All of these points are so spot on! I've found myself back in ED and realized it when I was literally starving and I couldn't go get something to eat. Physically I could not. WTF! And then started taking bits from my meals. I literally woke up at 2am so hungry but could not get something to eat. I drank water instead. 😡. ED can come back so sneaky at first, where you don't even realize you reopened that door. Next thing you know, you are living those ED thoughts and behaviors....again! BUT, I recognized it, got a new counselor and back on my meal plan! Relapse can happen, but we still have to stand up and fight it every single day! And your videos help remind me to keep going and keep fighting! It's worth it!!! Hugs to you!
Carolyn Harrison yeh, bless you. How many times you know. At some point you have to break the cycle!!! Or a month, year, 5 years from now you’ll still be in the behaviours 🙈 hope it goes well with your new therapist. You can do it 💛
@@megsyrecovery191 Today I'm going back and re-listening to all your past vlogs. Writing down those great statements to keep in front of me, like 'opposite actions', 'feel shit and do it anyways', etc. Got my new plan and ready to hit the ground running, again. Keep getting back up and fighting! Thanks for all of your encouragement!
Keep fighting the fight, ring your victory bell at the complete end. I can't wait at this point to have that conversation with the Lord, we may have been thru hell, but we survived and learned how to turn it around to thrive ❤
I've always been a silent watcher, but I'm also a year into recovery and your videos have honestly kept me on track. It's so refreshing. Thank you for being so raw, and thank you for sharing your struggles. It's amazing, and you should honestly be so proud of yourself. You are wonderful darling
Thank you Megsy again, your vlogs mean so much to me and my recovery. You always seem to hit the nail on the head, motivate me to keep go and keep fighting. Love the cats too!!! 💛
I needed this video for so many reasons. A lot of feelings have been flooding back from the past, especially comparisons to this time last year. It is torturous. I get trapped by feeling inadequate in my recovery, like I didn't do it properly or should be ill again so I can do it again perfectly. It's sickening because it was an awful place to be. And I'm just trying to feel the feelings, rather than distract or numb them. Because at least I learn and realise that discomfort is okay. And then I try to act healthily. Still so much to learn, but I'm getting there slowly xx
Scarlett Parr-Reid hey pal, don’t stress. I don’t think there is a doing it right. There’s not a certain level of recovered by a certain weight or anything. It’s a messy old path, just keep facing the things you’re scared of & you’ll get there! Good for you trying to feel your feelings & not numb them
Thank you for another great video! I've struggled a lot recently and relapsed with some ED behaviors and really needed a video like this. I struggle so much with feeling uncomfortable and frustrated with recovery, and that's something I need to work on. I'm really trying to focus on my values and what I want to achieve in life and how my ED stops me from reaching those goals, but I hate how one thing, like eating "too much" or being weighed or even being triggered by someone else can completely throw me back into the ED mindset.
Cessie ah I’m so with you on this. I’m trying to haul myself out of a relapse too but I tend to still live in Groundhog Day and avoiding anxiety. Always tomorrow. 🙄
Yeh I get you, it’s that thing of your can’t wait until you’re ready. It doesn’t matter what others are doing around you or what your thoughts are saying. At some point you have to just DO IT!!!
Love you so much Meg, you are so inspiring and such an amazing comfort when things get tough. Thank you for all of the amazing, honest advice that you give; its really helpful having someone there who has gone through what i'm going through to keep the motivation going and to not feel so alone.
You are such a beautiful soul, Megs. And so insightful. I was pretty much nodding in agreement to every single point you made. I too am finding so much more freedom mentally since I decided that monitoring my weight was no longer helping my recovery. I'm sure that my *need* to know that I was gaining the *right* amount of weight was fully just the ED continuing to control me, all the while letting me believe it was a healthy thing to do. Mind games... ugh!
Jane Johnston yeh totally. I get that it can be important to have it tracked, but not that endless, daily, obsessive, isolating routine of just weighing yourself, it takes over everything!
Oh my gosh!! Number 8: Tabitha talked about those thoughts of the ED “negotiating”. As she said “we don’t negotiate with terrorists or eating disorders.”
I am in my 30's, and just a few months ago quit weighing myself completely after obsessively doing so multiple times a day! I was making myself miserable for nothing!! It is so liberating! I did not realise how much that number would dictate whether or not I had a "good" or "bad" day. We are so much more than a number (that no one else even knows!)😉Such good tips!💕
MEGSY!! Whatmiadidnext just mentioned you in her vid, and I'm totally loving it! Ahhh you deserve all the happiness and recognition in the world you stunning soul 😘😘
Yes about the scale! I get weighed once a week as well but I don’t even look. It makes me a bit nervous to have someone else looking after that but it is also, as you said, very liberating! You are more than a number :)
I love how you talked about "recovery foods". I didn't realize that I have these but you're right. There are certain foods I "treat" myself to now every once in a while but whenever I have them I fell as if I should enjoy them more than I am because I'm only going to have them/be allowed to have them as long as I'm underweight... Bringing awareness to these thoughts really help!!
Thank you so so much for this! Yesterday I went out for cinnabon with my mom for the first time in years and it was a big challenge but I kept reminding myself of your videos and chanting "feel shit and do it anyway" in my head and it honestly helped so much! Lots of love!
You are amazing, all your videos help me a lot, I think the way you have lived this disease is very similar to how I have lived it and that is why every strategy you share to get rid of it is very useful, thank you very much for your transparency. I will waiting for the second part! :)
Love this, thank you Meg. I’ve recently stopped weighing myself. Like you my whole day would be dictated by that number on the scale, I would even weigh myself at night. It really is liberating to not have your mood dictated by a number and it would affect my ability to stay on track with food. It’s only really been a week or so ! But do find myself getting anxious over what my weight is how I’m doing etc. Xx
Thank you so much for your videos. They make such a difference and shed so much light on this process. Also, my cat does the same thing about hanging her head. Your cats are adorable!
So happy watch all your videos, really inspiring and totally related. You make me motivated again to do recovery because my ED really attacking me today
well now I need a crumpet! Hey Meg, I was just wondering if you could make a video about how you actually started recovery - did you do it with a meal plan, did someone help you with that? Don't worry if those questions feel too invasive! I just feel like I've been "in recovery" for 2 years but I literally cant have been because everything is still so hard and anorexia still rules every aspect of my life. I don't know how to make radical changes and actually recover. Your videos always make me smile though!
Heyyy yeh I could do. Have you watched the video about quasi recovery? That’s probably a bit around the motivation, but I could do something about the actual actions as well
You are an absolute inspiration to me every single day, Meg; thank you so much for your energy and support! Curious if you might speak into the struggles of digestive issues with recovery, as I know it’s common due to slowed-digestion? Thanks, Meg!
Megsy Recovery, first of all, WOW to be receiving an actual reply from you! You’re, like, AmAzInG && RaDiCaL in every possible way! 😍 And second, thanks so much for your consideration; I am both grateful to hear that your own symptoms improved and eager for you to share your insights more. Thank you again, Megsy!
💕i love love LOOOVE your videos! thanks for sharing☺️💗 you are so inspiring and amazing! your videos help me a lot and i really apprechiate that you are soo honest! 💕
I so relate to every point you talk about Megs, especially the ones about looking at old pics of myself and also photos of friends (compare myself too), I still struggle with this! I did it today 🙈! Xx
12:58 I know this is old but OMG. I remember doing this. At a mall near my uni (like 10+ years ago) there was a height and scale machine that took your height, weight and bmi with a coin, then printed a little receipt with the results. I can laugh about it now, but I remember it used to colour my whole day of that little receipt didn’t say what I wanted it to. And naturally I kept all the receipts and would enjoy carrying it around if it was a ‘good’ day.
I have finally said my mind to my team about not weighing myself. I’m not recovered by any means but I don’t want to know my weight. I have never received any therapy even when I was a better weight. I want the scales to not be part of my life especially as I’m focusing on weight and strength training to build lean muscle so I know I’ll weigh more naturally by having more muscle. My mind set has changed because my goals are different I want a butt and abs and shoulder caps and muscle so I need to eat more to lift more weight. This was a long comment and I still struggle with food thoughts, counting calories etc but my mindset isn’t so much focused on being ill skinny. Take care. Great video again.
Pi V thank you for your reply. I am seeing a personal trainer who deals with nutrition so he’s giving me a meal plan and fitness plan. He’s also dealt with people with anorexia as well. Take care as well
I agree, 'shoulder caps' 'abs' a 'butt', it seems like you've swapped one idealistic body aim for another. Your goals should not be about how you look, that's the whole point of recovery. Sorry if I seem blunt, but it seems like another method of control.
Hey, everyone’s recovery & treatment is of course so different. A couple of thoughts... my psychologist helped me stop that daily, obsessive, isolated routine of weighing myself, but she still weighed me weekly to make sure 1) it’s not an opportunity for AN to sneak in & 2) it doesn’t become weight avoidance where I have anxiety around knowing my weight & knowing I’m gaining weight. Because gaining weight was necessary for me in recovery & I couldn’t ignore or avoid that. Also as others say, it’s been very helpful for me to focus more on what I gain in LIFE from being more healthy, & not what I gain aesthetically. So not to focus too much on my legs / butt / abs what have you, because I’m not recovering for a “perfect figure” in whatever sense of the word I might use that. I’m recovering for a free & fun life, & my body will just be what it will be to enable that. I’m not naturally built to be ripped & have a big butt & abs, so again if I force my body to take that shape I will still in a way be going against what it naturally wants. Granted I may not be starving & restricting myself, but other body behaviours can become just as disordered & controlling. Hope that makes sense, it’s just how I’ve approached recovery & it’s helped me a LOT 😘😘
It's so interesting how different we all are and how individual our journeys are but also how freaking SIMILAR! Like all those thoughts and rules you were describing, I was like IT'S ME!!! LOL Anyway, this video sheds some really wonderful insight and encouragement thank you! Keep them coming!! (just wondering, do you look at the scale when your psychologist weighs you?) Thanks for being YOU! With Love from Canada xx
The constant negotiation is so awful! Had the exact same problem with weighing myself, every morning would either doom or give a couple of seconds relief.
Hello, Thanks for the video! I just wondered if you have any advice on how to cope when you want to eat everything in sight. Recently i will eat a full dinner(the same size as my husband) and afterwards feel more hungry than i did before. My eating disorder is often screaming at me that I have eaten enough but my body is still so physically hungry. I do allow myself more food but it never feels like enough and the guilt of eating a full meal and still being hungry is horrible. I feel like i could eat forever but feel so guilty. Any advice?
I know if I had someone to give control to it would help me so much but I live alone and I only eat meals with my mom twice a week. It’s so tough living alone with an ED.
Mate, if anything or one is triggering for you it’s so totally fine (& actually important) to unfollow. I wouldn’t be offended if anyone unfollowed me, because triggers can be so personal. I mean I’m not actively trying to trigger people, but doesn’t mean I won’t inadvertently for certain individuals, & I would 100% want them to look after their own personal stage & unfollow me 😘
I gave up 'unhealthy foods and snacks' for Lent, which meant I haven't eaten chocolate at all for the last 7 weeks. In hindsight this probably wasn't just a 'Lent' thing but a method of restriction. Now that Easter has passed, I'm scared to eat any of my Easter chocolate, because I feel like once I start, I'll just have an endless hunger and will just keep eating and eating it. I literally just stumbled across your channel and it's given me so much food for thought for recovering (the irony ahahah). Do you have any tips for introducing/eating 'forbidden foods'?
Hey Meg, I’m sorry if you’ve already said this in one of your vids - but what triggered your relapse when it happened and what snapped you out of it to seek help? Was it Brendan or did you decide for yourself? I’m trying to pull myself out of a relapse right now and I’m so stuck in that “I’ll do it tomorrow” cycle. But of course, it never happens.
Loren G Hi, that’s a good idea for a video at some point. I think it was general life stress & anxiety which triggered it, & I was in denial for a while. I think when I tried to go out & get a muffin to increase what I was eating & I physically couldn’t do it, that’s when I thought hmmm I don’t have control here
Do you have any advice for allowing yourself to respond to hunger? I’m in anorexia recovery and I’m following the suggested 3 meals and 3 snacks a day recommendation, but I often feel hungry in between but I feel like I’m not allowed additional snacks or meals. I know it’s hampering my progress, but the thought of doing it makes me feel so guilty.
This question isn't really related to this vid, but I was just wondering something. We see you eating foods, which I love to see that foods aren't evil, do you have a morning snack? Would be fab if you could get back to me please 😁 I love your cats hair cuts, I think they look really cool 😊
Yeh that’s what I was doing. Same with food I just had to STOP!!!! It wasn’t easy & I felt anxious at first, but then I felt loads better & pretty liberated
Hi, I am sorry to comment on such an old video but in any of your videos do you talk about the fear of others’ impression of you? Like people always think of me as the skinny , fit girl. I’m afraid if I gain weight they’re going to think “oh she’s gone off the rails and really let herself go” How do you get over thoughts of that if you ever had those thoughts also?” Thank you!
When I get that thought I think why should I starve to please others whilst they eat dognuts and sit in judgement I have always let my weight and fitness define me I want the real me to matter not a size on the scale or a dress size it makes you feel so u devalued
Do you have any rules on spending time with others who are also recovering from an ED? Do you think it's useful or that the general rule should be no friendships? Also, do you have any advice on wtf to do when your digestive system is playing up?? I recently started recovery and one week with a solid meal plan went well, though randomly I'm now bloated, feeling full and somewhat sick but I don't want to restrict in response to that. It's so triggering and confusing!
Olivia Pirie yeh I don’t generally hang out with people with EDs. It was so helpful for me going to university & making “healthy” friends, & that kind of reset my expectations of the world & what I thought was a normal or admirable way to be around food & weight. It’s not a “rule” as such, but it has helped a lot. As for digestion, mine was horrible at the start of recovery, but it really improved with eating everything & eating regularly
Olivia Pirie - one of my best friends I met in treatment about 5 years ago - I love her so much and it's amazing to have someone who understands and has also been though this deep, dark experience - however I'm come to realise the friendship is holding me back in recovery. It's putting focus on something i want to get away from - not putting the focus on building the life i want. She brings me down sometimes and i probably do the same to her. She's also joined a ED forum and its all she talks about. I just feel urrrgghhh - that way your ED still gets to take over your life as much as ever its all you think about talk about. Focus on building the new and creating the life you want. much love xx
did you do any treatment in Dubai? I looked into some but didn't feel like they were that progressive/knowledgeable (especially compared to western countries) so im curious if you did
Sima Nuri yes there’s amazing treatment here - they’ve just set up a multi disciplinary team with CBTE therapy, medical doctor, & dietician. You could call the American Center of psychiatry & neurology to find out more. It’s the best treatment I’ve ever had!
Megsy Recovery are you serious? That sounds amazing. Because I looked into priory group but wasn’t impressed. The lack of treatment is actually why I moved to Vancouver because I did inpatient and stuff here. That’s awesome though I’m so glad it was a great experience for you!! I might look into it and see my options. Thank you appreciate it girly!
Yeh I honestly can’t recommend them enough!! They’ve only set up in the last couple of years, so i think fairly early days. But I’m so grateful for them!
Ania I’m so sorry! Where in Poland d you live? I’ve been to Krakow and some small towns around there and absolutely loved it!! Even in the states honestly eating disorder treatment in the public health system is terrible too. I have Medicaid and it’s very hard, if impossible to get coverage for specialized care
All of these points are so spot on! I've found myself back in ED and realized it when I was literally starving and I couldn't go get something to eat. Physically I could not. WTF! And then started taking bits from my meals. I literally woke up at 2am so hungry but could not get something to eat. I drank water instead. 😡. ED can come back so sneaky at first, where you don't even realize you reopened that door. Next thing you know, you are living those ED thoughts and behaviors....again! BUT, I recognized it, got a new counselor and back on my meal plan! Relapse can happen, but we still have to stand up and fight it every single day! And your videos help remind me to keep going and keep fighting! It's worth it!!! Hugs to you!
Carolyn Harrison yeh, bless you. How many times you know. At some point you have to break the cycle!!! Or a month, year, 5 years from now you’ll still be in the behaviours 🙈 hope it goes well with your new therapist. You can do it 💛
@@megsyrecovery191 Today I'm going back and re-listening to all your past vlogs. Writing down those great statements to keep in front of me, like 'opposite actions', 'feel shit and do it anyways', etc. Got my new plan and ready to hit the ground running, again. Keep getting back up and fighting! Thanks for all of your encouragement!
Keep fighting the fight, ring your victory bell at the complete end. I can't wait at this point to have that conversation with the Lord, we may have been thru hell, but we survived and learned how to turn it around to thrive ❤
I've always been a silent watcher, but I'm also a year into recovery and your videos have honestly kept me on track. It's so refreshing. Thank you for being so raw, and thank you for sharing your struggles. It's amazing, and you should honestly be so proud of yourself. You are wonderful darling
Awww thanks so much for the message. Glad the videos can help 😘
"it's Okay to eat more than other people" oh my gosh I've never felt so understood
I love watching people eating, it just seems so natural and healthy ❤ you are doing it babe, very, very proud of you ❤
Thank you Megsy again, your vlogs mean so much to me and my recovery. You always seem to hit the nail on the head, motivate me to keep go and keep fighting. Love the cats too!!! 💛
I needed this video for so many reasons. A lot of feelings have been flooding back from the past, especially comparisons to this time last year. It is torturous. I get trapped by feeling inadequate in my recovery, like I didn't do it properly or should be ill again so I can do it again perfectly. It's sickening because it was an awful place to be.
And I'm just trying to feel the feelings, rather than distract or numb them. Because at least I learn and realise that discomfort is okay. And then I try to act healthily. Still so much to learn, but I'm getting there slowly xx
Scarlett Parr-Reid hey pal, don’t stress. I don’t think there is a doing it right. There’s not a certain level of recovered by a certain weight or anything. It’s a messy old path, just keep facing the things you’re scared of & you’ll get there! Good for you trying to feel your feelings & not numb them
I also found giving control to someone else quite helpful, at least for a bit. Liberating...
His good are crumpets. Everyone needs a Brendan in their life. What a gem. ❤️
Madison Killer seriously. What a hero!
Thank you for another great video! I've struggled a lot recently and relapsed with some ED behaviors and really needed a video like this. I struggle so much with feeling uncomfortable and frustrated with recovery, and that's something I need to work on. I'm really trying to focus on my values and what I want to achieve in life and how my ED stops me from reaching those goals, but I hate how one thing, like eating "too much" or being weighed or even being triggered by someone else can completely throw me back into the ED mindset.
Cessie ah I’m so with you on this. I’m trying to haul myself out of a relapse too but I tend to still live in Groundhog Day and avoiding anxiety. Always tomorrow. 🙄
Yeh I get you, it’s that thing of your can’t wait until you’re ready. It doesn’t matter what others are doing around you or what your thoughts are saying. At some point you have to just DO IT!!!
Loren G this is totally me too!! Trapped in the ground hog day
just found this page and its exactly what I needed in my life right now. literally amazed by you youre stunning and THANK YOU FOR THIS CHANNEL
Love you so much Meg, you are so inspiring and such an amazing comfort when things get tough. Thank you for all of the amazing, honest advice that you give; its really helpful having someone there who has gone through what i'm going through to keep the motivation going and to not feel so alone.
You are such a beautiful soul, Megs. And so insightful. I was pretty much nodding in agreement to every single point you made. I too am finding so much more freedom mentally since I decided that monitoring my weight was no longer helping my recovery. I'm sure that my *need* to know that I was gaining the *right* amount of weight was fully just the ED continuing to control me, all the while letting me believe it was a healthy thing to do. Mind games... ugh!
Jane Johnston yeh totally. I get that it can be important to have it tracked, but not that endless, daily, obsessive, isolating routine of just weighing yourself, it takes over everything!
Incredible video ! I wrote your 10 points in my journal ! I loved the sentence "Feel shit and do it anyway !" :) Thank you !
Excellent advice!! I also used to weigh myself every day, and stopping that was difficult but completely liberating.
You’re just amazing. You’re helping so many of us. I’m so grateful for you being there❤️
Oh my gosh!! Number 8: Tabitha talked about those thoughts of the ED “negotiating”. As she said “we don’t negotiate with terrorists or eating disorders.”
Oh Meg. Always a video at the right time. Every video hits home & encourages me so much in my own recovery. Thank you so much! 😍
I am in my 30's, and just a few months ago quit weighing myself completely after obsessively doing so multiple times a day! I was making myself miserable for nothing!! It is so liberating! I did not realise how much that number would dictate whether or not I had a "good" or "bad" day. We are so much more than a number (that no one else even knows!)😉Such good tips!💕
Learning2live _84 totally agree. Especially the “no one else even knows” part. It’s such a sad & isolating activity isn’t it! Well done you 💛
@@megsyrecovery191 😘👍
MEGSY!! Whatmiadidnext just mentioned you in her vid, and I'm totally loving it! Ahhh you deserve all the happiness and recognition in the world you stunning soul 😘😘
Yes about the scale! I get weighed once a week as well but I don’t even look. It makes me a bit nervous to have someone else looking after that but it is also, as you said, very liberating! You are more than a number :)
I love how you talked about "recovery foods". I didn't realize that I have these but you're right. There are certain foods I "treat" myself to now every once in a while but whenever I have them I fell as if I should enjoy them more than I am because I'm only going to have them/be allowed to have them as long as I'm underweight... Bringing awareness to these thoughts really help!!
Probably my favourite video you’ve done!!! So so inspiring ❤️❤️ please make a part two
Thank you so so much for this! Yesterday I went out for cinnabon with my mom for the first time in years and it was a big challenge but I kept reminding myself of your videos and chanting "feel shit and do it anyway" in my head and it honestly helped so much! Lots of love!
Good for you!! & also make sure you don’t restrict around it, or there’s no point in the challenge really & you’ll still stay trapped in an ED cycle 💪
You are amazing, all your videos help me a lot, I think the way you have lived this disease is very similar to how I have lived it and that is why every strategy you share to get rid of it is very useful, thank you very much for your transparency. I will waiting for the second part! :)
Your home is so gorgeous. It’s fantastic that you are managing to claim your life back so you can enjoy lovely things and experiences x
No. 2 is such a good one, it helped me the most. Love all your advice, thanks for sharing x
There’s only one MEG❤️SY in this World & she’s Awesome 🙌 🙌
rita conte nawwww only one lovely Rita 💛💛💛
Love this, thank you Meg. I’ve recently stopped weighing myself. Like you my whole day would be dictated by that number on the scale, I would even weigh myself at night. It really is liberating to not have your mood dictated by a number and it would affect my ability to stay on track with food. It’s only really been a week or so ! But do find myself getting anxious over what my weight is how I’m doing etc. Xx
Thank you Meg for these advices. You´re an inspiration for me
This video has absolutely given me so much motivation to continue my recovery journey . Thank you
Thank you so much for your videos. They make such a difference and shed so much light on this process. Also, my cat does the same thing about hanging her head. Your cats are adorable!
So happy watch all your videos, really inspiring and totally related. You make me motivated again to do recovery because my ED really attacking me today
Thank you for your good advice ! I really appreciate your videos, you're smart and a good person !
Kisses from Paris
well now I need a crumpet! Hey Meg, I was just wondering if you could make a video about how you actually started recovery - did you do it with a meal plan, did someone help you with that? Don't worry if those questions feel too invasive! I just feel like I've been "in recovery" for 2 years but I literally cant have been because everything is still so hard and anorexia still rules every aspect of my life. I don't know how to make radical changes and actually recover. Your videos always make me smile though!
Heyyy yeh I could do. Have you watched the video about quasi recovery? That’s probably a bit around the motivation, but I could do something about the actual actions as well
Thank you, I’ve sent literally all your videos to my therapist 😂
You are an absolute inspiration to me every single day, Meg; thank you so much for your energy and support!
Curious if you might speak into the struggles of digestive issues with recovery, as I know it’s common due to slowed-digestion?
Thanks, Meg!
Ian Humphreys yes, will do... it’s gotten so so much better for me!! Bloating, wind, slowed digestion, pain - all a million times better!
Megsy Recovery, first of all, WOW to be receiving an actual reply from you!
You’re, like, AmAzInG && RaDiCaL in every possible way! 😍
And second, thanks so much for your consideration; I am both grateful to hear that your own symptoms improved and eager for you to share your insights more.
Thank you again, Megsy!
You’re welcome. I’ll talk about it in a video in a few weeks (going to Japan next week). Lots of love 🤗
Really like the 'to get that exterior I have to f up my interior' I'd like to use that!
‘More six pack’ 😂 amazing 😂😉 meg your videos hit the nail on the head every time and make me feel so much less alone! Thank you so much x
India Hemming 😂😂😂 hahaha
This was very helpfull!! looking forward to part two!
💕i love love LOOOVE your videos! thanks for sharing☺️💗 you are so inspiring and amazing! your videos help me a lot and i really apprechiate that you are soo honest! 💕
I so relate to every point you talk about Megs, especially the ones about looking at old pics of myself and also photos of friends (compare myself too), I still struggle with this! I did it today 🙈! Xx
12:58 I know this is old but OMG. I remember doing this. At a mall near my uni (like 10+ years ago) there was a height and scale machine that took your height, weight and bmi with a coin, then printed a little receipt with the results. I can laugh about it now, but I remember it used to colour my whole day of that little receipt didn’t say what I wanted it to. And naturally I kept all the receipts and would enjoy carrying it around if it was a ‘good’ day.
I have finally said my mind to my team about not weighing myself. I’m not recovered by any means but I don’t want to know my weight. I have never received any therapy even when I was a better weight. I want the scales to not be part of my life especially as I’m focusing on weight and strength training to build lean muscle so I know I’ll weigh more naturally by having more muscle. My mind set has changed because my goals are different I want a butt and abs and shoulder caps and muscle so I need to eat more to lift more weight. This was a long comment and I still struggle with food thoughts, counting calories etc but my mindset isn’t so much focused on being ill skinny. Take care. Great video again.
Please do be careful not to use exercise as another facet of your eating disorder! Good luck 💪🏻❤
Pi V thank you for your reply. I am seeing a personal trainer who deals with nutrition so he’s giving me a meal plan and fitness plan. He’s also dealt with people with anorexia as well. Take care as well
I agree, 'shoulder caps' 'abs' a 'butt', it seems like you've swapped one idealistic body aim for another. Your goals should not be about how you look, that's the whole point of recovery. Sorry if I seem blunt, but it seems like another method of control.
Hey, everyone’s recovery & treatment is of course so different. A couple of thoughts... my psychologist helped me stop that daily, obsessive, isolated routine of weighing myself, but she still weighed me weekly to make sure 1) it’s not an opportunity for AN to sneak in & 2) it doesn’t become weight avoidance where I have anxiety around knowing my weight & knowing I’m gaining weight. Because gaining weight was necessary for me in recovery & I couldn’t ignore or avoid that. Also as others say, it’s been very helpful for me to focus more on what I gain in LIFE from being more healthy, & not what I gain aesthetically. So not to focus too much on my legs / butt / abs what have you, because I’m not recovering for a “perfect figure” in whatever sense of the word I might use that. I’m recovering for a free & fun life, & my body will just be what it will be to enable that. I’m not naturally built to be ripped & have a big butt & abs, so again if I force my body to take that shape I will still in a way be going against what it naturally wants. Granted I may not be starving & restricting myself, but other body behaviours can become just as disordered & controlling. Hope that makes sense, it’s just how I’ve approached recovery & it’s helped me a LOT 😘😘
@@megsyrecovery191 Thank you for this response, it really helps me too! ❤
Thank you Meg!! You are amazing💛
please do a part 2! you are honestly wonderful! thank you!!
It's coming next weekend!
I love u so much! Your videos are helping me so much!❤
It's so interesting how different we all are and how individual our journeys are but also how freaking SIMILAR! Like all those thoughts and rules you were describing, I was like IT'S ME!!! LOL Anyway, this video sheds some really wonderful insight and encouragement thank you! Keep them coming!! (just wondering, do you look at the scale when your psychologist weighs you?)
Thanks for being YOU!
With Love from Canada
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Juliana Winik yes I do at the moment still
Thanks pal 🤗
I found your videos awhile ago and your really inspiring 3> also I love cookie butter as well 😭 I’m so your recovering 3>
Anna Ella 👭
The constant negotiation is so awful! Had the exact same problem with weighing myself, every morning would either doom or give a couple of seconds relief.
Hello,
Thanks for the video!
I just wondered if you have any advice on how to cope when you want to eat everything in sight. Recently i will eat a full dinner(the same size as my husband) and afterwards feel more hungry than i did before. My eating disorder is often screaming at me that I have eaten enough but my body is still so physically hungry. I do allow myself more food but it never feels like enough and the guilt of eating a full meal and still being hungry is horrible. I feel like i could eat forever but feel so guilty. Any advice?
that‘s extreme hunger and you should simply allow it :)
So so helpful, Meg! 💕
I know if I had someone to give control to it would help me so much but I live alone and I only eat meals with my mom twice a week. It’s so tough living alone with an ED.
Gina Marie yes I can imagine. That meal delivery service helped me a lot when I lived on my own
6:40 *unfollows Rebecca Leung*
Mate, if anything or one is triggering for you it’s so totally fine (& actually important) to unfollow. I wouldn’t be offended if anyone unfollowed me, because triggers can be so personal. I mean I’m not actively trying to trigger people, but doesn’t mean I won’t inadvertently for certain individuals, & I would 100% want them to look after their own personal stage & unfollow me 😘
Lol same
Me too. Megsy and Tabitha Farrar the way to go👍
You are just amazing and so so helpful ❤️❤️
OH MY GOSH THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH FOR THIS VID THANK YOU
I gave up 'unhealthy foods and snacks' for Lent, which meant I haven't eaten chocolate at all for the last 7 weeks. In hindsight this probably wasn't just a 'Lent' thing but a method of restriction. Now that Easter has passed, I'm scared to eat any of my Easter chocolate, because I feel like once I start, I'll just have an endless hunger and will just keep eating and eating it.
I literally just stumbled across your channel and it's given me so much food for thought for recovering (the irony ahahah). Do you have any tips for introducing/eating 'forbidden foods'?
Hey Meg, I’m sorry if you’ve already said this in one of your vids - but what triggered your relapse when it happened and what snapped you out of it to seek help? Was it Brendan or did you decide for yourself? I’m trying to pull myself out of a relapse right now and I’m so stuck in that “I’ll do it tomorrow” cycle. But of course, it never happens.
Loren G Hi, that’s a good idea for a video at some point. I think it was general life stress & anxiety which triggered it, & I was in denial for a while. I think when I tried to go out & get a muffin to increase what I was eating & I physically couldn’t do it, that’s when I thought hmmm I don’t have control here
Did you ever binge and/or purge? Please come back to do videos I miss you so much. I hope you are ok ❤️
Completely see myself like this too!
This video!! Ahha i love the way brendan says “im playin fooottball” ahaah!
Anya Hulley hahahaha such a cracking accent isn’t it!
Do you have any advice for allowing yourself to respond to hunger? I’m in anorexia recovery and I’m following the suggested 3 meals and 3 snacks a day recommendation, but I often feel hungry in between but I feel like I’m not allowed additional snacks or meals. I know it’s hampering my progress, but the thought of doing it makes me feel so guilty.
girl im from Dubai too!!! that's actually crazy
I love you so much!
This question isn't really related to this vid, but I was just wondering something. We see you eating foods, which I love to see that foods aren't evil, do you have a morning snack? Would be fab if you could get back to me please 😁 I love your cats hair cuts, I think they look really cool 😊
Thank you!!! This was really helpful
And also you look so wonderful happy and healthy!
Meg how did you stop weighing yourself? I find that extremly hard and even though i dont have a scale at home, keep using the one at the gym or boots
Yeh that’s what I was doing. Same with food I just had to STOP!!!! It wasn’t easy & I felt anxious at first, but then I felt loads better & pretty liberated
@@megsyrecovery191 thanks, will have to try from now (cant say from today because i already did it today :(...); so let's see, i'm in
I want this place you look amazing happy healthy glowing xxxx amazing amazing girl
Hi, I am sorry to comment on such an old video but in any of your videos do you talk about the fear of others’ impression of you? Like people always think of me as the skinny , fit girl. I’m afraid if I gain weight they’re going to think “oh she’s gone off the rails and really let herself go” How do you get over thoughts of that if you ever had those thoughts also?” Thank you!
When I get that thought I think why should I starve to please others whilst they eat dognuts and sit in judgement I have always let my weight and fitness define me I want the real me to matter not a size on the scale or a dress size it makes you feel so u devalued
Meg, what is going on with Beyonces tail!!!? Is it cat fashion or did she have an accident?? (Partly joking, but seriously?).
Xxx
😂😂😂😂
Hahahaha it’s called the lion cut
Do you have any rules on spending time with others who are also recovering from an ED? Do you think it's useful or that the general rule should be no friendships? Also, do you have any advice on wtf to do when your digestive system is playing up?? I recently started recovery and one week with a solid meal plan went well, though randomly I'm now bloated, feeling full and somewhat sick but I don't want to restrict in response to that. It's so triggering and confusing!
Olivia Pirie yeh I don’t generally hang out with people with EDs. It was so helpful for me going to university & making “healthy” friends, & that kind of reset my expectations of the world & what I thought was a normal or admirable way to be around food & weight. It’s not a “rule” as such, but it has helped a lot. As for digestion, mine was horrible at the start of recovery, but it really improved with eating everything & eating regularly
Olivia Pirie - one of my best friends I met in treatment about 5 years ago - I love her so much and it's amazing to have someone who understands and has also been though this deep, dark experience - however I'm come to realise the friendship is holding me back in recovery. It's putting focus on something i want to get away from - not putting the focus on building the life i want. She brings me down sometimes and i probably do the same to her. She's also joined a ED forum and its all she talks about. I just feel urrrgghhh - that way your ED still gets to take over your life as much as ever its all you think about talk about. Focus on building the new and creating the life you want. much love xx
did you do any treatment in Dubai? I looked into some but didn't feel like they were that progressive/knowledgeable (especially compared to western countries) so im curious if you did
Sima Nuri yes there’s amazing treatment here - they’ve just set up a multi disciplinary team with CBTE therapy, medical doctor, & dietician. You could call the American Center of psychiatry & neurology to find out more. It’s the best treatment I’ve ever had!
Megsy Recovery are you serious? That sounds amazing. Because I looked into priory group but wasn’t impressed. The lack of treatment is actually why I moved to Vancouver because I did inpatient and stuff here. That’s awesome though I’m so glad it was a great experience for you!! I might look into it and see my options. Thank you appreciate it girly!
Yeh I honestly can’t recommend them enough!! They’ve only set up in the last couple of years, so i think fairly early days. But I’m so grateful for them!
@@megsyrecovery191 you're so lucky because in Poland ed recovery really sucks.. i mean in public health care
Ania I’m so sorry! Where in Poland d you live? I’ve been to Krakow and some small towns around there and absolutely loved it!! Even in the states honestly eating disorder treatment in the public health system is terrible too. I have Medicaid and it’s very hard, if impossible to get coverage for specialized care
Did you recover on your own?
I threw out my scales months ago but I still measure myself with tape 😭
pink custard nooooo I used to do that. It’s hell!! Just as bad as scales. Hope you can save yourself from that torture & STOP!!
@@megsyrecovery191 thanks!! I've been doing it less, by only because it depresses me each time to not be any thinner!
Nothing beats Vegemite on a crumpet 😋
Ps you are such a wonderful human being, Deadset legend. Thank you for sharing this ❤️
Awww bless your heart. I do love butter & vegemite 😋