This video explores the phenomenon of loneliness, especially with respect to the dynamics of spiritual kinship. There's also some stuff on Martin Buber's I-Thou relation.
Time stamps: 0:13 - Loneliness vs. solitude, constitutional factors, seasons of life 1:51 What is the essential ingredient of loneliness? 2:24- The depth of our relationships: Being seen & understood 3:09 - Understanding each other versus judging each other 4:33 Martin Buber: -Thou relation versus I-It objectification 5:56 Companionship: Breaking bread & sharing nourishment 6:52- Spiritual kinship 7:43 Waiting for a sign from one of my kind 8:45 - Making ourselves available to our spiritual kin 9:33 Being who we are: Courage, struggle and the art of allowing 12:33 Honoring our struggles to reclaim our lives 13:18 - Loneliness & The transformative power of exhaustion Thinkers & authors cited in this video.. Martin Buber (4:33) James Carse (5:42) Concrete Blonde (8:15) Shunryu Suzuki (12:22, 12:55)
Friendship is the meeting of kindred spirits; romantic love is the meeting of neurotics who feed each other's needs. (Nice monologue on loneliness, Il Professore.)
To be 42nd commenter is very deeply satisfying. Your companionship is Gold. Though sour dough, your free to watch channel really pumps my nickel. Rock on E.D.
Ha ha... Well, it seems like you have found the answer to life, the universe and everything. And hopefully that answer will leaven your existence, and keep you from becoming too wry. Eric D.
You might want to check out the channel call MGTOW is Freedom, the host has been through divorce after a 20 years relationship. See if it can help you.
The struggle and eventually exhaustion might be necessary to feel that self acceptance. Yeah I like that. Struggle we must. I love to cry. That helps so much, but I can only do it very rarely. Once I do I feel so peaceful and enlightened.
9:19 Right!!!? I've been saying and thinking this for a long while now, you're the first I've heard say the same. Cool to hear my belief validated, haha
Would you mind doing a video on "Over ambition" ? Where does ambition end and over ambition start? I'm often told to slow down, but I don't know what that means...
Shunryu Suzuki's quote "You cannot travel on the path until you become the path itself" seems really profound but I'm not sure exactly what it prescribes in terms of how to reorient myself. I guess my confusion is a step along the process that it is trying to highlight, but just wondering. Should one not seek to travel on paths, because to do so means that you are not that path, and thus cannot travel on it? Should one seek to become a path, that others (and oneself) can travel upon?
It has to do with the philosophy of the Tao, which is the Way, the Path, the continuous stream of existence, the world as becoming. It means that to travel the path, you have to realize that there is no distinction between you and the path, that you are part of it. To separate yourself from the rest of the world is a fallacy. To realize that subject and object is one, is to lose your sense of self, which is an illusion created by the mind.
I think it would. But perhaps somewhat less often. In a large society like our own, we often run into people who we will probably never see again. It's very difficult to see people like this as anything but objects. But the fact of the matter is that most of us treat our own family and friends as objects more often than not. We think, "so-and-so will loan me some money" or even "maybe spending time with so-and-so will cure my loneliness." None of this would be different in a small society compared to a large one. Yet even with strangers, we're not always on purely objective ground. Gabriel Marcel wrote, "When I stop somebody in the street to ask my way, I do say to him, it is true, 'Can you tel me how to get to such-and-such a Square?', but all the same I am making a convenience of him, I am treating him as if he were a signpost. No doubt, even in this limiting case, a touch of genuine intersubjectivity can break through, thanks to the magical powers of the tone of voice and the glance. If I have really lost my bearings, if it is late, if I fear that I may have to grope my way for hours through some labyrinthine and perhaps even dangerous warren of streets, I may have a fleeting but irresistible impression that the stranger I am appealing to is a brother eager to come to my aid. What happens is, in a word, that the stranger has started off by putting himself, as it were, ideally in my shoes. He has come within my reach as a person. I t is no longer a mere matter of his showing me the way as a guide-book or a map might, but of his really giving a helping hand to somebody who is alone and in a bewildered state. This is nothing more than a sort of spark of spirituality, out as soon as it is in; the stranger and I part almost certainly never to see each other again, yet for a few minutes, as I trudge homewards, this man's unexpected cordiality makes me feel as if I had stepped out of a wintry day into a warm room."
Oh god, the guidance, the Shepard, the teacher, the God himself appeared to us! Thank you for your teachings.
Profound wisdom man, you have learned well from your time as a human being thus far, im grateful that you take time to share.
On being who we are:
Being honest may not get you a lot of friends, but it'll always get you the right ones. -John Lennon
Time stamps:
0:13 - Loneliness vs. solitude, constitutional factors, seasons of life
1:51 What is the essential ingredient of loneliness?
2:24- The depth of our relationships: Being seen & understood
3:09 - Understanding each other versus judging each other
4:33 Martin Buber: -Thou relation versus I-It objectification
5:56 Companionship: Breaking bread & sharing nourishment
6:52- Spiritual kinship
7:43 Waiting for a sign from one of my kind
8:45 - Making ourselves available to our spiritual kin
9:33 Being who we are: Courage, struggle and the art of allowing
12:33 Honoring our struggles to reclaim our lives
13:18 - Loneliness & The transformative power of exhaustion
Thinkers & authors cited in this video..
Martin Buber (4:33)
James Carse (5:42)
Concrete Blonde (8:15)
Shunryu Suzuki (12:22, 12:55)
Friendship is the meeting of kindred spirits; romantic love is the meeting of neurotics who feed each other's needs. (Nice monologue on loneliness, Il Professore.)
To be 42nd commenter is very deeply satisfying. Your companionship is Gold. Though sour dough, your free to watch channel really pumps my nickel. Rock on E.D.
Ha ha... Well, it seems like you have found the answer to life, the universe and everything. And hopefully that answer will leaven your existence, and keep you from becoming too wry. Eric D.
@@ericdodson2644 a curiosity of french for you; je suis qué je suis means both I am that I am and i am that I follow. Damn.
Lonely as hell on weekends by myself without my kids. Being separated or divorced introduces one to a new level of loneliness..:(
Just don't go out looking for date because you are lonely, and make the mistake of getting married again.
You might want to check out the channel call MGTOW is Freedom, the host has been through divorce after a 20 years relationship. See if it can help you.
Skullhoof hell no
mgtow is basically feminism but for men
Maybe "Naivety - Reconsidered" would be interesting. Also, have to say i love your reconsidered series.
my life right now - loneliness , anxiety , sadness , exhaustion
3 things condusive with personal development... you got this, time for some introspection.
Things any better?
Are you getting along better?
This video is wonderful professor! Thank you so much for providing content that viewers can truly take with them!
Please do a video on social anxiety!
Beautiful!! Thanks for sharing!
Very intelligent.
I want to say Thank You Very Much! Love You :)
The struggle and eventually exhaustion might be necessary to feel that self acceptance. Yeah I like that. Struggle we must. I love to cry. That helps so much, but I can only do it very rarely. Once I do I feel so peaceful and enlightened.
9:19 Right!!!? I've been saying and thinking this for a long while now, you're the first I've heard say the same. Cool to hear my belief validated, haha
Well that certainly put everything into sharp focus.
Thank you Eric...................needed to heat that!!!
Would you mind doing a video on "Over ambition" ? Where does ambition end and over ambition start? I'm often told to slow down, but I don't know what that means...
Steps one, two and three ✌🏼😉
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Hey professor, can you do a video on the greatest/most important books for intellectual development ?
You need only read my own recently published book entitled, "The Greatest/Most Important Book For Intellectual Development".
Clown:
Dude, I bought that book last week: it was nothing but pictures of dildos and thumb tacks.
LOL!
See Anthony Storr's excellent book about this theme: Solitude
Love your contents
Thanks!
Companionship=with bread
(Reminder to myself)
We break bread together.
Share a meal. Bit it's not all about food.
Shunryu Suzuki's quote "You cannot travel on the path until you become the path itself" seems really profound but I'm not sure exactly what it prescribes in terms of how to reorient myself. I guess my confusion is a step along the process that it is trying to highlight, but just wondering.
Should one not seek to travel on paths, because to do so means that you are not that path, and thus cannot travel on it?
Should one seek to become a path, that others (and oneself) can travel upon?
It has to do with the philosophy of the Tao, which is the Way, the Path, the continuous stream of existence, the world as becoming. It means that to travel the path, you have to realize that there is no distinction between you and the path, that you are part of it. To separate yourself from the rest of the world is a fallacy. To realize that subject and object is one, is to lose your sense of self, which is an illusion created by the mind.
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Have you done an anger reconsidered before?
Skullhoof Yea I mentioned it before :) hopefully he does one
I wonder if this objectification of people would happen in a small society where people would know each other well.
I think it would. But perhaps somewhat less often. In a large society like our own, we often run into people who we will probably never see again. It's very difficult to see people like this as anything but objects. But the fact of the matter is that most of us treat our own family and friends as objects more often than not. We think, "so-and-so will loan me some money" or even "maybe spending time with so-and-so will cure my loneliness." None of this would be different in a small society compared to a large one.
Yet even with strangers, we're not always on purely objective ground. Gabriel Marcel wrote, "When I stop somebody in the street to ask my way, I do say to him, it is true, 'Can you tel me how to get to such-and-such a Square?', but all the same I am making a convenience of him, I am treating him as if he were a signpost. No doubt, even in this limiting case, a touch of genuine intersubjectivity can break through, thanks to the magical powers of the tone of voice and the glance. If I have really lost my bearings, if it is late, if I fear that I may have to grope my way for hours through some labyrinthine and perhaps even dangerous warren of streets, I may have a fleeting but irresistible impression that the stranger I am appealing to is a brother eager to come to my aid. What happens is, in a word, that the stranger has started off by putting himself, as it were, ideally in my shoes. He has come within my reach as a person. I t is no longer a mere matter of his showing me the way as a guide-book or a map might, but of his really giving a helping hand to somebody who is alone and in a bewildered state. This is nothing more than a sort of spark of spirituality, out as soon as it is in; the stranger and I part almost certainly never to see each other again, yet for a few minutes, as I trudge homewards, this man's unexpected cordiality makes me feel as if I had stepped out of a wintry day into a warm room."
Thanks for the enlighting reply. I do believe you are correct.
let them hardhearts say this is Life!? and thy says ie life tooo : D