I'm almost 73 and most days I don't dress but! When I go out I always dress nice and put on make-up and my hair is done but I have a simple hairstyle... I wear a dress to go to church, and sometimes I wear a casual one just going out shopping. I just don't like sloppy dressing for me. I'm not bragging but ppl will comment on how nice I look.
@@mkel858 we are the same age……so we remember wearing gloves, hats and hose to church. I believe that dressing as nicely as you can afford shows respect for yourself and others. PS. I just lost 90 pounds and had to buy a WHOLE new wardrobe on a retirement income…..I shopped consignment stores, thrift stores, Walmart and TEMU and I am wearing designer labels at 10% of what they cost new 😘 and also get lots of compliments 😉
I know people who own so many real luxury brands but they live in their mom’s house. I own a house, drive a Lexus, and I do buy *hotdups* , putting money in my pocket.
I’m crying watching this, you talking about how we dress to hide flaws and start to disappear as we age is something I’ve never thought about but really resonates as I’m getting older. Thank you for articulating this and reminding me to stop hiding 🙏
I'm 57 and my style has just evolved from girlie and feminine to chic and feminine. I wear what I love everyday with a smaller but better quality wardrobe. I still take risks just in a more mature way
Leonie is doing a wonderful thing by directly addressing this aging issue. To those struggling, I get that because the pressures out there are very real. I don't know how I avoided feeling invisible as I have aged, but getting older has been incredibly liberating. Best years yet.
Yup, I agree. I take more fashion risk since retiring because I don't have the pressure to dress to suit the office. Don't have to endure the, "what is she wearing murmur." Never liked fashion drags anyway. I use to hear, "you're going out of the house with that on? Or the, "What are you wearing?" At 67 I get many positive comments from young women on my ensembles. Usually on clothes I've made, so I think it's about fit and scale. If you sew you can do that for yourself. Have fun, so what if you leave the house looking ridiculous, is that so bad?
As one ages, one can sometimes feel irrelevant or unimportant to others. It’s important to find some things/ hobbies that you really love doing, and find your joy, fulfillment, accomplishment in doing it.
I almost bought a new LV handbag and never filled it up. I'm so glad I saw this video and read all the comments. I'd rather buy a $100 bag with $1000 in it than *hotdups*
Actress/Comedian Lily Tomlin, in an episode of Grace and Frankie, was being rudely ignored by a store clerk so she just walked away with the item she was trying to purchase! She said that invisibility is her superpower! Now I am not advocating stealing, but I do love her attitude. If no one notices you, then do what you want without care! In other words, stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. You were right on the mark about this Leonie!❤
There some real gems in Grace and Frankie! Those two and others like Diane Keaton, Candice Bergen, Jamie Lee Curtis, Helen Mirren etc might be celebrities but they are also fighting the Hollywood norm by their unique fashion styles, which we can emulate at lower price points, but especially their confidence and attitudes
I have thought about that so many times. Maybe even more so when I was younger, I'd stand there wondering if anyone would be able to ID me to police if I just walked off.
Leonie, I totally agree with women needing to stop feeling invisible or accepting being treated as invisible. But, that's where confidence comes into play. It's a mindset. If you feel fabulous, then you will be fabulous! My nearly 100- year-old mom still stands out fashionably and has always been fashion forward as the rest of the older people on both sides of my family were. Whenever we go out, my mom gets compliments, from perfect strangers, on her OOTDs. Just yesterday, my mom saw a TV commercial for some new, hip, and colorful Sketchers and got really excited. I might surprise her by picking her up a pair. Her other favorite sneakers are both the black and white paisley-print slip on skater style Van sneakers that I bought her a few years ago, along with her Allbirds. She proudly rocks them both. She also always lays out her OOTDs and styles them before getting dressed even if she's only going to the market. I'm the same way. Since I was in the first grade, and I"m in my 60s now, I was required to coordinate my school outfits daily and lay them out the night before. Clothing was intentional and we kids were also required to look, "presentable" before walking out the front door. Now, to coordinate my OOTD as I need to zip to a couple malls and also do some other errands. I look at fashion as fresh and fun and expressing one's personality. Greetings from Los Angeles
@@33Jenesis Yep. I hit the jackpot with that one. Smiles. And when I was born, we were five generations alive at the same time and the great great lived until I was eight. Greetings from Los Angeles
You are so blessed to still have your love ❤️ healthy and still killing them with her personal styles!!. My mother always told me " you might miss out on a great opportunity, if you don't present your best self when you leave the house". That is so true as I was offered a really great job opportunity right out of college. While shopping with my mom. I complimented this very stylish stranger on her outfit. She came over thanked me, and complimented me on an outfit my mother picked out for me to wear that day😂. She congratulated me on my recent college graduation, and after talking with us gave me her card and told me to call her assistant to set up an interview with her company. She was the senior vice president😮 that became my mentor for several years❤and her and my mom became friends over the years. I called them the Judge and the VP girl squad😂. That is one rule I still follow to this day. Present your best self, when you leave the house. ❤Luck favors the prepared!!😎
@@debblake1286 Yep! My mom always said and still says, "Look presentable before one walks out of one's door as you never know whom you might come across while out and about and it could be a future employer. And since she was the boss in her profession, she also never left the house unless she looked presentable as she always said that she might come across some of her employees. She's been retired for around 35 years now, but still gets together with former employees for lunch and special occasions. Greetings from Los Angeles
I’m a Błack woman, and LORD willing, I’ll soon be 58 but I’m thought to be in my late 30s/38 so that brings a lot of attention from men much younger than I.
🙂🙂It’s a world where no one can really accurately pinpoint where I am. I don’t have any wrinkles. Body is the same. The younger men (the ones in their late 30s....40) really think I’m roughly their age while men actually my age assume I’m much younger than they are.😂 (I do appear to be “too young” for men my age because by 55-60, they usually łook at least a little “weather beaten😚” (with some gray in their facial hair, eye bags/wrinkles and at least a little bit of a “dad bod” on them) so they tend to think we would definitely not be the same age either.🥴. I wouldn’t say I pass for their “daughter” but I definitely wouldn’t be seen as in their decade.😶. Also, I never ever volunteer my age immediately to men. Ever. That’s personal info that they’ll get as we progress a bit. 🤫. I ALWAYS let them all (my age or younger) tell me THEIR age first, (or at least give me some sort of personal info so I can kind of piece together a rough range of how old they might be) so i may decide for myself if they are an option and not have them be the ones to eliminate ME based on MY (older) age. When you łook at least 15 years younger than others your age, you have to navigate and choose how you’re doing it for you) ... It’s .... “interesting.” 🤗
I have a capsule wardrobe. I get rid of any pieces that are NOT WONDERFUL. I keep only natural fabrics. Only great quality. It is amazing how many outfits can be made from a few basics. I can wear a new outfit combination every day for several weeks. I have reduced my accessories to the ones I love to wear. I love to get dressed to go to the store from my amazing capsule. I feel good. Chic. It works for me.
CAN WE PLEASE DISCUSS HOW TO DRESS STYLISH DURING HOT FLASHES?!?! CLIMATE CHANGE+HOT FLASHES ARE KILLING ME. I need new makeup that doesn't melt off and all the cute fashion tips are for cold weather.
Got a great tip years ago. Keep your feet cool and you can keep a lot of hot flashes at bay. Wear the coolest shoes/sandals you can find. Stay away from anything that makes your feet hot. Platform flip flops are a gamr changer for many outfits! Hope t hi is helps. Good luck!❤❤
I'm just 39, but as a foreigner woman, who happens to be a mom, having a new body and trying to find myself in this new country (12 years later) this video came across very straight to the heart... Thank you for this heartfelt message. Wishing you all the success! And if you ever come to Amsterdam y petunia to take you out to see the city and surroundings.. And dress happy 💜
Every time you make one of these videos I am so appreciative. I know you get the redundant “I can wear what I want, don’t tell me what to do!” comments from time to time. I want to say that as a 39 year old high school teacher, your videos are SO helpful. I want to be stylish, I don’t want to loose touch, but I can’t just wear the latest trends because I risk looking like I’m trying to look like my students. Please keep making these!!!! ❤
Thanks so much for your comment Candi and I know what you mean on the "redundant" comments. I always wonder why people even bother clicking on the video when they leave a comment like that but each to their own I suppose. I also totally get where you are coming from in terms of not wanting to look like your students - that's real! Thanks for encouraging me to make more videos like this. I do have another on this type of topic coming soon so please stay tuned x
Syle Insider helps us stay in tune with our beautiful selves... I see women rocking the freshest looks with silver hair... We can be gorgeous at any age...😊
I have a huge wardrobe, too. Playing pairing and retrying older items are fun. I have an open rack to hang items I want to wear so I rotate old items to put on this rack to make them more visible and convenient to pair with new purchases.
I’m 63. I’ve gone through many style changes over the decades. I’m more confident in my choices now. I also believe in trying everything on and tailoring as we are all not the same shape and purchased clothing is made based on the current fit model they used. I will try multiple sizes and if I really love the outfit I will have it tailored to fit me based on the size that was closest to the fit I want. I find at this age I enjoy classic tailored with a touch of unique and quirky. I may get a trendy piece here and there if I really think it works - such as a trendy denim or belt style or shoe. I like more color now that I’ve been retired and limit my colors to about 4 color shades and 3 neutral shades. I purge several times a year if I find I just don’t love something or it doesn’t suit me anymore. Some maybe items I will box away to think about later. I think style is so personal and everyone has their own interpretation of what that means to them. And yes, confidence in what you wear shines like a light and shows your happiness with how you feel. ❤
I am 74 and after almost 16 months of self discipline and hard work, I have lost 90 pounds and feel 40 again. I had to buy a whole new wardrobe from underwear to coats. I bought and now wear what I like including cropped tops, barrel jeans, baby doll dresses….the whole gambit of current style…I think my fashion choices are modest and flattering. I get many compliments and have a renewed social confidence. I don’t wear anything that is ill fitted or uncomfortable. 😉🙂
Hard to dress well daily after retirement. I wore different outfits 5 days a week going to work. After retiring I only succeeded in changing out of sleeping clothes every morning. The rest of the time I wear jeans and some top. This year I am in love with really baggy jeans and more fitted slightly cropped top (no need to tug in). I pair the outfits with cute sandals (no dad sneakers or thick soled shoes) and crossbody Fanny pack. I also kept buying earrings and necklaces. To make it easy I pair them into sets and take photo to save on my phone. I can easily choose what to wear with outfit and which sets to pack for traveling. In retirement I hardly wear skirts, dresses, and suit jacket unless special occasions which seldom happen. Pants are just a lot easier for at home wearing. I am learning to not buy items I don’t wear because I already own so many skirts dresses and jackets. I rather buy higher quality oversized bomber and hoodie zip up sweat jacket. They work better pairing with retirement casual outfits.
I have a new job where I get to dress up again! I’m a classic style by nature. Yet lately I feel older with them. No loafers 👞 for me! Thanks for encouraging me to get out of a rut!
I have followed you for a very long time and am always inspired by you! Your chat today is truly getting to the HEART of learning to love the true beautiful individuals we all are. ❤ Thank you!!!
Loved this❤ For a while now I’ve worn what I love and when I go out, instead of thinking that everyone is looking at me and sneering (I’m sure there’re not!) I now have the mind set that they’re looking at me in envy, wishing they could dress like me. Yes it sounds big headed but it hurts no one and makes me feel good. As a petite older woman I feel even more invisible so every little helps. Thank you❤
Wonderful and helpful advices, Leonie. Just to emphasise what you said at the end of the video: there was a survey, conveyed among people at the end of their lives. The thing they all regretted the most is caring too much about what other people think. It was eye-opening for me. I know it is hard "not to care", but once you succeed in "not giving a f*ck", life and freedom will take a whole new meaning. Just try.
This was a fabulous video. I am two years retired and I began to feel "unseen" in my profession in my late fifties. I am currently 67 and I feel fabulous. I revisited my wardrobe and refreshed it with some new classic looks. Even though I am not working, I still want to dress for my days. I love trying on my clothes. My husband often wonders why I do this! I have discovered that certain necklines don't suit me and certain types of sleeves (puffy ones) don't suit me in addition to certain colors. I have loved fashion since I was a young girl and I will continue to embrace it. Thanks for your inspiration.
Annette here. I had a color draping a few years ago. I found it very valuable. Some of my best colors were a surprise, some not. The BEST and most unexpected benefit is how well the items in my wardrobe work together now. No more mismatching. I can have fewer pieces overall because they all work together.
This is an amazing video! I'm not particularly old, but still love this video so much. I've been told my entire life how to dress or what not to wear, just to blend in and cause no attention. This is such an important topic, no matter the age. But what I can read from the comments so far, dear Leonie, you really spoke from many hearts. Thank you!
I’m glad I stayed until the end of your remarks. In the first few minutes of this video, the thought of “dressing up” popped into my head. And then another thought emerged, “Would it be useful to try and recall and consider my memories of playing dress-up when I was a kid?” I did and here is what happened: Memories of playing dress-up came fast. In my mind’s eye, I was playing with my good friend and neighbor in the basement of our St. Paul home, circa1960. I loved touching the fabrics, noticing the difference in their weight, hand, and drape of the various clothes are mothers had given us. Later in life, I my best friend and neighbor was the daughter of a well-heeled woman who went to a lot of parties. The assortment of nightgowns in her mother’s cedar closets amazed me. As I focus on memories of playing dress up (and the teen equivalent getting “dressed”) I realize my particular interest has always been in "putting together the look." The complexity of choosing multiple pieces for a "look" and thinking through how each piece “fits” with the other pieces fascinated me then and still does today. I’m drawn to the mental process of choosing things and thinking through their combinations. Maybe playing dress up builds our ability to think in complex ways. The other part of “dressing up” that attracted me was “putting on the clothes” of another. I don’t think it was because I wanted to be that other person. I think curiosity drove me. Quite literally, I wanted to know what it felt like to be that other person. Even today, I wonder what it would be like to carry the weight of weapons. Maybe playing dress-up helps us to develop our empathy. Playing dress-up also gives us opportunities to think more consciously about the roles we taken on as individuals. Did I like dressing up as a fairy? Did I like dressing up as a cowboy? As women in the 21st century, we are asked and able to juggle the many roles we assume as grow-ups and doing that consciously rather than unconsciously makes all the difference. In your video, you called on women to think more consciously about how they want to “appear” to the world. As a retired person, I delight in purposely creating different looks and exploring the reactions of others to my look. Differences in the response of others when we “dress-up” and when we “dress-down” provide lots of information about societal norms. Even after all these years, it’s great to think about playing dress-up. I highly encourage everyone to play.
It is true I’ve felt invisible recently. I often travel alone abroad and one of the reasons I feel so safe is I just blend in. Nobody really notices me. So that’s one positive for feeling invisible. I actually played dress up yesterday. I purchased a ton of new items over last month for fall. It’s fun, but a bit confusing. Working on my new “style”. I do feel better when I put in some effort. At 61 not following any rules. No thanks. Interesting topic. Thanks!
Hi Leonie this video is really great and totally resonated with me. I’ve been fighting invisibility and playing dress up for a few years. I regularly play with colour, style, texture and accessories!! I just met a man who really noticed the elements of my outfit and asked me to take selfies of my daily creation to show him ❤❤I’ve embraced it fully!!! Thanks SO much for this video Leonie it’s bang on 😊 Have a lovely day
I think you are suggesting that I get out of my black, gray and navy mode and try some color, which is a bit scary. I am a baby boomer, so it is difficult to even think of changing. There are dozens of millions of baby boomers in the US and social media ignores us. We don't exist. We are not cool. We have one foot in the grave. We vote- some of us- conservative. But... the fact is that we still want to look great and buy new clothes and accessories and new makeup. Thank you for your encouragement. and some photos of "older women."
But if u love black, gray, navy, (my favorite colors too), then there’s no need to change the color palette, but maybe add some pieces and accessories in burgundy, forest green, red and white. 😊
I definitely not invisible. I am 66 yrs absolutely love fashion, I look at trends and take from it what I like which isn’t everything. I love charity shopping and finding that piece which is not on the high street. Great video
wish I could hit a "heart button" over and over loved this so much and will watch over again to let this sink in! So guilty of convenience dressing and leaving about 80% of my wardrobe unworn. I loved all of your tips and will make some play time to mix and match items that may still have tags and actually wear them or donate. Mid 50s and shedding a few pounds is helping me feel great when I can fit back into clothes in my wardrobe that I love once again. Thank you showing a variety of styles and offering some of the best advice on breaking the rules and picking the right colors starting fresh, love it! I was shopping with my 16 year old yesterday and actually bought a simple linen blend terracotta top in the juniors dept. to go with some linen blend black wide leg drapey pants (on sale).. it was a good day.. thank you Leonie ♥
It is interesting when you think about the lack of estrogen in women and suddenly not being acknowledged, especially by men. I definitely noticed this when I turned 50. Now, I don't care. In the beginning, it bothered me. It is a normal part of growing older and it is better than not being here. I still work remotely and need to dress for Zoom calls. I have beautiful clothes and I enjoy wearing them even when I am not working.
Im 59, retired learning golf ⛳️ and walk a lot on English beaches. I also volunteer at a Foodbank. I don't get much chance to dress up but I'm going to buy more classics and less fast fashion going forward. I need to shop my wardrobe too!
Wow! Did this speak to me. I am over 50 and going through an unexpected and unwanted transition in my life. Instead of withdrawing, I am doing a lot of self care. I have always kept myself in shape now it is time to accentuate it and start loving myself and life again. Thank you!
Thank you Leonie ! I am 53years old and going through menopause right now, so I have gained weight and feeling a bit rubbish. So I’m finding very difficult to be visible as clothes does not fit right . However, when I wear certain colours I always feel better and more confident. Thank you again to remind me I am beautiful at any age ❤
Leonie this was a much needed video and I agree whole heartedly with the pit falls of our inner critic. It can be devastating for some women. Swapping out a negative view point of ourselves for a more positive outlook isn't easy, but so necessary if we're going to show up as the best possible version of ourselves. Over the past year, I lost 50lbs and bought a new wardrobe, I'm soon to be 68, but my gosh, I love my classic sense of style, love my new clothes, and I really enjoy getting ready for my day now, no matter what I've got planned for the day. Paramount in this transition was brutally weeding out old clothes that just didn't suit my taste any more. I was shocked to see how many items I'd been hanging on to, but never wore. Today I do play around with my pieces to create new more fashion forward outfits. There was a time in my life when I was overly concerned about what others thought about me, but when it comes to fashion, I dress only to please myself these days. Since I like classic pieces, some days, I might feel a bit overdressed, but hey, why not show up being the best dressed person in the room? Why not? I'm a confident women and whether I'm wearing a tank top under a button down shirt with baggy wide leg jeans or a nice skirt, I want to show up for my day feeling and looking my best! Thanks again for a great video!
Confidence is my super power. I live on a tourist island where the dress wear is very casual (shorts and flip-flops 🤢)however I prefer to wear what makes me feel beautiful. You are absolutely right .Thank you Leonie
I bought a pair of crocs while on vacation at Disney this last week. These things are crazy, covered in treats, pink and cartoony - and I knew I wanted them the moment I saw them. I'm 50 and I know a ton of people who don't like crocs already and these things would be considered a fashion abomination. It's okay, these are just for my comfort and joy - not to mention a great conversation starter. I'm not competing with my 20 year old self, this is just for fun. I need to play in my wardrobe and assemble more fun outfits for myself. The crocs kind of open my mind to the fact I've been missing whimsy and imagination in my outfits and that is sad because that is a core part of my personality. Lots of great ideas to mull over from this video - well done!
I also bought a pair of tie dyed platform crocs this spring. I also love mine! They are part of my quirky boho personality. (My daughter hates them) i am spending more time dressing for my retirement days. I ditched the corporate life. I wear dresses, skirts and shorts in the summer here in TX.
I absolutely love this! I think a lot of us miss "whimsy and imagination" in our outfits as we get older as we feel it's only something for the younger generation. I love the sound of your Crocs - yay for you xxx
I had my colours done back in the 80’s. It really helps when shopping to know what suits me. Because if what colour I am wearing suits me I naturally feel better. Although I do know that now that my hair is grey I can no longer wear grey and I seem to look better in more pastel shades rather than some of the darker colours I could wear when I was younger and dark haired.
I love hearing you encourage us “older” ladies to dress stylish and have fun! I love how dressing up with an outfit makes me feel! And I love “playing in my closet!” Once I learned that-game on🥰
I’ve been getting ready for a trip and pulled out that 80% of my wardrobe I don’t wear. I have a rail and I’ve been trying different items if I find a look I like I put it together on the rail to wear. If there are things that don’t work then get rid of them or put them away and revisit later. It is a struggle as we get older but I love fashion and want to look the best I can for who and where I am in my life. We need to encourage each other. Thanks for sharing 🦋
Hello Leonie, I am a full time artist so I am wearing paint clothes and a smock most of the time but I make sure they are cool! Lol when I go out I alwsys look nice and put together. Its so funny some of my friends will ask me why I am dressed up and I think I really am not I just want to look nice.
Earlier this year I wandered into the Personal Stylist's office at Macy's and learned there's no additional cost for the personal shopper there and you get a great level of service.
Great video, as woman we judge ourselves so harshly sometimes for not being perfect...perfect is boring, having fun and enjoying life should be the priority.
I totally relate to being drawn to the same safe styles although I have tried to evolve over the years (managed it a bit, even got a long denim skirt recently!). It's painstaking work though in tiny little increments. I did watch a second hand re-style series here in the UK recently and I felt really inspired by what the stylists were doing with two participants each week, turning around their style, creating new and exciting looks. I noticed that they were putting together well styled outfits with clashing colours and prints and designs and achieving really juicy looks. Certainly making me look different at it all!
Its a matter of wearing the clothes you bought for your fantasy self. And then the realization of whether that works for you or not. If it doesnt then you can save money but not buying what you dont wear.
Hey Leonie! I am striving to stay enthusiastic about getting dressed for the day through my remaining years. I do still dress clunky around the house if I am doing chores that can destroy clothing (heavy duty stuff). I thrift so that I can find those exceptional pieces to play dress up and have such great fashionable options at affordable prices. Welcome to America again and hop you are able to go thrifting while you are out here. Thanks for sharing such positive advice for the aging women like myself.
I like the idea of playing dress up and I will do just that. It’s time to downsize and just keep the clothing that fits me and my style. Thank you Leon. Great advice. Accessories are essential agreed.
Great pep talk! I regularly play in my closet putting outfits together that I’ve seen on your channel (and maybe other sites;) it’s one of the most fun things I do!
Ageing we loose visibilità and i think, we have to respect and accept it as the choice of other people... but we can finally express ourselves (in any case nobody cares of us, sees us). I notice in old women a real indipendent style, a way of dressing so unique and free...
I don’t “save my good clothes for a special time” anymore; if it’s beautiful, I WEAR it. I don’t need to draw attention, or look like a clown, I just wear the lovely clothing now. Any you should too 😊
Such a great video! You say compleately what I think abaout fashion "over 50"! It is so much fun to try out new things in which we feel confident, I am convinced that fashion can be a real gamechanger also for our mental health! We just have to be consciuos about that fact an invest some time in finding what we really like.
Thanks for the new video Leonie! Here I´ll answer your two questions: 1. I create outfits in the beginning of the new season including the new trends. As an example for this season: Work outfit no 1: A black blazer with white trims, white or burgundy top, black trousers and a burgundy nail polish. Work outfit no 2: A black blazer with a burgundy top, black trousers and a thin scarf in lepard print I will use as a belt. Work outfit no 3: Navy blazer with a burgundy top, navy trousers and a burgundy nail polish. Party outfit nr 1: Black dress with white trims on arms and round the waist. 2. I really use 100 % of my wardrobe. (But I´m really good in cleaning my wardrobe regually.) /Marie from Sweden
Nice vid! Showed it to my mum cuz she always get dressed and put some blush and lipstick even if that day she is working from home. I always try to introduce her to new trends and sometimes I win😀. She says everything look good when u r young but I think if she starts doing that now that she is in her fifties she will get used to it as u said. Thank u !!😊
As a physician I can tell you that I see a lot of women come in with various aches and pains and the only thing wrong with them is that they are suffering from invisible woman syndrome. Kids have left, husbands are at work and these women are now just homemakers with not much to do. They are lonely and aching for relevancy. Its almost a loss of identity. NO amount of going to the stores and trying new clothes, hiring a specialist is going to fix that by the way because all of these things may fix the exterior but not the interior and since a lot of these women are at home all day they may not have a reason to shop. My advise is exercise, have a healthy diet but most importantly find a purpose in life. Living without a purpose is like a ship sailing in the ocean with no direction. It's the purpose in life whether it be volunteering, nurturing a hobby, taking up a new job, learning a new skill that will provide relevancy and lift you out of being invisible. Life is long and when you are older you will lose relevancy unless you take steps to make yourself relevant . Wearing new clothes aint going to fix that
Thanks Leonie you’ve reminded me to play in the wardrobe and try different pieces together. You’re absolutely right, looking good helps me feel better and it’s a good platform to ignite my self compassion and build my inner confidence. ❤
Hi Leonie! Cool T Shirt! I love colourful outfits, fancy sneakers, chic handbags. Adding some jewellery and lovely scarves… I am more than visible although nearly sixty… enjoyed your video, thank you for encouraging us elder women. ❤❤❤ Greetings from Germany
I would wholeheartedly suggest in person colour analysis. Not online. It's too tricky. It's so much easier to navigate through fashion, i.e. styles and colours, when you are certain what suits you, colour wise. I'm 100% sure about that. But, to each his own.
Some times I think I live in my closet! I love to play dress up and putting outfits together. The problem I have now is I have a sore foot so I have to wear comfortable and supportive shoes … I’m petite so I miss my heals.
Love your videos! .I play dress up in my closet about every 6 months or so. I create new outfits for date night and casual days. I usually have a few new pieces to change things up and purge the items that no longer work for me. I recently started taking photos because after wearing and laundry I tend to forget how I styled them. 🤓
Every morning I look in the mirror and say Hey Michele, I Love you girl. Makes me laugh sometimes, but it helps get me going. Dressing for me absolutely!!
Fabulous ideas! I am guilty of convenience dressing and am in a style rut. After menopause, my body has changed, so my clothes either don't fit well or just don't look right any longer. I appreciate all your tips for shaking things up. Will definitely be using them. Ty
Since I discovered shopping live shows on the Poshmark last year, I’ve really stepped up my style game. With such low prices, it’s easy to try new things and take fashion risks. I feel great dressing nice everyday even if I don’t leave the house!
If you are older (60's+) and you go into stores and head to the same things, there is probably a reason. These are things you have figured out that look good on you (it's not about being in a rut and wearing the same things for decades). Most likely they are also in your price range, your size, your colors, so this is not a bad thing. Also, that's a lot better than trying "new things" that look ridiculous.
Wonderful words today!!! Really appreciate you and your thoughts around this topic. They definitely ring true as I have started retirement and am trying to determine who I want to be in this chapter of my life. I heard what you are saying and agree with it all. I do many of these things but found a few ideas to further incorporate into my daily life. As for your question, I definitely play dress up each quarter as I create my capsules for each new season and plan my look for the season. I also take outfit photos every time I wear an “outfit” worth recording. Thanks for creating your channel and helping us!! ❤
I'm an attorney that works from home. I go from lounge wear to extreme corporate wear. I struggle with finding a happy medium. I'm also an empty nester. My husband and I have really gotten into date nights, and movie and drinks night. Can you give us some ideas for over 40s sexy date night outfits?❤. With vintage furs returning to the fall trends (not putting in the land fills) this season, I'd like to pull out my mother's fabulous furs from the 80s. No new fur of course but the ones sitting in cold storage every year. Persian lamb and mink that are being copied in fake fur styles everywhere. Can you give some advice on how to style both this winter? Fake or vintage fur is such a scary look to do.😂. It's looks great on the runway, but in real life it can easily go soooooo wrong. I always look to your channel for great tips. Thank you, 😊 I trust any advice you can give on this. ❤❤
As I watch many many fashion videos it seems to be a closed circle. Women are taught 5, 10 or "simply 15 rules to follow" and they have been given the ridiculously boring idea of a "capsule wardrobe" to be clones of each other - and when they start to be invisible also by that - the resolution is to break all those rules 😅 And it is true, Leonie is right speaking about breaking the rules. We can simplify it to 2 words: color & fantasie! But fashion in general are making rules. I suggest namely WE DON'T HAVE TO BE FASHIONABLE ☺️
This was great . Good important topic . I make sure to talk and give attention to all ages ….especially older ……I dressed up a little more today ….i felt good …. I usually wear baggy loose stuff…. Just comfy ….but I love switching it up .
I'm almost 73 and most days I don't dress but! When I go out I always dress nice and put on make-up and my hair is done but I have a simple hairstyle... I wear a dress to go to church, and sometimes I wear a casual one just going out shopping. I just don't like sloppy dressing for me. I'm not bragging but ppl will comment on how nice I look.
@@mkel858 we are the same age……so we remember wearing gloves, hats and hose to church. I believe that dressing as nicely as you can afford shows respect for yourself and others. PS. I just lost 90 pounds and had to buy a WHOLE new wardrobe on a retirement income…..I shopped consignment stores, thrift stores, Walmart and TEMU and I am wearing designer labels at 10% of what they cost new 😘 and also get lots of compliments 😉
And it puts a skip in your step and it feels good 🙂
I know people who own so many real luxury brands but they live in their mom’s house. I own a house, drive a Lexus, and I do buy *hotdups* , putting money in my pocket.
I’m crying watching this, you talking about how we dress to hide flaws and start to disappear as we age is something I’ve never thought about but really resonates as I’m getting older. Thank you for articulating this and reminding me to stop hiding 🙏
I'm really pleased this one resonated with you x
I feel the same way 🥲
I have $5000 and would rather buy *hotdups* and deposit $4,500 into my bank account.
Good on you! Don't hide yourself away, you're awesome and the world needs you!
I'm 57 and my style has just evolved from girlie and feminine to chic and feminine. I wear what I love everyday with a smaller but better quality wardrobe. I still take risks just in a more mature way
I love this Anastasia!!!!! x
We could be twins!👯
What a wonderful concept! ! For myself, I can still see the appeal of *hotdups* to me!
Leonie is doing a wonderful thing by directly addressing this aging issue. To those struggling, I get that because the pressures out there are very real. I don't know how I avoided feeling invisible as I have aged, but getting older has been incredibly liberating. Best years yet.
That's SO wonderful to hear xx
Yup, I agree. I take more fashion risk since retiring because I don't have the pressure to dress to suit the office. Don't have to endure the, "what is she wearing murmur." Never liked fashion drags anyway. I use to hear, "you're going out of the house with that on? Or the, "What are you wearing?" At 67 I get many positive comments from young women on my ensembles. Usually on clothes I've made, so I think it's about fit and scale. If you sew you can do that for yourself. Have fun, so what if you leave the house looking ridiculous, is that so bad?
As one ages, one can sometimes feel irrelevant or unimportant to others. It’s important to find some things/ hobbies that you really love doing, and find your joy, fulfillment, accomplishment in doing it.
I almost bought a new LV handbag and never filled it up. I'm so glad I saw this video and read all the comments. I'd rather buy a $100 bag with $1000 in it than *hotdups*
Actress/Comedian Lily Tomlin, in an episode of Grace and Frankie, was being rudely ignored by a store clerk so she just walked away with the item she was trying to purchase! She said that invisibility is her superpower! Now I am not advocating stealing, but I do love her attitude. If no one notices you, then do what you want without care! In other words, stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. You were right on the mark about this Leonie!❤
There some real gems in Grace and Frankie! Those two and others like Diane Keaton, Candice Bergen, Jamie Lee Curtis, Helen Mirren etc might be celebrities but they are also fighting the Hollywood norm by their unique fashion styles, which we can emulate at lower price points, but especially their confidence and attitudes
I have thought about that so many times. Maybe even more so when I was younger, I'd stand there wondering if anyone would be able to ID me to police if I just walked off.
That’s too funny - I must take a look at this 👍🏼
Leonie, I totally agree with women needing to stop feeling invisible or accepting being treated as invisible. But, that's where confidence comes into play. It's a mindset. If you feel fabulous, then you will be fabulous!
My nearly 100- year-old mom still stands out fashionably and has always been fashion forward as the rest of the older people on both sides of my family were. Whenever we go out, my mom gets compliments, from perfect strangers, on her OOTDs.
Just yesterday, my mom saw a TV commercial for some new, hip, and colorful Sketchers and got really excited. I might surprise her by picking her up a pair. Her other favorite sneakers are both the black and white paisley-print slip on skater style Van sneakers that I bought her a few years ago, along with her Allbirds. She proudly rocks them both. She also always lays out her OOTDs and styles them before getting dressed even if she's only going to the market. I'm the same way.
Since I was in the first grade, and I"m in my 60s now, I was required to coordinate my school outfits daily and lay them out the night before. Clothing was intentional and we kids were also required to look, "presentable" before walking out the front door.
Now, to coordinate my OOTD as I need to zip to a couple malls and also do some other errands. I look at fashion as fresh and fun and expressing one's personality.
Greetings from Los Angeles
You have great elders to model from 👍
@@33Jenesis Yep. I hit the jackpot with that one. Smiles. And when I was born, we were five generations alive at the same time and the great great lived until I was eight.
Greetings from Los Angeles
@@d.y.e3803 I would love to meet your MOM…..she has accomplished MY goal of living to 100. God bless and keep her. She is a TREASURE ❤️
You are so blessed to still have your love ❤️ healthy and still killing them with her personal styles!!. My mother always told me " you might miss out on a great opportunity, if you don't present your best self when you leave the house". That is so true as I was offered a really great job opportunity right out of college.
While shopping with my mom. I complimented this very stylish stranger on her outfit. She came over thanked me, and complimented me on an outfit my mother picked out for me to wear that day😂. She congratulated me on my recent college graduation, and after talking with us gave me her card and told me to call her assistant to set up an interview with her company. She was the senior vice president😮 that became my mentor for several years❤and her and my mom became friends over the years. I called them the Judge and the VP girl squad😂. That is one rule I still follow to this day. Present your best self, when you leave the house. ❤Luck favors the prepared!!😎
@@debblake1286 Yep! My mom always said and still says, "Look presentable before one walks out of one's door as you never know whom you might come across while out and about and it could be a future employer. And since she was the boss in her profession, she also never left the house unless she looked presentable as she always said that she might come across some of her employees. She's been retired for around 35 years now, but still gets together with former employees for lunch and special occasions.
Greetings from Los Angeles
I’m a Błack woman, and LORD willing, I’ll soon be 58 but I’m thought to be in my late 30s/38 so that brings a lot of attention from men much younger than I.
Good for you! Go girlie!
🙂🙂It’s a world where no one can really accurately pinpoint where I am. I don’t have any wrinkles. Body is the same.
The younger men (the ones in their late 30s....40) really think I’m roughly their age while men actually my age assume I’m much younger than they are.😂 (I do appear to be “too young” for men my age because by 55-60, they usually łook at least a little “weather beaten😚” (with some gray in their facial hair, eye bags/wrinkles and at least a little bit of a “dad bod” on them) so they tend to think we would definitely not be the same age either.🥴.
I wouldn’t say I pass for their “daughter” but I definitely wouldn’t be seen as in their decade.😶.
Also, I never ever volunteer my age immediately to men. Ever. That’s personal info that they’ll get as we progress a bit. 🤫. I ALWAYS let them all (my age or younger) tell me THEIR age first, (or at least give me some sort of personal info so I can kind of piece together a rough range of how old they might be) so i may decide for myself if they are an option and not have them be the ones to eliminate ME based on MY (older) age. When you łook at least 15 years younger than others your age, you have to navigate and choose how you’re doing it for you) ... It’s .... “interesting.” 🤗
57 here, weight lifter and sculpted. Girls, it’s never ever too late……. Just take that first step.
Fantastic!!!!
I have a capsule wardrobe. I get rid of any pieces that are NOT WONDERFUL. I keep only natural fabrics. Only great quality. It is amazing how many outfits can be made from a few basics. I can wear a new outfit combination every day for several weeks. I have reduced my accessories to the ones I love to wear. I love to get dressed to go to the store from my amazing capsule. I feel good. Chic. It works for me.
CAN WE PLEASE DISCUSS HOW TO DRESS STYLISH DURING HOT FLASHES?!?! CLIMATE CHANGE+HOT FLASHES ARE KILLING ME. I need new makeup that doesn't melt off and all the cute fashion tips are for cold weather.
Got a great tip years ago. Keep your feet cool and you can keep a lot of hot flashes at bay. Wear the coolest shoes/sandals you can find. Stay away from anything that makes your feet hot. Platform flip flops are a gamr changer for many outfits! Hope t hi is helps. Good luck!❤❤
@@kathymoenich4349 Thank you 💖
I'm just 39, but as a foreigner woman, who happens to be a mom, having a new body and trying to find myself in this new country (12 years later) this video came across very straight to the heart... Thank you for this heartfelt message.
Wishing you all the success! And if you ever come to Amsterdam y petunia to take you out to see the city and surroundings.. And dress happy 💜
Every time you make one of these videos I am so appreciative. I know you get the redundant “I can wear what I want, don’t tell me what to do!” comments from time to time. I want to say that as a 39 year old high school teacher, your videos are SO helpful. I want to be stylish, I don’t want to loose touch, but I can’t just wear the latest trends because I risk looking like I’m trying to look like my students. Please keep making these!!!! ❤
Thanks so much for your comment Candi and I know what you mean on the "redundant" comments. I always wonder why people even bother clicking on the video when they leave a comment like that but each to their own I suppose. I also totally get where you are coming from in terms of not wanting to look like your students - that's real! Thanks for encouraging me to make more videos like this. I do have another on this type of topic coming soon so please stay tuned x
Syle Insider helps us stay in tune with our beautiful selves... I see women rocking the freshest looks with silver hair... We can be gorgeous at any age...😊
Truth!
I play in my closet all the time but I’m a stylist. I highly recommend doing that too! 💃🏼
It makes such a difference right?
@@Thestyleinsider.Yes! Lots of possibilities are there for your discovery. 💃🏼
I have a huge wardrobe, too. Playing pairing and retrying older items are fun. I have an open rack to hang items I want to wear so I rotate old items to put on this rack to make them more visible and convenient to pair with new purchases.
That's a great idea 💡, as I have bought things I already have several times, because I don't really check my closet first🫣.
I’m 63. I’ve gone through many style changes over the decades. I’m more confident in my choices now. I also believe in trying everything on and tailoring as we are all not the same shape and purchased clothing is made based on the current fit model they used. I will try multiple sizes and if I really love the outfit I will have it tailored to fit me based on the size that was closest to the fit I want. I find at this age I enjoy classic tailored with a touch of unique and quirky. I may get a trendy piece here and there if I really think it works - such as a trendy denim or belt style or shoe. I like more color now that I’ve been retired and limit my colors to about 4 color shades and 3 neutral shades. I purge several times a year if I find I just don’t love something or it doesn’t suit me anymore. Some maybe items I will box away to think about later. I think style is so personal and everyone has their own interpretation of what that means to them. And yes, confidence in what you wear shines like a light and shows your happiness with how you feel. ❤
SO true! Thanks so much for sharing x
Know your colour palette, it cuts out a huge amount of time and expensive mistakes, play with your proportions and enjoy dressing yourself for you ✨✨✨
Great advice x
I am 74 and after almost 16 months of self discipline and hard work, I have lost 90 pounds and feel 40 again. I had to buy a whole new wardrobe from underwear to coats. I bought and now wear what I like including cropped tops, barrel jeans, baby doll dresses….the whole gambit of current style…I think my fashion choices are modest and flattering. I get many compliments and have a renewed social confidence. I don’t wear anything that is ill fitted or uncomfortable. 😉🙂
Wow! Congratulations - your hard work is paying off - yay 🙌🏼
YOU GO GIRL!!!😊 you deserve all those things. I wish you the best!!😊😊
Hard to dress well daily after retirement. I wore different outfits 5 days a week going to work. After retiring I only succeeded in changing out of sleeping clothes every morning. The rest of the time I wear jeans and some top. This year I am in love with really baggy jeans and more fitted slightly cropped top (no need to tug in). I pair the outfits with cute sandals (no dad sneakers or thick soled shoes) and crossbody Fanny pack. I also kept buying earrings and necklaces. To make it easy I pair them into sets and take photo to save on my phone. I can easily choose what to wear with outfit and which sets to pack for traveling. In retirement I hardly wear skirts, dresses, and suit jacket unless special occasions which seldom happen. Pants are just a lot easier for at home wearing. I am learning to not buy items I don’t wear because I already own so many skirts dresses and jackets. I rather buy higher quality oversized bomber and hoodie zip up sweat jacket. They work better pairing with retirement casual outfits.
I have a new job where I get to dress up again! I’m a classic style by nature. Yet lately I feel older with them. No loafers 👞 for me! Thanks for encouraging me to get out of a rut!
I have followed you for a very long time and am always inspired by you! Your chat today is truly getting to the HEART of learning to love the true beautiful individuals we all are. ❤ Thank you!!!
Yes 🙌🏼
And thank you 🙏🏼
Loved this❤ For a while now I’ve worn what I love and when I go out, instead of thinking that everyone is looking at me and sneering (I’m sure there’re not!) I now have the mind set that they’re looking at me in envy, wishing they could dress like me. Yes it sounds big headed but it hurts no one and makes me feel good. As a petite older woman I feel even more invisible so every little helps. Thank you❤
Wonderful and helpful advices, Leonie.
Just to emphasise what you said at the end of the video: there was a survey, conveyed among people at the end of their lives. The thing they all regretted the most is caring too much about what other people think.
It was eye-opening for me.
I know it is hard "not to care", but once you succeed in "not giving a f*ck", life and freedom will take a whole new meaning. Just try.
This was a fabulous video. I am two years retired and I began to feel "unseen" in my profession in my late fifties. I am currently 67 and I feel fabulous. I revisited my wardrobe and refreshed it with some new classic looks. Even though I am not working, I still want to dress for my days. I love trying on my clothes. My husband often wonders why I do this! I have discovered that certain necklines don't suit me and certain types of sleeves (puffy ones) don't suit me in addition to certain colors. I have loved fashion since I was a young girl and I will continue to embrace it. Thanks for your inspiration.
I just turned 50 and I always loved styling. I enjoy playing with my clothes and it's easier since I thrift.
Perfect! Thrifting is so much fun 🤩
Annette here. I had a color draping a few years ago. I found it very valuable. Some of my best colors were a surprise, some not. The BEST and most unexpected benefit is how well the items in my wardrobe work together now. No more mismatching. I can have fewer pieces overall because they all work together.
Wonderful!
This is an amazing video! I'm not particularly old, but still love this video so much.
I've been told my entire life how to dress or what not to wear, just to blend in and cause no attention. This is such an important topic, no matter the age. But what I can read from the comments so far, dear Leonie, you really spoke from many hearts. Thank you!
Thank you 🙏🏼
I’m glad I stayed until the end of your remarks. In the first few minutes of this video, the thought of “dressing up” popped into my head. And then another thought emerged, “Would it be useful to try and recall and consider my memories of playing dress-up when I was a kid?” I did and here is what happened:
Memories of playing dress-up came fast. In my mind’s eye, I was playing with my good friend and neighbor in the basement of our St. Paul home, circa1960. I loved touching the fabrics, noticing the difference in their weight, hand, and drape of the various clothes are mothers had given us. Later in life, I my best friend and neighbor was the daughter of a well-heeled woman who went to a lot of parties. The assortment of nightgowns in her mother’s cedar closets amazed me.
As I focus on memories of playing dress up (and the teen equivalent getting “dressed”) I realize my particular interest has always been in "putting together the look." The complexity of choosing multiple pieces for a "look" and thinking through how each piece “fits” with the other pieces fascinated me then and still does today. I’m drawn to the mental process of choosing things and thinking through their combinations. Maybe playing dress up builds our ability to think in complex ways.
The other part of “dressing up” that attracted me was “putting on the clothes” of another. I don’t think it was because I wanted to be that other person. I think curiosity drove me. Quite literally, I wanted to know what it felt like to be that other person. Even today, I wonder what it would be like to carry the weight of weapons. Maybe playing dress-up helps us to develop our empathy.
Playing dress-up also gives us opportunities to think more consciously about the roles we taken on as individuals. Did I like dressing up as a fairy? Did I like dressing up as a cowboy? As women in the 21st century, we are asked and able to juggle the many roles we assume as grow-ups and doing that consciously rather than unconsciously makes all the difference.
In your video, you called on women to think more consciously about how they want to “appear” to the world. As a retired person, I delight in purposely creating different looks and exploring the reactions of others to my look. Differences in the response of others when we “dress-up” and when we “dress-down” provide lots of information about societal norms.
Even after all these years, it’s great to think about playing dress-up. I highly encourage everyone to play.
It is true I’ve felt invisible recently. I often travel alone abroad and one of the reasons I feel so safe is I just blend in. Nobody really notices me. So that’s one positive for feeling invisible. I actually played dress up yesterday. I purchased a ton of new items over last month for fall. It’s fun, but a bit confusing. Working on my new “style”. I do feel better when I put in some effort. At 61 not following any rules. No thanks. Interesting topic. Thanks!
Hi Leonie this video is really great and totally resonated with me. I’ve been fighting invisibility and playing dress up for a few years. I regularly play with colour, style, texture and accessories!! I just met a man who really noticed the elements of my outfit and asked me to take selfies of my daily creation to show him ❤❤I’ve embraced it fully!!! Thanks SO much for this video Leonie it’s bang on 😊 Have a lovely day
I think you are suggesting that I get out of my black, gray and navy mode and try some color, which is a bit scary. I am a baby boomer, so it is difficult to even think of changing. There are dozens of millions of baby boomers in the US and social media ignores us. We don't exist. We are not cool. We have one foot in the grave. We vote- some of us- conservative. But... the fact is that we still want to look great and buy new clothes and accessories and new makeup. Thank you for your encouragement. and some photos of "older women."
Yes I hear you Gail - change is always hard but I believe it's worth it - good luck x
But if u love black, gray, navy, (my favorite colors too), then there’s no need to change the color palette, but maybe add some pieces and accessories in burgundy, forest green, red and white. 😊
I definitely not invisible. I am 66 yrs absolutely love fashion, I look at trends and take from it what I like which isn’t everything. I love charity shopping and finding that piece which is not on the high street. Great video
Love that!
wish I could hit a "heart button" over and over loved this so much and will watch over again to let this sink in! So guilty of convenience dressing and leaving about 80% of my wardrobe unworn. I loved all of your tips and will make some play time to mix and match items that may still have tags and actually wear them or donate. Mid 50s and shedding a few pounds is helping me feel great when I can fit back into clothes in my wardrobe that I love once again. Thank you showing a variety of styles and offering some of the best advice on breaking the rules and picking the right colors starting fresh, love it! I was shopping with my 16 year old yesterday and actually bought a simple linen blend terracotta top in the juniors dept. to go with some linen blend black wide leg drapey pants (on sale).. it was a good day.. thank you Leonie ♥
It is interesting when you think about the lack of estrogen in women and suddenly not being acknowledged, especially by men. I definitely noticed this when I turned 50. Now, I don't care. In the beginning, it bothered me. It is a normal part of growing older and it is better than not being here. I still work remotely and need to dress for Zoom calls. I have beautiful clothes and I enjoy wearing them even when I am not working.
I also don't care if I'm not visible to men specifically but I don't want to be overlooked in general - if that makes sense?
I decided to have fun in dressing now that I’m retired - if I want to wear my dressy clothes- I do - just with flats instead of heels…it’s been fun!
Im 59, retired learning golf ⛳️ and walk a lot on English beaches. I also volunteer at a Foodbank. I don't get much chance to dress up but I'm going to buy more classics and less fast fashion going forward. I need to shop my wardrobe too!
Color is very important! At 73 I feel I’ve gotten paler even after a bit of tan in summer.
Yes me too 😭
I try to regularly go to my Pinterest clips and recreate something that I’ve admired. It helps me step outside of my comfort zone.
Yay 🙌🏼
Wow! Did this speak to me. I am over 50 and going through an unexpected and unwanted transition in my life. Instead of withdrawing, I am doing a lot of self care. I have always kept myself in shape now it is time to accentuate it and start loving myself and life again. Thank you!
Wonderful! This is YOUR time x
Thank you Leonie !
I am 53years old and going through menopause right now, so I have gained weight and feeling a bit rubbish. So I’m finding very difficult to be visible as clothes does not fit right . However, when I wear certain colours I always feel better and more confident. Thank you again to remind me I am beautiful at any age ❤
Leonie this was a much needed video and I agree whole heartedly with the pit falls of our inner critic. It can be devastating for some women. Swapping out a negative view point of ourselves for a more positive outlook isn't easy, but so necessary if we're going to show up as the best possible version of ourselves. Over the past year, I lost 50lbs and bought a new wardrobe, I'm soon to be 68, but my gosh, I love my classic sense of style, love my new clothes, and I really enjoy getting ready for my day now, no matter what I've got planned for the day. Paramount in this transition was brutally weeding out old clothes that just didn't suit my taste any more. I was shocked to see how many items I'd been hanging on to, but never wore. Today I do play around with my pieces to create new more fashion forward outfits. There was a time in my life when I was overly concerned about what others thought about me, but when it comes to fashion, I dress only to please myself these days. Since I like classic pieces, some days, I might feel a bit overdressed, but hey, why not show up being the best dressed person in the room? Why not? I'm a confident women and whether I'm wearing a tank top under a button down shirt with baggy wide leg jeans or a nice skirt, I want to show up for my day feeling and looking my best! Thanks again for a great video!
Confidence is my super power. I live on a tourist island where the dress wear is very casual (shorts and flip-flops 🤢)however I prefer to wear what makes me feel beautiful. You are absolutely right .Thank you Leonie
I bought a pair of crocs while on vacation at Disney this last week. These things are crazy, covered in treats, pink and cartoony - and I knew I wanted them the moment I saw them. I'm 50 and I know a ton of people who don't like crocs already and these things would be considered a fashion abomination. It's okay, these are just for my comfort and joy - not to mention a great conversation starter. I'm not competing with my 20 year old self, this is just for fun. I need to play in my wardrobe and assemble more fun outfits for myself. The crocs kind of open my mind to the fact I've been missing whimsy and imagination in my outfits and that is sad because that is a core part of my personality. Lots of great ideas to mull over from this video - well done!
I also bought a pair of tie dyed platform crocs this spring. I also love mine! They are part of my quirky boho personality. (My daughter hates them) i am spending more time dressing for my retirement days. I ditched the corporate life. I wear dresses, skirts and shorts in the summer here in TX.
@@juliejohnson-hunt7134 I am eyeing those platform crocs, they are definitely in my future!
I absolutely love this! I think a lot of us miss "whimsy and imagination" in our outfits as we get older as we feel it's only something for the younger generation. I love the sound of your Crocs - yay for you xxx
@@artistforlife they are so very comfy!
I had my colours done back in the 80’s. It really helps when shopping to know what suits me. Because if what colour I am wearing suits me I naturally feel better. Although I do know that now that my hair is grey I can no longer wear grey and I seem to look better in more pastel shades rather than some of the darker colours I could wear when I was younger and dark haired.
I love hearing you encourage us “older” ladies to dress stylish and have fun! I love how dressing up with an outfit makes me feel! And I love “playing in my closet!” Once I learned that-game on🥰
I’ve been getting ready for a trip and pulled out that 80% of my wardrobe I don’t wear. I have a rail and I’ve been trying different items if I find a look I like I put it together on the rail to wear. If there are things that don’t work then get rid of them or put them away and revisit later. It is a struggle as we get older but I love fashion and want to look the best I can for who and where I am in my life. We need to encourage each other. Thanks for sharing 🦋
Hello Leonie, I am a full time artist so I am wearing paint clothes and a smock most of the time but I make sure they are cool! Lol when I go out I alwsys look nice and put together. Its so funny some of my friends will ask me why I am dressed up and I think I really am not I just want to look nice.
Earlier this year I wandered into the Personal Stylist's office at Macy's and learned there's no additional cost for the personal shopper there and you get a great level of service.
Wow that’s great to know 😊
Great video, as woman we judge ourselves so harshly sometimes for not being perfect...perfect is boring, having fun and enjoying life should be the priority.
I totally relate to being drawn to the same safe styles although I have tried to evolve over the years (managed it a bit, even got a long denim skirt recently!). It's painstaking work though in tiny little increments. I did watch a second hand re-style series here in the UK recently and I felt really inspired by what the stylists were doing with two participants each week, turning around their style, creating new and exciting looks. I noticed that they were putting together well styled outfits with clashing colours and prints and designs and achieving really juicy looks. Certainly making me look different at it all!
Its a matter of wearing the clothes you bought for your fantasy self. And then the realization of whether that works for you or not. If it doesnt then you can save money but not buying what you dont wear.
Hey Leonie! I am striving to stay enthusiastic about getting dressed for the day through my remaining years. I do still dress clunky around the house if I am doing chores that can destroy clothing (heavy duty stuff). I thrift so that I can find those exceptional pieces to play dress up and have such great fashionable options at affordable prices.
Welcome to America again and hop you are able to go thrifting while you are out here.
Thanks for sharing such positive advice for the aging women like myself.
I thought of your video today and decided to wear dark lipstick I usually would have shied away from! We can still be creative.
I haven’t played dress up for over 40 years. I should do that.
Yes 🙌🏼
I like the idea of playing dress up and I will do just that. It’s time to downsize and just keep the clothing that fits me and my style. Thank you Leon. Great advice. Accessories are essential agreed.
Great pep talk! I regularly play in my closet putting outfits together that I’ve seen on your channel (and maybe other sites;) it’s one of the most fun things I do!
I love being invisible 😊
Ageing we loose visibilità and i think, we have to respect and accept it as the choice of other people... but we can finally express ourselves (in any case nobody cares of us, sees us). I notice in old women a real indipendent style, a way of dressing so unique and free...
I don’t “save my good clothes for a special time” anymore; if it’s beautiful, I WEAR it. I don’t need to draw attention, or look like a clown, I just wear the lovely clothing now. Any you should too 😊
Such a great video! You say compleately what I think abaout fashion "over 50"! It is so much fun to try out new things in which we feel confident, I am convinced that fashion can be a real gamechanger also for our mental health! We just have to be consciuos about that fact an invest some time in finding what we really like.
Thanks for the new video Leonie! Here I´ll answer your two questions:
1.
I create outfits in the beginning of the new season including the new trends. As an example for this season: Work outfit no 1: A black blazer with white trims, white or burgundy top, black trousers and a burgundy nail polish. Work outfit no 2: A black blazer with a burgundy top, black trousers and a thin scarf in lepard print I will use as a belt. Work outfit no 3: Navy blazer with a burgundy top, navy trousers and a burgundy nail polish. Party outfit nr 1: Black dress with white trims on arms and round the waist.
2.
I really use 100 % of my wardrobe. (But I´m really good in cleaning my wardrobe regually.)
/Marie from Sweden
Sounds like you’ve got a good thing going there Marie 🙌🏼 Thx for sharing ☺️
@@Thestyleinsider.Thanks Leonie. /Marie
Ayeee, My original hometown!! Enjoy.
Such a great home town too! x
Nice vid! Showed it to my mum cuz she always get dressed and put some blush and lipstick even if that day she is working from home. I always try to introduce her to new trends and sometimes I win😀. She says everything look good when u r young but I think if she starts doing that now that she is in her fifties she will get used to it as u said. Thank u !!😊
Loves “ grant ourselves permission to be seen”💖
At nearly 62, i figured that since i am invisible i get to do whatever i want and wear whatever makes me happy 😁
I find it liberating to not have to worry about what people think!😊
As a physician I can tell you that I see a lot of women come in with various aches and pains and the only thing wrong with them is that they are suffering from invisible woman syndrome. Kids have left, husbands are at work and these women are now just homemakers with not much to do. They are lonely and aching for relevancy. Its almost a loss of identity. NO amount of going to the stores and trying new clothes, hiring a specialist is going to fix that by the way because all of these things may fix the exterior but not the interior and since a lot of these women are at home all day they may not have a reason to shop. My advise is exercise, have a healthy diet but most importantly find a purpose in life. Living without a purpose is like a ship sailing in the ocean with no direction. It's the purpose in life whether it be volunteering, nurturing a hobby, taking up a new job, learning a new skill that will provide relevancy and lift you out of being invisible. Life is long and when you are older you will lose relevancy unless you take steps to make yourself relevant . Wearing new clothes aint going to fix that
Thank you Leoni, this really resonated with me and was inspiring 🩷
That's great to hear thanks for sharing x
Thanks Leonie you’ve reminded me to play in the wardrobe and try different pieces together. You’re absolutely right, looking good helps me feel better and it’s a good platform to ignite my self compassion and build my inner confidence. ❤
Hi Leonie! Cool T Shirt! I love colourful outfits, fancy sneakers, chic handbags. Adding some jewellery and lovely scarves… I am more than visible although nearly sixty… enjoyed your video, thank you for encouraging us elder women. ❤❤❤ Greetings from Germany
Sounds great and thank you for watching 🙏🏼
I would wholeheartedly suggest in person colour analysis. Not online. It's too tricky.
It's so much easier to navigate through fashion, i.e. styles and colours, when you are certain what suits you, colour wise.
I'm 100% sure about that.
But, to each his own.
Excellent advice - I really needed to hear this. Thank you❤
So glad!
Some times I think I live in my closet! I love to play dress up and putting outfits together. The problem I have now is I have a sore foot so I have to wear comfortable and supportive shoes … I’m petite so I miss my heals.
Love your videos! .I play dress up in my closet about every 6 months or so. I create new outfits for date night and casual days. I usually have a few new pieces to change things up and purge the items that no longer work for me. I recently started taking photos because after wearing and laundry I tend to forget how I styled them. 🤓
Every morning I look in the mirror and say Hey Michele, I Love you girl. Makes me laugh sometimes, but it helps get me going. Dressing for me absolutely!!
Love that!
Fantastic vid loved it . Love your content it is so inspiring informative and interesting 🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥❤️❤️❤️😍👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Thanks so much!
Fabulous ideas! I am guilty of convenience dressing and am in a style rut. After menopause, my body has changed, so my clothes either don't fit well or just don't look right any longer. I appreciate all your tips for shaking things up. Will definitely be using them. Ty
Yay! We all need to shake things up from time to time 👍🏼
I play dress up always. Rotate my pieces. Your video is excellent.
Welcome to the DMV my hometown. 👋👋👋👋👋💐
Oh wow!!! Thank you. Where are you based? I love the DMV ☺️
I had no idea the invisible syndrome was a thing! 🤷♀️At least now I know it’s just not me.😊
Sadly it's not just you :(
Since I discovered shopping live shows on the Poshmark last year, I’ve really stepped up my style game. With such low prices, it’s easy to try new things and take fashion risks. I feel great dressing nice everyday even if I don’t leave the house!
Nailed it, Leonie 💙💙💙
Thank you 🙏🏼
Being kind to yourself 👍🏻 great advice in so many areas!
Absolutely!
L💓ve your positive speech 🤩🫶🌟 i’ll think of your words next time i get dressed 👏😁💃
Yay 🙌🏼
Agree with you 200% Leonie, great video content.
Thanks so much for watching Kaz x
I like watching your videos, but this is one of your best
This is such a great message to us all... take the chance and have fun with fashion. Than you so much!
If you are older (60's+) and you go into stores and head to the same things, there is probably a reason. These are things you have figured out that look good on you (it's not about being in a rut and wearing the same things for decades). Most likely they are also in your price range, your size, your colors, so this is not a bad thing. Also, that's a lot better than trying "new things" that look ridiculous.
OMGoodness I needed this, thank you
That's great to hear x
Thank you for a beautiful video! This is a great video to come back to again and again to remind us how wonderful we are!
Amen sister!!!
Thank you.
Wonderful words today!!! Really appreciate you and your thoughts around this topic. They definitely ring true as I have started retirement and am trying to determine who I want to be in this chapter of my life. I heard what you are saying and agree with it all. I do many of these things but found a few ideas to further incorporate into my daily life. As for your question, I definitely play dress up each quarter as I create my capsules for each new season and plan my look for the season. I also take outfit photos every time I wear an “outfit” worth recording. Thanks for creating your channel and helping us!! ❤
I'm an attorney that works from home. I go from lounge wear to extreme corporate wear. I struggle with finding a happy medium. I'm also an empty nester. My husband and I have really gotten into date nights, and movie and drinks night. Can you give us some ideas for over 40s sexy date night outfits?❤. With vintage furs returning to the fall trends (not putting in the land fills) this season, I'd like to pull out my mother's fabulous furs from the 80s. No new fur of course but the ones sitting in cold storage every year. Persian lamb and mink that are being copied in fake fur styles everywhere. Can you give some advice on how to style both this winter? Fake or vintage fur is such a scary look to do.😂. It's looks great on the runway, but in real life it can easily go soooooo wrong. I always look to your channel for great tips. Thank you, 😊 I trust any advice you can give on this. ❤❤
Leonie you’re in my hometown!👏🏽❤️👍🏽Hope that you’re having a wonderful time.
As I watch many many fashion videos it seems to be a closed circle. Women are taught 5, 10 or "simply 15 rules to follow" and they have been given the ridiculously boring idea of a "capsule wardrobe" to be clones of each other - and when they start to be invisible also by that - the resolution is to break all those rules 😅
And it is true, Leonie is right speaking about breaking the rules.
We can simplify it to 2 words:
color & fantasie!
But fashion in general are making rules. I suggest namely WE DON'T HAVE TO BE FASHIONABLE ☺️
You have wonderful tips for us to follow. If we adjust our mental attitude, other good things will follow. Enjoy Washington.
Thank you and I agree - attitude is super important 👍🏼
Love your videos - so sincere and motivating. Thank you Leonie ❣️
Greetings from London 🇬🇧 Thank you for your videos
Subscribed straight away loved it ❤
Aww thank you - I’m pleased you enjoyed this one ☺️
I play dress-up 4 times a year at the change of season. It would be a good idea to do it more often.
This was great . Good important topic . I make sure to talk and give attention to all ages ….especially older ……I dressed up a little more today ….i felt good …. I usually wear baggy loose stuff…. Just comfy ….but I love switching it up .