HOMEWORK: What topics are taboo in your country? Let me know in the comments! 😊Continue learning English with me by downloading my free ebook "5 Steps to Becoming a Confident English Speaker" 👉 www.speakenglishwithvanessa.com/free-ebook ❤️
I'm from Vietnam, and we talk about everything and anything, of course you would start a light conversation with stranger, and the more you know people, the more personal questions you can ask. One thing we try to avoid is to bring up some questions that would stir up their emotions and make them cry, like asking about a closed person to them who just passed/died. We are still considerate to not upset people unnecessarily. I have lived in Canada for 30 years, and wish I know about this earlier, so people don't look at me in strange ways when I ask the wrong questions. Thank you very much for your lessons. You're are one of my best teachers. And I appreciate your lessons very much! Stay well and happy!💯❤
I am from the Philippines. I don't think we have a Taboo in our country. Most of the people here are always curious to someone else's life. 😝 Thank you so much for your video. It's my daily dose of English. I always start my morning with your vids. More power!!God bless you!
I’m happy to say… Vanessa is a helper (ty), helping to provide for folks (you and me… & feel free to disagree) to hear and understand each other; Thanks Miss (Mrs.? Ms? Madame? Your Clearness?) for your earnest efforts for us (all of us?) so we can live in a world that hears us. We hear it too. We can all hear just what it takes to make the children happy.
You are the best English teacher that I have ever seen. I have been learning English with you for few years now and I have improve a lot so, thank you from the bottom of my heart :-)
I am 14 years old and recently i follow your channel and it was really very beneficial to me and it helped me a lot to improve my English thanks for your effort
You're the best English teacher I've ever seen on TH-cam. I love your tone of voice and your facial expressions. And your baby, he is absolutely adorable!!!! Have a lovely day : ) ♡
I saw this video today. I think your beautiful baby is now older and can speak native English by herself and strengthen our listening skills! Thank you for your great TH-cam channel
I suffer with a family question situation. A lady that I use to work with got too shocked with my question. At the end, she explained me about the culture in US.
Vanessa, this lesson is so important for each of us. In France, as you probably know, you generaly avoid to ask directly about political opinions and choices to people you don't know very well. Whereas in Poland it's a very common question... So from one country to another, it varies so much.
Hello I am Korean 👋 This is the first time to see U :) it was very useful video for me. Several questions are taboo not only in America but also in other countries. I totally agree with you 👍
Hello, Teacher Vanessa! I like your lessons and pronunciation, you speak so clear lol…I love British accent too, can sound so classy! Anyway, lots of love to America from across the world! Cheers!
@@SpeakEnglishWithVanessa it's a great lesson I got blocked in Facebook because I asked someone what he is doing for living. also I am wondering what is the name of your baby?!if you don't mind to say that.
I was working in US and my colleagues where all day long talking about salaries (I worked in 2 companies btw in different states) u are too polite ☺️☺️
Why? The only one of these questions that could possibly trigger me is "Are you pregnant?" As a 67 yo American man, I have always found it humorous when somebody addressed me a "ma'am", but I suppose that I might be triggered, if they caught me in the right mood, by asking if I was pregnant.
@@aeganratheesh They dont worship they respect their rights. Not only theirs but also all the people's rights no matter what their sexual orientation, race, heritage, financial situation and etc are. That's why they are the best.
The most important topic in my country Morocco is don't say to your friend your sister is beautiful or I love your sister or how old she is And don't ask someone are you divorced! And finally thank you Vanessa!
@@justahpersah2232, pineapple 🍍 on pizza 🍕? Pizza "was born" in Naples. Hey, no pineapples around Naples, right? So......., no way, man. Forget it. 😉😉😉😊😊😊
We ask these 10 taboo questions all the time here in Mexico even with unknown people and I always have thought these topics are rudes and innapropiatte talk about with strangers, great video!
One of the cutest babies l have ever seen, little angel with his mom.Your style of expression is exceptionally brilliant, mam,waiting for the next one with your gifted child.
By the way, although this is not a question, saying I love you to an American is a taboo, too. Using the word "like" is more correct in your context, unless you are a ... Oh another taboo again😅
I live in Indonesia, the most of our people do not like to be asked about the family, and sexuality questions, too personal. All of the taboos you have explained it is better if the questions are not asked in our country 🙏. Even in ourselves, we still do the unrespect questions lol 😀
Hey Vanessa! This is Twinkle from India. We have the same taboo topics as in US and even more. Asking about family, kids and marriage are a kind of taboo talks, but actually, in our nation, these are really common questions one asks, usually in small towns and villages and also by elders in city area. These questions are not considered good and old fashioned but still there are many people who ask. But it's considered as a bad manner.
It does not come as taboo in India. We, the Indians are very much considered with each other. Asking such questions are not taboo. We share each other’s feelings.
Good job, as usual, Vanessa! In Italy too those 10 questions are taboo when we are talking to people we've just met or collegues at work. It was so nice to see your child looking at you as if very interested in what you were saying....so cute!
see, im from the netherlands, and the people here are very very direct. we would as those questions in a heartbeat. and ive actually heard from many americans that of course they find it a little strange but that they actually really appreciated it. what’s so bad about being direct?
Be careful, "if you dont mind me asking" can imply that they shouldn't be offended. If you say something that offends them a lot after saying "if you dont mind me asking" it can make it worse.
I think Vennesaa, you have done a great job teaching us how to be polite in this video. When people are forgetting to be polite, I'd recommend them to watch your videos.
@@sachiniramasinghe9678 Yeah! You're totally right here, she's a positive 'n' radiant person as well and I do love her as a teacher 'n' maybe even just as a woman (why not?..) And certainly, teacher's technique of hers is also beyond any praise.
@@sachiniramasinghe9678 I saw her several times when I was living in the Louisiana (a while ago) I used to live in the same state as her, when she hasn't been a famous blogger yet that time. But she was already a well-known English teacher with a big enough audience. Are you satisfied with my reply?
Thank you so much for your great lesson, Vanessa. Let me share my experience with you and others. I'm from Korea and have lived in an English speaking country for over 11 years. Once I worked with such a lovely and sweet girl who is originally from this country. One day, we were chatting with another colleague who is from China and he said he has a young sister who is 9 years younger than him in China. Then she asked him if his parents divorced and his sister was his half-sister. I am so sure she never meant to hurt him and I understand that it is so common(?) to have parents separated and to have stepbrothers and/or half-sisters in Western culture. But in Korea (and possibly in China)we never ask this kind of question and also never mention to the person even though you know it unless he/she wants to talk about it. And one more thing, I seriously want to ask Europeans, Please stop asking me(or to other Koreans) if do I eat dogs when we just meet!!!!!!! When I travel to Europe, I had that same question over and over. It was like this, European: Where are you from? Me: I'm from Korea. European: Oh, Korean! Do you eat dogs? Me: (Oh, not again!!!!!!!!!) This question is like, you ask Germans if their grandfather was a Nazzi!!!
If they ask me that, I usually say that as far as I know my family was kicked out of Germany in the late 19th Century before that went down. I did once meet another German-American whose grandfather was the commander of the submarine that sank the Lusitania. Koreans do sometimes seem surprised when I tell them I knew someone who visited Pyongyang.
Hi Teacher Vanessa, .im from Philippines and always watching your lovely and knowledgeable English teaching video, .So helpful; especially working abroad and speaking English all the time.Thank you.God bless you and your whole family.
Awwwww, vanessa mam your baby is sooooo cute, really he's super cute, I can't move my eyes from him😍😍😍btw, you're an amazing teacher, hats off to you mam😊
Oh my, I feel pretty embarrassed. Cuz I've already asked soemone about these questions. I really need to pay attention about these later. Thank you for your this video.
It raised a question to me. Is it grammatically correct to say "your this video". In my native language we have it. But in English I haven't heard such a thing?
@@mateo_on_youtube Oh, get real. I am a native English speaker and have often made mistakes like this in comments, especially when I change my mind about how I want to say something, and forget to backspace to delete the original word/phrase.
When I had just moved to London, my neighbour - who is from India - asked me about my husband’s job, and the name of his company, when we were having small chat at our parking space. I felt a little uncomfortable with that, because I thought it was a very direct question, and we just met. But at that time, I wanted to have good relationship with him, so I told him my husband’s name and his company's name. I expected him to tell his company’s name, too, but he didn’t; and I couldn’t ask because I had my hands full trying to understand his fast English.😅I don't know if it's common in cosmopolitan city. I am Japanese.
Thanks for sharing, Heichi. I have the same feeling as you. In the US, it would be rude to ask specific details about someone's company or where they live, etc. when you first meet. Usually we ask general questions, so "What do you do?" (this means "What is your job?") is possibly okay if you have been talking for a few minutes together about small talk. But it's more unusual to ask about your husband's job.
Culture is soo interesting thing. It makes us to think and to act in certain way.. I think it is more serious thing then the language barrier. It was interesting to find out your experience) After that I've started to think about culture at all.
@@JY-um4su I get that question sometimes even before I speak. But the point here is if you don't want to be asked where are you from then you should not be asking someone else that question too.
I have heard that they are told that French has been going to become the International Language and because of that the French hate English(language and people) By the way I love French and I'm learning that in parallel with English. So I guess this is going to be a taboo question in France: Vous est marriee? Ou sur d'argent de un personne😉. Am I right?
@@mateo_on_youtube hi 😄 I'm French and I can assure you, we do not hate English people or language, it's true that a lot of French people don't speak English but it's just because of the teaching at school 😅 and yes, asking someone how much they make per month is super rude and "are you married? "is not that rude, it's just considered weird 😅😄 that is actually so cool you're learning French ! 😄😄
@@Ja-wu2jc That's weird. I thought in the Europe the teaching methods, esp. for languages are quite well and it's only a problem for developing countries like Iran(my own country). If it's not right so why do people come to Europe to study(if they don't know how to teach their own students English!?)
The questions on marriage, children, general are taboo everywhere, but they are common topics among relatives in Asian countries. “When will you get married?” to 30s age or “When is your plan to have baby” to a some-year married couple always cause uncomfortable 😞
Seeing as we are talking about prejudice and all, I think it's important to implant the culture we have 3 Americas, and the "american culture" you reference in the video it's just the north American. This subject is growing nowadays, and I think we have to talk about it (sorry for my mistakes, I'm learning English)
It is a very very very nice video. I have lived in U.S for 10 years, and I witnessed so many times that people were accidentally offended. If more people have such social etiquettes, less people would be hurt.
Hello Ma'am, I am Nalini & I'm 16, one of your students and I have started watching your videos from the beginning (which you posted 5 years ago) and I really liked this video. I'm from India and yep, almost all the taboo topics are same in India and in the US. I really wanted to ask you how is Theo? Cuttuu Cuttuu baby... ☺️☺️ Well, I also have a little baby Brother, he's 2 years hahaha..... 😊😊
these taboo topics that you talked about is exactly the same in the majority of world countries and in egypt as well as, i really appreciate your lessons, and await them every week 💕♥️
How many cultures do you know?? Stop generalizing because it doesnt apply to all cultures!!! Just because you agree with her list doesnt mean it applies to ALL cultures. Rather talk about your culture! Grazie
7:18 Here in Italy it is normal asking "where are you *really* from?". They asked me a lot in the 70s when I moved from Naples to the North-West of Italy 😂
I worked with a woman who claimed to be full blooded Italian. I said, "Strange, because you a handsome like many Cherokee women." After this, she admitted that she was mostly Cherokee. Interesting note: In many early westerns Native Americans were played by Italian actors, so some Americans think Native Americans look like Italians.
When a girl want to get married, relatives ask any thing about sb you want to married to; such as, what's his job?, how old is he? and so on Thank you i love your energy, you have a way with words😍😍😙
Here in Egypt if we follow these rules we will live in comfort thank you Vanessa very much I benefit from you so much and I really love you so much thank you❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I went to America to learn English and expected people correcting my grammar in my talk. But nobody ever did that. Later I found out it’s not polite to correct others’ grammar if it’s not in English class. Same way nobody ever reminds me I am asking taboo questions, because itself is not polite.
I think part of it is that many Americans have different standards of grammar. For example, some Texans use "fixin to" to make the future tense, though that isn't taught in standard grammar.
I'm Russian and I find a lot of these topics are also taboo here in situations when you don't know each other very well, at least for my generation(under 25 years old)
Vanessa is such a bright person to listen to! Thank you for explaining everything in such a simple, concise and fun way. I'm looking forward to Your new videos.:)
I am alaa from Egypt . Your lessons helped me alot to improve my English and not just that you make me love speaking English alot and make all i can do to speak like you 😍😍😍❤❤Thanks to you alot ❤❤❤❤😍
Can we ask Americans too that please do not ask us where we are from when you hear our accent? We are from the earth. And please do not judge people based on their country of origin! We have wonderful people in our countries, but politicians have destroyed our countries.
@@paulstrahnickiy1724 we're from Iran and I don't know why we shouldn't name our ancient country! Although I know it's because of stereotypes associated with my country that some people don't like to mention it. I personally do let others know about my origin, to understand the difference between reality of an Iranian and what Media has put into their heads! Im not from earth, I'm from land of Aryans, Iran!
I don’t think it’s only American people ask but all of the world. When I went to Europe, because of my Asian appearance people asking if I’m Japanese, Chinese or where I’m from. It is curiosity. same to me, If I hear some accents from someone speaking English, I would be curious too. The reason I’d ask this question is just curious and want to know potential connection, good way. I never get offended even though people talking about politics between South Korea and North Korea, I just take it as conversation start... it’s just my 2cents :)
Unfortunately Americans have to deal with this too. I tell people I'm American, and people have this weird anti-American complex and they'll go on about how much they hate America. It's terrible, but it is what it is.
HOMEWORK: What topics are taboo in your country? Let me know in the comments! 😊Continue learning English with me by downloading my free ebook "5 Steps to Becoming a Confident English Speaker" 👉 www.speakenglishwithvanessa.com/free-ebook ❤️
Vanessa I love you so much ❤😍😘!
I also love her so much
I'm Asian :Indirectly
I'm Indian :Directly
Ur best teacher 😀
U are the best 😊😊😊
I'm from Vietnam, and we talk about everything and anything, of course you would start a light conversation with stranger, and the more you know people, the more personal questions you can ask.
One thing we try to avoid is to bring up some questions that would stir up their emotions and make them cry, like asking about a closed person to them who just passed/died. We are still considerate to not upset people unnecessarily.
I have lived in Canada for 30 years, and wish I know about this earlier, so people don't look at me in strange ways when I ask the wrong questions.
Thank you very much for your lessons. You're are one of my best teachers. And I appreciate your lessons very much!
Stay well and happy!💯❤
Now, I finally know why people start a conversation about the weather.
Because all the other things are "none of your business." Thank God we have at least weather which is common business.
Political correctness has ruined the possibilities for normal debate.
Same here
that's universal
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I love the way you said they are all Americans. That's really kind.
Wow! Keep enlightening us.
Congratulations on the birth of your sweet baby!
The cute baby looks like "who is talking with my mom. I can't find any person"
Yes, he was so confused. haha! 😊❤️
Speak English With Vanessa LOL 😂
it's what my English class looks like, I mean my teacher speaking something and I try to catch! except my face doesn't look so cute.
The baby pays attention to Vanessa's hand movement... so cute! 😍😘
@@josealvarez3045 hi
I am from the Philippines. I don't think we have a Taboo in our country. Most of the people here are always curious to someone else's life. 😝
Thank you so much for your video. It's my daily dose of English. I always start my morning with your vids. More power!!God bless you!
Some people don't they take it too kindly when tourists are honest about how dirty our streets are. Lol.
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I’m happy to say… Vanessa is a helper (ty), helping to provide for folks (you and me… & feel free to disagree) to hear and understand each other; Thanks Miss (Mrs.? Ms? Madame? Your Clearness?) for your earnest efforts for us (all of us?) so we can live in a world that hears us. We hear it too. We can all hear just what it takes to make the children happy.
You are the best English teacher that I have ever seen. I have been learning English with you for few years now and I have improve a lot so, thank you from the bottom of my heart :-)
Thanks so much for your kind comment and for learning English with me!😊❤️
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Yes my dear friend
@@janhavi8217 Does this teacher teach American English or Canadian English?
@@fy9602 Hello!
She teaches American English
I am 14 years old and recently i follow your channel and it was really very beneficial to me and it helped me a lot to improve my English thanks for your effort
You're the best English teacher I've ever seen on TH-cam.
I love your tone of voice and your facial expressions.
And your baby, he is absolutely adorable!!!!
Have a lovely day : ) ♡
I saw this video today. I think your beautiful baby is now older and can speak native English by herself and strengthen our listening skills! Thank you for your great TH-cam channel
I suffer with a family question situation. A lady that I use to work with got too shocked with my question. At the end, she explained me about the culture in US.
Vanessa, this lesson is so important for each of us. In France, as you probably know, you generaly avoid to ask directly about political opinions and choices to people you don't know very well. Whereas in Poland it's a very common question... So from one country to another, it varies so much.
In France, it’s better to be quiet if you don’t know French. Otherwise French will be very rude and will not answer even in the store…
You are best English teacher in my whole life and your smile makes me feel so positive 😊
Hello palak
@@Hiandeveryoneji mind your own business
@@mdsadabalam9434 American moment
It is a good idea. We all learn different cultures in this lesson. The best teacher and we all respect the culture of each country.
Hello I am Korean 👋 This is the first time to see U :) it was very useful video for me. Several questions are taboo not only in America but also in other countries. I totally agree with you 👍
Thank you so much for your kind comment and for learning English with me! 😊❤️
Hello, Teacher Vanessa! I like your lessons and pronunciation, you speak so clear lol…I love British accent too, can sound so classy! Anyway, lots of love to America from across the world! Cheers!
Baby is cute. His eyes are tracking mom's hand moving. Cute 😙
i agree
Wow! So happy to see your baby . Your baby was learning as youtube viewers were. Thanks for your teaching. What a wonderful mommy you are!
Another great lesson from our amazing teacher Vanessa❤️
I'm so glad that you enjoyed this lesson! 😊❤️
@@SpeakEnglishWithVanessa
Trump has overtly insulted a Chinese- America journalist, to go and ask something in China! That was scary!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@SpeakEnglishWithVanessa
it's a great lesson I got blocked in Facebook because I asked someone what he is doing for living.
also I am wondering what is the name of your baby?!if you don't mind to say that.
You are the best English teacher and your smile makes me feel positive
I was working in US and my colleagues where all day long talking about salaries (I worked in 2 companies btw in different states) u are too polite ☺️☺️
I'm a new immigrant in USA
I live in Michigan and your videos are useful for me
Thanks a lot Vanessa
keep going
These are questions that should not be asked in all cultures. If everyone could be this way, I'm sure the world would be a better place 🌻
So true ❤
Exactly. An SBO A statement of the blindingly obvious.
Why? The only one of these questions that could possibly trigger me is "Are you pregnant?" As a 67 yo American man, I have always found it humorous when somebody addressed me a "ma'am", but I suppose that I might be triggered, if they caught me in the right mood, by asking if I was pregnant.
Not really.........Other countries don't worship gays like Americans do
@@aeganratheesh They dont worship they respect their rights. Not only theirs but also all the people's rights no matter what their sexual orientation, race, heritage, financial situation and etc are. That's why they are the best.
Thanks!
Thanks for learning English with me! 😊💗🙏
Vanessa, Thank you very much for this important information. Really, you're the best teacher in the world! Love from Canada. 🇨🇦❤
May God bless your toddler ! So adorable!
The most important topic in my country Morocco is don't say to your friend your sister is beautiful or I love your sister or how old she is
And don't ask someone are you divorced!
And finally thank you Vanessa!
Your voice and your accent are so clear for me. I'm trying to improve my listening skill. Thanks for your videos
Down here in Italy, taboo topics are pretty much like the ones you'd been talking about in your clip, Vanessa. Take care. Love from Italy 😘
What about pineapple on pizza?
@@justahpersah2232, pineapple 🍍 on pizza 🍕? Pizza "was born" in Naples. Hey, no pineapples around Naples, right? So......., no way, man. Forget it. 😉😉😉😊😊😊
I loved your baby! Thank you very much for your lesson and for showing us your baby!
We ask these 10 taboo questions all the time here in Mexico even with unknown people and I always have thought these topics are rudes and innapropiatte talk about with strangers, great video!
One of the cutest babies l have ever seen, little angel with his mom.Your style of expression is exceptionally brilliant, mam,waiting for the next one with your gifted child.
I love you Vanessa! 🥰 You are the greatest teacher i've ever watched.
By the way, although this is not a question, saying I love you to an American is a taboo, too. Using the word "like" is more correct in your context, unless you are a ...
Oh another taboo again😅
OMG, I used to ask someone about their originally contry. Thank you for the lesson!
I speak English like you the American way I hope I'm more fluent than I'm now... I'm so grateful to you 😍🤗🤗
I live in Indonesia, the most of our people do not like to be asked about the family, and sexuality questions, too personal. All of the taboos you have explained it is better if the questions are not asked in our country 🙏. Even in ourselves, we still do the unrespect questions lol 😀
Wow. I think these are valuable life lessons. Thank you Vanessa. Greetings from Colombia.
"Are you pregnant?", it's a rude question in Brazil too.
This is a very rude question to ask in Russia as well!☺
@@milaozz3522 In Brazil it is taboo.... only if it is when the woman doesn't know who the child's father is ...hehehe
I don't think so!
It is a taboo if someone gives pregnancy tips to a pregnant woman, but this question "are you pregnant" is ok...
iae Brasil
But in Iran its not
Love you Vanessa
Your lessons are always great. I am learning American English with you
I have lived in the States for 30 years and finally I learned that all this time I had to be silent!
It,s very saf
It always gives me the joy to listen to you. Thank you for your lessons again.
Hey Vanessa! This is Twinkle from India. We have the same taboo topics as in US and even more. Asking about family, kids and marriage are a kind of taboo talks, but actually, in our nation, these are really common questions one asks, usually in small towns and villages and also by elders in city area. These questions are not considered good and old fashioned but still there are many people who ask. But it's considered as a bad manner.
It does not come as taboo in India. We, the Indians are very much considered with each other. Asking such questions are not taboo. We share each other’s feelings.
Good job, as usual, Vanessa! In Italy too those 10 questions are taboo when we are talking to people we've just met or collegues at work.
It was so nice to see your child looking at you as if very interested in what you were saying....so cute!
see, im from the netherlands, and the people here are very very direct. we would as those questions in a heartbeat. and ive actually heard from many americans that of course they find it a little strange but that they actually really appreciated it. what’s so bad about being direct?
Warmest congratulations.....your baby so cute!! Lots of love!!
Really ! Beauty with brain is back 💗
God bless ❣️ and helpful lesson .
Vanessa, thank you so much. God bless you. I just love the way you talk and explain.
My main take from this video is that is not taboo if you say "If you don't mind me asking" in front of the question. Thanks Vanessa! 😅👍
Be careful, "if you dont mind me asking" can imply that they shouldn't be offended. If you say something that offends them a lot after saying "if you dont mind me asking" it can make it worse.
I think Vennesaa, you have done a great job teaching us how to be polite in this video. When people are forgetting to be polite, I'd recommend them to watch your videos.
3:25 I'm still thinking how is it possible for 2 really close friends to ask each other "are you married?" 😂
100% agree with you. In my country you can hear any of topics you mentioned but it’s absolutely inappropriate for me. You are cool. Thanks a lot.
Thank you so much, ma'am! I have learnt a lot from your videos.🙏🙏
God bless your family n your so sweet baby,he so patiently listened to you n looked at your face....super cute 🥰
Hello Vanessa teacher again! I adore all the lessons that you’re adopting are so incredible for me.
Hello!
@@sachiniramasinghe9678 Did you like a Vanessa's lesson today? As for me, that contains a lot of vital information
@@sachiniramasinghe9678 Yeah! You're totally right here, she's a positive 'n' radiant person as well and I do love her as a teacher 'n' maybe even just as a woman (why not?..) And certainly, teacher's technique of hers is also beyond any praise.
@@sachiniramasinghe9678 I saw her several times when I was living in the Louisiana (a while ago) I used to live in the same state as her, when she hasn't been a famous blogger yet that time. But she was already a well-known English teacher with a big enough audience. Are you satisfied with my reply?
@@sachiniramasinghe9678 you wanna follow there?
Thanks Vanessa. I watched this program yesterday, and now, I'm watching it again. Your baby is very very cute.
Your kid is really adorable! I hope I can compliment you on this))
I’m a native English speaker (from the US), and I loved your video, lol!!! I watched it from start to finish. Also, your baby is precious!!!
Thank you so much for your great lesson, Vanessa. Let me share my experience with you and others. I'm from Korea and have lived in an English speaking country for over 11 years. Once I worked with such a lovely and sweet girl who is originally from this country. One day, we were chatting with another colleague who is from China and he said he has a young sister who is 9 years younger than him in China. Then she asked him if his parents divorced and his sister was his half-sister. I am so sure she never meant to hurt him and I understand that it is so common(?) to have parents separated and to have stepbrothers and/or half-sisters in Western culture. But in Korea (and possibly in China)we never ask this kind of question and also never mention to the person even though you know it unless he/she wants to talk about it.
And one more thing, I seriously want to ask Europeans, Please stop asking me(or to other Koreans) if do I eat dogs when we just meet!!!!!!! When I travel to Europe, I had that same question over and over. It was like this,
European: Where are you from?
Me: I'm from Korea.
European: Oh, Korean! Do you eat dogs?
Me: (Oh, not again!!!!!!!!!)
This question is like, you ask Germans if their grandfather was a Nazzi!!!
Lol
If they ask me that, I usually say that as far as I know my family was kicked out of Germany in the late 19th Century before that went down. I did once meet another German-American whose grandfather was the commander of the submarine that sank the Lusitania. Koreans do sometimes seem surprised when I tell them I knew someone who visited Pyongyang.
Hi Teacher Vanessa, .im from Philippines and always watching your lovely and knowledgeable English teaching video, .So helpful; especially working abroad and speaking English all the time.Thank you.God bless you and your whole family.
Awwwww, vanessa mam your baby is sooooo cute, really he's super cute, I can't move my eyes from him😍😍😍btw, you're an amazing teacher, hats off to you mam😊
It was known but you organized and systemized it well. Thank you, Vanessa.
Oh my, I feel pretty embarrassed. Cuz I've already asked soemone about these questions. I really need to pay attention about these later. Thank you for your this video.
It raised a question to me. Is it grammatically correct to say "your this video". In my native language we have it. But in English I haven't heard such a thing?
@@mateo_on_youtube oh, it was my wonder too!
@@mateo_on_youtube your or this - not both
@@mateo_on_youtube Oh, get real. I am a native English speaker and have often made mistakes like this in comments, especially when I change my mind about how I want to say something, and forget to backspace to delete the original word/phrase.
Thanks for your information you are really a good teacher.
When I had just moved to London, my neighbour - who is from India - asked me about my husband’s job, and the name of his company, when we were having small chat at our parking space.
I felt a little uncomfortable with that, because I thought it was a very direct question, and we just met.
But at that time, I wanted to have good relationship with him, so I told him my husband’s name and his company's name.
I expected him to tell his company’s name, too, but he didn’t; and I couldn’t ask because I had my hands full trying to understand his fast English.😅I don't know if it's common in cosmopolitan city. I am Japanese.
Thanks for sharing, Heichi. I have the same feeling as you. In the US, it would be rude to ask specific details about someone's company or where they live, etc. when you first meet. Usually we ask general questions, so "What do you do?" (this means "What is your job?") is possibly okay if you have been talking for a few minutes together about small talk. But it's more unusual to ask about your husband's job.
Even in India it's quite rude to ask this question when you meet someone for the first time .
Culture is soo interesting thing. It makes us to think and to act in certain way.. I think it is more serious thing then the language barrier.
It was interesting to find out your experience) After that I've started to think about culture at all.
It's same happened in Malaysia.. As a foreign who stay at that country I really feel sick of their taboos
In India, It's quite common to ask what somebody do, and also, asking name is very very common, but asking for income is rude.
❤ My country from Indonesia, I enjoy how you to speak in English, and I follow it
If it's a taboo then why do I get asked by "Americans" where I'm from? Always.
It's super annoying.
Because u might be obviously from outside the US (hint by ur accent).Then this becomes a proper context where they could raise that question.
@@JY-um4su I get that question sometimes even before I speak. But the point here is if you don't want to be asked where are you from then you should not be asking someone else that question too.
@@JY-um4su that is what I was trying to say that it is not a taboo atleast with what I have experienced.
@@Rhea9991 i got same experience LOL
Yeah, me too¡¡¡¡¡ All the timeeeeee¡¡¡¡¡¡¡¡¡ I hate that¡¡¡¡¡ and I usually reply: why? They answer: oh I was just curious 😒😒🤨🤨
I study in 9th standard. Wholeheartedly, ur the best teacher. I catch you very easily
Hii, I'm a french student and I can tell you that we have the same taboo questions in France! :)
Do French people hate to speak English?
@@thankuslay6766 no , they want to speak it but they find some difficulties to do that !
I have heard that they are told that French has been going to become the International Language and because of that the French hate English(language and people)
By the way I love French and I'm learning that in parallel with English. So I guess this is going to be a taboo question in France: Vous est marriee? Ou sur d'argent de un personne😉.
Am I right?
@@mateo_on_youtube hi 😄 I'm French and I can assure you, we do not hate English people or language, it's true that a lot of French people don't speak English but it's just because of the teaching at school 😅 and yes, asking someone how much they make per month is super rude and "are you married? "is not that rude, it's just considered weird 😅😄 that is actually so cool you're learning French ! 😄😄
@@Ja-wu2jc That's weird. I thought in the Europe the teaching methods, esp. for languages are quite well and it's only a problem for developing countries like Iran(my own country). If it's not right so why do people come to Europe to study(if they don't know how to teach their own students English!?)
You are the best teacher madam , thank you so much , merci beaucoup .
The questions on marriage, children, general are taboo everywhere, but they are common topics among relatives in Asian countries. “When will you get married?” to 30s age or “When is your plan to have baby” to a some-year married couple always cause uncomfortable 😞
Many thanks Vanessa. Greetings from a Brazilian subscriber.
Seeing as we are talking about prejudice and all, I think it's important to implant the culture we have 3 Americas, and the "american culture" you reference in the video it's just the north American. This subject is growing nowadays, and I think we have to talk about it (sorry for my mistakes, I'm learning English)
Only America that counts 🇺🇸 they know who she referring to 😂
It is a very very very nice video. I have lived in U.S for 10 years, and I witnessed so many times that people were accidentally offended. If more people have such social etiquettes, less people would be hurt.
Hello Ma'am,
I am Nalini & I'm 16, one of your students and I have started watching your videos from the beginning (which you posted 5 years ago) and I really liked this video. I'm from India and yep, almost all the taboo topics are same in India and in the US.
I really wanted to ask you how is Theo? Cuttuu Cuttuu baby... ☺️☺️
Well, I also have a little baby Brother, he's 2 years hahaha..... 😊😊
Thanks for learning English with me! Theo loves his baby brother. 😊❤️
@@SpeakEnglishWithVanessa Awwww....😊😊 This is really so heart warming.... ♥️♥️♥️
I like you very much. I love your way of teaching. It's natural and friendly. Thank you for your time. I also want to speak English fluently.
In Brazil it is not polite to ask someone how much he earns per month, his salary.
I think this is not an appropriate topic in all countries.
And the most importantly, don´t tell to you mother-in-law!
Literally in every country
Really @Elisa Ember ... then ... How much money do you make per month?????
@@YJoey27 You're wrong. In some countries like China this is very common, even with strangers. That's cultural 😁
venessa you are an amazing teacher...im learning alot from your videos... thanks a lot....
The taboo questions in my country are asking Male's salary and female age and weight.
It's kind of common, isn't it?
I am sure Arabian country
Is it ok to ask about a woman's salary?
@@thalitapimentel6376 probably women don't work in our counties
Men are the breadwinners In most Arab countries
@@mohamedel-kiran1265 I see...
these taboo topics that you talked about is exactly the same in the majority of world countries and in egypt as well as, i really appreciate your lessons, and await them every week 💕♥️
How many cultures do you know?? Stop generalizing because it doesnt apply to all cultures!!! Just because you agree with her list doesnt mean it applies to ALL cultures. Rather talk about your culture! Grazie
7:18 Here in Italy it is normal asking "where are you *really* from?". They asked me a lot in the 70s when I moved from Naples to the North-West of Italy 😂
I worked with a woman who claimed to be full blooded Italian. I said, "Strange, because you a handsome like many Cherokee women." After this, she admitted that she was mostly Cherokee.
Interesting note: In many early westerns Native Americans were played by Italian actors, so some Americans think Native Americans look like Italians.
When a girl want to get married, relatives ask any thing about sb you want to married to; such as, what's his job?, how old is he? and so on
Thank you i love your energy, you have a way with words😍😍😙
In our country it is taboo to ask male's salary and females age
Hmm isn't this the case anywhere?
This is another taboo topic! Thanks for sharing.
Sexism!
That's common thing. Smh
Ever I came across a teacher like vanessa . Your explanations had improved lots of english skills in me tq very much vanessa mam😍😍
when I comes to Vanessa's video ,I always like before I watch💞💞
1st to comment 🙀 🙀
That's nice
Here in Egypt if we follow these rules we will live in comfort thank you Vanessa very much I benefit from you so much and I really love you so much thank you❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I went to America to learn English and expected people correcting my grammar in my talk. But nobody ever did that. Later I found out it’s not polite to correct others’ grammar if it’s not in English class. Same way nobody ever reminds me I am asking taboo questions, because itself is not polite.
I think part of it is that many Americans have different standards of grammar. For example, some Texans use "fixin to" to make the future tense, though that isn't taught in standard grammar.
Wow!!!how smoothly you teach us
I'm Russian and I find a lot of these topics are also taboo here in situations when you don't know each other very well, at least for my generation(under 25 years old)
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Yea, your remark about age is important :)
Ага, Дудю это расскажи
Зэтс интернейшенэл коммуникейшкн рулз. Бат уэн ю хэв смол дикшенери, ю вонт то аск самсинк стрэйт.
I love your explanation , you are the best. I am from Brazil.
HOW LOVELY YOUR BB IS.
Vanessa is such a bright person to listen to! Thank you for explaining everything in such a simple, concise and fun way. I'm looking forward to Your new videos.:)
I guess the only person who can ask "Are you pregnant?" is the Doctor! :D
Well, maybe a woman's husband.
At first let me appreciate from every last bit of your effort to put to improve our language tanks a lot.
I'm not a US citizen, but being asked all those questions makes me frown too.
But I can't help it. People here won't let go the intrusive manner
I am alaa from Egypt .
Your lessons helped me alot to improve my English and not just that you make me love speaking English alot and make all i can do to speak like you 😍😍😍❤❤Thanks to you alot ❤❤❤❤😍
Can we ask Americans too that please do not ask us where we are from when you hear our accent? We are from the earth. And please do not judge people based on their country of origin! We have wonderful people in our countries, but politicians have destroyed our countries.
Sara, can I ask, where are you from ?
@@paulstrahnickiy1724 Iran
@@paulstrahnickiy1724 we're from Iran and I don't know why we shouldn't name our ancient country! Although I know it's because of stereotypes associated with my country that some people don't like to mention it. I personally do let others know about my origin, to understand the difference between reality of an Iranian and what Media has put into their heads! Im not from earth, I'm from land of Aryans, Iran!
I don’t think it’s only American people ask but all of the world. When I went to Europe, because of my Asian appearance people asking if I’m Japanese, Chinese or where I’m from. It is curiosity. same to me, If I hear some accents from someone speaking English, I would be curious too. The reason I’d ask this question is just curious and want to know potential connection, good way. I never get offended even though people talking about politics between South Korea and North Korea, I just take it as conversation start... it’s just my 2cents :)
Unfortunately Americans have to deal with this too. I tell people I'm American, and people have this weird anti-American complex and they'll go on about how much they hate America. It's terrible, but it is what it is.
You are the best teacher ever
I have one taboo topic that is about Rich and poor kind of person's. And love from India 🤗🤗 plzz Ripley me