Mike makes a lot of excellent points. Alex, why can't they pursue all those different things on their dates? Go to Boracay, sikior, Palaean, go to waterfalls, go to a variety of beaches..., It doesn't mean you have to do one or the other.
All good advice, gentlemen. You are so right about being a fool and his money when you first get there. Most of us are not rich, and when you flaunt your money to impress, you are headed for trouble. It is sometimes tough to change your Western culture when you meet women, as we all have done exactly that when trying to date a Western woman. You are going to have to be alot more frugal. You must stick to a definite monthly budget amount and stick to it, or you will find yourself losing the game. Most great Filipina are exactly what you say, as they are usually shy and conservative, but in the world, we live in social media, and it has tainted some Filipina. If you look online or not, you will go through many before you find one that works for both of you. The main thing is, if the Filipina works and she does what makes tmyou happy, quit the wandering eye, if you are committed to this woman. You should know she can't let you be someone your not.😊
On my first meeting with my girlfriend she told me how important character was. I told her the character was the most important to me. She never picked up her phone during our date for hours until I told her she should let her parents know she's okay. This is the kind of Filipina you want to find.
Wow! A filipina not addicted to her phone? I thought that was a oxymoron. Mostly, it's just a matter of degree. It's the height of disrespect when someone stares at their phone during a conversation especially, during an intimate social interaction, like a dinner date. That does sound great, but also be aware that many are good at playing the 'long game,' meaning they will 'morph' into an entirely different person later on. It takes time to get to know someone, so don't be in a rush.
@@kennethedwards1677 I was married 23 years to a Filipina and divorced 4 years. I'm very aware and definitely not rushing. My girlfriend grew up in the rural mountains and she is pretty reasonable with her phone usage. If she have been disrespectful with her phone on the first date it would have never went beyond that I can assure you. If any girl thinks she can play the long game with me she's going to be severely disappointed.
BTW, I played this interview in the background as I made lunch.... they played over an hour of commercials. Hope that helps out the channel and TH-cam doesn't pocket all the add money. P&L, B Goat
On Filipina #3. First one did well and I gave her lots of pesos to go away. Second one lasted 1 evening for dinner, got pissed off at me, then, apologized, but I was already on Filipina #3, and I suspect that she regrets her decision and behavior. Hopeful, but it may take time. Third time is a charm? Stay well.
I'm married almost 9 years to a Filipina. Just started a new channel "PhilsGoldenYears" your conversation is right on. Best thing I ever did was marry a Filipina. Just takes common sense to find the right one.
Met their girlfriend? God help any of you traveling 1/2 the world to meet a girl from online. That ain’t a girlfriend that’s a business transaction. Never been but taking a month to live in an Airbnb is probably a better plan.
As I had typed in a comment on one of your other videos (and thank you for the response), I will probably choose a city like Cebu City because of a preexisting condition I have. As someone who also subscribes to Mike’s channel and is originally from Ohio, I would have asked if I could borrow one of his Ohio State Buckeye T-shirts😂 A commenter under a video by Filipina Blues suggested I decide whether I want to live either in the province or city (I choose city) and then get involved in hobbies and other stuff while waiting for the right type of woman to come along. I am glad to see that way of thought echoed here. Sunshine Shoulders in Cebu City recommended we have another expat man wait for us at the airport so that we keep our wits about us. Sounds good to me as long as he’s honest. I enjoyed Mike’s story about how he and Janet got together as I have noticed watched that video about this on his channel yet.
I think these are all great points! I think it’s not a bad idea to have an expat meet you at the airport, I think it can take the edge off of the culture shock and the jet lag. Great comment, thank you Chris!
I kept on encouraging my bf when we were still in the getting to know each other stage to meet other Filipinas and take his own time. Now he is stuck with me 😅
A long LDR is often good for establishing trust and determining compatibility. Maybe the guys that date around are the ones making the mistake. Telling girls that they aren't good enough for this or that is cruel. And it's tough to break up. I don't want to be a butterfly like that.😂
There is no real way to know someone and test compatibility without spending extended time together face to face. Way to many guys get hooked online with a fantasy relationship, I'm sure you will respond that you know someone that it worked out great for...but overall the numbers are not with committing to someone you haven't met and spent time with ..just because one guy you know did LDR and it worked out great doesn't mean that guys should throw getting to know someone face to face out the window. Some have dumb luck, but more end up disappointed but getting into a serious relationship with someone you either haven't met face to face it only spent a very short time with.
@@mrrobert177 Appreciate your response, but I disagree with your assessment of LDR. I'm all the proof I need, but I know Many other LDRs that worked. My point is that when you date, you're screwing yourself out of the best one. After you found a wife, you're forever making comparisons and cursed. The many vloggers giving dating advice is evidence and it's laughable. I'm sure you know of a few if them. They're experience being a chickboy or butterfly is exploitive of women, giving all foreigners a bad reputation. A good Filipina will date only to evaluate a suitor for marriage. A foreigner whi dates for body count, are just Sick guys, spreading it around.
@@damncars2618 I agree that many vloggers are clueless when it comes to dating, but it doesn't stop them from giving lots of worthless advice! But I still say committing seriously to someone you have never met face to face is a poor method in general. It's different in the Philippines for sure. The research says something like 85 percent of foreigner/ Filipina relationships don't last past 3 months. So you are part of the 15 percent. It worked for you and some others, but not good odds for most. I would advise to get to the Philippines, get comfortable navigating life in a variety of ways, start to learn the culture and a little of the language. Be honest in what you are looking for, take your time, just because a lot of filipinas want to dive in head first immediately to a relationship upon meeting or before, doesn't mean it's a good idea for you. Just take your time, learn the culture, environment, cultural norms, how people communicate. If you do that your chance of success with a girl chosen to pursue face to face will be much higher than 15 percent and result in much less heartache for Filipina and foreigners alike. Just a different approach, I value face to face getting to know each other, to much unknown and risks getting serious online. But guys are going to do it regardless, just seems risky and a bit desperate to me, to get serious with a fantasy, no real way to know how 2 people will get along before meeting face to face and so many things hidden online, u have to admit it's a big risk the commit to someone you haven't met, right? Like I said it can work and does, just not the path I would recommend for a friend.
@@mrrobert177 I agree with you after doing both. An LDR, at best is an INTRODUCTION, but the rubber meets the road when you mean and live with your filipina, which is impossible for those who come to the Phil for a short visit and marry based solely on that. It MIGHT work, but you are rolling the dice.
I watch the yt videos about meting your LD g/f at the airport and think would be nice but one video turned me off to it. Girl met her b/f and had 10-15 family members with her and they went out to eat and guess who paid? “ The rich American”
@@Mikeyyyy_L I would tell them.i would meet them at the restaurant and take my bags and head immediately in the opposite direction....once the cash outflow to family starts so early, there is not stopping it without huge problems..start it right ..set expectations immediately
I would think it is a good idea to date many girls but don't try to form long term relationship with anyone of them very quickly. The girls can serve as tour guides and show you the ways of the land. The idea is to meet many people and eventually the right girl will come. Don't go chasing after women. Let the women do the chasing. The more women you surround yourself with the more desirable you become. Women are crazy like that. Word of advice don't lead with your wallet. If you going to eat go to local modest places where food is affordable but good. Eventually when you get good feel of the new environment you want start filtering the girls who are the better girls for a potentially serious relationship. Remember guys you are the prize. Make the girl work for your attention.
USA vehicle insurance : I pay $425 per 6 months for 3 vehicles, so that's $23.61/month per vehicle. It's more than Philippines, but it's not $200/month !
LOL Making the rounds Alex...Mike is kind of a legend. Not my game. I didn't come to chase women, especially not young ones, I came to find peace from the rat race in my own fashion. Of course Mike isn't the only one here on TH-cam giving this message. Unfortunately, there are just as many telling you the opposite.
If you want to find a long term girlfriend there you have to give yourself opportunities. Meet Filipinas in person and eventually you may find someone who is compatible for you.
I wouldn't be angry if a man hit upon my girlfriend while I wasn't there. He couldn't be blamed for not knowing she was in a relationship. For example, I could be in the toilet, or outside for a phone call. I would only be angry if he continued after it was explained that she has a boyfriend, or if he touched her. I would be very angry if I returned to find a guy with his arm wrapped around her. Forgive ignorance, but don't forgive bad behaviour.
My advice for Western men and all men to win a woman’s heart. Please be gentleman and humble when you are talking with a woman you should be attentive. Groom yourself, no longer nail, don’t wear cologne and don’t count your pennies in front of a Lady. Also you cannot find a good woman in the bar. You may find one in the restaurant, in the mall or from a friend.
The visa is a big one, I think also the tropical island factor is important to a lot of guys. It's a faster flight back to the US, no layover needed from Manila to the west coast of the US. English is also spoken outside of the capital, vs. being less common in Cambodia outside of PP and SR.
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Walmart woman! 😂😂😂! First time I heard that!!!! Laughed so hard when Mike mentioned it. 😂😂
Lol!
Mike makes a lot of excellent points. Alex, why can't they pursue all those different things on their dates? Go to Boracay, sikior, Palaean, go to waterfalls, go to a variety of beaches..., It doesn't mean you have to do one or the other.
Great conversation. Thanks guys
Thanks so much Dave :)
Wow Mike! "The life I always wanted in the west. I got it here in the Philippines." Wow!
Agreed :)
Great interview, Alex. Keep up the great work on your videos, Alex...Jim
Thanks so much Jim! :)
All good advice, gentlemen. You are so right about being a fool and his money when you first get there. Most of us are not rich, and when you flaunt your money to impress, you are headed for trouble. It is sometimes tough to change your Western culture when you meet women, as we all have done exactly that when trying to date a Western woman. You are going to have to be alot more frugal. You must stick to a definite monthly budget amount and stick to it, or you will find yourself losing the game. Most great Filipina are exactly what you say, as they are usually shy and conservative, but in the world, we live in social media, and it has tainted some Filipina. If you look online or not, you will go through many before you find one that works for both of you. The main thing is, if the Filipina works and she does what makes tmyou happy, quit the wandering eye, if you are committed to this woman. You should know she can't let you be someone your not.😊
Enjoyed the conversation. Thanks for the tips!
I’m glad you enjoyed it :)
Slow down guys Agreed👍
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Lol Mike can I barrow money?Nice interview 😊🙏
Hahaha thank you Weng :)
how much you need? I need a new Maid come and work for me
@@mikesphilippineretirement She’ll take over your studio making video’s everyday!
@@mikesphilippineretirement Her and janet will spend all day making videos and e-begging.
Terrible curtains 😂😂😂
Why don't you offer to buy him some new ones?
On my first meeting with my girlfriend she told me how important character was.
I told her the character was the most important to me.
She never picked up her phone during our date for hours until I told her she should let her parents know she's okay.
This is the kind of Filipina you want to find.
I absolutely agree Johnny
Wow! A filipina not addicted to her phone? I thought that was a oxymoron. Mostly, it's just a matter of degree. It's the height of disrespect when someone stares at their phone during a conversation especially, during an intimate social interaction, like a dinner date. That does sound great, but also be aware that many are good at playing the 'long game,' meaning they will 'morph' into an entirely different person later on. It takes time to get to know someone, so don't be in a rush.
@@kennethedwards1677 I was married 23 years to a Filipina and divorced 4 years.
I'm very aware and definitely not rushing.
My girlfriend grew up in the rural mountains and she is pretty reasonable with her phone usage.
If she have been disrespectful with her phone on the first date it would have never went beyond that I can assure you.
If any girl thinks she can play the long game with me she's going to be severely disappointed.
mine works a good job in usa..makes her own monies. doesnt want mine.. spoils me
@@peter-pg5yc How did you meet her?
BTW, I played this interview in the background as I made lunch.... they played over an hour of commercials. Hope that helps out the channel and TH-cam doesn't pocket all the add money. P&L, B Goat
On Filipina #3. First one did well and I gave her lots of pesos to go away. Second one lasted 1 evening for dinner, got pissed off at me, then, apologized, but I was already on Filipina #3, and I suspect that she regrets her decision and behavior. Hopeful, but it may take time. Third time is a charm? Stay well.
I'm married almost 9 years to a Filipina. Just started a new channel "PhilsGoldenYears" your conversation is right on. Best thing I ever did was marry a Filipina. Just takes common sense to find the right one.
I'll check the channel out, thank you for the kind words :)
Met their girlfriend? God help any of you traveling 1/2 the world to meet a girl from online. That ain’t a girlfriend that’s a business transaction.
Never been but taking a month to live in an Airbnb is probably a better plan.
As I had typed in a comment on one of your other videos (and thank you for the response), I will probably choose a city like Cebu City because of a preexisting condition I have.
As someone who also subscribes to Mike’s channel and is originally from Ohio, I would have asked if I could borrow one of his Ohio State Buckeye T-shirts😂
A commenter under a video by Filipina Blues suggested I decide whether I want to live either in the province or city (I choose city) and then get involved in hobbies and other stuff while waiting for the right type of woman to come along. I am glad to see that way of thought echoed here.
Sunshine Shoulders in Cebu City recommended we have another expat man wait for us at the airport so that we keep our wits about us. Sounds good to me as long as he’s honest.
I enjoyed Mike’s story about how he and Janet got together as I have noticed watched that video about this on his channel yet.
I think these are all great points! I think it’s not a bad idea to have an expat meet you at the airport, I think it can take the edge off of the culture shock and the jet lag. Great comment, thank you Chris!
I kept on encouraging my bf when we were still in the getting to know each other stage to meet other Filipinas and take his own time. Now he is stuck with me 😅
A long LDR is often good for establishing trust and determining compatibility. Maybe the guys that date around are the ones making the mistake. Telling girls that they aren't good enough for this or that is cruel. And it's tough to break up. I don't want to be a butterfly like that.😂
Thanks for the perspective! I agree about not being a butterfly, I feel the same way.
There is no real way to know someone and test compatibility without spending extended time together face to face. Way to many guys get hooked online with a fantasy relationship, I'm sure you will respond that you know someone that it worked out great for...but overall the numbers are not with committing to someone you haven't met and spent time with ..just because one guy you know did LDR and it worked out great doesn't mean that guys should throw getting to know someone face to face out the window. Some have dumb luck, but more end up disappointed but getting into a serious relationship with someone you either haven't met face to face it only spent a very short time with.
@@mrrobert177 Appreciate your response, but I disagree with your assessment of LDR. I'm all the proof I need, but I know Many other LDRs that worked. My point is that when you date, you're screwing yourself out of the best one. After you found a wife, you're forever making comparisons and cursed. The many vloggers giving dating advice is evidence and it's laughable. I'm sure you know of a few if them. They're experience being a chickboy or butterfly is exploitive of women, giving all foreigners a bad reputation. A good Filipina will date only to evaluate a suitor for marriage. A foreigner whi dates for body count, are just Sick guys, spreading it around.
@@damncars2618 I agree that many vloggers are clueless when it comes to dating, but it doesn't stop them from giving lots of worthless advice! But I still say committing seriously to someone you have never met face to face is a poor method in general. It's different in the Philippines for sure. The research says something like 85 percent of foreigner/ Filipina relationships don't last past 3 months. So you are part of the 15 percent. It worked for you and some others, but not good odds for most. I would advise to get to the Philippines, get comfortable navigating life in a variety of ways, start to learn the culture and a little of the language. Be honest in what you are looking for, take your time, just because a lot of filipinas want to dive in head first immediately to a relationship upon meeting or before, doesn't mean it's a good idea for you. Just take your time, learn the culture, environment, cultural norms, how people communicate. If you do that your chance of success with a girl chosen to pursue face to face will be much higher than 15 percent and result in much less heartache for Filipina and foreigners alike. Just a different approach, I value face to face getting to know each other, to much unknown and risks getting serious online. But guys are going to do it regardless, just seems risky and a bit desperate to me, to get serious with a fantasy, no real way to know how 2 people will get along before meeting face to face and so many things hidden online, u have to admit it's a big risk the commit to someone you haven't met, right? Like I said it can work and does, just not the path I would recommend for a friend.
@@mrrobert177 I agree with you after doing both. An LDR, at best is an INTRODUCTION, but the rubber meets the road when you mean and live with your filipina, which is impossible for those who come to the Phil for a short visit and marry based solely on that. It MIGHT work, but you are rolling the dice.
When I'm paying for a seafood buffet, I'm gorging on the seafood and skipping the carbs. Waterfalls? Seriously?
I love seafood
Another good interview Alex. Mike is a wealth of knowledge and he and Janet are excellent at helping a new guy network in. Peace and Love, B Goat
@@Billy_B_Goat thanks so much Billy
Filipinas meeting their AFAM at the airport is a rite of passage. Why would you deprive Filipinas of that memory and viral videos?
Hehehe
I watch the yt videos about meting your LD g/f at the airport and think would be nice but one video turned me off to it. Girl met her b/f and had 10-15 family members with her and they went out to eat and guess who paid? “ The rich American”
@Mikeyyyy_L Yup, Jessel in the Philippines did that, and I shook my head. Now they are a couple, so that was the price for admission to her world.
@@ExtraGuac007 my guess would be that was just an initial payment, far from the price of admission...
@@Mikeyyyy_L I would tell them.i would meet them at the restaurant and take my bags and head immediately in the opposite direction....once the cash outflow to family starts so early, there is not stopping it without huge problems..start it right ..set expectations immediately
I would think it is a good idea to date many girls but don't try to form long term relationship with anyone of them very quickly. The girls can serve as tour guides and show you the ways of the land. The idea is to meet many people and eventually the right girl will come. Don't go chasing after women. Let the women do the chasing. The more women you surround yourself with the more desirable you become. Women are crazy like that. Word of advice don't lead with your wallet. If you going to eat go to local modest places where food is affordable but good. Eventually when you get good feel of the new environment you want start filtering the girls who are the better girls for a potentially serious relationship. Remember guys you are the prize. Make the girl work for your attention.
Thanks for sharing
USA vehicle insurance : I pay $425 per 6 months for 3 vehicles, so that's $23.61/month per vehicle. It's more than Philippines, but it's not $200/month !
Wow that's a great deal, who is your insurance provider?
@@EasternDreamer615 Progressive
Thank you for letting me know
LOL
Making the rounds Alex...Mike is kind of a legend.
Not my game. I didn't come to chase women, especially not young ones, I came to find peace from the rat race in my own fashion.
Of course Mike isn't the only one here on TH-cam giving this message. Unfortunately, there are just as many telling you the opposite.
I agree, Mike is a wonderful guy. He's been very good to me and I'm fortunate to call him a friend.
The Philippines will still be there when you wake up. Get over your jet lag then go Get a cup of coffee take a deep breath and smile!
I absolutely agree Mikeyyy_L!
If you want to find a long term girlfriend there you have to give yourself opportunities.
Meet Filipinas in person and eventually you may find someone who is compatible for you.
These are great points Johnny
I wouldn't be angry if a man hit upon my girlfriend while I wasn't there. He couldn't be blamed for not knowing she was in a relationship. For example, I could be in the toilet, or outside for a phone call. I would only be angry if he continued after it was explained that she has a boyfriend, or if he touched her. I would be very angry if I returned to find a guy with his arm wrapped around her. Forgive ignorance, but don't forgive bad behaviour.
Fortunately, there are plenty of single Filipinas.
@@EasternDreamer615 yeah, but I was told that they are mostly Christians. I think a Buddhist girl is a much better choice.
Nope hit the girly bars have a date relax all stress free now look.
My advice for Western men and all men to win a woman’s heart. Please be gentleman and humble when you are talking with a woman you should be attentive. Groom yourself, no longer nail, don’t wear cologne and don’t count your pennies in front of a Lady. Also you cannot find a good woman in the bar. You may find one in the restaurant, in the mall or from a friend.
These are all great insights Deborah :)
...but why Philippines over Cambodia ? I don't understand the obsession with Philippines. Cambodia is great, and Phnom Penh is a wonderful city.
The visa is a big one, I think also the tropical island factor is important to a lot of guys. It's a faster flight back to the US, no layover needed from Manila to the west coast of the US. English is also spoken outside of the capital, vs. being less common in Cambodia outside of PP and SR.
90% of the people in the Philippines speak English, that’s a big reason
@@HemiChrysler English speaking much more prevalent throughout the Philippines.
This guy mike seems to think he another paul old dog.. i find he has to much content and boring...far to many videos..
Thanks for watching!