Fun video girls. As a woman who has been married for 44 years to her high school sweetheart, I have experienced a lot of ups and downs. They do happen! But now that we are grandparents to 6, I can tell you, weathering the storms is SO worth it when you come out the other side and can now enjoy life as grandparents. It takes a ton of work, a ton of patience and a ton of prayer!! When our sons got married I told each of them, treat your wife like a queen but she needs to treat you like a king. Marriage is give and take. And to women, (I will get push back)....husbands need to be stroked. They need to be thanked and told they are appreciated. To this day I thank my husband for providing for our family; for being a hard worker and a good father. And now I praise him for being such a great "Papa" which he is. I give all the glory to God and I thank God everyday for saving our marriage. The verse is Ecclesiastes 4:12 , for a triple braided cord is not easily broken. Keep God first in all that you do!
I love your response here..... I've been married 40 yrs now, and I agree..... I thank my husband very often for providing for our family, I tell him I appreciate all he does for us, etc. Men do need the extra encouragement, but so nice when they show or tell us they appreciate us too!
I think the effort it takes to say thank you is from our anabaptist background. It is just expected that everyone pulls their own weight, without recognition, but as a teacher and now as a mom I work hard to change that .
Loved it!!!! Best date with my husband -Any evening we spent out on our boat-and there was quite a lot as we would live on the boat in the summer for weeks at a time.
I'm really enjoying your podcast. My husband and I have been married for 3 years, my most memorable date night was when we were on a little weekend trip and went out to dinner and then sat on the beach until the sun set and the moon came out. We do lots of movie nights and shows on Fridays at home though so I need more ideas. We don't have kiddos.
WTF. Your a married woman with children, how could you even see your self as an independent woman? Women who start believing they are independent in a marriage aren't focused on their marriage. Losing focus on their marriage lends to divorce. Time 29:25 to 30:15 on the video. A wife thinking such words in a marriage. I don't need him, I'm independent....Is not focused on the union of marriage or supporting her husband.
Hi to folks in the comments.. Could ya'll keep a family member of mine in your thoughts? I have a family member that's about to go under for brain surgery in about an hour and any extra positive thoughts would be appreciated.
Thank you! I really appreciate it. It is nice too to watch this video to try and keep my mind focused on other things in the meantime. @@jaynaburkholder1507
This episode made me miss my dear departed husband so much. We were rarely affluent enough to have a date night but we did have a tradition for a long while of having a candle it dinner at our little kitchen table every Sunday after the boys were in bed. It was some of our sweetest moments together.
My Husband and I just had our 34th Anniversary a few days ago. He's sick, we have no money, and I lack strength to even get around much. So I was trying to think of something we could do. Nothing worked out. Then our daughter said how about a movie at home. We looked and nothing jumped out at us. Then my daughter suggested The Princess Bride. So perfect!!💕 I hadn't seen it because I was too tired to watch it before and fell asleep, but it was the first movie we ever watched while we were dating..this was back in the VHS days and people were just barely buying their owns VCRs. So we (and I) watched the whole movie and it was such a great Anniversary!!💕 Our son even brought us treats in on a "special tray" and said for you in a waiter's tone. Ended up being one of our best Anniversary celebrations. 😊
@@HoneyImHomemakerso do you watch movies at all? I have a few favorites, but I have some that describe our relationship so well that it’s fun to watch them over and over♥️
Yes!! I hate the new thing of husband bashing and saying you can’t say thank you because he is ‘supposed’ to do it. I’ll thank my husband for everything and he does the same.
"well women aren't thanked constantly for everything they do" My husband is thanking me constantly, Im a sahm. He has no reason to thank me literally constantly, but then again, I'm always thanking him too. We are equally grateful for each other❤️
I think it’s so fun to find out which things make our husbands feel loved. It’s not always what you would think. Occasionally thanking him for going to work every single day for hours makes him light up, like he feels glad I don’t take it for granted. Sometimes it’s a foot rub that makes him say ahhhh… And sometimes it’s telling him at a random time how good looking he is. But I think one of the best is asking about his work day, and listening to all the details about it, and asking more questions to show you are actually interested and care about how he spends his days. Sometimes five minutes of plain old sympathy when he’s down does a lot, before you try to convince him it’s not so bad.;) Our favorite date was a night away at a cabin an hour from home. We had a nice dinner out, then went back to the cabin and sat by the crackling fire sipping wine and sparkling cider, and just being. The next day we had breakfast out and spent the rest of the day driving around looking at fall colors and yakking. It was so refreshing after coming through a crazy busy and stressful time in our lives, and that’s probably why it seems so special.
I even share my water bottle with my grandchildren 😊I was the mom that picked the pacifier off the floor popped it into my mouth the “wash” it before putting it into my babies mouth 😅it’s called survival mode and we are all healthy.
Our near-constant argument early in marriage was about items i.e. who moved what where. About 8 years in, we made a commitment to not touch each other's stuff. We haven't done it since and rarely if ever disagree. Does the pile on the counter still make me crazy? YES! But he faithfully sorts it each Saturday evening and we never disagree over it now.
My husband and I will celebrate our 50th in January 2024! A definition of a perfect marriage is two unperfect people who NEVER give up on each another. We always had the kids to bed by 8:00 pm and after that it was our time to cuddle on the couch and talk about our day. We are best friends and cannot imagine doing life without each other. God bless you and your families!
I’ve been married to my husband for 22 years now and from about year eight on he cooks dinner every night because he gets off work before I do and it is ready when I come home! And when dinner is finished, I clean the dishes and put them away! I appreciate this more than he could ever know, and every single night I tell him thank you for dinner! (I will admit that this stemmed from the fact that I’m 43 and can’t cook well and I think he got tired of nasty food, but he cooks all the same!😂)
Oh how I love listening to you young ladies! Such a breath of fresh air in this current culture! I am 58, my husband is 66, been married 37 yrs., 3 kids (+ their spouses), 9 grandbabies...& oh the stories we could tell. We could not afford "date nights" when we had littles, but we learned to be very creative! Keep God central, keep the fire burning hot in the bedroom (or any other room...😅), & do not be easily offended. Also, I am the only one in our whole family who will drink after littles👍
Thanks for this podcast video! The book "Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperatly Needs" from Emerson Eggerichs helped me alot to understand the needs of my husband better. It empovered our marriage alot :))))
I had 2 miscarriages and completely agree with how different my husband and I reacted to them. Often it didn't feel like he was grieving but when things started getting rocky I had to realize that he was grieving as much as I was and we needed to be the support for each other. That is when the healing started.
We've been thanking each other for the little things like taking out the garbage since we got married, so it's not awkward at all and almost second nature ❤
For whatever reason I didn't get around to watching this until now. Usually I watch these videos as soon as they come out, but I'm a few episodes behind. Anyway, I think it was a God thing because this is exactly what I needed today. My husband is going through a really tough time at work and I've been praying that God will show me how to comfort him and help him during this time. These simple reminders and ideas are so fitting. Thank you!
Another thought on the subject to do for a hubby. My husband had training out of town for a week, so I had a fun basket sent to his room, the floral shop made it, put in lots of candy, chips, cookies, and a balloon attached that said "I love you". He loved it!
I must see my husband before he leaves for work. I know how short life is and would regret if I didnt see him and he didn't come home safe! I lost both my parents a year apart (they were 66) and my friend recently lost her husband unexpectedly while he was at work. They were married less than a year 😢
I think your video is refreshing. I relate to Jana's comment of handling stress and grief differently than her husband and he not really relating in the same way. But she said it all in a way that it's ok and all a part of normalcy. A special date night of ours (children are older) is to spend a Friday night in our camper that is parked in the driveway. I make up a quick fruit or veggie tray to take out and enjoy together. Cozy fall nights and cool spring nights are the best. Or...a rainy night when we can fall asleep together listening to the rain, then wake up to an unhurried Saturday morning. It's great!! God bless both your families.
Love y’all’s broadcast very interesting topics. Me and my husband were married 40 years he passed away so we had a lot of good times more good times and bad times so y’all gonna experience a lot of those have a blessed Monday night.❤
I’ve been married for 44 years and we’ve had our ups and downs, as every marriage has. Sometimes someone will ask me how we’ve stayed married for so long and my reply is always that we committed to not get divorced. That might sound trite, but it honestly is the truth! We knew we had to work through things in our marriage because divorce was simply not an option. We believe that biblically, you just don’t get divorced, except in very rare circumstances, which were never our case. God is a member of our marriage and that, truly, makes all the difference. ❤
I've loved your phrase "non-pg stuff" to talk about "intimacy"! It's funny, it's very clear ("intimacy" can just mean holding hands), and every time you say it, it's a reminder that pg-rated marriage tips are often kind of missing the point!
Most memorable date night since being married... Gosh. Lol I honestly don't know. But our first "date night" after our son was born was to a pioneer village at Christmas time with everything lit up, and that was super special!
Jayna, I AGREE. Lol. I eat and drink the drinks and leftovers from my son 😂 Objectively, it's gross. But once you have a baby and it's YOUR baby ... Somehow... Not gross anymore. They're just too cute I think! Lol! And Meghan... This is not even controversial. Cookie dough is amazing. 😂😂😂
My husband and I are married forty years and started drinking coffee together every morning in the first years . We sit in the semi darkness and talk or not , when the children were little the early risers loved joining us . My husband was always self employed I realize not everyone has that privilege. And I’m a Mennonite and see absolutely nothing wrong with dancing together in the privacy of your home .That’s who dancing should be for , married couples alone . I never did but sounds fun 😂 loved this podcast you both did so well .
Omg! I can totally relate to moving his stuff, and him getting fustrated. But seriously, everything has a home and needs to be put away. The only downfall, is when I’m picking up the house not remembering what I moved and where lol 😂I’ve gotten much better at that now. I know exactly what I’ve moved and can tell my man where it is. He also has learned the home for things, so looks at those spots and is happy to find the item. So funny, and so true. We can relate
You two are just adorable!!!! Thank you for the encouragement. Been married for 15 years and this year we had our most memorable date week (never happened before this and might be a while before it happens again😜) But here in South Africa we have a famous 5 day hiking trail that we did. It was a 14 hour road trip to get there so we were away for 9 days.
Hey jayna this may or may not be helpful but try taking a picture of the stuff you take up to his shop that way you’ll remember what you took. Most the time we have phones with us 😊
I DO see my husband in the morning, only because our son wakes up at 7, and my husband doesn't leave for work until 8:20. But it's not very "quality time." That usually happens after our son's bedtime.
I really enjoyed this. I think always thanking our husbands makes them feel appreciated. We are into our 36th year and enjoy 3 walks a day, just 10 minutes each but it gives us uninterrupted time to just chat. Keep talking. We had 4 little ones close together and always sat down for about 30-45 minutes every night after they went to bed with a cup of tea and chatted about the day. Always grab a good ten minutes each day. As the kids get older you will get more time. My husband is still my best friend and I enjoy spending more time together as our kids are adults. We have 2 dates a week , coffee and then Sunday lunch after church. You need to make time and prioritize your spouse over your children, they will appreciate that later and it will model a good marriage for them. God bless you both.
We started a tradition of going away for a weekend (or really just saturday-sunday) in the beginning of a new year quite early in our marriage (we've been married for 14 years). We find some place with a package deal (afternoon tea, dinner, hotel room and breakfast) and bring our calendars, notebooks etc. And then we plan the coming year. We usually begin with laying out a rough sketch of holidays and events we want to attend (so we know when to ask for leave from work and/or get a babysitter), continue with making a list of things we want/need to do around the house and garden, talk economy etc. During dinner we usually focus on our marriage and more spiritual things. We couldn't do this when our kid was really small but when he turned one we picked it up again. It might not be for everyone but it works really well for us! Having a whole weekend set aside for these kind of admin tasks just takes a lot of stress out of our everyday lives.
This sounds like something Jimmy Evans recommends too! I can't remember what he calls it, but I think that's such a great idea. We're having another baby in a couple months so that trip won't happen for us for a while, but one day I hope to do that!
We actually took dance lessons. 1h30 on Fridays was our time. Being in each others arms and having to look into each others eyes, fun of learning something new, exercise and meeting new people. But my favourite bit was spending time together
marriage counseling, FUN????? no! We spent a year in marriage counseling in order to save our marriage. I think I sobbed 1x a week for a year. It was the hardest year of my life, especially when the other person WOULDN'T do what the counselor suggested for quite a while. We came out better in the end & saved our marriage, but no, not fun! Luckily my husband was willing to go without thinking it was shameful, but he was resistant to do what was necessary. The only 'marriage retreat' things that happen in our area are religious, but my husband is unwilling to participate in anything like that.
My husband always worked an afternoon shift - so date night??? never. BUT every morning when he got up (around 10 am) I would make a fresh pot of coffee. I would stop what I was doing, sit down in the living room with him & we would just hang out, chat, or even just be quiet (he DID just get out of bed LOL). Our girls were little at the time. They were told to go play, they were not allowed to interrupt, bother us, pester me to get them things. They had to find something to do on their own for 1/2 hour. It was the ONLY time I had with my husband alone. Often we would need to discuss important things; financial, child care decisions, weekend plans etc...Then our dinner at noon was the time for us ALL to spend time together. Then they could be silly & tell him all about their week and kind of be the center of attention. Now, he works day shift & even though our kids are grown it is hard to find the time to sit down together. I miss those days of having coffee in the morning. It really trained our kids to be independent & not whiny.
My husband and I get up together and go to bed together. I would feel badly otherwise, but we’ve only been married a year and a half and don’t have kids yet, so that may change in the future!
I feel like there are seasons in a marriage, but I do agree that you as a couple need to have the same belief system or be on the same page about how life should be because that’s certainly makes things a lot easier. And I think the thing that happens to every mother is that they make their children their priority, and forget about their husbands, and I have definitely been guilty of that and it is certainly work to make sure everybody gets time including time with yourself.
Hi 👋 how would you handle a situation when the closest family around you always have something to say negative about your husband? Keep in mind he is a provider, father, Christian and little things still bother them. And then they ask “why did he say that?” “Why does he do that?” Etc.
One of my favorite dates was one of our anniversaries. We drove about an hour away from where we lived and went to different restaurants that we hadn't been to before. One for appetizers, one for the main meal, and one for dessert. It was really fun!
Yes to cookie dough! I’ve made a whole batch to eat raw several times! The best is when you make it into balls and freeze them, get them out and coat with chocolate while still frozen then allow to defrost. I’ve taken them to church meals before and people loved them although one older lady looked rather horrified when she learnt what they were 😂 My cookie dough doesn’t have eggs in!
I find the counseling in our area is for crisis. It's so hard to find an appointment for a maintenance type. Our church has small groups and they work through marriage books. Those are always good! My husband is gone for work by 6 and often isn't home until 8 or 9 so we have such a hard time day to day on connecting. We just really try and make it a point to plan family days as often as he has off.
Keep a very special notebook or journal. Make a pact with your spouse that you will put a note to him/ her every morning, in that notebook or journal. Stick a note of I love you or thank you in his/ her wallet. Doesn’t take a grand gesture, simple things make a difference.
Watching Jayna's sandwich making video on Instagram made me remember the "at home date" I like to do for my husband. When he's home for lunch, like on the weekend I like to feed the kids lunch first then fix the two of us a very fancy sandwich (I'm going to have to give Jayna's apple butter turkey sandwich a try! 😊) then I'll plate it up nice with chips and a pickle and a tall fun drink. I make sure the table is nice and put on some coffee shop ambience music and text him to join me for lunch. We make the kids play in the next room till we are done. 😊it's a lot of fun and pretty easy.
Well, I actually wake up with my husband but, never get out of bed . I'm not a morning person lol. Yes, I married into a mennonite family and that it how we live. I really have more of a appreciation of the mennonite culture now.
First time watching you ladies, very interesting. I have been married for 46 years. My most memorable date nights have always been on the waterfront having Seafood and enjoying a long walk holding hands and enjoying our favorite scenery and person.
Married 13 years and never got up with my husband in the morning when he leaves for work until a few months ago and he’s mentioned multiple times how surprised he is that I’m actually still keeping it up😂 he likes it
I am 57 and not married but I have a boyfriend.The best date we had yet was when he picked me up and surprised me by going to my friend's house and picked up her and her husband. What an awesome and thoughtful surprise. It was a great double date.
This is such a good conversation to have. ❤ I wake up at 6:30 with my husband and make his lunch while he gets ready for work. Then I have a little time to exercise and read my Bible before my kids get up and the day gets busy. It lets my husband know I appreciate him and I also get a little time for myself every morning. I have recently started leaving little notes for him occasionally because he said that is something that means a lot to him.
I am sorry but Megan is correct, there is no drinking after the kids. Haha!! The amount of little floating objects is something I can't deal with. Emergencies only. LOL!!!
My husband and I must have similar personalities to Jayna and her husband. We also argue about stuff he leaves laying around that I move or want to get rid of, and we handle anxiety and grief differently and feel less connected in the storm, but our marriage feels stronger after the storm is over.
You two are fun to listen to. I've been married only 19 years myself, but feel I can learn a lot from those married for less time. Maybe it is because I am still having babies too and need to be around more Mennonite believers (my church is the only Mennonite church in my state and we only have 30 people). I love feeding my husband. It is so funny how he was very skinny and I don't think his mom really fed him too much (She would make spaghetti and buy burger king and that's pretty much it for him), but I get to make him nice home cooked meals all the time and he loves it. He calls himself chubby hubby (he's not that chubby though at all). I feel counselling should be for those who struggle to communicate well with one another. I have never had marriage counselling because when we are upset we ask one another questions of, "Why are you upset? What do you want from this situation?" Things like that. There was one time I asked my husband to go to counselling and he was very strongly against it but then asked me to life coach him instead (I am a certified life coach). I thought that was weird because I didn't want to see him like a client. . .haha. It worked out and he got so much from it and loved it though. Not every man would react that way.
We have a special monthly date where we take turns planning the date. It can be surprise for the other person, or not. And no rules, you can plan whatever you want to do, or plan what you think the other would like.
Cookie dough is a delicacy 😂 What you said about personalities is so true. My sister and her husband are opposites in so many ways. She says herself that she doesn’t know how they ended up together lol. Their differences make each other better. They cause each other to grow. Also couldn’t agree more that marriage has to come first for the good of the whole family.
Hello. Just passed my Husbands and I 15 year anniversary. I’m 34 and we have 10 children. It’s very hard to find date nights. Haven’t had one since a few months before Covid hit. My most memorable date night would have been in 2017 my 6th baby being 6 months old. My mother n’law watched all 6 children while we went to Ocean City Maryland and stayed at a hotel. Went jet skiing and parasailing. That was so much fun! Also the most brought up subject for us is team work. Being on the same page when it comes to child rearing. I am one that doesn’t communicate very well. My husband delegates a lot and I need to work on that. I find it easier to just do it myself. Anyways. I enjoy listening to your pod casts. I usually binge watch because it’s hard to find time all the time to watch every video that comes out. Keep up the good work and inspiration. Thank you!
Dana I'm with you. I think in the long run we Bond closer to our husbands but in the moment of anxiety, stress, grief, etc, we do not mesh well together.
Love your videos, sorry it took me a week before I got around to watching it I'm in a busy season of life right now as my son just played his last football game, he is a senior in highschool enjoy ever second you have with your children because they will be grown in a blink of a eye. And this past weekend we had our oldest son a wedding shower he is 26 WeI have 5 children and it is the hardest with the youngest leaving I know it will be an adjustment for us we have had children at home for the past 29 years and looking back it was at times hard but we loved every second of it. My husband and myself love to spend quality time hiking together and our all time favorite has been hiking in pigeon forge, it is just quant and romantic. I would like to leave you with Matthew 14. The greatest reward is teaching your children and grandchildren about the Lord Jesus Christ . Give their wandering minds answers, let them ask questions. In the end all that really matters is that they know Jesus as their Lord and Savior. Know my Husband and I are one you will be surprised as years ago by how you grow so close and somehow like the same and enjoy the same. God's blessings
Megan we do that kind of take out a movie date night at home every single week! Every Friday children get mac and cheese earlier than usual and then they get to bed by 7:30. They can leave their little lights on and read books but they have to stay in their rooms so Mommy and Daddy can have uninterrupted hang out time.
Well hello! I’ve loved and watched Megan fir a number of years and was excited to see this fun channel. Best wishes and enjoy the journey, I will also! ♥️♥️
Jayna!! I totally relate to wanting to embrace being a minimalist of sorts but your husband isn't that personality. I "spring clean" probably every single season 🤣 my husband has gotten better about it but he still loves to have lots of little trinkets and items that he feels like he will need one day. He will stack items in the bedroom in such a chaotic way but he says he knows exactly where things are 🙄 I'm working on getting him at least more organized with what he does have. Baby steps!
He is out of the house before the baby and I wake up. Usually kisses me on my forehead before off to work. So, sort of I see him, but now really. Unless it’s the days he works remote. Than yes. And those are the best!
I’m a married woman in Lancaster County who has done and still continues marriage counseling for just the tools . We love the way life ministries counseling works. It has blessed our marriage!
Hello Megan and Jayna; Just wonderful...! Thank you! What is/was special...Taking/making the time to be with me and just sit and or chat... walk... just happy to be there and enjoy time together (no words necessary yet okay to speak)...! Hugs to you both God Bless Linda in Canada ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
One more comment, I so agree about pre-marital counselling! My hot take is that it's mostly useless: either you're a no-nonsense person who doesn't need it, or you're a head-in-the-clouds type who thinks none of it will apply to you! And with premarital books, isn't it mainly the "intimacy" sections that get read, trolling for juicy tidbits? Then again, it doesn't sound wise to send people into marriage completely clueless. Although I think that's what happens in most cases, counselling or not!
So good! I cant remember a specific date necessarily except some ones we did when we were having a tough time from outside factors (not our marriage). We were just clinging to each other and hanging on for dear life. Outside pressure can push you closer. We recently got away to Sedona, AZ (we live just 3 hours away) for 3 nights. That was our first solo trip since having our oldest 7.5 years ago. It was wonderful!
Oh I can so relate to Jayna! The cleaning off the counter with papers and things of his sounds so familiar. And yes he has multiple items of the same thing and I would love to get rid of some off them! But when he can't find the one then he has another one to use 🤦♀️
We have been married for 29 years and are catholic- our faith is very important to both of us and we seek the Lord for help and I believe that is the foundation to every successful marriage. Don’t get me wrong I do throw the stuff he leaves around the house away - he now keeps his important papers in his back pocket lol!!
Most days I do not see my husband in the morning. He leaves around 4am. But some days we’ll say good morning on the phone depending on where he’s working that day.
You guys really covered a lot of issues,thanks for just being real about your feelings and your husband's, it's good to hear and to be reminded to appreciate our husband's and our marriages also ,blessings to you both ,Teresa in Mn
Great video! We’ve been married for 30 years, and are empty nesters now since our youngest got married in September. I guess it doesn’t bother me to tell him thank you for every little thing he does for me. Our favorite thing to do is go get dinner somewhere on the weekends so I don’t have to cook.😄I’d also say that grief brings us closer together. I appreciate him so much being compassionate when I need the love and support. ❤
Fun video girls. As a woman who has been married for 44 years to her high school sweetheart, I have experienced a lot of ups and downs. They do happen! But now that we are grandparents to 6, I can tell you, weathering the storms is SO worth it when you come out the other side and can now enjoy life as grandparents. It takes a ton of work, a ton of patience and a ton of prayer!! When our sons got married I told each of them, treat your wife like a queen but she needs to treat you like a king. Marriage is give and take. And to women, (I will get push back)....husbands need to be stroked. They need to be thanked and told they are appreciated. To this day I thank my husband for providing for our family; for being a hard worker and a good father. And now I praise him for being such a great "Papa" which he is. I give all the glory to God and I thank God everyday for saving our marriage. The verse is Ecclesiastes 4:12 , for a triple braided cord is not easily broken. Keep God first in all that you do!
I love your response here..... I've been married 40 yrs now, and I agree..... I thank my husband very often for providing for our family, I tell him I appreciate all he does for us, etc. Men do need the extra encouragement, but so nice when they show or tell us they appreciate us too!
I think the effort it takes to say thank you is from our anabaptist background. It is just expected that everyone pulls their own weight, without recognition, but as a teacher and now as a mom I work hard to change that .
Loved it!!!! Best date with my husband -Any evening we spent out on our boat-and there was quite a lot as we would live on the boat in the summer for weeks at a time.
I'm really enjoying your podcast. My husband and I have been married for 3 years, my most memorable date night was when we were on a little weekend trip and went out to dinner and then sat on the beach until the sun set and the moon came out. We do lots of movie nights and shows on Fridays at home though so I need more ideas. We don't have kiddos.
Thank you
Totally disagree with both hot takes 😂 if my kids drink out of my water, I'll get a new bottle, and I cannot eat raw cookie dough 🤪
Haha! 😅
I think it's actually because of the flour that your not supposed to eat raw cookie dough. I still do though😊
WTF. Your a married woman with children, how could you even see your self as an independent woman? Women who start believing they are independent in a marriage aren't focused on their marriage. Losing focus on their marriage lends to divorce.
Time 29:25 to 30:15 on the video. A wife thinking such words in a marriage. I don't need him, I'm independent....Is not focused on the union of marriage or supporting her husband.
Hi to folks in the comments.. Could ya'll keep a family member of mine in your thoughts? I have a family member that's about to go under for brain surgery in about an hour and any extra positive thoughts would be appreciated.
I will say a prayer for them right now ❤
Thank you! I really appreciate it. It is nice too to watch this video to try and keep my mind focused on other things in the meantime. @@jaynaburkholder1507
Yup ❤🙏
We believe in the power of prayer!
I had brain surgery too. Take care!! 🙏
This episode made me miss my dear departed husband so much. We were rarely affluent enough to have a date night but we did have a tradition for a long while of having a candle it dinner at our little kitchen table every Sunday after the boys were in bed. It was some of our sweetest moments together.
My Husband and I just had our 34th Anniversary a few days ago. He's sick, we have no money, and I lack strength to even get around much. So I was trying to think of something we could do. Nothing worked out. Then our daughter said how about a movie at home. We looked and nothing jumped out at us. Then my daughter suggested The Princess Bride. So perfect!!💕 I hadn't seen it because I was too tired to watch it before and fell asleep, but it was the first movie we ever watched while we were dating..this was back in the VHS days and people were just barely buying their owns VCRs. So we (and I) watched the whole movie and it was such a great Anniversary!!💕 Our son even brought us treats in on a "special tray" and said for you in a waiter's tone. Ended up being one of our best Anniversary celebrations. 😊
Awww what sweet memories! We didn't really watch movies when we were dating so I don't have any nostalgia centered around them, but that is perfect!
@@HoneyImHomemakerso do you watch movies at all? I have a few favorites, but I have some that describe our relationship so well that it’s fun to watch them over and over♥️
Yes!! I hate the new thing of husband bashing and saying you can’t say thank you because he is ‘supposed’ to do it. I’ll thank my husband for everything and he does the same.
"well women aren't thanked constantly for everything they do"
My husband is thanking me constantly, Im a sahm. He has no reason to thank me literally constantly, but then again, I'm always thanking him too. We are equally grateful for each other❤️
I think it’s so fun to find out which things make our husbands feel loved. It’s not always what you would think. Occasionally thanking him for going to work every single day for hours makes him light up, like he feels glad I don’t take it for granted. Sometimes it’s a foot rub that makes him say ahhhh… And sometimes it’s telling him at a random time how good looking he is. But I think one of the best is asking about his work day, and listening to all the details about it, and asking more questions to show you are actually interested and care about how he spends his days. Sometimes five minutes of plain old sympathy when he’s down does a lot, before you try to convince him it’s not so bad.;)
Our favorite date was a night away at a cabin an hour from home. We had a nice dinner out, then went back to the cabin and sat by the crackling fire sipping wine and sparkling cider, and just being. The next day we had breakfast out and spent the rest of the day driving around looking at fall colors and yakking. It was so refreshing after coming through a crazy busy and stressful time in our lives, and that’s probably why it seems so special.
I even share my water bottle with my grandchildren 😊I was the mom that picked the pacifier off the floor popped it into my mouth the “wash” it before putting it into my babies mouth 😅it’s called survival mode and we are all healthy.
Great immunity boost I guess!
I cant wash the pacifier in my mouth, but my entire family shares the same 2 water bottles, from my husband and i until the 1 year old 😂😂
Our near-constant argument early in marriage was about items i.e. who moved what where. About 8 years in, we made a commitment to not touch each other's stuff. We haven't done it since and rarely if ever disagree. Does the pile on the counter still make me crazy? YES! But he faithfully sorts it each Saturday evening and we never disagree over it now.
My husband and I will celebrate our 50th in January 2024! A definition of a perfect marriage is two unperfect people who NEVER give up on each another. We always had the kids to bed by 8:00 pm and after that it was our time to cuddle on the couch and talk about our day. We are best friends and cannot imagine doing life without each other. God bless you and your families!
I’ve been married to my husband for 22 years now and from about year eight on he cooks dinner every night because he gets off work before I do and it is ready when I come home! And when dinner is finished, I clean the dishes and put them away! I appreciate this more than he could ever know, and every single night I tell him thank you for dinner! (I will admit that this stemmed from the fact that I’m 43 and can’t cook well and I think he got tired of nasty food, but he cooks all the same!😂)
Oh how I love listening to you young ladies! Such a breath of fresh air in this current culture! I am 58, my husband is 66, been married 37 yrs., 3 kids (+ their spouses), 9 grandbabies...& oh the stories we could tell. We could not afford "date nights" when we had littles, but we learned to be very creative! Keep God central, keep the fire burning hot in the bedroom (or any other room...😅), & do not be easily offended. Also, I am the only one in our whole family who will drink after littles👍
Thanks for this podcast video! The book "Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperatly Needs" from Emerson Eggerichs helped me alot to understand the needs of my husband better. It empovered our marriage alot :))))
I had 2 miscarriages and completely agree with how different my husband and I reacted to them. Often it didn't feel like he was grieving but when things started getting rocky I had to realize that he was grieving as much as I was and we needed to be the support for each other. That is when the healing started.
Exactly! No two people grieve the same. Not judging can really help ♥️
We've been thanking each other for the little things like taking out the garbage since we got married, so it's not awkward at all and almost second nature ❤
For whatever reason I didn't get around to watching this until now. Usually I watch these videos as soon as they come out, but I'm a few episodes behind. Anyway, I think it was a God thing because this is exactly what I needed today. My husband is going through a really tough time at work and I've been praying that God will show me how to comfort him and help him during this time. These simple reminders and ideas are so fitting. Thank you!
Another thought on the subject to do for a hubby. My husband had training out of town for a week, so I had a fun basket sent to his room, the floral shop made it, put in lots of candy, chips, cookies, and a balloon attached that said "I love you". He loved it!
I must see my husband before he leaves for work. I know how short life is and would regret if I didnt see him and he didn't come home safe! I lost both my parents a year apart (they were 66) and my friend recently lost her husband unexpectedly while he was at work. They were married less than a year 😢
Wow, so tough!
I have the same mindset, unless I'm pregnant, then I sleep in😭
I think your video is refreshing. I relate to Jana's comment of handling stress and grief differently than her husband and he not really relating in the same way. But she said it all in a way that it's ok and all a part of normalcy.
A special date night of ours (children are older) is to spend a Friday night in our camper that is parked in the driveway. I make up a quick fruit or veggie tray to take out and enjoy together. Cozy fall nights and cool spring nights are the best. Or...a rainy night when we can fall asleep together listening to the rain, then wake up to an unhurried Saturday morning. It's great!!
God bless both your families.
Love y’all’s broadcast very interesting topics. Me and my husband were married 40 years he passed away so we had a lot of good times more good times and bad times so y’all gonna experience a lot of those have a blessed Monday night.❤
Simply embrace and compliment your husbands, they would like to have their character praised.
I’ve been married for 44 years and we’ve had our ups and downs, as every marriage has. Sometimes someone will ask me how we’ve stayed married for so long and my reply is always that we committed to not get divorced. That might sound trite, but it honestly is the truth! We knew we had to work through things in our marriage because divorce was simply not an option. We believe that biblically, you just don’t get divorced, except in very rare circumstances, which were never our case. God is a member of our marriage and that, truly, makes all the difference. ❤
I've loved your phrase "non-pg stuff" to talk about "intimacy"! It's funny, it's very clear ("intimacy" can just mean holding hands), and every time you say it, it's a reminder that pg-rated marriage tips are often kind of missing the point!
Most memorable date night since being married... Gosh. Lol I honestly don't know. But our first "date night" after our son was born was to a pioneer village at Christmas time with everything lit up, and that was super special!
Jayna, I AGREE. Lol. I eat and drink the drinks and leftovers from my son 😂 Objectively, it's gross. But once you have a baby and it's YOUR baby ... Somehow... Not gross anymore. They're just too cute I think! Lol! And Meghan... This is not even controversial. Cookie dough is amazing. 😂😂😂
Love how agreeable you are! We found our tribe!🧡
I agree cookie dough is better than the baked cookies. I’ll be waiting to see the you tube video of the dance lessons. 😂
My husband and I are married forty years and started drinking coffee together every morning in the first years . We sit in the semi darkness and talk or not , when the children were little the early risers loved joining us . My husband was always self employed I realize not everyone has that privilege. And I’m a Mennonite and see absolutely nothing wrong with dancing together in the privacy of your home .That’s who dancing should be for , married couples alone . I never did but sounds fun 😂 loved this podcast you both did so well .
Dancing is only for married couples?! 😂 that's hilarious
@@micahroyster4502 In my world it is 🤣
@@ozarkview928 😂
Omg! I can totally relate to moving his stuff, and him getting fustrated. But seriously, everything has a home and needs to be put away. The only downfall, is when I’m picking up the house not remembering what I moved and where lol 😂I’ve gotten much better at that now. I know exactly what I’ve moved and can tell my man where it is. He also has learned the home for things, so looks at those spots and is happy to find the item. So funny, and so true. We can relate
You two are just adorable!!!! Thank you for the encouragement. Been married for 15 years and this year we had our most memorable date week (never happened before this and might be a while before it happens again😜)
But here in South Africa we have a famous 5 day hiking trail that we did. It was a 14 hour road trip to get there so we were away for 9 days.
Hey jayna this may or may not be helpful but try taking a picture of the stuff you take up to his shop that way you’ll remember what you took. Most the time we have phones with us 😊
Good idea! I could even just send it to him right away too!
I DO see my husband in the morning, only because our son wakes up at 7, and my husband doesn't leave for work until 8:20. But it's not very "quality time." That usually happens after our son's bedtime.
Not the place for baby names but Emerson is quite nice...still love Finn, however.
I really enjoyed this. I think always thanking our husbands makes them feel appreciated. We are into our 36th year and enjoy 3 walks a day, just 10 minutes each but it gives us uninterrupted time to just chat. Keep talking. We had 4 little ones close together and always sat down for about 30-45 minutes every night after they went to bed with a cup of tea and chatted about the day. Always grab a good ten minutes each day. As the kids get older you will get more time. My husband is still my best friend and I enjoy spending more time together as our kids are adults. We have 2 dates a week , coffee and then Sunday lunch after church. You need to make time and prioritize your spouse over your children, they will appreciate that later and it will model a good marriage for them. God bless you both.
We started a tradition of going away for a weekend (or really just saturday-sunday) in the beginning of a new year quite early in our marriage (we've been married for 14 years). We find some place with a package deal (afternoon tea, dinner, hotel room and breakfast) and bring our calendars, notebooks etc. And then we plan the coming year. We usually begin with laying out a rough sketch of holidays and events we want to attend (so we know when to ask for leave from work and/or get a babysitter), continue with making a list of things we want/need to do around the house and garden, talk economy etc. During dinner we usually focus on our marriage and more spiritual things. We couldn't do this when our kid was really small but when he turned one we picked it up again. It might not be for everyone but it works really well for us! Having a whole weekend set aside for these kind of admin tasks just takes a lot of stress out of our everyday lives.
This sounds like something Jimmy Evans recommends too! I can't remember what he calls it, but I think that's such a great idea. We're having another baby in a couple months so that trip won't happen for us for a while, but one day I hope to do that!
We actually took dance lessons. 1h30 on Fridays was our time. Being in each others arms and having to look into each others eyes, fun of learning something new, exercise and meeting new people. But my favourite bit was spending time together
marriage counseling, FUN????? no! We spent a year in marriage counseling in order to save our marriage. I think I sobbed 1x a week for a year. It was the hardest year of my life, especially when the other person WOULDN'T do what the counselor suggested for quite a while. We came out better in the end & saved our marriage, but no, not fun! Luckily my husband was willing to go without thinking it was shameful, but he was resistant to do what was necessary. The only 'marriage retreat' things that happen in our area are religious, but my husband is unwilling to participate in anything like that.
My husband always worked an afternoon shift - so date night??? never. BUT every morning when he got up (around 10 am) I would make a fresh pot of coffee. I would stop what I was doing, sit down in the living room with him & we would just hang out, chat, or even just be quiet (he DID just get out of bed LOL). Our girls were little at the time. They were told to go play, they were not allowed to interrupt, bother us, pester me to get them things. They had to find something to do on their own for 1/2 hour. It was the ONLY time I had with my husband alone. Often we would need to discuss important things; financial, child care decisions, weekend plans etc...Then our dinner at noon was the time for us ALL to spend time together. Then they could be silly & tell him all about their week and kind of be the center of attention. Now, he works day shift & even though our kids are grown it is hard to find the time to sit down together. I miss those days of having coffee in the morning. It really trained our kids to be independent & not whiny.
My husband and I get up together and go to bed together. I would feel badly otherwise, but we’ve only been married a year and a half and don’t have kids yet, so that may change in the future!
I feel like there are seasons in a marriage, but I do agree that you as a couple need to have the same belief system or be on the same page about how life should be because that’s certainly makes things a lot easier. And I think the thing that happens to every mother is that they make their children their priority, and forget about their husbands, and I have definitely been guilty of that and it is certainly work to make sure everybody gets time including time with yourself.
Hi 👋 how would you handle a situation when the closest family around you always have something to say negative about your husband?
Keep in mind he is a provider, father, Christian and little things still bother them. And then they ask “why did he say that?” “Why does he do that?” Etc.
One of my favorite dates was one of our anniversaries. We drove about an hour away from where we lived and went to different restaurants that we hadn't been to before. One for appetizers, one for the main meal, and one for dessert. It was really fun!
Yes to cookie dough! I’ve made a whole batch to eat raw several times! The best is when you make it into balls and freeze them, get them out and coat with chocolate while still frozen then allow to defrost. I’ve taken them to church meals before and people loved them although one older lady looked rather horrified when she learnt what they were 😂
My cookie dough doesn’t have eggs in!
I find the counseling in our area is for crisis. It's so hard to find an appointment for a maintenance type. Our church has small groups and they work through marriage books. Those are always good!
My husband is gone for work by 6 and often isn't home until 8 or 9 so we have such a hard time day to day on connecting. We just really try and make it a point to plan family days as often as he has off.
As a nurse, I think it’s disgusting! As an Ama, no idea why the grands always grab my water bottle. I’m always washing it
Keep a very special notebook or journal.
Make a pact with your spouse that you will put a note to him/ her every morning, in that notebook or journal.
Stick a note of I love you or thank you in his/ her wallet. Doesn’t take a grand gesture, simple things make a difference.
I love this idea!!!
My favorite date "days" are when we either pack a lunch or grab some food to go and go cross country skiing or hiking, depending on the time of year.
I love your podcast but the “devil?” Really?
Watching Jayna's sandwich making video on Instagram made me remember the "at home date" I like to do for my husband. When he's home for lunch, like on the weekend I like to feed the kids lunch first then fix the two of us a very fancy sandwich (I'm going to have to give Jayna's apple butter turkey sandwich a try! 😊) then I'll plate it up nice with chips and a pickle and a tall fun drink. I make sure the table is nice and put on some coffee shop ambience music and text him to join me for lunch. We make the kids play in the next room till we are done. 😊it's a lot of fun and pretty easy.
Love this!
I really liked how you both made it so normal to say we don't always get each other and that's ok.
We’ve been married 44 years and we are best friends and can’t imagine life without each other. God bless y’all are too sweet
Well, I actually wake up with my husband but, never get out of bed . I'm not a morning person lol. Yes, I married into a mennonite family and that it how we live. I really have more of a appreciation of the mennonite culture now.
First time watching you ladies, very interesting. I have been married for 46 years. My most memorable date nights have always been on the waterfront having Seafood and enjoying a long walk holding hands and enjoying our favorite scenery and person.
Married 13 years and never got up with my husband in the morning when he leaves for work until a few months ago and he’s mentioned multiple times how surprised he is that I’m actually still keeping it up😂 he likes it
I love this pod cast. My husband and I recently went to a weekend to remember marriage retreat. We had such a great time together.
I am 57 and not married but I have a boyfriend.The best date we had yet was when he picked me up and surprised me by going to my friend's house and picked up her and her husband. What an awesome and thoughtful surprise. It was a great double date.
This is such a good conversation to have. ❤
I wake up at 6:30 with my husband and make his lunch while he gets ready for work. Then I have a little time to exercise and read my Bible before my kids get up and the day gets busy. It lets my husband know I appreciate him and I also get a little time for myself every morning.
I have recently started leaving little notes for him occasionally because he said that is something that means a lot to him.
I am sorry but Megan is correct, there is no drinking after the kids. Haha!! The amount of little floating objects is something I can't deal with. Emergencies only. LOL!!!
You know you're desperately thirsty when you have no choice but to take a tiny sip of that slobber covered sippy😭😭
RIGHT!!! HAHAHA!!!! @@corablah9809
My husband and I must have similar personalities to Jayna and her husband. We also argue about stuff he leaves laying around that I move or want to get rid of, and we handle anxiety and grief differently and feel less connected in the storm, but our marriage feels stronger after the storm is over.
You two are fun to listen to. I've been married only 19 years myself, but feel I can learn a lot from those married for less time. Maybe it is because I am still having babies too and need to be around more Mennonite believers (my church is the only Mennonite church in my state and we only have 30 people).
I love feeding my husband. It is so funny how he was very skinny and I don't think his mom really fed him too much (She would make spaghetti and buy burger king and that's pretty much it for him), but I get to make him nice home cooked meals all the time and he loves it. He calls himself chubby hubby (he's not that chubby though at all).
I feel counselling should be for those who struggle to communicate well with one another. I have never had marriage counselling because when we are upset we ask one another questions of, "Why are you upset? What do you want from this situation?" Things like that. There was one time I asked my husband to go to counselling and he was very strongly against it but then asked me to life coach him instead (I am a certified life coach). I thought that was weird because I didn't want to see him like a client. . .haha. It worked out and he got so much from it and loved it though. Not every man would react that way.
We have a special monthly date where we take turns planning the date. It can be surprise for the other person, or not. And no rules, you can plan whatever you want to do, or plan what you think the other would like.
Love these girl chats!!😃You are both SOOOO wise!!🙃🙃
Not pretending to be wise, just like to get the conversation started! 🧡
Time to organize your own women's event..even if 2 years away!!! That way you can attend !!!!
Ohhhhh I love this idea!!!
I am SOOOO excited to watch/listen to this one, ladies!!
Cookie dough is a delicacy 😂
What you said about personalities is so true. My sister and her husband are opposites in so many ways. She says herself that she doesn’t know how they ended up together lol. Their differences make each other better. They cause each other to grow. Also couldn’t agree more that marriage has to come first for the good of the whole family.
Hello. Just passed my Husbands and I 15 year anniversary. I’m 34 and we have 10 children. It’s very hard to find date nights. Haven’t had one since a few months before Covid hit. My most memorable date night would have been in 2017 my 6th baby being 6 months old. My mother n’law watched all 6 children while we went to Ocean City Maryland and stayed at a hotel. Went jet skiing and parasailing. That was so much fun! Also the most brought up subject for us is team work. Being on the same page when it comes to child rearing. I am one that doesn’t communicate very well. My husband delegates a lot and I need to work on that. I find it easier to just do it myself. Anyways. I enjoy listening to your pod casts. I usually binge watch because it’s hard to find time all the time to watch every video that comes out. Keep up the good work and inspiration. Thank you!
This is so encouraging!! Thank you ladies
Dana I'm with you. I think in the long run we Bond closer to our husbands but in the moment of anxiety, stress, grief, etc, we do not mesh well together.
Love your videos, sorry it took me a week before I got around to watching it I'm in a busy season of life right now as my son just played his last football game, he is a senior in highschool enjoy ever second you have with your children because they will be grown in a blink of a eye. And this past weekend we had our oldest son a wedding shower he is 26 WeI have 5 children and it is the hardest with the youngest leaving I know it will be an adjustment for us we have had children at home for the past 29 years and looking back it was at times hard but we loved every second of it. My husband and myself love to spend quality time hiking together and our all time favorite has been hiking in pigeon forge, it is just quant and romantic. I would like to leave you with Matthew 14. The greatest reward is teaching your children and grandchildren about the Lord Jesus Christ . Give their wandering minds answers, let them ask questions. In the end all that really matters is that they know Jesus as their Lord and Savior. Know my Husband and I are one you will be surprised as years ago by how you grow so close and somehow like the same and enjoy the same. God's blessings
Your marriage was young because you were young when you got married. It's different when you marry after life experience.
I enjoy this podcast except when they talk about the “the devil” ! Really? You sound like your in a cult!
Megan we do that kind of take out a movie date night at home every single week!
Every Friday children get mac and cheese earlier than usual and then they get to bed by 7:30. They can leave their little lights on and read books but they have to stay in their rooms so Mommy and Daddy can have uninterrupted hang out time.
Nope no way not sharing my drink with ANYBODY! LOL
Love this podcast...... but the wallpaper 🙈 ahhh I just feel like it's clashing with the rest of the room. Idk maybe it looks better off screen 🙈🤷♀️
On Spotify, Megan your voice sounds like you're speed talking. On TH-cam it sounds normal. Great episode.
Well hello! I’ve loved and watched Megan fir a number of years and was excited to see this fun channel. Best wishes and enjoy the journey, I will also! ♥️♥️
Jayna!! I totally relate to wanting to embrace being a minimalist of sorts but your husband isn't that personality.
I "spring clean" probably every single season 🤣 my husband has gotten better about it but he still loves to have lots of little trinkets and items that he feels like he will need one day. He will stack items in the bedroom in such a chaotic way but he says he knows exactly where things are 🙄
I'm working on getting him at least more organized with what he does have. Baby steps!
He is out of the house before the baby and I wake up. Usually kisses me on my forehead before off to work. So, sort of I see him, but now really. Unless it’s the days he works remote. Than yes. And those are the best!
I’m a married woman in Lancaster County who has done and still continues marriage counseling for just the tools . We love the way life ministries counseling works. It has blessed our marriage!
So funny yes can identify w/Jenna w/biggest annoyance…..moving his things/putting somewhere and too much stuff😂
Another fabulous video, that helps us to think. I always appreciate your topics! Just a question.... what does it mean to be a "Chunchy Mom"?
I think dancing should be fine with your husband, in private. Fast or slow. I mean there are way more intimate things we do 😂
I do not see my husband in the morning, he leaves around 5:45am and gets home around 5:30pm at night, I don't wake up until 6:30ish.
Hello Megan and Jayna;
Just wonderful...! Thank you!
What is/was special...Taking/making the time to be with me and just sit and or chat... walk... just happy to be there and enjoy time together (no words necessary yet okay to speak)...!
Hugs to you both
God Bless
Linda in Canada
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Wonderful episode again, ladies. I enjoy you both so much!
One more comment, I so agree about pre-marital counselling! My hot take is that it's mostly useless: either you're a no-nonsense person who doesn't need it, or you're a head-in-the-clouds type who thinks none of it will apply to you! And with premarital books, isn't it mainly the "intimacy" sections that get read, trolling for juicy tidbits? Then again, it doesn't sound wise to send people into marriage completely clueless. Although I think that's what happens in most cases, counselling or not!
So good! I cant remember a specific date necessarily except some ones we did when we were having a tough time from outside factors (not our marriage). We were just clinging to each other and hanging on for dear life. Outside pressure can push you closer.
We recently got away to Sedona, AZ (we live just 3 hours away) for 3 nights. That was our first solo trip since having our oldest 7.5 years ago. It was wonderful!
Oh I can so relate to Jayna! The cleaning off the counter with papers and things of his sounds so familiar. And yes he has multiple items of the same thing and I would love to get rid of some off them! But when he can't find the one then he has another one to use 🤦♀️
We have been married for 29 years and are catholic- our faith is very important to both of us and we seek the Lord for help and I believe that is the foundation to every successful marriage. Don’t get me wrong I do throw the stuff he leaves around the house away - he now keeps his important papers in his back pocket lol!!
Lol, totally agree...... cookie dough should never be cooked, just eaten out of the bowl!!! 😂
Most days I do not see my husband in the morning. He leaves around 4am. But some days we’ll say good morning on the phone depending on where he’s working that day.
You guys really covered a lot of issues,thanks for just being real about your feelings and your husband's, it's good to hear and to be reminded to appreciate our husband's and our marriages also ,blessings to you both ,Teresa in Mn
His love language is food. Always having homemade food ready to eat is how he feels loved.
But you kiss your kids! So who cares if you share water 😂
I know I know, but I don't usually kiss them on the mouth!
Great video! We’ve been married for 30 years, and are empty nesters now since our youngest got married in September. I guess it doesn’t bother me to tell him thank you for every little thing he does for me. Our favorite thing to do is go get dinner somewhere on the weekends so I don’t have to cook.😄I’d also say that grief brings us closer together. I appreciate him so much being compassionate when I need the love and support. ❤