I might be the good person in someone's life, but the breaking point was once they finally shouted the hell outta me, "Who made you that way?!" and I've always known. Yet I've never succeeded in mending the damage.
Yes. My friend. I was the one who changed them. I dont really understand why but when I asked her, she say “this is all because of you.” I really regret this. I wish I can changed her back.
Dear women of the world be good and let us not except things from others that we our selves are capable of doing. Let us choose to love others in a manner that is not sinful. That includes loving ourselves in a sinless manner. Such as not stealing to help another. Such as not gossiping. Such as not being bullies of another because of your friends. Such as not lying to protect self or others.
@@Psych2go I appreciate that you all took the time to create this video. The deep aspect of how anyone can turn or switch up from good to bad is a struggle Humanity has had to face for generations. I think it's a scary concept but I enjoy the idea of people having the resiliency keep going. This is a helpful video.
@@okjeffy6581 People often judge a good person as bad..amd vice versa.. If a person gets framed ...either people will add more obstacles to prove it right...or intentionally there are someone already to ruin someone behind your back..
Completely made up example: I work 6 hours per day My friend works 3 hours a day for the same person I cut back on working for 1 hour because I want more free time 5>3 I'm still viewed as more selfish than my friend by the majority of people because I want more free time. That's how screwed up society has gotten.
People become lazy when content with a situation. The secret to productivity is to never be content. Although helping them may have gotten them what they needed to accomplish, they became content with having someone to fall back onto when times became hard. I personally like the model of giving someone a period of time to achieve a task then have a review where you can suggest changes to their process in the future and explain the merits of changing a procedure. The length of time depends on the task, but shouldn't be long enough to overwhelm the person needing help. If they come up with nothing, then they are not worth helping, and need an easier job. I also feel selfish saying that, but at the end of the day we all want to feel accomplished in our work and if helping others runs against that, then we need to protect our mental health. You're not a bad person, others simply don't understand your value. Try allocating a smaller period of time for each person who you would like to help. It also sounds like your coworker isn't putting enough time into his job and should perhaps be discussed with your boss.
Nah, not only then. It can and will always happen, no matter what you've done or how you've lived. If you concentrate only on this, you won't be able to do anything in your life without worrying wether or not other people see you as a bad person.
@@konan8182 Yeah... no matter how good you are, even if you know 100 people who have nothing but good things to say about you and think you're a good person, there will still be one person who thinks you're a bad person and talks about you poorly.
"Being good takes courage to fall and not want others to fall too" bro, that's powerful. That thought is the motivation to fight harder against our own evil.
I did learn something new. I've been abused in half of my life... or on the second thought in my whole life. We were poor when I was a child and my father used to get drunk and let his suppressed anger out on anyone in the family. I've been bullied in school until I stood up and beat the shit out of one of them. Employers humiliated me, because they thought they can do it. My partners took advantage of me because they thought I let them. Once, I became the monster... then I realized that what I'm doing is not what I want to do, so I changed for the better, so the one who pushed me into this madness can kick in me one last time. Long story short, I've been through a hell of a ride so far and now here I sit, talking with my ex girlfriend who lied into my face, cheated on me and blamed everything on me and I'm trying to show her that all is forgiven. I learned that I'll be a good person no matter what and it'll be painful, but fuck it... this is what I am.
I think also there’s something that a lot of people missing (except HSP) empathy. People without empathy are not able to understand how other feels in certain situations like bullying etc...There’s also self perception which makes people doing bad things because they don’t even that is bad ! Because nobody told them it is bad to do this that they think it’s not bad so (sorry for my english)
Alot of this could be placed on mental health issue and then all leads to a path cause no one helped when they noticed and that person had no one to help, if anyone has been in a place of darkness its hard to find that way out. They make it like its nothing but majority of the time its the nice people who cause these things to other people and they will never admit it cause then they have to own there own mental health problems. A bully is never the hero or Savior, when the time comes a bully is a coward and leaves you in the bad situation, if its a good one they profit off they will always be around.
You're so wrong you can't even understand it. Empathy does not prevent people from doing bad things. What is lacking is conscientiousness, sentience and common sense. Many of humane emotions are just displays of our animalistic needs. And some of them needs shall not be accepted in the modern society e.g.: greediness, egoism, vain etc.
Video summary 1. Tragedy 2. Poverty 3. Addiction 4. Moral superiority 5. Abuse 6. Ideological possession 7. Affluence (I would recommend you to watch the full video to understand the topic better)
I only got suffering from being good , I lost my health , student life , best part of youth , career , people stabbed me in back , took advantage of my goodness , they abused me , used me , I lost golden opportunities and chances due to my morality , even in worst cases I kept my morality , but now I'm exhausted , physically and mentally , Now after becoming bad I'm kinda balancing my life , trying to put it back on track , and not staying good like earlier has improved my life
Yep, I believe it! There is no such thing as Karma. Good things happen to bad people, and bad things happen to good people all of the time. Those that think otherwise are either in denial or completely delusional.
I'm one of those who broke the cycle... I was bullied and hated for the first 18 years of my life by classmates, 'friends' and family. It only stopped when I was finally able to move away from my city and start over. During those 18 years I thought there were no good people in the world. That's how bad it was. I swore to never leave anyone alone, to hate them or to make them intentionally suffer in any way. I would give credit where it's due and give everyone a shoulder to cry on. I love everyone around me unconditionally, just because I know what it's like to be hated. I gravitate towards people who suffer and I'm almost obsessed with helping them to feel better. I've helped more people recover from depression than I can even remember at this point. Be kind to everyone. It makes you feel better too.
All of these have happened to me and I still strive to be good. You don't gotta save anyone but yourself. Even God expects that, save yourself don't try to save anyone else.
The key is understanding how to protect yourself: your kindness, empathy and unconditional love are a precious gift, though not everyone deserves it. People ARE going to exploit you, people who you trust (family, friends) ARE going to use you, but with time you'll learn how to heal from this kind of trauma, get rid of toxic relationships, move on and defend yourself in a civil way❤
Yeah i turned bad because I had enough. Everyone disrespected and took the good person in me for granted.. till i reached Rock bottom and realized I'm not happy because of it.
@Anthony Delfos I know a few good politicians. And a few good ex-politicians. Also a whack of really good businessmen. And some of the inverse as well, but good, competent people do often rise to the top.
This is completely me ! I met some good friends thanks to that but in the end, i'm feeling depressed 'cause of all the people who don't care about me, and just want tu use me.
Honestly, thanks to Quarantine I think this reflects so much on what's going on with people. I do hope more people can learn from this and prevent themselves from being bad, and to anyone who's still good and are fighting against these things: you're a hero, and I respect you for that. I hope that everyone knows this video. Love it as always ♡
@@dfquartzidn6151 Population control obviously.There's way too many of us on this tiny earth.If things keep up like this,we'll exhaust all of our resources in less than 50 years.So yeah.I can kinda understand as to why someone would make this virus.
I’m glad that I’m one of those ppl that broke the cycle and has never abused someone else..no matter how many times I’ve been abused and repeatedly knocked down
With enough weight, long enough, anyone's brain can break. But evil, in the beginning is a choice. It starts with the argument- Is it better to be good or effective? Everyone with any potential for good (not all) has to wrestle with this question. Nothing simple in this life.
thing is eveyone wants to judge the few people who stepped into misfortune and are assholes because of it and just point a finger knowing damn well it can happen to themself but dont want to be a help.
What I find more interesting isn’t what makes good people become bad, but what made bad people bad. Throughout life I believed everyone was good, but sometimes did bad things. I was wrong. There are bad people who choose to stay bad.
People stay bad because it's easier. It's like creating and destroying. Creating something takes effort and time, for example planting some seeds, watering them, and waiting until they grow. Compare this with getting an axe and chopping it up. Takes some effort too, but it's much easier and faster. And hey, who says you can't reap the benefits (lets say for this example, collecting fruit or wood)
@@Walamonga1313 That makes a lot of sense on the surface. However, if we change your analogy slightly and agree that the person really wants a tree (love) and has been seeking a tree (love) all of their life, and they came across a beautiful tree (love) that was already growing, why the F$%K would they chop it down (hate)? You would think that after a lifetime of chopping down trees (hate) they would start to learn that to grow a tree (love) they have to quit chopping them down. Sometimes they dont have to do anything but stop chopping down the tree and let it grow on its own.
When you've been rejected and disrespected all your life, after years of ostracism , betrayal and disappointment, you begin to appreciate the darker part of you , cause you realize that the traits that others demonize are those that keep your head above water.
Those are the rules in our world,good people always have to get hurt,always have to go through pain,always die first,tbh i'm tired of being a good person
@@Someone-wx7pb I think we were taught, that good means harmless and agreeable. Jordan Peterson has some videos about this. we think nice is good. and people are taught to always obey and never defend themselves. we can say no, and still he polite, without letting others use us
I will agree...it takes courage, or inner strength to treat with kindness and respect a community that has mistreated and disrespected you for most of your life, but I also see how easy it would be to react with anger and contempt
I was abused as a child and am working on myself so when I have a child, I won't repeat the cycle of abuse. When she said people who are doing this are noble, I teared up. It felt good to be validated, the work I've been doing on myself is meaningful and will make me into a good person. :')
This describes me. I was betrayed by almost every friend group I have been in. I became darker and hated everyone around me. I shut myself off and became numb, I lost most of my emotion and didn't care about anyone. I started looking at the world as a task to finish until I die. I stopped caring about myself and my mental health died.
The real question is if "good" and "bad" even are defined terms for personalities, and how they are defined. You may say that someone who is a "good" person is someone who follows his dreams. What if these dreams involve hurting other people? You may now see this person as "bad". But what if hurting people isn't defined as a bad action? Take racism in the middle ages as an example. It was defined as a "good" action to kill people from or wipe out entire ethnic groups. Who or what defines what's "good" or "bad"? That's an interesting topic in my opinion
I guess with humans society does but obviously it's a hard question what is good and what isn't. But too me it seems like the perspective makes the good and the bad. A mountain would maybe be more happy if no men would mine him.
@@Krizlyyy Good question. Here is how I view it: the Bible is our life's guide. There are rules and ways to live our life. Sometimes, we, as humans, interpret certain things differently. Another reason is because certain people grew up, believing whatever their parents have told them. It becomes their philosophy. This doesn't make them bad; it just means they need help guiding their lives. For instance, if their parents taught their kids that lying is a good thing, they will believe it. However, as they grow older, it would affect them in their own personal lives. This is where a friend or a close loved one steps in and says, "Hey, that's not right." Finally, when it comes to bad morals, it can become purposeful. Say somebody knows that stealing is wrong, yet they do it anyway. God didn't give them these morals; God gave them free will. I hope this makes sense, and if you have any other questions I am more than willing to answer them.
@@ashleyheller1537 I mean i agree with your second comment (mostly) but to me it seems your second comment is the complete opposite to the first comment. I mean if god gave us free will to choose our morals he didn't set our morals. Edit: I kinda misinterpreted here you ment they know the morals of god just choose to not follow them right? But still your philosophy makes your morals so not give by god
I'll admit going down that road has been tempting at times. I always seem to get screwed over by people and made out to be the villain so there were times when i wanted to show 'em what an actual bad guy looks like. But that would make me an actual bad guy and that's not something i wanna be. I'm a lot colder/numb than i used to be but i'd like to think i'm still a good person.
I remember this one dude during lunch bullied me and when I got mad he screamed for a teacher saying that I got mad at him for no reason and that I was gonna hit him. I got in trouble even tho the entire class was a witness. *such is life*
It's called framing..people at this most act like victims themselves..but they aren't...cause at that time no one knews someone stories.. Sometimes it's best not to end up explaining much stories..people won't care about listening it..they just do a small talk and move forward...
Victim of bullying here for 8 years of my elementary and HS days and i admit that i became a loner back in the days and even scared of being friends with somebody. Opening up is not easy
My older sister was such a sweet person before her addiction to drugs started in her 9th grade of high school. Its been a decade now and we've done everything we can to help her but shes turned to a life of deception and guilttripping to get what she wants, including her next fix. I just wish there was a way to get her back.
I remember one of my first friends. She was a girl and i was a guy and we both liked each other. When we were in grade 4 i to,d her i liked and she said she liked me too and we were closer. Then in grade 5 a new student started “taking her away from me”. When he did that i became cold and heartless to my girl friend. I was the bad one. I very regret being that way, so if ur reading this Elisha, im sorry.
I was a good man but I realised being a good person didn’t really get me anywhere and while other people I came across were not very good people got what they wanted.
Be careful who you trust. Sometimes the niceness that you show to others comes at the expense of your own happiness and well-being. Some people might try to take advantage of your kindness and use your good nature against you. Don't be so nice that you start to resent the people you're nice to. Don't say yes so often that people start asking too much of you. Set healthy boundaries. I made that mistake in my childhood and adolescence. I was willing to help my classmates with anything they wanted, including class notes or a project. It came at a price, however. They took advantage of my good will and only came to me when they needed something, ranging from wanting to copy off my homework to making me buy things for them. They would always come to me for favors, and I felt like I had no choice but to accept every request the students gave to me without question, regardless of how unwilling, uncomfortable or frustrated I was. It caused me to resent them and become burned out. It started to become my ego's addiction. But I know better now.
NGL im going to use these 7 circomstances to make my good character into a future evil character/villian. So to make it feel more natural rather then ”evil for evils sake”
After I felt emotionally neglected by my partner who decided I wasn't even worth a goodbye, I felt a combination of pain. Feelings of sadness, anger, frustration, regret, guilt and probably a few more. I couldn't understand her behaviour, she used a lot of passive aggression to make me feel bad for letting her down slightly. I spent a long time researching why people act this way. I picked up so many things that could explain this for me and give me the closure I was so desperate for. It seemed heavily relate to all the traits of borderline personality disorder. I haven't heard from her for an entire year. I was the best person in the world for a time being and then suddenly I was the worst person in the world. I consider myself to have traits of an empath as I am sensitive to negativity/conflict. I score high in Openness, agreeableness and neuroticism on the big 5. After going through PTSD from feeling so betrayed and manipulated, I noticed I wasn't the same as I used to be, my patience was null, I cut myself off from everybody and went into a full isolation for months. I started opening up to others again while trying to look after my own emotions better, . I gradually came out of it but I would still feel so agitated when someone tried to be nice to me. I felt like they didn't really care either. I noticed this probably wasn't perhaps thinking about how my actions were affecting others, I was still feeling resentful and angry. I never really unleashed myself on anybody although the anger inside me was just ready to pop. I literally couldn't lay still without wanting to kick my arms and legs everywhere, I felt like a ticking time bomb. I somehow managed to contain it and would find a minute to cry somewhere. It would help, I'm still building up trust in others and learning today. I am always observing my feelings before I take action. There's a lot of things I learnt from researching BPD that I could apply and improve myself with. Although I highly doubt I meet the criteria for any sort of personality disorder, I was still open to living a calmer life where I try to judge nobody. People come, people go, it's just how it is.
@@Joshy2-TJC I am very sorry about what happened to you man, Betrayal is always fricken painful But now that you have overcome it, you're a stronger person than you were before I hope you find a wonderful and a more deserving partner
I hope we as a society can evolve and become more aware of others, have more empathy and really understand others. Many people just need a good friend who they can talk to. But be aware that people in need of a chat may have a hard time opening up, cause many things are personal and people are very scared of being judged for their actions, everyone just wants others to understand them and not be judged and yet we judge everyone in our surroundings...
Getting a healthy distance to society has been right thing for me. I drive for doing good things for people and achieving my own goals. I don't apologize for not fullfilling social demands. Often times the demands the society forces on people are unrealistic. I luckily realised how unhealthy society was at age of 14-16. I got bullied back then hard and felt like society wasn't treating me well even though i tried to act my best with everyone. I almost fell into bitterness and hate. I had battle of two: good or bad. I decided in my mind that whatever comes to me, i remain good. I'm not gonna fall into being like the people who bully, harass and do injustice to me. And i'm still in road of doing my best to be nice towards people i meet in real life and online. I don't specifically go after pleasing everybody, but i don't treat people like shit for no absolute reason either. I try to research information of different type of people than me. I'm curious to learn all the time new things and develop my understanding. I have hard time myself getting into shoes of extremely mean people. I've faced random people flashing at me in real life and online. It never really made sense to me why they did so, because I never had myself the need to make random person feel miserable. And i believe not all of those people had mental issues that caused them act in certain way. There is something different. After all as i see it society only forces it's believes on you, if you let it. There is life outside of those unwritten rules. You just need to be brave enough to get ouf of shackles that are holding you back. 🙂
You kick ass, and thank you for remaining a good person! Mmy only thing is, please be careful with your trust. Lots of people will abuse that, and just because you're nice to people, doesn't mean you need to have faith in their intentions or deeds.
@@thesurvivorssanctuary6561 Yeah, that's the down side of trying to be good person. People want to and will take advantage of you. Sometimes i do find myself being tricked, cause i believe in people being better to each other. I don't really know a way to change that. I don't want to turn to one of them and shut curtains to everyone. There's a lot of good people out there. Some people may have just had bad day when they met me. It's though quite easily to notice when people are not being genuine. Noticing that saves from a lot of hurtful moments. It's ok.🙂
Sometimes if you do something different or all by yourself not others involved ...people gets jealous amd this hatred spreads everywhere..they whom living for long time...knows the situation or not knowing...they intentionally act in such way that what's wrong with you? rather than what's wrong with them...?
@@wildyato3737 I get what you mean. A lot of times over the years i've met people example in my class who have started acting rude towards me as time had gone by without me doing previously anything negative towards them. Maybe they've been scared of a person that doesn't share everything easily and are hard to connect with. People have been telling me always as well that i am the problem and i should start to live in the way of others even though my lifestyle hasn't been hurting anyone. I just enjoy spending time alone and doing things i enjoy.
This is why I'm so glad that people are able to be the exceptions in the face of misfortune... I and many of my friends and family have faced things that I wouldn't wish onto my worst enemy, but instead of becoming bad people, we made it our missions to rise above it and help those who might be less knowledgeable of their breaking points. We can only live together if we try. 🧡
1:14 It's not about "feeling justified." We're expected to act like Everyone Else, when we don't even get a chance to heal from Tragedy/Stress. It's like asking someone with a Broken Leg: "Why can't you walk?"
This begs the question, why are we being good, is it because people are good to us? Are we going to stop being good people if people stopped being good to us?. I know it is unrealistic of me to ask that, but for those who can still do good even in the midst of bad things in their life. I cannot give anything but salutation, awe, and some words of appreciation. Whoever you are that are still an angel even while being in hell, you are the beacons of our hope, you're people that makes our world warm and bearable. Thank you for all that you done.
I will tell you from personal experience: being stabbed in the back by someone who you used to trust and were a good friend/partner/whatever to, will either create or surface a side of you you don't want to know. If, on top of that, the person never seems to show regret or care about what they did to you, you can become an absolute monster. NEVER intentionally and knowingly wrong people who did nothing to you and, if you do, you better try really hard at apologizing and compensating the other person (and get started with that quickly). *"He who denies an apology will remember it at a time he begs for forgiveness"*
Here’s something I like to say : It’s never too late to turn back from evil. But it’s up to you , how strong is your will? , how strongly you believe in your morals? and do you have the strength to forgive yourself?
The abusers are often the abused. It doesn't make them right or good. Truly good people are the ones who make it through their trauma, and grow from it
I've endured so much pain in my life and even now. I keep trying to balance the bad I deal with by being good for others and not mistreat them for what I'm dealing with. At the same time I'm also fighting to not become completely closed off and emotionally detached because I know how easy it is to become that way and I don't wanna be like that. I'm hoping my love for Rogers pays off soon.
„All it takes is one bad day.“ ~ Joker I have already been through some of these causes and acted out like a total a**hole. One day it just clicked and I broke down in tears and realised, that I wanted to be good. Soooo, I tried my best to be the nicest I could be, but still not let people take advantage of me. It’s hard, but it kinda makes me more peaceful.
The human race is living in a loose loose situation. Everything is against them. If you are someone who’s overcome a challenging obstacle or are working to overcome these obstacles, I’m giving you a virtual hug.
1, 2, and 5 are true for me. You try and move forward. But sometimes your thoughts weigh on you. Which throws me off, when I'm trying to do things in my daily life. And when people get upset, that I can't perform the same as them, I either get upset back. Or socially withdrawal. Trust and getting out of Survival Mode, is something I still struggle with. Especially, when you don't know how to find people, who would actually give a darn about you. I was diagnosed with Anxiety, PTSD, and Panic Disorder back in February.
Wow 😲. This helps me So much in my recovery fm Abuse fm Narc Mom. When she passed, I realized my 'baby' bro who I protected fm her had become a sociopath. Stole 2 estates fm me by bullying. I collapsed fm being the successful workaholic family caretaker when Mom died. Bro turned on me. I see here He went bad at some point that I denied, just as I denied the abuse my whole life and CPTSD now.
I was tired of supporting my friends and they never supported me when I went through rough times, so I never talked to them again, and I basically had a whole damn change in my life. It was good.
Betrayal and the awakening of reality can no doubt cause a sweet loving person to become a dark, diabolical being. I learned the hard way that being nice and passive was interpreted by everyone else as a permission slip to lie to me, cheat me, betray me, use me, wad me up and throw me away. lol my wife even had the audacity to tell me 'You've changed.' That tends to happen when those we trusted with our lives handed us over to our enemies on a silver platter. She knows good and well what she did to help and induce this CHANGE in me. The nice guy I used to be is no more. In his place this dark, bitter entity dwells in a me me me world, vulnerable to those who seek to exploit the weak, and profit off of the misfortune of others. It made me stronger sure, but it also made me MEANER!
I will admit, being bad is way easier then being good. It’s a difficult thing that you need to put a lot of effort into. But in the end it’s worth it, because I would rather be nice to someone then have the guilt of being mean to them and causing them pain. Also with the abuse cycle, you just have to keep in mind the term “don’t fight fire with fire” or in this case don’t fight hate with hate, it will only cause more hate. It’s a difficult process but it feels better being nice sometimes.
I already know why I’m kinda turning In to a bad person -bullying (I been bullied my sister,nephew,niece.) my sister started it all -being ignored randomly -being avoided by people -anxiety -fake friends -my mum randomly yelling at me always saying I lie (when I used to not untill she started treating me like I’m such a liar and more. Yelling at me for accidents like today I trip over a cord by accident and I was thinking she was going to ask if I was okay but except yelled at me.
I've become bad because of people and life in general treating me as though I'm totally worthless which has also made me feel worthless and hateful about myself. Not only do I suffer from these consistent frustrations, I also have severe anger issues which are both scary and violent. This makes me feel like I'm a burden upon everyone who is close to me and I feel like I do nothing but hurt people. It has drained away the little confidence I had and now, even though I'm extremely sad and lonely, I don't want to meet new people as I feel that they're all the same, that no one cares or understands me and that no one is willing to take the necessary actions to help as I can't do everything on my own.
Yeah I learned I'm a very good person and idk why I let people make me feel like something's wrong with me or that I am not humble because I recognize who I am.
Yes, being a good person it's really hard, really, really hard. Most of the times it hurts, i'm 20 years old, and welp, for now being a good person made me goin a lot of pain with relationships, people and stuff. But, you know: no matter how hard or suffering will be, i'll demonstrate to the people around me that being a good person is possible and nice. My main language is italian, so if made some mistakes, welp, i am sorry.
You've done so well with your English. I could only express myself in English because that's what I speak and write 24/7. But you as an Italian, is just amazing 😘
If this is the truth, why be a hero at all if I will just turn into a villain? Maybe it’s better if one just looks after themselves? Not necessarily to be selfish or to lash out, but just to not get involved?
When you go to the same. United Pentecostal Church for 9 years, pay tithes, help SEVERAL PEOPLE out , financially & wrench on people's cars. And then you get handicapped badly and they completely throw you under the bus.
I went through so much. And I could really feel that I wanted to be bad and hurt others. But at the end of the I knew it's wrong and I decided to be sad and hurt for a while instead of hurting others. I think I become more kind and lovely after bad things in life happens.. This is crazy but I thing I become a better person and stronger after this. because most people become bad - and i know I am different and I am glad. I don't need to hurt others - I need to protect myself without loosing hope and trust
I suffered from sexual harrassment and my grandma died like 3 months after the harrassment stopped. That made me fall into a psychosis I couldn't control and It became into a mental disorder, It made me a violent person, cold and I don't trust anybody anymore, but with the right medication and treatment I'm getting better. It was sad because I did everything I could to change and my marriage ended because of this, but I couldn't stop at the moment. Right now the medicine's doing wonders, but what I'm trying to say Is that is true that this can happen, but It doesn't mean you can't change. There's always a way to make your path right, and it's the best feeling you can get
I'm at the stage in my life where I don't believe in "Good" or "Bad", "Black" or "White" anymore. There's just people, trying to live their lives, and they're always complex, and usually never quite what they appear to be at first glance. 🖤🤍
@Julya Flyer good and bad is just a concept people made up. It's not like God gave rules to the people on earth to tell us what is good or bad except if you are religious. The world could careless about us. I think it's just nature. Animals works the same way as we do but good and bad has to do with your own perspective so if you believe that's bad then it is bad
"I don't even know if there is such a thing as justice in the world. We fight believing in our own justice, but if the enemy is doing the same thing, who's right?" Good and Evil, Right and Wrong, they aren't always clear and are often subjective and simply based on the side you're on.
wow... I mean not only this got uploaded the day of my birthday, but 2 of these reasons are currently making me bad in life, and in turn i adopted another of this reasons aswell to keep going as i was... You should make a video on how to get out of these vicious circles please, it would be a great help. Guess i need to make some changes huh.
I was friends with this girl for 7 years. Brutally honest, but she had a heart of gold. She helped me improve as an artist, was very physically affectionate with me, and even helped me run away from home knowing that my parents were watching over me like a prisoner and would get aggressive with her when they arrived. After being in two emotionally abusive relationships back to back which lasted for a combined total of almost 5 years, she's no longer the same person. She adopted a lot of her abusers' traits as a defense mechanism. Selfish, narcissistic, emotionally manipulative, etc. She would hold her acts of kindness towards me above my head as a way to attempt to guilt trip me into doing her bidding. I'm a stronger person than I used to be. I stood my ground. She kicked me out of her apartment and texted horrible things that fed off almost a decade of insecurities I had shared with her before she became this way. Mocked my social skills, told me I deserved to be abused, the whole nine yards. If she ever realizes what a monster she became and recovers from it, I'll let her back into my life after she apologizes. Until then, I'm sad to see how much she regressed as a person. She has become so horrible that a friend of her brother who she's known for *16 years* immediately took my side and helped me get away from her. I had only known him for about one or two months at that point because he started working with me. I hope she gets past this, for her own sake as well
I am truly sorry for what had happened to you. I know that was three years ago but I hope you are in a better place now than you are then. It terrifies me how often this black hole of cruelty drags everyone into it.
You eventually learn everyone is trying to exploit everyone. No one should be trusted. Everyone is trying to decieve you. Those facts are helping me get through life now.
Y'know, as much as I enjoy being made aware of these problems, solutions/strategies to avoid these ills, would be a LOT more uplifting, and less overwhelming/depressing. Please, consider doing some videos on this. Thank you.
Being good takes hard long-haul work and is subject to many re-assessments, changes and evolutions. Being bad/evil doesn't... it's only about now and thus you're willing to do anything (which is the pitfall) to get it now. Do that for extreme levels and/or for long enough, then it comes to the point where you believe that inflicting pain, suffering and death to everything and to watch it all burn is somehow "justifiable" in how to best live and solve problems (ie. The meaning of suffering means we should suffer more and die until there's nothing left). Unfortunately it's untrue and an extreme fallacy in many dimensions; logically, philosophically, spiritually... but the saddening matter is, you would no longer care at that point and it's like your soul is diseased in the living creature that you're trapped in.
Man you guys are really pumping out so many videos, and they are all bound help me or some one else everyday so thanks for making these high quality videos :D
Has there someone who's been good in your life turn bad? What changed them? Comment below.
Society
yess :( he was my best friend i miss him lol but i just remember the good times we had and appreciate that we met in the first place
I might be the good person in someone's life, but the breaking point was once they finally shouted the hell outta me, "Who made you that way?!" and I've always known. Yet I've never succeeded in mending the damage.
@@lukestulipz same
Yes. My friend. I was the one who changed them. I dont really understand why but when I asked her, she say “this is all because of you.”
I really regret this. I wish I can changed her back.
"You're only one bad day away from being me" - The Punisher
Cringe
Didn't take me long to find these quotes.
"Heaven's not my kind of place anyways." ~Big Boss
@@yourfan4797 ...Okay?
All it takes is a little push...
“Why do I have to apologize for being a monster but not the people who made me a monster”
I know right, I deal with the same struggles
It sucks
Dear women of the world be good and let us not except things from others that we our selves are capable of doing. Let us choose to love others in a manner that is not sinful. That includes loving ourselves in a sinless manner. Such as not stealing to help another. Such as not gossiping. Such as not being bullies of another because of your friends. Such as not lying to protect self or others.
This is why I stoped apologizing, if they don’t have to neither do I.
Shreks Coochie that doesn’t really seem productive. If you did something wrong, why expect someone else to apologize?
because you're excusing your own behaviour by saying "but hey their the ones you made me like this"
"Madness as you know is like gravity. All it takes is a little push." -Joker
I think it should be a bazillion tiny crowbars shoving you off the edge. just one push isn't enough to go mad
@@flamingchickin You never know. For some people, it may only take one.
As for Affluence, I can also see how wealth made Thomas Wayne arrogant. He called the all the poor people of Gotham “clowns”.
What are your thoughts after watching this video? :)
@@Psych2go I appreciate that you all took the time to create this video. The deep aspect of how anyone can turn or switch up from good to bad is a struggle Humanity has had to face for generations. I think it's a scary concept but I enjoy the idea of people having the resiliency keep going. This is a helpful video.
"Those who are heartless once cared too much"
😔 I once was a good person, until I said that I didn’t care for other peoples lives except for my own and my friends and family.
@@okjeffy6581 People often judge a good person as bad..amd vice versa..
If a person gets framed ...either people will add more obstacles to prove it right...or intentionally there are someone already to ruin someone behind your back..
That’s sad but true
I used to burn myself out by trying to fix peoples problems, nowadays I'm called selfish
I wonder why...
@Elena Sogoba Ikr, I used to do a lot with/for my family and I stopped doing so much, now I am called selfish too.
Completely made up example:
I work 6 hours per day
My friend works 3 hours a day for the same person
I cut back on working for 1 hour because I want more free time
5>3
I'm still viewed as more selfish than my friend by the majority of people because I want more free time.
That's how screwed up society has gotten.
People become lazy when content with a situation. The secret to productivity is to never be content. Although helping them may have gotten them what they needed to accomplish, they became content with having someone to fall back onto when times became hard. I personally like the model of giving someone a period of time to achieve a task then have a review where you can suggest changes to their process in the future and explain the merits of changing a procedure.
The length of time depends on the task, but shouldn't be long enough to overwhelm the person needing help.
If they come up with nothing, then they are not worth helping, and need an easier job. I also feel selfish saying that, but at the end of the day we all want to feel accomplished in our work and if helping others runs against that, then we need to protect our mental health.
You're not a bad person, others simply don't understand your value. Try allocating a smaller period of time for each person who you would like to help. It also sounds like your coworker isn't putting enough time into his job and should perhaps be discussed with your boss.
People suck.
That's me aswell
“As you know, madness is like gravity...all it takes is a little push.”
― The Joker
Bruh. Gravity works with pushes.
And yeah, my favourite philosopher -Joker
DO YOU BELIEVE IN GRAVITY?
@@aeiouaeiouaeiouaeiou4510 Looks like the brainless one came
@@aeiouaeiouaeiouaeiou4510 ar dum
If you live your life in your own way you are guaranteed to be labeled a “bad person” by someone out there.
Sad, but true.
Nah, not only then. It can and will always happen, no matter what you've done or how you've lived. If you concentrate only on this, you won't be able to do anything in your life without worrying wether or not other people see you as a bad person.
Konan
So true.
I agree.🖤
@@konan8182 Yeah... no matter how good you are, even if you know 100 people who have nothing but good things to say about you and think you're a good person, there will still be one person who thinks you're a bad person and talks about you poorly.
Just remember this.
_You either die a hero, or you live long enough to see yourself become the villain_
Hi legend of the internet. You are here.
Oh! Boy u are like everywhere, they even created an anime character out of you
Noice🙂 by the way hi🙂
If he's everywhere dosen't that mean we ARE everywhere too?-
@@user-zf1xu3nj2qyeah! Iam also every where. But nobody tells me that☹️
"Being good takes courage to fall and not want others to fall too" bro, that's powerful. That thought is the motivation to fight harder against our own evil.
I did learn something new.
I've been abused in half of my life... or on the second thought in my whole life.
We were poor when I was a child and my father used to get drunk and let his suppressed anger out on anyone in the family. I've been bullied in school until I stood up and beat the shit out of one of them. Employers humiliated me, because they thought they can do it. My partners took advantage of me because they thought I let them.
Once, I became the monster... then I realized that what I'm doing is not what I want to do, so I changed for the better, so the one who pushed me into this madness can kick in me one last time.
Long story short, I've been through a hell of a ride so far and now here I sit, talking with my ex girlfriend who lied into my face, cheated on me and blamed everything on me and I'm trying to show her that all is forgiven.
I learned that I'll be a good person no matter what and it'll be painful, but fuck it... this is what I am.
Hey, that's a rough story. Wish you a better future than your past, man!
Yep I can relate but not too much level though and I will be good regardless of situations, etc in life tbh
Bravo. I wish i could do the same
bro, you outsmarted the universe
I think also there’s something that a lot of people missing (except HSP) empathy. People without empathy are not able to understand how other feels in certain situations like bullying etc...There’s also self perception which makes people doing bad things because they don’t even that is bad ! Because nobody told them it is bad to do this that they think it’s not bad so (sorry for my english)
Alot of this could be placed on mental health issue and then all leads to a path cause no one helped when they noticed and that person had no one to help, if anyone has been in a place of darkness its hard to find that way out. They make it like its nothing but majority of the time its the nice people who cause these things to other people and they will never admit it cause then they have to own there own mental health problems. A bully is never the hero or Savior, when the time comes a bully is a coward and leaves you in the bad situation, if its a good one they profit off they will always be around.
Thank you for bringing HSP up 👍🏻
You're so wrong you can't even understand it. Empathy does not prevent people from doing bad things. What is lacking is conscientiousness, sentience and common sense. Many of humane emotions are just displays of our animalistic needs. And some of them needs shall not be accepted in the modern society e.g.: greediness, egoism, vain etc.
It isn't just hsp it's also empaths
@@ZmeyYuri GKYS.
Video summary
1. Tragedy
2. Poverty
3. Addiction
4. Moral superiority
5. Abuse
6. Ideological possession
7. Affluence
(I would recommend you to watch the full video to understand the topic better)
8. Fucking noob teams.
@@jrusstrevenant1092 video games used bad. Everything that is used bad way can make something worse instead of help...
Then I guess stop making summaries so people will definitely watch the video lol
@@jrusstrevenant1092 9. Recommending Boku No Pico.
@@rafyramadhan8711 ye... But they want help, but then nobody will watch video :/
I only got suffering from being good , I lost my health , student life , best part of youth , career , people stabbed me in back , took advantage of my goodness , they abused me , used me , I lost golden opportunities and chances due to my morality , even in worst cases I kept my morality , but now I'm exhausted , physically and mentally ,
Now after becoming bad I'm kinda balancing my life , trying to put it back on track , and not staying good like earlier has improved my life
Just look for a therapist. They're great in helping with that
Be a balanced person. Don't be too good or too bad. That's how you can live life to the fullest.
The Problem is, that we live in a Society that gives you Shit for being nice and good, but gives you everything if youre corrupt and bad.
Same I understand you, I took big losses In life because of pussies in my life tryna hold me back. Fuck the pussy that abuse you just intimidate them
Yep, I believe it!
There is no such thing as Karma. Good things happen to bad people, and bad things happen to good people all of the time. Those that think otherwise are either in denial or completely delusional.
To all the warriors who refuse to abuse others because of how badly they were abused
Honestly, hats off to us!
Amen. Any abuse victim who finds himself or herself a parent and decides not to be abusive is a saint above any other in my book.
Gotta break the cycle 🫡
I'm one of those who broke the cycle... I was bullied and hated for the first 18 years of my life by classmates, 'friends' and family. It only stopped when I was finally able to move away from my city and start over. During those 18 years I thought there were no good people in the world. That's how bad it was.
I swore to never leave anyone alone, to hate them or to make them intentionally suffer in any way. I would give credit where it's due and give everyone a shoulder to cry on. I love everyone around me unconditionally, just because I know what it's like to be hated. I gravitate towards people who suffer and I'm almost obsessed with helping them to feel better. I've helped more people recover from depression than I can even remember at this point.
Be kind to everyone. It makes you feel better too.
There are other reasons to turn evil
Unloved
Bullied
Betrayal
Discarded
Absolutely
Damn right
And loneliness
All of these have happened to me and I still strive to be good. You don't gotta save anyone but yourself. Even God expects that, save yourself don't try to save anyone else.
@@AceAgallah me too
The key is understanding how to protect yourself: your kindness, empathy and unconditional love are a precious gift, though not everyone deserves it.
People ARE going to exploit you, people who you trust (family, friends) ARE going to use you, but with time you'll learn how to heal from this kind of trauma, get rid of toxic relationships, move on and defend yourself in a civil way❤
Probably the only sane comment here.
"people who you trust are going to use you,"
this really make me sad
@@JagadId I know, but not everyone who you trust is going to use you! You just need to be cautious with people who show a sketchy behaviour
I wish i had the knowledge years ago. The hatred consumed me and now i became a monster..
@@wakeup6778 if you work on accepting your past and trauma, you can still press the undo button and go back to your cheerful self
What's changed me a little bit is so much emotional pain and being stepped on all my life
I was robbed by a thug once on my way home to college and i wanted to take a long knife with me everyday the next week
@@Luke-vf6qc Lol.
Yea same here. Once I got older I understood what this world is all about. Just live for yourself it's easier that way.
@@blackwater7183 yeah this world makes it difficult to be good
Yeah i turned bad because I had enough. Everyone disrespected and took the good person in me for granted.. till i reached Rock bottom and realized I'm not happy because of it.
Greed should definitely be added to the list.
@Anthony Delfos That isn't true :/
@Anthony Delfos I know a few good politicians. And a few good ex-politicians. Also a whack of really good businessmen.
And some of the inverse as well, but good, competent people do often rise to the top.
Good people need to make a living too
@Riley Red the need to make a living, or wanting power.
But greed is not a circumstance
Or your just tired of being the good guy when it gets you nowhere in life
This is completely me ! I met some good friends thanks to that but in the end, i'm feeling depressed 'cause of all the people who don't care about me, and just want tu use me.
@@paul-emilevacquie3594 not all people are like that we just gotta keep staying strong
Nothing wrong with being a good guy but develop a bad side to protect yourself from evil people
@@anunayasingh3621 yup, you gotta be able to look out for yourself
@Zach youre being that guy, no one cares
Honestly, thanks to Quarantine I think this reflects so much on what's going on with people. I do hope more people can learn from this and prevent themselves from being bad, and to anyone who's still good and are fighting against these things: you're a hero, and I respect you for that.
I hope that everyone knows this video. Love it as always ♡
This makes me wonder if the virus was made as a bioweapon and if that statement is true. I wanna know the exact reason why someone would make it.
@@dfquartzidn6151 Population control obviously.There's way too many of us on this tiny earth.If things keep up like this,we'll exhaust all of our resources in less than 50 years.So yeah.I can kinda understand as to why someone would make this virus.
@@Ugh718 both biowarfare population control the whole shabam
Unfortunately it has done the opposite. I actually hate people more now than I ever have in the past.
DFQuartz IDN I believe it was
I’m glad that I’m one of those ppl that broke the cycle and has never abused someone else..no matter how many times I’ve been abused and repeatedly knocked down
"Circumstances do not make a man, they only reveal him to himself"
_ Epictetus
With enough weight, long enough, anyone's brain can break. But evil, in the beginning is a choice. It starts with the argument- Is it better to be good or effective? Everyone with any potential for good (not all) has to wrestle with this question. Nothing simple in this life.
thing is eveyone wants to judge the few people who stepped into misfortune and are assholes because of it and just point a finger knowing damn well it can happen to themself but dont want to be a help.
Yo das deep
Damn that's a good quote
Well Epictetus needs to speak for himself. That concept does not apply to all. A lot of circumstances can make you or break you.
What I find more interesting isn’t what makes good people become bad, but what made bad people bad. Throughout life I believed everyone was good, but sometimes did bad things. I was wrong. There are bad people who choose to stay bad.
@lOW qUALITY wONDERS I'm willing to learn. Teach me.
People stay bad because it's easier. It's like creating and destroying. Creating something takes effort and time, for example planting some seeds, watering them, and waiting until they grow. Compare this with getting an axe and chopping it up. Takes some effort too, but it's much easier and faster. And hey, who says you can't reap the benefits (lets say for this example, collecting fruit or wood)
@@Walamonga1313 That makes a lot of sense on the surface. However, if we change your analogy slightly and agree that the person really wants a tree (love) and has been seeking a tree (love) all of their life, and they came across a beautiful tree (love) that was already growing, why the F$%K would they chop it down (hate)? You would think that after a lifetime of chopping down trees (hate) they would start to learn that to grow a tree (love) they have to quit chopping them down. Sometimes they dont have to do anything but stop chopping down the tree and let it grow on its own.
Remember, devil was once an angel.
@Hi person idk he was kicked out cuz of pride😬
yes i was 😉
Lmao, literally every sibs
Neither exist, however, except in the imagination of people afraid to face reality and/or take responsibility.
If anything they are probably still friends .
Am tired of being good to people at the end, I end up looking like the bad person then the real bad people get admire more
You can see it in women, they chase the bad guys and the nice guys are the providers in the future
it just doesnt make sense
When you've been rejected and disrespected all your life, after years of ostracism , betrayal and disappointment, you begin to appreciate the darker part of you , cause you realize that the traits that others demonize are those that keep your head above water.
One more: Good people who are CONSISTENTLY put in bad situations and not by their choice or their doing may appear to be bad when reacting to it.
make sense..
When i was a good person, no one cared enough for me..hurt me alot..
Then I became a bad person..
me too. but turn back now.
be vulnerable and kind.
I spiritually died.
I'm doomed.
Yes i turned hell i was good but hurt me no one cares if i good person so i changed bad to hell i was abusing all im angry i dont know.
@@tugumiokabe2786 it is hard to be good. But I'm asking God to help me now. He showed me my evil was not right.
Those are the rules in our world,good people always have to get hurt,always have to go through pain,always die first,tbh i'm tired of being a good person
@@Someone-wx7pb
I think we were taught, that good means harmless and agreeable.
Jordan Peterson has some videos about this. we think nice is good.
and people are taught to always obey and never defend themselves.
we can say no, and still he polite, without letting others use us
I will agree...it takes courage, or inner strength to treat with kindness and respect a community that has mistreated and disrespected you for most of your life, but I also see how easy it would be to react with anger and contempt
"if you scratch a cynic, you'll find a disappointed idealist"
As a disapointed ideailst, I agree. It ends up being harder to keep hoping for the better when the worst case scenario already happened.
Cynics realise the futility in trying to change a rigged system
this happened to me.
I was abused as a child and am working on myself so when I have a child, I won't repeat the cycle of abuse. When she said people who are doing this are noble, I teared up. It felt good to be validated, the work I've been doing on myself is meaningful and will make me into a good person. :')
This describes me. I was betrayed by almost every friend group I have been in. I became darker and hated everyone around me. I shut myself off and became numb, I lost most of my emotion and didn't care about anyone. I started looking at the world as a task to finish until I die. I stopped caring about myself and my mental health died.
That is the same thing. Every exact thing in here happened is the same. But I did not really know how to say it out. I understand what you feel.
take care yourself ...take as an advice..no one is needs someones pity ...they are themselves busy there lives ..or gossiping others..
The real question is if "good" and "bad" even are defined terms for personalities, and how they are defined. You may say that someone who is a "good" person is someone who follows his dreams. What if these dreams involve hurting other people? You may now see this person as "bad". But what if hurting people isn't defined as a bad action? Take racism in the middle ages as an example. It was defined as a "good" action to kill people from or wipe out entire ethnic groups. Who or what defines what's "good" or "bad"? That's an interesting topic in my opinion
I guess with humans society does but obviously it's a hard question what is good and what isn't. But too me it seems like the perspective makes the good and the bad. A mountain would maybe be more happy if no men would mine him.
Our morals aren't determined by men. God is the one who sets our morals. Our duty is to follow them.
@@ashleyheller1537 Why would god make people with different morals then?
@@Krizlyyy Good question. Here is how I view it: the Bible is our life's guide. There are rules and ways to live our life. Sometimes, we, as humans, interpret certain things differently.
Another reason is because certain people grew up, believing whatever their parents have told them. It becomes their philosophy. This doesn't make them bad; it just means they need help guiding their lives. For instance, if their parents taught their kids that lying is a good thing, they will believe it. However, as they grow older, it would affect them in their own personal lives. This is where a friend or a close loved one steps in and says, "Hey, that's not right."
Finally, when it comes to bad morals, it can become purposeful. Say somebody knows that stealing is wrong, yet they do it anyway. God didn't give them these morals; God gave them free will.
I hope this makes sense, and if you have any other questions I am more than willing to answer them.
@@ashleyheller1537
I mean i agree with your second comment (mostly) but to me it seems your second comment is the complete opposite to the first comment. I mean if god gave us free will to choose our morals he didn't set our morals.
Edit: I kinda misinterpreted here you ment they know the morals of god just choose to not follow them right?
But still your philosophy makes your morals so not give by god
I'll admit going down that road has been tempting at times. I always seem to get screwed over by people and made out to be the villain so there were times when i wanted to show 'em what an actual bad guy looks like. But that would make me an actual bad guy and that's not something i wanna be. I'm a lot colder/numb than i used to be but i'd like to think i'm still a good person.
I Once Slipped On Ice. How Did I Not Get Into Trouble.
I remember this one dude during lunch bullied me and when I got mad he screamed for a teacher saying that I got mad at him for no reason and that I was gonna hit him. I got in trouble even tho the entire class was a witness.
*such is life*
It's called framing..people at this most act like victims themselves..but they aren't...cause at that time no one knews someone stories..
Sometimes it's best not to end up explaining much stories..people won't care about listening it..they just do a small talk and move forward...
Victim of bullying here for 8 years of my elementary and HS days and i admit that i became a loner back in the days and even scared of being friends with somebody. Opening up is not easy
My older sister was such a sweet person before her addiction to drugs started in her 9th grade of high school. Its been a decade now and we've done everything we can to help her but shes turned to a life of deception and guilttripping to get what she wants, including her next fix. I just wish there was a way to get her back.
I remember one of my first friends. She was a girl and i was a guy and we both liked each other. When we were in grade 4 i to,d her i liked and she said she liked me too and we were closer. Then in grade 5 a new student started “taking her away from me”. When he did that i became cold and heartless to my girl friend. I was the bad one. I very regret being that way, so if ur reading this Elisha, im sorry.
That happened when I was in Kindergarten A new kid got in and my best friend told me " I don't want to be your friend anymore
@@nokizvru3831 your comment relived my childhood trauma goddammit
"she was a girl" and "i was a guy"... u both are transgender lmao?
Like she would watch this video and see your comment
Just go tell her in front her face
Like she would watch this video and see your comment
Just go tell her in front her face
I was a good man but I realised being a good person didn’t really get me anywhere and while other people I came across were not very good people got what they wanted.
There is nothing wrong with being good thb.Just know when sb is taking advantage of you
Me too
Totally this!!
Be careful who you trust. Sometimes the niceness that you show to others comes at the expense of your own happiness and well-being. Some people might try to take advantage of your kindness and use your good nature against you. Don't be so nice that you start to resent the people you're nice to. Don't say yes so often that people start asking too much of you. Set healthy boundaries.
I made that mistake in my childhood and adolescence. I was willing to help my classmates with anything they wanted, including class notes or a project. It came at a price, however.
They took advantage of my good will and only came to me when they needed something, ranging from wanting to copy off my homework to making me buy things for them. They would always come to me for favors, and I felt like I had no choice but to accept every request the students gave to me without question, regardless of how unwilling, uncomfortable or frustrated I was. It caused me to resent them and become burned out. It started to become my ego's addiction. But I know better now.
It's only when you decide, you change.
I've been through a lot still I haven't turned bad yet, instead always try to become a better person.
Love the quote 'takes courage to fall and not want others to fall too'
NGL im going to use these 7 circomstances to make my good character into a future evil character/villian.
So to make it feel more natural rather then ”evil for evils sake”
They has already been used to make demon slayer villains ( though they will appear years later as they still haven't animated the manga) 😂
Ooh sounds like an interesting idea
That's why ASOIAF is so good :)
@@fhuuraliulfr5756 ASOIAF!?UTO>JGOGJA!?
Good! There’s nothing worse that a badly written, one dimensional villain
After I felt emotionally neglected by my partner who decided I wasn't even worth a goodbye, I felt a combination of pain. Feelings of sadness, anger, frustration, regret, guilt and probably a few more. I couldn't understand her behaviour, she used a lot of passive aggression to make me feel bad for letting her down slightly. I spent a long time researching why people act this way. I picked up so many things that could explain this for me and give me the closure I was so desperate for. It seemed heavily relate to all the traits of borderline personality disorder. I haven't heard from her for an entire year. I was the best person in the world for a time being and then suddenly I was the worst person in the world. I consider myself to have traits of an empath as I am sensitive to negativity/conflict. I score high in Openness, agreeableness and neuroticism on the big 5.
After going through PTSD from feeling so betrayed and manipulated, I noticed I wasn't the same as I used to be, my patience was null, I cut myself off from everybody and went into a full isolation for months. I started opening up to others again while trying to look after my own emotions better, . I gradually came out of it but I would still feel so agitated when someone tried to be nice to me. I felt like they didn't really care either. I noticed this probably wasn't perhaps thinking about how my actions were affecting others, I was still feeling resentful and angry. I never really unleashed myself on anybody although the anger inside me was just ready to pop. I literally couldn't lay still without wanting to kick my arms and legs everywhere, I felt like a ticking time bomb. I somehow managed to contain it and would find a minute to cry somewhere. It would help, I'm still building up trust in others and learning today. I am always observing my feelings before I take action. There's a lot of things I learnt from researching BPD that I could apply and improve myself with. Although I highly doubt I meet the criteria for any sort of personality disorder, I was still open to living a calmer life where I try to judge nobody. People come, people go, it's just how it is.
Sometimes a punching bag helps with anger, at least it did with me
@@Krizlyyy I don't have anger in me anymore :) it's been a long time since then (over 6 months)
@@Joshy2-TJC I am very sorry about what happened to you man, Betrayal is always fricken painful
But now that you have overcome it, you're a stronger person than you were before
I hope you find a wonderful and a more deserving partner
@@supremeleader2690 I appreciate that, ma man :)
I hope we as a society can evolve and become more aware of others, have more empathy and really understand others. Many people just need a good friend who they can talk to. But be aware that people in need of a chat may have a hard time opening up, cause many things are personal and people are very scared of being judged for their actions, everyone just wants others to understand them and not be judged and yet we judge everyone in our surroundings...
Getting a healthy distance to society has been right thing for me. I drive for doing good things for people and achieving my own goals. I don't apologize for not fullfilling social demands. Often times the demands the society forces on people are unrealistic. I luckily realised how unhealthy society was at age of 14-16. I got bullied back then hard and felt like society wasn't treating me well even though i tried to act my best with everyone. I almost fell into bitterness and hate. I had battle of two: good or bad. I decided in my mind that whatever comes to me, i remain good. I'm not gonna fall into being like the people who bully, harass and do injustice to me. And i'm still in road of doing my best to be nice towards people i meet in real life and online. I don't specifically go after pleasing everybody, but i don't treat people like shit for no absolute reason either. I try to research information of different type of people than me. I'm curious to learn all the time new things and develop my understanding. I have hard time myself getting into shoes of extremely mean people. I've faced random people flashing at me in real life and online. It never really made sense to me why they did so, because I never had myself the need to make random person feel miserable. And i believe not all of those people had mental issues that caused them act in certain way. There is something different. After all as i see it society only forces it's believes on you, if you let it. There is life outside of those unwritten rules. You just need to be brave enough to get ouf of shackles that are holding you back. 🙂
You kick ass, and thank you for remaining a good person! Mmy only thing is, please be careful with your trust. Lots of people will abuse that, and just because you're nice to people, doesn't mean you need to have faith in their intentions or deeds.
@@thesurvivorssanctuary6561 Yeah, that's the down side of trying to be good person. People want to and will take advantage of you. Sometimes i do find myself being tricked, cause i believe in people being better to each other. I don't really know a way to change that. I don't want to turn to one of them and shut curtains to everyone. There's a lot of good people out there. Some people may have just had bad day when they met me. It's though quite easily to notice when people are not being genuine. Noticing that saves from a lot of hurtful moments. It's ok.🙂
Sometimes if you do something different or all by yourself not others involved ...people gets jealous amd this hatred spreads everywhere..they whom living for long time...knows the situation or not knowing...they intentionally act in such way that what's wrong with you? rather than what's wrong with them...?
@@wildyato3737 I get what you mean. A lot of times over the years i've met people example in my class who have started acting rude towards me as time had gone by without me doing previously anything negative towards them. Maybe they've been scared of a person that doesn't share everything easily and are hard to connect with. People have been telling me always as well that i am the problem and i should start to live in the way of others even though my lifestyle hasn't been hurting anyone. I just enjoy spending time alone and doing things i enjoy.
@@lemonlimsa it told us people only came when something is meaningful towards someone or self gain..
I've always had a very strong feeling of justice and fairness sense I was a little child.
This is why I'm so glad that people are able to be the exceptions in the face of misfortune... I and many of my friends and family have faced things that I wouldn't wish onto my worst enemy, but instead of becoming bad people, we made it our missions to rise above it and help those who might be less knowledgeable of their breaking points. We can only live together if we try. 🧡
1:14
It's not about "feeling justified."
We're expected to act like Everyone Else, when we don't even get a chance to heal from Tragedy/Stress.
It's like asking someone with a Broken Leg: "Why can't you walk?"
"Die as a hero, or live long enough to see yourself to become the villian"
-Dutch
And I Became The Villain
This begs the question, why are we being good, is it because people are good to us? Are we going to stop being good people if people stopped being good to us?. I know it is unrealistic of me to ask that, but for those who can still do good even in the midst of bad things in their life. I cannot give anything but salutation, awe, and some words of appreciation. Whoever you are that are still an angel even while being in hell, you are the beacons of our hope, you're people that makes our world warm and bearable. Thank you for all that you done.
I will tell you from personal experience: being stabbed in the back by someone who you used to trust and were a good friend/partner/whatever to, will either create or surface a side of you you don't want to know. If, on top of that, the person never seems to show regret or care about what they did to you, you can become an absolute monster. NEVER intentionally and knowingly wrong people who did nothing to you and, if you do, you better try really hard at apologizing and compensating the other person (and get started with that quickly).
*"He who denies an apology will remember it at a time he begs for forgiveness"*
He who makes a beast out of himself, gets rid of the pain of being a man. Samuel Johnson
That's true... I would rather have the pain though... not that I enjoy it. At least I feel something and can learn from it.
Cringe
You just got Bat Country stuck in my head... that is a wonderful thing.
YEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHH
Caught here in a fiery blaze
Won't lose my will to stay
Now I have to listen to City Of Evil. Reminder of a great album!
Here’s something I like to say : It’s never too late to turn back from evil. But it’s up to you , how strong is your will? , how strongly you believe in your morals? and do you have the strength to forgive yourself?
Thank you 😊
1 mont ago?
Np 😊
@@966aAad time travel
The abusers are often the abused. It doesn't make them right or good.
Truly good people are the ones who make it through their trauma, and grow from it
Abuse is no joke. To know that the cycle can be broken is empowering.
I've endured so much pain in my life and even now. I keep trying to balance the bad I deal with by being good for others and not mistreat them for what I'm dealing with. At the same time I'm also fighting to not become completely closed off and emotionally detached because I know how easy it is to become that way and I don't wanna be like that. I'm hoping my love for Rogers pays off soon.
Me too tbh and i understand what it feels like tbh. It is not our fault for this at all and we deserve so much better than that.
„All it takes is one bad day.“ ~ Joker
I have already been through some of these causes and acted out like a total a**hole. One day it just clicked and I broke down in tears and realised, that I wanted to be good.
Soooo, I tried my best to be the nicest I could be, but still not let people take advantage of me. It’s hard, but it kinda makes me more peaceful.
The human race is living in a loose loose situation. Everything is against them. If you are someone who’s overcome a challenging obstacle or are working to overcome these obstacles, I’m giving you a virtual hug.
Yeah, 5th Grade Trauma
Human race is rotten and sucks
1, 2, and 5 are true for me. You try and move forward. But sometimes your thoughts weigh on you.
Which throws me off, when I'm trying to do things in my daily life.
And when people get upset, that I can't perform the same as them, I either get upset back. Or socially withdrawal.
Trust and getting out of Survival Mode, is something I still struggle with.
Especially, when you don't know how to find people, who would actually give a darn about you.
I was diagnosed with Anxiety, PTSD, and Panic Disorder back in February.
Wow 😲. This helps me So much in my recovery fm Abuse fm Narc Mom. When she passed, I realized my 'baby' bro who I protected fm her had become a sociopath. Stole 2 estates fm me by bullying. I collapsed fm being the successful workaholic family caretaker when Mom died. Bro turned on me. I see here He went bad at some point that I denied, just as I denied the abuse my whole life and CPTSD now.
I was tired of supporting my friends and they never supported me when I went through rough times, so I never talked to them again, and I basically had a whole damn change in my life. It was good.
Betrayal and the awakening of reality can no doubt cause a sweet loving person to become a dark, diabolical being. I learned the hard way that being nice and passive was interpreted by everyone else as a permission slip to lie to me, cheat me, betray me, use me, wad me up and throw me away. lol my wife even had the audacity to tell me 'You've changed.' That tends to happen when those we trusted with our lives handed us over to our enemies on a silver platter. She knows good and well what she did to help and induce this CHANGE in me. The nice guy I used to be is no more. In his place this dark, bitter entity dwells in a me me me world, vulnerable to those who seek to exploit the weak, and profit off of the misfortune of others. It made me stronger sure, but it also made me MEANER!
It depends on your definition and perception about good and bad. People pov can change because some circumstances
I will admit, being bad is way easier then being good. It’s a difficult thing that you need to put a lot of effort into. But in the end it’s worth it, because I would rather be nice to someone then have the guilt of being mean to them and causing them pain. Also with the abuse cycle, you just have to keep in mind the term “don’t fight fire with fire” or in this case don’t fight hate with hate, it will only cause more hate. It’s a difficult process but it feels better being nice sometimes.
I already know why I’m kinda turning In to a bad person
-bullying (I been bullied my sister,nephew,niece.) my sister started it all
-being ignored randomly
-being avoided by people
-anxiety
-fake friends
-my mum randomly yelling at me always saying I lie (when I used to not untill she started treating me like I’m such a liar and more. Yelling at me for accidents like today I trip over a cord by accident and I was thinking she was going to ask if I was okay but except yelled at me.
Tragedy = Sister born (The Favorite)
Moral Superiority = Mom
Abuse = Mom abused me physically and emotionally
The way I healed was Therapy.
I've become bad because of people and life in general treating me as though I'm totally worthless which has also made me feel worthless and hateful about myself. Not only do I suffer from these consistent frustrations, I also have severe anger issues which are both scary and violent. This makes me feel like I'm a burden upon everyone who is close to me and I feel like I do nothing but hurt people. It has drained away the little confidence I had and now, even though I'm extremely sad and lonely, I don't want to meet new people as I feel that they're all the same, that no one cares or understands me and that no one is willing to take the necessary actions to help as I can't do everything on my own.
I feel the same. My has sucked since I was born.
Yeah I learned I'm a very good person and idk why I let people make me feel like something's wrong with me or that I am not humble because I recognize who I am.
Maybe Eating Your delicious rainbow will take my mind off of all this suffering
1 extra sign :
*people taking advantage of your kidness*
Probably the most common reason to why people just leave the kindness completely
Even when I'm forced to be a good person by the rules of society.
Which is why I have a C*rn hub addiction.
It hurts honestly when they turn bad...they don't care about anyone else but themselves
This video: *Exists*
Me: taking notes for my novel
Lol that’s what I’m doing too
What's your novel about? Mind sharing? :)
My two greatest fears are the fear of rejection and the fear of becoming evil.
Me too tbh and I understand what it feels like
Yes, being a good person it's really hard, really, really hard.
Most of the times it hurts, i'm 20 years old, and welp, for now being a good person made me goin a lot of pain with relationships, people and stuff. But, you know: no matter how hard or suffering will be, i'll demonstrate to the people around me that being a good person is possible and nice.
My main language is italian, so if made some mistakes, welp, i am sorry.
Your English is perfect. I had no idea until I read the last sentence.😂 Greetings from an Italian South African
You've done so well with your English. I could only express myself in English because that's what I speak and write 24/7. But you as an Italian, is just amazing 😘
Constantly being taken for granted and taken advantage can also turn a good person bad. Along with people spreading horrible lies and rumors.
"you either die a hero or live long enough to see yourself become the villain"
realest thing I've heard in life
If this is the truth, why be a hero at all if I will just turn into a villain? Maybe it’s better if one just looks after themselves? Not necessarily to be selfish or to lash out, but just to not get involved?
"Why good people go bad"
*Darth Vader has entered the chat*
I become what i wanted to destroy...
He was also an idiot tbh
2:52 These noble people break the cycle. That really hit me hard.
When you go to the same. United Pentecostal Church for 9 years, pay tithes, help SEVERAL PEOPLE out , financially & wrench on people's cars.
And then you get handicapped badly and they completely throw you under the bus.
That sucks :( I pray you find a new church with godly unselfish people
I'm sorry man :(
I'm so sorry bro, Christians not acting like Christians is one of the main reasons people laugh at the church. I hope things get better for you.
@@SonicBadass I don't blame all Christians for that because I know that you don't act like that
@@billthompson5644 Thanks. Keep your faith in God, I know he will help you get through this.
I went through so much. And I could really feel that I wanted to be bad and hurt others. But at the end of the I knew it's wrong and I decided to be sad and hurt for a while instead of hurting others. I think I become more kind and lovely after bad things in life happens.. This is crazy but I thing I become a better person and stronger after this. because most people become bad - and i know I am different and I am glad. I don't need to hurt others - I need to protect myself without loosing hope and trust
I suffered from sexual harrassment and my grandma died like 3 months after the harrassment stopped. That made me fall into a psychosis I couldn't control and It became into a mental disorder, It made me a violent person, cold and I don't trust anybody anymore, but with the right medication and treatment I'm getting better. It was sad because I did everything I could to change and my marriage ended because of this, but I couldn't stop at the moment. Right now the medicine's doing wonders, but what I'm trying to say Is that is true that this can happen, but It doesn't mean you can't change. There's always a way to make your path right, and it's the best feeling you can get
I'm at the stage in my life where I don't believe in "Good" or "Bad", "Black" or "White" anymore. There's just people, trying to live their lives, and they're always complex, and usually never quite what they appear to be at first glance. 🖤🤍
Same with me!
@Julya Flyer good and bad is just a concept people made up. It's not like God gave rules to the people on earth to tell us what is good or bad except if you are religious. The world could careless about us. I think it's just nature. Animals works the same way as we do but good and bad has to do with your own perspective so if you believe that's bad then it is bad
@Julya Flyer thats just a very, very dark shade of gray
Amen.
@Cherry Muse it doesn't always work like that or else bullies wouldn't exist
"I don't even know if there is such a thing as justice in the world. We fight believing in our own justice, but if the enemy is doing the same thing, who's right?"
Good and Evil, Right and Wrong, they aren't always clear and are often subjective and simply based on the side you're on.
actually, i was abused many times and i still think of myself as a good person.
i did sometimes bad things, but i never became a fully bad person.
wow... I mean not only this got uploaded the day of my birthday, but 2 of these reasons are currently making me bad in life, and in turn i adopted another of this reasons aswell to keep going as i was... You should make a video on how to get out of these vicious circles please, it would be a great help. Guess i need to make some changes huh.
I was friends with this girl for 7 years. Brutally honest, but she had a heart of gold. She helped me improve as an artist, was very physically affectionate with me, and even helped me run away from home knowing that my parents were watching over me like a prisoner and would get aggressive with her when they arrived.
After being in two emotionally abusive relationships back to back which lasted for a combined total of almost 5 years, she's no longer the same person. She adopted a lot of her abusers' traits as a defense mechanism. Selfish, narcissistic, emotionally manipulative, etc. She would hold her acts of kindness towards me above my head as a way to attempt to guilt trip me into doing her bidding. I'm a stronger person than I used to be. I stood my ground. She kicked me out of her apartment and texted horrible things that fed off almost a decade of insecurities I had shared with her before she became this way. Mocked my social skills, told me I deserved to be abused, the whole nine yards.
If she ever realizes what a monster she became and recovers from it, I'll let her back into my life after she apologizes. Until then, I'm sad to see how much she regressed as a person. She has become so horrible that a friend of her brother who she's known for *16 years* immediately took my side and helped me get away from her. I had only known him for about one or two months at that point because he started working with me. I hope she gets past this, for her own sake as well
I am truly sorry for what had happened to you. I know that was three years ago but I hope you are in a better place now than you are then. It terrifies me how often this black hole of cruelty drags everyone into it.
"See, madness, as you know, is like gravity. All it takes is a little push."
STOP PUSHING!
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Thats how it starts... the fever... the rage... what turns good men... cruel.
Now this, definitely stole my attention.
Thanks for the feedback! Which part of this video do you find most interesting?
You eventually learn everyone is trying to exploit everyone. No one should be trusted. Everyone is trying to decieve you. Those facts are helping me get through life now.
I feel like I used to be so nice, now I realize how many people took advantage of that kindness so now I’m just so mean all the time
Y'know, as much as I enjoy being made aware of these problems, solutions/strategies to avoid these ills, would be a LOT more uplifting, and less overwhelming/depressing. Please, consider doing some videos on this. Thank you.
Being good takes hard long-haul work and is subject to many re-assessments, changes and evolutions. Being bad/evil doesn't... it's only about now and thus you're willing to do anything (which is the pitfall) to get it now. Do that for extreme levels and/or for long enough, then it comes to the point where you believe that inflicting pain, suffering and death to everything and to watch it all burn is somehow "justifiable" in how to best live and solve problems (ie. The meaning of suffering means we should suffer more and die until there's nothing left). Unfortunately it's untrue and an extreme fallacy in many dimensions; logically, philosophically, spiritually... but the saddening matter is, you would no longer care at that point and it's like your soul is diseased in the living creature that you're trapped in.
Man you guys are really pumping out so many videos, and they are all bound help me or some one else everyday so thanks for making these high quality videos :D
Didn't learn anything new but this is still very valuable. We need constant reminding of basic moral principles.
Also(at least for me)...realising when people only talk to you or be nice to you when they need your assistance