I’m not a parent, but this is really sound advice coming from an obviously very wise woman! Always appreciating your realistic and relatable takes, Nat ❤
@@natnonsenseasmryou’re very in tune with yourself and that’s going to translate into every aspect of your life. Also, nice life hack on getting the kids to wake up later. Nothing like a little cleaning!
As a mom of 3 teenage daughter’s every single thing you said was 100% spot on!! The relationships I have with my daughters are far better than I had with my parents! One of the big ones you mentioned about not taking thing’s personally, it took me some time to learn that but once it clicked it changed my perspective greatly!
This is the first time I’ve ever commented on a TH-cam video in the years and years I’ve been watching them, but I felt so compelled. I am a licensed marriage and family therapist parenting advice spot on.!!!! there was not a single thing I disagree with! 39:15
I loved this Nat! Such great advice! The whole babies/toddlers being little only for a bit is so true, they just want a hug, everything else can wait 🤍
This made me cry and the reminder I needed that I’m not a bad mom ❤️ I do all these things with my kids and I also have really bad days most days because I’m recovering from trauma outside of parenting. I’ve clinged onto a habit of picking up my phone because I’m overwhelmed and I know I should put it down and shut it off but it’s hard. I do my best to work on it. I apologize to my kids, I let them know I’m learning WITH them and that im getting better. I try not to say “no” if it’s a reasonable ask, and I explain what’s going on at all times. I needed all of this, thank you for being my 2nd mom ❤
Awww you are doing great!! We will have bad days but as long as we keep going in the right direction and keep learning then we should release the guilt !
Im going into adult hood now and im deconstructing how i was taught to speak and think. These type of videos really help me look at my parents behaviour and then check on myself if that’s why sometimes i act the way i act. Thank you so much for this vídeo. I woukd love to hear more about these topics from you. You are very wise !!
Thank you!! It’s definitely a process and even my kids are having to detox from my own mistakes and they’ll go on to make their own but we just keep learning and getting better 🥰
4 mins in and I'm crying because my oldest is turning 11 next month and my baby will be one and it's going too fast 😭🤣 you are my fave channel ATM by the way, getting me through the sleepless nights and helping me to relax. Thankyou!
Always such sage advice! My 14 y/o grand is really struggling with behaviors that I swear stem from her phone addiction and it is an ADDICTION! Fortunately, her grades have not been affected, but she lives in a world of isolation unless her parents intervene. Her school allows phones, so it is a constant. Hate it for this young generation who will most likely be socially inept. Love you Nat!
It’s hard to watch and even harder not to step in but we walk such a fine line with what we can even say or do :( and whyyyyy did schools start allowing phones in class? Then they wonder why kids are not learning the basics, -knowing how to interact or communicate in real life? I’m growing more and more concerned. Love ya Eda!!
That’s very good advice! What’s crazy is that as a kid I really felt like my parents had raised me well, that I received a good education, etc. and that I was going to do the same with my kids. But it’s when I became a mom myself that I realized how many things were not ok in my upbringing, and it was kind of the epiphany I needed to finally understand why I am the way I am. Unless you’ve been actually abused, I feel that a lot of us need to become parents to really see through a whole new lense what our parents did that was not ok. I love how you mentioned you have to show interest in what they love, my mother didn’t care one second that I was interested in some of the things I was interested in, and she would say it out loud and that’s typically one of the things I grew up thinking it was ok when it really wasn’t and it hurt me more than I would realize at the time. The one thing I really don’t want to do to my kids but is hard resisting when it’s all you knew, is telling them they annoy me or that they’re a pain in my behind, I heard that more times than I can count while growing up and even though I understand now that as a parent sometimes you find your kids extremely annoying, they trigger you for some reason but a kid should never hear from you that they’re kind of a burden to you, because again it really hurt me more than I realized before being a mom and learning about childhood trauma, and I’m doing my best to avoid reproducing it, but it’s so hard at times when it’s so ingrained 😩 As for the budgeting part, I agree 1000%!! My family didn’t struggle with finances but my parents always wanted my sister and I to have an idea of budgeting, and my husband and his two brothers were raised in a poor household and their mom never tried to hide from them that they didn’t have a lot of resources, and they grew up to be the three most financially responsible adults I’ve even met, I always tell myself I’m lucky that my husband is so great at dealing with finances because even though I’m not so bad, you can definitely see I grew up having almost all I wanted 😅 I’ve told you many times already, but I’m going to say it again, your kids are lucky to have you as their mom! ❤️
Thank you so much Camille!!! I was thinking about the “annoyed” feeling and really when I’m feeling annoyed I’m actually feeling overstimulated or exhausted so it’s really a matter of using words and communicating “mom feels really overwhelmed and Needs a few minutes” 😂😂 can really make a difference. Which is what I’m currently struggling with - since Cruz is essentially an “only child” with his siblings being so much older he’s looking to me to be his 24/7 playmate so I’m definitely searching for phrases that don’t hurt his feelings but also encourage him to do independent play or to give moms body a little space. As you know “playing” is not my strong suit 😂😂
@@natnonsenseasmr You’re giving a great idea when you say it’s just about the choice of words, sometimes I forget I can do that, I want to say « you’re annoying » but I know I cannot say that so I end up not saying anything which doesn’t really help me, it’s true that I could tell them I need some space or something similar 😅 Same, playing is neither my strong suit nor my cup of tea and when their dad is not there they’re expecting me to replace him by playing with them. My husband needs to leave for two weeks to go to Japan for professional reasons and I already have so much anxiety when I think of how I’m gonna keep them entertained 🥲
New subscriber here from the Uk ….. I’m slowly going through your videos …. I just love your content ! This particular video is so very true ! I have a 27 year old son who is hard working and a nice bloke. My partner had three kids, 25, 21 and 17 …. None of them work and the ex wife spoiled them all and so much of your advice I wish they had listened to! Please can I also ask what patriot is that you mention at the start of your videos …. Glad I found you xxx
Hello!! Welcome 🙏 and thank you! The Patreon link is in the description box it’s just extra content that doesn’t go to TH-cam ;) Parenting sure is the hardest job ever but if you mess it up royally they’ll be stuck as adult adolescence forever!
I don’t have anything nice to say I have everything nice to say yah content is awesome I’m in love with your gum chewing your offset of whispering and low talking is great I do all that with my child and she is grown now I love her to death she is my only one my heart I kiss her and hug her now as much as I can even when she’s like mom I’m like what I just love u and still she her as my little big grown baby ❤ much success to your channel ❤
You hear people say “I can’t believe you have adult children” but omg you seriously can’t have adult children. I’m a 34 yo child without children lol and you look younger than I do
You’re a fantastic mom, clearly. Sincere kudos to you, lady! ❤
Awww thank you!! 🙏 I’ve messed up plenty but I’m trying!
I’m not a parent, but this is really sound advice coming from an obviously very wise woman! Always appreciating your realistic and relatable takes, Nat ❤
Thank you very much!! I’m still learning but I’ve also come a long way 🥰🥰🥰
@@natnonsenseasmryou’re very in tune with yourself and that’s going to translate into every aspect of your life. Also, nice life hack on getting the kids to wake up later. Nothing like a little cleaning!
As a mom of 3 teenage daughter’s every single thing you said was 100% spot on!! The relationships I have with my daughters are far better than I had with my parents! One of the big ones you mentioned about not taking thing’s personally, it took me some time to learn that but once it clicked it changed my perspective greatly!
You feel me!!! Not taking it personally and carrying on with your day really is the best way to operate 🥰 one day at a time 🩷
ur literally my new fav asmrtist
Thank you so much Jadyn!!! ☺️😊☺️😊☺️
This is the first time I’ve ever commented on a TH-cam video in the years and years I’ve been watching them, but I felt so compelled. I am a licensed marriage and family therapist parenting advice spot on.!!!! there was not a single thing I disagree with! 39:15
❤️❤️ thank you!! Years and years lots of lessons learned… most the hard way lol
You are a very wise woman. I love listening to you, every day I do that! ❤
Thank you so much!!
This is great Nat! Your gum chewing is super tingly and you gave great parenting advice!
☺️😊☺️☺️ thank you I’m glad you liked it ☺️😊☺️😇
All of this really is great advice! And you are so entertaining with your delivery 😊
🩵🤍🩵 thank you !!
Wow I felt so much emotion watching this video. Thank you for sharing the shit that sucks with grace. Beautiful video ❤
It was a lil emotional making it too 😝 but I think it’s important to share some of the good the bad sad and the hilarious 😆 thank you!!
Loved this one Nat! I don't have any kids but I was like yessss weirdly taking notes 😂
😂😂😂 well some of it could apply to like neighborhood kids or kids out in the wild 😂😂😂 Thank you Mauve!!
I loved this Nat! Such great advice! The whole babies/toddlers being little only for a bit is so true, they just want a hug, everything else can wait 🤍
Absolutely!! Savor those squishies!!! Thank you 🙏
😊 can listen to you for hours!
Thank you 🙏
This made me cry and the reminder I needed that I’m not a bad mom ❤️ I do all these things with my kids and I also have really bad days most days because I’m recovering from trauma outside of parenting. I’ve clinged onto a habit of picking up my phone because I’m overwhelmed and I know I should put it down and shut it off but it’s hard. I do my best to work on it. I apologize to my kids, I let them know I’m learning WITH them and that im getting better. I try not to say “no” if it’s a reasonable ask, and I explain what’s going on at all times. I needed all of this, thank you for being my 2nd mom ❤
Awww you are doing great!! We will have bad days but as long as we keep going in the right direction and keep learning then we should release the guilt !
I loved this. This was incredible !
🥰🥰 Thank you! Straight from this old momma heart lol
Aside from being another great ASMR video, this is some of the best parenting advice anyone ever gave me. Thanks ❤
🥰🥰🥰🥰 thank you and I’m glad you liked it!!
I love ur gum chewing videos so relaxing n gives me the tingles
Thank you so much Mike!!!
These are the best videos on the Internet
Ayeee! Thank you TY!!!!
Im going into adult hood now and im deconstructing how i was taught to speak and think. These type of videos really help me look at my parents behaviour and then check on myself if that’s why sometimes i act the way i act. Thank you so much for this vídeo. I woukd love to hear more about these topics from you. You are very wise !!
Thank you!! It’s definitely a process and even my kids are having to detox from my own mistakes and they’ll go on to make their own but we just keep learning and getting better 🥰
You’re a gem out here and that fiancé is a lucky man.
Thank you very much!!
Love your advice!!! Wish more moms and dads would do "lessons learned" vlogs!!!
😊😊😊 thank you! Same really wish there were more especially throughout the rough years!
4 mins in and I'm crying because my oldest is turning 11 next month and my baby will be one and it's going too fast 😭🤣 you are my fave channel ATM by the way, getting me through the sleepless nights and helping me to relax. Thankyou!
It’s ok to cry totally valid!!! Ugh I wish it would slow down but cherish it while you can!!
Always such sage advice! My 14 y/o grand is really struggling with behaviors that I swear stem from her phone addiction and it is an ADDICTION! Fortunately, her grades have not been affected, but she lives in a world of isolation unless her parents intervene. Her school allows phones, so it is a constant. Hate it for this young generation who will most likely be socially inept. Love you Nat!
It’s hard to watch and even harder not to step in but we walk such a fine line with what we can even say or do :( and whyyyyy did schools start allowing phones in class? Then they wonder why kids are not learning the basics, -knowing how to interact or communicate in real life? I’m growing more and more concerned. Love ya Eda!!
As a teenager I whole heartedly agree with this comment about my generation haha
That’s very good advice!
What’s crazy is that as a kid I really felt like my parents had raised me well, that I received a good education, etc. and that I was going to do the same with my kids. But it’s when I became a mom myself that I realized how many things were not ok in my upbringing, and it was kind of the epiphany I needed to finally understand why I am the way I am. Unless you’ve been actually abused, I feel that a lot of us need to become parents to really see through a whole new lense what our parents did that was not ok.
I love how you mentioned you have to show interest in what they love, my mother didn’t care one second that I was interested in some of the things I was interested in, and she would say it out loud and that’s typically one of the things I grew up thinking it was ok when it really wasn’t and it hurt me more than I would realize at the time.
The one thing I really don’t want to do to my kids but is hard resisting when it’s all you knew, is telling them they annoy me or that they’re a pain in my behind, I heard that more times than I can count while growing up and even though I understand now that as a parent sometimes you find your kids extremely annoying, they trigger you for some reason but a kid should never hear from you that they’re kind of a burden to you, because again it really hurt me more than I realized before being a mom and learning about childhood trauma, and I’m doing my best to avoid reproducing it, but it’s so hard at times when it’s so ingrained 😩
As for the budgeting part, I agree 1000%!!
My family didn’t struggle with finances but my parents always wanted my sister and I to have an idea of budgeting, and my husband and his two brothers were raised in a poor household and their mom never tried to hide from them that they didn’t have a lot of resources, and they grew up to be the three most financially responsible adults I’ve even met, I always tell myself I’m lucky that my husband is so great at dealing with finances because even though I’m not so bad, you can definitely see I grew up having almost all I wanted 😅
I’ve told you many times already, but I’m going to say it again, your kids are lucky to have you as their mom! ❤️
Thank you so much Camille!!! I was thinking about the “annoyed” feeling and really when I’m feeling annoyed I’m actually feeling overstimulated or exhausted so it’s really a matter of using words and communicating “mom feels really overwhelmed and Needs a few minutes” 😂😂 can really make a difference. Which is what I’m currently struggling with - since Cruz is essentially an “only child” with his siblings being so much older he’s looking to me to be his 24/7 playmate so I’m definitely searching for phrases that don’t hurt his feelings but also encourage him to do independent play or to give moms body a little space. As you know “playing” is not my strong suit 😂😂
@@natnonsenseasmr You’re giving a great idea when you say it’s just about the choice of words, sometimes I forget I can do that, I want to say « you’re annoying » but I know I cannot say that so I end up not saying anything which doesn’t really help me, it’s true that I could tell them I need some space or something similar 😅
Same, playing is neither my strong suit nor my cup of tea and when their dad is not there they’re expecting me to replace him by playing with them. My husband needs to leave for two weeks to go to Japan for professional reasons and I already have so much anxiety when I think of how I’m gonna keep them entertained 🥲
Happy Wednesday nat. Very nice video for parents
Thanks so much Sourav!!!
Mom if 4 & you are spot on!!! New sub love your content ❤
Ya feel me!!! Warm welcome 🙏
Great stuff as always❤😊
Thank you bet much!!
Very lol
Happy Tuesday Nat ❤
Happy Tuesday to you!!!
Great advice and video 🥰I’m due with my first baby in March so this is extremely helpful!
Aww such a precious time! Get your rest now and only take on what you can handle 🩷
Hello dear! I would spend hours listening to you, your voice is so sweet and relaxing 🥰🫶
Hello!!! And thank you very much Stefano!!!
Thank you Nat! I know you made this for me. 🤣
You know it!!! 🥰🥰😂 it’s hard out here but we’re gonna make it!
I’ve got a 17 year old and 4 year old. Yes to all these!!!!! 🎯 parenting is rough, hang in there moms and dads 😅
It really is even if it’s not talked about much we’re in this together! 🩷🩷
Good morning! Happy Tuesday! Hope everything is going well ❤❤❤
Happy Tuesday to you!!!
New subscriber here from the Uk ….. I’m slowly going through your videos …. I just love your content ! This particular video is so very true ! I have a 27 year old son who is hard working and a nice bloke. My partner had three kids, 25, 21 and 17 …. None of them work and the ex wife spoiled them all and so much of your advice I wish they had listened to! Please can I also ask what patriot is that you mention at the start of your videos …. Glad I found you xxx
Hello!! Welcome 🙏 and thank you! The Patreon link is in the description box it’s just extra content that doesn’t go to TH-cam ;)
Parenting sure is the hardest job ever but if you mess it up royally they’ll be stuck as adult adolescence forever!
im dealing with my only 2yo boy, i needed these tips
Oh mannn hang in there ! Lucky they are adorable cuz oooh wheee they are a handful
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I don’t have anything nice to say I have everything nice to say yah content is awesome I’m in love with your gum chewing your offset of whispering and low talking is great I do all that with my child and she is grown now I love her to death she is my only one my heart I kiss her and hug her now as much as I can even when she’s like mom I’m like what I just love u and still she her as my little big grown baby ❤ much success to your channel ❤
Awwww thank you 🙏 and you get all those c snuggles in they’re a blessing and so comforting !!
Ever thought of writing a book? You are brilliant! Xx
OMG thank you!! I have thought about it but idk if my writing skills are very good 😬😬
@natnonsenseasmr
I am sure they are. You've just got IT. Go for it. I, like so many others will buy your book xx
Very nice
Thank you very much!!!
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Me with no children and no plans of having any for the foreseeable future: 📝🧐
lol!!! For the kids you may just encounter 😂😂
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You’re beautiful
Thank you!!
You hear people say “I can’t believe you have adult children” but omg you seriously can’t have adult children. I’m a 34 yo child without children lol and you look younger than I do
Awww thank you!!! 🙏 ☺️