Girl, you are preaching!!! My husband wouldn't let me pay a PENNY while we were dating. He paid my credit card bills and bought me a brand new car for my wedding present. Believe me. I have no problem letting him be the man. 👍
I’m an unfortunately masculine woman, and not very warm/welcoming - I am very thankful for these tips and will be embracing the womanhood that God designed and made for me 💕💖
Don't hate yourself for being masculine.... Unfortunately we are living in hyper-competitive world where we have to be rough at times. But loving nature is something which comes naturally to women. If you consciously work on that you will improve. Best wishes...🙂
My boyfriend would pay our rent until my vehicle stopped working and we found out it would take a lot to get it fixed. It wasn’t a new vehicle but I was making payments. He paid it off with his savings. So we are paying half the rent until the finances are built up again.
Well yea. Nobody likes to be around someone who tryna fight all of the time like I don’t care who you are or how much money you make I just want love and respect and some damn peace and quiet
Great message. As a 64 year. Old elegant woman I applaud and appreciate your videos. So much to be learned from this. I pray for younger woman to take heed to these types of teachings. So many are looking at celebrities and wannabe celebrities and mirroring the behaviors. It’s really atrocious to see them acting out on a daily basis even in the workplace. Thank you for your knowledge and support.
@@isabelmartin40 She didn't say anything about depending. She just said let him be the man. That doesn't stop you from earning your own money and being independent so you don't have to solely rely on a man.
1. You compete with men. 2. You lead with your wallet. (Women shouldn’t be able to provide on men, let men provide for women. Let man be the man and maintain your place as a woman.) 3. You’re boisterous and argumentative. 4. You must ALWAYS be right. 5. Fear of showing emotions. 6. Hyper independence. (Men operate at their best when they feel wanted and needed. Just accept their help.) 7. A bad attitude and ill-mannered demeanor. 8. Talking gruffly and roughly. 9. You are hyper sexualised. (Causal hookup culture is so damaging. Protect your body naturally.) 10. Despising female company.
I am not guilty of any these in my opinion. However I am in defense mode. The biggest turn off for me with men, is the "player" He, is already in a relationship but he is trying to speak to me. If you can't come correct! Then just don't speak to me, because the moment you go "Ghost", I think you should stay gone. A real man would not RISK losing a woman he is interested in.
I live in an urban city with a large black population. I cannot tell you how many times I see my fellow black women yelling on their cell phone in public, and there's often some profanity thrown in . Sometimes the screaming and cursing is directed at their very young child beside them. There's an annual Caribbean Parade that takes place in some U.S. cities, and the half-dressed women parading down the street with men as they both simulate a sex act. At one time watching the parade was a family event, but in the past few decades, the tone has become grossly obscene. (#3, #7, #8 and #9 would describe these women).
Chileeeee. I agree with this video. I started my feminine journey in 2020 and I’m still working on becoming more feminine and elegant. I must say, I’m winning more in my life now than before. I’m more relax, calm and less argumentative. I am drama free and deeply rooted in seductiveness, allure and understanding. 💄 My woman intuition is telling me that I am going to get engaged in 2023. 💍
I always say that the man puts the house and the woman creates a home. That is how we divide roles in my relationship. He provides the majority of things and I give them meaning and create something beautiful for both (food, housing, clothing, horses, etc). I am a vet, I make my own money and I take care of our furry babies. We're even and we respect and admire each other ❤️
I'm 63 years old and I'm STILL learning how to be soft and elegant. Truly this doesn't happen overnight, but it is attainable. My husband loves it...and I do so very much, enjoy the benefits. Love your videos and learning new tips all the time. Thank you!
@Kiara how about stop spreading your unhappiness everywhere? It's never too late. Clearly her and her husband are enjoying her journey, yet you came her to belittle and down this woman. Keep your own insecurities and hate in check, and then you won't have to be mean to an older woman learning new tricks :-)
Are you a Christian? Your beliefs are very biblically grounded. It sounds like how I have believed women should behave my whole life. Women desperately need to hear these things in today's culture, bravo my Dear. ❤
With a woman's emotions - they tend to get a lot of stick for being a woman with emotions. You've heard of the saying especially off men that emotion from her can consider it annoying and in a work force they mock this and have serious problems with a woman who is too sensitive to be in a workplace and that is quite devastating when they want to be taken seriously. So, a woman learns that this is bad because they want men to drop their demeaning value within their job which is why they are toughening up - I'm not saying that its right, but I can understand why some women would want to show less emotion.
I think it's because women have had to fight for their rights a lot and having equal opportunities at work and in other areas of life and it's this behavior which has become natural for them to be able to get heard and may find it difficult to change. Women who tend to fight for our rights to get heard or same pay as men they may lack the feminine skills because they feel that they need to be this way.
Whilst I understand what you're saying, I would never let someone else provide for me. I have my own house and car, and I pay for it myself. Part of my reasoning comes from the breakup of my last major relationship, when I was presented with a list of things that my ex thought belonged to them, even though they actually were for both of us. Now, everything in my home was paid for by me and belongs to me. So, if my next relationship breaks up, none of it can be taken away.
Completely agree with that. I think all women should strive to be independent. I would never want to depend on anyone. At the same time however I have expectations for the man. For me it doesn't matter if I pay the bill as long as I can afford to do it by myself. I also think that women are actually setting a limit for themselves by competing with men. Why should we think that the man's way of doing things is superior. I think it mostly stems from insecurities i.e afraid of being taken advantage of if you don't behave like a man.
I think she doesn’t mean to be dependent on a man. I definitely agree that its more empowering for women to afford anything a man can give. But I think it’s better to let the man provide and not take on that role especially if he could afford it.
Dear Miss Vivienne, This was a very important program for all of us. Thank you very much for these reminders. Since the early 1970's, women in the U.S. were pressured to act in a more masculine way and being more traditional was strongly denegrated and disrespected. Now, finally, the Modesty Movement has taken hold and women are beginning to see that what you are saying was right all along. God bless you 100-fold for helping us regain our self-esteem, self-respect and contentment. 🌺Most cordially, Barbara🌺
So well said, I am on my way back now too. Perhaps it was a necessary journey for us women and men collectively, to see the magic of femininity again. Blessings upon your way 🌸🌻🌷
Women still have to take on masculine traits to some extent for credibility in business. And decades ago: they had to learn assertiveness and lose their deferential style -we were raised to always please men. This was absolutely necessary. It wasn't a mistake. It was calculated move in order to have a career and compete within a male business culture. Now that women are more accepted in the workplace, we now have space to reclaim and assert power through a more feminine expression. This is a good thing.
I absolutely love this! I personally am disgusted with both men and women who portray bad manners. I'm attracted to elegant people in general. Thank you, Vivianne. 💛
Another wonderful video. 💖 When dating my husband, never expected me to contribute and I certainly didn't offer. (no Ductch here) . He opens doors for me. Other men open doors for me. I do not demand it, but command it. I am feminine and do not want to be like a man or carry his load. This allows a man to be the man God created him to be. It's very attractive.
I totally agree with the fact that women and men are emotionally and biologically different, but I disagree with the idea of men being almost beasts. Of course their masculinity makes it harder for them to be sensitive or careful, but it’s great to know men who also want to be classy and elegant, because I feel i can connect more with them, I can’t talk with men who are proud as hell or aggressive and competitive, they make me throw up.
I enjoy you insite on your topics. Your perspective is spot on you. You Give so much good insight that it’s amazing me. I am 67 years woman, and if I would’ve taken note of all your wonderful inside of conduct In my teenage years it would have shape my life differently. So, to all the younger women who are listening to your TH-cam website I hope you Appreciate this free information that is worth a ton of value. One of the things that I enjoy so much about you is You do not tell us that we don’t have to pretend to be something that we are, but our actions are accountable for our conduct, Which will affect the quality people we surround ourselves with. These are important topics and Proper conduct is never in bad taste. I thank you for all the future women that take heed to your information and apply it. Thank you so much for your insight and your beautiful way demonstrating it.
As a man, I truly appreciate your videos. I'm hoping that, the women who watch your content, learn, and, find success, as well, as a good husband in their future. I want to thank you for your efforts. (You also have a new subscriber.)
I tend to use the word interdependence in my vocabulary much more as I have noticed I get more help that way. My partner knows that I am capable of doing certain things for myself but I never shy away from help when I really do need it.
Growing up I've come across lots of humiliation and rejections and above all abused both sexually and physically. I grew up been aggressive and very temperamental in nature . There's this trigger that brings this attitude suddenly when I feel someone wants to take advantage of me in a situation. It reflects back to when I couldn't stand up for my self and I feel am in a better place now to defend my self so i wouldn't take any nonsense now. How do I control this situation
I had the same experiences growing up and can relate to your reactions as I used to do the same. If I may, saying that you still feel the need to defend yourself (a completely natural response given your experiences) suggests that there is still healing to do. If therapy isn't right for you meditation or yoga (which is great for grounding back in the body and feeling safe again) may work better. Feminine energy mediations may also help.
I relate to this too. I am going through therapy now and it is helping a lot! It’s mainly breaking down our own belief systems we’ve built up over the years in protection of our heart and mind but now I have children one of which is a daughter I am having to really re-learn about my self, values and self worth because I want to prepare her the best way and I can only do that when healed with my own trauma and disappointments. Therapy, journaling , meditation affirmations and working out (Pilates helps for me), being creative (I love cooking) and getting back to beauty routines IS helping me so much! There are some bad days but the good days are worth it. It’s starts with knowing you are fine just the way you are. Hope you find the strength to heal lovely ❤️🩹🙏🏾
I love this video and how you broke it down. Knew somethings and learned some more things. I love being a woman but sometimes my own overthinking self gives the aggressive excessive independent type when it’s the total opposite of what I want. Have to go back to the drawing board of me 🙏🏾💕
I love your content...you are teaching me alot on my journey to polish my feminine traits. Thank you so much and God bless you. All the way from 🇰🇪 Kenya❤
Not specifically to this video, but i think a lot of feminine videos which direct women to be more feminine miss the actual point. They want women to be feminine, but what they ask is to 'act' feminine or 'act' in a certain way. Acting includes thinking "oh right i should do this, now this, talk like this, not do this, bla bla" which heavily involves our brain, which is the greatest masculine energy available! So no. Than thinking and acting in a certain way, i want yall women to to be yourself. If these traits are not coming off naturally from you, then dont try to act it out it will never give off a feminine energy instead will give exactly the opposite, a strong masculine energy. Feminine is never the 'act' its always 'be'. Its 'being'. Feminine is never the 'brain' its always the 'body' so please dont stress it out, overthink and train yourself to act in a certain way it can be anything but feminine, if you wanna be feminine! Its exactly the opposite of feminine. If you act anything out its just surface level. When you are in your self love journey and understanding yourself, some of the traits come off natural, its how it should be. Then it is in your core and in deep level, you are not thinking and faking who you are! If those arent coming naturally from you, then trust me its not worth it. So long story short: be yourself! Practice self love, practice healing, your growth will naturally guide you to your true, authentic self, which out of all forms is the most attractive, sensational, alluring and the best version of you! All love and light x
I’m glad you said this, THIS is the message young women need to hear. There’s nothing more attractive and intriguing than someone who’s not afraid to be their authentic self, even if it comes off weird and outland to others.
Beautiful, thank you so much! Interesting how the world twists things- feminity isn't damsel in distress at all. It's such a strong radiant power! Ooh, for all that this world is, I am forever grateful to be a woman. 💖💖
its a great message as im young i see feminine woman in their masculinity because feminine makes them weak . this is a great call . please do movie references so young women understand more and understand more . thank you for this great initiative
Thank you ma'am 🥺 I so much love all your video content ❤️.... I'm such a fan of you, and your videos inspires me a lot. You are doing a great work and I appreciate that☺️
Some man don’t like smart women and try to belittle them, and you mentioned a key word “masculine men” appreciate, but there’s a lot of men also with feminine traits that want to be taken care of ☹️
Hi Vivienne! Thank you for your wonderful videos! I recently stumbled upon your channel, and I'm so very glad I did!😊 I especially loved your words on how men and women are meant to compliment each other. I 100% agree! It's not supposed to be a competition.😅 There's a reason men and women are made the way they are (our different personalities, traits, and tendencies). We need each other. It's always refreshing to see an interaction between a real gentleman and a lovely feminine woman. I love and appreciate when a man opens the door for me. It feels so good to be treated like a lady! And I hope more women will allow men to help them with little things (even if they can do it themselves). Give gentlemen the opportunity to make you feel special!! ❤ Marietta
You were telling the truth, lady. I think so. Many of us have been shamed into avoiding feminine behavior, ironically, enough, by people who refer to themselves as feminist. So many far gone and crazed feminist seem to hate absolutely any traditional, feminine characteristic, such as eating, like a lady, Avoiding extreme promiscuity, etc. They were encouraging women to act identical to men, and women are becoming increasingly masculine. What keeps men and women together is polarity. A truly masculine man, which most women claim they want, is not looking for someone who is just like a man. He wants a counterpart to his masculinity, and he enjoys the feminine balance that only a woman can bring to the table. Yes there are exceptions to every rule. People can have different sexual, orientations, and different identities or at least they claim to. But I really wish I did not have some of the masculine traits that I have picked up over the years. It really started when I was in college in the early 90s, in feminist classes in theory was taking everything over. I honestly felt ashamed and weak just to be associated with anything feminine, and I always felt I had to prove how tough I was. Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad that I am self-sufficient, and I’m very strong, as far as gumption in the ability to survive. But sometimes you don’t want to just be strong and endure life, you want to enjoy it, and sometimes you want to be taken care of as a woman. I still do not know how to do that. But I definitely Have made sure to correct certain behaviors that are distasteful. I make sure that I never associate with any man who is married or even has a girlfriend. I’m trying to watch my level of profanity, especially around people who don’t know me very well. I never chase man, no matter how much I made like them. But I still have a long way to go to overcome almost 50 years of being raised by a father, who wanted me independent, to going to college, when rampant political correctness began to take over campuses.
Women do need women to relate to and have a moan and a good gossip over a mug and food but when they believe that they believe spending time with men is better rather than women - what they tend to mean is - they find other women are catty and selfish and horrible towards them, because they know genuinely that men are nicer than her fellow ladies because when women have been let down by other women they want someone who isn't two faced and that's what we are led to believe about men - we are told there is less of an act with them. Take Judy Garland, for example - I watched a documentary on her life and I learnt how other women were horribly behaved towards her because she had talent, she had the voice and other women were jealous. She wanted to get on with other women, but she took more to men. It's things like this that make some women believe they get on better with the opposite sex but just because I was brought up celebrating other people's successes and beauty and talent doesn't mean all women are the same and its women who behave like this that make some women say they get along better with men.
Being dependen on a man is NOT a good idea. Better stay on your own feet. Just in case. And also to be a good example for little girls (and boys, of course). Every woman SHOULD aim to provide for herself as much as possible.
your answer shows the typical misunderstanding in this case! you missed the point! its not about equality..its about respekt and focus on the advance of the differences in both gender and bring them to glow, while everyone stays perfect in his masculinity or her femininity! this ist always mixed up nowerdays and played down as conxervative and old role model stuff. thats wy there ist so much trouble in relationsships today! she won´t accept it as a fact and fight for her "rights" what brings the opposite result, she wants. vivian is not saying "give your life up on to a man! she only explains how to be the best woman you can, without trying to concour with men, or behave as one! and she also explain why and how you reppelling a good man, if you ignore that. you don´t have to believe what she is saying, you will make your own experience and realize, ( maybe one day) how right she is..if you born as a sunflower try to be a rose, thats not what you are here fore..try to be the best sunflower you can be...thats what is all about! in her case an elegant sunflower!😎
Thank you 🙏 you are so right on the topic.i believe that God made a man and woman differently for a reason. We need to know our places and embrace them with elegance.Indeed opposite attracts ❤️❤️❤️❤️💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼
You are an answer to my prayers! I have always prayed to the universe to have a friend to teach me these journey to elegance. Unfortunately, I have been battling with a health condition that always makes me skinny and this has made me loose my self confidence. How can I overcome this 🥲🥲
Thank you so much for speaking my language in all things. I listened attentively but couldn't find your material wanting. I'm so glad you are taking the lead in this topic. I highly appreciate you
Femininity is an afrodisiaco. Femininity should be our nature. Just like A Man Man. Which extremely rare today to find in our times. Manhood is an afrodisiaco too. Femininity is womanhood. Girlie is childhood. Being graceful is beautiful.
To be fair the first time I started thinking it's great to be feminine was when I actively was engaging with Jehovah's Witnesses, and you do find that all women tend to wear a dress of some sort or a skirt and a nice top. They don't try to be sexy and a dress I wore one time I didn't realize had to be below the knee - to be fair I was probably a lot shorter when I wore it once before, so I genuinely thought it was going to long and I got comments from the Jehovah's I came with to cover my knees with my cardigan. So respectfully I did pull it around because not only did I feel embarrassed I didn't want to embarrass the people who knew me and took me to a congregation. I did get remarks every now and again did I not have any long dresses so after the whole event was over, I started opening the door for bible study in long dresses just to prove a point I had longer dresses because by the end of the second day there (because the first dress I wore was fine the first day) I did start to get annoyed how many remarks I was given by my choice of dress and low and behold they started to comment about how lovely my dresses were! So that was how I handled the situation but being feminine is encouraged even in biblical times. My Nan was from a generation where she didn't even own a pair of trousers it was always skirts and dresses. Plus, if you are that way, I think it's nice that men stop in cars and let you pass to go over the pavement or men actually open doors open for you - it's like men want to respect you more.
I’ve been distant around gathering with women because of how masculine so many are. I’ve had to be extremely discerning with which women I spend time with and found that one on one works best with me. I also don’t drink beer as I find that a masculine drink and hate the taste.
Sorry I disagree here. Each individual should be who they are and be herself,other person should be able accept her the way she is. There is no need to get acceptance from society or opposite gender and change oneself and putting up fake face won't last long.
@@official_anusha4994 who is this again?? Well i'm talking to the author unclear why people irrelevant to my comment are responding unless they missed etiquette classes in whichever sub par schools one attended Or unless their IQs /EQ's are sub par people should just focus on their business rather than responding to someone's opinion.
We all strive to be good. Any message or admonition that would heip us to be of good behavior shoutld be encouraged, If not a thief or a liar or a back stabber can as well remain in his or her ways while hoping to be accepted in the society.
I get this message you're trying to pass across and it's wonderful. I appreciate them but can you please give a playlist for elegant ladies? I listen to lots of songs and I notice most of em have cuss words. Anyone can help out also. I'd be reading replies.
Classical music! Soft jazz! Look at the Daily Connoisseur youtube channel, she has a culture challenge each month where she introduces various pieces of art, music, books, etc for people to learn about. Lot of similar ideas and approaches!
Hmmm......... Grew up with all the qualities you've mentioned in this video and ended up being f**ked over. Had to learn the bitter lesson of making sure that the male species keep their distance and the female species better know their positioning. From there onwards, life has been a bliss. No regrets at all :))
Girl, you are preaching!!! My husband wouldn't let me pay a PENNY while we were dating. He paid my credit card bills and bought me a brand new car for my wedding present. Believe me. I have no problem letting him be the man. 👍
You go girl! ❤ I love to hear about a cherished woman. Best wishes for you and your family.
🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️
Some points r valid but not all
So ur a bum?😂
Hun your soo lucky
I’m an unfortunately masculine woman, and not very warm/welcoming - I am very thankful for these tips and will be embracing the womanhood that God designed and made for me 💕💖
dont trip, unfortunately, i am masculine as well. At least we are working on being softer.
Don't hate yourself for being masculine.... Unfortunately we are living in hyper-competitive world where we have to be rough at times. But loving nature is something which comes naturally to women. If you consciously work on that you will improve.
Best wishes...🙂
My boyfriend would pay our rent until my vehicle stopped working and we found out it would take a lot to get it fixed. It wasn’t a new vehicle but I was making payments. He paid it off with his savings. So we are paying half the rent until the finances are built up again.
If no one told you yet, girl you are doing such a great job. Thank you!
"Some try to fight as a man, rather than win as a woman". Never thought it that way. Thanks for sharing your wisdom, Vivienne.
Me too
As a man, I personally dislike being around other men who are argumentative.. Naturally, I also dislike the same trait in women.
Well yea. Nobody likes to be around someone who tryna fight all of the time like I don’t care who you are or how much money you make I just want love and respect and some damn peace and quiet
Great message. As a 64 year. Old elegant woman I applaud and appreciate your videos. So much to be learned from this. I pray for younger woman to take heed to these types of teachings. So many are looking at celebrities and wannabe celebrities and mirroring the behaviors. It’s really atrocious to see them acting out on a daily basis even in the workplace. Thank you for your knowledge and support.
Better aim to Not depend on a man. It os Not fair, and it is not a good example for Kids.
@@isabelmartin40 She didn't say anything about depending. She just said let him be the man. That doesn't stop you from earning your own money and being independent so you don't have to solely rely on a man.
@@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64 I'm a man, and, sis; not all are going to UNDERSTAND the message. You tried though.
1. You compete with men.
2. You lead with your wallet. (Women shouldn’t be able to provide on men, let men provide for women. Let man be the man and maintain your place as a woman.)
3. You’re boisterous and argumentative.
4. You must ALWAYS be right.
5. Fear of showing emotions.
6. Hyper independence. (Men operate at their best when they feel wanted and needed. Just accept their help.)
7. A bad attitude and ill-mannered demeanor.
8. Talking gruffly and roughly.
9. You are hyper sexualised. (Causal hookup culture is so damaging. Protect your body naturally.)
10. Despising female company.
I am not guilty of any these in my opinion. However I am in defense mode.
The biggest turn off for me with men, is the "player" He, is already in a relationship but he is trying to speak to me.
If you can't come correct! Then just don't speak to me, because the moment you go "Ghost", I think you should stay gone.
A real man would not RISK losing a woman he is interested in.
I live in an urban city with a large black population.
I cannot tell you how many times I see my fellow black women yelling on their cell phone in public, and there's often some profanity thrown in .
Sometimes the screaming and cursing is directed at their very young child beside them.
There's an annual Caribbean Parade that takes place in some U.S. cities, and the half-dressed women parading down the street with men as they both simulate a sex act.
At one time watching the parade was a family event, but in the past few decades, the tone has become grossly obscene.
(#3, #7, #8 and #9 would describe these women).
Chileeeee. I agree with this video. I started my feminine journey in 2020 and I’m still working on becoming more feminine and elegant. I must say, I’m winning more in my life now than before.
I’m more relax, calm and less argumentative. I am drama free and deeply rooted in seductiveness, allure and understanding. 💄
My woman intuition is telling me that I am going to get engaged in 2023. 💍
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I can't get enough of this woman...she is beautiful she is classic and "she knows she is a woman" She is simply, adorable...😊
I always say that the man puts the house and the woman creates a home. That is how we divide roles in my relationship. He provides the majority of things and I give them meaning and create something beautiful for both (food, housing, clothing, horses, etc). I am a vet, I make my own money and I take care of our furry babies. We're even and we respect and admire each other ❤️
I'm 63 years old and I'm STILL learning how to be soft and elegant. Truly this doesn't happen overnight, but it is attainable. My husband loves it...and I do so very much, enjoy the benefits. Love your videos and learning new tips all the time. Thank you!
@Kiara how about stop spreading your unhappiness everywhere? It's never too late. Clearly her and her husband are enjoying her journey, yet you came her to belittle and down this woman. Keep your own insecurities and hate in check, and then you won't have to be mean to an older woman learning new tricks :-)
@Kiara-yq9dcPlease soften your tone. Don't be too harsh.
Are you a Christian? Your beliefs are very biblically grounded. It sounds like how I have believed women should behave my whole life. Women desperately need to hear these things in today's culture, bravo my Dear. ❤
I love the way you think!! Providing is not our role, at all. Gender roles are a must, I just wish the generation of today understood that.🌹🌹♥️
You are my new hero!! many thanks from Argentina! ♥
This is a very helpful message. I have been guilty of being unemotional and quite unfriendly. But this has been a good eye opener, I love your videos.
With a woman's emotions - they tend to get a lot of stick for being a woman with emotions. You've heard of the saying especially off men that emotion from her can consider it annoying and in a work force they mock this and have serious problems with a woman who is too sensitive to be in a workplace and that is quite devastating when they want to be taken seriously. So, a woman learns that this is bad because they want men to drop their demeaning value within their job which is why they are toughening up - I'm not saying that its right, but I can understand why some women would want to show less emotion.
I think it's because women have had to fight for their rights a lot and having equal opportunities at work and in other areas of life and it's this behavior which has become natural for them to be able to get heard and may find it difficult to change. Women who tend to fight for our rights to get heard or same pay as men they may lack the feminine skills because they feel that they need to be this way.
Thank you for this and ALL of your videos. ❤
Whilst I understand what you're saying, I would never let someone else provide for me. I have my own house and car, and I pay for it myself. Part of my reasoning comes from the breakup of my last major relationship, when I was presented with a list of things that my ex thought belonged to them, even though they actually were for both of us. Now, everything in my home was paid for by me and belongs to me. So, if my next relationship breaks up, none of it can be taken away.
Completely agree with that. I think all women should strive to be independent. I would never want to depend on anyone. At the same time however I have expectations for the man. For me it doesn't matter if I pay the bill as long as I can afford to do it by myself. I also think that women are actually setting a limit for themselves by competing with men. Why should we think that the man's way of doing things is superior. I think it mostly stems from insecurities i.e afraid of being taken advantage of if you don't behave like a man.
Way to go girl
I think she doesn’t mean to be dependent on a man. I definitely agree that its more empowering for women to afford anything a man can give. But I think it’s better to let the man provide and not take on that role especially if he could afford it.
Dear Miss Vivienne,
This was a very important program for all of us. Thank you very much for these reminders. Since the early 1970's, women in the U.S. were pressured to act in a more masculine way and being more traditional was strongly denegrated and disrespected. Now, finally, the Modesty Movement has taken hold and women are beginning to see that what you are saying was right all along. God bless you 100-fold for helping us regain our self-esteem, self-respect and contentment.
🌺Most cordially,
Barbara🌺
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So well said, I am on my way back now too. Perhaps it was a necessary journey for us women and men collectively, to see the magic of femininity again. Blessings upon your way 🌸🌻🌷
Women still have to take on masculine traits to some extent for credibility in business. And decades ago: they had to learn assertiveness and lose their deferential style -we were raised to always please men. This was absolutely necessary. It wasn't a mistake. It was calculated move in order to have a career and compete within a male business culture. Now that women are more accepted in the workplace, we now have space to reclaim and assert power through a more feminine expression. This is a good thing.
Well, can't disagree with anything! And you say it so charmingly.
I absolutely love this! I personally am disgusted with both men and women who portray bad manners. I'm attracted to elegant people in general. Thank you, Vivianne. 💛
Another wonderful video. 💖 When dating my husband, never expected me to contribute and I certainly didn't offer. (no Ductch here) . He opens doors for me. Other men open doors for me. I do not demand it, but command it. I am feminine and do not want to be like a man or carry his load. This allows a man to be the man God created him to be. It's very attractive.
I totally agree with the fact that women and men are emotionally and biologically different, but I disagree with the idea of men being almost beasts. Of course their masculinity makes it harder for them to be sensitive or careful, but it’s great to know men who also want to be classy and elegant, because I feel i can connect more with them, I can’t talk with men who are proud as hell or aggressive and competitive, they make me throw up.
I enjoy you insite on your topics. Your perspective is spot on you. You Give so much good insight that it’s amazing me. I am 67 years woman,
and if I would’ve taken note of all your wonderful inside of conduct In my teenage years it would have shape my life differently.
So, to all the younger women who are listening to your TH-cam website I hope you Appreciate this free information that is worth a ton of value.
One of the things that I enjoy so much about you is You do not tell us that we don’t have to pretend to be something that we are, but our actions are accountable for our conduct, Which will affect the quality people we surround ourselves with.
These are important topics and Proper conduct is never in bad taste.
I thank you for all the future women that take heed to your information and apply it. Thank you so much for your insight and your beautiful way demonstrating it.
Thanks Vivi. Had some masculine traits being the eldest in my house. This video has helped greatly.
As a man, I truly appreciate your videos. I'm hoping that, the women who watch your content, learn, and, find success, as well, as a good husband in their future. I want to thank you for your efforts.
(You also have a new subscriber.)
I tend to use the word interdependence in my vocabulary much more as I have noticed I get more help that way. My partner knows that I am capable of doing certain things for myself but I never shy away from help when I really do need it.
Growing up I've come across lots of humiliation and rejections and above all abused both sexually and physically. I grew up been aggressive and very temperamental in nature . There's this trigger that brings this attitude suddenly when I feel someone wants to take advantage of me in a situation. It reflects back to when I couldn't stand up for my self and I feel am in a better place now to defend my self so i wouldn't take any nonsense now. How do I control this situation
Seek out to a therapist.He/She will help recover from your trauma.Always put yourself first and love yourshelf.💜
I had the same experiences growing up and can relate to your reactions as I used to do the same. If I may, saying that you still feel the need to defend yourself (a completely natural response given your experiences) suggests that there is still healing to do. If therapy isn't right for you meditation or yoga (which is great for grounding back in the body and feeling safe again) may work better. Feminine energy mediations may also help.
May God heal your heart and soul.
I relate to this too. I am going through therapy now and it is helping a lot! It’s mainly breaking down our own belief systems we’ve built up over the years in protection of our heart and mind but now I have children one of which is a daughter I am having to really re-learn about my self, values and self worth because I want to prepare her the best way and I can only do that when healed with my own trauma and disappointments.
Therapy, journaling , meditation affirmations and working out (Pilates helps for me), being creative (I love cooking) and getting back to beauty routines IS helping me so much! There are some bad days but the good days are worth it. It’s starts with knowing you are fine just the way you are. Hope you find the strength to heal lovely ❤️🩹🙏🏾
The story relate to me also.
Wow! This may be the absolute best video that you have done! This was phenomenal. I’m going g to watch over and over.
Agreed❤
Hi beautiful, I love you...am a man but I enjoy watching your videos. This one here is classic..."why are trying to behave like a man?"...
I love this video and how you broke it down. Knew somethings and learned some more things. I love being a woman but sometimes my own overthinking self gives the aggressive excessive independent type when it’s the total opposite of what I want. Have to go back to the drawing board of me 🙏🏾💕
What a beautiful garment you are wearing 😍 I love the embroidery!
BTW, you look fabulous today. Your skin, hair and blouse are just gorgeous!
Thank you for this video. I see some things I need to correct within myself ❤
I love your content...you are teaching me alot on my journey to polish my feminine traits. Thank you so much and God bless you. All the way from 🇰🇪 Kenya❤
Silence and Listing are golden! Always be on guard but not obviously paranoid. But stay prepared! Cut your on flowers!
Not specifically to this video, but i think a lot of feminine videos which direct women to be more feminine miss the actual point. They want women to be feminine, but what they ask is to 'act' feminine or 'act' in a certain way. Acting includes thinking "oh right i should do this, now this, talk like this, not do this, bla bla" which heavily involves our brain, which is the greatest masculine energy available! So no. Than thinking and acting in a certain way, i want yall women to to be yourself. If these traits are not coming off naturally from you, then dont try to act it out it will never give off a feminine energy instead will give exactly the opposite, a strong masculine energy. Feminine is never the 'act' its always 'be'. Its 'being'. Feminine is never the 'brain' its always the 'body' so please dont stress it out, overthink and train yourself to act in a certain way it can be anything but feminine, if you wanna be feminine! Its exactly the opposite of feminine. If you act anything out its just surface level. When you are in your self love journey and understanding yourself, some of the traits come off natural, its how it should be. Then it is in your core and in deep level, you are not thinking and faking who you are! If those arent coming naturally from you, then trust me its not worth it. So long story short: be yourself!
Practice self love, practice healing, your growth will naturally guide you to your true, authentic self, which out of all forms is the most attractive, sensational, alluring and the best version of you! All love and light x
I had the same thought.
I’m glad you said this, THIS is the message young women need to hear. There’s nothing more attractive and intriguing than someone who’s not afraid to be their authentic self, even if it comes off weird and outland to others.
Beautiful, thank you so much! Interesting how the world twists things- feminity isn't damsel in distress at all. It's such a strong radiant power! Ooh, for all that this world is, I am forever grateful to be a woman. 💖💖
Im really happy I found our channel, I love your valuable content. I was wondering what books do you recommend for our level up journey?
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its a great message as im young i see feminine woman in their masculinity because feminine makes them weak . this is a great call . please do movie references so young women understand more and understand more . thank you for this great initiative
This is a beautiful blouse. It looks gorgeous on you.
Thank you so much for showing women today how to be true women of elegance. Your message is worth its weight in gold!
Thank you ma'am 🥺
I so much love all your video content ❤️.... I'm such a fan of you, and your videos inspires me a lot. You are doing a great work and I appreciate that☺️
Some man don’t like smart women and try to belittle them, and you mentioned a key word “masculine men” appreciate, but there’s a lot of men also with feminine traits that want to be taken care of ☹️
💜💜💜thank you!!
Hi Vivienne! Thank you for your wonderful videos! I recently stumbled upon your channel, and I'm so very glad I did!😊
I especially loved your words on how men and women are meant to compliment each other. I 100% agree!
It's not supposed to be a competition.😅
There's a reason men and women are made the way they are (our different personalities, traits, and tendencies). We need each other.
It's always refreshing to see an interaction between a real gentleman and a lovely feminine woman.
I love and appreciate when a man opens the door for me. It feels so good to be treated like a lady! And I hope more women will allow men to help them with little things (even if they can do it themselves). Give gentlemen the opportunity to make you feel special!!
❤ Marietta
Thank you so much Vivianne🙏I have learnt a lot from your videos.. God bless you
I couldn’t I couldn’t stop your video because you are too beautiful to look away from
Thank you dear☺❤
You blouse is so beautiful
You were telling the truth, lady. I think so. Many of us have been shamed into avoiding feminine behavior, ironically, enough, by people who refer to themselves as feminist. So many far gone and crazed feminist seem to hate absolutely any traditional, feminine characteristic, such as eating, like a lady, Avoiding extreme promiscuity, etc. They were encouraging women to act identical to men, and women are becoming increasingly masculine. What keeps men and women together is polarity. A truly masculine man, which most women claim they want, is not looking for someone who is just like a man. He wants a counterpart to his masculinity, and he enjoys the feminine balance that only a woman can bring to the table. Yes there are exceptions to every rule. People can have different sexual, orientations, and different identities or at least they claim to. But I really wish I did not have some of the masculine traits that I have picked up over the years. It really started when I was in college in the early 90s, in feminist classes in theory was taking everything over. I honestly felt ashamed and weak just to be associated with anything feminine, and I always felt I had to prove how tough I was. Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad that I am self-sufficient, and I’m very strong, as far as gumption in the ability to survive. But sometimes you don’t want to just be strong and endure life, you want to enjoy it, and sometimes you want to be taken care of as a woman. I still do not know how to do that. But I definitely Have made sure to correct certain behaviors that are distasteful. I make sure that I never associate with any man who is married or even has a girlfriend. I’m trying to watch my level of profanity, especially around people who don’t know me very well. I never chase man, no matter how much I made like them. But I still have a long way to go to overcome almost 50 years of being raised by a father, who wanted me independent, to going to college, when rampant political correctness began to take over campuses.
Women do need women to relate to and have a moan and a good gossip over a mug and food but when they believe that they believe spending time with men is better rather than women - what they tend to mean is - they find other women are catty and selfish and horrible towards them, because they know genuinely that men are nicer than her fellow ladies because when women have been let down by other women they want someone who isn't two faced and that's what we are led to believe about men - we are told there is less of an act with them. Take Judy Garland, for example - I watched a documentary on her life and I learnt how other women were horribly behaved towards her because she had talent, she had the voice and other women were jealous. She wanted to get on with other women, but she took more to men. It's things like this that make some women believe they get on better with the opposite sex but just because I was brought up celebrating other people's successes and beauty and talent doesn't mean all women are the same and its women who behave like this that make some women say they get along better with men.
I love this lady so much ,if all you say is what you are, your gold ,spot on every point ,atleast I see an upright lady here
Being dependen on a man is NOT a good idea. Better stay on your own feet. Just in case. And also to be a good example for little girls (and boys, of course). Every woman SHOULD aim to provide for herself as much as possible.
your answer shows the typical misunderstanding in this case! you missed the point! its not about equality..its about respekt and focus on the advance of the differences in both gender and bring them to glow, while everyone stays perfect in his masculinity or her femininity! this ist always mixed up nowerdays and played down as conxervative and old role model stuff. thats wy there ist so much trouble in relationsships today! she won´t accept it as a fact and fight for her "rights" what brings the opposite result, she wants. vivian is not saying "give your life up on to a man! she only explains how to be the best woman you can, without trying to concour with men, or behave as one! and she also explain why and how you reppelling a good man, if you ignore that. you don´t have to believe what she is saying, you will make your own experience and realize, ( maybe one day) how right she is..if you born as a sunflower try to be a rose, thats not what you are here fore..try to be the best sunflower you can be...thats what is all about! in her case an elegant sunflower!😎
3:25 whew!! That’s powerful … “some choose to fight as a man rather than win as a woman.”
I love this chanel and support the amazing work you are doing!!
Lol not even the cats in the neighborhood want to be around you. 🤣😭 wow, that’s how you know you have a problem!
You've just won a male subscriber 💕 👏🏽
Thank you 🙏 you are so right on the topic.i believe that God made a man and woman differently for a reason. We need to know our places and embrace them with elegance.Indeed opposite attracts ❤️❤️❤️❤️💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼
Thank you for this video. I am learning and understanding new things on how to be more feminine.
Thanks for sharing darling.
You have spoken so well as usual
This was amazing ☺️❤️Thank you
Thank you Vivian for doing this video... I love this type of teaching ... I am writing all of this in my femininity journal...thank you xxx
You are an answer to my prayers! I have always prayed to the universe to have a friend to teach me these journey to elegance. Unfortunately, I have been battling with a health condition that always makes me skinny and this has made me loose my self confidence. How can I overcome this 🥲🥲
You can seek good doctors ( psychiatrist and internist), psychologist for behavior therapy and nutirionist.
Thank you so much for speaking my language in all things. I listened attentively but couldn't find your material wanting. I'm so glad you are taking the lead in this topic. I highly appreciate you
I really needed this reminder ❤
Your videos are priceless!
Spot on as usual, Vivenne. Thank you 🙏🏽
Love your video and informative
They have unresolved electra complexes. I won't give dx but it is cluster b.
Love your hair Vivienne,the curls soften your face even more and is lovely
I like the top/dress you got going on Lady.
This video has great content as usual.
Thank you for your work! I absolutely agree with each word of yours! 🙏
..Lord, I have much to work on as some of these ring a bell in my book.
Thank you for this video
You are looking gorgeous Viv 😍 thank you once again for your advice and input sis x
Femininity is an afrodisiaco. Femininity should be our nature. Just like A Man Man. Which extremely rare today to find in our times. Manhood is an afrodisiaco too. Femininity is womanhood. Girlie is childhood. Being graceful is beautiful.
To be fair the first time I started thinking it's great to be feminine was when I actively was engaging with Jehovah's Witnesses, and you do find that all women tend to wear a dress of some sort or a skirt and a nice top. They don't try to be sexy and a dress I wore one time I didn't realize had to be below the knee - to be fair I was probably a lot shorter when I wore it once before, so I genuinely thought it was going to long and I got comments from the Jehovah's I came with to cover my knees with my cardigan. So respectfully I did pull it around because not only did I feel embarrassed I didn't want to embarrass the people who knew me and took me to a congregation. I did get remarks every now and again did I not have any long dresses so after the whole event was over, I started opening the door for bible study in long dresses just to prove a point I had longer dresses because by the end of the second day there (because the first dress I wore was fine the first day) I did start to get annoyed how many remarks I was given by my choice of dress and low and behold they started to comment about how lovely my dresses were! So that was how I handled the situation but being feminine is encouraged even in biblical times. My Nan was from a generation where she didn't even own a pair of trousers it was always skirts and dresses. Plus, if you are that way, I think it's nice that men stop in cars and let you pass to go over the pavement or men actually open doors open for you - it's like men want to respect you more.
I’ve been distant around gathering with women because of how masculine so many are. I’ve had to be extremely discerning with which women I spend time with and found that one on one works best with me. I also don’t drink beer as I find that a masculine drink and hate the taste.
Love love this so on point. Thank you.
Absolutely love your videos.They truly enrich my life ~* And I'm clearly a man lolll.
You're funny! She's cool huh! So helpful regardless of gender.
She’s perfect.
This advice is Biblical. I had to learn this and it actually works.
I love your channel so much, thank you!!!!! God bless
Great video! ❤
wow, i really love this.
Wonderful message! Thank you!
Nicely said!
so true and helpful! Thanks!
Thank you!!! ❤❤❤ The truth ❤❤❤!!!
Sorry I disagree here. Each individual should be who they are and be herself,other person should be able accept her the way she is. There is no need to get acceptance from society or opposite gender and change oneself and putting up fake face won't last long.
ok than why you watching this vid!!! NONSENSE ppl kmt
@@official_anusha4994 who is this again?? Well i'm talking to the author unclear why people irrelevant to my comment are responding unless they missed etiquette classes in whichever sub par schools one attended Or unless their IQs /EQ's are sub par people should just focus on their business rather than responding to someone's opinion.
I agree. However I think you can be yourself while still resting in your femininity.
We all strive to be good. Any message or admonition that would heip us to be of good behavior shoutld be encouraged, If not a thief or a liar or a back stabber can as well remain in his or her ways while hoping to be accepted in the society.
😮💨❤️ thank you so much for saying that. 😮💨
I love your outfit.😍
Very good advice
Thank you Vivienne! I always learn something from your videos.
I get this message you're trying to pass across and it's wonderful. I appreciate them but can you please give a playlist for elegant ladies? I listen to lots of songs and I notice most of em have cuss words. Anyone can help out also. I'd be reading replies.
Classical music! Soft jazz! Look at the Daily Connoisseur youtube channel, she has a culture challenge each month where she introduces various pieces of art, music, books, etc for people to learn about. Lot of similar ideas and approaches!
Thank you so much, I admire you and your videos 🤍
Thank you so much
Amen, thank you for the videos♥️
Hmmm......... Grew up with all the qualities you've mentioned in this video and ended up being f**ked over. Had to learn the bitter lesson of making sure that the male species keep their distance and the female species better know their positioning. From there onwards, life has been a bliss. No regrets at all :))
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