00:00 intro 00:23 here's the first problem 00:55 this is not a baby's job 01:27 expectation vs reality 02:04 so very true 03:02 missing out 03:56 not convinced, sorry 05:17 pass
My perfect moment is every day when I walk around screaming kids and think to myself "such a blessing I can live my life, doing decisions good for me, spending money on me and my partner, animals, vacations, education, having deep relationships with smart adults and do everything I like...and dont have to drag any poor human I brought into this life behind me"
Did they seriously dumb down "pregnancy nightmare" to mean worrying about weight gain and mood changes? Wow. I guess they forgot about the whole "risk of health complications which can include death" part. Not to mention the 100% certain complication of sacrificing so much of your life for another human being forevermore.
I've had perfect moments. When I met my hubby. When I first saw the Grand Canyon. When I took a sunrise hot air balloon ride over the Sonora desert. The first time I heard my favorite lead singer shout my name across the room. The first time, I hugged Mickey Mouse. When I saw the Lion King in NYC and London. I could go on. You can have an amazing life without kids.
My perfect moment was when my husband got his vasectomy But I will say at 4:55, my parents planned EVERYTHING and my dad had a decently high income. That didn’t stop my birth from costing them almost a million dollars out of pocket in multiple brain surgeries right when I was born. My grandparents were even richer than them and still working, thank goodness, and were more than happy to help safe my life, as their firstborn grandchild. So much can go wrong, and sometimes you can’t expect THAT kind of situation. And my mom told me stories of other parents who had to “let their baby go” if you catch my drift in the NICU because they couldn’t afford the healthcare costs nor the surgeries. It was something big on my mind when I was discussing kids with my husband. And even as an adult, I still have medical costs that come from the aftermath of those lifesaving surgeries, mainly scarring around my organs, and it actually has me in chronic pain (though alive and cognitively healthy, which I was given only a 10% chance when I was born), and unable to safely bear children. It’s something no one takes into account. But it’s also something no one can truly be prepared for. I ask anyone who wants to have kids if they have enough money for a lifesaving brain surgery. Most say “no, god will provide”. And it makes me think of all those other kids that could have been my age right now who had to have the plug pulled due to financial reasons.
Wow, that is a lot for everyone in your family to go through. So glad you are here and that your parents had support going through such a difficult time!
@@WifeWithoutKids I’m so glad my family was rich. But it’s something no one talks about: health issues. It’s pushed as something that “never happens”. Never happens-my eye!
Yet another reason why I don't have kids. Barely made it affording basic utility Bills and a mortgage. So let's add a regular 10k cost for having a baby that's IF everything goes smoothly. If not, you're going to be in debt the rest of your life. No thanks. I'd rather be miserable without kids then miserable trying to juggle kids and over 100k in medical Bills while I'm suffering through Postpartum depression.
Wow, in my country, health insurance would cover all this so you wouldn't have to worry about this particular financial aspect. Where are you from? The US, I guess?
Yes! Myself I remember always knowing, especially from age 12 onward, that I was not having kiddos. To meet many school friends over the years, from about age 14, whom also felt the same was great. They still feel the same or even more so that all such was the best decision.
@@abeach5420 i saw a dude 5 years after my graduation 4 after his with a kid and i thought dudd 5 years ago we were getting drunk at parties now hes a dad yeah not for me lol
Some women when pregnant naturally break and re break their ribs (maybe just by sneezing) to accommodate the baby. If you don’t want to take that kind of risk with your body I totally get it!
Honestly, that video was pretty good. Especially the first part, where it reminds you that you both need to be on board for it to be okay. I was expecting some antiCF circlejerking that you would have to debunk.
It is socially designed like that everyone wants kids society makes it like the is something wrong with you if you don't want kids interesting video you are awesome as you are hannah you don't need to have kids to change anything
Great chit-chat Hannah. Your content is so very good for the many that are needing such if they especially do not have a social and familia network that supports THEIR decision(s). Happy holidays to you & hubs plus thosssse fab kittehs. I hope they are keeping you on your toes with C.Mas tree-ornaments shenanigans., hehe.
Thanks Hannah! Love your Channel, your work, who you are. I’m so deeply grateful. You were and are the biggest help in my journey from childless to childfree. 🙏💚 Merry Christmas to You Both!⭐️🎄
Actually you’re friends with kids don’t want to visit you because you are so fragile and can’t adapt to new situations, like interacting with small children.
@@heyikindalikeyou maybe? I don't care to be honest. I also feel it's because my decor is minimalist and beautiful and they don't want their kids to mess it up and then have to feel bad...
@@seltzermint5 I have little kids and in my moms house everything is made of glass: coffee table, media console, glass photo frames at eye level with toddlers..dvd case all with sharp corners too. she asks me why I don't visit...
@@heyikindalikeyou Honestly I do like my friends' kids and would rather interact with them in their homes where they are safe and I don't have to buy stuff to entertain them with.
I found out I have higher risk to fell in coma or even die from giving birth so... no kids also I am people observer and learn from their life... noticed... those who insist having kids are the first ones who disappear when you actually need that village to help! : D it is just a pure prank with lifelong consequences and huge joy to make others miserable!!
00:00 intro
00:23 here's the first problem
00:55 this is not a baby's job
01:27 expectation vs reality
02:04 so very true
03:02 missing out
03:56 not convinced, sorry
05:17 pass
My perfect moment is every day when I walk around screaming kids and think to myself "such a blessing I can live my life, doing decisions good for me, spending money on me and my partner, animals, vacations, education, having deep relationships with smart adults and do everything I like...and dont have to drag any poor human I brought into this life behind me"
They're so much in denial that they have to convince themselves you're not happy unless you have kids. It's really absurd.
Did they seriously dumb down "pregnancy nightmare" to mean worrying about weight gain and mood changes? Wow. I guess they forgot about the whole "risk of health complications which can include death" part. Not to mention the 100% certain complication of sacrificing so much of your life for another human being forevermore.
I've had perfect moments. When I met my hubby. When I first saw the Grand Canyon. When I took a sunrise hot air balloon ride over the Sonora desert. The first time I heard my favorite lead singer shout my name across the room. The first time, I hugged Mickey Mouse. When I saw the Lion King in NYC and London. I could go on. You can have an amazing life without kids.
Those types of life moments are incredibly special. 💜
My perfect moment was when my husband got his vasectomy
But I will say at 4:55, my parents planned EVERYTHING and my dad had a decently high income. That didn’t stop my birth from costing them almost a million dollars out of pocket in multiple brain surgeries right when I was born. My grandparents were even richer than them and still working, thank goodness, and were more than happy to help safe my life, as their firstborn grandchild. So much can go wrong, and sometimes you can’t expect THAT kind of situation. And my mom told me stories of other parents who had to “let their baby go” if you catch my drift in the NICU because they couldn’t afford the healthcare costs nor the surgeries. It was something big on my mind when I was discussing kids with my husband.
And even as an adult, I still have medical costs that come from the aftermath of those lifesaving surgeries, mainly scarring around my organs, and it actually has me in chronic pain (though alive and cognitively healthy, which I was given only a 10% chance when I was born), and unable to safely bear children. It’s something no one takes into account. But it’s also something no one can truly be prepared for.
I ask anyone who wants to have kids if they have enough money for a lifesaving brain surgery. Most say “no, god will provide”. And it makes me think of all those other kids that could have been my age right now who had to have the plug pulled due to financial reasons.
Wow, that is a lot for everyone in your family to go through. So glad you are here and that your parents had support going through such a difficult time!
@@WifeWithoutKids I’m so glad my family was rich. But it’s something no one talks about: health issues. It’s pushed as something that “never happens”. Never happens-my eye!
Thank you for sharing. That’s heartbreaking to know that parents have to “let their babies go” because they cannot afford the surgeries…
Yet another reason why I don't have kids. Barely made it affording basic utility Bills and a mortgage. So let's add a regular 10k cost for having a baby that's IF everything goes smoothly. If not, you're going to be in debt the rest of your life.
No thanks. I'd rather be miserable without kids then miserable trying to juggle kids and over 100k in medical Bills while I'm suffering through Postpartum depression.
Wow, in my country, health insurance would cover all this so you wouldn't have to worry about this particular financial aspect. Where are you from? The US, I guess?
My perfect moment was realizing i didnt want kids lol
Same here
We get our perfect moments too!
Yes! Myself I remember always knowing, especially from age 12 onward,
that I was not having kiddos. To meet many school friends over the years, from about age 14, whom also felt the same was great. They still feel the same or even more so that all such was the best decision.
@@abeach5420 i saw a dude 5 years after my graduation 4 after his with a kid and i thought dudd 5 years ago we were getting drunk at parties now hes a dad yeah not for me lol
...and no marriage and never share a house with a boyfriend! I do share it with animals, though. Lots of them!
Everyone has a unique path...as long as it leads to parenthood
Ha, right? Not on this channel!
Don't listen to them Hannah 😁 Listen to your inner soul and only you can decide what you really want.
I'm very solid in my choice. 😄
Babies are not babies. They will grow up! And will need not only money, food or clothing, but it is a commitment.
I knew by 18 I didnt want any! 18 was my moment. LOL Now 50.
Some women when pregnant naturally break and re break their ribs (maybe just by sneezing) to accommodate the baby. If you don’t want to take that kind of risk with your body I totally get it!
I secretly want chocolate; not a b a b y
Agreed. I’m all stocked up for Christmas. 🤣
😂 yes 🙌 to chocolate 🍫
Honestly, that video was pretty good. Especially the first part, where it reminds you that you both need to be on board for it to be okay. I was expecting some antiCF circlejerking that you would have to debunk.
I really love this,a baby will not solve all family problems, and having a baby is not just a magical answer for all your family problems
This woman is so fkn beautiful😩🙌
Like you said why don't they say that if you don't want children that's great too you can and will live a fulfilling life 💝
Totally!
"Enjoy it while it lasts" It will last FOREVER! FOREVER! (echoing) FOREVER!
I put my white pillows away whenever my nieces come over 😅
It is socially designed like that everyone wants kids society makes it like the is something wrong with you if you don't want kids interesting video you are awesome as you are hannah you don't need to have kids to change anything
Im Just curious how do these People know better whats good for you and what You really want😅
Great chit-chat Hannah. Your content is so very good for the
many that are needing such if they especially do not have a
social and familia network that supports THEIR decision(s).
Happy holidays to you & hubs plus thosssse fab kittehs. I hope
they are keeping you on your toes with C.Mas tree-ornaments
shenanigans., hehe.
Thanks so much and wishing you/your family a wonderful Xmas as well! Cats are currently napping so no trouble....for now. 😺
Thanks Hannah! Love your Channel, your work, who you are. I’m so deeply grateful. You were and are the biggest help in my journey from childless to childfree. 🙏💚 Merry Christmas to You Both!⭐️🎄
Keep doing and being you. You're an inspiration ✨️ 💛
The funniest thing people usually say is that you secretly want kids, I laugh at them.
Thank you for the insight bestie! Have a happy holidays!🙂🧑🎄
Same to you!
I have not had any of my friends' kids over to my current home until they are 12 or 13 yrs old. No kidding.
Actually you’re friends with kids don’t want to visit you because you are so fragile and can’t adapt to new situations, like interacting with small children.
@@heyikindalikeyou maybe? I don't care to be honest. I also feel it's because my decor is minimalist and beautiful and they don't want their kids to mess it up and then have to feel bad...
@@seltzermint5 I have little kids and in my moms house everything is made of glass: coffee table, media console, glass photo frames at eye level with toddlers..dvd case all with sharp corners too. she asks me why I don't visit...
@@heyikindalikeyou Honestly I do like my friends' kids and would rather interact with them in their homes where they are safe and I don't have to buy stuff to entertain them with.
I found out I have higher risk to fell in coma or even die from giving birth so...
no kids
also I am people observer and learn from their life...
noticed... those who insist having kids are the first
ones who disappear when you actually need that village
to help! : D
it is just a pure prank with lifelong consequences and huge joy to make others miserable!!
Perfect✌
I'm often getting pro-baby advertisment when I'm watching childfree content. It's hilarious. 🌝
This was not what I was expecting, based on that title.
I can help on the secret baby 😅