I have to say thank you for your courses, I´ve been struggling with SAD for a long time, but your videos are helping me A LOT. By the way, I love your eyes color, and not in a gay way. haha
Great video content! Forgive me for the intrusion, I would love your opinion. Have you considered - Dinanlinson Belly Secret Approach (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is an awesome one off product for improving your public speaking without the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my BF at last got amazing results with it.
You know what helps me... It's about perspective. The moment I realized that I can overcome presentations is when I realised that one day we're all going to die. Why waste it being nervous. Be angry. This also helps. I get angry that I'm like this and use that anger with a IDGAF attitude
I don't understand what is wrong with me I reassure myself by saying, "it doesn't matter what they say" but when I speak it's like my lungs get compressed and I shake like a washing machine... I hate myself so much for this :(
I feel you Ethan. I use positive affirmation. In the beginning it was very hard to recognize what I was telling myself. But accepting and embracing what I feel makes it a lot more easier. I remember myself that if I do that speech it will open many great opportunities. If It didn’t go as a wanted than I say I gained courage and before and during the speech Affirmations like ‘ I can speak, I’ve got something to say. People like me and when I do that speech I connect with that audience’. And please don’t forget to breathe🙈
You're not alone- I get really nervous. I'd get so nervous I'd forget I was holding note cards and just start rambling. What I do is get as much practice as I possibly can, just throw myself up there in front of a crowd. At first it was awkward and scary (still kind of is) but I'm improving and feeling a little more confident
You're not alone, i honestly don't know what's wrong with me, I'm not scared of presenting but everytime i do my heart rate increases rapidly and i start shaking, my voice and hands and legs.. but i will try to get a therapy sessions hope that will help..
Communication Coach Alex Lyon but I have profesionales who have the same years of experience as you who tell me other wise and now I’m really confused and more anxious
@@jerryvasquez3577 Hi Jerry, Im' not sure why other coaches would suggest that preparation wouldn't help with jitters. What I know is that by preparing you are able to move from the "thinking" brain to the "unthinking" brain, just like an elite athlete or genius musician. You can let go of the the mind chatter that seeks to undermine confidence. Best wishes for your success
It didn't trust me it didn't work even after good preparation and i got embarrassed and blocked in front of the whole Amphi 💔🙂 and now I'm thinking of quiting university untill i fix my social anxiety..
Mine is like so bad everyone here is saying they feel nervous but me during a presentation my voice shakes I have to swallow saliva every word I say i shake so much that my stomach and everything hurts
Hi Salma. You might want to reflect on what about it makes you so nervous. For example, are you afraid people will judge you? Are you afraid of what failure would mean? Are you afraid of being embarrassed? I ask this because when people are really nervous, they have typically built up the negative consequences in their heads. Usually, if you can get clear on what exactly your thoughts are and write the down, you'll be able to decide if those negative thoughts are true and then replace them with more helpful thoughts.
@@itsyuneesha5214 I honestly feel the same. My past presentations went awful, and there's actually nothing that I can do for improvement no matter how hard I try.
I think my own self doubt makes me nervous sometimes. Having everyone looking at you. But then I realize when I'm watching a presentation, I'm not judging anyone just listening to the topic. These tips helped too!!
Omg yes. It feels like you’re being judged but when you’re apart of the audience the only thing that you’re worried about is the message and not so much the speaker. Having a class full of eyeballs on you all at once makes that hard to believe sometimes lol
If I might add something (for people who are suffering from chronic anxiety): DO practice a lot and know your stuff, but DON'T overdo it. Don't stay up the whole night trying to make it 150% perfect. You need sleep, that's okay. Try to focus on a healthy balance, because if you're practicing so much that you start to overthink absolutely every word and phrase you use it's not gonna work to your advantage. I'd recommend planning a schedule for practicing and trying to implement some relaxation techniques (such as meditation, for example) before and/or after these practice sessions, cause for people suffering from anxiety even just practicing this stuff might be very nerve-wracking. So, plan ahead (realistically) and try to also relax a bit. You got this.
@@ellie7200 Yes! I've actually thought a lot about the various mindsets that make us extra anxious and perfectionism is one of them. So, it's a hard balance to say on the one hand that practicing like crazy will help you when it's really the mindset that drives the practice that can lead to more or reduce anxiety. So, if a person thinks "I want to be ready for anything and really know my stuff," then that will help. If they think, "I want to practice this until it's 'perfect,'" then they're doing to likely freak themselves out.
i practiced my speech 9 times and got up there and spoke way too fast and started shaking thats why i was baffled when he said 95 percent of your speech is done beforehand for me its like 20 percent
I know sometimes, no matter how hard you try to do the tips on TH-cam, you still get nervous. If these tips still don't work for you, do my trick: try humming, make your voicebox vibrate until it's your turn to speak. Here's the logic behind it: before it's your turn to speak in a meeting or a presentation, someone else is probably speaking. Whether you have to wait for your turn to speak or someone's introducing you as speaker or just simply waiting for the meeting to start, your mouth is most definitely shut. And while you wait to speak, that's when the nervousness starts to elevate. You screw up when it's already your turn to speak because that's the only time you hear your own voice. You know what you're talking about but your voice is alien to your ears. By humming, you hear your own voice before you even speak. By making your voicebox vibrate, you simulate speaking. So when you open your mouth to talk, it already feels like you've been doing it for quite sometime and you feel comfortable already. I hope that helps. Let me know :)
I used to be nervous about public speaking but made myself take a course in college on public speaking. We had to give a talk once a week and after that quarter, I was no longer anxious. At this point, I've given talks at meetings in front of hundreds of people without problems. What helps me is to remember that most people in the audience are on your side: they want you to succeed and they're not there with the intention of making fun/ laughing/ arguing with you. Think about when you've been in the audience of a presentation: did you go in thinking 'I'm going to see how this person will trip up or how they will fail." NO: most likely you were looking forward to learning something or hearing what they're going to say. So remember that when you're the speaker. Secondly, go in with the attitude "I have some really cool information this audience needs" or "I just learned something really neat and I'm going to share it with them" rather than, "People are going to see how stupid I am. They know more about this topic than me." Think of it as sharing information with a bunch of friends: are you nervous when you do that?
You can also be honest: I have heard speakers say things like: "I'm really nervous about this talk but I'm excited to be here today." You can even ask the audience: "How many of you are nervous about public speaking? Raise your hand." "I am too! But here goes!" Most audiences are sympathetic as most people are nervous about public speaking.
Unfortunately, I’m in high school and half the class is popular, judgemental kids who laugh at other people’s embarrassment/failure. I’ve seen and heard them laugh at other kids’ presentation, so it’s just not that simple for me. :(
Timestamps: 0:42 You don’t look as nervous as you feel 1:26 You can be nervous and still give a great presentation 1:57 Nervousness is a lot like excitement 2:33 Practice like crazy 3:42 Focus on audience and message, not on you 4:28 Visualize your first moments
I overheard my teacher mention that we'd be doing an individual presentation, and I couldn't help but think about it these past few weeks. I've honestly just been anxious, and feel hopeless because my previous presentations have been a failure. My voice would shake so bad, and no matter how many times I tell myself I'll be fine, it's really not. So I believe these same symptoms will occur once again, whether this presentation comes in a few weeks or a few months from now.
SAME, I be reading like, 3 sentences but what makes me nervous is that The room is completely quite and they’re listening to me read. Also the feeling of anxiety I get waiting for my turn to read something is so intense like, sheesh heart, calm down it’s not a big deal :(
Just came here to say that these tips proved to be extremely helpful. I just passed my public speaking exam today and it was my first speech to give. I worked with these tips and I didn't get nervous for a second when giving the speech. Surprisingly, I was even maintaining eye contact with the audience and making use of my body language. Good luck to all of you!
I get nervous. I practiced my last speech over 300 times in a 2 month period in a multitude of settings. I also envisioned myself speaking every night in a confident way. I highly recommend being overly obsessed like this the first few times. Know your stuff forward and backward. Practice gesturing, fluidity everything. Your confidence will grow immensely in practice like this. Then bag a few successful speeches before dialling the prep back a bit. It’s key to get successful experiences under your belt.
I got so anxious that I started trembling from head to feet and I stuttered while struggling to breathe. Super embarrassing and I was afraid that ppl would talk about it :(
My presentation is due tommorow and its an online class presentation and the presentation is introducting yourself and im reaaly shy because its about me and its more in pictures and my brother is reaaaaalllly pro at presenting and hes going judge me while speaking PLS SEND HELP
Lakshmi Limpin ITS OK IM GOING THROUGH THAT RN YOULL B FINE so i just realized that no one is going to remember even if you mess up because no one gives a f. you got thisss tell me when ur done cause i’ll be so proud of you
It’s OK when things go wrong it’s not the end of the world and in any future event that you have to present in front of an audience, you will do OK and even if you do not do OK it’s not the end of the world. Keep doing what you have to do be proud of yourself that you never gave up
Surely, a constant practice of communicating with others gets rid of anxiety completely. Some time ago it was a really nervous adventure to hold a speech for me, but expressing ideas and disscusions with studetns, lecturers in university, talking with people on the streets, events and somewhere else really helped me to convert nervousness during public speaking, communication into an excitment such as "Wow, I am sharing such good ideas to that many of people!". Thanks for the video, greetings from Uzhgorod, Ukraine!
It's pretty common, Asaad. I'll bet you feel more nervous than you look. As long as you can push through and do it despite being nervous, it'll get easier the more you do it and the more you practice. Just keep at it. :-)
I haven’t had much public speaking practice but of the times I did good was when I practiced like crazy. Saying the same speech over and over while recording it for myself to watch. I did a master of ceremonies host in front of thousands of people. I was terrified leading up to it. I’m a person that gets a shaky voice, hearts starts beating super fast and feel like I’m gonna black out in front of a few people but talking in front of thousands of people after I started speaking I wasn’t nervous. I was shocked, but it was bc I had went over my script many dozens of times for weeks in advance and it became just another practice.
Great story, Dom. Thank you for sharing. I love your statement that "it became just another practice." I believe that should be the goal of practicing a lot. We should all get to the point where we've prepared and practiced enough so that the actual presentation/speech feels almost like just practicing it one extra time.
I gave two presentations about 4 hours apart. I just realized. If you are giving a presentation that you have to give multiple times. it might be easier .
For me, people can definitely tell that I’m nervous. It’s so bad that I shake uncontrollably, and if I have a paper in my hand for organization/memorization, you can hear and see the paper rattling. It gets to the point where I struggle to read the words because of how much it’s shaking.
This will be my retirement job, coaching presentations. Last week I was scheduled to present and was NOT AT ALL prepared. Was hyperventilating as the other speakers gave their presentations. They went over in time and the meeting was paused and part two was scheduled for the next week (I BELIEVE IN GOD!). I wrote a script, practiced it, tweaked it, had fun with it, and figured out some other tips that are MINE to keep and use in my business. When the next person was finished presenting, the head of our dept. told them to present the data the way I did next time. Not a huge shout out, but man, what a difference from Tuesday to the following Monday.
I think you give very good advice. However some people experience extreme fear that is so intense it will overcome the ability to apply the logic that you suggest.
You are correct. My advice is for people who struggle with average levels of nervousness. Some people struggle with high-level anxiety but tips in a video like this won't do much for those people. In those case, the person's anxiety is usually persistent across contexts and not isolated on public speaking anxiety. I'd say the advice in this video (and other videos like it) will help (at least a little) about 8 or 9 out of 10 public speakers. The other 1 to 2 out of 10 likely have some form of social anxiety/communication apprehension or anxiety issues more generally that is often rooted in a difficult past experience. A person in that situation likely would benefit from counseling to figure out what the root experience is to get some healing in that area of pain.
thank you so much. this is really helping me out. im freaking myself out over this presentation i have tomorrow, and this video is making me feel a lot better.
So great to hear that, kayla. I'm glad it went well for you. Thanks for reporting back to us here. Keep looking for opportunities to speak. It's a great skill for so many reasons. I just posted a video today about the Importance of Public Speaking. No pressure to watch it but it might encourage you to keep building your skills.
For me what works is this, I tell myself that this presentation is NOT about me but about the content of the presentation and the audience. I cannot be selfish and give importance to how I feel. It should always be about the message and the audience.
What has helped me in the past is if I get a chance to stand at the podium before speaking time. Physically occupy the space. If that's not possible, visualize yourself standing in the space. Being well-rehearsed will go along way toward calming nerves. And don't forget to breathe.
I have a graduate school presentation in less than 2 hours over zoom and this is helping me calm down even though I’ve practiced a lot but not too much to where I memorized it. It’s just weird how I’m so nervous over a presentation where I’ll only really be seeing the professors face. Just gonna try and slow my speech down to make sure I don’t miss going over any important point and making 20 min and not going under.
This is great information and probably my favorite of your videos to this point. It would all be very helpful for a certain leadership class coming up. I agree whole heartedly with the concept of practice, practice, practice. My first true presentation was so bad, I could t even listen to it afterwards. But twenty years later, I am just much more comfortable with myself and presenting.
I get extremely anxious and nervous when I have to present a speech, you gave a lot of helpful tips on how to overcome that anxiety. I will definitely work on those tips and hopefully that will allow me to overcome my speech anxiety. Thank you so much.
I get so anxious when I answer my teacher's questions that my voice and hands would shake uncontrollably. It's not even limited to that, during presentations, reports, and public speaking as well. And yet when i think of doing those, like speak in front of a crowd, or do reports in my class, I would always find that I quite enjoy doing it. I would formulate what I would say. Even when answering my teacher, I would formulate an answer to it as I really enjoy speaking out, telling my opinion and answering questions. But when I actually decide to answer, my hands would shake uncontrollably. In all my presentations, I prepared thoroughly everything even going as far as watching videos to improve my speaking and add more info about my report. But in the end, my hands would continue to shake along with my voice that it becomes noticeable to my classmates, and more often than not affects my presentation. The process of preparing was fun, but presenting and speaking it, not so much. Idk what to do with it anymore because it always happens no matter what I do. Edit: I am watching this video in hopes that these tips would work out. I have an upcoming extemporaneous speech this monday and I'm really nervous.
Alex! Thank you so much! This video was a total breakthrough for me. I get crazy nerves when public speaking. Such a good thing to know that you don't look as nervous as you feel. I love how you said nervousness looks like excitement. I'm going to take these points and run with them.
I have a presentation in 12 hours im pretty nervous my stomach hurts im just hoping i dont forget my lines but watching this video made me feel i bit better
I’m scared because I stutter when I’m nervous or even when I’m talking about something I’m passionate about. Also, i don’t know who to look at. It’s not just that, i get so nervous I don’t know why, i start to shake. It’s weird because I’m usually very confident. It’s so bad that it makes me consider dropping out.
Hi, @M MA. I totally understand how you feel as I’ve had similar symptoms. I would love to hear more about your experiences relating to public speaking and/or any anxieties you may still currently face. I’m looking to interview individuals (purely for my own research) to help me build a new workshop I’m working on. It would mean the world to me if we could hop on a quick call and I could ask you a few questions. OR if you know of someone who fits this description, please tag them below/introduce me. Feel free to tag me here with a reply if you’re interested :) Super appreciate your shared insights in advance.
I have a valedictorian speech coming up at my graduation soon, watching this for tips!! I’m attempting to focus on taking a breath between sentences and slowing down...when I present (and especially read) I go so quickly that I lose my breath and become shaky. Practice is key! I’m even attempting to memorize certain sections of the speech so I can look to the audience and recite them from memory, rather than hyper-focusing on my paper.
Hi, Molly. I can definitely resonate with what you’ve said and would love to hear more about your experiences relating to public speaking and/or any anxieties you may still currently face. I’m looking to interview individuals (purely for my own research) to help me build a new workshop I’m working on. It would mean the world to me if we could hop on a quick call and I could ask you a few questions. OR if you know of someone who fits this description, please tag them below/introduce me. Feel free to tag me here with a reply if you’re interested :) Super appreciate your shared insights in advance.
@@alexanderlyon well It went quite well, alot better than I expected. That said, I had a few awkward pauses here and there and found it a lil bit hard to transition from talking about one slide to to the other.
I meditate before I get up, and then concentrate on my breathing being slow and calm. I then tell myself I feel great and I am great. Even though I don’t believe it, saying it makes it feel real and very importantly leaves no space for my normal negative voice telling me it’s going to be a disaster. That negative voice is not WHO you are, people who don’t get nervous are either 1. lucky enough to have a supportive inner voice and these people will never be able to understand the internal battle that others are fighting. Or 2. They are overruling the negative voice successfully. I recommend reading the power of now by Elkhart Tolle.
No matter how hard I try at the time of my presentation I get so nervous that I do not remember what I am saying. I have tried everything and watched many videos, but nothing has helped. I wonder how people can speak with a full control over what they are saying. Hope there is a medication that you take before presentation and anxiety disappears.
If you don't want to be nervous in a presentation just repeat to yourself they don't care they will forget about it they will be forced to be nice (only works in a classroom presentation)
I‘m actually pretty good with giving presentations, but I‘m incredibly nervous and you CAN tell VERY WELL because my thigh muscle quite literally twitches so much that people have come up to me and asked me about it
im having a huge presentation this tuesday. At first I didn't really care about it, but as the date comes closer im getting nervous. When I was practicing it at home I did really good job. But it just annoys me that I need to do this. At least I know what I am talking about in this presentation, but still.. I hope I'll do a good job..
Everyone that is feeling like they get all nervous or whatever are NOT alone. I seriously almost faint! My voice gets all shaky and I can barely talk and my body gets shaky and really hot. It’s okay if your presentation is not perfect, at the end of the day, so what if your nervous? Who cares? Everyone’s gonna move on and forget about it eventually. You’ll do great! 😊
I can relate to a few people in these comments, i have a presentation tomorrow it only lasts a few minthes 1-2 and its by myself, its 11pm rn i am terrifed i have bad anxiety and i start to panic i dont even know why i know people dont wven really care so i shouldnt worry that much at all but at the same time something causes it to happen and i hate it i try to tell myself i will be fine and i can do this no one will judge but i feel like I KNOW they are judging even if they arent i just wish anxiety abt this stuff never existed for people, another thing i was telling my friend how nervous and scared i am for this presentation tmr and shes like “omg you will be fine just stop” but she dont understand the struggles .
I have shown dogs in a variety of sports for several decades and all these things are true. Practice! Practice! Practice! If you are prepared ahead of time for what you are doing, the nerves are a lot less. Prepare ahead of time what you are going to wear and say and do and nerves are less. Prepare everything down to every detail and then nerves are less. I actually prefer performing in front of a crown because that is the fun part. Showing a great dog in a great sport in front of a great audience.
In elementary and middle school I was always so nervous I feel like a 10/10 my stomach would hurt and that’s where most of my embarrassing public speaking moments came from. I remember 1 time when I was in 6th grade I wrote a decent presentation that o thought was bad because I had just wrote it the night before and I skipped through half of it and had minute long pauses and it was horrible, I realize now what I would have said wasn’t worse than like half the people that went before me and people remember it more when you do that.
I have a presentation tomorrow. It is online. Only my voice will be heard. I always tremble and everyone will instantly notice it. After the presentation, I get messages about it. This has happened previously. But tomorrow , I pray it won't be so much as before. 🙏🙏🙏
Hi, Rose. I can totally relate as I’ve had a similar experience… I would love to hear more about your experiences relating to public speaking and/or any anxieties you may still currently face. I’m looking to interview individuals (purely for my own research) to help me build a new workshop I’m working on. It would mean the world to me if we could hop on a quick call and I could ask you a few questions. OR if you know of someone who fits this description, please tag them below/introduce me. Feel free to tag me here with a reply if you’re interested :) Super appreciate your shared insights in advance.
If I go into a super excited mindset Im not nervous about anything, but if I go to public speaking like I could make a mistake or talking myself down I get really nervous and shake.
I know this might not be that bad but when ever I do a presentation my whole body starts to shake (including my voice) and I sometimes start to cry but after I do my presentation I feel confident and want to do another presentation. EDIT: Oh and thank you the last couple tips REALLY helped!
The more i practice it the more i think about it..so practising makes me more nervous..not sure if anyone else feels the same..i feel i do better when asked to talk in random rather than when i know i have to talk next or talk during a particular section
Prayer and deep breathes. Also, this tip is kind of cynical, if there is someone in the class that typically doesn't present well, I finagle a way to go right after them. It makes me feel calm. The opposite is also true though, if I try and follow the class star speaker consider me lost in the sauce... (a tip to myself - I should just focus on my own presentation lol)
I meditate before I get up, and then concentrate on my breathing being slow and calm. I then tell myself I feel great and I am great. Even though I don’t believe it, saying it makes it feel real and very importantly leaves no space for my normal negative voice telling me it’s going to be a disaster. That negative voice is not WHO you are, people who don’t get nervous are either 1. lucky enough to have a supportive inner voice and these people will never be able to understand the internal battle that others are fighting. Or 2. They are overruling the negative voice successfully. I recommend reading the power of now by Elkhart Tolle.
I have blc with the military soon and freaking out abiut public speaking. I already have a stutter and just know it's gonna be bad. I also usually feel like my throat is getting tight lol.
After about a min I start to get into the groove , but the feeling when I know I am next and the first min are heavy. I know it will get easier every time, just need to do it more
I did some presentations. When I did presentations with people fewer than 50, all things went well. However. I found when the number of audience exceeds 50 people, i will be sure to make mistakes/blackout/voice shaken. And EVERYTIME I cannot do well and even make situation awkward .😭
Hi, Wenru. I can definitely resonate with what you’ve said as I’ve has similar sever symptoms. I would love to hear more about your experiences relating to public speaking and/or any anxieties you may still currently face. I’m looking to interview individuals (purely for my own research) to help me build a new workshop I’m working on. It would mean the world to me if we could hop on a quick call and I could ask you a few questions. OR if you know of someone who fits this description, please tag them below/introduce me. Feel free to tag me here with a reply if you’re interested :) Super appreciate your shared insights in advance.
This happens to me when I am suddenly spontaneously expected to present on-the-spot, and it's BAD. I talk faster than my brain can come up with what I'm trying to say, and I often just draw a blank and have to pause and remind myself what I was saying and what to say next. My eyes water to the point that I can't see my notes and my voice wobbles like crazy. When that happens, it then has a knock-on effect for the next few times I present, even if I have time to prepare for those ones, because I remember just how bad I felt, and a sort of PTSD sets in and the same symptoms occur. I had a bad incident like that on Friday, suddenly spontaneously expected to give some background on a project to the whole department that I really wasn't expecting to have to do. Now I'm looking up videos to try and get a handle on it, so that PTSD thing doesn't happen next time. This is going to murder my career as a leader if I can't fix it.
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I have to say thank you for your courses, I´ve been struggling with SAD for a long time, but your videos are helping me A LOT.
By the way, I love your eyes color, and not in a gay way. haha
Great video content! Forgive me for the intrusion, I would love your opinion. Have you considered - Dinanlinson Belly Secret Approach (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is an awesome one off product for improving your public speaking without the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my BF at last got amazing results with it.
You know what helps me... It's about perspective. The moment I realized that I can overcome presentations is when I realised that one day we're all going to die. Why waste it being nervous. Be angry. This also helps. I get angry that I'm like this and use that anger with a IDGAF attitude
I needed this thank you
I can totally relate to this approach.
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Exactly, I think all these people I don't give a shit about them they can all go to hell they don't care about me why should I care about them
I get angry as well . To focus .
I don't understand what is wrong with me
I reassure myself by saying, "it doesn't matter what they say" but when I speak it's like my lungs get compressed and I shake like a washing machine...
I hate myself so much for this :(
I feel you Ethan. I use positive affirmation. In the beginning it was very hard to recognize what I was telling myself. But accepting and embracing what I feel makes it a lot more easier. I remember myself that if I do that speech it will open many great opportunities. If It didn’t go as a wanted than I say I gained courage and before and during the speech Affirmations like ‘ I can speak, I’ve got something to say. People like me and when I do that speech I connect with that audience’. And please don’t forget to breathe🙈
Ohhh how familiar.. “lungs compress” exactly 🙈😅
You're not alone- I get really nervous. I'd get so nervous I'd forget I was holding note cards and just start rambling. What I do is get as much practice as I possibly can, just throw myself up there in front of a crowd. At first it was awkward and scary (still kind of is) but I'm improving and feeling a little more confident
You're not alone, i honestly don't know what's wrong with me, I'm not scared of presenting but everytime i do my heart rate increases rapidly and i start shaking, my voice and hands and legs.. but i will try to get a therapy sessions hope that will help..
@@norabufrieh40 i have a presentation tomorrow i'm trying to not let it get to me
I always say that if you prepare for your presentation, everything will go easier. Not perfect, but easier.
Yes, agree, Teresa. Preparation makes the biggest difference.
Communication Coach Alex Lyon but I have profesionales who have the same years of experience as you who tell me other wise and now I’m really confused and more anxious
@@jerryvasquez3577 Hi Jerry, Im' not sure why other coaches would suggest that preparation wouldn't help with jitters. What I know is that by preparing you are able to move from the "thinking" brain to the "unthinking" brain, just like an elite athlete or genius musician. You can let go of the the mind chatter that seeks to undermine confidence. Best wishes for your success
It didn't trust me it didn't work even after good preparation and i got embarrassed and blocked in front of the whole Amphi 💔🙂 and now I'm thinking of quiting university untill i fix my social anxiety..
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Mine is like so bad everyone here is saying they feel nervous but me during a presentation my voice shakes I have to swallow saliva every word I say i shake so much that my stomach and everything hurts
Hi Salma. You might want to reflect on what about it makes you so nervous. For example, are you afraid people will judge you? Are you afraid of what failure would mean? Are you afraid of being embarrassed? I ask this because when people are really nervous, they have typically built up the negative consequences in their heads. Usually, if you can get clear on what exactly your thoughts are and write the down, you'll be able to decide if those negative thoughts are true and then replace them with more helpful thoughts.
Same dude it sucks but I keep getting better every time I do it in school
Me too and I get nauseated every time I speak in mass
@@itsyuneesha5214 I honestly feel the same. My past presentations went awful, and there's actually nothing that I can do for improvement no matter how hard I try.
ik same, i freeze and i feel like im gonna faint and my voice sound quaky and it sounds like im legit crying and i blank out for a good second
I think my own self doubt makes me nervous sometimes. Having everyone looking at you. But then I realize when I'm watching a presentation, I'm not judging anyone just listening to the topic. These tips helped too!!
Omg yes. It feels like you’re being judged but when you’re apart of the audience the only thing that you’re worried about is the message and not so much the speaker. Having a class full of eyeballs on you all at once makes that hard to believe sometimes lol
If I might add something (for people who are suffering from chronic anxiety): DO practice a lot and know your stuff, but DON'T overdo it. Don't stay up the whole night trying to make it 150% perfect. You need sleep, that's okay. Try to focus on a healthy balance, because if you're practicing so much that you start to overthink absolutely every word and phrase you use it's not gonna work to your advantage. I'd recommend planning a schedule for practicing and trying to implement some relaxation techniques (such as meditation, for example) before and/or after these practice sessions, cause for people suffering from anxiety even just practicing this stuff might be very nerve-wracking. So, plan ahead (realistically) and try to also relax a bit. You got this.
Thanks, Ellie. Agreed. Preparation but not perfection.
Glad to know my tip is pro--approved!
@@ellie7200 Yes! I've actually thought a lot about the various mindsets that make us extra anxious and perfectionism is one of them. So, it's a hard balance to say on the one hand that practicing like crazy will help you when it's really the mindset that drives the practice that can lead to more or reduce anxiety. So, if a person thinks "I want to be ready for anything and really know my stuff," then that will help. If they think, "I want to practice this until it's 'perfect,'" then they're doing to likely freak themselves out.
i practiced my speech 9 times and got up there and spoke way too fast and started shaking thats why i was baffled when he said 95 percent of your speech is done beforehand for me its like 20 percent
Thank you, oh my god. I have anxiety & adhd and it’s horrible even just worrying about practicing
I know sometimes, no matter how hard you try to do the tips on TH-cam, you still get nervous.
If these tips still don't work for you, do my trick: try humming, make your voicebox vibrate until it's your turn to speak.
Here's the logic behind it: before it's your turn to speak in a meeting or a presentation, someone else is probably speaking. Whether you have to wait for your turn to speak or someone's introducing you as speaker or just simply waiting for the meeting to start, your mouth is most definitely shut. And while you wait to speak, that's when the nervousness starts to elevate.
You screw up when it's already your turn to speak because that's the only time you hear your own voice. You know what you're talking about but your voice is alien to your ears.
By humming, you hear your own voice before you even speak. By making your voicebox vibrate, you simulate speaking.
So when you open your mouth to talk, it already feels like you've been doing it for quite sometime and you feel comfortable already.
I hope that helps. Let me know :)
Im going to try this next time I have to speak! thank u
I love this tip
People started looking at me weird like why are you humming to yourself and that made me more nervous
@@apt9238 lol
thanks for tip
I used to be nervous about public speaking but made myself take a course in college on public speaking. We had to give a talk once a week and after that quarter, I was no longer anxious. At this point, I've given talks at meetings in front of hundreds of people without problems.
What helps me is to remember that most people in the audience are on your side: they want you to succeed and they're not there with the intention of making fun/ laughing/ arguing with you. Think about when you've been in the audience of a presentation: did you go in thinking 'I'm going to see how this person will trip up or how they will fail." NO: most likely you were looking forward to learning something or hearing what they're going to say. So remember that when you're the speaker.
Secondly, go in with the attitude "I have some really cool information this audience needs" or "I just learned something really neat and I'm going to share it with them" rather than, "People are going to see how stupid I am. They know more about this topic than me." Think of it as sharing information with a bunch of friends: are you nervous when you do that?
You can also be honest: I have heard speakers say things like: "I'm really nervous about this talk but I'm excited to be here today." You can even ask the audience: "How many of you are nervous about public speaking? Raise your hand." "I am too! But here goes!" Most audiences are sympathetic as most people are nervous about public speaking.
Awesome advice! Thank you
Unfortunately, I’m in high school and half the class is popular, judgemental kids who laugh at other people’s embarrassment/failure. I’ve seen and heard them laugh at other kids’ presentation, so it’s just not that simple for me. :(
Right now I’m in 9th grade, and i have really bad social anxiety, and I have to present TWICE a week in my second language. It’s hell.
You spoke my mind
Timestamps:
0:42 You don’t look as nervous as you feel
1:26 You can be nervous and still give a great presentation
1:57 Nervousness is a lot like excitement
2:33 Practice like crazy
3:42 Focus on audience and message, not on you
4:28 Visualize your first moments
Thank you for doing all the timestamps, Jon. I appreciate it and I’m sure other viewers do.
2:15 i definitely get excited. excited to get a presentation over with 😂
Ha! I know what you mean.
I overheard my teacher mention that we'd be doing an individual presentation, and I couldn't help but think about it these past few weeks. I've honestly just been anxious, and feel hopeless because my previous presentations have been a failure. My voice would shake so bad, and no matter how many times I tell myself I'll be fine, it's really not. So I believe these same symptoms will occur once again, whether this presentation comes in a few weeks or a few months from now.
Good luck on your presentation. I hope this video helps.
Sammeee
SAMEEE
This happens with me all time
SAME, I be reading like, 3 sentences but what makes me nervous is that The room is completely quite and they’re listening to me read. Also the feeling of anxiety I get waiting for my turn to read something is so intense like, sheesh heart, calm down it’s not a big deal :(
Just came here to say that these tips proved to be extremely helpful. I just passed my public speaking exam today and it was my first speech to give. I worked with these tips and I didn't get nervous for a second when giving the speech. Surprisingly, I was even maintaining eye contact with the audience and making use of my body language.
Good luck to all of you!
I get nervous. I practiced my last speech over 300 times in a 2 month period in a multitude of settings. I also envisioned myself speaking every night in a confident way. I highly recommend being overly obsessed like this the first few times. Know your stuff forward and backward. Practice gesturing, fluidity everything. Your confidence will grow immensely in practice like this. Then bag a few successful speeches before dialling the prep back a bit. It’s key to get successful experiences under your belt.
I literally get as anxious as I would if I were presenting, even when OTHERS are presenting. I get anxiety for them. Why, why why
Same 😶😶I too have the same issue...🤯
Finally I am glad that I am not the only one with this problem😅
Same here. 🤣
😂😂
who else had a VERY embarresing public speaking moment :(
I got so anxious that I started trembling from head to feet and I stuttered while struggling to breathe. Super embarrassing and I was afraid that ppl would talk about it :(
Me 🙁 My voice shakes even when I'm just reading one paragraph in front of everyone 🙁
Me
My presentation is due tommorow and its an online class presentation and the presentation is introducting yourself and im reaaly shy because its about me and its more in pictures and my brother is reaaaaalllly pro at presenting and hes going judge me while speaking PLS SEND HELP
Lakshmi Limpin ITS OK IM GOING THROUGH THAT RN YOULL B FINE so i just realized that no one is going to remember even if you mess up because no one gives a f. you got thisss tell me when ur done cause i’ll be so proud of you
When he said think about the audience or what your goal is, I paused it to tell yall I'm free of this feeling
I have a presentation tomorrow and I'm honestly nervous for it. This video is helping me out.
I'm glad the video helped. Good luck on your presentation.
How did it go?
I will be having an extemporaneous speech 8 hours from now, but this stage fright is killing me. Thank goodness your here
how did it go
You deserve more subscribers man, i have a presentation tomorrow idk i was so nervous and you've really helped me
Thank you for your encouragement. The channel grew by 10x since last year this time so we're moving forward now. :-)
1:55 Take your nervousness and turn it into excitement, Loved it!
It’s OK when things go wrong it’s not the end of the world and in any future event that you have to present in front of an audience, you will do OK and even if you do not do OK it’s not the end of the world. Keep doing what you have to do be proud of yourself that you never gave up
Surely, a constant practice of communicating with others gets rid of anxiety completely. Some time ago it was a really nervous adventure to hold a speech for me, but expressing ideas and disscusions with studetns, lecturers in university, talking with people on the streets, events and somewhere else really helped me to convert nervousness during public speaking, communication into an excitment such as "Wow, I am sharing such good ideas to that many of people!". Thanks for the video, greetings from Uzhgorod, Ukraine!
I really get nervous when speaking in front of my classmates. I always prepare myself before the presentation but still get nervous and shaking 😟
It's pretty common, Asaad. I'll bet you feel more nervous than you look. As long as you can push through and do it despite being nervous, it'll get easier the more you do it and the more you practice. Just keep at it. :-)
I haven’t had much public speaking practice but of the times I did good was when I practiced like crazy. Saying the same speech over and over while recording it for myself to watch. I did a master of ceremonies host in front of thousands of people. I was terrified leading up to it. I’m a person that gets a shaky voice, hearts starts beating super fast and feel like I’m gonna black out in front of a few people but talking in front of thousands of people after I started speaking I wasn’t nervous. I was shocked, but it was bc I had went over my script many dozens of times for weeks in advance and it became just another practice.
Great story, Dom. Thank you for sharing. I love your statement that "it became just another practice." I believe that should be the goal of practicing a lot. We should all get to the point where we've prepared and practiced enough so that the actual presentation/speech feels almost like just practicing it one extra time.
The thing is that when im presenting something, my heart starts racing and I lose breath after a few seconds until i physically cant speak anymore
I gave two presentations about 4 hours apart. I just realized. If you are giving a presentation that you have to give multiple times. it might be easier .
For me, people can definitely tell that I’m nervous. It’s so bad that I shake uncontrollably, and if I have a paper in my hand for organization/memorization, you can hear and see the paper rattling. It gets to the point where I struggle to read the words because of how much it’s shaking.
This will be my retirement job, coaching presentations.
Last week I was scheduled to present and was NOT AT ALL prepared. Was hyperventilating as the other speakers gave their presentations. They went over in time and the meeting was paused and part two was scheduled for the next week (I BELIEVE IN GOD!). I wrote a script, practiced it, tweaked it, had fun with it, and figured out some other tips that are MINE to keep and use in my business.
When the next person was finished presenting, the head of our dept. told them to present the data the way I did next time. Not a huge shout out, but man, what a difference from Tuesday to the following Monday.
Thanks for sharing your experience, Randy.
Even watching this made my heart beats stronger as for 1 second i imagined myself standing infornt of people
You seem to know what each presenter feels and experiences. Thank you for speaking from your experience
So nice of you to notice. I've experienced many of these issues myself! So, I do know what it's like personally.
@@alexanderlyon i got a speech next week can you help me pls 🥺🥺🥺
I think you give very good advice. However some people experience extreme fear that is so intense it will overcome the ability to apply the logic that you suggest.
You are correct. My advice is for people who struggle with average levels of nervousness. Some people struggle with high-level anxiety but tips in a video like this won't do much for those people. In those case, the person's anxiety is usually persistent across contexts and not isolated on public speaking anxiety. I'd say the advice in this video (and other videos like it) will help (at least a little) about 8 or 9 out of 10 public speakers. The other 1 to 2 out of 10 likely have some form of social anxiety/communication apprehension or anxiety issues more generally that is often rooted in a difficult past experience. A person in that situation likely would benefit from counseling to figure out what the root experience is to get some healing in that area of pain.
thank you so much. this is really helping me out. im freaking myself out over this presentation i have tomorrow, and this video is making me feel a lot better.
Great. Let me know how it goes, kayla.
i did it today! it went well. thank you so much for the tips!
So great to hear that, kayla. I'm glad it went well for you. Thanks for reporting back to us here. Keep looking for opportunities to speak. It's a great skill for so many reasons. I just posted a video today about the Importance of Public Speaking. No pressure to watch it but it might encourage you to keep building your skills.
For me what works is this, I tell myself that this presentation is NOT about me but about the content of the presentation and the audience. I cannot be selfish and give importance to how I feel. It should always be about the message and the audience.
What has helped me in the past is if I get a chance to stand at the podium before speaking time. Physically occupy the space. If that's not possible, visualize yourself standing in the space. Being well-rehearsed will go along way toward calming nerves. And don't forget to breathe.
I have a graduate school presentation in less than 2 hours over zoom and this is helping me calm down even though I’ve practiced a lot but not too much to where I memorized it. It’s just weird how I’m so nervous over a presentation where I’ll only really be seeing the professors face. Just gonna try and slow my speech down to make sure I don’t miss going over any important point and making 20 min and not going under.
I have my first big presentation tomorrow (recent promotion) and it is nerve wracking. This video has helped. Thank you.
This is great information and probably my favorite of your videos to this point. It would all be very helpful for a certain leadership class coming up. I agree whole heartedly with the concept of practice, practice, practice. My first true presentation was so bad, I could t even listen to it afterwards. But twenty years later, I am just much more comfortable with myself and presenting.
Awesome. We'll be sure to hit on the topic in a certain leadership class coming up ;-)
I'm watching this the previous night before my presentation. Let's see how it goes. 😅
Edit: people seemed to like it😅 thanks a lot sir.
I hope it goes well.
SAME ITS LITERALLY 2am 😭
I get extremely anxious and nervous when I have to present a speech, you gave a lot of helpful tips on how to overcome that anxiety. I will definitely work on those tips and hopefully that will allow me to overcome my speech anxiety. Thank you so much.
I get so anxious when I answer my teacher's questions that my voice and hands would shake uncontrollably. It's not even limited to that, during presentations, reports, and public speaking as well. And yet when i think of doing those, like speak in front of a crowd, or do reports in my class, I would always find that I quite enjoy doing it. I would formulate what I would say. Even when answering my teacher, I would formulate an answer to it as I really enjoy speaking out, telling my opinion and answering questions. But when I actually decide to answer, my hands would shake uncontrollably. In all my presentations, I prepared thoroughly everything even going as far as watching videos to improve my speaking and add more info about my report. But in the end, my hands would continue to shake along with my voice that it becomes noticeable to my classmates, and more often than not affects my presentation. The process of preparing was fun, but presenting and speaking it, not so much. Idk what to do with it anymore because it always happens no matter what I do.
Edit: I am watching this video in hopes that these tips would work out. I have an upcoming extemporaneous speech this monday and I'm really nervous.
I feel you. It was happened to me too..
Alex! Thank you so much! This video was a total breakthrough for me. I get crazy nerves when public speaking. Such a good thing to know that you don't look as nervous as you feel. I love how you said nervousness looks like excitement. I'm going to take these points and run with them.
I have a presentation in 12 hours im pretty nervous my stomach hurts im just hoping i dont forget my lines but watching this video made me feel i bit better
I hope it went well.
I'm third in my first oratory, but really nervous and the next time hope do better. Learning some tips from this,
You got this!
Thanks
I’m scared because I stutter when I’m nervous or even when I’m talking about something I’m passionate about. Also, i don’t know who to look at. It’s not just that, i get so nervous I don’t know why, i start to shake. It’s weird because I’m usually very confident. It’s so bad that it makes me consider dropping out.
Hi, @M MA. I totally understand how you feel as I’ve had similar symptoms. I would love to hear more about your experiences relating to public speaking and/or any anxieties you may still currently face. I’m looking to interview individuals (purely for my own research) to help me build a new workshop I’m working on. It would mean the world to me if we could hop on a quick call and I could ask you a few questions. OR if you know of someone who fits this description, please tag them below/introduce me. Feel free to tag me here with a reply if you’re interested :) Super appreciate your shared insights in advance.
I have a valedictorian speech coming up at my graduation soon, watching this for tips!! I’m attempting to focus on taking a breath between sentences and slowing down...when I present (and especially read) I go so quickly that I lose my breath and become shaky. Practice is key! I’m even attempting to memorize certain sections of the speech so I can look to the audience and recite them from memory, rather than hyper-focusing on my paper.
You got this, Molly. Those practice ideas sound wonderful.
Hi, Molly. I can definitely resonate with what you’ve said and would love to hear more about your experiences relating to public speaking and/or any anxieties you may still currently face. I’m looking to interview individuals (purely for my own research) to help me build a new workshop I’m working on. It would mean the world to me if we could hop on a quick call and I could ask you a few questions. OR if you know of someone who fits this description, please tag them below/introduce me. Feel free to tag me here with a reply if you’re interested :) Super appreciate your shared insights in advance.
I can share some thoughts@@sun_sets_with_Natalia
watching this just before my first presentation on my new job. i'll be back with the results after i'm done wish me luck
Yeah, let us know how it goes!
@@alexanderlyon well It went quite well, alot better than I expected.
That said, I had a few awkward pauses here and there and found it a lil bit hard to transition from talking about one slide to to the other.
This is the most helpful video ive seen on youtube about this topic! Thanks :)
Thanks, Luna. I'm glad it was helpful.
Communication Coach Alex Lyon i surprised myself when presenting! I was pretty confident
I meditate before I get up, and then concentrate on my breathing being slow and calm. I then tell myself I feel great and I am great. Even though I don’t believe it, saying it makes it feel real and very importantly leaves no space for my normal negative voice telling me it’s going to be a disaster. That negative voice is not WHO you are, people who don’t get nervous are either 1. lucky enough to have a supportive inner voice and these people will never be able to understand the internal battle that others are fighting. Or 2. They are overruling the negative voice successfully. I recommend reading the power of now by Elkhart Tolle.
Love your channel, Alex! Thanks for the great tips
No matter how hard I try at the time of my presentation I get so nervous that I do not remember what I am saying. I have tried everything and watched many videos, but nothing has helped. I wonder how people can speak with a full control over what they are saying. Hope there is a medication that you take before presentation and anxiety disappears.
If you don't want to be nervous in a presentation just repeat to yourself they don't care they will forget about it they will be forced to be nice (only works in a classroom presentation)
I‘m actually pretty good with giving presentations, but I‘m incredibly nervous and you CAN tell VERY WELL because my thigh muscle quite literally twitches so much that people have come up to me and asked me about it
Thank you!! Practice like crazy is real. Thank you again
Thanks for all of the positive comments. I'm glad the videos are helpful.
Thanks you so much. One of my worst fears is public speaking and this really helped
this channel is GOLD. Thank you!
Wow, thanks!
im having a huge presentation this tuesday. At first I didn't really care about it, but as the date comes closer im getting nervous. When I was practicing it at home I did really good job. But it just annoys me that I need to do this. At least I know what I am talking about in this presentation, but still.. I hope I'll do a good job..
Wow! That’s super helpful. someone who has watched loads of videos on this, I can say this is the most comforting. :)
Glad to hear it, Leo. Good luck in your speaking. I'm cheering for you.
Everyone that is feeling like they get all nervous or whatever are NOT alone. I seriously almost faint! My voice gets all shaky and I can barely talk and my body gets shaky and really hot. It’s okay if your presentation is not perfect, at the end of the day, so what if your nervous? Who cares? Everyone’s gonna move on and forget about it eventually. You’ll do great! 😊
I can relate to a few people in these comments, i have a presentation tomorrow it only lasts a few minthes 1-2 and its by myself, its 11pm rn i am terrifed i have bad anxiety and i start to panic i dont even know why i know people dont wven really care so i shouldnt worry that much at all but at the same time something causes it to happen and i hate it i try to tell myself i will be fine and i can do this no one will judge but i feel like I KNOW they are judging even if they arent i just wish anxiety abt this stuff never existed for people, another thing i was telling my friend how nervous and scared i am for this presentation tmr and shes like “omg you will be fine just stop” but she dont understand the struggles .
I have shown dogs in a variety of sports for several decades and all these things are true. Practice! Practice! Practice! If you are prepared ahead of time for what you are doing, the nerves are a lot less. Prepare ahead of time what you are going to wear and say and do and nerves are less. Prepare everything down to every detail and then nerves are less. I actually prefer performing in front of a crown because that is the fun part. Showing a great dog in a great sport in front of a great audience.
count down from 5 to 1 then visualize eyes closed enjoying something fun
This video gave me a good basis to work from for when I do my presentation for the Polar Academy.
I have a history project to present tomorrow and this is giving me some good tips for handling my stress
great one Alex.. thank you!
Thanks so much, I gotta present my senior project tomorrow!
You can do it!
These are the tips that I was looking for!
Oh my god. So true. Thank u Alex, very helpful
Thank you Alex, i really have a tough time and am working through it with all your videos!
You got this!
what an awesome video, thank you very much
Awesome advice! Thank you!
In elementary and middle school I was always so nervous I feel like a 10/10 my stomach would hurt and that’s where most of my embarrassing public speaking moments came from. I remember 1 time when I was in 6th grade I wrote a decent presentation that o thought was bad because I had just wrote it the night before and I skipped through half of it and had minute long pauses and it was horrible, I realize now what I would have said wasn’t worse than like half the people that went before me and people remember it more when you do that.
I have a presentation tomorrow. It is online. Only my voice will be heard. I always tremble and everyone will instantly notice it. After the presentation, I get messages about it. This has happened previously. But tomorrow , I pray it won't be so much as before. 🙏🙏🙏
Hi, Rose. I can totally relate as I’ve had a similar experience… I would love to hear more about your experiences relating to public speaking and/or any anxieties you may still currently face. I’m looking to interview individuals (purely for my own research) to help me build a new workshop I’m working on. It would mean the world to me if we could hop on a quick call and I could ask you a few questions. OR if you know of someone who fits this description, please tag them below/introduce me. Feel free to tag me here with a reply if you’re interested :) Super appreciate your shared insights in advance.
Best advice i have ever heard💯 thanks Dr.
Coach!! Thank you so much. It really is a big help. Have a great day 💜
Hey, thanks. Glad the video was helpful. I hope you have a great day, too.
Heaven Sent you thank God for your tips
Aw, thank you. That's very kind. God bless.
Great tips for presentations!!!
Benzos changed me, in a good way. I can be myself in front of people and not afraid of anything
These are amazing tips thank you
Thank You very much, very informative video.👍🏼
i have a debate in the morning and this is helping
I hope it goes well. Let us know.
it went very well i came out the best speaker
Thank you so much for getting back to us. Great to hear your success story. I'm thrilled that my video played a small role. Congratulations.
Omg thank you so much you have helped me so much
If I go into a super excited mindset Im not nervous about anything, but if I go to public speaking like I could make a mistake or talking myself down I get really nervous and shake.
Alex, I found this video helpful. Thank you, I have subscribed and I will follow you on social media. Best Julie
Glad it was helpful!
Tomorrow morning is my public speaking at college and I'm watching this at 2 am to not get nervous this time
I know this might not be that bad but when ever I do a presentation my whole body starts to shake (including my voice) and I sometimes start to cry but after I do my presentation I feel confident and want to do another presentation.
EDIT: Oh and thank you the last couple tips REALLY helped!
Thanks for sharing your experiences.
same!! my hands shake so much and my legs do too, and when i get back and go in my seat my leg won’t stop shaking.
@@beandlunt Ikr sometimes when I get back to my seat I will start to cry ;(
Thank you, this is very helpful.
Those who don't feel nervous during presentation are not overthinking the process
Yes !
The more i practice it the more i think about it..so practising makes me more nervous..not sure if anyone else feels the same..i feel i do better when asked to talk in random rather than when i know i have to talk next or talk during a particular section
Great video. I feel better already! Thanks!
After watching this video, I feel like I could give a TedTalk. Great practical advice!
Question of the day: What are your tips for handling nervousness in presentations?
Prayer and deep breathes. Also, this tip is kind of cynical, if there is someone in the class that typically doesn't present well, I finagle a way to go right after them. It makes me feel calm. The opposite is also true though, if I try and follow the class star speaker consider me lost in the sauce... (a tip to myself - I should just focus on my own presentation lol)
Always tell yourself that's it's just another rehearsal.
I meditate before I get up, and then concentrate on my breathing being slow and calm. I then tell myself I feel great and I am great. Even though I don’t believe it, saying it makes it feel real and very importantly leaves no space for my normal negative voice telling me it’s going to be a disaster. That negative voice is not WHO you are, people who don’t get nervous are either 1. lucky enough to have a supportive inner voice and these people will never be able to understand the internal battle that others are fighting. Or 2. They are overruling the negative voice successfully. I recommend reading the power of now by Elkhart Tolle.
I like to go first to do my presentations and I like talking with my other classmates and saying a prayer before I go.
I have blc with the military soon and freaking out abiut public speaking. I already have a stutter and just know it's gonna be bad. I also usually feel like my throat is getting tight lol.
After about a min I start to get into the groove , but the feeling when I know I am next and the first min are heavy. I know it will get easier every time, just need to do it more
I did some presentations. When I did presentations with people fewer than 50, all things went well. However. I found when the number of audience exceeds 50 people, i will be sure to make mistakes/blackout/voice shaken. And EVERYTIME I cannot do well and even make situation awkward .😭
I hear you. The bigger the audience, the more intimidating.
To me the bigger the audience the better😭
Hi, Wenru. I can definitely resonate with what you’ve said as I’ve has similar sever symptoms. I would love to hear more about your experiences relating to public speaking and/or any anxieties you may still currently face. I’m looking to interview individuals (purely for my own research) to help me build a new workshop I’m working on. It would mean the world to me if we could hop on a quick call and I could ask you a few questions. OR if you know of someone who fits this description, please tag them below/introduce me. Feel free to tag me here with a reply if you’re interested :) Super appreciate your shared insights in advance.
Excellency advise. Thank you
very helpful, thanks!
Glad it helped.
This happens to me when I am suddenly spontaneously expected to present on-the-spot, and it's BAD. I talk faster than my brain can come up with what I'm trying to say, and I often just draw a blank and have to pause and remind myself what I was saying and what to say next. My eyes water to the point that I can't see my notes and my voice wobbles like crazy.
When that happens, it then has a knock-on effect for the next few times I present, even if I have time to prepare for those ones, because I remember just how bad I felt, and a sort of PTSD sets in and the same symptoms occur.
I had a bad incident like that on Friday, suddenly spontaneously expected to give some background on a project to the whole department that I really wasn't expecting to have to do. Now I'm looking up videos to try and get a handle on it, so that PTSD thing doesn't happen next time. This is going to murder my career as a leader if I can't fix it.
Thank you so much❤ i really appreciate ur help
Thank you so much