Cara is my brilliant sister-in-law and Everett is my amazing, adorable nephew. As a nurse, I am disgusted by the things that nurse said and I apologize on behalf of my profession. Cara, your analysis and conclusions for the way ahead are incredible, and spot-on. Thank you for this insightful, and enlightening message.
Juanita Neil - me too! I have a 25 year old bro with DS. I love that man so much, my life is forever changed for good by him. My bro rides bikes, reads, speaks full sentence, the empathy he has is beautiful! He’s still learning new things. I want to be part of the change.
@@pookysgrl I have a friend who has Down syndrome who’s 20 and when we were in public someone was staring at him and i looked at her and she looked away as soon as she saw me staring back and i almost started laughing because she was acting like a child i mean I can show my mean side if you make fun of my friends 😂. I agree with her and u.
I agree, people with Down syndrome are more alike all people than not, except they bring joy, love, amazing hugs, non-judgmental on a higher level to their families.
The selective termination breaks my heart. It would be great to encourage those potential parents to spend time with the beautiful people with that huge EXTRA. Extra love, extra hugs, extra laughs & your heart grows so much bigger.
You have no clue what you're talking about. DS is a severe intellectual disability, not just a cosmetic condition. Most DS people have heart issues, risk of early dementia, and infertility. Most DS adults have the intellectual capacity of 8-9 year old children and likely won't be independent.
My son has down syndrome and I encounter people from all walks of life that are just mean hearted..teachers are the worst, certain family members are very insensitive, patronizing people. Amazingly how people you thought were friends all of sudden stop talking to you when they find out you have a child with a disability.
To equate someone calling him a “downs boy” with the phrase “down, boy” - a command you’d give your dog, is absurd. Just because they sound similar phonetically doesn’t mean the meaning is anywhere close to being similar. That’s such a disingenuous reach. 🙄
@Michele Hilgart Not wanting a DS kid is perfectly valid. DS is a severe intellectual disability, not just a cosmetic condition. DS people have higher risk of heart issues, early dementia, and infertility. Most DS adults have the intellectual capacity of 8-9 year old children and likely won't be independent.
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If you are willing to have a child with DS, you have the financial means for the extra care and you have the extra time, more power to you, but the majority of women don’t have that luxury and I’m in favor of NOT guilt tripping them for exercising their right to choose what’s best for them and their families.
As with anything that happens to anyone who loves their children, whatever your circumstances you find a way and your life becomes richer for it. I hope you have the wonderful opportunity to learn this glorious lesson of life one day. Life has more colour with such circumstances that challenge us to grow. With love and respect from a single-parent of a wonderful two year old girl with DS.
Huh? No it's not... I have a 5 month old with Down Syndrome. The number of times people have asked me this is numerous. Especially with older people and some well meaning nurses. I never know exactly how to respond. Of course we all want high functioning kids. But not everyone is or will be... it's a hurtful question, really... and is altogether too common.
She lost me when she said it was callous to say, “Your baby has Downs.” Uhmm did she not want to be told? (The “save the better name for your next kid” comment was weird, though).
Why? language evolves ... if Downs Syndrome has negative associations, as other offensive labels used in the past have and are now no longer used (eg. spastic) then its obvious there's a need for change. Sounds like you are a bit flakey and oversenstive LOL
If live gives you lemons you make lemonade and zip it with a smile. If I had a choice I'll stick with cool aid. No thanks lady! If I were a woman I would never be so selfish to bring a highly disabled child into this cruel world.
Cara is my brilliant sister-in-law and Everett is my amazing, adorable nephew. As a nurse, I am disgusted by the things that nurse said and I apologize on behalf of my profession. Cara, your analysis and conclusions for the way ahead are incredible, and spot-on. Thank you for this insightful, and enlightening message.
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Juanita Neil - me too! I have a 25 year old bro with DS. I love that man so much, my life is forever changed for good by him. My bro rides bikes, reads, speaks full sentence, the empathy he has is beautiful! He’s still learning new things. I want to be part of the change.
@@pookysgrl I have a friend who has Down syndrome who’s 20 and when we were in public someone was staring at him and i looked at her and she looked away as soon as she saw me staring back and i almost started laughing because she was acting like a child i mean I can show my mean side if you make fun of my friends 😂. I agree with her and u.
I agree, people with Down syndrome are more alike all people than not, except they bring joy, love, amazing hugs, non-judgmental on a higher level to their families.
I agree I have friends with Down syndrome and they have changed the person who I am and i hate the r word and “downs”.
Good for you, go tell the truth. Children are gifts to us, in many way they come.
The selective termination breaks my heart. It would be great to encourage those potential parents to spend time with the beautiful people with that huge EXTRA. Extra love, extra hugs, extra laughs & your heart grows so much bigger.
You have no clue what you're talking about.
DS is a severe intellectual disability, not just a cosmetic condition.
Most DS people have heart issues, risk of early dementia, and infertility.
Most DS adults have the intellectual capacity of 8-9 year old children and likely won't be independent.
My son has down syndrome and I encounter people from all walks of life that are just mean hearted..teachers are the worst, certain family members are very insensitive, patronizing people.
Amazingly how people you thought were friends all of sudden stop talking to you when they find out you have a child with a disability.
I am with you. 💙 I myself am a disabled person, so I know how mean some people can be to the disabled.
Wow. I went to ACU. When she described the nurse, I just thought "Yep, that's Abilene, TX."
Informing the uninformed. Brilliant! :)
To equate someone calling him a “downs boy” with the phrase “down, boy” - a command you’d give your dog, is absurd. Just because they sound similar phonetically doesn’t mean the meaning is anywhere close to being similar. That’s such a disingenuous reach. 🙄
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Great answer, Cara..."how high functioning are you?" So on point. Namaste.
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Enough to live independently and pay my own bills.
Lol, "how high-functioning are you?" May be the words of an exhausted mom, but ive wanted to ask people that if they have asked me that.
WHOOOO THATS MY PROFESSORRRRR!!!
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I wouldn't want to bring a kid into this cruel world who will be treated with redundant obstacles for the rest of his/her life.
Then don't have kids.
Nonsense everyone's got obstacles some just tolerate it better.
@Michele Hilgart
Not wanting a DS kid is perfectly valid.
DS is a severe intellectual disability, not just a cosmetic condition.
DS people have higher risk of heart issues, early dementia, and infertility.
Most DS adults have the intellectual capacity of 8-9 year old children and likely won't be independent.
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Why just moms though?
Moms though what?
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If you are willing to have a child with DS, you have the financial means for the extra care and you have the extra time, more power to you, but the majority of women don’t have that luxury and I’m in favor of NOT guilt tripping them for exercising their right to choose what’s best for them and their families.
As with anything that happens to anyone who loves their children, whatever your circumstances you find a way and your life becomes richer for it. I hope you have the wonderful opportunity to learn this glorious lesson of life one day. Life has more colour with such circumstances that challenge us to grow. With love and respect from a single-parent of a wonderful two year old girl with DS.
I hope she and her child are well. The story about the woman asking her how high functioning her child will be was almost certainly purely fictitious.
Huh? No it's not... I have a 5 month old with Down Syndrome. The number of times people have asked me this is numerous. Especially with older people and some well meaning nurses. I never know exactly how to respond. Of course we all want high functioning kids. But not everyone is or will be... it's a hurtful question, really... and is altogether too common.
She lost me when she started about "I suggest we start using different language"
She lost me when she said it was callous to say, “Your baby has Downs.” Uhmm did she not want to be told?
(The “save the better name for your next kid” comment was weird, though).
Why? language evolves ... if Downs Syndrome has negative associations, as other offensive labels used in the past have and are now no longer used (eg. spastic) then its obvious there's a need for change. Sounds like you are a bit flakey and oversenstive LOL
If live gives you lemons you make lemonade and zip it with a smile. If I had a choice I'll stick with cool aid. No thanks lady! If I were a woman I would never be so selfish to bring a highly disabled child into this cruel world.
Wow…You are a very sad person. Get help- ASAP