WHY IM A LONER
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ต.ค. 2024
- Hey Man its okay to be alone, as long as your happy thats more important than anything.. I hope this advice helped in any way! Happiness is a journey & healing is always happening. Just be here now, baby.
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I need friends who I can take naps on the grass and not have the need to talk every min, instead just chill and listen to music.
Oh man you make me feel normal girl
Let us be friends I love to experience that too especially in the mountain star gazing/sky gazing
@@mariellegomez5089 right !
Same
Til theres too much not communicating and they start playing music you cant stand
you don't understand how much this video makes me feel like a whole person. my parents always judge me because i never bring friends over the weekend, but every time i do bring people, i end up feeling even more alone in a way. i personally think independence is a huge statement especially in today's society because you enjoy your own company and don't feel the need to rely on people to make you happy.
juluatanaya yes girl yes!! what people need to understand is that a person doesn't NEED to rely on people to be happy. and i feel so empowered after reading your comment bc i know i'm not the only "lonely" girl in the world.
trinity guiao yes my situation exactly .
You seem like one of those friends everyone needs.
Angelina Velez hell yes, i feel u
Am I the only one whose life has changed since she/he met Hitomi? Because really, I was in a critic moment but you gave me hope and made me love myself. I could never thank you enough. I know I don't know you in person and you are probably not going to see this comment but still, the impact that you had in my life really did a difference in me and how i see the world.Next month I'll get my first tattoo to remember all that phase that I had (depression and eating disorder) and the quote reminds me of you; ''I am love. I am peace. I am joy.''
She inspires me so much and has helped me get over so many issues in the past month. Hitomi has changed my life a lot this year and just through her youtube. Such an inspiration!
Camila Teresa Vasquez Soto I can relate to this comment so much!!! I've had a really rough week and I barely found her Channel yesterday and she has already helped so much. I feel so inspired when I watch her videos and Today I looked forward to coming home and watching a bunch of her videos
I'm commenting because I was so inspired to write an entire essay about how she's changed my life, but you've summed it all up ❤ She deserves to know the impact she's making. It's so touching to see her effect on her viewers, just by telling her story. That's what it's all about ✨
Thank you, Hitomi, for being the catalyst in my life that really put things into a place of love and understanding. Your vibe is such a blessing; it's healing, contagious, and inspires me to pass it on to others. Love & Light 💋
I feel the same way...she's such an inspiration. My life has gotten so much brighter, happier and inspired.
Camila Teresa Vasquez Soto I was going through a tough time too and hitomi helped me so much by making me see things in a different way ! So thank you hitomi ❤
Today I wore polka dot socks. I tend to look at my feet when I feel anxious, so I gave myself something to smile about every time I look down :)
Elizabeth morrissey This is so good
Elizabeth morrissey It's funny you mentioned the feet thing. I do the same exact thing. I dont shop much anymore during my journey of entrepreneurship, but I have nice shoes, and when i look down it brings me some kind of satisfaction. :)
omg awh i love this so much :(
That's so beautiful, it's a really good idea as well. It made me smile reading your comment. 💞
Aww that’s so cute I’m a big sock enthusiast myself hehe
I realize that most of my problems against having no friends stem solely from my worry of what people will think of me. Like I'm content with having no friends really because the few I have, while I have a deep care and appreciation for them as humans, I don't really connect well with so I prefer to be alone because I haven't really met people who I connect with. And I find that I'm usually perfectly happy being alone and doing my own thing until I see people out with their friends or if someone asks me about my friends or something along those lines. I guess I'm just struggling with getting rid of the mentality that there must be something deeply wrong with me if I don't have friends and don't connect with many people easily. It's just something I'm really self conscious about even though I love it at the same time. I'm 19 years old and I literally just recently have met a couple of people that have actually put a spark in my heart and I felt a connection to. and they all live in different countries because they were all people I met while traveling solo. So it still makes me feel lonely. And it's weird because I LOVE my alone time. I need it constantly. People are so emotionally draining, whether I love them or not. but lately I've been feeling lonely and I think it's because of how you said, I'm not feeling connected to myself. I think it's because I'm too focused on what other people will think of me for not having a lot of friends so I put myself in situations were I surround myself with any people but since there's not really any kind of connection I feel even worse but at least I seem like I "have a life" right? sarcasm. Overall I know that when I deeply connect with someone, it is very special because it's so rare. Learning to love and accept myself, I guess this is part of the process.
This is so true to my own experience that it's weird hearing someone else voice the same thoughts. Being a person who is happiest in solitude/with a small group of friends is hard when we're constantly made to feel like that makes us deficient or worthless or pathetic.
i'm 25 and i met my closest friends at 23 years old. i never had a big group of friends before that. just a couple of friends that made me cry and felt so lonely every single time in high school. When i was 13-17 y.o. i never ever hanged out with friends cause i had none. and i felt so lonely and suicidal. But i also learned to be alone to the extent where i cant be with people (not even my family)for a long time, i feel like i lose my energy too. I need my time alone so i only enjoy hanging out with friends for a short period of time. So i guess is not abnormal. And i realised that i like being alone and dont care of what others think about it.
+Sol 솔 oh and i dont have a bff .. i know and accepted that i cant create deep relationships with people. i dont care enough and somehow it doesnt work. nobody has ever put me as a priority and its ok i am concious of my akwardness around human beings. When i'm alone im hilarious... what can i do i already accepted my reality and im comfortable with it. smtimes i laugh my ass of on how funny i am. I just need to talk to friends once in a while to confirm i prefer being alone than talk to people.💁
ohwellwhateverr I agree completely! I'm also so happy to see I'm not the only one. it's really hard to convince yourself that there are other people who feel the same no matter how many people around you dont. the world is so large. I guess we'll just keep getting over that stigma and accepting that it's a part of moving up spiritually. I truly think that's also it. I think the higher your vibrations raise the less you connect with most people because it's not really widely talked about or even a priority. we're all on different parts of the path. I try to remind myself, easier said than done (:
Sol 솔 this made me laugh because I feel the same way lol! I'm so content in my own thoughts. I'm constantly laughing and doing weird stuff that just makes me happy I'm the person I am. and I also feel like I've never been able to be that way with anybody but myself. you're right, it doesn't matter that you dont have a bff, other than yourself of course (; but that's great that you have a close group of friends. even though I strongly believe that we only need ourselves, I think one of the really great things about this "little parentheses in eternity" is that we get to come across certain people, short term or long term, that make us feel really lucky to have gotten to experience a moment with them. or even just learn something from eachother. but yeah keep having fun with yourself. I think the more we normalize it the more aware the world will become on a wider array of topics. ❤
it was a sunny day and I walked around downtown and took the bus and went to yoga all by myself and I cherish those types of days so much because of how lovely they make me feel
emma pon taking time for ourselves for real personal growth is really important!
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emma pon thank you for sharing this. I've had people tell me it's selfish to want to be alone and how I should always be around people. it's refreshing and encouraging to know you find happiness within yourself, and take time to grow. I will keep doing the same for my own happiness
simple for the simple o
Loved this! I'm such a loner too and I'm kind of struggling with what kind of person I want to be and what friend I want to be
Simply be the friend that you want in return. For me is being someone that checks their attitude at the door. Someone who's loving, encouraging, respectful, genuine, selfless, occasionally spontaneous and willing to explore new adventures🤗 drama not welcomed! Good luck!😄👍🏽
You know whats funny most of time you speak with someone online it turns out they have no social life and you actually like that person and think off maybe you guys hang out together and get to know each other but you find out that person never try to initiate or ask about how you doing in your day and give the effort to connect with you that is why i believe most people are lonely these days they never take responsibility of action they want you to always check on them + ask them out + and bring good conversation to the table while they just here to get entertained by you they make you feel worse after you talk to them and they complain about loneliness 🙃
i almost 20, living in london and i am going through one of those periods where i literally have no one.. i used to be close to the people i live with but as i got more and more depressed they left me/i isolated myself. i am not close to my parents or brother..and my best friends from high school are in different continents.
i am alone in my room most of the time and i get very sad. writing has definitely helped! i used to do it so much in high school but i gave it up. after i found hitomi's videos i started journaling again and i feel like i have an outlet now.
this video and the comments make me feel like im not the only one. thank you :)
I'm totally in your same shoes! The people I'm close to live in different countries. Journalling has helped me sooo much, and also just leaving the house as often as I can. It's always a better day when I see other people and feel some wind on my face. I dont know if you can but I really recommend going to a cafe, library, walking in a park, anything. Even go watch a movie alone, or eat somewhere tasty.
yes, so true I had literally not even seen the tube station for a month..then I finally got out and went to college, and it was honestly a pretty good day. thanks for replying, even that makes me feel better
meow horan You are definitely not alone. TH-cam can be a great way to connect with people sharing the same experience, that you might have never realized. It is important to know that everyone is built differently. If being alone is starting to become too much, step out of your comfort zone. Join a social group online that does activities. Join a book club, where you can still be mellow but share a hobby with likeminded peeps. There is a dignity to being alone. Embrace it, explore it and turn it into a strength.
Same, just moved to London, and now we are in Lockdown
i love you
Yeah definitely with high school is its fucking hard to find people on your same vibration because everyone is caught up in the superficial high school bs. I've definitely been alone for the majority of my high school experience and I sometimes wonder if there's something wrong with me because my peers are constantly hanging out. But I've come to the realization that I really just can't pretend to fit it any longer and put on my mask. I'm starting to find the comfort in my alone time without the awkward guilty feeling that I'm doing something wrong.
violet chantress just screenshotted I have not ever related to something ever you said it so perfectly, we seriously need to be friends omg
I'm down, chipmunk
Your aura is a radiant soft green. #empathgang
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simple for the simple Didn't even know I was a top comment on this video lol just clicked back and saw this. Your channel is super cute!
I see her aura omg. I’ve never been able to do that before. It is soft green!
I feel that too😌
watched this while painting a lil picture and drinking my favorite tea alone in my cozy room...so content!
Maeve Faragher we vlog our life and spiritual realisations, hoping to inspire people on the spiritual path. We would be SO SO happy if you'd check us out and share the love :)
I lost a lot of friends bc they wanted to hang out with other people that I didn't like and I wasn't comfortable with so rn I don't really have friends and I'm almost 20. I love this bc it makes me feel like I'm not alone with this feeling
I'm in the same boat, God helped me realize that I don't fit in because I'm different and I'm a gem and I'm beautiful. I have so many gifts that I don't use. And I feel like the reason why I'm alone and becoming alone is because I need to use those gifts and flourish without distraction(: so just know you guys aren't lonely the only acceptance you need is from yourself and God
That's a lovely way to look at it.. I'm inspired
Cassie Lee so glad ! Stay inspired my love ❤️
you're absolutely beautiful inside and out thank you 💖
I am lonely please help so I don't hurt myself
@@sunsfan8535 what's going on?
It's so upsetting how cruel kids can be in high school but that's life (even though it shouldn't) I am vegan and being in high school makes it SO difficult there's so many memes and people insulting you right away for eating good healthy food!? It's the worst but I'm almost out of there. To those that are still in high school and struggling, don't give up, radiant your true self and SHINE your brightness will attract other butterflies 💕gl
As I continued to listen to hitomis video I realize she said the same thing but yeah!!! Don't give up!!! :)
They want you to stay on their level they can’t beat seeing someone being different they are deeply inscure
I'm a loner as well, I have my cat and 1 friend which is quite sad really
It's okay, so do I! My one friend is my partner, BUT THAT'S OKAY!! You will meet ur people and so will I. I hope you're well and sending u postive energy
zahra noriy I only have my kitty cat but I'm happy with that!
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All you need is one friend. You can have aquantainces.... People are too free with the term friends
I'm a loner and I love being a loner
I love Hitomi's channel and the fact that many of us can relate to the subjects she covers in all of them. Knowing the fact that you all exist, really helps me cope with my depression. Typically, I am such a pessimist yet I feel so enlightened and hopeful after watching these videos videos and reading these relatable comments . Thanks so much to all of you
MultiU4U love this! It's so nice to have so many like-minded people come together
We vlog our life and spiritual realisations, hoping to inspire people on the spiritual path. We would be SO SO happy if you'd check us out and share the love :)
I'm 16 and i find it very difficult to find friends that think the same way as i do and who is very open minded as i am about a wide variety of things i always feel out of place because my generation is more into things that are about gossiping about other people and fights and popularity and just superficial things that don't really have a purpose to me at all but i'm slowly starting to enjoy time with myself and i'm just taking time on finding and waiting for the people who i truly vibe with and can share my deepest thoughts to but i feel we are twins because i vibe with you so much i wish we were friends.
same for me
hey guys we vlog our life and spiritual realisations, hoping to inspire people on the spiritual path. We would be SO SO happy if you'd check us out and share the love :)
same, making friends and talking to people itself is so hard for me since i'm afraid of saying the wrong thing and being judged but all i hear other people talk about is either gossip or the fun stuff they did with their friends and i can't relate or really add anything to the convo even if i want to
sameeeee
serenity siren well girl same here i am 16 too and i sometimes hate beeing around my "friends" because they are so different then me idk its like i need them because i am not at the point where i could live lonely but i also hate listening to the things they talk about all the gossipping drives me crazy...i always hope that i find someone that is like me..like my soulmate
Better to have less real friends than a bunch of fake ones.
You are a very beautiful soul , It's so insane how you can find someone you have never met in person feel the same way about so many things and have a similar perspective towards life
It's hard to find people with the same positivity and depth as you
It's always been hard for me to connect with people on a deeper level since I was always surrounded by people focused on surface topics but even though I don't know you in person I feel very connected to you Hitomi 💜
Pita Duncan we vlog our life and spiritual realisations, hoping to inspire people on the spiritual path. We would be SO SO happy if you'd check us out and share the love :)
simple for the simple yes of course I would love to 😊
AGHH I FEEL THIS SO MUCH, if someone speaks to me slightly different or something i feel like they hate me and it's my fault
I feel so lost spiritually. I feel like I found myself and then lost myself again...
remembering and forgetting, remembering and forgetting. Each time remember a bit more. Though your message is many years old, I wanted to connect with you and say I at times feel the same. But I gotta remind myself I’m always right here, never left. Love never leaves. I’m sending you so much love and grateful to be seeing your comment. Hope you are well:)
Just wondering how you doing now
@@jonathanlove7078 I forgot that I wrote this comment, but thank you so much for your message, it means a lot. I see I wrote the comment three years ago, and a lot has happened since. I'm doing so much better now and doing the things that I love. I'm definitely not the person anymore who wrote that comment. Hope you're well too, sending my love
@@lounarcosis9639 Much better thank you for asking. Forgot I wrote this comment, but it's nice to look back and see how far I've come. I was 17 when I wrote this, so a lot has happened since. I'm happy where I am now, progressing and growing every day (:
my friend told me to check out your channel because you "remind" her of me. i'm so so happy she told me this! i feel like our thoughts are so similar, its beautiful to see someone who has the same mindset as you. you say everything that i feel, ugh i adore you ♡ 🌱 i'm such a loner too but i'm just waiting to have people in my life that i genuinely connect w/!
this is so true
speaking up is SO important because people aren't mind readers
it sounds obvious but so many people want others to just 'get it' but that often leads to misunderstandings and hurt feelings
i get so excited when you post! and just a hour or so ago i was thinking "i wish hitomi would upload another talking video" & here it is! love uuuuu 💕
So beautiful how you are impacting tomorrows youth in such a beautiful way. Thank you for being a light and helping others💗💗💗
It's so hard to find people that mesh with my energy, but when I find those few people that do it's crazy. I live for itttttt, love your sit down chatty videos. You're so wonderful
I feel like we're talking one on one 💕
Diana Flores *listening
You're the kind of role model every body needs; so honest, so authentic, so beautiful love everything about your channel ❤️❤️ it's the reason I started mine 👌🏻
Oh Hitomi ! it's so wonderful listening to a like minded soul, especially since I am in a similar situation to what you described. I am graduating high school this year and I feel like a creature from another planet in this town. sometimes it gets me down when I realize how different I am and I start to feel such a huge longing to be loved and noticed as well. but as you said, if I wouldn't have spent so much time alone I wouldn't have had all these "spiritual awakenings" and I wouldn't have meditated and painted as much, I might not even have found my passion for art. through being "lonely" I have become so peaceful inside myself and my soul has grown so much. I just hope soon I will find like minded people, who I can share myself with. (that fact that I know you are existing out there gives me hope that I'm not alone
a moonling same high school sucks! thank God I only have 1 year left I felt like an outsiders and so hard to find people to connect
Michelle Jonathan yes ! hopefully we will all find like-minded people soon
This video is so important to me. I’ve been watching your videos for a few weeks now and this gem popped up in my recommendations. I’m 18 and just started my senior year of high school and I’ve always been a loner since I got over my depression and self hatred a few years back. I used to be “popular” and had a big circle of people I talked to. I never felt happy because everyone wasn’t showing their true selves in front of each other. I kinda got sick of it. Right when I got over my depression, I found spiritually and began to wonder why everyone was just covering themselves up with a mask. High school has been super hard because of family issues and just growing apart from a lot of my friends. I was always curious as to why I was so alone. It used to hurt because everyone is expected to have this picture perfect life filled with parties and drugs and blah blah blah. Finally, I became really really accepting of myself and became truly happy! I have a few good friends right now and it’s really nice. It’s just nice to find this video reminding me that it’s okay to be a loner. I don’t like restricting myself to just one group and have always been a floater friend. It’s so good to find someone who shares the same energy as me and understands what I went through. Thank you for this. (:
I love that you talk more realistically about re-evaluating friendships and focus more on communication than just straight cutting people out!
my daughter listens to you and is very inspired by your message. she'd asked that i watch this video and so I did and as a parent I would hope you continue to share your thoughts on this topic specifically! Brilliant insight and in my opinion a very timely message for young people and quite frankly for some of us older people as well!
I only stumbled upon your channel a few days ago, but I'm seriously obsessed with you! I've nearly watched all your videos lol but for real you've inspired me and my channel so much, you are a beautiful person ✨✨🌹🌹
My little sister (2 years younger than me) is so insensitive.. she doesn't care about my feelings at all and I'm very sensitive.. it really brought to my attention that everything is so impermanent, even things that I feel like shouldn't be. I relate to this so much, I'm such a loner for my own well being
Wow thank you so much
Hitomi you are such a ray of sunshine, every time I watch your videos I just vibe with it all. I love that you are so spiritual, working on building yourself and contemplating the world around you all without drugs and sex. That's what I've been doing for a few years and people think it's really weird that I don't do those things but listening to you makes me realize that I won't have to worry, I'll find people like me in the future (and I have some of those people now too which is awesome). Anyway, I wanted to tell you about my day today. It was a GORGEOUS spring day, it literally brought tears to my eyes that the day was just so incredibly beautiful, I had to stop and just lie in the grass and feel the earth and sunshine and smell the flowers and just live in this beautiful moment. My aesthetic today was Kindergarten chic, so I wore a little floral crop top under a denim dungaree-style dress and just my old sneakers and felt to ready to frolick in a meadow or something. I felt awesome channelling my childhood roots, it was so liberating, ya know? Anyway, thanks for the awesome videos and your content in general, you are honestly SUCH a blessing. Love
I love, love, love being alone. It’s easier for me and comfortable. My mental illnesses definitely have cultivated that part of me, but I’m embracing being an introvert with depression and anxiety. I get a healthy amount of interaction and regularly crave company. Just trying to find a healthy medium!
I'm in grade 11 and this year has really made me realize so many things about how I think and what morals are important to me... lately I've been feeling lonely but now I am changing the direction of that energy into being productive and working on ME! I just can't wait to get the hell out of high school and delve into this crazy fun life ahead of me :)
I've always been quite a loner myself and I've always had pretty pessimistic views about it but your video has really changed my thoughts. Thank you so much for sharing your advice. Your confidence and positive energy is truly inspiring and I feel like I have so much to learn from you. You're a beautiful person inside out
Firstly thank you my god and my saviour Jesus Christ for leading me to
This video today! Wow your video is a breath of fresh air and I’m only half way through feeling like we are so similar in how we think and feel!
I have had some amazing revelations since leaving a lonely marriage 10yr relationship 9 months ago and the biggest lesson is self acceptance wether high or low it’s how I feel but doesn’t change my worth and value!
I fully accept now that my life has planned out 34years I was yesterday ;) and my experiences have made me the strong minded powerful woman I am today and no man marriage or person can change or take that away.
From belt smacking father, bullied all through high school for being attractive and a believer in jesus-a mean narcissistic mother and husband god had a plan through it all that I would grown stronger be successful enough to help others and become more than I’d ever imagine!
I am very encouraged and inspired by this video and will check out your other ones.
My you all continue to make peace with the real you.
That’s what I’ll be teaching my young 4year old boy.
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When I was in a similar situation as the one you described, my biggest concern/worry was why it is so easy for some people to be accepted and find true friends while it was such a struggle for me. For me, the problem was that the people at my school were not ambitious enough to go to college, they couldn't relate to my problems and I couldn't relate to theirs, up to a point. When I got into university, I found soooo many people with similar backgrounds, I could talk to them for hours and I still have friends from that time (I'm a post-graduate student now). In highschool only a tiiiiny part of the society is represented, it is possible for someone not to fit in because like-minded people do not exist in his/her environment and so it's not like he/she are so special that there's noone out there to understand them.
i'm a loner too and spend most of my time Reading books and watching lots of movies because I haven't found people who has in common and I don't fit in in school and I love this video! you're such an inspiration and your positivity ❤
I've learned to love myself first! when you spend enough time alone you become at peace with yourself and you'll realize how much you disregarded you're self but you will learn to change that
I wish i listened to this two years ago. Everything you said was beautiful and inspiring. For everyone that feels lonely or stuck just know that life can be unexpected, search for new things and always be open to oportunities
ugh i just love you
I love being alone. Through years of friendship or connections with people, we fell off, and the energies just weren't matching. I'm a total homebody, and love to stay home and watch movies. Thank you for this video! Needed this, and will watch each time I'm need of this inspiration.
I saw this "spiritual awakening" signs list, and one of the things was "animals and children love you" and that 100% has changed and it's literally magic. I believe so much in nature now and wow I'm just so happy and full now ((:
I totally resonate. I like and enjoy being alone but sometimes it can get lonely and that human interaction with a genuine soul is so needed and important and you realize how good it makes you feel to have even a simple chat.
this was the first video i ever saw of yours, and i am so grateful for your channel and your willingness to share your thoughts over the years
Didn't think i would resonate so much with this video when i saw it on my recommendations. So glad to see someone so real on youtube, thank you.
I honestly love your energy. You're such a beautiful soul
😍 where have you been? Im glad I found your channel. I'm 34 years old and a loner. This vid made me feel so much better 😂.
I'm learning so much from you, Hitomi. Thank u for ur existence!!
Michele Aleyna we vlog our life and spiritual realisations, hoping to inspire people on the spiritual path. We would be SO SO happy if you'd check us out and share the love :)
You make me so happy! I smiled the whole time you rapped. You shine so bright that it is contagious.
I'm definitely a loner. I lonely fuck with people when I feel like it ! People in general can be life draining 😩😩😩
You're gorgeous!! but sometimes I can relate to what you are saying. Stay blessed:)
comecorrect1 thank you!
Stacey yeah which i agree which why i loner. Im fine being in my room by myself or going out by myself.
I love your videos so much because they give me so much hope. It's so easy to feel like there's something wrong with yourself but when I watch your videos it feels like your comforting me. Thanks for reminding me that I'm okay and that I don't have to "destroy" myself. This is a quote from Mitski that has put things into perspective for me hope it helps someone else: "I used to rebel by destroying myself, but realized that's awfully convenient to the world. For some of us our best revolt is self-preservation"
i honestly watched this while i worked out and once that rap happened i cracked up. thank you for sharing that, i needed that kind of precious light today.
I'm so relieved I'm not the only one with this, you have no idea how relatable this is. I also try to stay busy with uni work and youtube, making art etc. Thanks Hitomi, I just followed you xx
Thank you for making this & speaking from your heart Hitomi!
I don't ever comment on videos but this one really spoke to me.
I moved from a big city where I had 'all of these friends' (superficial friends from school) to a small beach town where I didn't know anyone.
Since moving here at 16, I've gone through a lot - many stages of loneliness, spiritual, physical & mental growth, etc - and the only person who got me through it was me. I never would've known how strong I am if I hadn't of experienced what I did.
Now I'm 18, loving and embracing life at my own pace, attracting experiences into my life that serve me & not accepting ones that don't, and becoming more in touch with myself every day.
Last night was the first time I'd met up with other people in over a year who were actually genuine & were just there to enjoy being human together. A girl messaged me through instagram & asked to meet up with one of her friends, who she'd never actually met in person yet either. So we all met for the first time and it was honestly so freeing and I felt at home & relaxed. I didn't even know these girls and they were more genuine than people I had been friends with for 5 or so years. I remember that I used to think it was normal to feel uncomfortable and anxious while hanging out with someone, but it's the exact opposite. We're all vegan :') & had falafel pockets (i had my first one ever), hung by the beach and danced around to the buskers while passing through town. My cheeks hurt from smiling and I almost lost my voice from talking so much 😹
I honestly didn't think I'd ever make friends again, but here I am!
Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts with us. It blows my mind that I get to hear your thoughts from nyc to byron bay in australia. I have so much love for you, thank you again for being yourself, it means more than you know! xx
Yay for more spiritually minded people!
We vlog our life and spiritual realisations, hoping to inspire people on the spiritual path. We would be SO SO happy if you'd check us out and share the love :)
You're so beautiful and idk why you just give out a very contagious grateful and happy aura and I'm just very happy and am filled with so much positive energy when I do stuff and play your videos in the background. Thank you so much for making these videos!!
I really get you. A lot of people are so into being socially acceptable that they don't even love themselves. Beautiful way of thinking that u have 🙏
You're such a patient, kind, and loving person. I just live in the moment and let the future sort itself out, but I could see myself with someone like you in the long haul. Until then, back to enjoying more of your videos. Sending love and good vibes.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I am in high school and this could not have come at a more perfect time. So glad I watched this.
Love the part where you said nobody is making plans with you so you can do whatever you want! Whenever I do this, I notice certain "friends" will act very jealous, like I'm excluding THEM.
it's midnight and this video has me thinking about so much in my life. I'm in high school and I find myself relying on other people for happiness, validation and so on. Watching this video is making me wonder "why do I surround myself with these people who I don't love at all?" My friends are good people but I don't connect with any of them except one who is my best friend and I love her so much. We have grown so much together (me and my bestfriend) but me being with my other friends feels like I'm just in one place. I'm not fully myself around the rest of them. I like when I have convos with them but I find that these convos are short and only have a temporary spark. I don't see myself with them in the future (except my bestfriend). I realize now that I don't really know anything about them, who they are, what they want to be, despite knowing them since middle school!!! I've thought about stop talking to my other friends and work on trying to find happiness within myself but I'm scared I'll feel alone. I've met around 3 new friends this year who I really enjoy spending time with even though I only see them in geometry class. I want to grow with them but you know when you just meet new people you can't rush things sksksksksks it just has to happen naturally. Anyways, sorry for this long comment omggg :( (this is actually my first time commenting on a TH-cam video) thank you for taking a portion of your time if you read through all of this :)
Thank you so much for making this video because I feel like i really portrays the message that you should become comfortable with yourself and become fully confident, and that you dont need other people to validate your existence
your point about alone time being addicting once you've had it for so long is SOOO relatable! thank you for helping bring me to that conclusion.
Listening to you describe yourself is like listening to someone else describing me. Especially when you talk about being sensitive and how at peace you were with the times you were alone. The most happiest care free times of my life were when I was a kid. I really kept to myself and could keep myself entertained for hours. I had a handful of friends that I loved more than anything. The pressure my parents and others put on me to being more outgoing and "social" caused me to surround myself with people who weren't good for me. I wasn't being true to myself.i was so sure of myself as a child. It's a part of me that I'm trying to get back.
Okay but this video changed me, how i'm feeling and how i'm thinking. I'm in such a shitty place right now and couldn't possibly feel worse. After this my mind has opened more and i'm not as anxious and it's like some weigh on my shoulders or actually more like on my brain left and it felt so freeing like i just launched an angel into heaven it felt like some negative power left my brains idk it's weird and hard to explain but this made me feel so much more better and inspired to do things alone and to stop really caring about what others think and do things on my own. Thank you so much for this i love you so fucking much bless you
I freaking appreciate you. You share this view of life that I have as well. Especially with having close friends that you truly know you love.
Thanks honey 🌹 I've been feeling kind of depressed lately, haven't even been leaving my house even for school but this really helped 💕 I only have to make it through less than 3 more months of high school... I think I can make it
Savannah Fortin You're almost there! I only have about one month left. We can do it
I just found this video and it fits so perfectly, I have to write a comment even though the video is a year old. Yesterday one of my best friends (who is very sensitive) told me in an emotional outbreak that I sometimes come across aggressively or patronizing and that she sometimes won't tell me things because she doesn't want to hear my opinion on it or that she sometimes felt bad and when I talked to her about it she felt even worse. That hurt a lot. I know I am a sensitive and empathic person, but I also can be very, very blunt. Many people can't deal with that. I was shocked when she told me but I was also grateful that she finally did tell me, because I now can grow and change this habit that I have. I will continue to be myself and speak up when I need to and won't tell her what she wants to hear, because if that happens, that means I am not her friend anymore. I believe that friends have to be able to tell their honest opinions to each other. Of course I will do that in a more sensitive kind of way from now on.
before i was woke i thought i was an extrovert and i always talked and then i lost all of my friends and reached self actualization and figured out I'm an introverted loner who loves my solitude and people now find me fascinating and inspirational. its ok to be alone. I really didn't have any close relationships in high school at all. now as a senior, I'm an independent, self driven and self fulfilled woman. love yourself first.
love this!
Ohhh my God. You are or your experiences are the spliting image as mine. Every single thing you mentioned is is exactly how I feel and thing. This is too strange. All i can say is thank you for finding out who you are and understanding who you are. I have learnt everthing the hard way, i am very sensitive and intuitive but i did not use to listen to my own wisdom because i had such low self esteme and low confidence. But now i am very assertive always looking or listening for a chance to put some one in there place in a positive manner of course. I am happy that you learnt at a very young age, i am 37 and i need a change from around these energy drainers. I love you so much. God bless you i could talk to you fir ever did i tell you i love you i really do. And i love that song especually the part that says every one is my kid i believe that too. I got to go my controlling husband us calling
Your video has given me so much inspiration. I now understand that I should be okay with being by myself because I can grow and spend that time creating hobbies. I really appreciate you speaking about this because it has made me really happy with myself.
Hitomi, are you a Cancer? I swear we're so alike, I'm sensitive as fuck, love having my own bubble to shop/read/write about my interests like holistic living and wellbeing, struggle to keep friends even though I genuinely want friends but don't relate well with many people. I'm always in my own world and basically a loner floating through life. Recently I've been 'craving' social interaction
Lami Dele omg literally same with me!! And i'm cancer too :')
Lami Dele whoa, id love to know her natal chart???? she definitely has soft, nurturing qualities like a cancer!! she also feels a bit like an evolved sagittarius bc of how wise, free, and calm she is
Lami Dele I'm a Libra but I feel the exact same way. I think it's also more of a personality thing more than a birth sign thing. I do believe in astrology though, but since I've opened up about it I've met a lot of like-minded people! :-)
in her most recent video, she said that she's a scorpio sun!! now i'm super interested in her natal chart haha
haha same! I was like wow okay maybe her moon sign is Cancer lol. Cancers and Scorpios are so complimentary anyway
i love the videos where you just talk and talk and talk. i really calms me down. thank you
I completely agree with the difficulty of being awake, not wanting to talk gossip, and staying true to yourself. Specially when many people are distracted, and are in survival mode. It may take a while until i find people that are on the same wavelength as me ,with whom i can meditate with , go to the beach everyday, talk about deep shit. But i am grateful i can relate to you and learn to accept what is.
Growing up, I have tried so hard to fit in with people to have friends and now I just don't care anymore. I have one friend and although I feel lonely at times, it's better to be lonely than be used. Thanks for the vid!
I feel like it was meant to be for me to click on this video and I'm glad I did. I honestly can't thank u enough for your inspiring words. I'm 16 (almost 17, woo! ??)lol and don't have friends, I'm in independent studies and not in a regular HS and it gets really lonely sometimes. I have social anxiety and it makes it reallly really hard to make friends, go out, & even be myself. I love enjoying life even though it is hard when you have bad anxiety and always stuck at home. Sunsets, staring at flowers, finding new music, listening to music, wearing hoops w/ lipstick, doing my makeup, taking walks and admiring where I come from, going on drives to the city, dancing n laughing and even smiling with a not so nice but i like it smile makes me happy and somewhat forget about the bad. Spending time by myself is not bad but it does get lonely. I don't know where I'm going with this but I just want to say you have a lovely soul and you're an inspiration 💗
Hitomi!!!!! i love love love this video thank you for speaking on this topic it made me really happy and i even sent it to one of my best friends because i feel like it was something she needed to hear! as for my day it was good! i stole *sshhh* some super cute plaid high waisted pants from goodwill that reallymade me think of you (i stole them bc they were $4 and i only had 3 and they were CALLING MY NAME) then i went longboarding for like the first time ever and i was SO HAPPY my friend said i was p much a natural at it and AAAA it was sofun i got good at it really fast and i was so happy bc its my goal this summer to be a skater girl like thats been my life long dream! i wore this really cute outfit that was like an off the shoulder top i got like 2 years ago but still havent worn yet :/ and some black high waisted skinnies and a denim jacket w/ a hoodie underneath and my black docs! and my crystal necklace that is charged with my friends energy to keep me safe, then i walked around outside and tried to hangout with a boy but it didnt work out so i went home and watched this! sorry this is so long bless you hitomi! have a lovely day
I’m binging your current videos and came across this one. That rap was adorable lolll
im so thankful that i came across this video. You have touched on so many issues that i have been dealing with. i often struggle with the feelings that my friends are trapped in the matrix. People seem to be so self centered and that bothers me. You have given me ideas and ways to not feel guilty about being a loner.
I really needed this. Because during breaks (spring break, summer vacation, winter break) I don't really hang out with my friends from school, no one hits me up, (and it could be because they have stuff of their own). And I see these people on instagram from school hanging out with their friends. And then I realiZe that people only show the exciting parts of their lives on instagram and social media, and that being alone isn't bad, solitude is pretty good. And I have been doing some art ^^. I want to kind of go outside and do some art, and maybe meet new people in NYC. I need to do more things with my time instead of watching Netflix and 13 reasons why.
Honestly, I felt like you talked about me. This video is so liberating 'cause sometimes I really feel alone, and when I say this I mean that I feel like no one is seeing the things and life like I do, I feel too different. Thank you for taking your time to share your thoughts. Like I said it's really liberating to hear about someone who seems to be like me. Sending good thoughts to you :)
Omg! I relate to you so much. Thank you for putting this video out. It's talked about very little. When you wake up/ are woke....you're alone a lot more but also capable of creating authentic and meaningful relationships and not just having people in your life just to say they're there. Love your videos!!!
i honestly went thru a time when i stopped watching you because u were very spiritual and i didn't get that at the time, but now here i am back to watching the videos i missed out on relating so much to you, i love you hitomi you remind me so much to just not give a fck and be my self
your aura is so bright. 🌞 you made me stay the whole video
I love the fact that your advices are not only super valid but they can also apply to anyone, to any gender, to any age, to any mental stage. Keep on Being awesome ☺
I really needed this right now Hitomi, you are an incredible human being thank you for being you
When I feel alone or isolated I just choose to be proud of the fact that I can Wake Up Every Morning and Not Feel Compromised. Thank you so much Hitomi, I love you!
hey hitomi, this was a cool vid and i really respect ur thoughts
i like how u balanced being alone and having friends because sometime it is nice to be alone but also i feel like for your own growth, experiencing companionship is fantastic
I'm also a really REALLY sensitive person so I perfectly understand this point. Finally someone who is a cry baby like I am :') I love you tons, you give me so much inspiration. You're such a wonderful being!!
Hitomi, I hope you see this because I love you so much. You speak such truth and soulfulness. I had to comment because I see so much of myself in you as many of your subscribers do as well. I can't believe we have the same exact journal, and mine is ripped at the spine just like yours too. You give me hope and I love how you talk about syncronicities because I think it was fate for me to find you. This year I am living the life I have always wanted to lived, traveling, advocacy, someone to share it with, funding. You are a beacon of hope for me. I love you endlessly.
I'm 16 and my closest friend is definitely my mum. I'd rather be content with connecting with one or two people even if they're family members then have shallow relationships, but I feel like no one else my age feels the same way?
You are me and I am you and everyone who feels this way is me too. We're people going through the same obstacles just in different dimensions .
Girl, you spoke to me about me. lol I had similar experiences. I recently moved from my home country and the transition from being surrounded by friends to not having friends was hard. Journalling helped me too. I used that time to strengthen my faith in God. I also started journalling. Over time my journal transformed into a prayer journal. Networking events and church events helped. As I became more active I attracted like minded individuals. Now I have a social life but I value my alone time because its in those moments I know who I am and I know who I would prefer to be around. Time is valuable so I don't want to use it around the wrong energy.
Dude. I am so fucking inspired by you, because you're so proactive in your life. And I struggle so much with being a volatile person, and I feel isolated sometimes, because I feel as if nobody really understands what it's like to be a person who's trying to rejuvenate themselves from the ground up. It's so inspiring and empowering to see somebody who is active, positive, and optimistic in their journey to self-identification. Thank you for spreading this kind of vibe around! :) I'm so happy to have found your channel.
I watch your videos when I feel unmotivated and uninspired and really get my mind flowing and I realize so much about myself through your videos. you put into words the feelings that I try so hard to ignore. thank you for being so positive and honest, it's very rare to come across someone like you. don't stop spreading your amazing words out into the world, they truly are making a difference in people's lives. ily girl 💕
I love you and all the positivity you radiate. I hope everyone enjoys the rest of their day/night ❤️