*“I feel like I am watching a Dare commercial.”* This comment is even funnier because Dare was also a complete failure in terms of teaching people about the subjects they were talking about.
D.A.R.E. just made me interested in drugs at an early age. In all their fear mongering propaganda videos it would usually show teens having a great ass time until someone took it too far. All I took away from that was it's fun to do drugs but only in moderation lol
@@ameliasellers6396 bruh same. It taught me how to write a 300 word essay in about like 5 hours so i could "pass" the stupid class. Most of my classmates still dabbled in drugs.
My parents describe me as an "ungrateful little brat" because i was never happy when growing up, and how could i if i am trans being forced to conform to a gender i dont identify with, and that made me miserable, so its not that parents dont "notice" they dont even know, as i didnt know either until i grew up and find information by myself.
Aw I’m so sorry. I understand. I’m non-binary and my dad is very uneducated. He was convinced that my bf ( who is trans ) made me like this. it was scary
@@TheActualJeffery Thank you, and im sorry to hear that as well, its really difficult to get through older generations, i just think of it this way: just like we will be the generation of parents who understand online games cannot be paused, so we are going to be the generation that understands gender identity issues, and less kids from newer generations will have to go through what we went through.
I'm genderfluid I live in Alabama my mom knows and she accepts but she's confused about one of my siblings know and they accept me and my dad doesn't know proably won't tell him
I'm confused Samantha took out one of the worst parts of the video. The part where the transphobic bitch said you can just walk into a clinic and get T the next day.
Minimizing teenager's understanding of their own bodies and minds and to just dismiss them is dumb. I knew I was gay from puberty. Not even a little ambiguous, despite the fundamentalist environment I grew up in pressuring me not to acknowledge the idea. All it did was lead me to hate myself for a long time. Still knew I was gay.
Exactly. Hiding resources discussing it isn't going to make it go away, like she was implying, but instead it will just cause problems and harm to teens.
I pretended to be lesbian for ages, because I knew there was no way I was straight... about ten years later, I have embraced the fact that I'm bisexual (attracted to men and nonbinary people) and a trans guy. I was definitely right with "not straight" part. XD
Teenagers do not have enough understanding of their own body to make those decisions. Why do you believe at teenage years, the brain is fully developed enough to make decisions like chemical castration, but not developed enough for tobacco or alcohol?
@@montgomerypowers7205 It is likely I understand human development far better than you if you believe teenagers and children have the mental development necessary to make life-altering and potentially life-ending choices.
@Redpilled Dissident show us a trustworthy source for your claim, otherwise i’ll have to regard everything you say as absolute bullshit. (Spoiler: you won’t, because your claim is absolute bullshit)
I recently came out to some of my friends and family as transgender. A lot of them told me they already knew I was, even my friends dad, which was surprising. I was so scared and anxious for so many years. I tried to hide it and dismiss it for so long. I'm 23 now and i'm finally becoming more comfortable with myself. Your channel really helps me and reminds me I am not alone. Keep being awesome! :)
@@bobthemob98 If they do I doubt it's what you need. You need to search more widely. But I highly recommend doing it the right way, and waiting. So many risks Mr Tree. 20yrs down the line having gone the other way, I am now so medicalized I nearly rattle. Good luck!
Hi, my name is Jeremiah and I'm addicted to trans. The first time I tried trans was when I was 14, ever since then I've had a trans addiction, and I go to big lengths just to get my fix of trans. I enjoy the high whenever I do the trans, but afterwards, I just crash down. It's been 3 minutes since I last did the trans.
Why is it called non-binary? There was never a binary system lol Not even sex is binary Always seemed kinda weird it's called non-binary maybe I'm just dumb lol
@@XIX965 the gender binary is basically just boy and girl, although i dunno why its called that. also dont really think this was the place to ask and for op, im very happy for you and i hope you have a wonderful day!
Same she made me realize it’s ok to be lgbtq ( I always supported them but didn’t know I was part of it lol) now I’m proud of being a part of the community and I’m proud of you for realizing who you are :)
Your comment just reminded me of the argument "gay media will turn my kids gay" kinda deal, when all it does is show them acceptance and showing them they are valid and alright if they are lgbt+
@@imsleepy3514 I know it wasn't the place to ask it just popped into my head once I read the comment and if didn't write it down I would've forgot it lol Have a wonderful day as well
Yes! One of the reasons I didn’t realise I was trans until I was older was because I was allowed to play with whatever toys I wanted and wear whatever I wanted. Lots of young AMAB folk are told that they HAVE to play with traditionally masculine things, but not as many AFAB people are. So I never got dysphoria from people telling me I couldn’t play with traditionally masculine toys... because nobody told me that!
Why are trans girls so good at makeup lol Like the best are either gay men or trans girl Just something I noticed If my comment is problematic I'm sorry didn't mean it to be problematic
Today I got this ad and started ranting about how their logic was terrible my mom thought I was talking to someone and got super confused when I wasn't.
As a trans man I think another reason me and others I know realize later is bc I could do 'boy' things as a kid. I wore pants and put worms in my pocket and played soccer. It was only around 4th grade when I started public school and started to feel that pressure to do things a certain way did that start, with puberty intensifying it slowly. I think its much easier for parents/ adults to not question gender dysphoria signs in AFAB trans people bc its more acceptable to be a tomboy than an effeminate boy ig.
@@siddharthavicious108 seriously? no one "decides" to be trans. and secondly, two friends both coming out as trans doesn't mean it's contagious. 😂people become friends because they share similar beliefs, situations, or interests. a less stupid conclusion to draw here is that two trans people became friends because they had a better understanding of one another than cis people around them.
That must suck so much! I hope she realizes one day that she is wrong and if not that you are able to live your life fully and authentically. Sending much love and strength🖤
Wait... enby boy? What? I’ve heard of men, non-binary demi-boys, and non-binary people... but I don’t understand what a trans non-binary person AND boy would mean? Sry
When I first started questioning my identity, I always thought "but I can't be, I never had gender dysphoria growing up, I was obssesed with princesses and stuff..." then I remember when I started growing a chest how I felt weird but convinced myself it was because it was new and I just wanted them to be bigger... oh poor sweet ignorant child
I get that entirely, actually, that's 100% my case, lmao I loved princesses, and wanted a bigger chest when I was in my early teens, thought my feelings were just puberty 🙃
Oh shoot.... I’m going through that right now- Idk what else to say but ya I’ll update this if it changes, even though probably nobody will even see this comment Edit: someone liked this so I remembered it existed Uhhh no ya I’m non-binary now 😀😃
I'm just so sick of the right seeing people like me as being part of a "phenomenon" and treating us like lab rats. Just because we're different they feel the need to poke and prod at our brains so they can speculate about why we are how we are. But they always ignore the fact that we're people and we can SPEAK FOR OURSELVES.
Learn your truth and hammer at it like a metal worker. Sharpen what you know is your own light. Gaze upon your own inner self and listen to its silence. Within that silence you will find an indestructible force that no cruelty or judgement can change.
i didn't find out other trans people existed till i was 17. i knew i was trans, but i didn't know the word for it, and i thought i was the only one in the world who felt this way. for all i know, there may have been other trans people in my school, but how could i even talk to them about it when i didn't have a word for it? how could we find each other?
I didn't know trans people were a thing until I was 15 and in highschool when I finally went public my sophomore year. It took me about a year to feel sure about it but it clicked when I found out not only did a thing called dysphoria exist but there was something I could DO about it. Transitioning! My parents have been far from supportive but I turn 18 this June and can finally start testosertone.
I'm agender and I went back and forth between thinking everyone was just pretending to be comfortable with gender to fit in and thinking I was just too stupid to get it.
I knew they existed, but my dad explained it as "crazy men who pretend to be women" and stuff like that, so the first time I found out about trans men, was also the day I met one... I had a huge crush on him back then and so I looked into things further and at some point just went "Wait... this is how I feel... *insert a bunch of curses*" and here we are... I came out when I was 16 I think, but I knew I wasn't cis for years before that...
They used the same fear mongering with gay kids when I was growing up. They blamed the "gay lifestyle" for depression and suicide. When in reality it was the fear of isolation and rejection, among other terrible things associated with coming out.
it's always the ppl who've probably never talked to a trans man in their life who think they can share their opinions sidenote: you're looking so pretty today samantha, love you
yeah, like, these people think they’re helping us when really the reason most of the people i know who have attempted self-non-alive have done it cause of gender dysphoria or transphobia like, b!tch, you are not helping by saying “make sure your daughters don’t see anything trans” or “kids transitioning will do iREvErSibLe dAmAGe”
@@saturnisgay69 yep. I didn't try to off myself as a teen because I was trans. I did it because I was told I didn't know myself, that I'm insane, went through verbal, emotional, physical abuse. I tried to harm myself four times. My friend had to talk me off the window ledge. I was never a troubled girl. I just wasn't a girl.
Yeah,especially because the reason there are “more” trans people today because more people feel comfortable to express themselves,it’s not like people began being trans recently..
Why are people so obsessed with what other people feel? They also never even try to hear other perspectives. I just wish people could let other people be happy and confident. Also btw love you and your content ❤️ (trans ally here)
Because facts and trurth gone out the window replaced by lies fake science and left wing propaganda and emtions. Anyone who speaks the truth is puinshed
There wasn't coverage for gender identity disorder when I was in high school. My insurance company literally didn't cover the diagnosis, so they'd deny any treatment if it was even possibly related to gender identity disorder. I was so scared to be stuck with my medical bills that I didn't come out till I was in my late 30s. That didn't mean I didn't identify that way well earlier.
@@hepwo91222 uh sadly gender study found by a nutjob quack of a scinticest who changed young boy into a girl lied to him when he found out the truth he committed suicide same with his brother he also committed suicide sad stroy
this is literlly the logic of the meme that goes when was oxygen invented and shows a picture of someone choking before the year it was discovered, except they acctually use this logic and isn’t mocking it. This is just funny honestly
The other day i got my first pragerU ad on a sam collins video and it was the “how girls become boys” i’m kinda surprised i didn’t get a pragerU ad before-
I'm a trans guy, and I haven't been on social media before I turned 14. I found out I'm trans when I was around 12, so the "limit your daughters social medias use as much as you can" doesn't really make sense to me lmao
@@mommypounder theyre uncomfortable with their gender usually and realize that theyve always wanted to be the other gender and then they start to think "WAIT I MAY BE TRANS AND DREAMING ABOUT BEING X GENDER EVERY DAY ISNT CIS BEHAVIOR" np
I know this is a joke but I hate the trope that homophobes and transphobes are actually just self-hating and closeted. It seems to shift the narrative and imply that it’s all an internal issue rather than one that is fundamentally cit-het. Violence against one community/group should not be that groups responsibility to fix
I did a presentation that included her book, I named it “why we need pride: the transphobic craze seducing our authors” and posted it and tagged her on Twitter:0 Im a high schooler ;-; and i am trans. Overall it was a good presentation
Even if a man feels like they are a women. How would they know what it feel like to be a women? And vice versa. If a women feels like they’re are a man. How do they know what being a man feels like? Also if they feel the way they identify, why do they need hormone therapy and other medicines to help them feel more like a women or more like a man?
@@isabellacortez7146 I’m a dumbass For asking questions? Lol . Even if it is a dysphoria. How would a man know what being a women feels like? If they’re clearly not a women, how would they know within the confines of absolute clinical certainty that they feel like a women? In other words what does if feel like to be a women to a man who is not a women.... Yet.
I am 43and didnot start my transition until I was 41 because of my generation I had to hide, But no today there is so much help and it is a wonderful time to be transgender except for people like Abigail Shrier trying to take our choices away.
What really triggers me is when Abigail say ’ Oh back when I was in high school there were one/little trans people” like I'm sorry Abigail but it's 2021 and there is way more visibility for trans people. And when she says ’social media is pressuring people to be trans’. No they are seeing people like them on social media and by them being exposed to social media they can accept themselves and understanding who they are so social media is not the problem hun, you are.
I have body dysmorphia and the trans community was so helpful in me working that out and realising that I have dysmorphia and not dysphoria because they gave me a safe place to try out what it might be like to be seen as male, and they had so many amazing resources and discussions about things like gender euphoria, which I would argue is a much better measure of identity than dysphoria, but no "gender critical" people ever talk about it. It was their talk about how dysphoria was the only identifier of trans people (along with transmedicalists) that made me convinced I was trans even when being referred to as male didn't make me comfortable
I think most trans men would say that being seen as a man suck shit in some ways . Dysphoria is definitely different to dysmorphia and I'm so glad you could work out which you had . Ad a trans woman I would never want you to experience dysphoria like myself and others . Sending big hugs and support .
That’s wonderful that the trans community was so supportive and gave you the resources to figure things out! I feel like we need to normalize people experimenting with their gender (or sexuality). If they find out they’re cis, that’s totally fine! It doesn’t mean they were faking it or they were just trenders or it was just a phase, they were questioning and THATS OKAY!
I’m a trans kid and came out to my mom a while ago, and she told me that I “statistically wasn’t actually trans” and refused to get me therapy or start acknowledging me as her son. This video really helped a lot, thank you!
I'm literally the only detransitioned person I've ever met or talked to, I've seen some videos by others online, but I have never met or spoken to one. I have met and spoken to hundreds of trans people who were happy with their gender transition.
Most detransioners unfortunately are on radfem circles and being Anti trans, actually supporting for transition to be more difficult for everyone else because it didn't worked for them.
@@cidevant002 tbh I'm not actually sure that's accurate, it's just that the vocal detransitioners tend to be on that side because there their detransition is an argument, whereas for me it only serves to disprove their argument. It can be hard because the people most likely to really support you when you detransition are often at least partially transphobic, I think if the trans community talked about us more and vocally accepted us it might mean people who are just beginning to detransition find support with the right people instead of ones spreading harm
"the quick fix of transition" QUICK?! Girl I wish 😭 I hadn't thought before about how chest vs bottom dysphoria is what pushes trans women to understand younger than trans men that theyre trans. That really aligned with my experiences and I hadn't realized until you said it! I love hearing you talk about trans mascs, its nice~ most of the trans women i follow cover trans women and nb issues, but rarely touch on trans men (of course, because theyre just talking about their experiences). So its always exciting when I get to encounter it. Thanks 😊
My friend's therapist is an asshole and my friend had already changed her therapist once and her parents are transphobic. And my friend wants to convey to her therapist that dysphoria is something that can't be ignored and she doest know how to do it can someone help? Like she wants to write it down but she is finding it difficult to do that. PLEASEE HELP
I’m an AFAB enby and I didn’t start feeling dysphoric until my breasts started to develop. I had a lot of dysphoria in middle school, it kinda went away in high school and now I’m in college and my dysphoria is back and the strongest it’s been. I’ve recently started socially transitioning which has been helping me.
My friend socially transitioned when he was 10. He couldn't have been influenced by anyone because he literally only had access to the internet when we were at school. Literally, everyone bullied him and called him names after he socially transitioned. So you can't tell me that anyone was influencing him to do shit.
@Melissa Oestreich I doubt that any 10 year old has the capacity to get around firewalls, especially in my old school district which was so underfunded we had a total of 10 devices for the entire school (so access to computers was pretty low).
I actually saw that book posted on r/superstraight before the sub was nuked and it honestly looks like the book was written in 1920 by an angry man who kicked his daughter out for showing ankles.
I didn’t come out as trans til a little over a year ago. (I’m currently 21 now) I didn’t realise I was trans at a young age. I liked to dress up as princes and princesses. I like feminine things and masculine things. Hell, I liked to pretend to be a frog and hop around my house as a kid. Once puberty hit, my anxiety and depression went through the fucking roof. I didn’t want to wear bras or use pads or wear dresses or hang out with girls and I became hyper aware of my body and my gender. I didn’t know what trans was at the time. **tw: self h*rm and s*icide** at 14 it was so bad my body become covered in scars and I attempted to take my life. While in psych, it was determined that I have gender dysphoria (as well as other disorders but they’re not relevant in this story). I was in pure denial. Because of that I started to act out in ways to attempt to force myself to believe I was a girl. I would dress provocatively, I would tell my mum I wanted a larger chest, I would post inappropriate photos online for validation. It was unhealthy. Not long after my gd diagnosis, Kaitlyn Jenner came out as trans. I became highly confused. My mum and my brother who I looked up to most in life would make horrible horrible comments about trans people. My denial became worse. It wasn’t until I made trans friends, got therapy and started dating my nonbinary partner of 3 years now that I finally stopped being in denial and felt comfortable enough to come out and begin my social transition. I’m at a point where I can live myself as a man. I can love myself as a bisexual man. I can love myself for being me. I no longer search for validation on my body. I no longer dress in provocative ways to convince myself I’m something that I’m not. So, no, coming out later in life doesn’t make anyone less trans. There’s no possible way to know everyone’s life story and reasoning for coming out later in life. This ladies ideas of what qualifies someone as trans is idiotic and inaccurate.
I'm sorry. I had a similar experience, am even older though. The lack of trans-male and trans-masc representation is really damaging when struggling with dysphoria growing up; there's no context for the emotional distress. It's a big reason why, until recently, so many trans-men didn't realize they were trans until later in life.
@One Guy Named Ivan that’s so dumb for people to assume your sexuality from something like that😭 like,, are guys not allowed to take care of their own bodies anymore without being gay? 😭
Also, speaking from experience, Testosterone is not easy to get. You can’t just casually buy it over the counter from CVS. I’ve been on it for a decade and I still routinely have trouble getting my prescription filled. I’m 30.
Same. Haven't been on it as long as you but in the past year I have had to get three prior authorization forms redone because I had no biological reason for T being AFAB. Usually, I just have to deal with one
As a teenage cisgirl I also wanted to share my perspective on this topic, specifically about tip 1 at the end. Tip 1s response: Social media does not make me more trans. Over the course of this quarentine I've been watching more creators that are transgender and nonbinary to learn more about the LGBTQ+ Community. And in that year i learned that...IM NOT TRANS! (btw love you trans folk! Y'all are so sweet) I never once thought that being trangender was the "easy way out" of any problems I had because it simply isnt. It saddens me reading comments saying that a trans person's fanily is unsupportive, or that someone is scared to some out, or anything else of that sort. So the internet taught me that if someone is transgender, it's ok! But it never taught me transitioning to being a boy will make my life easier. This just shows people are trans because of who they are, not because they were pressured to, or taught it would make their life easier.
The whole “it’s now effecting girls thing even though it’s been studied for 100 years” could easily be because of sexism in medicine. AFAB people were considered for years by the medical community as “men with hormones” and so only AMAB people were studied. There’s a whole John Oliver episode touching on it.
I love how they ask the parents as if parents know everything about they’re children. Like many kids don’t express how they feel or identify near they’re parents.
Well guess what the parents still have to make the decision and there is no way in hell am I listening to any of my kids about hormone treatments or surgery. You can make that decision for yourself at 18.
@@sm512 mate, no child is having surgery lmao, that's very much illegal, of course they're not having surgery until they're adults HRT varies upon the country someone lives in but in many places it's very hard to get access to, so by the time someone is approved to get it, they'd be over the age of 18, the reason some people get hormones when they're 16 is because of the age of medical consent in different countries of course you're the parent but it's still nice to show your kids that you hear and see them, which is what getting gender therapy as a teen can do
@@sm512 yea. Thats the law in most american states. Well actually its the age of medical consent, so if your child is under 18 but are at the age of medical consent they can do it for themselves. Im talking about hormone replacement therapy, surgeries are hard and are usually 18+ or the age of medical consent. Although in most states and the uk its 16-18 with parental consent and an appropriate notice/recommendations (usually 6 months at a gender clinic but places vary) , and 18 with just an appropriate recommendation.
@@morianarnia9356 the Bible says in 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 "Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [a]homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor those habitually drunk, nor verbal abusers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God." you must repent of your sins and trust alone in Jesus the Christ to be saved. Zoya said her male friend was in 7th grade when they passed so i'll assume they were somewhere in between 11 to 13 years old. the age of accountability according to the Bible isnt really specific but we all have knowledge of right and wrong and God is good so no one will be getting 'ripped off', everyone will be judged perfectly
@@ruthadiscipleofjesuschrist1788 homosexuality is NEVER mentioned in the original Bible it was added in 1946. The Bible also NEVER mentions Trans people either. Don’t use God to excuse your bigotry
my parnts claim to be supportive of trans people. i came out to her as nonbinary july 16th of last year, and they haven't once even attempted to use my name or pronouns, but they got mad whenever i'd get visibly frustrated or annoyed. your videos make me feel better and accepted. thank you samantha
Write them a letter. Explain it. Be gentle. Be nice. 20 years on my parents still sometimes make mistakes, but I let them off. They have accepted me and now it's my turn to look after them as they are 87. Hope it works out! 🌸
I know the feeling... my dad just abandoned me completely and my mom claims she accepts me, but really just doesn't... "I'm never going to stop calling you my daughter!"; "It's my right as your mother to call you my daughter!"; "You'll always be a girl to me!"; She also went on a rant about how stupid nonbinary people are and "why can't they just be normal?" I tried to talk to her, but she just gets mad, tells me I know nothing because I'm younger than her and that I'm racist (?!) by telling her to use the correct pronouns...
@@silvercandra4275 you mom is right you got alot learn in life you still young you keep learning daily but you been lied to by Democrats the left and fake science thires only two genders Male and female gender not fluid fact
Man I love cis people telling me who I am and what I am, like? I have never heard a trans person to tell me to be trans or even that I might be trans, I’m just trans, I’m just a boy, yet some people just get so offended that trans people exist. Love your videos Samantha
The lack of perception in this comment is scary. You consume media from transgendered people, you watch their videos, you watch their political propaganda, you agree with all their talking points, you surround yourself with transgendered people, you only take seriously ideas that already support your transgender ideas, and yet you think you came up with these decisions yourself?
@@Grahamster00 The lack of compassion on your end is what is really scary. People are struggling, they are being beaten, shunned and killed for being who they are. "Facts don't care about your feelings!" I know. And facts support transgender people. Scienece, supports transgender people, it's just that people like you, decide to pick on this one group of people, who are already stuggling, to have a scape goat on what's wrong with the world, so they don't have to face the reality of it: That we are all flawed and learned to discriminate against people we don't understand. And instead of sitting down and trying to better yourself, people like you just point your fingers and call those who do try to change things ignorant and manipulated. No my friend, you are the one that's being manipulated, you just don't want to see it. But that's a part of being human. Sometimes you have to stop thinking you know something, to learn something else... when you look up something you don't agree with, for example, try phrasing it, as if you were supporting it instead, and all of a sudden you get shown a lot more things that disagree with you... In the case of transgender people, a lot of studies that support them. I honestly hope you come around someday, think of the person behind the screen and remember that you don't know them or what they feel. You don't know me, you don't know what makes me happy or what brings me sorrow, because we're all stuck in our own perspective on life, and it can be hard to find another point of view. For now, I'd ask you to please just stop writing here. Many of the people in these comment sections have been through a lot, and found what makes them happy. They know their experinece, with all the hate and negativity it brings and still decided that it's worth it, just so they can express who they really are... You won't be abled to change anyones mind, because they've already seen and lived through both sides, made their decision, and until you decided to listen to this other side, there is no point in trying to change anyones mind. And I'm not trying to talk down to you, if you thought that. I just felt like giving you my honest thoughts, in the hope that maybe you'll consider my point. But somehow I doubt you will...
Even if a man feels like they are a women. How would they know what it feel like to be a women? And vice versa. If a women feels like they’re are a man. How do they know what being a man feels like? Also if they feel the way they identify, why do they need hormone therapy and other medicines to help them feel more like a women or more like a man?
"before they're ready psychologically and emotionally to make such a life altering decision" yet we're expected to apply to colleges and decide on a career 🙄
Haha yeah and plenty of people have messed that up as well. So with crippling student debt as the outcome of picking colleges and careers at a young, do you really believe people are ready to make a life altering decision? 🤔
@@thewbp3876 everything that is done to help trans youth is reversable. Hormon blockers to halt puberty do just that. What is not reversable is kids killing themselves because help is not available or people treat them as non persons.
My friend's therapist is an asshole and my friend had already changed her therapist once and her parents are transphobic. And my friend wants to convey to her therapist that dysphoria is something that can't be ignored and she doest know how to do it can someone help? Like she wants to write it down but she is finding it difficult to do that. PLEASEE HELP
I'm so happy you talked about this video. I got it as an ad a couple days ago and I sat there in awe. I could not believe these people get PAID to spread misinformation
I went through menopause at 40 , thank god. I'm 46 now and decided last year that as soon as this damn pandemic is over I'm getting top surgery. I don't feel the need to go on testosterone but I'm sick of wearing a coat in 30⁰c weather every summer just to hide my chest. I could get covid and die tomorrow, I deserve to finally be comfortable in my own body.
I'm a young trans male and my mother wont help me be who I wanna be. when I came out to her, she told me to wait till I'm older for me to transition or even to get what I need. I hate it so much. parents tell their kids to be who they wanna be but when they come out as gay, lesbian, trans, bi, pan, non binary, or etc they are instantly not allowed to be themselves, what is this world?
Keep fighting dude. I know it seems like you’re stuck in this miserable situation but it really will get better, I know from experience. You can get through this and one day it will be your choice to make.
I’m sorry you aren’t getting the support and acceptance you should be. Hang in there. It will no doubt be shi**y sometimes (maybe a lot of times) but the future is waiting for you. You can do this.
its hard to have to go through the puberty you know isn't right and doesn't align with who you are, but even if you have to wait because of a lack of support from family remember that your future is always waiting for you. Take it slow, do what you can to make yourself comfortable, and always be open to keep having those conversations with your mother or other family. Always be transparent about how you feel. Work with them the best you can, and compromise without sacrificing your identity. But don't be afraid if you have to take it slow. You will be able to move forward in transition, even if it takes time.
Thank you so much for making this video. I might have been looking in the wrong places, but I’ve been trying to find anything online of someone refuting the ridiculous statements of Abigail Shrier, and you video is the only bit of content I’ve been able to find. It scared me more people aren’t speaking out against her statements.
Statistically, Cis women regretting their plastic surgery is higher than those who choose to de-transition. Yet there is literally no one campaigning to end cosmetic surgery on consenting adult women! Teenagers are given puberty blockers and have to be consenting adults before surgery. I am tired of these lies.
Biological women is the preferred reference if you must, stop using cis to describe women, we aren’t a sub-species and using the term cis is derogatory. Thank you.
Thank you so much for reacting to this. My transphobic dad sent this to me the other day and I felt really bad and seeing you react to it makes it better
I just wanted to point something out, as I have actually read the book (and I get why you and many people watching this wouldn't want to) - she NEVER says anywhere in the book that she has a problem with trans people, she actually says she fully supports them and supports them transitioning. Her concern in the book, very very clearly, is for the people that may not *actually* be trans, because ***some*** people that end up identifying as trans don't actually fit the diagnostic criteria for gender dysphoria at all, suffer from other mental health conditions, social issues, etc., etc. and those people that aren't trans could be severely mentally and physically damaged by transitioning *if* they are not actually trans. And she didn't get her information from "transphobic" parents either. Almost 90% of the parents in question support trans rights, and almost all of the parents in question are liberal and/or progressive, support the LGBT in general, etc., they just don't believe that their daughters are actually trans - if they did believe they were they would support it, many of them said so. They're just convinced their child isn't actually trans and is going to end up mentally and physically damaged and/or will regret transitioning. Now, that being said, you can completely disagree with these parents, you can think they're wrong, you can think every single one of these kids are actually trans and their parents suck or whatever. But all I'm trying to say, is that this lady that wrote this book isn't transphobic, she's not shitting on trans people at all, if you actually read the book. It's very very clear that her concern is for people that *might* not be trans (and she *specifically* states multiple times in the book that some/many of these girls might indeed be trans and might indeed benefit from transition, but that some also may not, she's not saying she knows for sure even, neither are the parents, frankly.) She doesn't have an issue with trans people or transitioning in general. I don't think it's unreasonable to concerned about the people who may not be trans, transition, and will regret it. Even if that ends up being a tiny portion of all trans people - those people still matter. I think it's perfectly fair and reasonable and good to care *both* about people that are trans, AND people that might falsely believe their suffering is gender dysphoria when it is in fact something else. Both of those groups of people are important, we should protect both of them, regardless of the percentages of each within the entirety of trans people. And that's her only point in the book, is just that there should be protections in place, ways to be more certain of whether someone is actually suffering gender dysphoria (rather than something like body dysmorphia, for example, I've seen this one play out in real life, people that had body dysmorphia that believed they were trans, but later figured out that they just hated certain things about their bodies for other reasons, if they had transitioned, they would have been harmed pretty severely.) No one is trying to say doctors should stop people with dysphoria from transitioning, only that clinicians should be certain that someone is in fact trans before giving them permanently body and mind altering hormones and surgeries. That's not unreasonable, I don't think.
Dad to a trans daughter here! My advice to parents of budding trans kids: Just fucking accept them for who they are. They are not your little copy or someone you can shape and form to your will. They are individuals with their own ideas and thoughts. Accept the now, and support your children. If they change their mind tomorrow, accept that too. What you want for them is not necessarily what they want for themselves. Stop trying to make your children statistics and let them live their lives. Of course you can guide them, but don't dictate them. Just because your parents never let you off their leash and yanked it every time you stepped out of line, doesn't mean you have to do it to your children. Be better than your parents. My mother and my sister do not accept her at all and its ridiculous. My daughter doesn't want to spend time with them at all anymore. Heres my exact reaction to my daughter coming out to me: "Yeah? Okay, still love ya."
TheOneAndOnlyFen, you’re supposed to guide your children against self harm, not aid in their dysphoria. Being supportive, and pushing castration/irreversible and harmful biological changes on minor children, are two completely different things. Questioning who we are is part of growing up. So is peer pressure and wanting to fit in or “be special.” Children aren’t mentally adept to make adult decisions. That’s your job.
You have failed as a parent. What if they change their minds after the mutilation and sterilisation? You were there to protect them, and that included from dangerous cults that wanted to destroy their body. Shame on you.
One line I like from the Final Fantasy VII Remake is, "True beauty is an expression the heart. A thing without shame, to which notions of gender don't apply."
Abigail is correct. Children should not be allowed make irreversible life altering decisions, because they lack the wisdom and maturity to do so. A good parent knows this, and and medical professional should as well.
i just saw the "why girls become boys" ad ON TRANS VISIBILITY DAY and it ✨infuriated✨ me now everyone seems to be talking about it at least on my recommended page
YOU. yes you, amazing person scrolling through the comments. I just want to remind you to drink lots of water today, and try eat something if you can ❤ Remember you are heckin valid and that I love you, and that things may be tough right now but you are a WARRIOR and you will make it through this
I love how many people are saying its a trend to be lgbtq+ when in reality it usually just leads to more hate from others. Like why would someone choose to be hated
I grew up not knowing that trans was even a thing that being said I always had issues surrounding gender never quite felt right in body. Once I hit my late teens I started experimenting but I tried to suppress it as my as I could because "that is not how boys are". Well not after over a year of therapy and experimenting with things I finally came out as trans I'm 30. I was robbed of being a young woman something I can never experience now.
My kid identifies as spiderman, should I let her jump off the roof and find out? Afterall I'm a stupid parent that doesn't understand my child, right? The reality is that children go through periods where they identify as different things, they are experimenting to see what sticks, to find themselves. There's nothing wrong with trying a different identity and see what works, the problem is that children are now allowed to mutilate their bodies and drug themselves before the age of 18, WITHOUT their parent's consent. Why should a parent have any say? Because a parent understands the risks, a parent knows more than a child does. My child will never convince me anything about anything because my child knows nothing about anything. Thats why I am the parent, to make the best choices for my child.
@@FJB2020LGB puberty blockers are not a surgical treatment. Kids are not getting GRS or any surgical treatment, they are being given medication that delays puberty until they figure out who they are. Nice variation on "I identify as an attack helicopter", btw. Real original.
@@AdamantFrivolity One of the myths that is said over and over especially by progressives and activists is that you can put children on hormone blockers and if they later change their mind they can get off and pick up where they left off. Essentially it’s neutral intervention with no dangers. This is a lie. The reality is that you can’t go back. Puberty blockers shut down the part of the pituitary that directs the release of hormones catalyzing puberty. The most common of these drugs is called Lupron, a drug that was originally used in the chemical castration of sex offenders. To this day, it has never been FDA approved to halt healthy puberty. So why then would anyone want to use puberty blockers on children? The answer is quite simple: most children who genuinely suffer from gender dysphoria, puberty helps them grow out of it, if left alone most kids will grow out of gender dysphoria, but puberty blockers prevent that. Many claim that suicide is high and we need to fix this, but unfortunately there are no long term studies that indicate that puberty blockers cure suicidality or even that they produce better mental health outcomes. Traditionally puberty blockers were used in a variety of ways, one of them was used to combat early puberty. There’s a condition called precocious puberty where a 4 year old starts developing breasts, so the idea was to shut off the overactive pituitary or to pause it, then take the child off the drug around a normal healthy time to go through puberty and at that point puberty seemed to take its course without a problem. The problem is that we’re now putting puberty blockers into a different population - these are kids that are going through a normal healthy puberty, and we’re arresting that. According to doctors, when you arrest/shut down a healthy system that’s operating properly in the endocrine system, there’s no guarantee that it’s going to pick up where it’s supposed to if you go off them. But again, there hasn’t been enough long term research to know one way or another, which is why this is an experimental drug and kids are the lab rats.
I'm a trans man that just recently came out at the age of 33, and the lack of information we had when I was younger compared with today really makes me think that if I was a teen today I would had came out sooner. I wish that was the case actually I also recommend Jammidodger reaction to this video titled "Why girls become boys | Trans Guy Reacts", he talks about the studies and also adds more context
I’m considering showing this video to my (transphobic) mom when I come out to her. She’s already cornered me about making myself look more androgynous/masc in the past, so I think something to turn the argument around on her might help
When I was in high school, 2000 - 2004 there were maybe a hand full of transgendered teenagers. I stayed in hiding because of how brutal the bullying was. 2 of my friends did not survive high school because they came out.
Thanks, Samantha for the study about regretting surgery. This was a point I previously had a weak defense for "it doesn't happen that frequently", but now I can give accurate information. 0.3% of people that transition has serious regret with 40% of them being from some form of rejection which totals to about 0.18% of people who should not have gotten surgery. Thank you!
Hey everyone. My parents legit think there are only two genders and they are angry that Potato Head is now Potato Head instead of Mr. Potato Head and think it’s just cancel culture. I wish this were just an April fools joke.
@@jall8108 they’re just like. “It was Mr. Potato Head when I was a kid and when your grandparents were kids. They’re only changing the company name now because of cancel culture”. My mom was shown a meme last night by her friend that was “you ever hear someone say something so stupid you have to squint?” And I was squinting hard when I heard them talk about Potato Head.
I’m simply Bisexual , (possibly pansexual) but I love LBTQ+ content creators because they made you feel validated and safe to explore your sexuality, gender identity, fluidity, etc. I love the vibes
Samantha, you’ll never be a real man. You are a girl. You look like a girl and sound like a girl. (Y’all this is just a joke, i know she’s mtf and I support that 100%, I was joking because she is a girl and some transphobes get confused. I was hoping it will make her feel less dysphoric, because it always makes me feel that way. No hate at all, only love) x
What you were saying about limiting exposure to trans creators on social media hurting rather than helping is so true. I started watching trans FTM youtubers right when they came out. I came out publicly as trans right after, and my dad took away my phone. Because of that, I didn't see them transition, and went right back to trying to be cisgender again. I feel like I lost 3 years of my life because of that. I am just now seeing them after they transitioned, and feel way more confident in my trans identity now.
Omfg, she points out the fact that mtf dysphoria was recognized much more than ftm hundreds of years ago, ignoring the fact that if a biological woman felt like a man all that time ago, he would be labeled as an hysteric woman, if not worse.
5:40 she’s trying so hard not to interrupt. Samantha, you queen, we love you. Edit: “a teenage is just a teenager” that was one of the worst lines in the video. She is saying to talk down to the future of the earth as if they are nothing. Like if we grow up in a bad place mentally because we can’t be ourselves that will effect earth and future generations in a negative way. It makes it clear to us that Abigail just wants to watch the world burn and die out.
Another factor in the 1:10,000 vs. 1.8% "discrepancy" is simply that the DSM5 only deals with pathology, i.e. gender dysphoria. But there's also gender euphoria or other non-pathological reasons a person may want to transition or get gender-affirming surgery. It's not like the need or desire to transition is pathological in itself - the DSM5 states so itself. It's almost as if that author didn't do her research or she's deliberately hiding facts .. hmmmmm.
Thank you for including us boys and men in the conversation as well! All of your advice and videos, I love, and so much of it applies across the board. I love hearing you include us as well though, even though you have a woman's experience :) We love you!!! You are such a beautiful woman, with a kind soul! Thanks for creating and sharing your content, and for sharing your experience and thoughts. I know so many of us in your community are trans as well, and it is nice to have a safe community online where our stories can be discussed 🖤🙌 Edit to add: Allies in the community as well, we love you too!!
Last thing...I laughed so hard at hormones being called a "quick fix" when there is NOTHING QUICK ABOUT IT. Even in the accessible country I live in, it still can sometimes take months or even years to get ON hormones, and then it takes like year for them to fully kick in for some people! I am dyinggggg 😂 for all those awaiting HMT like myself, you can do this and you are strong! For anyone who hormones are not an option for, for whatever reason, you are valid as well! Your journey is your own and you do it how you want to! I just had to laugh at this lady's ignorance...she is so scared, like, we just wanna be treated like normal people, not steal and corrupt the youth lmfao
WHAT. A. COINCIDENCE. This ad came before one of my videos today. My exact thoughts were "is this FOR or AGAINST trans? Against? Lemme copy the link for Samantha real quiiick..."
I never felt like a girl but I didn't have a word for it until I was older. I'm Nonbinary *I'm also panromantic grey/Asexual* edit: I also always was attracted romantically to anyone but never sexually.
I was bullied because I looked like a boy, by one of the guys in my class and one day ,when he was trying to insult me again, I just turned to him and went "I'm trans you idiot." and he ever tried to bully me again. He did annoy me with a bunch of questions about trans women though, because he could wrap his head around why someone would want to be a girl...
She got me most mad at the dysphoria part. Like bish, I'm an AFAB enby and was never dysphoric about the genitals. Still, at the age of 8 became so dysphoric about my chest I developed bad posture from trying to hide it. Soon became bigorectic - I got obsessed about not being strong and muscular enough. When I got my first period, didn't tell anyone, just cried when I was alone and refused to wear a pad. She should look me in the eye and tell me my dysphoria isn't real just because it started when I was above 4 years old. Maybe I should laugh at how stupid the transphobes are, but this woman, along with Prager U, wants to invalidate people and their life experience and I can't stand it. Everybody reading my comment, if you feel triggered and down after hearing this transphobic author - YOU ARE VALID. Whoever you are, your identity, experience, self-expression, feelings are valid. You're not confused or following a trend. YOU ARE YOU. ❤
ur so right lol. or they didn't come out, or they transitioned privately and went stealth like?? they didn't just magically appear as the internet was birthed
*“I feel like I am watching a Dare commercial.”*
This comment is even funnier because Dare was also a complete failure in terms of teaching people about the subjects they were talking about.
D.A.R.E. just made me interested in drugs at an early age.
In all their fear mongering propaganda videos it would usually show teens having a great ass time until someone took it too far.
All I took away from that was it's fun to do drugs but only in moderation lol
@@ameliasellers6396 Yep! XD
@@ameliasellers6396 bruh same. It taught me how to write a 300 word essay in about like 5 hours so i could "pass" the stupid class. Most of my classmates still dabbled in drugs.
Especially being a stoner now, all D.A.R.E. ever did was get me to make the joke, "I dare to do drugs."
My parents describe me as an "ungrateful little brat" because i was never happy when growing up, and how could i if i am trans being forced to conform to a gender i dont identify with, and that made me miserable, so its not that parents dont "notice" they dont even know, as i didnt know either until i grew up and find information by myself.
Aw I’m so sorry. I understand. I’m non-binary and my dad is very uneducated. He was convinced that my bf ( who is trans ) made me like this. it was scary
@@TheActualJeffery Thank you, and im sorry to hear that as well, its really difficult to get through older generations, i just think of it this way: just like we will be the generation of parents who understand online games cannot be paused, so we are going to be the generation that understands gender identity issues, and less kids from newer generations will have to go through what we went through.
I’m am so happy you were able to find your identity.
I'm genderfluid I live in Alabama my mom knows and she accepts but she's confused about one of my siblings know and they accept me and my dad doesn't know proably won't tell him
@Bob Snider Says the person who spends their life writing hate comments
I’m so sorry but ‘tumblr has popular social media influencers’ is the funniest thing she said in this video Girl Since When
Like tumblr? That’s all you can come up with?
@@frozenweevil4022 as a regular Tumblr user, I can confirm it's mostly just gay people screaming into the void
As a avid tumblr user,most of the people I see are either gay,alt,kpop stans,or you're all 3 at once
I'm confused Samantha took out one of the worst parts of the video. The part where the transphobic bitch said you can just walk into a clinic and get T the next day.
EVEN WORSE THEY SAID REDDIT LIKE WHO??
Minimizing teenager's understanding of their own bodies and minds and to just dismiss them is dumb. I knew I was gay from puberty. Not even a little ambiguous, despite the fundamentalist environment I grew up in pressuring me not to acknowledge the idea. All it did was lead me to hate myself for a long time. Still knew I was gay.
Exactly. Hiding resources discussing it isn't going to make it go away, like she was implying, but instead it will just cause problems and harm to teens.
I pretended to be lesbian for ages, because I knew there was no way I was straight... about ten years later, I have embraced the fact that I'm bisexual (attracted to men and nonbinary people) and a trans guy.
I was definitely right with "not straight" part. XD
Teenagers do not have enough understanding of their own body to make those decisions. Why do you believe at teenage years, the brain is fully developed enough to make decisions like chemical castration, but not developed enough for tobacco or alcohol?
@@Grahamster00 you clearly don't have enough understanding of human development or lawmaking to make that decision on their behalf, either.
@@montgomerypowers7205 It is likely I understand human development far better than you if you believe teenagers and children have the mental development necessary to make life-altering and potentially life-ending choices.
prager u: people are rushing kids to start testosterone!!!!
me, a transguy who had to wait 7 years to start hormones: trust me. no ones rushing.
Agreed.
@Redpilled Dissident the detranstion rate is less than 5%
@Redpilled Dissident not many
@Redpilled Dissident the detransition rate has been proven to be less than 5%❤
@Redpilled Dissident show us a trustworthy source for your claim, otherwise i’ll have to regard everything you say as absolute bullshit. (Spoiler: you won’t, because your claim is absolute bullshit)
I recently came out to some of my friends and family as transgender. A lot of them told me they already knew I was, even my friends dad, which was surprising. I was so scared and anxious for so many years. I tried to hide it and dismiss it for so long. I'm 23 now and i'm finally becoming more comfortable with myself. Your channel really helps me and reminds me I am not alone. Keep being awesome! :)
I still can’t get over her beauty.
I'm so grateful for her existence.
@@JorgeAlbertoJerez same tbh. She played a big part in me coming to terms with my trans-ness.
Me either!! She's so freaking gorgeous and ahhh she's just a goddess.
IK im so jealous
@@JorgeAlbertoJerez Same this reply warmed my heart 🥺
"Testosterone is easily obtained by today's teens."
Since when, I've been trying to get that stuff for two years.
Start looking online..... you'll find it.
@@ThePurplePianist1 do they sell it on amazon?
@@bobthemob98 If they do I doubt it's what you need. You need to search more widely. But I highly recommend doing it the right way, and waiting. So many risks Mr Tree. 20yrs down the line having gone the other way, I am now so medicalized I nearly rattle. Good luck!
@@ThePurplePianist1 I was making a joke oof. To be fair it was a pretty bad joke. I have an appointment with a doctor about T in a week
@@bobthemob98 okay woooh you scared me for a sec
Hi, my name is Jeremiah and I'm addicted to trans. The first time I tried trans was when I was 14, ever since then I've had a trans addiction, and I go to big lengths just to get my fix of trans. I enjoy the high whenever I do the trans, but afterwards, I just crash down. It's been 3 minutes since I last did the trans.
It's ok. Nowadays it's alot easier to do the Trans. But I encourage you to be the Trans. Its not an addiction. Listen to my voice. I am Transing you.
They’re not drugs are they
@@darren2105 no they are not
HELP LMAO
Same
I recently realized I'm nonbinary, and your channel has made me feel validated and accepting of my identity. Thank you forwhat you do!
Why is it called non-binary?
There was never a binary system lol
Not even sex is binary
Always seemed kinda weird it's called non-binary maybe I'm just dumb lol
@@XIX965 the gender binary is basically just boy and girl, although i dunno why its called that.
also dont really think this was the place to ask
and for op, im very happy for you and i hope you have a wonderful day!
Same she made me realize it’s ok to be lgbtq ( I always supported them but didn’t know I was part of it lol) now I’m proud of being a part of the community and I’m proud of you for realizing who you are :)
Your comment just reminded me of the argument "gay media will turn my kids gay" kinda deal, when all it does is show them acceptance and showing them they are valid and alright if they are lgbt+
@@imsleepy3514 I know it wasn't the place to ask it just popped into my head once I read the comment and if didn't write it down I would've forgot it lol
Have a wonderful day as well
as an afab nonbinary person, i resonated with a lot of what you said and i feel a lot better after watching this. much love
As another AFAB nonbinary person, I'm glad to see I'm not alone in this 💛
As a beep bop boop, I also compute 🤖
What does afab mean?
Assigned female at birth
I know this is out of context, but nice pfp ;D
Yes! One of the reasons I didn’t realise I was trans until I was older was because I was allowed to play with whatever toys I wanted and wear whatever I wanted. Lots of young AMAB folk are told that they HAVE to play with traditionally masculine things, but not as many AFAB people are. So I never got dysphoria from people telling me I couldn’t play with traditionally masculine toys... because nobody told me that!
i’m a simple trans girl. i see notif, i click for makeup admiration and attempting duplication.
Why are trans girls so good at makeup lol
Like the best are either gay men or trans girl
Just something I noticed
If my comment is problematic I'm sorry didn't mean it to be problematic
@@XIX965 it’s simple truth
@@XIX965 we have to have good makeup to get euphoria and as for the gay men idk
i think it has something to do with makeup being denied to trans women/gay men early on in life, and so we get really into it later on....?
@@klineaugust maybe
We hate transphobia 😤😤 but love how 1/4 of the comments are about the video and 3/4 are about how pretty Samantha is 🥰🥰
She is pretty no one can argue 🥰
@@x.em0_k1tty.x if they even tried it 😃🤜
I used to be transphobic/homophobic. I just want to say I apologize for my past just want to put it behind me and bury it. 😭
@@klaus8026 I'm so glad u changed!! It's ok! Just move forward and be the better person you're now don't worry about back then u changed
she is super pretty tho
Today I got this ad and started ranting about how their logic was terrible my mom thought I was talking to someone and got super confused when I wasn't.
As a trans man I think another reason me and others I know realize later is bc I could do 'boy' things as a kid. I wore pants and put worms in my pocket and played soccer. It was only around 4th grade when I started public school and started to feel that pressure to do things a certain way did that start, with puberty intensifying it slowly. I think its much easier for parents/ adults to not question gender dysphoria signs in AFAB trans people bc its more acceptable to be a tomboy than an effeminate boy ig.
Did any of your female friends as a kid turn out to be trans as well?
@@siddharthavicious108 why is that relevant?
@@ihategmailpasswords because if 2 or more girls suddenly decide they're both trans it's probably signs of a social contagion.
@@siddharthavicious108 seriously? no one "decides" to be trans. and secondly, two friends both coming out as trans doesn't mean it's contagious. 😂people become friends because they share similar beliefs, situations, or interests. a less stupid conclusion to draw here is that two trans people became friends because they had a better understanding of one another than cis people around them.
as a trans enby boy, assigned female at birth, it's sad to have a mother who believes in this 'craze' so won't even let me get a binder ;-;
I was in the same boat for a while. It sucks. I hope you can get out of there soon and start being able to live how you truly want 💛
That must suck so much! I hope she realizes one day that she is wrong and if not that you are able to live your life fully and authentically. Sending much love and strength🖤
Wait... enby boy? What? I’ve heard of men, non-binary demi-boys, and non-binary people... but I don’t understand what a trans non-binary person AND boy would mean? Sry
I feel you, buddy...
@@benedictdwyer2608 Maybe they don't like the term demiboy, or aren't familiar with it?
I sure as hell don't like it...
When I first started questioning my identity, I always thought "but I can't be, I never had gender dysphoria growing up, I was obssesed with princesses and stuff..." then I remember when I started growing a chest how I felt weird but convinced myself it was because it was new and I just wanted them to be bigger... oh poor sweet ignorant child
I get that entirely, actually, that's 100% my case, lmao I loved princesses, and wanted a bigger chest when I was in my early teens, thought my feelings were just puberty 🙃
I'm so happy other people had this experience and not just me! I loved princesses
I was very feminine but constantly questioned if I was really a girl. Turns out I’m nonbinary!
Oh shoot....
I’m going through that right now-
Idk what else to say but ya I’ll update this if it changes, even though probably nobody will even see this comment
Edit: someone liked this so I remembered it existed
Uhhh no ya I’m non-binary now 😀😃
I'm just so sick of the right seeing people like me as being part of a "phenomenon" and treating us like lab rats. Just because we're different they feel the need to poke and prod at our brains so they can speculate about why we are how we are. But they always ignore the fact that we're people and we can SPEAK FOR OURSELVES.
Yep. I'm nonbinary and someone thought it was okay to tell me how to dress, style my hair, and talk lmao.
Learn your truth and hammer at it like a metal worker. Sharpen what you know is your own light.
Gaze upon your own inner self and listen to its silence. Within that silence you will find an indestructible force that no cruelty or judgement can change.
But why should this be a political issue? Surely it should be a medical issue regulated in such a way that politics is not involved.
@@ThePurplePianist1 because that's where the foundations of laws are constructed
@@Woodkin007 Please elaborate. Thanks.
i didn't find out other trans people existed till i was 17. i knew i was trans, but i didn't know the word for it, and i thought i was the only one in the world who felt this way. for all i know, there may have been other trans people in my school, but how could i even talk to them about it when i didn't have a word for it? how could we find each other?
I didn't know trans people were a thing until I was 15 and in highschool when I finally went public my sophomore year. It took me about a year to feel sure about it but it clicked when I found out not only did a thing called dysphoria exist but there was something I could DO about it. Transitioning! My parents have been far from supportive but I turn 18 this June and can finally start testosertone.
@@gross_punk9539
i wish you luck :)
my mom is uh not entirely enlightened about this topic, and i don't dare tell my dad.
I'm agender and I went back and forth between thinking everyone was just pretending to be comfortable with gender to fit in and thinking I was just too stupid to get it.
@@Swenglish bro same. I identified as agender for around a year too! Now I identify as genderfluid kdkfjfvnnv
I knew they existed, but my dad explained it as "crazy men who pretend to be women" and stuff like that, so the first time I found out about trans men, was also the day I met one... I had a huge crush on him back then and so I looked into things further and at some point just went "Wait... this is how I feel... *insert a bunch of curses*" and here we are... I came out when I was 16 I think, but I knew I wasn't cis for years before that...
They used the same fear mongering with gay kids when I was growing up. They blamed the "gay lifestyle" for depression and suicide. When in reality it was the fear of isolation and rejection, among other terrible things associated with coming out.
it's always the ppl who've probably never talked to a trans man in their life who think they can share their opinions
sidenote: you're looking so pretty today samantha, love you
yeah, like, these people think they’re helping us when really the reason most of the people i know who have attempted self-non-alive have done it cause of gender dysphoria or transphobia like, b!tch, you are not helping by saying “make sure your daughters don’t see anything trans” or “kids transitioning will do iREvErSibLe dAmAGe”
@@saturnisgay69 yep. I didn't try to off myself as a teen because I was trans. I did it because I was told I didn't know myself, that I'm insane, went through verbal, emotional, physical abuse. I tried to harm myself four times. My friend had to talk me off the window ledge. I was never a troubled girl. I just wasn't a girl.
Yeah,especially because the reason there are “more” trans people today because more people feel comfortable to express themselves,it’s not like people began being trans recently..
@@jamielee7404 :/
She's always pretty tho
Why are people so obsessed with what other people feel? They also never even try to hear other perspectives. I just wish people could let other people be happy and confident. Also btw love you and your content ❤️ (trans ally here)
hi just wanted to thank you for being an ally, it means a lot !! :D
Because facts and trurth gone out the window replaced by lies fake science and left wing propaganda and emtions.
Anyone who speaks the truth is puinshed
There wasn't coverage for gender identity disorder when I was in high school. My insurance company literally didn't cover the diagnosis, so they'd deny any treatment if it was even possibly related to gender identity disorder. I was so scared to be stuck with my medical bills that I didn't come out till I was in my late 30s. That didn't mean I didn't identify that way well earlier.
"Before Louis Pasteur discovered germ theory in 1861, germs did not exist."
gender dysphoria has been studied for a century.
@@hepwo91222 uh sadly gender study found by a nutjob quack of a scinticest who changed young boy into a girl lied to him when he found out the truth he committed suicide same with his brother he also committed suicide sad stroy
this is literlly the logic of the meme that goes when was oxygen invented and shows a picture of someone choking before the year it was discovered, except they acctually use this logic and isn’t mocking it. This is just funny honestly
@North Sea Pirate not a theologian, but I don't recall that mentioned in the Old Testament or Torah? Did you just make that one up yourself?
ooooo that's good
The other day i got my first pragerU ad on a sam collins video and it was the “how girls become boys” i’m kinda surprised i didn’t get a pragerU ad before-
I get PragerU ads regularly 😐
Same
love sam collins!
@@elijahwinchester6690 Same!!!!
I got the one in the video but I skipped right away-
I'm a trans guy, and I haven't been on social media before I turned 14. I found out I'm trans when I was around 12, so the "limit your daughters social medias use as much as you can" doesn't really make sense to me lmao
So how exactly does one "find out" they are trans?
@@mommypounder theyre uncomfortable with their gender usually and realize that theyve always wanted to be the other gender and then they start to think "WAIT I MAY BE TRANS AND DREAMING ABOUT BEING X GENDER EVERY DAY ISNT CIS BEHAVIOR" np
you realise that you are one of 7 billion human beings right? your experience doesn't inform population-level statistics. jesus christ.
@@manfrombritain6816 what
@Bitch Please you don’t learn to be trans
Why is abigail Shrier so obsessed with us😳? Is she jealous?
(To clarify I am a ftm but my point still stands)
Yea lol
@Alexandria Mackenzie 25 seconds ago
Actually why is she so obsessed with teenage girls? Something to think about
Jealous of suffering lol I don’t think so
I know this is a joke but I hate the trope that homophobes and transphobes are actually just self-hating and closeted. It seems to shift the narrative and imply that it’s all an internal issue rather than one that is fundamentally cit-het. Violence against one community/group should not be that groups responsibility to fix
is it just me or does she always look good??
Not just u, she always looks soo good!!
It isn’t just you uwu
SHE DOESSS!
She’s naturally beautiful but she is also very good at using makeup to highlight her features. I’m jealous
My trixic heart is completely in love with her she is a goddess
I did a presentation that included her book, I named it “why we need pride: the transphobic craze seducing our authors” and posted it and tagged her on Twitter:0 Im a high schooler ;-; and i am trans. Overall it was a good presentation
That's amazing. As someone studying to be a teacher, I hope to have students like you.
The fact that they put her in a white blazer to make her look like a medical professional I’m -
Ikr
"I'm not really a doctor, but I play one on tv !"
that’s so misleading... she isn’t a doctor
@@jaminova_1969 i just had a flashback from friends
@@someoneontheinternet16 How you doin?
“Trend “please tell me she has no kids 🤦🏽♀️
two adult daughters i believe
@@useroffline9999 i feel bad for them, i’d hate to have a parent that’s so obsessed with minorities.
Even if a man feels like they are a women.
How would they know what it feel like to be a women?
And vice versa.
If a women feels like they’re are a man.
How do they know what being a man feels like?
Also if they feel the way they identify, why do they need hormone therapy and other medicines to help them feel more like a women or more like a man?
@@duelz3885 It's called gender dysphoria you dumbass
@@isabellacortez7146 I’m a dumbass For asking questions? Lol .
Even if it is a dysphoria.
How would a man know what being a women feels like?
If they’re clearly not a women, how would they know within the confines of absolute clinical certainty that they feel like a women?
In other words what does if feel like to be a women to a man who is not a women....
Yet.
I am 43and didnot start my transition until I was 41 because of my generation I had to hide, But no today there is so much help and it is a wonderful time to be transgender except for people like Abigail Shrier trying to take our choices away.
What really triggers me is when Abigail say ’ Oh back when I was in high school there were one/little trans people” like I'm sorry Abigail but it's 2021 and there is way more visibility for trans people. And when she says ’social media is pressuring people to be trans’. No they are seeing people like them on social media and by them being exposed to social media they can accept themselves and understanding who they are so social media is not the problem hun, you are.
I mean a transphobe will do anything to convince themselves that we are just propaganda and not real people
@@windowseat6784 But how about educating people rather than calling them transphobes? And why are other opinions not allowed?
@@ThePurplePianist1 a lot of them refuse to get educated they lit want to stay on their opinions no matter wht
@@ajfna So is it possible to be transphobic and trans?
@@ThePurplePianist1 yes,take Kalvin Garrah and Blair White. They are probably the biggest transphobic trans people right now.
I have body dysmorphia and the trans community was so helpful in me working that out and realising that I have dysmorphia and not dysphoria because they gave me a safe place to try out what it might be like to be seen as male, and they had so many amazing resources and discussions about things like gender euphoria, which I would argue is a much better measure of identity than dysphoria, but no "gender critical" people ever talk about it. It was their talk about how dysphoria was the only identifier of trans people (along with transmedicalists) that made me convinced I was trans even when being referred to as male didn't make me comfortable
I think most trans men would say that being seen as a man suck shit in some ways . Dysphoria is definitely different to dysmorphia and I'm so glad you could work out which you had . Ad a trans woman I would never want you to experience dysphoria like myself and others . Sending big hugs and support .
That’s wonderful that the trans community was so supportive and gave you the resources to figure things out! I feel like we need to normalize people experimenting with their gender (or sexuality). If they find out they’re cis, that’s totally fine! It doesn’t mean they were faking it or they were just trenders or it was just a phase, they were questioning and THATS OKAY!
I’m a trans kid and came out to my mom a while ago, and she told me that I “statistically wasn’t actually trans” and refused to get me therapy or start acknowledging me as her son. This video really helped a lot, thank you!
What that like saying statistically she doesn’t have an iPhone because most people in the world don’t have iPhones lol
My mom is like that too, now she wants to buy Abigail shrier’s book.
@@bean.774 Aw, I’m sorry :( Best of luck, I hope you can get to a better place someday♥︎
@@cinnamonrollkitten6426 Can you explain the science behind a person becoming trans?.
@@madmax.6650 There's a lot of it, just pick up a modern biology textbook, or even better, ask your doctor.
I actually got this ad, sat through it for 2 seconds and I was like “I am not equipped to deal with this bullshit ad today, Prager U. Not today.”
I'm literally the only detransitioned person I've ever met or talked to, I've seen some videos by others online, but I have never met or spoken to one. I have met and spoken to hundreds of trans people who were happy with their gender transition.
I hope your detransition went well and youre comfortable in your body. Im sure thats gotta be tough to handle.
Wait.... You talk to yourself? Lol sorry I had to. Trying to lighten my mood. PU put me in an upsetting mood. Good luck.
Most detransioners unfortunately are on radfem circles and being Anti trans, actually supporting for transition to be more difficult for everyone else because it didn't worked for them.
@@JawslinJabers Nothing wrong with talking with yourself! "It's the only way one can be sure of intelligent conversation."
@@cidevant002 tbh I'm not actually sure that's accurate, it's just that the vocal detransitioners tend to be on that side because there their detransition is an argument, whereas for me it only serves to disprove their argument. It can be hard because the people most likely to really support you when you detransition are often at least partially transphobic, I think if the trans community talked about us more and vocally accepted us it might mean people who are just beginning to detransition find support with the right people instead of ones spreading harm
"the quick fix of transition" QUICK?! Girl I wish 😭
I hadn't thought before about how chest vs bottom dysphoria is what pushes trans women to understand younger than trans men that theyre trans. That really aligned with my experiences and I hadn't realized until you said it!
I love hearing you talk about trans mascs, its nice~ most of the trans women i follow cover trans women and nb issues, but rarely touch on trans men (of course, because theyre just talking about their experiences). So its always exciting when I get to encounter it. Thanks 😊
I know this comment was years ago but if you’re looking for good transmasc influencers, I’d suggest Sam Collins. He’s great!
"2% identify"
ah yes, trend
That part confused me so much. Like if it’s only 2% of the population is it really a trend...?
@@gowonsorbitch7293 2 percent of the teenage population might i add, overall its 0.6%
@@daddylonglegs3420 It is a teen trend.
My friend's therapist is an asshole and my friend had already changed her therapist once and her parents are transphobic. And my friend wants to convey to her therapist that dysphoria is something that can't be ignored and she doest know how to do it can someone help? Like she wants to write it down but she is finding it difficult to do that. PLEASEE HELP
My dysphoria didn't come about until I was like 13. And I'm MtF.
I’m an AFAB enby and my dysphoria only came out during puberty.
I’m an AFAB enby and I didn’t start feeling dysphoric until my breasts started to develop. I had a lot of dysphoria in middle school, it kinda went away in high school and now I’m in college and my dysphoria is back and the strongest it’s been. I’ve recently started socially transitioning which has been helping me.
mine didn't become super noticeable till i was in my late 20s.
I don't know much about my gender, I feel a little bit uncomfortable with my chest since I started questioning.
I don't know much about my gender, I feel a little bit uncomfortable with my chest since I started questioning.
My friend socially transitioned when he was 10. He couldn't have been influenced by anyone because he literally only had access to the internet when we were at school. Literally, everyone bullied him and called him names after he socially transitioned. So you can't tell me that anyone was influencing him to do shit.
Internet
@@helloeveryonelove5289 School computers/iPads are so blocked tho 😩
@@helloeveryonelove5289 dumbass detected
@Melissa Oestreich I doubt that any 10 year old has the capacity to get around firewalls, especially in my old school district which was so underfunded we had a total of 10 devices for the entire school (so access to computers was pretty low).
@Tristan Wintle his* him*
I actually saw that book posted on r/superstraight before the sub was nuked and it honestly looks like the book was written in 1920 by an angry man who kicked his daughter out for showing ankles.
LMFAO
Emily...are those...ANKLESSSS!???!!!
lol
ANKLES? How dare you!!
@@confusedstrangedot2811 REEEEEEEEE*EEEEEEEEEE*
I didn’t come out as trans til a little over a year ago. (I’m currently 21 now) I didn’t realise I was trans at a young age. I liked to dress up as princes and princesses. I like feminine things and masculine things. Hell, I liked to pretend to be a frog and hop around my house as a kid. Once puberty hit, my anxiety and depression went through the fucking roof. I didn’t want to wear bras or use pads or wear dresses or hang out with girls and I became hyper aware of my body and my gender. I didn’t know what trans was at the time. **tw: self h*rm and s*icide** at 14 it was so bad my body become covered in scars and I attempted to take my life. While in psych, it was determined that I have gender dysphoria (as well as other disorders but they’re not relevant in this story). I was in pure denial. Because of that I started to act out in ways to attempt to force myself to believe I was a girl. I would dress provocatively, I would tell my mum I wanted a larger chest, I would post inappropriate photos online for validation. It was unhealthy. Not long after my gd diagnosis, Kaitlyn Jenner came out as trans. I became highly confused. My mum and my brother who I looked up to most in life would make horrible horrible comments about trans people. My denial became worse. It wasn’t until I made trans friends, got therapy and started dating my nonbinary partner of 3 years now that I finally stopped being in denial and felt comfortable enough to come out and begin my social transition. I’m at a point where I can live myself as a man. I can love myself as a bisexual man. I can love myself for being me. I no longer search for validation on my body. I no longer dress in provocative ways to convince myself I’m something that I’m not. So, no, coming out later in life doesn’t make anyone less trans. There’s no possible way to know everyone’s life story and reasoning for coming out later in life. This ladies ideas of what qualifies someone as trans is idiotic and inaccurate.
I'm sorry. I had a similar experience, am even older though. The lack of trans-male and trans-masc representation is really damaging when struggling with dysphoria growing up; there's no context for the emotional distress. It's a big reason why, until recently, so many trans-men didn't realize they were trans until later in life.
I'm glad it worked out in the end!
So glad you go through it! Good for you
I’m so sorry you’ve gone through that shit...I’m glad you’re able to accept and express yourself as a bi man now though. You are awesome.
@One Guy Named Ivan that’s so dumb for people to assume your sexuality from something like that😭 like,, are guys not allowed to take care of their own bodies anymore without being gay? 😭
Also, speaking from experience, Testosterone is not easy to get. You can’t just casually buy it over the counter from CVS. I’ve been on it for a decade and I still routinely have trouble getting my prescription filled. I’m 30.
Same. Haven't been on it as long as you but
in the past year I have had to get three prior authorization forms redone because I had no biological reason for T being AFAB. Usually, I just have to deal with one
As a teenage cisgirl I also wanted to share my perspective on this topic, specifically about tip 1 at the end.
Tip 1s response: Social media does not make me more trans. Over the course of this quarentine I've been watching more creators that are transgender and nonbinary to learn more about the LGBTQ+ Community. And in that year i learned that...IM NOT TRANS! (btw love you trans folk! Y'all are so sweet) I never once thought that being trangender was the "easy way out" of any problems I had because it simply isnt. It saddens me reading comments saying that a trans person's fanily is unsupportive, or that someone is scared to some out, or anything else of that sort. So the internet taught me that if someone is transgender, it's ok! But it never taught me transitioning to being a boy will make my life easier. This just shows people are trans because of who they are, not because they were pressured to, or taught it would make their life easier.
@@meowateyourchips7417 sorry if this is a weird question but how did u know u were a cis girl after identifying as agender?
The whole “it’s now effecting girls thing even though it’s been studied for 100 years” could easily be because of sexism in medicine. AFAB people were considered for years by the medical community as “men with hormones” and so only AMAB people were studied. There’s a whole John Oliver episode touching on it.
prager: Rates of anxiety and self harm are at an all-time high
every trans person: LITERALLY BECAUSE OF YOU
“Identity proclamation,” this is what I’m gonna call my coming out party
Let’s just change “coming out” to “identity proclamation” 😭
🥳🥳🥳
I’m proclaiming my identity as non-binary to you, mom and dad! “SHUT UP, *NERDD* “
Oh! Yes! And there should be trumpets... you know the ones they used in old movies about ancient Rome! And people in skimpy tunics throwing flowers!
It sounds like it’d be an important document, like the next Declaration of Independence 😂
Just no
Took my weekly T shot during this vid. Felt appropriate
Sad.
@@stayfrosty1012 huh?
We love to see it (meaning you taking T, not the Prague)
@@Alex-bn9xe I said that *that* was sad
@@Alex-bn9xe they probably want attention lmao
I love how they ask the parents as if parents know everything about they’re children. Like many kids don’t express how they feel or identify near they’re parents.
Well guess what the parents still have to make the decision and there is no way in hell am I listening to any of my kids about hormone treatments or surgery. You can make that decision for yourself at 18.
@@sm512 mate, no child is having surgery lmao, that's very much illegal, of course they're not having surgery until they're adults
HRT varies upon the country someone lives in but in many places it's very hard to get access to, so by the time someone is approved to get it, they'd be over the age of 18, the reason some people get hormones when they're 16 is because of the age of medical consent in different countries
of course you're the parent but it's still nice to show your kids that you hear and see them, which is what getting gender therapy as a teen can do
@@sm512 yea. Thats the law in most american states. Well actually its the age of medical consent, so if your child is under 18 but are at the age of medical consent they can do it for themselves. Im talking about hormone replacement therapy, surgeries are hard and are usually 18+ or the age of medical consent. Although in most states and the uk its 16-18 with parental consent and an appropriate notice/recommendations (usually 6 months at a gender clinic but places vary) , and 18 with just an appropriate recommendation.
Wanna know what's ireversable! last year in only 7th grade my friend was not excepted by his family and he is now sadly no longer with us ♥️🙏
I hope he is accepted in the afterlife.
@@morianarnia9356 the Bible says in 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
"Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [a]homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor those habitually drunk, nor verbal abusers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God."
you must repent of your sins and trust alone in Jesus the Christ to be saved. Zoya said her male friend was in 7th grade when they passed so i'll assume they were somewhere in between 11 to 13 years old. the age of accountability according to the Bible isnt really specific but we all have knowledge of right and wrong and God is good so no one will be getting 'ripped off', everyone will be judged perfectly
@@ruthadiscipleofjesuschrist1788 read the room dude
@@Pricklyshrub how was i not considerate?
@@ruthadiscipleofjesuschrist1788 homosexuality is NEVER mentioned in the original Bible it was added in 1946. The Bible also NEVER mentions Trans people either. Don’t use God to excuse your bigotry
AHHHHHH GIRL!!! Thanks for the shout-out 🤗 glad I could help!!
ah breadtokker riley.
"You're too young to know." says no-one, ever, to the cisgender child.
We need to prevent kids from going through irreversible changes they cannot consent to.
Yes I’m talking about cis kids.
I mean your not wrong...
@@Spacewith2224 like giving alcohol to your child :O
HAPPY LATE TRANS VISIBILITY DAY EVERYONE! 🏳️⚧️❤🏳️🌈
HEYYY
@@weird.girl4444 HEYYY
HEYYYYY
@@TheActualJeffery HEYY
I’m ashamed to say I didn’t know there was a trans visibility day. So...accept my well wishes amazing people!
my parnts claim to be supportive of trans people. i came out to her as nonbinary july 16th of last year, and they haven't once even attempted to use my name or pronouns, but they got mad whenever i'd get visibly frustrated or annoyed. your videos make me feel better and accepted. thank you samantha
Write them a letter. Explain it. Be gentle. Be nice. 20 years on my parents still sometimes make mistakes, but I let them off. They have accepted me and now it's my turn to look after them as they are 87. Hope it works out! 🌸
I know the feeling... my dad just abandoned me completely and my mom claims she accepts me, but really just doesn't... "I'm never going to stop calling you my daughter!"; "It's my right as your mother to call you my daughter!"; "You'll always be a girl to me!";
She also went on a rant about how stupid nonbinary people are and "why can't they just be normal?"
I tried to talk to her, but she just gets mad, tells me I know nothing because I'm younger than her and that I'm racist (?!) by telling her to use the correct pronouns...
Respectfully none binary not real you male or female that's it .
It's sad you fallen for the lefts propaganda and fake science
@@ThePurplePianist1 good to hear
@@silvercandra4275 you mom is right you got alot learn in life you still young you keep learning daily but you been lied to by Democrats the left and fake science thires only two genders Male and female gender not fluid fact
“Is gender transition the new alcohol?” I died with that line.
Man I love cis people telling me who I am and what I am, like? I have never heard a trans person to tell me to be trans or even that I might be trans, I’m just trans, I’m just a boy, yet some people just get so offended that trans people exist. Love your videos Samantha
"My existence is upsetting people... I like that."
- my (now ex) boyfriend, who is trans.
The lack of perception in this comment is scary. You consume media from transgendered people, you watch their videos, you watch their political propaganda, you agree with all their talking points, you surround yourself with transgendered people, you only take seriously ideas that already support your transgender ideas, and yet you think you came up with these decisions yourself?
@@Grahamster00 The lack of compassion on your end is what is really scary.
People are struggling, they are being beaten, shunned and killed for being who they are.
"Facts don't care about your feelings!" I know. And facts support transgender people. Scienece, supports transgender people, it's just that people like you, decide to pick on this one group of people, who are already stuggling, to have a scape goat on what's wrong with the world, so they don't have to face the reality of it: That we are all flawed and learned to discriminate against people we don't understand.
And instead of sitting down and trying to better yourself, people like you just point your fingers and call those who do try to change things ignorant and manipulated.
No my friend, you are the one that's being manipulated, you just don't want to see it.
But that's a part of being human.
Sometimes you have to stop thinking you know something, to learn something else... when you look up something you don't agree with, for example, try phrasing it, as if you were supporting it instead, and all of a sudden you get shown a lot more things that disagree with you... In the case of transgender people, a lot of studies that support them.
I honestly hope you come around someday, think of the person behind the screen and remember that you don't know them or what they feel. You don't know me, you don't know what makes me happy or what brings me sorrow, because we're all stuck in our own perspective on life, and it can be hard to find another point of view.
For now, I'd ask you to please just stop writing here. Many of the people in these comment sections have been through a lot, and found what makes them happy.
They know their experinece, with all the hate and negativity it brings and still decided that it's worth it, just so they can express who they really are... You won't be abled to change anyones mind, because they've already seen and lived through both sides, made their decision, and until you decided to listen to this other side, there is no point in trying to change anyones mind.
And I'm not trying to talk down to you, if you thought that. I just felt like giving you my honest thoughts, in the hope that maybe you'll consider my point.
But somehow I doubt you will...
@@Grahamster00 bro transgendered lmaooo
Learn words my dude
Even if a man feels like they are a women.
How would they know what it feel like to be a women?
And vice versa.
If a women feels like they’re are a man.
How do they know what being a man feels like?
Also if they feel the way they identify, why do they need hormone therapy and other medicines to help them feel more like a women or more like a man?
"before they're ready psychologically and emotionally to make such a life altering decision"
yet we're expected to apply to colleges and decide on a career 🙄
But military school apparently is okay... sigh
Haha yeah and plenty of people have messed that up as well. So with crippling student debt as the outcome of picking colleges and careers at a young, do you really believe people are ready to make a life altering decision? 🤔
@@thewbp3876 everything that is done to help trans youth is reversable. Hormon blockers to halt puberty do just that. What is not reversable is kids killing themselves because help is not available or people treat them as non persons.
My friend's therapist is an asshole and my friend had already changed her therapist once and her parents are transphobic. And my friend wants to convey to her therapist that dysphoria is something that can't be ignored and she doest know how to do it can someone help? Like she wants to write it down but she is finding it difficult to do that. PLEASEE HELP
Slightly unrelated. Making that decision was the most stressed I’ve been.
I'm so happy you talked about this video. I got it as an ad a couple days ago and I sat there in awe. I could not believe these people get PAID to spread misinformation
I went through menopause at 40 , thank god. I'm 46 now and decided last year that as soon as this damn pandemic is over I'm getting top surgery. I don't feel the need to go on testosterone but I'm sick of wearing a coat in 30⁰c weather every summer just to hide my chest.
I could get covid and die tomorrow, I deserve to finally be comfortable in my own body.
I'm a young trans male and my mother wont help me be who I wanna be. when I came out to her, she told me to wait till I'm older for me to transition or even to get what I need. I hate it so much. parents tell their kids to be who they wanna be but when they come out as gay, lesbian, trans, bi, pan, non binary, or etc they are instantly not allowed to be themselves, what is this world?
Keep fighting dude. I know it seems like you’re stuck in this miserable situation but it really will get better, I know from experience. You can get through this and one day it will be your choice to make.
I’m sorry you aren’t getting the support and acceptance you should be. Hang in there. It will no doubt be shi**y sometimes (maybe a lot of times) but the future is waiting for you. You can do this.
its hard to have to go through the puberty you know isn't right and doesn't align with who you are, but even if you have to wait because of a lack of support from family remember that your future is always waiting for you. Take it slow, do what you can to make yourself comfortable, and always be open to keep having those conversations with your mother or other family. Always be transparent about how you feel. Work with them the best you can, and compromise without sacrificing your identity. But don't be afraid if you have to take it slow. You will be able to move forward in transition, even if it takes time.
Thank you so much for making this video. I might have been looking in the wrong places, but I’ve been trying to find anything online of someone refuting the ridiculous statements of Abigail Shrier, and you video is the only bit of content I’ve been able to find. It scared me more people aren’t speaking out against her statements.
Statistically, Cis women regretting their plastic surgery is higher than those who choose to de-transition. Yet there is literally no one campaigning to end cosmetic surgery on consenting adult women! Teenagers are given puberty blockers and have to be consenting adults before surgery. I am tired of these lies.
I don't think children should be having surgery for this and I don't bellieve in hormone blockers either. Who was the genious who thought that up?
@@jackiewhipple8230 Psychologists and doctors who know what they're doing
Since when are children having plastic surgery?
@@nicqolisstanton6784you mean psychologists and doctors with no integrity, laughing all the way to the bank while stoking the fire of the devil.
Biological women is the preferred reference if you must, stop using cis to describe women, we aren’t a sub-species and using the term cis is derogatory. Thank you.
Thank you so much for reacting to this. My transphobic dad sent this to me the other day and I felt really bad and seeing you react to it makes it better
yikes! gotta throw the whole dad away
+Jillian vanderstelt
Have you thought about sending him this video in return?
@@LilKingler Wow! Harsh!
@@kellycowley3535 Yeah I might
@@LilKingler his father disagrees ok you dont got leve you dad that's just hate hate breeds more hate
I just wanted to point something out, as I have actually read the book (and I get why you and many people watching this wouldn't want to) - she NEVER says anywhere in the book that she has a problem with trans people, she actually says she fully supports them and supports them transitioning. Her concern in the book, very very clearly, is for the people that may not *actually* be trans, because ***some*** people that end up identifying as trans don't actually fit the diagnostic criteria for gender dysphoria at all, suffer from other mental health conditions, social issues, etc., etc. and those people that aren't trans could be severely mentally and physically damaged by transitioning *if* they are not actually trans.
And she didn't get her information from "transphobic" parents either. Almost 90% of the parents in question support trans rights, and almost all of the parents in question are liberal and/or progressive, support the LGBT in general, etc., they just don't believe that their daughters are actually trans - if they did believe they were they would support it, many of them said so. They're just convinced their child isn't actually trans and is going to end up mentally and physically damaged and/or will regret transitioning.
Now, that being said, you can completely disagree with these parents, you can think they're wrong, you can think every single one of these kids are actually trans and their parents suck or whatever. But all I'm trying to say, is that this lady that wrote this book isn't transphobic, she's not shitting on trans people at all, if you actually read the book. It's very very clear that her concern is for people that *might* not be trans (and she *specifically* states multiple times in the book that some/many of these girls might indeed be trans and might indeed benefit from transition, but that some also may not, she's not saying she knows for sure even, neither are the parents, frankly.) She doesn't have an issue with trans people or transitioning in general.
I don't think it's unreasonable to concerned about the people who may not be trans, transition, and will regret it. Even if that ends up being a tiny portion of all trans people - those people still matter. I think it's perfectly fair and reasonable and good to care *both* about people that are trans, AND people that might falsely believe their suffering is gender dysphoria when it is in fact something else. Both of those groups of people are important, we should protect both of them, regardless of the percentages of each within the entirety of trans people. And that's her only point in the book, is just that there should be protections in place, ways to be more certain of whether someone is actually suffering gender dysphoria (rather than something like body dysmorphia, for example, I've seen this one play out in real life, people that had body dysmorphia that believed they were trans, but later figured out that they just hated certain things about their bodies for other reasons, if they had transitioned, they would have been harmed pretty severely.) No one is trying to say doctors should stop people with dysphoria from transitioning, only that clinicians should be certain that someone is in fact trans before giving them permanently body and mind altering hormones and surgeries. That's not unreasonable, I don't think.
Dad to a trans daughter here!
My advice to parents of budding trans kids: Just fucking accept them for who they are. They are not your little copy or someone you can shape and form to your will. They are individuals with their own ideas and thoughts. Accept the now, and support your children. If they change their mind tomorrow, accept that too. What you want for them is not necessarily what they want for themselves. Stop trying to make your children statistics and let them live their lives. Of course you can guide them, but don't dictate them. Just because your parents never let you off their leash and yanked it every time you stepped out of line, doesn't mean you have to do it to your children. Be better than your parents. My mother and my sister do not accept her at all and its ridiculous. My daughter doesn't want to spend time with them at all anymore.
Heres my exact reaction to my daughter coming out to me: "Yeah? Okay, still love ya."
thank you genuinely
I love this so much ❤ I’m glad your daughter has such a respectful and supportive father . Wishing you all well .
“If they change their mind tomorrow, accept that too.” Hopefully they haven’t been castrated by that point.
TheOneAndOnlyFen, you’re supposed to guide your children against self harm, not aid in their dysphoria. Being supportive, and pushing castration/irreversible and harmful biological changes on minor children, are two completely different things. Questioning who we are is part of growing up. So is peer pressure and wanting to fit in or “be special.” Children aren’t mentally adept to make adult decisions. That’s your job.
You have failed as a parent. What if they change their minds after the mutilation and sterilisation? You were there to protect them, and that included from dangerous cults that wanted to destroy their body. Shame on you.
One line I like from the Final Fantasy VII Remake is,
"True beauty is an expression the heart. A thing without shame, to which notions of gender don't apply."
Abigail is correct. Children should not be allowed make irreversible life altering decisions, because they lack the wisdom and maturity to do so.
A good parent knows this, and and medical professional should as well.
i just saw the "why girls become boys" ad ON TRANS VISIBILITY DAY and it ✨infuriated✨ me now everyone seems to be talking about it at least on my recommended page
YOU. yes you, amazing person scrolling through the comments. I just want to remind you to drink lots of water today, and try eat something if you can ❤ Remember you are heckin valid and that I love you, and that things may be tough right now but you are a WARRIOR and you will make it through this
Thank u! This really helps ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Honestly thank you so much! I hope you're also doing well! Stay hydrated!
I read this comment the moment i set my water bottle down
@@TheActualJeffery of course
@@alyxburton3245 thank you
I love how many people are saying its a trend to be lgbtq+ when in reality it usually just leads to more hate from others. Like why would someone choose to be hated
I grew up not knowing that trans was even a thing that being said I always had issues surrounding gender never quite felt right in body. Once I hit my late teens I started experimenting but I tried to suppress it as my as I could because "that is not how boys are". Well not after over a year of therapy and experimenting with things I finally came out as trans I'm 30. I was robbed of being a young woman something I can never experience now.
"Remember, don't listen to your kids, then blame other people when they inevitably harm themselves or push you away."
Blame the kids*
My kid identifies as spiderman, should I let her jump off the roof and find out? Afterall I'm a stupid parent that doesn't understand my child, right? The reality is that children go through periods where they identify as different things, they are experimenting to see what sticks, to find themselves. There's nothing wrong with trying a different identity and see what works, the problem is that children are now allowed to mutilate their bodies and drug themselves before the age of 18, WITHOUT their parent's consent. Why should a parent have any say? Because a parent understands the risks, a parent knows more than a child does. My child will never convince me anything about anything because my child knows nothing about anything. Thats why I am the parent, to make the best choices for my child.
@@FJB2020LGB puberty blockers are not a surgical treatment. Kids are not getting GRS or any surgical treatment, they are being given medication that delays puberty until they figure out who they are.
Nice variation on "I identify as an attack helicopter", btw. Real original.
@@AdamantFrivolity One of the myths that is said over and over especially by progressives and activists is that you can put children on hormone blockers and if they later change their mind they can get off and pick up where they left off. Essentially it’s neutral intervention with no dangers. This is a lie. The reality is that you can’t go back. Puberty blockers shut down the part of the pituitary that directs the release of hormones catalyzing puberty. The most common of these drugs is called Lupron, a drug that was originally used in the chemical castration of sex offenders. To this day, it has never been FDA approved to halt healthy puberty. So why then would anyone want to use puberty blockers on children? The answer is quite simple: most children who genuinely suffer from gender dysphoria, puberty helps them grow out of it, if left alone most kids will grow out of gender dysphoria, but puberty blockers prevent that. Many claim that suicide is high and we need to fix this, but unfortunately there are no long term studies that indicate that puberty blockers cure suicidality or even that they produce better mental health outcomes. Traditionally puberty blockers were used in a variety of ways, one of them was used to combat early puberty. There’s a condition called precocious puberty where a 4 year old starts developing breasts, so the idea was to shut off the overactive pituitary or to pause it, then take the child off the drug around a normal healthy time to go through puberty and at that point puberty seemed to take its course without a problem. The problem is that we’re now putting puberty blockers into a different population - these are kids that are going through a normal healthy puberty, and we’re arresting that. According to doctors, when you arrest/shut down a healthy system that’s operating properly in the endocrine system, there’s no guarantee that it’s going to pick up where it’s supposed to if you go off them. But again, there hasn’t been enough long term research to know one way or another, which is why this is an experimental drug and kids are the lab rats.
@@AdamantFrivolity you don’t know how puberty blockers work do you? It’s a dangerous drug to put kids on.
I'm a trans man that just recently came out at the age of 33, and the lack of information we had when I was younger compared with today really makes me think that if I was a teen today I would had came out sooner. I wish that was the case actually
I also recommend Jammidodger reaction to this video titled "Why girls become boys | Trans Guy Reacts", he talks about the studies and also adds more context
Can you please explain the science behind this?.
I’m so happy that you have found out who are are! ^ - ^♡
Also, Jammidodger is great! ＾＾
I’m considering showing this video to my (transphobic) mom when I come out to her. She’s already cornered me about making myself look more androgynous/masc in the past, so I think something to turn the argument around on her might help
I love how she refers to trans guys as “girls”. Now THAT’S what triggers me.
Same-
It's true. Trans boys are girls.
@@stoptellingmetolikecomment1624 Nope.
When I was in high school, 2000 - 2004 there were maybe a hand full of transgendered teenagers. I stayed in hiding because of how brutal the bullying was. 2 of my friends did not survive high school because they came out.
Thanks, Samantha for the study about regretting surgery. This was a point I previously had a weak defense for "it doesn't happen that frequently", but now I can give accurate information. 0.3% of people that transition has serious regret with 40% of them being from some form of rejection which totals to about 0.18% of people who should not have gotten surgery. Thank you!
Hey everyone. My parents legit think there are only two genders and they are angry that Potato Head is now Potato Head instead of Mr. Potato Head and think it’s just cancel culture. I wish this were just an April fools joke.
Sorry for your parents, it must be hard to lose their only masculine icon 😞
@@jall8108 I WHEEZED
@@jall8108 they’re just like. “It was Mr. Potato Head when I was a kid and when your grandparents were kids. They’re only changing the company name now because of cancel culture”. My mom was shown a meme last night by her friend that was “you ever hear someone say something so stupid you have to squint?” And I was squinting hard when I heard them talk about Potato Head.
I’m simply Bisexual , (possibly pansexual) but I love LBTQ+ content creators because they made you feel validated and safe to explore your sexuality, gender identity, fluidity, etc. I love the vibes
Samantha, you’ll never be a real man. You are a girl. You look like a girl and sound like a girl.
(Y’all this is just a joke, i know she’s mtf and I support that 100%, I was joking because she is a girl and some transphobes get confused. I was hoping it will make her feel less dysphoric, because it always makes me feel that way. No hate at all, only love) x
can we talk how her makeup looks so good in every video 🥺
What you were saying about limiting exposure to trans creators on social media hurting rather than helping is so true. I started watching trans FTM youtubers right when they came out. I came out publicly as trans right after, and my dad took away my phone. Because of that, I didn't see them transition, and went right back to trying to be cisgender again. I feel like I lost 3 years of my life because of that. I am just now seeing them after they transitioned, and feel way more confident in my trans identity now.
why does the right produce such horrible Abigails. There was Abigail Shapiro and then Abigail Shrier. Abigails of the world really need to step up.
At least we have Abigail Thorn who is cool and smart
Heyy gurlll.! To anyone who sees this ur valid and I love you!
“based on parent reports’ based on my mom - I never said anything ever.... unreliable. Ask the trans people if THEY said anything - not their parents.
Omfg, she points out the fact that mtf dysphoria was recognized much more than ftm hundreds of years ago, ignoring the fact that if a biological woman felt like a man all that time ago, he would be labeled as an hysteric woman, if not worse.
5:40 she’s trying so hard not to interrupt. Samantha, you queen, we love you.
Edit: “a teenage is just a teenager” that was one of the worst lines in the video. She is saying to talk down to the future of the earth as if they are nothing. Like if we grow up in a bad place mentally because we can’t be ourselves that will effect earth and future generations in a negative way. It makes it clear to us that Abigail just wants to watch the world burn and die out.
Another factor in the 1:10,000 vs. 1.8% "discrepancy" is simply that the DSM5 only deals with pathology, i.e. gender dysphoria. But there's also gender euphoria or other non-pathological reasons a person may want to transition or get gender-affirming surgery. It's not like the need or desire to transition is pathological in itself - the DSM5 states so itself. It's almost as if that author didn't do her research or she's deliberately hiding facts .. hmmmmm.
Thank you for including us boys and men in the conversation as well! All of your advice and videos, I love, and so much of it applies across the board. I love hearing you include us as well though, even though you have a woman's experience :)
We love you!!! You are such a beautiful woman, with a kind soul! Thanks for creating and sharing your content, and for sharing your experience and thoughts. I know so many of us in your community are trans as well, and it is nice to have a safe community online where our stories can be discussed 🖤🙌
Edit to add: Allies in the community as well, we love you too!!
Last thing...I laughed so hard at hormones being called a "quick fix" when there is NOTHING QUICK ABOUT IT. Even in the accessible country I live in, it still can sometimes take months or even years to get ON hormones, and then it takes like year for them to fully kick in for some people! I am dyinggggg 😂 for all those awaiting HMT like myself, you can do this and you are strong! For anyone who hormones are not an option for, for whatever reason, you are valid as well! Your journey is your own and you do it how you want to!
I just had to laugh at this lady's ignorance...she is so scared, like, we just wanna be treated like normal people, not steal and corrupt the youth lmfao
WHAT. A. COINCIDENCE.
This ad came before one of my videos today. My exact thoughts were "is this FOR or AGAINST trans? Against? Lemme copy the link for Samantha real quiiick..."
I don’t know what’s more beautiful, Samantha or the way she stomps on transphobic misinformation
I never felt like a girl but I didn't have a word for it until I was older. I'm Nonbinary *I'm also panromantic grey/Asexual* edit: I also always was attracted romantically to anyone but never sexually.
I was also trans when I was in highschool and did not come out, I was bullied because I looked more female. since I am one.
I was bullied because I looked like a boy, by one of the guys in my class and one day ,when he was trying to insult me again, I just turned to him and went "I'm trans you idiot." and he ever tried to bully me again.
He did annoy me with a bunch of questions about trans women though, because he could wrap his head around why someone would want to be a girl...
samantha feels like a sister to me. she makes me feel validated (im an afab non binary person)
Only seen 3 vids by her and I'm already getting that very same vibe!
A person making you feel validated instead of God affirming you. Ppl will fail you
girl you’re brave i made a video about pragur u transphobia and they murdered me 😭😭
So you ok with antisemitism?.
You do know mr pregur a jew right?
@@MrGrimjawit’s not antisemitism? It’s standing up against transphobia, no matter who is being transphobic, jew or not
I saw the ad today, and I was offended even though I’m not trans. There’s a difference of not understanding and being completely disrespectful.
She got me most mad at the dysphoria part. Like bish, I'm an AFAB enby and was never dysphoric about the genitals. Still, at the age of 8 became so dysphoric about my chest I developed bad posture from trying to hide it. Soon became bigorectic - I got obsessed about not being strong and muscular enough. When I got my first period, didn't tell anyone, just cried when I was alone and refused to wear a pad. She should look me in the eye and tell me my dysphoria isn't real just because it started when I was above 4 years old.
Maybe I should laugh at how stupid the transphobes are, but this woman, along with Prager U, wants to invalidate people and their life experience and I can't stand it. Everybody reading my comment, if you feel triggered and down after hearing this transphobic author - YOU ARE VALID. Whoever you are, your identity, experience, self-expression, feelings are valid. You're not confused or following a trend. YOU ARE YOU. ❤
The boomers annoy me, “they didn’t have trans people” because the amount of hate crimes and murders were sadly astronomical 😭 it was unsafe for them
ur so right lol. or they didn't come out, or they transitioned privately and went stealth like?? they didn't just magically appear as the internet was birthed
Nar, trans is like the new emo. In some classes at school you might have 7 out of 30 kids coming out...it's a fad.
@@britannia6080 Huh??? Girl, what are you on??
@@imbetterthanyou5975 sorry you're uninformed.
@@britannia6080 Bitch please, being trans is NOT a trend