@@adannapaul8248 dont you know their mothers and no else's mothers embody perfection? Hopefully he finds the one who can cook fresh soup for him every night. 🤣
We live in times when women demand the most and offer the least. I was telling my wife that when I was younger, women in the family came together to cook during occasions while the men contributed the money, now the men contribute the money and still pay to hire a caterer. Yet, everything that goes wrong is the man's fault
We had our first child 3 weeks ago and I had him via C-section. We couldn’t get any one come over to help with omugwo , even though I had a friend come over @37 weeks pregnancy to help me with bulk cooking. My husband is the one taking care of me , bathing, cleaning and taking care of our son , bathing and changing him too. Waking up at night and all. Abroad is not for the weak or faint hearted. We are taking care of each other. You have to work as a team to survive in this abroad
Congratulations on your new baby. God's perfect healing upon you. I can relate, with when my sis delivered via cs & my mum had eye surgery 2wks prior to her delivery. Omo, my sis really suffered bcs her husband is the type that doesn't know how to cook. It wasn't easy but God really saved her.
There are ladies that will not appropriate the little their man has done so far. Am in my mid 30s from my little understanding the laws are counted when one did not his or her TRUE love. I remember my mum told at adolescent that if I want to marry it most be that woman I will always run back home to meet after office time is over.
Congratulations on your new born. This is proof that Nigerian men do help at home when abroad so helping is not the problem. The women that claim that men don't help have ulterior motives and are using house chores as a cover. Men are not stupid. They recognize when it is necessary to take on house chores and many bend over backwards to preserve their marriages and avoid divorce abroad
I have been In Europe for 20 years. Everything you said is true. Nigeria men who are not ready to change their African mentality better remain back in Nigeria.
You’re Welcome ! The rights you enjoy come by way of the sacrifices ( fighting every war) my family partook in. The fighting for the Civil Rights you freely enjoy. Blood, Sweat,Tears and Sacrifices were made! Respect 🫡 the many Attributes we have Contributed, Hundreds of Thousands of Inventions: electric light, modern toilet, refrigerator truck, thermostat, security system, gps, door knob , elevator doors ect. You’re welcome to my home if you come 😻 love 💕!
African Men, when you rellocate to abroad; (1) Learn to read your watches and keep time well well. If its your turn to pick children.. you do that on time.. If its to get home so that your wife can leave for work, you do that on time... There is no excuse like I met so and so and we decided to catch up.. or there was traffic... or I went to see so and so...😀🌷 (2) Whenever you plan to travel.. you must say it well in advance.. you are no longer free to just mention it tonight, that you will be travelling tomorrow... Nooo!!😀😃😃 (3) When your wife is pregnant, you are pregnant too. You must attend all hospital visits.. Its not like you ask your mother or your sister to go with her.. According to them in the hospital /clinic, you are pregnant too...😀 (4) Remember to always prepare and carry your lunch...😀
I concur with what you opined 100%. I told someone before that one major reason Nigerian men complain that the wives they brought to abroad have changed and is giving him problems, I tell them that they are the cause. Simple! You and your wife contribute financially to the upkeep of the home, but that same naija guy will be relaxed when it comes to chores. Oga you must do it.
I wish l could like this video 1M times. This has caused alot of serious problems in our marriages abroad because some of our african men in diaspora refused to adjust.
Your greedy elders will be selling out Zambia soon to the Indians, Chinese and middle eastern people. Have you noticed the improvement of Rwanda, the changes are coming so you archaic men, you better start getting some council and get civilized. Marriage is a partnership.
Happy Friday. I am cracking up. It's the reality of life in Developed Countries (Canada, USA, UK, Europe, etc). As for abuse such as physical, sexual, mental, emotional (spouse, children, etc.) If call dont originate from home, even the neighbours, co-workers, teachers etc will call the cops on you just for suspecting abuse. Excellent preparation to migrate information. KUDOS Neze as you speak truth as is.
😂😂😂. Moved to canada with my hubby this yeat and i concur! For us, settling was pretty easy in terms of marriage dynamics because its the same for when we were back in nigeria. The underlining root cause for all the issues you stated is false ego and a man with little or no ego and reasonable in marriage is one who would gain the most respect and submission (for me). I share my experiemces on my channel as well. Nice video as always
You are so funny🤣🤣🤣my husband is well over 70! He cleans the kitchen after my cooking, he takes the plate into the kitchen! When I come from my flights, he prepares meal for me before I get home😎
Thank you for this video. It is a must see for many Nigerian men living abroad. I went through most of the things you spoke about. Thank God I survived with my sanity intact but I became very resentful to my spouse for not being a team player. Hope this video help other young couples.
Infact, kudos to you, you’ve learnt and studied your new environment so fast. As someone, who has been living in the diaspora for over 3 decades, I can confirm that you nailed it so hard on the head, you have addressed all the factors that can either sustain a home/relationship/good parenting or break a home. All it takes is learning and unlearning in order to acquire the right mindset. The Almighty God will help us to adapt to the new environment we find ourselves and create the right spirit in us, so that, we can unlearn all the archaic mentalities that are inborn IJN🙏
Neze, you are so correct. You can imagine me being the only child of my parents with lots of house helps growing up. Now traveled to USA with only my husband and having four children abroad without no help. It has only been the support from my husband and God. But I know it could have been different if we were back home.
You can also bring househelps to the US. However, many 9ja women cannot imagine treating househelps as actual human beings with respect etc. Most househelps in Nigeria are used as slaves.
@@chikeziekezinwaoha1970 thanks alot pls tell her to go back to her primitive and poor backward Nigeria without meaning , the so called Nigeria complain every where yet their are not the one developed the country their are enjoying
My dear, what you said in this video is absolutely correct and a wise advice for everyone both migrated and about to. U know as a man that grew up in 3 different continents, I have seen and learn a lot. in terms of Marriage, the mistake most of do both male and female is that we fail to understand that marriage is an institution which hoth of you are students learning each other on a daily basis. as an African where women are seen as the home makers, it's quite different in other countries because way back in the days of our parents, women don't work unlike now that women works more than men especially in western countries. U have said it all but my advice to both male and female is that Marriage generally is an institution and it's more westernized in this 21st century, both of you should learn how to be a team player and avoid this Comment of "THIS WILL NOT HAPPEN IN MY HOUSE" Because what is acceptable to party A may not be acceptable to party B. this comment always happen in the midst of boys night out or girls saloon gistpoint. so avoid such and learn how to accept each others fault. As a traditional man, if you want to migrate with your wife and family, just drop that your chieftaincy title at the airport before boarding the aircraft, that's my humble advice to my fellow men..
The concept of women being the homemakers in Africa is a western phenomenon. It was never an African thing. White women used to be homemakers until the women liberation movements changed that.
These type of advice are what making all these women go crazy when they travel. You are a wife first and the role of a wife should not change because u migrated especially if you are a believer. Western women are switching roles and they are currently paying for it by dying alone or with a cat. The percentage of marriage is dropping dramatically in western world. The only thing we still have now as value is our culture and tradition in marriage so if we trade it and throw it away again because u re now in Europe or America you will not only pay for it our children too will suffer from it. Sarah and our mothers in Africa are not stupid when they call their husbands lord because that should be your god on earth.
@@fumeorji6692 There is something you are missing here, those our Mothers then doesn't chase carriers, they don't do any other thing other than raising kids but women if today are Carrier chasers and the level of Bill's that is waiting for you every month is not what a man can handle alone especially the migrants. so women work like men and they still have their in house duty waiting for them at the end. so what you as a man can do is to keep your ego aside and help, when you get back to africa where things are different, you can still live as you use to.
@@frankferdinand6571 My brother, I think you are the one missing the point. Do you think men are stupid? We know where and when to help. Women are dictating and switching roles. They want to be incharge and do whatever they want whenever they want. Only a lazy man cares about a woman carrier, u can trade your value for the coins she’s bringing but a value man didn’t marry for that kind of help. If her work will make her not to take care of me, my kids and home she should stop the work. Every man should be able to provide and protect his home regardless of where u find yourself.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂make i laugh first 😂😂😂😂😂😂. When i came to abroad earlier my husband was team fresh food and i was like oga here no be Nigeria ooooo,where i go dey get fresh ugu nd all that😂😂😂😂. And he was like ok be cooking small small soup whenever u are cooking,instead of putting them inside d freezer 😂😂😂😂. Today 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 my husband will be d one asking me baby, hope there's soup in d freezer 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. 2months soup still dey freezer 😆 🤣
My dear you have said it all 100% in agreement with you. Men have to drop their ego for Naija. Men get to reset their brain. You have learnt everything within a short time. I de wait for the women matter. We no get plenty.
You hit the nail on the head. I am about to dissolve my marriage because of all the points you mentioned. I am in the UK and he still behaves as if he s in Nigeria with all his negative behaviour.
Please sister, never think of dissolving your marriage, isn't easy to be a single mother here in the uk. The single mother out there have learnt their lessons and once they see any man out there, they are ready to take him. I wish I know you I would have explain more to you. Be patient and try to understand him. He will learn step by step. Wish you the best.
@@elizabeththomas3196this is not a nice comment. Do you know this lady from anywhere? Why would you make such conclusive statements about her. Pls next time if you don't have anything nice to say, just waka pass. It's not compulsory to respond to everyone's comment.
This is so true about Women beaters husbands, l have been a victim for so many years till l decided to take the matter into my own hands now. Many years of anger and bitterness. This is really true
Gbam! Neze, you have hit the nail on the head. I know people here in the UK who have divorced their husbands because of this issue of not helping with household chores and expecting to be eating fresh food every day. Even when the woman is coming back from a 12-hour shift.
Sis is preaching 🙋🏾♂️l am not Nigerian and l don’t live in Canada either but this also applies to any man from any African country migrating to the western world.
I feel you well and perfectly relate with it. It's already happening here in Nigeria and taking its toll on marriages. It borders so much on upbringing as well. Some persons grew up in homes that there was much love, peace and mutual understanding between parents. When such a person mistakenly marry a pretender in the name of love, everything starts going wrong. Do you wonder why a woman in her sixties suddenly it will seem, walk away from her marriage of almost forty years??? The truth is that the marriage actually ended long before she walked away. Most of what you are talking about here is responsible. It's just that the woman realized the kind of person she got married to much later. For those who can bear the trauma, manage to hold on until they see their children become adults or graduate from the university.
Facts as a Haitian who grew up in 2 countries this is so ever true. I’ve found ways to make things work with hiring someone just for the kitchen and bathroom every two weeks to deep clean. If you don’t work together the marriage will fail, especially in 2 income household where many woman are making more. Neze huh huh you always speak truths.
Key word "cannot control your temper AT HOME" 😂. I always say this. These men don't react to their bosses no matter the insult received. They will even be hanging their head saying yes ma, yes sir, sorry sir. Same coward will get home and turn their wife to punching bag and quickly blame the devil. Lose your temper at work now let's see. Fresh food kor😂 fresh water ni. It is always the men who cannot cook that demand fresh food. Anyone who knows the stress involved in cooking Nigerian food will not make such silly demands. The parenting point! Loud it for those at the back pleaaaaaaaase! A lot of men in Nigeria are just sperm donors and sponsors not parents . The ones that say they are babysitting their own kids or helping their wife watch the kids 😂😂😂.
So true!! 100% spot on. I have 3 kids under 4 years here in America. Myself and my husband work from home o. My husband would shower, change diapers, and feed the kids. We finally got a nanny, we pay $1600 every month for nanny!!!😢😢 ko easy
Preach on Barr. Neze!!! You're spitting facts and figures...Living abroad is a totally different ball game...But it's enjoyable if couples make up their mind to work together as a team.
@@PHlophewell, if they are good people, I don’t think you need to eject them cos they could come in as a much needed help especially in childcare. Like if I have two or more children, I’m certainly going to bring in my mum or mother-in-law to come help me out. Like I said, if your in-laws are good people. If they are not, please look for other alternatives.
NEZE YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT NWANYIOMA ❤❤, I HAVE BEEN IN GERMANY 🇩🇪 FOR ALMOST SEVENTEEN YEARS AND MY HUSBAND STILL HELPS ME IN SOME DOMESTIC WORKS AT HOME ANYTIME HE'S FREE FROM WORK, MY CHILDREN ARE GROWN UPS BUT HE STILL DON'T MIND MAKING HIS WIFE HAPPY IN HIS OWN LITTLE WAYS. I APPRECIATE HIM ALOT AND I THANK GOD ALMIGHTY FOR EVERYTHING ❤❤❤❤
Neze, I completely agree with your points. Since you have promised to deal with the women side later, I have to restrain from being preemptive. Lol. But I trust you will add the power of some women making real money for the first time, maybe, even more than their husbands, who supported them through all. I can't wait to see the sequel 😆
First time i am actually taking time to watch a full video on this channel...this made so much sense, and i laughed off my head 😂..your sense of humour is 💯 plus the igbo toppings 😂😂😂
Fresh food ! Hahahahaha I have two fridges and one big freezer is our supermarket and Restaurant for the weekdays ! Peak something to eat there until weekend where we cook for to refills I been living in US for 22yrs and I know for sure all you’re saying is truth and whole truth . Whoever denies has their own reasons to….
Ma Neze 13:30 you are saying the truth,am in Nigeria,my wife gave birth to twins, two boys,it's only me and my wife is takng care of the children ,no house help, the reason we where able to cope is because I as a man learn'nt it from childhood from my parents, when growing up my mum thought us very well, there's no girl child or boy,we well all trained the same.just like the way you trained your children.
You really hit it. You just said my mind. Especially on the team fresh food stuff. When a lady is trying to loose weight and can't cos of having to cook everyday. I'd so crazy
Neze!!!! You are a WISE and extremely BRILLIANT woman. How can I love this video a million and one times? You nailed it! Really spot on. I moved to Canada over 7 years ago and you spit nothing but the truth and facts. How you’ve been able to learn and know this much in just few months of moving to Canada is highly commendable and admirable. You too much Neze Peperempe. I hope the men with ears would listen to this video, especially with an open mind. Thank you for a hod well done 👏🏾❤️. God bless and keep you and your family.
Barr. Neze at it as always🙌👏👏👏 any one arguing with her points is just getting it all wrong, all her points are 100% valid. A lot is happening abroad with Africans who relocated. See the truth just like she mentioned, if you do not have a health marriage in Nigeria then you will have issues abroad especially when the woman is unforgiving. As humans we think and act differently and up bringing plays a huge role in marriage, What works for A might not work for B. I think in stead of arguing is better to add your own point from your view or experience. Chai i said my work is to read comments oooo but see me commenting😂😂😂😂 much love from Finland❤️🥰🥰 i dey wait for the woman version cos e go hot🔥🔥🔥🔥
My Grand father and grand mummy tried. Because when grew up i saw my grand father, my Dad, an uncles help their wives with domestic work and i think its in their blood too because my Stepbrother and late younger brother are like that. I remember growing up my Daddy was more at home than my mum because my dad was a civil servants and my mom is a business woman. My dad help a lot and he can cook. I always pray to Marry someone like my Dad.
@NezePeperempe As someone who once lived abroad with my husband and 2kids. I totally agree with you especially the first point. Based on the same first point my experience abroad has made me so skeptical as a woman to move back there as I’m still in the stage of nursing kids. I even went into depression at some point. Honestly speaking if not for our rotten system in Nigeria I would never think of relocating abroad. Uptil now I’m always flashing back the life abroad and it scares me but Nigeria isn’t an option.
Team fresh food people are just wicked. I always wonder how people cope with that especially that I never liked cooking just marriage pinned me to it. I’m glad domestic violence is not part of my marriage.
I hope my sons will listen to this. One of them is extremely HOT tempered (even at 34). And the other is extremely UNKEPT (even at 27). And still can not lift a broom. And yet they all want to travel. And you Neze, you are blessed with a "talking" talent.
Hei my sisita you're so correct, loud it o. Women has suffered especially we living out Naija, women should work harder and get a help they can pay to help them with some chores and errands. That's what's helping me so far
Much appreciated topic. A lot of migrant couples are greatly affected by the culture shock after relocating. It’s important to understand what truly lies ahead. Thank you for raising awareness Mental breakdowns are real in the diaspora due to culture shocks. I am wearing my shock absorbers waiting for you to bash us women too. 😅
Neze nwam,I love you so much.Thanks for this topic and explation.This topic you just shared is 100% coreect.Av been in America for 6 yrs+ now and exactly what you said separates families.Money and house chores especially.Our men are not brought up in doing house chores.But some of them who doesn't want to loose their family learn and assist their wife.Thank you once again I dey gbadun your Grammer even though some of them dey break my head.Greetings to your family.
I would really like to know, how many men on here are watching or have seen this video? Thank you Neze for making this video..i just hope most of our typical African men could just listen and see this video. I'm 100% with Neze.
100% correct, unless if the man is extremely lucky to marry a woman that does all the household activities alone and still cooks and serves her husband, I did it for years with every happiness, while he goes to work, comes home, had a rest and refresh to go to work again the next day, and our kids are naturally disciplined, not destroying things, not climbing up and down, but focusing more on playing with their toys and watching kids cartoons, so that helped the situation a lot.
True talk. Liked the part where husband doesn’t know age and class children are in. Typical or when children attend activities they say speak to my wife. To avoid paying any fees associated with it. But first to boast to friends and relatives of the number of activities children are attending. Abroad takes a different mindset for men who are willing to change and work together with their wives.
preach it louder my sister. you are not only talking about Nigerian/African men, Caribbean/ South American men too. some help in their marriage and some don't. i am so happy you you touch on this topic.
You should ask me, my sister, I had frozen cooked last year frozen cooked foods and am still ready to eat. You say good talk. I appreciate your speech. It is very encouraging and believed it will repair many homes . Thank you, Neze.
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Some of your words were invalid.
My late Mother cooks fresh food daily.
Lmaooooo 🤣🤣🤣
Then marry your late mother
@@adannapaul8248 dont you know their mothers and no else's mothers embody perfection?
Hopefully he finds the one who can cook fresh soup for him every night.
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@@mysteriesoflife540
Hear hear! Especially in Canada.
We live in times when women demand the most and offer the least. I was telling my wife that when I was younger, women in the family came together to cook during occasions while the men contributed the money, now the men contribute the money and still pay to hire a caterer. Yet, everything that goes wrong is the man's fault
We had our first child 3 weeks ago and I had him via C-section. We couldn’t get any one come over to help with omugwo , even though I had a friend come over @37 weeks pregnancy to help me with bulk cooking. My husband is the one taking care of me , bathing, cleaning and taking care of our son , bathing and changing him too. Waking up at night and all. Abroad is not for the weak or faint hearted. We are taking care of each other. You have to work as a team to survive in this abroad
Congratulations on your new baby. God's perfect healing upon you.
I can relate, with when my sis delivered via cs & my mum had eye surgery 2wks prior to her delivery. Omo, my sis really suffered bcs her husband is the type that doesn't know how to cook. It wasn't easy but God really saved her.
True talk
There are ladies that will not appropriate the little their man has done so far. Am in my mid 30s from my little understanding the laws are counted when one did not his or her TRUE love. I remember my mum told at adolescent that if I want to marry it most be that woman I will always run back home to meet after office time is over.
You have said it all. God bless you and your household ❤
Congratulations on your new born. This is proof that Nigerian men do help at home when abroad so helping is not the problem. The women that claim that men don't help have ulterior motives and are using house chores as a cover. Men are not stupid. They recognize when it is necessary to take on house chores and many bend over backwards to preserve their marriages and avoid divorce abroad
I have been In Europe for 20 years. Everything you said is true. Nigeria men who are not ready to change their African mentality better remain back in Nigeria.
This is a primitive and poor backward Nigeria lifestyle in the name of culture and traditions
Exactly
We are not getting married we are making baby mama's
@@animalworld3440 really
Omo ode
For someone with a family who has been in the US for about 8yrs, Naza is saying the truth 🙏
You’re Welcome !
The rights you enjoy come by way of the sacrifices ( fighting every war) my family partook in. The fighting for the Civil Rights you freely enjoy. Blood, Sweat,Tears and Sacrifices were made! Respect 🫡 the many Attributes we have Contributed, Hundreds of Thousands of Inventions: electric light, modern toilet, refrigerator truck, thermostat, security system, gps, door knob , elevator doors ect. You’re welcome to my home if you come 😻 love 💕!
Anybody can say whatever that won't change the fact that Nigeria is hell for the majority of the citizens.
African Men, when you rellocate to abroad;
(1) Learn to read your watches and keep time well well. If its your turn to pick children.. you do that on time.. If its to get home so that your wife can leave for work, you do that on time... There is no excuse like I met so and so and we decided to catch up.. or there was traffic... or I went to see so and so...😀🌷
(2) Whenever you plan to travel.. you must say it well in advance.. you are no longer free to just mention it tonight, that you will be travelling tomorrow... Nooo!!😀😃😃
(3) When your wife is pregnant, you are pregnant too. You must attend all hospital visits.. Its not like you ask your mother or your sister to go with her.. According to them in the hospital /clinic, you are pregnant too...😀
(4) Remember to always prepare and carry your lunch...😀
I concur with what you opined 100%. I told someone before that one major reason Nigerian men complain that the wives they brought to abroad have changed and is giving him problems, I tell them that they are the cause. Simple! You and your wife contribute financially to the upkeep of the home, but that same naija guy will be relaxed when it comes to chores. Oga you must do it.
If your wife is not your friend biko dont relocate the abroad is not for you. You nailed all the points Neze, welldone!
When they marry a white woman, they cook, clean, and even open the car door for her. 💯
💯💯💯💯
don't mind them.
Honestly
But the white women are very faithful unlike African women no way
I wish l could like this video 1M times. This has caused alot of serious problems in our marriages abroad because some of our african men in diaspora refused to adjust.
the part where you said "your own na to on the car and zoom off even if the tire is flat got me😅😅😅😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Honestly, this video needs to go viral.
This whole thing is about common sense and genuinely caring for each other as partners 😭 marry a man who has sense
As an American, you are on point. This is important information you're relaying. ❤
I don't even care what the video is about. I am not even moving to Canada. I just LOVE your energy. Much love from Zambia
Same here ohhh, she brings her videos to life
Her energy is so refreshing and entertaining and bonus that she is preaching facts.
Your greedy elders will be selling out Zambia soon to the Indians, Chinese and middle eastern people. Have you noticed the improvement of Rwanda, the changes are coming so you archaic men, you better start getting some council and get civilized. Marriage is a partnership.
Kai...the part of "women changing because of years of anger" is very true. God bless you.
The truth has been spoken. You will never understand until you're in it.👏✌️❤
My 2020 summer onugbu soup is still consumed deliciously with no complaints and thank you so much ,compliments that goes with it.
Happy Friday. I am cracking up. It's the reality of life in Developed Countries (Canada, USA, UK, Europe, etc). As for abuse such as physical, sexual, mental, emotional (spouse, children, etc.) If call dont originate from home, even the neighbours, co-workers, teachers etc will call the cops on you just for suspecting abuse. Excellent preparation to migrate information. KUDOS Neze as you speak truth as is.
Ikkkmi
Thank you👍🌹.
😂😂😂. Moved to canada with my hubby this yeat and i concur! For us, settling was pretty easy in terms of marriage dynamics because its the same for when we were back in nigeria. The underlining root cause for all the issues you stated is false ego and a man with little or no ego and reasonable in marriage is one who would gain the most respect and submission (for me). I share my experiemces on my channel as well.
Nice video as always
You are so funny🤣🤣🤣my husband is well over 70! He cleans the kitchen after my cooking, he takes the plate into the kitchen! When I come from my flights, he prepares meal for me before I get home😎
Thank you for this video. It is a must see for many Nigerian men living abroad. I went through most of the things you spoke about. Thank God I survived with my sanity intact but I became very resentful to my spouse for not being a team player. Hope this video help other young couples.
Thank God you survived o.
Chichi, if you are a Moda you need to make sure your son learns to split tasks and burden o
Infact, kudos to you, you’ve learnt and studied your new environment so fast. As someone, who has been living in the diaspora for over 3 decades, I can confirm that you nailed it so hard on the head, you have addressed all the factors that can either sustain a home/relationship/good parenting or break a home. All it takes is learning and unlearning in order to acquire the right mindset. The Almighty God will help us to adapt to the new environment we find ourselves and create the right spirit in us, so that, we can unlearn all the archaic mentalities that are inborn IJN🙏
Your very right, my relative in Canada separated because of everything you have mentioned. He only wanted fresh food etc.
You said it so well👏🏾. If you don’t adjust, abroad will adjust you.
Neze, you are so correct. You can imagine me being the only child of my parents with lots of house helps growing up. Now traveled to USA with only my husband and having four children abroad without no help. It has only been the support from my husband and God. But I know it could have been different if we were back home.
You can also bring househelps to the US. However, many 9ja women cannot imagine treating househelps as actual human beings with respect etc. Most househelps in Nigeria are used as slaves.
@@chikeziekezinwaoha1970 thanks alot pls tell her to go back to her primitive and poor backward Nigeria without meaning , the so called Nigeria complain every where yet their are not the one developed the country their are enjoying
@@chikeziekezinwaoha1970fact 💯 treating house helps like slaves is just pure wickedness.
This conversation is very important to have. Our Zimbabwean men need to hear this...😊
Our sadza eaters may not welcome this topic.
Nigerian Igbo guys are even the worse
Not anyone of them is better my dear.
My dear, what you said in this video is absolutely correct and a wise advice for everyone both migrated and about to.
U know as a man that grew up in 3 different continents, I have seen and learn a lot. in terms of Marriage, the mistake most of do both male and female is that we fail to understand that marriage is an institution which hoth of you are students learning each other on a daily basis.
as an African where women are seen as the home makers, it's quite different in other countries because way back in the days of our parents, women don't work unlike now that women works more than men especially in western countries.
U have said it all but my advice to both male and female is that Marriage generally is an institution and it's more westernized in this 21st century, both of you should learn how to be a team player and avoid this Comment of "THIS WILL NOT HAPPEN IN MY HOUSE" Because what is acceptable to party A may not be acceptable to party B. this comment always happen in the midst of boys night out or girls saloon gistpoint. so avoid such and learn how to accept each others fault. As a traditional man, if you want to migrate with your wife and family, just drop that your chieftaincy title at the airport before boarding the aircraft, that's my humble advice to my fellow men..
Respect ✊ brother
The concept of women being the homemakers in Africa is a western phenomenon. It was never an African thing. White women used to be homemakers until the women liberation movements changed that.
These type of advice are what making all these women go crazy when they travel. You are a wife first and the role of a wife should not change because u migrated especially if you are a believer. Western women are switching roles and they are currently paying for it by dying alone or with a cat. The percentage of marriage is dropping dramatically in western world. The only thing we still have now as value is our culture and tradition in marriage so if we trade it and throw it away again because u re now in Europe or America you will not only pay for it our children too will suffer from it. Sarah and our mothers in Africa are not stupid when they call their husbands lord because that should be your god on earth.
@@fumeorji6692 There is something you are missing here, those our Mothers then doesn't chase carriers, they don't do any other thing other than raising kids but women if today are Carrier chasers and the level of Bill's that is waiting for you every month is not what a man can handle alone especially the migrants. so women work like men and they still have their in house duty waiting for them at the end. so what you as a man can do is to keep your ego aside and help, when you get back to africa where things are different, you can still live as you use to.
@@frankferdinand6571 My brother, I think you are the one missing the point. Do you think men are stupid? We know where and when to help. Women are dictating and switching roles. They want to be incharge and do whatever they want whenever they want. Only a lazy man cares about a woman carrier, u can trade your value for the coins she’s bringing but a value man didn’t marry for that kind of help. If her work will make her not to take care of me, my kids and home she should stop the work. Every man should be able to provide and protect his home regardless of where u find yourself.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂make i laugh first 😂😂😂😂😂😂. When i came to abroad earlier my husband was team fresh food and i was like oga here no be Nigeria ooooo,where i go dey get fresh ugu nd all that😂😂😂😂. And he was like ok be cooking small small soup whenever u are cooking,instead of putting them inside d freezer 😂😂😂😂. Today 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 my husband will be d one asking me baby, hope there's soup in d freezer 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. 2months soup still dey freezer 😆 🤣
Always checking in because you have such a great disposition ❤❤🎉🎉 I just enjoy listening to you
My dear you have said it all 100% in agreement with you. Men have to drop their ego for Naija. Men get to reset their brain. You have learnt everything within a short time. I de wait for the women matter. We no get plenty.
You hit the nail on the head. I am about to dissolve my marriage because of all the points you mentioned. I am in the UK and he still behaves as if he s in Nigeria with all his negative behaviour.
Please sister, never think of dissolving your marriage, isn't easy to be a single mother here in the uk. The single mother out there have learnt their lessons and once they see any man out there, they are ready to take him. I wish I know you I would have explain more to you. Be patient and try to understand him. He will learn step by step. Wish you the best.
You are miserable,sad for you,because you need a companion ,you must stoop low and be mentally unstable because of an egoestic person.
That's sad, maybe you should try to show him this video
@@elizabeththomas3196this is not a nice comment. Do you know this lady from anywhere? Why would you make such conclusive statements about her. Pls next time if you don't have anything nice to say, just waka pass. It's not compulsory to respond to everyone's comment.
I hear you....
Thanks for sharing , this is how we roll here abroad. If you don’t want to adapt better stay in your country.
yep!
This is so true about Women beaters husbands, l have been a victim for so many years till l decided to take the matter into my own hands now. Many years of anger and bitterness. This is really true
Gush this video is sooo interesting.. Neze your delivery and humour is top notch 😅😅😂😂😂
Gbam! Neze, you have hit the nail on the head. I know people here in the UK who have divorced their husbands because of this issue of not helping with household chores and expecting to be eating fresh food every day. Even when the woman is coming back from a 12-hour shift.
The man is obviously insane!
Sis is preaching 🙋🏾♂️l am not Nigerian and l don’t live in Canada either but this also applies to any man from any African country migrating to the western world.
Thumbs up yet?😜👍🏼
Drop your comment..⬇️
Nene Penperenpe !!! What a good advice….indeed …nice job dear !!
Hi Neze...pls send me your email I have a question for you
Hello Neze, I really enjoyed this one, can't wait for my Husband to see this one, and it is all True. Thanks for sharing.
I feel you well and perfectly relate with it. It's already happening here in Nigeria and taking its toll on marriages. It borders so much on upbringing as well. Some persons grew up in homes that there was much love, peace and mutual understanding between parents. When such a person mistakenly marry a pretender in the name of love, everything starts going wrong. Do you wonder why a woman in her sixties suddenly it will seem, walk away from her marriage of almost forty years???
The truth is that the marriage actually ended long before she walked away.
Most of what you are talking about here is responsible. It's just that the woman realized the kind of person she got married to much later. For those who can bear the trauma, manage to hold on until they see their children become adults or graduate from the university.
@Ogheneferijomajoroh, you too much! Well said!
I'm just joyously amused just watching you talk😂, then I realize why it's so, because I can relate to the way you are mentally packaged!😅
Both this video and the one about women are highly relevant to African relationships. Thank you
Facts as a Haitian who grew up in 2 countries this is so ever true. I’ve found ways to make things work with hiring someone just for the kitchen and bathroom every two weeks to deep clean. If you don’t work together the marriage will fail, especially in 2 income household where many woman are making more. Neze huh huh you always speak truths.
Neze huh huh❤
Facts
Key word "cannot control your temper AT HOME" 😂. I always say this. These men don't react to their bosses no matter the insult received. They will even be hanging their head saying yes ma, yes sir, sorry sir. Same coward will get home and turn their wife to punching bag and quickly blame the devil. Lose your temper at work now let's see.
Fresh food kor😂 fresh water ni. It is always the men who cannot cook that demand fresh food. Anyone who knows the stress involved in cooking Nigerian food will not make such silly demands.
The parenting point! Loud it for those at the back pleaaaaaaaase! A lot of men in Nigeria are just sperm donors and sponsors not parents . The ones that say they are babysitting their own kids or helping their wife watch the kids 😂😂😂.
They're neighbours
She said sponsors😂😂😂😂 Well said o
Yiu are 100% correct about your findings. Love you Neze. Thanks for bringing this truth in the purest comic way.
Nice topic, our men needs to hear this, it's the bitter truth, welldone Neze💯
I love you ❤❤ Neze peperempe, your intro alone makes me smile. Today 😂😂😂 am waiting for ours ooo. Love from Uganda🇺🇬🇺🇬
Halooooooo Ug oyeeeee
So true!! 100% spot on. I have 3 kids under 4 years here in America. Myself and my husband work from home o. My husband would shower, change diapers, and feed the kids. We finally got a nanny, we pay $1600 every month for nanny!!!😢😢 ko easy
😳that’s a lot. May God continue to provide for you guys. Make peace reign.
1600/month is very cheap for a nanny. What’s you’re plug?
Preach on Barr. Neze!!! You're spitting facts and figures...Living abroad is a totally different ball game...But it's enjoyable if couples make up their mind to work together as a team.
Nelo, and the first thing to do is a eject moda in law and aunties .That way you have only you and your spouse.
@@PHlophewell, if they are good people, I don’t think you need to eject them cos they could come in as a much needed help especially in childcare. Like if I have two or more children, I’m certainly going to bring in my mum or mother-in-law to come help me out. Like I said, if your in-laws are good people. If they are not, please look for other alternatives.
😂😂😂😂😂 Neze! God will bless you for this topic. I beg I hope this video comes in season 1, 2 etc. The way I increase volume errrhhh 😅😂😅
You don't even see people outside talk less of saying hello. Abroad is mind your business , I mind my business period
NEZE YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT NWANYIOMA ❤❤, I HAVE BEEN IN GERMANY 🇩🇪 FOR ALMOST SEVENTEEN YEARS AND MY HUSBAND STILL HELPS ME IN SOME DOMESTIC WORKS AT HOME ANYTIME HE'S FREE FROM WORK, MY CHILDREN ARE GROWN UPS BUT HE STILL DON'T MIND MAKING HIS WIFE HAPPY IN HIS OWN LITTLE WAYS. I APPRECIATE HIM ALOT AND I THANK GOD ALMIGHTY FOR EVERYTHING ❤❤❤❤
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I love d way you narrate everything God bless u immensely ❤❤you are God gift for this generation. Keep it up
Nexe u Just hit the nail on the head.Instead of circumventing. The spade is a spade. I trust u baby. God blessings 🙏
Key point is “ do not start what you can not continue with” I love that Barr Neve.
Neze, I completely agree with your points. Since you have promised to deal with the women side later, I have to restrain from being preemptive. Lol.
But I trust you will add the power of some women making real money for the first time, maybe, even more than their husbands, who supported them through all. I can't wait to see the sequel 😆
Am in LA and you are saying the perfect truth, God bless you dear
First time i am actually taking time to watch a full video on this channel...this made so much sense, and i laughed off my head 😂..your sense of humour is 💯 plus the igbo toppings 😂😂😂
Wow!!! This is loaded. Fact! Fact!! The fresh food part got me 😂. Life is different abroad. Yes oo, changing diapers is important.
Fresh food ! Hahahahaha I have two fridges and one big freezer is our supermarket and Restaurant for the weekdays ! Peak something to eat there until weekend where we cook for to refills
I been living in US for 22yrs and I know for sure all you’re saying is truth and whole truth . Whoever denies has their own reasons to….
Ma Neze 13:30 you are saying the truth,am in Nigeria,my wife gave birth to twins, two boys,it's only me and my wife is takng care of the children ,no house help, the reason we where able to cope is because I as a man learn'nt it from childhood from my parents, when growing up my mum thought us very well, there's no girl child or boy,we well all trained the same.just like the way you trained your children.
Love to u , ur wife, momma & the twins! 😍🤩
She really did a good Job
You really hit it. You just said my mind. Especially on the team fresh food stuff. When a lady is trying to loose weight and can't cos of having to cook everyday. I'd so crazy
Neze you said it as it is👏👏👏By the way your sense of humour is top notch 👊🏼👊🏼You are cracking me up here 😂😂😂😂.Kudos ❤
You are so right. Totally agree with your points👍🏾
Every African man living in abroad need to watch this video, it will really relief African women.
Self control and discipline are key ingredients to a successful life. Thank you for your sincere and revealing advice.
Neze you've said it all. Life in abroad is all about humbleness and submission. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Neze!!!! You are a WISE and extremely BRILLIANT woman. How can I love this video a million and one times? You nailed it! Really spot on. I moved to Canada over 7 years ago and you spit nothing but the truth and facts. How you’ve been able to learn and know this much in just few months of moving to Canada is highly commendable and admirable. You too much Neze Peperempe. I hope the men with ears would listen to this video, especially with an open mind. Thank you for a hod well done 👏🏾❤️. God bless and keep you and your family.
You have finally break this table and you know alot of people are sitting pretty on it.
Barr. Neze at it as always🙌👏👏👏 any one arguing with her points is just getting it all wrong, all her points are 100% valid. A lot is happening abroad with Africans who relocated. See the truth just like she mentioned, if you do not have a health marriage in Nigeria then you will have issues abroad especially when the woman is unforgiving. As humans we think and act differently and up bringing plays a huge role in marriage, What works for A might not work for B. I think in stead of arguing is better to add your own point from your view or experience. Chai i said my work is to read comments oooo but see me commenting😂😂😂😂 much love from Finland❤️🥰🥰 i dey wait for the woman version cos e go hot🔥🔥🔥🔥
Without a doubt Nezze you are spot on. Well said, well done 👍🏾
My Grand father and grand mummy tried. Because when grew up i saw my grand father, my Dad, an uncles help their wives with domestic work and i think its in their blood too because my Stepbrother and late younger brother are like that. I remember growing up my Daddy was more at home than my mum because my dad was a civil servants and my mom is a business woman. My dad help a lot and he can cook. I always pray to Marry someone like my Dad.
Excellent preparation for our Kings desiring to relocate to another land. We thank you for preparing them. 🌹
I have been in Canada for 2 years. Everything you said is 200% true👏
I can't believe i have watched this video 3 times akready. Neze ijim n'oru!
@NezePeperempe As someone who once lived abroad with my husband and 2kids. I totally agree with you especially the first point. Based on the same first point my experience abroad has made me so skeptical as a woman to move back there as I’m still in the stage of nursing kids. I even went into depression at some point. Honestly speaking if not for our rotten system in Nigeria I would never think of relocating abroad. Uptil now I’m always flashing back the life abroad and it scares me but Nigeria isn’t an option.
Team fresh food people are just wicked. I always wonder how people cope with that especially that I never liked cooking just marriage pinned me to it.
I’m glad domestic violence is not part of my marriage.
You be my girl Neze, i beg tell those 9ja " i paid your dowry oga" make them sit down for 9ja kpeleketeee 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I hope my sons will listen to this. One of them is extremely HOT tempered (even at 34). And the other is extremely UNKEPT (even at 27). And still can not lift a broom. And yet they all want to travel. And you Neze, you are blessed with a "talking" talent.
Who raised them this way?
@Chataine92. Help me ask her
he better not travel. jail is waiting for him. that hot tempered altitude will land him there. he need to first renew his mindset.
Lol as you point at them point at yourself too
@@Chataine91you got me laughing hard 😂😂😂😂😂 who raised them
Hei my sisita you're so correct, loud it o. Women has suffered especially we living out Naija, women should work harder and get a help they can pay to help them with some chores and errands. That's what's helping me so far
Well said. This can really be helpful for those who dont understand these realities in Abroad.
Much appreciated topic.
A lot of migrant couples are greatly affected by the culture shock after relocating.
It’s important to understand what truly lies ahead.
Thank you for raising awareness Mental breakdowns are real in the diaspora due to culture shocks.
I am wearing my shock absorbers waiting for you to bash us women too. 😅
I am waiting too 😂😂😂😂 we need serious shock absorbers
Pretty lady, you have spoken absolutely truth. Above all 10/10. Much love, beautiful sis❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🫠🫠🫠
Very educational video❤
Neze nwam,I love you so much.Thanks for this topic and explation.This topic you just shared is 100% coreect.Av been in America for 6 yrs+ now and exactly what you said separates families.Money and house chores especially.Our men are not brought up in doing house chores.But some of them who doesn't want to loose their family learn and assist their wife.Thank you once again I dey gbadun your Grammer even though some of them dey break my head.Greetings to your family.
I have followed neze since John the Baptist days . When her channel had a different name.
This one was the best for me
I would really like to know, how many men on here are watching or have seen this video? Thank you Neze for making this video..i just hope most of our typical African men could just listen and see this video. I'm 100% with Neze.
100% correct, unless if the man is extremely lucky to marry a woman that does all the household activities alone and still cooks and serves her husband, I did it for years with every happiness, while he goes to work, comes home, had a rest and refresh to go to work again the next day, and our kids are naturally disciplined, not destroying things, not climbing up and down, but focusing more on playing with their toys and watching kids cartoons, so that helped the situation a lot.
Where are women like you in this world? I would give the whole world for a home maker!
God brought you abroad to open the eyes of our families back home to know that power has change the hand of time , thank you .
I love you Neze, I admire your intelligence. Praying you're called to the bar in Canada 🇨🇦 stay blessed 🙏
Ness you're really doing a fantastic job. Thanks so much my dear.
Barista Neze.....spilling facts😂..much love your Ugandan fun here❤
I too like you o Neze! Eh! Fresh food issue was an issue o eh until one day, I took my stand biko!
True talk. Liked the part where husband doesn’t know age and class children are in.
Typical or when children attend activities they say speak to my wife. To avoid paying any fees associated with it. But first to boast to friends and relatives of the number of activities children are attending.
Abroad takes a different mindset for men who are willing to change and work together with their wives.
God bless you
You are the best you nailed it. This is a must watcg for all planning to migrate. Waiting for the one for women.
I experienced everything you are saying, you are very correct
The energy you bring to your videos😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️❤️
waiting for part 2🤣, thanks for the information madam.
Bar. Neze, God bless you. I appreciate your candour. Am a great fan of yours
preach it louder my sister. you are not only talking about Nigerian/African men, Caribbean/ South American men too. some help in their marriage and some don't. i am so happy you you touch on this topic.
Neze!!!!!! How do I like this video twice 😂👍
But the truth is this, If you're not disciplined, do not relocate abroad!!
You should ask me, my sister, I had frozen cooked last year frozen cooked foods and am still ready to eat.
You say good talk. I appreciate your speech. It is very encouraging and believed it will repair many homes . Thank you, Neze.