My cousin and his wife were building their house, and the construction team acted the same towards his wife.... She kept telling them they aren't doing something right and they stated they won't have a woman tell then how to do their job... Little did they know that woman was a construction engineer.... She ended up doing it herself, correctly and showing them how to
Later that day house calloused because they told them you don't tell me how do my job they go to college for to build buildings soooo I think they know what doing oh something may not look like want it but I bet they try but if they can't get it done because it's not safe or impossible there's a reason
This clip is from the show “why do women kill?” It was from the first season, which was the best season! She kicked ass and I want to be like her when I grow up!
I liked her at first but that plot really was depressing over time. Side note, I’ve experienced this kind of thing with the contractor many, many times. So many businesses treat the woman like a second class citizen UNTIL you show them you have a backbone. But, I shouldn’t have to be a d1ck just because I don’t have one.
I love this thing that's happening. I have yet to see a comment saying that "why women kill is a great show". It's always "SEASON ONE of why women kill is great". Lol. Apparently everyone agrees that the first season is the only one that needs recognition. I haven't seen it yet, but if I ever do, I'm just gonna pretend it only has one season.
@@mickeywhite2563 The format of season 2 is different. Season 1 was really clever with its format and it's missing in season 2 ( I can understand why, I don't think they could have pulled it off perfectly a second time and it would have suffered the comparison). I just started season 2 and only watched one episode so far so I can't really make any judgement yet except that it does feel like a different show.
So I watched both seasons, hoping season 2 would get better. They threw out cannon in the 2nd season and its more of a comedy than a drama. Season 1 is more drama than comedy.
My mom had someone come into her place to paint once, and she was really unsatisfied because the job was done horribly. There were drips that had dried throughout the wall. There were spots that were uneven. It was just awful. The guy came back because we were upset, and he said to me, “that’s just how this works with the paint you chose, sweetheart.” I looked him dead in the eye and said, “I know how paint works, honey, and I also know that if you don’t fix it, we’ll take you to court.”
I’m a painter and although cheap paint runs, backrolling gets rid of that. I have seen behr paint run at times even after doing that. Best to buy the better quality paint as it is, most painters get discounted paint from sherwin Williams. I pay like $40 a gallon of emerald which is one of the best paints you can get and that’s roughly the same as shit behr paint
@@mattyice9923 my mom would’ve gotten good paint. She insists on doing research before buying something. I just wish she would’ve done more research on the guy who did the painting.
@@lizziecross8149 oh for sure, sometimes you get someone who doesn’t care all that much. You get what you pay for most of the time. You’ll find a gem every so often, like a guy starting their own business (like me) who offers to do it more affordable than bigger companies.
The "I'll speak slowly so you understand" things sends my blood pressure through the roof. I had a manager do this to me in a department meeting. I said, "My understanding english isn't the issue, but your communication skills are."
Y’all have to learn to match energy. You should’ve begun speaking to him using very loud, slow speech as well and continued to do so until his behavior changed. Be a mirror.
My father had 6 daughters He owns construction company we have been working with him since we could learn how to walk which means we know how to build a house we also know how to change a tire change it all on my own car and since he was a retired military boxer we also know how to kick ass and at the same time where all his little princess ❤
@@winterbunnyxmy dad wasn’t really around when I was growing up, I’m a Navy brat, but he was very much a “girls can’t do that” kind of dad. So I learned to do things just to prove him wrong. My stepdad however taught me to work on cars, work on boats, and do household repairs. My mom’s favorite photo of me I’m very pregnant cooking dinner but I have engine grease on my face from where I’d done a tune up and changed the breaks and rotors on my brother’s car. Many times I’ve gone into the parts store with my husband and they ignore me but ask him what he needs, he just points at me and tells them to ask me. We have 3 daughters and he’s told them that he’s not raising damsels, they need the skills to do it themselves.
@@laudalasoon24 if you watched the whole video you‘d understand that it‘s not about construction…if he was so sure that the place of the window needs to be a certain way for safety reasons, he would‘ve explained it to her if he was good at his job. But you can clearly see he doesn‘t even understand the contracts that he‘s signing. He wouldn‘t have to deal with her if he‘d just explained it to her
Had to pull this with a fencing contractor one time. I told him I expectations, I checked on him and mentioned how important symmetry was to me, and then when I checked his work end of the day, the posts were not in a straight line. Like not even close - like Willy Wonka Swervy. I made him redo it before adding the boards. He was pissed off and decided to go to my mild mannered neighbor who did not care how the fence was made at all but was sharing in the cost of it. But he was "a male". I'm the one who booked the contractor and I'm the one who paid them and essentially I had to pull that card and say look John is not making the decisions here, I am. Do it to my satisfaction or don't get paid. It's that simple. You don't have to like me but you do have to respect me. Asshat
I felt this so hard😂I told my contractor at my last house remodel 6 mos after the promised finish date that any further mansplaining that started with “ what you don’t understand is…, what you don’t realize is… and I’ve got no control over when my subs show up” would not result in a calm and positive outcome for him. I learned to follow every convo with an email just to clarify times, dates and content.
As someone in the construction industry, follow what the client wants but document everything. If it happens that it really is a 'structural thing' then it's the client's faukt and the contractor is not liable to any damages done to the bldg due to the client's request.
I would imagine there’s also a difference between having the conversation before or after doing the work. She says she wanted a window put in the side of the house but he put the window in the back - it sounds like he already did the work without talking to her about the change. Even if he just put the supplies out to work on today and hadn’t actually put the window in yet - it seems like he wasn’t going to tell her or just assumed he would tell her and she wouldn’t ask any questions.
Yup, if it was a structural thing, he should've told it to her in advance. Then gone from there, but the client insists then oh well their fault. But to put make changes without consulting the client, well thats trouble.
If there was a any problem ekthpjtting the window there, you would have already discussed the problem durkng planning, unless you're an id*ot of course. Since my childhood my parents have build and deconstructed a few houses. All those things get resolced and discussed beforehand.
The thing is, when a house is to be built, plans need to be made by an architectural firm. These plans will have the base engineered dimensions and layout of the house. There will be a base construction set of plans guiding the subcontractor, based upon the engineer approved plans, to divy up the ground/foundation work from the framers/carpentry crew, electricians, plumbers, etc as each of these trades peoples needs a set of plans to work from. Construction plans are to differing trades, like sheet music is to an orchestra.....it shows every differing trade comes in does their thing, makes allowances and works together in some situations. So, if she requested a window, that request would have been documented on the plans and approved by the engineer with changes reflecting on the plans. Those signed plans by the engineer and the client are considered contractual. However, an additional contract is always recommended, regardless of the size of the change, because the sub ALWAYS has to initial every change made.
No, it's perfect. Calling someone Sweetie like that is a way to demean them in order to make oneself feel superior. It's all perception. Whereas she already proved she is actually in a superior position so she can call him by whatever name she wishes - her dick is bigger. And by using his actual name in a competing way, she's saying his actual name IS an insult. "Am I speaking your language now, Saul?" = "I can insult you too, Sweetie."
I hate being called sweetie by someone who doesn't know me, irregardless of gender. And yes, I have responded with the diminutive over-familiar label when it's been done to me, with emphasis. Especially since I'm old enough now that I'm not sweet, or darling, or anywhere near cute & fluffy.
I had the same issue with a contractor who added a three story addition to my first house. My husband and I signed the contract and told the owner I would be making all decisions through out the renovations. Apparently they didn’t understand that. All of the male contractors kept going to ask my husband questions and he would in turn tell them to go speak with me.
I had a mechanic at NTB(my husband like taking his car there) speak to me like this saying. Not knowing I know a bit about cars from growing up around mechanics. Male and female mechanics and my aunt beat into me don’t let anyone talk down to you about anything. I told the guy step by step the process and why he shouldn’t have done it(a service we didn’t ask or were told about) and we should be charged for it
This happens. We were flooded in Crystal River after a hurricane. Our drywall contractor chewed out huge holes for electrical outlets. So big that the wall plate couldn’t possibly cover them. They just taped over these gaps because “seriously, are you really going to hang a picture there ?” I argued about the thickness of existing drywall. I had to find a label from it to prove myself correct. This is their attitude. You are a woman so what do you know. I had to threaten to spray the walls myself.
Instead of cancelling the contract and hiring an actual person with professionalism after your contractor disrespected you to your face, your solution was to threaten to take over and do the work of the original contractors for them? Work you were paying them to do? Seriously? WOW 😑
@@dianaprince3176 in our town there are not many options for professional contractors, and they all think they know better than the people who hire them. They think if you knew how to do it you would have just done it yourself, they don't think that maybe you could, but you just didn't want to. I think she did the right thing by putting her foot down and showing she's not a fool.
I design residential spaces. When a subcontractor tries that $&#% I pause, move closer, and say very quietly but clearly, that I will end up owning his house, his truck and his boat if this is how he executes his contracts. 👏
The most important thing I’ve learned while working in customer service is give the customer what they ask for. It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t turn out right or if they don’t like it in the end. They’re the ones that’s paying so if something isn’t right and they try to blame me, I always say “This is what you ask for” and they can’t say anything after that.
Ive dealt with many contractors that refuse to listen to me because of my age, 25 now, little do they realize im the most expensive contractor there and i dont work unless the site is ready for me, im still paid each day though 😊 its always fun when they get a phone call from the GC and they have to come appologise and get my approval to move forward
I negotiated a contract over the phone. When I went to sign, he almost refused when I showed up at his office! He literally said to me, “If I had known who I was talking to I wouldn’t have agreed to this!” I was a petite 26 year old. 🙄
@@rosannerossi6376petite... Meaning a female? I worked trades all my life mostly male dominated industries ( 40 years ago, fire alarm and making signs and banners) and loved these confrontations!
I went to an auto shop to get my driver mirror replaced. The quote was 430.00 for a repair. I said just order the whole part. He showed all the parts to the mirror that had nothing to do with what I needed done. I smiled and walked out. Ordered the mirror my self. And watched a few youtube videos and replaced it myself!!! $73.00
So you saved yourself labour. That awesome but my time is worth more than. The amount you saved. You think that 300 bucks saved is all the money in the world. That's my hourly rate. So it would of been cheaper to get someone else to do it
@@ryanturner5437 My labour was $300.00 for 20 minutes worth of work. My time is not free either. The guy that broke my mirror paid me $430.00 ROTFLMAO!!!!
@@ryanturner5437 They guy that broke my mirror paid me to get it fixed when I showed him the quote. I pocketed $357.00 dollars. So I made more than your lousy 300. ROTFLMAO!!!
I also have contractors tell me BS and try to confuse me. Then, I take them to my office and wip out my tracing paper and and start showing them how basic construction works and then they act like they've been bamboozled by an architect/engineer... I'm like bro, I'm just intelligent enough to know exactly what I want and do my research ahead of time to see if it can be done legally... I'm sorry you decided to "specificalize" in builder grade IKEA basic ass assembly but you kept assuring me when I was asking very pointed questions and now you're in the middle of not delivering on what I asked for... And my background is contract law. There's a reason I had you sign my contract when I hired you and why I didn't sign your quote...
Idk, she threatened to not pay him. That seems a lot more damning, especially when she had a good amount of say in what the contract said. (I'm assuming the satisfaction clause was her idea because if she did want something that was physically impossible, the clause would have been in her favor.)
I'm a nanny and the family I work for was doing some renovation on the master bedroom and I remember seeing some stuff that just wasn't great and one thing that I was definitely not okay with was when the guy who came to install the glass for the shower I went in after to clean the marks on the floor and the contractor was in there and heard me thinking I was one of my bosses and asked where I wanted the toilet paper roll holder I was confused went he spoke and just said huh and he came out and was like "oh nevermind you're nobody" my parents have also taught us to respect everyone so when this happens I got so upset like I get it I'm a nanny but to just be rude for no reason I didn't say or do anything to the man to be told oh you're nobody out of nowhere so I simply said sir you work for my bosses and without them you're nobody as well so welcome to the club and he just looked at me and said I'll call them and left I'm not the type of person to answer back a lot of the time but for some odd reason something came over me and I did and because of the terrible job they did my bosses decided to get a different contractor for the next project
I mean you were nobody so is he but it's not like he's wrong. He was asking the wrong person and he definitely went about it the wrong way But asking your opinions are relevant when you're not the one he's working for He was wrong for how he said it but he's definitely not wrong for the intent
@@lilacdreams5966 life is not white and black if you cant look at things from both sides you wont make it far as a good person and you will trust someone who will lie to you to make them look good he was wrong for how he did it and the words used but its true that talking to her about it was not helpful for him
This is how you make a strong woman character. She didn’t pull out some construction jargen, didn’t magically do it herself when then man couldn’t. She didn’t take his excuses, made sure the dude knew she wasn’t someone to walk over and that was it. I also love the joke the guy made. Had me spitting my drink 😂
"Contractor" kept pulling this on my Mom when she pointed out that they weren't reinforcing or insulating like she asked, and you could see insane gaps between the joint boards meant to hold up a roof, and then were acting like they had a right to talk down to her and preferred talking to her boyfriend about changes... WHEN SHE IS THE ONE WHO DESIGNED THE ADDITION IN THE FIRST PLACE. I mean, I'm no engineer, but I'm almost certain I learned in school that boards need to be actually touching each other to support each other in a structure... Also I think that a hook rated to 1,000 lbs is stronger than on rated to 500... Oh, and actually HAVING insulation will keep a room cool... Oh, and I could be wrong, but I don't think I've ever seen a PROFESSIONAL concrete pour that cracked immediately on drying. This is why, my friends, you should never farm out contractor work to a 'friend.'
😂. In real life, if a male talked down to me like that, I would be so dumbfounded that no intellectual words would be coming out of my mouth. Then I'd walk away fuming inside my head. I think this is what makes this scene so good. ❤
my moms constractors were literally building the 3rd floor on the 2nd floor, 1st floor on 3rd, and 2nd on the 1st, but appparently mynmom was rude to point it out.... and paint was laid on so thick it was running off the walls, but i didnt know what i was talking about bc the big boys were pRoFeSsIoNaLs
Am i bad that i really liked her saying this? Tis refreshing to have a tv show not portray a woman helpless nor without the correct words for the situation.
Now, you are just woke. It is not a strong woman, it is rude and ignorant one. A real business woman would have carried a conflict out as a queen without insulting anyone. Because that means class: to remain a queen no matter what is around.
@@ananeeva4109 Seems to me like she tried to handle it professionally. HE was the one being unprofessional, and then told her to "speak his language". So she did, displaying her knowledge of the contract. The "My dick is bigger than yours" is not an insult, it is her "speaking his language" as he requested, and she is making sure he knows that SHE is the one with the power in this situation. I think it would do you some good to examine why you feel so strongly about this example of a Strong Female Character.
Man, my mom doesn’t make contracts for her cleaning business and when she has to buy something specific she gets hit with, “Well I didn’t approve that thing so I’m not paying you all together.” It’s enraging, dude. These aren’t even the same people, separate people who never met.
It's not about respecting young girls. It's about respecting people in general. If they are paying you, do it the way they said, or let them hire somebody else
@MightyGreenLantern17 reading through the comments should give you an eye opener. I had the time of it when I had my house built. However kudos to my electrician , when I wanted a particular thing done he said to me " Miss Peggy that it not according to code and if you want that done I'm telling you find someone else". That, I appreciate and respect. He's my go to electrician to this day.
Never once heard someone talk like that to a stranger in real life. I'm convinced it only happens on TV. Or in America, where everything's messed up all the time anyway.
@@reyon2673ive been talked to that way! It was a bit irritating but they werent as aggressive as that dude in the vid. Its just a bit dramatized but for all intents and purposes kinda similar.
@@reyon2673 As someone who managed independent contractors in property management, it happened all time. The guys that called me "sweetie" in the condescending tone had to be reminded that there were 10 guys behind them willing to do the job professionally. Some got the gist and others had tantrums. Happens.
@@reyon2673 happens all the time, especially to service workers towards women. I am in the US. I’ve also been called darling, baby doll, and sweetheart. Oddly enough, it’s always the old men with a southern accent.
Just had a conversation like this six months ago and I had a contractor remodel my basement bathroom and there was an issue with the bathtub plumbing. Personally, I am no Plumber or construction specialist either but what I am is a government contract specialist When I pointed out, I could sue him for breach of contract and have his license snatched and a lawsuit literally fixed the problem in less than two hours. It’s a shame we as women have to go there when we just want them to do the job and go , But Believe me it happens.
Once had my kitchen redone, have them the appliance measurements twice. They started to put in cabinets that would be to big for our stove and they told me condescendingly, it'll be fine. When I said, ever so sweetly, it'll be fine when you put in the right cabinets, they looked like a kitten just bit them on the nose.
LOVEEEE IT!! ❤ taking back the power!! Too many times women get treated with disrespect but some how “sweetie” make it ok, bc if a MAN had that contract instead that window 🪟 would have been in the back! You GO BEAUTIFUL! Love 💕 that scene!! Handled like a professional!
I did a plumbing and DIY course to be able to do my repairs, but i usually prefer to get a professional to install. I love when my professionals come in and explain the job to me in "lay terms" then I name the specific tools and items they will be using and get out my tool bag. The conversation (and price) usually shifts so much. Mostly they are just impressed and complimentary, and those are the ones I bring back and recommend to friends.
It seems that I have missed an entertaining show. But this attitude is pervasive throughout contracted services provided by males. I have had similar dealings with car salesmen, appliance salesmen, and most recently appliance delivery people. If you are a guy, the conversation is a bit more jovial, but no less insulting, particularly if the man doesn't have a grasp or sound knowledge of what service they are providing.
Not the biggest fan of the title (should be “young women”) BUT - as a young woman who works in parallel to the construction industry, this is ANNOYINGLY TRUE. They have to fulfill a contract. You said it, sis.
They also have a responsibility to ensure that the work they do is solid, and won't fall apart because some ignorant asswipe figured she knew better than someone actually experienced in the field.
Why should it be young women? I’m middle aged and have never taken crap when I know I’m in the right, and most of my generation are the same, as for women older than me, they are even tougher. Keep your ageist nonsense to yourself.
This was fantastic. I am a woman who grew up in construction and have two certifications of my own in two different trades. I can't wait till that one a$$ does this stupid sh!t with me. It will be a funny day.😂😁🥰
I didn’t even pay attention too much to him calling her sweetie until I read soo many comments of women triggered by it 😂😂 and now I’ve got a mental note to never call any grown women sweetie, lesson learned 😂 but seriously what’s the name of the film/series ?
The guys that redid our home kitchen about 15 years ago did the same thing to my mom, when she asked where the outlets were on the entire left side of the kitchen which she had repeatedly asked for (it's an open space with sky lights and a window seat) the construction guy went to my dad and said "look, your wife is making stuff about about what she asked for" and my dad, as shitty as he is for a dad, stood with my mom and said don't you dare call my wife crazy, if she asked for outlets, she asked for outlets, don't blame her because you all fucked up. We still don't have the outlets.
My mum was basically scammed by a builder once, and couldn't take the builder to court because we made a mistake with the contract where he was the only one that had a copy with his signature. So now I'm very cautious around contracts, everyone should be. Double check everything before you sign
Good way to have the construction company simply take the loss from the job and leave you a mess to clean up. Likely contact other construction companies around preventing any local companies from being willing to work with you outside shady one will do shady work
Some thing similar happened to me. The construction guy was supposed to fix some wood work. Kept doing things how he wanted and occasionally asked me if I wasn't going to feed him. He obviously wasn't used to taking instructions from a female. I was single and lived alone in a beautiful apartment I was trying to renovate. Kept using pet words to address me too. Dear, sweetheart, baby. Didn't so much say the way she did but I let him know that he'd not be paid if he doesn't complete his work quietly, quickly and to my satisfaction. Wish we saw this before then.
What really cracked me up is he says he's been in construction for (only) 4 years. Which at his age, means he is still reasonably new to construction. I don't trust anyone in construction that has less than 10 years on the job.
Honestly, I don't think years on the job means much. One can learn nothing but bad practices in that amount of time. One could also learn nothing but good practices in a shorter amount of time.
What's his age got to do with it. 4 years of experience will be 4 years of experience regardless of what age you start at. I'm not following your logic.
If your Contractor tells you that it will cause structural issues, halt the work, ask questions and do your research. Not this nonsense. She isn’t owning him in this scene, she’s making herself look stupid. And that man she calls husband smirking while she talks down to an employee (for all intent and purpose) is weak. Chances are this truly is a structural issue and now she’s got years of tinkering to do and more money to spend on repairs. 🙄🙄
My cousin and his wife were building their house, and the construction team acted the same towards his wife.... She kept telling them they aren't doing something right and they stated they won't have a woman tell then how to do their job... Little did they know that woman was a construction engineer.... She ended up doing it herself, correctly and showing them how to
Later that day house calloused because they told them you don't tell me how do my job they go to college for to build buildings soooo I think they know what doing oh something may not look like want it but I bet they try but if they can't get it done because it's not safe or impossible there's a reason
@@EmilythematerialgurlConsidering she’s a construction engineer I’m pretty sure she knew what she was doing and did it better so…
@Emilythematerialgurl did they pick you?
@@Emilythematerialgurl I think I almost had some sort of stroke while reading this comment. 😂
@killugonkillugon7270 I smell burnt toast too 😅
This clip is from the show “why do women kill?” It was from the first season, which was the best season! She kicked ass and I want to be like her when I grow up!
?? The show set in the 1960's?
@@eroe2742actually they tell three stories in three diffrent time periods all at the same time.
I liked her at first but that plot really was depressing over time.
Side note, I’ve experienced this kind of thing with the contractor many, many times. So many businesses treat the woman like a second class citizen UNTIL you show them you have a backbone. But, I shouldn’t have to be a d1ck just because I don’t have one.
@@eroe2742 it tells 3 stories at the same time that all happened in the same house
I was contemplating watching this but I think this clip just confirms I will have to watch it asap
Season one of why women kill is spectacular. One of my favorite series of all time. Very underrated
For those interested its on Paramount plus
I love this thing that's happening. I have yet to see a comment saying that "why women kill is a great show". It's always "SEASON ONE of why women kill is great". Lol. Apparently everyone agrees that the first season is the only one that needs recognition.
I haven't seen it yet, but if I ever do, I'm just gonna pretend it only has one season.
@@mickeywhite2563 The format of season 2 is different. Season 1 was really clever with its format and it's missing in season 2 ( I can understand why, I don't think they could have pulled it off perfectly a second time and it would have suffered the comparison). I just started season 2 and only watched one episode so far so I can't really make any judgement yet except that it does feel like a different show.
but the bisexual couple is no no their stories just eww
So I watched both seasons, hoping season 2 would get better. They threw out cannon in the 2nd season and its more of a comedy than a drama. Season 1 is more drama than comedy.
I’m so proud when I see women who have their voice and are not afraid to say what they want ! You go lady.
@psycho_dictator doesn’t matter,it’s still good advice.
Umm all she did.was talk back to a person who knows more then her she is in the wrong
My mom had someone come into her place to paint once, and she was really unsatisfied because the job was done horribly. There were drips that had dried throughout the wall. There were spots that were uneven. It was just awful. The guy came back because we were upset, and he said to me, “that’s just how this works with the paint you chose, sweetheart.”
I looked him dead in the eye and said, “I know how paint works, honey, and I also know that if you don’t fix it, we’ll take you to court.”
Nice one👏😂😂
I’m a painter and although cheap paint runs, backrolling gets rid of that. I have seen behr paint run at times even after doing that. Best to buy the better quality paint as it is, most painters get discounted paint from sherwin Williams. I pay like $40 a gallon of emerald which is one of the best paints you can get and that’s roughly the same as shit behr paint
@@mattyice9923 my mom would’ve gotten good paint. She insists on doing research before buying something. I just wish she would’ve done more research on the guy who did the painting.
@@lizziecross8149 oh for sure, sometimes you get someone who doesn’t care all that much. You get what you pay for most of the time. You’ll find a gem every so often, like a guy starting their own business (like me) who offers to do it more affordable than bigger companies.
He was probably right
The "I'll speak slowly so you understand" things sends my blood pressure through the roof. I had a manager do this to me in a department meeting. I said, "My understanding english isn't the issue, but your communication skills are."
Y’all have to learn to match energy. You should’ve begun speaking to him using very loud, slow speech as well and continued to do so until his behavior changed. Be a mirror.
@@dianaprince3176
How to piss off any entitled person in a millisecond!
I just love when the perfect comeback arrives on time, and not twenty seconds too late.
good for you
@@dianaprince3176doesn't usually work. They tell everyone you were giving them attitude.
The writers got this from a vibe in the 80s but im glad its finally getting popular so girls arent taught to just lay there and take it.
My father had 6 daughters He owns construction company we have been working with him since we could learn how to walk which means we know how to build a house we also know how to change a tire change it all on my own car and since he was a retired military boxer we also know how to kick ass and at the same time where all his little princess ❤
@@winterbunnyx cherish your father for the rest of his life . Because men like him are a rare gem and are almost impossible to find.
no. these type of micro-aggressions happen all the time
Problem is the seconds we get scenes like this dudebros start crying about woke this woke that.
@@winterbunnyxmy dad wasn’t really around when I was growing up, I’m a Navy brat, but he was very much a “girls can’t do that” kind of dad. So I learned to do things just to prove him wrong. My stepdad however taught me to work on cars, work on boats, and do household repairs. My mom’s favorite photo of me I’m very pregnant cooking dinner but I have engine grease on my face from where I’d done a tune up and changed the breaks and rotors on my brother’s car. Many times I’ve gone into the parts store with my husband and they ignore me but ask him what he needs, he just points at me and tells them to ask me. We have 3 daughters and he’s told them that he’s not raising damsels, they need the skills to do it themselves.
A woman who really understands how to mansplain. I salute you, dear lady!🎉
Men do this to other men as well and women do this to other women as well
Yeah but she doesn't have any idea about construction, especially the concept of load bearing wall
@@laudalasoon24 if you watched the whole video you‘d understand that it‘s not about construction…if he was so sure that the place of the window needs to be a certain way for safety reasons, he would‘ve explained it to her if he was good at his job. But you can clearly see he doesn‘t even understand the contracts that he‘s signing. He wouldn‘t have to deal with her if he‘d just explained it to her
@@laudalasoon24 often when people mansplain, they know less about the subject than the person they're talking to.
@@laudalasoon24You missed the point and went straight to mansplaining.
Had to pull this with a fencing contractor one time. I told him I expectations, I checked on him and mentioned how important symmetry was to me, and then when I checked his work end of the day, the posts were not in a straight line. Like not even close - like Willy Wonka Swervy. I made him redo it before adding the boards. He was pissed off and decided to go to my mild mannered neighbor who did not care how the fence was made at all but was sharing in the cost of it. But he was "a male". I'm the one who booked the contractor and I'm the one who paid them and essentially I had to pull that card and say look John is not making the decisions here, I am. Do it to my satisfaction or don't get paid. It's that simple. You don't have to like me but you do have to respect me. Asshat
You have OCD and need help
I felt this so hard😂I told my contractor at my last house remodel 6 mos after the promised finish date that any further mansplaining that started with “ what you don’t understand is…, what you don’t realize is… and I’ve got no control over when my subs show up” would not result in a calm and positive outcome for him. I learned to follow every convo with an email just to clarify times, dates and content.
How did the site end?
As someone in the construction industry, follow what the client wants but document everything. If it happens that it really is a 'structural thing' then it's the client's faukt and the contractor is not liable to any damages done to the bldg due to the client's request.
I would imagine there’s also a difference between having the conversation before or after doing the work. She says she wanted a window put in the side of the house but he put the window in the back - it sounds like he already did the work without talking to her about the change. Even if he just put the supplies out to work on today and hadn’t actually put the window in yet - it seems like he wasn’t going to tell her or just assumed he would tell her and she wouldn’t ask any questions.
Yup, if it was a structural thing, he should've told it to her in advance. Then gone from there, but the client insists then oh well their fault.
But to put make changes without consulting the client, well thats trouble.
If there was a any problem ekthpjtting the window there, you would have already discussed the problem durkng planning, unless you're an id*ot of course. Since my childhood my parents have build and deconstructed a few houses. All those things get resolced and discussed beforehand.
The thing is, when a house is to be built, plans need to be made by an architectural firm.
These plans will have the base engineered dimensions and layout of the house.
There will be a base construction set of plans guiding the subcontractor, based upon the engineer approved plans, to divy up the ground/foundation work from the framers/carpentry crew, electricians, plumbers, etc as each of these trades peoples needs a set of plans to work from.
Construction plans are to differing trades, like sheet music is to an orchestra.....it shows every differing trade comes in does their thing, makes allowances and works together in some situations.
So, if she requested a window, that request would have been documented on the plans and approved by the engineer with changes reflecting on the plans. Those signed plans by the engineer and the client are considered contractual.
However, an additional contract is always recommended, regardless of the size of the change, because the sub ALWAYS has to initial every change made.
Who the heck just randomly puts a window at a different place than requested? Without checking with the client first? Seems insane 😳
I wish she would have finished it with "sweetie" instead of his name. 😂
Nah, the ending should've been, "Hon"
No, it's perfect. Calling someone Sweetie like that is a way to demean them in order to make oneself feel superior. It's all perception. Whereas she already proved she is actually in a superior position so she can call him by whatever name she wishes - her dick is bigger. And by using his actual name in a competing way, she's saying his actual name IS an insult. "Am I speaking your language now, Saul?" = "I can insult you too, Sweetie."
Bullshit!
I hate being called sweetie by someone who doesn't know me, irregardless of gender. And yes, I have responded with the diminutive over-familiar label when it's been done to me, with emphasis. Especially since I'm old enough now that I'm not sweet, or darling, or anywhere near cute & fluffy.
@@kathydurow6814 then avoid the southeast!
I had the same issue with a contractor who added a three story addition to my first house. My husband and I signed the contract and told the owner I would be making all decisions through out the renovations. Apparently they didn’t understand that. All of the male contractors kept going to ask my husband questions and he would in turn tell them to go speak with me.
I had a mechanic at NTB(my husband like taking his car there) speak to me like this saying. Not knowing I know a bit about cars from growing up around mechanics. Male and female mechanics and my aunt beat into me don’t let anyone talk down to you about anything. I told the guy step by step the process and why he shouldn’t have done it(a service we didn’t ask or were told about) and we should be charged for it
Alot of men deny that women go thru this crap. On a daily basis!!!!!
This happens. We were flooded in Crystal River after a hurricane. Our drywall contractor chewed out huge holes for electrical outlets. So big that the wall plate couldn’t possibly cover them. They just taped over these gaps because “seriously, are you really going to hang a picture there ?” I argued about the thickness of existing drywall. I had to find a label from it to prove myself correct. This is their attitude. You are a woman so what do you know. I had to threaten to spray the walls myself.
Appropriate response to his mysogyny and dishonesty
Instead of cancelling the contract and hiring an actual person with professionalism after your contractor disrespected you to your face, your solution was to threaten to take over and do the work of the original contractors for them? Work you were paying them to do? Seriously? WOW 😑
Hello from Homosassa!
@@dianaprince3176 in our town there are not many options for professional contractors, and they all think they know better than the people who hire them. They think if you knew how to do it you would have just done it yourself, they don't think that maybe you could, but you just didn't want to. I think she did the right thing by putting her foot down and showing she's not a fool.
@@Lady.Friday Love Homosassa. Love the river. Many happy years there! Best to you.
I design residential spaces. When a subcontractor tries that $&#% I pause, move closer, and say very quietly but clearly, that I will end up owning his house, his truck and his boat if this is how he executes his contracts. 👏
🤣🤣
Then get your shit rocked and be off a job
The most important thing I’ve learned while working in customer service is give the customer what they ask for. It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t turn out right or if they don’t like it in the end. They’re the ones that’s paying so if something isn’t right and they try to blame me, I always say “This is what you ask for” and they can’t say anything after that.
Ive dealt with many contractors that refuse to listen to me because of my age, 25 now, little do they realize im the most expensive contractor there and i dont work unless the site is ready for me, im still paid each day though 😊 its always fun when they get a phone call from the GC and they have to come appologise and get my approval to move forward
I negotiated a contract over the phone. When I went to sign, he almost refused when I showed up at his office! He literally said to me, “If I had known who I was talking to I wouldn’t have agreed to this!” I was a petite 26 year old. 🙄
@@rosannerossi6376petite... Meaning a female? I worked trades all my life mostly male dominated industries ( 40 years ago, fire alarm and making signs and banners) and loved these confrontations!
"Sweetie"would have had him OUT of my window 😂😂
How about darlin? Lmbo
I went to an auto shop to get my driver mirror replaced. The quote was 430.00 for a repair. I said just order the whole part. He showed all the parts to the mirror that had nothing to do with what I needed done. I smiled and walked out. Ordered the mirror my self. And watched a few youtube videos and replaced it myself!!! $73.00
So you saved yourself labour. That awesome but my time is worth more than. The amount you saved. You think that 300 bucks saved is all the money in the world. That's my hourly rate. So it would of been cheaper to get someone else to do it
@@ryanturner5437 My labour was $300.00 for 20 minutes worth of work. My time is not free either. The guy that broke my mirror paid me $430.00 ROTFLMAO!!!!
@@ryanturner5437 They guy that broke my mirror paid me to get it fixed when I showed him the quote. I pocketed $357.00 dollars. So I made more than your lousy 300. ROTFLMAO!!!
@ryanturner5437 The guy paid me the $430.00 for breaking my mirror. So I made $357.00 That's more than your lousy $300.00 ROTFLMAO!!
@@ryanturner5437Bro, you're in the comment section replying to a random comment. Your time is worth nothing. Calm your manboobs!
How am I only hearing about this show after it was cancelled? Such a shame. It looked good.
I also have contractors tell me BS and try to confuse me. Then, I take them to my office and wip out my tracing paper and and start showing them how basic construction works and then they act like they've been bamboozled by an architect/engineer... I'm like bro, I'm just intelligent enough to know exactly what I want and do my research ahead of time to see if it can be done legally... I'm sorry you decided to "specificalize" in builder grade IKEA basic ass assembly but you kept assuring me when I was asking very pointed questions and now you're in the middle of not delivering on what I asked for... And my background is contract law. There's a reason I had you sign my contract when I hired you and why I didn't sign your quote...
Highered ? Hired
@@Probity100 you're right. probably shouldn't lean on dictating so much
When he called her “sweetie”, I wanted to die
Talking to grown women like they are little girls will get you cussed out
Idk, she threatened to not pay him. That seems a lot more damning, especially when she had a good amount of say in what the contract said. (I'm assuming the satisfaction clause was her idea because if she did want something that was physically impossible, the clause would have been in her favor.)
I needed some water after that.
Cold shower xD?
@becky5880 no just to drink
@@becky5880 shower for what?
I'm a nanny and the family I work for was doing some renovation on the master bedroom and I remember seeing some stuff that just wasn't great and one thing that I was definitely not okay with was when the guy who came to install the glass for the shower I went in after to clean the marks on the floor and the contractor was in there and heard me thinking I was one of my bosses and asked where I wanted the toilet paper roll holder I was confused went he spoke and just said huh and he came out and was like "oh nevermind you're nobody" my parents have also taught us to respect everyone so when this happens I got so upset like I get it I'm a nanny but to just be rude for no reason I didn't say or do anything to the man to be told oh you're nobody out of nowhere so I simply said sir you work for my bosses and without them you're nobody as well so welcome to the club and he just looked at me and said I'll call them and left I'm not the type of person to answer back a lot of the time but for some odd reason something came over me and I did and because of the terrible job they did my bosses decided to get a different contractor for the next project
I mean you were nobody so is he but it's not like he's wrong. He was asking the wrong person and he definitely went about it the wrong way
But asking your opinions are relevant when you're not the one he's working for
He was wrong for how he said it but he's definitely not wrong for the intent
@@jackiebiskan4748he was wrong to call her nobody. End of. Period
@@lilacdreams5966 life is not white and black
if you cant look at things from both sides
you wont make it far as a good person
and you will trust someone who will lie to you to make them look good
he was wrong for how he did it and the words used but its true that talking to her about it was not helpful for him
This is how you make a strong woman character. She didn’t pull out some construction jargen, didn’t magically do it herself when then man couldn’t. She didn’t take his excuses, made sure the dude knew she wasn’t someone to walk over and that was it. I also love the joke the guy made. Had me spitting my drink 😂
🎉 I love her. ❤ This really makes you unpopular with men, but I've never cared. She took care of her business.
Lesbians have it great then, don't they? 😅
Kirby Howell-Baptiste is amazing in everything she's in! I can't wait to see her in The Sandman season 2!
Thank you for shedding in truth ma’am. I applaud thee
"Contractor" kept pulling this on my Mom when she pointed out that they weren't reinforcing or insulating like she asked, and you could see insane gaps between the joint boards meant to hold up a roof, and then were acting like they had a right to talk down to her and preferred talking to her boyfriend about changes... WHEN SHE IS THE ONE WHO DESIGNED THE ADDITION IN THE FIRST PLACE. I mean, I'm no engineer, but I'm almost certain I learned in school that boards need to be actually touching each other to support each other in a structure... Also I think that a hook rated to 1,000 lbs is stronger than on rated to 500... Oh, and actually HAVING insulation will keep a room cool... Oh, and I could be wrong, but I don't think I've ever seen a PROFESSIONAL concrete pour that cracked immediately on drying. This is why, my friends, you should never farm out contractor work to a 'friend.'
😂. In real life, if a male talked down to me like that, I would be so dumbfounded that no intellectual words would be coming out of my mouth. Then I'd walk away fuming inside my head. I think this is what makes this scene so good. ❤
Well as a male I could never see myself talking to anyone like that.
my moms constractors were literally building the 3rd floor on the 2nd floor, 1st floor on 3rd, and 2nd on the 1st, but appparently mynmom was rude to point it out.... and paint was laid on so thick it was running off the walls, but i didnt know what i was talking about bc the big boys were pRoFeSsIoNaLs
Am i bad that i really liked her saying this? Tis refreshing to have a tv show not portray a woman helpless nor without the correct words for the situation.
Strong woman characters have been around for decades at this point. It's harder to find strong straight male characters now days
Now, you are just woke.
It is not a strong woman, it is rude and ignorant one. A real business woman would have carried a conflict out as a queen without insulting anyone. Because that means class: to remain a queen no matter what is around.
@@ananeeva4109She handled it perfectly. You're just bitter and jealous.
@@ananeeva4109lol using woke like it's a bad thing
@@ananeeva4109 Seems to me like she tried to handle it professionally. HE was the one being unprofessional, and then told her to "speak his language". So she did, displaying her knowledge of the contract. The "My dick is bigger than yours" is not an insult, it is her "speaking his language" as he requested, and she is making sure he knows that SHE is the one with the power in this situation.
I think it would do you some good to examine why you feel so strongly about this example of a Strong Female Character.
Man, my mom doesn’t make contracts for her cleaning business and when she has to buy something specific she gets hit with, “Well I didn’t approve that thing so I’m not paying you all together.” It’s enraging, dude. These aren’t even the same people, separate people who never met.
I think your mom should be compensated which means she needs to figure out how to write a good generic contract that put in clause for if and when
literally love kirby howell-baptiste!! she's such an incredible actress and deserves the world 💜
It's not about respecting young girls. It's about respecting people in general. If they are paying you, do it the way they said, or let them hire somebody else
Agree but tradesmen,contractors, suppliers tend to talk down to women, ignore their wishes etc.
@@peggyseabrun4829 so I've heard. I never seen it in real life, but I'll take your word for it
@MightyGreenLantern17 reading through the comments should give you an eye opener. I had the time of it when I had my house built. However kudos to my electrician , when I wanted a particular thing done he said to me " Miss Peggy that it not according to code and if you want that done I'm telling you find someone else". That, I appreciate and respect. He's my go to electrician to this day.
@@peggyseabrun4829 good stuff
I find it so ironic, a dude named Saul getting burnt by a lawyer😂
I hate when men say Sweet heart like it’s their own daughter like who is you?
I am and I'm not your sweetie
Never once heard someone talk like that to a stranger in real life. I'm convinced it only happens on TV. Or in America, where everything's messed up all the time anyway.
@@reyon2673ive been talked to that way! It was a bit irritating but they werent as aggressive as that dude in the vid. Its just a bit dramatized but for all intents and purposes kinda similar.
@@reyon2673 As someone who managed independent contractors in property management, it happened all time.
The guys that called me "sweetie" in the condescending tone had to be reminded that there were 10 guys behind them willing to do the job professionally.
Some got the gist and others had tantrums. Happens.
@@reyon2673 happens all the time, especially to service workers towards women. I am in the US. I’ve also been called darling, baby doll, and sweetheart. Oddly enough, it’s always the old men with a southern accent.
Just had a conversation like this six months ago and I had a contractor remodel my basement bathroom and there was an issue with the bathtub plumbing. Personally, I am no Plumber or construction specialist either but what I am is a government contract specialist When I pointed out, I could sue him for breach of contract and have his license snatched and a lawsuit literally fixed the problem in less than two hours. It’s a shame we as women have to go there when we just want them to do the job and go , But Believe me it happens.
She’s gorgeous ❤
She just “Educated” the man 💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😂
this was great from start to finish but that last line had me CHOKING 🤣🤣🤣
His mansplaining was hella unsuccessful lol😂
I was waiting for her to come off with I'm the local building inspector and Master Degree in Engineering.
The writers were FREAKING BRILLIANT WITH THIS SCENE!!!
Yes @THEDISH54, but now she is a B i a cht,
and "difficult." Society is trying to erase our roles and return us to 1940s' subserviants.
Once had my kitchen redone, have them the appliance measurements twice. They started to put in cabinets that would be to big for our stove and they told me condescendingly, it'll be fine. When I said, ever so sweetly, it'll be fine when you put in the right cabinets, they looked like a kitten just bit them on the nose.
LOVEEEE IT!! ❤ taking back the power!! Too many times women get treated with disrespect but some how “sweetie” make it ok, bc if a MAN had that contract instead that window 🪟 would have been in the back! You GO BEAUTIFUL! Love 💕 that scene!! Handled like a professional!
Yeah, professionals talk about dicks while negotiating, right.
Though I wonder if Saul would have changed his mind so easily if the other guy hadn't been around.
My mom has a builder's license and is a housing inspector. It's always super fun and badass when she puts men in their place. 😂
Something that has never happened. Stats wise you mother is likely to do a dodgy job IF your story was remotely true
@TheFrmx ok troll
@@Blazeyblazeyblaze stats are not trolling, not my fault women are bad at jobs. Simp harder they might touch your pe pe
@@TheFrmxare u 12?
The husband at the end tho 😂😂😂😂
I thought she was going to say "YOU'D better speak MY language, pal."
One of the best shows ever for real. I saw a bunch of the clips on here and then I had to go watch the whole thing!!
What show is this?
I did a plumbing and DIY course to be able to do my repairs, but i usually prefer to get a professional to install.
I love when my professionals come in and explain the job to me in "lay terms" then I name the specific tools and items they will be using and get out my tool bag. The conversation (and price) usually shifts so much.
Mostly they are just impressed and complimentary, and those are the ones I bring back and recommend to friends.
That’s really gross that there are still people in the trades that pull that crap.
It seems that I have missed an entertaining show. But this attitude is pervasive throughout contracted services provided by males. I have had similar dealings with car salesmen, appliance salesmen, and most recently appliance delivery people. If you are a guy, the conversation is a bit more jovial, but no less insulting, particularly if the man doesn't have a grasp or sound knowledge of what service they are providing.
Love that her accent jumps out when she says “bigger”. This show is so good and she was amazing!!
I know that’s right “Sweetie”!!😂😂😂😂😂
Not the biggest fan of the title (should be “young women”) BUT - as a young woman who works in parallel to the construction industry, this is ANNOYINGLY TRUE. They have to fulfill a contract. You said it, sis.
They also have a responsibility to ensure that the work they do is solid, and won't fall apart because some ignorant asswipe figured she knew better than someone actually experienced in the field.
Why should it be young women? I’m middle aged and have never taken crap when I know I’m in the right, and most of my generation are the same, as for women older than me, they are even tougher. Keep your ageist nonsense to yourself.
This was fantastic. I am a woman who grew up in construction and have two certifications of my own in two different trades. I can't wait till that one a$$ does this stupid sh!t with me.
It will be a funny day.😂😁🥰
The frequency with which he was calling her sweetie or sweetheart was infuriating
Well, as Albert Einstein once famously said.
“If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.”
it's true🤣
She’s really talented. Great timing, great delivery, great handling of accents.
'If you think professionals are expensive, try hiring an amateur.'
If an expert can't explain to a layman they are not the right kind of expert for that job.
He absolutely could’ve explained it, if he hadn’t been trying to bs her.
I didn’t even pay attention too much to him calling her sweetie until I read soo many comments of women triggered by it 😂😂 and now I’ve got a mental note to never call any grown women sweetie, lesson learned 😂 but seriously what’s the name of the film/series ?
This woman is absolutely gorgeous 😊
Thank you very much, OstrichRecap, for uploading this interesting video so that we can see it again in the future. ™
Please have a nice day today. ™
The husband at the end lmao
I fucking hate him
that was not the sound of a content and joyful man
@@Beachtrader0007 have you watched the show?
@@erickmejia4602 I was curious enough to try and watch it but Its only on paramount. my subs limit is already met lol I watch all things Rudd
@@erickmejia4602He didn't watch the show.
The guys that redid our home kitchen about 15 years ago did the same thing to my mom, when she asked where the outlets were on the entire left side of the kitchen which she had repeatedly asked for (it's an open space with sky lights and a window seat) the construction guy went to my dad and said "look, your wife is making stuff about about what she asked for" and my dad, as shitty as he is for a dad, stood with my mom and said don't you dare call my wife crazy, if she asked for outlets, she asked for outlets, don't blame her because you all fucked up. We still don't have the outlets.
The husband doesn’t seem bad from this clip so who is killing who?
Watch the show and find out!! It's good
@@propogandalf Okayy
Absolutely on point there...Young girls deserves their respect without being hoodwinked by sauls n their followers...
She is giving me “Olivia Pope” vibes.
Binged watched this whole show bc of TH-cam and was NOT disappointed
Amazing conversations not getting angry but express their feeling
And then everyone clapped.
Builder walked away with the deposit she put down, and started the next job.
I love her in anything she acts in
This scene was EPIC!
Why Women Kill is one of my favourite series!
Yannow, this made her hugely attractive.
This is the second badass clip in a row. I'm definitely watching this series.
My mum was basically scammed by a builder once, and couldn't take the builder to court because we made a mistake with the contract where he was the only one that had a copy with his signature. So now I'm very cautious around contracts, everyone should be. Double check everything before you sign
You Go Mama !!! ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉
Shame on him for his insubordination.
Good way to have the construction company simply take the loss from the job and leave you a mess to clean up. Likely contact other construction companies around preventing any local companies from being willing to work with you outside shady one will do shady work
Shortly after this saul would take a dump in her hot water tank, never piss off a builder.
Shes gorgeous.
OMG, I was literally just thinking about this episode the other day! I was bummed they canceled the show AFTER renewing it. A waste. It was so good!!
What's the name of the show
@@dexteradams8983 Why Women Kill.
Oh another strong woman show,thank god.
Love the husband's answer cackleeeee 😂😂😂😂
Loved her character so much
Why did Lalo Salamanca pop into my head 🤣🤣
“ Okay, show me!!”
She's so beautiful goddamn
"I'm not questioning your integrity. I'm denying it's existence."
You go, girl. The only thing that would be better would be if she was an architect, or engineer.
Beautiful AND gorgeous !!! 😍
The ultimate combination 😊
Some thing similar happened to me.
The construction guy was supposed to fix some wood work. Kept doing things how he wanted and occasionally asked me if I wasn't going to feed him.
He obviously wasn't used to taking instructions from a female. I was single and lived alone in a beautiful apartment I was trying to renovate.
Kept using pet words to address me too. Dear, sweetheart, baby.
Didn't so much say the way she did but I let him know that he'd not be paid if he doesn't complete his work quietly, quickly and to my satisfaction. Wish we saw this before then.
What really cracked me up is he says he's been in construction for (only) 4 years. Which at his age, means he is still reasonably new to construction. I don't trust anyone in construction that has less than 10 years on the job.
4 or 40? The text in the video says 40, but I haven't seen the show
Or for years?
Honestly, I don't think years on the job means much. One can learn nothing but bad practices in that amount of time. One could also learn nothing but good practices in a shorter amount of time.
What's his age got to do with it. 4 years of experience will be 4 years of experience regardless of what age you start at. I'm not following your logic.
@@WellISaidItagreed
I hate when media portrays us like this we always gotta have a dddd to prove we’re STRONG? We sicka’being strong kings
She shut him down with the quickness😂😂😂
If your Contractor tells you that it will cause structural issues, halt the work, ask questions and do your research. Not this nonsense. She isn’t owning him in this scene, she’s making herself look stupid. And that man she calls husband smirking while she talks down to an employee (for all intent and purpose) is weak. Chances are this truly is a structural issue and now she’s got years of tinkering to do and more money to spend on repairs. 🙄🙄
He never heard of headers, I guess 🤷♂️
She did ask him to explain did she not?