Once u know they no longer look human, attractive, or smart. Then you realize you weren't in love...but you knew that all along and couldn't explain it. The trauma bond explains what you couldnt
Once you accept that the true personality of the narcissist is the person they showed you during the destroy and discard phase and Not the person they pretended to be in the beginning - you are on your way to recovery. Good luck
I started to fall out of love with the narcissist a while ago...but this last little "cycle", this *last* little go around, I was hoovered, taken advantage of and discarded. So...Something inside me stopped caring. I just don't love him anymore. I feel nothing. I don't feel hurt, I don't want to reach out, or hold him accountable. I just do not care anymore. This is sad in *concept* but I just...can't and don't want to care anymore. what a relief.
My ex was making me feel sad and broken. The abuse and insanity got worse over time and nearly killed me. I said to myself: what is there to love? He treats strangers better than me.
As I kept going back and forwards with him o began to realise that nothing was going to change. When he was asleep or thought I wasn't looking o'd stare at him on an attempt to analyse who or what I was with. I was wishing that things were different but on reality knew they weren't. I'd look at him and try to decide what it was I loved or liked about him, keeping in mind all the cruel and abusive things he'd done to me and wanting to be true to myself I saw nothing good. The only thing good in that room was me. At that point I started to see him and our association for what it was, and I didn't want to be like this for the next 20yrs. I wanted to feel life. Feel relaxed and not on edge. Educating myself on Narcissm with the help of these videos helped me to gain confidence and courage to leave without Reactive abuse, thus giving myself a better chance to be a better person for me before my time on this earth is done. I left. 🍒
When u educate yourself and realize just how sick these people really are it's a real wake up call. It is shattering that everything was a complete lie not one word was true. U become reactive agressive and learn this is how they get their supply. All this is an awakening that u need to leave them go NC and never allow them back in ur life. Build a new life for yourself do positive things for ur self practice self love.
I think it depends on how narcissistic and toxic the person was. They are still people, and some of it might have been true in the beginning or early years. They do have a disorder though and they aren't capable of healthy coping mechanisms or going the distance.
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Once you see behind the mask you cant unsee it. It took me a while but now theres literally nothing left now that i have seen the truth, it seems like i just don't have any motivation to continue the relationship.
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This explains why my ex got so angry at me when I told him he never loved me cause he was abusive and a cheater. He was more fixated on being validated as “ a good man” than he was in actually owning and correcting his f*cked up behavior
Look at actions not words Standards for yourself Protect yourself Be ok to be solo by yourself Don’t react, just walk away Protect your peace Protect yourself
This Is Exactly What Has Happened To me And I am Finally Free!! I Did The Work While Still In The Abuse And Deception So It Was An Excellent Weaning Time I am Beginning To Have Spits Of Anger But I Quickly ReMind myself It Was All Training And I Turn To Messiah And Peace Comes Immediately I am Very Excited About What Will Come Of This Victory Over One Of Hells Best Weapons To Destroy Souls Thank you Ben For your Work Here On yt For The Last Steps Out No More Delusion Wooooo HOOOO!!! 🦅🔥🌹
Thank you Ben, I know there’s a lot going on inside my head. I do need to move forward. I don’t know what to make of it. I couldn’t even start to explain to you. Well the video hit really deep and thank you. Stay healthy and safe inside your body 😉🤙🏼
mine refused sex on our wedding night. anyone else on this site get that treatment too? i should have annulled it the next day! but then i wouldn't have my 3 beautiful kids.... oh well. i'm free now, so blessed for that!
Ben this popped up on facebook so looked oon you tube... love this video!! Keep going, you're saving people the more videos you do and greater insight! I broke free and now have a lovely caring, nice partner. I went through hell and mental torture. Thank you for doing this, telling the truth and standing by the people who you used to harm. There is light but probably one in a million and no one should hope they should go no contact and focus on them and move on if there is no REAL not lying change. Its a biggy the lies to change stay no contact t till proof!! And 99 percent of the time there no hope I'm guessing xx
You deserve to be treated with kindness, respect, and love. Don't let anyone else's harmful actions or words define your worth or impact your well-being.
I quickly noticed when on dating sites in the past, the ones will tell you in their profile what a nice guy they are, or who actually put some version of "nice guy" in their profile name, watch out. I never ended up going out w/ any of them, but just in corresponding, or a possible first date, time and again, it's just a red flag.
agree 100%! i lost count on how many times my ex said to my kids: "who's the BEST daddy?" (and expected/demanded their reply "YOU ARE!") i wanted to vomit every time. who is "normal" and says crap like this to their kids?
I remember my husband "asked" me a question multiple times after conflicts. " You know I'm a good person right", I used to answer " of course you are". But one day, I just realised I never really know who this man is, So I answered:" actually, I don't know". I could see his facial expression, was in a total shock, and for the first time, he was silenced.
Lol re: help, mine would stand there & watch me struggle with something & when I was done with the hard part & nearly finished they'd ask if I needed help. F that garbage!🤣🤣🤣
I have the textbook narcissistic relationship. 8 and a half years of pure Bullshit. We are One day before the new year and I'm starting off this NEW YEAR by making it a New Year entirely by getting the F*CK OUT of this F*CKED UP RELATIONSHIP. I've become someone I don't even recognize. I don't like myself,,,I don't like my Life,, I'm Done. Literally EVERYTHING that describes someone like this is what describes what I've been through.
During the triangulation he told me once I confronted the situation yes I want to be with her!! Now you see this is all fake (him&I) !! That broke me into pieces! Exactly what he wanted!
9:10 I literally ran away from my phone as it was playing because I couldn't handle it then when I came back this is what I heard. Yes, I really want to run from the truth it hurts so bad 😭
@@RawMotivations I'm glad you replied because I can't figure out the app and the website. I've tried for a couple days. I am middle-aged and I feel now tech disabled. Downloaded the app and it said go to the website. What do I do when I get to the website? Thank you
@@Schquirl all access to the app goes through signing up on the website. www.rawmotivations.com/narcapp We had to modify that to increase security and safety so we could limit if there are toxic people trying to get in.
Why isn't there a law against these people. When you are lied to and conned out of years of your life. It was fraud they married you under false pretence. It should be a criminal offence in law.
Lies,.. oh Yeah A Woman mine Went On A Date With Told me he Told her he Had Been Single For THREE YEARS!! Haha! Married But Single In their Head😂 Ok Single they Are!!
omg that's hilarious. i also caught wind of lies my ex had told others. he started rumors about our "divorce" way before i even decided to divorce him, just to "see what other people would say and do" and "when it would get back to him." i too learned things from my ex's lovers once they left him: he told one of his mistresses that i was "cold" and never wanted sex, (while in truth, it was always him rejecting me, probably after a day in the sack with her!) among other things. i'm astonished how "cookbook" and predictable all their manipulations are, once you have learned/studied them. i hope all us narc-survivors find truthful reliable wonderful people who can admit to their mistakes and work on growth together.
Are you still a narcissist? You've mentioned being "self-aware" but I don't think that means much. Have you asked Jesus to save you from your sins and asked His forgiveness? Then repented of narcissism, amongst other sins? Without getting saved......there is NO other way to be delivered from narcissism or any other sinful habit. There's a massive difference between resisting sin, and actually not wanting to sin because it hurts God and separates you from Him. Trying to stop a sinful habit by the power of the flesh, will fail. So where are you with what's being asked of you here?
Maybe Ben's a Buddhist... or Jewish. Maybe you should just leave your religion out of it... making assumptions that everyone believes what you believe & talking down to them is kinda rude imho.🙄
@@mr.cardinal9182 Sin can only be eradicated by Christ. Preaching Jesus will always offend people. In this case it offended you. Come to Jesus as well. He waits for all who will come to Him. Time however does not last forever as we know. Hence time is of the essence. Also....my question if he's still a narcissist, is a genuine question. Not talking down to. My "tone" may not seem nice but the question still remains.
@@livelife5890 who said I was offended? Nobody. Also you didn't specify who all your questions & comments were directed to, so essentially you were talking down to everyone here.
@@mr.cardinal9182 We Have The Freedom To Share our Faith With A Man who Has Been Caught In A Demonic Web That Our Messiah Can Fully Deliver SomeOne From You Are Out Of Line And Obviously Threatened By Yahshua That Is your Problem Stop Bullying Others
I love your content, but I want to give you unsolicited advice but very well-meaning. Please fix the holes on the wall or put a nice poster covering them.... I find them unappealing and distracting
lol. I catch myself trying to scrape what looks like 2 dark spots off of my phone screen with each video 🤦♀️ Only to remember…oh, it’s his wall, not my phone 😂
Once u know they no longer look human, attractive, or smart. Then you realize you weren't in love...but you knew that all along and couldn't explain it. The trauma bond explains what you couldnt
So True Diamond
Wow!! That's Pretty Sick Behavior 😫
And she acted so pure, so faithful, so loyal. And she didn't seem to really enjoy sex either....
! Isn't that the truth !
yes you get this sick ball of disgust when ever you see them or when they try to interact.
Once you accept that the true personality of the narcissist is the person they showed you during the destroy and discard phase and Not the person they pretended to be in the beginning - you are on your way to recovery. Good luck
Absolutely! Accepting the truth about the narcissist's true nature is a crucial step towards healing and reclaiming your power.
I started to fall out of love with the narcissist a while ago...but this last little "cycle", this *last* little go around, I was hoovered, taken advantage of and discarded. So...Something inside me stopped caring. I just don't love him anymore. I feel nothing. I don't feel hurt, I don't want to reach out, or hold him accountable. I just do not care anymore. This is sad in *concept* but I just...can't and don't want to care anymore. what a relief.
My ex was making me feel sad and broken. The abuse and insanity got worse over time and nearly killed me. I said to myself: what is there to love? He treats strangers better than me.
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As I kept going back and forwards with him o began to realise that nothing was going to change. When he was asleep or thought I wasn't looking o'd stare at him on an attempt to analyse who or what I was with. I was wishing that things were different but on reality knew they weren't. I'd look at him and try to decide what it was I loved or liked about him, keeping in mind all the cruel and abusive things he'd done to me and wanting to be true to myself I saw nothing good. The only thing good in that room was me. At that point I started to see him and our association for what it was, and I didn't want to be like this for the next 20yrs. I wanted to feel life. Feel relaxed and not on edge. Educating myself on Narcissm with the help of these videos helped me to gain confidence and courage to leave without Reactive abuse, thus giving myself a better chance to be a better person for me before my time on this earth is done. I left. 🍒
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Well said. ❤️
When u educate yourself and realize just how sick these people really are it's a real wake up call. It is shattering that everything was a complete lie not one word was true. U become reactive agressive and learn this is how they get their supply. All this is an awakening that u need to leave them go NC and never allow them back in ur life. Build a new life for yourself do positive things for ur self practice self love.
I think it depends on how narcissistic and toxic the person was. They are still people, and some of it might have been true in the beginning or early years. They do have a disorder though and they aren't capable of healthy coping mechanisms or going the distance.
@@saintejeannedarc9460 sounds like you are making excuses for your narc. One day you will have your fill of the batshit craziness and walk away.
He actually told me I treat you well. I think he believed that was true. When we think no way is anything you're doing good.
Hi there I would like to invite you to be a part of this workshop- Use the right tools and discover how to break free from toxic relationships and empower your self by gaining clarity, certainty and confidence here www.rawmotivations.com/meditationmastery
Once you see behind the mask you cant unsee it. It took me a while but now theres literally nothing left now that i have seen the truth, it seems like i just don't have any motivation to continue the relationship.
Hi there, have you thought about the next steps you should take in your healing journey? I would like to invite you to be a part of this free masterclass discover how to break free from toxic relationships and empower your self by gaining clarity, certainty and confidence here www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass..
This explains why my ex got so angry at me when I told him he never loved me cause he was abusive and a cheater. He was more fixated on being validated as “ a good man” than he was in actually owning and correcting his f*cked up behavior
Mine was all about his public image too… and god help me if I “embarrassed” him in public. 🤦♀️
Yup. You called him out and unfortunately I'm pregnant by a Man with that personality only cares about being validated.
Look at actions not words
Standards for yourself
Protect yourself
Be ok to be solo by yourself
Don’t react, just walk away
Protect your peace
Protect yourself
This Is Exactly What Has Happened To me
And I am Finally Free!!
I Did The Work While Still In The Abuse And Deception So It Was An Excellent Weaning Time
I am Beginning To Have Spits Of Anger But I Quickly ReMind myself It Was All Training
And I Turn To Messiah And Peace Comes Immediately
I am Very Excited About What Will Come Of This Victory Over One Of Hells Best Weapons To Destroy Souls
Thank you Ben For your Work Here On yt For The Last Steps Out
No More Delusion
Wooooo HOOOO!!!
🦅🔥🌹
Prequalification: when a person makes a statement about their character before it has been questioned
thank you for this explanation
Thank you Ben,
I know there’s a lot going on inside my head. I do need to move forward. I don’t know what to make of it. I couldn’t even start to explain to you. Well the video hit really deep and thank you. Stay healthy and safe inside your body 😉🤙🏼
I knew something was wrong as soon as I ate the Wedding Cake…
W/ me it got really bad as soon as we bought the house. Married or commonlaw, that's when they often show you who they are fully.
😮💨 That’s deep
mine refused sex on our wedding night. anyone else on this site get that treatment too? i should have annulled it the next day! but then i wouldn't have my 3 beautiful kids.... oh well. i'm free now, so blessed for that!
This is excellent, thank you Ben!
Your support is truly appreciated, thank you!
um-huh!! they got skillz...UNTIL...you realize it's allll deception!!!!
Ben this popped up on facebook so looked oon you tube... love this video!! Keep going, you're saving people the more videos you do and greater insight! I broke free and now have a lovely caring, nice partner. I went through hell and mental torture. Thank you for doing this, telling the truth and standing by the people who you used to harm. There is light but probably one in a million and no one should hope they should go no contact and focus on them and move on if there is no REAL not lying change. Its a biggy the lies to change stay no contact t till proof!! And 99 percent of the time there no hope I'm guessing xx
You deserve to be treated with kindness, respect, and love. Don't let anyone else's harmful actions or words define your worth or impact your well-being.
i heard i’m a good person a million times if your a good person you don’t have to say it
I quickly noticed when on dating sites in the past, the ones will tell you in their profile what a nice guy they are, or who actually put some version of "nice guy" in their profile name, watch out. I never ended up going out w/ any of them, but just in corresponding, or a possible first date, time and again, it's just a red flag.
agree 100%! i lost count on how many times my ex said to my kids: "who's the BEST daddy?" (and expected/demanded their reply "YOU ARE!") i wanted to vomit every time. who is "normal" and says crap like this to their kids?
I remember my husband "asked" me a question multiple times after conflicts. " You know I'm a good person right", I used to answer " of course you are". But one day, I just realised I never really know who this man is, So I answered:" actually, I don't know". I could see his facial expression, was in a total shock, and for the first time, he was silenced.
Yep, whenever asked for help I throw it back in their face. If needed ; I add not sure you can do it!
Lol re: help, mine would stand there & watch me struggle with something & when I was done with the hard part & nearly finished they'd ask if I needed help. F that garbage!🤣🤣🤣
I have the textbook narcissistic relationship. 8 and a half years of pure Bullshit. We are One day before the new year and I'm starting off this NEW YEAR by making it a New Year entirely by getting the F*CK OUT of this F*CKED UP RELATIONSHIP. I've become someone I don't even recognize. I don't like myself,,,I don't like my Life,, I'm Done. Literally EVERYTHING that describes someone like this is what describes what I've been through.
During the triangulation he told me once I confronted the situation yes I want to be with her!! Now you see this is all fake (him&I) !! That broke me into pieces! Exactly what he wanted!
Great video, Ben!
Looking forward to this one!
9:10 I literally ran away from my phone as it was playing because I couldn't handle it then when I came back this is what I heard. Yes, I really want to run from the truth it hurts so bad 😭
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@@RawMotivations I'm glad you replied because I can't figure out the app and the website. I've tried for a couple days. I am middle-aged and I feel now tech disabled. Downloaded the app and it said go to the website. What do I do when I get to the website? Thank you
@@Schquirl all access to the app goes through signing up on the website. www.rawmotivations.com/narcapp
We had to modify that to increase security and safety so we could limit if there are toxic people trying to get in.
This is soooo good.
Theres nothing he can do im done
Why isn't there a law against these people.
When you are lied to and conned out of years of your life.
It was fraud they married you under false pretence.
It should be a criminal offence in law.
This sounds like an overt . Coverts don't do that unless they're going behind ones back and laying ground for destroying a decent person
This is really too much..no one signs up for it...
This made me realise he was a narcissist. This is exactly what happened to a T
Thank you for sharing your story! Can you direct me to your videos on triangulation? This was used a lot. Thank you.
What up Ben
Lies,.. oh Yeah
A Woman mine Went On A Date With Told me he Told her he Had Been Single For THREE YEARS!!
Haha!
Married But Single In their Head😂
Ok
Single they Are!!
omg that's hilarious. i also caught wind of lies my ex had told others. he started rumors about our "divorce" way before i even decided to divorce him, just to "see what other people would say and do" and "when it would get back to him."
i too learned things from my ex's lovers once they left him: he told one of his mistresses that i was "cold" and never wanted sex, (while in truth, it was always him rejecting me, probably after a day in the sack with her!) among other things. i'm astonished how "cookbook" and predictable all their manipulations are, once you have learned/studied them. i hope all us narc-survivors find truthful reliable wonderful people who can admit to their mistakes and work on growth together.
I'm starting to hate this B as much as he hate me the more clarity I get
Oh yes
Omg 😂 thats crazy
Are you still a narcissist? You've mentioned being "self-aware" but I don't think that means much. Have you asked Jesus to save you from your sins and asked His forgiveness? Then repented of narcissism, amongst other sins? Without getting saved......there is NO other way to be delivered from narcissism or any other sinful habit.
There's a massive difference between resisting sin, and actually not wanting to sin because it hurts God and separates you from Him. Trying to stop a sinful habit by the power of the flesh, will fail. So where are you with what's being asked of you here?
Maybe Ben's a Buddhist... or Jewish. Maybe you should just leave your religion out of it... making assumptions that everyone believes what you believe & talking down to them is kinda rude imho.🙄
@@mr.cardinal9182 Sin can only be eradicated by Christ. Preaching Jesus will always offend people. In this case it offended you. Come to Jesus as well. He waits for all who will come to Him. Time however does not last forever as we know. Hence time is of the essence.
Also....my question if he's still a narcissist, is a genuine question. Not talking down to. My "tone" may not seem nice but the question still remains.
@@livelife5890 who said I was offended? Nobody. Also you didn't specify who all your questions & comments were directed to, so essentially you were talking down to everyone here.
@@livelife5890 lol my Jesus is very different than yours 😉
@@mr.cardinal9182
We Have The Freedom To Share our Faith With A Man who Has Been Caught In A Demonic Web That Our Messiah Can Fully Deliver SomeOne From
You Are Out Of Line And Obviously Threatened By Yahshua
That Is your Problem
Stop Bullying Others
I love your content, but I want to give you unsolicited advice but very well-meaning. Please fix the holes on the wall or put a nice poster covering them.... I find them unappealing and distracting
lol. I catch myself trying to scrape what looks like 2 dark spots off of my phone screen with each video 🤦♀️ Only to remember…oh, it’s his wall, not my phone 😂