Ask Bashea: How Men and Women Handle Breakups!
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- Men and Women handle them differently.
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I'm so glad you posted this. My ex of 2 years did exactly as you said and seems totally fine (it's only been 6 days!) while I'm crying and trying to stay strong every day.
I can not speak all the way for your ex but I can from experience. When I went through my breakup. I suffered from chest pains. I mean I felt it in my chest. No matter how hard I cried I could get no relief. Then finally it got to where I was not hurting as much. In fact I was numb. I think we women sometimes go numb not that we want too but to help get rid of the emotional pain.
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same girl
Women get over it faster. They go to their friends and family talk it out A man holds it in but later it hits them because they never got it out. So it takes them longer.
christi crenshaw yup
I’m a man and I did all that. My friends and family got me
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I'm a man but i was showing a lot emotions i cried like a baby.
Me 2
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Thank you for this, so true! Wish every man could face their emotions after a break up and not rebound into another relationship like nothing happened.
It depends on the person. For me, when I go through a break up I isolate myself from people ( I guess it's my way of dealing with my emotions) I don't talk to anyone, no girl hunting, no rebounds, no meeting new people. Just nothing. I spend time alone. At first I just don't do anything usually. I just sleep and overthink stuff and let myself feel all that pain. That pains turns into anger and that anger pushes me to work on myself and better myself. The downside of this is that although you moved on but you just emotionally shutdown and not jump into the next train since you're so used to being alone. That works for me.
I feel like this is how my ex is dealing with our break up. He’s the dumper. How long did it take for you to reach out or will you ever reach out if you did the dumping?
@@paularuiz7141 well last time I went through this, I never reached out. The break up happened in 2019 in June I think. I'll never reach out. The reasons is because the person made my life so difficult on top of the fact that I was going through something and I was attending counseling for it. She took advantage of that. What made it worse is I'm the type of person who internalizes something and then just blow a fuse once I've had enough that's practically what happened. After I broke up with her my life changed in a good way. I'm pretty sure in like a month or two I would've reached out if the break up had a different nature to it.
Not every guys because when I break up with my ex I cried .. Its better to healing now because it might coming back to haunt you
Jayson Frank Baha that’s good stuff.
I think you should. To heal faster so you can move on and have the kind of life you deserve
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Going through one right now. On day three and you are on point. Currently facing all of the emotion head on. I have zero desire to date. He seems fine and moved on. But I’m grown and I know how this work. I will be just fine and thriving soon. 💖👑
𝘈𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 6𝘺𝘳𝘴,𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘬 𝘶𝘱 𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘯,𝘪 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘯'𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 .𝘪 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘐 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘮𝘺 𝘦𝘹 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘧𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘺𝘦𝘳. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵,,𝘢𝘱𝘱 𝘩𝘪𝘮.......
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my ex cried to me when we split up and I left and then he had a new girlfriend a week later posting their photos on social media proclaiming his love for her and he just met her. Smh And he was a pastor of a church 😏.. can't trust noone but God. he's the only one who won't leave you hurt
Don't believe the hype he's still hurt the other girl is just a cover-up
𝘈𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 6𝘺𝘳𝘴,𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘬 𝘶𝘱 𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘯,𝘪 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘯'𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 .𝘪 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘐 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘮𝘺 𝘦𝘹 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘧𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘺𝘦𝘳. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵,,𝘢𝘱𝘱 𝘩𝘪𝘮.......
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But it is not fair for new partner , if you start relationship just to forget your ex... 😞
Melek Ozcivit I agree. That’s why I decided to take a break.
Great video! This is exactly what happens to me whenever I stop talking to the guy. I immediately deal with the hurt and figure out what happened and why; I pray and do a lot of soul searching. After some time, I move forward and don't let the past guy stop me from meeting someone else. Thank you Bashea for the comparison. It was pretty accurate!
You explained it PERFECTLY. Thank you!
But are men truly 'healed' when they date other women? Or is it a continuous mask to try and forget the broken relationship? And how does anyone know hen they are truly healed?
Gabrielle Arthurs usually not at first. Until we really address what it did to us and decide to heal from it on purpose.
Bashea Williams thank you for the clarity, King. Love, light and blessings always ❣
You're welcome. We are healed when we are ready to be vulnerable again. When we get back to unselfish dating
Bashea Williams ....understood. Am currently watching the video uploaded on your page by Toure Roberts...5 keys to identifying your soulmate. Healing in process...
Bashea Williams maaan! you said a mouthful here...
Well put. Never heard it that way, but yet and still, no 'man' nor 'woman' wants to deal with someone else's issues that they should have or are dealing with, and, until said time, should, by now have respect and value for self and others that no one is degraded because one wants to "drop the bomb on me."
I don’t. I talk with my friends. It works because they have been through it before. My life savings tactics. I pay attention to the signs so it don’t hit me unexpected.
I loved your advice. I had to break it off with someone who wasn't healed. I miss him but I know its for the best in my healing process.
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You're right I was dealing with this guy.A day he call me said he started going to church extra I kown he was lie but I step back deal with my pain and keep it moving a year later the woman he was dealing with was not what he expected he came back into me inbox talking I was real from the being and he had a real connection with me I had to lol....I told him he will go back to that same woman one day
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Great video really enjoyed the explanation you gave on the male perspective. Return of the Mack is definitely an oldie but goodie.Great Job on this one.
Tmcneil48 thank you! that was my freedom song! lol
I dated this guy for over a year. At some point we became boyfriend and girlfriend but he was really unattached and uninterested that I break up with him just like a week or two after. However we were seeing each other every once in a while to a point that I was really in love with him. I wasn’t dating no one else cause I was really into him, and I was holding hopes that maybe one day he’ll grow feelings for me or some sort of attachment or bond. Time will pass and we will only see each other every other month or every other two. I grew a great sense of resentment and anger not only for him but to myself as well for not having the 🏀 ⚽️ to stop seeing him. Every time we were together I will feel just so happy and I will just feel as if he loved me 💕 and then we will just ignore each other for weeks and then I will just keep thinking and crying everyday for how for sure he was sleeping and seeing other people and just flagellating myself with hurtful thoughts 💭 and ideas of why he didn’t love me like how I loved him but will never let him know cause I didn’t want to let him see me like that, needy and vulnerable, in front of him I’ll just remain indifferent. Finally one day...after two days of our last time together he changed his profile picture to one with his girl, I was really hurt 😞 💔 I had like a million thoughts of what to do, but I knew that we weren’t nothing so there wasn’t really nothing else to say. After two days I finally decided to contact him and ask him for closure. He did something that I wasn’t expecting, he told me that he had already broken up with that girl, obviously I didn’t believe him. It was pretty clear that he intended to keep me as his side piece, plan b or his just in case. What just made things worst for me 💔😭😭 so I just told him that she looked like a nice lady and that she didn’t deserve that, that it could it be her or anyone else any way and that they looked good together and the two were a good Match. I told him that I was supposed to stop seeing him a while ago but that I didn’t have the courage to do that. That I was happy that it was him and not me who took the first step. That I didn’t have any hard feelings and that I wished him and the two of them the best 😓😥🤧🤧🤧😭😭 then he said something like I hated him and I said no, that I didn’t hated him and then I blocked him 💔💔😢🤧🤧 cause I knew What was coming next it was just him just trying to gaslight me and that I was going to believe in his lies even tho he wasn’t making any sense. 👎 👎 then ended up deleting messenger from my phone cause I will just keep going to my blocking contacts to see if he will still have the same picture but he will. And that was making things even worst for me and painful 😣 is being only three days since I blocked him sometimes I just wanna hug him, sometime I think that maybe I’ve done something wrong that maybe I didn’t let him know how important he was for me, how much he meant for me and how much I loved 🥰 him 😭 even tho I know that I didn’t do nothing bad. Even tho He knows I loved him and he didn’t care. I also know that the way I feel know will just last couple months and that later I’ll feel proud of me for not believe in his lies anymore for moving on and away for him, That when this new relationship fails, when the feeling of new and the excitement ends he’ll start thinking about me and start missing me, if he’s not missing me already. I know that he’ll have thoughts of regret not for hurting me but for not having me anymore, cause I have become unreachable and I never did that before. I sometimes want him to suffer and to be in this paint I’m now, just like I am now. I know that he’s a chain dater I’m glad we are done even tho it hurts a lot. I’m gonna miss him a tons a while. And 6 months from now I won’t believe that I actually was dating someone like him. I will ask myself what I was thinking 🤔 I’ll be fine 👌 👌 and better while he’s looking at my profiles and wishing he had never let me go.
𝘈𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 6𝘺𝘳𝘴,𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘬 𝘶𝘱 𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘯,𝘪 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘯'𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 .𝘪 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘐 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘮𝘺 𝘦𝘹 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘧𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘺𝘦𝘳. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵,,𝘢𝘱𝘱 𝘩𝘪𝘮.......
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How old are you if you don't mind me asking. You sound really young and that this was your first love/crush... Either way, what your saying is good stuff if your telling the complete truth (not saying you arent). You sound like your handling it responsible like with good intentions. KEEP IT THAT WAY!! BECAUSE THATS ATTRACTIVE TRAITS. People are people. Guys. girls. Doesn't matter. Your more of a product of your environment than what your gender is. Guys and girls can manipulate, cheat, lie..... So please don't group all men in with this guy. Not everyone is like that. Just maintain this attitude, take care of yourself both mentally and physically...... Than it'll be him seeing a picture of you on Facebook with someone who might be better but more importantly, loves you back.... Plus nothing drives regret, sorrow and attention more than success on your end. Itll drive the other person nuts. Good luck.
P.S. I'm right there with ya, it really hurts, I know. Why we have to pick eachother up and support eachother in these positions.
I needed to hear this thanks!
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Great stuff , Bashea love it
So accurate. Man you’re on point.
Women have usually mourned that relationship long before it’s over if he’s hurt her numerous times already the break up is the funeral for the relationship
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Thank you so much for your insight
I just went on breakup after a month of disconnect, we are officially over. I was in pain for over the last month and still crying to get over.
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I'm dealing with the emotions n he jumped ASAP to a relationship posting n all 💔 he blocked me before that he just said he needed to be alone for a while n BOOM he asked me to live with him he wanted all marriage with me loves me n we texted we love each other n miss each other after I moved out living together was like 2 months he said he thought he was ready for the living part but he wasn't so I moved out than he was feeling lonely idk really what to say it was a curve ball n he broke me heart 💔 I feel I'm all over the place mentally n emotionally n he acting like he doesn't care because of his actions 😪 I lost my partner n also he was a special close friends for years idk what to say 😢
Thank u for this post, perfect 😍
Thank you for posting this!
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Great video thank you
So eloquent!
How long does it usually take a man to miss the woman of the breakup?
Longboard Stoner immediately
My ex fiance of two and a half years announced his new relationship in two months. @@BasheaWilliams
Great video!!!!
Thanks for the video! What do you specifically mean by sometimes men heal through other women, but were "not emotionally" attached? Just "dealing" with them?
When we just bounce to another one instead of dealing with the pain of a breakup or loss. Looking for replacement but in emotional protection mode until they are ready to open up to the next person. Not healthy but it happens.
Do you think they are in protection mode because they are not over the other person and are talking to other women to mask their emotions?
That happens. Some of us use other women to get over the ones we miss. We definitely cover our emotions.
Vanessa G it's not fair to take someone through the mud that should have been cleaned away for you, especially with people who have a lot of she on them. It's time to stop holding things in, talk, walk, that is to learn from God, and from God through others, and to keep stepping in the right path, together or apart, as it should be.
No one should be treated like an object for someone else to use for their seeming benefit only.
With your handsome self 😍
Good info
Explained it perfectly ❤👏
Gday mate I really need some advice
I was 14 and my ex was 13 when we met (im 22 now) which was in music class we practiced in same room and it was the only way to spend time together. At recess and lunch we had to hang out in different parts of the school due to strict rules all grades were to stay in their own grade areas and after school she'd walk with me to my bus stop and we'd hang til my bus came. I lived 40 minutes away so it was hard to organise things to do together but somehow we managed to sort out some stuff and whenever she had a family day out her parents always invited me to join them which I did i really enjoyed spending time with her family too. We stayed together for the rest of the year but when the next year came and we went up a grade I slowly started to lose the feelings for her somehow (I think it cause of the distance we started wanting to see eachother more often) and on the last day of term 1 or 2 I broke it off with her at lunch in front of her friends well not exactly in front of them i pulled her a side and then did it which I regret fuckin big time I felt bad enough doin it. After school I was walkin to a new bus stop with a friend who travels with me and I told her bout what happened and I got message sayin do not ever call, talk or text me again and my friend calmed me down just in time cause I nearly smashed my phone we never spoke since. Now come my reason for advice I messaged her on facebook last year and we talked for a while then few months later she blocked me and I messaged her on my fake file (which I made after college to get in touch with someone cause our friendship was destroyed by someone who i thought was my friend) and she said she didn't know that she blocked me and she said she didn't want to be friends again or whatever I can't remember and she's moved on I said I respected her choice and if she ever needs to chat bout anything im always here. Then I made a fuckin stupid mistake few weeks later I messaged her hoping we could have a nice calm chat but I ended up messagin her too much and she blocked me and I said out loud WELL DONE YOU FUCKHEAD ya'v done it now and since then we've never talked. I feel like I still love her but I don't know what to think and i think she might love me but just doesn't wanna admit it
I really need some advice anything
Ps - The 2 best memories I'll never forget was her 14th birthday party (which her friends tried to throw me in the pool Lol) and when she stayed at my place 1 weekend and joined my nan and pops big Christmas party and lunch the next day I'll never forget those memories
honestly I'd recommend therapy, my guy
My ex and i broke up last week and he already had a new love interest and blocked me on everything. I know he needs time to heal but it’s hard because i move away next week for college , do i have any hope?
Seems like no... How did it turn out?
𝘈𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 6𝘺𝘳𝘴,𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘬 𝘶𝘱 𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘯,𝘪 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘯'𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 .𝘪 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘐 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘮𝘺 𝘦𝘹 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘧𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘺𝘦𝘳. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵,,𝘢𝘱𝘱 𝘩𝘪𝘮.......
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But my ex in just three weeks had shown a new routine that he’s comfortable with his new date, will he still miss me?
STRIT SAWND I’m not the length of your relationship. Why you two broke up etc.
Bashea Williams he said he doesn’t feel in love with me. We had a one year relationship, we never had a fight.
Bashea Williams although another thing on which I’m aware since the beginning that he is bi but he leans toward his affection to trans woman . I’m not a trans I’m straight woman
𝘈𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 6𝘺𝘳𝘴,𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘬 𝘶𝘱 𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘯,𝘪 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘯'𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 .𝘪 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘐 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘮𝘺 𝘦𝘹 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘧𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘺𝘦𝘳. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵,,𝘢𝘱𝘱 𝘩𝘪𝘮.......
➕1 =956=531=2406.
So true
Ooh I like that clip ! Oooh mmmm 🤔