For the Love of Therapy with Melody Beattie: Freedom From Codependency

We’re back with some more therapeutic goodness as we approach the tail end of our therapy series with another fire episode! Awareness around mental health, trauma, dysfunctional family systems and more has been coming into the national awareness on a bigger level over the last 10 years. But back in 1986, the concept of codependency was really new. And unless you were deep into studying sociology or psychology or seeing a therapist yourself back then (also something that wasn’t as widely accepted), Melody Beattie’s book, Codependent No More, gave words to the masses who never had a way to describe these types of relationships in their lives. Codependency can worm its way into our lives-the definition being; those imbalanced relationships in our lives where one person enables another person’s self-destructive behavior (like addiction, immaturity, or even irresponsibility). It’s a bit insidious for those who don’t know what it looks like, and for so many, Melody’s book was a resource to help free themselves from something they may not have even recognized in their own lives. 35 years later, it’s still shining a light on those situations. Melody comes in with a scalpel to cut away to this very precise way of behaving and relating to another that is cloaked in good intentions and self-righteousness but is actually ruining our relationships. And fun fact, we were the very first podcast Melody has ever been on! Last year, she celebrated a new edition of her book honoring 35 years of its impact. Melody and Jen walk through how to recognize what codependency is and how it might be a part of your life and your relationships-which are the first important steps toward making an enormous change for the better.
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[@cathyellis767]

Listened to this for the 2nd time. Pure gold! I am a recovering Codependent! ❤

[@kimstrandberg9529]

I believe that extreme anxiety is at the root of codependency, addiction and is likely most Cluster B personality disorders too. Great conversation and have just ordered the book. ❤ and I completely agree with Melody’s perspective on us being here at this time of enormous transition for some greater purpose. What a generous soul she is with her kindness and compliments to Jen.

[@cathyellis767]

I go to Al-Anon and read The Language of Letting Go regularly because i have a controlling, fixing and thinking problem! It’s been a lifesaver! ❤🙏🏼 Let go and Let God!

[@SantaCruzHappy1]

My family was saved by AA/Al-Anon/Al-A-Teen. Later on in the 80s I think, my mom sent me a brochure about ACOA...and at age 64, I still go from time to time. Plus reading Melody Beattie's books... Yes, Let Go and Let God!

[@beautifullywildand]

" i just ignore it " 😍😍😍😍 i lovvvveeee her..❤

[@michaelmckeithen1969]

exactly

[@meredithls8753]

This was SO GOOD, Jen! I've heard of her book, but now I need to read it! Lots of good gems to reflect on in this.

[@user-bj2qj7tn3g]

I became a master at codependency while constantly "fixing, rescuing, and making nice-nice" for my kids to help deal with their father who was very controlling and down right mean. Everything and everyone else except me. If only I had taken some of that fixing energy and applied it to myself, my 30's and 40's could have been so different.

[@thenoble39]

love your glasses

[@UnDiscoveredDidi]

Big doubts about great beautiful world ahead...