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You definitely need to cover the cases of Ramon Sosa (the boxer) and Mike Dippolito. They’re very similar with both men having to fake their deaths in order to dodge hit men that their partners sent out.
Please look into Clayton Echard & Laura Owens. She is sus and belongs in the pool!! She has ruined 2 mens life and tried to ruin Clayton’s. False allegations, fake pregnancies, it’s wild
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The P Diddy situation is overdue for the suspool, but with the recent arrest and indictment I think it's a good time for it. The video of him attacking his girlfriend and their relationship is worth a look at the very least if you're worried about Diddy filing a slapsuit
I'm a guy and I was abused by my fiance....ended things ten years ago, and I had to call the cops on her. She was like 5 feet tall and tiny and skinny. She used to tell people that I was the one being abusive and I lost so many friends over her because people didn't believe it was the other way around. She terrifies me to this day. Most of my life I was bullied in school and also abused by my family and didn't really have self esteem ever in my life. I'm now happily married to a wonderful woman who makes me feel so safe.
Some people don't understand that it's about more than a size differential, and the physically larger person isn't automatically the primary aggressor, as they can just as easily be the one with the non-abusive personality. Being petite doesn't mean you can't also be a toxic piece of sh!t.
One of my brothers kids mom was exactly like that and me and my partner were there one of the times as witnesses when she up and attacked him just for not going to bed when she wanted him to and the state poopers told us they wouldn’t take our statement and that women in the relationship are always the victim for any DV call, crazy. We went and filed a separate report and nothing came of it. She called her sister after the attack and told her that he attacked her, showed her self inflicted marks (which he didn’t even touch her just took it) and she called the cops which she knew her sis would. I even told her sister who was also my friend and in the same grade as me that she attacks him and she said “you’re just sticking up for your brother!” I was so mad.
Thank you for covering a male victim / female abuser. So many people claim to be progressive but push the misogynistic idea that women are always dainty and and can never be mean, strong, agressive, and/or violent. As a masc. person who has been abused by women, your commentary is SO validating. “Abuse doesn’t care about gender rolls!!!!”
As a woman and someone who works in the social services field, I find that a lot of men who are being abused in any sense of the word do not like to report it because society has made it out to be such an embarrassing thing to happen to you as a man. They try to make it out as if the guy is the problem and he's being emasculated, but in reality, that woman who is the abuser is just a piece of shit who needs to be locked up and have the key to her cell thrown away. I am so heartbroken for the amount of males who do not come forward and end up in Christian's situation, and then the law does not take the case seriously because, oh, she's a woman how could she do this to a big, strong man. No stuff happens on both ends, and it needs to be dealt with properly.
The thing is that often people say they want women to be equal to men, which obviously great, but then also keep the "good" things that come from being treated like a stereotypical woman
I couldn't agree more. I have a friend who for almost a year we were worried her sister was being abused. We each went over sometimes to check in, but there were police reports, and injuries. When we finally learned it was her hurting herself while trying to harm him ... The police didn't really believe she was the aggressor. My friend did give a statement and eventually they believed it enough to give her a mandatory order not to drink and the children were removed while she attended mandatory anger management courses... But he was told if he pressed charges he'd never end up with sole custody of the children because there were hospital visits of when she hurt herself that put him in suspicion. I don't live in the same city anymore, but I get very worried about his safety from time to time. 💔
Hearing that their "Friends" watched her hitting him and didn't do anything infuriates me. I had an abuser that would beat the hell out of me infront of our "Friends". No one EVER did anything or said anything. It made me think that for a long time, no one cared if I was getting hit or not. They just sat there and acted like they didn't see it. And it made me think I was crazy for thinking the situation was not okay. Christian didn't deserve to go through that. Jesus fucking christ!
Normalize speaking up when someone gets visibly abused and/or pushed down the freaking stairs by their partner, even if the perpetrator is smaller, “daintier” or more feminine than the person being victimized.
exactly. i know swoop said that they didn’t want to blame anybody, but the friends should have spoken up after literally witnessing her hitting him. & when she pushed him down the stairs they DEFINITELY should have spoken up. they enabled her behavior. it’s partially their fault too.
A long time ago, I worked at a bar, and frequently saw women put hands on men, and I'm ashamed to say that I largely blew it off. Obvi these weren't people I knew, but I wish I had taken it as seriously as I did the few times a man put hands on a woman.
Ya, she was one of the first of the viral "Karen" situations. Her behavior being captured on film and going viral with several others doing similar types of things helped start a real movement to put people like that in check. Make them finally face any consequences for their behavior and as such make others know it was possible for them to be the next Karen.
@@sebner84 Her defense attorney keeps running circles around the prosecution to delay the verdict, but she's being held in jail while we wait for that to happen
the way his poor mother found out that he was no longer alive is--like, she described it perfectly. inhumane. absolutely ghoulish. my throat closed up hearing her describe it.
Someone in the police department, preferably someone involved in the case, definitely should have been making the notification, not the coroner. I do, to some extent, understand where the coroner is coming from - every second counts when it comes to organ donation and there are so many people who need them - but the way it was handled is just not, in any way, defensible.
I hope she does. I’ve seen people defending her over the last year or so, claiming he was the abuser. Like dude, she stabbed him TWICE. A knife doesn’t just ricochet from the floor into someone’s shoulder. She’s very wealthy so I’m sure she has a damn good lawyer, but I hope the jury sees through her “damsel in distress” act.
She asked for a restraining order and then killed him claiming self defense after having a long history of being the instigator with the power in the relationship. This was first degree murder, that is what the overwhelming amount of evidence says. Men deserve to be believed too ❤ I hope his family is able to find peace
thats exactly what i was gonna say, too! the fact that just a few days she called the police and claimed he hurt her and all that, and then claimed "self defense" just shows imo that she was planning this and wanted to make it "believable" even tho its definitely not
I agree with you on it being 1st degree. Though I think that the prosecutor likely went 2nd degree because it is much easier for them to prove beyond a reasonable doubt. I don't agree with it but we know the defense is going to push hard on him being a larger black man and her being a small white woman. And so that may have lead to prosecution decided on 2nd degree to avoid that "reasonable" doubt. But I agree with what you're saying wholeheartedly.
The thing that has always upset me about this case is the fact that she unalived him and was the ab*ser in the relationship and yet now she is pretending to be the victim?! smdh. Christian deserved better. Rest in peace. 🌹
Should be 1st because that feels like premeditation. I'm assuming it was something like her needing validation that she's the victim when she knows shes not and so afraid someone will find out she needs to triple down.
that part is making me so furious i think i need to take a break from the video. this woman is vile. ‘i killed a man but actually i deserve a hug because my comfort is what’s important’
The way the mother found out... its always so horrible to hear these stories about people dying in the most horrible way and then have the people who actually cared about the person, find out about the death in the most horrible, tactless way...
I never heard Swoop say that her mom has fibromyalgia too. Ditto. Me, my mom and my mother's mother, all women with severe fibromyalgia by 30. No relief for any of us, ever, and a surgery for related issues ended up taking my grandmother. I'm so sorry, Swoop. One day, the medical community will realize how badly they're failing us. *edit-typo
I have M.E and my Dad and brother also have M.E so similar symptoms! Although I also have a tonne of other health problems including but not limited to 😹, having to have my spleen removed cos I had a wandering spleen, collapsed lungs and pleural effusion following surgery, haemorrhaging in my eye that made me blind in one eye, recurring pancreatitis, depression and ptsd, underactive thyroid, seizures and blackouts and probably a load more but I forget 😹🙈 I like hearing Swoop talk about her health problems as it makes me feel a bit more normal! I became sick when I was 17 and am now 37 and it has been a tough road!! Sending you love ❤️
I didn't realise Swoop has Fibromyalgia. It's something I live with too, and now, both my daughter and son are showing clear signs that they have it too. Sending gentle hugs to everyone who lives with this pernicious condition.
@@TheTinFoilTiara More likely, same as with M.E., that there's a series of genetic factors that require an environmental element (note: in this context trauma would be environmental) to fully unlock.
I got it from both sides of the family. Told by a specialist that it was the worst case they ever saw. It sucks to be in pain. I feel for sufferers. My grandmother was labeled as a hypochondriac. Her and grandpa were crushed by a truck coming home bc grandma had a doctors appointment. I was 8 so i didnt get to know her very well. They lived in a different province. People shouldn't be put down because they hurt. They need more love, not less. I believe most of it comes from childhood trauma. Sending love and kindness to any who need it. Let's figure this out. 🫂🙏🪷
thanks for touching on the incorrect usage of words like lovebombing, gaslighting, etc. as someone who has been emotionally abused it’s so frustrating to hear people trivialize it or use it incorrectly
“It just reminds me so much of the love and the pain that so many victims and survivors have for their abusers, where their abusers don’t at all deserve their love but get it anyway because victims and survivors are so much more human than the abusers ever will be.” - This brought me so much healing and clarity. Thank you.
Also, if they're breaking things: Who's things? Their own things, or just yours? Do they 'lose control' at work? In front of strangers who might judge them? In front of people they respect? Or just when alone with you?
I dont think that's always true, people have very dysfunctional ways of communicating or processing emotion, and may be using gross body movements (gross as in big) as a way of expelling energy without having intention of hurting someone. Sometimes it might even be as a form of self harm/injury. I'm not saying that this sort of behaviour doesn't indicate violence or a wish to inflict violence towards a partner, but to say that anyone that punches a wall wants to punch people is a serious oversimplification of complex issues.
@@euanmitchell6879 It's threatening. Threats are a form of violence. Unless they're going to a neutral place and paying for the opportunity to smash unowned plates or destroy a junked car, where there's no one to sit there feeling terrified and hopeless while they lose their crap directly at their partner, it's absolutely not appropriate for them to react that way. They need to LEARN a new healthy way of processing emotions. Screaming and breaking crap is abusive.
@@HazooToo I agree 100%. There was one time in my life when I got mad, I threw my cheap cell phone out of anger. It smashed into a few pieces. It was over a public argument I had with my girlfriend. We were 17 or 18. It was not okay. I was not thinking about harming her. I was not attempting to threaten her. It was still 100% unhealthy and is completely fair that it is treated as threatening behavior. I don't remember doing it ever again and I sometimes think about that interaction. I'm in my mid 30s now. Still one of the worst things I've done in a relationship and never want to have something like that happen again.
They did not inform the mother before asking FOR ORGANS??!! What the hell is wrong with them! It’s devastating enough to find out, but like this?! Officials messed up biiiig time. Why no one called right away, from the hospital he was declared passed away, police??
Here is Miami... They don't ask. It was a nurse that saved me because the damn doctor was going to let me die instead of just intubating me. She told me to take the organ donor label off my license. And if he didn't have that on his license those doctors took advantage of the situation.
Please, keep us updated. This breaks my heart. She stabbed him twice, so in my opinion, only the first time could be "in the heat" the second time was straight up " I failed last time, so let's try this again!".
Makes sense since most blunt weapons,especially knives,are crimes of passion,compared to guns and such that could,in a way,be an accident. It was definitely a "let's make sure he stays down this time"with the second stab
Men's mental health is so important. Men feeling like they can safety talk about their own abuse is important. It's so sad he stayed in this relationship. I can only imagine ppl wouldn't even take abuse claims seriously because of the size dynamic. Size, sex none of that matters to abusers. Men talk to your friends and family. It doesn't make you less of a man. You're important and your well being is just as important.
Abuse is so isolating and feels so alone that the abuser can make you feel that they are the only one that loves you or can put up with you and even if you do leave you can feel so dependant on that perceived love that you will return. Never blame a victim.
Exactly and those people who didn't intervene when she was abusing him in public (probably unintentionally) send that signal as well. By not adressing her behaviour, intervening they send the message that there is nothing to see. ofc it's more complicated than that but a victim who already is in a very vulnerable position is likely to perceive it that way strengthening that feeling of being alone, needing to deal with this themselves because who else will care?
Thank you so much for covering this tragic story. I grew up watching my Dad in a physically, emotionally & psychologically abusive relationship with my stepmum which is unfortunately still going on to this day. I wish DV and emotional abuse against males by female perpetrators was talked about more. I’ve tried time and time again to explain to my Dad how my stepmother’s actions are abusive but he just can’t see it that way, even when she was physically violent to him, in front of me and my siblings when we were kids. Anyway, sorry for the trauma dump. Thanks for another great video Swoop, please keep us updated. Thank you as always for talking about sensitive topics with such care and consideration.
Maybe show him a book or a video about it ? Sometimes it really hits you when you see your thoughts and feelings on paper written by a stranger that totally describes you. It makes it more real when you know the terminologies. I hope things get better for everyone involved.
"This wasn't my intention" "I didn't want to hurt you" "I know you think I enjoy doing this, but I dont" If people are saying this to you, consider it a massive red flag.
I really needed a distraction from what’s going on in my life right now. I just wanted to thank you for your content and always being respectful when you cover topics. ❤
I’m fully financially independent from my ex who did a lot of name calling/ bottle throwing, and even now he tries to gaslight me into thinking it’s all my fault and I’m broken and will ‘always be this way’. I cannot imagine the type of mental distress this man was under. My heart shatters for him.
i love this! so, one day i was talking to my boss about one of the cases & she said “you watch Swoop too?” and we both looked at each other & said “SWOOOP” i love our lil community 🥹💜💜
My live in bf died while I was at work one night, n I found out when the medical examiner called me to ID him by his tattoos over the phone, so they could justify sending officers to his family's house to notify them of his passing... it was so shocking n traumatizing n honestly felt pretty cold n heartless...
My heart breaks for this poor man and his family. Those messages from him really stike me, you can feel just how much he loved her despite her horrible abuse towards him. I hope he's somewhere better now. Rest his soul peacefully in sunsets that no one will muddy.
This comment is beautiful, all i saw in the comments was about her. He was an incredible person who just needed help, we all failed him. He is the sunset now, may he get the infinite love that lived in his heart.
The manipulation of "I wish I was going through the pain not you" WHEN THE ABUSER IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE INFLICTED PAIN is bogus. My abusive ex used to pull this shit too.
Maybe it's just me but this is giving "who are the courts going to believe? Me a pretty woman or a man who is a former foot ball player?" Vibes and it is just gross.
(Tw for this comment!!) I had an ex threaten me with a knife before. I remember thinking "oh, they wouldn't, they love me" even though I knew they were abusive. I cant help thinking he mustve felt the same before she stabbed him. God, this is so upsetting :(
You are absolutely right to bring up the racial dynamics in this case as I truly believe they are part of the reason she was able to abuse him for so long (several times in public). So many people on this earth just cannot fathom a Black man as anything other than an aggressor. Certainly not victims themselves. Racism, both conscious and unconscious, absolutely played a part in this tragedy.
This is very racist. I dated couple black guys from Nigeria and my current boyfriend is from Congo. Never felt threathen by them. Quiet the opposite my boyfriend is sweet, gentle I never heard him yelled, he is a good uncle to his many nieces and newphes, the other guys werent also violent especialy my ex that I dated the longest and we only broke up due to long distance. He even called to check up on me because he know that I struggle with BPD and was hospitalized due to it in the past before we met. So it is very harmful stereotype to be honest. My white dad was more violent and lowkey abusive than any of my black boyfriends
The question of "why didn't he just leave if it was so bad?" is just... it makes me mad.. and it's the same with what i read in a streamchat today. i watched a vod of a lawyer talking about the indictment and denied bail of the diddilydoo.. someone wrote "just say no!" about what happened to the people at those "freak off"-parties... yeah..
its something that seems "logical" to people who haven't been in it. MY question would be why didn't *she* leave if she hated him this much, right? she fed off the whole thing and had him trapped like a spiderweb. we can all speculate about the what ifs, i guess. that's all we can do now...
@@scatterbrain_jane incidentaly those "freak offs" were parties with drugs and (allegedly not consensual) sex.... sooooo... make out of that whatever you will.
The Proof for 1st vs 2nd degree murder is crazy in some states. It could be that it is 1st but the DA is looking at the cute and pretty blond batting her sad scared eyes at the Jury and deciding that its better to go for the 2nd degree and get a sure fire conviction or plea than risking 1st and having her get off scot free
I’m reading some of y’all’s testimonies and my heart just breaks. My sister just recently got out of an abusive situation because my family went absolutely feral on him. I don’t know what would have happened to her or how long she would have stayed if we hadn’t stood up for and been there for her and spearheaded getting the restraining order. I can’t imagine watching someone go through that and do nothing, man or woman. There are people who will love you and support you, and if you don’t have them offline, there are so many amazing resources and support groups to help. Find your clan, get the support. Healing isn’t linear, but you can do this, and you don’t have to do it alone❤
She seemingly never learnt any consequences from her actions, a problem compounded by her money and looks! One thing she did seem to learn was how to be incredibly manipulative with her words (despite them being the opposite to her actions). This further compounded the issue of her never seeing consequences for her actions! And yeah there definitely seemed to be repeated examples of "Tell me your a Racist without telling me your a Racist" vibes! I think she had substance abuse issues that compounded an anger management problem that developed into more and more violence and aggression that never got 'checked'. I think this suggest that this final act was not likely premeditated but rather yet another progressive violent outburst! Its sad that things got this way because she never learnt that there are consequences to such behavior! Imagine finding that kind of Love and abusing it instead of treasuring it!
tbh the more I think about it, the more she seems like a sadist, and not the friendly BDSM, you get consent and listen to the sub kind of sadist. Narcissist always have some form of sadism to them but this was next level. Idk that even jail would teach her lesson though I do hope she's in jail for the rest of her life and I hope she ages like milk because that is literally the only thing that matters to her.
As a male survivor of DV, this hit me hard. Even when you speak up and ask for help, society and people just can't accept it. The cycle of abuse is hard to describe unless you've experienced directly. The other thing worth noting: abusers look for people who fit a profile, those whose vulnerabilities make it easier for them to control.
I'm sure you already know this, but it's good to keep hearing it: it was absolutely not your fault, and you deserve to be treated with respect and care. 🖤
you are such a comfort creator for not swoop!! i’m having another brain surgery and spinal cord surgery next week and just know your videos will help me get through this recovery. i’m glad you’re doing back and i hope you’re doing better💘
Thank you for emphasizing Christian’s side in this tragic situation. Especially with how close to your situation this must be. You did him justice. So many go on about her but I think we need to stop even saying their names and giving them a voice. They don’t deserve it. Many thanks for advocating for dv victims and abuse survivors. You are amazeballs ❤
What truly breaks my heart in all this is that there is an incredibly loving and deeply rich personality who clearly had dedication and massive amounts of love to give, who is now lost to the ether. Of course this is the case with everyone on this earth, but the heartfelt texts absolutely crushed me. He did not deserve to have her happen to him. 💔 RIP Christian
First degree is premeditated, 2nd degree is depraved mind. I think there is an argument for both charges but 2nd is a slam dunk and can carry life in prison. The prosecutors may not want to risk losing on a perceived overcharge
Let me stop my school work. I need to get to professor Perry’s class. I can’t miss it. 😭 I’ve never been this early either. Anyone in a toxic relationship know that it’s not your fault. There is light on the other side when you are ready to work on the healing. Healing takes time and work but it is possible. Keep your heads up. Everyone be safe and check in on your loved ones.
Thanks for covering sensitive topic it’s important for ppl to be aware . As a child of seeing there parents have explosive fights with the abuser being my mother this really hit home. Unfortunately my father was not a survivor and took his own life due to the abuse from my mom. I try every day to change this generational abuse
I think she should have been charged with premeditated (1st degree) murder. If the roles were reversed, I have no doubt Christian would have been charged with 1st degree murder. Also, the way his poor mother found out…WTF.
In my opinion: She should be charged with 1st degree murder for her blatant history for disregarding his life, this is shown not only during attacks but also abusing him knowing he’s physical in a very vulnerable state where his body is already under so much stress. Head injuries are no joke and he could’ve easily had a concussion, lose consciousness and have internal bleeding. Yet she didn’t call 911 even when he was asking blatantly for help and naming his symptoms. If the roles were reversed this wouldn’t be a question. She didn’t care if he lived or died in any of the prior situations and I believe that’s proof enough for premeditation. Not telling 911 their apartment number is also 🚩🚩
Just the series of text messages alone. My word. Rest in Peace King, you were too good for this world, you deserved far better than you got from the get-go.
Idk who needs to hear this but petite women are still capable of harm, large men are still made of flesh and human beings are fragile enough that we can technically trip over our own feet and die from a head injury.
Thank you Swoop, this was a kind and respectful video about a horrific situation that should have been prevented. Its clear that gender and colour played a role
I thought I was well versed on this case but here we are and again I’m blown away by your skills to research and put together details that might exist elsewhere, but you put them together in a much more cohesive manner.
I very rarely comment on videos and have never made it to a video so soon after its release. I just wanted to say you are wonderful and such a compassionate and strong lady. For a future show I think a video on the Amanda Todd story would be heartbreaking but amazingly done if you were the one to do it. Cheers! keep up the amazing work swoop :)
Real talk, Swoop, thanks for the care. Growing up as a man in this world, part of me is SO aware of the average power dynamic between men and women that my mind wants to shrug it off as SO not as issue compared to the amount of women that have to live through this almost normalized abuse from men. But that's just a meta. To this man, THIS was his reality no matter the meta.
Swoop thank u sm for making us DV victims feel so seen. I’m so proud & glad that you continue to shine light on these issues you’ve also experienced. THANK YOU FOR THE LOVE BOMBING CLARIFICATION. I was love bombed in my abusive relationship so often & genuinely to manipulate me. I did not know about the cycle of abuse. I lived it & did not know there was a literal cycle 😭 even majored in psych for a bit & did not know this. so thank you for continuing to teach me new things about my past traumas. it genuinely helps me cope & move on & SWOOP ILY AND HOPE YOU’RE DOING SO WELL
christian deserved so much better :((( that’s such an awful situation to be in. i really hope his soul is at peace now & i hope his family can recover one day.
I’m so glad you chose to cover this case - this one blew me away when I looked into it and I felt so bad for that young man. Thank you for all you are and what you do Swoop, sending my love ❤
Thank you for telling this story. I hope it makes some who watch that may be experiencing something similar realize they’re more than their abuser makes them believe.
Greetings from Sweden! Your docs literally make me squeal of joy when the notification comes, even if I know the topic will be anything but a laughing matter. I love your thoroughness, your compassion and empathy, how you're trying to present different voices and pov's while always defending those who don't have a voice of their own for various reasons. I love your way of telling difficult and shocking stories without turning them into a freak show. I especially respect the way you condemn and expose people who have committed crimes or deeply hurtful actions towards others by using their power over fans/employees/partners etc, without making it about downgrading them as human beings, but holding them accountable for their actions. Your deep sense of respect for other people's traumas is why I keep coming back, regardless of if I even know about the subject and people you're talking about. And sometimes, I really need to hear you tell me I'm valid because I just know you mean it
People think that when the aggressor is smaller, they can't really hurt the victim that badly, but it's such a huge mistake to think that way. Many, many people do not know self-defense, and many a gentle soul is afraid to hurt anyone else, even to protect themselves. This often leaves them deeply vulnerable to getting seriously hurt, or as we see here, tragically killed. Anyone can be dangerous. Anyone can kill. It's so sad that this poor young man lost his life, my heart goes out to his family. I hope there is a thorough and honest investigation and that justice is ultimately served.
Christian 100% knew she would end his life. He stayed with her knowing she would STAB him and not give a f***, it was escalating. He knew in his gut what was going to happen but he was stuck in the abuse cycle and really wanted to make it work. He deserved so much better I feel so horrible for him. I wish someone could have helped him get out of the relationship 😕💔
Unrelated to the content of this vid but omg I love your mom's hair. I have so many family members who chop it all off when it's gray/white and I wish they wouldn't. It's beautiful.
Thank you for presenting such delicate topics (abuse, death…etc) with such care and compassion toward victims and their families. It’s so refreshing to hear supportive discussion when it comes to understanding that leaving is hard. You’re inspiring and I’m grateful you have the courage to share your story and so many others.
As a black man who was in a abusive relationship Seeing women defending Christian and showing support to men victims of DV made me emotional Thank all of you for giving me some comfort knowing I'm not alone ❤
🫂 Learn as much as you can, knowledge is power. God bless you. I pray that you can figure this out and learn to love yourself so much that it never happens again and you attract true love from now on. ❤
Great work as always Swoop, digging into such a horrendous and heartbreaking story. Your compassion and thoroughness is always inspiring. What's sticking with me is, on top of everything else that poor man went through, what a horrible way for his family to find out he passed away. I hope they're able to get the justice Christian deserves.
I love the compassion you always show for abuse survivors. I was in an abusive friendship for a long time, and it took some time for it to be safe for me to walk away. I’m still struggling to heal from it, even though it was “just” a friend. People don’t understand that you can’t always just leave, and I LOVE that you always emphasize “leave it is safe to do so” and all of the advice and support you always give to survivors. Thank you so much for helping all of us know we are not alone and that there is help and hope.
Some happy news though, the man in the bird watcher Karen 29:30 has a documentary all about bird watching that came out last year! His name is Christian Cooper, it’s called Extraordinary Birder. So his story at least has a happy ending.
It's sad, really, that men are not believed when they say they are being abused. Or that they feel they have to explain it away. Especially big strong handsome men. It's like if someone said "how could he have been beaten up by that poor defenseless angel?" OMG come on!!! Anger doesn't see gender; doesn't see age; does t see color. He didn't have to lose his life. If he had been able to go to the police and make a statement that would have possibly saved him. Instead he felt he had to play the big burly guy who could take care of himself.
It’d be cool to hear the story of Arianna Hutto. Nobody talks about this weird case but you delve so deep, I’d love to hear about it from you. I, also, feel like you’d be able to spread more awareness about the case. Keep jiving because I love it
This breaks my heart. I hope his family gets justice. Please continue to shine a light on DV in all its forms and centering POC victims because they do not get the attention they deserve. That said a more light dip in the pool every so often is nice too.
What happened to Christian just broke my heart. 💔 I swear if she gets away with what she did, I will be sooo…many different emotions and the words just wouldn’t do them justice. Love you Swoop for doing a video on this 🫶❤️🫵
What stories do you want me to do next?
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You definitely need to cover the cases of Ramon Sosa (the boxer) and Mike Dippolito. They’re very similar with both men having to fake their deaths in order to dodge hit men that their partners sent out.
Please look into Clayton Echard & Laura Owens. She is sus and belongs in the pool!! She has ruined 2 mens life and tried to ruin Clayton’s. False allegations, fake pregnancies, it’s wild
Could we have an update on the bryan kohberger case??
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The P Diddy situation is overdue for the suspool, but with the recent arrest and indictment I think it's a good time for it. The video of him attacking his girlfriend and their relationship is worth a look at the very least if you're worried about Diddy filing a slapsuit
Stabbing someone and then saying "my intention was not to hurt you" is WILD
Fr, what did she expect to happen when she threw a literal knife at him?!!!
and she also said "i wish it was me in your place" bro?????? WDYM YOU STABBED HIM
[And hope] WE try harder lmaooo I hate her I'm guna cry
That’s abusive relationship blueprint 😭 he probably felt like since he was a man that wasn’t real😭
Listen...
I'm a guy and I was abused by my fiance....ended things ten years ago, and I had to call the cops on her. She was like 5 feet tall and tiny and skinny. She used to tell people that I was the one being abusive and I lost so many friends over her because people didn't believe it was the other way around. She terrifies me to this day. Most of my life I was bullied in school and also abused by my family and didn't really have self esteem ever in my life. I'm now happily married to a wonderful woman who makes me feel so safe.
I’m so glad you were finally able to find someone who loves you the way people should. Much love from a fellow survivor 🫶
🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿
I’m so happy for you and your wife fam. Well done. Sorry that happened to you.
Some people don't understand that it's about more than a size differential, and the physically larger person isn't automatically the primary aggressor, as they can just as easily be the one with the non-abusive personality.
Being petite doesn't mean you can't also be a toxic piece of sh!t.
I'm so sorry you went through that, wishing you and your wife an amazing life together!
One of my brothers kids mom was exactly like that and me and my partner were there one of the times as witnesses when she up and attacked him just for not going to bed when she wanted him to and the state poopers told us they wouldn’t take our statement and that women in the relationship are always the victim for any DV call, crazy. We went and filed a separate report and nothing came of it. She called her sister after the attack and told her that he attacked her, showed her self inflicted marks (which he didn’t even touch her just took it) and she called the cops which she knew her sis would. I even told her sister who was also my friend and in the same grade as me that she attacks him and she said “you’re just sticking up for your brother!” I was so mad.
This poor man was murdered by this pyschopath and then she victimized him in death by claiming he abused her when he didn't. She's a monster.
Hopefully the parents can sue her for slander or something amd take her millions she put in her dad's name they deserve the money not her.
😂🤣
I hate this
@@nolamonahan8764the parents should been more involved they no system
Like it breaks my heart that situations and this scene happens
Thank you for covering a male victim / female abuser. So many people claim to be progressive but push the misogynistic idea that women are always dainty and and can never be mean, strong, agressive, and/or violent.
As a masc. person who has been abused by women, your commentary is SO validating. “Abuse doesn’t care about gender rolls!!!!”
As a woman and someone who works in the social services field, I find that a lot of men who are being abused in any sense of the word do not like to report it because society has made it out to be such an embarrassing thing to happen to you as a man. They try to make it out as if the guy is the problem and he's being emasculated, but in reality, that woman who is the abuser is just a piece of shit who needs to be locked up and have the key to her cell thrown away. I am so heartbroken for the amount of males who do not come forward and end up in Christian's situation, and then the law does not take the case seriously because, oh, she's a woman how could she do this to a big, strong man. No stuff happens on both ends, and it needs to be dealt with properly.
I totally agree! I have been abused by men and a progressive, but I know women can be abusive, sadistic and cruel too!!
Mysoginistic is sexist and hateful acts towards women. What word you're looking for is misandrist behaviour.
The thing is that often people say they want women to be equal to men, which obviously great, but then also keep the "good" things that come from being treated like a stereotypical woman
I couldn't agree more.
I have a friend who for almost a year we were worried her sister was being abused. We each went over sometimes to check in, but there were police reports, and injuries. When we finally learned it was her hurting herself while trying to harm him ... The police didn't really believe she was the aggressor. My friend did give a statement and eventually they believed it enough to give her a mandatory order not to drink and the children were removed while she attended mandatory anger management courses... But he was told if he pressed charges he'd never end up with sole custody of the children because there were hospital visits of when she hurt herself that put him in suspicion. I don't live in the same city anymore, but I get very worried about his safety from time to time. 💔
"I'm truly genuinely sorry that my actions hurt you so deeply. That was not my intention."
WHAT OTHER INTENTION IS THERE TO STABBING A PERSON?!?
That!
That!
Literally my exact thoughts hahaha I’m glad someone said it
Hurt you "so deeply"...if you "stick" around...was she punning about it?
girl is so delulu that she didn’t realize knives hurt people ✋💀
Hearing that their "Friends" watched her hitting him and didn't do anything infuriates me. I had an abuser that would beat the hell out of me infront of our "Friends". No one EVER did anything or said anything. It made me think that for a long time, no one cared if I was getting hit or not. They just sat there and acted like they didn't see it. And it made me think I was crazy for thinking the situation was not okay. Christian didn't deserve to go through that. Jesus fucking christ!
I hope you have new friends
I’m so sorry you experienced that. My ex’s/my friends knew he was abusing me and did nothing. NO it’s not ok. I hope you healed! ❤
Some people are scared to react in case it makes the abu5er retaliate on the v1ctim later
In high school the same thing happened to me. Those people said I lied when I came forward. Hell for them. Definitely.
I’m absolutely heartbroken that you went through this❤️ you deserved better. I hope you’re in a better place!
Me everytime: is this Swoop or Swoop too?
*checks hair*
ME TOO
SAME 🤣
Literally so smart of her to switch up the wig so we can track what’s going on
Same...
SAME. Also 333rd like. 😙
I teared up over the texts that he was sending her after she stabbed him. He needed help so bad. She is a monster
Normalize speaking up when someone gets visibly abused and/or pushed down the freaking stairs by their partner, even if the perpetrator is smaller, “daintier” or more feminine than the person being victimized.
exactly. i know swoop said that they didn’t want to blame anybody, but the friends should have spoken up after literally witnessing her hitting him. & when she pushed him down the stairs they DEFINITELY should have spoken up. they enabled her behavior. it’s partially their fault too.
I saw Divestors like Cynthia G celebrating her killing him because he "Bad mouthed" black women smh
A long time ago, I worked at a bar, and frequently saw women put hands on men, and I'm ashamed to say that I largely blew it off. Obvi these weren't people I knew, but I wish I had taken it as seriously as I did the few times a man put hands on a woman.
@@Chuck_ELwhat’s a divestor?
@@her0z217 Google describes it as a person who dispose or deprave someone of their property, authority and/or title.
That woman harming her own dog to falsely accuse a black man is disgusting. Deplorable behavior.
Ya, she was one of the first of the viral "Karen" situations. Her behavior being captured on film and going viral with several others doing similar types of things helped start a real movement to put people like that in check. Make them finally face any consequences for their behavior and as such make others know it was possible for them to be the next Karen.
Wait she hurt her dog 😢 im only listening i didnt see that , thats horrible .
This case always pissed me off so bad. If Christian were the aggressor, he would’ve gotten life in prison without parole.
Locked him away and threw away the key!!!!
What did she get?! I haven’t kept up!
@@sebner84 I don’t think she’s gotten anything (yet) I’ll look into it!
@@sebner84 Her defense attorney keeps running circles around the prosecution to delay the verdict, but she's being held in jail while we wait for that to happen
Yes
the way his poor mother found out that he was no longer alive is--like, she described it perfectly. inhumane. absolutely ghoulish. my throat closed up hearing her describe it.
Someone in the police department, preferably someone involved in the case, definitely should have been making the notification, not the coroner. I do, to some extent, understand where the coroner is coming from - every second counts when it comes to organ donation and there are so many people who need them - but the way it was handled is just not, in any way, defensible.
I'm a man and I was abused by my ex girlfriend. It fucked me up so badly. All the texts take me back to then
I'm sorry you went through that. I hope you're happy and well ❤
I’m so happy that you’re out of that relationship. Nobody deserves that❤
I hope you have found peace. It wasn't your fault. You didn't deserve that.
I am truly sorry and I hope you are happy and well now❤
I’m sorry! I hope you’re healing well, you deserve a peaceful, balanced, loving relationship
She treated him like property. She’s an evil woman and deserves to be locked up for life.
And he treated her like a white trophy to brag in front of black women while tweeting numerous racist tweets about black women.
I hope she does. I’ve seen people defending her over the last year or so, claiming he was the abuser. Like dude, she stabbed him TWICE. A knife doesn’t just ricochet from the floor into someone’s shoulder. She’s very wealthy so I’m sure she has a damn good lawyer, but I hope the jury sees through her “damsel in distress” act.
She asked for a restraining order and then killed him claiming self defense after having a long history of being the instigator with the power in the relationship. This was first degree murder, that is what the overwhelming amount of evidence says. Men deserve to be believed too ❤ I hope his family is able to find peace
thats exactly what i was gonna say, too! the fact that just a few days she called the police and claimed he hurt her and all that, and then claimed "self defense" just shows imo that she was planning this and wanted to make it "believable" even tho its definitely not
I agree with you on it being 1st degree. Though I think that the prosecutor likely went 2nd degree because it is much easier for them to prove beyond a reasonable doubt. I don't agree with it but we know the defense is going to push hard on him being a larger black man and her being a small white woman. And so that may have lead to prosecution decided on 2nd degree to avoid that "reasonable" doubt. But I agree with what you're saying wholeheartedly.
The thing that has always upset me about this case is the fact that she unalived him and was the ab*ser in the relationship and yet now she is pretending to be the victim?! smdh. Christian deserved better. Rest in peace. 🌹
Should be 1st because that feels like premeditation. I'm assuming it was something like her needing validation that she's the victim when she knows shes not and so afraid someone will find out she needs to triple down.
💯 agree
The asking for a hug from the detective after finding out Christian passed was wild and bizzare.
She 100% expected them to say no and make her look that much more like a victim.
that part is making me so furious i think i need to take a break from the video. this woman is vile. ‘i killed a man but actually i deserve a hug because my comfort is what’s important’
"Im truly genuinely sorry that my actions hurt you so deeply" YOU STABBED HIM!!!!!
The way the mother found out... its always so horrible to hear these stories about people dying in the most horrible way and then have the people who actually cared about the person, find out about the death in the most horrible, tactless way...
As a parent I couldn’t imagine.
There is no right way to learn that your son is dead. There is however most definitely terrible ways to learn that. My heart goes out to that mother.
The way the mother found out is a fucking travesty. Jesus christ what the fuck
I never heard Swoop say that her mom has fibromyalgia too. Ditto. Me, my mom and my mother's mother, all women with severe fibromyalgia by 30. No relief for any of us, ever, and a surgery for related issues ended up taking my grandmother. I'm so sorry, Swoop. One day, the medical community will realize how badly they're failing us.
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I have M.E and my Dad and brother also have M.E so similar symptoms!
Although I also have a tonne of other health problems including but not limited to 😹, having to have my spleen removed cos I had a wandering spleen, collapsed lungs and pleural effusion following surgery, haemorrhaging in my eye that made me blind in one eye, recurring pancreatitis, depression and ptsd, underactive thyroid, seizures and blackouts and probably a load more but I forget 😹🙈
I like hearing Swoop talk about her health problems as it makes me feel a bit more normal! I became sick when I was 17 and am now 37 and it has been a tough road!!
Sending you love ❤️
Epigenetic trauma....
I didn't realise Swoop has Fibromyalgia. It's something I live with too, and now, both my daughter and son are showing clear signs that they have it too.
Sending gentle hugs to everyone who lives with this pernicious condition.
@@TheTinFoilTiara More likely, same as with M.E., that there's a series of genetic factors that require an environmental element (note: in this context trauma would be environmental) to fully unlock.
I got it from both sides of the family. Told by a specialist that it was the worst case they ever saw. It sucks to be in pain.
I feel for sufferers. My grandmother was labeled as a hypochondriac. Her and grandpa were crushed by a truck coming home bc grandma had a doctors appointment.
I was 8 so i didnt get to know her very well. They lived in a different province.
People shouldn't be put down because they hurt. They need more love, not less.
I believe most of it comes from childhood trauma.
Sending love and kindness to any who need it. Let's figure this out. 🫂🙏🪷
This made me tear up. The poor guy was so scared and just wanted to be loved the way he should have been. This woman is as monstrous as they come.
thanks for touching on the incorrect usage of words like lovebombing, gaslighting, etc. as someone who has been emotionally abused it’s so frustrating to hear people trivialize it or use it incorrectly
each time trauma-bonding is used wrong i lose 12 hours off my life span
Yeah it's very frustrating. Also diagnosing every bad person with narcissism.
“It just reminds me so much of the love and the pain that so many victims and survivors have for their abusers, where their abusers don’t at all deserve their love but get it anyway because victims and survivors are so much more human than the abusers ever will be.” - This brought me so much healing and clarity. Thank you.
When your partner throws things or punches walls, they're imagining doing it to you.
Get out as soon and as safe as possible.
Also, if they're breaking things: Who's things? Their own things, or just yours? Do they 'lose control' at work? In front of strangers who might judge them? In front of people they respect? Or just when alone with you?
This!! 💯 Happened to me. I was able to leave before it escalated, but wall punching and my things got broken.
I dont think that's always true, people have very dysfunctional ways of communicating or processing emotion, and may be using gross body movements (gross as in big) as a way of expelling energy without having intention of hurting someone. Sometimes it might even be as a form of self harm/injury. I'm not saying that this sort of behaviour doesn't indicate violence or a wish to inflict violence towards a partner, but to say that anyone that punches a wall wants to punch people is a serious oversimplification of complex issues.
@@euanmitchell6879 It's threatening. Threats are a form of violence. Unless they're going to a neutral place and paying for the opportunity to smash unowned plates or destroy a junked car, where there's no one to sit there feeling terrified and hopeless while they lose their crap directly at their partner, it's absolutely not appropriate for them to react that way. They need to LEARN a new healthy way of processing emotions. Screaming and breaking crap is abusive.
@@HazooToo I agree 100%. There was one time in my life when I got mad, I threw my cheap cell phone out of anger. It smashed into a few pieces. It was over a public argument I had with my girlfriend. We were 17 or 18. It was not okay.
I was not thinking about harming her. I was not attempting to threaten her. It was still 100% unhealthy and is completely fair that it is treated as threatening behavior.
I don't remember doing it ever again and I sometimes think about that interaction. I'm in my mid 30s now. Still one of the worst things I've done in a relationship and never want to have something like that happen again.
Also, stab wounds to the leg can absolutely be fatal. If the femoral artery is hit, you can bleed out in seconds
They did not inform the mother before asking FOR ORGANS??!! What the hell is wrong with them! It’s devastating enough to find out, but like this?! Officials messed up biiiig time. Why no one called right away, from the hospital he was declared passed away, police??
Here is Miami... They don't ask. It was a nurse that saved me because the damn doctor was going to let me die instead of just intubating me. She told me to take the organ donor label off my license. And if he didn't have that on his license those doctors took advantage of the situation.
Her asking for a hug when the police told her he was dead - THIS just sent me! 🤦🏽♀️
It was nauseating. Along with her antics and bs leading up to Christian’s demise.
Please, keep us updated.
This breaks my heart. She stabbed him twice, so in my opinion, only the first time could be "in the heat" the second time was straight up " I failed last time, so let's try this again!".
Makes sense since most blunt weapons,especially knives,are crimes of passion,compared to guns and such that could,in a way,be an accident. It was definitely a "let's make sure he stays down this time"with the second stab
@@ryomahoshi4529knives are not blunt
Men's mental health is so important. Men feeling like they can safety talk about their own abuse is important. It's so sad he stayed in this relationship. I can only imagine ppl wouldn't even take abuse claims seriously because of the size dynamic. Size, sex none of that matters to abusers. Men talk to your friends and family. It doesn't make you less of a man. You're important and your well being is just as important.
Abuse is so isolating and feels so alone that the abuser can make you feel that they are the only one that loves you or can put up with you and even if you do leave you can feel so dependant on that perceived love that you will return. Never blame a victim.
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Yes!
Exactly and those people who didn't intervene when she was abusing him in public (probably unintentionally) send that signal as well. By not adressing her behaviour, intervening they send the message that there is nothing to see. ofc it's more complicated than that but a victim who already is in a very vulnerable position is likely to perceive it that way strengthening that feeling of being alone, needing to deal with this themselves because who else will care?
Thank you so much for covering this tragic story. I grew up watching my Dad in a physically, emotionally & psychologically abusive relationship with my stepmum which is unfortunately still going on to this day. I wish DV and emotional abuse against males by female perpetrators was talked about more. I’ve tried time and time again to explain to my Dad how my stepmother’s actions are abusive but he just can’t see it that way, even when she was physically violent to him, in front of me and my siblings when we were kids. Anyway, sorry for the trauma dump. Thanks for another great video Swoop, please keep us updated. Thank you as always for talking about sensitive topics with such care and consideration.
Maybe show him a book or a video about it ? Sometimes it really hits you when you see your thoughts and feelings on paper written by a stranger that totally describes you. It makes it more real when you know the terminologies.
I hope things get better for everyone involved.
I know it’s not the main channel but I still sit here when she says my name is swooop I still do the “SWOOOP” 📢
Every single time 😂✊
Same
I miss the little dance with “SWWOOOOPP! Swoop, swoop, swoop eh… swoop, swoop, swoooop eeehhhh 😝”
"This wasn't my intention"
"I didn't want to hurt you"
"I know you think I enjoy doing this, but I dont"
If people are saying this to you, consider it a massive red flag.
Of you are getting this leave. Male, female and any points in between… just go!
I mean I really don’t enjoy having to keep asking my bf to consume a lil less of the screen and go touch grass
I really needed a distraction from what’s going on in my life right now. I just wanted to thank you for your content and always being respectful when you cover topics. ❤
Saaaaaaame. Wishing you strength.
Hang on there, friend ❤️ everything will be ok.
Wishing you calm and peaceful thoughts today ❤
Hugs!!! ❤❤❤
Sending love to you ❤
I’m fully financially independent from my ex who did a lot of name calling/ bottle throwing, and even now he tries to gaslight me into thinking it’s all my fault and I’m broken and will ‘always be this way’. I cannot imagine the type of mental distress this man was under. My heart shatters for him.
Yikes! 😢 I had a narcissistic boss tell me that I’d always “be this way,” too. I was not yet diagnosed with autism at the time; he was terrible.
GURL! I'm wearing a Petty University shirt and a girl working on my house said she likes it and you are great. Literally just happened. Small world!
i love this! so, one day i was talking to my boss about one of the cases & she said “you watch Swoop too?” and we both looked at each other & said “SWOOOP” i love our lil community 🥹💜💜
I could fill a propane tank with that much gaslighting.
My live in bf died while I was at work one night, n I found out when the medical examiner called me to ID him by his tattoos over the phone, so they could justify sending officers to his family's house to notify them of his passing... it was so shocking n traumatizing n honestly felt pretty cold n heartless...
My God, I am so sorry for your loss, and for that horrible experience. My deepest condolences. ❤
My heart breaks for this poor man and his family. Those messages from him really stike me, you can feel just how much he loved her despite her horrible abuse towards him. I hope he's somewhere better now. Rest his soul peacefully in sunsets that no one will muddy.
This comment is beautiful, all i saw in the comments was about her. He was an incredible person who just needed help, we all failed him. He is the sunset now, may he get the infinite love that lived in his heart.
The manipulation of "I wish I was going through the pain not you" WHEN THE ABUSER IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE INFLICTED PAIN is bogus. My abusive ex used to pull this shit too.
Maybe it's just me but this is giving "who are the courts going to believe? Me a pretty woman or a man who is a former foot ball player?" Vibes and it is just gross.
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“can i please have a hug” was wild. this case is so beyond devastating
"Can I have a hug." Are you f-ing serious. NO!
No, but I can offer a slap!
NO, FR. PISSED ME OFF. SHE'S A PSYCHO
SWOOP there it is!
I truly truly truly hope his family gets proper justice. My heart goes out to them
I knew he died from the title and I still found myself fully crying and saying no when you said he did lose his life
Man this life is tough sometimes
(Tw for this comment!!) I had an ex threaten me with a knife before. I remember thinking "oh, they wouldn't, they love me" even though I knew they were abusive. I cant help thinking he mustve felt the same before she stabbed him. God, this is so upsetting :(
You are absolutely right to bring up the racial dynamics in this case as I truly believe they are part of the reason she was able to abuse him for so long (several times in public). So many people on this earth just cannot fathom a Black man as anything other than an aggressor. Certainly not victims themselves. Racism, both conscious and unconscious, absolutely played a part in this tragedy.
This is very racist. I dated couple black guys from Nigeria and my current boyfriend is from Congo. Never felt threathen by them. Quiet the opposite my boyfriend is sweet, gentle I never heard him yelled, he is a good uncle to his many nieces and newphes, the other guys werent also violent especialy my ex that I dated the longest and we only broke up due to long distance. He even called to check up on me because he know that I struggle with BPD and was hospitalized due to it in the past before we met. So it is very harmful stereotype to be honest. My white dad was more violent and lowkey abusive than any of my black boyfriends
Also gender
It’s horrible they are playing like that. The poor man didn’t deserve to life like that. Rest In Peace xx
The question of "why didn't he just leave if it was so bad?" is just... it makes me mad..
and it's the same with what i read in a streamchat today. i watched a vod of a lawyer talking about the indictment and denied bail of the diddilydoo.. someone wrote "just say no!" about what happened to the people at those "freak off"-parties... yeah..
Did they forget that Cassie TRIED to 'say no' and 'just leave' We have it on Video on what happened when she did just that...
its something that seems "logical" to people who haven't been in it. MY question would be why didn't *she* leave if she hated him this much, right? she fed off the whole thing and had him trapped like a spiderweb. we can all speculate about the what ifs, i guess. that's all we can do now...
@@rebeccaabram2312 i have no idea..
@@scatterbrain_jane incidentaly those "freak offs" were parties with drugs and (allegedly not consensual) sex.... sooooo... make out of that whatever you will.
People do not understand that freeze and fawn are also common responses, it's infuriating.
Thank you for the sensitivity to your sensitive audience. The warning for incoming audio yelling is so appreciated. ❤
The Proof for 1st vs 2nd degree murder is crazy in some states. It could be that it is 1st but the DA is looking at the cute and pretty blond batting her sad scared eyes at the Jury and deciding that its better to go for the 2nd degree and get a sure fire conviction or plea than risking 1st and having her get off scot free
It was worse than just that apparently her family was involved with everything case wise
Jail has not been doing her any favors looks-wise... if anything, it makes it more obvious just how curated her image was
I’m reading some of y’all’s testimonies and my heart just breaks. My sister just recently got out of an abusive situation because my family went absolutely feral on him. I don’t know what would have happened to her or how long she would have stayed if we hadn’t stood up for and been there for her and spearheaded getting the restraining order. I can’t imagine watching someone go through that and do nothing, man or woman. There are people who will love you and support you, and if you don’t have them offline, there are so many amazing resources and support groups to help. Find your clan, get the support. Healing isn’t linear, but you can do this, and you don’t have to do it alone❤
She seemingly never learnt any consequences from her actions, a problem compounded by her money and looks! One thing she did seem to learn was how to be incredibly manipulative with her words (despite them being the opposite to her actions). This further compounded the issue of her never seeing consequences for her actions! And yeah there definitely seemed to be repeated examples of "Tell me your a Racist without telling me your a Racist" vibes!
I think she had substance abuse issues that compounded an anger management problem that developed into more and more violence and aggression that never got 'checked'. I think this suggest that this final act was not likely premeditated but rather yet another progressive violent outburst!
Its sad that things got this way because she never learnt that there are consequences to such behavior! Imagine finding that kind of Love and abusing it instead of treasuring it!
tbh the more I think about it, the more she seems like a sadist, and not the friendly BDSM, you get consent and listen to the sub kind of sadist. Narcissist always have some form of sadism to them but this was next level. Idk that even jail would teach her lesson though I do hope she's in jail for the rest of her life and I hope she ages like milk because that is literally the only thing that matters to her.
As a male survivor of DV, this hit me hard. Even when you speak up and ask for help, society and people just can't accept it. The cycle of abuse is hard to describe unless you've experienced directly.
The other thing worth noting: abusers look for people who fit a profile, those whose vulnerabilities make it easier for them to control.
I'm sure you already know this, but it's good to keep hearing it: it was absolutely not your fault, and you deserve to be treated with respect and care. 🖤
@@hexabellezarco thanks hex
you are such a comfort creator for not swoop!! i’m having another brain surgery and spinal cord surgery next week and just know your videos will help me get through this recovery. i’m glad you’re doing back and i hope you’re doing better💘
Thank you for emphasizing Christian’s side in this tragic situation. Especially with how close to your situation this must be. You did him justice. So many go on about her but I think we need to stop even saying their names and giving them a voice. They don’t deserve it. Many thanks for advocating for dv victims and abuse survivors. You are amazeballs ❤
What truly breaks my heart in all this is that there is an incredibly loving and deeply rich personality who clearly had dedication and massive amounts of love to give, who is now lost to the ether. Of course this is the case with everyone on this earth, but the heartfelt texts absolutely crushed me. He did not deserve to have her happen to him. 💔 RIP Christian
This 😢
First degree is premeditated, 2nd degree is depraved mind. I think there is an argument for both charges but 2nd is a slam dunk and can carry life in prison. The prosecutors may not want to risk losing on a perceived overcharge
Let me stop my school work. I need to get to professor Perry’s class. I can’t miss it. 😭 I’ve never been this early either.
Anyone in a toxic relationship know that it’s not your fault. There is light on the other side when you are ready to work on the healing. Healing takes time and work but it is possible. Keep your heads up. Everyone be safe and check in on your loved ones.
I know you meant Petty but my mind immediately went to Perry the platypus 😅
@@AshChiCupcak LMAO I didn’t catch that typo but I am so with the Perry the platypus relation lol I would’ve done the same
Thanks for covering sensitive topic it’s important for ppl to be aware . As a child of seeing there parents have explosive fights with the abuser being my mother this really hit home. Unfortunately my father was not a survivor and took his own life due to the abuse from my mom. I try every day to change this generational abuse
I think she should have been charged with premeditated (1st degree) murder. If the roles were reversed, I have no doubt Christian would have been charged with 1st degree murder. Also, the way his poor mother found out…WTF.
In my opinion: She should be charged with 1st degree murder for her blatant history for disregarding his life, this is shown not only during attacks but also abusing him knowing he’s physical in a very vulnerable state where his body is already under so much stress. Head injuries are no joke and he could’ve easily had a concussion, lose consciousness and have internal bleeding. Yet she didn’t call 911 even when he was asking blatantly for help and naming his symptoms.
If the roles were reversed this wouldn’t be a question. She didn’t care if he lived or died in any of the prior situations and I believe that’s proof enough for premeditation. Not telling 911 their apartment number is also 🚩🚩
Courtney’s sense of entitlement is next level infuriating.
Just the series of text messages alone. My word.
Rest in Peace King, you were too good for this world, you deserved far better than you got from the get-go.
Idk who needs to hear this but petite women are still capable of harm, large men are still made of flesh and human beings are fragile enough that we can technically trip over our own feet and die from a head injury.
I just wanted to mention that the mascot for my university is named Swoop and it makes me think of you every time I hear it.
Thank you Swoop, this was a kind and respectful video about a horrific situation that should have been prevented. Its clear that gender and colour played a role
I thought I was well versed on this case but here we are and again I’m blown away by your skills to research and put together details that might exist elsewhere, but you put them together in a much more cohesive manner.
I very rarely comment on videos and have never made it to a video so soon after its release. I just wanted to say you are wonderful and such a compassionate and strong lady. For a future show I think a video on the Amanda Todd story would be heartbreaking but amazingly done if you were the one to do it.
Cheers! keep up the amazing work swoop :)
Amanda Todd’s story will always break my heart. She deserved so much better
Real talk, Swoop, thanks for the care. Growing up as a man in this world, part of me is SO aware of the average power dynamic between men and women that my mind wants to shrug it off as SO not as issue compared to the amount of women that have to live through this almost normalized abuse from men. But that's just a meta. To this man, THIS was his reality no matter the meta.
Swoop thank u sm for making us DV victims feel so seen. I’m so proud & glad that you continue to shine light on these issues you’ve also experienced. THANK YOU FOR THE LOVE BOMBING CLARIFICATION. I was love bombed in my abusive relationship so often & genuinely to manipulate me. I did not know about the cycle of abuse. I lived it & did not know there was a literal cycle 😭 even majored in psych for a bit & did not know this. so thank you for continuing to teach me new things about my past traumas. it genuinely helps me cope & move on & SWOOP ILY AND HOPE YOU’RE DOING SO WELL
I hope justice is served in this case. This is so awful.
christian deserved so much better :((( that’s such an awful situation to be in. i really hope his soul is at peace now & i hope his family can recover one day.
He was so close to escaping. If he just had another person that helped him get out. 😢
as a fellow victim of DV I got flashbacks at the way she talks, it just, eugh
Oh my the orange with the purple hair looks so good Swoop!!!
please swoop for the love of god stop including the footage of that dog getting choked it is sooo upsetting.
I’m so glad you chose to cover this case - this one blew me away when I looked into it and I felt so bad for that young man. Thank you for all you are and what you do Swoop, sending my love ❤
Thank you for telling this story. I hope it makes some who watch that may be experiencing something similar realize they’re more than their abuser makes them believe.
Greetings from Sweden! Your docs literally make me squeal of joy when the notification comes, even if I know the topic will be anything but a laughing matter. I love your thoroughness, your compassion and empathy, how you're trying to present different voices and pov's while always defending those who don't have a voice of their own for various reasons. I love your way of telling difficult and shocking stories without turning them into a freak show.
I especially respect the way you condemn and expose people who have committed crimes or deeply hurtful actions towards others by using their power over fans/employees/partners etc, without making it about downgrading them as human beings, but holding them accountable for their actions.
Your deep sense of respect for other people's traumas is why I keep coming back, regardless of if I even know about the subject and people you're talking about.
And sometimes, I really need to hear you tell me I'm valid because I just know you mean it
45:33 nothing makes her reaction feel more performative than the fact that she looks dead at the camera
THIS! Keep pointing out those subtle things when you catch them! Thank you for bringing this up❤
People think that when the aggressor is smaller, they can't really hurt the victim that badly, but it's such a huge mistake to think that way.
Many, many people do not know self-defense, and many a gentle soul is afraid to hurt anyone else, even to protect themselves. This often leaves them deeply vulnerable to getting seriously hurt, or as we see here, tragically killed.
Anyone can be dangerous. Anyone can kill. It's so sad that this poor young man lost his life, my heart goes out to his family. I hope there is a thorough and honest investigation and that justice is ultimately served.
Christian 100% knew she would end his life. He stayed with her knowing she would STAB him and not give a f***, it was escalating. He knew in his gut what was going to happen but he was stuck in the abuse cycle and really wanted to make it work. He deserved so much better I feel so horrible for him. I wish someone could have helped him get out of the relationship 😕💔
Unrelated to the content of this vid but omg I love your mom's hair. I have so many family members who chop it all off when it's gray/white and I wish they wouldn't. It's beautiful.
This poor guy. My heart breaks for him and his family. She's disgusting, spoiled, and evil.
Thank you for presenting such delicate topics (abuse, death…etc) with such care and compassion toward victims and their families. It’s so refreshing to hear supportive discussion when it comes to understanding that leaving is hard. You’re inspiring and I’m grateful you have the courage to share your story and so many others.
Imagine you’re so crazy you feel justified stabbing someone, and then be shocked and surprised (even sad) when they die
As a black man who was in a abusive relationship
Seeing women defending Christian and showing support to men victims of DV made me emotional
Thank all of you for giving me some comfort knowing I'm not alone ❤
🫂 Learn as much as you can, knowledge is power. God bless you. I pray that you can figure this out and learn to love yourself so much that it never happens again and you attract true love from now on. ❤
@@lorimiller4301 thank you very much 😊
@@Chuck_ELi hope youre finding some healing and peace, youre never alone! i hope youre safe now!
@@zee-ky4gp thank you 😊
“I wish it was me instead” girl, it could have been neither of you. You didn’t have to do that to him.
Quite literally just got in bed, and here I am... Thanks for keeping us company SWOOP!!! xx
Great work as always Swoop, digging into such a horrendous and heartbreaking story. Your compassion and thoroughness is always inspiring.
What's sticking with me is, on top of everything else that poor man went through, what a horrible way for his family to find out he passed away. I hope they're able to get the justice Christian deserves.
I love the compassion you always show for abuse survivors. I was in an abusive friendship for a long time, and it took some time for it to be safe for me to walk away. I’m still struggling to heal from it, even though it was “just” a friend. People don’t understand that you can’t always just leave, and I LOVE that you always emphasize “leave it is safe to do so” and all of the advice and support you always give to survivors. Thank you so much for helping all of us know we are not alone and that there is help and hope.
Some happy news though, the man in the bird watcher Karen 29:30 has a documentary all about bird watching that came out last year! His name is Christian Cooper, it’s called Extraordinary Birder. So his story at least has a happy ending.
It's sad, really, that men are not believed when they say they are being abused. Or that they feel they have to explain it away. Especially big strong handsome men. It's like if someone said "how could he have been beaten up by that poor defenseless angel?" OMG come on!!! Anger doesn't see gender; doesn't see age; does t see color. He didn't have to lose his life. If he had been able to go to the police and make a statement that would have possibly saved him. Instead he felt he had to play the big burly guy who could take care of himself.
Swoop, thank you for the trigger warnings on yelling! I need them.
Notification? No opened TH-cam and SWOOP uploaded 10 mins ago. I clicked so fast. 💜💜 love it
Superman was faster than a speeding bullet, but was he faster than notifications? Us:1; Superman 1.
the racial dynamics are disturbing. i wish you highlighted this too.
It’d be cool to hear the story of Arianna Hutto. Nobody talks about this weird case but you delve so deep, I’d love to hear about it from you. I, also, feel like you’d be able to spread more awareness about the case. Keep jiving because I love it
This breaks my heart. I hope his family gets justice. Please continue to shine a light on DV in all its forms and centering POC victims because they do not get the attention they deserve. That said a more light dip in the pool every so often is nice too.
This is shockingly abusive, and incredibly sad.
She's guilty as sin.
What happened to Christian just broke my heart. 💔 I swear if she gets away with what she did, I will be sooo…many different emotions and the words just wouldn’t do them justice.
Love you Swoop for doing a video on this 🫶❤️🫵
She mostly did
It is very likely she will get away with it and she knows she will get away with it.
I hope she doesn’t!