People Write A Letter To Their Cheating Ex | Filipino | Rec•Create
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ม.ค. 2025
- We asked people to write a letter to their ex who cheated on them.
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The pain, the traumas, the self blaming is the worst part when you experienced cheating. Been there, and until now it haunts me.
are you move on na?
@@joemarwisco4470 85% haha. Recovering from traumas nalang talaga, sa person wala na ☺️
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This!
Same here I feel like everything is only good at first. Everyone will cheat on you eventually.
Imagine, some of these people had this experience years ago, yet still the pain it left behind is still there. It's hard to look at their faces it's almost as if you can see the pain in their eyes
I can definitely attest to that. It’s like a wound that heals but leaves a scar.
Man I was cheated on in 2016 and I STILL think about it. Turned my whole world upside down for a while.
I’ve been cheated on, and one thing I can relate with all these people is that when they talk about their story, all their voices are shaking, from trauma and holding back tears. Same thing happens when I talk about it.
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"di lang third party, party party ata yon eh"
damnnnnnnn
Make some noice dugsdugs. 😁
HAHAHAHAHA BWISEEET
HAHAHAHHAHAHAA HOYYYYYY
Sino kaya yung ex niya?
I'm still puzzled how these people, who seems very nice and lovable, wasn't chosen. Keep on moving guys. You know within yourselves that you deserve better.
This is what really scares me before I enter my first official relationship. I know for sure that there's always something I lack, there are things I can't afford, there's always someone better on things I'm good at. I know I shouldn't always think that negatively but hearing their stories made those "what ifs" linger even more.
The thing about love is that there's always a risk of pain. That's why don't rush getting into a relationship, get to know the person to their core. And as always, love yourself more. Once you know how you should be loved, it'll be easier for you to notice when your partner is crossing a line. Love yourself more since you will hold on to that love to pick yourself up when you do get hurt.
@@imajinbooeh thanks, i better keep that in mind
You're over thinking
you just have to find the right person
Someday, you’ll understand why it happened. But the trauma, fear, anxiety and self doubt will always be there. I sometimes wonder how can these people be so happy in life knowing they’ve hurt someone who loves them so much.
:((
exactly, i still can’t fathom how these people can easily find happiness while the person they cheated on still carries the trauma and burden even after so many years. Like you don’t even have feelings for that person anymore but the pain will always be there.
Bakit sila ung mas nagiging masaya at tayo ung luging-lugi na parang wala nang pag asa :(
Because ur attached to the person. Love vs attachment is different thing
I just want to share this line I saw on FB. It's for us who got cheated on. 🙂
"EVERY TIME YOU REMEMBER, FORGIVE AGAIN."
"Lugi ako dun, may kotse yun eh."
I feel you brother.
same.
💔🥺
Di kaluge, baka kotse lang meron sha pero walang itsura
@@rvinonacs9752 lugi ka pa din, aanhin mo din ang itsura? Pera ang isa sa mga importante na bagay dito sa mundo. Kaya minsan may mga boys na insecured ksi ganon nga
@@rvinonacs9752 makakabili ba ng bigas at mga daily needs ang itsura? isip isip rin pag may time.
The aftermath of cheating is so traumatizing. Been cheated on for long years and still the trauma is here.
my ex cheated on me too last January and it still feels like yesterday. cheers to us who are healing from this kind of trauma.
same💔
Same. Tanginang taon to, oo
same... mga mare pare di sila worth. ok????
It’s already been 4 years since I got cheated on and this video brought back some of those painful memories.
Had an ex who I’ve been with for almost 5 years, talked about settling down and building a future together. The break up was abrupt, like no arguments at all. He said he’s not happy with me and doesn’t see a future with me anymore. I asked him if there’s another woman and he can be honest with me but he denied it. Then eventually everything unfolded on its own. When we got the chance to sit down and talk about everything to formally end things, it felt like I was talking to a stranger. He insulted me, tried to put down my self confidence and told me that I’m not going to achieve anything because I am dependent on him. I told him that whatever he’s saying that moment against he would regret it in the future. On that same day, he started posting photos with the new girl (who I actually also considered as a friend before). He was actually already going behind my back and I didn’t see the signs because I trusted him. What’s worst is we all both work in the same hospital so we get to see each other all the time. I had to endure seeing this cheater be proud of what he did to me. But I never confronted them.
Instead, I worked my ass off. I took care of myself and focused on my career. Stayed single for 4 years after that so I can achieve all my goals.
Fast forward, I’m already abroad working on my dream job, providing well for my family and in a healthy relationship with a guy who actually cares for me and loves me. I had trauma from that experience and sometimes, healthy things in the relationship triggers my anxiety but I’m with a person who’s understanding and very supportive. I had a lot of baggages (trust and self esteem issues) and sometimes I project it on him but he never gets tired of reassuring me that I am enough. I finally found the person for me and can’t wait to marry him in the future.
For someone who’s been cheated on and is able to see this post, IT WILL GET BETTER. It will be hard, you’ll have your bad days but it will all be worth it.
I'm truly happy for you. After all that you had to endure, you deserve to be happy.
@@joshuagabutan5265 thank you! Aside from that breakup, I also had to go through other stuff like my house burning down and an immediate family member getting hospitalised so I considered it as the darkest time of my life. It was hard with all that stuff going on but I had no other way to go but up. I’m just glad I’m finally living the best days of my life so far. 😊
Thank you for sharing your story 🥺. I too got cheated on and it has been 3 years ago yet the wounds still feel fresh. I thought I'll never get over it. I hope one day, just like you, I can get into a healthy relationship and environment too 🥺.
I’ve had a similar experience. But for me it was 8 years. I find your comment helpful, and it made me hopeful. Sobrang loss of purpose lang talaga ngayon.
Thank you so much for sharing . you inspire me to hope again
This video taught us that the trust and loyalty of a person is very important even who you are. The traumas and pain will fade but the scar of memories that you made from someone will never disappear.
Even after years, you can still see the pain and trauma in their eyes.
"Kahit alam mo na yung mali, nahuli mo na, parang niloloko mo nalang yung sarili mo, kasi mahal mo nga" still hits me. What most hurts is that she doesn't care about what she did to me. No apology at all, and she just go with the flow.
Iniimagine ko palang masakit na
To those people who do stuff like this i.e cheating, I hope you would understand how much of a trauma this causes to your partner. Praying for those people who got cheated on to heal and obtain well deserved happiness.
I experienced being cheated on and words have failed me to express how painful it was to be betrayed. It was a long-distance relationship with a soon-to-be lawyer. I was his ultimate supporter before, during, and after his bar exam while he was studying and reviewing here in Manila. I even provided him shelter so we can stay together. After the exam, he returned home and I joined him so I can meet his family and friends.
I thought that was the sign that I finally found the right person for me. I spent my early Christmas with him then returned home alone. When I arrived in Manila, our communication became sour and awkward to the point that talking or chatting with him was a toil.
He told me that he will go back to Manila on the last week of February. I was so excited so I prepared a surprise trip so I can spend some quality time with him. When he arrived, I brought him to an indoor waterpark. He was so distant and he did not want to share the same pool with me. He constantly moved around as if we were not a couple. He even jokingly flirted with the lifeguards but I was too oblivious to take those seriously. After our date, I was so confused when we separated quietly.
A month after, I met an acquaintance and he told me that he met someone from a dating app around the first week of February. He even showed me his chat history. I recognized the photo and later found out that it was my partner. He explained to me how he met that person and they were already chatting weeks before they decided to meet in person.
My partner introduced himself as a single guy and admitted that he was meeting other guys on that same app. He was in Manila the entire time and he made me believe that he just arrived late February.
I was so hurt to confront him so I decided to contact his friends whom I met when I visited their province. They validated my suspicions because they thought I was smart enough to realize that my partner was cheating. They said that they do not want to interfere with my relationship. I understood them but I also felt betrayed because they hid it from me.
I was preoccupied with my work so I quickly reassembled myself and refused to confront him because I know it was beyond pointless. I never spoke to him or with his friends. The results of the bar exam were released a month after. I guess there was a divine intervention. I was not able to find his name in the list. I will be a hypocrite if I did not think that that was his karma. His parents were furious and his mental health dwindled because of the family pressure. I called his friends again and they told me that his mother, who is also a lawyer and holds a higher position, was spiteful because he failed the bar exam. They mentioned that he was restricted to meet them (his LGBTQ friends) and he was reprimanded almost everyday about his failure. Also, his sexuality became a hot topic at home even though he already outed to his family.
I am a free person now and happily engaged with my better half. Never settle with the people who can drop your self-esteem like a wineglass. Invest your energy to someone who can reciprocate and value your love.
This video helped me to highly value and appreciate the word "loyalty". It's rare to meet someone who is loyal in our life ❤
thats the bare fucking minimum lol
yikes
You set the bars too low, kiddo. Don’t praise or put someone in pedestal just because he/she isn’t a cheater, when in fact not being able to cheat should be normal and not some kind of award. It’s like praising a living person for breathing.
faithful po :>
@@cryingcadbury6990 enabling to do what is right. Thanks
So sad to see how bitter getting cheated on can make you... Don't pick a cheater, and don't be a cheater.
“Don’t pick a cheater”
It is not something you can predict. It’s a feeling of betrayal..from the person you never thought they are capable of cheating.
That’s the hardest part.
I cannot help but commend these guys' bravery. This is a very sensitive and private issue yet they chose to share it to us. We appreciate you all. Thank you very much for sharing your experiences.
Don’t cheat guys, you don’t know the trauma that you will give to the person.
The worst part of having this experience is that we'd always be asking why but will never actually get the answer. Time helps but it never heals. Never.
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6:30 " Because you wouldn't be who you are today, if you didn't through those experiences " 👏
Hi, We heard their side and it just so sad to watch this kind of videos and realize how big the impact is when it comes to cheating. These people deserve better and you know I feel like it would be better as well to hear the cheater's side. (People who experience cheating on their partner)
"Yung lalaki nung that time medyo may kaya so ako yung insecurities ko parang... lugi ako dun may kotse yun eh".
Been there and natututunan ko ring women tend to date up talaga. Wala namang masama pero those exps inspired me na mag-improve financially.
If you’ve already been cheated on by an ex, pls don’t ever let it happen again on your next relationship. One thing I’ve learn from this is SELF WORTH. Respect yourself and never ever let another person do this to you, AGAIN.
I've been in a 3 long term relationships and all of them ended due to cheating.
1st - 4 years. Cheated on me with her ex.
2nd - 3 years. Cheated on me with her workmate.
3rd - Almost 4 years. Already proposed to her but she cheated on me with her friend.
I gave them all multiple chances. (Not once, not twice)
The worst part is I kept on asking myself what I have done wrong and blaming myself that maybe because I'm not good enough as a person.
Nakakapagod na pala talaga mag mahal kapag paulit ulit nalang yung reason kung bakit ka nasasaktan.
Kahit alam kong niloloko na ko, I was hoping at that time na magbabago yung taong mahal ko. But I guess, I was wrong.
To the person reading this, tara kape tayo?
Perhaps, you need to heal first and learn to love and value yourself.
😢
Wag kape bro, tara shot
😐❤️
Alam mo kung anu ung mali sayo? Ung tinanggap mo siya uli. Sana sa una palang kumalas ka na, kasi di siya ang tao para sayo.
at the back of your mind, you seem to always ask “pano mo nagagawang maging sweet din sakin and be with me when you have another person on your mind to spend your free time with?” grabe. all the hurt and trauma, its not easy to find yourself amidst all the chaos but the experience is a good eye opener and starting point to love yourself more.
the pain and trauma never left me. I had endured 7 years full of cheating and abuse. I will be forever grateful that I am still here with my daughter and now being loved unconditionally. I hope people who experience the same will be able to overcome it. God loves you ❤️
Dear Ex,
I won't ask you why you cheated, you must have your own reasons as to why and I respect that. I have hurt you in a lot of ways too, and I am sorry for the mistakes I've done. I have forgiven you, much as I have forgiven myself. I just want to say thank you for everything, the pain, the smile, the love and the memories --- all of it. For what it's worth, all I want is for you to be happy. I am happy for you, even if it's not with me. I am happy for myself too because I have found myself and my purpose. You will always have this special part of me, and I will be cheering for you even from afar ❤️
The thing is, sorry is not enough to heal us cause in the first place, they aren't sorry for what they did. They are apologizing because they got caught.
A hopeless sigh. The pain and grief they felt as they tell their stories and write their letters transcends over the screen. By the way, who's cutting onions?
It's been 2 years since I was cheated on but every now and then, there are still moments when I still remember the pain that I went through. Maiiyak na lang ako bigla. And I keep asking myself why I still cry after all these years (even though I'm happy naman na sa current relationship ko). I think it's because the trauma is so deep, it will always come back to haunt you. That's how bad it is and something I wish won't happen to me again or to anyone.
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If they managed to cheat the first time, chances are they’ll likely to do it again. End the relationship the first time you got cheated on because you’ll hate yourself for giving them multiple chances and trusting them over and over.
My 3 years relationship ended few days ago because I found out that there’s another girl. That wasn’t the first time but that was enough to wake me up. I couldn’t hate the new girl and my ex but I despise myself so much for letting him fuck me up like this.
The sad thing is, when somebody comes into your life and wants to give you all the love you deserve yet you don't know how to respond, because you've been hurt too much that even when you know how to give love, you don't know how to accept it...
Thank you for the reminder that pain is what makes us human. And it’s okay. To the people in the video I honor you for being brave and strong. ❤️
Still fresh, found out just 4 months ago--I thought I was with the kindest, humblest, and most loving person. After all, he was my best friend. But after reading those text messages, I was sick to my stomach. The confrontation was even worse-- he denied it, even attempted to gaslight. I was told I was just overreacting. In the end, I was broken up with through a measly text message. He even refused to answer my calls to properly talk about it. And even though I did get my bare minimum of a call (after a little convincing), I was just met with silence.
Watching this struck a chord. I thought I was doing fine already, yet I broke down immediately. They're so brave to put themselves out there and talk about their traumas with a cheating ex. To everyone who is struggling right now, I hope things truly get better for us.
Watching this brings back all the memories from my past. I feel you guys. I know we will overcome this trauma and pain.
cheating is a choice. leave the cheating partner asap kasi the longer you hold, the more damage you'll get. Save yourself before it's too late.
To anyone who has read Dante's Inferno. There is a reason why Betrayal/Treachery is at the very bottom of hell. Betrayal from the ones you love and trust the most undermines your faith in the good of others even if they are willing to put their lives on the line just to prove na talagang loyal sila. That is what betrayal does to other people. It hurts other people too
*4:02** TOTOO!!!* 😭🥺 sobrang hopeful and optimistic mo sa lahat ng bagay kasi mahal mo eh.
I lose all my confidence and now I have a very low self-esteem ever since I got cheated on 6 years ago. I always blamed myself for years til I realized that it wasn't my fault. To all the victims out there, it's not our fault. Hugs to everyone!
after watching this, I can finally say I am okay now. Sabi nga nila there are two people in life, those who will be there always and those who will give us lessons. Never beg for someone guys!
"Lugi ako don may kotse yon" this sentence is also the one holding me back to be in a new relationship. Its like a trauma na everytime you wanted to be in a relationship iniisip mo na di ko mabibigay ung mga bagay na yon. I mean its not like hindi mo kayang pagsumikapan pero parang embedded na sya sa utak mo once naexperience mo
I just wanna say to thosr people who've been cheated by their partner that keep going and i know its really hard to overcome those kind of heartbreaks but i know you can make it. After that you'll become stronger and smarter. There's alot of people who loves you and always there to be with you, so focus on them and to yourself. You are worth it and you deserve more! I love you!
When you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.
- Wanda Pierce
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My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant. I knew something was off months before but I trusted him so I shrugged it off until one day he wanted to go on vacation alone daw. “Breather” daw. A friend of mine saw him with other people then I did my investigation and everything followed. I found out everything. They’ve been communicating pala for more than a year. We’re still together. We are trying to make our marriage work but it’s not the same. I’m not the same. I can’t look at him the same way anymore. I’m leaving it all up to god whatever his plans for me would be. One thing is for sure. I now know how strong I am and that I am not scared to continue my life alone together with my children. 💙
“Why did you use me? Even when I told you that I was so tired.”
Super relate. I dated someone who knew that I have a history of being ghosted. We came into an agreement where I asked him na if he doesn’t want to push through, he could just tell me. But he still ghosted me, and that’s the heartbreaking part.
watching this again, after getting my heart broken by my first boyfriend who cheated on me, hits hard. Hugs to everyone. No one deserves to be cheated on.
- Pag mahal mo talaga yong tao, kahit nahuli mo na yong mali, alam mo na yong mali, parang niloloko mo mismo yong sarili mo. kahit alam mo sa sarili mo na hindi totoo.kasi "mahal mo nga eh!" - ... I'm really living with this at ang hirap. for almost 12 years nagtitiis ka kahit alam mong niloloko ka na niya dahil lang mahal mo siya. i wanna end up this pain. 😥💔
It’s nice to see these people thrive 😭❤️
It was the betrayal that hurts the most. You eventually question which part of it was true, or was that even the case in the first place. You feel lost, alone and defeated. And the worst part is that you blame yourself for it and question your worth. You would eventually get better, that's for sure. But the trauma? This video speaks for many
It's not hard to trust words.
it's that you're afraid of being betrayed, cheated on, be in pain, and found out that it was only you loving.
It's always fear that shatters trust.
But when you know the credibility in form of actions, trust grow.
You don't trust words unless you trust the credibility of a person.
It’s funny how some of us think of different person yet we feel the same pain within us🥺💔
Being betrayed and cheated on after trusting and all you give is pure intetions of love. 🥺
*hindi lang yata yon third party eh, party party yata yon eh* HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
I'm wondering sino yung tinutukoy nya hahaha
HAHAHAHAH natawa ako dunn pero same sabo daw sumikat kaya curious ako baka kilala ko o baka sikattt
Anong ex? Teenage mistake lang kita beh HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHA chariz
My ex cheated on me last year. Meron na siyang iba ngayon at masaya na siya. Pero ako eto, sobrang sakit pa rin.
Magiging okay din ang lahat bro ❤️
Embrace the pain bro and one day gigising ka nalang na wala na lahat ng pain na yakap yakap mo!!
Same bro
It happened years ago but I still don’t know the reason why I deserved to be cheated on. Happy na ako sa life ko, I have a very faithful, loyal, and loving husband, with a baby on the way pero pag naaalala ko all that happened, di padin mapigilan yung lungkot, yung sakit, yung pait. I know I have moved on from my cheating ex, and I know I am happy and contented in my life right now, pero yung trauma, yung scars, yung baggage from the experience, antagal mawala. Or, mawawala pa nga ba? So, sa mga may capacity matukso, natutukso na, or magpapatukso palang, isipin nyo muna maigi yang gagawin nyo. Di lang relasyon ang sisirain nyo, kundi yung isang buong tao mismo.
I got cheated too. I swear it really hurts like hell. 3 years has passed and I still have the panic attacks you gave me yet I'm okay and on the process of healing. It takes time to heal and it gives me more reason to love myself. But the pain and traumas you gave me will never be forgotten.
Never again, but take care.
This is when you'll know that the person truly loved you and still wants the best for you. Kudos to all of us who always give everything but left with nothing. We don't deserve to be cheated on. We deserve all the love in this world.
Sa mga niloko its not you it's them so don't blame yourselves ! There are thousands ways to share love hindi lang relationship! And they don't deserve na mag rent free dyan say utak at puso niyo,move on! Wag masyado e romantize yung being cheated na feelings,cos it will ruin your future! Be a boss and succeed..
You will never truly understand how it feels until you experience it yourself. You will look at things differently it's like having another lense when looking at people and situations. I have been naive back in the day. Experience of being cheated upon makes me more stronger but I feel hindi na ako ganon ka inosente katulad dati. Sana wala nang makaranas pa ng ganong pain.
dang, how easily trust can be lost and irreconcilable. this shit changes you fr
I wanted to go on record when I saw the casting call for this video but that would’ve just boosted my ex’s ego, since he’s one heck of a narcissist. Honestly, part of me wants to expose the truth cause I know he’s hurt a lot women, and I know he’s still doing it, and will continue to do so for the rest of his life. If there’s just one thing I wanna say to him now is this: thanks for making the stupid mistake of pretending you’re still single and trying to win me back. By trying to cheat on your current girlfriend with me, you’ve only proven you did cheat on me the whole time with your ex, and that I made the right decision to not give you another chance. Thanks for showing me that I am right in saying that you’re never gonna change, not for me, and it seems, not for anyone. I just hope that the poor girl finds out about everything you did to me, and everyone you’ve been with, before she gets stuck in a marriage with you. After all, she has a son to worry about. You really are the worst kind of man to walk into the lives of those single moms, as if they don’t have enough problems. I’m just glad that if I ever have kids, you will never be the father.
same
This video let me realized how ok I am after months of experiencing the pain when he left me. This is the first and onky time that I will share this. 8 yrs ago, back in college when we met. We are super happy, the type of relationship na kinaiinggitan ng mga kaibigan ko. And almost 7 yrs ago, you ask me to choose between you and my friends kase nagseselose ka and I choose them not because I don't love you but because ayaw ko na umikot ang mundo nating 2 sa isa't isa and pagsisishan ang lahat dahil we're still young. We graduated from college and my love for you didn't fade. I pursue you, i didn't stop until I get you back and promise myself to never give up again. You accepted me wholeheartedly. A year after, you became cold and ask me na itigil na natin to kase you can't multitask since mag review ka for board exam. At first di ko magets coz we are super ok, I'm not the super demanding type of girl na super clingy and always want na magstay beside you coz I'm working din at that time. I'm not even the type of girl na asking for all your time na dapat magkasama tayo lage. Instead of being an inspiration, i never thought na parang destruction pala ako. Di ko matanggap, I tried to talk to you, try to understand the everything and di ako nagkamali, saw your messenger and you're talking to someone, not just friendly talk but sexual talk and that really break me. But being the understandable gf I let go and still told myself to patiently wait for you na makapasa sa board and maging ganap na RRT kase nga maybe dahil sa pag let go ko sayo before kaya mo nagawa yun, yeah I blame myself. I waited for almost 6 months. And di naman ako umuwing luhaan. After mo mag exam, slowly bumalik communication natin and you even invited me sa fam gatherings nyo. Dahil marupok ako and matagal ko inintay yung moment na to, sumama ako. I thought everything is going ok na then you left your phone and I saw na you are talking to someone, again not just friendly talk but you both are planning to have sex. I confronted you and as usual you said na wala lang yun. Friend mo lang yun. Then board result came and yeah, ganap ka ng RRT. I'm happy na I'm one of the first person na tinawagan mo nung lumabas ang result. Naging super ok natin pinalagpas ko na naman lahat kase for me you are the best boyfriend even friends ko ikaw ang standard ng pagiging boyfriend ganun kame katiwala sayo. Akala ko ok na lahat. Then after 2 years (2019) nanlamig ka, out of nowhere you want break up. I don't really know the reason di ko gets kase ok naman tayo so di ako pumayag since I'm sticking to what I said na I will never give up on us again. Then naging ok ulit tayo after a week I felt something odd. I don't know girl's instinct siguro talaga. I followed you kung nasan ka without you knowing, trying to surprise you kase nga solo ka sabe mo, which is not normal talaga. When I got to your aunt's place, I didn't knock or tried to call you. I waited kase tulog ka nga sabe mo and yeah, di ka nagrereply. So hinayaan kita, i waited for almost an hour, then there you are nilabas mo car ng tita mo and as expected, I'm not wrong, you're with someone. Durog na durog akong naiwan nagtatago sa puno. I'm speechless, di ko alam gagawin ko, trying my best to calm myself. Wala ni isang patak ng luha ang lumabas sa mata ko, thinking of what should I do if i confront ko ba kayo or what. I waited again for another 30-45 mins and you came back still with her. So I tried to composed myself and confronted you. Normal reaction gulat na gulat ka, and I'm still trying to calm down, I ask you sinong kasama mo, giving you chance to tell me the truth and you said "ako lang" i ask you multiple times. Going inside the house I saw a not familiar shoes and ask you kanino yun, speechless ka lang and still ayaw mo umamin. Calming myself and told you na kanina ko pa sila pinapanuod from afar and ilabas na nya si girl. And there you go. Lumabas si girl. To cut the story short, I'm speechless, lahat ng nirehearse ko sa labas na dapat sabihin at gawin di ko nagawa and I end up breaking up with you and walk away. I expected na hahabulin mo ako pero wala, you let me go ALONE. Walang lumabas na kahit konting luha sa mata ko. I immediately contacted your friends trying to make sense of what happened kase alam ko na kapag friends ko minessage ko sakin sila kakampi and maging one sided sila and kahit friends mo nagulat sa nangyari. Fast forward, I'm still waiting for your explanation, i went back to work trying to forget everything, trying to go back to normal but I'm wrong, worst part I can't even eat, everytime I tried to put something in my mouth naiiyak lang ako and di ako makanguya and then I saw the worst part of me. Sobrang awang awa ako sa sarili ko dahil di ako makakain and wala ako ibang magawa kundi umiyak lang, literal na hagulgol and ayaw tumigil ng pagdaloy ng luha which I never experience in my entire life. Sobrang down ko nung time na yun. Pero dahil nga sabe ko na I will never give up on us. I messaged you na mag usap tayo, na I will still accept you despite sa nangyari just tell me everything. So we talked personally and for the last time I ask you what you want to do since I'm still willing to accept you. But you wish to just end everything. I understand and go. The worst thing ever happened to me. Sobrang down ko but I can't give up. I continue my life and luckily I have workmates na laging nagpapasaya sakin. I'm slowly moving forward. My birthday came, Christmas, new year. Still sad but I'm moving forward. Then nagparamdam ka bigla. Out of nowhere you messaged me asking about our dog. You used her para magcommunicate ulit sakin and me being marupok replied until eventually nagsorry ka and told me you wish to go back sa buhay ko after 5 months of no comms. And yeah, i accepted you wholeheartedly, no judgement of whatever happened. Moving forward, bumalik yung dating tayo. Yung masaya lang walang away or what. Then pandemic came and still super ok natin. I'm still paranoid but since I accepted you I keep everything to myself. I cried thinking what happened and what may happen. You let me feel secure, and since pandemic naging live in tayo sa bahay nyo. Sobrang ok lahat, you are planning of our future. We even start to invest to a lot for our future, you planning to build a separate room sa inyo for us and everything. 2020 might be the worst year for other but not ours, sobrang smooth ng relationship natin, sobrang bumabawi ka na. Past forward to oct 2021. Out of nowhere nakipagbreak ka na naman. I really don't understand kase as in sobrang ok tayo. Wala akong makitang rason bakit biglaan na naman ang desisyon mo. A week before i even ask you na itigil na natin, and I'm so happy kase ayaw mo and like what you're always saying, wala ng hiwalayang mangyayari. Kaya I really can't understand kung san ka nanggagaling. Wala namn tayong any away or what. I told you to think kase di ko talaga gets. Di kita ginambala and just told you to think kase whatever your decision is yun na ang final since ayaw ko din ipilit pa. That same day, you messaged me and telling me na iend natin to and me being tired of everything and all. I just accepted your decision, deep inside sobrang sakit. But this time, I told myself na di na ako babalik sa nangyari sakin before. Di ko na kakaawaan sarili ko kase I know I give my all and wala akong pagkukulang. Your reason is di ka na masaya. So If letting you go will make you happy then I'm more than willing to give that to you. I unfriended/unfollow everyone related to you, fam and friends. I don't want to, since your fam never showed me anything bad. Your fam treated me as a real fam member, but I need to do this for myself. And right now, watching this video 5 months from the time you left me, I can say na I'm ok. I'm happy I let you go not for you, but for myself. The best feeling since then, i felt the peace of mind I never felt while we are still together. Continuing my life with my 2 dogs and I'm super happy with whatever is happening in my life. I don't have any news about you and not planning to have one. I just wish you the best and I hope you're happy now, the happiness you're looking for back then. A bit of pain is still here but I can proudly say na I'm am healing. I just can't wait to wake up in the morning na wala na yung pain and all I have is genuine happiness that I deserve. Thank you for everything, especially the pain, the reason kung bakit I love myself now more than ever coz I deserve this love. Thank you again. Let's keep fighting. And to whoever you are na umabot sa part na to and nagtyaga ng worst narration ever, thank you. Kung may pinagdadaanan ka man same ng napagdaanan ko. Wag ka bibitaw. Just remember may reason lahat ng nangyayari. Enjoy life, do what makes you happy. 😊 Right time, right person, right love ❤️ this time, love yourself first ok. 🥰 SMILE
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Bat ganun, sana sa unang sign ng cheating, binitawan mo na siya kahit mahal mo pa, kasi clearly na hindi siya inlove sayo
@@loombandz6722 my gnun tlga ,i did the same before ...😂 kasi pg mabait ka tao ,you always think na my chance pa mgbgo ang isang tao at mga babae kasi saka na yan kumawala or tanggap na pngyayari pg nasa punto na "tama na ,ayoko na ,binigay ko na lahat peru kulang pa ,sarili ko na nmn mhalin ko "
Experience is the best teacher ,so for me no regrets yan ngpapalakas sa atin ,yung pain
"Alam mo yung pagka mahal mo pala yung tao, kahit parang nahuli mo na yung mali, alam mo na yung mali, parang niloloko mo yung sarili mo na "hindi, baka ano lang yun, totoo yung sinasabi niya" kahit alam mo sa sarili mo na hindi toto... Kasi mahal mo nga ih"
I feel u bai.
No matter how hurtful their experiences turned out to be, i always believe that everything happens for a reason. Not to be toxic and pessimistic but in all like likelihood, challenges in life are also privileges. Because of the heartbreaks, we learned more, we become stronger, and we cut off relationships that are not healthy for our well-being. Despite how hard a situation may be, we must always teach ourselves to see situations in a better perspective and talagang lumaban ka kang and i-enjoy lang natin yung every part ng buhay; that's what i am teaching myself now. To acknowledge my feelings of happiness, enjoyment, sadness, confusion, and trepidation is what we can courageously do simply because they are part of me, they are part of us.
I know di tayo pare parehas ng mindset. i was cheated twice. my 2nd ex (1 year kami) and 3rd ex (almost 3 years kami) yung 2nd, umamin, yung 3rd na huli ko. nalugkooot ako, oo. pero ano yung lagi kong iniisip para di masaktan? boost yourself! lagi mong tatandaan na may taong mas deserve ka. sa nakakabasa nito, dapat alam mo yung worth mo. you're worth it. I suggest na wag mo iparamdam sa soc. media acc. mo na malungkot ka, na wala na kayo, magpakasad, magpakaawa etc. in that way i think mas mararamdaman nila na di sila kawalan. sampal na sa kanila yung naging tahimik ka. wala mapupuntahan pagiging malungkot mo sa soc. media trust me. kausapin mo yung mga kaibigan mong tunay or kahit a sino na mapagkakatiwalaan mo na papakingan ka para malabas mo yung sakit. pero lagi mong tandaan, oo ikaw, WORTH IT KA!
Even though you know the truth, you pretend that you don't know anything cause you don't wanna lose that person, but in return, you just lose your own self feeling exhausted and at the same time in pain.
Im so sorry for everyone who experienced this. I myself experienced it too, I saw the pics on his phone and he said they were friends. I got pregnant and I had to fly back to states to give birth and around my 5th month he told me he wasn’t ready and there I knew he actually got someone else pregnant. It took me a while and I raised my child alone, with zero help from him, he also never apologized. Looking back yea indeed it was painful, I blamed myself until my daughter was 6 but now I realized that I was actually blessed that God spared me to be with him. Now me and my daughter are happy, we have a house l, soon our business. I am also with someone who loves me and my child a thousand times better than him!!!!! Rejections are Gods way of protecting you.
I really like this kind of contents, kasi marirealize mo at talagang malalaman mo kung ano ang kahalagahan ng loyalty. It kills the person inside but you can also learn and you can find your true self from what happen to you back then. Move on and acceptance ang labanan.
"My biggest regret is that I trusted you'
I felt that.
"Never again, but take care" Minsan parang ang sarap masaktan ng dahil sa pagibig parang mas nararamdaman mong tao ka
Congratulations! All of you really did well in keeping yourself with your traumatic experience. I, myself didn't experience being serious anybody else. So, for me, this would be a reminder that relationship ain't for anyone.
We're living together for almost 3 years. Sya ang priority ko for the most part of our relationship. Last year, I decided to go back to studying and that became my main priority before him. Reason nya for cheating, I've been lazy around the house and that I haven't been taking care of him like I used to. But after a series of heart to heart talks, I welcomed him back, sa bahay at sa buhay ko. These are all my unanswered questions, my insecurities, and my what ifs now. But I chose to just trust him again coz I love him that much. Hopefully, he proves himself to me once again.
Damn, because of this video, I remember the time when my ex cheated in full details. The time when I was fooling myself na pwede pa, na maaayos lang yun sa sorry and 2nd chances, the pain, the trauma and self-blaming, like WTF. But yeah, we never had closure.
Because of her and this video, it helped me value loyalty and faithfulness even more sa nililigawan ko ngayon. Manifesting na sasagutin ako ng nililigawan ko. Thanks Rec•Create!
"lugi ako dun may kotse un eh" hahaha awit sayo lods
I cheated on her and i blame myself doing that, she's so faithful and loyal to me and I take it for granted. And now we're in healing process and fixing myself too for the next relationship I have been hindi ko na maulit yung ganito.
the one peso from gcash. he literally just sent one today. the thing is, they think that they can test the waters with other people and if it doesn’t work out, they come back to us because they know we love them and that we would forgive and accept them again. they never thought that we eventually get fed up and run.
to all who cheated, grow up.
and to all who got cheated on, it sucks now but it will get better 💕
Seeing this I remember why I gained weight during this pandemic... I remember saying to myself, "Why bother to take care of my physical health when during the time that I was in my most fittest, I still got done dirty." As someone who came from the heavier side growing up, that deteriorated me inside and took away all the motivation I have in myself to be able to push myself again to exert that much effort in both life and in health. Thankfully, now I'm better and back on track.
What he said... nun sinabi niya na masaya siya na pinagdaanan niya yun. Also, be thankful that you did not end up with that person.
di din talaga maiwasan na e compare mo yung sarili mo sa girl/guy na pinagpalit sayo so your insecurities went form bottom to the top talaga, masakit sobra especially pag may kaya talaga and you know na ikaw limited accessang meron ka. 😔
7:45 Yaz Gurl! One more time with feelings! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
It's true. I know my ex had been cheating on me for a long time but i kept on playing dumb. I even tried convincing myself that theres really nothing wrong happening and that im just overthinking things. I thank God for opening my eyes. It really was painful but it felt like im me again. That i have self respect again. I prayed to God to release me from all the pain and cried myself to sleep. I'll never forget this: when i woke up, i literally felt nothing. No pain, no suffering. I even tried rereading our past convos and tried reminiscing but i didnt feel any pain. It's true, God really did help me. Thank you my Lord and Savior not only did you open my eyes but you also released me from my pain! 🙏
Thank you binitiwan mo na ako. Wala na ako magagawa sa 14years na nasayang sa buhay ko kundi mag move on na lang. Malalagpasan ko din ito.😥
Dear Ex (who cheated on me),
You were wrong to tell me that I lost all the chances to be someone you wanted me to be in the relationship. Lemme tell you this, you lost us. You lost a second family who genuinely loved, cared, and gave you a second home. So, don't ever effin tell me, kawalan ka.
I actually wrote a message and sent to my ex last feb. 12. and I swear that's the best decision I made since he left me hanging before the pandemic happens.
cheating will never be acceptable kase if you really love the person bakit ka magloloko? lol if you’re really tired or nag sawa na sa relasyon niyo bakit di mo na lang sabihin ng diretsuhan doon sa tao kesa lokohin mo kase hindi mo alam kung gaano kalala yung trauma na dadalhin nung taong niloko mo habang buhay! HINDI TAYO IIYAK FOR TODAY’S VIDEO MGA VEBZ!🥺 isumpa natin yang mga cheaters na yan! pakyu kayong lahat sagad!🙂
She was my first and I was prepared to do everything her. 3 years LDR and just recently I found out, she confesses that she and her workmate did it 3 times already ..
She had trauma before because her exes cheated on her and I was so confident that she will not let me experience that kind of pain ever but I was wrong.
I love her so much that I still cling to the possibility that she'll get better. But somehow, I don't want to be fooled again if ever she'll do it again.
Because once a cheater will always be a cheater. Three times is unacceptable and your sorry is forgiven but look how you destroyed my genuiny and my pure intentions will no longer go back the way I did, it was.
"Kahit alam mo na yung mali nahuli mo na prang niloloko mo nalang yung sarili mo kasi mahal mo nga" pero mas pinipili mo mag bulag bulagan para lang magkaayos kayo. Sobrang hirap bumangon lalo na't halos walang natira sa sarili mo di mo alam kung papaano bumwelo
And this also the reason that no matter how good my current relationship is, I self sabitage it, telling myself it won't last and soon enough the person will also get tired and will cheat on me behind my back. And this is all inside me
It's more than 5 years already. But the trauma is still here and all the flashback is nag appear parin sa panaginip ko.
Feel ko yung sinabi ni kuya na naka pink na pag mahal na mahal mo yung isang tao okay lang kahit alam mong hindi na totoo. But because of this experience i learn a lot and i really thank her because i became a better person.
Eyes never lie. The pain still in there
Thank you guys for being brave enough to share this ,,.God bless you all!!
Don’t be too nice. They don’t respect people who are too “nice” these days. It’s either be the bigger biatch or be a mature adult to respect yourself enough to walk away. Don’t show sympathy to anyone who cheats. In my case, I don’t show emotions, I learned how people behave, then became a master manipulator to my advantage. Do not reveal your weakness or anything personal about you, learn their weakness and use it against them if you have to. Apply Machiavellians strategies cos that’s how you become a winner in their own games. I know it’s dark and wicked but who the eff cares. Be very smart and choose your “victims”. Never drop your guards down kahit asawa mo pa. Be ready to lose people though. I’ve already lost many of them but I don’t focus on that I’ve learned not to give a shit about what others feel. So nice people, wipe your tears and transform yourselves into a bad ass bitch. Remember this, it’s better to be feared than loved if you cannot be both. Para lang to sa mga walang konsensiya ha so don’t give me any of your drama. Good luck!
Well said! We also share the same sentiment po 😊 I, myself, am "too nice" and over the years, I was still backstabbed and taken advantage of. I wondered kung bakit ganun, and naging people pleaser ako at some point because I just wanted new friends esp ngayong college. I grew out of that tho when I learned to accept it the hard way - that most people will see you as defenseless when you are "too nice", kaya wala silang takot crossing your boundaries for whatever their gain is. Kaya ngayon, cold na rin ako HAHAHA as I just tell my vulnerabilities to few of my long-term close friends. I also remained to be private most of the time with my thoughts, and in sharing as well in terms sa soc meds :)
These people talaga, HAHAHHAHA the audacity. Bat ba kasi ayaw nalang aminin kapag attracted or may bago na, haleeeer madali naman akong kausap, kahit mahal kita kahit akala ko ikaw na, bruh kung saan ka masaya Ill support you.
"Nung sumikat siya... nag-iba yung tingin niya sa sarili niya" tf bro that hits me so hard. BAKIT BA KASI NAG-IBA SILA :
idk if i was cheated on, but i kinda went and experienced the "how do i get past this" stage and the "where did i had it wrong" phase before eventually getting up with the courage to smile.
its a haunting experience, its never a good thing, but yeah i agree that it was inevitable, we cant escape it. but once we get over the hump, we're far better warriors of love than how we used to be. its a shitty experience, but you reap instant rewards once you get to the other side.
KUDOS TO THOSE WHO MADE IT! to those who didnt, RIP.
Its long time ago yet i can see the pain.moving one doesn't mean you forget.
Maybe he love wasn't there anymore, but the pain does.