What I’ve noticed about online trolls is they often sound like immature teenagers. They are not hiding their disdain for others and they are easy to spot. Being emotionally immature must be a given for psychopaths and narcissists bc when they DESIRE to hurt others it indicates they are debased and half baked like some nasty meat pie left out to spoil, but sometimes they are deft enough to imitate what they know is expected emotionally to attract their victims. They play along being nice for quite awhile as they covertly begin their manipulation and exploitation of their prey. When enough of their machinations get revealed and the jig is up, the mask comes off and they go for the throat and attempt to destroy the host.
A former friend told me that after the wedding reception, when all the guests had left, her previously gallant husband left her standing outside in the cold in her dress and took unnecessarily long to fetch the car. He never apologised. After the wedding he was only kind to her when there were other people around. Only her parents got glimpses of who he really was, everyone else fell for his charming guise.
@kellydalstok8900 I had a very similar experience when I got married. Young and nieve, I just got on with life with the short marriage. Worse mistake I've ever made in my life.
@jeffreyjackson5229 😂 Ha-ha! So true! The one I know keeps creating huge problems. His favorite thing to say, when there are negative consequences to his behavior is, "Where do we go from here?" YOU are EXPECTED TO FIX HIS MESS-UPS!!!
@@MissSandyCwell weird feelings can happen not just with sociopaths, people with trauma can give off weird vibes but the feelings are important because it’s letting you know to keep your eye out the person or situation COULD be problematic.
@@amarieg5 While that is VERY true, my experiences have been they show who they are in the way of manipulation and controlling, disrespectful behavior. The end result tells you all you need to know.
I put them in the group of narcissists, sociopaths, then psychopaths in worse and worse traits. If you notice they have very similar traits regarding the fact that they don't actually feel emotions or have genuine feelings, but can ACT like it. And are basically like a machine or piece of wood as far as empathy or compassion or caring about their fellow human beings (or animals).
You described my brother and to a lesser extent, my mother. I'm in, "No Contact," with brother and "Limited Contact," with mother. My brother, a VERY Abusive individual and mother always lived a parasitic lifestyle. My life is so much better for my choice.
My brother is what I call a narcopath. He’s a psychopath with additional cluster B traits. I went no contact years ago and it relieved my life of so much stress. Now if the psycho neighbor that almost just burned down our neighborhood would go away and never come back…
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
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"a cold and detached attitude"-Yes. I don't know if the individual is a psychopath, but definitely cold, callous, and apathetic: "I did what I had to do." This was a text message. His conduct in person was like someone I had just met and had known him 16 years by that time. I see him later and he gestures as though speaking as though nothing happened.
While my husband was changing out a lightbulb high up in the peak of a barn, my brother stepped inside, turned on the electricity, electrocuted my husband then stepped outside laughing. Whoa! Huge red flag for us. 😮
If I hadn't had experiences with people who have strong psychopathic traits, it would be difficult for me to believe that such an individual actually exist except in the movies, because it's so contrary to the way that I live my life and try to treat people the way that I would want to be treated.
I'm not entirely certain that I've ever come across any people in the real world with psychopathic traits, definitely a few on the extreme end of the narcissistic spectrum, but I'm not so sure about psychopaths. I'm interested in hearing more about your experiences with them & the reasons why you deemed them to be psychopathic.
I think my mother is a psychopath. She's a serial liar. Narcissists might truly believe their own lies. Psychopaths know they are lying and take pleasure in their victims knowing too.
Not all psychopaths are sadistic. For the majority of them (I guess) the end goal is to get what they want and not to make people feel pain. If that happens, to bad for the victim. For a sadistic person the goal is the pain.
They will, "apologize" whenever it benefits them or their agenda. However, it's never genuine, only another form of mimicry in order to manipulate and direct the course of their victim's thoughts, actions and their beliefs or perceptions towards them (how the victim perceives them).
Oh, Darren, hearing this reminds me how much my new 'husband' put me through in a mere 3 months, after vowing to love me and care for me before both our families! He really did stand by while I was choking/drowning and didn't help me or call 911-- and more stuff that still makes my spine shiver. Thank you for unpacking all these traits so succinctly. Your videos, your expertise have helped me so much! And your beautiful accent is the honey that makes the medicine go down.🙃🙂
The distinction amongst Psychopathy, Narcissism and Machiavellianism is the underlying motive for gain and orientation socially; 'hardness, callousness, lack of remorse, empathy, using others, discarding of them later - are all features of the three. The Dark Triad (and now Tetrad) is applied Forensically only. 'Disordered' is only used to apply to someone's Personality - ie a disorder of Personality - and not to 'having disordered thoughts.'
They can lose their temper but they seem to be inmuned to fear and anxiety. Their amygdalas are much smaller than those of regular people and they show less blink reflex.
Psychopaths get entertainment value from other people's misfortune and laugh out loud at news stories that involve terrible accidents where people are killed through their own mistakes. One of my former friends told me about a mutual friend who had a drink problem and that his doctor had told him that he would not live another year if he carried on, so while my ex friend was telling me this he was laughing about it, he found it entertaining, something the rest of us would be horrified or disturbed by, he found amusing.
There is a way to spot them: they can't fake being normal a 100% of the time. They have learned to fake emotions but they do not understand them. There is that moment when they show what goes inside: the cold stare, the emotion in the face doesn't go with the speech... Ignore these red flags at your own risk. Be on guard from that moment on and FOR GOODNESS SAKE DO NOT TRUST THE PERSON.
Psychopaths and sociopaths dont care how they affect other people with all their toxicity, indifferent, suffering and evil ideas how to hurt other people, even their own kids, and doing it with a sinister smirk on their ugly face enjoying their calculated evil and at the same time seeing the suffering they cause without remorse
I recently watched a video by Sam Vaknin in which he claimed that he had been diagnosed with both narcissism and psychopathy, which struck me as odd because narcissists are utterly dependent on input from others to maintain their grandiosity but I thought psychopaths were self contained and felt superior regardless of other peoples reaction to them.
Yeah, I don't get that either. I thought maybe he's more of a narcissist than anything and maybe he is utterly dependent on the input he gets from others through his TH-cam channel and his books. But they did do a documentary about him, called I Psychopath, where he actually visited neuroscience and psychology researchers in various countries and had brain scans and everything. That was when he was diagnosed as a psychopath. It's on TH-cam for free.
@@Melissa0774 Thanks Melissa I remember that now and I will enjoy watching it again. Another funny thing about Vaknin is that he does videos about how to overcome narcissistic abuse , how to be emotionally healthy, how to be fully adult etc and you would think that he is no expert on those topics ! I suppose its all through cognition/reasoning using research because he believes he will never overcome his personality disorders.
I had a psychopathic co-worker (at least that was my therapist’s best guess) who reported three consecutive managers to HR on trumped up complaints. Because she was a long-serving employee, they doubted the managers.
I am on a long visit with some family in a city And people ---- like most everyone drives really aggressively Lots of fender benders and lots of massive rudeness in the stores i have gone to Lots of lights are on nobody home looks Very aggressive out here And I took a 1300 mile trip in my car and same same everywhere Did I just wake up in a twilight movie WTHeck Are these psychopaths
What I don't get is all these weirdos who claim that a lot of good surgeons are psychopaths. I think anyone who thinks that, doesn't know what a psychopath is.
Hello Darren your vest knowledge on human psychology is refreshing. Thank you so much .... Can i please make a request. can you please watch a Netflix series call (LOVE IS BLIND UK ) and please talk about it . This are singles in there 30"s wanting to get married .there many people with odd character can you please talk about this as therapist .
Damian I really appreciated your videos I would love to join my I have hackers and stalkers and I think they stop me doing that I have been into the bank but they are also involved
What I’ve noticed about online trolls is they often sound like immature teenagers. They are not hiding their disdain for others and they are easy to spot. Being emotionally immature must be a given for psychopaths and narcissists bc when they DESIRE to hurt others it indicates they are debased and half baked like some nasty meat pie left out to spoil, but sometimes they are deft enough to imitate what they know is expected emotionally to attract their victims. They play along being nice for quite awhile as they covertly begin their manipulation and exploitation of their prey. When enough of their machinations get revealed and the jig is up, the mask comes off and they go for the throat and attempt to destroy the host.
A former friend told me that after the wedding reception, when all the guests had left, her previously gallant husband left her standing outside in the cold in her dress and took unnecessarily long to fetch the car. He never apologised. After the wedding he was only kind to her when there were other people around. Only her parents got glimpses of who he really was, everyone else fell for his charming guise.
@kellydalstok8900 I had a very similar experience when I got married. Young and nieve, I just got on with life with the short marriage. Worse mistake I've ever made in my life.
@@kellydalstok8900 They love to perform for everyone. Do public acts of generosity while letting their family down. Public affection but non at home.
@justChrisjones they're just pure repulsive when you actually catch yourself on about them. I still feel embarrassed, and this is 44 years after .
"My problem is your problem unless I am your problem. Then that's your problem."
@jeffreyjackson5229 😂 Ha-ha! So true! The one I know keeps creating huge problems. His favorite thing to say, when there are negative consequences to his behavior is, "Where do we go from here?" YOU are EXPECTED TO FIX HIS MESS-UPS!!!
the same goes for narcissists.
succinct, and SUPER accurate!
You've just described my narcissistic spouse. 😢
“I become sadistic when a patient is being pathetic. I will be sadistic if you let me.”
I dealt with a lot of verbal harassment at my old job. Amazing what they thought was ok.
Good evening. Agree. Paying attention to one's intuition and that inner voice can help the individual stays away from sociopath/psychopath ASAP.
@@Greenbambu78 definitely!
Yes - it's that 'feeling of uneasiness" ; like you can't quite put your finger on it. I'm convinced our instincts kick in WAY before our brain does.
@@MissSandyCwell weird feelings can happen not just with sociopaths, people with trauma can give off weird vibes but the feelings are important because it’s letting you know to keep your eye out the person or situation COULD be problematic.
@@amarieg5 While that is VERY true, my experiences have been they show who they are in the way of manipulation and controlling, disrespectful behavior. The end result tells you all you need to know.
I put them in the group of narcissists, sociopaths, then psychopaths in worse and worse traits. If you notice they have very similar traits regarding the fact that they don't actually feel emotions or have genuine feelings, but can ACT like it. And are basically like a machine or piece of wood as far as empathy or compassion or caring about their fellow human beings (or animals).
You described my brother and to a lesser extent, my mother. I'm in, "No Contact," with brother and "Limited Contact," with mother. My brother, a VERY Abusive individual and mother always lived a parasitic lifestyle. My life is so much better for my choice.
So good you set limits.
My brother is what I call a narcopath. He’s a psychopath with additional cluster B traits. I went no contact years ago and it relieved my life of so much stress. Now if the psycho neighbor that almost just burned down our neighborhood would go away and never come back…
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
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Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
They absolutely get pleasure out of it. They’re hard to live with!
"a cold and detached attitude"-Yes.
I don't know if the individual is a psychopath, but definitely cold, callous, and apathetic: "I did what I had to do." This was a text message. His conduct in person was like someone I had just met and had known him 16 years by that time.
I see him later and he gestures as though speaking as though nothing happened.
DANGEROUS people.
Scary people! Thank you Darren xxx
While my husband was changing out a lightbulb high up in the peak of a barn, my brother stepped inside, turned on the electricity, electrocuted my husband then stepped outside laughing. Whoa! Huge red flag for us. 😮
And get upset when their deceptive plan didn't come to fruition.
If I hadn't had experiences with people who have strong psychopathic traits, it would be difficult for me to believe that such an individual actually exist except in the movies, because it's so contrary to the way that I live my life and try to treat people the way that I would want to be treated.
I'm not entirely certain that I've ever come across any people in the real world with psychopathic traits, definitely a few on the extreme end of the narcissistic spectrum, but I'm not so sure about psychopaths. I'm interested in hearing more about your experiences with them & the reasons why you deemed them to be psychopathic.
I think my mother is a psychopath. She's a serial liar. Narcissists might truly believe their own lies. Psychopaths know they are lying and take pleasure in their victims knowing too.
Not all psychopaths are sadistic. For the majority of them (I guess) the end goal is to get what they want and not to make people feel pain. If that happens, to bad for the victim. For a sadistic person the goal is the pain.
This sounds now like my son in law but 1200 miles away. He has my daughter as a hostage. No more I can do. 😢
Maintain contact with her and perhaps be quite bland so that he can't get "anything" out of her?
They will, "apologize" whenever it benefits them or their agenda. However, it's never genuine, only another form of mimicry in order to manipulate and direct the course of their victim's thoughts, actions and their beliefs or perceptions towards them (how the victim perceives them).
Thanks for this, great info!
Thanks Darren.
Oh, Darren, hearing this reminds me how much my new 'husband' put me through in a mere 3 months, after vowing to love me and care for me before both our families! He really did stand by while I was choking/drowning and didn't help me or call 911-- and more stuff that still makes my spine shiver. Thank you for unpacking all these traits so succinctly. Your videos, your expertise have helped me so much! And your beautiful accent is the honey that makes the medicine go down.🙃🙂
The distinction amongst Psychopathy, Narcissism and Machiavellianism is the underlying motive for gain and orientation socially; 'hardness, callousness, lack of remorse, empathy, using others, discarding of them later - are all features of the three. The Dark Triad (and now Tetrad) is applied Forensically only. 'Disordered' is only used to apply to someone's Personality - ie a disorder of Personality - and not to 'having disordered thoughts.'
They can lose their temper but they seem to be inmuned to fear and anxiety. Their amygdalas are much smaller than those of regular people and they show less blink reflex.
The eyes 😮
Psychopaths get entertainment value from other people's misfortune and laugh out loud at news stories that involve terrible accidents where people are killed through their own mistakes. One of my former friends told me about a mutual friend who had a drink problem and that his doctor had told him that he would not live another year if he carried on, so while my ex friend was telling me this he was laughing about it, he found it entertaining, something the rest of us would be horrified or disturbed by, he found amusing.
There is a way to spot them: they can't fake being normal a 100% of the time. They have learned to fake emotions but they do not understand them. There is that moment when they show what goes inside: the cold stare, the emotion in the face doesn't go with the speech... Ignore these red flags at your own risk. Be on guard from that moment on and FOR GOODNESS SAKE DO NOT TRUST THE PERSON.
Agreed.
Psychopaths and sociopaths dont care how they affect other people with all their toxicity, indifferent, suffering and evil ideas how to hurt other people, even their own kids, and doing it with a sinister smirk on their ugly face enjoying their calculated evil and at the same time seeing the suffering they cause without remorse
Thank you Darren for delivering this information in your calm manner. It's not easy to digest, but you help.
I am glad I have subscribed!
I recently watched a video by Sam Vaknin in which he claimed that he had been diagnosed with both narcissism and psychopathy, which struck me as odd because narcissists are utterly dependent on input from others to maintain their grandiosity but I thought psychopaths were self contained and felt superior regardless of other peoples reaction to them.
Yeah, I don't get that either. I thought maybe he's more of a narcissist than anything and maybe he is utterly dependent on the input he gets from others through his TH-cam channel and his books. But they did do a documentary about him, called I Psychopath, where he actually visited neuroscience and psychology researchers in various countries and had brain scans and everything. That was when he was diagnosed as a psychopath. It's on TH-cam for free.
@@Melissa0774 Thanks Melissa I remember that now and I will enjoy watching it again. Another funny thing about Vaknin is that he does videos about how to overcome narcissistic abuse , how to be emotionally healthy, how to be fully adult etc and you would think that he is no expert on those topics ! I suppose its all through cognition/reasoning using research because he believes he will never overcome his personality disorders.
@@michaelhussey440 Yeah, I like his videos, but I don't what his deal really is. I don't know what to believe.
Exactl in every way, this was my ex to the letter
I had a psychopathic co-worker (at least that was my therapist’s best guess) who reported three consecutive managers to HR on trumped up complaints. Because she was a long-serving employee, they doubted the managers.
My therapist was a psychotherapist and taught psychiatry as life wisdom to get through life and build relationships.
I think I attract them somehow.
They're confident.
Perhaps you have a video on this (will check) but what is the difference between a psychopath and a narcissist?
I am on a long visit with some family in a city
And people ---- like most everyone drives really aggressively
Lots of fender benders and lots of massive rudeness in the stores i have gone to
Lots of lights are on nobody home looks
Very aggressive out here
And I took a 1300 mile trip in my car and same same everywhere
Did I just wake up in a twilight movie
WTHeck
Are these psychopaths
No, there are too many people. Overpopulation.
What I don't get is all these weirdos who claim that a lot of good surgeons are psychopaths. I think anyone who thinks that, doesn't know what a psychopath is.
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The tyranny of government trumps individual pathologies
Oh please. What gibberish.
Hello Darren your vest knowledge on human psychology is refreshing. Thank you so much ....
Can i please make a request.
can you please watch a Netflix series call (LOVE IS BLIND UK ) and please talk about it . This are singles in there 30"s wanting to get married .there many people with odd character can you please talk about this as therapist .
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Damian I really appreciated your videos I would love to join my I have hackers and stalkers and I think they stop me doing that I have been into the bank but they are also involved