a virgin. And of course someone honest. Also from a good big family might be good as well.
In other words, the proverbial unicorn.
Tell us when you have found one..
In China it's also divorced women who are considered as a leftover women. I dated 2 younger Chinese women here in the USA. One in her 30's who was widowed and one in her 40's who was divorced. I'm 66. Both mentioned they were considered a leftover women. Chinese divorce is on the uptick big time...as for money status...yes men here in the USA could care less about what a women makes.
...Gio is spot on that...but he is too far removed from the USA now about wanting to be the bread winner. Unfortunately these days for the most part both the men and women have to work now in the USA just to pay the bills...the best marriages and relationships here are where the man and women are working towards each other as issues arise...there are still excellent man/women relationships here...a better than average job for the women here helps but I agree a women attorney may have what we call a boss babe mentality...and this is where relationships here do break down as rolls become blurred and confused...hypergamy is also on the upswing in the USA with at now about 50% of the women believing in it especially with younger women...it's real tough with the younger women here very much about the $$$ a man makes...and quite delusional as well.....I experience from both Chinese women I dated that they were very dialed in on the money aspect of what men have to offer...as for Filipinas one could make a case that the married but separated Filipina is a leftover women. Their limited in their men choices and without divorce....at best living with another man as bf/gf but both under risk...especially for a foreigner man. As for Asian women partners for western men the Filipinas speaking English gives the Filipina a big edge! One of the Chinese women I dated was very poor in English. A dead-end relationship.....on another topic there is a huge amount of men in the USA...mostly older men but even some younger men that have checked out of the dating game going solo!...between their dating/living experiences with women....their work...their friends...and other reasons they've put dating on their backburner for now. Thanks for sharing.
I think there are many leftover Filipinas because I have met several that were the eldest of a large family where they went OfW to provide for their younger siblings to go to school and college. At the end they are typically too old for marriage and families of their own.
Do you still collaborate with Short Province Girl and Seany?
In china, it's 28 and older.
I think it is 27 and above in mainland China. Part of their problem is demands for bride prices, homes put in their names, cars put in their names, total control of their own income AND their husbands, etc. So the male Chinese said they don't need to swallow such good deals.
No, Maya some of them will fall through the cracks and become leftover women. Most men do not want women in there 30s. Look on the dating sites. There are a lot of Filipinas in their 30s on the dating sites 🤔
Being a consumer of content regarding the Philippines, it is being said that the "leftover women" culture is starting to creep into the society of the Philippines. It's a fact that women are dominating the job market and higher education. Therefore, most Filipino guys are considered "dating down" economically. Another issue that is starting to really take effect is the huge number of single mothers. Many men are not interested in a woman with kids from a previous relationship. Then, you also have to take into consideration the absence of divorce, which is a real problem for relationships. Most men will not be in a relationship with a married woman for legal and moral reasons. So the number of women without a partner is rising. Technically, married women and single mothers aren't considered "leftover women" by definition, but they also "muddy the waters" in the dating pool. I can't say that I know this to be factual, but it is being talked about. The Philippines may start dealing with the "leftover women" issue in the very near future.
They are becoming westernized. You can see it in the cities like Manila. So yes, I think it will be happening.
Sorry leftover women are in Philippines too. ( or its coming) I m 56 yo Australian guy and omg the amount of women 40-70 on filipina dating sites, and CF Christian filipina is the worst for that. I don't want a woman in their 50's and so many my age and older message me. And the family orientated is a bit false becoz most filipinas on dating sites are single mom's. I dont wanna date a 28 with 2-3 kids. Which is daily , my experience. I m on the sites. , but spent lot of time " boots on the ground" in Philippines . So you guys being married don't see it.. it's coming there. T he more independent and pro education they become... I see so many filipinas with degrees and never use them.
Does Gio sing, " It's amore" to you?
yes ☺️ 😁
@@MayaLifeInThePhilippines good man
To many vloggers both western and fhipina are concentrating on human relationships to much. Concentrate on God first and foremost.
Gio: If the Philippine3s was rich, you wouldn't date me.
Maya: That's true.
Audience: Aawwwwkwaaarddd.
Catalogs are NOT MAIL ORDER BRIDES. I met my wife thru one last century, but we communicated at length before I flew there. Mail order brides are women who were literally that, ordered, and went out west.
YOUR RIGHT PHILIPPINES ARE THE BEST WIFE'S I CAN'T TO SEE MY FUTURE WIFE IN THE PHILIPPINES 😊
Where can I meet a nice filipina at least 40 years over.i have plans to go to the Philippines in a few years.
Facebook is full of them.
The Philippines may be poor in money, however, "rich" in life and character !!!
America may be rich in money, however, severely "poor" in life and character !!!
I know this for a fact, because I have perspective living in Cebu City for 2 years now, moving from "Shithole" / "Hellhole" California where Love is non existent...
Since I know that Americans have been stabbed in China and I don't want to deal with the CCP, I don't think that as an American I would date Chinese girls. I have also seen news reports about China interfering with the Philippines Coast Guard and its waterways. Therefore, I would fly to a less conversational nation like the Philippines to see if I can meet someone there. If so, we may travel to South Korea, Japan, or other parts of the world.
I'm an American. I have a Chinese visa (got it just for fun about 7 years ago). I won't even land in Hong Kong anymore. . . .
Hey Gio & Maya,
It’s me Pete, another great blog. I agree with 90% of everything you shared.
Maya, if you’re talking about really “old school” men, who have that extremely old fashioned tradition of women belonging in the kitchen, barefoot & pregnant, it’s what really “old fashioned, old school” men want, in a Filipina. I’m sure there are a lot of men like me, that would prefer a woman like
🫠Maya🫠. Although you are young, you’re very intelligent, and can hold your own, in any conversation. Also, I believe you make your “own” money, in your work from home business. A woman like you, but in her mid 50’s to early 60’s, is the “only” woman for me, 😎😉❤️.
Gio, you, and I were both stationed in Germany. You near Heidelberg, and I, right across from the Frankfurt airport, at Rhine Main Air Base. The Italian philosophy, is also the same in Germany, and probably throughout Europe. Germans don’t live to work, they work to live, 😎😉❤️.
I like that T-shirt.
IMO, The amount of single moms in the PI will ensure a whole slew of women will age alone, and hence will be 'leftover' unless some simp saves them by wifing them up and raising another man's DNA. It's survival there too, so can't really blame the women for hitting up the easy targets. Guys that intend to marry--a mistake in today's world--should go for single no kids women under the age of 30. Otherwise just date, stay free, and enjoy your peace and quiet.
me I will not want a lady that will not work 40 hours a week at some job. If she is able to make more money than me more power to her
I love leftovers. 🤣
Lol, 🤣 I prefer the leftover women over the younger ones, there more settled down in my opinion
Gio, I like your shirt.
RED FLAGS-DEAL BREAKERS
1. Attorneys
2. Psychologist
3. Life/Wellness Coach
4. Professional Comedian
5. Narcissist
6. Owns horses
7. Sarcasm as ammo
8. Introvert not a good match
9. “Princess” as username
GREEN FLAGS:
Is happy already
College educated
Employed
Fit
5’4 or above
Loves the ocean
4. Social Workers
That T-shirt is hilarious 🤣
I want one
As time goes on, the more social media is going to creep into the younger generation. How long until it turns into West mindset?
Maya life in the Philippines ,according to gio.....
Age 25 is the sweet spot for me. Definitely not interested in women over 35.
Most women who want a career value the attention and money that brings.
It has nothing to do with feeling emasculated for me. A career woman doesn't value family and values her husband less!
A guaranteed recipe for eventual divorce.
I have never seen a career woman who has not eventually cheated.
No I'm not bitter... just observant.
want to marry someone who smart ambition must reach high dreams makes her own money means she can manage a relationships
Yea like here they have tattoos and short hair
disagree! I want an educated woman, because communication is what it's all about in life.
Traditionally both men and women don’t have much. In the west and in china the culture has changed the focus to the person who has more money has more power in relationships. That’s improper. I believe that the order in the family should be God, Husband, Wife and then Children. This was the order set up by God but the west has replaced Gods principles with the love of money. Women and men are capable of earning lots of money and that has confused many people. Also men don’t necessarily want a woman that is needy. Most men want a woman that values him and their family. It’s more about traditional values rather than money.
Maya stop contacting me.
okay 🤣
Hello Maya maybe I'm a leftover because I'm busy with Life!😅😂
Bagong pinay. . .or just young and immature?
You are so beautiful may i ask how old you are?
It doesn't matter who is the Coke or. 🎉😂😮 the manager if you don't change the recipe we always going to be a country that it's going to be broke
30% stud 70%muffin omg I think my Pinay would laugh over this so hard. Nice threads lol which city do you live in?
why is their so many single mother then .. I'm not buying what your saying about this subject
As long as you can speak to each other in one language, I'd say that's education enough.
Career ?, I've never been with a lady who wanted a career, even though some has had lots of education, in the west that is, their focus was usually to have family and kids, not to climb "the corporate ladder".
My ex wanted to be a housewife again prior to our divorce, even though our kids were approaching their teens.
Now, I was the breadwinner, but at the time we needed her income too, due to all our commitments, like our house, car, etc.
I remember I told her to keep working, even though she was quite uneasy with the job she had. She said some of the other ladies who worked there were quite mean to her,. In those days, women who treated each other badly in the workplace wasn't all that unusual, at least not in my home country.
Well, maybe needless to say, that didn't end well 😆
Yummy leftovers 😂🎉🙏🏽
First 🥇
thank you for watching 💓
What happens when … i .. the man can’t have children, i’m, infertile
Different view and experienced respectfully. Asian women, Thai, Filipina, Vietnamese, Korean, hit their peak looking-wise in their 30's, they're much more attractive, way more beautiful.
Also, their maturity and shape of their bodies are more beautiful into their 30's hitting their baby making peak.
And the confidence, emotional/mental maturity also can shine through past 30, that adds to the way they carry themselves and look.
They're more picky, not naïve, and smarter, so most the 30 year old's, are not diving after any Expat or Filipino in desperation, so they're harder to find and land. They're the prize whereas the younger one's are a dime a dozen, and there's another $1.20 of them on the next block.
Just about any hot Filipina that's taken, married, or settled down is the one's we see in the TH-cam videos with the Expats or MotoVlogs, are the 30+ year old's. They've all been scooped up and hard to find. Not throw-a way's, the prize men are searching for, because those are the long term partners that the relationship works with. Younger, are just temporaries and they're all the same.
If this is pertaining to Expats, 18,000,000 single Filipinas from ages 18-40, and estimated 150,000 Expats. This is single, never married, Filipinas. There are also many beautiful, awesome single Mother Filipinas with a child out there also not included in the 18M. Majority of Filipinas, 40,000,000 are married or have boyfriends, are single Mom's, or not adults yet.
To add, Philippines is an extremely young population, average age in PH is 25.7 years, with males at 25.1 years and females at 26.3, which makes that choice gold prize of a 30 year old even more special and hard to find.
Just my view and way of thinking. And I dismiss the hundreds of younger Filipinas until I came across a valued 30+ year old. Just in my experience, it seems to be about 100:1 20 year old's contacts vs. the rare 30 year old's available. Maybe different for others, and just what I've experienced.
Thank you. I enjoyed reading your comment. 💓
Most guys like Gio are old school. They want a submissive yes sir type of gals. Well this isn't 1940s it yeae 2024.
Nice strawman. Yeah, it's 2024 and countriee like the US can't define what is a woman. Lmfao