This video quickly went from "ex transgender woman" to a philosophical conversation on how to handle and overcome childhood trauma. The title of this video does not do Jakes story justice, and it doesn't accurately represent what he has to offer all of us intellectually. I wasn't even going to watch this video but I'm glad I did.
As a father, I cannot possibly understand how someone would do this to their own child. I would trade my life for that of any of my children in an instant. This makes me angry beyond words.
I suspect that (sometimes) the pedophiles get treated better than the victims because the cops that dispense said treatment are, at times, sadistic pedophiles as well. They despise the victims, and honestly empathize with the victimizers.
Sometimes I think it's because so many of the judges and politicians and religious leaders are pedophiles too. WHY are there so many pedophiles in the world?
At the end of the day, judges will only do so much. Normally, most states follow the three-strike law. Three crimes, three different victims. And it's never a guarantee either. You have to have proof. If one key aspect is off and someone proves it isn't true, those sentences just got cut in half or a third. At the end of the day, you cannot do much if you don't have a solid ass case. Furthermore, all of these heinous sex offender laws are changing in the states, and they can now be on school property. They can now be in parks, play grounds, everything. Just look up your state's laws. Trust me, it's bullshit. The government had to change it because it was becoming a constitutional right. They simply forced themselves into a corner until someone started to lean on them and made them change it. These are the same people that are supposed to help and protect you and your children. belave nothig
Kudos to his ex boyfriend for realising that their relationship should stop and being there for him as a friend and not walking away from him when he needed someone to talk to
Wow what a great man he ran into I wonder what his life would have been like if he hadn't gone out with this guy that friend of yours must be your guardian angel I'm so glad you guys found each other
People with gender dysphoria need a strong support system, Jake was lucky to have found one. I hope more people like Jake can find strong support to help them before they commit suicide.
Jake said that his aim in life was to help other people, and in his own way, by being on this video, he has probably helped many who have dealt with similar issues in their lives. Such a well spoken, gentle soul, and tragically is gone now. RIP dear Jake, you suffer no more ♥
@@evongilford392 He passed away from an OD awhile ago. Mark has a tribute video that shows most of the people that he has interviewed that have passed away. The SWU reddit also talks about him passing.
Tbh thats why when the news glosses over child abuse and finding child sex rings and kids in cages…it’s not some conspiracy or political agenda…it’s the devil’s domain. Now I will say for a practical peace of mind…I’ve had my knees dislocated three times…nightmares about my son being r worded by some I won’t name. Spiritual and physical attacks by demons are real…but God gives us all different thresholds and limits and that’s where faith really comes in…as bad as it sounds…there is mercy in moments. I promise you. The disturbing agony I’ve felt I am still here and so is he…innocent suffering exists and we shall never deny this and never just listen but shall act on what we know and prevent our future children from coming across certain personalities.
For him to say his childhood wasn’t awful because he wasn’t starving and he had a roof over his head despite the fact about everything that his dad did to him shows how much of a humble but damaged angel he was. Rip :(
The moment he said his dad played back his recording of him getting raped back to him as “punishment”, I understood how truly evil his father was. My father did the same thing to me, but with my crying whenever he beat the shit outta me; and I thought THAT was bad. I cannot fucking fathom how this guy is still alive and has somehow managed to procreate and try to get his life on track. The fucking strength it takes…
I understand, my dad used to record videos of him yelling and screaming at me while I was crying, and then he would think it was funny to show my friends anytime they came over.
Without treatment being able to excise the memory bank of the abuse, i feel there would be little, revenge, would "fix" for this. At least his dad owned it (in a very perverse, sadistic fashion imo). I was not even granted that by my step dad - guess mine is taking his lie to the grave. 50 years of the suffering i have endured won't go away. A trillion $'s could not repay what his crime cost me. Fact.
Absolutely! Americans are taught and encouraged to hold tight to their problems and blame everything on them. They never overcome them, they constantly tell the world about them, they blame being effortless and lazy on them, and claim to have lifetime PTSD on something 100% LESS horrible than what this poor guy went through.
After all the awful trauma he experienced, he still approached his dad about going to therapy together and his fear is to live with anger… what a beautiful human being. I’m so sorry you went through all this and hope you find healing.
Therapy doesn't work of narcissistic psychopaths, and that's probably what his father is. It was sad hearing Jake try to think up a reason that any person with any semblance of humanity would do such horrific acts.
One of the most beautiful, loving souls I’ve ever heard speak. Everything about this man is the epitome of strength, empathy, grace, intelligence. Rest in peace Jake
I was sexualy abused at around age 12 but couldn't tell anyone because it was my sister's husband... if I had of told my dad he would have killed him and my sister would have literally DIED. Long story short, this is the first time this has ever came out of my mouth/written so this guy made me say it, and it's very liberating so Thank you Jake.... The guy is dead now and I'm not sorry !!
It's so sad to see how warped abused kids are. You refused to tell your dad, because he would have rightfully killed the abuser? I understand that you were a child, completely incapable of being logical, but that's just so backwards. I'm gonna teach my daughter that child abusers have no right to life, and no one's "feelings" matter more than her safety and security. I'm so sorry your parents failed you.
The abuse he suffered is one of the most sinister and vile things I’ve ever heard. I will never forget this young man. I sincerely hope he finds inner peace and sanctuary.
The horrifying reality is this sort of abuse happens to many kids, especially in satanic ritualistic abuse pedo rings. Furthermore, once the child is suitably terrified they are murdered for their u know what.
Problem lays with weak soft system. Run by weak perverse people. Did you know....Muslim paedophiles and rapists are actually castrated in the street for all to watch. Fact! Yet America gives offenders a site all of there own with everything provided?? 🤔🤨😠
He exudes a tender masculinity. Intelligence. Interesting character. Thankful his trauma didn't ruin him completely. He is the type of person to teach society what his type of experiences can be. He is articulate and not in denial. He deserves to be listened to, so we can understand stuff like this. Make the rest of us ready to accept the things we may not understand.
I couldn't have said it better. Incredible person. Deserves to be heard. What a gem. I only wish him the best in this life. What a beautiful human; I am so grateful to have heard his story. I will revisit this interview time and time again because he is such a treasure.
@@kylejnicholson Because many men don't show tenderness. I think they may see it as a weakness. Boys are often taught to be strong and tough. I find that sad. I've heard it said that many fundamental or reformed religions teach that boys should be taught to be tough, to prevent them from "turning gay". Crazy.
@@kylejnicholson my guess your an avid t.v. "c.n.n."🤓🤔watcher 😬😆 why do people feel as they have got to "anyalize shit!?! Why cant. People just say what they feel with out others trying to "make something out of it !?!""" WELCOME FOLKS TO "WOKE SOCIETY!!"😖🤪
This man is such a beautiful soul...it breaks me that he has passed. He reminds me of Elliot Smith, so soft spoken, intelligent, and self aware. I wish the world saw more of him, I hope he is resting in pure peace and love.
Exactly, Elliot Smith. The last concert I went to of Elliot’s he was in such pain I knew I just couldn’t go again. Dear man, died soon after. Bless this sweet man, Jake.
I thought of Elliott Smith too. Jake, like Elliott, was so soft spoken but highly intelligent. I wonder if Jake ever wrote. If he did, I bet it would be beautiful. He is so easy to relate with no matter what gender you are. He could've helped so many more people. I am happy to have watched this. Yet, my heart breaks knowing what he wanted to avoid ultimately killed him.
I'm just speechless. No words for such horrible child abuse from such a evil father predator. What a strong, brave soul. The fact that he can talk about the abuse is a miracle yet a testimony to such personal growth. Bless him and his journey. He should be so proud of himself for such amazing progress. Seriously.
@@illreportbackinabit.8514 hi there, abusive parents can vote for any party actually and they are often christians too. You seem a bit brain washed, stop juding an entire group just because they dislike abortion or accept gay people or whatever you hate them for. Be a christian and love ur neighboor maybe.
This is gonna be more common and accepted as humanity drifts from born again relationship in Christ to atheism, gay rights, abortion and debauchery we're seeing.
The amount of children who are abused sexually in this world is mindblowing. As a new therapist, almost every person I see has this trauma in their past. It destroys life. Pure evil. Demons live among us.
It goes against evolutionary instincts. We're supposed to be programmed to protect the next generation. Literal, supernatural evil may very well be the only explanation. If someone did this to my son, they wouldn't do it to anyone else. It's not a sin to kill the devil.
Yes. I'm an acupuncturist, and when I was in my clinical residency every single one of my patients had been abused and/or raped. It was a real eye opener. I've been in practice for well over a decade, and some of the stories I've heard are simply heart-wrenching.
One of the most incredible women I’ve ever met in my life was raped by her father and same happened to her sister. It blows my mind and makes me unable to comprehend life whenever I think about it. She’s one of the strongest, most passionate people I’ve ever met and a role model for me. She felt like an older sister who looked out for me while we were working together.
This was my thought too. But then my second thought scared me because an awful lot of the strong people that I know I’ve had to put up with more than their fair share and the strength is like a suit of armor. The clothing they put on every day. Sometimes the strongest people in the room are the ones that are the most fragile but they don’t want to alarm everyone.
Heartbreaking to finish the interview only to find out Jake lost the battle to his demons. His courage and strength was beyond words. Rest peacefully, Jake.
It could be that he thought about his past far more often until it stopped making him very emotional. It is a bit like accepting a close person died. Eventually you accept it and stop crying. Maybe he just didn't think about his brother often enough yet to get over his death. I doubt it is that he cared more about his brother than himself or that he'll always cry over the death of his brother.
@@IARRCSim I see what you mean. Knowing myself and my mother having cptsd (nowhere NEAR what this man has gone through) I noticed some similarities in his reaction and behaviour. It seems like some parts of his memories are "dead", yet not forgotten.
@@dagmarbeeke6163 No worries, thanks for explaining. It just makes me angry how language pathologists natural human responses. Not your fault. All the best
Shout out to that family that took care of him when he was a teen. Such a sweet selfless thing to do. Made him feel like he was welcome and called him son 😢 so sweet.
@@Geohovahs_Hand hahahaha call it a man all you want but that's a girl. Her pssy doesn't lie,neither does her feminine bone structure and weak frail arms
As some have already mentioned, to see a beautiful soul like Jake's so close to healing and health...it breaks my heart that his life ended so soon after this interview. He could have helped so many other similarly injured souls in life; I hope that having recorded this before his passing he might help some of them still.
"I'm afraid of living my life as a hateful person." We're so fortunate to have seen/heard you speak, Jake. Thank you for showing that the path to healing and recovering is treacherous but absolutely possible. My heart goes out to yours, with wishes of health, growth, and little things that make you smile. Thank you Mark, for doing the work that you do.
Jake, you CAN and SHOULD "work" counseling others. You are SO empathetic, compassionate, intelligent and well-read. I am in awe that you are who you are in spite of what's happened to you. Peace and love to you, sweet Jake.
One thing I’ve noticed about a lot of ppl who are homosexual or sex workers usually have background of being sexually abused. They turn to this to gain there power back.
Incomprehensibly tragic. The fact that his father was never held accountable is unforgivable and wrong beyond words. What a beautiful soul you were Jake, I'm so sorry....
My dad was never held accountable either. Thank God he is dead I finally feel free of being uncomfortable for the first time in my entire life. My mom knew but she just let him back into the home. So it is what it is. It's not my problem anymore it's theirs. I did nothing wrong. It was them that did wrong. They hopefully will have to deal with that. Me and Jake are just alike. Him and I had a very similar childhood. I had the best of everything but was being messed with my entire life till I moved out.
I think it's one of the most inspiring interviews I have seen so far. I was blown away by his intelligence, philosophy and emotional maturity, despite his tortured life. The only problem I have with this video is with the title "Ex trangender woman". Although it has been a big part of his life I don't think it is the most important thing that defines him. Maybe "SA survivor" ... I don't know. I am aware that he passed away, but to have survived so long with such grace after the hell he has been through is the most incredible thing I find about his story. And this video will definitely survive and hopefully help others in similar situations. Thank you, Jake! I will think of you and I hope to have your strength when I will go through hardship.
He's probably the strongest, wisest person I've ever heard on one of these interviews. To be able to cope with his experiences and talk about them so rationally. The only time he showed tears of sadness throughout this interview was for someone else, for his brother, not for himself. Respect due.
He’s better than me for sure. I would be so bitter and hateful. I am now and my abuse was nothing in comparison. Without minimizing my pain, I can identify that he went through worse and came out better. Much respect and love to Jake indeed 🫡✌🏽💚
its not a sign of weakness to show emotion and cry when recalling traumatic events. He is still very strong and I applaud him and hope the best for him and his life.
@@Diamoondust That was not my point. I wasn't connecting strength with repressing emotions. My point about his emotions was about selflessness and who he was crying for, i.e. not for himself and for someone else.
This young man is indeed wholesome it describes his person well. I see a good amount of peace in him which will continue to grow and grow. When he reaches out to people to help them as he wants to do his love in action will continue to heal his broken heart. And many will love him in return. There is a saying, overcome evil with good. And he is on that path.
"I don't want to live the rest of my life as a hateful person". What a truly astonishing ambition, Jake, considering what you experienced. Having worked with many damaged children during my career, you can be truly proud of the man you have become, how you have grown in spite of your past, and of your determination to not be held back by your terrible experiences. I salute you.
Very intelligent and articulate. Again all the negative traits start with the parenting. Imagine this young man with a proper childhood. Hopefully he can get proper help going forward 🙏
His pacing and tone of his voice is very engaging as well. He has a natural presence on camera. This man is very similar to myself in that we both took ourselves to the edge with hard drugs and were able to realize we were legitimately going to die. I hope to hear more from him in the future.
He's an inspiration though for having survived what he did and have the willpower to stay off drugs and not take doctor's dope. The way these people come into the world is horrible, but they do shine a light for others who want out as well.
I think that a lot. I went to the National Chess tournament when I was a small child. People thought I was a real prodigy. Now at 50 my life is a complete wreck. I'm recovering but its still a wreck. If I had just had one adult at any time in my life that could have given me a little boost or some guidance instead of being a deeply traumatized person trying to figure out life completely alone.
Witnessing your siblings being abused that hurts the most. Then you grow up & people realise there’s something wrong with you and they think it’s funny to mock & abuse you. I f***ing hate people.
@@XtineJohnes those types of wounds never get heal completly, sometimes it is good to separate yourself from the scars and memorys that those episodes generate in you. I wasnt hurt as bad as him but ive got trough some abusive things and i can relate to the vivid terror dreams and not wanting them but knowing that they will be there. Grief dosnt end, and in his case is much worse.
Very sad to hear he passed away . It must be so hard to live with CPTSD . It is so unfair that people cause this amount of pain upon to others ! He seemed like he was very centered in this interview. I admire his courage, his intelligence and resilience. It´s quite incredible and admirable.
Jake- I don't know if you'll ever read this, but you are a mind-blowing, incredibly astonishing person. You were forced to experience absolute evil in its worst form, as a child no less- and *MAINTAINED YOUR HUMANITY*. This is an amazing feat, and I'm blown away by your strength and compassion. The way you reflect on your experiences and feelings, your hopes for a more peaceful life and fulfilling future, it's a story of perseverance, of emotional strength, and of love for others. I don't know what you will do in your future, but for goodness sake, KEEP GOING. The world absolutely needs people like you, people need to hear your story as much as you're open to sharing it, and know that they are also not alone. Write a book, do more talks like this, become a counselor, I don't know, but you are incredibly important to the world. We've never met, but I'll never forget you.
Ditto on that, Jake. You've survived the worst kind of abuse. That man is not a Christ follower but is truely evil. I'm so praying that your life can heal without that man. I think your goal to be of purpose in your life is SO valuable. I hope you achieve your goals. You are valuable, worthy and loved.
I have nothing but respect for this guy ... I dont think I could keep my sanity I'd say I haven't gone through much but others say I have but this.... what I went through was a cakewalk compared to this Highest respect for this amazing human
This is probably your best interview. I felt EVERYTHING in this one interview. Shock, horror, anger, confusion, sadness, tears, inspiration, empathy, amazement and hope. Just amazing!!!!
@Ji Ki I feel like I live in this loop everyday, remembering all my trauma. Today, I really felt like I will never be worthy of a good life, despite all the years of trying to create a happy life for myself.
His composure and insight was just so inspiring to see. He has found a way to stay soft. He understands his trauma and has taken both good and bad paths to healing. What a remarkable human. ❤️
Watching and listening as he talks, all I could see is a heart of a little boy. I feel like hugging him and being a mother to him, though I'm only 21. You might feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulder but remember, God is the 'Father of the fatherless...' Psalms 68:5
Dear Jake, thank you so much for your testimony. It was empowering to hear you state, "I am a traumatized person." I've always felt the need to hide my trauma (from childhood sexual abuse, rape, etc.). I feel ashamed of it, like I'm broken and unfixable. Your openness, clarity and courage around your trauma was refreshing and liberating to hear. Yoga saved my life as well. I've been teaching it now for 30 years. I don't think I'd have survived or been sane today without it. May you find the forgiveness in your heart you seek. Peace brother.
I know Jake... we worked together for a little while. If you see this Jake remember the days at the shit plant! Jake was one of the nicest, hardest working kids to come through the job. Very intelligent. When I met him you would have never guessed the demons that haunt him. We miss you down at the shit plant Jake! Keep your head up and stay on the road you are on. Much love.
@@myfirstandlastchance2476 Much love to you, Jake. Please know that the Lord still loved you to die for you. Your experiences are the result of revolting, perverted, satanic practices. Your dad is influenced by pure evil, and I can't imagine what dealing with him must be like. A disgusting person, indeed. In prayer for you, man.
This is absolutely one of the most moving and inspiring things I've ever seen. It reminds me that any average bloke I pass on the street could be a superhero, and I wouldn't even know it.
I come back to this interview every now and then because Jake is just so easy to listen to and seems like such a sweet person even after everything he's been through and has to deal with. I was also hoping for many follow up videos. Idk if I've already seen Mark's comment about Jake's passing and just forgot, or if I've never seen the comment before. After I realized Jake passed a while ago, it's just so upsetting to me. Not to be dramatic, but it honestly hit me like a ton of bricks. RIP Jake. I hope wherever you are, you feel safe and are at peace.
I'm a sexual assault crisis worker, that basically means I work with the police and support sexual assault victims/survivors during medical examinations and police processes. I've heard hundreds of stories relating to sexual violence but I couldn't finish this video. No other SWU video or even client story I've heard has impacted me like this one. I am so heartbroken for this person. He deserved better. Strength beyond measure.
Thank you for advocating for victims. I’d highly recommend therapy while you explore that job. I work with sexually violent predators and hearing the stories first hand is emotionally draining. You will become numb. Protect your heart.
There's a guy who did a video about child trafficking rings in Europe and what they do because he interviewed the women who birth these children and the man of one that buys and sells and them and how and they are born, raised, bought and sold them used up and sold for "parts" by 4 or 5. The guy who made the video was incredibly strong and brave and it was so disgusting it made me sick to my stomach several times. It was the most heinous things I've ever heard human beings do to innocent kids who will never know anything other than horror until they wake up one day in heaven with the Lord after enduring purely satanic, EVIL, just pure evil things. Man. I worked in law enforcement and saw and heard horrible things but this shit was just..... The stuff you're hearing hear isn't even close but up there. God it makes me sick to hear this terrible shit when I know innocents continue to be hurt daily, I wish I could crush them all under the feet of of God's vengeance...
Thank you ladies for doing what you do. I've had family members experience the more minor side of this stuff and just that angered me as a young man when I found out and I was armed by age 11 and had guns in my possession and if I'd known what had gone on with my immediate family I'd probably wi*** out an entire family and thought nothing of it as I grew up in a military family and with law enforcement and a strong sense of black and white justice for these sort of people and it took years and a lot of school and personal experience with knowing some individuals to change my way of thinking to certain degrees... But still, the lack of complete justice just angers me to a point of knowing that some things people do can never be forgiven or undone and never punished enough on this side of life.
The ending is much better, he talks about how is doing now & what he’s doing to stay clean. It’s nothing like the beginning or even middle of his interview which is absolutely heartbreaking Also Thank You for your work 🙏🏼
More than 1.5 million people have watched this and have been blessed by seeing how the "human" spirit is stronger than anything. Jake you are unbelievable. Turning darkness into light. The ultimate and most meaningful job. You are already doing it. Respect and honour to you.
I've watched many videos from this channel and this one broke my heart. I hope Jake rests easy and has found the peace his soul has been searching for.
He is in a better place now. He's no longer is tormented by nightmares and painful memories. It is very sad to realize just how terrible humans are to one another, even to their own children. Everyone has their struggles, some of these struggles are unimaginable. Stories like Jake's and his journey to heal are still inspiring despite the sad ending. Doing this interview was another act of kindness and sacrifice for Jake, it will help countless numbers of people to see things differently, perhaps have more compassion for those struggling with addiction and hardship.
As a past CPS worker I can't imagine his torment. Some of the children I worked with who were subjected to this perversion were totally disassociated mentally. God this makes me so angry. I wish this young man healing and peace.
Hey I always wanted to ask someone about this. When my dad would come in my room at night and blah blah you know the drill... (sorry, I'm so over it, I just hate describing it) I had this waterfall across my wall, and there was this little blond haired blue eyed girl that seemed to have this light from inside, she'd shine so bright, would come out of the waterfall and come into my body, and I'd go sit by the waterfall in my mind, it was my happy place. I would close my eyes and imagine the sounds, and really got to the point I felt I was there. She didn't have wings or anything but I got the sense she was an angel. She would take whatever he did, because she was not like a human. She couldn't be hurt like I could. Her light was always the same, and she seemed happy to do it for me. Have you ever heard of anything like this in your cases? Was that splitting? What in the world made it so real to me? Is there a term for this? I'm just wondering if this is something you've heard before, or seen before, and if there's an explanation for it.
@@marimarsilva4629 I thought it might be but it seems unlike what I thought splitting would look like. I still feel like she was real though I know she wasn't. I think it's just that our idea of something is usually pretty different than what it turns out to be like? Anyway.. thanks for the input!
@@yamap1 no it really is OK. What I went through is nothing compared to what so many kids go through even today. I do appreciate the sentiment, though, you're very sweet. As crazy as it sounds, a lot of good came from it, and I'm grateful to be who I am.
Jake said he wanted to do something meaningful in this world. Just want him to know this video is a piece of that. Many people watching these videos are dealing with or know someone who is dealing with similar trauma. Hearing the stories, seeing the pain and the recovery is inspiring. Thank you for openly sharing.
I have never heard a victim articulate so well the horror and the spiritual ramifications and journey where this takes a person. I wish you continued emergence from this burden.
I did not expect the interview with Jake to go in this direction. This man has been through monstrous things I could never have imagined. And yet his humanity comes through - the fact that he is working on forgiveness. I am in awe of Jake's strength, self-awareness, humility and so many emotions he evokes that I can't put into words. May the rest of your life continue to be better than the first few years of your life, and may you find the answers and enlightenment you are searching for.
Of course his mother gave birth to him just to provide him to her abusive husband. Women do not care about their own children. She is as responsible as he is. She should be in prison along with them.
I am so sorry that he's been taught to waste his time and mental energy on trying to love, understand, and forgive a person who is not entitled to or deserving of any of those things.
@wilhelmroentgen beautiful said💙 Unfortunately I just was reading some other comments and they stated that this sweet soul passed away a few weeks ago😢 Jake deserved so much more. This just breaks my heart.
Woah.. as i sat through this story , it really made me cry.. I mean, to think that you can cross someome one day and never know how they're surviving each hour of the day.. not knowing what people really do go through. He really did amaze me, his wisdom. His love. His soul. How he got through telling his story.. and lived long enough to express every sentence spoken.. Rest is peace..
The fact that he can talk about all he’s been through so calmly is truly amazing. I’ve gone through 1000x less and choke up in tears thinking about it, the fact he can have a clear and consistent discussion about it speaks so much. Awesome person.
It's protective. Those of us with severe childhood trauma usually either avoid talking about it at all, or talk about it like this. The events and associated feelings have been compartmentalized for our sanity. It's actually really sad to see and hear people describing their abuse this way because it means it was so severe, they have necessarily disassociated from it.
went to high school with Jake. He was a really really good guy. He was always friendly which is amazing given his upbringing. RIP Jake and RIP Steve who was mentioned at 24:40. Two amazing people that went too soon.
Seems like such a gentle dude who is nice to be around. Damn, I’m sorry Jake. There are no excuses for what you’ve been through, but I’m glad you made it through and that you’re still here.
@Repent and believe in Jesus Christ you are on the right track about Jesus. But where is your compassion for this man's pain? I am a Christian, I had a horrible upbringing. I also watched my siblings deal with similar. I took a lot for them as well. How about instead of just throwing out scripture. Maybe pray and have something supportive to say. Be thankful Jake is alive and made it through real life hell. Love him where's he's at.
@@Jimmy-es8bc and no. Not except if your gay or trans. All folks have a right to Jesus. Horrible people that are hypocritical in Christianity have caused people to assume this. God will handle everyone accordingly. We all have fallen short. Not one person is perfect. Every person has a right to Jesus! Every person has a right to the life they deserve.❤️
Jake is beyond brave. I can’t fathom why it took his mom so long to figure out what his dad was doing to him. Thank goodness he had a surrogate family after those years of horrible abuse. And that’s wonderful he got clean of drugs relatively early. Getting clean before/around age 30 with the amount of trauma he suffered ; is miraculous. God bless you Jake for your bravery. (Or if you’re an Atheist, I wish you good energy and good thoughts)
I cannot imagine any human being being treated this way let alone a child. I am at such a loss for words. Sending you so much love. I am so proud of you Jake for telling your story and breaking the cycle.
I know. I think about my son being a little kid, and I would have taken a bullet for him. Betraying YOUR OWN CHILD in the worst way possible? The thought just sickens me.
By his own father too. Pedophiles deserve a slow and painful death. They should be castrated the old school way without any pain relief. Seriously these pedophiles would get absolutely demolished by almost any person with morals
Me too. Much respect. Difficult losses, and happenings in life are so tough. I wish Jake all the best, and much happiness. He is a good man! Thank you Jake! 🙏 💜. 🌿
He seems like such a good person. Like he really is and wants to b a good human being. Truly wish all the healing and goodness for this man in his life.
I was SA as an infant until I was about 9.... I struggled for years with tragic self-harm.. alcoholism, addiction, have been assaulted in my teen years, married a man who continued this towards me.. I had a total breakdown at 41 and finally admitted I was at the end of my life.. then I finally told the truth about what I knew happened to me as a little little girl.. Jake's passing from an overdose, the numerous numerous addicts who were SA as children.. their lives are FOREVER altered, high jacked from this.. ending their lives.. lives of nothing but pain.. This is why I believe that adults who SA children should face the death penalty. Because the consequences on a child's whole life is the same penalty.. A life for a life. God rest your soul, Jake. The pain is over now.. ❤ And Jake's father should be charged with murder.
I agree. People I know who suffered from childhood SA never recovered. The cope sometimes, but that experience is always playing in the background. Jake's fathers cruelty...the costumes, torture, playing his pain back to him... horrific. What makes people so cruel? It's demonic.
It turns out that Jake fabricated most of these allegations towards his father because his family cut him off financially due to his drug addiction. His family had been relentlessly harassed due to this interview.
My step brother was a victim of a predatory Boy Scout Troop Leader. He was one of many it turns out. He committed su*c*de. I am so sorry for your pain. I pray you find peace and healing.
Reading The Body Keeps the Score helped me understand people with severe PTSD and Trauma, what this man is exhibiting here is the highest level of consciousness and enlightenment. He intuitively knows what works for him, his past, his reality, and how to frame his past in a way that does not bleed into the now. What an articulate, intelligent, brave, incredible, successful human being. The lack of anger is astonishing. The abundance of reason and introspection is bewildering. Thank you Mark for sharing such essential stories, and thank you Jake for allowing us to empathize with you. Edit: I feel a genuine sense of loss hearing of Jake’s passing. Jake, I hope and vehemently believe that your beautiful soul is resting in the utmost, unbridled peace. Your story touched and inspired not only my life but the lives of so many and I want you to know that your success as a human being will never be taken away because you were not able to stay with us as long as your body would organically allow. We love you and we miss you. Thank you once again for sharing your story. Rest in Peace.
My thoughts exactly! The most heartbreaking and moving part of this interview was his resilience and commitment to introspection and healing! It quite literally gave me chills.
I cried throughout. Jake was a person, very in touch, obviously. He had enlightened ideas.. Very beautiful person. Hurts me to know he passed. I hope his soul is 100 percent healed and as bright as it was always intended to be. ❤
I had to force myself to watch this. His story hurts my heart, my soul. As a loving mother, it's just very difficult to listen to or even fathom that someone would not only do this to another human, but a child. Jake, I hope you find peace and experience love in some form the way every human deserves. I hate that this happened to you and hope the days ahead of you are filled with joy and happiness.
dont believe it.. drug trips will give you insane amount of imagination and so called 'memories' which didnt even happen in the first place. drugs will make you literally insane.. so i doubt she/he has the intact, reliable memory retrieval capacity.. drugs will give you lucid coherent imagination as if it really happened in real time
In situations like this (someone who was abused sexually starting to get confused about their sexuality/gender) it's important to ask yourself what I asked a few of my friends after their assaults: *Do you want to transition because you know you are trans, or are you trying to be a different person from the one who was abused?* I ask this (as a trans person) to make sure that they don't go down the wrong path of transitioning when they don't truly want/need it. It's extremely important to ask and understand that question when it comes to these situations! You don't want to do something that you'd regret so drastically. I'm thrilled and comfortable in my transition but a lot of people aren't, and if someone just truly asked them if they want to be a new person from the one that was abused or are transgender (and to sort out their emotions/thoughts first) they could recover so much better! So much faster! I'm glad that he found himself in the end and is (hopefully) going to recover more in the future. I hope this confusion and terribleness is resolved, and I hope that his abusers get what's coming to them.
YES!!! This is the best thing I’ve read! Transitioning and being a transgender person is not a bad thing for some. For some people it’s the right thing to do BUT not for everyone. There is a difference between transgenderism and simply wanting to be someone your not. I think many people are just desperate to escape their own psyche for fear of being themselves. True trans people are wanting to be themselves not trying to escape being who they are by trying to be anything else.
You are so very correct. And probably tthe most intelligent comment / thought, on the subject of transitioning I have ever read . If only psychologists, psychiatrists, doctors, would ask these very questions, I also believe that much confusion can be resolved.
@@myfirstandlastchance2476 Beautiful. Perfect. We just got 40 acres 2 hours from any real town in northern AZ. I look forward to becoming new friends!!! You can find me I think pretty easy in FB and Instagram. We will be tiny living in campers and small dwellings... a well and solar.. no plumbing... still just dirt... a a new road just plowed. I am pretty comfortable saying it will be very quiet and peaceful... and low tech... we won't be raising animals, but plan to have plenty of veggies and eggs. We aren't looking for money, just our tribe. I will be thrilled to visit with you about it, and obviously we could plan a visit out there if you like.
Jake's father was malevolent. He snuffed out the life of this amazing human being. His cautionary message about Xanax really shook me. I believe his testimony to be very genuine.
Honestly, I think to me the most impressive part of the story is his ability to get sober after all of that. It’s already hard as heck to change addictive behaviors in the first place, let alone finding sobriety after such intense trauma.
@@kailathefox yes! It can even cause health problems. If you look at the ace tests and statistics, it can factor into stuff like heart disease, diabetes, COPD, liver disease, cancer, substance abuse, mental health issues, suicide and early mortality in general. Personally I score a 6 on aces and I have several of these issues.
For a person that’s been through all that shit, Jake has his head on straight, only wish him the best man. Jake, you spoke to wanting a job that gives you meaning, working with people and your hands is the best stress relief for me honestly. I’m a bike mechanic and giving old things new life and seeing folks faces after does it for me.
@@ntl9974 there was a small shop in my hometown. i walked ina asked for a job, as I had rode bmx growing up and fixed up my friends bikes. couldnt pay me for awhile as i was 15 and they didnt know how much help I could be. since then ive worked a couple more shops over the last decade, and im now a service manager for a larger local shop.
Wow, this has to be one of the BEST interviews I’ve ever seen. Jake is so self aware and intelligent. Thank you Jake for being so vulnerable with us and sharing so much trauma. Your story impacted me greatly.
are you lot fucking sick ? you don't thank someone for being vulnerable you sadistic fucking scumbags, what's wrong with you ?! "thankyou Jake for being so vulnerable etc. " my god I swear there are some seriously weird people out there....
Mark, this may actually be the best interview you've ever done. Your questions were precise and incisive, and Jake is a beautiful person that's able to articulate his trauma in a rare way that is really helpful to those of us that have experienced similar things. Thank you, Mark!
Truly saddened to hear that Jake died. What an intelligent, compassionate and insightful young man.. his level of self awareness.. I am not religious but I hope he has found peace from a truly shocking history of abuse and trauma. R.I.P. I can't stop thinking about what Jake could have achieved for himself and others if he had found the support to assist him further in his healing journey. 🙏
Trying to wrap my head around the strength it took to complete this interview. Thank you for sharing your story , Jake. You had mentioned one of your goals was to help people . Well , my friend, I think you are off to an amazing start.
Jake, I want you to know that there are a huge number of people in this world who love you and care for you. Our admiration for your honesty and witness is beyond words. I’m sorry that you went through such horror, and I hope that life rewards your courage and perseverance. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
@d R What a pathetic response. Nobody needs your pseudo-intellectual attempt at diagnosing others’ intentions or lectures about the supposed non-impact of good will. Go somewhere else- this channel very clearly isn’t for you.
I watched this whole episode in disbelief. How in the world does a person become so hateful to their child? I am SUPER PROUD to have had the opportunity just to meet this kid. I love you Jake buddy!!
You’re not a pedophile or sexual sadist so you can’t understand. There’s no use for us trying to put ourselves in the shoes of those disgusting wastes of life
@ActSmart BeSmart The strong is interpreted differently. Perhaps they mean he’s strong for still being here, because some people would resort to suicide after being through such atrocities.
@ActSmart BeSmart You absolutely have to be strong to overcome an opioid addiction... Without MAT program at that. He is absolutely strong, and your opinion doesn't change the fact.
I have honestly been thinking about this guy all day long. It really hit me that he died. He seemed like such an intelligent, empathetic person. Such a beautiful soul. You didn’t deserve what happened to you
@@FathomlessJoy This makes sense, as liars typically look left when fabricating a lie. People look to the right when remembering something. I didn't trust this guy immediately.
The way he speaks in a monotone protects him from feeling too much. His childhood was a nightmare, what a horrible mother and father. You can’t tell me that mom didn’t know. She sacrificed her son to that animal! He seems resilient though, but I pray that everything doesn’t overwhelm him at some point. The fact that he tried to have his father exposed and arrested, and that was ignored must be devastating. I hope the best for him.
don't be so sure she always knew. The dad took him to motels. The abuse ended when she threatened to call the cops! The abuse is probably what caused the divorce. nowadays, courts will too often think the mom is making it up when she claims abuse by t he dad. they punish her and take the kid away AND GIVE THEM TO THE ABUSER. this is very common, Millions of victims by now. He probably threatened that she would never see him again if she divorced him. so she stayed in order to be there for her son as best she could. til he was old enough to chance it.
I agree. I think the monotone speech is him disassociating himself from the harrowing memories. Beyond sad. Not sure if I can even finish the video. My heart is beating in pain for him.
My Grandmother allowed my Mother as a child to go into her boyfriend’s room to sexually gratify him. She denied everything & he fled to Mexico, no justice ever done. Sadly the legal system does nothing to protect women and children. Nothing changes because many of these pedophiles are in positions of power. I wish I could hug him & tell him how brave he is to tell his story. My Mother was in psychotherapy up until her 50s trying to deal with the abuse. It stays with you forever 😞💔
I pray to GOD, that God would erase from his mind & draw him to Jesus. He will heal him,restore him,because of Christ ‘s Love. I’m so sad for you. God has healed me & he will save & heal you.
Thought this would be about regretting transition before I realised the content. Have to say: you are an incredible impressive survivor full of wisdom and empathy. I wish you all the best for your future and that you may stay on your healing path! And may you be surrounded by loving people forever 🙏
This young man has a very soothing beautiful voice. It's so strange to hear that soothing voice tell such a horrific story. He jumped right in and I don't think I was ready. I can't imagine how awful to have endured such abuse. I know you're not Christian, Jake, but I am so I'll be praying for you. Just know that your loved. You're so strong!
His narration was far more interesting than the title promised. Especially the part about trying to forgive and not wanting to live as a hateful person. May your dream come true, I hope you find all the strength you need and deserve
Dear Jake, I hope you realize how many people you are helping by giving this interview. I am one. Your story is NOT all for naught. You are so resilient and a beautiful soul.
@@kayleepapp6286 Don't get him doxxed. If he wants to his information out he will let it be known, like many other of the people interviewed do on this channel.
Wow! This soul is raw, real and his quest for forgiveness is inspiring. “What am I afraid of? I’m afraid of living my life as a hateful person”. That will stay with me. That line has made things in my life clear. Thank you so much for sharing. You are a real inspiration. You are wise and strong. I applaud you.
Your assessment is beautiful. The fact that he's seeking out forgiveness within himself is amazing. I think so many people think forgiveness is an act of kindness to the person being forgiven, but in my opinion, if you truly forgive someone that's wronged you, forgiveness actually becomes what sets you free from the entanglement of emotions that hold one down. It's truly an act of liberation and kindness to one's self.
@@rjchavers9267 True, but pedos are preying on that idea - Oh they have to forgive to be set free. That's why coupled with forgiveness, knowing the pedo will face consequences is necessary. For example one always heard forgiveness but they Don't hear Exodus 22:22-24 that says basically if one abused a fatherless child God will kill them. Of course they want to keep that hidden
This is easily one of the darkest stories I've ever heard. It affected me phisically. My heart hurts so much for this human. I have four boys ages 2 to 11...how the hell could anyone ever hurt a child 😞
I constantly look at my three little ones and can almost start crying thinking about things I read and watch knowing some psychotic horrible person would love to get their evil hands on them and it's terrifying
Hearing it was hurting me so much then when he said 4/5 yrs old and started describing what was happening I lost it crying so much, I have a son whose just turned 5 and the thought of anyone hurting him in anyway is unbearable never mind in the way he was abused and by his father to! And the mother knew and didn't murder the bastard! I'm so angry My hearts broke for this man I hope he's okay I can't imagine ever being ok with what he's been through
Oh my GOD. My heart literally hurt listening to this. That a human can be so cruel as to hurt an innocent child like that is unfathomable. Pedophiles are the worst kind of disgusting evil, and I hate so much that so many of them get away with it, or are let out of prison. I don’t believe they ever get better. Kudos to you for your strength. Sending love for your healing journey.
But don't you dare suggest that the torture through which they put children has anything to do with the latter developing gender dysphoria. Because then you're a bigot. Like this guy. Clearly he hasn't gotten the memo.
His father wasn't any standard paedophille. He was a sadist paedophille. All paedophilles are terrible people, but most of them justify their acts in their minds by telling themselves it's some form of "love" for children. This guy's father, on the other hand, had pleasure in HURTING children. Even paedophilles (most of them) are disgusted by this kind of psycho. Truly evil!
People who have suffered severe childhood Trauma carry the effects for their whole lives. Acknowledging their memories as their own is only one of many steps in a long journey. There are body memories, pains, dissociations, nightmares, flashbacks, built out neural circuits, the way the brain and the reality is built in this young age (0-7), the split up and separate functional circles that were built, the constant feeling of not being connected with the world, the many people that don't believe the victims, because they don't want to imagine, what can not be real for them. And many more things, that accompany the victims every day...
He lost his brother. After everything else that had happened to him in his life, that loss was more than he could take. In fact, his predator-masquerading-as-a-father may have even come after him if someone he knew saw this video.
Tragically, Jake passed away from a drug overdose on January 5.
may his soul Rest In Peace
may he rest in peace :(
Rest in peace.
💔
May his beautiful soul rest in eternal peace ❤
This video quickly went from "ex transgender woman" to a philosophical conversation on how to handle and overcome childhood trauma. The title of this video does not do Jakes story justice, and it doesn't accurately represent what he has to offer all of us intellectually. I wasn't even going to watch this video but I'm glad I did.
Absolutely correct.
I totally agree!!!
So well said!!!!
As a father, I cannot possibly understand how someone would do this to their own child. I would trade my life for that of any of my children in an instant. This makes me angry beyond words.
Yep! Said it perfectly. This video should be retitled.
“Pedophiles exist, a lot of times they get treated better than their victims.” True statement…I’m so sorry this happened to you Jake.
I suspect that (sometimes) the pedophiles get treated better than the victims because the cops that dispense said treatment are, at times, sadistic pedophiles as well. They despise the victims, and honestly empathize with the victimizers.
Sometimes I think it's because so many of the judges and politicians and religious leaders are pedophiles too. WHY are there so many pedophiles in the world?
I can't believe there's only 2 replays to this guy's story,,I have to say FAIR PLAY TO HIM GIVING THE STORY AS HE SEE,S IT,,
At the end of the day, judges will only do so much. Normally, most states follow the three-strike law. Three crimes, three different victims. And it's never a guarantee either. You have to have proof. If one key aspect is off and someone proves it isn't true, those sentences just got cut in half or a third. At the end of the day, you cannot do much if you don't have a solid ass case. Furthermore, all of these heinous sex offender laws are changing in the states, and they can now be on school property. They can now be in parks, play grounds, everything. Just look up your state's laws. Trust me, it's bullshit. The government had to change it because it was becoming a constitutional right. They simply forced themselves into a corner until someone started to lean on them and made them change it. These are the same people that are supposed to help and protect you and your children. belave nothig
@@lawrence1986ify Now the proof can be a behavioral study from the victim by psychologist
Kudos to his ex boyfriend for realising that their relationship should stop and being there for him as a friend and not walking away from him when he needed someone to talk to
This. What an amazing human.
Wow what a great man he ran into I wonder what his life would have been like if he hadn't gone out with this guy that friend of yours must be your guardian angel I'm so glad you guys found each other
People with gender dysphoria need a strong support system, Jake was lucky to have found one. I hope more people like Jake can find strong support to help them before they commit suicide.
So was he a girl previously??
@@graciecat1918 "amazing human", I am tired of these fake comments. Yikes
Jake said that his aim in life was to help other people, and in his own way, by being on this video, he has probably helped many who have dealt with similar issues in their lives.
Such a well spoken, gentle soul, and tragically is gone now. RIP dear Jake, you suffer no more ♥
You helped me Jake. Gods got you now
What happened 😮
@@evongilford392 He passed away from an OD awhile ago. Mark has a tribute video that shows most of the people that he has interviewed that have passed away. The SWU reddit also talks about him passing.
The way he describes his abuse, it’s one of the darkest and most difficult things I’ve ever heard.
Tbh thats why when the news glosses over child abuse and finding child sex rings and kids in cages…it’s not some conspiracy or political agenda…it’s the devil’s domain. Now I will say for a practical peace of mind…I’ve had my knees dislocated three times…nightmares about my son being r worded by some I won’t name. Spiritual and physical attacks by demons are real…but God gives us all different thresholds and limits and that’s where faith really comes in…as bad as it sounds…there is mercy in moments. I promise you. The disturbing agony I’ve felt I am still here and so is he…innocent suffering exists and we shall never deny this and never just listen but shall act on what we know and prevent our future children from coming across certain personalities.
Same. I agree.
Yeah. Why is his father not in prison?
@@kelseypizur7087 yeah, bc the entirety of TH-cam will see your comment and somehow agree with you with no proof.
Piss off.
@@kelseypizur7087 why say it on someone else's post?
For him to say his childhood wasn’t awful because he wasn’t starving and he had a roof over his head despite the fact about everything that his dad did to him shows how much of a humble but damaged angel he was. Rip :(
EXACTLY
Poor soul RIP
Minimization.
It's called psychological abuse, when the victim blames his/herself for the abuse, say it wasn't that bad,etc😢
Sometimes that how people will deal with the trama is they compare it to others which is wrong. Trama is still trama
The moment he said his dad played back his recording of him getting raped back to him as “punishment”, I understood how truly evil his father was. My father did the same thing to me, but with my crying whenever he beat the shit outta me; and I thought THAT was bad. I cannot fucking fathom how this guy is still alive and has somehow managed to procreate and try to get his life on track. The fucking strength it takes…
I understand, my dad used to record videos of him yelling and screaming at me while I was crying, and then he would think it was funny to show my friends anytime they came over.
What tf guys... That is so toxic.
@@cookiemonster123987 please ask help 🥺 NOW!
this not normal ASK HELP PLEASE 🥺🥺😭
Narcissists are the evil of the planet! We need to call them to account and expose them for the danger they are.
I really wish I could go back in time and give baby Jake a hug and take him away from those awful people. This is heartbreaking.
I’m not a lawyer but the statute of limitation for rape is not over. He can be brought to justice and should be.
NEEDS to be.. Imagine how many other victims there are. I bet money he was selling s@dism CP as well!! That sick sh*t sells... Sadly...
@Michael Troina obvious huh? are you his dad by chance?
Without treatment being able to excise the memory bank of the abuse, i feel there would be little, revenge, would "fix" for this. At least his dad owned it (in a very perverse, sadistic fashion imo). I was not even granted that by my step dad - guess mine is taking his lie to the grave. 50 years of the suffering i have endured won't go away. A trillion $'s could not repay what his crime cost me. Fact.
This goal post keeps moving. Last i'd heard, legally suit would have to be filed within 7 years of recognition of abuse. Long past.....
@Michael Troina Woke apologist. Cope and seethe you evil being.
In all of his horrific trauma, he still is able to mention the things he’s thankful for. What a tremendously inspirational human being.
😢😢❤️❤️❤️❤️
I can only hope I get to that place one day where I can still see the blessings.
Yes he is. His awesome!
Absolutely! Americans are taught and encouraged to hold tight to their problems and blame everything on them. They never overcome them, they constantly tell the world about them, they blame being effortless and lazy on them, and claim to have lifetime PTSD on something 100% LESS horrible than what this poor guy went through.
Agreed. 🥰
After all the awful trauma he experienced, he still approached his dad about going to therapy together and his fear is to live with anger… what a beautiful human being. I’m so sorry you went through all this and hope you find healing.
his dad does not need therapy, theres no cure or treatment for that level of evil, should be locked up for the rest of his life.
I couldn't have said it better MissMartinez. Thumb up it
Therapy doesn't work of narcissistic psychopaths, and that's probably what his father is. It was sad hearing Jake try to think up a reason that any person with any semblance of humanity would do such horrific acts.
❤️🙏🏻
you can tell he really wants to reconcile with his dad, but i dont think it will ever happen, as sad as it is
One of the most beautiful, loving souls I’ve ever heard speak. Everything about this man is the epitome of strength, empathy, grace, intelligence.
Rest in peace Jake
I was sexualy abused at around age 12 but couldn't tell anyone because it was my sister's
husband... if I had of told my dad he would have killed him and my sister would have literally DIED.
Long story short, this is the first time this has ever came out of my mouth/written so this guy made me say it, and it's very liberating so Thank you Jake....
The guy is dead now and I'm not sorry !!
So, the abuser is dead now?
@@Baked502 yes
Let the healing come. 💜
So strong of you to speak of it. How are you feeling since you've written it down?
It's so sad to see how warped abused kids are. You refused to tell your dad, because he would have rightfully killed the abuser? I understand that you were a child, completely incapable of being logical, but that's just so backwards. I'm gonna teach my daughter that child abusers have no right to life, and no one's "feelings" matter more than her safety and security.
I'm so sorry your parents failed you.
The abuse he suffered is one of the most sinister and vile things I’ve ever heard. I will never forget this young man. I sincerely hope he finds inner peace and sanctuary.
The horrifying reality is this sort of abuse happens to many kids, especially in satanic ritualistic abuse pedo rings. Furthermore, once the child is suitably terrified they are murdered for their u know what.
He is well on his way. He was going down the road to cutting off his body parts but he sounds like he is recovering.
I'm just heartbroken
Problem lays with weak soft system.
Run by weak perverse people.
Did you know....Muslim paedophiles and rapists are actually castrated in the street for all to watch. Fact!
Yet America gives offenders a site all of there own with everything provided?? 🤔🤨😠
i dont think it is rare, people have to keep an eye on their kids.
He exudes a tender masculinity. Intelligence. Interesting character. Thankful his trauma didn't ruin him completely. He is the type of person to teach society what his type of experiences can be. He is articulate and not in denial. He deserves to be listened to, so we can understand stuff like this. Make the rest of us ready to accept the things we may not understand.
Great comment and very truthful.
It’s comforting in a way to see people like Jake that didnt let stuff he has been through ruin them completely.
I couldn't have said it better. Incredible person. Deserves to be heard. What a gem. I only wish him the best in this life. What a beautiful human; I am so grateful to have heard his story. I will revisit this interview time and time again because he is such a treasure.
Why is it significant for you to refer to his tenderness as masculine tho...?
@@kylejnicholson Because many men don't show tenderness. I think they may see it as a weakness. Boys are often taught to be strong and tough. I find that sad. I've heard it said that many fundamental or reformed religions teach that boys should be taught to be tough, to prevent them from "turning gay". Crazy.
@@kylejnicholson my guess your an avid t.v. "c.n.n."🤓🤔watcher 😬😆 why do people feel as they have got to "anyalize shit!?! Why cant. People just say what they feel with out others trying to "make something out of it !?!""" WELCOME FOLKS TO "WOKE SOCIETY!!"😖🤪
This man is such a beautiful soul...it breaks me that he has passed. He reminds me of Elliot Smith, so soft spoken, intelligent, and self aware. I wish the world saw more of him, I hope he is resting in pure peace and love.
Exactly, Elliot Smith. The last concert I went to of Elliot’s he was in such pain I knew I just couldn’t go again. Dear man, died soon after.
Bless this sweet man, Jake.
I thought of Elliott Smith too. Jake, like Elliott, was so soft spoken but highly intelligent. I wonder if Jake ever wrote. If he did, I bet it would be beautiful. He is so easy to relate with no matter what gender you are. He could've helped so many more people. I am happy to have watched this. Yet, my heart breaks knowing what he wanted to avoid ultimately killed him.
I'm just speechless. No words for such horrible child abuse from such a evil father predator. What a strong, brave soul. The fact that he can talk about the abuse is a miracle yet a testimony to such personal growth. Bless him and his journey. He should be so proud of himself for such amazing progress. Seriously.
Happens more than you know
@@illreportbackinabit.8514 tell that to all the pedo priests the gop sucks the cock of
Maybe his dad thinks he got away with it, but he will face Gods court one day. & "God does not allow the guilty to go unpunished".
@@illreportbackinabit.8514 hi there, abusive parents can vote for any party actually and they are often christians too. You seem a bit brain washed, stop juding an entire group just because they dislike abortion or accept gay people or whatever you hate them for. Be a christian and love ur neighboor maybe.
This is gonna be more common and accepted as humanity drifts from born again relationship in Christ to atheism, gay rights, abortion and debauchery we're seeing.
The amount of children who are abused sexually in this world is mindblowing. As a new therapist, almost every person I see has this trauma in their past. It destroys life. Pure evil. Demons live among us.
It goes against evolutionary instincts. We're supposed to be programmed to protect the next generation. Literal, supernatural evil may very well be the only explanation. If someone did this to my son, they wouldn't do it to anyone else. It's not a sin to kill the devil.
So sad!!
Yes. I'm an acupuncturist, and when I was in my clinical residency every single one of my patients had been abused and/or raped. It was a real eye opener. I've been in practice for well over a decade, and some of the stories I've heard are simply heart-wrenching.
Terrible. What is wrong with people. How can one do this to a child 😢
One of the most incredible women I’ve ever met in my life was raped by her father and same happened to her sister. It blows my mind and makes me unable to comprehend life whenever I think about it. She’s one of the strongest, most passionate people I’ve ever met and a role model for me. She felt like an older sister who looked out for me while we were working together.
This guy is stronger than anyone I've ever known, what a pure soul. I wish he didn't have to go through that as a child
me too.......mee too
This was my thought too. But then my second thought scared me because an awful lot of the strong people that I know I’ve had to put up with more than their fair share and the strength is like a suit of armor. The clothing they put on every day. Sometimes the strongest people in the room are the ones that are the most fragile but they don’t want to alarm everyone.
@@halleyvincent7296 Calm seas forge no sailors.
strength is not in taking losses
@@relly793 It's in surviving losses, and still being a decent person, which this guy radiates
Jake is now in a wonderful place now,He is loved,and healed,and has no memory of the hell he endured on earth. Much love Jake xx
Heartbreaking to finish the interview only to find out Jake lost the battle to his demons. His courage and strength was beyond words. Rest peacefully, Jake.
Where did you get this information from?
@@DenaMcKitrick mark posted an update in the comments.
@@BaldyFade Thank you.
What about a proper burial? Any more information about the circumstances of Jake's passing?
@@thefc3671 just the pinned comment saying it was due to a drug overdose on Jan. 5.
Talks about his abuse quite emotionless, but when he spoke about his brother he broke. Shows how the mind stores trauma beyond repair differently.
It could be that he thought about his past far more often until it stopped making him very emotional. It is a bit like accepting a close person died. Eventually you accept it and stop crying. Maybe he just didn't think about his brother often enough yet to get over his death.
I doubt it is that he cared more about his brother than himself or that he'll always cry over the death of his brother.
@@IARRCSim I see what you mean. Knowing myself and my mother having cptsd (nowhere NEAR what this man has gone through) I noticed some similarities in his reaction and behaviour. It seems like some parts of his memories are "dead", yet not forgotten.
Crying IS NOT breaking. I hate how that word is used in American English 😕
@@PsychologiaHolistyczna I'm not a native English speaker, so I'm sorry if I offended you by using a word the wrong way.
@@dagmarbeeke6163 No worries, thanks for explaining. It just makes me angry how language pathologists natural human responses. Not your fault. All the best
Shout out to that family that took care of him when he was a teen. Such a sweet selfless thing to do. Made him feel like he was welcome and called him son 😢 so sweet.
They saved him.
She
@@chrisbauman2562 Read the title again. "Ex Transgender Woman"
@@Geohovahs_Hand hahahaha call it a man all you want but that's a girl. Her pssy doesn't lie,neither does her feminine bone structure and weak frail arms
@@Geohovahs_Hand delusional but jobs
As some have already mentioned, to see a beautiful soul like Jake's so close to healing and health...it breaks my heart that his life ended so soon after this interview. He could have helped so many other similarly injured souls in life; I hope that having recorded this before his passing he might help some of them still.
"I'm afraid of living my life as a hateful person." We're so fortunate to have seen/heard you speak, Jake. Thank you for showing that the path to healing and recovering is treacherous but absolutely possible. My heart goes out to yours, with wishes of health, growth, and little things that make you smile.
Thank you Mark, for doing the work that you do.
Jake, you CAN and SHOULD "work" counseling others. You are SO empathetic, compassionate, intelligent and well-read. I am in awe that you are who you are in spite of what's happened to you. Peace and love to you, sweet Jake.
Maybe first work on himself more before starting to work others. But yeah as a future goal. :)
You need licensing to be a counselor.
I think he’s already counseling people.
One thing I’ve noticed about a lot of ppl who are homosexual or sex workers usually have background of being sexually abused. They turn to this to gain there power back.
@@spiritmatter1553 well if he is interested he could work on getting it.
Incomprehensibly tragic. The fact that his father was never held accountable is unforgivable and wrong beyond words. What a beautiful soul you were Jake, I'm so sorry....
His mom didn't catch on to this? Hard to understand.
@@sarahalbers5555 I think she was in on it too.
@@ciobalina7445 wait what happened
judgement day will be his worst nightmare
My dad was never held accountable either. Thank God he is dead I finally feel free of being uncomfortable for the first time in my entire life. My mom knew but she just let him back into the home. So it is what it is. It's not my problem anymore it's theirs. I did nothing wrong. It was them that did wrong. They hopefully will have to deal with that. Me and Jake are just alike. Him and I had a very similar childhood. I had the best of everything but was being messed with my entire life till I moved out.
I think it's one of the most inspiring interviews I have seen so far. I was blown away by his intelligence, philosophy and emotional maturity, despite his tortured life. The only problem I have with this video is with the title "Ex trangender woman". Although it has been a big part of his life I don't think it is the most important thing that defines him. Maybe "SA survivor" ... I don't know. I am aware that he passed away, but to have survived so long with such grace after the hell he has been through is the most incredible thing I find about his story. And this video will definitely survive and hopefully help others in similar situations. Thank you, Jake! I will think of you and I hope to have your strength when I will go through hardship.
He's probably the strongest, wisest person I've ever heard on one of these interviews. To be able to cope with his experiences and talk about them so rationally. The only time he showed tears of sadness throughout this interview was for someone else, for his brother, not for himself. Respect due.
He’s better than me for sure. I would be so bitter and hateful. I am now and my abuse was nothing in comparison. Without minimizing my pain, I can identify that he went through worse and came out better. Much respect and love to Jake indeed 🫡✌🏽💚
its not a sign of weakness to show emotion and cry when recalling traumatic events. He is still very strong and I applaud him and hope the best for him and his life.
@@Diamoondust That was not my point. I wasn't connecting strength with repressing emotions. My point about his emotions was about selflessness and who he was crying for, i.e. not for himself and for someone else.
@@JK-lu1dg I agree, I just wanted to point it out due to the way you stated it. :)
Absolutely agree he is a remarkable person to even have compassion after all the horror in his life
I am teared up, the fact that he’s become so wholesome instead of becoming what destroyed him gives me faith in the world. He deserves the best 🥺
Faith in Good, faith in humanity. but it's the World that does evil.
Faith in his strength and resilience.
*she
This young man is indeed wholesome it describes his person well. I see a good amount of peace in him which will continue to grow and grow. When he reaches out to people to help them as he wants to do his love in action will continue to heal his broken heart. And many will love him in return. There is a saying, overcome evil with good. And he is on that path.
@@theCosmicQueen Individual humans do evil things. Not "the World".
This is fucking horrific, I'm so sorry for what happened to you Jake. Extremely brave to speak about it publicly.
He will help many people.
@@Letizia2810 I’m
He died of an overdose
My heart hurts. The shinniest star left our presence. RIP Jake
"I don't want to live the rest of my life as a hateful person". What a truly astonishing ambition, Jake, considering what you experienced. Having worked with many damaged children during my career, you can be truly proud of the man you have become, how you have grown in spite of your past, and of your determination to not be held back by your terrible experiences. I salute you.
Amen
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A beautiful quote by a beautiful soul.
🙌👏
Very intelligent and articulate. Again all the negative traits start with the parenting. Imagine this young man with a proper childhood. Hopefully he can get proper help going forward 🙏
He’s so intelligent and articulate.
His pacing and tone of his voice is very engaging as well. He has a natural presence on camera. This man is very similar to myself in that we both took ourselves to the edge with hard drugs and were able to realize we were legitimately going to die. I hope to hear more from him in the future.
He's an inspiration though for having survived what he did and have the willpower to stay off drugs and not take doctor's dope. The way these people come into the world is horrible, but they do shine a light for others who want out as well.
I think that a lot. I went to the National Chess tournament when I was a small child. People thought I was a real prodigy. Now at 50 my life is a complete wreck. I'm recovering but its still a wreck. If I had just had one adult at any time in my life that could have given me a little boost or some guidance instead of being a deeply traumatized person trying to figure out life completely alone.
proper no.12, irish whiskey - one for all
He did not shed a tear talking about horrible things he's been through but when he mentioned his brother he couldn't hold it back. Amazing soul.
The trauma is too deep he can't cry for it. It's not great
Too much selflessness isn't good. I'm hoping he can get to the place where he can grieve and metabolize his wounds.
Witnessing your siblings being abused that hurts the most. Then you grow up & people realise there’s something wrong with you and they think it’s funny to mock & abuse you. I f***ing hate people.
@@XtineJohnes those types of wounds never get heal completly, sometimes it is good to separate yourself from the scars and memorys that those episodes generate in you. I wasnt hurt as bad as him but ive got trough some abusive things and i can relate to the vivid terror dreams and not wanting them but knowing that they will be there. Grief dosnt end, and in his case is much worse.
@@raynarks I fucking hate people too.
Very sad to hear he passed away . It must be so hard to live with CPTSD . It is so unfair that people cause this amount of pain upon to others ! He seemed like he was very centered in this interview. I admire his courage, his intelligence and resilience. It´s quite incredible and admirable.
Jake- I don't know if you'll ever read this, but you are a mind-blowing, incredibly astonishing person. You were forced to experience absolute evil in its worst form, as a child no less- and *MAINTAINED YOUR HUMANITY*. This is an amazing feat, and I'm blown away by your strength and compassion. The way you reflect on your experiences and feelings, your hopes for a more peaceful life and fulfilling future, it's a story of perseverance, of emotional strength, and of love for others. I don't know what you will do in your future, but for goodness sake, KEEP GOING. The world absolutely needs people like you, people need to hear your story as much as you're open to sharing it, and know that they are also not alone. Write a book, do more talks like this, become a counselor, I don't know, but you are incredibly important to the world. We've never met, but I'll never forget you.
Ditto on that, Jake. You've survived the worst kind of abuse. That man is not a Christ follower but is truely evil.
I'm so praying that your life can heal without that man. I think your goal to be of purpose in your life is SO valuable.
I hope you achieve your goals.
You are valuable, worthy and loved.
I have nothing but respect for this guy ... I dont think I could keep my sanity
I'd say I haven't gone through much but others say I have but this.... what I went through was a cakewalk compared to this
Highest respect for this amazing human
You have put into words the emotion’s everyone that is watching this feels. 😢 I hope Jake continues to have the best life ever going forward. 🙂
Beautifully said!
Everything you said! He is such a amazing young man🙌🏻🙌🏻❤️❤️
This is probably your best interview. I felt EVERYTHING in this one interview. Shock, horror, anger, confusion, sadness, tears, inspiration, empathy, amazement and hope. Just amazing!!!!
@Ji Ki I feel like I live in this loop everyday, remembering all my trauma. Today, I really felt like I will never be worthy of a good life, despite all the years of trying to create a happy life for myself.
You are loving person. Bless you and your adopted family as you journey on. Peace and love.
My heart is breaking for that little boy inside of this extremely brave man. I wish you the best life forward. You’re amazing, wise and an inspiration
So he was a Male then tried to change to become a woman then reverted to his biological state a Male ! Did I get that correct.
@@den264 Yes, correct
His composure and insight was just so inspiring to see. He has found a way to stay soft. He understands his trauma and has taken both good and bad paths to healing. What a remarkable human. ❤️
Watching and listening as he talks, all I could see is a heart of a little boy. I feel like hugging him and being a mother to him, though I'm only 21.
You might feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulder but remember, God is the 'Father of the fatherless...'
Psalms 68:5
OMG just crying...I wish he had found a good therapist, they ARE out there. EMDR helped me through stuff like this. RIP angel.🙏
Dear Jake, thank you so much for your testimony. It was empowering to hear you state, "I am a traumatized person." I've always felt the need to hide my trauma (from childhood sexual abuse, rape, etc.). I feel ashamed of it, like I'm broken and unfixable. Your openness, clarity and courage around your trauma was refreshing and liberating to hear. Yoga saved my life as well. I've been teaching it now for 30 years. I don't think I'd have survived or been sane today without it. May you find the forgiveness in your heart you seek. Peace brother.
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I know Jake... we worked together for a little while. If you see this Jake remember the days at the shit plant! Jake was one of the nicest, hardest working kids to come through the job. Very intelligent. When I met him you would have never guessed the demons that haunt him. We miss you down at the shit plant Jake! Keep your head up and stay on the road you are on. Much love.
Thanks G :)
My First and Last Chance Bless you for trying to be a clean light person... it is hard to do here., good on ya for trying ✨💞✨
The Waukegan one?
@@myfirstandlastchance2476 Much love to you, Jake. Please know that the Lord still loved you to die for you. Your experiences are the result of revolting, perverted, satanic practices. Your dad is influenced by pure evil, and I can't imagine what dealing with him must be like. A disgusting person, indeed. In prayer for you, man.
The Vernon Hills one
This is absolutely one of the most moving and inspiring things I've ever seen. It reminds me that any average bloke I pass on the street could be a superhero, and I wouldn't even know it.
What an amazing human being. Survivor, courageous, warrior. Really a hero.
What is it worth to be a superhero when your soul is destroyed?.....
I come back to this interview every now and then because Jake is just so easy to listen to and seems like such a sweet person even after everything he's been through and has to deal with. I was also hoping for many follow up videos. Idk if I've already seen Mark's comment about Jake's passing and just forgot, or if I've never seen the comment before. After I realized Jake passed a while ago, it's just so upsetting to me. Not to be dramatic, but it honestly hit me like a ton of bricks. RIP Jake. I hope wherever you are, you feel safe and are at peace.
I'm a sexual assault crisis worker, that basically means I work with the police and support sexual assault victims/survivors during medical examinations and police processes. I've heard hundreds of stories relating to sexual violence but I couldn't finish this video. No other SWU video or even client story I've heard has impacted me like this one. I am so heartbroken for this person. He deserved better. Strength beyond measure.
Thank you for advocating for victims. I’d highly recommend therapy while you explore that job. I work with sexually violent predators and hearing the stories first hand is emotionally draining. You will become numb. Protect your heart.
There's a guy who did a video about child trafficking rings in Europe and what they do because he interviewed the women who birth these children and the man of one that buys and sells and them and how and they are born, raised, bought and sold them used up and sold for "parts" by 4 or 5. The guy who made the video was incredibly strong and brave and it was so disgusting it made me sick to my stomach several times. It was the most heinous things I've ever heard human beings do to innocent kids who will never know anything other than horror until they wake up one day in heaven with the Lord after enduring purely satanic, EVIL, just pure evil things. Man. I worked in law enforcement and saw and heard horrible things but this shit was just..... The stuff you're hearing hear isn't even close but up there. God it makes me sick to hear this terrible shit when I know innocents continue to be hurt daily, I wish I could crush them all under the feet of of God's vengeance...
Thank you ladies for doing what you do. I've had family members experience the more minor side of this stuff and just that angered me as a young man when I found out and I was armed by age 11 and had guns in my possession and if I'd known what had gone on with my immediate family I'd probably wi*** out an entire family and thought nothing of it as I grew up in a military family and with law enforcement and a strong sense of black and white justice for these sort of people and it took years and a lot of school and personal experience with knowing some individuals to change my way of thinking to certain degrees... But still, the lack of complete justice just angers me to a point of knowing that some things people do can never be forgiven or undone and never punished enough on this side of life.
I couldn't either, sooo disturbing and sad..How could you do such demonic things to your own toddler/kindergartner.
The ending is much better, he talks about how is doing now & what he’s doing to stay clean. It’s nothing like the beginning or even middle of his interview which is absolutely heartbreaking
Also Thank You for your work 🙏🏼
More than 1.5 million people have watched this and have been blessed by seeing how the "human" spirit is stronger than anything. Jake you are unbelievable. Turning darkness into light. The ultimate and most meaningful job. You are already doing it. Respect and honour to you.
Don't know why but this comment was the trigger to release the emotions built up from watching this. Turning darkness into light!
He really is amazing
Lovely and salient response. 💖
❤️
👏👏👏👏
This is just about the saddest story I’ve ever heard. I’m humbled to have spent 40 minutes in Jake’s company. I’ll never forget this film.
why, who are u?
@@6fejmk What kind of stupid question is that? He referring to the length of the video.
@@Ammerstol ur stupid
Jake needs Justice!
@@Ammerstol imma be honest, I took it literally and that did not occur to me, so thanks for clarifying.
I've watched many videos from this channel and this one broke my heart. I hope Jake rests easy and has found the peace his soul has been searching for.
Tragic. He was clearly an intelligent, sensitive and thoughtful person with a good heart and admirable character. This will haunt me.
He is in a better place now. He's no longer is tormented by nightmares and painful memories. It is very sad to realize just how terrible humans are to one another, even to their own children.
Everyone has their struggles, some of these struggles are unimaginable. Stories like Jake's and his journey to heal are still inspiring despite the sad ending. Doing this interview was another act of kindness and sacrifice for Jake, it will help countless numbers of people to see things differently, perhaps have more compassion for those struggling with addiction and hardship.
As a past CPS worker I can't imagine his torment. Some of the children I worked with who were subjected to this perversion were totally disassociated mentally. God this makes me so angry. I wish this young man healing and peace.
Hey I always wanted to ask someone about this. When my dad would come in my room at night and blah blah you know the drill... (sorry, I'm so over it, I just hate describing it) I had this waterfall across my wall, and there was this little blond haired blue eyed girl that seemed to have this light from inside, she'd shine so bright, would come out of the waterfall and come into my body, and I'd go sit by the waterfall in my mind, it was my happy place. I would close my eyes and imagine the sounds, and really got to the point I felt I was there. She didn't have wings or anything but I got the sense she was an angel. She would take whatever he did, because she was not like a human. She couldn't be hurt like I could. Her light was always the same, and she seemed happy to do it for me.
Have you ever heard of anything like this in your cases? Was that splitting? What in the world made it so real to me? Is there a term for this? I'm just wondering if this is something you've heard before, or seen before, and if there's an explanation for it.
@@heathertaylor8904 I been reading a healing book for traumatic sexual abuse and that is splitting or I believe disassociating
@@marimarsilva4629 I thought it might be but it seems unlike what I thought splitting would look like. I still feel like she was real though I know she wasn't. I think it's just that our idea of something is usually pretty different than what it turns out to be like? Anyway.. thanks for the input!
@@heathertaylor8904 I'm so sorry you went through something like that :(
@@yamap1 no it really is OK. What I went through is nothing compared to what so many kids go through even today. I do appreciate the sentiment, though, you're very sweet. As crazy as it sounds, a lot of good came from it, and I'm grateful to be who I am.
Jake said he wanted to do something meaningful in this world. Just want him to know this video is a piece of that. Many people watching these videos are dealing with or know someone who is dealing with similar trauma. Hearing the stories, seeing the pain and the recovery is inspiring. Thank you for openly sharing.
Agree.
I just want to hug him ❤
Absolutely. He is a survivor, a thrived and a hero for telling his story!
This title does not speak to Jake's emotional intelligence, gentle masculinity, and resilience. It's misleading. He is truly an amazing human being.
I have never heard a victim articulate so well the horror and the spiritual ramifications and journey where this takes a person. I wish you continued emergence from this burden.
Agreed. Also Anneke Lucas. Another hero of mine.
Unfortunately Jake passed away early January. Very sad considering he seemed so determined to abstain from substances. 🕊
I did not expect the interview with Jake to go in this direction. This man has been through monstrous things I could never have imagined. And yet his humanity comes through - the fact that he is working on forgiveness. I am in awe of Jake's strength, self-awareness, humility and so many emotions he evokes that I can't put into words. May the rest of your life continue to be better than the first few years of your life, and may you find the answers and enlightenment you are searching for.
Of course his mother gave birth to him just to provide him to her abusive husband. Women do not care about their own children.
She is as responsible as he is. She should be in prison along with them.
I am so sorry that he's been taught to waste his time and mental energy on trying to love, understand, and forgive a person who is not entitled to or deserving of any of those things.
@@canaryinacoalmine7267 it's really something how you can take a dad raping his kid, and make it the moms fault. you people never cease to amaze me
@@mewho6199 Love, understanding, and forgiveness are for the benefit and peace of the person who practices such thoughts and behaviors.
Well said. He really is an incredible individual.
I'm a 50 year old father, husband and war veteran and this made me cry. Jake you are a bright light in a dark world. Thank you for your bravery.
Describes Jake beautifully "bright light in a dark world " ❤️ what an inspiration
Thank you for your service sir
I agree, but is your name actually Wilhelm Roentgen? That's really cool!
@wilhelmroentgen beautiful said💙 Unfortunately I just was reading some other comments and they stated that this sweet soul passed away a few weeks ago😢 Jake deserved so much more. This just breaks my heart.
jakes dead now apparently.
Woah.. as i sat through this story , it really made me cry.. I mean, to think that you can cross someome one day and never know how they're surviving each hour of the day.. not knowing what people really do go through. He really did amaze me, his wisdom. His love. His soul. How he got through telling his story.. and lived long enough to express every sentence spoken.. Rest is peace..
The fact that he can talk about all he’s been through so calmly is truly amazing. I’ve gone through 1000x less and choke up in tears thinking about it, the fact he can have a clear and consistent discussion about it speaks so much. Awesome person.
It's protective. Those of us with severe childhood trauma usually either avoid talking about it at all, or talk about it like this. The events and associated feelings have been compartmentalized for our sanity. It's actually really sad to see and hear people describing their abuse this way because it means it was so severe, they have necessarily disassociated from it.
im not 8uying any of this. He's lying
It’s called disassociated
This would have taken years of therapy.
@@scottfay3553 How is he lying?? Why TF would he lie about it?
went to high school with Jake. He was a really really good guy. He was always friendly which is amazing given his upbringing. RIP Jake and RIP Steve who was mentioned at 24:40. Two amazing people that went too soon.
Thankyou for sharing
Wow, he was a beautiful soul. I am devastated.
Heartbreaking
RIP dear soul
Can you tell us what his father did for a living?
@@foolsfolly3476no🙄 uggh
Seems like such a gentle dude who is nice to be around. Damn, I’m sorry Jake. There are no excuses for what you’ve been through, but I’m glad you made it through and that you’re still here.
@Repent and believe in Jesus Christ Except if you're gay or trans though, right?
@Repent and believe in Jesus Christ Repent? For what? Idiot.
I can't believe it, he has been sexualy abused since infancy in USA he'll no nooooo
@Repent and believe in Jesus Christ you are on the right track about Jesus. But where is your compassion for this man's pain? I am a Christian, I had a horrible upbringing. I also watched my siblings deal with similar. I took a lot for them as well. How about instead of just throwing out scripture. Maybe pray and have something supportive to say. Be thankful Jake is alive and made it through real life hell. Love him where's he's at.
@@Jimmy-es8bc and no. Not except if your gay or trans. All folks have a right to Jesus. Horrible people that are hypocritical in Christianity have caused people to assume this. God will handle everyone accordingly. We all have fallen short. Not one person is perfect. Every person has a right to Jesus! Every person has a right to the life they deserve.❤️
This is the best interview I have ever heard! He is so articulate and well spoken. Well done!
Jake is beyond brave. I can’t fathom why it took his mom so long to figure out what his dad was doing to him. Thank goodness he had a surrogate family after those years of horrible abuse. And that’s wonderful he got clean of drugs relatively early. Getting clean before/around age 30 with the amount of trauma he suffered ; is miraculous. God bless you Jake for your bravery. (Or if you’re an Atheist, I wish you good energy and good thoughts)
That was really beautifully stated. This man seems like someone I would choose to have as a friend. So REAL!
Yes it’s a blessing
Mothers are the last to figure it out. I’ve seen it over and over and yes, even with my own damn mother.
@@r8chlletters they’re often also being abused?
The stuff he wen through is completely normalized by Democrats and corporations like Disney.
I cannot imagine any human being being treated this way let alone a child. I am at such a loss for words. Sending you so much love. I am so proud of you Jake for telling your story and breaking the cycle.
I know. I think about my son being a little kid, and I would have taken a bullet for him. Betraying YOUR OWN CHILD in the worst way possible? The thought just sickens me.
@@suchabadkitty1293 there are awful people in this world.
By his own father too. Pedophiles deserve a slow and painful death. They should be castrated the old school way without any pain relief.
Seriously these pedophiles would get absolutely demolished by almost any person with morals
That's why I can not fathom why the system releases these bastards after serving 2 years in jail. They should be in jail for the rest of their lives.
I respect people like this so much, actually trying to cope with the trauma in a healthy way, I wish him all the best
Me too. Much respect.
Difficult losses, and happenings in life are so tough.
I wish Jake all the best, and much happiness. He is a good man!
Thank you Jake!
🙏 💜. 🌿
He seems like such a good person. Like he really is and wants to b a good human being. Truly wish all the healing and goodness for this man in his life.
This chap is so self aware. The journey he has been on has made him so - I think he’d be an excellent therapist to be honest.
I was SA as an infant until I was about 9....
I struggled for years with tragic self-harm.. alcoholism, addiction, have been assaulted in my teen years, married a man who continued this towards me..
I had a total breakdown at 41 and finally admitted I was at the end of my life.. then I finally told the truth about what I knew happened to me as a little little girl..
Jake's passing from an overdose, the numerous numerous addicts who were SA as children.. their lives are FOREVER altered, high jacked from this.. ending their lives.. lives of nothing but pain..
This is why I believe that adults who SA children should face the death penalty.
Because the consequences on a child's whole life is the same penalty..
A life for a life.
God rest your soul, Jake. The pain is over now.. ❤
And Jake's father should be charged with murder.
I agree. People I know who suffered from childhood SA never recovered. The cope sometimes, but that experience is always playing in the background. Jake's fathers cruelty...the costumes, torture, playing his pain back to him... horrific. What makes people so cruel? It's demonic.
Im so sorry for what happened to you. Have you confronted these monsters?
I have exactly the same question!!! I can't belive it!! Omg.....
It turns out that Jake fabricated most of these allegations towards his father because his family cut him off financially due to his drug addiction. His family had been relentlessly harassed due to this interview.
My step brother was a victim of a predatory Boy Scout Troop Leader. He was one of many it turns out. He committed su*c*de.
I am so sorry for your pain. I pray you find peace and healing.
Reading The Body Keeps the Score helped me understand people with severe PTSD and Trauma, what this man is exhibiting here is the highest level of consciousness and enlightenment. He intuitively knows what works for him, his past, his reality, and how to frame his past in a way that does not bleed into the now. What an articulate, intelligent, brave, incredible, successful human being. The lack of anger is astonishing. The abundance of reason and introspection is bewildering. Thank you Mark for sharing such essential stories, and thank you Jake for allowing us to empathize with you.
Edit: I feel a genuine sense of loss hearing of Jake’s passing. Jake, I hope and vehemently believe that your beautiful soul is resting in the utmost, unbridled peace. Your story touched and inspired not only my life but the lives of so many and I want you to know that your success as a human being will never be taken away because you were not able to stay with us as long as your body would organically allow. We love you and we miss you. Thank you once again for sharing your story. Rest in Peace.
This is a terrific book. I recommend you read it.
Excellent comment, Bella.. you hit the nail on the head!
So well put, this is exactly what I was thinking, you articulated it perfectly.
My thoughts exactly! The most heartbreaking and moving part of this interview was his resilience and commitment to introspection and healing! It quite literally gave me chills.
Couldnt have said it better!👍
This man’s poise is just incredible. So much grace.
Yes!!!! I wish I could be more like him
@@angieallsup
I believe we all have the ability to tap into this, it’s all about holding intention and not allowing the world’s chaos to derail you.
So many people on the streets are very much like this.. it's depressing because a lot of them don't realize how incredible and smart they are!
It's humbling tbh.
I cried throughout. Jake was a person, very in touch, obviously. He had enlightened ideas.. Very beautiful person. Hurts me to know he passed. I hope his soul is 100 percent healed and as bright as it was always intended to be. ❤
I had to force myself to watch this. His story hurts my heart, my soul. As a loving mother, it's just very difficult to listen to or even fathom that someone would not only do this to another human, but a child. Jake, I hope you find peace and experience love in some form the way every human deserves. I hate that this happened to you and hope the days ahead of you are filled with joy and happiness.
You said it well!
that father needs locking up
dont believe it.. drug trips will give you insane amount of imagination and so called 'memories' which didnt even happen in the first place. drugs will make you literally insane..
so i doubt she/he has the intact, reliable memory retrieval capacity..
drugs will give you lucid coherent imagination as if it really happened in real time
@@gilliandarling9239 Castration would be too kind.
Same I have a 2 and 7 year old and I cannot even process how a person can be this evil
In situations like this (someone who was abused sexually starting to get confused about their sexuality/gender) it's important to ask yourself what I asked a few of my friends after their assaults: *Do you want to transition because you know you are trans, or are you trying to be a different person from the one who was abused?* I ask this (as a trans person) to make sure that they don't go down the wrong path of transitioning when they don't truly want/need it. It's extremely important to ask and understand that question when it comes to these situations! You don't want to do something that you'd regret so drastically. I'm thrilled and comfortable in my transition but a lot of people aren't, and if someone just truly asked them if they want to be a new person from the one that was abused or are transgender (and to sort out their emotions/thoughts first) they could recover so much better! So much faster!
I'm glad that he found himself in the end and is (hopefully) going to recover more in the future. I hope this confusion and terribleness is resolved, and I hope that his abusers get what's coming to them.
That's really sweet hope you're doing well!!💗
YES!!! This is the best thing I’ve read! Transitioning and being a transgender person is not a bad thing for some. For some people it’s the right thing to do BUT not for everyone. There is a difference between transgenderism and simply wanting to be someone your not. I think many people are just desperate to escape their own psyche for fear of being themselves. True trans people are wanting to be themselves not trying to escape being who they are by trying to be anything else.
You are so very correct. And probably tthe most intelligent comment / thought, on the subject of transitioning I have ever read . If only psychologists, psychiatrists, doctors, would ask these very questions, I also believe that much confusion can be resolved.
Great approach.
You are a beautiful person. Thank you for saying this.
I really, really like this person. Intelligent, self aware, and determined.
SAME!!! I want to hang out with him and travel to weird far away places with him. What an amazing soul.
I agree.
@@hdruktenis He needs to join my Intentional Community... cuz that's what I was thinking also!
@@TheGuiltFreeGal id love to join, i followed, if you want to talk some :)
@@myfirstandlastchance2476 Beautiful. Perfect. We just got 40 acres 2 hours from any real town in northern AZ. I look forward to becoming new friends!!! You can find me I think pretty easy in FB and Instagram. We will be tiny living in campers and small dwellings... a well and solar.. no plumbing... still just dirt... a a new road just plowed. I am pretty comfortable saying it will be very quiet and peaceful... and low tech... we won't be raising animals, but plan to have plenty of veggies and eggs. We aren't looking for money, just our tribe. I will be thrilled to visit with you about it, and obviously we could plan a visit out there if you like.
Jake's father was malevolent. He snuffed out the life of this amazing human being. His cautionary message about Xanax really shook me. I believe his testimony to be very genuine.
Honestly, I think to me the most impressive part of the story is his ability to get sober after all of that. It’s already hard as heck to change addictive behaviors in the first place, let alone finding sobriety after such intense trauma.
This is such a deeply disturbing world, what people go through like this guy did, is sickening. Wtf is this? this world wtf, poor baby.
With God's help, it is possible..i know bc He delivered me from addiction
Unfortunately that is basically the root of addiction, trauma. I’ve heard so many stories in my years working at a rehab.
@@alexabrown8107 most eating disorders are also caused by trauma. A lot of shit is caused by trauma and we get diagnosed with other shit.
@@kailathefox yes! It can even cause health problems. If you look at the ace tests and statistics, it can factor into stuff like heart disease, diabetes, COPD, liver disease, cancer, substance abuse, mental health issues, suicide and early mortality in general. Personally I score a 6 on aces and I have several of these issues.
The fact that he has not given up speaks volumes. Stay strong, Jake. You’re awesome.
*she
@@suncoasthoast9479 ex-transgender, so not “she” anymore.
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@@bunnybeetle1304 He, never was a she....
Stay strong Jake. I'm praying for you.
He's a gentle soul. No more pain, no more suffering, just peace. Rest easy, Jake! 🕊
Did jake pass away? :(
@@ClayMastah344 yes, January 5th.
@@arianarios4834 omg how?
@@arianarios4834 he seems so young
@@mousevrat5086 he overdosed on drugs sadly
He may have died from an overdose, but this was murder. His dad hurt him to his core with his atrocious abuse.
For a person that’s been through all that shit, Jake has his head on straight, only wish him the best man.
Jake, you spoke to wanting a job that gives you meaning, working with people and your hands is the best stress relief for me honestly. I’m a bike mechanic and giving old things new life and seeing folks faces after does it for me.
How'd you get started towards being a bike mechanic?
@@ntl9974 there was a small shop in my hometown. i walked ina asked for a job, as I had rode bmx growing up and fixed up my friends bikes. couldnt pay me for awhile as i was 15 and they didnt know how much help I could be. since then ive worked a couple more shops over the last decade, and im now a service manager for a larger local shop.
Cody, way to go! This is your creative self and then giving is the icing on the cake. I hope Jake reads your comment. Keep going.😊
Wow, this has to be one of the BEST interviews I’ve ever seen. Jake is so self aware and intelligent. Thank you Jake for being so vulnerable with us and sharing so much trauma. Your story impacted me greatly.
Agreed 100 I could listen to Jake all day long.
AGREE AS WELL!!!
Love your comment ❤️
are you lot fucking sick ? you don't thank someone for being vulnerable you sadistic fucking scumbags, what's wrong with you ?! "thankyou Jake for being so vulnerable etc. " my god I swear there are some seriously weird people out there....
Well said
Mark, this may actually be the best interview you've ever done. Your questions were precise and incisive, and Jake is a beautiful person that's able to articulate his trauma in a rare way that is really helpful to those of us that have experienced similar things. Thank you, Mark!
Agreed!
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I agree. This hit my heart hard. I felt like I was listening to a real life angel honestly.
@@rachaelclemons8501 Sounded sincere to me.
Exactly… we need to start passing a law that if abuse a child, you get a bullet to the dome.
Truly saddened to hear that Jake died. What an intelligent, compassionate and insightful young man.. his level of self awareness.. I am not religious but I hope he has found peace from a truly shocking history of abuse and trauma. R.I.P.
I can't stop thinking about what Jake could have achieved for himself and others if he had found the support to assist him further in his healing journey. 🙏
Trying to wrap my head around the strength it took to complete this interview. Thank you for sharing your story , Jake. You had mentioned one of your goals was to help people . Well , my friend, I think you are off to an amazing start.
Yesss!
I just want to give you and your friend/ex-boyfriend hugs.
Agree! He amazes me! He’s overcome so much and his strength, poise, intelligence and love is amazing.
Jake, I want you to know that there are a huge number of people in this world who love you and care for you. Our admiration for your honesty and witness is beyond words. I’m sorry that you went through such horror, and I hope that life rewards your courage and perseverance. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
@d R What a pathetic response. Nobody needs your pseudo-intellectual attempt at diagnosing others’ intentions or lectures about the supposed non-impact of good will. Go somewhere else- this channel very clearly isn’t for you.
@d R preach.
👏👏👏👏👏👏
I watched this whole episode in disbelief. How in the world does a person become so hateful to their child? I am SUPER PROUD to have had the opportunity just to meet this kid. I love you Jake buddy!!
evil.... science has learned the brain is not whole.
You’re not a pedophile or sexual sadist so you can’t understand. There’s no use for us trying to put ourselves in the shoes of those disgusting wastes of life
You look like a man named greg paul
@@MONSTERKILL2013 My brother...............
@@willieyoung4818 Yeah, pretty uncanny
What an amazing person Jake was. I think Jake's story should be shared on a larger platform to help victims who have and who may still be suffering.
There are a rare few people in this world who are stronger than diamonds. This guy is one of them. Huge huge love.
@ActSmart BeSmart shut up
@ActSmart BeSmart agreed.
Perhaps, later, in another interview, he will have matured to strength.
God have mercy.
@ActSmart BeSmart The strong is interpreted differently. Perhaps they mean he’s strong for still being here, because some people would resort to suicide after being through such atrocities.
@ActSmart BeSmart You absolutely have to be strong to overcome an opioid addiction... Without MAT program at that. He is absolutely strong, and your opinion doesn't change the fact.
@@aliceinchainz Just because you choose to commit suicide doesn't mean you are not strong. Sorry.
I have honestly been thinking about this guy all day long. It really hit me that he died. He seemed like such an intelligent, empathetic person. Such a beautiful soul. You didn’t deserve what happened to you
I read on Reddit that his story was fabricated.
@@FathomlessJoy please explain
@@FathomlessJoy all of em are LOL
@@FathomlessJoy This makes sense, as liars typically look left when fabricating a lie. People look to the right when remembering something. I didn't trust this guy immediately.
@@FathomlessJoy If you pay attention he didn't look right once, what a sob story will do to pay the bills
The way he speaks in a monotone protects him from feeling too much. His childhood was a nightmare, what a horrible mother and father. You can’t tell me that mom didn’t know. She sacrificed her son to that animal! He seems resilient though, but I pray that everything doesn’t overwhelm him at some point. The fact that he tried to have his father exposed and arrested, and that was ignored must be devastating. I hope the best for him.
don't be so sure she always knew. The dad took him to motels. The abuse ended when she threatened to call the cops! The abuse is probably what caused the divorce. nowadays, courts will too often think the mom is making it up when she claims abuse by t he dad. they punish her and take the kid away AND GIVE THEM TO THE ABUSER. this is very common, Millions of victims by now. He probably threatened that she would never see him again if she divorced him. so she stayed in order to be there for her son as best she could. til he was old enough to chance it.
I agree. I think the monotone speech is him disassociating himself from the harrowing memories. Beyond sad. Not sure if I can even finish the video. My heart is beating in pain for him.
My Grandmother allowed my Mother as a child to go into her boyfriend’s room to sexually gratify him. She denied everything & he fled to Mexico, no justice ever done. Sadly the legal system does nothing to protect women and children. Nothing changes because many of these pedophiles are in positions of power. I wish I could hug him & tell him how brave he is to tell his story. My Mother was in psychotherapy up until her 50s trying to deal with the abuse. It stays with you forever 😞💔
They aren't talking in a monotone at all, they just don't sound like a cartoon.
I pray to GOD, that God would erase from his mind & draw him to Jesus. He will heal him,restore him,because of Christ ‘s Love. I’m so sad for you. God has healed me & he will save & heal you.
I’m moved. I don’t have words beyond deep sadness and love for Jake
Thought this would be about regretting transition before I realised the content.
Have to say: you are an incredible impressive survivor full of wisdom and empathy.
I wish you all the best for your future and that you may stay on your healing path!
And may you be surrounded by loving people forever 🙏
This young man has a very soothing beautiful voice. It's so strange to hear that soothing voice tell such a horrific story. He jumped right in and I don't think I was ready. I can't imagine how awful to have endured such abuse. I know you're not Christian, Jake, but I am so I'll be praying for you. Just know that your loved. You're so strong!
People who do not identify as Christians do pray for people.
@@emmybullock6656 I'm aware. If you want clarity I will say it this way. "I know you don't believe in Jesus but I will pray to him for you anyway."
The world needs to hear Jake’s story. He is such an amazing human being. This is, by far, my favorite interview so far.
This is by far my favorite interview I have watched so far too. I could not stop watching.
@@tvfan14 mine too.
Mine as well.
Mine too. Beautiful person, so special. ❤️
I’d say the same thing sir
As a Brit, had to google the place in Chicago called “Wauconda”.
I thought this guy was saying he was from Wakanda
His narration was far more interesting than the title promised. Especially the part about trying to forgive and not wanting to live as a hateful person. May your dream come true, I hope you find all the strength you need and deserve
Dear Jake, I hope you realize how many people you are helping by giving this interview. I am one. Your story is NOT all for naught. You are so resilient and a beautiful soul.
Exactly… we need to start passing a law that if abuse a child, you get a bullet to the dome.
How do we find his socials?
Yep lots of mentally Ill people out there who think changing their gender will make them not depressed and suicidal. Sad liberal propaganda
@@kayleepapp6286 Don't get him doxxed. If he wants to his information out he will let it be known, like many other of the people interviewed do on this channel.
Wow! This soul is raw, real and his quest for forgiveness is inspiring. “What am I afraid of? I’m afraid of living my life as a hateful person”. That will stay with me. That line has made things in my life clear. Thank you so much for sharing. You are a real inspiration. You are wise and strong. I applaud you.
I connect with your comment so much!!
Your assessment is beautiful. The fact that he's seeking out forgiveness within himself is amazing. I think so many people think forgiveness is an act of kindness to the person being forgiven, but in my opinion, if you truly forgive someone that's wronged you, forgiveness actually becomes what sets you free from the entanglement of emotions that hold one down. It's truly an act of liberation and kindness to one's self.
@@rjchavers9267 True, but pedos are preying on that idea - Oh they have to forgive to be set free. That's why coupled with forgiveness, knowing the pedo will face consequences is necessary. For example one always heard forgiveness but they Don't hear Exodus 22:22-24 that says basically if one abused a fatherless child God will kill them. Of course they want to keep that hidden
Why do you feel he's seeking forgiveness? Forgiveness for what? He didn't do anything wrong, he was the victim. 🙄
@@silasthornblood9038 obviously their comment went over your head.
I definitely don’t think that being “ex-trans” is the defining characteristic of this individual.
This is easily one of the darkest stories I've ever heard. It affected me phisically. My heart hurts so much for this human. I have four boys ages 2 to 11...how the hell could anyone ever hurt a child 😞
I think this all the time.. HOW? The amount of pain you'd have to cause then to sexually assault them. So sickening!!
I have two kids . I just whant to hugh him . What I wish to do to his father can' t be written here ...
I constantly look at my three little ones and can almost start crying thinking about things I read and watch knowing some psychotic horrible person would love to get their evil hands on them and it's terrifying
Hearing it was hurting me so much then when he said 4/5 yrs old and started describing what was happening I lost it crying so much, I have a son whose just turned 5 and the thought of anyone hurting him in anyway is unbearable never mind in the way he was abused and by his father to! And the mother knew and didn't murder the bastard! I'm so angry
My hearts broke for this man I hope he's okay I can't imagine ever being ok with what he's been through
@@TheMaru666 Pedophiles and rapists should be hung.
Oh my GOD. My heart literally hurt listening to this. That a human can be so cruel as to hurt an innocent child like that is unfathomable. Pedophiles are the worst kind of disgusting evil, and I hate so much that so many of them get away with it, or are let out of prison. I don’t believe they ever get better.
Kudos to you for your strength. Sending love for your healing journey.
You are a absolute cougar
They aren't human....
And to their own precious child.
But don't you dare suggest that the torture through which they put children has anything to do with the latter developing gender dysphoria. Because then you're a bigot. Like this guy. Clearly he hasn't gotten the memo.
His father wasn't any standard paedophille. He was a sadist paedophille. All paedophilles are terrible people, but most of them justify their acts in their minds by telling themselves it's some form of "love" for children. This guy's father, on the other hand, had pleasure in HURTING children. Even paedophilles (most of them) are disgusted by this kind of psycho. Truly evil!
He seems so close , so close to freedom. The honesty he has with himself. Very heartbreaking to read he passed.
People who have suffered severe childhood Trauma carry the effects for their whole lives. Acknowledging their memories as their own is only one of many steps in a long journey. There are body memories, pains, dissociations, nightmares, flashbacks, built out neural circuits, the way the brain and the reality is built in this young age (0-7), the split up and separate functional circles that were built, the constant feeling of not being connected with the world, the many people that don't believe the victims, because they don't want to imagine, what can not be real for them. And many more things, that accompany the victims every day...
He lost his brother. After everything else that had happened to him in his life, that loss was more than he could take. In fact, his predator-masquerading-as-a-father may have even come after him if someone he knew saw this video.
he's free and at peace now
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