Why are Chinese CHILDHOODS so DIFFERENT to ours?

[@rfpeace]

Sasha is so lovely, I'm glad you bring her on every once in a while Winston. cheers mate!!!
ron:)

[@alexeyshamanin]

When I was growing up in Russia my parents would tell me if I misbehaved that a policeman would take me away/kidnap me. And we are wondering why we dislike the cops in this country so much.

[@emmachomao]

Alexey Shamanin I heard russian grandparents also look after their grandchildren like Chinese people do.

[@oneanywhere8561]

@Alexey Shamanin: And we are wondering why we dislike the cops in this country so much.
This has nothing to do with reality. Decent people hate policemen in Rushka because in most part they are trivial sadists and perpetrators prone to violence committing crimes, extorting money, and fabricating criminal cases against political opponents as well as maiming, beating, murdering, torturing people with impunity. Rushka is a third world country and a rogue state.

[@vasili1207]

Comrade pipe down or a ticket to the gulag for you, pack warm clothes your off to siberia

[@alejandrahernandez1133]

Some Hispanic parents tell their children, that if they misbehave a stranger will g ale them away. It does scare some little one's to behave. You're comment reminded me of that.

[@JohnDoe-fj2vz]

ACAB

[@TerrenceBosworth]

charming couple. Communication is the key to relationships. delightful to watch Sasha and Winston.

[@laurag2112]

Loved this episode! I raised two sons. It is so obvious you and Sasha love each other. You have a lucky daughter with both of your experiences to raise a well balanced happy person. 🇨🇦❤️

[@RaisingShanghai_Home]

I like the way you and your wife work through ideas about Chinese culture on camera, it's really interesting to watch. While your perspective is obviously different as a mixed couple living here in China your words always seem genuine.

[@tomt7079]

Lanee Shaeril if you heard that then you're a savant because although Winston didn't say it it's all true.

[@johndenver6391]

Raising Shanghai she is so cute, serpentza is a lucky man.

[@afromaximus]

I think Winston was on the money with highlighting the difference between growing up in a city vs rural environment even in the same country. Trying to explain what growing up on the farm is like to city folks really highlights the differences in understanding.

[@rajb888]

Everything she said about raising Chinese children, the same they do with Indian kids here 😆

[@kickinbackinOC]

Tom T
"because although"?
Is that phrase a product of Google Translate?

[@CubasAutomotive]

It might have been "a lengthy one" but I was thrilled to hear Sasha's take on child raising and thoughts on your family, Winston! She has definitely become more open with her opinions and that's great to see!! She's "finding a voice" and a little less camera shy. She's very sharp and though she has trouble finding the right words in English sometimes, she still expresses herself quite well. Looking forward to seeing her more often in future videos!! 🤗🤗😄😄😄😍😍

[@serpentza]

+Cuba Rodriguez thank you! I hope she will talk more on camera!

[@billygarrison6530]

welcome to another" wideo" ---- so cute.

[@dominoscr]

Hearing from Sasha was excellent. Her take was really insightful. My parents told us baby rustlers would come to get is if we were bad and make horse noises. Parents everywhere mess with kids! 😎 Awesome video!

[@davidens8204]

I totally agree Cuba she is very smart being a Doctor and all

[@CubasAutomotive]

David Ens just because she's a doctor, doesn't make her automatically smart. I don't know how high the credentials are coming from a Chinese university, but I'm sure they're not as high as some other countries. Also, I believe in China, you can pretty much pay your way through (I don't know this personally but from what I've heard).
Sasha on the other hand speaks & understands English quite well. She also understands Western customs better than most Chinese & agrees with some of it, which to me, speaks volumes.

[@KawaiiCat2]

This is so true, all of it, and I am a Chinese American born and raised in USA. Chinese culture never really leaves the Chinese family no matter where they live in the world.

[@TheSsafff]

Music_Lights agree

[@zeiitgeist]

Nonsense, I've seen countless cases of Chinese families that break most of the 'rules' of Chinese culture, heck the 'tiger' parenting are fairly recent and typically bragging families with egotistical mum's that go the great length of molding their children through brutish methods, I come from a free range house holds that can be exemplified in Su HanChen's children paintings.

[@cookiescream548]

Latinos are the same. Sometimes parents are more important than spouses, especially to the males.

[@smissions7340]

+Music_Lights sometimes the Chinese in America are more Chinese than the Chinese in China lol.

[@v1r1d15n5]

I have to say that for Latinos its the same thing 😂😂😂 we never stop and we are so prud of our countru although some of us are second or fourth generation!

[@wavydonny08]

Your wife is awesome dude. She talks broken english which I understand because I'm from Hawaii. And I like how you guys talk about the difference in culture from the Chinese and your own upbringing. Be cool and keep doing what you're doing.

[@Remigrator]

She talks better English now, that was 5 years ago. And for some reason which is completely beyond me, she has even become more attractive, although she got older like we all did. 😅

[@itannoysme3348]

Your wife's English has really improved, and she seems quite confident and classy, Winston.

[@xcalibertrekker6693]

+silent He never said that was the case and you certainly don't but it certainly helps.

[@elianneschulz3572]

Did you even watch the video? She improved, but is far from fluent. This and he never said one has to be fluent in english to be classy, thats what the "and" is for.

[@RoofTopFocus]

A well dressed French business woman speaking messed up english would be called classy. Not seeing your point.

[@demef758]

I fail to see why "classy" has entered this conversation. It's a simple sitdown discussion about the differences in childhood rearing in the two societies. Period. For those griping about "fluency," I would ask "how's your Chinese?" I doubt any of us is as proficient at Chinese as Sasha is with English. I understood her perfectly, and I bet you all did, too. If not, go find another blog to pee and moan about. I'm sure Winston would agree.

[@loganlodge4375]

Classy why ? Because she’s married to a white man ? 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@PhilipLeitch]

There's been an increasing transition in Australia where grandparents are forced to look after grandchildren. The cost of living means children can't afford a home of their own, even after marriage. Both parents have to work and child care can be so expensive that for some it costs more that you can earn.

[@satah5045]

Where are you living in Australia? This is still a very rare senario in Australia

[@PhilipLeitch]

@@satah5045 Queensland. And from everything I've read this is incredibly common. I know several teachers across South East Queensland and all of them say grandparents are just as likely to collect children as parents.

[@satah5045]

@@PhilipLeitch I think I misread your comment because I read it as people who were married and had children still lived with thier parents and Idk anyone who does this for more than a few months ( moving back from os or while building a home to save on the rent ) if they are married with kids. Yes housing prices are crazy if you want to live in a middle class area but good luck if you are a third or more generation Australian between 20-45 trying to get your parents to look after the grandkids they have their own lives and kids are expected to do it themselves. Part time care is the best you'd expect from someone of the baby boomer generation in Australia

[@oozz14]

i've read it that here in france, more and more, old people are doing colocation with some young student, it gives them the possibility to get help and not being alone (and to avoid retirement home) and gives the possibility to the student to pay less a home

[@halinailkiewicz6146]

This trend has also been present for some time in Canada. It seems it is a global phenomenon

[@MrZwt]

This may be a rare case but I practically learned my childhood disciplines from my grandparents and great grandmother from father's side. My grandfather actually taught me how to make bows and arrows in the wild, and how to identify edible wild plants which is really awesome now that I think about it.
Nice video!

[@flyingrv6]

A sad fact is that no matter what you say online, you will always have a certain percentage who are offended by whatever you believe. Most people who are trolls are just simply assholes and are looking for someone to attack to make themselves feel better. So, it doesn’t matter if someone’s pissed because they don’t agree with your life choices or opinions.

[@demef758]

Very true. I could find the cure to cancer, and there would be zillions of fools who would call me a racist when it was discovered that it did not work as well for some races. Or women. Or whatever.

[@danko5866]

But that doesn't change the fact that pineapple belongs on pizza

[@ainsleywainsley]

When i was a kid i hated wearing clothes especially pants hahah.
I remember my mum telling me stories about how if i didn't wear pants a magpie would swoop down and take away my willy hahah thinking it was a worm.
I started wearing pants after that hahah

[@serpentza]

+ainsleywainsley lol, that's some good motivation

[@jpye8989]

This is so funny...hahaha

[@murphy6700]

Of course you were 18 at the time ....

[@GenaF]

😂😂😂

[@NathanHeinrich94]

Super informative video, it was really nice to hear Sasha's perspective on how your sister is raising her daughter and compare that to her own upbringing.

[@ClearAdventure]

You two hurt my face, because I cannot stop smiling the entire time you are talking together. :-D

[@lewallaire8185]

So very nice. I remember the difference in my own childhood from my children. When I was a kid we ran around in all the wooded areas and ranged a mile ore more from home. If my boys got out of a quarter mile I'd be frantic and send out a search party! I wanted them to have the the same experience as I had but I just couldn't trust that they'd be safe.

[@tomt7079]

Winston your videos are so engaging, authentic, and professional... you have helped me cope with leaving Asia, and from going insane because of it, really, thank you. I feel transported back when I watch. I will say, when you do leave, it will be way harder than you imagine.

[@googlechromefastsecure9676]

these videos have quality please do more

[@PurplePuddingDude]

Clorox Bleach i see you in almost every comment section in the videos i watch

[@Kamadev888]

You don't get that he's been doing them for years?

[@PurplePuddingDude]

Kamadev888 i dont mean on the channel. I mean in like TH-cam videos i watch that aren't related to this specific content

[@monokendo]

same

[@jonathansum9084]

you are everwhere.

[@thysonsacclaim]

Sasha is amazing--really enjoyed hearing her perspective.

[@fim313]

You guys are the best, I can tell how much you love Sasha by the way you look at her when she speaks :) stay awesome!

[@jessezwolle2000]

Your wife is fucking cute.

[@throughvf]

From a Chinese perspective, she is very beautiful too.

[@MrTynanDraper]

Considering you guys don't have kids of your own, you were really spot on with this one. Coming from a guy who has a mixed boy and Chinese in-laws living with us and overly involved with their grand-son.

[@serpentza]

I feel your pain

[@jjkosinski]

Daniel Tynan remember, no criicizm!!! or you will pay dearly for the rest of your life

[@garywoodgrw]

To be honest mate, I don't really have too much of a problem with it. I often openly disagree with my mother in law and tell her if I don't want her to do something and so does my wife. This may raise a few eye brows with Chinese people, a son-in-law openly disagreeing with his mother-in-law, but meh! If it's ever got out of hand have you ever spoke with them directly?

[@Poemi10304]

My Mainland Chinese in-laws are no longer allowed alone with my child because to them it is still normal to smack your wife around.

[@minoriruba1828]

But also this too much "independent" daughters in the western world will grow up to become "Feminist" who "don't need a Man in any situation" and this is how their parents raise them, letting them believe they don't even need to hold a grow up's hand!!! So these kids will be the reason for western men to come to Asia and marry an Asian girl!!! The cycle will continue!!we need to see the bigger picture!!

[@devildocnowciv9272]

This is very nice, thanks for including your wife. You both make a great impression, and our youth need all the examples of a nice, successful seeming married couples they can get. Thats one thing I admire about China from your vids - they seem to push hard to their kids to get married.

[@eddieaugustin3811]

Great video Winston! I really like when you bring the wife along! It gives a nice second perspective and gives us the feeling of a more balance content of information! Plus you can see that she is a smart and well rounded person. I can imagine that it's challenging for her to do this in English but she holds her own very well. You guys are great together!!! Keep it up!

[@Wysiwyg43]

I HATE when I read racist and vitriolic posts in the comment section. I thought the video was very informative and sincere. It just goes to show how much of a professional, SerpentZA, is. I shall continue to support this channel. PEACE

[@serpentza]

+wysiwyg43 thank you!

[@JustinKoenigSilica]

wysiwyg43 what the fuck are you talking about, I didn't read a single racist comment in like the 100 comments I read.
Always looking to get offended over nothing, these neoLiberals...

[@Doggonit]

Calm down, chocolatecity.

[@meistereder6382]

Because people use the word racist for everything nowadays. They don't even know what it means.

[@hallnoats4ever]

wysiwyg43 OMG to get away from blacks I would move to China too

[@Mark-en4tn]

Great video. Almost seemed like there was so much more to cover, so definitely not too long. My wife and I tend more toward the helicopter parent side (academics, extracurriculars, emphasis on college prep), but with one very important difference. With her Chinese upbringing, she and her extended family tended to want to do things for the kids and shield them from the messes and failures, so I had to explain how that was depriving them of the opportunity to learn from their successes and failures, and how in the long run that can crush self confidence and destroy leadership potential, turning them into perpetual followers unable to cope with life's imperfections. (Maybe I didn't put it quite that way...) My advice is to guide them and encourage them, giving them the tools to succeed, and trust them to use those tools on their own.

[@tharithchum6707]

Hi Winston, I am from San Francisco, CA USA. I've been watching a few of your videos. Thanks for your effort in sharing your experiences in your life including your marriage life with Sasha who is completely a different culture from yours. Great to see you both are going a long so well in the relationship. There will be lots to share in life between the two of you. Have a happiness and succeed guys !

[@robertmassey7391]

Great video with both of you. Very informative and very fact based. Thank you.

[@lioninwinter9316]

I really enjoy hearing the different perspectives from your lovely wife. Thank you both for sharing.

[@billygarrison6530]

Your wife Sasha is so understanding and beautiful. You are such a lucky man.

[@SuperBartles]

Intelligent and beautiful..

[@egolayer13]

Dude, I've said this in a million videos already, but nobody rocks a damn suit like Winston.

[@ThinWhiteAxe]

True true. I love it 😅

[@malibu64]

I miss these videos where you and Sasha talk together! Would love to see more.

[@NoWay-vz9xw]

I found this channel by accident, but stayed because, I love the content and I feel like I am there with you. C-milk is fun to..

[@serpentza]

Thanks mate, and welcome!

[@Dsdcain]

Excellent video as always. Keep up the good work man I really enjoy your content. XD

[@Batuov]

You make a cute couple, you both seem quite open minded. Stay awesome I guess ;)

[@ConfusedWonkie]

Being Chinese Canadian I still feel that respect thing very strongly when I was little I didn't understand it at first, like when I was little sometimes I would really like to ask people if they need help with anything especially elderly I remember when it was a elderly Chinese person they would feel really offended, when ever I taught myself new things like different recipes elderly Chinese people who knew my parents when they heard about this they assume my parents taught me and if I tell them I learned it on my own they don't believe me until my parents tell them I learned it on my own, there are a lot of good things about asian parenting too

[@HC3053suevus]

You seem to be very intelligent. But I don't think it's very unusual that older people didn't want to believe that you learned difficult things like a recipe yourself when you were a more or less small child, because that's rather unusual.
All the best to you from southern Germany! 👍 😉

[@Calvictus360]

YOU guys are awesome!

[@sarmadghafoor1484]

Calvictus no one is falling for your tricks I’m not Gona sign one of your doggie contracts 😅😅

[@varjan86]

The worst part are not only the grandparents passing on bad habits and horribly spoiling the grandkids but also the parents who say: I know that that's bad for my child, but I cannot change anything. The parents are apparently not allowed to criticizes the grandparents in any way.

[@jjkosinski]

Varjan_Xmn this is very strong. no criticize older generation. chinese, Korean, asian culture very strong

[@anonamatron]

Culture has the word CULT in it for a reason. It's mind control. Asian people are more mind controlled than most places. Western culture is absolutely mind control too, but it's a very different style.
Culture is self-policing mind control. Step out of line and everyone around you will slap you back into place. Pretty convenient way to control people huh?

[@jaysato]

they let them raise them. and not be involved with the kid. yet they do not like what the grandparents teach them. wtf right. so take care of your own damn kid.

[@ctuan13]

There is a very strong, blind respect for elders, irrespective of whether they deserve it or not.

[@subisays]

Varjan_Xmn same in India as well

[@jonwu]

3:39 The dude on the right with his belly exposed. He is the embodiment of China.

[@MrAmbrosse]

Yeah hah, I noticed that as well. Chinese people are very strange.

[@rei_cirith]

It's called the Beijing Bikini for a reason.

[@ThePathStrider]

I'm British, and am pretty sure we have those guys as well.

[@asotomayor]

For real! Just came back from China a couple of weeks ago and saw that quite often, then again it was really hot 🥵 outside

[@tompeled6193]

You mean 3:40

[@powerlinkers]

your wife is so pretty and looks intelligent. You are a lucky guy.

[@user-tx2zd7hj9x]

and cute 🤣

[@Rusty_Gold85]

She is a Doctor

[@pepesilvia3490]

@@Rusty_Gold85 ok ben Shapiro 😉

[@colmac1834]

Winston normally you run videos to about 10 min which is very convenient to watch. This one ran 23 min and I did really enjog every minute. Having Sasha's extensive input was really great to listen to and my sincerest complements to you Sasha for the great insights into Chinese the differences between the older and newer generation of the way that the China of yesteryear is being slowly phased out but still maintains that uniquely Chinese cultural heritage regardless. Also having such a massive density of humanity presents its own problems. By stark contrast where I'm originally from in Australia my childhood up bringing took place in an area half the size of Switzerland with a total population 2400. My village had 1100 people. Therefore space with so much to do in the outdoors was never a problem. The greatest danger was to be bitten by a snake or to drowninthe local creek. Consequently we leart how to swim at a very early age. Camping in the bush with my 2 dogs nearly every weekend from about 8 years old was one of my greatest joys. I also hated schoo, it interfered with my rabbit trapping. 5 stars Winston & Sasha.

[@Kee2Oz]

You both have striking genetics. Your children will be models.

[@BeroeZara1916]

That was racist

[@chelazy]

that was not racist at all.

[@RealAlienCommunity]

lol Beroe everything is racist to everyone these days, you people are pathetic..

[@CRC.Mismatch]

RAC, that's racist towards pathetic people.

[@libertopian]

Everything is racist

[@jamestownsend6657]

I can't believe how much I'm enjoying your Vlogs and the videos that go along with them, I like all the different topics that you cover. As someone who is married to an Asian woman, Indonesian, I share many of the same experiences that you're having but of course from a different cultural perspective and I must say I am having the time of my life, I just love the way my life is turning out. People of two different cultures coming together and loving one another really makes for a very enriching life. Peace and love.

[@ColanChen]

It's a transaction period between the two generations on how to educate their children. Take myself as an example, from my mother's generation, she already has the awareness of abandon the bad habits of old generation. And many couples of my age, they will try not to give children to grandparents.
I've never heard of the monster story when I grew up and I ask to sleep alone because it's so cool to have my own pretty room! :D

[@danielleholmberg270]

I've been binging videos from SerpentZA, AdvChina, and Laowhy86 and I love all the videos but this one is my favorite so far. Your wife is so pretty and charming and it was so very interesting to see the two types or child-rearing juxtaposed against each other. Just a great way to get insight into another culture. Love this!

[@astatineps1177]

Sasha is really funny ! It would be great if she could join winston and laowhy in videos more.

[@kamilk6807]

thank you for the video, was curious to see such comparison

[@Krawurxus]

Apart from the pampering and overprotectiveness the fact that children aren't being taught to swim in China is what's most astonishing to me.
My mom was doing part-time work as a life guard, and I think I was taught how to swim when I was just 4 or 5 years old.
In Germany we have something called the Life Saving Association which hold a series of official swimming exams for children, stuff like being able to swim 200, 400 and 600 meters at a time, diving to retrieve an item from certain depths, demonstrating mastery of different swimming and rescue techniques and so on. They issue a series of patches kids get to sew on their swimwear depending on their level of proficiency. It's a bit like the badges for boy scouts in America, but only for swimming. And man, was I proud after that last gold patch. I'd earned all of those by the time I was 10 years old, most other kids I knew had it a year or two later at most.
Maybe China could do something similar to encourage kids to learn to swim.

[@ilijabosnjak76]

Krawurxus That's Zehr Cool 😎 👍

[@robspunk]

Great idea Winston. More perspectives from the locals, Sasha or others, will help give the 'naysayers' a new perspective. An alternate and better social class, one viewer at a time. I've lived in China for 5 years and everything you say is true, so I hope these videos help to improve the country I love. The government sure wont.

[@beamer-au]

I am looking forward to see how your children grow up, as the both of you ARE AWESOME ! Love you both heaps.

[@low_quality666]

My son and I watched this episode and can’t help laughing as it’s so true to our life . Good job!

[@magiankokot9314]

i showed a couple of your videos to my chinese students and colleagues... no glass hearts amongst them. they all laughed and said that it's all true... and they were amazed at your chinese. keep up the good work! ...and talk some sense into prozzie... he looks awfully confused these days... too many contradictory videos... sometimes he even manages to change his mind completely toward the end of the video. i wish him that his life turns for the better. it is much better watching him having fun rather than existential angst.

[@jameswells-uk6qu]

You two are one good looking couple. He's handsome n she's beautiful! 💝

[@AnotherPointOfView944]

Well done Winston and Sasha, a very interesting and informative video. The quality of information you provide me is is why I am one of your patreons. Thankyou so much both of you. :-)

[@halohat2286]

Thank you for this channel ❤

[@studiokiselbach]

Japanese similar to Chinese in this respect: grandparents expected to care for kids, as well as the extended family, children sleeping with parents, taking care of them in old age, the education values quite similar, too.
These must be universal Asian principles, you might want to discuss in depth with Korean, Chinese & Japanese subscribers, especially.

[@elylioney6390]

I agree. Although I would have wanted to climb a tree when I was a kid, there where no suitable trees in my neighbourhood with low lying branches.

[@elianneschulz3572]

same in eastern europe, family stays together with grandpaarents, parents, children, wifes/husbands of children, maybe some /grand-)aunts and uncles aswell.

[@Gladissims]

@Motorcyclist Lol. I climbed plenty of trees when I was young, and I grew up to be perfectly fine. XD

[@bilibiliism]

Thats called ‘儒家’ or Confucianism. It was the common religion of east asia for past two thousands years until modern age.

[@ihsahnakerfeldt9280]

@Motorcyclist Not whatever they want. There are limits of course. What parents from overprotective cultures (including Arab ones) don't get is that there is merit to the child trying slightly risky physical activity: they gain a lot of confidence and independence. They get damaged in the process (assuming it's not serious)? They learn from it. Just like our immune systems require exposure to pathogens to develop immunity and adapt, children require challenges. There is nothing more damaging to those things in a developing child than constantly getting coddled. It creates a self-conscious, self-questioning individual who lacks orientation and "outside skills."

[@btingey]

Ok, I lied... one more. Protecting children. My father was an avid wilderness backpacker. We did it together often. One summer when I was 12 we planned a two week trip to a very remote wilderness. No roads, no people etc etc etc. when we arrived we parked the car and I got out and put on my pack... but my father just sat in the drivers seat. I came to his window and asked why he didn’t get ready to hike. (We were going 14 miles the first day)... he smiled at me... said I’ll be fine and do well, and he would pick me up in two weeks at the other end on the trail 85 miles away. sent me off alone for two weeks in the wilderness. Truth is, I had the best father imaginable. Taught me I could do anything at a very early age.

[@davidwright7193]

Better drowned than duffers, if not duffers won’t drown. Arthur Ransom in Swallows and Amazons.

[@jadetorres2266]

wish someone did that to me. since kids dont die that much these days especially in the west it should be common practice the native americans do something similar

[@ronch550]

Good grief I can totally relate to many things about spoiling kids in this video. Grandparents will give everything the kid asks for. We always argue about this.

[@CocotheNut]

I love hearing Sasha's perspective on things. And she's so gorgeous!

[@DahliaLegacy]

I'm an only child and when I was 3 my mom started me taking swimming lessons. She didn't want me to drown so she made sure I could swim. I think that with kids it's very important to teach them that since there is that risk that they could die if they fall into water. It's also a skill you don't forget.

[@silak33]

Did you ever fall into water? Fully clothed, outside of a context where you had intended to swim?
I'm mostly asking because I honestly don't get peoples obsession with being able to swim...

[@gloing]

Wonderful couple; clearly there is a strong bond that overcomes cultural differences.

[@zhangyasi]

another great video! I really appreciate how open you are and try to be objective when talking about cultural differences. I pity those people who always see things from a negative lens and filled with negative energy. Keep it up and thanks for your efforts making great contents! I hope to meet up with you two when I am in SZ. cheers

[@taliaChannel6]

One of your best videos yet!!! You two going back and forth about your personal experiences..this was truly awesome!! Thank you so very much, both of you! This touched on things the other SerpentZA videos don't touch on. Thank you, thank you!!
I want so much to truly KNOW and to love China! It is difficult, being born and raised in America. Knowing truly how China is, and how the people of China are, at least makes me feel closer to them.
Thanks for sticking to your saying of "Stay Awesome!" Great job. Thank you!!!

[@btingey]

“Behave or some guy will come and steel you”..... yes and his name was Winston

[@benec5816]

This was very informative comparing the two families well done to take an honest approach and fantastic to see your wife starting to talk a lot more and not being as shy. In Singapore it was the same and they couldn't swim either as we used to teach the recruits to swim as most had never learnt in been in deep water anyway stay safe the pair of you and enjoy yourselves

[@magetowermania919]

I've seen some of your videos, they are really good, love the intro with the VHS and the music! I share your opinion with most of the things you say! I'm glad I found this channel cause I wanted to know some things about China, I'm looking forward to watch the 2 documentaries and ADVChina channel. .Apparently I found many similarities with Greece especially the Grandparent spoil thing! You look great together and she is beautiful! I wish you best of luck mate!

[@felixz2083]

Hey Winston, another awesome video I can relate very well. Those things are huge issues we will all have to deal with, anyway, I am quite happy to hear that your wife has a reasonable perspective on it. Maybe, it can help for a better future for all of us. We need to understand each other and try to find a way together.
And 100% agree on that navigation skills.

[@shupertj09]

This video was so interesting. From the information you’ve shared, I actually see a lot of similarities between how children are raised in America and China. Over scheduling children’s activities is pretty popular in the states with sports, education, music, even arranging play dates. I think there is this desire to help your children be well rounded and accomplished but also to keep them out of trouble. College scholarships are also extremely competitive in the US (even primary schools in general, especially in the major cities) so your trying “check as many boxes” as possible because you want your children to be successful. I think bed-sharing or “the family bed” is pretty common in the US but it’s less socially acceptable so people don’t talk about it or admit it.
Childcare is astronomical in the states and you have to trust this person(basically a stranger) or daycare to not do anything harmful to your child (or just to take proper care of your child)....so the idea of having my parents or my spouses parents take care of my children...is amazing. Some grandparents do take care of their grandchild while the parents work in the state but a lot of times, the grandparent I still have to work themselves so that isn’t possible.

[@chasetonga]

This was a fascinating topic! It was nice to hear Sasha's point of view, and she explained her observations very well. With grandparents raising the children and passing on habits (and any underlying psychological /generational hang-ups), it will take longer for generations to change than in other societies. As a teacher it is really sad to hear that children don't get freedom to explore, learn through play, and develop a creative mind. Could you imagine plopping a Chinese child in a Montessori school? They would be lost. Great video though! Sasha should be in more of them!

[@simplefilemaker327]

mate... u r video quality is just keeps getting better.

[@samuelpezzetta7084]

Hey Winston and Sasha! Awesome video! Can you make a video about your relationship, like how do Winstons parents think about him having a Chinese wife and vice-versa. And why did Sashas parents not move in with you in the same apartment, or will they when you will have a kid? Do you plan having kids one day? So many questions!

[@jessiehorne]

Firstly appreciate you Sasha for taking time to be in this video with Serpentza (Winston) ☺️
I like this type of videos from you sir. 👍 I am learning things about the different nuances between western life and life in China.
Want to tell you both to stay AWESOME 😉👍 Till next time Serpentza ....

[@daledude22]

I'm a 60 year old white guy that grew up in Florida, in the U.S. It was much as you describe your childhood for me Winston. I used to be out all day doing all manner of things with my friends without our parents knowing or caring what we were doing - as long as we didn't get into trouble that is. It was awesome, and unfortunately, those days seem but a distant memory at this point in time in the U.S. Now you're expected to keep a tight reign on your kids. Many reasons for this.

[@demef758]

I agree with both of you. I had a similar childhood. Alas, there are now far too many creeps and perverts who are loose in our society. I would also tend to keep my kids on a rope, although a long one. About the time a kid hits 10-12, then you lengthen the rope. In America, you want to breed independence, not reign it in! It's why we're as good as we have been. Not so much anymore, though.

[@JHall-dl1sb]

That’s the difference culture or custom between orient and western. It’s gradually changing in Taiwan, younger generation got married and live on their own, no longer required or refuse to live with parents as far as l know.
One thing, teach the young generation to raise your own children, responsibilities and managing the career at same time. In a way , one grew as one married and became mature.

[@antrant7533]

“If there were diapers, the grandparents would take care of it” hahaha

[@mapsandmarvels]

I have just realised, that my childhood in Russia was like it in China. I wasn't allowed to go out alone until 10 years old.(Thank to our safe city,lol) and the most time I was just spending with drawing or reading at home. Thanks for interesting video, serpentza, you do it really well!

[@serpentza]

+Rita Naydenova so happy you enjoyed the video

[@subhashkumar-cf8ye]

Rita Naydenova Same way in Indian culture as well.

[@borussenkingsus8078]

Now being in Shenzhen for 3 days and your vids prepared me to get a better understanding how it will be right here. Thx ☺️

[@adambartone9193]

I've never been to china, and I am not actively planning to go. But, I have to say I'm glad that Winston is representing westerners in China, he's a stand up guy. Similarly, China should be proud to have Sasha bridging us together. Cool channel, one love

[@sallyseligman9894]

Beautiful wife, Sasha! Thanks for this video. Most interesting and educational! Stay Awesome!

[@ericcy153]

Welcome to another weeedio~

[@seferino]

Eric Cy lol

[@pennyngu4844]

I think her accent makes her so cute

[@tooyoungtoomuchzhao7505]

😂

[@demef758]

I remember as a kid there was an African singer named Mariam Makeba, or something similar. She was on the old Ed Sullivan variety show, and sang a song in her native language. The punch line was that there were sounds in their language that cannot be even phonetically spelled in English, such as the sound we might humorously make of hitting someone over the head. How can you spell that?! As I watched it, I realize that some parts of *everyone's* language are so different as to be impossible to non-natives to pronounce. I'm no language expert, but I think the English "L" is very foreign to the Japanese. They sweat bullets when they have to say something in English classes with an L in it. Similarly, I surmise that "V" is difficult for the Chinese to pronounce.
I'd like to see you take a stab at speaking Chinese, Eric ...
You're doing great, Sasha.

[@linelaine2489]

Eric Cy I can tell you that most of Chinese can’t pronounce that V well

[@PrivateAccountXSG]

Nice work dude, she's pretty

[@peterchan9460]

Good to hear you both speak frankly and honestly about the differences. Always interested to hear these experiences. Keep these videos going. Thanks

[@rentisme]

5:22 I was not expecting that lol
edit: I can just imagine winston having to explain his way out of that one lol

[@skyninja301]

I think in China there's a basic guilt assumed by parents and grandparents if they don't pamper and spoil their Little Emperors and Empresses. In the US we call this "helicopter parents". However, the US also suffers the opposite problem with not enough parenting as seen in reports of serious criminal abuses of children by their own parents.

[@InfoSecIntel]

Do you have any videos that talk about the “dangers of drinking cold water”?

[@salamandiusbraveheart4183]

Ahaha, and coffee

[@irenezhao323]

hahahahahahaha,😂😂😂. As a Chinese, coffee is not my drink, I prefer tea. And for cold water, not all people only drink hot water, personally I prefer warm water.

[@KatyaVasilivna]

So relevant in Eastern European culture, as well. 😂

[@VitorMadeira]

Fantastic. Here in Portugal we had some contact with a bit of the Chinese reality because of Macau (ex-Portuguese "colony") and some people from there actually decided to move here - mostly by the end of the 1970's / mid 1980's.
Then, by the mid 1990's there was a considerable amount of people who came here and started their local businesses (mostly restaurants and bazaar shops) and some of them became really wealthy.
Most recently, (2010's) there was this Portuguese Golden Visa initiative that attracted many Chinese Millionaires to come and live here.
But (for me!) it was always difficult to understand some basic aspects of Chinese culture, mostly the personal and family aspects.
So a HUGE BIG THANK YOU VERY MUCH for all your content. It's being fantastic to watch your videos in binge mode.
Greetings from the Algarve in Portugal.

[@alexandervonaltenstadt6375]

Love you guys ! You are wonderful. Keep on producing more awesome videos. I live in Japan and also study Mandarin. God bless you both !

[@sarunasj1463]

Look at that - Serpentza not talking over someone for the first time :O

[@serpentza]

Happens more often than you think

[@Hierax415]

Lol thats wife, you dont talk over wife if you know whats good for you.

[@gordon2988]

Everyone makes progress, good on him

[@tubernery]

I once tried talking over my Chinese fiance, and she's like "let me finish!"

[@v.m.3337]

Tubernery, I get the same line quite often, but in a different context...

[@ZENMASTERME1]

@3:33 Winston L👀K’s At His Absolutely Gorgeous Wife With Love & Admiration!
Even After A 20 Minute Interview @21:56
Winston Shows The Undeniable Dedication & Deep Feelings of Love For His Epically Awesome Wife!!!!
Everyone Please Stay Awesome!!
And May You And Your Family Always Be Blessed With Good Fortune!!!

[@jacky4640]

I also come to Shenzhen in 2006, also October like you, before I come to Shenzhen, I was bred in south china where 600KM away from Shenzhen, I watched many videos of yours from yesterday to now, the things you think about in china, that also come to my attention, I am so glad I found you shared so many opinion about china, i can not agreed more about what you say and think.

[@serpentza]

Awesome

[@johndillon5290]

What a beautiful couple, you can see the respect they have for one another. Very interesting story :)

[@travisl9201]

Winston wants to put Sasha's mom in a nursing home. Shhhh don't tell Sasha!

[@hitgucvkj]

hahaha, that's true

[@maryagyemang9870]

Lol

[@CrepitusRex]

"Until they peg off!"
Love it!

[@VaxtorT]

Hello, Winston. I am an American, born and raised in Northern Maine along the Canadian Border. I had grandparents on my dad's side who lived thru the Great Depression and Prohibition. They were a little crass. They were boot leggers and lived by the fist. I learned things from them that my parents were not necessarily approving of.....but in my adulthood, the introduction to various ways of thinking worked out well for me.

[@karmacounselor]

I love this conversation. And the part of the fire water...maybe you could do a video on things like that, superstitions based on uniquely Chinese concepts. I have a friend from Taiwan who wouldn't say the last consonant in a word because vowels and consonants have male and female traits (I can't remember which) and she had to not say the consonant because of some sort of superstition. I bet there are many more that would make an interesting video. Thanks so much. I have shared a lot of your videos on twitter and fb.

[@alleneng]

do u guys typically communicate in english or mandarin?

[@joefromravenna]

Rice Cooker, if its like our bilingual family it ends up being both languages. Mom would speak Slovak and our dad answered in English. Eventually both used words from both languages. Language at the speed of thought. The first word to tongue wins.

[@demef758]

"The first word to tongue wins." I like that!

[@lordzwheel]

@@joefromravenna Zdravim zo Slovenska!

[@sherry356]

@@joefromravenna Agreed.

[@tonycd2709]

Rice Cooker we communicate in both languages whichever faster at the moment. However, we fight in English since it sounds less nasty in a way 😊

[@quinnnewell5709]

You forgot to mention your wife is a doctor

[@slayersboxer915]

I thought he or she said she was a GP? A GP is a doctor. 3:38

[@jixxytrix1705]

Call Ben Shapiro..

[@cloebloss]

A lot of this is so on point. I've experience a lot of this living with my chinese husband whose family lived with us and took care of his brothers baby. It was a bit frustrating at times but an eye opener as what to mentally prepare myself for when my husband and I have kids and how we want to do things or boundaries we want to set with the grandparents.
If that's how chinese parents chose to raise their kids, that's their choice in the end, however a lot of the times the parents act like they can't do anything or they don't have any power, using the grandparents as an excuse due to the rule of "Respect your elders" However they're the parents kids. I see parents who don't like the way the chinese grandparents are doing things but won't do anything. It's like "Why even have kids if YOU are not going to raise them" and you put all that work on the grandparents. By having the grandparents doing everything you also miss out forming a strong bond with your own child. I feel sometimes it's a combination of laziness, they see how much work it is(although grandparents go the extra mile and make more work for themselves when it comes to a lot of things. Eating and bottle feeding as the biggest(they really do spoon/bottle feed when the kid should be capable). There's also the over protection of the baby or kid getting cold and overlaying the kid with clothes to the point where they're TOO hot..
For americans grandparents may watch our kids for a couple hours but I noticed chinese grandparents it's a full-time job even after the parents get home from work.

[@Mikers219]

I love seeing you team up for this video you two are a great couple and your wifes smile is contagious ,best wishs for you both .

[@alanbannister1874]

I love how open and respectful you both are when discussing these issues. The blending of two cultures in a relationship, yet alone blending two cultures into a child is very complicated. I look forward to the Challenge with my fiancè after we get married. Sasha and yourself make a beautiful couple, and i hope i can meet you guys on my next trip to Hong Kong and Shenzhen. Keep making your fantastic videos, and Stay awesome!!