Am I going to keep working now that I'm a wife...idt I've ever told u this
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 ก.ค. 2024
- Am I going to keep working now that I'm a wife (married). What will happen to my career, my job..now that I have the freedom to choose what I want to spend my days doing and pursuing? I am so thankful to have a supportive partner and this choice. I give all the credit to God. Let me know if you have made this choice recently and what you have decided to do. I am so curious to hear your experiences =)
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I am so curious if any of you have made this choice recently! I want to know what u chose and why. Lets talk 😊
From an early age I knew I wanted to be a stay at home mum/wife but my whole life my dad had told me about the importance of being independent and how you can’t rely on a man. That stuck with me and I’m still studying my butt off at 26 yrs old so I can get a good degree that gives me a good job and I can pay my life and help my parents but in the back of my mind I’m always waiting to meet a godly man that it’s okay with me staying at home taking care of the house and kids/dogs and having maybe a part time job and that won’t make me feel like I’m lazy and I hope one day I can full fill that dream of mine.
I would absolutely LOVE to be a stay at home mom personally. I think the world we live in today is so disparaging when it comes to this and it’s especially hard economically. So if you are in the financial place to make that choice, I think that’s such a blessing. My mom always harps on being independent too because she has been divorced a few times and has suffered because of it and would hate for me to rely on anyone else the way she had to. I’m curious to know what your take is on this? I have always dreamed of having the time to actually raise my own children and make my home a warm and happy place to be. I’ve never had any other real ambitions, just a passion for some hobbies here and there. I think there is so much value in raising children and being a wife because at the end of our lives that’s what will matter to us. I hope that whatever we all choose, we’re able to choose it for us and for our higher power.
since being born again this year, the Lord has called me to be a stay at home mom. it’s definitely something I yearn for now. I was raised on feminism, but realized (in my now mid 20s) that doesn’t line up with who I am. I am also very fortunate to have a husband that wants the same for me, he would love me to stay at home. currently blessed to be transitioned to working from home now (which I’m convinced is from the Lord bc it’s something I prayed for and then the office literally just closed out of nowhere) and I’m practicing my homemaking skills in hopes that when the Lord blesses me with children I will be ready! just content in this season, but I know what I’m called for☺️
Well I’m not at the time period to choose that but I adore both stay at home and working mom but I will be a working mom simply because I have a passion of sewing and making clothes and running a business but if I didn’t have a passion I will probably be a stay home mom
I have quit the music business and decided to study law, starting in 10 days. I had been on stages since I was 13, music was a huge part of my identity and still is. But admitting to myself that I wasn‘t happy in the business, was a painful thing and I am glad I did admit it finally, at 27. it was never really my choice and I was pushed by my former manager and father who never truly supported the enfolding of my own personality and my spiritual and financial independence. It was a long way until I would truly integrate the fact that I was abused. That the spotlight was where I seeked the love that I never received at home. And that in order to heal I would have to abandon music for at least a long time . Something like music, the world can’t seem to see much negative about, unlike plastic surgery. So it was such a fight to identify it as a huge part the problem.
Quitting art was the hardest thing I ever did , not just because there’s a widespread belief that a true artist can’t quit, and all the stereotypes about artists and lawyers that couldnt be more the opposite in europe. also because it was all I ever did, knew and my CV isn‘t really what brings you the best alternatives immediately. I felt stuck for so long. Didnt know whatelse to do. Fear of regret kept me in a very passive state for years.
I was surrounded by people who would put me under so much pressure. I‘ve even decided to leave most of my friends behind , because they judge me , they say its a shame to throw away such talent. Or they feel offended by the fact that I want out, they take it personal. First we all thought its just a long creative block . But their constant invitations to jam really started to annoy me. Even when my favorite drummer in the world invited me.. I just don‘t like to play music anymore so much.
Yes I was given talent , but that doesnt mean this is what I have to do all my life. I want to do something more meaningful than live among so many narcissistic people who are mostly political hypocrites and who love to be in the spotlight for making mostly mediocre petty stuff that was already done by other people thousand times. many things about this world depressed me. It is such a relief to finally be honest about it and to have a different plan.
My success shall be education . 🤍
I used to be in the debate club in school , debating was another talent that was just overseen.
So yeah I can identify with doing things you don’t want to , while everyone applauds .
It‘s a horrible feeling. And the best concerts I played were usally the ones I broke down in tears backstage.
I can’t explain how peaceful your videos over the past few months have made me feel. I feel the love you are putting out into the universe. I see your growth in every video and it motivates me to fight for what makes me happy. Keep doing what you are doing! Sending love, as always!
I agree!! Her videos bring me peace as well
I have been with you for many years (haha) and I was so HAPPY when you started to shed all of the layers of the superficial and got real. That is when I really started to relate to you! I know it isn't always easy to stay authentic and still make money.... my own career has had its ups and downs for the same reasons, but I think you're seeing that when you have faith and trust yourself it CONTINUES to work out!
I honestly find myself watching you more now than before, because it’s so raw and real. Your genuine honesty and love just like radiates through you. You also helped me realize what a husband should be like and how I should be treated. I’ve seen your heart change and shift in Christ it’s so beautiful to see.
My mom has always been a stay at home wife/mom since my parents got married. I would NEVER associate my mom with being lazy. People are so hyper focused on the female hustle. But not every woman wants to be a leader, a business owner, or a boss. Some of us just want to be mothers and life a comfortable life, and that is perfectly fine. 💕
Absolutely, not only that we are just pink washing masculinity because this female hustle rarely has any feminine essence. Also the truth is most women wont have a huge meaningful career.
You’ve grown so mature lately. Yes you have always been deep and introspective but you are really coming into your own more and more, I’m very happy for you and I wish you all the happiness in your marriage.
By the way, the guys you dated before are the types that I also run to the hills from. I hate that expectation of being a cook and maid, the worst.
It is so beautiful to see and hear you talk about your relationship and how rare and great it is. How not only does he do the bare minimum, but he goes far beyond that and is a good boyfriend and now a great husband. There for YOU. Watching you all these years it's so great to see you happier and figuring things out for the best. Also I love sit-down videos. I love sitting here with you and having a deep talk with you. You don't need to do any kind of video you don't feel like you enjoy or want to do. As much as I love seeing the videos with your daily life I enjoy just sitting here with you
Those deep, vulnerable conversations mixed into your beauty/fashion video were always my favorite parts and were when I felt most connected to you and felt most validated/motivated.
I love the evolution of your channel and being vulnerable about your journey with God. I’m on my own journey and I’m so happy I get to see this!!! ❤
I have been a silent watcher of your videos for years, but this one really touched me. I really needed to hear this and I love how much you have grown. I am so proud of where you are now and can’t see what else you have planned. Thank you.
I’d love to keep seeing you here on YT Alana!
I honestly am not Christian and I don’t believe in any God but I still relate to you and enjoy your content very much, I love seeing you talk about your values and getting deep about the important things, it’s really beautiful regardless of any religious belief. Also it’s so nice seeing you achieve such wonderful things in your life and how everything seems to work itself out, I’m so happy for you truly!
When you released your breakup videos I was going through my own breakup and you gave me strength and inspiration to choose what’s best for me as you were doing for yourself.
I appreciate you! ❤ thank you
I love this so much for you Alana, you’ve transformed into such a wonderful person and I know your journey has only just begun. God has really given you so many blessings and you are showing so much gratitude for them. I love your new content, this is what I love to watch/listen to. I’m so glad you finally feel this freedom of doing what you love with who you love and being true to yourself and doing gods will. I’m so happy and excited for you and where this life takes you. Been here since you had pink hair and I’m here to stay. Stay blessed, much love.
I was probably recommended your channel because you were popular due to the superficial aspects of the videos. But I definitely stayed and loved your channel for years for how mature and introspective you are. That was always there, even if in little moments before. I am so happy if you choose to do more sit-down videos, I always liked listening to you reason through things. I am a bit older than you, but I am learning so much from your videos. You are an incredible human being and I wish you the best, Alana ❤
I am so grateful to hear your insight now and to see how you’ve grown over the years! Love you Alana!
I'm so excited for the sit down videos! I actually have always loved just hearing your thoughts on certain things more than the vlogs. I preferred that even before you started talking about your faith but now, I look forward to that content even more.
Keep going Alana!
Thank you Alana! I needed to hear this.
Especially the part of how to go through the process of forgiving yourself after making a mistake. I still let myself struggle and find it difficult to truly let go.
I will definitely stick around and am looking forward to learning from you, thank you for sharing!
Honestly I have always loved your sit down videos! I feel like you always have an interesting and nuanced perspective on things that is genuine and not just a talking point that you are regurgitating. It’s very refreshing! And now that you are openly talking about your faith, I love it even more! I’d love for more of this kind of content.
I've watched your videos for several years and can see such a huge transformation God has created in your life. So happy for you and am really looking forward to your future videos!
I appreciate everything you’ve done and everything you continue to do 🙌🏻 Every video you post is a beautiful lesson, so glad I found your channel back when you started it all, I rarely every comment but just wanted you to know I’m so grateful for your words and life lessons. Love you and God bless 🤍
I absolutely loved this sit-down chat. It really has me reflecting on what kind of life I want and how I want to feel in my life. Thank you so much, Alana 💖
Just got your video on MDD recommended and had to check in.
Glad you found someone that fits and supports you so well. WIsh yall only the best 🙌
I feel like we’ve grown into loving God at the same time and your new videos showed up at the perfect time🥰
My husband is similar to Tim- loves that I have a high powered career but also is fine with me stepping back and taking care of myself and of our family. I’m glad you found tim!! My relationship progressed really quickly too- we knew we were going to get married after 6 weeks of talking. We waited 2 years but we always knew that’s where we were headed and it sounds like you and Tim are very similar! I know how refreshing it is to find a kind man who supports and loves you. So happy for you and your journey!
alana it is so cool to hear you talk about what was in your heart all along. i think a lot of viewers perceive your salvation & new relationship as a super fast 180 of who you used to be but the more you share i can see it was there all along, you just didn’t show it. and you were still lost not knowing how to fill the void you felt inside all that time. thank you for being so vulnerable & authentic always ♥️
your videos the past 6 months or so make me feel so peaceful, thank you Alana xxx
I love this! I love you! I can’t wait to see your new video ideas! Proud of you, Alana! Keep shining His light! 💛
Also- I feel like it is so rare to meet men who respect women. Ugh, when you are an independent woman who owns their own house (I hate that term "independent woman") men can be so intimidated or attracted by this! and if they are attracted by it it is often because they are looking someone to take care of them, be their "mom." It makes it really hard to date. It was nice to hear that you were able to navigate all of that and still find someone great.
It really helps me to hear your story and how you've overcome things, because you're taking a different route than most in terms of your internal navigation and its beautiful. Thank you!
Also, I agree it is hard to find someone who respects both working or being a stay at home mom. Thankfully my husband supports me being a stay at home mom, but so many people always ask him why I don't just put my kid in daycare and work a "real" job. I have a degree as well and a lot of people tell me I'm throwing it away because I decided to stay at home with my baby. It's been tough for me because I feel I am doing what the lord has asked of me and I love being a home maker! I don't know why there is such an attack on stay at home moms... it's definitely something I hear about a lot.
I can’t get over how much you are just glowing. You’ve always been beautiful but there is this just deep sense of joy and calmness that is radiating now.
Love this topic and would love to hear you elaborate on it & share more conversations like this one. Much Love & Blessings! 🙏🏽🌹💛
Such a realistic view of what dating is like right now in our day and age. All these obstacles and someone who will protect and love and care for you. So happy you found someone who treats you with love and respect.
Amazing ! I can’t wait !😍😍😍😍 Always saw your true feelings in the old videos ! You are such a amazing person !
You’re so inspiring Alana. You said some things today that I really needed my soul to hear, bless you. I’m so happy for you I can’t wait for the awesome content you have in store!
I have a 5 month old and I had the luxury to quit my job when I gave birth to my daughter. My husband and I are lower middle class, we just prioritize things so I can stay home with her. We plan on having more kids and homeschooling. My husband wants to go back to school and I’ll probably work again while he’s in school. I feel really grateful my husband has always been open to what I want to do and really that’s raise my kids. It’s totally your guys’ decision how you approach life :).
I was a huge fan before but i like your video's now even better!! Tim really completes you and your TH-cam. And these sitting down video's, i could listen to you talk for hours. I Will stick around for as long as you make video's ❤ i love you!
I love all of your content then, now & in the future. Can’t wait for the changes that make YOU happy. Videos/content that make you excited to make!
I think lots of woman love the idea of stay at home but sadly most family depends on multiple income to survive now adays
I love the idea of the occasional update vlog ❤ also appreciate you being honest and raw about dating in our modern world .
I definitely want to stick around to see your vision and passion through. Thank you Alana in advance of your wise words. And thank you for all the lessons you have been teaching me thus far, wheither you've realized it or not. ❤
I’m loving these honest conversations!! I love this version of Alana so much oh my god ! The glowing Alana era is here
Your path is so special, please keep filming whenever you can. You finding love and faith is so inspiring and co calming to watch this videos. aspiring to constantly change for better❤
. I love that you two are happy,
Also your outfits lately have been so cute!! I’d love to see where you like to shop
Alana, I never subscribed for your makeup / haul / cosmetics videos, I subscribed bc of your raw honesty and wisdom and have been watching you for years.
I think is a GOLDEN opportunity to share your deepest passions without the constant pressure of analytics. If you made a video about trash cans cuz that's what you were passionate about, Id watch it. Sometimes seeing someone so invested and excited about a topic is what's interesting. You have that! You are an inspiration to many and I know there's a plethora of new ideas and experiences to share involving your faith and a more soft life.. We can tell that you absolutely adore sharing and will keep on with whatever comes down the pipeline for you. Been following you since 2019 and I gotta say you shine now!
Alana, as someone who has been here for years. I am so excited about this next chapter of you channel (and your life). I’ll be sticking around :)
Dear Alana, you have no idea how much I needed this! Truly God works in mysterious ways and it shows every day. I feel so blessed that you can talk to me through videos and that I am able to listen to your words. You inspired me way back to also learn about Christ and so I decided to took my journey towards learning more about it all. You inspire me every day and give me so much hope. For sure I will stick around and as always, I can't wait for your next videos. I am so happy that you & Tim found each other and can help each other. It is visible how much you guys help each other out and make each other happy. I love you and I am so happy. Your brought me so much joy! Hopefully you can build a community that values you as much as you value us, you deserve the best Alana. I am proud of you and so happy to be able to hear from you! 💕
this is beautiful Alana! I've been watching since day 1 and I am so proud of you!!!!
Love you so much!!! I support you with whatever videos you choose to make. Though I can't lie- I'd do love your vlogs... they don't have to be glamorous, they can be raw and real ❤️❤️ also love when you do sit down videos. I can't wait to hear what you want to talk about- I find those videos very inspiring plus it's nice that I can clean and do things while listening to your video!
Alana you never fails to make me smile with your videos you are my inspiration and I wish you have a beautiful day💫💕🤗
yes girl. preach. it's good to kno what you want and your values and it's great that you discussed all this before marriage to make sure both of your future goals and values align
Your videos bring me so much peace and I love hearing your insight especially because I have no friends with similar values.❤
Loved this so much, Alana! And truly cannot wait for all the meaningful content to come. These types of videos may not have performed as well in the past, but the right audience will notice and join the community the more of these videos you make. Regardless, people need to hear it. So grateful for you and your growth💗
Thank you so much for your perspective on dating . I just came out of a 5 year relationship literally 2 months ago, he was the one who made the decision to end things. It broke my heart but I'm grateful at the same time. I had never truly considered that he did have some limiting beliefs around women and he did make some mean comments which I didn't like.
I'm only 25 and I'm still "scared" to date and see what else is out there, because I'm afraid I will not find someone who will love me for me but you give me tons of hope, specially the way you talk about Tim and his beliefs.
I want to see you film every sit down talking video on your list!! Your analytics might take time to catch up but you’ll find YOUR people, YOUR supporters of this new phase in your life.
I love your vlogs!!! Please keep incorporating them in, because you can still see and feel those messages from you in those videos too!
Yes I love these videos....go with what you feel inspired by God to do with the gifts He has blessed you with. And that is giving God the glory. It doesn't matter how popular the world thinks of your video content...what matters is how you are using your spiritual gifts to be used for the glory of God. Not to mention how you are using your testimony and love and obedience to God to help reach many people who need God so desperately in their life! 😊❤
Alana, can you talk about how to start having a relationship with god? I think i made some really bad choices in my life and i would like to be better. I just don't know how to start, and you seem so genuine about god. I would really love and it would be beneficial for other people who also feel lost about it.
I love how the sun started shining on you when you started talking about what’s really on your heart to share ❤
11:00 I love the direction of your channel (I'm a similar age and having a very similar change in life right now.) I think it's beautiful that you want to share wisdom and to stop people from making mistakes as you put it... but I think making mistakes is a part of life and learning. This is how you grew and gained wisdom. (Or one of the ways.) It's lovely that you want to prevent pain, but I think that the human experience requires that we experience it to test our resilience and help us grow. I think instead of giving someone a roadmap to avoid making "mistakes" could this be segued or reframed as "how can I help people cope with XYZ or when they've experienced this." ? After all, your mistakes have led you to where you are now! Were they really mistakes then? Food for thought :) ps. i would be super intrigued to hear your controversial thoughts!
I would LOVE to watch sit down videos of you talking about things that are important to YOU. I also share your love of antiques and potentially being a SAHM so whatever you’d like to sprinkle in that fulfills you personally, I will be a viewer. Love you lots Alana🤍
A point you eluded to that i think deserves its own video is first dates; how to know if someone is the right person, what to look for/ask on a first date.
Alana I love this and this side of you so much! I can’t wait until you share more real raw videos and how you and Tim met and your testimony
These videos make my whole week. Thank you so much for sharing 🤎
So glad you and Tim found each other ❤️
I can’t wait for this next chapter on your youtube channel but at the same time I’m really loving your latest vlogs ❤ their are really inspiring and calming. Plus, I would like to see your home tour. 😍 So in my opinion it would be amazing to see vlogs and chatty videos about diffrent topics since I usually listen to podcast. Moreover I really like american culture so by watching vlogs, I get the chance to learn so much, since I’m italian. 💗 xoxo
Forever supporting what God has done and will continue doing in your life, Alana. ❤❤❤❤❤
this was such a good video. experiencing similar things, and I loved hearing someone else share the same thoughts I tend to have.
I must learn to forgive myself and learn to be forgiving to others, I am on my path to be better, I love that type of content, and really like listening to you!
I love this version of you Alana! I have been following since I was in my college party girl phase and now i’m 25, married, and have a surprise on the way… So excited for you!
Yes I’d love to hear all about the truth! Don’t be afraid of the reactions you’ll get from people that don’t want controversial topics. You can’t change or compromise the word of God. ♥️
so so happy for you! it goes without saying that you're in your best season so far. talk about whatever God places on your heart and be true to yourself. the right people will come
It is so inspiring to see how much your life has changed and how you’ve changed the focus of your channel despite losing some followers/views
Hi ❤
I've followed you for a long time, I got engaged about the same time of your first engagement, I remember I was a little sad I didn't plan everything the way you did and it wasn't as glamorous but then many things happened, my relationship also wasn't great at that time and I was relating to you, now my relationship got better and me and my husband are still working on it and going to therapy, what I wanna say is that I love how you evolved and I love the new topics and the changes you've made ❤️
I feel like you do vlog? Like your last few videos or house shopping and moving in and what not 🥰 I think it’s a great idea to have Tim film it! You work as a team 🫶🏻
LOVE you ❤ can’t wait for all the new videos and topics.
You can tell God has changed you as you have accepted him ❤ You're more about your inner beauty than your outer beauty and it shows!
It’s so beautiful that we’ve become active Christ followers and Christian women around the same time in our lives. I’ve been following you for YEARSSS girl since pink hair lol and it’s so beautiful to both be married and focus on our relationship with God. ❤️ so I love your channel even more !
Please do not end making videos , these are getting better and better ❤
more wedding content when you are ready!! would love to hear about the planning!
The dating pool is a cesspool. Finding a good partner is harder then trying to find a needle in a haystack sometimes. I'm glad you found yours!
This was so opening in so many ways for me . Thankyoubx
You seem so much more peaceful and look even more (somehow!) youthful these days! I am so happy for you!
I prefer your honest sit down videos! I wish more creators did this! 💕
I love seeing how happy you are 🥹❤
Thank you sooo much for sharing! As a traditional woman I can’t express how much I wish I met a man like that. It’s rare but still possible. ❤
Do what makes you happy and God will take care of the rest if it's in His will. Loving your new content ❤
honestly a podcast would be a great next step for you alana given your current shift into more simplified authentic and relaxed content i lean you have it all, great mind, great concepts, experience, critical thinking and the cherry on top a pleasant and calming voice. i think it would be less stressing for you.
Yes im here for this! ❤ I want to be a stay at home mom someday but indifferent about it because of how society labels it
That mentality is incredibly rare to find in a partner these days! I’m so glad you found someone so reasonable!
I’m also very happy with the direction your channel is going!
I needed to hear this! Thank you❤
This version of Alana is so powerful ✨
I love watching your content evolve!
Can’t wait for your upcoming videos 💕
Urghh You’re so at peace… I LOVE IT!
I love the vlogs but I would be OBSESSED with your podcast! Please please please!
This is so awesome, just stumbled on your video from 7 months ago when you found Jesus and recommended not sleeping with people…I just got out of a relationship where everything was so confusing..because we had been together..thank you for sharing and giving me hope that I will find the right women who is also a Christian…your story is amazing!
The change The Lord has made in your life. It’s so beautiful to see a young woman who knows her value because she’s a child of God. Your not better then, or worse then your Gods child. Being a Wife and a Mother is the best gift you can give the world. Yes, your raising kids, but kids grow up and the world needs Christians willing to tell them the changes Jesus has made in their life. Tim and you are on the right path. Keep your eyes on The Lord, guard your hearts, continue to serve each other, and your dreams and MORE will come true.
How a man treats his own mother will be eventually be how he treats his wife.
Your BOTH blessed 💕
These are my favorite types if videos you make!! Was never a big fan of the hauls/plastic surgery stuff. I love interesting and meaningful conversations .
This is so relatable to me, Alana. What a breath of fresh air! I worked as an RN while I had my 1 yr old and pregnant with my second and then my husband and I decided for me to stay at home with the babies. It has been the most rewarding thing I’ve done and I feel like I’m walking in my purpose. Nursing was that for me for a while and I see it as a ministry calling, not just a career. But there’s a time for everything and my calling is to serve my husband, raise my kids, and keep my home, (plus a few other ministry things). What you said about vlogging spoke to me so much. I struggle to get content out there for the same reasons and often think, “what is this for? What’s the point?”. Sit down videos are more my speed now and I’m really enjoying hearing from you and what the Lord has been teaching you! You are such a light in this space! I look forward to your future videos! 🤍
This is great Alana! Keep going!