This is all about control...if you are not in control of your life, someone else is. I transitioned at 58 18 years ago took control & never regretted it & I can tell you that your new life will get better & better & better.....I can totally relate to living a life of confusion prior transition, I liken it to living in black & white, then everything switches to technicolour....
OMG Margaret, You are so insightful!!! That is a beautiful way to look at it black and white verses technicolour. I love it! You're right about control. Something I've come to realize over the past few weeks has been that I no longer seek approval from my sisters, brother, or parents. I realized I let go of that need from others, but still hoped my family would come around. I realize that they won't - and I'm OK with that. Coming to peace with that has been incredibly freeing. I'm so glad you were able to transition at 58 and it's been good. Thank you for your beautiful comment and I wish you incredible joy ❤️
Didnt know this channel, but from what ive seen in this video you seem to be a very kind person :) Im happy your experience was so nicely, and that you had the support from your beloved ones. I started transitioning last year, and with all this covid stuff im getting quite frustrated... Im 29 years old and I always knew what I was, but was not sure to make the step. I have always been a very insecure girl when it comes to make decisions. Now that I finally was convinced and sure of myself, I have to wait and wait for loooong lists for finally start homone therapy... I cant even get in touch with the endocrine from the social welfare to ask if I can go to a private endocrine to get start the treatment (as I have all my psyc reports ready). It warms my heart to see people like you, giving hope and telling us to be patient, to not rush things. Cheers from north Spain!
You are very pretty!!! Girl, I found out at 67 that I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria earlier this year. I came out to my wife of 44 years and she abandoned me. Now going through divorce now and I am living alone in my apartment here in Portland, Oregon. I am now looking into HRT for my transitioning to full female life. Surgeries are in the plans later down the the road. Thank you for your story. Katherine
I'm so sorry to hear that Katherine. Like I said in the video, my marriage is the exception - For most couples, it's not the case. Before I transitioned, I weighed out what I knew...I knew how miserable my life was and what was on the other side of transition was totally the unknown. The odds were much better staying in the old body, but regardless of what the future looked like, that pain was strong enough for me to want a change - even if I didn't know if I'd pass or still be married, or unemployed, or even if my kids would accept me. I hope things get better for you in the years to come. I lost my first wife to cancer at 32 and was left with a 16 month baby who needed daily medical care. At the time I never believed I would find love again...but life has a way of taking that pain and using it for better things. Much love my friend ❤️
Changing Gender I agree . My spouse took many years to come to terms with who I am. She told me this summer that she would always love me for the person I am. She has in the past purchase me women’s gifts in the past but now has even gone so far as to help with makeup and such. My family all knows about me as well as her family accept for a couple of brothers. I don’t know if I’ll ever have surgeries of any kind beyond the testicular intersex bottom type surgery that I had twenty years ago. I used to still perform as a male, as well as my surgeries would let me,but then again intimacy has always been extremely hard for me. That is as much from a phycological as much as from my penal tissue development issues. I wouldn’t say we are lesbians but this is the way we have always needed to live our lives in our marriage. She is the only person who ever saw my body other than doctors and I trust her completely to be there for me. To hear that others spouse learn to love us is very refreshing. For those who do not I reach out in friendship. The only advice I can offer is to love yourself for who you are. When you do that then seek some else to live your life with. Surprisingly I bet there are many people who will embrace you as you are. Maybe another transwomen would welcome you as a friend. There must be a community in your area..
You had tears in my eyes. Its a rough journey. Its full of ups and downs. Im learning it all myself. Can be a scary place at times too. I came across your channel not that long ago and im vary sad to hear your contemplating on ending your videos. I do hope you continue cause girls like us always need more people to look up too.
I completely relate to all of your feelings (even though I am ftm). I started transitioning at 42 (I’m now 45) and I have always been laid back about it and had the opinion that if someone can’t deal with your transition then it’s ok for them or me to make the decision of walking away. I think it definitely takes a lot of stress out of transitioning by coming to terms with that from the very beginning. You seem such an amazing lady, much love to you and your wife x
Might I start off with you look great!! And I'm so happy for you,, I too am an older trans woman, in my latter 50s. You said in this video,that you were waiting for an orchiectomy, in August of this year I finally had mine. My wife much like yours is 100% on board with my transition, she too is a lesibon,and up until the surgery,things were great,after surgery,I find myself with no sexual drive at all,an I guess I'm wondering if you,or anyone else reading this,who has experience with this surgery,has had a similar experience. Thank you for sharing your adventures in transition with us,believe it or not,it does help to hear from other older trans women. Thank you,
Thank you. LOL, I just got called for GRS surgery so I won't be having the orchiectomy now after all. I'm on a high dose of Spironolactone, so my testosterone is at almost zero and along with high estrogen levels, my labido is pretty low too. It works for us as my wife and I are pretty matched now in our frequency. I started taking progesterone and noticed my labido jumped up a bit. That might be something to look at with your Dr. It's nice to hear other couples making it as well. There are so many that don't, it's nice to hear about the ones that do. Friendship and honesty have been the key for us :) Wishing you and your spouse all the best!
@@changinggender5293 thank you for your reply,,,I too was on a high level of "T" blockers,prior to bilateral orchiectomy, an had a fair sex drive,its just gone now,,will talk with Dr about progesterone, thank you,,an congratulations on your GRS confirmation!! I'm looking into it!! You go Girl!!!! Again thanks for taking your time to speak with me,,
Hi Kelly, It's been 8 months since I started my hormones now and again I just wanted to say I'm so happy I reached out to you back then because seeing your story gave me the courage to follow my heart. I can relate to the feeling of peace you talk about, I was looking in the mirror one day a few weeks ago and it just hit me that my reflection was actually me, the uncomfortable feeling I had all my life had just disappeared and I wasn't expecting that to happen so soon. Also, like you I just want to live my life and just be me, I know who I am now and some days I want to advocate for transgender rights and raise awareness when talking to people but allot of other times I don't want to focus on the fact that I am trans or the fact that I was born in a male body and slowly people around me are starting to see me as the woman that I was meant to be. By the way you look really beautiful, so happy you found yourself too, lots of love.
@@changinggender5293 Hey Kelly, thank you so much, love you heaps hon!! :) I also wanted to say seeing you and Audrie together has given me hope because I've always wanted to be with a girl in my heart but things got a bit confusing with the hormones and I started liking guys a bit too. I know that special someone is out there and I will find her one day!! Wishing you both lots and lots of love as always!!
I put on the "mask" for over 50 years. Full beard at time but tried to give hints without just saying I am different. Grew up very male but all that time I knew my mind didn't match my body. I dated women and even was married for 7 years. Nothing ever really lasted and in the end I'm still friends with most of the one's I've had. Most of my friendships are with females but early in my life I wondered if maybe I was gay. All this time I just lived with my feels and never told anyone how I felt. I don't know why but the thought of being transgender never crossed my mind. Maybe because in my mind I knew I was female. Most of my actions were very many, people never had the slightest clue I wanted to be treated as a female. I even knew my female name was Kendra ever since I was very young. Coming out as trans in my late 50's isn't easy but thanks to you and all the others who have come before me has help me very much! I now am 5 months on HRT and I am starting to see and feel some changes. I came out as trans on January 1st. This year and so far it has gone good. I can't go cold turkey like you did, I'm just transitioning slowly. I wish I could express the image of myself to the public but I'm worried of what others might think. Now that I'm on HRT I feel so much more at piece and I have to tell myself it's only been 5 months and enjoy the changes. The biggest change for me so far is my hair, I've gone from having a butch haircut the last 10 years to having hair almost to my shoulders now. And I think my face is starting to soften and having no facial hair is nice, but hate shaving every where to have that smooth feeling! I've been single now for 3 years and am very happy but my best friend is my ex girlfriend and we talk about anything. I would love to find love again and even though i am much more attracted to females, in the end; I just want to be loved. Thank you for this video, you are so beautiful. Keep up being you ❤
@@changinggender5293 congrats on your successful transition with your wife’s blessings n understanding. Hearing your experiences with your family’s blessings is so captivating and unbelievable, wish I could be in your place
@@jamesjianghaiwang9536 I lost 10cm of muscle and bulk across my shoulders and biceps. The physical amount I can lift decreased to a little less than 1/2 my original ability. My face did fill in a bit more with larger cheeks and of course my body changed shape to reflect having estrogen rather than testosterone. As far as stepping on the scale, I've remained the same overall weight so I'm assuming in losing some muscle, I gained a little fat.
Thank you for your advice, going through your video sound so refreshing. How’s life going thru the COVID pandemic? Wishing you well and be safe. Cheers!!!
Thank you for the comment, COVID has been OK for us. My wife has a lot of medical issues so we've kept at home a lot more. We are typically homebodies, so we haven't minded the break too much, but it's nice to see things opening up in the world again :) Wishing you all the best :)
I hear you on just wanting to move on and not make being trans your whole life...Just know, if you do choose to continue sharing your journey with folks, it does bring such an important and positive perspective for trans and cis people to see and hear. Much love and appreciation for what you have already posted. I wonder about family or friends that may not have been accepting initially but came around...What shifted their perspectives? What do you think held others from not making that shift?
Hi nice to know you are now in your own skin. I understand it’s not easy as I’m still struggling to explain to my wife my dysphoria. I think it’s hard for her to come to terms for one’s spouse to transgender. Did your family accept you? You look your natural self if you tell yourself that you are in female frame of mind and damn what others are saying or thinking. It’s none of their business as this is your life, you live for yourself, not theirs, right? But first, have to cajole and convince my beloved of my predicament. I have tried but not assertive enough but you are an inspiration to me. Anyway wishing you my best and looking to hear more from you. May you have a fruitful life ahead and best regards
Thank you. Explaining gender dysphoria to someone cis is almost impossible - they can't understand any more than for us to know what it's like to walk on the moon. The most relatable analogy I've found is this: It's like living in a hotel room your entire life - it has everything you need, but you are never at home. Transitioning is like walking into your house after a long trip and crawling into your own bed - there are no words to describe that "home" feeling - for me, that's what transitioning was like. When I finally felt the right hormones in my body, my mind finally had peace instead of turmoil. And the first time I saw "her" for real in the mirror, I just wept because I finally saw the person I had been feeling inside my entire life. Looking in the mirror before transitioning was like seeing a stranger. You can pinch yourself and feel it, but you can't understand who that person is - because it sure as hell isn't you. If we really are mind, body and spirit, all 3 have to match up, and when only 2 of them do, it's like living in your own personal hell - but everyone else around you saying, "But that's OK, I like you living in hell. It's more comfortable for me If you're in hell because that's the only way I've ever seen you and I don't know if I'd still like you not being in hell". I wish you well my friend ❤️
Your journey seems way to relatable for me. I'm 45 and waiting for my first meeting, Here in Sweden it's a waiting list for first contact around 20 months... then you have to live as the preferred gender for a year before you can be put on hormones. So, big difference between countries. Oh, forgot. Hope your wife is doing good as well. Remember that she had her struggles. Wish the best for both of you. But, yes... your thought process are much like mine. I hope that my wife will manage in the new situation as well. She knew how things were from day one, but now 15 years later we need to do something about it, can't live in complete darkness. That doesn't benefit anyone, not me, her or our kids. Wish you and your family all the best. Understand if you won't do any more videos. The ones that you have done has helped me anyway. Get a perspective on things.
Thank you. Oh my goodness. For some reason I thought Sweden was further ahead than Canada in transgender health. Most trans health doctors have 2 year wait lists here. I was lucky enough to find a family doctor who already had trans patients and was willing to take me on. I wish you well as it sounds like you are at a point that something has to happen. Thank you so much for remembering my wife's health. We are still searching for causes and it looks like to get answers we may be looking at doctors in Spain. In Canada they are treating her symptoms, but she's a tough case and few doctors have the time or are familiar with Myalgic Encephalitis.
@@changinggender5293 well, I guess that since the whole process is free if you get to that point... they want to make sure that you truly want to go through with it. Although I think it's tougher the older you get. It's a lot easier to blend in when you're 20 then when you're 45. ;) If people would be put on hormones and have surgeries without being 110% sure that it's the right way to go, that would cause bigger problems. So, you have to but it in a scale I guess. You don't have to pay for it... but it's a longer and tougher journey. I've seen a few studies that Sweden has a very low percentage of de-transitioners (don't seem to be a word ) or regrets, don't remember the exact number but I think it was 2%. I'm glad to hear that you have been able to treat the symptons at least... but you want a cure. Hope you'll be able to find it in Spain.
U are blessed to have an understanding wife who understands your dilemma. I‘m struggling to convince my spouse to come to terms to my condition and understand my situation. Could u advise me?
Thank you. I've heard of a lot of spouses using the reasoning that they just aren't interested in a same sex marriage - but I don't buy it. Your spouse married you because of the traits you exhibit more than your looks, and sex works its way out in the bedroom with time. Afraid of embarrassment is usually the underlying issue. Open communication was what worked for us. If either one of us was closed off from talking about it - I think our outcome would have been very different. One of the things my wife noted was me becoming a better person. My anger left, my stress dropped, and my understanding of her increased. We were best friends before - now, we are inseparable besties! As she puts it, "The things about you I fell in love with - they just got better". The more documentaries we watched, like HBO's "The Trans List", ABC's "I Am Jazz", Anything with Janet Mock or Candace Cayne really helped just solidify what we were dealing with and the possibilities that could happen - for the good. Something else that really helped us decide to transition was sitting down together and talking about the "What ifs". What if our business failed because of transition, or family rejected us, or the small town we live in ganged up on us or......When we made peace with all of those scary questions, there was a lot of positivity in moving forward - and we moved forward as quickly as we could to get through that messy 2 year part where you don't really fit into either gender look - thus why it's called transition (LOL). I really hope you and your wife can come through this with grace and love. I wish you all the best.
My wife used to make body care products for our family and we'd give a few away for gifts. A friend asked if she could take a box of soaps to sell at a local Farmers Market and they sold so well we took off from there.
@@changinggender5293 Okay. That is great. You really got at nice voice and look great as well. 👍🏻🤗 Did you have a bottom surgery if I may aske? And where do you live? Im from Denmark🤗🤗
@@vforsejrv7801 Thank you ❤️. I live in Canada. I transitioned a little over 2 years ago and am booked for bottom surgery in 9 weeks 😊. There is only one hospital in Canada that performs MTF - that is GRS Montreal
@@changinggender5293 Thanks for your answers.🙏🏻 I think you changed yourself very fast and with success. Hope you will make a video when the surgery is over ect. The best to you from here🌸😊
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Whaaaat???? Omg you look amazing!!!! I literally just came from your first TH-cam video... beautiful transition hun❤️
This is all about control...if you are not in control of your life, someone else is. I transitioned at 58 18 years ago took control & never regretted it & I can tell you that your new life will get better & better & better.....I can totally relate to living a life of confusion prior transition, I liken it to living in black & white, then everything switches to technicolour....
OMG Margaret, You are so insightful!!! That is a beautiful way to look at it black and white verses technicolour. I love it!
You're right about control. Something I've come to realize over the past few weeks has been that I no longer seek approval from my sisters, brother, or parents. I realized I let go of that need from others, but still hoped my family would come around. I realize that they won't - and I'm OK with that. Coming to peace with that has been incredibly freeing.
I'm so glad you were able to transition at 58 and it's been good. Thank you for your beautiful comment and I wish you incredible joy ❤️
Didnt know this channel, but from what ive seen in this video you seem to be a very kind person :)
Im happy your experience was so nicely, and that you had the support from your beloved ones.
I started transitioning last year, and with all this covid stuff im getting quite frustrated... Im 29 years old and I always knew what I was, but was not sure to make the step. I have always been a very insecure girl when it comes to make decisions.
Now that I finally was convinced and sure of myself, I have to wait and wait for loooong lists for finally start homone therapy... I cant even get in touch with the endocrine from the social welfare to ask if I can go to a private endocrine to get start the treatment (as I have all my psyc reports ready).
It warms my heart to see people like you, giving hope and telling us to be patient, to not rush things.
Cheers from north Spain!
You are very pretty!!!
Girl, I found out at 67 that I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria earlier this year.
I came out to my wife of 44 years and she abandoned me.
Now going through divorce now and I am living alone in my apartment here in Portland, Oregon.
I am now looking into HRT for my transitioning to full female life.
Surgeries are in the plans later down the the road.
Thank you for your story.
Katherine
Sorry to hear about your divorce but you have to live your life.
I'm so sorry to hear that Katherine. Like I said in the video, my marriage is the exception - For most couples, it's not the case. Before I transitioned, I weighed out what I knew...I knew how miserable my life was and what was on the other side of transition was totally the unknown. The odds were much better staying in the old body, but regardless of what the future looked like, that pain was strong enough for me to want a change - even if I didn't know if I'd pass or still be married, or unemployed, or even if my kids would accept me. I hope things get better for you in the years to come. I lost my first wife to cancer at 32 and was left with a 16 month baby who needed daily medical care. At the time I never believed I would find love again...but life has a way of taking that pain and using it for better things. Much love my friend ❤️
Changing Gender I agree
. My spouse took many years to come to terms with who I am. She told me this summer that she would always love me for the person I am. She has in the past purchase me women’s gifts in the past but now has even gone so far as to help with makeup and such. My family all knows about me as well as her family accept for a couple of brothers.
I don’t know if I’ll ever have surgeries of any kind beyond the testicular intersex bottom type surgery that I had twenty years ago. I used to still perform as a male, as well as my surgeries would let me,but then again intimacy has always been extremely hard for me. That is as much from a phycological as much as from my penal tissue development issues. I wouldn’t say we are lesbians but this is the way we have always needed to live our lives in our marriage. She is the only person who ever saw my body other than doctors and I trust her completely to be there for me.
To hear that others spouse learn to love us is very refreshing. For those who do not I reach out in friendship.
The only advice I can offer is to love yourself for who you are. When you do that then seek some else to live your life with. Surprisingly I bet there are many people who will embrace you as you are. Maybe another transwomen would welcome you as a friend. There must be a community in your area..
So sorry 💕 spread your wings 🤍🤍🤍🤍
@@TheeeDanielR We will see ? There are so many health issues I face besides still needing to work to provide for my family.
Good job love. You look radiant in this video! I have been reflecting a lot about my transition too and made videos this weekend. It’s a wild ride!
You had tears in my eyes. Its a rough journey. Its full of ups and downs. Im learning it all myself. Can be a scary place at times too. I came across your channel not that long ago and im vary sad to hear your contemplating on ending your videos. I do hope you continue cause girls like us always need more people to look up too.
I used to watch Your videos at the start of my transition couple years ago and they helped a lot. I hope You and Your family are doing well
I completely relate to all of your feelings (even though I am ftm). I started transitioning at 42 (I’m now 45) and I have always been laid back about it and had the opinion that if someone can’t deal with your transition then it’s ok for them or me to make the decision of walking away. I think it definitely takes a lot of stress out of transitioning by coming to terms with that from the very beginning. You seem such an amazing lady, much love to you and your wife x
Thank you ❤️ wishing you well also. It's been so freeing to let people be where they are at.
Might I start off with you look great!! And I'm so happy for you,, I too am an older trans woman, in my latter 50s. You said in this video,that you were waiting for an orchiectomy, in August of this year I finally had mine. My wife much like yours is 100% on board with my transition, she too is a lesibon,and up until the surgery,things were great,after surgery,I find myself with no sexual drive at all,an I guess I'm wondering if you,or anyone else reading this,who has experience with this surgery,has had a similar experience. Thank you for sharing your adventures in transition with us,believe it or not,it does help to hear from other older trans women. Thank you,
Thank you. LOL, I just got called for GRS surgery so I won't be having the orchiectomy now after all.
I'm on a high dose of Spironolactone, so my testosterone is at almost zero and along with high estrogen levels, my labido is pretty low too. It works for us as my wife and I are pretty matched now in our frequency. I started taking progesterone and noticed my labido jumped up a bit. That might be something to look at with your Dr.
It's nice to hear other couples making it as well. There are so many that don't, it's nice to hear about the ones that do. Friendship and honesty have been the key for us :)
Wishing you and your spouse all the best!
@@changinggender5293 thank you for your reply,,,I too was on a high level of "T" blockers,prior to bilateral orchiectomy, an had a fair sex drive,its just gone now,,will talk with Dr about progesterone, thank you,,an congratulations on your GRS confirmation!! I'm looking into it!!
You go Girl!!!!
Again thanks for taking your time to speak with me,,
Wonderful that this works out for you both
Amazing story much love !💖
Thank you ❤️
Hi Kelly, It's been 8 months since I started my hormones now and again I just wanted to say I'm so happy I reached out to you back then because seeing your story gave me the courage to follow my heart. I can relate to the feeling of peace you talk about, I was looking in the mirror one day a few weeks ago and it just hit me that my reflection was actually me, the uncomfortable feeling I had all my life had just disappeared and I wasn't expecting that to happen so soon. Also, like you I just want to live my life and just be me, I know who I am now and some days I want to advocate for transgender rights and raise awareness when talking to people but allot of other times I don't want to focus on the fact that I am trans or the fact that I was born in a male body and slowly people around me are starting to see me as the woman that I was meant to be. By the way you look really beautiful, so happy you found yourself too, lots of love.
Oh Teri ❤️ I am so happy for you. Transitioning has got to be the most terrifying and freeing thing any of us will ever face. Way to go girl ❤️!
@@changinggender5293 Hey Kelly, thank you so much, love you heaps hon!! :) I also wanted to say seeing you and Audrie together has given me hope because I've always wanted to be with a girl in my heart but things got a bit confusing with the hormones and I started liking guys a bit too. I know that special someone is out there and I will find her one day!! Wishing you both lots and lots of love as always!!
I put on the "mask" for over 50 years. Full beard at time but tried to give hints without just saying I am different. Grew up very male but all that time I knew my mind didn't match my body. I dated women and even was married for 7 years. Nothing ever really lasted and in the end I'm still friends with most of the one's I've had. Most of my friendships are with females but early in my life I wondered if maybe I was gay. All this time I just lived with my feels and never told anyone how I felt. I don't know why but the thought of being transgender never crossed my mind. Maybe because in my mind I knew I was female. Most of my actions were very many, people never had the slightest clue I wanted to be treated as a female. I even knew my female name was Kendra ever since I was very young.
Coming out as trans in my late 50's isn't easy but thanks to you and all the others who have come before me has help me very much! I now am 5 months on HRT and I am starting to see and feel some changes. I came out as trans on January 1st. This year and so far it has gone good. I can't go cold turkey like you did, I'm just transitioning slowly. I wish I could express the image of myself to the public but I'm worried of what others might think. Now that I'm on HRT I feel so much more at piece and I have to tell myself it's only been 5 months and enjoy the changes.
The biggest change for me so far is my hair, I've gone from having a butch haircut the last 10 years to having hair almost to my shoulders now. And I think my face is starting to soften and having no facial hair is nice, but hate shaving every where to have that smooth feeling! I've been single now for 3 years and am very happy but my best friend is my ex girlfriend and we talk about anything. I would love to find love again and even though i am much more attracted to females, in the end; I just want to be loved.
Thank you for this video, you are so beautiful. Keep up being you ❤
I wish you all the happiness in the world Kendra. With HRT, the changes seem so slow, but in hindsight, a lot happens in a short time. Big hugs ❤️
@@changinggender5293 congrats on your successful transition with your wife’s blessings n understanding. Hearing your experiences with your family’s blessings is so captivating and unbelievable, wish I could be in your place
Were you so heavy set before starting HRT? U looked so matronly and womanly, undoubtedly incredible that u r trans
@@jamesjianghaiwang9536 I lost 10cm of muscle and bulk across my shoulders and biceps. The physical amount I can lift decreased to a little less than 1/2 my original ability. My face did fill in a bit more with larger cheeks and of course my body changed shape to reflect having estrogen rather than testosterone. As far as stepping on the scale, I've remained the same overall weight so I'm assuming in losing some muscle, I gained a little fat.
I love the fact that your wife has remained faithful. Well done. A real success story. God bless you both
You look great! Glad to see another video.
Thank you Kristy 🥰
Fabulous, 100% on target, we are sisters.
Youre a lovely inspiration K, from another Kelly from Saskatchewan
Thank you for your advice, going through your video sound so refreshing. How’s life going thru the COVID pandemic? Wishing you well and be safe. Cheers!!!
Thank you for the comment, COVID has been OK for us. My wife has a lot of medical issues so we've kept at home a lot more. We are typically homebodies, so we haven't minded the break too much, but it's nice to see things opening up in the world again :) Wishing you all the best :)
I hear you on just wanting to move on and not make being trans your whole life...Just know, if you do choose to continue sharing your journey with folks, it does bring such an important and positive perspective for trans and cis people to see and hear. Much love and appreciation for what you have already posted.
I wonder about family or friends that may not have been accepting initially but came around...What shifted their perspectives? What do you think held others from not making that shift?
Congratulations ur not alone iv went through same process and u are beautiful
Thank you ❤️
Kelly you are doing, I ddn't come out until I was 60, I am 65 now. My wife left me, and I'm in a very bloody divorce. Please keep makng your videos!
🫂
Hi nice to know you are now in your own skin. I understand it’s not easy as I’m still struggling to explain to my wife my dysphoria. I think it’s hard for her to come to terms for one’s spouse to transgender. Did your family accept you? You look your natural self if you tell yourself that you are in female frame of mind and damn what others are saying or thinking. It’s none of their business as this is your life, you live for yourself, not theirs, right? But first, have to cajole and convince my beloved of my predicament. I have tried but not assertive enough but you are an inspiration to me. Anyway wishing you my best and looking to hear more from you. May you have a fruitful life ahead and best regards
Thank you. Explaining gender dysphoria to someone cis is almost impossible - they can't understand any more than for us to know what it's like to walk on the moon. The most relatable analogy I've found is this: It's like living in a hotel room your entire life - it has everything you need, but you are never at home. Transitioning is like walking into your house after a long trip and crawling into your own bed - there are no words to describe that "home" feeling - for me, that's what transitioning was like. When I finally felt the right hormones in my body, my mind finally had peace instead of turmoil. And the first time I saw "her" for real in the mirror, I just wept because I finally saw the person I had been feeling inside my entire life. Looking in the mirror before transitioning was like seeing a stranger. You can pinch yourself and feel it, but you can't understand who that person is - because it sure as hell isn't you.
If we really are mind, body and spirit, all 3 have to match up, and when only 2 of them do, it's like living in your own personal hell - but everyone else around you saying, "But that's OK, I like you living in hell. It's more comfortable for me If you're in hell because that's the only way I've ever seen you and I don't know if I'd still like you not being in hell".
I wish you well my friend ❤️
Your journey seems way to relatable for me. I'm 45 and waiting for my first meeting, Here in Sweden it's a waiting list for first contact around 20 months... then you have to live as the preferred gender for a year before you can be put on hormones. So, big difference between countries. Oh, forgot. Hope your wife is doing good as well. Remember that she had her struggles. Wish the best for both of you. But, yes... your thought process are much like mine. I hope that my wife will manage in the new situation as well. She knew how things were from day one, but now 15 years later we need to do something about it, can't live in complete darkness. That doesn't benefit anyone, not me, her or our kids. Wish you and your family all the best. Understand if you won't do any more videos. The ones that you have done has helped me anyway. Get a perspective on things.
Thank you. Oh my goodness. For some reason I thought Sweden was further ahead than Canada in transgender health. Most trans health doctors have 2 year wait lists here. I was lucky enough to find a family doctor who already had trans patients and was willing to take me on. I wish you well as it sounds like you are at a point that something has to happen. Thank you so much for remembering my wife's health. We are still searching for causes and it looks like to get answers we may be looking at doctors in Spain. In Canada they are treating her symptoms, but she's a tough case and few doctors have the time or are familiar with Myalgic Encephalitis.
@@changinggender5293 well, I guess that since the whole process is free if you get to that point... they want to make sure that you truly want to go through with it. Although I think it's tougher the older you get. It's a lot easier to blend in when you're 20 then when you're 45. ;) If people would be put on hormones and have surgeries without being 110% sure that it's the right way to go, that would cause bigger problems. So, you have to but it in a scale I guess. You don't have to pay for it... but it's a longer and tougher journey. I've seen a few studies that Sweden has a very low percentage of de-transitioners (don't seem to be a word ) or regrets, don't remember the exact number but I think it was 2%. I'm glad to hear that you have been able to treat the symptons at least... but you want a cure. Hope you'll be able to find it in Spain.
Thanks I have missed you
Thank you Shelly, I realize after the comments of why I started this channel - we need each other to remind us we're all in this journey together ❤️
Love the blonde hair
Thank you Sarah.
U are blessed to have an understanding wife who understands your dilemma. I‘m struggling to convince my spouse to come to terms to my condition and understand my situation. Could u advise me?
Thank you. I've heard of a lot of spouses using the reasoning that they just aren't interested in a same sex marriage - but I don't buy it. Your spouse married you because of the traits you exhibit more than your looks, and sex works its way out in the bedroom with time. Afraid of embarrassment is usually the underlying issue. Open communication was what worked for us. If either one of us was closed off from talking about it - I think our outcome would have been very different.
One of the things my wife noted was me becoming a better person. My anger left, my stress dropped, and my understanding of her increased. We were best friends before - now, we are inseparable besties! As she puts it, "The things about you I fell in love with - they just got better".
The more documentaries we watched, like HBO's "The Trans List", ABC's "I Am Jazz", Anything with Janet Mock or Candace Cayne really helped just solidify what we were dealing with and the possibilities that could happen - for the good.
Something else that really helped us decide to transition was sitting down together and talking about the "What ifs". What if our business failed because of transition, or family rejected us, or the small town we live in ganged up on us or......When we made peace with all of those scary questions, there was a lot of positivity in moving forward - and we moved forward as quickly as we could to get through that messy 2 year part where you don't really fit into either gender look - thus why it's called transition (LOL).
I really hope you and your wife can come through this with grace and love. I wish you all the best.
nice to see you on you tube i’m 15 months on hrt mtf and would you believe in my 70’s. most think i’m in50’s
Thank you Cris ❤️😊
@@changinggender5293 nice talking to company on phone to place order,,,important to support sister LGBTQ+ companies
Love you too my friend
You are awesome!!
How do you become self employed?
My wife used to make body care products for our family and we'd give a few away for gifts. A friend asked if she could take a box of soaps to sell at a local Farmers Market and they sold so well we took off from there.
Changing Gender, that is a smart but simple way to make money. That is awesome!! Thanks.
Hey, can you do a “ my mom is transgender “ Q&A? It would be great
We'll definitely think about it. We'll ask our kids and see what they think :)
Changing Gender thank you i love the chanel
PARABÉNS ÉS UMA BELÍSSIMA MULHER
How are you doing today .
It's a good day!
How did you get your femal voice?
Like the rest of life, I'm a work in progress. I did have a bit of speech therapy through our local health authority.
@@changinggender5293 Okay. That is great. You really got at nice voice and look great as well. 👍🏻🤗 Did you have a bottom surgery if I may aske? And where do you live? Im from Denmark🤗🤗
@@vforsejrv7801 Thank you ❤️. I live in Canada. I transitioned a little over 2 years ago and am booked for bottom surgery in 9 weeks 😊. There is only one hospital in Canada that performs MTF - that is GRS Montreal
@@changinggender5293 Thanks for your answers.🙏🏻 I think you changed yourself very fast and with success. Hope you will make a video when the surgery is over ect. The best to you from here🌸😊
Are you married
Yes. Very happily ❤️