Gaining false hope is boosted by social media in recent days. You see she/he liked something sad, posted something you used to do together and you immediately think that they are coming back. Completely letting go and working on yourself is the key. Sooner or later most likely they will regret losing you if you had good relationship. You might never hear it, but you will know. Make yourself priority! And congratulations 13K subscribers Rory!
Do the work guys and you will see you will get over them and attract better people in your lifes. Took me a year to figure this out. But i really said thanks now for the breakup to my ex and celebrated it. I am (a better) Me again and i love it!
I haven't heard from my ex in 5 months and I'm still struggling with letting go completely. I feel stuck. A replacement would help, but I don't want to try to find someone else. I'm emotionally spent and exhausted. I pray that a new guy can get past my barrier
Do it without a new somebody. That way, you know that you have arrived when you really have. Another person might just mask the problem for a short while.
I went through this same thing 9 months ago. I did everything wrong and it pushed my ex away. But here are a few things I’ve learned. 1) is that she absolutely doesn’t deserve me. 2) I am a lot greater of a guy than I give myself credit for and that it’s her loss and not mine. 3) that even though I felt like I fucked up, we both did, and that I was the only one willing to take accountability for my fuck ups 4) that karma is a thing and as my soul feels so much enrichment from my healing hers definitely lacks. So much so, I feel sorry for her. At this point it would take a lot of work from her and timing for there to ever be a chance of reconciliation. And I’m okay with that. So if your going through it, I feel for you. But take this advice. It will serve you well.
False Hope is hard to get rid of. I go between thinking I'll never hear from him again to thinking how could that be? We had a good relationship and admittedly the breakup was messy-- but nothing that terrible. I can't imagine he doesn't miss me? My friendship? It's a tough pill to swallow and it sucks. That mix of longing and resentment towards your ex partner. I should add he's a CP..dunno if that matters or not. 9 months since BU
It’s been more than 9 months since I last spoke to her. She’s in a new relationship right after we hooked up and I shifted my centre of focus to myself. Honestly I can’t thank you more for all the videos and advices you’ve given me. I’ve very much healed myself and moved on at this point. At this point, I’m pretty cool with whatever that happens. For those of you in NC, keep at it. Instead of moping around, focus on yourself. You may not get your ex back, but you’ll definitely get yourself back!
The Obsessive, intrusive, ruminating thoughts are what kill me. I hate being self-aware and still struggling to have my emotions follow, this roller-coaster sucks. Some days I’m fine, some days I feel like my separation began yesterday. I know to work on myself and that is the possible option, I wish my emotions would follow suit
This is a hard truth, but it's much needed to hear and reference often. Don't let your wounds fester, everyone. We need to move onward and love ourselves. Great video. Thank you.
Great video! I needed to hear this message. I would rather act as if my ex is never coming back so I can fully recover. I’m already doing better, but I still have a lot of work to do. Thanks Rory, you’re the best! 🙂
Omg Rory thank you so much! I am on vacation right now and I’ve been thinking about my ex almost the whole time. You are perfect with timing and I really liked this video and I just want to thank you for the message. You’re right. Focus on me and act as if He’s never coming back so even if he did or didn’t it’s a win win for me
You have an amaizing streak of bringing the right video at the right time. It was my birthday today, and I'll admit part of me was hoping a bit she might reach out. She didn't, and I felt bad for a moment. Then I reminded myself I shouldn't care at all, and right then this video popped up and gave me a reminder, thank you! It's definitely hard to let fully go of false hope. We're all human, we tend to search for easy solutions and comfort, and we often have confirmation bias, only seeing and interpretating what we want to see. And Sociam media does it's part, it's so easy to stumble upon even just a mention somewhere and there already are a thousand thoughs and memories again running through your head. But NC, time and avoiding their social media helps a lot and gives some much needed space, overview and awareness, stay strong, go a little bit every day, it will get better again. Ironically, to my knowledge and experience, exes often come back the moment you truely stop caring. They have an obnoxious accurate feeling on how much you still care about them, and even if you not seem to care on the outside, they can sense if you still care a bit subcounciously. But they well feel when you stop caring entierly, and that's often when they realize the full concequences of what they've done. This doesn't guarantee they will reach out, but they will feel it, and for many that is the moment they get desparate and reach out. I kinda wanted my ex to reach out today, of course she didn't. But she does sometimes, on days I least expect it and genuingly feel good, kinda funny, isn't it.
This is True!!! Sometimes An Ex Can Feel that you have taken your energy and attention away from them, so They try to Pull you back in, maybe for their Ego? Maybe to Validate themselves. Don’t take the Bait!
Nailed it Rory ..... I was dumped by a long term partner say 10 years ago .... i went no contact before i even knew about no contact ..... i TOTALLY forgot about her ... Never thought about her at all .... Fast forward a year and a half later ... she called ... we chatted she said "omg what have you been doing ..... i just love the way you sound.... so confident and calm " We dated for a bit ..... but wasnt to be BUT SHE NEVER DID THE WORK ..... she was exactly the same .....
The Love Chat thank you so much! I am listening to your "No contact" playlist and "Self Improvement" playlist... I listen to you the whole day, It really helps me.. I feel I am not alone and I can survive, yeah, we are like the same, she cheated on me, she became a mistress and the last one is same sex, well, I dont deserve to love that kind of person, I would rather give my love to myself, my son, god and family, thank you thank you
I am right there. It’s been 2 months since I’ve seen him and I’ve been in no contact for over a week. He’s been away for a family matter but in this time I kept thinking he will be back and would want to reconcile but now my mind is going crazy thinking he’s with a woman that likes him a year ago since he’s where she is (same town as his family). My thoughts are pissing me off and I can’t shake that he’s moved on with this woman ... she was a thorn in my side for awhile. Some days I’m over it and I think of all the shitty things he did and I’m glad we aren’t together but mostly I feel like I miss him and want there to be some hope. I will act as though we are NEVER getting back together as hard as this is. 😥 Thank you Rory
This really hit home, I feel my ex will be back because we didn't end badly. But I'm meeting some great woman but I feel something holding me back, now I know what that is.... Thanks coach
I haven't held on to any hope or doom really. I have zero evidence because I haven't looked at anything of my ex's since the breakup (just passed the 5 month mark). I've lived as though she doesn't exist. Which has been really good for me, though I've still struggled to let go. Just need more time. Thanks for covering this.
Another good video buddy. I've realized that giving up false hope gives me a new chance to find someone better and more suited to me. Even if that never happens I am no longer stuck in the rut of praying and wondering if and when that text I've waited for comes along. I'm able to give back to myself by giving that hope up, if that makes sense. Your thoughts have a big impact on your everday life and now that the false hope is gone I know I'll use that energy for more positive things for myself. It's time more people hurting from relationships start being more selfish. Thanks again Rory for all of your help and work! You're a gangster
Hi! In turbulent times it is important (but difficult) to focus on the facts rather than go on flights of fancy. I feel for everyone who delves in false hope or doom. It is tough to experience.
This is the best yet especially as you were willing to show us that you have been vulnerable to this too. THAT alone makes me trust you more than ever,
I truly needed that advice you have in this video. I need to let her go, so I won't have more false hopes when she tries to draw attention in social media or shit like that. You know, sometimes is hard af because you only think of her, or even dream with her (in a good way or even bad way, today I had a nightmare where she was showing me her portably rebound). It's hard to stay focused but these videos give us hope and helps to keep strong. Thank you
Pure wise words! I have generalised anxiety so any significant bit of evidence I can turn into a huge made up situation. E.g. couple of weeks into the break up they were going to a concert to a band he doesn't like. I though he's found someone knew. Then I had a think and connected the dots. That the ticket was for his sister's birthday. I'm starting to learn how to overcome my anxiety and just take a second to think logically, and calm down
I used to be very similar. I had an insecure emotional attachment style and would be anxious to the core. And I would try to overanalyze and read stuff into every oh so little thing they did. In the end, it was part of what lead to the break up and I just hurt myself with it. Luckily I found people like Rori and was able to make a lot of progress in just 2 months. Going nc and avoiding your exes social media really helps a lot, and gives you some much needed distance, clearness and outside view. We really need to stop to focus so much on them and trying to analyze every little bit we get, concentrate on yourself and you will heal, it's hard, but it will pay of long term. You're on the right way, keep going, and good luck!
It’s so hard though. It’s been a year and part of me is still holding on to a shred of hope. I’m definitely working on myself and even trying to date, but I just end up comparing everyone to my ex and get overwhelmed. It suuuuuucks. It’s always been so easy for me to move on in the past.
It’s funny how I was looking through old pictures we had last year and I had to delete the pictures we took together, her phone number & we don’t follow each other on social media. All of this was very difficult to do and a part of me still wants to hold on but I can’t torture myself emotionally especially when they broke up with you & more time they’ll probably not even thinking about you or care about how you’re doing. At this point, I just want to assume I’m never going to hear from her again & keep pushing forward even though it’s hard but I believe time would help
outstanding. you hit every thing i felt. Not quite there yet, but working on it. :) Down, almost 30lbs, opened my own office, working out 5 days a week and 80% kicking ass. :)
1cag I know how you feel and it sucks. It's way to easy for them to walk away and go to the next person. I do feel the same way now,but I hope in time my mind will change,maybe yours will to. Good luck
Not what you wanted to hear but what you needed to hear. Honestly it's better to just work on yourself and move on; I mean, the alternative is wallowing and waiting for them to come back. If they come back then you can think about it then- but please please please PLEASE DON'T STRESS over them coming back or not. It's not at all worth it. You'll be fine, believe me. I used to feel like that but it's been a bit over 4 months and I'm not fully healed but I'm a HELLUVA lot better than I was. Also you'll for surely fall in love again you just don't know it yet. Believe me. So will I. And so will every other person in this world with a damaged heart. Just do what you love and allow yourself to feel all the feelings that are coming at you, they're all perfectly healthy and normal. You'll be ok.
Just saw my ex liking some random girls pics on IG. Loads of thoughts came into my mind, that he'll try and contact her etc etc, and I was doing sooo well in NC and my self development. Then I came across this video. It's still hard though. Thanks Rory.
I feel good as I'm finally more open to the idea of finding someone new now, heck I am even feeling like I might have already caught someone's attention which motivates me even further to keep working on myself. Now I think that this is the moment I need some clues on how I could tell if wether or not I am ready to date again. Since on the paper it will have been 7 months since the breakup soon, but I only started healing for real a couple months back from now.
Great video. When I was a lot younger and a girl would break up with me, I would often act out and get extremely angry. I would absolutely destroy any chances of reconciliation, almost intentionally. I have learned so much and come so far. Just had a LDR breakup and stated my case. Telling her I didn’t want to break up but I will give her space and respect her decision. Did not accept the friend request and that I can message her and call if I want, as long as I don’t talk about ‘us’. Didn’t beg, cry or plead and have gone ‘no contact’. Day 26 Hurting like hell! 😩
I keep hoping that he'll change, but after two years of being on\off and the emotional\physical abuse involved I know in my heart he'll not (THAT is my false hope). I'm still keeping no contact and improving myself (my morning workout made me ache but I feel positive and good), and keeping busy. We know each other so well, and I'm pretty sure he's expecting me to make contact and I'm expecting the same from him by the end of next week. He's got a shock coming when I don't. I'm prepared for the worst in him telling me he's got someone else, to which I'll be indifferent. It's too late for us I think, but maybe for the other woman's sake I hope he does. Meantime, I'm getting stronger each day. 🍒
Stay strong, Hell im hurting like hell I had a good girl and I didn’t treat her bad i treated her good to my likings instead of her likings it’s been 2 weeks for me but I’m going No Contact and focusing on what I gotta do
oof, its been 4 months and im still in the exact same place mentally that i was during the first week. ive clung to false hope for so long. letting it go and saying he isnt coming back makes me scared because i feel like i wont ever find anyone better, but that being said, i didnt think id find anyone in the first place and i was proven wrong! letting go is a commitment ive failed to make for a while now, i guess its time i really dive into this.
Helllllo Rory! Must you twist that knife in, what's already bleeding broken hearts!😢😭💔😫🤣 Whatever happened to: " tread softly, because you tread on my dreams" 😋😂Rip me, or hope!😅 Your message today reminds me of a favourite quote of mine from LOTR. "Look for your friends, but do not trust to hope. It has forsaken these lands". Tricky balance! That's what am aiming for but not abandon hope! I totally get the no contact rule! I understand it's about self empowerment and self improvement. It's about gaining control over myself, my actions and my side! It's the only side I have power over. I get that if my ex come back it's added bonus! The main target is gaining a better version of myself! An ever growing and learning me that's going from strength to strength. What I don't get is abandoning hope and acting from the premise he is never coming back! If I do that it means: I avoid, encounters with him in social settings, at all costs. Refrain from attending any group activities he would be in. That is bye bye to most of my social life for now! Avoid him like the plague and spare myself the pain. It is very painful strengthening emotional muscles that are very weak and wobbly😅😬😂 Am hoping attraction will grow in the distance through being friendly, warm and light hearted around him. As you advised Rory be the mountain! Untouched, strong, charming with a happy go luck attitude! God knows am not completely feeling it but surely faking it and it's working. If I abandon hope, I wouldn't fake. I will show emotions! Boy what a freak show that would be! Hello raw painful emotions let rip! Pain beyond measurs!! I will be a wild beast with an open wound attacking anyone who approaches! I will stay so far away and lick my wounds far away from everyone. Without hope I will insulate my self and wouldn't push my limits to be stronger emotionally. I guess am trying to embrace Emily Bronte brand of hope: "Hope is the thing with feathers........I've heard it on the chillest land.And on the strongest sea. Yet-Never-in Extremity. It asked-a crumb of me" Basically take solace in hope, allow space,distance and emotional strength to saw seed of attaraction for a better releationship but don't count on it! Don't put all your eggs (ex lol)in one basket! Never lose sight of main gain, a better you! Not the weakling that was dumped! That's how I see it! For me, at least. Hope am not dellusional! All your insights are greatly appreciated! PS: No journal entries today! It's all here 😅
Many more fishes in the sea. They can still look for other ways as We didn't fall from skies.but living on this planet knowing the difference of hot and cold.we never follow the rules of private detectives or couches who are typical demons with handsome looks and talks.only sluts will get deceived an fallen for those
Lol Rory that's a bad idea, I've really promised myself to end things as soon all hope is gone I'm scared you're right though, that he won't come back until I'm over him 😫
I love how all these relationship coaches say “move on”. Would you tell a rape survivor the same thing? Would you tell a soldier who survived being struck by an IED to “just move on”? How about a close friend who just lost his/her parent? Or maybe they lost them a year ago, would you speak that same language to them? That same message? Even better, if all of the scenarios I just mentioned involved YOU, would you want someone to tell you “move on”? No, I don’t think you would. Trauma is traumatic. Telling someone to just move on from it is insensitive. If you’re tired of hearing someone speak on their trauma that’s fine, but don’t tell them to get over it.
@@TheLoveChat while this may be true, to the person IN the pain, that line is blurred. When you’re in it, reality easily escapes you. “Real” becomes relative. Things become surreal, instead.
Don't use any info I have. Don't jump to conclusions. Messes with our well being. Don't have all the facts. Pull away from false hope. She isn't coming back. If she does react then. Be at peace with you. Work on yourself. Let her go so I can completely heal.
So I’m personally in a confusing position. We both agreed to not talk to each other for a while and do no contact. Even though she broke up with me she has contacted me a lot. She has self harm issues and they got worse after she dumped me. She doesn’t have many true friends so she still goes to me to help calm her down so she doesn’t hurt herself. She FaceTime calls me whenever she’s at risk, but she also does it when she just wants to talk. I can’t tell what her reason for calling me is and I don’t want anything to happen to her so I answer. Today she was fine but just wanted to catch up and said it has been awhile since we last talked. (Only 3 days...) I’ve been able to handle not reaching out to her but she hasn’t been able to. I don’t know if I should talk to her when she wants to or if I should just leave her alone. We were together for 10 months and me letting out all my negative emotions that were built up really hurt and broke her. We’ve been apart for just over a month now. I don’t know what to do.
I think this week was one of the hardest for me. Our would have been anniversary was the other day 😔. I took myself on a trip to morro bay but i still thought of him a lot.
HI Rory. Would you consider doing a video on those of us that had our break up 7+ months or more ago? There must be a slightly different dynamic that keeps us stuck. Are there a few extra tools for us long term head-scratchers?
Can u do videos about narcissism.I just found out my ex is a narcissist after holding out hope for 6 months of getting him back.I didn't know about narcissism.Now that I do it describes him and the relationship to a tee and answered a lot of questions.But is it impossible to get him back?
I just want her to say she made a mistake. It's been one week. I'm really trying here guys. I'm still head over heels for her after 4 years of our relationship.
It's usually caused by loss of attraction. They (women) will lose attraction, then interest, but not tell you. Only when they are completely distant from you will they say, "it's over". They will not give an explanation. But by that time they are done. Finished. Long gone.
No man, nor woman is giving a reason for why they dont have feeling anymore. Emotions are not on buttons and there can be many reasons gor loosing feelings. I think the reason why its hard to say it its cos its hard to say it... Its hurtful
I am a little confused here! D: In the fourth video (will I ever hear from my ex) you suggest to focus on self-improvement while assuming that my ex will be reaching out at some point in the future. And while the "when" is uncertain, the probability of her reaching out at some point is relatively high, if the relationship was good, and things just turned sideways at some point. In this video you suggest to give up any hope, as it is detrimental to the healing process. I understand that in both cases the baseline is: work on yourself. And of course that is the most important takeaway here. Still, I'm a bit confused about whether I should act as if she'll surely reach out (=focus on self-improvement while not being blocked by the anxiety of her never reaching out again) or as if she'll never reach out (=if I maintain hope alive, I'll not be able to heal completely). Can someone clarify and elaborate on this, please? Thank you a lot for your content Rory, in any case it's really helpful! ❤️
maybe. If you have worked on yourself they will be gobsmacked. The new other person doenst have the knowledge to be the best version of themselves do they.
i asked my ex boyfriend when i can see him because i miss him and he Said he doesn’t know when and Why i would want this, and that he doesn t know where this will go...that he doesn’t promise me anything ...and doesn t know.is this a false hope or is he really thinking about this?
Roy please answer this , my ex of 4 years relation asked me to visit her home as her son misses me , but when I asked her out after the visit,she said we will see about that in a "NO sorry "way. She stated before that she is moving on but now reached out to invite me seeing her son . And should I do that visit or it's a bad idea ? I told her before that I moved on while I didn't, but after I did she started reaching out and trying to talk to me ,I am confused if she is showing me that all is normal and no hard feelings , or she wants to be back, guys please your thought,is it a false hope ?
Hey Rory my ex has been looking for reasons to talk to me about twice a week. Usually nonsense about guess what? I ask she says she got a new job then asks how I’ve been or sending me screen shots asking why she is still friends with a girl she thought she deleted but she still hasn’t deleted her. So last night I was out with friends and was drinking and snapping pics with girls that are my friends no ahe said it looks like you are having more fun now that your not fooling with me anymore lol. I asked what you mean she says you get to go out and have fun something you didn’t do when we were together.. my question does it sound like she’s jealous or is missing me or regretting our breakup
Rory, I watch your videos until you hit home with my situation and most of the time you have. But this is not false doom. I know he is now moved on in the worse way. EngageD. Never coming back. And yes it’s time, passed time to develop that self love you talk about. But unfortunately having a hard time with it. Feel like a loser and he keeps getting better. Seeking help.
What if she cant stopped reaching out but still refuses to meet. Moreover she has been calling someone "my love" on facebook.? Which she has never done before. 2 months after breakup now.
You should be in no contact. Especially if she’s talking like that to other people. After knowing that you shouldn’t be looking at her social media anymore.
@@sspector100 I v been in nc from the time we broke up but she has never stopped reaching out... Yesterday someone told me that my ex has been calling some guy my love on fb so I was tempted to check her time line. Its true... this guy has been there even before we broke up and she once told he was interested in her.
I asked my ex girlfriend if she would go for coffee and a walk with me? She said she's not ready, and we will see. She broke up with me 11 days ago and hasn't been able to even face me. What does this mean?
@@Phoenix_440 yeah I think your right. Yesterday she was being cold, but then later on she initiated contact for somthing silly and carried a conversation only to shut it down and go back to being cold
@@irm9275 It's been just 11 days, give her as much space and time as she needs. Sometimes exes need months, sometimes years, sometimes they just move on and are ok with never seeing you again. Focus on yourself and don't initiate any contact, you'll seem needy and not respectful of her decision.
3months passed by and Still cant sleep since i got single i been Working out and talking to new people and new people are letting me down its like Everything a LOOP - Weird rn this one girl, Like me so much... She dealing with my pain and she kinda know all with my pain even tho, i tried to push her away(bc im not fully healed yet and losing people for no reason and I kinda do what i wanna do... -So me and her Stay on mute for the whole day, sometime but im like talking 80% of the time - I do see, others things that get me - So, i hope i dont fully push her away, when i feel better and i just 100% focus on me and mute everyone
as in How much, i do get to likelikelikelike her or love her, Just when im feeling myself i hope, i dont go on mute her for weeeks....Idk - March 6th, She dumped me Ex Feath - March 23, my break up - March 24th Guess, ill talk to new people(online)(irl hard bc its th country side. all beer and football so no thanks) - So tried with online, They all act the same and seen loops - See 2 rebound loops bc of what my ex did... i think its 3 rn i seen it - Still tried, Talking to those people, What you n Warren said, If they leave you, LET THEM BE - Tried one last time meeting people (discord this time) and it was That person that really likes me - to this day, I dont have any friends just cactus thing and acquaintance friends, they just go poof, (sucks how i still cant find the right people - SO im like 87 or 90% over my ex - Just im focusing on me and her and it still feels, like im missing something
How about dumped with "No closure" or she is just "testing the water" Having no closure, dumped for no reason and relationship not ended in good terms, these things make for us hard to move on and keep us hanging.(searched your vids, not able to find such things alike but i haven't watch it all. Not sure if you made something related to these) She's just testing the water Some girls do this, simply the break up is just a test to see how dedicated the dumpee is. But its hard to tell, and someone who think they are being tested will tend to break the no contact and be needy and look desperate if it is the other way around. These kind of things really mess up the mind of those who are trying to move on You and dating guy are time savers Stay awesome and passionate
John Carlo Abat literally in the same boat .. but I realize closure comes from yourself , just forgive yourself and your partner . Give them and yourself time to heal and become better everyday in anyway . What’s meant for you will no doubt find it’s way to you . Bless up brother
Excellent video, thank you. Question: I am having difficulties finding videos that address how you move on when you've invested so much time getting your ex back..... Then you get them back and it does not work out at all. The sadness and disappointment is overwhelming when you've invested so much time and it was for nothing. How do you just move on? I do realize we were supposed to be working on ourselves the whole time and in fact, I was. It just didn't work when we finally tried to get back together... I feel lonely disappointed and very depressed about this..
@Monica Harrington Thanks for sharing. I know we aren't alone in this and I'm sorry you are going through it as I completely get it. For me it hurts even more than The Break-Up itself because now the hope is gone
It only gets easier. I am the absolute worst at break up. If anything I’m kinda numb at this point not to say I don’t think about it or him but it’s at the same time. The world won’t stop for anyone if they die so why would it for a break up. I know you’re not feeling well now but watch something inspiring everyday or every time you start thinking about your ex. Pray pray pray 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
When we broke up (which was a week ago) I went straight into No Contact. I stopped watching her snapchat story so I couldn’t be anymore hurt over the situation. She would still watch my stories until just recently she stopped. Is this a sign at all? Good, Bad?
"Hope in reality is the worst of all evils because it prolongs the torments of man."
Friedrich Nietzsche
Don't wait. Trust me. Move on and one day you'll be in a happy place again with or without your ex.
Gaining false hope is boosted by social media in recent days. You see she/he liked something sad, posted something you used to do together and you immediately think that they are coming back. Completely letting go and working on yourself is the key. Sooner or later most likely they will regret losing you if you had good relationship. You might never hear it, but you will know. Make yourself priority! And congratulations 13K subscribers Rory!
Do the work guys and you will see you will get over them and attract better people in your lifes. Took me a year to figure this out. But i really said thanks now for the breakup to my ex and celebrated it. I am (a better) Me again and i love it!
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I haven't heard from my ex in 5 months and I'm still struggling with letting go completely. I feel stuck. A replacement would help, but I don't want to try to find someone else. I'm emotionally spent and exhausted. I pray that a new guy can get past my barrier
Do it without a new somebody. That way, you know that you have arrived when you really have. Another person might just mask the problem for a short while.
Update?
I L I reached out after 9 months had passed....we started talking and slowly started dating again. He proposed after a few months. We’re engaged.... .
@@Cheree_Wright love it. Congrats!! ♡
@@Cheree_Wright I am so happy for you :)
You sure have a knack of uploading the perfect video at the right time. Thank you Rory.
I went through this same thing 9 months ago. I did everything wrong and it pushed my ex away. But here are a few things I’ve learned. 1) is that she absolutely doesn’t deserve me. 2) I am a lot greater of a guy than I give myself credit for and that it’s her loss and not mine. 3) that even though I felt like I fucked up, we both did, and that I was the only one willing to take accountability for my fuck ups 4) that karma is a thing and as my soul feels so much enrichment from my healing hers definitely lacks. So much so, I feel sorry for her. At this point it would take a lot of work from her and timing for there to ever be a chance of reconciliation. And I’m okay with that.
So if your going through it, I feel for you. But take this advice. It will serve you well.
False Hope is hard to get rid of. I go between thinking I'll never hear from him again to thinking how could that be? We had a good relationship and admittedly the breakup was messy-- but nothing that terrible. I can't imagine he doesn't miss me? My friendship? It's a tough pill to swallow and it sucks. That mix of longing and resentment towards your ex partner.
I should add he's a CP..dunno if that matters or not. 9 months since BU
any updates? how are you feeling about everything now?
Any update?
It’s been more than 9 months since I last spoke to her. She’s in a new relationship right after we hooked up and I shifted my centre of focus to myself. Honestly I can’t thank you more for all the videos and advices you’ve given me. I’ve very much healed myself and moved on at this point.
At this point, I’m pretty cool with whatever that happens. For those of you in NC, keep at it. Instead of moping around, focus on yourself. You may not get your ex back, but you’ll definitely get yourself back!
The Obsessive, intrusive, ruminating thoughts are what kill me. I hate being self-aware and still struggling to have my emotions follow, this roller-coaster sucks. Some days I’m fine, some days I feel like my separation began yesterday. I know to work on myself and that is the possible option, I wish my emotions would follow suit
This is a hard truth, but it's much needed to hear and reference often. Don't let your wounds fester, everyone. We need to move onward and love ourselves.
Great video. Thank you.
Great video! I needed to hear this message. I would rather act as if my ex is never coming back so I can fully recover. I’m already doing better, but I still have a lot of work to do. Thanks Rory, you’re the best! 🙂
Omg Rory thank you so much! I am on vacation right now and I’ve been thinking about my ex almost the whole time. You are perfect with timing and I really liked this video and I just want to thank you for the message. You’re right. Focus on me and act as if He’s never coming back so even if he did or didn’t it’s a win win for me
Good cause i already feel like she’s never coming back .. Patiently waiting till I don’t want her anymore
You have an amaizing streak of bringing the right video at the right time. It was my birthday today, and I'll admit part of me was hoping a bit she might reach out. She didn't, and I felt bad for a moment. Then I reminded myself I shouldn't care at all, and right then this video popped up and gave me a reminder, thank you!
It's definitely hard to let fully go of false hope. We're all human, we tend to search for easy solutions and comfort, and we often have confirmation bias, only seeing and interpretating what we want to see. And Sociam media does it's part, it's so easy to stumble upon even just a mention somewhere and there already are a thousand thoughs and memories again running through your head. But NC, time and avoiding their social media helps a lot and gives some much needed space, overview and awareness, stay strong, go a little bit every day, it will get better again.
Ironically, to my knowledge and experience, exes often come back the moment you truely stop caring. They have an obnoxious accurate feeling on how much you still care about them, and even if you not seem to care on the outside, they can sense if you still care a bit subcounciously. But they well feel when you stop caring entierly, and that's often when they realize the full concequences of what they've done. This doesn't guarantee they will reach out, but they will feel it, and for many that is the moment they get desparate and reach out. I kinda wanted my ex to reach out today, of course she didn't. But she does sometimes, on days I least expect it and genuingly feel good, kinda funny, isn't it.
Great Thoughts! Stay strong and we'll all get better!
@@jpaulog9809 Working on it, and yes we will!
This is True!!! Sometimes An Ex Can Feel that you have taken your energy and attention away from them, so They try to Pull you back in, maybe for their Ego? Maybe to Validate themselves. Don’t take the Bait!
Get up and move on with your life.
Rory is the man. Thank you for taking time out of your day to help the broken hearted!
Nailed it Rory ..... I was dumped by a long term partner say 10 years ago .... i went no contact before i even knew about no contact ..... i TOTALLY forgot about her ...
Never thought about her at all ....
Fast forward a year and a half later ... she called ... we chatted she said
"omg what have you been doing ..... i just love the way you sound.... so confident and calm "
We dated for a bit ..... but wasnt to be
BUT SHE NEVER DID THE WORK ..... she was exactly the same .....
Someday my ex and I will be together and we will have a baby boy and call it Rory. How's that for not having false hope 😁
LOL you made my day!! I'll do that as well
The Love Chat thank you so much! I am listening to your "No contact" playlist and "Self Improvement" playlist... I listen to you the whole day, It really helps me.. I feel I am not alone and I can survive, yeah, we are like the same, she cheated on me, she became a mistress and the last one is same sex, well, I dont deserve to love that kind of person, I would rather give my love to myself, my son, god and family, thank you thank you
Still listening to Rory even when Im back in the dating game. Thank you for the knowledge
I am right there. It’s been 2 months since I’ve seen him and I’ve been in no contact for over a week. He’s been away for a family matter but in this time I kept thinking he will be back and would want to reconcile but now my mind is going crazy thinking he’s with a woman that likes him a year ago since he’s where she is (same town as his family). My thoughts are pissing me off and I can’t shake that he’s moved on with this woman ... she was a thorn in my side for awhile. Some days I’m over it and I think of all the shitty things he did and I’m
glad we aren’t together but mostly I feel like I miss him and want there to be some hope. I will act as though we are NEVER getting back together as hard as this is. 😥 Thank you Rory
Thank you Rory, exactly what I needed to hear. Your timing is impeccable 😎
This really hit home, I feel my ex will be back because we didn't end badly. But I'm meeting some great woman but I feel something holding me back, now I know what that is.... Thanks coach
El Danny what happened since then?
El Danny update?
I haven't held on to any hope or doom really. I have zero evidence because I haven't looked at anything of my ex's since the breakup (just passed the 5 month mark). I've lived as though she doesn't exist. Which has been really good for me, though I've still struggled to let go. Just need more time. Thanks for covering this.
Another good video buddy. I've realized that giving up false hope gives me a new chance to find someone better and more suited to me. Even if that never happens I am no longer stuck in the rut of praying and wondering if and when that text I've waited for comes along. I'm able to give back to myself by giving that hope up, if that makes sense. Your thoughts have a big impact on your everday life and now that the false hope is gone I know I'll use that energy for more positive things for myself. It's time more people hurting from relationships start being more selfish. Thanks again Rory for all of your help and work! You're a gangster
Thanks Rory for posting these. Best channel I've found
I'm glad I could help, Nick!
Perfect time! Your VDO does help me today to not confuse myself with my ex posting a sad song on facebook 6 months after the break up.
Hi! In turbulent times it is important (but difficult) to focus on the facts rather than go on flights of fancy. I feel for everyone who delves in false hope or doom. It is tough to experience.
This is the best yet especially as you were willing to show us that you have been vulnerable to this too. THAT alone makes me trust you more than ever,
I just pray to God I didn’t get cheated on or left for someone else right away. I hope she really just went full single. But who knows…
I truly needed that advice you have in this video. I need to let her go, so I won't have more false hopes when she tries to draw attention in social media or shit like that. You know, sometimes is hard af because you only think of her, or even dream with her (in a good way or even bad way, today I had a nightmare where she was showing me her portably rebound). It's hard to stay focused but these videos give us hope and helps to keep strong. Thank you
Pure wise words! I have generalised anxiety so any significant bit of evidence I can turn into a huge made up situation.
E.g. couple of weeks into the break up they were going to a concert to a band he doesn't like. I though he's found someone knew. Then I had a think and connected the dots. That the ticket was for his sister's birthday.
I'm starting to learn how to overcome my anxiety and just take a second to think logically, and calm down
I used to be very similar. I had an insecure emotional attachment style and would be anxious to the core. And I would try to overanalyze and read stuff into every oh so little thing they did. In the end, it was part of what lead to the break up and I just hurt myself with it. Luckily I found people like Rori and was able to make a lot of progress in just 2 months.
Going nc and avoiding your exes social media really helps a lot, and gives you some much needed distance, clearness and outside view. We really need to stop to focus so much on them and trying to analyze every little bit we get, concentrate on yourself and you will heal, it's hard, but it will pay of long term. You're on the right way, keep going, and good luck!
hi Rory I can't describe in words how good and amazing you are may god bless you for helping people's like us with broken hearts
It’s so hard though. It’s been a year and part of me is still holding on to a shred of hope. I’m definitely working on myself and even trying to date, but I just end up comparing everyone to my ex and get overwhelmed. It suuuuuucks. It’s always been so easy for me to move on in the past.
I feel the same, very frustrating. keep doing what you're doing though, it can take some time, but it's the only way.
You're not alone. It's been over a year and I haven't seen any signs she will come back. I am still hanging onto the hope and I can't let it go.
I think I am a lot better now but your videos continue to inspire me. Still listening. Thank you.
No, thank YOU!
It’s funny how I was looking through old pictures we had last year and I had to delete the pictures we took together, her phone number & we don’t follow each other on social media. All of this was very difficult to do and a part of me still wants to hold on but I can’t torture myself emotionally especially when they broke up with you & more time they’ll probably not even thinking about you or care about how you’re doing. At this point, I just want to assume I’m never going to hear from her again & keep pushing forward even though it’s hard but I believe time would help
outstanding. you hit every thing i felt. Not quite there yet, but working on it. :) Down, almost 30lbs, opened my own office, working out 5 days a week and 80% kicking ass. :)
You are the best coach ever, mob love from Kenya
Ack! Thats something I did not want to hear... still, great video Rory.
I think from now on, it is better for me to never ever fall in love again :(
1cag I know how you feel and it sucks. It's way to easy for them to walk away and go to the next person. I do feel the same way now,but I hope in time my mind will change,maybe yours will to. Good luck
Not what you wanted to hear but what you needed to hear. Honestly it's better to just work on yourself and move on; I mean, the alternative is wallowing and waiting for them to come back. If they come back then you can think about it then- but please please please PLEASE DON'T STRESS over them coming back or not. It's not at all worth it. You'll be fine, believe me. I used to feel like that but it's been a bit over 4 months and I'm not fully healed but I'm a HELLUVA lot better than I was. Also you'll for surely fall in love again you just don't know it yet. Believe me. So will I. And so will every other person in this world with a damaged heart. Just do what you love and allow yourself to feel all the feelings that are coming at you, they're all perfectly healthy and normal. You'll be ok.
Just saw my ex liking some random girls pics on IG. Loads of thoughts came into my mind, that he'll try and contact her etc etc, and I was doing sooo well in NC and my self development. Then I came across this video. It's still hard though. Thanks Rory.
Great job on this video! So happy I found your channel.
I feel good as I'm finally more open to the idea of finding someone new now, heck I am even feeling like I might have already caught someone's attention which motivates me even further to keep working on myself. Now I think that this is the moment I need some clues on how I could tell if wether or not I am ready to date again. Since on the paper it will have been 7 months since the breakup soon, but I only started healing for real a couple months back from now.
Rory, you did amazing! Excellent topic and excellent telling of your experiences!
I loved this I felt I’ve been having moments of false hope but this definitely eases my mind
This is such a great video, telling us how you made mistakes is so honest and vulnerable and relatable. Thanks for the vids they do help
Yay to another Rory video. Love listening to your videos during my break from studying in medical school.
Great video. When I was a lot younger and a girl would break up with me, I would often act out and get extremely angry. I would absolutely destroy any chances of reconciliation, almost intentionally. I have learned so much and come so far. Just had a LDR breakup and stated my case. Telling her I didn’t want to break up but I will give her space and respect her decision. Did not accept the friend request and that I can message her and call if I want, as long as I don’t talk about ‘us’. Didn’t beg, cry or plead and have gone ‘no contact’. Day 26 Hurting like hell! 😩
Thank you for sharing your personal experiences!
Your videos are so good. Really appreciate the realistic advice.
Glad you like them!
I keep hoping that he'll change, but after two years of being on\off and the emotional\physical abuse involved I know in my heart he'll not (THAT is my false hope). I'm still keeping no contact and improving myself (my morning workout made me ache but I feel positive and good), and keeping busy. We know each other so well, and I'm pretty sure he's expecting me to make contact and I'm expecting the same from him by the end of next week. He's got a shock coming when I don't. I'm prepared for the worst in him telling me he's got someone else, to which I'll be indifferent. It's too late for us I think, but maybe for the other woman's sake I hope he does. Meantime, I'm getting stronger each day. 🍒
Stay strong, Hell im hurting like hell I had a good girl and I didn’t treat her bad i treated her good to my likings instead of her likings it’s been 2 weeks for me but I’m going No Contact and focusing on what I gotta do
oof, its been 4 months and im still in the exact same place mentally that i was during the first week. ive clung to false hope for so long. letting it go and saying he isnt coming back makes me scared because i feel like i wont ever find anyone better, but that being said, i didnt think id find anyone in the first place and i was proven wrong!
letting go is a commitment ive failed to make for a while now, i guess its time i really dive into this.
How are you doing now ?
Update?
Lol! I keep wathing tarot reading and it gives me false hope. I like the last words u said in the video it shakes me a little bit😅
Helllllo Rory! Must you twist that knife in, what's already bleeding broken hearts!😢😭💔😫🤣 Whatever happened to: " tread softly, because you tread on my dreams" 😋😂Rip me, or hope!😅 Your message today reminds me of a favourite quote of mine from LOTR. "Look for your friends, but do not trust to hope. It has forsaken these lands". Tricky balance! That's what am aiming for but not abandon hope!
I totally get the no contact rule! I understand it's about self empowerment and self improvement. It's about gaining control over myself, my actions and my side! It's the only side I have power over. I get that if my ex come back it's added bonus! The main target is gaining a better version of myself! An ever growing and learning me that's going from strength to strength.
What I don't get is abandoning hope and acting from the premise he is never coming back! If I do that it means: I avoid, encounters with him in social settings, at all costs. Refrain from attending any group activities he would be in. That is bye bye to most of my social life for now! Avoid him like the plague and spare myself the pain. It is very painful strengthening emotional muscles that are very weak and wobbly😅😬😂 Am hoping attraction will grow in the distance through being friendly, warm and light hearted around him. As you advised Rory be the mountain! Untouched, strong, charming with a happy go luck attitude! God knows am not completely feeling it but surely faking it and it's working.
If I abandon hope, I wouldn't fake. I will show emotions! Boy what a freak show that would be! Hello raw painful emotions let rip! Pain beyond measurs!! I will be a wild beast with an open wound attacking anyone who approaches! I will stay so far away and lick my wounds far away from everyone. Without hope I will insulate my self and wouldn't push my limits to be stronger emotionally.
I guess am trying to embrace Emily Bronte brand of hope: "Hope is the thing with feathers........I've heard it on the chillest land.And on the strongest sea. Yet-Never-in Extremity. It asked-a crumb of me" Basically take solace in hope, allow space,distance and emotional strength to saw seed of attaraction for a better releationship but don't count on it! Don't put all your eggs (ex lol)in one basket! Never lose sight of main gain, a better you! Not the weakling that was dumped! That's how I see it! For me, at least. Hope am not dellusional! All your insights are greatly appreciated!
PS: No journal entries today! It's all here 😅
Many more fishes in the sea. They can still look for other ways as We didn't fall from skies.but living on this planet knowing the difference of hot and cold.we never follow the rules of private detectives or couches who are typical demons with handsome looks and talks.only sluts will get deceived an fallen for those
Amazing video. Pls make a video on 'relationship that come from cheating'. Its a request.
Lol Rory that's a bad idea, I've really promised myself to end things as soon all hope is gone
I'm scared you're right though, that he won't come back until I'm over him 😫
Omg...Thanks , this great message , ur such a beautiful 💕💖💕👑
Love the truth! And it being repeated!
Hi Rory, thanks for all the help. Would be interested in a reading list for self improvement and better relationship skills..etc
I would like to see a video on realtionship of mature people- age 30 and so on
I feel as if most of his videos are universal and for every age.
I love how all these relationship coaches say “move on”. Would you tell a rape survivor the same thing? Would you tell a soldier who survived being struck by an IED to “just move on”? How about a close friend who just lost his/her parent? Or maybe they lost them a year ago, would you speak that same language to them? That same message? Even better, if all of the scenarios I just mentioned involved YOU, would you want someone to tell you “move on”? No, I don’t think you would. Trauma is traumatic. Telling someone to just move on from it is insensitive. If you’re tired of hearing someone speak on their trauma that’s fine, but don’t tell them to get over it.
There is a very real difference between "move on" and "move forward"
@@TheLoveChat while this may be true, to the person IN the pain, that line is blurred. When you’re in it, reality easily escapes you. “Real” becomes relative. Things become surreal, instead.
Great content as usual. Thanks.
Don't use any info I have. Don't jump to conclusions. Messes with our well being. Don't have all the facts. Pull away from false hope. She isn't coming back. If she does react then. Be at peace with you. Work on yourself. Let her go so I can completely heal.
Lol.. am in this situation and here comes your video in suggestions!!!
Hope you enjoyed it!
@@TheLoveChat ofcourse I did. Thanks for such real content. 🤙🏻
Excellent video❤
I would love to hear a video about false doom :)
So I’m personally in a confusing position. We both agreed to not talk to each other for a while and do no contact. Even though she broke up with me she has contacted me a lot. She has self harm issues and they got worse after she dumped me. She doesn’t have many true friends so she still goes to me to help calm her down so she doesn’t hurt herself. She FaceTime calls me whenever she’s at risk, but she also does it when she just wants to talk. I can’t tell what her reason for calling me is and I don’t want anything to happen to her so I answer. Today she was fine but just wanted to catch up and said it has been awhile since we last talked. (Only 3 days...) I’ve been able to handle not reaching out to her but she hasn’t been able to. I don’t know if I should talk to her when she wants to or if I should just leave her alone. We were together for 10 months and me letting out all my negative emotions that were built up really hurt and broke her. We’ve been apart for just over a month now. I don’t know what to do.
Rory can you more videos about long distance relationship please.
Erik Andersson yes please, especially regarding re- attracting a LD ex when you can't be there physically atleast, not immediately anyway.
Pleass
I think this week was one of the hardest for me. Our would have been anniversary was the other day 😔. I took myself on a trip to morro bay but i still thought of him a lot.
Proud of you, Lindsay! Stay strong. We are all here with you!
HI Rory. Would you consider doing a video on those of us that had our break up 7+ months or more ago? There must be a slightly different dynamic that keeps us stuck. Are there a few extra tools for us long term head-scratchers?
Can u do videos about narcissism.I just found out my ex is a narcissist after holding out hope for 6 months of getting him back.I didn't know about narcissism.Now that I do it describes him and the relationship to a tee and answered a lot of questions.But is it impossible to get him back?
Aww man. This is really tough
I just want her to say she made a mistake. It's been one week. I'm really trying here guys. I'm still head over heels for her after 4 years of our relationship.
Could you talk about a 'women losing feelings (or in general) you and not giving you a reason why?'
Sure
It's usually caused by loss of attraction. They (women) will lose attraction, then interest, but not tell you. Only when they are completely distant from you will they say, "it's over". They will not give an explanation. But by that time they are done. Finished. Long gone.
@@donkndave7811 yep that's what they do.
@@ms.camillewarrenempress31 Feelings are abstract. I.e. they are hard to explain.
No man, nor woman is giving a reason for why they dont have feeling anymore. Emotions are not on buttons and there can be many reasons gor loosing feelings. I think the reason why its hard to say it its cos its hard to say it... Its hurtful
I am a little confused here! D:
In the fourth video (will I ever hear from my ex) you suggest to focus on self-improvement while assuming that my ex will be reaching out at some point in the future. And while the "when" is uncertain, the probability of her reaching out at some point is relatively high, if the relationship was good, and things just turned sideways at some point.
In this video you suggest to give up any hope, as it is detrimental to the healing process.
I understand that in both cases the baseline is: work on yourself. And of course that is the most important takeaway here. Still, I'm a bit confused about whether I should act as if she'll surely reach out (=focus on self-improvement while not being blocked by the anxiety of her never reaching out again) or as if she'll never reach out (=if I maintain hope alive, I'll not be able to heal completely).
Can someone clarify and elaborate on this, please? Thank you a lot for your content Rory, in any case it's really helpful! ❤️
If they reach out after no contact, but are dating someone new. Is there even a point of trying to meet up with them?
maybe. If you have worked on yourself they will be gobsmacked. The new other person doenst have the knowledge to be the best version of themselves do they.
Great one
i asked my ex boyfriend when i can see him because i miss him and he Said he doesn’t know when and Why i would want this, and that he doesn t know where this will go...that he doesn’t promise me anything ...and doesn t know.is this a false hope or is he really thinking about this?
Roy please answer this , my ex of 4 years relation asked me to visit her home as her son misses me , but when I asked her out after the visit,she said we will see about that in a "NO sorry "way. She stated before that she is moving on but now reached out to invite me seeing her son . And should I do that visit or it's a bad idea ? I told her before that I moved on while I didn't, but after I did she started reaching out and trying to talk to me ,I am confused if she is showing me that all is normal and no hard feelings , or she wants to be back, guys please your thought,is it a false hope ?
Hey Rory my ex has been looking for reasons to talk to me about twice a week. Usually nonsense about guess what? I ask she says she got a new job then asks how I’ve been or sending me screen shots asking why she is still friends with a girl she thought she deleted but she still hasn’t deleted her. So last night I was out with friends and was drinking and snapping pics with girls that are my friends no ahe said it looks like you are having more fun now that your not fooling with me anymore lol. I asked what you mean she says you get to go out and have fun something you didn’t do when we were together.. my question does it sound like she’s jealous or is missing me or regretting our breakup
Rory, I watch your videos until you hit home with my situation and most of the time you have. But this is not false doom. I know he is now moved on in the worse way. EngageD. Never coming back. And yes it’s time, passed time to develop that self love you talk about. But unfortunately having a hard time with it. Feel like a loser and he keeps getting better. Seeking help.
Im crying right now for that false hope but maybe its the reality of life
Me too. Hope you're now ok
How the hell did u see her google searches?
I want to hear the rest of the story ahah what did she say when she reached out six months later? Did she still have feelings?
You bet she did. ;)
6:33 🙌 🙏 ✨ 💕
If my ex is anxious and wants to know whether I'm seeing someone or not.. is it a bad idea to tell her I'm not seeing anyone to put her at ease?
How to react when she reaches out in a LDR? What to say?
What if she cant stopped reaching out but still refuses to meet. Moreover she has been calling someone "my love" on facebook.? Which she has never done before. 2 months after breakup now.
You should be in no contact. Especially if she’s talking like that to other people. After knowing that you shouldn’t be looking at her social media anymore.
@@sspector100 I v been in nc from the time we broke up but she has never stopped reaching out... Yesterday someone told me that my ex has been calling some guy my love on fb so I was tempted to check her time line. Its true... this guy has been there even before we broke up and she once told he was interested in her.
I asked my ex girlfriend if she would go for coffee and a walk with me? She said she's not ready, and we will see. She broke up with me 11 days ago and hasn't been able to even face me. What does this mean?
Simply put, she needs space and time
@@Phoenix_440 yeah I think your right. Yesterday she was being cold, but then later on she initiated contact for somthing silly and carried a conversation only to shut it down and go back to being cold
@@irm9275 It's been just 11 days, give her as much space and time as she needs. Sometimes exes need months, sometimes years, sometimes they just move on and are ok with never seeing you again. Focus on yourself and don't initiate any contact, you'll seem needy and not respectful of her decision.
3months passed by and Still cant sleep since i got single
i been Working out and talking to new people and new people are letting me down
its like Everything a LOOP
- Weird rn this one girl, Like me so much... She dealing with my pain and she kinda know all with my pain
even tho, i tried to push her away(bc im not fully healed yet and losing people for no reason and I kinda do what i wanna do...
-So me and her Stay on mute for the whole day, sometime but im like talking 80% of the time
- I do see, others things that get me
- So, i hope i dont fully push her away, when i feel better and i just 100% focus on me and mute everyone
as in How much, i do get to likelikelikelike her or love her, Just when im feeling myself
i hope, i dont go on mute her for weeeks....Idk
- March 6th, She dumped me Ex Feath - March 23, my break up
- March 24th Guess, ill talk to new people(online)(irl hard bc its th country side. all beer and football so no thanks)
- So tried with online, They all act the same and seen loops
- See 2 rebound loops bc of what my ex did... i think its 3 rn i seen it
- Still tried, Talking to those people, What you n Warren said, If they leave you, LET THEM BE
- Tried one last time meeting people (discord this time) and it was That person that really likes me
- to this day, I dont have any friends just cactus thing and acquaintance friends, they just go poof, (sucks how i still cant find the right people
- SO im like 87 or 90% over my ex
- Just im focusing on me and her and it still feels, like im missing something
Hopeless,Hopeful,Or False Hope.
Hope by itself,is a very dangerous word. Just sayin.....
How about dumped with "No closure" or she is just "testing the water"
Having no closure, dumped for no reason and relationship not ended in good terms, these things make for us hard to move on and keep us hanging.(searched your vids, not able to find such things alike but i haven't watch it all. Not sure if you made something related to these)
She's just testing the water
Some girls do this, simply the break up is just a test to see how dedicated the dumpee is.
But its hard to tell, and someone who think they are being tested will tend to break the no contact and be needy and look desperate if it is the other way around.
These kind of things really mess up the mind of those who are trying to move on
You and dating guy are time savers
Stay awesome and passionate
John Carlo Abat literally in the same boat .. but I realize closure comes from yourself , just forgive yourself and your partner . Give them and yourself time to heal and become better everyday in anyway . What’s meant for you will no doubt find it’s way to you . Bless up brother
Just my sitution
Excellent video, thank you. Question: I am having difficulties finding videos that address how you move on when you've invested so much time getting your ex back..... Then you get them back and it does not work out at all. The sadness and disappointment is overwhelming when you've invested so much time and it was for nothing. How do you just move on? I do realize we were supposed to be working on ourselves the whole time and in fact, I was. It just didn't work when we finally tried to get back together... I feel lonely disappointed and very depressed about this..
I can put a video out on this, just for you!
@@TheLoveChat Thank you so much!
@Monica Harrington Thanks for sharing. I know we aren't alone in this and I'm sorry you are going through it as I completely get it. For me it hurts even more than The Break-Up itself because now the hope is gone
Broken up for three weeks and it’s very hard .
It only gets easier. I am the absolute worst at break up. If anything I’m kinda numb at this point not to say I don’t think about it or him but it’s at the same time. The world won’t stop for anyone if they die so why would it for a break up. I know you’re not feeling well now but watch something inspiring everyday or every time you start thinking about your ex. Pray pray pray 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
When is you’re next live stream?
Tomorrow!
The Love Chat thank you for answering, what time would it be in europa when you live stream because i live there?
No contact doesn't give you false hope?
Only if you give it to yourself. No contact means you working on yourself - not working on them!
When we broke up (which was a week ago) I went straight into No Contact. I stopped watching her snapchat story so I couldn’t be anymore hurt over the situation. She would still watch my stories until just recently she stopped. Is this a sign at all? Good, Bad?
2 video calls in one day.......................... false hope?