My friend who was 37 passed away with Cancer. She has 4 kids and father is no where to be found. He doesn't give a damn. It breaks my heart whenever I see the kids. Thank you for your video.
Thank you so much.. this video helped me so much. I am the founder and CEO of High Impact Movement, Inc. located here in Hot Springs Arkansas. This morning or actually last night I got a call from a school that we work with that when their students committed suicide and they needed grief counselors to come in and work with their kids who are going through the grieving process or just need to talk. I’ve done this before but the way that you laid it out in this video was really helpful and concise. I think with these concepts that you shared anyone with compassion and love can walk somebody through the grieving process of a loved one or special special friend. Thank you so much.
Thanks for this, I'm in a grad program and in my internship my very first client is a 6yo with grief after losing his mom. I have had 0 training in this area so this was a very helpful start!
I have 4 grandchildren that lost their dad a day before Thanksgiving in 2022. They will not talk about it, I can see them suffering dearly. (This dad is my son he was 36). Their mom is not there for them it's all about her. The children are 14 year old twin daughters. A 12 year old son. Another son 5 year old. None of them have had the time to grieve. I don't know how much I need to step in. I am afraid they are being neglected.
I am so sorry to hear this. Often and outside grief counselor helps because children sometimes try to protect their loved ones and family members by not saying anything they think might upset them. And/Or you could have a conversation with them and let them know it is okay to talk to you about the loss. That you can handle it and would like it if they talked to you.
Happy Sunday Carol, It's incredible how we connect with strangers in unexpected ways. Although I don't usually do this, I couldn't help but reach out to you after seeing your comment. Could you tell me what you like to do in your spare time?
I'm 16 I'm on my way to a hospice center where my mom is being taken care of. rn my sibling are there. emotions is something I don't know anything about nor feel, so I'm going to be the one of the people who comfort them.
My grandson is 7 years old. He is extremely empathic & he has lost 2 grandfathers very close together. My son & his wife allowed him to be in the room when her grandfather died & he saw everything. Now he seems to be obsessed with death. He mentions it a lot & tells me how he misses grandpa Chuck (my husband) and his Papa. The parents haven’t taken the kids to Sunday School and don’t know how to explain everything to him. God & prayers are never mentioned in their home. Recently he has begun associating death with white or gray hair & asked me why I have the gray in my hair. We think he associates death with gray hair. I hope to have a conversation with him as soon as I can and try to explain a few things and answer any questions he might have. I think God, Heaven, Jesus & angels need to be explained also. But where do I start? Anytime mention of Grandpa comes up he starts to cry. 😢. Any suggestions would be much appreciated. Even if you could suggest a child’s book to read to him. Thanks for your kindness. Carol J.
Can you make a video specifically on children feeling anger in the grief process if you don’t have one already? My 9 year old has gotten very angry since the death of her grandpa and I can’t seem to find a lot about anger
As a counselor, how is best to start first session with a teen client that's dealing with grief? Is it okay if I start asking questions? Or should I wait for the client to mention the loss first? Thank you
Thank you for your comment. I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I don't know what year this was but in the past kids did not receive grief counseling however it's much more common now thank you
Hi I am a therapist I have a new client , she witnessed her grandmother kill her little brother, and she was also abused , she smiled yesterday in our 3rd session , so our next visit i may start the conversation of death.
HI, I AM A CHILD OF GOD, and my identity is in JESUS CHRIST and not in my struggles. Although, I still struggle with time management, goal setting, mental triggers due to ambiguous grief and setting appropriate boundaries. My name is Rose. Throughout my entire life I have been dealing with multiple losses. Like, I already experienced pet-pal separation before my parents divorced, thus experiencing separation from my biological father (at the age of 3); and later, the tragic death of my grandmother - before my mother immediately got married to my step-dad (and we all lived with his adopted mother) by the time I turn nine years old. Sadly, this included moving away from my only best friend and changing schools at least 3 times before my grade 3 season ended. By then, I was so overwhelmed with having to adjust to all the fast-paced changes that I completely shut-down from verbal communication - which prevented me from making new relationships with my then peers. Unfortunately, I became an easy target for teasing and bullying. I had a female nemesis making sure I didn’t have any new girlfriends and a male neighbor/nemesis who would beat me up and torment me on the way home after school. I developed fears of speaking up in class knowing my peers would laugh and tease me if I got the answers wrong. I had insensitive teachers who would not correct them nor validate me. These were the known and shown reasons for my then mental insecurities and trust issues. Back at home, I had an emotionally/physically absent mother; she was a workaholic and a people pleaser. She hardly spent any time with me and I soon found myself jealous, when a female neighbor and peer from Girl Guides became the number one person who received my mother’s attention; because her own mother (the Girl Guide Leader and friend to my mother) had recently died. As I got closer to the age of 13, I also experienced the death of my great-grandmother (who was the anchor of our family, as she kept us going to church and my only adult person I could talk to), my other grandmother on my dad’s side also died and she too was close to me). There were other close family members and additional pet losses; but no adult ever checked-in on my feelings. By grade nine I had enough of my family’s lack of care and enough abuse from my peers that I spoke up and convinced the adults in my life that I needed to change schools - All of a sudden, I had a powerful voice that could change my circumstances. This new power led me to being estranged from my family. I started drinking at the age of 14. I first married at the age of 19. I became a mother at the age of 18, 30, and 33. My biological dad died at the age of 21. I later divorced at the age of 24. I lost all 3 of my children to the Ministry of Children Services at the age of 34: my firstborn was adopted by my parents, and my younger two were adopted out to a homosexual stranger. I remarried at the age of 36. I became a widow at the age of 43. I had a stroke and my first surgery at the age of 44. I remarried once again at the age of 48. AND I recently lost my firstborn child at the age of 49. I am currently 53 and now for the very first time I am learning what the word GRIEF truly means. Thankfully though I have a wonderful support team here in Kelowna with Celebrate Recovery, who encouraged me to cope with their Christian based 12 Step-program. And as I desperately sought counseling to understand my triggers, I was then introduced to Grief-share and here I am. Still, I give GOD ALL THE GLORY for IT has truly been GOD ALL along getting me through every loss and every life changing moment. I would not be here if I didn’t have my faith and trust in JESUS CHRIST. THANK YOU JESUS for letting me run to you, again and again, and again. HALLELUJAH!!!
Happy Sunday Rose, It's incredible how we connect with strangers in unexpected ways. Although I don't usually do this, I couldn't help but reach out to you after seeing your comment. Could you tell me what you like to do in your spare time?
My friend who was 37 passed away with Cancer. She has 4 kids and father is no where to be found. He doesn't give a damn. It breaks my heart whenever I see the kids. Thank you for your video.
Thank you so much.. this video helped me so much. I am the founder and CEO of High Impact Movement, Inc. located here in Hot Springs Arkansas. This morning or actually last night I got a call from a school that we work with that when their students committed suicide and they needed grief counselors to come in and work with their kids who are going through the grieving process or just need to talk. I’ve done this before but the way that you laid it out in this video was really helpful and concise. I think with these concepts that you shared anyone with compassion and love can walk somebody through the grieving process of a loved one or special special friend. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much!! You're so right about little exposure to grief counseling in graduate programs, I felt that way with my studies in MFT.
Thanks for this, I'm in a grad program and in my internship my very first client is a 6yo with grief after losing his mom. I have had 0 training in this area so this was a very helpful start!
I have 4 grandchildren that lost their dad a day before Thanksgiving in 2022. They will not talk about it, I can see them suffering dearly. (This dad is my son he was 36). Their mom is not there for them it's all about her. The children are 14 year old twin daughters. A 12 year old son. Another son 5 year old. None of them have had the time to grieve. I don't know how much I need to step in. I am afraid they are being neglected.
I am so sorry to hear this. Often and outside grief counselor helps because children sometimes try to protect their loved ones and family members by not saying anything they think might upset them. And/Or you could have a conversation with them and let them know it is okay to talk to you about the loss. That you can handle it and would like it if they talked to you.
I got your worksheets! I am going to be using them in a session today!
Yay let me know how it goes--Quenby
I've learned so much from your channel about working with kids and teens!
Great guidance….thank you and God bless you
Happy Sunday Carol, It's incredible how we connect with strangers in unexpected ways. Although I don't usually do this, I couldn't help but reach out to you after seeing your comment. Could you tell me what you like to do in your spare time?
Thank you so much for sharing! I'm a grad student going into a hospice internship and have had little training
I'm 16 I'm on my way to a hospice center where my mom is being taken care of. rn my sibling are there. emotions is something I don't know anything about nor feel, so I'm going to be the one of the people who comfort them.
Thank you so much for the video.
This was lovely. Thank you so much
You are amazing, thank you ❤
Thank you for sharing this information it was very helpful and easy to follow. 😊
Videos are so helpful, just starting out as a Christian Counselor/ Mental Health Coach
I am so glad my video was helpful to you. Be sure to stop by again and say hello. Thank you for your comment! Quenby Gallahan, LMFT
I’d enjoy hearing about your experiences when you first started out. I’m currently getting a masters and your videos are so helpful, thank you!
I am so happy my videos are helping you! Thank you for that feedback! -Quenby
thank you , this helped with m y practical it made way easy
This was such a helpful video. Thank you for all of the information!
This was helpful! Thanks
My grandson is 7 years old. He is extremely empathic & he has lost 2 grandfathers very close together. My son & his wife allowed him to be in the room when her grandfather died & he saw everything. Now he seems to be obsessed with death. He mentions it a lot & tells me how he misses grandpa Chuck (my husband) and his Papa. The parents haven’t taken the kids to Sunday School and don’t know how to explain everything to him. God & prayers are never mentioned in their home.
Recently he has begun associating death with white or gray hair & asked me why I have the gray in my hair. We think he associates death with gray hair. I hope to have a conversation with him as soon as I can and try to explain a few things and answer any questions he might have. I think God, Heaven, Jesus & angels need to be explained also. But where do I start? Anytime mention of Grandpa comes up he starts to cry. 😢. Any suggestions would be much appreciated. Even if you could suggest a child’s book to read to him. Thanks for your kindness. Carol J.
Thank you for this excellent and informative video.
Can you make a video specifically on children feeling anger in the grief process if you don’t have one already? My 9 year old has gotten very angry since the death of her grandpa and I can’t seem to find a lot about anger
I was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer a year ago.I have a 10yr.old son.very upset
Great insight. How can get the tools
Very helpful information. Thanks
Hello I hope u're doing well, thank you for all ur videos ❤️😍 and Pls if u can to make a video about how learning teens the boundaries 🙏
I loved your video. I am a new subscriber. I am working with children in schools too. want to use your tools.
Where can I find the drawings?
As a counselor, how is best to start first session with a teen client that's dealing with grief? Is it okay if I start asking questions? Or should I wait for the client to mention the loss first? Thank you
Great....how can l get the work sheets
How can I get in touch with you..hope you reply...thank you so much, for all this help that you provide for us parents!!
My dad died when I was 5 or 6
Thank you for your comment. I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I don't know what year this was but in the past kids did not receive grief counseling however it's much more common now thank you
Hi I am a therapist I have a new client , she witnessed her grandmother kill her little brother, and she was also abused , she smiled yesterday in our 3rd session , so our next visit i may start the conversation of death.
Do you have any resources for grieving the loss of a suicide loved one
Am from Kenya I need worksheet for grifing kids please
You can find my tools on Etsy at The Grateful Therapist. There is a link in the description section of the video.
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how do i get your handouts?
Good day mam how do i get the worksheets
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HI, I AM A CHILD OF GOD, and my identity is in JESUS CHRIST and not in my struggles. Although, I still struggle with time management, goal setting, mental triggers due to ambiguous grief and setting appropriate boundaries. My name is Rose.
Throughout my entire life I have been dealing with multiple losses. Like, I already experienced pet-pal separation before my parents divorced, thus experiencing separation from my biological father (at the age of 3); and later, the tragic death of my grandmother - before my mother immediately got married to my step-dad (and we all lived with his adopted mother) by the time I turn nine years old.
Sadly, this included moving away from my only best friend and changing schools at least 3 times before my grade 3 season ended. By then, I was so overwhelmed with having to adjust to all the fast-paced changes that I completely shut-down from verbal communication - which prevented me from making new relationships with my then peers. Unfortunately, I became an easy target for teasing and bullying. I had a female nemesis making sure I didn’t have any new girlfriends and a male neighbor/nemesis who would beat me up and torment me on the way home after school. I developed fears of speaking up in class knowing my peers would laugh and tease me if I got the answers wrong. I had insensitive teachers who would not correct them nor validate me. These were the known and shown reasons for my then mental insecurities and trust issues.
Back at home, I had an emotionally/physically absent mother; she was a workaholic and a people pleaser. She hardly spent any time with me and I soon found myself jealous, when a female neighbor and peer from Girl Guides became the number one person who received my mother’s attention; because her own mother (the Girl Guide Leader and friend to my mother) had recently died.
As I got closer to the age of 13, I also experienced the death of my great-grandmother (who was the anchor of our family, as she kept us going to church and my only adult person I could talk to), my other grandmother on my dad’s side also died and she too was close to me). There were other close family members and additional pet losses; but no adult ever checked-in on my feelings. By grade nine I had enough of my family’s lack of care and enough abuse from my peers that I spoke up and convinced the adults in my life that I needed to change schools - All of a sudden, I had a powerful voice that could change my circumstances. This new power led me to being estranged from my family.
I started drinking at the age of 14. I first married at the age of 19. I became a mother at the age of 18, 30, and 33. My biological dad died at the age of 21. I later divorced at the age of 24. I lost all 3 of my children to the Ministry of Children Services at the age of 34: my firstborn was adopted by my parents, and my younger two were adopted out to a homosexual stranger. I remarried at the age of 36. I became a widow at the age of 43. I had a stroke and my first surgery at the age of 44. I remarried once again at the age of 48. AND I recently lost my firstborn child at the age of 49. I am currently 53 and now for the very first time I am learning what the word GRIEF truly means. Thankfully though I have a wonderful support team here in Kelowna with Celebrate Recovery, who encouraged me to cope with their Christian based 12 Step-program. And as I desperately sought counseling to understand my triggers, I was then introduced to Grief-share and here I am.
Still, I give GOD ALL THE GLORY for IT has truly been GOD ALL along getting me through every loss and every life changing moment. I would not be here if I didn’t have my faith and trust in JESUS CHRIST. THANK YOU JESUS for letting me run to you, again and again, and again. HALLELUJAH!!!
Happy Sunday Rose, It's incredible how we connect with strangers in unexpected ways. Although I don't usually do this, I couldn't help but reach out to you after seeing your comment. Could you tell me what you like to do in your spare time?