I love it when one of the 2 go into lecture mode, from their side of the relationship, and the other quietly listens. Trid talking about the professional side of the relationship (he's a lawyer), Sheena quietly listens; Sheena talks about her side of the relationship (I don't like using the term SAHM, in her case) and Trid quietly listens, or will ask a question. That's what communication is about. Ya'll are a beautiful family and couple, thank you for sharing your lives with us.
TRID is amazing. Absolute genius advice. He was so logical. That olympics example was gold ---> absolute gold. 👌 Then, all over podcasts, he sprinkles so many great examples and scenarios that are amazing. So good to hear
I was literally SCREAMING 85.1% at the screen and Sheena was going all over the place. 😂 Like she wasn’t even paying attention to his clues. AT ALL 🤦🏼♀️ But I love you Sheena. You both crack me up and bring smiles to my face whether I’m watching you here or on TT. You’ve helped me get through all my surgeries and deal with the pain easier by taking my mind off it for a short time. Thank you guys for that!!! Xoxoxo 💙💕
As a newer nurse (5 years) I still feel this at times. The hardest part is learning to trust your instincts. When you're new, you rely on your education until you gain experience which can make it hard to trust your instincts at first.
This content is gold. I absolutely LOVE the serious side of your relationship with each other. You two inspire many on how to communicate with your significant other. You balance each other like yin and yang, and I am here for it. I love the thoughtful approach and the way in which you articulate your positions. TH-cam is blessed to have content like this available and I thank you for doing what you do.
When we remember that “I am needed in this world. I am unique. My light is necessary. I matter. What I do, and how I do it…*matters.* No one else carries my energy or my perspective.” There is always someone who can do what we do “better,”and someone who does it “worse”…but NO ONE can do it like we do, because everyone has unique energy, history, perspectives, personality, etc. Imposter syndrome comes from lack of/low self-worth, self-love, self-value. If you have a gift, talent, desire, dream, vision…you have it for a reason. You don’t have to know everything, you don’t have to know how it will turn out…but you do need to learn, do your best, follow your joy, and always remember to love yourself a little more today than you did yesterday, and to judge yourself a little less. 💛
Every single episode has useful advise and I'm only a few seconds in. Cant express enough how much I appreciate you and your wonderful family! After not growing up in my own culture and not knowing real family or unconditional love your podcast really shows how it can be and how you can unconditionally love no matter how different y'all are in your own beautiful ways! Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you! 🙌🏾💗💕
I just subscribed to your Channel a couple of days ago... And been binge watching your videos. I truly enjoy your podcast and the topics you're tackling everytime. I love that you make a perfect balance to make the topic fun instead of boring. I cant stop laughing while learning from you both. TRID is such a funny intelligent man and Sheena, I envy your ability to laugh as genuine as you do specially in response to TRID's out of the blue blows... Im Maria from the Philippines. Keep it up both of you. I really enjoy you both.❤❤
Sheena you have named your podcast with a perfect name. You do not know what is going to happen because your cohost is always interrupt and hijack your talks. It was a brilliant idea. We all love how TRID can make you laugh and every podcast is fascinating and enjoyable. Thank you both for inviting us into your lives❤❤❤❤
I am a back women & have never felt less then. I may get flustered but when I don’t know something I understand everything is a learning process. I also know everybody has talent. Team work make the dream work.
We ARE imposters from time to time..but we are also worthy. ❤ Dont let yourselves delve too much on either side. We are never as good as we think we are, but we are also never as bad as we might think. And Sheena is right..women do feel it more.
I had a very loving mom but at the same time she didn’t know how to teach/allow me to have my own feelings and how to deal with them. I feel like I didn’t fully grow/mature. I have trouble feeling secure. I am grown. I have raised children and work in an adult environment. At time though I feel like i don’t belong in the room of adults in surrounded by, as put together as the person sitting next to me. At times when i am the person people are looking to i am happily moving about and feel confident then all of a sudden a little voice whispers something to me that makes me question myself. I have never voiced this thought. Thank you Sheena for the subject. Trid’s way of thinking fine for people who dont understand the subject. His response to you and how insensitive he seems to understanding is basically the reason i have never spoken my feelings before. I believe he means well but i sort of feel dismissed and belittled by his jokes. Like i did as a child by my mom. Very interesting episode. Im glad Sheena can laugh so easily. I feel emotional right now. Laughing is not what I want to do right now. Im not crazy, honest 😊
When I was married, I often felt like an imposter. The house we lived in was much nicer than I thought I would ever have. When I would go to his work functions with him, I always felt like I didn’t belong there. Total Imposter syndrome 🙋🏻♀️ Has nothing to do with my abilities or lack of.
I think when we measure ourselves by someone else's standards of perfection, talent, looks, knowledge....we will always doubt ourselves. We become our own worst enemy. The rest of the world is actually clueless. If we were so smart and clear in the awakening of our true selves, we would not have a need for wars, or trying to control another or accumulate so much firepower because of the fear of another. The base concept of this world from the ego standpoint is in reality all BS. Sheena, you are worthy. You being on this planet even if you only ever inspired one person, helped only one person...is more than enough. Our core selves is pure love. Follow your heart as you have always done and set aside the self doubt....that is a concept of the separate self which never feels enough, lives in fear, operates in a lack perception. You are not that. No one is. So the self doubt is the lie we hold.
I create art. I get many people who want to buy my stuff. It makes me so uncomfortable selling my art. I have to get someone else go with me to do the sale. As a nurse, I always said, “I’m not management material”. Then, got promoted (pushed into that role) and actually thrived & grew the company greatly. Yet, still, I don’t think I have what it takes. I think it often stems from how you grow up, what you were told as a child, that creates such issues with your gifts, identity and talents.
You sound like an amazing person. A nurse who creates wonderful art that people want to purchase! I also struggle with insecurities and I hope we both find our confidence with time and experience ❤
I'm a woman and I work in IT and battled this feeling constantly. I realized though that no one can know everything, especially in that field. I learned I was really good at taking on new challenges and extreme learning curves. I think what helped me was to go through my mental inventory of what I was good at and my previous accomplishments. I also learned to heal my childhood trauma because if you are battling with that, you will only be treating symptoms of a bigger problem.
I understand what Trid is saying because most of the time males walk into a room believing that they deserve the best and females tend to walk into the room still trying to earn it, based on history and yes logic vs emotion orientation.
I am a speech therapist. I homeschooled our children and stepped away from my career for 20 years. I definitely felt imposter syndrome when I entered the work force again. Thankfully, I was paired with an amazing assistant who had tons of experience and we mentored each other. It took a bit but I realized my skill set was appreciated and I've grown so much. Humbly learning from your peers and sharing your knowledge goes a long way to dialing down imposter syndrome. 😊
Maybe this will help. Sometimes we fight so hard for our limitations, defending them, we forget who we really are. Whole and Complete, learning new things as we go and sharing that energy with others. Not saying we will be good at everything, but we are extremely good at being ourselves. That is more than enough.
Tried bro I'm 40 and a media Marketing professional and I related to what you said about others saw something in you to be in that particular room and I am so thankful to my seniors and mentors who have guided and helped me reach the position I am in today as I am head of my departure now and I moved into media Field just 7-8 years ago and I was from banking industry and had 14 years of experience in it 😁
I like this podcast because it is light and funny and at the same time valuable. But I hope that with time, it remains so. I can see a difference from when the podcast started to how it is now(a little bit serious). I hope it remains chill! Cheers❤
Man TRID, I was having a hard day at work wherein I was feeling that I am not valued as much as I think I deserve and what you said about either being competent or not being ready and the value being held by the people and not us made me clear my head so well. Please do consider mentorship, would love to take some guidance from you professionally.
I agree with trident you might not be good when you go in but someone sees potential in you someone sees what you can add to the group P.s Sheena your good at what you do dont over think yourself your smart,your powerful your good at what you do 💯
I just got a free therapy session from Trid. 😅 He debunked imposter syndrome for me, as in, while I’ve experienced it and entertained it as legitimate, Trid’s line of thinking demonstrated for me how illogical and self-defeating imposter syndrome is. He’s right. If I’m in the room, unless I lied or “broke” my way in or was invited under false pretenses, more times than not I’m SUPPOSED to be in the room. I think imposter syndrome is rooted in constantly comparing ourselves to others rather than being confident in who we are as individuals and how we complement others when working in teams. We really need to get to the root of the sentiment “I don’t belong.” Who determined that? And if I truly don’t belong because I don’t have the skill set or knowledge, I should be humble enough to admit that and refer someone else who can make a more fitting contribution; and that doesn’t make me less of a person. It actually would open more doors because I can be trusted to have the integrity to admit my limitations and simultaneously set others up for success. Thanks Sheena for bringing up this conversation, and thanks Trid for helping me to navigate my thought process around this.
First I'm a Man and have worked with LOGIC for the last 20 years. It's not a matter of experience or a matter of seeing people like you in the room. For me, I've been in Industrial Automation for 19 years. I STILL have moments when I feel like I'm not qualified to be doing my job. By the end of fixing a problem, I will feel better. But when I am faced with another programming problem I STILL feel like an imposter.
She’s right, it is easier for men to handle this situation because (for the most part) men are not going to let an emotion confuse them from whatever task or event they are handling.
I have always struggled with impostor syndrome more in my personal relationships, always thinking either I'm not good enough or that people don't really like me even when I know that isn't the case. It also comes up in my D&D game that I have been running for over 7 years. Every week is a battle between the part of my brain that knows I do a good job (otherwise my players wouldn't keep coming back) and the part of my brain that tells me I suck. In every job I've ever had, I have never had this issue, I wish I could bridge that gap lol.
Trid should have his own individual podcast. Everything he says is logical and intelligent. Sheena please do not degrade yourself and women in general by generalizing that women are not confident and only emotional . There are PLENTY of confident , logical , working, professional women in this world. Lack of confidence is an individual circumstance ( for a man or for a woman) not to just one gender. Other than that , really enjoying these intelligent conversations that have substance
Oh man I think I think like a man, the way I usually agree with TRID. I have never doubted if I am good at something when I am good at it. I possibly only doubt myself is when I have newly become good at something and still don't have control or influence over it the same amount as everything else.
I understand where Sheena is coming from but I think feeling you don’t belong in the room is a limiting belief. When we think others see something in us that we don’t, sometimes we don’t realise it is coming out because of the need for validation and as Trid said because of that competence that we don’t feel worthy because we are not ‘the best’ in the room. Nobody is perfect, I also believe nobody is ‘the best’. We all combine skills and make our own unique compositions and experiences in the world. It’s important to like what you create and enjoy life man, emotions and doubts come and go, what you create stays!
Imposter syndrome is much better than narcissistic personality disorder. People with NPD hurt themselves and others around them. On the other hand, Imposter syndrome (or neuroticism) can actually lead to real improvement and progress.
I've been in the tech industry for over 30 years and there are times when I've really fixed something really really difficult and I get a lot of praise for it but in my heart I wonder if I'm smart enough. To me that is imposter syndrome like for instance if everybody's saying you're a great singer but you're like I'm not really that good of a singer I think I'm just faking it that's what I think in parts of syndrome is
Whatever negatif things i say it's almost certainly a lie, like i tought that i lack discipline. But i was disciplined just not in all the things i wanted or did not like. I cannot control every toughs but i can certainly control what i say in my head when i notice. I stop myself and just say things that fits the person i want to be or the opposite of this negative toughs. Making it a habbit, i have almost no negatives toughs nowadays. Gratitude heps too.
I don’t get it. All this conversation about imposter syndrome, when it was defined and put into example, is just another form of insecurity. We all feel the “what the heck are we even doing here” regardless of our talents and expertise. It’s normal. Human beings when put outside of their comfort zones have moments of insecurities. Even if they become the top of the top, or even the president, that thought will still linger. It’s not that deep honestly.
(Not so) fun fact: ASMR stands for Audio Sensory Meridian Response. But TRID’s pronunciation of “Asmr” is an Arabic word that means of tanned/relatively deeper or darker skin. It’s literally a word used by Arabs for Arabs and other brown people compared to the general population 😂
Walk a mile in someone else's drawers.... The imposter thing is probably more about confidence than competence. I have been in charge of my complex hospital environment for 16 years. Eventually you get grey enough and have seen EVERYTHING 250 times that you can suspend emotion and problem solve on "muscle memory." My "younger" colleagues are just as competent, but dread covering me from fear of the random unknown. If I am off 2 weeks I also dread going back, its about confidence and wearing your big girl panties!
if you make comparisons, the imposter will show its head, b/c there will always be someone better than you. so, don't compare. you can only improve yourself anyway.
I love it. Each person dwells on something they wish they could talk about in depth and express, and this was one that Sheena felt strongly about. This podcast is more about the way they interact and conversate rather than the actual context. The context is just a huge plus! (Imo)
Nope sorry TRID you've completely misunderstood what imposter syndrome is. My take is that it's a lack of confidence and a negative, or almost a condescending view towards yourself. And a lack of belief in one self. You can have that as an entry level person or as a CEO... competence or experience are not relevant here.
Was Sheena listening around the 19 minute mark and on? I tuned Trid out. He wasn’t letting her explain and he didn’t even get the point of imposter syndrome. Almost sounded “mansplainy”. Like bro you are wrong and I just couldn’t even listen to him go on about his dumb point. I normally like their back and forth but he’s too much sometimes. Does he realize he can be wrong?
@@eduardocornejo2903 All I’m saying is your comment reflects what you feel and not what Sheena feels, Sheena looked confused but didn‘t dismiss his take. I did not think Trid was ‘Mansplainy’ at all rather he was explaining what does imposter syndrome feel like in a professional setting and continued asking her what is her definition coz of course he would like to know more about her opinion. What Sheena explains is also just a ‘facet’ as she says of the Imposter syndrome (he has logical take while she has an emotional one). I feel her take comes from a ‘Perfectionist’ point of view. Also elaborating on the topic there are sort of 5 kinds of imposter syndrome according to my research: Perfectionist, Superhuman, Natural Genius, Soloist and Expert. What Trid explains is the ‘Soloist’ aspect which explains that asking for help from others is a sign of incompetence. Soloist people like to prove their worth through portraying independence and these people struggle in general to ask for help, they rather be self sufficient. Moreover sometimes they even feel that it takes away from their overall achievement if they collaborate too much. No offense but I think he has a pretty valid take.
@@eduardocornejo2903also I think if it is okay to tell people ‘logic aside this is how it feels emotionally’, then it is only fair that a logical person says ‘emotions aside this is how it is logically’. Let’s not dismiss people man, there are 2 sides to a coin :)
I love it when one of the 2 go into lecture mode, from their side of the relationship, and the other quietly listens. Trid talking about the professional side of the relationship (he's a lawyer), Sheena quietly listens; Sheena talks about her side of the relationship (I don't like using the term SAHM, in her case) and Trid quietly listens, or will ask a question. That's what communication is about. Ya'll are a beautiful family and couple, thank you for sharing your lives with us.
TRID is amazing. Absolute genius advice. He was so logical. That olympics example was gold ---> absolute gold. 👌
Then, all over podcasts, he sprinkles so many great examples and scenarios that are amazing. So good to hear
I was literally SCREAMING 85.1% at the screen and Sheena was going all over the place. 😂 Like she wasn’t even paying attention to his clues. AT ALL 🤦🏼♀️ But I love you Sheena. You both crack me up and bring smiles to my face whether I’m watching you here or on TT. You’ve helped me get through all my surgeries and deal with the pain easier by taking my mind off it for a short time. Thank you guys for that!!! Xoxoxo 💙💕
As a newer nurse (5 years) I still feel this at times. The hardest part is learning to trust your instincts. When you're new, you rely on your education until you gain experience which can make it hard to trust your instincts at first.
This content is gold. I absolutely LOVE the serious side of your relationship with each other. You two inspire many on how to communicate with your significant other. You balance each other like yin and yang, and I am here for it. I love the thoughtful approach and the way in which you articulate your positions. TH-cam is blessed to have content like this available and I thank you for doing what you do.
When we remember that “I am needed in this world. I am unique. My light is necessary. I matter. What I do, and how I do it…*matters.* No one else carries my energy or my perspective.”
There is always someone who can do what we do “better,”and someone who does it “worse”…but NO ONE can do it like we do, because everyone has unique energy, history, perspectives, personality, etc.
Imposter syndrome comes from lack of/low self-worth, self-love, self-value.
If you have a gift, talent, desire, dream, vision…you have it for a reason. You don’t have to know everything, you don’t have to know how it will turn out…but you do need to learn, do your best, follow your joy, and always remember to love yourself a little more today than you did yesterday, and to judge yourself a little less. 💛
Beautifully said!!!
Every single episode has useful advise and I'm only a few seconds in. Cant express enough how much I appreciate you and your wonderful family!
After not growing up in my own culture and not knowing real family or unconditional love your podcast really shows how it can be and how you can unconditionally love no matter how different y'all are in your own beautiful ways!
Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you! 🙌🏾💗💕
I just subscribed to your Channel a couple of days ago... And been binge watching your videos. I truly enjoy your podcast and the topics you're tackling everytime. I love that you make a perfect balance to make the topic fun instead of boring. I cant stop laughing while learning from you both. TRID is such a funny intelligent man and Sheena, I envy your ability to laugh as genuine as you do specially in response to TRID's out of the blue blows... Im Maria from the Philippines. Keep it up both of you. I really enjoy you both.❤❤
Sheena you have named your podcast with a perfect name. You do not know what is going to happen because your cohost is always interrupt and hijack your talks. It was a brilliant idea. We all love how TRID can make you laugh and every podcast is fascinating and enjoyable. Thank you both for inviting us into your lives❤❤❤❤
I am a back women & have never felt less then. I may get flustered but when I don’t know something I understand everything is a learning process. I also know everybody has talent. Team work make the dream work.
We ARE imposters from time to time..but we are also worthy. ❤ Dont let yourselves delve too much on either side. We are never as good as we think we are, but we are also never as bad as we might think. And Sheena is right..women do feel it more.
What a great way to sum it up!!!
I had a very loving mom but at the same time she didn’t know how to teach/allow me to have my own feelings and how to deal with them.
I feel like I didn’t fully grow/mature. I have trouble feeling secure.
I am grown. I have raised children and work in an adult environment.
At time though I feel like i don’t belong in the room of adults in surrounded by, as put together as the person sitting next to me.
At times when i am the person people are looking to i am happily moving about and feel confident then all of a sudden a little voice whispers something to me that makes me question myself.
I have never voiced this thought.
Thank you Sheena for the subject.
Trid’s way of thinking fine for people who dont understand the subject. His response to you and how insensitive he seems to understanding is basically the reason i have never spoken my feelings before.
I believe he means well but i sort of feel dismissed and belittled by his jokes. Like i did as a child by my mom.
Very interesting episode. Im glad Sheena can laugh so easily. I feel emotional right now. Laughing is not what I want to do right now.
Im not crazy, honest 😊
This was a great episode. Really enjoying your podcast. Sheena, right there with you on the subject and Trid I love how you keep it real.
When I was married, I often felt like an imposter. The house we lived in was much nicer than I thought I would ever have. When I would go to his work functions with him, I always felt like I didn’t belong there. Total Imposter syndrome 🙋🏻♀️ Has nothing to do with my abilities or lack of.
I think when we measure ourselves by someone else's standards of perfection, talent, looks, knowledge....we will always doubt ourselves. We become our own worst enemy. The rest of the world is actually clueless. If we were so smart and clear in the awakening of our true selves, we would not have a need for wars, or trying to control another or accumulate so much firepower because of the fear of another. The base concept of this world from the ego standpoint is in reality all BS.
Sheena, you are worthy. You being on this planet even if you only ever inspired one person, helped only one person...is more than enough.
Our core selves is pure love. Follow your heart as you have always done and set aside the self doubt....that is a concept of the separate self which never feels enough, lives in fear, operates in a lack perception. You are not that. No one is. So the self doubt is the lie we hold.
I love listening to you both while I'm at work . Thanks for all the laughs ❤❤❤
I create art. I get many people who want to buy my stuff. It makes me so uncomfortable selling my art. I have to get someone else go with me to do the sale. As a nurse, I always said, “I’m not management material”. Then, got promoted (pushed into that role) and actually thrived & grew the company greatly. Yet, still, I don’t think I have what it takes. I think it often stems from how you grow up, what you were told as a child, that creates such issues with your gifts, identity and talents.
You sound like an amazing person. A nurse who creates wonderful art that people want to purchase! I also struggle with insecurities and I hope we both find our confidence with time and experience ❤
The song at the end was beautarious!! (Beautiful + hilarious = Beautarious)😊 💕
I'm a woman and I work in IT and battled this feeling constantly. I realized though that no one can know everything, especially in that field. I learned I was really good at taking on new challenges and extreme learning curves. I think what helped me was to go through my mental inventory of what I was good at and my previous accomplishments. I also learned to heal my childhood trauma because if you are battling with that, you will only be treating symptoms of a bigger problem.
Hey! i am in the tech space too, can we be friends? Always looking to meet new techies like m
I understand what Trid is saying because most of the time males walk into a room believing that they deserve the best and females tend to walk into the room still trying to earn it, based on history and yes logic vs emotion orientation.
I am a speech therapist. I homeschooled our children and stepped away from my career for 20 years. I definitely felt imposter syndrome when I entered the work force again. Thankfully, I was paired with an amazing assistant who had tons of experience and we mentored each other. It took a bit but I realized my skill set was appreciated and I've grown so much. Humbly learning from your peers and sharing your knowledge goes a long way to dialing down imposter syndrome. 😊
"Putting the thought down" was very helpful to hear
Ya, same
Funny how I listen at night ❤❤❤
Love the podcast, looking for it every week.
Not the underwear swap... I am DONE with you two! 😂😂😂
Maybe this will help.
Sometimes we fight so hard for our limitations, defending them, we forget who we really are. Whole and Complete, learning new things as we go and sharing that energy with others. Not saying we will be good at everything, but we are extremely good at being ourselves. That is more than enough.
Tried bro I'm 40 and a media Marketing professional and I related to what you said about others saw something in you to be in that particular room and I am so thankful to my seniors and mentors who have guided and helped me reach the position I am in today as I am head of my departure now and I moved into media Field just 7-8 years ago and I was from banking industry and had 14 years of experience in it 😁
I like this podcast because it is light and funny and at the same time valuable. But I hope that with time, it remains so. I can see a difference from when the podcast started to how it is now(a little bit serious). I hope it remains chill! Cheers❤
Man TRID,
I was having a hard day at work wherein I was feeling that I am not valued as much as I think I deserve and what you said about either being competent or not being ready and the value being held by the people and not us made me clear my head so well.
Please do consider mentorship, would love to take some guidance from you professionally.
Just found podcast and loving it so much. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Welcome aboard!
Let her talk TRID sheesh. Sheena you are so much more patient than I am.
The ending 😂....you guys are simply the best ❤
Most beautiful family worth so much love & humor. Most gorgeous couple I have ever seen. I haven’t seen love like this b4. Kids also funny
Yesterday the topic selection 😎
Was waiting for this episode 🎉
Trids seating is comfort😊
My favorite couple on the number 1 podcast 😊
Wow its Tuesday morning and yes it's a wonderful way to start my day
You 2 are a gem stay blessed
🙋🏽♀️ - hand up because I was following!
I agree with trident you might not be good when you go in but someone sees potential in you someone sees what you can add to the group
P.s
Sheena your good at what you do dont over think yourself your smart,your powerful your good at what you do 💯
For me, I end my day with this podcast 😂.
I just got a free therapy session from Trid. 😅 He debunked imposter syndrome for me, as in, while I’ve experienced it and entertained it as legitimate, Trid’s line of thinking demonstrated for me how illogical and self-defeating imposter syndrome is. He’s right. If I’m in the room, unless I lied or “broke” my way in or was invited under false pretenses, more times than not I’m SUPPOSED to be in the room. I think imposter syndrome is rooted in constantly comparing ourselves to others rather than being confident in who we are as individuals and how we complement others when working in teams. We really need to get to the root of the sentiment “I don’t belong.” Who determined that? And if I truly don’t belong because I don’t have the skill set or knowledge, I should be humble enough to admit that and refer someone else who can make a more fitting contribution; and that doesn’t make me less of a person. It actually would open more doors because I can be trusted to have the integrity to admit my limitations and simultaneously set others up for success. Thanks Sheena for bringing up this conversation, and thanks Trid for helping me to navigate my thought process around this.
Trid is dead on w/ his take. Good and insightful dude.
Miss Dougtfire is on FIRE 😂🤣😂
It would be fun to have an episode where you read through the comments 😊
First I'm a Man and have worked with LOGIC for the last 20 years. It's not a matter of experience or a matter of seeing people like you in the room. For me, I've been in Industrial Automation for 19 years. I STILL have moments when I feel like I'm not qualified to be doing my job. By the end of fixing a problem, I will feel better. But when I am faced with another programming problem I STILL feel like an imposter.
He went from a bank robber to "put the lotion on the skin, or it gets the hose again." 😂😂
I feel this way sometimes just as a stay at home mom
Definitely following Trid's train of Thought 😂😂😂
TRID channeling Ms Doubtfire/ Robin Williams is hilarious
She’s right, it is easier for men to handle this situation because (for the most part) men are not going to let an emotion confuse them from whatever task or event they are handling.
Jokes on you TRID, I’m in the uk so I’ve been awake for ages now
I have always struggled with impostor syndrome more in my personal relationships, always thinking either I'm not good enough or that people don't really like me even when I know that isn't the case. It also comes up in my D&D game that I have been running for over 7 years. Every week is a battle between the part of my brain that knows I do a good job (otherwise my players wouldn't keep coming back) and the part of my brain that tells me I suck.
In every job I've ever had, I have never had this issue, I wish I could bridge that gap lol.
Best episode to date 😂😂
" Susan! Shhh. Wait." 😂😅😂😅 ☠️
Not Mrs. Doubtfire showing up 🤣
Stockholm imposter syndrome...bank robbers have feelings too! Genius.
🙋 I get Trid's line of reasoning
Trid should have his own individual podcast. Everything he says is logical and intelligent. Sheena please do not degrade yourself and women in general by generalizing that women are not confident and only emotional . There are PLENTY of confident , logical , working, professional women in this world. Lack of confidence is an individual circumstance ( for a man or for a woman) not to just one gender. Other than that , really enjoying these intelligent conversations that have substance
Oh man I think I think like a man, the way I usually agree with TRID. I have never doubted if I am good at something when I am good at it. I possibly only doubt myself is when I have newly become good at something and still don't have control or influence over it the same amount as everything else.
I understand where Sheena is coming from but I think feeling you don’t belong in the room is a limiting belief. When we think others see something in us that we don’t, sometimes we don’t realise it is coming out because of the need for validation and as Trid said because of that competence that we don’t feel worthy because we are not ‘the best’ in the room. Nobody is perfect, I also believe nobody is ‘the best’. We all combine skills and make our own unique compositions and experiences in the world. It’s important to like what you create and enjoy life man, emotions and doubts come and go, what you create stays!
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Imposter syndrome is much better than narcissistic personality disorder. People with NPD hurt themselves and others around them. On the other hand, Imposter syndrome (or neuroticism) can actually lead to real improvement and progress.
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I've been in the tech industry for over 30 years and there are times when I've really fixed something really really difficult and I get a lot of praise for it but in my heart I wonder if I'm smart enough. To me that is imposter syndrome like for instance if everybody's saying you're a great singer but you're like I'm not really that good of a singer I think I'm just faking it that's what I think in parts of syndrome is
Whatever negatif things i say it's almost certainly a lie, like i tought that i lack discipline. But i was disciplined just not in all the things i wanted or did not like. I cannot control every toughs but i can certainly control what i say in my head when i notice.
I stop myself and just say things that fits the person i want to be or the opposite of this negative toughs. Making it a habbit, i have almost no negatives toughs nowadays. Gratitude heps too.
Question what were you doing before TH-cam?
I don’t get it. All this conversation about imposter syndrome, when it was defined and put into example, is just another form of insecurity. We all feel the “what the heck are we even doing here” regardless of our talents and expertise. It’s normal. Human beings when put outside of their comfort zones have moments of insecurities. Even if they become the top of the top, or even the president, that thought will still linger. It’s not that deep honestly.
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🙋♂stockholm imposter syndrome -- the feeling of being a bad hostage, I understand completely....
(Not so) fun fact: ASMR stands for Audio Sensory Meridian Response.
But TRID’s pronunciation of “Asmr” is an Arabic word that means of tanned/relatively deeper or darker skin. It’s literally a word used by Arabs for Arabs and other brown people compared to the general population 😂
Walk a mile in someone else's drawers....
The imposter thing is probably more about confidence than competence. I have been in charge of my complex hospital environment for 16 years. Eventually you get grey enough and have seen EVERYTHING 250 times that you can suspend emotion and problem solve on "muscle memory." My "younger" colleagues are just as competent, but dread covering me from fear of the random unknown. If I am off 2 weeks I also dread going back, its about confidence and wearing your big girl panties!
I get it he is right
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Kaizen is 1% change. Japanese model
Make the flyers 😂
Sheena needs a nerf gun to keep Trid on target!😂
LOL This is actually not a bad idea!!!
if you make comparisons, the imposter will show its head, b/c there will always be someone better than you. so, don't compare. you can only improve yourself anyway.
He said he was feeling 85% when my phone battery hit 85% 😮🤯🙄 yeah yeah, I know, I'll see myself out
autonomous sensory meridian response (ASMR)
When TRID started to ruin Sheenas intro by introducing Stockholm syndrome… 😂
If you're in Lenny's skin you get to wear his boxers.
But only when you've exchanged skin.
He thinks sharing boxers is too much.
Pls do a segment in hindi 😭
Definitely wash your hands - Trid 2024
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So it took 40 minutes to say we're all insecure sometimes?
I love it. Each person dwells on something they wish they could talk about in depth and express, and this was one that Sheena felt strongly about.
This podcast is more about the way they interact and conversate rather than the actual context. The context is just a huge plus! (Imo)
Nope sorry TRID you've completely misunderstood what imposter syndrome is. My take is that it's a lack of confidence and a negative, or almost a condescending view towards yourself. And a lack of belief in one self. You can have that as an entry level person or as a CEO... competence or experience are not relevant here.
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Good episode
Good idea
Good topic
But a little too sad
And little boring.
Need a bit of comedy
I personally think that you think you’re singing isn’t good enough because you are comparing yourself to others.
Was Sheena listening around the 19 minute mark and on? I tuned Trid out. He wasn’t letting her explain and he didn’t even get the point of imposter syndrome. Almost sounded “mansplainy”. Like bro you are wrong and I just couldn’t even listen to him go on about his dumb point. I normally like their back and forth but he’s too much sometimes. Does he realize he can be wrong?
Do you realise he isnt really wrong though
@@heymeamy his definition of imposter syndrome is wrong though. Like two him he’s right in his definition. But that’s not what it is
@@eduardocornejo2903 All I’m saying is your comment reflects what you feel and not what Sheena feels, Sheena looked confused but didn‘t dismiss his take. I did not think Trid was ‘Mansplainy’ at all rather he was explaining what does imposter syndrome feel like in a professional setting and continued asking her what is her definition coz of course he would like to know more about her opinion. What Sheena explains is also just a ‘facet’ as she says of the Imposter syndrome (he has logical take while she has an emotional one). I feel her take comes from a ‘Perfectionist’ point of view. Also elaborating on the topic there are sort of 5 kinds of imposter syndrome according to my research: Perfectionist, Superhuman, Natural Genius, Soloist and Expert. What Trid explains is the ‘Soloist’ aspect which explains that asking for help from others is a sign of incompetence. Soloist people like to prove their worth through portraying independence and these people struggle in general to ask for help, they rather be self sufficient. Moreover sometimes they even feel that it takes away from their overall achievement if they collaborate too much. No offense but I think he has a pretty valid take.
@@eduardocornejo2903also I think if it is okay to tell people ‘logic aside this is how it feels emotionally’, then it is only fair that a logical person says ‘emotions aside this is how it is logically’. Let’s not dismiss people man, there are 2 sides to a coin :)
This was a great episode. Really enjoying your podcast. Sheena, right there with you on the subject and Trid I love how you keep it real.
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