This Is What Happens When You Confront the Narcissist
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ก.ย. 2024
- In this video, I will explain what narcissists do once they find out that you know the truth about them.
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Ignoring them is SOOOO satisfying. Because you get to heal and move on with your life and the narc is sooo upset because they thought the world revolved around them, and you showed them that it doesn't.
Yep. Haven't talked to my narc brother in about a year. He was so upset that at a funeral in October I didn't acknowledge him. 🤣
Why would I?
On top of that it is fucking hilarious if you go out of your way to agree with someone when you figure out they are a piece of shit
Pain city
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Yep 😅😅😅stuck fronting for the new supply. Trying not to explode with their grandiose ass's😅😅😅😅😅
True. Set yourself Free and don't look back. Don't engage ever again.
Exactly…no winning with them.
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Exactly what I did 3 years ago I threw the covert knocked out of my place.
Not everyone is privileged to escape a narcissist. I am living 31 years with a narcissistic father because I have no choice. I am not healthy to work and support myself especially after taking 3 Pfizer vaccines. But I have learnt to cope with my father. What to do, no choice, but it is okay. I feel happy for people who can come out of narcissistic relationships. God bless everyone 😊
@@Potato_Happy9 god bless you!
They will always exploit the trauma that's already within you by gaslighting you to feel insignificant and worthless. Never try to "get them to understand you" by sharing your personal story, they will never get it and they will always use it against you.
Always!!! Will always use all information and reactions against you.
Facts
Agreed. ❤
They'll weaponize anything they can against you, including comments no matter how innocuous. So predictable.
So true.. just happened to me the other night
💯 "trauma keeps us engaged"....our emotional reaction is their fuel. Well said.
Yeah, narcissists do things, just to see how we're going to react.
Yes! 👍💯‼️Very well said! they feed on this energy.
That's the deal, folks! They just want that one reaction at the end of the day. You ladies have this figured out and the scapegoat male me, too, had a few years ago myself and now I'm 50.
I no longer talk to my two brothers nor my sister from my family of origin and I am proud of that because I couldn't live with myself feel like I had a one-way trip being the way third youngest and all that stuff. (But that's not why I ended it, it's because of the other nonsense that happened in to my 40s) I moved 2,300 mi away from those people decades before I knew there was a problem with my so-called the status in my so-called family of origin decades ago. Thank God I'm in Arizona instead of Washington DC suburbs any longer!
As I started letting go; people keep telling me that I look younger-asking me what I’m doing (I just gave up caring & put everything in God’s hands 6.
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Same I felt and people told me❤
Way to go! I did the same
I was replying I put them in God's hands and quit carimg
You go girl!!
Block them on all avenues. No response is a response & it's a very powerful one. 🌻
I did that but that’s a reaction and they thrive off that, I figured no reaction is a much better response
@@5995Jiolno reaction is no response tho
Totally agree block with 0 contact
Ignore them.. I killed a few egos by simply letting them think they destroyed me.
I really needed to see this comment of yours. Well said! Thank you!
How do I deal with this and go forward 41 years is a long time. Now, I don't know which way 2 peacefully,..... go forward to be made whole again,!
@christianwagnon-kt7sd I'm so sorry🙏❤️ Guided meditations, flooding myself with positive affirmations and committing to my own self care helps me stay calm and keep healing. Sending healing thoughts and strength❤🙏
I had to block him to be able to ignore him. That is the only way it would work for me.
Well said! It doesn't matter what flying monkeys and company think. They just exist like anonymous strangers you pass by on the street!
My mother was a narcissist. Even deep into the stages of dementia she did this. That proves how deep rooted this character trait goes.
I hope you are sefe and sound!!!
Not your fault, nothing you could do but to walk away.
@@jorgebermudez7829true 😢
It only gets worse in dementia.
Most being of your demongraphic are Narcissists. It's disturbing.
I wondered about this since my elderly father has been lying saying I said things I haven’t…
Wow! #1 Trauma is huge! Now I know why I am stuck in Trauma! No more, emotional reaction from me. Thank you for revealing the truth, it's opened my eyes! Thankful
Where do you find the rest of this video? Where he describes the other five
How would you reach if they are humiliating you?
@@7mfpm do you think it's them or a demon?
Fight trauma doing that keeps you engaged the narc creates trauma to keep you connected and stop healing projection and devsluing
Character assassinationthey esntbyou to feel you have to defend yourdrlf
Yes be very careful when you are talking or arguing with a narcissist because if you react they will use it against you……they will tell others that you are crazy and if they record you it’s even worse……they want a reaction from you because it helps them justify their lies about you.
Exactly right. They weaponize all personal information and reactions against you. Don't respond, don't react, don't personalize.
💯 they will point to your reaction to their manipulation to tell others you are crazy and they are the victim. Unfortunately some people will believe them because they are committed to the lie.
@@nboss968And they are SO good at it. Childhood abuse trauma's led up to my bf having narcissistic and borderline trades.
He is genetically loaded by his dad, inheridet his alcohol addiction, and at first I just didn't get it. Because I'm a lot of things, but I'm not an evil person. I had a normal to good upbringing and I couldn't, for the life of me, understand why the man that says he loves me, would make me cry, confusing me, making me unhappy and was in no way approachable to discuss what was going on. It took me years to figure it out.
Two faces also: to strangers always the well mannered, uplifting, fun loving guy. At home: a pure, ordinary bully.
O. Aight hom recording me I was angry! ! The things that I keep in my head is that I carry no quilt absolutely none and therefore whatever he does says or whatever isn’t worth allowing it to animate.. these demon men are so shallow and completely insecure . It really was a mindfu** game but I’m a very intuitive woman and this isn’t my first rodeo with abuse it’s all I ever known.. I have narcissistic parents I am never good enough I’m never smart enough I never have been allowed to live past 12 becuse they literally still use the it hurt me more than it hurt you! I was whipped with objects like hit wheel tracks and I am the family scapegoat it’s torture to try and understand who you are.. I’ll just chalk it up too am a bad ass bitch and you can’t break me!
When you figure them out. They're hellbent on your discard.
They will do anything to avoid accountability and make themselves the victim.
The relationship is dependent on them being able to deceive you.
@@hopeausbyn1734This is so mind boggling, let alone the emotional trauma & physical exhaustion!
@@kathyreuter104 Yes. Once you know, it's time to go. 🤸♀️🚪🤸♀️
God! Please continue to rescue and deliver my family and me from the narcissist in our lives.
Same, AMEN 🙏
Praying for your protection. I care.❤
Amen Amen!
Yes Amen same
He drove her crazy. He created trauma telling her she’s crazy and needs help. He can’t stand a peaceful humble day. He hid her car keys while she got ready for work, threw eggs at her. Called her every name in the book. Gaslit, stole from her purse, a lot, played mind fuck games, dropped a tv remote from high in the air and dropped it on her nose injured her while she slept on her back then commented to her” I’m so disappointed you thought I had anything to do with this” he turned around and back to sleep. They never rest. Constantly looking for destruction and pain. They are empty souls and demons. They come from an evil realm. They target innocents and beauty.
You are so right! It’s important to always keep in mind their complete addiction to upheaval. Avoid engaging with them. They will not reason with you.
They tend to create guilt and fear in other people.
Supply
The covert emotional blackmail that rides on the trauma they caused you is pure evil. And they know how to look innocent.
Mine is a Surgeon with every financial and social advantage. He thought I would go belly up in the divorce. But I fought back like a true Johnny Depp and took his house, the kids and my dignity with me. 😊
my x wanted me to the the house as my settlement when he LEFT me with no money to pay the house and he lied all over the State, telling lies to play VICTIM and games, when he was who abused me and I lost my house and my health and my reputation for his actions of a MENTAL stupid Gossiping monster..
My understanding is that surgeons can have huge egos. Good for you for hanging tough. 👍💯
Are you sure you are not the narcissist ? You give that vibe .
She is. She has no empathy whatsoever, He probably wanted her to have IT because he wanted to be morally good.
@@Die-versity-yg4upthe verbage says it all. She took "his" house, "the" kids and "my" dignity. Narcissists are big on thinking they have dignity. The people that I know who do have dignity.. they dont ever talk about it. Ever.
I think your on target.
I stopped looking back and set myself FREE‼️
Am moving forward in might name of Jesus ❤
Nope, DO NOT (easier said than done I know) , continue engaging with them. Learn to deny self, when you're innocent, there's no need to continue fighting. Let that mess roll right off of you, don't let them take anymore of your life, your time=life=narc food. God Bless 🙏
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Yes. Agreed. Forget them and whatever they do will be judged by God.
Facts 💯 Went through this for 7 years constantly praying. Been gone 4 years, had to pray, meditation for loving myself, healing and breaking soul ties. Positive Vibes and Manifesting for what I need ❤ Doing so much better ❤ Thank you, God for everything 🙏❤🙏
How were you finally able to break soul ties
Bless your heart, may the Sun always warm your face. I envy your stamina and faith.
They are so good at it even after relationship ended one year ago. I still have the repeating cycle of trauma in my head. They want you to suffer they design your whole environment into making you feel whatever will hurt you the most based on the input you give them. Now I learn to stop and be silent constant fighting won't end it, they want you to be obsessed, they want you to be hurt constantly. I am learning to let go completely and not care. Stop trying to solve something you can't solve no matter how much effort you put into it. Stop the constant cycle of pain and trauma.
Absolutely true Anen🙏
Emotions yrs cuz we are nice oaths have love & heart not like confirmation. I'm not that into trying to figure her out & not care. Never did. I care of being heard, etc my things & safe, my money, my chrt assassination & black mail. I have it on txt. She will be exposed. No I need to burn her but calmly. I got my weapons rn. Burning get her in front of neighbors . I'll leave to nice people area church, but idk if in tent or homeless. I'm trying two day to recover again & lost all to do it Walmart items I needs. I will fight smart. I want to tell her off. Idc. 😂 I got all I need to say. It is judgement court session. Like bible says conden them. This is not just defending self. Last time I messed up. I'm paying two storages bit finish picking up so suffering trauma here. I am taking much of it. I'm serious gray Rick. She is mad I am not replying. She leaves me be, but then hounding me escaladed. I hope she goes to mental ward now lol, but that will take way the punishment I have for her. Devine justice ! She is playing the victim to me & others, but then curses calls me a bad name etc. Omg. She will pay dearly. She wants me not jusg homelesx jlbut crazy, sick that can't recover of trauma & free rent in my head, spike, when I sibt wanna think of her. I hate her voice More then face or both. She changed her pfp was her new man took her a yr to have one. She can't be without it's her nasty sex supply & for money, etc she deserves no man. Not even that trash drinking, etc she got him wrapped around her finger her spell of love bombing & her whole family, etc. My own brothers helped her more then me & she poisoned him & he doesn't know it. I pray he wakes & the other each other. I only care middle face now. Ego controlling bad energies. He seems better so I thought, but karmic jealous, cuz baby prettiest gifts God chose me to break generational ancestry. Just toxic. I will run away. I don't need their help. God is providing & will the rest I need too. Manifest. They all want me dead deep down blood is not family I need my like minded soul tribe. They had no respect & made fun of me.
Do a search for a Cranio Sacral therapist in your area. I recovered after just one treatment, but I took three treatments a week apart to make sure the trauma was gone. Magnificent.
well said.
@@lilyr6755.. Stay Up.. I understand your emotions and anger.. Play smart.. Strategize.. Save your amo for when needed. Look up different resources for help with your homeless situation their are people besides "homeless shelters" that can help you "For real" get on your feet . Push your emotions to the side at a minimum at least.. ❤❤🙏🙏💪💪
Preach! I am a survivor of a narcissistic mother! The most brutal and difficult thing of my life until I educated myself. If you are struggling with a narcissistic relationship you to can break free! Dive into all the information out there and start your healing. You can do it and you are loved ..don't let the person play with your mind anymore!!! 😊
My mother is the same way. She is an alcoholic and doesn't even hide it now.
Sending much love and healing to you ❤️
@@ambermarie911 where are you Amber Marie? I need your love 💜
@@eddieearp9795I'm so sorry. Been there
I been mRried since 2016 same behavior ,same cycle it sis 11 pm sunday i been ignored in text calls . I feel sad alone and i appriciate this suppoet and this message that we can survive this its so hurtful the partner is suppose to love us respect us and im just sad yall i hve to be strong i wont react anymore .i just ended it like 3 hours ago after being ignored 4 days ago we sat down he promied to respect me to come home early and not lie to me is all a lie .love is patient it is kind it is truth i hope i can make it i hope i ont break and take him.back when the hovering starts i seriously am just tired so tired and sad i want to eel loved and repected i want to laugh and havejoy 😢❤thanks for ltting me ventyall stay strong isaiah 41:10
They keep you captive by inflicting constant trauma.
My sister tries to turn everyone against me so everyone will love her
Mine does the same but I don't think it's love she wants. She just wants control and someone to be her target/doormat for sh*ts and giggles. It's sick. I hope none of my other siblings become her target and I hope and pray she doesn't divorce her husband so that we are permanently stuck with her.
Best wishes for you to find and keep peace, you are not alone ❤
@@repentandturnfromsin I pray you can endure the hassles she puts you through. God bless you
@@judycrisenbery2982 thank you so much 😊
Once you find out what the narcissist really is…..it’s your turn to traumatize their evil ass……make sure you have no sympathy or mercy on the narcissist at any time. 👍👍👍👍✊
Right!!😂
Yessss
Bingo ! 100% Correct. Don't react emotionally with them when they attack you. Be calm and unmoved.
EXACTLY!! 100% Correct. Lived it, Hated it, knew something was wrong, Left it, Healing now! Working on me, Loving Me, being kind to me. Now, it's my turn. I made it get better, by choosing me.
❤❤❤ Same!
Proud of you❤
I left my toxic narcissist two months ago ❤
Got lots of healing to do
@@donnamariedavidson5065 Specifically, Trauma counseling familiar with Narc dynamics is a Must. It takes time, Love yourself, and I too am proud of you! I have been out 5 years and am still undoing the damages. Profound, but I am getting much better. Best Wishes.
@@donnamariedavidson5065 Trust me, You're Stronger than you feel, and Smarter than you may think! You've got this! Wishing you Healing and peace... Narc specfic trauma counseling is a Huge help. But find a therapist that you "click" with! Not just any counselor. Research them, they need to understand narcissistic abuse.
Yes! I chose myself and won
Spot on. Narcisists survive of our emotional reaction so in order to starve them we should not give them any. Ignore, block, go no contact or observe don’t absorb and forget about their existence. Thank you
If u ignore they blame u for being in a mood .
1000% I only wish I knew what was happening when I was married to the narc. He took advantage of my vulnerability, and also stole my personal possessions and robbed me of the retirement funds. What goes around comes around.
Hopefully.
How didn’t you read him before yah got married it’s very important to know for sure before you marry someone
@@chellotrevino7323 don't ignore small red flags, they show those. Just think as an empath if I was in his place would I have done it ? If answer is no means he is a heartless person and they never love or feel empathy.
I Ignore them😅It is fun to watch them suffer when I say nothing. Silence
Are you sure who the narcissist is?
Why do you want ppl to suffer? You are narcissistic
When I figured him out and he new I do. There was a look on his face.he was at end of life and I was taking care of him and he still did not stop.I did not care I did my duty and gave him nothing .After he died there was a peace.
I was married to a narcissist, what a nightmare
I was the daughter of a psychopathic narcissistist. "What a nightmare." (And the nightmare didn't end until she was nearly 95!)
@@cherylh4688 They do seem to live a long time.
@@donnamaco1 Lol! Yeah, they sometimes do, don't they? Maybe it's the lowered amount of stress because they have so little conscience...(or in the case of a psychopath, none at all?)! And/or the positive effects from all that "feel good" oxytocin they produce whenever they make someone bleed emotionally!😉😂😢🤗
I need out of this nightmare .
@@vickipankop6329♥️ It took me 70 yrs. Don't let it last that long for you. You definitely deserve better.🤗
I have siblings that have behaved this way and in the beginning it was traumatic and hurtful but now it’s just sad. Projection, manipulation, creating trauma and blackmailing each other are all the same tactics that were used by both parents while we were growing up. To look at this behavior being played out in our adult lives is just saddening. I refuse to be a part of this behavior because I it’s very unhealthy.
Detach from emotions
Impossible! Instead, replace their toxic energy and memories with positive!
For me, besides religion and faith, I channel into being loving to those who need me. And my pets!
This is exactly why I ignore a narcissist at gym class after she exposed her real self. Giving her any attention or reaction is what she needs to stay alive. Funny thing is that ignoring her makes some think I am afraid or guilty. So messed up when they script-flip, project, triangulate, and when those don’t work, they character assassinate.
Why still at that gym?
@@MattyNelson-rs3ik Bc she's not going to intimidate me into leaving my own gym. That's what narcissists want. I choose to greyrock the dangerous ones bc they can't do anything if they're not getting supply, whether that attention is positive or negative.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I've been sitting here obsessing about why he was all dressed up in new clothes this morning, just to go to work. It's kept me hooked in all day and would probably have led me into a trap this evening as I tried to get answers all to no avail. Thanks to this clip, I say "to hell with him". Whoever she is, she won't be able to put up with his sorry behind. I'm going to go back to focussing on me. Thanks a lot!
My narcissist loves it when I get upset. She tells me she loves it so I know all this is true.
Stop claiming her as “yours”.
Get rid of her. She's garbage. You deserve SO much better❤
@@Gemmarose9012 explain
Ignore them from now on. Thanks for your help. Just knowing these people is a trauma.Blessings be to everyone.
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😂 truth!
I am. He wanted to destroy me in every possible way spiritually, mentally physically n verbally but I am strong n he is weak. I am a survivor. I found God he help me.
Really like how you explained narcissistic trauma. You're so right,! "Trauma Keeps Us Engaged". hadn't thought about that! How very enlightening
Thank you Doc! 🎉
Glad it was helpful!
Yes healing right now after leaving my narcissist husband.I’ve left him I’ve divorced him .he was was cheating.21 years marriage gone . What a waste of half of my life. 4 years on I’m still having counciling .he’s been partying.🙄
He has to live with himself each night. Trust he's in MORE pain and The God I serve said vengeance is his. So heal, LIVE,new hobbies, read more, build yourself back up!
Felt as if I became physically ill and totally confused. My nervous system ran amok. Then a lot of things started to happen. I had severe pain in my body. But I also learned from this. So it looks like a real lesson in life. But also why I attracted this. It became seeing yourself in the white eye. Not a pretty sight. But worked on myself for a long time now. Proud of myself. But it took 50 years to get to where I am. After a while I started to reflect what I was involved in. Felt out of him = hsp. He probably wasn't prepared for that. He was covert and slowly started to pull away when I did. But also said.Enough is enough.This has taken my whole body and soul to recover.He was skilled.But taught me to listen to my body.It screamed from within stop.So now I am one with the body.Abandoning myself never again.
Sorry about your pain. I've been having physical pain in my body, too. I had an EKG done but that was good. Had an xray done if my lungs but they looked good. We're trying to figure what's next. This all started on my way out of leaving the narcissists after all the trauma he's put me through. 😪
@@detectivebuns1mine did abuse me and 2 lie detector tests proved it, then they Gossip all over about me, when I told the TRUTH..
Yes agreed 💯. The damage they do is unbearable run as fast as you can.
My youngest sister is a narcissist. Turned my other 3 sisters again me to get my inheritance. Been over 10 years sense any of the have talked to me. My only hope now is to never see any of them again. The rest of this life is not meant to spend in prison for murder.
I hear you ❤and I totally feel the same way!!
How could they legally get your inheritance...assuming your name was on the will? So very sorry for the pain you've been through.
Thanks
Blew up and ended all that drama forever. All those beings will never have access to me.
Sick using others as weapons against you.
Had it all figured out long ago.
Freer than free now
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100%....keep them trying to figure shit out...they feed off your effort to defend yourself...chaos...boy...this is so rampant ONLINE
Don't forget the flying monkeys.
Ill expect them alright.
What are flying monkeys?
@@carmensandiego7749 You know how narcs gossip, lie, and triangulate with others to turn people against their victim? They do the narc's bidding.
Yep my number 2 family nephew & niece are the recording me on there phone 🤳🏿 flying monkeys. & I no they are good pretenders...
@@carmensandiego7749watch the movie, "The Wizard of Oz" with Judy Garland. (1) it's a classic and (2) you'll understand the reference to flying monkeys after watching the movie. 😁
Yep. Tell them their opinion is valid, but not the same as yours, so tell them whatever they need to do, do it. You have nothing to do with the decisions they make and you wish them well. I did this with a coworker the other day, in approx. 5 minutes and they were dumbfounded. They tried to open the conversation recently, & I basically said, " You Be You. Have a Nice Life".
Done
Boy! Right on the money!! I've dealt with a narcissistic Sister for well over 35 years. It's been an endless cycle of excruciating and totally unwarranted, unnecessary emotional fireworks and DRAMA. I've only recently come to realize she actually LIKES interpersonal drama and chaos! I've racked my brains to the point of insanity trying to figure out how to "help her". She doesn't want help! Chaos WORKS for her. Her wimpy husband always rushes in to pacify and "nurse" her whenever she has a "shit fit" over some nonsense thing. She's NEVER wrong in her own mind. Projects and gaslights like CRAZY!
Thank you. I'm not engaging this time and it's so hard not to engage, talk about it, or defend myself. I'm in a constant loop where I "get it" but "can't believe it." This time, I'm promising myself not to be curious. It's my mom and sister; both Narcissists. I'm creating distance because they no longer have the privilege to know my life.
Thanks again!
Exact same as me. It's so weird
This is a good list characterizing the narcissist
It is 😊
You know since going no contact with my abusive narcissistic family, when I come across informative videos like this, all I can think of now is just how pathetic my narcissist mother and siblings are. You’ve got to be so desperate, insecure, and highly incapable of real connections to pull off emotional scams like that on the very people you’re supposed to love, respect, and uplift aka your children. I never knew how dysfunctional we were until I had permanent physical, emotional and psychological distance from them. Peace to all the truth tellers, freedom fighters, and scapegoats. Almost 1 year no contact and I no longer care, reached a point of real apathy (including innocent members) and my life is now my focus, my mission, and my reward. I still have emotional flashbacks and might likely have to deal with it for the rest of my life, which I accept as an opportunity for growth, but I sure no longer take a whole damn day or two just to get out of it. Strength and inner peace to all. Thanks for your content.
Wtf why did I allow that man to do thus to me!!!!! I can't believe I let him near me.
We never did anything to deserve to be treated and talked to the way we were.
We loved them so much😢
@@chrissemenko628 way too much! Thankful we are learning to love ourselves first now!!!!
Sweetie, you didn't know it when you met him. I promise. I know. ❤
@@Kluvuluvso true!!!❤❤❤ He was the sweetest greatest kindest most amazing man in the beginning little did I know he would turn out like this... you're right we DIDN'T know they were narcissistic 😢
Forgive yourself ❤
My dads a Narcissist, I used to argue with him back to back until I got tired of it and knew he wasn’t gonna change so now I just ignore it lol and it infuriates him because he doesn’t get a reaction from me. I will always love my dad as should anyone but man narcissism is the worst trait anyone can have. And it sadly runs in his family, my loving grandma is one too.
Yup it’s hereditary . It’s fascinating that it could also have physical manifestations as in an underdeveloped frontal lobe in the brain i think. They are not in control. Their defense mechanism is pervasive and because of THEIR own trauma during development. Scary stuff . Gotta either ignore them / walk away somehow / or do both . Love from afar is what i like to say . I’ll love what they “could’ve been” rather than what they are :(
Narcissists will never change.
Excellent Kenny ! Key Words," Emotional Reaction".
Don't react Emotionally. Be calm. ANSWER them slowly.
In your terms. They will turn and walk away.
So is this what I was doing when I talked to other people about it? I wish I hadn’t talked!
Silence is the best approach and no contact
All this is true. I got to write this down.
Thank you sir. Nobody’s said it so clearly.
Love the character assasination..!!!
Wow emotional reaction!!! It’s all trye!!
Do more videos.
I can confirm this is true. My narc cured my abandonment issues. It went from being something I feared to something I craved. Almost a year no contact thanks to a restraining order he's violated a dozen times. Happiest I've been in decades.
Simply demonic! I survived a 5-year marriage to a very dangerous covert/ malignant narcissist, and this was literally the whole marriage. The kids live with me. She's 1,000 miles away in another state, and just the other day, she's still trying to get any kind of reaction out of me. "She said you just seem cold,"
I said, " No, im.fine, I have a hoodie on" 😂😂😂😂
100% right on...do not feed them what they want..
Thank you ! This is so helpful to move forward
In what ways was it most helpful to you?
I fell for that. I would argue all the time because I didn't know he was a narcissist but I'm happy it's finally over.
God I needed to see this today
Same here❤
I care. Let's heal, I will support you all the way. Hugs.
It should be further traumatize, I finally learned what he was doing.He brought up two things he knows I would respond to,my parents and my ferrets.When I realized what he was doing,it took everything I had now to respond,but I kept my mouth shut and fingers off my phone.
The anger I felt passed,and was much happier having not engaged him.
We have to become the monster
The faster you recognize the better you can do
Yup. Anyone can ask me what happened to me from him. Brain injured from a rupture of a blood clot. They don't effing care if you die or live
I’ve got a narc story you’d never believe! The depth these cretins will sink to to emotionally destroy you. !
Yeah. I want to figure them out AND be cool about it. Shhh.
Still learning and healing. It's been a long and worthwhile journey from where I was to where I am. I am grateful. 🦋
Thank you
you just met my mother. she was an endless book of surprises. I call it pulling the rug out from under me.
He did them all AND threw me under the bus, tried to put me in prison for drugs! I still got probation for 2 felonies I never committed for drugs I knew nothing about. The DA in another county had to place blame somewhere. My attorneys worked for me but he got away without anything happening to him. I will NEVER FORGET WHAT HE DID. I will remain single , I’m quite happy now.
Sorry you had to go through all that. You need to forget everything about him and move on completely in other to heal fully
@@RobertButler-dp8oj it’s been 5 years since I left him. The after effects with court took a little longer. 3 years ago I had a stroke. The judge called us back in court and took away the probation. I think they (attorneys & D.A. ) Knew all along I didn’t have anything to do with the charges. I’m in a very good emotional state now. Therapy and a lot of shadow work helped me tremendously. Thank you for your support.
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Don’t worry has more years go by you will forget him completely and you also need to stop talking about him because it only reminds you over again of him. How did therapy and shadow work work for you
@@heatherpiehoff7264 nice to hear you are in a better state now though am wondering how shadow work and therapy helped you, in what ways
did you get my last response
Walk away and live a good life .
You are brilliant! 💯!! Wow!! Liked & subscribed!! Happily!
Thankyou for my heart :))
It took me TEN years to figure it out. He is the most physically PERFECT man I have EVER met, with nothing but PURE evil on the inside. So glad I found the courage to leave.🎉
May God bless you for the strength you had to leave. How’s your life now since you left him
Narcissist are afraid of me I trigger their demons . Then slice and dice them quickly.
I am a BTL Christian and mind my business.😂
That is the reason I know. I just do opposite of that, I made myself engaged in my work my career , self love. I ignore him. I know him m done with his topic coz m fed u. Now m focused on myself
And I learned shortly after my break up with my ex that she enjoyed the negative attention almost as much as the positive she got before that. This was before I knew what she was but it really took me for a turn when she showed it.
Thank you! Much love from South of France
They create trauma within you
As a man married to a narcissist, exactly 💯 right. Nearly 7 years later, I am recovering
I try not to have any contact with narcissist and they need exorcisms.
I couldn't agree with you more concerning this subject matter. 😢😢
I walked most of the Camino Santiago to try to distance myself and heal from family drama. Lots of praying as well for strength.
How were you finally able to heal
Thank you and spot on ❗️🎯
So true, especially blackmail and character assassination. I hope anyone reading this prevails like I did!
What is Equalizing ?
Matching you two as the same so it looks like your behavior is responsible for theirs
When I did not respond to her screaming and left.. she attacked me....today I am free of her..
🎉😂yea they do all that and so much more I mean Miss guy knows what he's talking about oh my gosh thank you for helping spread awareness
So true my mother was a narcissist and she’s been dead for years and she still bugs me and I haven’t gotten over the trauma of being made to feel guilty about nothing.
Wow this guys so good
Smear campaign, and very vindictive too. When they know you see them, they will often have no bars on what they do to destroy your reputation, rather than anyone else finding out their deep levels of shame and manipulative and controlling behaviours. I can still hold empathy for them but from a very safe distance! Learning boundaries is essential in that
thank you yes 👍 Amen
You are so welcome
I'm thinking about the trauma every day. 54 years old and I can't run from her. she is always there.
I need to hear this, thank you!
What did you love most about this
I love the clarity and straightforwardness. When I watched this, it was the perfect time for how I felt. It reminded me why I lost contact six years ago and why it was worth it. Thank you!
@@myradeleon8618 clarity and honesty is everything. How has it been since you lost contact
@@myradeleon8618 clarify and timing is everything. Congrats of losing contact that long. Have you been able to heal fully
@@myradeleon8618 did you get my last response
It's incredibly hard to do when the narcissist is still living in the same house.
I. Am. So. Exhausted.