Hi dear how are you now? Dear God we ask tha you purge him Totally of these things. help him leave a clean life. Give him strength good Father to say"No" to ungodliness. Amen. please do well let us Know how you are doing now 🙏
@@erictheboringone5292 abso-freaking-lutly 👍. Let's see 30 years of being strung out mainly on heroin and cocaine ( but did about all of it) over a million dollars , homeless , near hopeless, with legal issues . Fast forward from 4 and a half years to now. I do a little bit if prescribed marijuana seldomly. I do like mushrooms and have been wonderful medicine for severe depression , PTSD, and even spiritually has rebounded my beliefs with higher power but have ........ Got off legal issues in half time,, have an apartment but moving into a bigger better place, have 2 vehicles and plow, pushing near 50k annually without any trained skills, self taught and started my own painting business that is only growing and doing well, have thousands in brand new Ridgid/ echo/ Graco tools, just got a bunch of nice equipment for my growing hobby, next move is investing in houses. Thats the more material side of things but still kinda necessary. The other side is I don't miss being dope sick , having to worry about the police, my family is worried sick and mended relationships, man it sure is a blessing to have actual " friends" people with my interest in mind on my side that I can trust, ( holly shit that's a big one 😂) , positive and reachable goals that I knock out of the park, was never a horrible looking dude but get vibes from allot healthier of women , the list of pros keep growing and the list of cons keep shrinking even though I lost the desire to use a few years ago. It's allot nicer to have not enough time in a day than a day being to long! Things are o.k today . My problems are of luxury compared to what they was. Like it's when I'm finally learning and enjoying to be alone , no drugs and no women that the better ones start coming around . 😂 Go figure. But that's not really an issue like am I going to go to prison today. Am I going to get a bad batch of dope. Am I going to be sick cause I can't get dope. Can go on and on with this. Life is starting to be o.k my friend 👍. We reap what we sow . But anyway thanks for the line. I wish your journey to be well . 👍
truly makes me happy to hear this. I'm still in active addiction for 27yrs now. I hate it but your success helps me realise it's possible to get and stay clean. I'm so happy for you. x
@@jh7137 So don't get me wrong , all the congrats and good for you or whatever is nice to hear . Sometimes if I'm a bit low or having a bad day and I get a notification of such it can be helpful . But "YOU" are exactly the reason I put myself out there any chance I get . 27 years is the near 3 decades that I speak of . I'm literally holding back tears right now because I'm talking to myself not so long ago . Knowing deep within that this isn't the life for me but it's mainly fear that is the big factor from moving ahead and living the life that is intended for me on the other side . Still to this day it's fear that holds me from being multiple times better off than I already am . It took me being off of that stuff to realize just how many things and to the extent of fear I have . But one of those fears is a good one . Cause amongst all the fears I have being dope sick has got to be one of the biggest ones ! I don't know how much you read of my other comments but I'm not going to sit here and say how deep I was of talk about the over a million dollars that has been through me . But what I am going to do is give you a piece of advice that I wish I could have given myself at least a decade ago . If not 2 or almost 3 years ago . But I can't take back what's already been done . The only thing I can do is name better decisions now . That's what I urge you to do. Listen it doesnt matter what you have or what your scared of loosing if you do this ... Because at best your going to loose it anyway at minimum. Everything that is keeping you from doing this your going to loose anyway if you don't do this . All of it and more . Especially being it's not even drugs anymore it's all synthetic crap . But eventually your not just going to loose what you fear now but your going to loose all of it and your life and hurt any and all that care for you I'm the meantime . Wether or not you want to admit that it's a fact and deep inside you know if! So I don't care what you got to do to do this but get your ass Into whatever detox facility is closest to you ! Not oh I'm going to do it tomorrow, not I just want to get right 1 last time . There is no 1 last time . I mean right now! You can't save your girlfriends , you can't save nothing because you can't even save yourself in your condition right ? As soon as you can get to or accepted into whatever you do it! Your going to loose it all anyway if you don't and that's a fact! As much as I hate the war on drugs and it's laws it's actually what saved my life . If you have to commit a small offense to go to jail then do it ! Try not to hurt others in the process but you need to be somewhere that you don't have a choice but to stay away from that shit ! Just long enough to where you start to get your real mind back . Then once your out from rehab or whatever you only have to do 1 thing right . Cause your going to make mistakes . It's inevitable. But if you only just get the one thing right you'll be fine . That's no matter what under no circumstance do you pick back up! Ive lied in bed curled up in fertile position crying or wishing I knew how to cry cause the agony I was in . Not just physical, but emotional , mentally, spiritually I was fucking bankrupt . I lost hair stressing the fuck out . But it will pass bro! All of it will pass! And when it does your gonna come out the other side a grateful man and learn to appreciate what you've been through. Your also going to not just loose the desire but begin to really hate what it's done to you. Done to your family and friends and even those you victimized wether intentionally or not . All the while your going to gain all of that back I'm which you was scared of loosing in the first place ! It's not easy but it's worth it ! I lost loved ones and all kinds of shit . But I gained myself , I saved myself , and finally I'm able to lend my hand in trying to save others . Your me 5 years ago and I'm you in 5 years if you just follow my advice given ! If ever you need to trust someone it's here now . The future you!
@K. W.S Thank you for this. I hate my addiction but I'm scared. I start to get help but repeatedly self sabotage. In the last 3 years I've gone from a functioning addict to been in prison, my trial was in the paper so everybody I kept it from found out. I had to tell me children I'd been a secret addict their whole lives. Everybody says your family must have known but they really didn't. Unfortunately the methadone helped me maintain a fake front of 'normality' whilst also using heroin on top. I'm tired of this. I'm in the UK and we don't have facilities we can walk into their is a long waiting list even if you qualify at all. I feel I'm on a hamster wheel that I start to get off, I dangle my toe over but then pull back. It's the shame, guilt, fear that stops me getting off it I think. I'm really grateful for your message.
I learned a lot in inpatient treatment but even more in outpatient. It’s really important to keep it continuous and surround yourself with supportive people. Also, don’t beat yourself up if you relapse, just get back into your sobriety path right away.
The first step has always been wrong, admitting or acknowledging you are powerless never did me any good. You have to ACCEPT that you are powerless. Huge difference in my recovery when I realized that. I admitted it 20 years ago and continued to drink, I didn’t accept that fact until 2020. Been sober ever since
Right, and that is the point. When you are ready to surrender, have faith and hand it over (because you are powerless), that is when the journey towards recovery really begins. That happens when it happens, for some it takes weeks, other months, some years other never. Furthermore, again; I once thought like he did. The steps and their wording and statements are simple and practical. Only through regular meeting attendance and working those steps do you start to understand. If you make them to overly complicated and wordy to start with you are less likely to have addicts get on board. Having step 1 as, you are "you accepted you are powerless over everything" nobody would ever stick around.
I definitely understand what you mean without a doubt! The best way that I can personally put it from my perspective/experience from 20+ years of Opiate and Benzodiazepine addiction and how I understood and comprehended Step 1 is First and foremost admitting to myself and my loved ones that I have a TERRIBLE addiction to extremely harmful substances, and THEN had to get to the point where I was Ready to FULLY accept the fact that I have a disease that can possibly end my Life if I was to continue down the path that I was headed...I hope and pray that We ALL are able to find Sobriety and HOLD ONTO IT !!! ☮️ ❤️ NFA 💀⚡️
Just lost $4000 gambling last night and I see this as a 26 year old man it’s the most irrational form of addiction around work so hard just to give everything I earned up but I called for the first time to today to get to a meeting tn as humiliating as this is I already did it I can’t take it back so therefore just fix it or as Jordan said I’m willing to learn to fix it is where I am at now good luck to everyone with there own personals issues I wish you the best and a lot of love!
Did 3 months in rehab now I'm in RBH ( sober living). I'm 6 months clean and now I'm working and go to outpatient groups, I feel so much better and look forward to the future.
Breaking addiction isn't only knowing it's doing it's all in the doing that breaks the cycle, into action, Mega respect for both of these guys, prayers over anybody struggling in active addiction
Currently struggling with an addiction and you're so right. Acknowledging is one thing, but knowing is only half the battle if even that. You need to commit and put in action. Also take it step by step. My addiction has a strong hold over me, so what I'm doing now is decreasing time spent with it. Taking it slow and steady till its gone. Will I relapse this way? Hell yeah, but if I can have a more controlled relapse then I'm much further in life than I think.
Acceptance is just the first step. After acceptance comes the action. It's all about action. There is no change without change, one day at a time. Moment by moment if you have to
@fauvecorrigan1233 moment to moment is such an underrated notion. People spent a day fixing themselves and then crumble when they can't overcome another day so they just go "what the heck" and freely indulge in their addiction to another low point and then they feel like they need to recover. Sometimes the best way to do it is accept you have a problem, check which hours of the day is the problem the worst and then start building. Countermeasures, maybe willpower by simply just going through that time but actively choosing against your addiction and in 3 months time you might even forget that you ever had an addiction (depending on how bad it affected you)
I believe only you can fix it. Talking from vast experience here. If you feel humiliated the problem will only be worse... never bad from others about what you do to yourself, just makes it more addictive
I am a buprenorphine addict, I have suffered with addiction since early teens. (glue, aerosols, then moved onto alcohol and now opioids and nerve damage pain killers) you have helped me in ways you could never know Jordan Peterson ! We love you.
Nice to see Dr Peterson with our lovely Russell Brand discussion.....Russell has been bad and good and sad and happy in a mix of times and now he has sorted himself out coupled with maturity I would think plays a part...Dr Peterson would know instantly what Russell would like their conversation how to start proceed and end... This is what Dr Peterson life is all about....non-judgemental and the offer to guide.... That's why many people worldwide love Dr Peterson... 🤗❤
I also agree the first step is realising it is a problem and admitting to yourself you have a problem. However, it may be quite some time before you attempt to change the problem you recognise. The problem is normally very serious before you make any changes. So you may be sick of your life and the constant hunt for the substance, but you will live in that state for quite some time. He is right learning. People with addictions have the repetitive cycle of doing this harmful thing and never learning. You need to be ready to learn and accept the big changes that need to be made. Nobody else can make you learn- absolutely nobody but you. You have to be your own saviour when it comes to escaping the self destructing illness that is known as addiction. It’s very hard for whatever reason to learn from previous bad experiences- and sometimes it seems you never learn. you just cannot link destructive behaviour with this time. This time is the all and now. Nothing else even mattered. Its grip is so powerful.
It is an all consuming illness where nothing else seems to matter or be of any importance other than this thing you have grown to depend upon. It is more powerful than any love you’ve ever felt and it feels like some form of relationship you have. I believe it links to connection, if you lack basic human connection- you will connect to absolutely anything you can find. Everybody needs some form of connection no matter what that may be, or how much harm it may cause.
Stubbornness comes very natural to a lot of people. That stubbornness can create some remarkable individuals who decide from an early age that they want to accomplish something even though the world tells them they can’t and as they’re in the right place/time and have the skills to accomplish what they wish, they do so and wow everyone. But similarly, those same stubbornness individuals who pick up a harmful addiction are (as dark as it sounds) complete goners. They know deep down that they are harming themselves every day but will rather kill themselves than ask for help. It’s the unfortunate paradox of humanity.
Have you tried reading the scripture? It can help you have power over your addiction. And I kid you not.... Myself and many others have been set free through it. The joy of being free from addiction.....if you are willing and ready to....I can help you on that journey with daily doses of scriptures and guaranteed to be free.
Also, it is necessary to examine the source of one's addiction. For example , when I had a porn addiction, it was due to loneliness and boredom, as well as a coping mechanism of having subpar parents and a self centred sister. Try to slowly and steadily fill any gaps with hobbies or any constructive activity.
Hi You are so so right. we must examine the source of one's addiction. I was an addict to porn too but I have been full delivered now. I heard a man of God say something which I noticed and observed to be true. He said, there is an emptiness or vacuum in the heart of every man that only Jesus can fill. Most times the devil tries to feed us with his own "false satisfaction" things like pornography, masturbation, drugs and the likes,yet, even though we enjoy the temporal pleasure there is still that vacuum in our hearts. This is why we need to know God and surrender our lives to Christ. There is no better and greater satisfaction than the one Christ gives. It been about 2 years plus since I got delivered from the addiction to sexual immorality and I can boldly say since then I have never gone back to my vomit. With Christ you can say bye to boredom and loneliness. if you will like to talk more or have question or you will even like to grow in your relationship with Christ kindly drop a reply. we could even talk off you.tube.
And God's word too. Another thing you can fill yourself with that takes away addiction.... Getting addicted to it have been proven to take away any other addictions. In it lies truth about your true identity and strategies on how one's life can be better. It's been known also to give peace, renewed hope and meaning to one's life.......Am an example 😊
Isn’t addiction a symptom of some sort of undiagnosed trauma? What is the best approach to learn the necessary skills in order to cope with the trauma?
I prefer to think of it as “my current attitude and approach is insufficient” and “ my current habits and way of thinking needs to improve” and “my way isn’t working. Let’s try something different “
I wish I had seen this earlier this year. I lost everything because I was addicted and even have a record now. I don't even know what to do anymore and constantly think about suicide and how good life used to be. I need help but don't know where to look and I've burnt a lot of bridges.
Get to meetings and start asking strangers for help. There are people who love you that you haven't met yet. They are waiting for you. You are loved and you matter!
I’m so tired of being an addict. I’ve been a heroin addict for 15 years. I’ve had a family a beautiful woman a house. I’ve lost it all. Recently I noticed a new emotion. Why would I continue on why would I want to exist anymore with this reality? It’s like a strange epiphany on a regular basis can’t describe it. Restless and discontent X1,000
Hi brother You sound so frustrated and depressed. I can really relate with what you are going through brother cos I was once an addict too tho not to drugs but to sexual immorality. I remember how hard I tried on several occasions to stop by my own strength yet all to no avail. I have been made Free by Christ and His ever living Word. Though my deliverance did not happen within the twinkle of an eye, it took time and process. I had to be constantly washed by the word of God. It has been two years plus now and I have never gone back to my vomit. Brother you too can be free, I have lot of brothers who were also an addict to hard drugs, some from a very young age but now they have come to know the Lord and have stayed under the washing water of the word of God and have stayed clean for many. If you truly need help or got questions please do well to send a reply or we could talk privately. I pray the good Lord preserve you and purge you of all filthiness. Amen
It means the devil has u where he wants you. He seeks to steal, kill and destroy! Watch the process in ur own life. Ask Jesus to come into ur life and watch your life, slowly but surely change……
Wow! I expected more from Jordan here. If not even he understands that addiction has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with moral degeneracy or incompetence than this is an issue in which society is still very much in the dark ages, although I suppose it shouldn't be all that surprising given the recent spike in narcissism.
If only my boyfriend could realize he’s got a serious problem with meth and start taking the steps to get out. Before I start taking the steps out of the relationship.
Maybe you should focus on your personal issues and set the example instead of constantly telling your boyfriend what you think is wrong with him. That tends to work much better than bitching about how someone needs to change or you’re going to leave them for someone better that deserves someone as great as you happen to think you are. Think about it.
@@option4lnamename101 not every addict is selfish and self centered. You may not even be but you believe you are because you’re constantly being told that’s what you are. It could be that opiate addiction is the hardest addiction to break and that it changes brain chemistry so badly and makes you so sick when you don’t have it that you’ll do almost anything to not have to feel that sickness. You should give suboxone a try. It saved my life and gave me a normal existence. No more searching for dope and getting desperate when I couldn’t find it or going insane if I got ripped off. Cold turkey isn’t the way to quit opiates nor is tapering down. I may be on suboxone the rest of my life but that’s fine with me because I’m not high and I get to actually live my life.
I am actually addicted to mephedrone and i'm trying day by day, the worst thing about it is that i'm not hurting just myself but my wife with my addiction.., I have a problem but the thing is.. Nah, I can't.. 😢
It's ok to come to a place where you know you can't help yourself. I was once addicted to things and couldn't help myself so I went all out to someone who could help me. I opened up to God because I had tried almost everything I knew before this time and I discovered that only God worked for me and doing the following, made me able to live life free of pain . Today I am not causing myself or my family members pains anymore. 1: I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Saviour. 2: I learnt that reading the Bible, storing the word of God inside me and striving to do the things that God wants me to and letting go of the things he wants me to let go was one of the greatest help I received. 3. I changed habits, instead of hanging out with friends that will take me clubbing or drinking, I hung out with real godly people, instead of visiting x-rated sites, reading bad contents or listening to bad music, I hung out with people who held me accountable for my actions, and encouraged me to live right because they too are working on living well not pretending. 4: I began to attend a bible believing church both onsite and off-site, where the truth of God's word was taught and we were taught that God wants us to live good lives, free of drugs, porn, alcohol etc and today I am free. If you need help to go through these processes or you need godly people that can help you be accountable, I'm here.
Am i an addict in the first place if I were able to quit on your own without any help or support? Society told me I was an addict so I stopped. Without help. Am I an addict? Alcohol, never touched drugs
My thing is... isnt admitting we're powerless and that we need help SOMETHING WE CAN DO!? I dont believe its impossible to do by yourself because ive known people who have... maybe they were in jail nd didnt have a choice, but some just stop... so there is SOMETHING you can do...
Addicted to vapes bruh. It’s so embarrassing. Also I go for runs everyday. (I’ve been going since before I started smoking) and I can see myself gradually being able to run for less and less time. I’m out of breath quickly and I’ve spent hundreds on disposables that run out HELP HOW DO I STOP.
Well if I was powerless I wouldn't have gotten clean. You and your brain are the most powerful thing in this world. You are not powerless and you should never acknowledge that.
Help can come to you. All the help you need is in Jesus. Are you ready to accept him as your Lord and Savior. He alone can save. I was once an addict though not to drugs and Jesus made me Free. Let me walk this path with you. We can talk more.
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The only thing I don't understand from thie argument is: does that mean for severe cases of addiction we should go into coma's like he did? Wake up without the physical but still psychological addiction. Or in soke cases with medically induced comas you don't wake up at all.
Throw anger and abuse to family members because they know they are guilty of their addiction but blame everyone but themselves. How to you keep holding on after 49 years of marriage or walk away
They should do sit-ups where the upper part of the abdomen is worked, with the legs raised and trying to touch the feet with the hands and its variants that work the upper part of the abdomen, they will see improvements quickly. That upper abdominal exercise will take away your depression and anxiety, it will also heal your mind..
@@destructorzz7197 I can imagine if you had trained to the point of failure and your body was just simply far too tired to experience the anxiety but it is scientifically proven to reduce symptoms, but not cure them completely... Most individuals, including myself, take pre workout before the gym and that anxiety can be intensified to another level depending on the levels of caffeine that are in the ingredients. More power to you if excersise outright cures your symptoms specifically but we are all hard-wired differently and I'm assuming you don't take pre-workout of any kind?
JP is a wonderful asset - but he's mistaken here. The solution to a drug or alcohol addiction is not just to learn the right information. Knowledge does not remove obsessions. The solution is being rid of the need for the conscience-anesthetizing effect of the product. And that need is inexorably tied to the one thing that created the need in the first place-it's resentment. Master resentment, getting free of anger and fear and the obsession with obtaining relief for the pain of it through psychotropic means like liquor and drugs, disappears. Instantly, POOF! That's how to recover. Thats how the 12 Steps works. It's just a rudimentary process for giving up hate. There is no such thing as an addict or alcoholic who is not controlled and driven by anger inside him.
And there's the Americans who cannot afford Rehabilitation so they will be locked up by the police for being addicted, released, then rearrested and so on and so forth and will never be offered the help that they so desperately need but instead be treated as criminals. Addiction will get worse as the economy get worse.
Yeah true.....like I got addicted to the scriptures and I found out I lost every other addictions. But it's the only thing you can get addicted to and you are fine😊
An alternative to drug addition? Take 8-minutes to watch You Tube video, A New Capability of the Human Brain. Will learning to mentally eliminate pain reduce drug addition? Why in no one interested in learning to mentally eliminate pain?
That’s not the answer buddy. Its not that easy. You can’t just make your brain chemistry go back to its original state by thinking about it. You don’t seem to have a grasp on what reality causes addiction for the majority of people.
What if stimulant was truly your only real pain relief, in turn your becoming depressed w out, the substance, due to unmanageable, chronic pain , ( four surgeries and clean , in agony still) I'm powerless over alot more that that stuff..... trouble ahead, trouble behind....
drug addiction being a trauma disorder is another conversation they don’t wanna have that’s gonna be expensive for big Pharma and it makes it clear what homelessness is… #2Spirit
Dont go to rehab or detox if you want to survive. You'll be tracked by the government after too. Your life will go downhill. Clean yourself up. Build strength. Adapt. Nutrition is key. Patience. Timing of cravings pass. Stop being so weak. Life sucks then you die. Make it better by making money and art!
I’m moved by this content. I encountered a book recently with similar insights that reshaped my outlook. "A Life Unplugged: Reclaiming Reality in a Digital Age" by Theodore Blaze
He’s absolutely not a Jesus freak. He’s more of a theologian as opposed to some bible thumping evangelical weirdo. Never even heard him talk about Jesus. He speaks about God and the good that can come from the lessons the Bible contains but I’ve yet to hear Dr Peterson talk about following Jesus. I mean maybe I haven’t listened to that particular material of his so if I’m wrong point me in the direction that causes you to have such a notion about him.
Unfortunately yes, life can be very dull after quitting substance abuse. I suppose the only way to combat that is to find things in life that make you happy or excited, and do them as much as you can. Because otherwise, relapse is likely.
@user-wu1gm8xz9u Agreed. I've been 6 months sober. But life is very hard and often dull. Then again, it was hard and dull drunk too. All seems the same tbh.
Thankfully I was never an addict of any drug, just sampled a few, throughout the years. I exclude Weed from that list, cause it's not an addictive drug it's awesome
Depends I never thout weed was addictive. I smoked a shit tones for 15 years and wen I stopped, it was nearly as bad as the painkillers mentally not physically.
I’m going into rehab today pray for me and my family
Good luck. Do whatever it takes to get better
Proud of you, do it
While your there look at the twelve steps
Hi dear
how are you now?
Dear God we ask tha you purge him Totally of these things. help him leave a clean life. Give him strength good Father to say"No" to ungodliness.
Amen.
please do well let us Know how you are doing now 🙏
I want to grant you safe passage
March was 4 years clean from 30 years of drug/sex abuse.
Good job. Keep it up.
@@erictheboringone5292 abso-freaking-lutly 👍. Let's see 30 years of being strung out mainly on heroin and cocaine ( but did about all of it) over a million dollars , homeless , near hopeless, with legal issues . Fast forward from 4 and a half years to now. I do a little bit if prescribed marijuana seldomly. I do like mushrooms and have been wonderful medicine for severe depression , PTSD, and even spiritually has rebounded my beliefs with higher power but have ........ Got off legal issues in half time,, have an apartment but moving into a bigger better place, have 2 vehicles and plow, pushing near 50k annually without any trained skills, self taught and started my own painting business that is only growing and doing well, have thousands in brand new Ridgid/ echo/ Graco tools, just got a bunch of nice equipment for my growing hobby, next move is investing in houses. Thats the more material side of things but still kinda necessary. The other side is I don't miss being dope sick , having to worry about the police, my family is worried sick and mended relationships, man it sure is a blessing to have actual " friends" people with my interest in mind on my side that I can trust, ( holly shit that's a big one 😂) , positive and reachable goals that I knock out of the park, was never a horrible looking dude but get vibes from allot healthier of women , the list of pros keep growing and the list of cons keep shrinking even though I lost the desire to use a few years ago. It's allot nicer to have not enough time in a day than a day being to long! Things are o.k today . My problems are of luxury compared to what they was. Like it's when I'm finally learning and enjoying to be alone , no drugs and no women that the better ones start coming around . 😂 Go figure. But that's not really an issue like am I going to go to prison today. Am I going to get a bad batch of dope. Am I going to be sick cause I can't get dope. Can go on and on with this. Life is starting to be o.k my friend 👍. We reap what we sow . But anyway thanks for the line. I wish your journey to be well . 👍
truly makes me happy to hear this. I'm still in active addiction for 27yrs now. I hate it but your success helps me realise it's possible to get and stay clean.
I'm so happy for you. x
@@jh7137 So don't get me wrong , all the congrats and good for you or whatever is nice to hear . Sometimes if I'm a bit low or having a bad day and I get a notification of such it can be helpful . But "YOU" are exactly the reason I put myself out there any chance I get . 27 years is the near 3 decades that I speak of . I'm literally holding back tears right now because I'm talking to myself not so long ago . Knowing deep within that this isn't the life for me but it's mainly fear that is the big factor from moving ahead and living the life that is intended for me on the other side . Still to this day it's fear that holds me from being multiple times better off than I already am . It took me being off of that stuff to realize just how many things and to the extent of fear I have . But one of those fears is a good one . Cause amongst all the fears I have being dope sick has got to be one of the biggest ones !
I don't know how much you read of my other comments but I'm not going to sit here and say how deep I was of talk about the over a million dollars that has been through me . But what I am going to do is give you a piece of advice that I wish I could have given myself at least a decade ago . If not 2 or almost 3 years ago . But I can't take back what's already been done . The only thing I can do is name better decisions now . That's what I urge you to do.
Listen it doesnt matter what you have or what your scared of loosing if you do this ... Because at best your going to loose it anyway at minimum. Everything that is keeping you from doing this your going to loose anyway if you don't do this . All of it and more . Especially being it's not even drugs anymore it's all synthetic crap . But eventually your not just going to loose what you fear now but your going to loose all of it and your life and hurt any and all that care for you I'm the meantime . Wether or not you want to admit that it's a fact and deep inside you know if! So I don't care what you got to do to do this but get your ass Into whatever detox facility is closest to you ! Not oh I'm going to do it tomorrow, not I just want to get right 1 last time . There is no 1 last time . I mean right now!
You can't save your girlfriends , you can't save nothing because you can't even save yourself in your condition right ? As soon as you can get to or accepted into whatever you do it! Your going to loose it all anyway if you don't and that's a fact! As much as I hate the war on drugs and it's laws it's actually what saved my life . If you have to commit a small offense to go to jail then do it ! Try not to hurt others in the process but you need to be somewhere that you don't have a choice but to stay away from that shit ! Just long enough to where you start to get your real mind back .
Then once your out from rehab or whatever you only have to do 1 thing right . Cause your going to make mistakes . It's inevitable. But if you only just get the one thing right you'll be fine . That's no matter what under no circumstance do you pick back up!
Ive lied in bed curled up in fertile position crying or wishing I knew how to cry cause the agony I was in . Not just physical, but emotional , mentally, spiritually I was fucking bankrupt . I lost hair stressing the fuck out . But it will pass bro! All of it will pass! And when it does your gonna come out the other side a grateful man and learn to appreciate what you've been through. Your also going to not just loose the desire but begin to really hate what it's done to you. Done to your family and friends and even those you victimized wether intentionally or not . All the while your going to gain all of that back I'm which you was scared of loosing in the first place !
It's not easy but it's worth it ! I lost loved ones and all kinds of shit . But I gained myself , I saved myself , and finally I'm able to lend my hand in trying to save others . Your me 5 years ago and I'm you in 5 years if you just follow my advice given ! If ever you need to trust someone it's here now . The future you!
@K. W.S Thank you for this. I hate my addiction but I'm scared. I start to get help but repeatedly self sabotage. In the last 3 years I've gone from a functioning addict to been in prison, my trial was in the paper so everybody I kept it from found out. I had to tell me children I'd been a secret addict their whole lives. Everybody says your family must have known but they really didn't. Unfortunately the methadone helped me maintain a fake front of 'normality' whilst also using heroin on top. I'm tired of this. I'm in the UK and we don't have facilities we can walk into their is a long waiting list even if you qualify at all.
I feel I'm on a hamster wheel that I start to get off, I dangle my toe over but then pull back. It's the shame, guilt, fear that stops me getting off it I think.
I'm really grateful for your message.
I learned a lot in inpatient treatment but even more in outpatient. It’s really important to keep it continuous and surround yourself with supportive people. Also, don’t beat yourself up if you relapse, just get back into your sobriety path right away.
The first step has always been wrong, admitting or acknowledging you are powerless never did me any good. You have to ACCEPT that you are powerless. Huge difference in my recovery when I realized that. I admitted it 20 years ago and continued to drink, I didn’t accept that fact until 2020. Been sober ever since
It's why it's so important to stick to the programme and get meetings. Rarely does anyone get it on the first try
Right, and that is the point. When you are ready to surrender, have faith and hand it over (because you are powerless), that is when the journey towards recovery really begins. That happens when it happens, for some it takes weeks, other months, some years other never.
Furthermore, again; I once thought like he did. The steps and their wording and statements are simple and practical. Only through regular meeting attendance and working those steps do you start to understand.
If you make them to overly complicated and wordy to start with you are less likely to have addicts get on board.
Having step 1 as, you are "you accepted you are powerless over everything" nobody would ever stick around.
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I definitely understand what you mean without a doubt! The best way that I can personally put it from my perspective/experience from 20+ years of Opiate and Benzodiazepine addiction and how I understood and comprehended Step 1 is First and foremost admitting to myself and my loved ones that I have a TERRIBLE addiction to extremely harmful substances, and THEN had to get to the point where I was Ready to FULLY accept the fact that I have a disease that can possibly end my Life if I was to continue down the path that I was headed...I hope and pray that We ALL are able to find Sobriety and HOLD ONTO IT !!! ☮️ ❤️ NFA 💀⚡️
Semantics.
So lost right now. All makes sense but actions are challenging day to day. We have to want it for ourselves and our family… much love
honestly try spinning
Just lost $4000 gambling last night and I see this as a 26 year old man it’s the most irrational form of addiction around work so hard just to give everything I earned up but I called for the first time to today to get to a meeting tn as humiliating as this is I already did it I can’t take it back so therefore just fix it or as Jordan said I’m willing to learn to fix it is where I am at now good luck to everyone with there own personals issues I wish you the best and a lot of love!
Did 3 months in rehab now I'm in RBH ( sober living). I'm 6 months clean and now I'm working and go to outpatient groups, I feel so much better and look forward to the future.
I realised I was powerless so many days ago.
I thank god for it.
1 month clean and I'm already a different human. I'm about to take over
I LITERALLY AM DOING WHAT HES SAYING LATELY AND JUST SAW THIS
Breaking addiction isn't only knowing it's doing it's all in the doing that breaks the cycle, into action, Mega respect for both of these guys, prayers over anybody struggling in active addiction
Currently struggling with an addiction and you're so right. Acknowledging is one thing, but knowing is only half the battle if even that. You need to commit and put in action. Also take it step by step.
My addiction has a strong hold over me, so what I'm doing now is decreasing time spent with it. Taking it slow and steady till its gone. Will I relapse this way? Hell yeah, but if I can have a more controlled relapse then I'm much further in life than I think.
Acceptance is just the first step. After acceptance comes the action. It's all about action. There is no change without change, one day at a time. Moment by moment if you have to
@fauvecorrigan1233 moment to moment is such an underrated notion. People spent a day fixing themselves and then crumble when they can't overcome another day so they just go "what the heck" and freely indulge in their addiction to another low point and then they feel like they need to recover.
Sometimes the best way to do it is accept you have a problem, check which hours of the day is the problem the worst and then start building. Countermeasures, maybe willpower by simply just going through that time but actively choosing against your addiction and in 3 months time you might even forget that you ever had an addiction (depending on how bad it affected you)
Just to let you know, even if you are taking drugs at this very moment reading this comment, you will get there… be patient the result is fantastic ❤️
Awareness -> Acceptance -> Action
Awareness-surrender-accpetance-action
I believe only you can fix it. Talking from vast experience here. If you feel humiliated the problem will only be worse... never bad from others about what you do to yourself, just makes it more addictive
I am a buprenorphine addict, I have suffered with addiction since early teens. (glue, aerosols, then moved onto alcohol and now opioids and nerve damage pain killers) you have helped me in ways you could never know Jordan Peterson ! We love you.
You can be completely free from any form of Addiction.
Come to Jesus and He will set you free.
I can help you through this path.
Nice to see Dr Peterson with our lovely Russell Brand discussion.....Russell has been bad and good and sad and happy in a mix of times and now he has sorted himself out coupled with maturity I would think plays a part...Dr Peterson would know instantly what Russell would like their conversation how to start proceed and end... This is what Dr Peterson life is all about....non-judgemental and the offer to guide.... That's why many people worldwide love Dr Peterson... 🤗❤
Cant get better than 2 of my favorite people talking to each other ❤️❤️❤️❤️
“you’re in trouble and it’s serious” that hit hard
I also agree the first step is realising it is a problem and admitting to yourself you have a problem. However, it may be quite some time before you attempt to change the problem you recognise. The problem is normally very serious before you make any changes. So you may be sick of your life and the constant hunt for the substance, but you will live in that state for quite some time. He is right learning. People with addictions have the repetitive cycle of doing this harmful thing and never learning. You need to be ready to learn and accept the big changes that need to be made. Nobody else can make you learn- absolutely nobody but you. You have to be your own saviour when it comes to escaping the self destructing illness that is known as addiction. It’s very hard for whatever reason to learn from previous bad experiences- and sometimes it seems you never learn. you just cannot link destructive behaviour with this time. This time is the all and now. Nothing else even mattered. Its grip is so powerful.
It is an all consuming illness where nothing else seems to matter or be of any importance other than this thing you have grown to depend upon. It is more powerful than any love you’ve ever felt and it feels like some form of relationship you have. I believe it links to connection, if you lack basic human connection- you will connect to absolutely anything you can find. Everybody needs some form of connection no matter what that may be, or how much harm it may cause.
Yes I have A Problem Drinking Way too Much.
This is so true. I wish more people in the world could hear this message and embrace it.
Stubbornness comes very natural to a lot of people.
That stubbornness can create some remarkable individuals who decide from an early age that they want to accomplish something even though the world tells them they can’t and as they’re in the right place/time and have the skills to accomplish what they wish, they do so and wow everyone.
But similarly, those same stubbornness individuals who pick up a harmful addiction are (as dark as it sounds) complete goners. They know deep down that they are harming themselves every day but will rather kill themselves than ask for help. It’s the unfortunate paradox of humanity.
8 years ❤
Thanks Dr Peterson! ❤
Absolutely correct.
Ooh, I love what I just heard. Very powerful.
Hi Hi - to Russell & Dr. Peterson 👋🏼
Just took 7 year, preach it Jordan!
I have a problem and I’m powerless over my addiction at the moment:( hope things work out for me. Hope things improve
Have you tried reading the scripture? It can help you have power over your addiction.
And I kid you not.... Myself and many others have been set free through it.
The joy of being free from addiction.....if you are willing and ready to....I can help you on that journey with daily doses of scriptures and guaranteed to be free.
Willingness is the key- to everything
Also, it is necessary to examine the source of one's addiction. For example , when I had a porn addiction, it was due to loneliness and boredom, as well as a coping mechanism of having subpar parents and a self centred sister. Try to slowly and steadily fill any gaps with hobbies or any constructive activity.
Hi
You are so so right. we must examine the source of one's addiction.
I was an addict to porn too but I have been full delivered now.
I heard a man of God say something which I noticed and observed to be true. He said, there is an emptiness or vacuum in the heart of every man that only Jesus can fill.
Most times the devil tries to feed us with his own "false satisfaction" things like pornography, masturbation, drugs and the likes,yet, even though we enjoy the temporal pleasure there is still that vacuum in our hearts.
This is why we need to know God and surrender our lives to Christ. There is no better and greater satisfaction than the one Christ gives.
It been about 2 years plus since I got delivered from the addiction to sexual immorality and I can boldly say since then I have never gone back to my vomit.
With Christ you can say bye to boredom and loneliness. if you will like to talk more or have question or you will even like to grow in your relationship with Christ kindly drop a reply. we could even talk off you.tube.
And God's word too.
Another thing you can fill yourself with that takes away addiction.... Getting addicted to it have been proven to take away any other addictions.
In it lies truth about your true identity and strategies on how one's life can be better.
It's been known also to give peace, renewed hope and meaning to one's life.......Am an example 😊
Jordan Peterson is one of the few geniuses I’ve ever followed.
Nice to see him on your channel!
I will never forget the exact moment that i said "i'm so tired of this, i'm just done with it"
Isn’t addiction a symptom of some sort of undiagnosed trauma?
What is the best approach to learn the necessary skills in order to cope with the trauma?
Wow well said yet again!!
I prefer to think of it as “my current attitude and approach is insufficient” and “ my current habits and way of thinking needs to improve” and “my way isn’t working. Let’s try something different “
Correct ,if you continue to beleive you're powerless. Hou will always be powerless its about letting go of the pass be aware and always change
Unearthing the truth behind the lies
Wonderful. Two men I respect talking about anything, is inspiring all the time ❤
I wish I had seen this earlier this year. I lost everything because I was addicted and even have a record now. I don't even know what to do anymore and constantly think about suicide and how good life used to be. I need help but don't know where to look and I've burnt a lot of bridges.
Get to meetings and start asking strangers for help. There are people who love you that you haven't met yet. They are waiting for you. You are loved and you matter!
I’m so tired of being an addict. I’ve been a heroin addict for 15 years. I’ve had a family a beautiful woman a house. I’ve lost it all. Recently I noticed a new emotion. Why would I continue on why would I want to exist anymore with this reality? It’s like a strange epiphany on a regular basis can’t describe it. Restless and discontent X1,000
And I can also help you go through with it if you need any help or questions 🙏
Hi brother
You sound so frustrated and depressed. I can really relate with what you are going through brother cos I was once an addict too tho not to drugs but to sexual immorality.
I remember how hard I tried on several occasions to stop by my own strength yet all to no avail.
I have been made Free by Christ and His ever living Word. Though my deliverance did not happen within the twinkle of an eye, it took time and process. I had to be constantly washed by the word of God.
It has been two years plus now and I have never gone back to my vomit.
Brother you too can be free, I have lot of brothers who were also an addict to hard drugs, some from a very young age but now they have come to know the Lord and have stayed under the washing water of the word of God and have stayed clean for many.
If you truly need help or got questions please do well to send a reply or we could talk privately.
I pray the good Lord preserve you and purge you of all filthiness.
Amen
It means the devil has u where he wants you. He seeks to steal, kill and destroy! Watch the process in ur own life. Ask Jesus to come into ur life and watch your life, slowly but surely change……
Wow! I expected more from Jordan here. If not even he understands that addiction has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with moral degeneracy or incompetence than this is an issue in which society is still very much in the dark ages, although I suppose it shouldn't be all that surprising given the recent spike in narcissism.
If only my boyfriend could realize he’s got a serious problem with meth and start taking the steps to get out. Before I start taking the steps out of the relationship.
That is a seriously tough situation. I wish you the very best
Damn, good job sticking around
Should have left long ago I'm a painkiller addict and all I thout about was the pills not the ppl and family I had around me till I lost everything.
Maybe you should focus on your personal issues and set the example instead of constantly telling your boyfriend what you think is wrong with him. That tends to work much better than bitching about how someone needs to change or you’re going to leave them for someone better that deserves someone as great as you happen to think you are. Think about it.
@@option4lnamename101 not every addict is selfish and self centered. You may not even be but you believe you are because you’re constantly being told that’s what you are. It could be that opiate addiction is the hardest addiction to break and that it changes brain chemistry so badly and makes you so sick when you don’t have it that you’ll do almost anything to not have to feel that sickness. You should give suboxone a try. It saved my life and gave me a normal existence. No more searching for dope and getting desperate when I couldn’t find it or going insane if I got ripped off. Cold turkey isn’t the way to quit opiates nor is tapering down. I may be on suboxone the rest of my life but that’s fine with me because I’m not high and I get to actually live my life.
We are powerless in general. All strength and understanding comes from surenduring to the Lord.
Perfect clip that I watched it twice
If you master the 4th step you are there. Well you have a good chance.
No one's knows the struggle except the one who's actually gone through it...
9 years
If i were given a 2nd life, i hope i could have a father exactly like DR. JORDAN PETERSON.
I am actually addicted to mephedrone and i'm trying day by day, the worst thing about it is that i'm not hurting just myself but my wife with my addiction..,
I have a problem but the thing is.. Nah, I can't.. 😢
It's ok to come to a place where you know you can't help yourself.
I was once addicted to things and couldn't help myself so I went all out to someone who could help me.
I opened up to God because I had tried almost everything I knew before this time and I discovered that only God worked for me and doing the following, made me able to live life free of pain . Today I am not causing myself or my family members pains anymore.
1: I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Saviour.
2: I learnt that reading the Bible, storing the word of God inside me and striving to do the things that God wants me to and letting go of the things he wants me to let go was one of the greatest help I received.
3. I changed habits, instead of hanging out with friends that will take me clubbing or drinking, I hung out with real godly people, instead of visiting x-rated sites, reading bad contents or listening to bad music, I hung out with people who held me accountable for my actions, and encouraged me to live right because they too are working on living well not pretending.
4: I began to attend a bible believing church both onsite and off-site, where the truth of God's word was taught and we were taught that God wants us to live good lives, free of drugs, porn, alcohol etc and today I am free.
If you need help to go through these processes or you need godly people that can help you be accountable, I'm here.
Cant do this anymore. Im carrying a flask around now. Sucks.
Am i an addict in the first place if I were able to quit on your own without any help or support? Society told me I was an addict so I stopped. Without help. Am I an addict? Alcohol, never touched drugs
My thing is... isnt admitting we're powerless and that we need help SOMETHING WE CAN DO!? I dont believe its impossible to do by yourself because ive known people who have... maybe they were in jail nd didnt have a choice, but some just stop... so there is SOMETHING you can do...
Addicted to vapes bruh. It’s so embarrassing. Also I go for runs everyday. (I’ve been going since before I started smoking) and I can see myself gradually being able to run for less and less time. I’m out of breath quickly and I’ve spent hundreds on disposables that run out HELP HOW DO I STOP.
Interesting!
I like that radical humiliation and humility
True
1. your in trouble/I have a problem
2 I know it isn’t sufficient to solve it
3 you COULD learn
this was a little chaotic, but after rewatching it couple of times I think I get it
Well if I was powerless I wouldn't have gotten clean. You and your brain are the most powerful thing in this world. You are not powerless and you should never acknowledge that.
The problem is after the acceptance you don’t believe there is a solution
Very powerful…
Facts
pray for me. i’m in the admission stage of my drinking problem…
I've been at this stage for to long. How do I learn
Thx u.. I'm in trouble n it's serious.. I definitely need to learn HELP❤💛💚
Help can come to you. All the help you need is in Jesus. Are you ready to accept him as your Lord and Savior. He alone can save.
I was once an addict though not to drugs and Jesus made me Free.
Let me walk this path with you. We can talk more.
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That is deep
The only thing I don't understand from thie argument is: does that mean for severe cases of addiction we should go into coma's like he did? Wake up without the physical but still psychological addiction. Or in soke cases with medically induced comas you don't wake up at all.
Bro this is me 😮😮😮
Throw anger and abuse to family members because they know they are guilty of their addiction but blame everyone but themselves. How to you keep holding on after 49 years of marriage or walk away
How did you do it ?
They should do sit-ups where the upper part of the abdomen is worked, with the legs raised and trying to touch the feet with the hands and its variants that work the upper part of the abdomen, they will see improvements quickly. That upper abdominal exercise will take away your depression and anxiety, it will also heal your mind..
you mean getting a 6 pack?
Why specifically this exercise and not exercise in general?
Bruh you trippin! 🤨 Exercise can most definitely help with anxiety and depression but by no means does it "take it away".
@@theyarewhowethoughttheywere in my experience, hard exercise regimes can wipe out anxiety totally. Depression not so much, but anxiety definitlry
@@destructorzz7197 I can imagine if you had trained to the point of failure and your body was just simply far too tired to experience the anxiety but it is scientifically proven to reduce symptoms, but not cure them completely...
Most individuals, including myself, take pre workout before the gym and that anxiety can be intensified to another level depending on the levels of caffeine that are in the ingredients.
More power to you if excersise outright cures your symptoms specifically but we are all hard-wired differently and I'm assuming you don't take pre-workout of any kind?
What if u knowexactly what you need to do but u don't do it because it's like u don't have the energy or will to do simple shit
NO
Wherewithal
JP is a wonderful asset - but he's mistaken here. The solution to a drug or alcohol addiction is not just to learn the right information. Knowledge does not remove obsessions. The solution is being rid of the need for the conscience-anesthetizing effect of the product. And that need is inexorably tied to the one thing that created the need in the first place-it's resentment. Master resentment, getting free of anger and fear and the obsession with obtaining relief for the pain of it through psychotropic means like liquor and drugs, disappears. Instantly, POOF! That's how to recover. Thats how the 12 Steps works. It's just a rudimentary process for giving up hate. There is no such thing as an addict or alcoholic who is not controlled and driven by anger inside him.
The only real power you'll ever have,
Is over yourself....
Didn’t know Rick grind gave out wisdom like that
And there's the Americans who cannot afford Rehabilitation so they will be locked up by the police for being addicted, released, then rearrested and so on and so forth and will never be offered the help that they so desperately need but instead be treated as criminals.
Addiction will get worse as the economy get worse.
One simply cannot live without being addicted to something
Yeah true.....like I got addicted to the scriptures and I found out I lost every other addictions.
But it's the only thing you can get addicted to and you are fine😊
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An alternative to drug addition? Take 8-minutes to watch You Tube video, A New Capability of the Human Brain. Will learning to mentally eliminate pain reduce drug addition? Why in no one interested in learning to mentally eliminate pain?
That’s not the answer buddy. Its not that easy. You can’t just make your brain chemistry go back to its original state by thinking about it. You don’t seem to have a grasp on what reality causes addiction for the majority of people.
What if stimulant was truly your only real pain relief, in turn your becoming depressed w out, the substance, due to unmanageable, chronic pain , ( four surgeries and clean , in agony still) I'm powerless over alot more that that stuff..... trouble ahead, trouble behind....
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Socrate told this already. 2400 years later, we are discussing the same matters
Do not admit that you are powerless because as a man thinks so is he
drug addiction being a trauma disorder is another conversation they don’t wanna have
that’s gonna be expensive for big Pharma and it makes it clear what homelessness is…
#2Spirit
Dont go to rehab or detox if you want to survive. You'll be tracked by the government after too. Your life will go downhill. Clean yourself up. Build strength. Adapt. Nutrition is key. Patience. Timing of cravings pass. Stop being so weak. Life sucks then you die. Make it better by making money and art!
I can't seem to get past step 1, god help me
So what are the other steps? 😅
I’m moved by this content. I encountered a book recently with similar insights that reshaped my outlook. "A Life Unplugged: Reclaiming Reality in a Digital Age" by Theodore Blaze
I get weepy when he's talking... He's a Jesus freak like me. Love God and others as YOU love yourself.
What do you mean by “Jesus freak”?
And in some cases you need to remember to love yourself as much as you love others.
Who is a Jesus freak and where did you get that from this?
He’s absolutely not a Jesus freak. He’s more of a theologian as opposed to some bible thumping evangelical weirdo. Never even heard him talk about Jesus. He speaks about God and the good that can come from the lessons the Bible contains but I’ve yet to hear Dr Peterson talk about following Jesus. I mean maybe I haven’t listened to that particular material of his so if I’m wrong point me in the direction that causes you to have such a notion about him.
Cringe...
The issue is that life is awful sober. I hate drinking, but being sober is hideous too.
This.
Unfortunately yes, life can be very dull after quitting substance abuse. I suppose the only way to combat that is to find things in life that make you happy or excited, and do them as much as you can. Because otherwise, relapse is likely.
@user-wu1gm8xz9u Agreed. I've been 6 months sober. But life is very hard and often dull. Then again, it was hard and dull drunk too. All seems the same tbh.
Thankfully I was never an addict of any drug, just sampled a few, throughout the years. I exclude Weed from that list, cause it's not an addictive drug it's awesome
Depends I never thout weed was addictive. I smoked a shit tones for 15 years and wen I stopped, it was nearly as bad as the painkillers mentally not physically.
It’s absolutely addictive just not to the extent that opiates are.
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Look at russel brand go!! Making a career on his addiction! Just like stevo! They have nothing to add to the betterment of addicts.
What happens if learning from false teachers and ask help from people who wish to do u more harm than good 🤔
Decide 😂
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Im 5 days into 90 for 90