My daughter was a diabetic so her birthdays had to be low to sugar-free because of that, not many kids would show up. Her 6th birthday I planned her a huge bbq/water party, what she wanted, but no one was going to come. With my job as a civilian contractor on a military base I new a bunch of airmen and when I told them, they all got her gifts and showed up for her. They even brought tents for a camp out in the backyard, watched barbie movies and let her do their hair, nails and makeup. She loved it! Remembers it to this day and says it was her best birthday. As mama's we find a way
I'm a civilian contractor who works in a military prison. My son doesn't have many friends and I never thought about recruiting some of my military guys to come through. Thank you for this.
@SDKitty78 My son is on a low sugar diet due to allergies. Swerve is the absolute best fake sugar brand that is organic and it so far isn't linked to any negative side effects. Also a 2 3large bananas + 3 egg + 1 tsp of vanilla = and awesome cupcake or cake replacement. I added chia and blueberries for my son's birthday cake. I use 1 egg and 1 banana for pancakes. For homemade cake frosting powdered swerve works fine mixed with cream cheese or butter. Food coloring and sprinkles make any kid happy. Whip cream is also an awesome addition to desserts because it only has 2 grams of sugar in every 2 tbsps. Dutched baking cacao is also naturally sweet chocolate that doesn't have any sugar. I use it for chocolate milk and mix it with coconut oil and swerve for home made chocolate. You can even make simple ice cream with froze coconut cream and fruit or vanilla. Whip up a can of coconut cream with what ever flavoring, freeze it, and it tastes amazing.
I rented out a room for my son's 5th or 6th birthday, and only 1 friend/mom and my parents showed up. None of his classmates were happy when they found out that the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles showed up. I had no booked them, but when they found out about the lack of attendees, they came over free of charge. I had mom's yelling at me about it, lol. I will always be grateful for those performers doing that for my child.
So they didn't care enough about your son to go to the party...only would have cared to go see the entertainment. Man! Maybe we should all start having very casual birthdays just to see who our real friends are! Unbelievable. I'm sorry that happened to you and happy for you that you were blessed with that amazing act of kindness!
I’m not usually a commenter but I felt like the first story really resonated with me. For my daughter’s 4th birthday, we invited her pre-k class, gymnastics class, and dance class. Well over 50 children. I didn’t expect even close to half of them to come but I still was banking on at least 10. 4 kids showed up. Only 4. And my heart broke when I saw that and the small table of gifts she had. But ya know what? She didn’t even notice. She was so happy to play with the friends that did show up and it never bothered her. To think of canceling that day, that’s more heart breaking than no one showing up. She was happy, she played, she got presents. That’s all that mattered. Put your parental bias aside and let your kids enjoy the little things.
I feel like this mom would be overwhelmed and complaining about running around with a party with 7 4 year year olds If all 15 came, she’d be losing her mind 😮
Same! We invited 15 girls to my daughter's 7th birthday. 3 girls showed up. We just made more fun things to do, and she had a fantastic day! She didn't care about the number until an idiot relative made a big deal about it.
Do you know how much fun you can have with fewer people and it sounded like everyone was partied out. Birthday parties are overwhelming to say the least.
I bet she (all of them) had a big ol’ ball! For me, I’d make note of the person who RSVP’d & didn’t show, & NEVER invite them again. As an adult, I’m all about integrity & communication. Things happen, it’s life; but if you RSVP that’s communicating the intention to come. If you can’t show for whatever reason, just communicate that asap. If there had been a venue rented that depended on the number of attendees, you’ve just messed that up. So yeah, no more invites for that person.
First lady was a narcissistic drama queen. Four year olds don't care how many kids attend their party. They care about cake, presents, and games. She didn't want to be perceived as a failure as a mom. Now everyone knows that she is a failure as a person.
The first lady had me ROLLING. Girl, YOU cared about the room seeming "empty." As someone who was once a four-year-old child with NO friends, ZERO, ZILCH, had I been invited to/or had a party for myself with only seven friends in attending, I would have been ECSTATIC, OVERJOYED, even! None of this was about the daughter and her happiness, it was all about protecting mommy's precious, fragile little ego.
When my daughter was little we always invited the whole class and her dance class and soccer group. Usually of the 30ish invited only about 10 showed. But we knew those kids that came REALLY wanted to be there and were her true friends. As she got older we even had to drive some friends but they were so happy to be included. Trust me, the fewer kids the better - every kid left with a killer take home gift since there was less competition. (We did piñatas with better items in them since there were less kids coming. Then we did the Saran Wrap ball game with good items too.)
Party cancel mom: I don’t think it was about the empty room for her daughter. I think it was about the empty room looking like shite on her socials. Love you Charlotte!
DEFINITELY!!!! She was more interested in how SHE LOOKED HERSELF on social media than her little child getting presents and having a fun time with her little friends!
Absolutely her daughter’s 4 correct? What 4 year old will look at the 7 kids in the room and think “oh no it’s too empty not enough kids” No a four year is ecstatic that they can run around in circles in a big empty room with the friends that are there She’s four not 12! Th fact that the mom even thinks her four year old would care about their social status is insane. Poor kids gonna be taught she has to be with the popular crowd or else nothing matters. 😊
OMG, Tiffany in the first video kept clicking her tongue like a pre-teen trying to give sassy attitude, and I about grounded her for a month with no phone privileges. 😄
The first story, it’s not about the kids. It’s one of 2 things. 1) she’s trying to get “in” with a group, so she’s been going to everyone’s birthday party and she’s pissed they didn’t return the favor. 2) She thought she had more pull and she’s mad she only got half to rsvp. And I’ll bet my pinky finger she’s feuding with another parent and this was her chance to “one up” them. Since she didn’t she made the original crying video to get sympathy from the group.
Also the ugly behavior talking about the blonde lady that was saying she cancelled the Birthday Party and acting like she’s ugly and it’s all about looks?😂 ma’am you’re ridiculous.
The nurse at the end: That was the ancestors showing you the trash that man was. There are no coincidences. Everything came together that day in order to show you who he TRULY was. Bless up!
First woman missed her calling to be an actress in a soap opera. She’s so UPSET that she did her hair, makeup & nails to vent her AGONY on TH-cam to get ATTENTION.
I had my daughter's 5th birthday party at the skating rink. Her whole kindergarten class was invited. None of them came. But her cousins and our friend with a kid came. So, like 4 or 5 kids, and the rest were adult family. It was the BEST birthday party she's ever had. She's 14 now, and we still talk about how fun it was. At the time I felt sad that her school friends didn't come but she NEVER NOTICED! She just had fun with the ones who were there. ❤
Im glad your kid didint care unlike me when I was a kid. I dont know why but I held s grudge and it hurt for a long time. Maybe my mother was like that mother and put it in my head I dont know. But it hurt a lot. Destroyed my self worth carried thst for many years
When I was in first grade my friend's mom invited the entire class of 30 kids to his birthday party. It was on Halloween and a Halloween themed party because that's when his birthday was. I was the only one to RSVP and the mom did not cancel his party. My older brother and I were the only to show up. And he said he had more fun with us and to this day every time he introduces me to someone he brings up that I was the only one to come to his birthday party. It meant a lot to him and that means a lot to me.❤
The child is four years old!!!!! If you made a dress up station with fairy wings, little dresses, fancy shoes or something else fun she wouldn't have even noticed. A party with less friends is more intimate, and she can give more time to each friend. This woman is probably upset because her Ticktok would look empty. GAL
There were 3 other kids at my daughter's 6th birthday party. And guess what? She had a blast. Kids don't care how many friends are there, they are just happy to play together.
I also don't get why you would want a "full room" with 4 YEAR OLD CHILDREN. They want space to run around and play. The way that momfluencer is talking about it is like she rented a room that would be taken up by a table of 15 people, like the birthday party of a 60 year old that's all about drinking beer.
Can confirm as a kid my shared parties with 20 plus people was overwhelming and my social anxiety has been present since birth. I had more fun with my 5 close friends. I bet she didn't even ask her daughter her opinion. And y'all can say she's only 4, but you can still communicate wants and dislikes at that age. She just assumed her daughter would feel the same as her.
Traditionally, the age of the child corresponds with the number of kids you should invite. It makes so much sense. 16 4 year olds would be pandemonium, which would make your content appear out of control. And let's face it, everything has to be about SM content and not the child's actual experience.
👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 Bravo!!!! Love Your Comment. But I have a question and I'm hoping you will answer it for me, please. Is the first woman's speech what I often hear called "Word salad?" I hear that phrase a lot but don't know exactly what it is. Thank you in advance and Best Wishes to you and yours ❤ great-great grandma Sherry
Only 2 kids of the 10 invited came to my daughter's 5 year Old birthday party... GREAT DAY! We went swimming at the lake, no whining, no argument, they played all together and no one was left out.
She was concerned about comparison image, not her daughter’s heart. As a mother of three, and two granddaughters, I know for certain that four year olds do not care about size of rooms, and how many people are there. If she was 12 years old, definitely, because that’s when teenagers start to compare themselves with others. And if you are a parent who cancels events to avoid pain, that’s a dangerous precedence. It would be better to teach her how to deal with disappointment when it is something small like that.
the way the mom Tiffany, is talking about herself is giving "I don't have anything witty to say, so I'm gonna talk sarcastically and slow with vocal fry to seem edgy" I had a party for my son when her turned 7, 1 kid showed up. He invited his whole class, only 1 kid came. And they had a blast together. It's not about the kids for tiffany, it's about her.
I so wanted to bang my head repeatedly against the table when I heard her speak. I settled for screeching like a pterodactyl much to the chagrin of my dogs sleeping at my feet. 😆
What happened to birthday parties at home with just family and a few friends? Everyone gets cakes, there’s the birthday song…. Then everyone goes home lol
Oh times have changed 😮 at my daughter’s school, or atleast the classes they’ve both had the first few years, it’s a thing to invite every child and have a big party. I can’t afford that so my kids won’t have one. In my day, a few close friends and a trip to McDonald’s and/or the cinema was plenty 😅 maybe it’s just the age but I’ll wait until they’re a bit older and have close friends and do the smaller ones I know 😂
Right? I had to share birthdays growing up as my brothers is the day before mine. (Not twins) and when I was finally able to have my own small just close friends was way more fun than when my family forced like 20 or so family and friends. I wonder if she even asked her daughter what she wanted my social anxiety has been with me since birth and those events were something I hated. I personally even as a kid would want 5 people at most. The fact she is assuming her child would feel the same isn't good parenting. Just because she's 4 doesn't mean she can't communicate what she wants
Yeah, I think I "only" had about seven people to my birthday parties at around that time in my life, it's really normal and could be overwhelming for young children to have loads more than that.
Calling out or trying to argue with a narcissist is like grabbing water, no substance. They're all about themselves as evidenced by that lady referring right back to her looks.
True my aunt is a narcissist and it's freaking wild how she is always the victim but at the same time literally the biggest see you next Tuesday that I have ever met and the only person I have met that I would call that. She is a terrible person and nobody in the family will talk to her anymore and she had the gall of trying to call me crying about how she has nobody left anymore and I just said well you still have your brother which she ignored and then I just said you did this to yourself by sending mean letters to people all the time saying they did all this bad shit when it was really you, I then hung up and have not talked to her since and I hope she dies alone and sad...(she sent really nasty letters to my parents that my mom finally showed me last winter but there was like letters telling them they were bad parents for letting me go on adhd meds when I was a kid all the way up to her telling them that she raised me because I lived with her for 6 months when I was 18 because I got a job down in the cities where she lived.) She also got into an argument with her brother and instantly removed the kids from her will idk if I am on it either but idc because she tries to make it seem like she has a shit ton of money but I know the truth lol her and her fiance from a few years ago bought a 400k house right before the market went wild and she treated him like shit so he left but he did something awesome and made her buy him out of the house and everything she wanted to keep and the house went up to 700k so now she is literally broke and still trying to make it seem like she has money lol.
Been there, done that, witnessed the cold dead eyes. My niece told me to compartmentalize my mother’s death which occurred two weeks prior to her bridal shower. Yeah, I’ll work on that.
Tip: Show absolutely no emotion back at them. It quite literally freaks them out because they can't take anything to use against you. Hopefully no one needs this tip, though.
@@persephonehades7547 rofl that's the advice my folks gave me when dealing with my brother who like to try and get me pissed off because then I would get in trouble... it worked so well he would be the one upset and getting in trouble lol.
The woman who is a nurse and made sure to put that poor baby mom and her labor and delivery above her feelings in the situation.... you are a class act for that! I give you all of the credit in the world.... youre a woman's woman fr ❤youre a real one! 💯
Y'all, to the first story, when I was in Kindergarten, my mother invited my ENTIRE class to my birthday party, and NO ONE showed up, but my sister and I still had fun! I was probably six, but my mom put in the effort to make sure we still had a good time. I think it's more about how the parents react than the children. Your kids rely on you emotionally, so if you're an emotional mess about your kid's birthday turnout, then you child will most likely feel worse than they should. Very self-centered behavior.
We had my 6 yr old first party this year. I invited all 14 kids in the class. 4 were able to make it. We had a blast. It for sure is all about the mom.
One time I showed up to a friend's party pretty late with my cousin. I was late cuz I hadn't finished my chores. We were the only ones in my entire class to show up. We played all the games, won all the prizes, ate all the cake and all the candy from the pinata. Best kid party I've ever been to and my friends mom loves me forever for it!
Same I had a sweet 16 but I didn't want like the traditional sweet 16 I had been so many and my bestfriends ones to I had enough of them i wanted something small I invited my 2 best best friends and my whole girlscout troop but only one of my best best friends showed so my mom me and my bestie got a hotel room for a couple nights and we had a blast yes I was everyone else could/didn't want to come but I had the two most important people there and that was enough for me
How a kid perceives anything can be affected by the parent's behaviour. If you don't act like something's a big deal, guess what? The kid doesn't care. If she'd said "WOW Look at these great friends who were able to make it to your party! You're all going to have SO much fun!" her kid would have had a blast and not even think twice.
@@TheAshesvondustAlso, the child is 4 years old. The child wouldn't have cared that 7 out of 16 kids came if the mother just went ahead and had the party with the 7 friends.
As a family therapist, I hate that there are people out there abusing their license. These events are reasons why people are scared of therapy. Literally just follow the code of ethics
When I was 17, I had a therapist. I was going through a lot of shit (bullying, adjustment issues, abandonment issues from my dad, being undiagnosed ADHD/autistic, serious issues with my mother.) I was starting to trust my therapist (I have issues trusting women, and didn’t feel comfortable around me).. except my mom drove me to every appointment. the next thing I know, my therapist is siding with my mother and basically calling me a liar saying my mom can’t be that toxic, she’s a nice reasonable lady, etc. they apparently had been talking outside of my presence, and my mom was telling her HER side of things. My therapist was also telling her things I had talked about in session..like in details Both of my sisters will confirm that HER side looks nothing like OUR side. At that age in my state, I had a right to privacy and autonomy with mental health professionals, I only needed parental consent when it was something that costed beyond what an appointment alone would. I still have a VERY hard time trusting other women. Both of my sisters, who tried to keep a closer relationship with our mother than I did, felt RELIEF when she passed away. They had no idea just how much they had been walking on eggshells. Im 39. That therapist still colors how i interact with mental health professionals. Therapists like this can do SERIOUS damage, even without breaking major codes of ethics.
But you're 39. So this happened over 20 years ago. And you've had control over your own mental health for 20 years. You don't have to live in that fear anymore. The world of therapy has changed A LOT. I'm nearly 32 now and have been in therapy off and on for years. It's time to go back to therapy and work through that. Or you'll bleed on folks who didn't cut you. It was one therapist in high school. They're not all like that. So. Go to therapy. It's not as scary as you remember. My own birthing unit is a narc drug addict and has been useless my whole life.
@@dear.ambelinaYour right not every therapist is like that but how will you know which ones will betray you and anonymously tell your story to the world on the internet like reddit and what not. I had a similar experience to her in which the several therapists i had told my mother what i told them so not only did my mom know how i felt about her but i also hurt her feelings on things that at the time were out of her control but me at my tender age of 8 and ni e was gonna blame her for because im a literal child that doesnt know anything about the world. So now not only did i feel no different or relief from talking to a professional about my problems but i also lost trust in them for the rest of my life, and IM 26
@@rachelann9362I’m so so sorry you experienced that. What I’m saying is that this behavior (from your therapist or the one in the video) DOES majorly go against our code of ethics. I hate that people who can’t follow the code of ethics are painting the profession in a bad light. It really prevents people from being helped. Again, I’m so sorry this is what happened for you.
As a licensed therapist as well, I was definitely having the 😮 reaction. And yes, she should report that therapist. Even if that therapist isn't a "bad person" we are in positions with people, often at their most vulnerable, and that's why we have such strict legal and ethical obligations. To protect our clients. And the 1 rule we ALL know is you DON'T SLEEP WITH YOUR CLIENTS, or go anywhere near that. She and her husband might have been fine, but next couple that is more vulnerable might have their relationship permanently damaged.
The first woman was more interested in how SHE LOOKED HERSELF on social media than her little child getting presents and having a fun time with her little friends!
Because it's all about her. Even the way she spoke; making her lips, taking about how pretty she is, compared to other other lady (who was ironically more attractive), using condescending answers and tone, more worried about herself on her child's b day. She's an absolute narcissist.
In response to that story about canceling the girls bday party?? Pftt no one showed up to my fkn SWEET 16. Not a single. Person. I was heartbroken at first ...but my parents did what they could to cheer me up and still make it special! We had fun at that bowling alley!! Cosmic Bowled against other family members! Played lazer tag for HOURS ! We still had a blast ❤
Charlotte I got married in April and we had 27 guests total. It was absolutely magical, stress free, intimate and meaningful. I cannot recommend a small wedding enough!
Exactly! If she had said that, she would be showing she is a good mom. But she said "nothing I love more than being right" proves she is a narcissist and only cares about herself. Her daughter is just a tool to get content and clout on TikTok. Thank goodness, TikTok is being banned soon.
I remember on my 10th birthday at Cici's pizza. My parents were expecting like 20 kids, but literally no one showed up. I was sitting there crying, absolutely heartbroken and embarrassed... When one girl from my class showed up. I will never forget how happy I was to have ONE person there to celebrate with me. Needless to say I never had a birthday party again, but I stayed friends with her up until I moved away in highschool. It takes one person being there for your kid to make them feel loved. That mom should have been grateful that 7 were willing to come.
I don't even remember who all was at my early birthday parties, but I do remember having fun with my best friend. We share a birthday. After about 13, we just did outings together. Stayed best friends until we moved to opposite sides of the country for college. She'll always be special to me and THATS what i remember about my birthday parties.
My son was one of 26 kids from his 2nd grade class invited to his friend's birthday party. We rsvped and the day of the party rolls around. We roll up to find a bounce house, grandparents, aunties and uncles, siblings and me and my son are the only people who came from non family. The boys had a blast together and their family was fantastic! She told me how much she appreciated my son because her son had talked to her about how he always included everyone. I was so glad for her son's sake and my son's sake she hadn't cancelled the party. And my momma heart was so proud of my little guy for being a good friend! A 4 year old wasn't going to notice the difference between 7 and 15 friends. That was all on the mom! But if she can't handle it, she absolutely is correct that she shouldn't plan anymore parties for her kids if it just means she's going to have a temper tantrum and cancel them breaking her children's heart.
A 4-year-old will also absolutely not pay attention to every kid of 15. They would struggle to give attention to 7. They'd be split into at least 2 groups of their own accord and doing different things.
Her thinking the room will look empty when I'm thinking those four-year-olds would have had so much space to run around and be crazy, they would have had a blast!
That’s what I was thinking! Those feral children would have had the time of their life! I remember having a 6-guest rule with my parents bcs if there was going to be screaming children they wanted to keep it to a minimum 😂
When my boys were little, to not hurt anybody's feelings, all their classmates were invited. If 1 or many showed up, was irrelevant. The party went on and it was a great day.
If I had RSVPd for my child to attend the birthday and I heard it'd been cancelled because the attending guests weren't enough to have a quality party, you can be sure I wouldn't bother next year!
Oh, yeah, you’d be thinking what, we’re not good enough? My mom did that when I was the only one still living at home. She didn’t want to “bother” with some holiday traditions because it was just us three. Right… because it’s only worth it if my older siblings attend, apparently. It’s not a warm thought.
I am from the Midwest and moved south to start fresh. my kids were born down here and had my son's 4th birthday party at the local bowling alley. Invited about 20 kids, including the people I considered my very best friend's children. Not a single soul showed up. Not ONE Y'ALL. I was heartbroken for my child, and the party coordinator could see it written all over my face. She told me that she could keep an eye on my two kids if I needed a minute, and I went to the bathroom and bawled my eyes out. But you know what?! I came out, put a huge smile on my face, spoke to some of the families that were there bowling and invited them for cake. They sang Happy Birthday to my son, and we had a beautiful time!! I am forever grateful to those moms and dads that extended a small kindness by sharing in the happiness of a child they didn't know. But if you ask my son, who is 15 now, how his fourth birthday party went, he'd say I'm sure it was fun if you were there with us, mama. Kids are not walking around on their birthdays with a clipboard, verifying what was purchased, who was there, how much was spent. They remember how they FELT. I made sure that my son felt celebrated and loved, and that is what he has held onto. What a pitiful, sorry shell of a human being that woman is, and i truly hurt for her child.
That would be heartbreaking, as a parent to feel your child is left out etc its awful. I did a big party for my daughters 6th this year. I invited 60 kids, 2 classes of all of them so that no one felt left out. I knew most wouldnt turn up but on the day around 28 turned up which was insane and my daughter felt insanely loved, but what was nice was the parents who thanked us for inviting their child as they are always left out. My daughter is autistic and has 1 good friend, i didnt expect many to show if any but they came but the fear was awful. Im so glad there were kind people there for your son, you sound like an incredible mum!
My heart breaks for the little 4-year-old who has to grow up with a mom like that. The mom seems absolutely narcissistic and made everything about herself!
You know she’s the mom that spends 10 grand on a kids party but it’s not decorated the way the kid wants like frozen but nude colors so it’s aesthetic lol then throws out toys that aren’t up to her standards lol 😂
That one with the therapist, please please please file a complaint with the licensing board!! This violates so many statutes!!!! She is a predator and NEEDS to be held accountable!!!
She only managed to somehow, prob yet again show to her daughter that she is only important if others like her.. if not her birthday & special events will be cancelled = that's prob going to feel like a punishment for that poor kid.. way to build confidence & self worth mom! 🤦♀️
We only had 1 kid show up to my daughter's 5th birthday, I was sad for a minute, but her birthday is just days before christmas, and the two of them had a Barbie blast together. They both got to split and play with the extra goody bags and we sent on home for the friend's sibling. It was awesome. 😄
My birthday is the week of Christmas and my brother's is too. We feel your pain. A child that young doesn't worry about who didn't come. They just wanna play, and one friend is enough to play. Keep trying to celebrate her. We discussed celebrating with friends in a different month. We were too lazy to do that in the end. Our biggest disappointments were "combined" b-day/Christmas presents. We would be like "oh they got us a CD we could have had two!" A little entitled, but we were kids. We didn't mind celebrating our bdays together, but any combo with Christmas hurt, outside family giving us b-day gifts at Christmas events, since that was when we were seeing them. No idea how old your daughter is now, but just some thoughts from a Christmas kid grown up. If she is grown hopefully she enjoyed her b-days. Hearing my brother talk i think half the reason he left Christianity is a resentment over Christmas 😂
Thank you for trying to fully celebrate December birthdays! It can feel really disheartening to see everyone you know have their birthday celebration and then have a separate Christmas yet so many people try to combine December/early January kids' birthdays & Christmas.
Oh I’ll bet that paved the way for an amazing bond between those two as friends 😊 I sympathise with a birthday around christmas, mines the 15th but I was never fussed about parties and things really growing up. One of my daughters is on Boxing Day 😅
The first story hit home for me. When my son was 10, he won a party with everything paid for 10 kids at the local bowling alley. We were all very excited. He had trouble with bullies at school, but still wanted to invite kids from school. So he gave out invites, the bullies held it over him for a couple of weeks.....do this or we won't come, etc. we'll not one of them rsvp'd and not one turned up. The staff at the alley were fantastic and did there best to make the party special. I rang every friend that I had that had kids, although toddlers and got them to come. Thankfully he was oblivious and still had a great time. It was worth going ahead with the party, I would never cancel a party on a kid, that would be devastating.
That's so messed up :( but luckily it turned out well.. did you also talk to his classmates' parents? I feel like parents are still behind bullying behavior
Had the same thing happen to my son when he was 6, invited 10, got 10 rsvps… the kids told my son they were coming, parents called to confirm. 2 kids showed up. One kid had a sibling that was invited and the mom only brought 1 (her reason, I didn’t know both were invited… invite clearly had both names on it). He was hurt, he noticed. He still had fun but he was hurt…. Kids notice even if they are resilient, things like this is how you get hurt adults, it comes from hurt kids…because adults when appropriate didn’t consider the kid might actually notice.
If it makes you feel better, my twins invited all 45 classmates and we waited an hour after the party started... We were very happy when a grandma came in with one classmate and a sibling. The twins were so excited we had someone show... They were almost in tears before they showed up. ((For context no bullying, but they were unfortunately born really close to July 4th)
10:13 She was salty because the other birthday parties were packed with people and if her daughter’s party would not be as big she would look like she couldn’t pull off a good party. It was a status thing for her, not anything to do with her daughter not having enough friends to fill the space. She was competitive and couldn’t pull it off. Petty petty!
On my 8 year old son's last birthday, I literally invited his whole class and NO ONE showed up from his class. I rented the movie theater birthday party room and it ended up being just my husband and I, our six kids and my son's grandma with her male friend. That's it. I was bummed but we made the best of it ❤
About 20 years ago I planned a big party for my husband and the only person who showed up was one friend who wasn’t even invited. They are best friends now.
@@Katfall2012 people talking lol he wanted to come so he did is the most logical explanation I can think of I hope she reply and we get our answer lol
This was about all about the mom and what she wanted. She needed content. Had I been one of the 7 guests attending & saw this, I would be upset. Her behavior shows that it wasn't about sharing a special moment with loved ones. Those 7 weren't enough. Me, my child, & our 7 guests would've had a blast because I would've made the best with what I had. BTW CONGRATULATIONS CHARLOTTE!! 🎉 I haven't been on TH-cam lately & I come back to see you're engaged! I wish you all the best!!! ✌🏽💙
7 kids? That's the "sweet spot" for a pre-schoolers birthday party! Enough kids to feel FRENETIC, but still able to keep a LITTLE control of the chaos 😂 Anything more really is about ego. I mean, the kids aren't even going to be AWARE of everyone most of the time. She's FOUR 😕🙄
Right! We did a party at a trampoline park for my son’s 6th bday and three more kids showed up than RSVP’d and it was TOO MUCH. But I also did it because my kid loves the trampoline park and is a literal textbook example of ADHD so it was the only way to get him to sit still for cake. He didn’t care who showed up, and we only cared cause we paid per kid 😂
@@Rita-kx3yr I think nowadays that start to learn to count, but at that age, they literally don't care **how** many show up just that people *do* show up!
My daughter just had her fifth bday party in sat. Including her, there were five kids and a ton of adults, all family. She had an amazing time. Kids will love anything at that age.
I had my son's fifth at the zoo. They had a birthday special that included cake. I think there were maybe 5 or 6 other children in attendance. That's plenty. I could have used some more adults 😅
For my 16th bday, I invited 15 people over a week in advance with PHYSICAL invites and only got RSVP's from everyone the day before and day OF the party ... All saying they couldn't come (except my BFF, honestly they could've been hit by a bus and they'd still show up) My mom didn't cancel anything. She took me, my sister, and my bestie to BJ's and you bet your ass she still ordered us the pizookie party platter. We didn't even finish half the cookie pizza and only ate like 3/8 of the ice cream scoops before we started feeling sick. I had been bawling my eyes out the 3 hours leading up to the party and still kind of sobbing on the drive over, but she was determined to try and save the night for me and make sure I had a fun time. So yeah, if I can enjoy a party with 1 out of the 15 people invited, 7 would have been just fine.
Omg same I got a hotel cuz we'll we were poor and couldnt get like a hall at a venue lol, it had a heart shaped tub 😂 i got hella pizza and a Snow cone machine and decorated the room like beach theme from dollar store and Walmart I was EXCITED and my mom was there so not a bunch of teens in a hotel room alone. Lol. But anyways like no one came and the five that did show left within an hour. But my bf and best friend stayed so we left and just stayed at my house making sno cones. Looking back the hotel room prolly looked bad to the parents but they coulda taken five seconds to meet my mom and see the vibe. It was a suite, and only cuz our apartment wasn't big enough for us... let alone a party. And my super sweet 16 was so popular on MTV at the time so everyone was doing nice sweet 16s, Jesus back then it felt like the only age that mattered 😂 I always wished they gave me a chance, it wasn't a ghetto party u swear LMAO it was innocent and fun 😅
my daughters 6th birthday, sent invites to whole class, so like 20 kids, and not a single one came. she was all dressed up and ready to party... my heart broke, but i turned up the music and danced with my baby, ate to much, and did what i could to make her day happy for her.
From a licensed clinical psychologist’s professional perspective, that therapist’s behavior was unethical and if this therapist is a licensed mental health provider, a complaint should be filed with her licensing board.
Her friends even told her to report her but she said, she didn't want to because she seemed like a nice person, well then don't call the cops & don't file charges! Good person, ok- bad therapist, report her! How many other couples will she damage? How many families does she need to destroy before she's a bad person? 😢
I work in healthcare and I am always on the side of, if they break the rules/ethics of their profession, report them. If I do something that breaks rules/laws/ethics, report me. It could be there is a reason you don’t see, the board will investigate and acknowledge that reason, if the board (normally includes members of the profession and civilians) thinks my reason justified my actions, then I will get a talking to but I will still have my career and I will learn a lesson so I am more careful in the future. If it’s not reported, I could keep making the same mistakes over and over and never learn from them until something truly awful happens and I am devastated. In the healthcare profession, accountability is huge and very important. I can only learn if my mistakes are pointed out, and I want to always be learning from my mistakes so I don’t repeat them.
I was sick once and my throat was closing up. The doctor came in to urgent care and he did the wooden stick down my throat. I coughed and he threw his flashlight against the wall to my side. I was so scared. He and I (as a woman) were the only two people there. He did apologize but it was lame. Ended up crying- thought he was going to hurt me. Then I reported the shit out of him.
Yeahhh I have a feeling that was about as much a "therapist" as she was an "investigative journalist" and secular available marital counselors are hard to find in easy times... So I'm betting this was a church chick with the "we worship our men..."
It's amusing how she accused people of boiling her down to only her looks, but that being the _only_ thing she bragged about in the video rather than the actual issue at hand. Unless she taught her daughter quantity over quality, there's no way a four year old wouldn't have a blast celebrating her b-day with seven of her friends.
My thoughts exactly! 4 yrs olds only care if maybe two of their best friends show up! I have a feeling that this "Mom" is all about, "What would the neighbors think?"
As a former 4-year-old, I can confirm that I never counted how many friends were at my birthday party, we just ran around creating chaos and it was great! Also, I don't recall the dimensions of the room my birthday was in, but I also can confirm that I didn't care. There were friends, cake, ice cream, and presents. Four-year-old me was happy and loving life!
a lot of my family was “busy” for my daughter’s 2nd birthday party. 2 children where there. i was sad, being 6 months pregnant, but couldn’t cancel because it was my baby’s birthday. she had a blast with her two cousins and that’s all that mattered! watching her hug and play with the kids for hours was so heartwarming 💕
Dude. I have 4 kids. I have never invited more than 4-5 kids that AREN'T family and even then, not all of them show up, and none of my kids have ever complained! None of my kids. Ever. They always have fun. Hell, one of my kids' 10th birthday was right after the Covid shut down AND on the day of his 3 month old sister's HEART SURGERY and he's NEVER complained! We still made sure that he had a family party at home and he got the gifts that he wanted and the day before was HIS day so he felt special, even though the circumstances sucked big time! Same kid, 2 years later, we had to change the date of his next baby sister's C-section to HIS BIRTHDAY. I told my doctor "Nope. I'm asking my son. It has to be up to him." He chose the day before his birthday. When I tell you that this kid has such a big heart and is so willing to roll with the flow, and we always make sure to make each child's birthday their own, no matter what else is going on. No matter what, and that's never been huge birthday parties with tons of kids invited! Quality over quantity. It's about making the child feel special on their day, and maybe it's just me and my neuro spicy brain, but that's so much harder to do with a ton of extra kids running around! Not that it can't be fun, but for our family, I spend more time overseeing the party than enjoying time with my kids.
Trust me, he probably wouldn’t tell you even if it did bother him. He’ll wait until he’s 22 and has had a few too many drinks, then he’ll unleash years of resentment on you going back to when he’s 4 yrs old and you chose to let his sister be born the day after him, resulting in years of shared birthdays. My son was perfect as a kid and we were super close. When he became 16 and got his first girlfriend, he started getting attitude and gave me the cold shoulder kind of regularly. I tried to break into his mind and get him to tell me what was going on. I know for a fact his GF got into his head and turned him against me and his dad. He spent years being resentful over things I had no idea ever bothered him. He’s 25 now and about to be a father. Luckily we’re close again but it’s not as good as it used to be. I feel that his ex-girlfriend worked his mind and took something away from both of us that I can never get back. Just be careful and don’t go thinking things don’t bother
I had a birthday party for my cat two years ago. I've had a party for my cat for years. This time I spent money on enough food and drink for 8 people. One person showed up. Pablo was devastated.
Had she asked for literally anyone's input on what she should do about the party, she wouldn't have canceled it in the end, and even probably felt a lot better about herself as a mother too. Literally, anyone would tell her not to worry because any 4 year old would be happy with even just one of their friends showing up, let alone SEVEN of them, and for seven 4 year olds, no room is going to be big enough to stop them from having a great party. In fact I'd say that it would kill the fun for the kids if the room was too small.
When she first started saying “there is NOTHING I care more about”….I was about to give her the benefit of the doubt, because surely she was going to say her daughter! Nope!!! “There is NOTHING I care more about being right”. 😮 okay lady. She just proved right there this had nothing to do with her daughter. Narcissists are terrible. I feels so bad for her daughter.
She’s the sort of mum that has other mums leave the “Mummy and Me” group! I went to ONE with our oldest (26 now). The mums were split in cliques; one group was mums dressed to the nines, hair and makeup perfect, nails done, talking about how to do this and that. The other, which I ran over to as fast as my sleep deprived arse could, was full of mums with hair up in a pony tail, no makeup, comfy clothes, sipping highly caffeinated coffee while watching their wee one run around like the Tasmanian Devils they are! I plopped down, said hello and stared into the void while sucking down my coffee (which you know was cold as Siberia!). The looks from the other side of the room were hilarious, I actually spat out coffee. I looked at the mums I sat down with and asked if it was always this way? They all just nodded. I then invited them all to my home and let them know who I was and they all knew of my estate, inherited. They were rather shocked that I didn’t have a nanny, truth be told. We all packed up and off we went. Best group of mums and kids possible and we all helped each other navigate this Mum Gig. The “Mean Girl” mums caught wind of where everyone went and tried to get in. The front gates were closed to them forever. I know for a fact the woman in that video would have begged, pleaded and cried to try to get in 🤣 I don’t play that game. Even to this day, I refuse to entertain rubbish. I’m still friends with some of the mums. We’ve attended many milestones in each other’s kids lives and cheered each other on during the rough goes.
You sound like a really cool person! :D Also, a great mum!!! It's good that you had a group of friends to all help one another. Those mean girl mums sound insane. Just, why are some people like that? I feel bad for the children of those mean mums.
The first video is made infinitely more hilarious when you picture that mom sitting in the corner of her room, yapping away at her phone as if the phone was who stitched the first video, because…that's literally what she was doing. Lol.
When my oldest got old enough to realize that out of 27-ish invites the only one or two would come, we stopped having parties. We did a celebration with cake and dinner with family and friends. The kids would be cousins or the kids of friends. I realized how much we spent on food, cake, crap party favors, and location (zoo, pool, ect.), how stressed I would get about worrying if people would come, and decided on a better use for the money. Now we take a weekend trip just the four of us (he has a brother 9 years younger). The birthday kid get to choose the activities and everyone participates. Sometimes its a theme park, sometimes is simply camping, either way we have a blast and make memories. Given that I use to work 50 to 60 hours a week and my husband travels for work it's wonderful just decompressing and spending time together.
Charlotte, you are indeed glowing!!❤ Re the lady who cancelled her daughter’s fourth birthday party: As someone born right after Christmas, I WISH I had any birthday party. Seven kids available during Christmastime? Try arranging that.
My sons birthday is super close to XMas nobody showed up, after that we just did family and as they got older we would do dinner & movie. He had a blast as a one year old at his party nobody came to 🎉
Yep, my son has a "half b-day" party on the years he wants to do a friend's party. One year we actually had people available in Dec but then everyone got the flu so still no party.
So everyone overlooked the fact that this woman just started going to birthday parties in the last two months, not throughout the year when everyone else has birthdays. She wants them there for her kid's birthday, but she can't be bothered to attend theirs. Uh, hello?
When my kids were 4 the only friends they cared about were family members. Literally grandparents were always the top of the list of who they wanted to see. 😂 I can guarantee that 4 year old would have had a blast with whoever showed up.
My brother had 1 kid come to his birthday party, and this kid was late. He was so sad until that kid showed up, thinking about it makes me tear up. My brother was thankful for one kid showing up. 7 is a good number.
Yup. That’s why it’s dangerous to pick and choose only phrases that serve your interests without accounting for context and the actual moral/message of the text. For as many rain down hellfire and damnation passages in the Bible there are also ones of love and acceptance.
We invited 7 to my daughter’s party, thinking not everyone would come. But they all did and I was so overwhelmed with that many kids! My daughter had a blast!!
To be fair, when i was in 4th or 5th grade, i invited my whole class and some neighborhood kids to my birthday. It would be a couple weeks after school got out for summer . I thought i was really well liked. I think only like 6 showed up. I was destroyed and crushed inside. Never had a birthday party again after that. Really set a negative tone for the rest of growing up. Still hold those scars in adulthood.
We invited 20 kids to my sons bday and only about 6 showed up and he had so much fun! Him feeling special on his day was literally all that mattered, so I call that a success.
I can't thank you enough for reading the texts ❤❤ it helps my ADHD brain so much! If you're in school you need you medicine,it really helps, but no meds for this girlie.. maybe I could work if I took it...Any adults out there w/ ADHD, on meds, and work something like retail or cashier?? Do meds make it easier even on your feet, NOT at a desk???
the 4 year olds birthday party was ENTIRELY about the mom. its a mom competition and she came in DEAD LAST. the parents are the decision makers, when half your invites decline its because the moms dont like YOU not your kid. she canceled the party because the RIGHT moms declined and she felt slighted.
At my daughter’s 5th birthday party, we invited 34 children, literally her entire class …and only 2 turned up! We didn’t cancel it, we made sure it was a lot of fun regardless, my daughter had a lovely time.
The story about the marriage counselor wanting to have private sessions with the husband really hit home. There was a time a couple of years ago that my husband sought out therapy to deal with things he was going through that he felt needed to be addressed because they were affecting his personality and some issues between us and with other relationships (friendships, family members, etc.). His therapist consistently told him at every session that I was the problem, she didn’t feel that there was any issues that he needed to remedy. He would tell her that he didn’t agree and try to steer each session back to resolving the issues he originally sought counseling for. I think it was the 5th or 6th session when he realized this therapist was not going to help him with anything he wanted (and needed) help with. He stopped his sessions with her, got help from a different provider, resolved the issues he wanted to address and did the most part, the problems that took him down that road are a thing of the past. Makes me wonder how some of these people get and keep their licenses.
Shout out to Jenneipher for calling out that mom and keeping her cool at the response. Also, Jenneipher IS pretty. Tiffany just looks like an ice queen.
A huge part of kids party's is seeing your parents showed out for you. Even if two kids come, the decorations, the cake, the change of the every day routine. It makes you feel loved and special
My cousin, she was 18 and I was 8, had a really cute friend when we were growing up and I did the dumbest shit to get him to notice me. I wanted to constantly impress him with my "skills". My favorite "skill" that I displayed one day was to bite the tire of someone's bike to make it pop (I still don't understand my logic but here we are), while at the community pool. He was one of the lifeguards and he was on the chair where he would have perfect sight of my work. I was sure the brute strength of my jaw would truly be the coolest thing ever to him. Many people witnessed me biting dirty rubber like a maniac that day, including him. 😂 I did other "cool" things that are now hilarious to me and my cousin, but biting the random person's bike tire to get a teen boy to like 8 year old me is my favorite story of this saga.
I realized ten minutes in that I literally forgot to send out the invitions for my four-year-old twins' birthday party. Yes, I felt like crap, but we were at the park, we fed the ducks, it was fine. Their five-year-old party was off the chain.
First mom sees "empty room"
4 year old sees "more room to run"
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😊😊😊yessss
Facts.
This should be pinned. 📌
Or a space for a jumpy house!
That's what I was thinking
My daughter was a diabetic so her birthdays had to be low to sugar-free because of that, not many kids would show up. Her 6th birthday I planned her a huge bbq/water party, what she wanted, but no one was going to come. With my job as a civilian contractor on a military base I new a bunch of airmen and when I told them, they all got her gifts and showed up for her. They even brought tents for a camp out in the backyard, watched barbie movies and let her do their hair, nails and makeup. She loved it! Remembers it to this day and says it was her best birthday. As mama's we find a way
I'm a civilian contractor who works in a military prison. My son doesn't have many friends and I never thought about recruiting some of my military guys to come through. Thank you for this.
I didn't even know I could do that. He would love that.
@SDKitty78
My son is on a low sugar diet due to allergies. Swerve is the absolute best fake sugar brand that is organic and it so far isn't linked to any negative side effects. Also a 2 3large bananas + 3 egg + 1 tsp of vanilla = and awesome cupcake or cake replacement. I added chia and blueberries for my son's birthday cake. I use 1 egg and 1 banana for pancakes. For homemade cake frosting powdered swerve works fine mixed with cream cheese or butter. Food coloring and sprinkles make any kid happy.
Whip cream is also an awesome addition to desserts because it only has 2 grams of sugar in every 2 tbsps.
Dutched baking cacao is also naturally sweet chocolate that doesn't have any sugar. I use it for chocolate milk and mix it with coconut oil and swerve for home made chocolate.
You can even make simple ice cream with froze coconut cream and fruit or vanilla. Whip up a can of coconut cream with what ever flavoring, freeze it, and it tastes amazing.
My heart dropped when I read your daughter “was” a diabetic. I thought you were going to say she had passed. 🤦🏽♀️
Awww that's so sweet❤️
I rented out a room for my son's 5th or 6th birthday, and only 1 friend/mom and my parents showed up. None of his classmates were happy when they found out that the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles showed up. I had no booked them, but when they found out about the lack of attendees, they came over free of charge. I had mom's yelling at me about it, lol. I will always be grateful for those performers doing that for my child.
That's awesome of them to do that
That was wonderful they did that. That also do sounded like an epic birthday.
So they didn't care enough about your son to go to the party...only would have cared to go see the entertainment. Man! Maybe we should all start having very casual birthdays just to see who our real friends are! Unbelievable. I'm sorry that happened to you and happy for you that you were blessed with that amazing act of kindness!
Hell yeah I’d have a strict rule we ONLY wear teenage mutant ninja turtles clothes now 🙌🤣
That's called instant karma. Your kid and you experienced an lovely act of kindness and they got jealous on top. 🎉
I’m not usually a commenter but I felt like the first story really resonated with me. For my daughter’s 4th birthday, we invited her pre-k class, gymnastics class, and dance class. Well over 50 children. I didn’t expect even close to half of them to come but I still was banking on at least 10. 4 kids showed up. Only 4. And my heart broke when I saw that and the small table of gifts she had. But ya know what? She didn’t even notice. She was so happy to play with the friends that did show up and it never bothered her. To think of canceling that day, that’s more heart breaking than no one showing up. She was happy, she played, she got presents. That’s all that mattered. Put your parental bias aside and let your kids enjoy the little things.
We had a very similar experience! One kid showed up for my child. But she remembered that day as the day she got to release a new butterfly!
Any size room with eight four-year-olds will never seem empty.
As a preschool teacher you are not wrong!!!!😂😂😂😂
Kids love a huge empty room. It gives them more room to run. They would have had a blast.
100% correcto😛
Omg I didn’t even think of this 😂
Who TF even wants 16 kids in one room to watch?!
I feel like this mom would be overwhelmed and complaining about running around with a party with 7 4 year year olds
If all 15 came, she’d be losing her mind 😮
the way that woman clicked her tongue pointedly after every sentence made me want to throw myself into the sea
Oh my god yes! I'm at that part right now, and it's making me want to do the same
😂
Me too! Ugh!
Aaaahhhh!! Hold my hand because we are jumping together!!! Smack!!
Room for one more?
I invited 25 kids to my daughter’s party. I have two RSVP and only one showed. My daughter had a BLAST! She had so much fun with that one friend.
Yes they learn from that, but I guess she’s more hurt from comparing other parties they have been too, to the one she’s doing
Exactly!! I think most children would be happy if just one friend showed up!
Same! We invited 15 girls to my daughter's 7th birthday. 3 girls showed up. We just made more fun things to do, and she had a fantastic day! She didn't care about the number until an idiot relative made a big deal about it.
Do you know how much fun you can have with fewer people and it sounded like everyone was partied out. Birthday parties are overwhelming to say the least.
I bet she (all of them) had a big ol’ ball! For me, I’d make note of the person who RSVP’d & didn’t show, & NEVER invite them again. As an adult, I’m all about integrity & communication. Things happen, it’s life; but if you RSVP that’s communicating the intention to come. If you can’t show for whatever reason, just communicate that asap. If there had been a venue rented that depended on the number of attendees, you’ve just messed that up. So yeah, no more invites for that person.
That nurse is a professional like, no hipaa broken, didnt want to endanger the mom and baby. Pro👏fess👏ional!
The noise 7 kids would make is enough to make the room feel full!
I have 4 kids. I have days when then the audio overload gets very real. They can be very loud at times.
It is so true!
Yeah, especially 4 year olds!
😅True @@rebel1612
It wasn't about noise. It was about how the pictures would look or her social media. Like anyone else would know she invited 15 kids.
First lady was a narcissistic drama queen. Four year olds don't care how many kids attend their party. They care about cake, presents, and games.
She didn't want to be perceived as a failure as a mom. Now everyone knows that she is a failure as a person.
She IS a failure as a mom, but not for the reason she thinks.
Let us pray for the first ladies poor children 🙏
They will never measure up in her eyes 😢
Amazing how quickly her tears vanished when she stopped lamenting and started to give advice.
Typical Mommy Blogger 🙄
She's what happens to HS drama queens when they find a mate to reproduce.
The first lady had me ROLLING. Girl, YOU cared about the room seeming "empty."
As someone who was once a four-year-old child with NO friends, ZERO, ZILCH, had I been invited to/or had a party for myself with only seven friends in attending, I would have been ECSTATIC, OVERJOYED, even! None of this was about the daughter and her happiness, it was all about protecting mommy's precious, fragile little ego.
I'm saying 7 is a hoe down
For real! 😂
Im sorry but her caption read "Why Im never throwing my daughter a party again" like thats INTENSE. Never again???
When my daughter was little we always invited the whole class and her dance class and soccer group. Usually of the 30ish invited only about 10 showed. But we knew those kids that came REALLY wanted to be there and were her true friends. As she got older we even had to drive some friends but they were so happy to be included. Trust me, the fewer kids the better - every kid left with a killer take home gift since there was less competition. (We did piñatas with better items in them since there were less kids coming. Then we did the Saran Wrap ball game with good items too.)
Party cancel mom: I don’t think it was about the empty room for her daughter. I think it was about the empty room looking like shite on her socials. Love you Charlotte!
That’s exactly why entitled influencer culture will continue to thrive
That mom was all about herself. She didn't give a crap about the daughter.
DEFINITELY!!!! She was more interested in how SHE LOOKED HERSELF on social media than her little child getting presents and having a fun time with her little friends!
Absolutely her daughter’s 4 correct? What 4 year old will look at the 7 kids in the room and think “oh no it’s too empty not enough kids”
No a four year is ecstatic that they can run around in circles in a big empty room with the friends that are there
She’s four not 12! Th fact that the mom even thinks her four year old would care about their social status is insane. Poor kids gonna be taught she has to be with the popular crowd or else nothing matters. 😊
OMG, Tiffany in the first video kept clicking her tongue like a pre-teen trying to give sassy attitude, and I about grounded her for a month with no phone privileges. 😄
Same, and Im younger than her!
Cant stand it when people make those smacking lips sounds when talking. its so annoying!
And of course her name is Tiffany. 😂😂😂
Same!
Same and I'm not even a parent😂
The first story, it’s not about the kids. It’s one of 2 things.
1) she’s trying to get “in” with a group, so she’s been going to everyone’s birthday party and she’s pissed they didn’t return the favor.
2) She thought she had more pull and she’s mad she only got half to rsvp.
And I’ll bet my pinky finger she’s feuding with another parent and this was her chance to “one up” them. Since she didn’t she made the original crying video to get sympathy from the group.
Big time, she's in mama wars. Aka, the closest thing to what she probably did back in high school.
Also the ugly behavior talking about the blonde lady that was saying she cancelled the Birthday Party and acting like she’s ugly and it’s all about looks?😂 ma’am you’re ridiculous.
Imagine being one of the parents that said yes. How disrespectful “Is my kid not good enough?”
I'll go with #2. Looks like a feeler for who goes in on Mama's drama, and not enough want to. lol btw, can't brag about 50% attendance.
or 3)
the handsome single dad wasn't going to be there
The nurse at the end: That was the ancestors showing you the trash that man was. There are no coincidences. Everything came together that day in order to show you who he TRULY was. Bless up!
First woman missed her calling to be an actress in a soap opera. She’s so UPSET that she did her hair, makeup & nails to vent her AGONY on TH-cam to get ATTENTION.
totally agree! a soap opera or reality show
I had my daughter's 5th birthday party at the skating rink. Her whole kindergarten class was invited. None of them came. But her cousins and our friend with a kid came. So, like 4 or 5 kids, and the rest were adult family. It was the BEST birthday party she's ever had. She's 14 now, and we still talk about how fun it was. At the time I felt sad that her school friends didn't come but she NEVER NOTICED! She just had fun with the ones who were there. ❤
Im glad your kid didint care unlike me when I was a kid. I dont know why but I held s grudge and it hurt for a long time. Maybe my mother was like that mother and put it in my head I dont know. But it hurt a lot. Destroyed my self worth carried thst for many years
When I was in first grade my friend's mom invited the entire class of 30 kids to his birthday party. It was on Halloween and a Halloween themed party because that's when his birthday was. I was the only one to RSVP and the mom did not cancel his party. My older brother and I were the only to show up. And he said he had more fun with us and to this day every time he introduces me to someone he brings up that I was the only one to come to his birthday party. It meant a lot to him and that means a lot to me.❤
That’s literally the nicest friendship story I’ve ever read about that’s so cute
My daughter’s birthday is the 27th and this happened. It doesn’t matter, as long as the kids have fun.
❤ his mother will never forget you, I’m sure it meant a lot to her too 🥹
Sweet! Friends for life! ❤
OMG 12:27 secs is ART!!!! The silent screams I scrumpt and invisible pearls I clutched before a slow clap
The child is four years old!!!!! If you made a dress up station with fairy wings, little dresses, fancy shoes or something else fun she wouldn't have even noticed. A party with less friends is more intimate, and she can give more time to each friend. This woman is probably upset because her Ticktok would look empty. GAL
Omg that is such a cute idea. 🤍
There were 3 other kids at my daughter's 6th birthday party. And guess what? She had a blast. Kids don't care how many friends are there, they are just happy to play together.
I also don't get why you would want a "full room" with 4 YEAR OLD CHILDREN. They want space to run around and play. The way that momfluencer is talking about it is like she rented a room that would be taken up by a table of 15 people, like the birthday party of a 60 year old that's all about drinking beer.
Can confirm as a kid my shared parties with 20 plus people was overwhelming and my social anxiety has been present since birth. I had more fun with my 5 close friends. I bet she didn't even ask her daughter her opinion. And y'all can say she's only 4, but you can still communicate wants and dislikes at that age. She just assumed her daughter would feel the same as her.
@@GamerNerdess thanks so much :)
At 4 years old, the more empty space in the room the more room to run and play!
Traditionally, the age of the child corresponds with the number of kids you should invite. It makes so much sense. 16 4 year olds would be pandemonium, which would make your content appear out of control. And let's face it, everything has to be about SM content and not the child's actual experience.
That's exactly what I was thinking
It wasn't about the lack of space, it was the lack of esthetic for her soca media, imo.
Imagine, if you dare , that many children in the wild.
Exactly! She wont notice until she's like 10 or 11. Under 4, they just roll with it
That speech from the mother was the definition of a “a whole lot of nothing”
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Only 2 kids of the 10 invited came to my daughter's 5 year Old birthday party... GREAT DAY! We went swimming at the lake, no whining, no argument, they played all together and no one was left out.
Let’s be real the mom is only thinking about how she looks not her daughter.
Edit: O M Goodness thank you for the likes!❤️
She seemed so worried about “the optics” of the response video but not how she herself was coming across.
She was concerned about comparison image, not her daughter’s heart. As a mother of three, and two granddaughters, I know for certain that four year olds do not care about size of rooms, and how many people are there. If she was 12 years old, definitely, because that’s when teenagers start to compare themselves with others. And if you are a parent who cancels events to avoid pain, that’s a dangerous precedence. It would be better to teach her how to deal with disappointment when it is something small like that.
@@geostyma she came across so gross I almost skipped the whole part of the videos she was in. I can handle a lot but she gave me a viceral reaction!
That's why she was so pressed.
Never have I EVER as a kid thought about how EMPTY a room was. Only when there were too many people did it bother me
the way the mom Tiffany, is talking about herself is giving "I don't have anything witty to say, so I'm gonna talk sarcastically and slow with vocal fry to seem edgy" I had a party for my son when her turned 7, 1 kid showed up. He invited his whole class, only 1 kid came. And they had a blast together. It's not about the kids for tiffany, it's about her.
For sure this woman thinks she's a Kardashian lol
@@stephe1506 I was immediately reminded of them, too
Hey nowadays it feels like you're doing something if you can get 1 or 2 kids to show up to your kids' party.
I so wanted to bang my head repeatedly against the table when I heard her speak. I settled for screeching like a pterodactyl much to the chagrin of my dogs sleeping at my feet. 😆
This seems to be so common now!!! I'm so glad he had a blast, they were probably stoked they got as much cake as they wanted!!
What happened to birthday parties at home with just family and a few friends? Everyone gets cakes, there’s the birthday song…. Then everyone goes home lol
Social media brainrot happened. People like her have to put on a show for everything.
It is all that I know and still do
It wasn't big enough for her to post on social media is the issue for her😂
Oh times have changed 😮 at my daughter’s school, or atleast the classes they’ve both had the first few years, it’s a thing to invite every child and have a big party. I can’t afford that so my kids won’t have one. In my day, a few close friends and a trip to McDonald’s and/or the cinema was plenty 😅 maybe it’s just the age but I’ll wait until they’re a bit older and have close friends and do the smaller ones I know 😂
Right? I had to share birthdays growing up as my brothers is the day before mine. (Not twins) and when I was finally able to have my own small just close friends was way more fun than when my family forced like 20 or so family and friends. I wonder if she even asked her daughter what she wanted my social anxiety has been with me since birth and those events were something I hated. I personally even as a kid would want 5 people at most. The fact she is assuming her child would feel the same isn't good parenting. Just because she's 4 doesn't mean she can't communicate what she wants
Can we just talk about how GORGEOUS that lady with the therapist story is??? 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
The kid is 4.
She’s not taking a roll call. Presents, cake and ice cream with 7 friends. Best birthday ever!!!
Yeah, I think I "only" had about seven people to my birthday parties at around that time in my life, it's really normal and could be overwhelming for young children to have loads more than that.
Like really the child is 4, they really won't remember much about that year anyway
Calling out or trying to argue with a narcissist is like grabbing water, no substance. They're all about themselves as evidenced by that lady referring right back to her looks.
True my aunt is a narcissist and it's freaking wild how she is always the victim but at the same time literally the biggest see you next Tuesday that I have ever met and the only person I have met that I would call that. She is a terrible person and nobody in the family will talk to her anymore and she had the gall of trying to call me crying about how she has nobody left anymore and I just said well you still have your brother which she ignored and then I just said you did this to yourself by sending mean letters to people all the time saying they did all this bad shit when it was really you, I then hung up and have not talked to her since and I hope she dies alone and sad...(she sent really nasty letters to my parents that my mom finally showed me last winter but there was like letters telling them they were bad parents for letting me go on adhd meds when I was a kid all the way up to her telling them that she raised me because I lived with her for 6 months when I was 18 because I got a job down in the cities where she lived.) She also got into an argument with her brother and instantly removed the kids from her will idk if I am on it either but idc because she tries to make it seem like she has a shit ton of money but I know the truth lol her and her fiance from a few years ago bought a 400k house right before the market went wild and she treated him like shit so he left but he did something awesome and made her buy him out of the house and everything she wanted to keep and the house went up to 700k so now she is literally broke and still trying to make it seem like she has money lol.
Been there, done that, witnessed the cold dead eyes. My niece told me to compartmentalize my mother’s death which occurred two weeks prior to her bridal shower. Yeah, I’ll work on that.
Tip: Show absolutely no emotion back at them. It quite literally freaks them out because they can't take anything to use against you.
Hopefully no one needs this tip, though.
I know, right? Why go on Tik Tok and get into fights with people like that.
@@persephonehades7547 rofl that's the advice my folks gave me when dealing with my brother who like to try and get me pissed off because then I would get in trouble... it worked so well he would be the one upset and getting in trouble lol.
The woman who is a nurse and made sure to put that poor baby mom and her labor and delivery above her feelings in the situation.... you are a class act for that! I give you all of the credit in the world.... youre a woman's woman fr ❤youre a real one! 💯
Yup.
Agree
It's her place of work, it probably won't go down that way anywhere else.
Y'all, to the first story, when I was in Kindergarten, my mother invited my ENTIRE class to my birthday party, and NO ONE showed up, but my sister and I still had fun! I was probably six, but my mom put in the effort to make sure we still had a good time. I think it's more about how the parents react than the children. Your kids rely on you emotionally, so if you're an emotional mess about your kid's birthday turnout, then you child will most likely feel worse than they should. Very self-centered behavior.
We had my 6 yr old first party this year. I invited all 14 kids in the class. 4 were able to make it. We had a blast. It for sure is all about the mom.
One time I showed up to a friend's party pretty late with my cousin. I was late cuz I hadn't finished my chores. We were the only ones in my entire class to show up. We played all the games, won all the prizes, ate all the cake and all the candy from the pinata. Best kid party I've ever been to and my friends mom loves me forever for it!
Same I had a sweet 16 but I didn't want like the traditional sweet 16 I had been so many and my bestfriends ones to I had enough of them i wanted something small I invited my 2 best best friends and my whole girlscout troop but only one of my best best friends showed so my mom me and my bestie got a hotel room for a couple nights and we had a blast yes I was everyone else could/didn't want to come but I had the two most important people there and that was enough for me
How a kid perceives anything can be affected by the parent's behaviour. If you don't act like something's a big deal, guess what? The kid doesn't care. If she'd said "WOW Look at these great friends who were able to make it to your party! You're all going to have SO much fun!" her kid would have had a blast and not even think twice.
@@TheAshesvondustAlso, the child is 4 years old. The child wouldn't have cared that 7 out of 16 kids came if the mother just went ahead and had the party with the 7 friends.
As a family therapist, I hate that there are people out there abusing their license. These events are reasons why people are scared of therapy. Literally just follow the code of ethics
When I was 17, I had a therapist. I was going through a lot of shit (bullying, adjustment issues, abandonment issues from my dad, being undiagnosed ADHD/autistic, serious issues with my mother.) I was starting to trust my therapist (I have issues trusting women, and didn’t feel comfortable around me).. except my mom drove me to every appointment. the next thing I know, my therapist is siding with my mother and basically calling me a liar saying my mom can’t be that toxic, she’s a nice reasonable lady, etc. they apparently had been talking outside of my presence, and my mom was telling her HER side of things. My therapist was also telling her things I had talked about in session..like in details Both of my sisters will confirm that HER side looks nothing like OUR side. At that age in my state, I had a right to privacy and autonomy with mental health professionals, I only needed parental consent when it was something that costed beyond what an appointment alone would. I still have a VERY hard time trusting other women. Both of my sisters, who tried to keep a closer relationship with our mother than I did, felt RELIEF when she passed away. They had no idea just how much they had been walking on eggshells.
Im 39. That therapist still colors how i interact with mental health professionals. Therapists like this can do SERIOUS damage, even without breaking major codes of ethics.
But you're 39. So this happened over 20 years ago. And you've had control over your own mental health for 20 years. You don't have to live in that fear anymore. The world of therapy has changed A LOT. I'm nearly 32 now and have been in therapy off and on for years. It's time to go back to therapy and work through that. Or you'll bleed on folks who didn't cut you.
It was one therapist in high school. They're not all like that. So. Go to therapy. It's not as scary as you remember.
My own birthing unit is a narc drug addict and has been useless my whole life.
@@dear.ambelinaYour right not every therapist is like that but how will you know which ones will betray you and anonymously tell your story to the world on the internet like reddit and what not. I had a similar experience to her in which the several therapists i had told my mother what i told them so not only did my mom know how i felt about her but i also hurt her feelings on things that at the time were out of her control but me at my tender age of 8 and ni e was gonna blame her for because im a literal child that doesnt know anything about the world. So now not only did i feel no different or relief from talking to a professional about my problems but i also lost trust in them for the rest of my life, and IM 26
@@rachelann9362I’m so so sorry you experienced that. What I’m saying is that this behavior (from your therapist or the one in the video) DOES majorly go against our code of ethics. I hate that people who can’t follow the code of ethics are painting the profession in a bad light. It really prevents people from being helped. Again, I’m so sorry this is what happened for you.
As a licensed therapist as well, I was definitely having the 😮 reaction.
And yes, she should report that therapist. Even if that therapist isn't a "bad person" we are in positions with people, often at their most vulnerable, and that's why we have such strict legal and ethical obligations. To protect our clients. And the 1 rule we ALL know is you DON'T SLEEP WITH YOUR CLIENTS, or go anywhere near that. She and her husband might have been fine, but next couple that is more vulnerable might have their relationship permanently damaged.
The first woman was more interested in how SHE LOOKED HERSELF on social media than her little child getting presents and having a fun time with her little friends!
Because it's all about her. Even the way she spoke; making her lips, taking about how pretty she is, compared to other other lady (who was ironically more attractive), using condescending answers and tone, more worried about herself on her child's b day.
She's an absolute narcissist.
In response to that story about canceling the girls bday party?? Pftt no one showed up to my fkn SWEET 16. Not a single. Person. I was heartbroken at first ...but my parents did what they could to cheer me up and still make it special! We had fun at that bowling alley!! Cosmic Bowled against other family members! Played lazer tag for HOURS ! We still had a blast ❤
Charlotte I got married in April and we had 27 guests total. It was absolutely magical, stress free, intimate and meaningful. I cannot recommend a small wedding enough!
I had under 40 at mine, 22 years ago. Never had a regret! Congrats!
Congrats babes🎉🎉🎉
same, married in April (19years ago) had 27 guests, it was perfect.
Hell, I’d be good with the courthouse wedding, followed by a cookout/bbq “reception”
@@imweakfordeaky My folks got married at the courthouse on their lunch break! I always loved that story growing up.
1:07 I thought she was going to say "There's nothing I love more than my daughter", boy was I wrong 😮
Me too. Like nooo she's no self centered 😅
Exactly! If she had said that, she would be showing she is a good mom. But she said "nothing I love more than being right" proves she is a narcissist and only cares about herself. Her daughter is just a tool to get content and clout on TikTok. Thank goodness, TikTok is being banned soon.
SAME!😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 she totally lost the plot in her ‘comeback’ 🤣🤣🤣
Hahaha Idk why you thought she was gonna say that 🤷♀️ lol
I remember on my 10th birthday at Cici's pizza. My parents were expecting like 20 kids, but literally no one showed up. I was sitting there crying, absolutely heartbroken and embarrassed... When one girl from my class showed up. I will never forget how happy I was to have ONE person there to celebrate with me.
Needless to say I never had a birthday party again, but I stayed friends with her up until I moved away in highschool.
It takes one person being there for your kid to make them feel loved. That mom should have been grateful that 7 were willing to come.
I don't even remember who all was at my early birthday parties, but I do remember having fun with my best friend. We share a birthday. After about 13, we just did outings together. Stayed best friends until we moved to opposite sides of the country for college. She'll always be special to me and THATS what i remember about my birthday parties.
My son was one of 26 kids from his 2nd grade class invited to his friend's birthday party. We rsvped and the day of the party rolls around. We roll up to find a bounce house, grandparents, aunties and uncles, siblings and me and my son are the only people who came from non family. The boys had a blast together and their family was fantastic! She told me how much she appreciated my son because her son had talked to her about how he always included everyone. I was so glad for her son's sake and my son's sake she hadn't cancelled the party. And my momma heart was so proud of my little guy for being a good friend!
A 4 year old wasn't going to notice the difference between 7 and 15 friends. That was all on the mom! But if she can't handle it, she absolutely is correct that she shouldn't plan anymore parties for her kids if it just means she's going to have a temper tantrum and cancel them breaking her children's heart.
I'm glad your son went to the party and had a good time! Sounds like you both made the day for that guy!
A 4-year-old will also absolutely not pay attention to every kid of 15. They would struggle to give attention to 7. They'd be split into at least 2 groups of their own accord and doing different things.
Her thinking the room will look empty when I'm thinking those four-year-olds would have had so much space to run around and be crazy, they would have had a blast!
That’s what I was thinking! Those feral children would have had the time of their life! I remember having a 6-guest rule with my parents bcs if there was going to be screaming children they wanted to keep it to a minimum 😂
I thought the same thing. Kids LOVE big open spaces!!
My daughter had no one turn up. I went door to door and invited every neighbour in the street. It was the best party ever.
I bet those neighbors now have a special spot for her in their hearts now. Good for her and good for the neighborhood.❤
When my boys were little, to not hurt anybody's feelings, all their classmates were invited. If 1 or many showed up, was irrelevant. The party went on and it was a great day.
If I had RSVPd for my child to attend the birthday and I heard it'd been cancelled because the attending guests weren't enough to have a quality party, you can be sure I wouldn't bother next year!
I hadn't thought of that! Those other kids I'm sure were looking forward to the party too! crazy
Oh, yeah, you’d be thinking what, we’re not good enough? My mom did that when I was the only one still living at home. She didn’t want to “bother” with some holiday traditions because it was just us three. Right… because it’s only worth it if my older siblings attend, apparently. It’s not a warm thought.
That's what I figured. Next year she gonna have no one RSVP. Honestly she just insulted 7 families because they weren't enough for her. Poor kid 🤦
@@heatherlowe7330 yes that's what I thought, next year no one will RSVP because "it's the mom who cancels last minute"
And make sure that Tiffany isn't part of the parents group. Cause it is clear she's not a good parent...putting her child's happiness below her wants.
I am from the Midwest and moved south to start fresh. my kids were born down here and had my son's 4th birthday party at the local bowling alley. Invited about 20 kids, including the people I considered my very best friend's children. Not a single soul showed up. Not ONE Y'ALL. I was heartbroken for my child, and the party coordinator could see it written all over my face. She told me that she could keep an eye on my two kids if I needed a minute, and I went to the bathroom and bawled my eyes out. But you know what?! I came out, put a huge smile on my face, spoke to some of the families that were there bowling and invited them for cake. They sang Happy Birthday to my son, and we had a beautiful time!! I am forever grateful to those moms and dads that extended a small kindness by sharing in the happiness of a child they didn't know. But if you ask my son, who is 15 now, how his fourth birthday party went, he'd say I'm sure it was fun if you were there with us, mama. Kids are not walking around on their birthdays with a clipboard, verifying what was purchased, who was there, how much was spent. They remember how they FELT. I made sure that my son felt celebrated and loved, and that is what he has held onto. What a pitiful, sorry shell of a human being that woman is, and i truly hurt for her child.
Good for you mama, I'm sure he felt loved
Exactly, they are not gonna sense it's "sad" unless you show it at that age. Good on you for turning it into good memories ❤
I'm glad you were able to make that happen for him
What a beautiful story! Your child knew you did your best, and it sounds like everyone still had fun!!!
That would be heartbreaking, as a parent to feel your child is left out etc its awful. I did a big party for my daughters 6th this year. I invited 60 kids, 2 classes of all of them so that no one felt left out. I knew most wouldnt turn up but on the day around 28 turned up which was insane and my daughter felt insanely loved, but what was nice was the parents who thanked us for inviting their child as they are always left out. My daughter is autistic and has 1 good friend, i didnt expect many to show if any but they came but the fear was awful. Im so glad there were kind people there for your son, you sound like an incredible mum!
My heart breaks for the little 4-year-old who has to grow up with a mom like that. The mom seems absolutely narcissistic and made everything about herself!
You know she’s the mom that spends 10 grand on a kids party but it’s not decorated the way the kid wants like frozen but nude colors so it’s aesthetic lol then throws out toys that aren’t up to her standards lol 😂
Wow we have psychologists in the comments lol.
No educated and perceptive !@@saranaila5905
@@saranaila5905 Yup! And decades of experience.
@@Lillybee223 YES! She's a sad beige mom!!
That one with the therapist, please please please file a complaint with the licensing board!! This violates so many statutes!!!! She is a predator and NEEDS to be held accountable!!!
She was also saying that those seven kids are so unimportant that she HAD to cancel the party.
Poor kids
Next year she won't have anyone RSVP because she just offended the 7 families that cared to put up with her for their kids' sakes.
And the girl learned she can't trust Mom to keep her word
She only managed to somehow, prob yet again show to her daughter that she is only important if others like her.. if not her birthday & special events will be cancelled = that's prob going to feel like a punishment for that poor kid..
way to build confidence & self worth mom! 🤦♀️
We only had 1 kid show up to my daughter's 5th birthday, I was sad for a minute, but her birthday is just days before christmas, and the two of them had a Barbie blast together. They both got to split and play with the extra goody bags and we sent on home for the friend's sibling. It was awesome. 😄
Good that you celebrated anyways
My birthday is the week of Christmas and my brother's is too. We feel your pain. A child that young doesn't worry about who didn't come. They just wanna play, and one friend is enough to play. Keep trying to celebrate her. We discussed celebrating with friends in a different month. We were too lazy to do that in the end. Our biggest disappointments were "combined" b-day/Christmas presents. We would be like "oh they got us a CD we could have had two!" A little entitled, but we were kids. We didn't mind celebrating our bdays together, but any combo with Christmas hurt, outside family giving us b-day gifts at Christmas events, since that was when we were seeing them. No idea how old your daughter is now, but just some thoughts from a Christmas kid grown up. If she is grown hopefully she enjoyed her b-days. Hearing my brother talk i think half the reason he left Christianity is a resentment over Christmas 😂
Thank you for trying to fully celebrate December birthdays! It can feel really disheartening to see everyone you know have their birthday celebration and then have a separate Christmas yet so many people try to combine December/early January kids' birthdays & Christmas.
I was born Dec 29th. I had the Chrisbir presents.
Oh I’ll bet that paved the way for an amazing bond between those two as friends 😊 I sympathise with a birthday around christmas, mines the 15th but I was never fussed about parties and things really growing up. One of my daughters is on Boxing Day 😅
The first story hit home for me. When my son was 10, he won a party with everything paid for 10 kids at the local bowling alley. We were all very excited. He had trouble with bullies at school, but still wanted to invite kids from school. So he gave out invites, the bullies held it over him for a couple of weeks.....do this or we won't come, etc. we'll not one of them rsvp'd and not one turned up. The staff at the alley were fantastic and did there best to make the party special. I rang every friend that I had that had kids, although toddlers and got them to come. Thankfully he was oblivious and still had a great time. It was worth going ahead with the party, I would never cancel a party on a kid, that would be devastating.
That's so messed up :( but luckily it turned out well.. did you also talk to his classmates' parents? I feel like parents are still behind bullying behavior
@@AndrewMcSkiah we tried to talk to a few of them, but I think they were as bad as their kids. In the end we moved schools. He was much happier.
So glad your kid had a good time!
Had the same thing happen to my son when he was 6, invited 10, got 10 rsvps… the kids told my son they were coming, parents called to confirm. 2 kids showed up. One kid had a sibling that was invited and the mom only brought 1 (her reason, I didn’t know both were invited… invite clearly had both names on it). He was hurt, he noticed. He still had fun but he was hurt…. Kids notice even if they are resilient, things like this is how you get hurt adults, it comes from hurt kids…because adults when appropriate didn’t consider the kid might actually notice.
If it makes you feel better, my twins invited all 45 classmates and we waited an hour after the party started... We were very happy when a grandma came in with one classmate and a sibling. The twins were so excited we had someone show... They were almost in tears before they showed up. ((For context no bullying, but they were unfortunately born really close to July 4th)
10:13 She was salty because the other birthday parties were packed with people and if her daughter’s party would not be as big she would look like she couldn’t pull off a good party. It was a status thing for her, not anything to do with her daughter not having enough friends to fill the space. She was competitive and couldn’t pull it off. Petty petty!
On my 8 year old son's last birthday, I literally invited his whole class and NO ONE showed up from his class. I rented the movie theater birthday party room and it ended up being just my husband and I, our six kids and my son's grandma with her male friend. That's it. I was bummed but we made the best of it ❤
Aw I’m glad he has so many siblings to have fun with 😊 I have five and it’s nice to know they’ll never be lonely hopefully 🙏🏼
Awwe, mad I’m sorry no one showedx esp after renting the space. I hope he wasn’t too disappointed.
I bet you had RSVP on the invitation and nobody bothered. It's just horrendous the way manners have gone to hell.
I wish I could go to a party in a theater!
Honestly that’s the advantage of big families. That really sucks.
The fact that the woman in the first video talked more about herself than her daughters birthday party😂😂😂😂😂
the call is coming from inside the house me thinks
@@TonksTheFool yeah can you not😂😂😂😂
About 20 years ago I planned a big party for my husband and the only person who showed up was one friend who wasn’t even invited. They are best friends now.
LOVE IT! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
That’s insanely weird lmao if he wasn’t invited and nobody came or brought him, how did this guy just show up?
@@Katfall2012 people talking lol he wanted to come so he did is the most logical explanation I can think of I hope she reply and we get our answer lol
This was about all about the mom and what she wanted. She needed content. Had I been one of the 7 guests attending & saw this, I would be upset. Her behavior shows that it wasn't about sharing a special moment with loved ones. Those 7 weren't enough. Me, my child, & our 7 guests would've had a blast because I would've made the best with what I had. BTW CONGRATULATIONS CHARLOTTE!! 🎉 I haven't been on TH-cam lately & I come back to see you're engaged! I wish you all the best!!! ✌🏽💙
7 kids? That's the "sweet spot" for a pre-schoolers birthday party! Enough kids to feel FRENETIC, but still able to keep a LITTLE control of the chaos 😂
Anything more really is about ego. I mean, the kids aren't even going to be AWARE of everyone most of the time. She's FOUR 😕🙄
Right! We did a party at a trampoline park for my son’s 6th bday and three more kids showed up than RSVP’d and it was TOO MUCH. But I also did it because my kid loves the trampoline park and is a literal textbook example of ADHD so it was the only way to get him to sit still for cake. He didn’t care who showed up, and we only cared cause we paid per kid 😂
Like can they even count at that age? 7 kids sounds like more than enough to have fun with as a group
@@Rita-kx3yr I think nowadays that start to learn to count, but at that age, they literally don't care **how** many show up just that people *do* show up!
@@Rita-kx3yr depending on when in the school year, they can count to 20.
@@Lobsneaks that's rude to not bother to RSVP
My daughter just had her fifth bday party in sat. Including her, there were five kids and a ton of adults, all family. She had an amazing time. Kids will love anything at that age.
I had my son's fifth at the zoo. They had a birthday special that included cake. I think there were maybe 5 or 6 other children in attendance. That's plenty. I could have used some more adults 😅
For my 16th bday, I invited 15 people over a week in advance with PHYSICAL invites and only got RSVP's from everyone the day before and day OF the party
... All saying they couldn't come (except my BFF, honestly they could've been hit by a bus and they'd still show up)
My mom didn't cancel anything. She took me, my sister, and my bestie to BJ's and you bet your ass she still ordered us the pizookie party platter. We didn't even finish half the cookie pizza and only ate like 3/8 of the ice cream scoops before we started feeling sick. I had been bawling my eyes out the 3 hours leading up to the party and still kind of sobbing on the drive over, but she was determined to try and save the night for me and make sure I had a fun time.
So yeah, if I can enjoy a party with 1 out of the 15 people invited, 7 would have been just fine.
Omg same I got a hotel cuz we'll we were poor and couldnt get like a hall at a venue lol, it had a heart shaped tub 😂 i got hella pizza and a Snow cone machine and decorated the room like beach theme from dollar store and Walmart I was EXCITED and my mom was there so not a bunch of teens in a hotel room alone. Lol. But anyways like no one came and the five that did show left within an hour. But my bf and best friend stayed so we left and just stayed at my house making sno cones. Looking back the hotel room prolly looked bad to the parents but they coulda taken five seconds to meet my mom and see the vibe. It was a suite, and only cuz our apartment wasn't big enough for us... let alone a party. And my super sweet 16 was so popular on MTV at the time so everyone was doing nice sweet 16s, Jesus back then it felt like the only age that mattered 😂 I always wished they gave me a chance, it wasn't a ghetto party u swear LMAO it was innocent and fun 😅
my daughters 6th birthday, sent invites to whole class, so like 20 kids, and not a single one came. she was all dressed up and ready to party... my heart broke, but i turned up the music and danced with my baby, ate to much, and did what i could to make her day happy for her.
From a licensed clinical psychologist’s professional perspective, that therapist’s behavior was unethical and if this therapist is a licensed mental health provider, a complaint should be filed with her licensing board.
Her friends even told her to report her but she said, she didn't want to because she seemed like a nice person, well then don't call the cops & don't file charges! Good person, ok- bad therapist, report her! How many other couples will she damage? How many families does she need to destroy before she's a bad person? 😢
I work in healthcare and I am always on the side of, if they break the rules/ethics of their profession, report them. If I do something that breaks rules/laws/ethics, report me. It could be there is a reason you don’t see, the board will investigate and acknowledge that reason, if the board (normally includes members of the profession and civilians) thinks my reason justified my actions, then I will get a talking to but I will still have my career and I will learn a lesson so I am more careful in the future. If it’s not reported, I could keep making the same mistakes over and over and never learn from them until something truly awful happens and I am devastated. In the healthcare profession, accountability is huge and very important. I can only learn if my mistakes are pointed out, and I want to always be learning from my mistakes so I don’t repeat them.
Having a relationship with your client is extremely inappropriate and illegal. She should have her license revoked.
I was sick once and my throat was closing up. The doctor came in to urgent care and he did the wooden stick down my throat. I coughed and he threw his flashlight against the wall to my side. I was so scared. He and I (as a woman) were the only two people there. He did apologize but it was lame. Ended up crying- thought he was going to hurt me. Then I reported the shit out of him.
Yeahhh I have a feeling that was about as much a "therapist" as she was an "investigative journalist" and secular available marital counselors are hard to find in easy times... So I'm betting this was a church chick with the "we worship our men..."
It's amusing how she accused people of boiling her down to only her looks, but that being the _only_ thing she bragged about in the video rather than the actual issue at hand. Unless she taught her daughter quantity over quality, there's no way a four year old wouldn't have a blast celebrating her b-day with seven of her friends.
And honestly, I'd prefer the other woman to her. She's a cutie.
My thoughts exactly! 4 yrs olds only care if maybe two of their best friends show up! I have a feeling that this "Mom" is all about, "What would the neighbors think?"
@@LilDevyl17 Definitely! 💯
@@mage1439 She’s real and that’s what makes her likeable. She’d be in my friend group if I knew her.
@@mage1439 I agree wholeheartedly
As a former 4-year-old, I can confirm that I never counted how many friends were at my birthday party, we just ran around creating chaos and it was great! Also, I don't recall the dimensions of the room my birthday was in, but I also can confirm that I didn't care. There were friends, cake, ice cream, and presents. Four-year-old me was happy and loving life!
First girl in talks like I used to write essays to hit the appropriate word count😂😂😂
Omg this comment XD
a lot of my family was “busy” for my daughter’s 2nd birthday party. 2 children where there. i was sad, being 6 months pregnant, but couldn’t cancel because it was my baby’s birthday. she had a blast with her two cousins and that’s all that mattered! watching her hug and play with the kids for hours was so heartwarming 💕
Dude. I have 4 kids. I have never invited more than 4-5 kids that AREN'T family and even then, not all of them show up, and none of my kids have ever complained! None of my kids. Ever. They always have fun.
Hell, one of my kids' 10th birthday was right after the Covid shut down AND on the day of his 3 month old sister's HEART SURGERY and he's NEVER complained! We still made sure that he had a family party at home and he got the gifts that he wanted and the day before was HIS day so he felt special, even though the circumstances sucked big time! Same kid, 2 years later, we had to change the date of his next baby sister's C-section to HIS BIRTHDAY. I told my doctor "Nope. I'm asking my son. It has to be up to him." He chose the day before his birthday. When I tell you that this kid has such a big heart and is so willing to roll with the flow, and we always make sure to make each child's birthday their own, no matter what else is going on.
No matter what, and that's never been huge birthday parties with tons of kids invited! Quality over quantity. It's about making the child feel special on their day, and maybe it's just me and my neuro spicy brain, but that's so much harder to do with a ton of extra kids running around! Not that it can't be fun, but for our family, I spend more time overseeing the party than enjoying time with my kids.
Including your kids in major life decisions is SO important! Go mama!! You did great. This is exactly what parents need to do.
Trust me, he probably wouldn’t tell you even if it did bother him.
He’ll wait until he’s 22 and has had a few too many drinks, then he’ll unleash years of resentment on you going back to when he’s 4 yrs old and you chose to let his sister be born the day after him, resulting in years of shared birthdays.
My son was perfect as a kid and we were super close. When he became 16 and got his first girlfriend, he started getting attitude and gave me the cold shoulder kind of regularly. I tried to break into his mind and get him to tell me what was going on. I know for a fact his GF got into his head and turned him against me and his dad. He spent years being resentful over things I had no idea ever bothered him.
He’s 25 now and about to be a father. Luckily we’re close again but it’s not as good as it used to be. I feel that his ex-girlfriend worked his mind and took something away from both of us that I can never get back.
Just be careful and don’t go thinking things don’t bother
Your kid sound great
That first birthday mom really loves to hear herself talk but get to no point, ey? 😂
I had a birthday party for my cat two years ago. I've had a party for my cat for years. This time I spent money on enough food and drink for 8 people. One person showed up. Pablo was devastated.
Poor Pablo 😿😿😹
@@just_an_old_nicole Honestly, he didn't care. He likes his Temptations and his walks around the lake😺
The line „Pablo was devastated.“ is probably the best thing that came out of this whole tiktok drama. 😂
@@EclipseXIV Pablo is 8 years old now and living his best life. Love your comment! 😻
I woulda come with my 2 cats, although cats can be very particular about who comes to their parties! ❤🐈⬛
“What makes you think you’re the prize? You sound like the punishment to me” Charlotte that went so hard
"The emptiness of that room would so totally reflect the complete emptiness of my own soul...." LOL
Or her brain lol
Had she asked for literally anyone's input on what she should do about the party, she wouldn't have canceled it in the end, and even probably felt a lot better about herself as a mother too. Literally, anyone would tell her not to worry because any 4 year old would be happy with even just one of their friends showing up, let alone SEVEN of them, and for seven 4 year olds, no room is going to be big enough to stop them from having a great party. In fact I'd say that it would kill the fun for the kids if the room was too small.
That first woman. Holy the narcissism oooozing out of her tone and words is gross
The only reason she canceled the party is because only seven children showing up would have embarrassed her, It wouldn't be worth posting.
😂😂😂
true
When she first started saying “there is NOTHING I care more about”….I was about to give her the benefit of the doubt, because surely she was going to say her daughter! Nope!!! “There is NOTHING I care more about being right”. 😮 okay lady. She just proved right there this had nothing to do with her daughter. Narcissists are terrible. I feels so bad for her daughter.
Seriously. Sounds like the high school mean girl who never moved on.
She’s the sort of mum that has other mums leave the “Mummy and Me” group! I went to ONE with our oldest (26 now). The mums were split in cliques; one group was mums dressed to the nines, hair and makeup perfect, nails done, talking about how to do this and that. The other, which I ran over to as fast as my sleep deprived arse could, was full of mums with hair up in a pony tail, no makeup, comfy clothes, sipping highly caffeinated coffee while watching their wee one run around like the Tasmanian Devils they are! I plopped down, said hello and stared into the void while sucking down my coffee (which you know was cold as Siberia!). The looks from the other side of the room were hilarious, I actually spat out coffee. I looked at the mums I sat down with and asked if it was always this way? They all just nodded. I then invited them all to my home and let them know who I was and they all knew of my estate, inherited. They were rather shocked that I didn’t have a nanny, truth be told. We all packed up and off we went. Best group of mums and kids possible and we all helped each other navigate this Mum Gig. The “Mean Girl” mums caught wind of where everyone went and tried to get in. The front gates were closed to them forever. I know for a fact the woman in that video would have begged, pleaded and cried to try to get in 🤣 I don’t play that game. Even to this day, I refuse to entertain rubbish. I’m still friends with some of the mums. We’ve attended many milestones in each other’s kids lives and cheered each other on during the rough goes.
You sound like a really cool person! :D Also, a great mum!!! It's good that you had a group of friends to all help one another. Those mean girl mums sound insane. Just, why are some people like that? I feel bad for the children of those mean mums.
You need to write a book….it would be hilarious!
Oh, I'm soooo glad you were able to teach them that lesson!!!! 😂😂😂 I salute people such as yourself! 💪🫡
Keeping it real! Snobbery is the most UNattractive look that no Balenciaga can improve.
The first video is made infinitely more hilarious when you picture that mom sitting in the corner of her room, yapping away at her phone as if the phone was who stitched the first video, because…that's literally what she was doing. Lol.
When my oldest got old enough to realize that out of 27-ish invites the only one or two would come, we stopped having parties. We did a celebration with cake and dinner with family and friends. The kids would be cousins or the kids of friends. I realized how much we spent on food, cake, crap party favors, and location (zoo, pool, ect.), how stressed I would get about worrying if people would come, and decided on a better use for the money. Now we take a weekend trip just the four of us (he has a brother 9 years younger). The birthday kid get to choose the activities and everyone participates. Sometimes its a theme park, sometimes is simply camping, either way we have a blast and make memories. Given that I use to work 50 to 60 hours a week and my husband travels for work it's wonderful just decompressing and spending time together.
The woman roasting the hell out of the dude omggg😭😂 sis didn’t give him a CHANCE 👏🏻
This was one IMMACULATE ROAST. keept having to pause, screech, and go back and hear it again. Fucking GODS WORK 😂
That man didn't even get a word in lolll he MUST have had has FLABBERS GASTEDDDDD. HE WAS SPEECHLESS 😂😂😂😂
Charlotte, you are indeed glowing!!❤
Re the lady who cancelled her daughter’s fourth birthday party: As someone born right after Christmas, I WISH I had any birthday party. Seven kids available during Christmastime? Try arranging that.
Impossible. My step dad was born on Christmas day. His mum used to do him a birthday party on 25th September when he was a kid. Lol
My sons birthday is super close to XMas nobody showed up, after that we just did family and as they got older we would do dinner & movie. He had a blast as a one year old at his party nobody came to 🎉
Yep, my son has a "half b-day" party on the years he wants to do a friend's party.
One year we actually had people available in Dec but then everyone got the flu so still no party.
So everyone overlooked the fact that this woman just started going to birthday parties in the last two months, not throughout the year when everyone else has birthdays. She wants them there for her kid's birthday, but she can't be bothered to attend theirs. Uh, hello?
When my kids were 4 the only friends they cared about were family members. Literally grandparents were always the top of the list of who they wanted to see. 😂 I can guarantee that 4 year old would have had a blast with whoever showed up.
My brother had 1 kid come to his birthday party, and this kid was late. He was so sad until that kid showed up, thinking about it makes me tear up. My brother was thankful for one kid showing up. 7 is a good number.
Same with my daughter's 5yr birthday party, she was sad but her and the one kid had fun!
"You sound like the consequences!" Is frikkin GOLD. I'M SO USING THAT
Not the long pause and then... "You look like Yu-gi-oh." Absolutely dying, Charlotte!😂😂😂😂😂😂
17:18 According to Ephesians chapter 5, the wife is to serve the husband as the husband serves the wife. It's a two-way street, folks.
💯 agree
Yup. That’s why it’s dangerous to pick and choose only phrases that serve your interests without accounting for context and the actual moral/message of the text. For as many rain down hellfire and damnation passages in the Bible there are also ones of love and acceptance.
I've witnessed many men only use half of that verse to control a situation. It's crazy
Yeah...can we keep an outdated, misogynistic book out of how we treat women, please? Thank you...
THANK YOU it is indeed a two way street
We invited 7 to my daughter’s party, thinking not everyone would come. But they all did and I was so overwhelmed with that many kids! My daughter had a blast!!
Is it just me, or has Char-Char been ✨GLOWING✨ lately?? 😍
She really has!! Absolutely stunning
It's that bling from her ring!
yes!! so happy for her with everything she’s achieving lately!!
Seriously!!!
Do you mean pregnancy glow?!!
To be fair, when i was in 4th or 5th grade, i invited my whole class and some neighborhood kids to my birthday. It would be a couple weeks after school got out for summer . I thought i was really well liked. I think only like 6 showed up. I was destroyed and crushed inside. Never had a birthday party again after that. Really set a negative tone for the rest of growing up. Still hold those scars in adulthood.
We invited 20 kids to my sons bday and only about 6 showed up and he had so much fun! Him feeling special on his day was literally all that mattered, so I call that a success.
1:43 I cannot hear this person talk, what an annoying way to speak
10:48 am I in hell?
Agreed!! This was just... painful to listen to.
The smacking of the lips! I'm so embarrassed just watching it! Ugh.
I would rather be an orphan than have that woman as a mom
I can't thank you enough for reading the texts ❤❤ it helps my ADHD brain so much! If you're in school you need you medicine,it really helps, but no meds for this girlie.. maybe I could work if I took it...Any adults out there w/ ADHD, on meds, and work something like retail or cashier?? Do meds make it easier even on your feet, NOT at a desk???
The girl roasting that man COOKED! 👏👏👏
Girl popped OFF
the 4 year olds birthday party was ENTIRELY about the mom. its a mom competition and she came in DEAD LAST. the parents are the decision makers, when half your invites decline its because the moms dont like YOU not your kid. she canceled the party because the RIGHT moms declined and she felt slighted.
THIS!!!! 💯
This was Def a mom flex for her and she faceplanted
Bingo!
At my daughter’s 5th birthday party, we invited 34 children, literally her entire class …and only 2 turned up! We didn’t cancel it, we made sure it was a lot of fun regardless, my daughter had a lovely time.
Same! My rich neighbours sucked!
The story about the marriage counselor wanting to have private sessions with the husband really hit home. There was a time a couple of years ago that my husband sought out therapy to deal with things he was going through that he felt needed to be addressed because they were affecting his personality and some issues between us and with other relationships (friendships, family members, etc.). His therapist consistently told him at every session that I was the problem, she didn’t feel that there was any issues that he needed to remedy. He would tell her that he didn’t agree and try to steer each session back to resolving the issues he originally sought counseling for. I think it was the 5th or 6th session when he realized this therapist was not going to help him with anything he wanted (and needed) help with. He stopped his sessions with her, got help from a different provider, resolved the issues he wanted to address and did the most part, the problems that took him down that road are a thing of the past. Makes me wonder how some of these people get and keep their licenses.
That last woman omg…the stars aligned for that man to get caught!
Shout out to Jenneipher for calling out that mom and keeping her cool at the response.
Also, Jenneipher IS pretty. Tiffany just looks like an ice queen.
That woman ROASTED THAT MAN within an inch of his life!!!! I'M ALL FOR THIS......YES MA'AM! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
I died 😂😂
@@mandeanraje2300 I was cheering her on because it kept getting better lol
Fucking brilliant 😂
I had to play that back and listen to it three times I was laughing so hard she went in on him
@mandachris7146 you know what.....I need to do that now lmao 🤣
I had a grand total of two kids at my 8th birthday party and they didn't speak English, I still had a great time language barrier and all so ❤
A huge part of kids party's is seeing your parents showed out for you. Even if two kids come, the decorations, the cake, the change of the every day routine. It makes you feel loved and special
May I just say, the lady talking about their therapist, is ABSOLUTELY STUNNING!
My cousin, she was 18 and I was 8, had a really cute friend when we were growing up and I did the dumbest shit to get him to notice me. I wanted to constantly impress him with my "skills". My favorite "skill" that I displayed one day was to bite the tire of someone's bike to make it pop (I still don't understand my logic but here we are), while at the community pool. He was one of the lifeguards and he was on the chair where he would have perfect sight of my work. I was sure the brute strength of my jaw would truly be the coolest thing ever to him. Many people witnessed me biting dirty rubber like a maniac that day, including him. 😂
I did other "cool" things that are now hilarious to me and my cousin, but biting the random person's bike tire to get a teen boy to like 8 year old me is my favorite story of this saga.
That's an awesome flex. I love this story
okay, but did you pop it?
@@fionacalou11303 sadly, no. But it may have been for the best lol
5:23 why do I feel like the birthday canceling mother was a bully in elementary school? I know the type, and she fits it to a t!😂
I realized ten minutes in that I literally forgot to send out the invitions for my four-year-old twins' birthday party. Yes, I felt like crap, but we were at the park, we fed the ducks, it was fine. Their five-year-old party was off the chain.