Alex, you were NOT being paranoid about that man following you. Even if he wasn't following you, it hurts no one to be cautious. I think, also, that you said in the pet store that you were going to to Woolworth's. He was likely listening to you and looked up the closest Woolworth's to the pet store to try to find you. If anything like that happens again, look up the nearest police station and drive straight there. Typically, they'll leave once they see where you're pulling in. You don't have to file a report or anything, if you don't want to; you can just wait for the creep to drive past and GTFO.
I really recommend ‘The Gift of Fear’ by Gavin de Becker. Great evidence as to why we are so rarely paranoid and far more likely to be correct about something being ‘off’.
I don't think you even realized it, but in the pet store one of the things you said "on the phone" was that you were going to go to a Woolworths. At that point he had a pretty good idea of what place he could find you at next. He could have very easily stayed back a little bit more because he felt safe in letting you go knowing he could find you again. Sometimes you've got to go past the place you said you were going to go to and find another one to make sure that they aren't following you. They'll just assume you meant the closest one to where you were at, it wouldn't be logical for you to go past that to get to a different one. People be crazy. I was always taught to drive to some place with a lot of people around who could do something. So police station, fire station, emergency room would all work.
Hey Alex! What I do when I feel someone is being creepy/following me, if I’m somewhere that is a business, I’ll notify the staff members (or if that doesn’t feel safe, I’ll just ask if they can help carry my products to the car!). Also if you think someone is following you in a car, go through a fast food drive through- they likely won’t follow you into there since there are cameras, and you can notify the workers via the speaker if you need to call police or anything!
I work in retail, please tell us if you’re feeling unsafe! There are cameras all the time especially in a woolworths. And we are always happy to help and also monitor the other person
I was followed a couple of times while driving a few years ago. Never go home. Drive busy streets only if possible, don’t get out the car, lock the doors, and ultimately do some big loops of the streets if needed so they have no Idea where you were headed. If you know of someone you can get to who will be in go there but be very careful if you get out the car and when you leave. If you can call hands free for a friend to meet you that is good. Do your best to never be super low on fuel and be forced to stop. Also, check the backseat before you get in, and the boot/truck if there is enough space for a person. If someone really wants to hurt you, and specifically you, then you may have a bigger problem than small action like this can tackle, but at least make the serial killers work for it…….
@@alicianorris9352 yeah, this was suggested by our local police when my sister was followed while driving. They said it’s good because of the cameras, you don’t need to leave your vehicle, it’s not disclosing your address, and it’s a very public area.
Alex, feeling like you are being followed is scary. It's not an unreasonable fear, especially when we live in such an unstable world. It's happened to both me and my sister (separately) a couple of times, and it's an awful feeling. I'm so glad you are ok! Don't let yourself feel like you were being unreasonable. Protecting yourself is a good thing. If it ever happens again, drive to the nearest police or fire station. You don't have to go in, but it will deter anyone with bad intentions. And you put yourself in a situation where you can easily get help if you need it. Please take care!
I'm so glad you're safe! I think especially the women and female presenting people here know what it's like to be followed or think you're being followed. You're not paranoid and did not overreact! Better safe than sorry, seriously. Another tipp: take a picture of the car/ license plate and if possible their face and send it to someone. If someone follows you in a car, take weird turns, like driving around the same block twice etc, so you can be sure they're following you!
I'm so sorry that this was you're experience going out while making such great progress. That was one of the creepiest interactions I've ever heard. I'm so happy you're alright yet simultaneously furious that this even happened. Your videos have been helping me so much with the passing of my oldest fur baby, so thank you so much for these. Wishing you nothing but the best♡
Alex, that was so scary. I almost cried even though I knew it must’ve been ok since you uploaded. I’m glad you were able to get out of that situation safely.
Alex when you were in the feed store pretending to be on the phone you said you were going to Woolworths. If the creepy guy was familiar with the area he'd probably know which is the closest. It was definitely wierd! I hope you got his rego, you should report it to the police especially as he'd be on camera at least at the Woolworths if not the feed store. He could be out for any young woman. Also never be afraid to call the police for help, just sit in your car and tell them what happened, or ask for help in the Woolworths/whichever shop from an employee.
I had a job cleaning houses 8 years ago, and our rule was to pick a direction and clean in a circle, basically. So we could clean from right to left around the room, or left to right. Either way, we wanted to finish where we started, which was the door. Honestly, that cleaning job helped me to cope with the anxiety I'd get over cleaning my own space. If I just start with the furthest corner and work my way around to the door, it's significantly less stressful. I'm so glad that you came home safe. It's been years since I've experienced such a thing, but I definitely know how that feels. I definitely think that he was listening in to your "conversation", and you did let it slip where you were going next. Completely not your fault, as you were caught in the moment and just trying to make it seem natural. You still did everything right, but that slip of the tongue definitely ended up confirming that he was targeting you. I'm proud of you for making a dominant stand in the store, though. As frightening as it is to make eye contact, making them uncomfortable in turn is a good course of action.
I'm realllly going to try your circle technique. My issue when I get into cleaning headspace, even if I write a list I tend to get distracted in the middle of one thing and jump across the room or end up cleaning in a diff room altogether. 😅
@@shobot I used to do the same thing, and I still find myself wanting to from time-to-time, but this system really has helped me to keep better focus. I hope it helps.
The more I watch the more I relate. People always complain about self checkouts taking away jobs and how they are evil. The part of me that doesn't have the energy to interact with another human prefers them.
Totally agree. Also if they are just additional to normal checkouts they are just great. This is the way it is in my country and I don't hear much people complaining about them
I'm both, as a disabled person sometimes my lack of energy prefers a cashier, but as an anxious person sometimes I just prefer to do my checking out alone without staff interaction. I think there should always be at least 1 server on at all times, for older people, disabled people, and parents/guardians who don't have time or energy to check out themselves 😊
Alex, check your car handles for zip ties or any form of tag or absolutely anything that you did not put there. Make sure he didn’t mark your vehicle for someone else.❤ please stay safe. I’ve been kidnapped even being vigilant because I didn’t know to check.
I was going to say the same thing. Here in the US, not sure if there, but the air tags are a problem for tagging and following people. So scary! You did great tho, don't let it deter you from future adventures!
Hey Alex, I’m so happy that you didn’t let the events of what happened stop you from completing your task to clean your room. Me and my partner are the exact same when it comes to being out and about always being aware of our surroundings. I feel like when something stressful like that happens cleaning soothes me. Much love from England. Xx
Bless that sweet orange kitty for trying to cheer you up :,))) little guy was trying to keep you safe! I’m so glad you stayed strong and managed to get out of such a scary situation, you did so incredibly well to not panic and to even scare him off too!
To be stalked is my literal nightmare, I've had a terrifying encounter with a man almost running after me when I noticed he followed me so I just yelled out loudly "Are you fu**ing stalking me?!?" And he stopped. Scariest sh*t I've ever experienced. You did well staring down the creep, you're really brave. Some people are so freaking creepy. Hence why I'm paranoid. Probably saves us more than we realize 😅 better safe than sorry! Sending you all the positivity ✨️ Glad you're safe 💕
Well shit, I haven't finished the video yet but I was terrified watching this with you :(( I'm so sorry you went through that, especially knowing how you don't like to go out and the day you decided to do it, you had such a bad experience. Big hugs and I hope it doesn't discourage you from trying again 💕 Ok I've finished the video now, I just want to say that I'm proud of you for still accomplishing what you had in mind for the day. I know I would have curled up in bed and not done anything else
I don't think you were paranoid there. It's always good to be aware regarding your surroundings. Also i think you mentioned in the first store that you were going to woolsworth and he probably heared that, which means he was definitely following you
I think you should name the babies-In addition to Universal Tiger’s suggestion of Parcel in honor of the 100 days the other could be name Thrift for your love of Thrifting!💜💜💜
As someone with agoraphobia, i totally understand how your home can feel like a safe space. My CBT therapist recommended doing small outings outside the home to help build up my confidence 💕
I'm so relieved for u about u being safe and reporting to the police that was so scary ! 😨 and I am so proud of ur clean up and it does help at least myself who I'm undiagnosed but I believe I'm in the same boat u are in mental health category that u motivate me to try an attack my clutter . Love u and thank you
Errol is soo dang cute good to see him looking better💕 how anyone could just ignore a bird that was in his condition is horrific, thank you for taking him and all your other birbs who needed some tlc in🐥💕 you’re a godsend to these little dudes
Alex, I have severe anxiety and asthma. Conscious breathing is a must. I was taught to breathe in on the count of 4, hold for 4 and breathe out for 4. This can actually stop an asthma attack or a small panic attack. Big hugs, I'm so proud of you.
I've been watching you for a couple of years now and i just found your second (this) chanel. I just want to tell you how much I appreciate this channel. I suffer from mental illness myself even tho we dont have exact same problems this is helping me so much. And i'm so proud of you. Thank you so much for being you. Sending all the love in the world from Carolina in Sweden
you're allowed to say you can't do something. give yourself the chance to feel safe enough to say you can't do something. It really puts you in a place where you can truly start to work on the things you want fixed. Just because your legs can walk you doesn't mean your brain will allow them to
I like to say that I CAN do things but I make it a broad can. Like I CAN call ppl but maybe I can`t do it today maybe tomorrow there will be that split second that allows me to start the task and if not that is okay bc I can do it on another day. Helps me to get out of those "Why can`t I do this now?" cycles. Not always but more often.
The first thing that I was acutally diagnosed with, before knowing I had generalized anxiety disorder, before knowing I was on the spectrum, was the panic disorder. I was agoraphobic in college. I couldn't go anywhere that wasn't back and forth to school or to one specific store. It took about 5 or 6 years to gain nearly full independence. The pandemic took it away. I regressed so much because it fed into my inclination to stay in, because everyone was told to so it became normal. Exposure is the only way to get that independence back. Going out with someone is a good first step. That way if you have a panic attack they can make sure you are safe. Part of my therapy to maintain it was to force myself to go out somewhere alone once a week, whether it was to the movies, or a restaurant. Also if my knee jerk reaction to a thing was, "I don't want to do that," I would ask myself if it was because I was afraid, and if the answer was yes, I would make sure I did the thing. I would tell my boyfriend (husband now) that I was planning to go to keep me accountable. I've compounded it by moving to a foreign country to marry him, and it's been a very depressing struggle for several months, even though I have been here before and know exactly what I'm supposed to do. Edit to add: Always trust your instincts. The dude opening the boot is weird. I had a coworker once who had a similar experience, and when she talked to another coworker whose spouse was a police officer, she found out there'd been a couple of abductions in that area, and she ended up reporting the person because she'd recorded their license plate.
Oh my god that guy was a creep and that's so terrifying I'm so glad you're safe and you're never paranoid for being cautious. I'm proud of you for noticing
Alex you were 100 💯 percent followed when you pretending to be on the phone you mentioned going to Woolworths and going to the store for groceries he must have heard you and went to the nearest store! 😮 I heard a disturbing statistic here in the states I don’t know if that’s the case in Australia but a lot of human trafficking and kidnapping cases happen in grocery store parking lots here so I am super glad that you were paranoid and extra careful because I think you were 100% justified to be so! You did good 👍🏼😉♥️ always!always! trust your gut!!! If it doesn’t feel right it’s not!!❤👍🏼💯
Wow that was really scary to witness what happened at the shops. I don't think I would have ever been be brave enough/had the insentive to stare them down like that. I'm really grateful that you posted this even if it put you in a vulnerable postition, I'm sure that many viewers like myself are going to be more aware and better prepared if this sort of situation comes up. I'm so glad you're okay and safe ❤️ it fucking sucks we have to go through this shit when just wanting to complete simple tasks
I can totally relate to the not wanting to go out to the shops to do grocery shopping so you don’t have interact with anyone 🫣 Oh no…that was surely more than a coincidence re the strange guy following you around…felt so bad for you as knew your anxiety would be sky high as mine would be 😩 But well done for dealing with it so well ☺️
If that happened to be a coincidence with that man, it's a very strange one. I'm glad you're safe and were so self aware, I hope that doesn't trigger more discomfort with leaving your home in the future.
The shorts remind me of my mom who passed away back in April. There's such a nice picture of her from around the time she got pregnant with me where she's wearing shorts just like that, and it's one of the few photos of her from after she married my social dad where she seems young and happy and vibrant like she was before. Also thank you for the accidental purring cat asmr, also very anxiety relieving. I'm so sorry you had to experience that, that's an awful thing to have happen, and I hope it doesn't deter you from continued progress with the anxiety of the outer spaces. (I know first hand how stressful experiences make everything else more stressful afterward.... And I've also had moments where my friend's mom, who I was living with when my OCD got really bad again, would offer to do my laundry for me, which I was panicked about doing because everything was "contaminated," including the laundry room itself, which was also very narrow and impossible to navigate without brushing up against something, and she specifically asked me at one point if maybe it would be better for me to not watch her do it.... But I insisted.... I had that problem again recently, where I nearly had a panic attack and had to call out of work literally last minute because my landlord had given me 24hr notice that I didn't receive until time-of that pest control was coming "between 8 and 5" and they had to enter the apartment whether I was home or not, and I had to make myself be home so I could observe to make sure they didn't touch anything "contaminated" and spread it to other parts where I wouldn't know where and then I'd unknowingly spread it through the whole apartment....)
Alex I hope you're safe!! I'm sure I speak for alot of people here, we love and care about you. You did good on staring him down and the other things you did. Maybe if something happens like that again you can straight up take an obvious picture of them so they know you have an image of what they look like. Lowkey this is my anxiety speaking but perhaps you and Dan should look for an apple airtag somewhere on the car just in case. Better safe then in a podcast
So happy to see the lil babies! I've seen dango, mango and matcha pop up for name suggestions, I like them too! I am sorry to hear what happened to you at the store. I can only imagine how stressfull that was. I am glad you were so aware and were able to stare down the creep. So proud of you for tidying up. This video really inspired me ❤️
Alex: Erroll just stays in one place. He slept there, then woke up and is just sitting there. Me: OMG same. Your long videos have inspired me to do a couple of things I have been meaning to do for a while. Tuesday I sorted out the small change in bags to go to the bank (£26 altogether) and today I opened two parcels that have been sitting around for months. So thank you! And yes, absolutely report that sussy bastard to the Police. It might not come to anything, but might be useful to track him down in the future if necessary.
I don't think I've ever related to someone more than I'm relating to you, Alex. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and snipets of your daily life with us. You make us all feel less alone and more normal 💛 Also glad you got back home safe, that guy was definitely up to no good
The basics of CBT have been life changing for me. For me, the deep breathing is great for when I’m at a super high anxiety point. But it also has helped me to realize that when I’m starting to feel anxious I can find dependable ways to distract my mind to calm myself. ❤
The way we remember which way the clocks go is “Spring forward and Fall back”. So, Spring is when the clock moves up an hour (for US) and Autumn is when it goes back one.
I'm glad you followed your instincts. That interaction with that man sounds very odd😭 Thank you for sharing the safety tips...I didn't know about the phone thing.
When I saw the baby birds I yelled, “OMG ALEX YOU’RE A GRANDMA!” LOL. But I do hope the babies make it and you should name them 2 different flavors used in mochi like ichigo(strawberry) and anko (sweet red bean). Or you could name them specific types of mochi ❤ Also just to add, that kitty probably felt that you were nervous so it came to comfort you with its glorious purrs and majestic fluffy fur. Amazing customer service right there lmao
Hey Alex, I just want to thank you for these videos. I have undaignosed OVD and have never been able to seek proper or effective treatment/a diagnosis because of the fact I find it difficult to articulate what’s really going on in my life. You explaining all your issues so concisely has really been helpful to me. I relate to everything you say and watching these videos has helped me find the words explain my feelings!. Thank you again.
i could feel the sheer fear and anxiety you were going through - i have been followed several times and the advice you were talking about is so great! im so happy you were so aware of what wad going on. as you said i would rather be considerd paranoid than be featured on a podcast 😅
Alex I am sorry you had that experience; it can really shake you to the core. My parents also drilled into me about being aware of my surroundings. Sadly, as women we need to be more aware because there are creepy weirdos out there. Sending hugs
You are very right to be being cautious and trusting your gut. I have had this happen a couple of times when I was walking. One time the guy following hid in a bush I only saw it because I had stopped to make sure he passed and I watched him in a bus stop reflection. I won't go into detail but each time I was very sure they were trying to hurt me. I reported them and they were BOTH found to have been convicted previously of terrible things, the other one appearing in the news for trafficking. I struggle leaving the house alone after these things and also struggle with ocd and anxiety. This made me have a little cry seeing you upset I am so glad you were safe Alex. x
A big yes for mindful breathing! It helps to fill your diaphragm and then lungs, and then try to make your out breath longer than your in breath. Also thinking "breath in" and "breath out" as you do it is sooo helpful. This calms your body which then alows your thoughts to slow as well. I hope this is helpful for someone. 😁❤
Hi from Sweden😊! I just want to thank you for sharing this side quest with us. I’m also on the spectrum and also diagnosed late in life. These videos are my comfort content atm. It’s so nice just to follow you around and listen to you and your ideas, realizations, experiences with meds and all of it. Unfiltered. It’s great! I recognize so much of myself in you sometimes and it makes me recognize that I’m NOT alone in my struggles. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart❤️!
Thank you for these incredibly open and honest videos. I lost my soulmate fur baby very recently and have not been able to do much of anything but cry. These have made me not feel as much of the guilt for shutting down for a bit. And given me some motivation to get up and do some things. Thank you for sharing all of this with the rest of us.❤️❤️ It’s definitely so nice to be reminded we’re not alone in our setbacks and even the beautiful talented Alex is human too. I think we sometimes forget because we don’t always get the full spectrum of how shitty even their lives can be or feel from other creators. Thank you again.❤️
i lost my soulmate fur baby 4 months ago very suddenly. it was one of the most devastating things i could imagine happening. it felt like i'd never stop crying - i still cry most nights, and think about him every day, but i can smile when i think about him now. all that to say, i'm with you and i'm so sorry for your loss. it's absolutely soul rending. don't feel guilty for your grief my friend. sending you love ❤
@@anonswibbly6586 I’m so sorry for your loss as well.❤️💔❤️ Thank you for your kind words. And yes it’s just life shattering but I am glad to hear you can smile again. I actually got his ashes back today and it’s been hard but I look forward to and have hope for the days you speak of.
I understand the urge to just stay in your house where you feel safe but that can also work against you in terms of your mental health. It can turn what might be anxiety inducing into a much bigger phobia. I was in a very similar situation when I was younger and got dangerously close to just becoming a complete shut-in, think hikikomori, it took a lot of work to get to the point where I could go out and have a much better quality of life. I just don't want you to have to go through the same thing. That cat was gorgeous and had such a lovely purr! You're clearly a lovely person given how animals will come up to you, they're good judges of character. That cleaning timelapse at the end was really satisfying to watch to watch for some reason, just watching stuff get done. Breaking things down into small chunks is one of the best ways for ADHD brains to get big things done, it stops us from getting overwhelmed and shutting down. Have you checked out the How to ADHD channel? She has a lot of good advice and explains things really well.
Can totally relate to the not wanting to leave the house. I have this same issue. It started over the last two years but has gotten worse this year to the point of me having panic attacks and crying just driving to the shops. I even put off going to the shops I’ll ask my partner to grab things on the way home from work. When my partner comes with me to the shops makes it abit easier but when I’m by myself I panic and can’t deal with it. I’m trying to work on this. I’m heading shopping today atleast to Spotlight.
thank you for these videos. this series helps me so much. i moved to europe recently from australia and have been struggling with it. watching these is like having a friend who offers good advice and helps me feel better about how little i feel capable of at the moment. and they’re such long form content and it’s so calm and nice. i always watch but never comment and i just wanted to say i really appreciate everything you share, it’s admirable how open you are able to be.
Ahh Alex. I was nervous along with you during your shopping. I’ve had 2 large men follow me through a shop before getting very close. I was lucky to call someone to meet me at the car outside and watch them walk out behind me. I hope for both our sake it doesn’t happen again❤❤❤ Also I too would come back to the store to pet the beautiful happy kitty 😂
Alex I'm so proud of you for tidying up, even after all the scary things that happened earlier. Good for you to stick it to "Tidy Up Thursday" and do some cleaning. The room already looks much nicer (even without a full reveal) and I bet it feels nicer too. Stay safe Alex
Omg Alex! I’ve stopped biting my nails for over 5 months and the whole time I was watching this, I relapsed so hard and bitt off my nails 😮 that’s so messed up…. I’m glad you were recording this whole experience! Also that moment when you were singing in the store 😭
Seeing those baby birds reminded me of last year's summer vacation when I went for a walk in the woods with my mum and we found a baby bird that fell from the nest... We found a place where they bring up those birds, so we called my sister who immediately said she'd drive me and the bird to that place... Soooo sweet and cute. Bird survived~~~ ^^ And no, you are not paranoid. Better be safe than sorry! There are crazy people out there... I am just glad that you are safe.
I love Errol - he’s so sweet - I’m glad to hear he’s getting better. I hate cleaning SO much - I can totally sympathise with that view! How exciting to see the 2 babies! That cat was gorgeous 🥰 What a scary experience - glad your ok.
You could think of yourself as your pet, add yourself to the list of pets who need care. Be gentle with yourself, self-care isn’t massages and yoga, it starts with treating yourself kindly. In Ireland we call loved ones pets as term of affection. Be your own little pet Also, maybe you could consider adding say 15 minutes of tidying to your daily list instead of having two set days. 15 minutes every day would be the dishes done or gathering clothes for cleaning or tidying up a few bits in one room
Name peaches and cream… most States in the USA changes the time…our spring is March April and May…so we turn our clocks forward (think spring forward) and in autumn, September, October, and November we turn our clocks back (fall back) you are just the opposite…how did you get our cat…lol he looks very similar…ours is just more blonde.. that wasn’t paranoid….that was a lone women fear…it was so normal…
Alex, you are not being paranoid. Maybe he listened in on where you were going next? So please please try to be vague when talking to us about where you are going or doing next when outside your house. We love you and want you to be safe. Also, as a side note, how about having a trash can near your bed? I know it will eventually overflow (happens to me sometimes, but that way I find it easier to tidy up)
That was terrifying. I'm sorry you had to go through that, I've had similar experiences. Also crying after is a totally ok reaction, you saved yourself. You should be proud ♥️
Your description of being stressed out by strangers reminds me of the dorsal vagal shutdown I just came out of. Basically, my nervous system got overwhelmed, and I went into a state where any stimulation triggered anxiety symptoms. I really could not deal with social interactions at all. It was like nails on a chalkboard. I finally figured out I was locked into a trauma response, and I needed to reprogram my system. I learned about this from the video Polyvagal Theory in Action, where they act out the different parts of the nervous system's response to stress. When they got to dorsal, I said oh, that's where I am. I've done a lot of things to recover, and it sounds like you are, too. I just wanted to share one tool that really helps me - Apollo Neuro - which just generates a gentle vibration on the skin to calm the nervous system, developed by a psychiatrist. Thanks for sharing and being so open about your journey - your struggles and your joys.
once I was afraid that I got follow in the bus. the man got closer and closer to me and his smile grow more and more. so I write to my roommate and ask if he could pick me up at the bus stop becuase i was so scared. bless my roommate for jump out of bed just to pick me up
I feel you on the plus-one situation in a meet-up. My friends just invited me to a movie night and I accepted since it's chill and doesn't require masking. Turns out more people are coming who are friends of theirs and I don't know at all. Now I'm dreading to go
In Cyprus typically for breakfast it will be a cup of tea or coffee, a cigarette if you're a smoker, some toast with humlumi and or a cured meat we have called lounsza, a boiled egg & a sausage we have called loganigo. Cereal is pretty common as well especially for younger children, but we usually have toast because it's so hot for nearly all of the year & you just don't get much of an appetite first thing in the morning.
Mochi’s baby should be named Onigiri
I love this name 🙋🏻♀️ this is my vote!
Heck yes!
I think it’d be cute to name one Parcel in honor of the 100 days
Or pacco - Italian for parcel
Yes! Parcel and Ichigo!
Hmmm... Parcel and Pocky... Parcel and Pastel... Parcel and Packet...
Thats cute!
Alex, you were NOT being paranoid about that man following you. Even if he wasn't following you, it hurts no one to be cautious. I think, also, that you said in the pet store that you were going to to Woolworth's. He was likely listening to you and looked up the closest Woolworth's to the pet store to try to find you.
If anything like that happens again, look up the nearest police station and drive straight there. Typically, they'll leave once they see where you're pulling in. You don't have to file a report or anything, if you don't want to; you can just wait for the creep to drive past and GTFO.
I really recommend ‘The Gift of Fear’ by Gavin de Becker. Great evidence as to why we are so rarely paranoid and far more likely to be correct about something being ‘off’.
Was getting ready to say the same thing...you mentioned it.
You generally don’t even have to get out of the car.
I don't think you even realized it, but in the pet store one of the things you said "on the phone" was that you were going to go to a Woolworths. At that point he had a pretty good idea of what place he could find you at next. He could have very easily stayed back a little bit more because he felt safe in letting you go knowing he could find you again. Sometimes you've got to go past the place you said you were going to go to and find another one to make sure that they aren't following you. They'll just assume you meant the closest one to where you were at, it wouldn't be logical for you to go past that to get to a different one. People be crazy. I was always taught to drive to some place with a lot of people around who could do something. So police station, fire station, emergency room would all work.
Dango would be an adorable name for one of Mochi's babies
Definitely!
Yes!
Dango and dingo
Names ideas:
1. Biscuit
2. Cookie
omg name them dango and daifuku 🍡🕊
Hey Alex! What I do when I feel someone is being creepy/following me, if I’m somewhere that is a business, I’ll notify the staff members (or if that doesn’t feel safe, I’ll just ask if they can help carry my products to the car!). Also if you think someone is following you in a car, go through a fast food drive through- they likely won’t follow you into there since there are cameras, and you can notify the workers via the speaker if you need to call police or anything!
I work in retail, please tell us if you’re feeling unsafe! There are cameras all the time especially in a woolworths. And we are always happy to help and also monitor the other person
Oooh, I never thought of the drive thru option; that's a good one! 👍🏽
I was followed a couple of times while driving a few years ago. Never go home. Drive busy streets only if possible, don’t get out the car, lock the doors, and ultimately do some big loops of the streets if needed so they have no Idea where you were headed. If you know of someone you can get to who will be in go there but be very careful if you get out the car and when you leave. If you can call hands free for a friend to meet you that is good. Do your best to never be super low on fuel and be forced to stop. Also, check the backseat before you get in, and the boot/truck if there is enough space for a person.
If someone really wants to hurt you, and specifically you, then you may have a bigger problem than small action like this can tackle, but at least make the serial killers work for it…….
@@alicianorris9352 yeah, this was suggested by our local police when my sister was followed while driving. They said it’s good because of the cameras, you don’t need to leave your vehicle, it’s not disclosing your address, and it’s a very public area.
Alex, feeling like you are being followed is scary. It's not an unreasonable fear, especially when we live in such an unstable world. It's happened to both me and my sister (separately) a couple of times, and it's an awful feeling. I'm so glad you are ok! Don't let yourself feel like you were being unreasonable. Protecting yourself is a good thing. If it ever happens again, drive to the nearest police or fire station. You don't have to go in, but it will deter anyone with bad intentions. And you put yourself in a situation where you can easily get help if you need it. Please take care!
I'm so glad you're safe! I think especially the women and female presenting people here know what it's like to be followed or think you're being followed. You're not paranoid and did not overreact! Better safe than sorry, seriously.
Another tipp: take a picture of the car/ license plate and if possible their face and send it to someone.
If someone follows you in a car, take weird turns, like driving around the same block twice etc, so you can be sure they're following you!
Seconding the advice to always get the license plate if you can.
I think Pebble would be a cute name for one of the baby birds!
I'm so sorry that this was you're experience going out while making such great progress. That was one of the creepiest interactions I've ever heard. I'm so happy you're alright yet simultaneously furious that this even happened. Your videos have been helping me so much with the passing of my oldest fur baby, so thank you so much for these. Wishing you nothing but the best♡
Some people ruin everything 😡
Alex, that was so scary. I almost cried even though I knew it must’ve been ok since you uploaded. I’m glad you were able to get out of that situation safely.
I like the names sugar and snow
Alex when you were in the feed store pretending to be on the phone you said you were going to Woolworths. If the creepy guy was familiar with the area he'd probably know which is the closest. It was definitely wierd! I hope you got his rego, you should report it to the police especially as he'd be on camera at least at the Woolworths if not the feed store. He could be out for any young woman.
Also never be afraid to call the police for help, just sit in your car and tell them what happened, or ask for help in the Woolworths/whichever shop from an employee.
I think a cute bird name would be Opal :)
I had a job cleaning houses 8 years ago, and our rule was to pick a direction and clean in a circle, basically. So we could clean from right to left around the room, or left to right. Either way, we wanted to finish where we started, which was the door. Honestly, that cleaning job helped me to cope with the anxiety I'd get over cleaning my own space. If I just start with the furthest corner and work my way around to the door, it's significantly less stressful.
I'm so glad that you came home safe. It's been years since I've experienced such a thing, but I definitely know how that feels. I definitely think that he was listening in to your "conversation", and you did let it slip where you were going next. Completely not your fault, as you were caught in the moment and just trying to make it seem natural. You still did everything right, but that slip of the tongue definitely ended up confirming that he was targeting you. I'm proud of you for making a dominant stand in the store, though. As frightening as it is to make eye contact, making them uncomfortable in turn is a good course of action.
I'm realllly going to try your circle technique. My issue when I get into cleaning headspace, even if I write a list I tend to get distracted in the middle of one thing and jump across the room or end up cleaning in a diff room altogether. 😅
@@shobot I used to do the same thing, and I still find myself wanting to from time-to-time, but this system really has helped me to keep better focus. I hope it helps.
The more I watch the more I relate. People always complain about self checkouts taking away jobs and how they are evil. The part of me that doesn't have the energy to interact with another human prefers them.
Totally agree. Also if they are just additional to normal checkouts they are just great.
This is the way it is in my country and I don't hear much people complaining about them
Yikes
I'm both, as a disabled person sometimes my lack of energy prefers a cashier, but as an anxious person sometimes I just prefer to do my checking out alone without staff interaction.
I think there should always be at least 1 server on at all times, for older people, disabled people, and parents/guardians who don't have time or energy to check out themselves 😊
Alex, check your car handles for zip ties or any form of tag or absolutely anything that you did not put there. Make sure he didn’t mark your vehicle for someone else.❤ please stay safe. I’ve been kidnapped even being vigilant because I didn’t know to check.
I was going to say the same thing. Here in the US, not sure if there, but the air tags are a problem for tagging and following people. So scary! You did great tho, don't let it deter you from future adventures!
Yes! Please check underneath your car for a tracking device!
I think it could be cute to call the babys sushi and soy since the mother is mochi and theres dumpling( keeping food theme ) 😄
Omg he’s
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Baby names
Parcel (after the 100 days) and Dango 🍡 ❤
I was so scared for you! You were NOT being paranoid! Always be aware of your surroundings. Sending love from Sweden!
Hey Alex, I’m so happy that you didn’t let the events of what happened stop you from completing your task to clean your room. Me and my partner are the exact same when it comes to being out and about always being aware of our surroundings. I feel like when something stressful like that happens cleaning soothes me. Much love from England. Xx
Bless that sweet orange kitty for trying to cheer you up :,))) little guy was trying to keep you safe! I’m so glad you stayed strong and managed to get out of such a scary situation, you did so incredibly well to not panic and to even scare him off too!
To be stalked is my literal nightmare, I've had a terrifying encounter with a man almost running after me when I noticed he followed me so I just yelled out loudly "Are you fu**ing stalking me?!?" And he stopped. Scariest sh*t I've ever experienced. You did well staring down the creep, you're really brave. Some people are so freaking creepy. Hence why I'm paranoid. Probably saves us more than we realize 😅 better safe than sorry!
Sending you all the positivity ✨️
Glad you're safe 💕
Well shit, I haven't finished the video yet but I was terrified watching this with you :(( I'm so sorry you went through that, especially knowing how you don't like to go out and the day you decided to do it, you had such a bad experience. Big hugs and I hope it doesn't discourage you from trying again 💕
Ok I've finished the video now, I just want to say that I'm proud of you for still accomplishing what you had in mind for the day. I know I would have curled up in bed and not done anything else
I don't think you were paranoid there. It's always good to be aware regarding your surroundings. Also i think you mentioned in the first store that you were going to woolsworth and he probably heared that, which means he was definitely following you
Name them Bacon and Eggs!
I'm so glad you're safe and nothing happened!
You should call the babies Anko and Taro (or Matcha?) because its in Mochi! :')
I think you should name the babies-In addition to Universal Tiger’s suggestion of Parcel in honor of the 100 days the other could be name Thrift for your love of Thrifting!💜💜💜
My parents taught me the same safety lessons. It actually makes me angry when watching movies or shows where the victims are just so oblivious 😂
As someone with agoraphobia, i totally understand how your home can feel like a safe space. My CBT therapist recommended doing small outings outside the home to help build up my confidence 💕
“Don’t watch this while sitting at your work desk” I feel attacked lol
Same lmao she caught us 🤣
Me too... Still did it though. I can clean while on the discord tonight.
I'm so relieved for u about u being safe and reporting to the police that was so scary ! 😨 and I am so proud of ur clean up and it does help at least myself who I'm undiagnosed but I believe I'm in the same boat u are in mental health category that u motivate me to try an attack my clutter . Love u and thank you
Errol is soo dang cute good to see him looking better💕 how anyone could just ignore a bird that was in his condition is horrific, thank you for taking him and all your other birbs who needed some tlc in🐥💕 you’re a godsend to these little dudes
Alex, I have severe anxiety and asthma. Conscious breathing is a must. I was taught to breathe in on the count of 4, hold for 4 and breathe out for 4. This can actually stop an asthma attack or a small panic attack. Big hugs, I'm so proud of you.
I'm SO glad there are many days left of this series! I really look forward to those videos every day!
I really do too
I've been watching you for a couple of years now and i just found your second (this) chanel. I just want to tell you how much I appreciate this channel. I suffer from mental illness myself even tho we dont have exact same problems this is helping me so much. And i'm so proud of you. Thank you so much for being you. Sending all the love in the world from Carolina in Sweden
you're allowed to say you can't do something. give yourself the chance to feel safe enough to say you can't do something. It really puts you in a place where you can truly start to work on the things you want fixed. Just because your legs can walk you doesn't mean your brain will allow them to
I like to say that I CAN do things but I make it a broad can. Like I CAN call ppl but maybe I can`t do it today maybe tomorrow there will be that split second that allows me to start the task and if not that is okay bc I can do it on another day. Helps me to get out of those "Why can`t I do this now?" cycles. Not always but more often.
The first thing that I was acutally diagnosed with, before knowing I had generalized anxiety disorder, before knowing I was on the spectrum, was the panic disorder. I was agoraphobic in college. I couldn't go anywhere that wasn't back and forth to school or to one specific store. It took about 5 or 6 years to gain nearly full independence. The pandemic took it away. I regressed so much because it fed into my inclination to stay in, because everyone was told to so it became normal. Exposure is the only way to get that independence back. Going out with someone is a good first step. That way if you have a panic attack they can make sure you are safe. Part of my therapy to maintain it was to force myself to go out somewhere alone once a week, whether it was to the movies, or a restaurant. Also if my knee jerk reaction to a thing was, "I don't want to do that," I would ask myself if it was because I was afraid, and if the answer was yes, I would make sure I did the thing. I would tell my boyfriend (husband now) that I was planning to go to keep me accountable. I've compounded it by moving to a foreign country to marry him, and it's been a very depressing struggle for several months, even though I have been here before and know exactly what I'm supposed to do.
Edit to add: Always trust your instincts. The dude opening the boot is weird. I had a coworker once who had a similar experience, and when she talked to another coworker whose spouse was a police officer, she found out there'd been a couple of abductions in that area, and she ended up reporting the person because she'd recorded their license plate.
Oh my god that guy was a creep and that's so terrifying I'm so glad you're safe and you're never paranoid for being cautious. I'm proud of you for noticing
Alex you were 100 💯 percent followed when you pretending to be on the phone you mentioned going to Woolworths and going to the store for groceries he must have heard you and went to the nearest store! 😮 I heard a disturbing statistic here in the states I don’t know if that’s the case in Australia but a lot of human trafficking and kidnapping cases happen in grocery store parking lots here so I am super glad that you were paranoid and extra careful because I think you were 100% justified to be so! You did good 👍🏼😉♥️ always!always! trust your gut!!! If it doesn’t feel right it’s not!!❤👍🏼💯
Boba and Tea for birds name lol would be cute
Wow that was really scary to witness what happened at the shops. I don't think I would have ever been be brave enough/had the insentive to stare them down like that. I'm really grateful that you posted this even if it put you in a vulnerable postition, I'm sure that many viewers like myself are going to be more aware and better prepared if this sort of situation comes up. I'm so glad you're okay and safe ❤️ it fucking sucks we have to go through this shit when just wanting to complete simple tasks
I can totally relate to the not wanting to go out to the shops to do grocery shopping so you don’t have interact with anyone 🫣
Oh no…that was surely more than a coincidence re the strange guy following you around…felt so bad for you as knew your anxiety would be sky high as mine would be 😩 But well done for dealing with it so well ☺️
If that happened to be a coincidence with that man, it's a very strange one. I'm glad you're safe and were so self aware, I hope that doesn't trigger more discomfort with leaving your home in the future.
for names I suggest Dango and Monaka! Japanese desserts!
The shorts remind me of my mom who passed away back in April. There's such a nice picture of her from around the time she got pregnant with me where she's wearing shorts just like that, and it's one of the few photos of her from after she married my social dad where she seems young and happy and vibrant like she was before.
Also thank you for the accidental purring cat asmr, also very anxiety relieving. I'm so sorry you had to experience that, that's an awful thing to have happen, and I hope it doesn't deter you from continued progress with the anxiety of the outer spaces. (I know first hand how stressful experiences make everything else more stressful afterward.... And I've also had moments where my friend's mom, who I was living with when my OCD got really bad again, would offer to do my laundry for me, which I was panicked about doing because everything was "contaminated," including the laundry room itself, which was also very narrow and impossible to navigate without brushing up against something, and she specifically asked me at one point if maybe it would be better for me to not watch her do it.... But I insisted.... I had that problem again recently, where I nearly had a panic attack and had to call out of work literally last minute because my landlord had given me 24hr notice that I didn't receive until time-of that pest control was coming "between 8 and 5" and they had to enter the apartment whether I was home or not, and I had to make myself be home so I could observe to make sure they didn't touch anything "contaminated" and spread it to other parts where I wouldn't know where and then I'd unknowingly spread it through the whole apartment....)
Momo!! it means peach 🍑 🕊️ and it's Aang's flying monkey pet from Avatar:TLA
Alex I hope you're safe!! I'm sure I speak for alot of people here, we love and care about you. You did good on staring him down and the other things you did. Maybe if something happens like that again you can straight up take an obvious picture of them so they know you have an image of what they look like. Lowkey this is my anxiety speaking but perhaps you and Dan should look for an apple airtag somewhere on the car just in case. Better safe then in a podcast
So happy to see the lil babies! I've seen dango, mango and matcha pop up for name suggestions, I like them too!
I am sorry to hear what happened to you at the store. I can only imagine how stressfull that was. I am glad you were so aware and were able to stare down the creep.
So proud of you for tidying up. This video really inspired me ❤️
Alex: Erroll just stays in one place. He slept there, then woke up and is just sitting there.
Me: OMG same.
Your long videos have inspired me to do a couple of things I have been meaning to do for a while. Tuesday I sorted out the small change in bags to go to the bank (£26 altogether) and today I opened two parcels that have been sitting around for months. So thank you!
And yes, absolutely report that sussy bastard to the Police. It might not come to anything, but might be useful to track him down in the future if necessary.
I don't think I've ever related to someone more than I'm relating to you, Alex. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and snipets of your daily life with us. You make us all feel less alone and more normal 💛
Also glad you got back home safe, that guy was definitely up to no good
You were not being paranoid! I'm so proud of you for listening to your gut! Well done!
I think you should name them Luna and Luca!
The basics of CBT have been life changing for me. For me, the deep breathing is great for when I’m at a super high anxiety point. But it also has helped me to realize that when I’m starting to feel anxious I can find dependable ways to distract my mind to calm myself. ❤
I agree Breathworks has really helped me immensely calm and ground myself. Emotional Freedom Technique Tapping (EFT) also found helped too🌼
The way we remember which way the clocks go is “Spring forward and Fall back”. So, Spring is when the clock moves up an hour (for US) and Autumn is when it goes back one.
I'm glad you followed your instincts. That interaction with that man sounds very odd😭
Thank you for sharing the safety tips...I didn't know about the phone thing.
When I saw the baby birds I yelled, “OMG ALEX YOU’RE A GRANDMA!” LOL. But I do hope the babies make it and you should name them 2 different flavors used in mochi like ichigo(strawberry) and anko (sweet red bean). Or you could name them specific types of mochi ❤
Also just to add, that kitty probably felt that you were nervous so it came to comfort you with its glorious purrs and majestic fluffy fur. Amazing customer service right there lmao
Hey Alex, I just want to thank you for these videos. I have undaignosed OVD and have never been able to seek proper or effective treatment/a diagnosis because of the fact I find it difficult to articulate what’s really going on in my life. You explaining all your issues so concisely has really been helpful to me. I relate to everything you say and watching these videos has helped me find the words explain my feelings!. Thank you again.
i could feel the sheer fear and anxiety you were going through - i have been followed several times and the advice you were talking about is so great! im so happy you were so aware of what wad going on.
as you said i would rather be considerd paranoid than be featured on a podcast 😅
“Paranoid or podcast?!” Lol 🤣😂 Alex, I think I’m podcast! I notice nothing 🤣😂
Alex I am sorry you had that experience; it can really shake you to the core. My parents also drilled into me about being aware of my surroundings. Sadly, as women we need to be more aware because there are creepy weirdos out there. Sending hugs
You are very right to be being cautious and trusting your gut. I have had this happen a couple of times when I was walking. One time the guy following hid in a bush I only saw it because I had stopped to make sure he passed and I watched him in a bus stop reflection. I won't go into detail but each time I was very sure they were trying to hurt me. I reported them and they were BOTH found to have been convicted previously of terrible things, the other one appearing in the news for trafficking. I struggle leaving the house alone after these things and also struggle with ocd and anxiety. This made me have a little cry seeing you upset I am so glad you were safe Alex. x
A big yes for mindful breathing! It helps to fill your diaphragm and then lungs, and then try to make your out breath longer than your in breath. Also thinking "breath in" and "breath out" as you do it is sooo helpful. This calms your body which then alows your thoughts to slow as well. I hope this is helpful for someone. 😁❤
Hi from Sweden😊!
I just want to thank you for sharing this side quest with us. I’m also on the spectrum and also diagnosed late in life.
These videos are my comfort content atm. It’s so nice just to follow you around and listen to you and your ideas, realizations, experiences with meds and all of it. Unfiltered. It’s great! I recognize so much of myself in you sometimes and it makes me recognize that I’m NOT alone in my struggles.
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart❤️!
OH MY GOD THIS DUDE FOLLOWING ALEX IS LEGIT SCARING ME
Thank you for these incredibly open and honest videos. I lost my soulmate fur baby very recently and have not been able to do much of anything but cry. These have made me not feel as much of the guilt for shutting down for a bit. And given me some motivation to get up and do some things. Thank you for sharing all of this with the rest of us.❤️❤️ It’s definitely so nice to be reminded we’re not alone in our setbacks and even the beautiful talented Alex is human too. I think we sometimes forget because we don’t always get the full spectrum of how shitty even their lives can be or feel from other creators. Thank you again.❤️
i lost my soulmate fur baby 4 months ago very suddenly. it was one of the most devastating things i could imagine happening. it felt like i'd never stop crying - i still cry most nights, and think about him every day, but i can smile when i think about him now. all that to say, i'm with you and i'm so sorry for your loss. it's absolutely soul rending. don't feel guilty for your grief my friend. sending you love ❤
@@anonswibbly6586 I’m so sorry for your loss as well.❤️💔❤️ Thank you for your kind words. And yes it’s just life shattering but I am glad to hear you can smile again. I actually got his ashes back today and it’s been hard but I look forward to and have hope for the days you speak of.
I understand the urge to just stay in your house where you feel safe but that can also work against you in terms of your mental health. It can turn what might be anxiety inducing into a much bigger phobia.
I was in a very similar situation when I was younger and got dangerously close to just becoming a complete shut-in, think hikikomori, it took a lot of work to get to the point where I could go out and have a much better quality of life. I just don't want you to have to go through the same thing.
That cat was gorgeous and had such a lovely purr! You're clearly a lovely person given how animals will come up to you, they're good judges of character.
That cleaning timelapse at the end was really satisfying to watch to watch for some reason, just watching stuff get done.
Breaking things down into small chunks is one of the best ways for ADHD brains to get big things done, it stops us from getting overwhelmed and shutting down.
Have you checked out the How to ADHD channel? She has a lot of good advice and explains things really well.
100% it’s OKAY AND NECESSARY to call the cops. Better safe than sorry
Can totally relate to the not wanting to leave the house.
I have this same issue. It started over the last two years but has gotten worse this year to the point of me having panic attacks and crying just driving to the shops. I even put off going to the shops I’ll ask my partner to grab things on the way home from work.
When my partner comes with me to the shops makes it abit easier but when I’m by myself I panic and can’t deal with it. I’m trying to work on this. I’m heading shopping today atleast to Spotlight.
thank you for these videos. this series helps me so much. i moved to europe recently from australia and have been struggling with it. watching these is like having a friend who offers good advice and helps me feel better about how little i feel capable of at the moment. and they’re such long form content and it’s so calm and nice. i always watch but never comment and i just wanted to say i really appreciate everything you share, it’s admirable how open you are able to be.
Name suggestions: Paru (meaning Pearl) and Dango (perfect for Mochi's baby?)
Ahh Alex. I was nervous along with you during your shopping. I’ve had 2 large men follow me through a shop before getting very close. I was lucky to call someone to meet me at the car outside and watch them walk out behind me.
I hope for both our sake it doesn’t happen again❤❤❤
Also I too would come back to the store to pet the beautiful happy kitty 😂
Alex I'm so proud of you for tidying up, even after all the scary things that happened earlier. Good for you to stick it to "Tidy Up Thursday" and do some cleaning. The room already looks much nicer (even without a full reveal) and I bet it feels nicer too. Stay safe Alex
Omg Alex! I’ve stopped biting my nails for over 5 months and the whole time I was watching this, I relapsed so hard and bitt off my nails 😮 that’s so messed up…. I’m glad you were recording this whole experience! Also that moment when you were singing in the store 😭
Alex…you’re a grandma!!! Congratulations
I'm so sorry you had such a shitty experience! And so proud of how well you handled it and that you cleaned up as well! Sending you warm hugs 💕
Seeing those baby birds reminded me of last year's summer vacation when I went for a walk in the woods with my mum and we found a baby bird that fell from the nest... We found a place where they bring up those birds, so we called my sister who immediately said she'd drive me and the bird to that place...
Soooo sweet and cute.
Bird survived~~~ ^^
And no, you are not paranoid. Better be safe than sorry! There are crazy people out there... I am just glad that you are safe.
I love Errol - he’s so sweet - I’m glad to hear he’s getting better. I hate cleaning SO much - I can totally sympathise with that view! How exciting to see the 2 babies! That cat was gorgeous 🥰 What a scary experience - glad your ok.
Wiilow and Sage
You could think of yourself as your pet, add yourself to the list of pets who need care. Be gentle with yourself, self-care isn’t massages and yoga, it starts with treating yourself kindly. In Ireland we call loved ones pets as term of affection. Be your own little pet
Also, maybe you could consider adding say 15 minutes of tidying to your daily list instead of having two set days. 15 minutes every day would be the dishes done or gathering clothes for cleaning or tidying up a few bits in one room
Jack & Sally
The amount of strength I get seeing you clean helps so much. Please take care I love you.
I loved that friendly cat, purring up a storm and headbutting you 😻🥰
I wake up each morning so excited for your daily video!!!❤️
TUESDAY they hatched . Call them FRANKINCENSE & MYRRH
you should look into DBT as well, or if you find CBT doesn't fit your needs!
Name peaches and cream… most States in the USA changes the time…our spring is March April and May…so we turn our clocks forward (think spring forward) and in autumn, September, October, and November we turn our clocks back (fall back) you are just the opposite…how did you get our cat…lol he looks very similar…ours is just more blonde.. that wasn’t paranoid….that was a lone women fear…it was so normal…
Alex, you are not being paranoid. Maybe he listened in on where you were going next? So please please try to be vague when talking to us about where you are going or doing next when outside your house. We love you and want you to be safe. Also, as a side note, how about having a trash can near your bed? I know it will eventually overflow (happens to me sometimes, but that way I find it easier to tidy up)
I mean… I have full body chills about this dude following Alex in the grocery store.
You're not paranoid!!! That was so scary and you did the right thing to stare the bastard down!
I'm a big fan of fruit names for pigeons.
My own is called kiwi. But mango, apple, pear, berry are all so cute to me😆🌸
A giant virtual hug to you Alex ❤
Edit: I'm so happy you finished tidying up your room! Can't wait to watch tomorrow's video :)
That was terrifying. I'm sorry you had to go through that, I've had similar experiences. Also crying after is a totally ok reaction, you saved yourself. You should be proud ♥️
Your description of being stressed out by strangers reminds me of the dorsal vagal shutdown I just came out of. Basically, my nervous system got overwhelmed, and I went into a state where any stimulation triggered anxiety symptoms. I really could not deal with social interactions at all. It was like nails on a chalkboard. I finally figured out I was locked into a trauma response, and I needed to reprogram my system.
I learned about this from the video Polyvagal Theory in Action, where they act out the different parts of the nervous system's response to stress. When they got to dorsal, I said oh, that's where I am.
I've done a lot of things to recover, and it sounds like you are, too. I just wanted to share one tool that really helps me - Apollo Neuro - which just generates a gentle vibration on the skin to calm the nervous system, developed by a psychiatrist.
Thanks for sharing and being so open about your journey - your struggles and your joys.
once I was afraid that I got follow in the bus. the man got closer and closer to me and his smile grow more and more. so I write to my roommate and ask if he could pick me up at the bus stop becuase i was so scared. bless my roommate for jump out of bed just to pick me up
I feel you on the plus-one situation in a meet-up. My friends just invited me to a movie night and I accepted since it's chill and doesn't require masking. Turns out more people are coming who are friends of theirs and I don't know at all. Now I'm dreading to go
In Cyprus typically for breakfast it will be a cup of tea or coffee, a cigarette if you're a smoker, some toast with humlumi and or a cured meat we have called lounsza, a boiled egg & a sausage we have called loganigo. Cereal is pretty common as well especially for younger children, but we usually have toast because it's so hot for nearly all of the year & you just don't get much of an appetite first thing in the morning.