How do the 16 Personalities Connect with Others?

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  • How do the 16 Myers-Briggs Personalities Connect with others?
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  • @FrankJames
    @FrankJames  3 ปีที่แล้ว +418

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    • @CupCake-fw4zr
      @CupCake-fw4zr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      alrighty then-

    • @chica_webtoonuwu7223
      @chica_webtoonuwu7223 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      💖

    • @samiyahshaikh
      @samiyahshaikh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      So we need to wait 11 hours?
      Yeah that's ok I can wait...
      My brain: *comes up with own Interpretation of video a thousand times*

    • @database2517
      @database2517 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      givee me attention.

    • @pattog5549
      @pattog5549 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Gotta love the NFJ! Look at all that effort to make sure you feel comfy! 😊😆💜

  • @joyhuebert1219
    @joyhuebert1219 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2397

    INTJ. If you’re not going to discuss theories about why the universe exists, I’m staying home

    • @emp9413
      @emp9413 3 ปีที่แล้ว +105

      Same - INFJ

    • @blackoceancreativeuniverse
      @blackoceancreativeuniverse 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      See you @7, then.

    • @Daniela3969
      @Daniela3969 3 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      Fuck yeah, come.over to my house and never leave, that is my jam

    • @blackoceancreativeuniverse
      @blackoceancreativeuniverse 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@Daniela3969 can i bring coffee and bacon? theoretical conversation can be exhausting, Cajito Azul.

    • @CaveyMoth
      @CaveyMoth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      The existence of the universe is only relative to your perception. You are the universe...to yourself. -INFP
      @@Daniela3969 I prefer blackberry jam.

  • @MyselfVlogsPaul
    @MyselfVlogsPaul 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3095

    As an INFP, I will often be giggling like a kid inside my own head at all the little jokes that are happening in conversations around me and it’s wonderful

    • @plemongrass
      @plemongrass 3 ปีที่แล้ว +234

      😂 i often catch myself walking down the street just laughing all by myself...
      I do wonder then for a moment if ppl may gonna think im crazy or something
      Thank God that thought just seems then even more funny than the original one!!! lol

    • @MoonLight-lc8qg
      @MoonLight-lc8qg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      @Erza Scarlet oh so true, I feel too awkward to really express anything on the outside, but I know what I enjoy and love.

    • @greatwavefan397
      @greatwavefan397 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      This is why I loved going to school.

    • @yannsiee
      @yannsiee 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      TRUE, TRUE

    • @sash8099
      @sash8099 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Yes, that's why rarely need people

  • @pirimi
    @pirimi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +618

    INFPs & ENFPs be like "I just wanna be. . . appreciated"

    • @Fallograme
      @Fallograme 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Same I- 💖✨💀👑😍😭💎🍬💪😂

    • @kaboomgaming4255
      @kaboomgaming4255 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Yo please I indirectly ask people to validate me waay too much and they always tell me I'm super nice and cool but like I don't quite believe them that I'm fully appreciated as a friend or if I'm too chaotic or something like that for them.
      I hope I'm not.

    • @iricrescent2901
      @iricrescent2901 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      “I just want to be appreciated! …. While first I’mma deliver this dad joke of a pun I know you hate hearing. Lol”

    • @cynthiaholland13
      @cynthiaholland13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@iricrescent2901 but they're funny!!!

    • @iricrescent2901
      @iricrescent2901 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@cynthiaholland13 I try to be, lol (I’m an ENFP) but tbh, the groans of despair when dishing out a great pun is the best reaction I could ask for XD chaos for the win!

  • @spud1300
    @spud1300 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1267

    Does he always put INFJ last because he knows we’re all just going to sit there and watch the whole thing being equally interested in each of the other personality types without skipping ahead?? Cause….. he’s right.

    • @talilalila6968
      @talilalila6968 3 ปีที่แล้ว +135

      Atleast us INFJs are going to watch the entire video without skipping cause, well... yeah. XD

    • @the_nikster1
      @the_nikster1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      I'm pretty sure he knows lol

    • @ambikarati1939
      @ambikarati1939 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Lol. So relatable

    • @JAREDAND19
      @JAREDAND19 2 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      Wait I'm INFJ and I skipped-

    • @leadladyco
      @leadladyco 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Of course.

  • @johndalenino
    @johndalenino 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2025

    INFP: starts every convo with “do you ever feel like ___?”

    • @Chillwave6
      @Chillwave6 3 ปีที่แล้ว +110

      My squad's INFP friend loves to either put memes into the chat, or writes that he "really should start (insert random thing he mentioned like within a month)" or talks about how he feels awfully stereotypical about being a modern hipster.
      He's a fun guy in the group chat.
      I'm ISTP, and I either respond mildly to some messages or start a hour-lasting conversation once about two weeks.

    • @thefearlessone2649
      @thefearlessone2649 3 ปีที่แล้ว +204

      Like a plastic bag, drifting through the wind, wanting to start again? Yes.

    • @crescenteaa
      @crescenteaa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@thefearlessone2649 underrated comment, I love you. Have a great day!

    • @nglexuan
      @nglexuan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      YESSS!! It's our way of trying to find a person who gets us so that we can feel safe around them!

    • @janelle_beans
      @janelle_beans 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I usually associate myself more as INFJ, but getting to know so many people I manage at work, I try to keep things spicy! It shows how well they can go with the flow and handle my dark humor. 🤣

  • @SoLaRiS123
    @SoLaRiS123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1436

    Connecting with others?
    INTJ: Wait. that's illegal.

    • @kaylahall1219
      @kaylahall1219 3 ปีที่แล้ว +77

      "is it possible to learn this power?" 😂

    • @twin-winds3808
      @twin-winds3808 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Me an INFJ: I know right

    • @gourisree9991
      @gourisree9991 3 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      I am an INTJ . I only connect with people, when I have a gain from them. 😎

    • @CaveyMoth
      @CaveyMoth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      INFP: "My connection with you is only temporary. But I will never forget you."

    • @zerikkstazzi7458
      @zerikkstazzi7458 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@CaveyMoth ohh good god!!! i couldn't agree more.
      I still literally remember every single person and experience i had with them till now, i just can't seem to forget it(my SI won't freaking let me).
      ..............uhh....crap..........i just ran out of words.....sorry but i'll abruptly stop here.

  • @lesil1000
    @lesil1000 3 ปีที่แล้ว +583

    INFP in the car by myself:
    “Road work ahead? Yeah, I sure hope it does!”

    • @bebelmatson
      @bebelmatson 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      I’m the enfp giggling as I hide in the backseat lmao

    • @lizl1407
      @lizl1407 3 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      So what you're saying is INFP = dad jokes

    • @Halimatun-ij5gd
      @Halimatun-ij5gd 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@lizl1407 oh mah gucci as an infp(I THINK) i really loveeeeeee dad jokes- but its hard for me to make one-

    • @lmaohi5098
      @lmaohi5098 3 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      Being an infp is just acting like an enfp alone with yourself

    • @sristiganguly4858
      @sristiganguly4858 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      PLEASE i quote vines to people who've never watched vines and then chuckle by myself while they stare at me confused 😭

  • @SpikedHairVSGravity
    @SpikedHairVSGravity 3 ปีที่แล้ว +273

    “The NTP humor is subtle, it might go over your head. Stay on your toes, because if you miss it, they WILL think less of you.”
    Hey quit exposing our secrets. I like to look down on people’s lack of wit without judgement.

    • @apollontheintp3257
      @apollontheintp3257 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I do it with judgement. Can't help.

    • @Bennet_Froggy
      @Bennet_Froggy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      my brother does this all the time and it's just annoying

    • @micahroberts8383
      @micahroberts8383 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      LOL... I had the same thought! No one knows I'm judging them and I'd like to keep it that way, bro! Come on!

    • @dab0331
      @dab0331 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I fucking died laughing

    • @spemka
      @spemka 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Glad we’re all feeling equally called out

  • @KnittingandBaking
    @KnittingandBaking 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1982

    INFJ: I'm trying to manipulate you - but it's for your own good!

    • @missrobinhoodie
      @missrobinhoodie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +215

      Yep. And I’m also trying to manipulate myself...

    • @SNinjaQK
      @SNinjaQK 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      @@Sheseasyouthere Muhammad too

    • @SimoneEppler
      @SimoneEppler 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Why is this so spot on 😭

    • @VaniaAjah
      @VaniaAjah 3 ปีที่แล้ว +117

      I'm an INFJ and i have an INFJ bf
      Now i understand why we have so intense unbreakable connection, because we basically _Manipulate each others_ all these times 🥲

    • @1chienandalou
      @1chienandalou 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      No, it is not. It might make y’all feel better when you look in the mirror. More importantly it’s for your own good to see this. Saying it as it is. If an unexamined life is not worth living, a fakey fakey life is cheating *yourself* out of it. You don’t fool anyone too long after all and it’s your life slipping away… (Socrates/ENTP)

  • @fairyfellermasterstroke
    @fairyfellermasterstroke 3 ปีที่แล้ว +950

    Fe - OMG! 😝
    Te - Let's get stuff done 🙂
    Se - Wanna bet 😏
    Ne - What if... 😮
    So, these are the expressions on the thumbnail, but I guess after two years I can try to make introverted expressions too.
    Fi - ... 😌
    Ti - I am human 🙃
    Si - What if... we use common sense? 😎
    Ni - Mhm, mhm, interesting 🧐

    • @fattysl26
      @fattysl26 3 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      Ne is so hard to reign in as an enfp

    • @karthikramayanam9386
      @karthikramayanam9386 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Te is the best

    • @SNinjaQK
      @SNinjaQK 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      you forgot the i's

    • @dinner8204
      @dinner8204 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      I feel like "wanna bet" is a combo between Ti, Se, and maybe Ne.
      So basically every xxTP
      -intp

    • @SNinjaQK
      @SNinjaQK 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @INFJ 4w5 knowledge acquired - intj

  • @lydiahitchcock5588
    @lydiahitchcock5588 2 ปีที่แล้ว +545

    I am an INFP mom to an INTP son. We connect when he asks me the most off the wall questions and I answer them in the most insane way possible. Questions about hamsters surviving in outer space result in stories about dolphins sleeping with one eye open because they owe huge sums of money to the beluga whale mafia. He leaves the conversations feeling intellectually superior to me. I leave them with the satisfaction of knowing that I have out weirded him yet again. Mother of the year award? It's in the mail.

    • @mirenda2754
      @mirenda2754 2 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      That's so wholesome! And those stories sound great!
      - an ENFP :D

    • @whisllaymjunior6616
      @whisllaymjunior6616 2 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      as an INFP I'm impressed at the weirdness level... life goals
      I'm trying to write a nonsense book for 3 years now...

    • @IamZeZetheX
      @IamZeZetheX 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      I love this! The INFP/INTP relationship can be so fun/interesting - we both bring something to the table the other enjoys. (INFP)

    • @m3nach3m79
      @m3nach3m79 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Intp here, lol

    • @myfriendjustin8381
      @myfriendjustin8381 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      As an INFP I can say with confidence that we can come up with the craziest stories out there!

  • @sarahbaiocchi
    @sarahbaiocchi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +822

    Another thing about the INTPs and ENTPs is that it's totally okay to compete with us in those intellectual games. Like, if you disagree (or wanna play Devil's Advocate) and we get into a friendly argument, that's fun. Let's butt heads and get to know each other better!

    • @freregregoire2685
      @freregregoire2685 3 ปีที่แล้ว +113

      Yeah, for ENTPs it seems like often they even want you to disagree with them...
      Us INTPs usually want to look at things from several different points of views to really understand them, and bounce ideas to see how they develop, and that's not gonna happen if you are agreeing about everything I say from the get go (even when I'm right).

    • @ShaleNinja
      @ShaleNinja 3 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      YES. Especially once older and a little softer. A lot of fun and even more respect is gained from someone introducing a new perspective, or from a more educated/experienced position. As an INTP my first thought is "oh lawd, I'm going to get smoked" followed by "but I win, because I exit with more knowledge" and usually have a new person that I deeply respect for it. Challenge me, I enjoy it!
      One of the best parts of the challenge/compete is being forced to analyse a position. Why do I hold this position? Are there gaps in the scaffolding of my understanding? Have I had this wrong the whole time? Or is the exercise going to introduce someone else to a more structured and diverse understanding of the thing?
      Realising the what and how of an ENTP has been incredibly invaluable for rounding out this trait. Y'all just wanna tackle things from every angle for the sheer intellectual pleasure, and it feels like a fantastic opportunity to join in the fun and rev the engines for once instead of "Have you tried turning it off and back on again..."

    • @einavherman7459
      @einavherman7459 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      Yes exactly! As an ENTP I love to hear each others point of views since it helps me understand other people's prespectives
      Contrary to what many think, ENTP do not seek arguements for the sake of it, we do not wish for you to disagree with anything we say (but nor otherwise as well, we only want your honest opinion).
      It's just that we enjoy exploring the subject from several opinions, and try to encorage you to do so as well.
      Since usually there are no right or wrong opinions I see the talk about them as a debate rather than an arguement.
      But when someone disagree with a fact or says something to others with no experience in the subject I'll start oppose him/her right away.
      It's crazy how many people don't acknowledge you need to learn about something before you can talk about it.

    • @einavherman7459
      @einavherman7459 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ShaleNinja same, I truly feel thet I learned a new thing after leaving from a fruitful conversation.
      )sorry for any misspelings btw(

    • @ZijnShayatanica
      @ZijnShayatanica 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      I'm an INTJ, my current partner is an INTP. We've been friends for years & a lot of our close bond was built on intellectual games, subtle/niche humour, & the both of us trying to figure out how our feelings work. And oops, we wound up together.

  • @briaharris183
    @briaharris183 3 ปีที่แล้ว +659

    "I can speak fine until I turn on the camera" FRANK THATS ALL OF US Edit Whoa 618 likes that's the most I ever got on this channel! And I'm probably the only ISTJ too ☹️

    • @emp9413
      @emp9413 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Lol yep

    • @RosheenQuynh
      @RosheenQuynh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Then there's me who can't speak fine unless it's written and I'm not a total zombie

    • @brokeneggshell5041
      @brokeneggshell5041 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I just realised...Frank James removed the heart!

    • @SymphonyOphelia
      @SymphonyOphelia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Unimportant but I’m your 600th like

    • @briaharris183
      @briaharris183 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@brokeneggshell5041 😢 I've exposed him I suppose he probably meant to cut that out in editing 😂

  • @awkwardtortilla6197
    @awkwardtortilla6197 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1145

    “The ENFP and the INFP…they’re all over the place *nervous chuckles”
    I have never been summed up in so few words 🙃

    • @ritaruggerone4434
      @ritaruggerone4434 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      LOL it’s so true 😆🙃🥲 ✨✨ INFP here🙋‍♀️💓

    • @Meg_intheclouds
      @Meg_intheclouds 3 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      Haha neither- ENFP. My way of connecting with others is sharing my ideas or like asking them hypothetical questions to get a conversation going and things that I find super interesting, also humour is 100% the way I connect. I had a sleepover with my INTP friend yesterday and we spent like 90% of the time talking about hypotheticals or ideas and analysis of things. The other 10% was ranting (we went from deep to what makes us angry between like 4am and 5. Then at 6 it was back to like hypotheticals, or like analysing structures. Like we spent half an hour analysing the social hierarchy of high school and how even after you leave in any social setting you have the same groups, and like what might make someone popular, and just like thinking about why that was. Super interesting. I have two INTP friends and we can just analyse, debate and discuss hypothetical scenarios and ideas for hours and hours (though fine tend to be a bit more flavourful than theirs) And we bounce off each other with jokes and stuff. My friendship group In general is just great for that (2x INTP, Me-ENFP, ISTJ and an INFJ) though the ISTJ gets tired with our hypotheticals after a bit.

    • @shellyballard8316
      @shellyballard8316 3 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      We aren’t rambling, we just HAVE to give you the back stories of everything in the situation we are talking about so you can fully immerse yourself into the experience to appreciate the cool idea...guys💁🏼‍♀️

    • @Meg_intheclouds
      @Meg_intheclouds 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@shellyballard8316 haha yes. Some people say I give way too much detail sometimes. And that’s normally sensors who also tend to give so much detail when talking about their day or something. Like my ISTJ mum who tells me I’m just “rambling” or “talking rubbish” when I’m exploring ideas sometimes (though tbf I can imagine some of my ideas appear that way cause they can be out there even though to me they seem exciting) and give too much detail or I’m “overanalysing it”. But yet if someone is telling a story or she’s talking about her day she will explain every detail in what I imagine to her is an organised way that is normally chronological and thought out. I find the communication style differences very interesting. My ENTP dad on the other hand is very much like me 😂

    • @shellyballard8316
      @shellyballard8316 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@Meg_intheclouds I feel you on trying to listen to other people’s “grocery list” of a day 🤦🏼‍♀️ My situation is kinda flipped with my closest ENTP...that would be my 18 yr old son who CAN have fascinating, entertaining and connecting conversations with me...unless he feels like debating every word I say for 💩 and giggles😑

  • @H.E.L.E.N.A.
    @H.E.L.E.N.A. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +170

    My bf is INFP and I have just realized all those puns are him trying to connect with me more and now I feel more loved 🥺

    • @chaitanyajain3127
      @chaitanyajain3127 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Have a good life ,infps are one of the top 3 best types for me - enfp

  • @kargovroom7701
    @kargovroom7701 ปีที่แล้ว +110

    How different types connect with you
    The normal ones:
    STJ: Doing stuff with you
    STP: Friendly competition
    SFJ: Take care of you
    SFP: Finds a middle ground
    Things start getting weird:
    NTP: Mentally challenging (because they love you)
    NTJ: Even more mentally challenging (but because they love you)
    NFP: They wanna vibe with you
    NFJ: Manipulation

    • @MELEMADE338
      @MELEMADE338 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Bro what

  • @Mari-wx2be
    @Mari-wx2be 3 ปีที่แล้ว +548

    how an INTP connects with others: Online

    • @DiscoveryWonders
      @DiscoveryWonders 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Hahaha

    • @louisejoel
      @louisejoel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      What happens when the www is turned off? Anything could happen at this point. I'm considering making an effort locally (OK I'm a type six which is odd for an INTP)

    • @bjrntykhelle2892
      @bjrntykhelle2892 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Barnum effect

    • @hotshots149
      @hotshots149 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@louisejoel _Ne at work._

    • @shreyathapa5001
      @shreyathapa5001 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Bruh that’s so true. I’m more close with my online friends than irl ones. 🤧🤧

  • @roseannehaytham6387
    @roseannehaytham6387 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1548

    This is so true for the INFJ, I actually would fake being angry just because someone expects me to. Like if someone is trying to annoy/tease me (in a supposedly funny friendly way of course) and even if it doesn't actually bother me, I would fake being a bit angry/annoyed because I'm afraid if I don't they might think I'm "boring" or something.

    • @Kayla-me3ct
      @Kayla-me3ct 3 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      SAME

    • @suzyabca7946
      @suzyabca7946 3 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      Why? Why do we have to be this way?!!!

    • @laurieh3493
      @laurieh3493 3 ปีที่แล้ว +117

      I see it a lot too when I act as if I was surprised (when someone tell me a happy or disappointing story, I don’t know, it’s everytime I feel like I need to)… I feel dumb when I am like « really ???? Wowwwww ??? I didn’t expect that ???? »
      But in reality I am absolutely not surprised 😭😭 I can’t remember one time I was actually really surprised like
      I don’t know
      But I knew FJ was going to say that for INFJ 😭

    • @summero-my5in
      @summero-my5in 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I do this as an ENFP

    • @tasenova2717
      @tasenova2717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      OMG. This was the problem with one of my girlfriends, we broke up in the end, but she was annoyed that I didn't have much emotion to tease her, or to be annoyed by her when she was being herself, I just laughed off most things, what's so wrong about being with a guy that doesn't flip his pancake every five minutes?

  • @hoshikoakitoro3730
    @hoshikoakitoro3730 2 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    As an INFJ, I’m constantly questioning if I’m actually feeling the emotions I’m appearing to feel or if I’m faking it so hard that I manage to manipulate myself as well 😅

    • @Atlantis.kpopdance
      @Atlantis.kpopdance ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same gosh 😮😮😮

    • @vj.joseph
      @vj.joseph 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It's not manipulation as the youtuber labels it. It's just fitting in with people around, to keep that social connection with them, afloat. There is no manipulation of others and no manipulation of oneself, only just a small change in feelings, to make others feel more comfortable. You very well-know and feel what you actually feel and when you are able to express it as well to others, but many people I have seen MANY times, were faking their expressions as well. Doesn't mean you have to be an INFJ to fake emotions. The when part is important to infj,that is not discussed here, instead it is labelled as manipulation instead, because that's how he has viewed it, doesn't mean that is the truth and reality with many other different types of infjs who are certainly different from him.

  • @lizzie3724
    @lizzie3724 3 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    Others: let's connect
    INTJ: No.*death stares*

    • @jessica1lopez
      @jessica1lopez 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You have no idea how many times I have stopped talking to people when they have said I'm the only one that keeps talking to them. Makes me feel bad, but at the same time, they shouldn't assume I'm a talking person. I only talk to them for some time and then don't, so people who do that are the ones I like to talk to.

  • @rosy3dao
    @rosy3dao 3 ปีที่แล้ว +898

    I'll be thrilled to find out why would INTJs need to connect with others 🌝

    • @gravetiger9333
      @gravetiger9333 3 ปีที่แล้ว +105

      It's to help us blend in a little better

    • @machimigookbutterfly
      @machimigookbutterfly 3 ปีที่แล้ว +68

      To keep them within the knowledge that they're "right" about everything. And with all that "rightness" someone else has to keep up with the day to day business of life here on Planet Earth.

    • @nerysghemor5781
      @nerysghemor5781 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Sometimes you need people to do your bidding, don’t you? I know you’re not E’s but stuff still needs to happen. 🤪🤣

    • @SGaming-cw7vh
      @SGaming-cw7vh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      Hint: We don't. Honestly I can take it or leave it. If the interaction will help me reach my end goal, which I've already planned out I'll go for it. Otherwise, I'm happiest alone.

    • @violetvisionz7330
      @violetvisionz7330 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      I like connecting with others I find cool or interesting. Especially if they like the same things as me and we can do them together. Or because I'm trying to be polite.

  • @ikasugami
    @ikasugami 3 ปีที่แล้ว +800

    oh, man...this perfectly explains how me, an INFJ, and my boyfriend, an INTJ, made a connection! He would come to a topic that he knows a lot about and has a lot of interest in, I'd ask him questions, he'd get really excited and animated in telling me everything he knows about it, and I'd give my "over the top" reactions knowing that I should be excited about it because he is excited about it and I like that he is feeling connected by me being excited. 😂

    • @sheennina1234
      @sheennina1234 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      very infj 😂

    • @airobert8778
      @airobert8778 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Haha same with my infj friend, I'm an intj.

    • @laviniasnow4494
      @laviniasnow4494 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      That's wholesome. 🙂

    • @TamamoAi
      @TamamoAi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I'm INFJ my boyfriend is INTJ LOL

    • @ginny3599
      @ginny3599 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That is so very fake. Thank god there are at least some good observers out there who notice the fakeness. Knowledge and experience are helpful too.

  • @shayamolimagogoi7950
    @shayamolimagogoi7950 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Me, an INTJ and my sister, an ENTJ to each other: "You are the only person that gets me."

  • @mjinba07
    @mjinba07 2 ปีที่แล้ว +166

    As an INFJ, I totally agree that I'm reading others and "going along" in order to connect. It's automatic. But it tends to make the other person think I feel the same way they do when in fact I'm just being polite and accommodating. Most people don't ask how I feel about things. Even when they do ask, I can't always tell them right away and then we have to see if they've got the tiny bit of patience it takes to listen. Most don't! Since the other person has no idea what I really think, I eventually start to feel lonely in the relationship. And others tend to develop the expectation that I'll go along, so when it comes to something important and I take a stand, they're blindsided.
    Yeah, it's not a great way to connect, it's just a shallow way to get along. Real connections take a long time to develop and are pretty exclusive.

    • @yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274
      @yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Absolutely and us INFJs hate shallow, small talk.
      I actually recently told an ex that I can see the other side of an issue without agreeing with it. His eyes bugged out thinking of all the times I just allowed him to talk... He never actually knew me. Big surprise why we are not together anymore.
      I use to get upset all the time and think that ppl were so rude for not asking me questions in reciprocation. Turns out most people are just really self-involved but aren't heartless (except a few like my ex). So, now I'm just quiet and then say something like "oh, you want me respond to you? I thought you were talking *at* me". Just to remind them I'm a person and not a device or their therapist.
      Another things I like to do is ask someone if they have enough emotional energy before I unload something heavy to them (whether about them or not). I make it a point to point out what I'm asking and sometimes they will reciprocate asking me the same if they get it. It's nice to have the option to say "no thank you. Another time will be best".

    • @mjinba07
      @mjinba07 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @D H I think for the most part I've just accepted this dilemma as one of my quirks. Honesty is "reserved" for long term friends. And I only put quotation marks on that because it isn't intentional, it's just the way I naturally am. Bottom line, in any social situation, however uncomfortable it may turn out to be, I've always got me as a friend and that's pretty good. Yeah, it's lonely sometimes, but never empty.

    • @Atlantis.kpopdance
      @Atlantis.kpopdance ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same though actually I'm not always that good at reading people. Nevertheless, if I am - SAME

  • @delll372
    @delll372 3 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    "they like, hypothetical ideas for fun.. what kind of fun is that???" almost choked my water through my nose.
    -INTP

    • @apollontheintp3257
      @apollontheintp3257 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I think it is the sweet taste of some escapist freedom from this disappointing world.

  • @mcgil8891
    @mcgil8891 3 ปีที่แล้ว +453

    "They don't care if you laugh or not. As long as it's funny to them, that's the priority there" 👏👏👏👏 As an ENFP I can 💯 confirm that's true 😂😂😂

    • @ilou9129
      @ilou9129 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      heck yes oh my gosh

    • @kailanGoreng
      @kailanGoreng 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      i don't mind rolling on th floor laughing alone at my own joke with people around lol

    • @user-ez2ez3dd4g
      @user-ez2ez3dd4g 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Man I love enfps
      -istp

    • @mcgil8891
      @mcgil8891 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@kailanGoreng sameeeeee. And people are like "what's funny about that?"

    • @mcgil8891
      @mcgil8891 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@user-ez2ez3dd4g haha thaaaanks ❤️

  • @rajunaidu7751
    @rajunaidu7751 3 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    Personality types: connecting w/people
    INTJ: you guys still talk to the humans 😄

    • @carolinanq10
      @carolinanq10 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😂

    • @JDMimeTHEFIRST
      @JDMimeTHEFIRST 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I only connect with other aliens. Humans bore me.

    • @dtcruz8953
      @dtcruz8953 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      No
      -ISTP

  • @kowakowa2
    @kowakowa2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +206

    I'm an INFP. I got really amused with everything even if it's a small thing lol. I would often laugh or start giggling at lame jokes. Plus, I love imagining stuff and just space out whenever I can. My friends think I'm not okay at first but once they get to know me better, they're used to it.

    • @SugarandSarcasm
      @SugarandSarcasm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      We are whimsical like that

    • @WhyYoutubeWhy
      @WhyYoutubeWhy ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Not me, I can't stand lame jokes.

    • @heterosapiens_sapiens
      @heterosapiens_sapiens ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I am INTJ and I often imagine extremely odd scenarios.
      One dream I had, I kid you not, was the philoso-raptor with wheels instead of legs rolling up the CN tower.
      I'm serious

    • @haniem1137
      @haniem1137 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      For me infp and enfp are the funniest like effortlessly funny by standing still or saying anything, or even make fun of themselves 😁😁
      You guys are just so natural nice and also a bit weird that make me laugh always

    • @bonemasked3925
      @bonemasked3925 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      man I thought I was the only one who intentionally makes fun of themselves (not in a bad way) and laugh at just about any joke someone says, cause I like, know what it feels like when nobody laughs at your joke

  • @SM-hl6hh
    @SM-hl6hh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +423

    So BASICALLY.... if someone seems like they're being really random and making the weirdest connections out there.....it's an XNXP 😂

    • @Chigger
      @Chigger 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Yes. There was this one time at work when these two customers looked at some peach wine and said that you can make wine out of anything these days, so my ENFP brain immediately thought, "What about meat?" After doing some research, it actually seems to be possible.
      After the research is finished, I'll need a license to manufacture alcohol or find someone who's already licensed.

    • @naono9715
      @naono9715 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@Chigger or just do it... Illegally.

    • @Chigger
      @Chigger 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@naono9715 If I get caught, the fines and possible jail sentence are a much higher cost than a valid license. I checked with someone who knows both sides of the law.

    • @sash8099
      @sash8099 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      It's because of Ne - transconstexual thinking according to Dario Nardi.

    • @Bravo-Tango-7274
      @Bravo-Tango-7274 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yup that's me

  • @phungbili
    @phungbili 3 ปีที่แล้ว +534

    INFP here. People actually look at me like, "What? Dude!" whenever I crack a joke. I never realised till this moment that those jokes might come across as inside jokes to other people. Seriously, this is a revelation! And I can't stop laughing! 😂
    But Frank, I do care if people find my jokes funny or not. I want to be funny, but I always end up feeling like an alien trying to fit in. I'm always so disappointed that no one laughs at things that I find funny.

    • @KatErina-ii6ru
      @KatErina-ii6ru 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Just find another INFP ISFP or INFJ .. you’ll laugh a lot. Especially INFJ you’ll have similar humor. ESFP is also fun …

    • @KatErina-ii6ru
      @KatErina-ii6ru 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      I forgot also find an ENFP… you’ll get each other 😂

    • @senroillust4114
      @senroillust4114 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Sometimes my cousins looked so pissed whenever i cracked a joke, their expression is funny lol

    • @brumbybailey6599
      @brumbybailey6599 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Yeah, our sense of humour is...odd

    • @junebug115
      @junebug115 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@brumbybailey6599 lol

  • @candyshmandy1887
    @candyshmandy1887 2 ปีที่แล้ว +191

    As an INTP I often will freak my entire class out at the beginning of the year when we're talking about lockdowns, evacuation, and other disaster procedures when I start voicing hypotheticals. For example, I knew that the classroom windows that look out into the hall arent bulletproof and so I asked when we would do if a shooter climbed through the window to reach us. I legitimately made my teacher cry with that,

    • @notus11
      @notus11 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      This doesn't sound like something an INTP would say

    • @candyshmandy1887
      @candyshmandy1887 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @@notus11 yeah well i said it in a moment of courage

    • @superDpermn
      @superDpermn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Such a mad lad

    • @candyshmandy1887
      @candyshmandy1887 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@superDpermn indeed

    • @xpertd1962
      @xpertd1962 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Proud of you dog

  • @christianbh
    @christianbh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +211

    I agree with the xNTJ one. It’s fun to hypothesize random theoretical problems, come up with potential solutions, and then examine how good of a solution it is.
    And I can see how feelers would not like that style of conversation because they tend to take you scrutinizing their idea as you scrutinizing them personally and in a hostile manner.

    • @azukib2230
      @azukib2230 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I actually love talking with xNTJ about concepts and theories as an INFP. I can sort of go into an extroverted thinking - extraverted intuition loop and it’s really fun

    • @YumYumXd290
      @YumYumXd290 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I also agree as an Infp and I have an intj twin brother xD
      I'm so used to my brother questioning me when we talk certain topics that I don't get hurt easily from it. I just see it as a freakin challenge sometimes.

    • @lucasmoreno4412
      @lucasmoreno4412 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes, sometimes we like to hang with feelers but "every move we do is to kill them". It doesn't work like that, sometimes I'm just cutting the pizza. 🍕

    • @lucasmoreno4412
      @lucasmoreno4412 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Metaphor

    • @elisa4620
      @elisa4620 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Actually, healthy feelers could be interested in that kind of conversations. So lo'g as both parties are being respectful.
      It is an opportunity for growth and opening one's perspectives.

  • @alliegyuh1984
    @alliegyuh1984 3 ปีที่แล้ว +894

    * Timestamps. *This is copy pasted from the description but ig you didn't read it*
    *- (A grammarly ad was edited out from the video, correct timestamps in replies)
    0:00 Intro
    0:51 I change my shirt
    1:05 Grammarly
    2:27 ISTJ & ESTJ
    3:43 ISTP & ESTP
    4:44 ISFJ & ESFJ
    5:58 ISFP & ESFP
    7:40 INTP & ENTP
    9:13 INTJ & ENTJ
    11:14 INFP & ENFP
    12:32 INFJ & ENFJ

    • @definitelyreal.
      @definitelyreal. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      You're right, I didn't.

    • @mimomafu
      @mimomafu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      i love you

    • @alliegyuh1984
      @alliegyuh1984 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@mimomafu th-cam.com/video/JhRtSHupVNI/w-d-xo.html

    • @sofiapereira6127
      @sofiapereira6127 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      True 🤦‍♀️🙄
      Thanks

    • @ancarps
      @ancarps 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I feel like someone has already read me xD, INFJ🧡

  • @SnowKat-mn9qh
    @SnowKat-mn9qh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +335

    INFJ here, this is exactly why people think I’m good at talking to others. It’s because I know how people want me to respond, and I do that. I know that I’m supposed to laugh at their joke, I read in their tone that I should ask about that thing they just mentioned casually, I know to nod my head and smile to communicate that I’m interested and paying attention. I just follow the pattern and the signals, and give them what they want.

    • @metametodo
      @metametodo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      My perception is that the so called manipulative aspect of it enters when, for example, we intentionally ignore these cues that others are clearly putting out there, and I can choose what to do with that.
      But that's the thing, I think every type occasionally or frequently ignore specific circumstances because they simply don't want to follow an undesired path. That's not that different from INFJ "manipulation". I think the difference resides in efficiency and frequency INFJs explore and want to understand how these small social things work. Thus maybe having a greater potential to use that knowledge in effective ways.

    • @millennialsmusicmix
      @millennialsmusicmix 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      We have Listening Skills, that is all. :)

    • @itchyanklez5045
      @itchyanklez5045 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Precisely. I’ve been told I’m good at listening to others for the same reasons. But having the ability to read them and give them what they want all the time can be both incredibly useful, and incredibly manipulative, (not to mention mentally draining). When you want to connect, you use your abilities to show you are listening and you care. If you are trying to manipulate the conversation, you can easily get it done with incredible subtlety and apparent innocence. It’s scary, but low key kinda fun. Like holding a gun- a lot of power, and it’s fun to use, but also frighteningly destructive.

    • @AlexTheFox2001
      @AlexTheFox2001 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Exactly...and when I tell them I have social anxiety, they're always like : "What?! That can't be with your people and talkiing skills!" 😅

    • @pirelli2869
      @pirelli2869 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Its also very exhaustive, when you talk to somebody and you dont really care about the topic, but you force yourself to act like you are excited or sad or whatever you think they want you to feel.

  • @andreashetterly8415
    @andreashetterly8415 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    I'm an ENFP and my younger sister is an INFP, we're a dangerous match together. If we're in a completely comfortable environment, we can't get through a conversation without making 10-20 references/inside jokes. We will interrupt ourselves to do so and sometimes we say the same reference at the same time. It is hilarious. 😆 Also as children we made a secret language based on how we were feeling kind of. So we have certain phrases that mean, "Excitement". We still reference it from time to time.

    • @winryrockbell4361
      @winryrockbell4361 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      My lil sis is INFJ and im ENFP we have the same chemistry as u two we are inseparables !! 🤣🤣❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 It's HILARIOUS

    • @michaelajacobsen3619
      @michaelajacobsen3619 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I just have a list of all the stupidest things I've said when me and my brother are together...

    • @JadedeaJade
      @JadedeaJade ปีที่แล้ว +3

      My ex is an INFJ, we used to quote movies, instead of communicating normally. In some cases, if we were in situation that mimicked a tv show, movie, sometimes anime, we would look at each other, smile, and either start doing dialogue or recreating the scene. I.E. We were on this long road that we could see I think a mile ahead, we looked at each other and we were both thinking about stepping on the gas and taking the car to 88.8mph to go back to the future lmao.

  • @yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274
    @yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274 3 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    That's so INFJ! 😂 I recently reconnected with an old friend. In our first conversation, we talked for 3 hours about some rough times he had in the past decade... 3 hours! I was supportive and even asked questions and went "over the top" in some things to show that I still care... He did *not* ask me *one* time anything about my life... Even though I threw some instances that have happened to me to give him a hint to ask. After, I felt like my entire soul was sucked dry in a counseling session I had just given free of charge... Then I remembered why we weren't friends anymore: he was an energy vampire. This INFJ bounced hard the next time he tried to talk to me.

    • @AA123TD
      @AA123TD ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'm an INFJ with 5 kids. I've learned to look like I'm listening to conserve my emotional energy. 😆 If it is extremely important then I'm all ears. But if you're just whining, I could care less.

    • @yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274
      @yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@AA123TD yes, I've worked with children for about 15 years and I do the same. It really is an art form 😂

    • @Sandipan_Naskar
      @Sandipan_Naskar ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274 I always try to avoid energy vampires now, to keep my mental peace intact...!

    • @yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274
      @yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Sandipan_Naskar yes, lesson learned. No thank you 😂

    • @yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274
      @yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Deborah Kirchner why it is unsettling? Do you feel uncomfortable being vulnerable and opening up?

  • @FaronGA
    @FaronGA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +292

    As an NT, Sometimes I want friends, but then I remember all crimes are committed by humans.

    • @1chienandalou
      @1chienandalou 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      So are all “good” things.
      Also define “crime” and why it’s supposed to be a “bad” thing.
      Define good and bad while you’re at it. Justify your reasoning.
      10000 words on my desk by Monday!
      Sincerely, another NT ;))

    • @noemita494
      @noemita494 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Well, not all humans are criminals.

    • @FaronGA
      @FaronGA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@1chienandalou Ive actually done this one before. Lemme see if I can find it.

    • @FaronGA
      @FaronGA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      ​@@1chienandalou
      So i'm not the best writer,
      Crime can be defined as breaking the law, which is essentially the rules for living within a society.
      But they're just that. Rules.
      Rules aren't inherently good or bad, but in the context of the law (a set of rules that govern individuals within a society for continued function, the opposite being anarchy) you can define what a good or bad rule is by a criteria of fairness, or what protects someone from being hurt unfairly by another.
      Take someone who decides to drive home after drinking at a party as an example.
      Someone may or may not get hit, he may or may not crash, he may or may not make it home.
      Is it fair to other people on the road, who are following the rules that ensure the safety of operating a motor vehicle, that the driver has affected his ability to be less than optimal for operating a system, and thus risen his chances of hurting someone? By breaking these rules he puts other people at risk, who are not breaking these rules.
      So it can be observed that rules tend to come from a place of protecting those who live in a society, from unfair treatment.
      It may offer perspective to consider "an eye for an eye" being the most primitive form of law, fairness, whatever.
      So boiling it down it can be like
      Good = what's for the greater good, for all.
      Bad = things that can be put on the far end of selfishness if it were a spectrum.
      TL;DR en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Culpability

    • @navyal7237
      @navyal7237 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      But then again , the concept of crime was invented by us too .

  • @camillegodwin6398
    @camillegodwin6398 3 ปีที่แล้ว +226

    “You know how the ISFJ is the stereotypical nurse”? Why yes, I do know. My mom is an ISFJ and she is a nurse. How stereotypical of her.

    • @maryrichards4517
      @maryrichards4517 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I’m an ISFJ and a nurse. So yes, I do know.

    • @bluebellbell3725
      @bluebellbell3725 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      My mum too:)

    • @AnaCarolina-io5vr
      @AnaCarolina-io5vr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      same here

    • @jessica9043
      @jessica9043 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      my friends ISFJ and going into medical field too

    • @azanuan9185
      @azanuan9185 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      My ISFJ friend works as guard and cook

  • @writingthug
    @writingthug 3 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    I am an INFP and laugh at my own jokes constantly. It makes me so happy when other people recognize how funny I am. I need new material for home, though, as my husband is getting tired of the same jokes. 🤭 🤨 I don't understand why. 🤷🏻

    • @illegalsubstance953
      @illegalsubstance953 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What’s your husband’s personality type if I may ask?

    • @writingthug
      @writingthug 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@illegalsubstance953 He's an INTJ. Pretty spot on ... Ultra logical. He told me a couple of decades ago that the thing he loves most about me is my humor. I hold on to that. 🤣😊

    • @illegalsubstance953
      @illegalsubstance953 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@writingthug Haha I’m an INTJ too. Even if we don’t act like it we always appreciate the little things

    • @writingthug
      @writingthug 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@illegalsubstance953 😍

  • @AsymmetricalAce
    @AsymmetricalAce 2 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    As an ENTP who appreciates subtle humor I tend to repeat jokes I find really funny like 5 times throughout a conversation and people never get them and think I’m just repeating it for no reason. I really like it when people get subtle jokes and it makes me feel like they are actually paying attention to the conversation

  • @1MysteryLover1969
    @1MysteryLover1969 3 ปีที่แล้ว +150

    I do love a good "inside joke", and it's a pretty good indicator of whether someone is going to "get me" or not.
    -- INFP

    • @ritaruggerone4434
      @ritaruggerone4434 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      AHHH but when they don’t understand the inside joke 🥲🥲🥲 THE PAIN

    • @isolated.wallflower
      @isolated.wallflower 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ritaruggerone4434 same 😓😓

    • @LaciRae
      @LaciRae 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      others rarely get it. but when they do, they get instant like points.

    • @isolated.wallflower
      @isolated.wallflower 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@LaciRae yes infact this could be game changer for us, as soon I think she got my idea. I instantly start liking her😂😅

    • @CaveyMoth
      @CaveyMoth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Are INFPs the inventors of memes?

  • @stella_313
    @stella_313 3 ปีที่แล้ว +500

    Title: How do the 16 personalities connect with others?
    IxTJ me: I don't.

  • @jessica9043
    @jessica9043 3 ปีที่แล้ว +110

    As an INFP with an ENFP bestie, we have so many inside jokes. Theres one where we pretend to be middle aged moms, so we call each other Pam and Marge lmaoo. Some friends dont get, it oh well! 😂

    • @zimkeli2491
      @zimkeli2491 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I'm an INFP and so is my 14 year old daughter. I appreciated your comment so much because my daughter and I do a similar thing! We talk like crazy old ladies and have a whole little story going about our lives. At any random time we start talking in character. We laugh more about random things than things that are "supposed to be funny."

    • @melissalopez3823
      @melissalopez3823 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      My best friend is an INFP and I’m an ENFP and we always joke around about being each other’s wives 😂 we’ll also “flirt” with each other by making comments or winking

    • @thainadaterra
      @thainadaterra 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I had a very close friend that is an infp (I'm enfp) and we also did a bunch of roleplays, our favorite was aunt(him) and nephew(me)

    • @andreashetterly8415
      @andreashetterly8415 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm an ENFP and my sister is an INFP, we invented Toni and Nicki every time we make spaghetti we do a bit about who's stirring the sauce, but in loud Italian American jersey style dialects. I'm glad we're not the only ones.

    • @JadedeaJade
      @JadedeaJade ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@andreashetterly8415 OMG I DO THE SAME THING!!!!! The New Jersey heavy smoker, Italian or Jewish dialect!!! I'm not even from the east coast! I'm from Cali! HAHAHAHHAHAHAHHA. I have a valley girl accent, I'm black, but I can sound Jewish or Italian. I never been to New York or New Jersey. I don't know where it comes from. I can do some more accents but their horrible, and it's random. One night I did a perfect east london accent.

  • @Charlotte8591
    @Charlotte8591 3 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    ENFJ is spot on. I would feel bad about myself if someone was telling a joke and I didn't laugh. So I always try to make sure someone feels seen and heard and comfortable. One of my biggest fears is being perceived as mean, cold or insensitive.

    • @grelm1322
      @grelm1322 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I wish I could meet an ENFJ. Yall sound so pleasant

    • @p1glep
      @p1glep ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm the same! ENFJ squad!

    • @p1glep
      @p1glep ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@grelm1322 Apparently we're the 2nd rarest of types, do you know how much I have to scroll in the comments section just to find another ENFJ? LOL

    • @Charlotte8591
      @Charlotte8591 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@p1glep Maybe we're just not the biggest fans of this channel? I mean I am, but maybe not other ENFJ's. I have a couple of ENFJ friends.

    • @p1glep
      @p1glep 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Charlotte8591 I get that- Like sometimes in skits he only shows Enfj once but shows other ones more than once. I'm not complaining, I still love his videos. It's just something I noticed!

  • @claytonanderson692
    @claytonanderson692 3 ปีที่แล้ว +168

    He’s right about INTP/ENTP a lot of our humor is extremely subtle, the best is when you’re in a group and you and one or two other people are on the same page having some witty banter but everyone else in the group doesn’t get the jokes. And yea we 100% will think less of you if you don’t get the jokes.

    • @pawa7714
      @pawa7714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      and I disagree

    • @IdonthaveatwittersoFoff.
      @IdonthaveatwittersoFoff. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Nope...they’re correct.

    • @pawa7714
      @pawa7714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@IdonthaveatwittersoFoff. well now I think less of you

    • @blackqatanani7300
      @blackqatanani7300 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@pawa7714 then u agreed

    • @pawa7714
      @pawa7714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@blackqatanani7300 or did I? Did I really do that?

  • @brandonmorss9314
    @brandonmorss9314 3 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    Today my ISTJ dad called leveling the lawn with a roller "family bonding" time. It's kinda scary how on-point Frank's yard-work / lawn-mowing example was in applying to him, not gonna lie.

    • @carissahill3414
      @carissahill3414 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      My Dad would clearly be an ISTJ too based off this connection style. When my Dad comes over to my house, I can't get him to stop fixing things and making me join in on helping him fix things even though I am totally inept at it and just frustrate him... But I do crack jokes the entire time! Frank called me out and I didn't even realize it that is how I try to bond with others! Even when I go over to my Dad's house it's the same thing really. He is in the process of doing something and suddenly now I am part of it. If I am talking to him on the phone, he is constantly asking me what I am fixing or going to fix and I just think to myself ...uhhh ... You mean break right?
      This totally helps to realize he is BONDING with me. Though my Dad does take me out on adventures too. What is your bonding type?

  • @AEPhotography2011
    @AEPhotography2011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    As an INFJ, when I'm feeling emotionally drained its so hard to "react the way they want me to" and then I sometimes feel guilt for that. Which is silly. But it's hard to just let myself have a genuine response. When, like you said, just trying to help the person I'm talking to feel heard!

    • @AA123TD
      @AA123TD ปีที่แล้ว +3

      recognize what they're telling you. If they're venting, nod every now and then but don't absorb it. If it is extremely serious be all ears. I have 5 kids and I've learned to be protective of my emotional energy through them.

  • @scoutboo
    @scoutboo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    I'm an INFP and I've always wanted to have an ENFP friend, they seem so funny and genuine

    • @kaylahall1219
      @kaylahall1219 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      I am ENFP. I will be your friend. 😁👍

    • @kaylahall1219
      @kaylahall1219 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Who is your favorite writer, band/song, and dog breed?

    • @ritaruggerone4434
      @ritaruggerone4434 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@kaylahall1219 Can you be mine too? 🥺💖💖💖

    • @Hallelujur
      @Hallelujur 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I'm an ENFP and my favorite people are INFP's! We just vibe so well!! 😍

    • @isolated.wallflower
      @isolated.wallflower 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@kaylahall1219 I like these but not like favourite. Writer is William Wordsworth song is Aarambh and all dog's breed are fav but Lebra is most fav.
      Now will you be my friend?

  • @thatoneguy1520
    @thatoneguy1520 3 ปีที่แล้ว +168

    NT types: argues with you or goes through multiple conspiracy rabbit holes....sometimes philosophical pondering.

    • @SNinjaQK
      @SNinjaQK 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@Sheseasyouthere metaethics too

    • @1chienandalou
      @1chienandalou 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Not always. When we get older we learn to step away from discussing things with people who can’t logic and sit back and try to learn something from the absurdity. We would cry, but with all the robot parts not a good idea to add too much moisture.

    • @thatoneguy1520
      @thatoneguy1520 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Rumplegirlskin you xNTP?

    • @keostar7501
      @keostar7501 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Rumplegirlskin I agree with this -intp

    • @polestarc
      @polestarc 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Purely debate, no emotions in every rebuttal. If purely emotional, NT combines learning while feeling/suffering. Everything has a reason.

  • @hans5259
    @hans5259 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    "So things are gonna get weird. That's just what happens when we start talking about intuitives." I love that part 😂

  • @nakoda787
    @nakoda787 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I always think: “What if I’m not an INTJ?” and then I watch your videos and every time it’s scarily accurate.

  • @Naoko1875
    @Naoko1875 3 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    For me as a type with the “head in the clouds” (INTJ) I naturally connect more with other cloud people.
    ☁️☁️☁️🤔☁️☁️☁️

    • @candacedavis403
      @candacedavis403 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I find that the cloud people are others with NT. You're welcome.

    • @apollontheintp3257
      @apollontheintp3257 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      The cloud is the future!

    • @kauffrau6764
      @kauffrau6764 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Life in the cloud is Glorious!

    • @peaceglory5973
      @peaceglory5973 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@candacedavis403 INFs also

  • @bimafebriyanto8680
    @bimafebriyanto8680 3 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    "these types is something else" when you explaining about INTP & ENTP, somehow it sounds funny and also annoyed me at the same time. 🙏🤣

  • @dannyhodson2525
    @dannyhodson2525 2 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    As an intp, I can say, I like to have very hypothetical conversations or just talk about science stuff to people, and I can get easily bored if the conversation isn't mentally stimulating, so this is pretty accurate

  • @skf2658
    @skf2658 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    My best friend is INTJ and we sit, drink coffee, lots of it, and discuss religion and politics. In fact, whenever something big politically happens, she calls me and says, I have to get your insight on this. She’s so awesome! ~ ENFJ

  • @geaster3122
    @geaster3122 3 ปีที่แล้ว +204

    I know NFJs can get a lot of grief for trying to "manipulate" people, but honestly it's not that we're intentionally trying to be malicious, it's like an instinctual compulsion to make others feel good even at the expense of our own personal feelings. As an ENFJ, it's like it's physically impossible for me not to step up to accommodate a social interaction if it seems other people are feeling awkward, left out, down about themselves, etc (Fe dom). I try to be as authentic as I can when encouraging or reacting to someone by searching for even the tiniest positive in the situation and hyping that up to the moon and back.

    • @gizemdinler7649
      @gizemdinler7649 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      EXACTLY

    • @metametodo
      @metametodo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      My authenticity when I try to make things better socially doesn't reside that much within my expressions or mood. Instead, my authenticity resides in the genuine desire to make things better for us, and prevent unnecessary suffering that I can avoid through somewhat faking my mood and superficial opinions. They're less important than our relationship, wellbeing and growth.
      INFJ here.

    • @oliviamohtady3515
      @oliviamohtady3515 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Agreed. And when I'm in the moment socially, I actually do feel happy or amused or saddened by the story I'm being told, even if I wouldn't feel that way on my own! So it's not even fake.

    • @geaster3122
      @geaster3122 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@oliviamohtady3515 Yes! As NFs, we tend to be very sensitive to others' emotions to a point of even adopting then as our own. So in our own way, we *are* being real, because in that moment we really are "feeling" your emotions, oftentimes unintentionally.

    • @apollontheintp3257
      @apollontheintp3257 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      It's not manipulation, but modification what you are doing.

  • @Gintoki881
    @Gintoki881 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Frank: “and I want you to feel good
    and I want you to like me
    and I’m trying to manipulate you” - my favourite quote from this video 👏

  • @girl_from_everywhere
    @girl_from_everywhere 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Yes. We are always trying to bring people into "THE FOLD"
    - an INFP

  • @kristiannehassman5547
    @kristiannehassman5547 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    As an INFJ myself, what you said about giving the other person the reaction they want is so true!! I never really thought of it as manipulating, but I guess it kind of is . . .

    • @elisa4620
      @elisa4620 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      It might be seen as lying. Or maybe being fake (to some extent it is).
      But I don't think it is manipulative.
      Fellow INFJ

    • @kristiannehassman5547
      @kristiannehassman5547 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@elisa4620 True! I think it's more about not wanting to disappoint the other person than trying to manipulate them.

    • @tillygirl7450
      @tillygirl7450 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@kristiannehassman5547 Yes!

  • @shiran4204
    @shiran4204 3 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    I agree that XNFP types are so random. As an infp myself, I always say random things and jokes that only I get, idc if the other person don't know where it's from lol. I also make dark humor jokes with ppl I try to be friends with(rare) . If they get me, I vibe with them 😝

    • @loisrabies8713
      @loisrabies8713 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Agree. 90% of the time I just get blank stares.

    • @ritaruggerone4434
      @ritaruggerone4434 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      As a fellow INFP, I relate to what you have said on a spiritual level 😌✨✨

    • @shiran4204
      @shiran4204 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@loisrabies8713 dude SAME. I just laugh and walk away lol

    • @kasiako355
      @kasiako355 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I am also an INFP, and I have ENFP friend, we totally get each other's sense of humour and laugh together a lot :D I also love my ISTJ hubby's sarcastic sense of humour, I guess it played a big role why I've fallen for him xD We also get each other's jokes, and love our subtle word games :D

    • @annettewilkinson5750
      @annettewilkinson5750 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      As an INFP I actually find it even funnier when people don’t get the joke.

  • @Loulizabeth
    @Loulizabeth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +137

    As an INFJ this makes so much sense and is maybe why during lectures and sermons I feel like the person speaking ends up talking directly to me quite a bit of the time, as I tend to be just naturally an active listener. It can become especially the case of everyone else in the group don't tend to look like they're very engaged at all. This can become incredibly unnerving, because it makes you feel the centre of attention, which is just in no way what you're wanting. Yet because you do it naturally it's really hard to stop it, and the whole time you just wish loads of others in the room would be actively listening too. Do any other INFJ's relate to this?

    • @Kayla-me3ct
      @Kayla-me3ct 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      yep, like so you nod when the teacher makes points or you agree with something, and smile or chuckle if they say something meant to be funny? I’ve noticed myself doing this a lot and like you’re saying it’s frustrating being the only one doing it

    • @matthewyang7893
      @matthewyang7893 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I guess we just listen well eh

    • @regina8710
      @regina8710 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Yep, my years at the uni were basically like this. Most of my fellow students didn’t really bother listening to the lecturers, so I was the only one doing the job with the never-ending mantra of “don’t screw this up, listen actively, keep eye contact, look interested”. On the plus side, exams were easier because of it 😂

    • @Loulizabeth
      @Loulizabeth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@regina8710 very much so. Also really interested to know if others INFJ's relate to this too. Wherever the lecturer asked a question and I waited to see if anyone else would answer and nobody did, so I ended up answering the question. I tried to wait longer and longer, as it just started to feel weird. But others hardly ever seemed to answer and it just felt incredibly frustrating. It's this just a Scottish thing re people not answering in lectures or or is it more a personality styles thing worldwide.

    • @regina8710
      @regina8710 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Loulizabeth I think it’s something akin to the bystander effect. Why bother if somebody else is going to do it. Or maybe shyness in general

  • @KarolinaLewczukk
    @KarolinaLewczukk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    As an ENFP I so agree with it. I mean, I love joking around and yeah that's true, even if nobody's gonna laugh (which happens really rarely lol) I still having fun at all BUT if someone tells me that they like my sense of humor, it's literally the best feeling ever.

    • @cynthiaholland13
      @cynthiaholland13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So true! I remember when my high school teacher realized I was funny. That was almost 30 years ago! 😳 well time flies. But it was the biggest compliment to me

    • @RahulKumar-ct4pj
      @RahulKumar-ct4pj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Fellow ENFP here *virtual hugs*

    • @VeryTori
      @VeryTori ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ENFP here! *joins and makes it a group hug* Literally same. I love making jokes, and most of the time people don’t get it, or only my family gets it, but I like the cleverness of it! It’s an amazing feeling though and really means a lot when someone acknowledges the joke, finds it funny, and tells me I’m clever or witty!

    • @sams_enfp
      @sams_enfp 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      me, an INFJ with a sense of humor to rival ENFPs:

  • @nicolemusic02
    @nicolemusic02 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    ENFP girl here! This is literally me! I love talking about random stuff and making inside jokes. And I love connecting with people through humour! I met my ex bf by talking about random movies. Speaking of, he was an INTJ (so completely the opposite personality type) and every time we spoke about smth, we’d got into a deep conversation about it and he’d want to test different stuff out

  • @Multitudes_
    @Multitudes_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    As an INFP, I save most of my joking for the people I already know can appreciate my type of humor - or for my writing.
    I often find I connect best with people when they need my help or support. In many cases, once that need dissipates, I find there's not much of a basis for a connection left, as we don't really have much in common, and I just don't enjoy most people's company in a 'just for fun' context.
    The most authentic and lasting connections tend to be with people who feel similarly about a lot of things and share my basic values - and also those who click really well with my Ne.

    • @eval4495
      @eval4495 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That second paragraph really resonated with me. 👀 I realized that after my friendship with my "best friend" wasn't going anywhere. She only needed me for emotional support.

  • @leoleon4030
    @leoleon4030 3 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    I already now the "what if..." In the thumbnail is the ENTP

  • @currentlysleeping3366
    @currentlysleeping3366 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    It’s so true that when I’m in a conversation with my INTP friend we always get onto a deep and thoughtful subject.

  • @redmagi5283
    @redmagi5283 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    As an INTP, This is absolutely a call out post 😂
    (And absolutely why I love other INTPs and ENTPs)

  • @simplysaifskits3847
    @simplysaifskits3847 3 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    Frank :" gramerly helps you CONNECT with others "
    I see what you did there 😂

  • @iamnotuta2658
    @iamnotuta2658 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    ISTP and ESTP: we're gamers
    *INTP shows up*
    ESTP: RUN!

    • @apollontheintp3257
      @apollontheintp3257 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      One of the best comments here!

    • @alvargd6771
      @alvargd6771 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      the ISTP (istp here) doesnt run

    • @lwolfstar7618
      @lwolfstar7618 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      But but but we like games too

    • @iamnotuta2658
      @iamnotuta2658 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      The ISTP who didn't run: Hey. Wanna play?

  • @DDizzleBig
    @DDizzleBig 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    INTJ - At work whenever someone ask me for feedback on a plan or project I am obligated to start with "As we have this conversation keep in mind that I am in support of your idea, but I am going to pick it apart now so that you are prepared for the push back you will get from leadership and the challenges that I can foresee."

    • @darth_santos1137
      @darth_santos1137 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Interesting. I am wondering if I am ISFP or INTJ (the online test all say INTJ) but we all know about cognitive Biases.
      INTJ 4w5, tritype 458, ILI
      However, I do enjoy my personal space, don't like my belongings being touched and don't like being disturbed. But prolonged social interaction can be draining even when I am the one explaining but that's how I understand a topic better by teaching it to another person.🤔
      And I don't think I know what the INTJ "vision" works like but I do know that I have constant internal monologue that weight pros and cons of my activities, what way will get me to where I am going faster and I take my time to prepare for things.
      I can't really say I know what inferior Se is like because I can't work on anecdotal evidence but I have always had this passion of wanting to have a better memory because I forget things even my keys and glasses easily, I remember faces but not names, remember memories sometimes as something else. To me it was a flaw which affected my efficiency who wouldn't like to be a moving encyclopedia, right?
      When I learn things, I have to be able to relate them to something I know already or I have to picture/imagine it's motion. This is actually fun for me because I am a Med student so visuals and picturing how the body operates makes it good.
      One of my fear is not being competent enough and compliments don't really have effects on me, things like dreaming about eradicating a disease from the face of the earth but wanting not to take credit for it.
      When I was going through some emotional trauma, I wanted to block the emotions they were strangling me and I kept on looking for reasons why a person would do what they did, I kept on reviewing the "why". It was an issue I wanted to get rid of.
      I used to like drawing mostly free hand but I never had to visualize it in my head I just drew but it wasn't ever as a form of self expression of emotions like happiness or sadness just something based on something fascinating.
      Sigh, I have gone on full blast mode. I am typing this to know if you have could relate with my descriptions. It might not give me my right type but it can at least evict INTJ from my list

    • @dacksonflux
      @dacksonflux ปีที่แล้ว +1

      "I agree with you but you may benefit from my foresight. You might want to consider a few safety nets."
      I also enjoy learning from people in this way. I'm extremely inquisitive toward people that interest me for whatever reason.

    • @dacksonflux
      @dacksonflux ปีที่แล้ว

      @@darth_santos1137 so INTJs are a strange lot. We are uniquely useful and useless. This "vision" which sets us apart, does so because we rely very heavily on it. Unfortunately, it's frequently wrong. Too often do we try to give our intuition a tangible presence, to quantify it for validity and shared usage (Te wants it to work for everyone). However, it's here where our weakness becomes glaringly obvious. We cannot collect the data (in an effective/meaningful way) we need to test our own systems. This is Se demon. We believe what "should" be the case but the reality might elude us turning us into those self defense "Experts" you see selling their classes.
      Look up Objective Personality "So you want to be lead Ni huh?"

    • @darth_santos1137
      @darth_santos1137 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@dacksonflux Been busy for a bit. So any extra tip on how I can know my actual type?

  • @Seniormints7
    @Seniormints7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    As an ENFJ I just had to take a pause after saying “they go over the top to make sure that YOU KNOW that they are feeling the way you want them to be feeling” I feel so called out rn. This is so true.

  • @dianatorralbo7690
    @dianatorralbo7690 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    We never forget someone with whom we had inside jokes. ENFP

  • @isolated.wallflower
    @isolated.wallflower 3 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    We INFPs never make connections intentionally infact most of my friends are the one who initiated talks and I just replied but still after some time our bond is good.

    • @viktorija4485
      @viktorija4485 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same here! And they shoud be willing to wait, I need a looot of time/space to answer 😉

    • @isolated.wallflower
      @isolated.wallflower 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@viktorija4485 even after taking too.much time what I say is Ok, Good and then wait to initate another topic from my friend 😅😅

    • @olkrai
      @olkrai 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yea!

    • @persian338
      @persian338 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's why i don't have many friends, i hate starting conversations with random people, and i always worry people would find me too weird and don't wanna talk with me

    • @isolated.wallflower
      @isolated.wallflower 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@persian338 that's really same, even I think same but one of my friend said that that I just overthink in reality I am good in making interactions but the thing is I don't make.
      You should also start making interactions infact trust me you are good at making but your self confidence is low like mine.
      By the way if I want to be your friend. Will you be?

  • @floraszeredi1345
    @floraszeredi1345 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    As an ENFP I always try to connect through questions, which I ask like all the time. It might seems weird to others, if I ask for example that "What do you think about vacuum cleaners, are you team brooms or team vacuum cleaners, which one do you prefer?" And tbh I'm not saying I'm not trying to be funny while asking random stuff, but I am truly curious about their opinion and it really annoys me if they only laugh at it without sharing their thoughts on it

    • @ML-jd5hz
      @ML-jd5hz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      While reading your comment, my brain automatically answered: 'Team brooms! .... Wait but I would also like to have a vacuum cleaner cause it sucks the dust and little bits, which brooms typically miss'

    • @orrhousecreative
      @orrhousecreative 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Fellow ENFP, I vibe with that; I guess it relates back to how we want people to be genuine and honest with us, ja feel?

    • @killbill9847
      @killbill9847 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I just now realised that I also do these things and I think it's 1) to know their opinion but 2) to also be able to "categorise" and understand their personalities better. I hate small talk so mostly I'll ask people random questions to break the ice and to actually get to know them better. I like to ask questions like "Which MCU character do you relate the most and which one would you like to be?" or "What would your pirate name be?" or "Do you think you would survive a zombie apocalypse and what would your "function" be if you did?" Idk I'm never really aware of asking these type of questions, they're just so much fun, entertaining and it inspires a lot of curiosity in me. But I also think that we ask these questions, subconsciously, to determine ones character much better.
      By the way, I think I would be team brooms 'cus vacuum cleaners are so damn loud and they also blow a lot of warm air and Idk why but that warm air really makes me dizzy so yeah and also with brooms you can sit on them and pretend you're a wizard/witch playing Quidditch if you're a bit bored of all the cleaning!

    • @saihajmangat2995
      @saihajmangat2995 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@orrhousecreative lmfao, yes I feel you :))

    • @saihajmangat2995
      @saihajmangat2995 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@killbill9847 yes! I also use random questions to break the ice and figure out if they’re a person I’d like. Also I’d answer the questions but I’m not sure I’m feeling up to typing so much rn

  • @QweAsd-tc8qt
    @QweAsd-tc8qt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    As an ENFP I can say that this is accurate af. I met an INFJ and I was trying to be “normal” but my chaotic (broken) sense of humor slipped at some point and the first time he made an inside joke (replying to my stupid comment) was that I realized he was the one. We've met two weeks ago but I already want to marry him.

    • @yeppieyay8906
      @yeppieyay8906 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So how's your relationship going?

  • @rabeataleb95
    @rabeataleb95 3 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Whenever Frank describes INFJ, I feel bad for him, but then, I remember I'm an INFP...

    • @ami..7414
      @ami..7414 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me who is an INFJ-

  • @ilovecats264
    @ilovecats264 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    "I'm trying to manipulate you "
    -FJ exposing all INFJs and ENFJs, 2021.

  • @fridgeonion
    @fridgeonion 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    INFP/ENFP 💯 spot on haha. So factual. My bro is an ENFP and I’m an INFP and although we are almost polar opposite, humour we’re both weirdos but my bro has no shame and filter where my filter is hit or miss and I’m more introverted and handle humour rejection terribly haha

  • @tk-bs3cd
    @tk-bs3cd 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    this is actually so accurate. im an intp, and me and this intj tried to connect by discussing hypothetical situations, scenarios, problems, all that.. and he, the intj, would often remind me to stay on one topic and not stray too far away from the original subject. we had a great conversation nonetheless.

  • @stephanieadavison
    @stephanieadavison 3 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    The ISFP was so accurate, it is so hard to have conversations with people I have nothing in common with. 😂😂😂

    • @hyunjinnie_320
      @hyunjinnie_320 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yes, fellow ISFP here and I absolutely agree!

    • @user-sh9yv4jz9q
      @user-sh9yv4jz9q 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So true

    • @whitneyaltenbern7822
      @whitneyaltenbern7822 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yup! ISFP too and I really have no interest in talking to people that don’t share similar interests! I’m not into small talk at all unless it’s with people that I like (nice coworkers, family events..) and even then the small talk is to create a positive atmosphere or lead into closer bonding rather than something I enjoy. I like to dig deep in conversations too and get to the heart of matters... like what are you traumatized by? XD maybe that’s the Scorpio in my chart.
      If we don’t jive, I walk away pretty quickly.. quietly and casually...
      I’d rather hang out with the pets at a function and sneak off to have alone time than have awkward conversations

    • @keylis_1547
      @keylis_1547 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      He estado buscando este comentario!

    • @shadowboxing7029
      @shadowboxing7029 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm quite possibly the only friend my ISFP partner has. I think he gave up years ago on people having commonality with him, he has his family and that's enough for him. Even our conversations aren't what you'd call extensive, we can go hours without saying anything to each other, which suits me fine as an ISTP. It works lol.

  • @arthurrytuz4855
    @arthurrytuz4855 3 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    I think all the TJ’s ask a lot of questions because they just don’t like talking about themselves.

    • @syd7801
      @syd7801 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Accurate. As an ENTJ I'm good at deflecting away from myself and conducting an interrogation on the other person without it feeling like an interrogation (because I throw in some fluffy remarks to throw them off the intensity of the conversation).

    • @SuperKatiki
      @SuperKatiki 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      She. Don't eat us out.

    • @NathanLorenzana
      @NathanLorenzana 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@syd7801 Yup, ENTJ here, confirming it's true.

    • @BombshElle_7
      @BombshElle_7 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Or we're just genuinely interested in you.

    • @NathanLorenzana
      @NathanLorenzana 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@BombshElle_7 that's also true, otherwise there's no reason to engage in conversation.

  • @yurie.channel
    @yurie.channel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    You are totally right about INFJ. The way that we connect with people is by listening carefully to their conversation and be excited, angry or whatever responses they expected us to give(intended or not). We just want them to feel good and knows that we appreciate them opening conversation with us. By them feeling good, it makes us feel good as well^^

  • @jakestephens9883
    @jakestephens9883 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I am an INTJ but I have learned to display laughter and joy very well. When I was young I was very monotone. Now I only get like tha when I'm bored, mad, stressed, or sad. When I'm trying to connect I will find myself searching for deeper conversation, especially when I'm educated on whatever is being discussed. However I normally just stick to my friends and let people come to me. When they start talking I just wait until something strikes my interest.

    • @dacksonflux
      @dacksonflux ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It feels like searching for something to sink your teeth into. Business ventures seems to be a common one for INTJs but everyone seems to think we're always talking about science. We definitely do that, we also like to talk about improving our lives and planning toward goals.

    • @heterosapiens_sapiens
      @heterosapiens_sapiens ปีที่แล้ว

      I am intj with some intp aspects that resonates with me too, but I think I over time developed some aspects of i/enfp, and infj.
      I think I actually may be a mistyped Infj or have really strong/balanced Fi/Fe Ti/Te

  • @PaperParade
    @PaperParade 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    I honestly had no idea what was going to be said about us INFPs, especially when I could see myself doing the things of the two before it. But when you got there, I realized-holy shit, that is EXACTLY what I do. I even realized somewhat recently that the reason I have so many different sorts of friends who I may have very little actually in common with-we are friends because of a shared, oddball sense of humor. Spot on!

    • @janalunadottir
      @janalunadottir 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yeah, I can never invite all my friends to a party together, it would be a desaster!😂😂😂 They are SO different.🙃 (ENFP)

    • @PaperParade
      @PaperParade 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@janalunadottir I’ve had some weird encounters where I brought my friends together. At first it’s awkward but by the end everyone loves each other and has inside jokes together lol

  • @flaviaguimaraesc.dasilva4535
    @flaviaguimaraesc.dasilva4535 3 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    I know that I can trust Frank James and his types reviews, because he'll always be Frank

    • @judith9330
      @judith9330 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      (Is this an xNFP trying to connect with me?)

    • @flaviaguimaraesc.dasilva4535
      @flaviaguimaraesc.dasilva4535 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@judith9330 haha almost! Most likely INTP with a sharp wit

    • @CaveyMoth
      @CaveyMoth 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Can I get beans with that Frank?

  • @claramercier7924
    @claramercier7924 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    "they don't care if you laugh or not. As long as it's funny to them, that's the priority there" that's some truth there. And most of the time the joke is nonsense

  • @hannahthehandstandgirl8799
    @hannahthehandstandgirl8799 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    As an Isfp I totally agree sometimes when I’m having a conversation and I am not interested in the topic /subject I’ll space out and start thinking of something completely random and then my freind is like um hello were you even listening too me? Lol that’s probably why I say really random things in the middle of my family’s conversation 😁

  • @alaskanoodle6457
    @alaskanoodle6457 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    The commercial thing was perfect 👌
    As an INFP, It's common for me to laugh when I'm with people I enjoy, or get along with. If I'm around no one I know, and trying to strike a conversation (which the other person normally strikes first) with a stranger, I don't show much emotion on the outside. In my mind I'm like, "smile and nod, smile and nod!"

    • @persian338
      @persian338 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That's why some people might think i am cold or something, but the fact is, i am not comfortable until i know you better. This happens expecially when someone is talking about something i don't care about and i just don't know what to say

    • @Bennet_Froggy
      @Bennet_Froggy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i have an ad blocker so it's even better

    • @Interestking
      @Interestking 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@persian338 It took me 18 years of life to start to realize that I could come across as cold/scary when I don't know someone. I thought everyone just saw me as a target/pushover/weakling, and so I always had my shields up.

  • @MarzoAlive
    @MarzoAlive 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Me as an INFJ, already in late twenties. I just noticed me doing that. I mean, I really care of what *I think* what other people will think of me
    Again, what *I THINK*, not really what other people think of me, is the thought process I have in my head, what I IMAGINE, other people think of me. I hope I make sense xD
    If I'm talking with someone, I hope they're thinking nice of me while I'm listening; "Do I have a good expression?", "I hope they don't think I don't care what they're saying", "Should I give feedback? What if they don't want it and think I'm annoying?"
    And after our talk, if we don't end up our conversation right, I think the rest of the day of why it felt weird, did I do something wrong? Do they hate me now? Are they bored of me?"

    • @Nick-tz3ke
      @Nick-tz3ke 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      If an INFJ did failed a conversation, they'll regret and overthink it until the next week, if not the thought of it will randomly appear when doing nothing or showering and it will effect their sanity for the rest of the day :')
      -A Fellow INFJ.

    • @Skazoonit
      @Skazoonit 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What Nick said! Also all the overthinking causes extreme lack of sleep! What a neurotic hell.

    • @Nick-tz3ke
      @Nick-tz3ke 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Skazoonit Stop overthinking they said".
      It's true, overthink is the cause of all our messes, but sometimes the thought doesn't simply vanish. It could blind our reality and engulf us with constant question loop that in order to get out of it we need sudden distraction, like a tap in the shoulder or people calling our name.

  • @skzstay8
    @skzstay8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    As an INFP, I very often find myself laughing / giggling out loud because of some random joke that I made up for myself and it's funny to me. My friends & family can't understand me, but I'm okay with that as long as the jokes are funny to me. So let's say that this thing is SO true about INFPs.

  • @infobroinfotainment3780
    @infobroinfotainment3780 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    ENTP here. Absolutely correct about the intellectual games. Many can't relate that we find ideas fun, but these games give us intellectual stimulation and when you debate rationally with us, friends for life people.

  • @Anonymous-qp5ot
    @Anonymous-qp5ot 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Me an INFJ: I am not manipulative
    My inner voice: Are you sure babe?
    P.s. I know Fjs can be manipulative, but we want no bad. So don't hate us.

    • @rachelk4805
      @rachelk4805 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Totally fine with it. Respect the game. - ENFP

    • @Pebbledrop
      @Pebbledrop 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't hate us. The credo of the INFJ. (I am one. x.x )

  • @tomasvetrak
    @tomasvetrak 3 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    The real question is:
    *WHY DO YOU HAVE A LAMP ON WHILE IT'S CURRENTLY SUNNY OUTSIDE FRANK*

    • @orphelunes
      @orphelunes 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Ngl, low-key thought the same thing

    • @angkim3111
      @angkim3111 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Maybe to add aesthetic effect in the vid xD

    • @user-ruze666
      @user-ruze666 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Probably for balancing the lighting for the video

    • @purplelyco
      @purplelyco 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow, I didn’t even realize there is a lamp there...

    • @malaikaking5550
      @malaikaking5550 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thats not a question, because there is no question mark. - ♡ ISTJ

  • @rania4394
    @rania4394 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    For the 1st time in years, I have laughed out so loud to the point it was heard all across the house. Thanks for making this video
    It was really insightful as well.
    Stay safe and healthy

  • @Lauren-ol1qn
    @Lauren-ol1qn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    -Hey, let's mow the lawn together!
    -This person is awful.

  • @KombuchaBuzzed
    @KombuchaBuzzed 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Every time someone tells me to stay cool, I think.. “and attractive.” Makes me giggle inside. 😋

  • @carolinemasson7172
    @carolinemasson7172 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Flex your mental muscles to get along with NTPs

  • @PuddleFart
    @PuddleFart 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow, watching FJ grow closer and closer to 1mil is amazing. I was here since he was an itty bitty channel. So well deserved. 💜💙

  • @Katleral
    @Katleral 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I'm an ISFP and I think I've just met another ISFP. It's so incredibly comfortable talking with someone who connects the same way. We sort of "test" if the other person wants to talk about something. Sometimes it goes like "I don't like X", "I like X, it's great" ..... "I like Y", "I don't like Y". And then procede in silence till one of us tries again. lol. And the best part: it doesn't feel awkward.