I have been researching and studying about enneagram types for a while I cannot believe I did not come across your channel before. Thank you so much for great descriptions.
YES. It allows me to throw away everything I have learned and what I should do from the perspective of those around me and that I was created in this rare way and to live by being myself and accepting it from now on even if "me" as a human is not common.
I’m a 4, but a lot of the traits named are most relatable to me from when I was younger. I remember in high school thinking that there was something wrong with me, and being so envious of other girls that could just laugh and chat without a care. But I remember on the flip side feeling so special, I felt like I viewed the world so differently. I was very expressive, loved all the sad music, and wrote poetry as well as painted. I had a feeling like everyone else didn’t understand me but that they also weren’t “good enough” to, so I was shutting them out really out of fear of being rejected. Now when I look back, I have a lot of compassion for my younger self because I know now that it was a lot of self-loathing I had. Now I don’t compare myself, I’m at peace with my own inconsistency; there are so many versions of me and that’s okay, I love who I am (quirks and all and even those parts that seemed so shameful), I prioritize connecting with others on a human level and I fight my impulse to shy or push trustworthy people away, I accept how special and unique others are and love learning about what makes others so unique, I’m aware of my empathy and love to help others through their feelings, but will protect my energy when I feel I need to and I put boundaries to not let other’s feelings affect me as strongly. There’s nothing wrong with me, I just had ADHD, but there is nothing inherently wrong with that. I still feel soooo deeply, and it’s still confusing, but I can talk myself through it. I’m not perfect, I still struggle, but that doesn’t make me any less worthy. All this to say, if you’re a 4, and you view this type as a negative, or it makes you feel like these traits are all you’ll ever be, just remember how much everyone can grow and you don’t have to define yourself by only your lowest points. This type is such an overall beautiful type. There is so much good in there and so much to love.
I completely relate to how you describe your youth-I was the same way! I've also realized that my deep empathy and desire to help others have often taken a toll on me, so I've focused a lot on protecting my energy and setting healthy boundaries.
Wow. I really relate to both of these comments. Uh. I love seeing you uplift yourself and speak about the hard experiences and the good perspective you’ve gained. We should all remind ourselves of this regularly. Sometimes I find those old adolescent insecurities come back just in different circumstances and it’s so painful and awkward, but I have to remember how far I’ve come since then too. 🩷 Showing compassion and grace to oneself is just as important as showing it to others. And it’s more genuine both ways when we do. Keep being awesome! I also have ADHD and am on the journey of learning how to release shame from that and overcome some bad habits and resignation. It’s hard but I believe will be worth it over time. Fortunately I married a kind one who helps push me into better habits. Pray for them! Lol they need a lot of patience with me.
Thank you for your great insights! In my 66 years around the planet, I learned thirty or so years ago that I am a 4....from a family of predominantly 9's. I was 4w3 for most of my life, and quite comfortable with my 9 family. I have found my 5 wing emerging these last couple of years...notably in the autumn season. Then in late winter and early spring I start to energize like a 3 and become much brighter and focused! With time and wisdom, the penchant for darkness has lessened greatly. I am calm, steady, and very thankful for one day at a time 🙂
Thank you for the beautiful description of your experience as a 4. I'm so glad you found the video insightful. Fascinating to hear about the wings shifting with the seasons!
I can truly relate to that as well. When you're a 4 the weather (not only emotions that you feel right now) impact how you feel. When winter is coming to an end and finally spring and summer start to come you feel more upbeat and positive about life. You start to appreciate smaller things even more such as weather and beauty of what the season has to offer and more open to people when at ease. I feel like we are very absorbent in a ways so we also tend to absorb people's mood
the dot dot dot before mentioning 9s XD i have like 4 9s in my life and theyre so uhm disappointing. they dont make me feel special nor wanted even tho i rlly think i am to them and im not speaking from narcissism here. they are so invalidating too i grew up w 2 of them in my family and even tho they didnt do anything- the fact that they didnt totally added to my trauma. but anyway good to hear ure doing great. just keep it up!!
My uncle was definitely a 4w5 Bohemian. He taught English in Paris for a time, worked later as a translator. He was a bit of an ex-hippy, into peace and love and expressing his own unique opinions. Tastes in Pre-Raphealite art, dabbling in semi-autobiographical writing and water colour painting. Confirmed bachelor, probably lived in the same way since his student days in the 1960s. I could sooo imagine him sitting outside a Paris cafe (probably Montmatre), smoking a cigarette and discussing art trends and expressions of deep/spiritual ideologies with some like-minded friend. He passed away in 2019 and I miss him a lot.
Man, I laughed out loud when you said France. I’m a 4 and a major Francophile. When you added Japan, I yelled, “Yes!!” I couldn’t believe it! I adore Japanese culture too and have actually always felt there was some indefinable similarity between French and Japanese artistic expression… films, literature, music, etc. My home is literally decorated in French and East Asian inspired styles! I’d say you nailed it. Had another moment when you mentioned Anne Frank as I am currently staring at the whole shelf of books I have collected about her. She’s another lifelong obsession of mine. You should look up Hector Berlioz, by the way… French composer from the Romantic period. The 4-est 4 that ever 4-ed. Love that guy! Great video ❤
Thanks so much for sharing! Glad the countries resonated - although I can’t take credit for suggesting them (learned them from Richard Rohr). The Anne Frank connection was icing on the cake haha always nice to have the 4est 4 in the YGAT fam 🙌
@@YouveGotaType Seriously, this video was so well put together. Wonderful work! My knowledge of the Enneagram is fairly shallow, so I definitely learned from this. I came here because I discovered that Berlioz (my favorite composer) was the same type as me and wanted to learn more. I felt you were describing both of us! Maybe with differences in some of the subcategories… super interesting.
And when he mentioned something about Anne Frank, and I guess you type 4s really love to journal. I do! It's been a lifelong practice :) So interesting how these types are so accurate!
Hello! I'm a 4w5, and I have a lot to say. First of all, thanks for the video. It kept me informed and entertained throughout! Especially about Instincts and Triads! :) Well, anyways, onto my very Four-ish comment... probably. You nailed everything about the Enneagram Four - from our brooding phases, the dark side, hating the mundane/popular stuff (guilty with this, haha), dealing with deep emotions of ours and other people, the imagined rescuer, and disconnection to seeing the beauty around us and appreciating it as they are. Even our sin Envy tends to stop us from being content with ourselves. As for my personal reflection, I was disconnected from my family and peers early in my childhood to my teenage years. I have a Type One mother and a Type Five sibling. I'm not sure about my father, but he's probably a Type Seven. Maybe this is a very Four situation because some people wouldn't say it directly to me, but when others do, they see me as a "very sensitive and withdrawn yet creative and insightful individual." Due to my wing 5 coming out early in my childhood, I observed a lot of behaviors from people and wished I was them or at least had their outgoing qualities. My peers also refused to teach me anything they knew, so I started to be independent and learn things they did not know or care about. This was when I got really interested in art and music. I had to dig around for hidden gems and share them with people worthy of my trust and friendship. My interest in art became my passion, and I use different mediums to express myself (esp., painting and animation). I also have a very intense imagination which made me interested (and actually made it my undergraduate thesis) in Maladaptive Daydreaming. This made me talk about it more recently and even express my authentic self too! Yay, progress for me :) I found some online friends (I've been friends with some for a decade) who could withstand my raw vulnerability and have the same intensity regarding imagination. However - as you said about Fours - I still undercut my genuine emotions as I'm afraid of "drowning" them or I am too much for them to handle. Currently, I am slowly but surely integrating into Type One. It's hard to change my inner narrative of self-deprecation and self-pity, but I'll take your advice and start with the smallest things! I really need that now because I've been burnout from life recently. Anyways, if you see this, thanks for your time reading my comment! :D
I'm so glad it felt accurate for ya and was helpful to some degree! I appreciate you sharing your personal experience and I'm sure it will resonate with many other 4s. While I'm sorry it's been an exhausting season of life, but it sounds like you've got a foundation of self-awareness to at least navigate the trappings of the ego and hardship of life. Best wishes on the journey!
4w5 here and this video is EXTREMELY well done. I've been studying the enneagram for a few years now and you've really done a profound job of ARTICULATING EXACTLY what it is like being a 4. Thanks. ☮
So much of this is so scarily accurate! I think it took until my 40s and 50s (now I'm 51) to really harness the emotions for my creativity. I'm now in this sweet spot where I feel my head and heart are really working in balance. I've become very spiritual. I can feel my feelings but then go on with my days. I feel them and move through them or process or resolve them now, rather than getting stuck in them or having them stay in my body. I really love where I am at these days, and it feels so free!
I'm so thankful I’m learning about enneagrams at 24 and not at an older age. I’ve always had this looming fear that I’ll do nothing with my life, and I’ll just live in my mind. If I wasn't focused on emotion and insecure about my limitiions I think I'd live like a seven because that feels like me at my best. I was glad to hear that when you said it. Maybe its possible or just the fantasy version of myself. I want to be a four that actually does something with my life and is fun loving and contributing not the four that is self loathing into old age. Thanks for the insight 🙏
Advice for growth: 1. ACT: Dont try to feel or think but DO your way out of it - practice tiny acts of self dicipline, like making your bed (no matter the mood). 2. YOU ARE NOT YOUR FEELINGS: Notice, except and let them pass at a specific time and then move on - dont get stuck in selfpity. 3. BLESS OTHERS: Overcome separation and instinct to withdraw by offering your gifts to others, join groups. 4. COMMIT: Overcome narcisitic tendency by commiting to meaningful relationships, that can mirror and confirm a grounded sense of self and can handle your dark emotions. 5. BE KIND TO YOURSELF: Dont use our negative selftalk to justify your bad behaviors. There is a line between feeling guilty for what you've done and feeling ashamed of who you are. Selflove is like writing with the opposite hand.
🥹 Yes, I feel this. I’ve never felt so attacked and seen at the same time. Also INxP, F and T switch for me too when I test. Mistyped myself as 9w1 as a kid, but that was very true to who I was at the time. I feel solidly 4w5 these days
You're always so good with describing instincts - there is so much material available on this topic, but you somehow manage in these few minutes long sections to add value to the conversation. Well done, thank you! It always bugs me when people with great content don't have an audience they deserve. Oh, mad gods of quality-blind algorithms, make this channel more visible! We need Colton to be heard! :)
Hahah I pray those “quality-blind algorithm gods” accept me one day as well!! This was one of the best comments I’ve read in a while, so thank you so much for the kind (and hilarious) words! It really does mean a lot to this fledgling TH-camr.
Will definitely write down your tips and stick it to my wall... I have SUCH a hard time getting into action and to NOT identify with my feelings, but I want to work on that 100% and adapt more healthy 1 traits - I definitely feel those a lot when things are going well for me :) I loved the categories and pacing in this, keep going pls!
Just recently learned about the instincts and instantly knew I was in the sexual triad. Your description had me cracking up and explained why my past relationships failed miserably before I got to my healthy 4 state. Though I do love that I can bring unique things to the table in my intimate relationships. Been told (and experienced) very spiritual experiences with partners… it’s magical. I love this part about myself BUT it does make finding a partner wildly difficult.
4w5. I'm not consistently assertive but it's not usually because I'm timid. My main reason is because I don't want to act histrionic and I have trouble knowing when it's a good idea to speak up about something. Sometimes I think it's petty to be assertive but then again I end up being way more crazily aggressive if I bottle things up
I so appreciate the advice of self-discipline and how straightforward and encompassing it is. This is totally the way to go. When I get into a depressive breakdown, it's like this breaking of a dam of negative emotions that I don't even believe roaring in my head and there's almost a comfort in the wallowing that makes me not want to stop feeling it. So the elegance of "do something small but helpful" is brilliant to get out of the loop of emotion. ❤
Just learning about Enneagrams and myself as a 4 & you Sir, have BLOWN MY MIND!!! 🤯🤯🤯 We’re you talking directly to me?!? I feel like you were since you look STRAIGHT INTO MY SOUL and gave it a BIG HUG!!! In my need for validation & search for acceptance, you made all my dreams come true! Now I am on the road of personal growth, knowing I CAN do this and I do t need to be rescued! BRAVO 👏🏻 👏🏻👏🏻 And thank you SO much for your keen insight! ❤❤❤
Hahah thanks so much for this glowing compliment! Love the emoji usage 🙌 I'm so grateful I could be at all helpful in on the road to personal growth! That's what I got into this work for so it truly makes my heart happy to hear.
Phenomenal video! I’m a 4 with a 5 wing. You described me so well and definitely provided some important insights I couldn’t find elsewhere. I appreciate you
I came in wondering what a type 4 was. I came out thinking of my brother. He does have depression and anxiety, but a lot of the “don’t let 1 mistake be an excuse for 99” and “be kind to yourself” stuff is what we’ve been saying for years. He apologizes so often, one of his teachers in high school put the “GL [his initials] sorry counter” on the board - and that counter got pretty high (and confused more than a few students).
Thank you for sharing this Sophia. One of my best friends is a 4 and we tease him for having the longest, most elaborate text apologies. It’s hard because they do enjoy the attention they get from expressing “woe is me” so often. They know if they get their life together, they may receive less attention/support. Those tender hearts are so endearing and it requires such patience to root for their slow journey of personal growth. Best wishes as you continue to love on your brother throughout his journey!
why and how is this so accurate?! I've currently been struggling with the tension of wanting to create and release more art while fighting the fear of feeling exposed... I didn't know that it had almost everything to do with me being a 4w3! Because everything you said was soooooo spot on! I will now become very obsessed with you because you've made me feel so seen and understood, haha! :)
Wow this literally made me have to look at myself and really say Dayum I need help. I knew that but actually putting in the work in a must! Thank you!🧡
Thank you for your compassion for 4s in this video. I've read that 1's have a tough time with 4's emotions and I have had my fair share of run-ins with impatient 1's. :\
My best friend is a 4 so I do have a loving bias towards them :) but I can’t totally see 1s taking out their wrath on 4s because it’s where they go in disintegration and they can see themselves in you. Here’s another fun watch in case you want to see my friend and fellow 4: th-cam.com/video/ZMUr1cRr04o/w-d-xo.html
I relate with everything… literally everything you said… I’ve never had this kind of accuracy with any personality test… thanks for making this elaborate video
Yo I just learned about Enneagrams and I think Im a 4w5. I just wanted to say that the tips you provided are GREAT! I found these tips for myself and I was soooooo enthusiastic about journaling and doing little things like doing the bed and organizing my desk. I PREACHED ALL OF IT TO MY FRIENDS! They dont understand, which... well whatever, but... anyway your video gave me some peace of mind. It sounds like my life is finally heading in the right direction and I am hopeful for the future.
I never knew anything about any enneagram until a few hours ago. Answered the questions, got the results, watched this video and my mind is thoroughly blown. I am going to dig deep into this now. I had always had a curiosity about the man, Gurdjieff. I'm really looking forward to learning more and feeling better about myself and my place in this world.
ENFP so4w3 here. This video helps me remember that even though I do have some unhealthy beliefs centered around image in my head, I am still much more healthy than I think. Oh and also wdym I can't just feel it out 🤨🤨🤨 I am my feelings always obviously 🙄🙄🙄
Bro I've listened to like 5 of these vids, and the whole time I'm like- yeah thats not me, thats not me, this is crap, this is astrology pretending to be psychology... nope I'm a 4. I'm an introverted comic book artist that works at home and speaks to almost no one, that has yet to release a book of my own bc I've always been a toxic perfectionist about my own work. The negative self talk I can experience is stuff that can weigh me down for days at a time, I can wallow self loathing like no one else to the extent that when it passes I literally feel like I was taken over by a depressive force that wasn't me. I constantly self analyze and share it all with my wife. I had a horribly traumatic childhood etc etc... The point is... you literally described me. Damn. But now I know the actionable steps to take toward healing. Cheers mate.
Freaking nailed it. I haven’t gotten into the enneagram since I found out about it 5 or 6 years ago. I think I was a 4w3 when I first started learning the enneagram… now i’m definitely a 4w5. Great vid!
That "SLOOOOW" felt so personal for me lmao. Im definitely a Bohemian Individualist due to struggling whether I should follow what my brain says or what my feelings say. Sometimes, they even have voices of their own (which im sure is definitely normal). The primary "sexual" instinct hits me though no matter how much i deny it. Oh man, what a wild ride.
I am IMPRESSED! Really dynamic and thorough presentation, Colton. I’ve been waffling between type 4 and Type 2 awhile, but know that the instincts also are super important in the mix, as well as other factors. Prob will shake out as 4w5, SP/SO, but plan to listen to what you have to say for type 2 as well. I love that you acknowledge nature versus nurture, right off the bat - well done on that. Mostly I just want to thank you for such an impressive rundown on type 4. If this wasn’t created as a masters degree thesis, it’s not too late! Subscribed and sharing. Thanks again. Renge’ 🌟💕🐙💞🌟
Thank you so much for this affirming comment! I'm so glad you enjoyed it and recognize the effort put into it :) Thankfully though, my masters degree is about 10 years behind me at this point haha I certainly don't miss the homework. Thanks for the sub & share!
Really enjoyed this video! Thank you for putting so much hard work into it. I love videos that actually have good valuable information . I appreciate you
Wow, loved this video! This is the first description of a sexual four that I actually feel like it connects with me. But I have to say there was one comment here that really cut deep to what I was like in stress “Don’t settle for the people who can’t handle the dark emotions because they’re willing to attach themselves to you.” - ouch! This was exactly how I was before I went through my own self growth.
So glad it resonated with you! Albeit somewhat painfully :/ I think those “deep cuts” are the true beauty or gift of the enneagram. Anywho, thanks for watching and sharing your experience!!
I dislike writing anything rn but you owned my tiny little comment. So 'thank you', 'spot on', 'excellent video', 'I love you', come on, have a bunch of these.
I knew after reading the descriptions of each type before diving head first into the Enneagram that I was likely a Type 4, but this was borderline cathartic after 27 straight minutes of my bleeding heart being called out. Honestly, I thought I was going to be a wing 3, but I have much stronger correlations with wing 5. Think the most surprising detail was that I correlate with having a sexual primary instinct and social secondary instinct when I was so sure I was going to be self preservation primary and sexual secondary with social repressed. It just makes too much sense when broken down, though. It's eerie how we can be so accurately distilled into some numbers on a chart, but I know that's the wrong way of looking at the Enneagram. It does feel empowering and freeing to hear some of this summed up in the context of philosophy. Plus, the Personal Growth section hit me like a truck because I've been in a really, really deep rut for a few months now, and I needed to hear it.
I just found out about all this! I'm not sure, it seems like I'm a 4w5. This was very detailed and informative. I'm wanting to delve deeper into all this. I love writing and I always strive to understand them better.
Glad you've found the enneagram! Hope my content helps as you continue to reflect on your type. The enneagram institute is full of helpful resources as well :)
I’m a 4. Talented singer, songwriter, musician. My recorded songs are ignored by radio and people. I couldn’t be happier with my songs. Melodic, poppy and interesting lyrics. Space Engineer, Memory Trip (TH-cam album) Spotify, Sound Cloud.
I've yet to check your other type vids out, but this right here, is the most concise, engaging, & accurate depiction of this type I've viewed on TH-cam (in 11 years of various typology system adventures). I hope you keep at it 💯🫡✅💪🏼😎
I have been suffering with depression off and on my entire life, and I retrospect I can see how as I child I had attached myself to some negative emotions that felt real. Truly years of therapy, meditation/medication and even the 1000s of people I’ve met and I hadn’t been able to make sense of myself. Then today my homie told me about enneagrams and how type 4 felt most real to me. Then I see this and am in tears from -actually- being seen/understood for the first time in maybe 7 years. I believe I can start healing now.
wow I have just recently found out I am a 4. I am also a Sagittarius Sun, Sag moon and Scorpio rising with a lot of other Scorpio placements. While I consider myself an ambivert, I tend to withdraw into myself a lot. I love deep dark emotions, it´s such a beautiful part of life! I am going through a tough time feeling ¨part of the group¨ in my friendships but it has been like this all my life. Like I have friends but I never felt like they truly understood me. Only a select few do and I am grateful for them. I also have an elitist view of myself and I do think I am special than most which is a horrible thing to think but I´m working on it. This is all so dang accurate and is helping me on my journey to finding my true self, which seems never ending. haha. My goal is to stop this victim mentality. i am meditating daily which helps me a ton. Also, I married a French guy and Tokyo, Japan is my favorite city on earth! I am also a freelance nail art content creator and I enjoy working on my own and having my own business! Thanks for all of this, it really helps to understand why I am the way that I am and how I can apply these tips to becoming the best version of my 4 self
I’ve been trying to type myself forever. This is the only enneagram video I’ve gotten mad at and had to pause it. I’m a sx 4. Damn. Thanks for this video.
I’m a 4w5 and INTJ. My father is likely a 1 and abused me mentally, emotionally and financially my whole life. I have removed him and I will not surrender to suffering again. I have naturally integrated to One thanks to therapy throughout my teens to present and my importance on reason with honoring emotions. I have been too harsh on myself, though, so I am taking time to integrate within. I love and hate the world. It is sick and painful, but humanity’s love persists and shines in many odd corners :) I will be happy and so will you all! I yearn to be a great artist. I hope I can encourage the world to cherish their hearts.
Glad you enjoyed it! Interesting thought about Russia... their literature, ballet, and other artistic excellence set against the bleak, snowy backdrop would align with that too.
I'm a 4, but, based on the descriptions provided, I can relate to both the 3 and 5 wings. At heart, I am a very "out there" person. But financial responsibilities (i.e. student loans) have forced me to play the 9 to 5 game, so I have lost a bit of whimsy over the years. Well, it's still there, just hidden beneath layers of adulthood. The one thing that still allows me to access it, though, is music. So I'm very grateful for that.
You are truly gifted in your encyclopaedic knowledge of the enneagram, and ability to teach it and communicate in such an engaging and informative way., 10/10 or A++ 👏👏👏👏👏
This is brilliant- thank you so much for the insight. Now to fight the feeling of being overwhelmed by another rabbit hole moment of trying to find myself 😂
Haha well I’m glad you enjoyed and I think the enneagram is one rabbit hole worth going down! Best of luck on the soul searching. And if it’s of any comfort, my best friend is a 4 and he’s definitely a great example of “finding himself” and practical self-improvement.
Thank you so much for such a well crafted and intentional video. I found this exceptionally informative as I’m just now learning what a type 4 is. By the way, completely agree with others that it feels strange yet comforting for a stranger to almost know me without ever meeting. Subscribed and looking forward to learning more!
I came here determined to be skeptical, and now I'm so called out I'm genuinely shook. The worst part is, this helps me understand why I have such a sense of foreboding around my plans to withdraw . . . but I still feel like it's something I have to do. Definitely not forever, that's not the end goal I'm aiming for, but . . . I think it's something I have to go through to make it out the other side, and on a level it's a relief to hear someone validate that feeling that this is indeed a dangerous journey I'm undertaking.
Just came upon this quote from my studies and remembered your comment. I hope this helps: "As soon as 4s devote themselves to a search for self by withdrawing from life, they are going in the wrong direction. No matter how necessary this search may seem to them, they must become convinced that the direct search for self is a temptation which eventually leads to despair." - Riso & Hudson, Enneagram Institute.
@@YouveGotaType Thank you for this comment -- it really means a lot. And trust me, I believe it. The thing is, for me the "withdrawing" is mostly a bid for control of my life. What I'm really craving is to build a solid, wholesome life that I can invite people into -- kind of like the cacoon of creativity you mentioned, I think -- but I've spent my entire life around people who ignore my boundaries and expect some level of caretaking from me, and that combined with me being really pretty introverted and never having the space to recharge . . . it's like I've spent most of my life too exhausted and burned out to have a life of my own, much less to be able to genuinely engage with people. (Not to mention these mandatory interactions make me feel actively disregarded. They're strangely isolating, in a way.) It's all so backwards, but in a way I feel that if I stay as I am, I'll end up mentally checking out forever, but if I can get away, to a space where I don't have to be defensive about my boundaries or mental energy, I'll be able to connect with people much more freely. It's just this sense that I'm leaping over a bottomless pit to get to safety that's got me nervous. Don't know how much I'm making sense, but I really appreciate you hearing me out. Your videos have certainly given me a lot to think about.
@@jimfarnham8978 Perhaps. There is a lot -- way more than I expected -- about fours that very directly called me out, but at the same time I'm not really satisfied with this explanation of the underlying motivations. I just wasn't sure if that meant it's just superficial similarities, or if it meant I'm the most four ever to have foured, haha. I'll check it out.
Very insightful, Cole! Love and respect to you. Type 4w3 here. You captured it all! Learned a lot about aspects I was unaware of - the instincts and triads. Immediately subscribed for your potent advice and wisdom! Peace. ❤
I just learned about the enneagram about a week ago (yes, I instantly went down the rabbit-hole the moment I learned what it was). I've learned that i am a SOLID type 4 with a 5 wing. It was hard to hear the first time, but once I sat back and was honest with myself I realized just how accurate it was. Reading it and hearing someone say it are different things though, so thank you for that! This video was actually quite inspiring for me. First thing I'm going to do is clean my desk off and get back to work on something I've been "working-on" for 4 months now with nothing of value to show for it.
So glad you enjoyed the video and that your trip down the rabbit hole lead you to some helpful insight 🙌Thanks for leaving this comment and best wishes on the continued enneagram journey!
the way i've found out my enneagram is just watching a bunch of videos and seeing which one makes me feel called out the most and i am feeling VERY called out rn
Loved this-so dang accurate. And helpful. When you went to countries, I was sure you’d say Russia. I feel France has an attraction to the glamorous side of type 4 themes, but it’s not really living there. Whereas Russia strikes me as embodying the experience. I’ve never been to Russia so I could be very wrong about that. Just a feeling, that’s all. Very fun and informative all around. Thank you so much for making this.
So glad you enjoyed it! I've always thought Russia seemed rather 6ish in it's adherence to a strict authority that has put them into centuries of war and communism. The France part is more about being the country most drawn to aesthetics (high fashion & quality art) while also having a kinda of melancholy arrogance to them...but all just symbolic conversation! No science to it :)
This clears things up a bit, thank you! Great videos - love how well you described the inner workings of minds. Amazing resource for a writer. I think I mistyped as four because I was autistic and answered 'yes" to many of the "most people cant relate to me" style questions and also value authenticity since I soent so long pretending to be who I wasn't. Thank you for clearing it up - will look into the other types. I know I'm not alone in the world now, thankfully, even though its uncommon to meet someone relatable. There's still a base level of connection between me and everyone thankfully but often there is a gaping void. (Not their fault. My mind is sometimes too scrambled to express ideas or communicate - I'd be lonely even with the kindest person in the world.) I'm currently working on verbal/written expression and understanding. I want to understand people to better write my characters and hopefully the loneliness will ease as I learn to communicate better. Thank you for the wonderful video and have a great day.
I think I may have found my type. 5w4 I looked up this types greatest fears... And uh. Yup that fits. For the first time since learning about enneagram types I felt a personal connection instead of "hmm that's interesting hopefully I can remember this and use it to better my understanding of characters and people" Greatest fears: Expending energy and time without finding answers Being unable to communicate/being misunderstood Definitely! Feel very happy that this part of myself is understood and thay I'm not alone or untypable. I even cried a little. What a clever system this is, that so many people can be understood by it. Thank you very much for introducing me to enneagram types. Hope you have a lovely day.
4w5 - thank you i think i needed some of the advice un this segment right now as i left my corporate job to pursue my own business and go back and forth often with mental confidence and struggle.
Hey man this is way too good and helpful an analysis for you to have so few subscribers. Subscribed, and thanks. I hope your channel grows like cabbage, as we say in Dutch.
I hope it grows like cabbage as well! Thanks for the kind words & support. It’s definitely hard to grow a TH-cam channel organically in 2022, but it’s still such a joy everytime these videos find their way to kind, interested folks such as yourself.
I quite don't know what type suits me best, but what you described really reminds me of myself. Since childhood, I was told "be special, don't do like everyone else", which can be a prerequisite for becoming a type 4. But now it became a problem, cause I used to be really creative and love making art, but lately it's hard for me to turn on the imagination, because I constantly think "what's the point, there will always be someone better than me." Lately I've become too eager to be successful and popular and and my hobby gradually becoming a burden for me, I'm afraid that I will stop loving what I do because of this. Self-pity is so similar to my behavior, because I compare myself to others and always find out how pity I am... However I don't do anything due to lack of discipline. I agree that it's very important for fours to learn self-discipline and accept their emotions. I practice these things for quite a long time, life has become much easier. You feel more accepted by the world and by yourself when your workplace is neat and you're clean 😂
You explain rlly well and im so happy to finaly understand myself and others better with your chanel. But i have a question😅 As a type 4 we tend to act like type 1 when we are healthy and productive so i was wondering how do 1s get things done. What is their method for being productive? Do they plan for each day, month, every goal or ? Anyone who is type one please share tips for me😅 i am struggling with self discipline.
Wow. I feel so seen. 😅😌 Thay advice about just doing small things to overcome slumps is so good. Sometimes that feels like the absolutely hardest thing to do. It’s easy to literally just be stuck in a slump and want to stay there or feel unable to move from it but just doing something to help get myself out really does work…when I’m willing to do it. 😅
I do my best to explain myself to my loved ones. I can’t do more than I’m attempting. I’m hoping through my research I can better understand how diluted my experience of this world is. I’m owned by emotion. After learning this yesterday I’m determined to stop feeling so much and start doing more. I don’t want to be held back by the single lens view of beauty of melancholy. I have so much more potienitsl untapped. If I don’t get a handle on my emotions becoming reality then my reality with remain and emotional rollercoaster helping no one not even me
As a long time student of the enneagram (a pretty way of saying I’m old) I love how dynamic it is. From triads to (new to me) tri-types. And I believe you are one gifted speaker and contributor. So very many “coaches” out there and they love to speak a lot while saying very little. I believe the instincts are the most important aspect of the 9 types and I have found bits and pieces of Naranjo’s lecture on the 27 types. If you have a suggestion as to where to find the elusive recordings (happy to pay any fees etc so as not to infringe) I’d be forever grateful. As a sexual 4 who has come a long way from the dramatic self-hating and therefore others-hating extrovert in constant competition with the world, as Naranjo called us, the “mad four”, I can see how I looked like a crazed 8 when we are almost opposites. I also believe Naranjo said we were the most ruthless, angry and competitive of the 27 types which is almost frightening (to others) because it comes from the most horrible pain (trauma the most common I have found). My point is that mistyping is almost always due to subtype and yet 4s are usually the easiest to type…while also the number or type with whose subtypes/instincts appear or present in the most opposing ways from each other. Thank you so much for the suggestion to begin with one seemingly tiny task in order to get to equanimity. As much as I detest the word routine I know being grounded begins with structure. We are a lot. But we truly love as much and as powerfully as we can destroy. God knows I still have a long way to go but looking back to 1991 and now seeing beauty in the everyday….was the beginning. I apologize for rambling.
I had a classic 4 emotion, shame, when I watched this, but also wow. So real. I’m pretty even with my wings, but 3 wing a little more dominating. Thank you for the reminders on how to look after myself. They resonate 💙
I find it a lil strange though, how it is glossed over or not really mentioned how a lot of the issues of thr Type 4 are congruent with childhood trauma victims. Feeling defective/issues with emotion regulation, fears of abandonment yet pushing others away (push pull dynamic) the feeling that something is "missing" inside oneself or feelings of emptiness, being hyperaware or hypervigilant of others' feelings and their own, as well as seeking out their authentic self (likely due to a disconnection from their authentic self in early life). All of these traits are commonly found in people who have experienced some degree of trauma in childhood, usually attachment trauma, or more specifically: childhood emotional neglect or abuse. It would be interesting if that were delved into further. I also know of many enneagram 4's who are neurodivergent, and those who are neurodivergent tend to have many more adverse experiences in early life than that of neurotypicals.
Yes, I agree that much of those traits are tied to trauma, but people take that world to mean so many different things that I don't want to skew the message that even 4s with "loving parents" can still feel unseen, or misunderstood. Our innate temperament has as much to do with it as our experienced trauma IMO.
Type 4 here! Very artistic and love cooking. Romantic and creative. Hosting a TH-cam cooking channel inspired to discover the beauty of life. Thanks for sharing the type of guide!
It finally dawned on me why deciding between the two types 5w4 / 4w5 never actually felt possible, fair, nor completely honest... Though undeniably being these numbers, it's also undeniable that 5w4 covers half of me and 4w5 covers the other half. Like 2 circles next to each other, but being a 3rd circle in the middle overlapping one half of either circle. Consistently relating to only half of either type. Making it almost always seem like I needed to decide/accept one half of me present in one type by betraying, disregarding or diminish value of the other half of me present in the other type.. And then you mentioned the "space in between"..... 👀 I can't fly with only one wing. My heart/feelings give meaning to my head/thoughts and they give reason in return. This crucial and vital combination in balance goes so deep, that bridging the gap between both head/heart to that intense extent, is because doing that is my actual core self. "It's never easy to see at first, what's always hard to hear at last" Essentially making type 'w54w' feel more full circle, hehe. Having it be two wings instead seems vastly more accurate [on a personal level, of course]. Anyway, Thanks for the sparking this weird personal 'in a nutshell' thought I had that genuinely is giving me some peace of mind about the ?which? of the two types conundrum hehe.
Glad they're helpful! But 1s can't have a 4 wing, they can only have a 9 wing or a 2 wing as wings are the types directly to the left or right of your primary type. 1s go to 4 in disintegration though, so lots of connection!
I pictured Johnny Depo when listening so it’s funny you mentioned him at the end! 😄 I feel like 4’s are fairly easy to spot since they are unique and artsy.
"You're gonna need to find someone who can handle all of your raw vulnerabilities and dark emotions that got brooding within you...but don't settle for the people that can't handle that just because they've willing to attach themselves to you"....ayo u been spying on me for years? 😂 Great work with this video! I originally tested as a 6 but it didn't feel quite right, so when u said that in the intro, i already KNEW u was gonna enlighten me! Also, nice touch on the sexual intuition!
Thanks for watching y'all! And please remember to hit that SUBSCRIBE button if you haven't already 🙌🙏💜
Call me strange (or not), but on account that you said: "please Remember," you (fersher) sealed another subscriber right here.
Respect💯🫡 😎💪🏼💜.
I have been researching and studying about enneagram types for a while I cannot believe I did not come across your channel before. Thank you so much for great descriptions.
@@MrSnowpaw1 Glad you found it!
hmm,I thought I was a type one,now I'm reconsidering that
Watching this while smoking a cigarette on the balcony in Paris…..
Sounds like 4 bliss... and honestly, just picturesque.
It's giving aristocrat
Something tells me you’re not joking. And I love that for you. 😄🇫🇷
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I had to pause so many times because i felt so ungodly called out LMAO
haha sounds like that classic enneagram feeling ;)
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You took the words right outta my CardioLogical process.
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Me after every other sentence: “…yeah, that’s fair. 😬😅🤦🏽♀️”
I just finished episode 5 and now I know exactly how you feel.
SAME😂
You know more about me than any therapist I've ever had...spooky.
Spooky is a good word for how it can feel sometimes!
I know, right!!
I'm just sitting here, in disturbed silence, as he describes to me how my mind ACTUALLY WORKS!!
It's uncanny, man...
Right????
YES. It allows me to throw away everything I have learned and what I should do from the perspective of those around me and that I was created in this rare way and to live by being myself and accepting it from now on even if "me" as a human is not common.
I’m a 4, but a lot of the traits named are most relatable to me from when I was younger. I remember in high school thinking that there was something wrong with me, and being so envious of other girls that could just laugh and chat without a care. But I remember on the flip side feeling so special, I felt like I viewed the world so differently. I was very expressive, loved all the sad music, and wrote poetry as well as painted. I had a feeling like everyone else didn’t understand me but that they also weren’t “good enough” to, so I was shutting them out really out of fear of being rejected.
Now when I look back, I have a lot of compassion for my younger self because I know now that it was a lot of self-loathing I had. Now I don’t compare myself, I’m at peace with my own inconsistency; there are so many versions of me and that’s okay, I love who I am (quirks and all and even those parts that seemed so shameful), I prioritize connecting with others on a human level and I fight my impulse to shy or push trustworthy people away, I accept how special and unique others are and love learning about what makes others so unique, I’m aware of my empathy and love to help others through their feelings, but will protect my energy when I feel I need to and I put boundaries to not let other’s feelings affect me as strongly. There’s nothing wrong with me, I just had ADHD, but there is nothing inherently wrong with that. I still feel soooo deeply, and it’s still confusing, but I can talk myself through it. I’m not perfect, I still struggle, but that doesn’t make me any less worthy.
All this to say, if you’re a 4, and you view this type as a negative, or it makes you feel like these traits are all you’ll ever be, just remember how much everyone can grow and you don’t have to define yourself by only your lowest points. This type is such an overall beautiful type. There is so much good in there and so much to love.
Amen to "There is so much good in there and so much to love"
I completely relate to how you describe your youth-I was the same way! I've also realized that my deep empathy and desire to help others have often taken a toll on me, so I've focused a lot on protecting my energy and setting healthy boundaries.
Wow. I really relate to both of these comments. Uh. I love seeing you uplift yourself and speak about the hard experiences and the good perspective you’ve gained. We should all remind ourselves of this regularly. Sometimes I find those old adolescent insecurities come back just in different circumstances and it’s so painful and awkward, but I have to remember how far I’ve come since then too. 🩷 Showing compassion and grace to oneself is just as important as showing it to others. And it’s more genuine both ways when we do. Keep being awesome!
I also have ADHD and am on the journey of learning how to release shame from that and overcome some bad habits and resignation. It’s hard but I believe will be worth it over time. Fortunately I married a kind one who helps push me into better habits. Pray for them! Lol they need a lot of patience with me.
Thank you for articulating something that I could never
Wow, this was offensive, and so fun!
Yes, I'm a solid type 4.
I'm just so suprised to see how accurate your description is.
Thank you so much!
Haha offensive and fun is a solid description of the enneagram experience. So glad you enjoyed it!
So offensive, lmao. I must be an Aristocat😹.
Yeah😅
This is HORRIFYINGLY accurate.
Glad it resonates haha
Thank you for your great insights! In my 66 years around the planet, I learned thirty or so years ago that I am a 4....from a family of predominantly 9's. I was 4w3 for most of my life, and quite comfortable with my 9 family. I have found my 5 wing emerging these last couple of years...notably in the autumn season. Then in late winter and early spring I start to energize like a 3 and become much brighter and focused! With time and wisdom, the penchant for darkness has lessened greatly. I am calm, steady, and very thankful for one day at a time 🙂
Thank you for the beautiful description of your experience as a 4. I'm so glad you found the video insightful. Fascinating to hear about the wings shifting with the seasons!
I can truly relate to that as well. When you're a 4 the weather (not only emotions that you feel right now) impact how you feel. When winter is coming to an end and finally spring and summer start to come you feel more upbeat and positive about life. You start to appreciate smaller things even more such as weather and beauty of what the season has to offer and more open to people when at ease. I feel like we are very absorbent in a ways so we also tend to absorb people's mood
the dot dot dot before mentioning 9s XD
i have like 4 9s in my life and theyre so uhm disappointing. they dont make me feel special nor wanted even tho i rlly think i am to them and im not speaking from narcissism here. they are so invalidating too i grew up w 2 of them in my family and even tho they didnt do anything- the fact that they didnt totally added to my trauma. but anyway good to hear ure doing great. just keep it up!!
The 4 wing 5 description absolutely read me to filth, I have never heard my biggest struggle in life described so acutely. Goddamn!
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My uncle was definitely a 4w5 Bohemian. He taught English in Paris for a time, worked later as a translator. He was a bit of an ex-hippy, into peace and love and expressing his own unique opinions. Tastes in Pre-Raphealite art, dabbling in semi-autobiographical writing and water colour painting. Confirmed bachelor, probably lived in the same way since his student days in the 1960s. I could sooo imagine him sitting outside a Paris cafe (probably Montmatre), smoking a cigarette and discussing art trends and expressions of deep/spiritual ideologies with some like-minded friend. He passed away in 2019 and I miss him a lot.
Man, I laughed out loud when you said France. I’m a 4 and a major Francophile. When you added Japan, I yelled, “Yes!!” I couldn’t believe it! I adore Japanese culture too and have actually always felt there was some indefinable similarity between French and Japanese artistic expression… films, literature, music, etc. My home is literally decorated in French and East Asian inspired styles! I’d say you nailed it.
Had another moment when you mentioned Anne Frank as I am currently staring at the whole shelf of books I have collected about her. She’s another lifelong obsession of mine. You should look up Hector Berlioz, by the way… French composer from the Romantic period. The 4-est 4 that ever 4-ed. Love that guy! Great video ❤
Thanks so much for sharing! Glad the countries resonated - although I can’t take credit for suggesting them (learned them from Richard Rohr). The Anne Frank connection was icing on the cake haha always nice to have the 4est 4 in the YGAT fam 🙌
@@YouveGotaType Seriously, this video was so well put together. Wonderful work! My knowledge of the Enneagram is fairly shallow, so I definitely learned from this. I came here because I discovered that Berlioz (my favorite composer) was the same type as me and wanted to learn more. I felt you were describing both of us! Maybe with differences in some of the subcategories… super interesting.
I yelled yes too. But at Japan. I knew it 😀
Haha, me too!
And when he mentioned something about Anne Frank, and I guess you type 4s really love to journal. I do! It's been a lifelong practice :) So interesting how these types are so accurate!
Hello! I'm a 4w5, and I have a lot to say.
First of all, thanks for the video. It kept me informed and entertained throughout! Especially about Instincts and Triads! :)
Well, anyways, onto my very Four-ish comment... probably.
You nailed everything about the Enneagram Four - from our brooding phases, the dark side, hating the mundane/popular stuff (guilty with this, haha), dealing with deep emotions of ours and other people, the imagined rescuer, and disconnection to seeing the beauty around us and appreciating it as they are. Even our sin Envy tends to stop us from being content with ourselves.
As for my personal reflection, I was disconnected from my family and peers early in my childhood to my teenage years. I have a Type One mother and a Type Five sibling. I'm not sure about my father, but he's probably a Type Seven.
Maybe this is a very Four situation because some people wouldn't say it directly to me, but when others do, they see me as a "very sensitive and withdrawn yet creative and insightful individual." Due to my wing 5 coming out early in my childhood, I observed a lot of behaviors from people and wished I was them or at least had their outgoing qualities. My peers also refused to teach me anything they knew, so I started to be independent and learn things they did not know or care about. This was when I got really interested in art and music. I had to dig around for hidden gems and share them with people worthy of my trust and friendship.
My interest in art became my passion, and I use different mediums to express myself (esp., painting and animation). I also have a very intense imagination which made me interested (and actually made it my undergraduate thesis) in Maladaptive Daydreaming. This made me talk about it more recently and even express my authentic self too! Yay, progress for me :)
I found some online friends (I've been friends with some for a decade) who could withstand my raw vulnerability and have the same intensity regarding imagination. However - as you said about Fours - I still undercut my genuine emotions as I'm afraid of "drowning" them or I am too much for them to handle.
Currently, I am slowly but surely integrating into Type One. It's hard to change my inner narrative of self-deprecation and self-pity, but I'll take your advice and start with the smallest things! I really need that now because I've been burnout from life recently.
Anyways, if you see this, thanks for your time reading my comment! :D
I'm so glad it felt accurate for ya and was helpful to some degree! I appreciate you sharing your personal experience and I'm sure it will resonate with many other 4s. While I'm sorry it's been an exhausting season of life, but it sounds like you've got a foundation of self-awareness to at least navigate the trappings of the ego and hardship of life. Best wishes on the journey!
You rule for taking time to write this. I relate to this and it shined a bright light on my otherwise bleak day. Truly thank you!!
Great comment, thank you!
My father was a 4 and this episode helped me understand him better and why he was the way he was.
So glad it was helpful, Lisa.
You, brother, are a gift to the typology community.
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I feel…so painfully called out 😭 I knew I was a 4w5 already but now I KNOW. Phew. Great video!
Thanks! Glad it helped lock in your type 🙌
4w5 here and this video is EXTREMELY well done. I've been studying the enneagram for a few years now and you've really done a profound job of ARTICULATING EXACTLY what it is like being a 4. Thanks. ☮
Thanks so much for the high praise!
So much of this is so scarily accurate! I think it took until my 40s and 50s (now I'm 51) to really harness the emotions for my creativity. I'm now in this sweet spot where I feel my head and heart are really working in balance. I've become very spiritual. I can feel my feelings but then go on with my days. I feel them and move through them or process or resolve them now, rather than getting stuck in them or having them stay in my body. I really love where I am at these days, and it feels so free!
I'm so thankful I’m learning about enneagrams at 24 and not at an older age. I’ve always had this looming fear that I’ll do nothing with my life, and I’ll just live in my mind. If I wasn't focused on emotion and insecure about my limitiions I think I'd live like a seven because that feels like me at my best. I was glad to hear that when you said it. Maybe its possible or just the fantasy version of myself. I want to be a four that actually does something with my life and is fun loving and contributing not the four that is self loathing into old age. Thanks for the insight 🙏
Best wishes on that continued journey towards your true/best self!
currently doing a uni assignment that requires us to delve into our enneagram type. your video is really insightful and too spot on hahaha!
Sounds like my kind of class! Glad the vids are helpful ;)
Woah cool! Which uni?
Advice for growth:
1. ACT: Dont try to feel or think but DO your way out of it - practice tiny acts of self dicipline, like making your bed (no matter the mood).
2. YOU ARE NOT YOUR FEELINGS: Notice, except and let them pass at a specific time and then move on - dont get stuck in selfpity.
3. BLESS OTHERS: Overcome separation and instinct to withdraw by offering your gifts to others, join groups.
4. COMMIT: Overcome narcisitic tendency by commiting to meaningful relationships, that can mirror and confirm a grounded sense of self and can handle your dark emotions.
5. BE KIND TO YOURSELF: Dont use our negative selftalk to justify your bad behaviors. There is a line between feeling guilty for what you've done and feeling ashamed of who you are. Selflove is like writing with the opposite hand.
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Exactly! Im 4w5 and i always felt missunderstood. Im an INxP (between T and F)
Definitely a tricky type for most people to relate to - but you're not alone!
Omg. You might be my personality twin 🫢
INFP woman with inattentive ADHD. I relate to feeling misunderstood. 👍
Also pretty sure I’m a 4w5.
🥹 Yes, I feel this. I’ve never felt so attacked and seen at the same time. Also INxP, F and T switch for me too when I test. Mistyped myself as 9w1 as a kid, but that was very true to who I was at the time. I feel solidly 4w5 these days
You're always so good with describing instincts - there is so much material available on this topic, but you somehow manage in these few minutes long sections to add value to the conversation. Well done, thank you!
It always bugs me when people with great content don't have an audience they deserve. Oh, mad gods of quality-blind algorithms, make this channel more visible! We need Colton to be heard! :)
Hahah I pray those “quality-blind algorithm gods” accept me one day as well!! This was one of the best comments I’ve read in a while, so thank you so much for the kind (and hilarious) words! It really does mean a lot to this fledgling TH-camr.
Will definitely write down your tips and stick it to my wall... I have SUCH a hard time getting into action and to NOT identify with my feelings, but I want to work on that 100% and adapt more healthy 1 traits - I definitely feel those a lot when things are going well for me :) I loved the categories and pacing in this, keep going pls!
So glad to hear it!! Thanks for watching and dropping this kind comment 🙌
Just recently learned about the instincts and instantly knew I was in the sexual triad. Your description had me cracking up and explained why my past relationships failed miserably before I got to my healthy 4 state. Though I do love that I can bring unique things to the table in my intimate relationships. Been told (and experienced) very spiritual experiences with partners… it’s magical. I love this part about myself BUT it does make finding a partner wildly difficult.
Glad you've got a good sense of humor about it :) And thanks for sharing your personal experience to bring some life to these theories!
I'm probably a 4 with a sexual instinct and this video was like a warning of a fate I never even thought of 0-0
This is a beautiful interpretation of the type!
Thanks!
@@YouveGotaType No problem!
4w5. I'm not consistently assertive but it's not usually because I'm timid. My main reason is because I don't want to act histrionic and I have trouble knowing when it's a good idea to speak up about something. Sometimes I think it's petty to be assertive but then again I end up being way more crazily aggressive if I bottle things up
Makes sense! Thanks for watching & sharing your personal perspective.
I so appreciate the advice of self-discipline and how straightforward and encompassing it is. This is totally the way to go. When I get into a depressive breakdown, it's like this breaking of a dam of negative emotions that I don't even believe roaring in my head and there's almost a comfort in the wallowing that makes me not want to stop feeling it. So the elegance of "do something small but helpful" is brilliant to get out of the loop of emotion. ❤
Just learning about Enneagrams and myself as a 4 & you Sir, have BLOWN MY MIND!!! 🤯🤯🤯 We’re you talking directly to me?!? I feel like you were since you look STRAIGHT INTO MY SOUL and gave it a BIG HUG!!! In my need for validation & search for acceptance, you made all my dreams come true! Now I am on the road of personal growth, knowing I CAN do this and I do t need to be rescued! BRAVO 👏🏻 👏🏻👏🏻 And thank you SO much for your keen insight! ❤❤❤
Hahah thanks so much for this glowing compliment! Love the emoji usage 🙌 I'm so grateful I could be at all helpful in on the road to personal growth! That's what I got into this work for so it truly makes my heart happy to hear.
I've spent my last 10 years mistyped as a counter phobic 6. I'm in tears after listening to this video. So many pieces fit. Thank you.
So glad it was a helpful watch 🙏
Phenomenal video! I’m a 4 with a 5 wing. You described me so well and definitely provided some important insights I couldn’t find elsewhere. I appreciate you
Glad to hear it! I appreciate you watching and leaving the kind words.
I came in wondering what a type 4 was. I came out thinking of my brother.
He does have depression and anxiety, but a lot of the “don’t let 1 mistake be an excuse for 99” and “be kind to yourself” stuff is what we’ve been saying for years.
He apologizes so often, one of his teachers in high school put the “GL [his initials] sorry counter” on the board - and that counter got pretty high (and confused more than a few students).
Thank you for sharing this Sophia. One of my best friends is a 4 and we tease him for having the longest, most elaborate text apologies.
It’s hard because they do enjoy the attention they get from expressing “woe is me” so often. They know if they get their life together, they may receive less attention/support.
Those tender hearts are so endearing and it requires such patience to root for their slow journey of personal growth.
Best wishes as you continue to love on your brother throughout his journey!
why and how is this so accurate?! I've currently been struggling with the tension of wanting to create and release more art while fighting the fear of feeling exposed... I didn't know that it had almost everything to do with me being a 4w3! Because everything you said was soooooo spot on! I will now become very obsessed with you because you've made me feel so seen and understood, haha! :)
Haha I'm glad it resonated so much 🙌 hope the new insight helps encourage ya put those creative passions out into the world!
How dare you attack me in this way, sir 😂 Excellent video, I feel so seen.
Haha 😅 Glad you feel seen!
Wow this literally made me have to look at myself and really say Dayum I need help. I knew that but actually putting in the work in a must! Thank you!🧡
Glad it was a helpful watch :) Best wishes on the journey of personal growth & healling 🙏
Thank you for your compassion for 4s in this video. I've read that 1's have a tough time with 4's emotions and I have had my fair share of run-ins with impatient 1's. :\
My best friend is a 4 so I do have a loving bias towards them :) but I can’t totally see 1s taking out their wrath on 4s because it’s where they go in disintegration and they can see themselves in you.
Here’s another fun watch in case you want to see my friend and fellow 4: th-cam.com/video/ZMUr1cRr04o/w-d-xo.html
@@michellemonet4358 Yup :)
I relate with everything… literally everything you said… I’ve never had this kind of accuracy with any personality test… thanks for making this elaborate video
So glad you enjoyed it! I too have never experienced anything like the Enneagram :)
Yo I just learned about Enneagrams and I think Im a 4w5.
I just wanted to say that the tips you provided are GREAT!
I found these tips for myself and I was soooooo enthusiastic about journaling and doing little things like doing the bed and organizing my desk.
I PREACHED ALL OF IT TO MY FRIENDS! They dont understand, which... well whatever, but... anyway your video gave me some peace of mind. It sounds like my life is finally heading in the right direction and I am hopeful for the future.
Glad it was such a helpful watch! Best wishes on the continued journey of self-awareness and personal growth!
I never knew anything about any enneagram until a few hours ago. Answered the questions, got the results, watched this video and my mind is thoroughly blown. I am going to dig deep into this now. I had always had a curiosity about the man, Gurdjieff. I'm really looking forward to learning more and feeling better about myself and my place in this world.
Glad to hear it - and I hope the journey continues to help you feel grounded & at peace with yourself!
This put all my anxiety and emotions at rest. I understand myself more… thank you amigo.
So glad to hear it hermano ;)
Yhoooo. Thank you for being brutally honest whilst sharing great insights. Much appreciated
My pleasure, glad you enjoyed 🙌
ENFP so4w3 here. This video helps me remember that even though I do have some unhealthy beliefs centered around image in my head, I am still much more healthy than I think. Oh and also wdym I can't just feel it out 🤨🤨🤨 I am my feelings always obviously 🙄🙄🙄
Glad it was a helpful watch ;)
Bro I've listened to like 5 of these vids, and the whole time I'm like- yeah thats not me, thats not me, this is crap, this is astrology pretending to be psychology... nope I'm a 4. I'm an introverted comic book artist that works at home and speaks to almost no one, that has yet to release a book of my own bc I've always been a toxic perfectionist about my own work. The negative self talk I can experience is stuff that can weigh me down for days at a time, I can wallow self loathing like no one else to the extent that when it passes I literally feel like I was taken over by a depressive force that wasn't me. I constantly self analyze and share it all with my wife. I had a horribly traumatic childhood etc etc... The point is... you literally described me. Damn. But now I know the actionable steps to take toward healing. Cheers mate.
Glad to hear the vids broke through the healthy skepticism ;) 🙌
Freaking nailed it. I haven’t gotten into the enneagram since I found out about it 5 or 6 years ago. I think I was a 4w3 when I first started learning the enneagram… now i’m definitely a 4w5. Great vid!
Love to hear it!
Been working on myself for some time - appreciate your clear, organized, and DETAILED presentation. LOT'S here to chew on and digest - thanks!
Glad you enjoyed it - and hope it helps with your continued journey of personal growth!
That "SLOOOOW" felt so personal for me lmao.
Im definitely a Bohemian Individualist due to struggling whether I should follow what my brain says or what my feelings say. Sometimes, they even have voices of their own (which im sure is definitely normal).
The primary "sexual" instinct hits me though no matter how much i deny it.
Oh man, what a wild ride.
I am IMPRESSED! Really dynamic and thorough presentation, Colton. I’ve been waffling between type 4 and Type 2 awhile, but know that the instincts also are super important in the mix, as well as other factors. Prob will shake out as 4w5, SP/SO, but plan to listen to what you have to say for type 2 as well.
I love that you acknowledge nature versus nurture, right off the bat - well done on that. Mostly I just want to thank you for such an impressive rundown on type 4. If this wasn’t created as a masters degree thesis, it’s not too late! Subscribed and sharing. Thanks again. Renge’ 🌟💕🐙💞🌟
Thank you so much for this affirming comment! I'm so glad you enjoyed it and recognize the effort put into it :) Thankfully though, my masters degree is about 10 years behind me at this point haha I certainly don't miss the homework. Thanks for the sub & share!
Really enjoyed this video! Thank you for putting so much hard work into it. I love videos that actually have good valuable information . I appreciate you
And I appreciate you for watching and leaving such a kind comment! The hard work is all worth it for viewers like you
Wow, loved this video!
This is the first description of a sexual four that I actually feel like it connects with me.
But I have to say there was one comment here that really cut deep to what I was like in stress “Don’t settle for the people who can’t handle the dark emotions because they’re willing to attach themselves to you.” - ouch! This was exactly how I was before I went through my own self growth.
So glad it resonated with you! Albeit somewhat painfully :/ I think those “deep cuts” are the true beauty or gift of the enneagram. Anywho, thanks for watching and sharing your experience!!
I am absolutely a social 4
I dislike writing anything rn but you owned my tiny little comment. So 'thank you', 'spot on', 'excellent video', 'I love you', come on, have a bunch of these.
I knew after reading the descriptions of each type before diving head first into the Enneagram that I was likely a Type 4, but this was borderline cathartic after 27 straight minutes of my bleeding heart being called out. Honestly, I thought I was going to be a wing 3, but I have much stronger correlations with wing 5.
Think the most surprising detail was that I correlate with having a sexual primary instinct and social secondary instinct when I was so sure I was going to be self preservation primary and sexual secondary with social repressed. It just makes too much sense when broken down, though.
It's eerie how we can be so accurately distilled into some numbers on a chart, but I know that's the wrong way of looking at the Enneagram. It does feel empowering and freeing to hear some of this summed up in the context of philosophy. Plus, the Personal Growth section hit me like a truck because I've been in a really, really deep rut for a few months now, and I needed to hear it.
Thank you so much for sharing a bit of your journey, and I'm happy to hear it was a helpful watch!
I just found out about all this! I'm not sure, it seems like I'm a 4w5. This was very detailed and informative. I'm wanting to delve deeper into all this. I love writing and I always strive to understand them better.
Glad you've found the enneagram! Hope my content helps as you continue to reflect on your type. The enneagram institute is full of helpful resources as well :)
I’m a 4. Talented singer, songwriter, musician. My recorded songs are ignored by radio and people. I couldn’t be happier with my songs. Melodic, poppy and interesting lyrics. Space Engineer, Memory Trip (TH-cam album) Spotify, Sound Cloud.
So how does this correlate to your journey of self-awareness?
This has to be the most useful TH-cam video I have ever seen! Thank you!
Damn, I'm glad to hear it was so helpful!
This is probably the best video that I've ever seen on type 4s. Keep up the good work man 👏
Thanks so much Rathan!! I appreciate ya watching and leaving the kind words. Definitely put a lot of work into them!
I've yet to check your other type vids out, but this right here, is the most concise, engaging, & accurate depiction of this type I've viewed on TH-cam (in 11 years of various typology system adventures). I hope you keep at it 💯🫡✅💪🏼😎
Love to hear it!
I have been suffering with depression off and on my entire life, and I retrospect I can see how as I child I had attached myself to some negative emotions that felt real.
Truly years of therapy, meditation/medication and even the 1000s of people I’ve met and I hadn’t been able to make sense of myself.
Then today my homie told me about enneagrams and how type 4 felt most real to me. Then I see this and am in tears from -actually- being seen/understood for the first time in maybe 7 years. I believe I can start healing now.
wow I have just recently found out I am a 4. I am also a Sagittarius Sun, Sag moon and Scorpio rising with a lot of other Scorpio placements. While I consider myself an ambivert, I tend to withdraw into myself a lot. I love deep dark emotions, it´s such a beautiful part of life! I am going through a tough time feeling ¨part of the group¨ in my friendships but it has been like this all my life. Like I have friends but I never felt like they truly understood me. Only a select few do and I am grateful for them. I also have an elitist view of myself and I do think I am special than most which is a horrible thing to think but I´m working on it. This is all so dang accurate and is helping me on my journey to finding my true self, which seems never ending. haha. My goal is to stop this victim mentality. i am meditating daily which helps me a ton. Also, I married a French guy and Tokyo, Japan is my favorite city on earth! I am also a freelance nail art content creator and I enjoy working on my own and having my own business! Thanks for all of this, it really helps to understand why I am the way that I am and how I can apply these tips to becoming the best version of my 4 self
Thanks for sharing, and glad it resonated in so many areas!
I’ve been trying to type myself forever. This is the only enneagram video I’ve gotten mad at and had to pause it.
I’m a sx 4. Damn. Thanks for this video.
Definitely sounds like the classic enneagram feeling when you hit your type ;) Glad it was a helpful watch!
I’m a 4w5 and INTJ. My father is likely a 1 and abused me mentally, emotionally and financially my whole life. I have removed him and I will not surrender to suffering again. I have naturally integrated to One thanks to therapy throughout my teens to present and my importance on reason with honoring emotions. I have been too harsh on myself, though, so I am taking time to integrate within. I love and hate the world. It is sick and painful, but humanity’s love persists and shines in many odd corners :) I will be happy and so will you all! I yearn to be a great artist. I hope I can encourage the world to cherish their hearts.
Great comprehensive overview!
As a type 4 wing 5, I of think of Russia as my spirit country for their long-suffering view of life and tragic stories.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Interesting thought about Russia... their literature, ballet, and other artistic excellence set against the bleak, snowy backdrop would align with that too.
I'm a 4, but, based on the descriptions provided, I can relate to both the 3 and 5 wings. At heart, I am a very "out there" person. But financial responsibilities (i.e. student loans) have forced me to play the 9 to 5 game, so I have lost a bit of whimsy over the years. Well, it's still there, just hidden beneath layers of adulthood. The one thing that still allows me to access it, though, is music. So I'm very grateful for that.
Thanks for sharing 🙏
You are truly gifted in your encyclopaedic knowledge of the enneagram, and ability to teach it and communicate in such an engaging and informative way., 10/10 or A++ 👏👏👏👏👏
Thank you so much! You're to kind 🙌
Wow I can’t express to you my gratitude! I’ve been researching for five years and this is top ten understanding of fours I can vouch for. Thank you!
Thank you so much! Glad you found the channel so helpful/accurate.
This is brilliant- thank you so much for the insight. Now to fight the feeling of being overwhelmed by another rabbit hole moment of trying to find myself 😂
Haha well I’m glad you enjoyed and I think the enneagram is one rabbit hole worth going down! Best of luck on the soul searching. And if it’s of any comfort, my best friend is a 4 and he’s definitely a great example of “finding himself” and practical self-improvement.
enfj 4w3 here, nailed ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING holy shit
Thank you so much for such a well crafted and intentional video. I found this exceptionally informative as I’m just now learning what a type 4 is. By the way, completely agree with others that it feels strange yet comforting for a stranger to almost know me without ever meeting. Subscribed and looking forward to learning more!
Thanks so much Spencer! It's always great to hear this video resonates with folks, and I very much appreciate the sub!
I came here determined to be skeptical, and now I'm so called out I'm genuinely shook. The worst part is, this helps me understand why I have such a sense of foreboding around my plans to withdraw . . . but I still feel like it's something I have to do. Definitely not forever, that's not the end goal I'm aiming for, but . . . I think it's something I have to go through to make it out the other side, and on a level it's a relief to hear someone validate that feeling that this is indeed a dangerous journey I'm undertaking.
It's a complex journey indeed. Glad the video was a helpful watch, and best wishes on the continued journey of self-awareness/self-acceptance 🙏
Just came upon this quote from my studies and remembered your comment. I hope this helps:
"As soon as 4s devote themselves to a search for self by withdrawing from life, they are going in the wrong direction. No matter how necessary this search may seem to them, they must become convinced that the direct search for self is a temptation which eventually leads to despair." - Riso & Hudson, Enneagram Institute.
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Thank you for this comment -- it really means a lot. And trust me, I believe it.
The thing is, for me the "withdrawing" is mostly a bid for control of my life. What I'm really craving is to build a solid, wholesome life that I can invite people into -- kind of like the cacoon of creativity you mentioned, I think -- but I've spent my entire life around people who ignore my boundaries and expect some level of caretaking from me, and that combined with me being really pretty introverted and never having the space to recharge . . . it's like I've spent most of my life too exhausted and burned out to have a life of my own, much less to be able to genuinely engage with people. (Not to mention these mandatory interactions make me feel actively disregarded. They're strangely isolating, in a way.)
It's all so backwards, but in a way I feel that if I stay as I am, I'll end up mentally checking out forever, but if I can get away, to a space where I don't have to be defensive about my boundaries or mental energy, I'll be able to connect with people much more freely. It's just this sense that I'm leaping over a bottomless pit to get to safety that's got me nervous.
Don't know how much I'm making sense, but I really appreciate you hearing me out. Your videos have certainly given me a lot to think about.
@eyesofthecervino, you might check out the 5w4. That’s what I am and what you said described thoughts I’ve had.
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Perhaps. There is a lot -- way more than I expected -- about fours that very directly called me out, but at the same time I'm not really satisfied with this explanation of the underlying motivations. I just wasn't sure if that meant it's just superficial similarities, or if it meant I'm the most four ever to have foured, haha.
I'll check it out.
Eli Jaxon bear had the most potent description I’ve heard until you, thank you again
Very insightful, Cole! Love and respect to you. Type 4w3 here. You captured it all! Learned a lot about aspects I was unaware of - the instincts and triads. Immediately subscribed for your potent advice and wisdom! Peace. ❤
Thanks so much Helen! Glad you enjoyed it - and appreciate the sub 🙌
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This is amazing! You literally just described my entire personality in one video! Gotta love being a type 4 💙
Glad ya enjoyed it!
I just learned about the enneagram about a week ago (yes, I instantly went down the rabbit-hole the moment I learned what it was). I've learned that i am a SOLID type 4 with a 5 wing. It was hard to hear the first time, but once I sat back and was honest with myself I realized just how accurate it was. Reading it and hearing someone say it are different things though, so thank you for that! This video was actually quite inspiring for me. First thing I'm going to do is clean my desk off and get back to work on something I've been "working-on" for 4 months now with nothing of value to show for it.
So glad you enjoyed the video and that your trip down the rabbit hole lead you to some helpful insight 🙌Thanks for leaving this comment and best wishes on the continued enneagram journey!
I have never been described and skewered so perfectly. 4w5 here.
Haha hopefully the skewering felt sympathetic at least...
Yea same I thought I was a 4w3 but after watching this I’m 100% a 4w5
the way i've found out my enneagram is just watching a bunch of videos and seeing which one makes me feel called out the most
and i am feeling VERY called out rn
That's def a great way to find your type!
Loved this-so dang accurate. And helpful. When you went to countries, I was sure you’d say Russia. I feel France has an attraction to the glamorous side of type 4 themes, but it’s not really living there. Whereas Russia strikes me as embodying the experience. I’ve never been to Russia so I could be very wrong about that. Just a feeling, that’s all. Very fun and informative all around. Thank you so much for making this.
So glad you enjoyed it! I've always thought Russia seemed rather 6ish in it's adherence to a strict authority that has put them into centuries of war and communism. The France part is more about being the country most drawn to aesthetics (high fashion & quality art) while also having a kinda of melancholy arrogance to them...but all just symbolic conversation! No science to it :)
This clears things up a bit, thank you! Great videos - love how well you described the inner workings of minds. Amazing resource for a writer.
I think I mistyped as four because I was autistic and answered 'yes" to many of the "most people cant relate to me" style questions and also value authenticity since I soent so long pretending to be who I wasn't. Thank you for clearing it up - will look into the other types.
I know I'm not alone in the world now, thankfully, even though its uncommon to meet someone relatable. There's still a base level of connection between me and everyone thankfully but often there is a gaping void. (Not their fault. My mind is sometimes too scrambled to express ideas or communicate - I'd be lonely even with the kindest person in the world.)
I'm currently working on verbal/written expression and understanding. I want to understand people to better write my characters and hopefully the loneliness will ease as I learn to communicate better.
Thank you for the wonderful video and have a great day.
I think I may have found my type. 5w4
I looked up this types greatest fears... And uh. Yup that fits. For the first time since learning about enneagram types I felt a personal connection instead of "hmm that's interesting hopefully I can remember this and use it to better my understanding of characters and people"
Greatest fears:
Expending energy and time without finding answers
Being unable to communicate/being misunderstood
Definitely! Feel very happy that this part of myself is understood and thay I'm not alone or untypable. I even cried a little. What a clever system this is, that so many people can be understood by it.
Thank you very much for introducing me to enneagram types. Hope you have a lovely day.
Soo accurate with authority figures but I’d only heard this about 6 sexual subtype. So grateful for this video! Very insightful :’)
So glad you found it insightful! Thanks for watching and leaving the nice comment.
I feel so called out, I'm shaken. *Especially* during that personal improvement part, like damn. You didn't have to expose me like that 😭
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4w5 - thank you i think i needed some of the advice un this segment right now as i left my corporate job to pursue my own business and go back and forth often with mental confidence and struggle.
Hey man this is way too good and helpful an analysis for you to have so few subscribers. Subscribed, and thanks. I hope your channel grows like cabbage, as we say in Dutch.
I hope it grows like cabbage as well! Thanks for the kind words & support. It’s definitely hard to grow a TH-cam channel organically in 2022, but it’s still such a joy everytime these videos find their way to kind, interested folks such as yourself.
those tips made me emotional 😢 thank you
Oops that comment is very 4 :( lol
haha all good - and I'm glad the tips were emotionally resonate and hopefully helpful!
I quite don't know what type suits me best, but what you described really reminds me of myself.
Since childhood, I was told "be special, don't do like everyone else", which can be a prerequisite for becoming a type 4.
But now it became a problem, cause I used to be really creative and love making art, but lately it's hard for me to turn on the imagination, because I constantly think "what's the point, there will always be someone better than me."
Lately I've become too eager to be successful and popular and and my hobby gradually becoming a burden for me, I'm afraid that I will stop loving what I do because of this.
Self-pity is so similar to my behavior, because I compare myself to others and always find out how pity I am... However I don't do anything due to lack of discipline.
I agree that it's very important for fours to learn self-discipline and accept their emotions. I practice these things for quite a long time, life has become much easier. You feel more accepted by the world and by yourself when your workplace is neat and you're clean 😂
you did really good with this breakdown
Thanks!
You explain rlly well and im so happy to finaly understand myself and others better with your chanel. But i have a question😅
As a type 4 we tend to act like type 1 when we are healthy and productive so i was wondering how do 1s get things done. What is their method for being productive? Do they plan for each day, month, every goal or ? Anyone who is type one please share tips for me😅 i am struggling with self discipline.
Wow. I feel so seen. 😅😌 Thay advice about just doing small things to overcome slumps is so good. Sometimes that feels like the absolutely hardest thing to do. It’s easy to literally just be stuck in a slump and want to stay there or feel unable to move from it but just doing something to help get myself out really does work…when I’m willing to do it. 😅
So glad it helped ya feel seen & was some relevant advice :)
I do my best to explain myself to my loved ones. I can’t do more than I’m attempting. I’m hoping through my research I can better understand how diluted my experience of this world is. I’m owned by emotion. After learning this yesterday I’m determined to stop feeling so much and start doing more. I don’t want to be held back by the single lens view of beauty of melancholy. I have so much more potienitsl untapped. If I don’t get a handle on my emotions becoming reality then my reality with remain and emotional rollercoaster helping no one not even me
As a long time student of the enneagram (a pretty way of saying I’m old) I love how dynamic it is. From triads to (new to me) tri-types. And I believe you are one gifted speaker and contributor. So very many “coaches” out there and they love to speak a lot while saying very little.
I believe the instincts are the most important aspect of the 9 types and I have found bits and pieces of Naranjo’s lecture on the 27 types. If you have a suggestion as to where to find the elusive recordings (happy to pay any fees etc so as not to infringe) I’d be forever grateful. As a sexual 4 who has come a long way from the dramatic self-hating and therefore others-hating extrovert in constant competition with the world, as Naranjo called us, the “mad four”, I can see how I looked like a crazed 8 when we are almost opposites. I also believe Naranjo said we were the most ruthless, angry and competitive of the 27 types which is almost frightening (to others) because it comes from the most horrible pain (trauma the most common I have found).
My point is that mistyping is almost always due to subtype and yet 4s are usually the easiest to type…while also the number or type with whose subtypes/instincts appear or present in the most opposing ways from each other.
Thank you so much for the suggestion to begin with one seemingly tiny task in order to get to equanimity. As much as I detest the word routine I know being grounded begins with structure. We are a lot. But we truly love as much and as powerfully as we can destroy. God knows I still have a long way to go but looking back to 1991 and now seeing beauty in the everyday….was the beginning.
I apologize for rambling.
I had a classic 4 emotion, shame, when I watched this, but also wow. So real. I’m pretty even with my wings, but 3 wing a little more dominating. Thank you for the reminders on how to look after myself. They resonate 💙
So glad it resonated with you 🙏 thanks for watching & dropping this nice comment.
france and japan - i wish you could've seen how happy that stereotype made me feel.
Just knowing it resonated is enough 🙌
I find it a lil strange though, how it is glossed over or not really mentioned how a lot of the issues of thr Type 4 are congruent with childhood trauma victims. Feeling defective/issues with emotion regulation, fears of abandonment yet pushing others away (push pull dynamic) the feeling that something is "missing" inside oneself or feelings of emptiness, being hyperaware or hypervigilant of others' feelings and their own, as well as seeking out their authentic self (likely due to a disconnection from their authentic self in early life).
All of these traits are commonly found in people who have experienced some degree of trauma in childhood, usually attachment trauma, or more specifically: childhood emotional neglect or abuse.
It would be interesting if that were delved into further.
I also know of many enneagram 4's who are neurodivergent, and those who are neurodivergent tend to have many more adverse experiences in early life than that of neurotypicals.
Yes, I agree that much of those traits are tied to trauma, but people take that world to mean so many different things that I don't want to skew the message that even 4s with "loving parents" can still feel unseen, or misunderstood. Our innate temperament has as much to do with it as our experienced trauma IMO.
I feel like your video is the most concise and easy to understand explanation as well as deeply insightful. Thank you-just subscribed.
Love to hear it 🙌 and thanks for the sub
I have watched a TON of 4 wing videos and none of them came close to what you just summarised in 3 minutes.
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Type 4 here! Very artistic and love cooking. Romantic and creative. Hosting a TH-cam cooking channel inspired to discover the beauty of life. Thanks for sharing the type of guide!
Thanks for sharing your experience as 4!
And your food looks delicious 🤤
@@YouveGotaType Thank you! They are delicious :D I probably eat too much of those haha!
It finally dawned on me why deciding between the two types 5w4 / 4w5 never actually felt possible, fair, nor completely honest...
Though undeniably being these numbers, it's also undeniable that 5w4 covers half of me and 4w5 covers the other half. Like 2 circles next to each other, but being a 3rd circle in the middle overlapping one half of either circle. Consistently relating to only half of either type.
Making it almost always seem like I needed to decide/accept one half of me present in one type by betraying, disregarding or diminish value of the other half of me present in the other type..
And then you mentioned the "space in between"..... 👀
I can't fly with only one wing. My heart/feelings give meaning to my head/thoughts and they give reason in return. This crucial and vital combination in balance goes so deep, that bridging the gap between both head/heart to that intense extent, is because doing that is my actual core self.
"It's never easy to see at first, what's always hard to hear at last"
Essentially making type 'w54w' feel more full circle, hehe. Having it be two wings instead seems vastly more accurate [on a personal level, of course].
Anyway,
Thanks for the sparking this weird personal 'in a nutshell' thought I had that genuinely is giving me some peace of mind about the ?which? of the two types conundrum hehe.
I am a 1w4, your videos are changing my life
Glad they're helpful! But 1s can't have a 4 wing, they can only have a 9 wing or a 2 wing as wings are the types directly to the left or right of your primary type. 1s go to 4 in disintegration though, so lots of connection!
@@YouveGotaType right, not wing 4 my bad, but It's always my second highest score, very close to 1 each time I take the test
I pictured Johnny Depo when listening so it’s funny you mentioned him at the end! 😄 I feel like 4’s are fairly easy to spot since they are unique and artsy.
They definitely can be easy to spot! Although artistic 6s and spiritual 9s often mistype as 4s.
"You're gonna need to find someone who can handle all of your raw vulnerabilities and dark emotions that got brooding within you...but don't settle for the people that can't handle that just because they've willing to attach themselves to you"....ayo u been spying on me for years? 😂
Great work with this video! I originally tested as a 6 but it didn't feel quite right, so when u said that in the intro, i already KNEW u was gonna enlighten me! Also, nice touch on the sexual intuition!
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Incredible!!! 😢😢😢 Thank you!!!❤❤❤ relieved to know! Actually totally thrown that you know me this well. ENFP type 4 x3. 🥰
So glad you enjoyed it, Susan!
Omg. This is spot on. Thankyou soc 4 looks like a 7. I do but i know im not a 7. Its an act
bro this is gold. thank you!!! ❤️🔥
Glad ya enjoyed it!