Another habit I have been on the receiving end of is when they take other people's clever ideas, insight or witty lines and try to pass them off as their own at a later date, having forgotten that the person they stole from was actually you.
1. Typical copycats. Will even copy the way u talk to people. 2. Will make silly interruptions during conversations, usually total change of subject. 3. Love for grandious stories; example "I was smarter than all my colleagues in my class etc. Making fun of others flaws & performance. Will talk trash to demean others and end up wearing a demonic smile and you're expected to smile back and maintain eye contact. Danish, u said it all. Facts indeed.
Sometimes the subtle means narcissist(s) use when they are trying to find excuses to be demeaning and cruel to others are so bizzare they are unbelievable and so cannot be talked about to others later. Nursing school is one place where that sort of thing takes place too. I saw a TH-cam channel run by a nurse who had survived nursing school who was warning people ahead of time about that sort of thing.
True, but also very sincere adhd people interrupt for the opposite reason that you said something very exciting to them and they want to bond over a shared understanding. Please be gentle to us
True intelligence is the ability to apply gained knowledge that has been researched as fact, and the ability to adapt to any changes of those facts, including the ability to admit you were incorrect.
Ummm, you ever been in the military? Sometimes when you're speaking ignorance you will get corrected with no concern about your feelings. Try not speaking things that prompt correction. Not everyone is a narcissist just because you got corrected in front of people. 🤣
So well said! Why they can be so exhausting. Amazing how without being conscious the defense system begins to take energy to fight the enemy just like the internal immune system.
I realized this when I detected my narc manager. Sadly, what passes for intelligence in this society is to blame. I realize you want to be mad at the narc, but it’s the people who buy into their bs, I feel some kind of way about. It’s like all you have to do to sway people is the superficiality that narcs exude and others will follow them right off the top of the mountain… never ever questioning, where are we heading? And never testing the answers they get… just going with the flow… right into their own demise.
The lack, of foresigt, insight and empathy. AND SELFESTEEM 📝 No wonder 🤔🫨🚔 Lower emotional IQ, than any animal 🐐.. and spelling is partly off as well 🕊️
Everything you mentioned is so true. I can't get two words out of my mouth before he either interrupts or just turns and walks away as though I am not speaking to him. He continually corrects me and always "teaches" me how to do everything the right way. 😅
Uugghh! I feel your pain and frustration! My narcissistic spouse does this. I barely speak anymore because he always cuts me off and talks at me. I literally have to raise my voice and say, "Let me finish," if it's something I have to discuss with him. It's horrible!
When there hasn't been a conflict with another person, they'll just make something up so that they can play the victim, or another one is there's an incident has a bad outcome that they then over exaggerate so the person that's badly affected by it not only has to deal with the fallout of the incident, but also has to deal with the lies the person has spread and gossiped about, too.
When I am sharing my feelings on things that have happened in my life, it becomes a competition! Like a few days ago I was telling him how hard it was do deliver the mail on foot, with the FL Sun, then the rain, and of course worrying about dogs. Many ppl... especially women just can't hang.. or don't want to. In my case, it was my only option at the time with the money that I made without a degree. Well.. right in the middle of it.. he goes.. have you ever dug ditches?? like why tf WOULD I ever dig ditches for work?! Of course not! Well according to him.. that was much harder to do. This is the first time I EVER heard him mention any job where he dug ditches.. I think it's a lie. Always "one-up-manship".
Since i've born into a huge narcissist family - even after i left them at a young age - i've been a Narc Magnet all my life. As much as i LOVE intelligence my exprerience with these narcs that they are extremely stupid. I had more natural intelligence as a 3 yr old than these adults. But lots of them were the programmed robotic types that they were unable to come up with anything on their own other than their "programmed" deceit and fake copycat personalities... 😢
Bless you! I'm a narc Magnet as well for 50 years, wondering why I was born: for my mom and sister to react their frustrations upon me and for being financially robbed by a pretend to be Tunis friend €5.000,-?
After 32 years with a covert narc....it was my turn to tell him, he is not the sharpest crayon in the Crayola box. After months of smirking, underlying anger and passive aggresion.......he suddenly left, never to be seen or heard of again. Oops. Enough was enough. Peace out.
That’s great! Mine would just say. Why are you being so mean? I love you! Yet I’ve heard a million times “You’re elevator doesn’t go to the top floor does it? Not much oxygen in your little world is there? Or How’s the oxygen in your little world?” And of course all of the Sharpest knife Brightest bulb sayings!
And that’s a literal statement. If you want a good laugh (or an awkward situation), ask the interrogatory questions. They have NO IDEA why they do what they do.
To lie convincingly you have to remember what you told who.. if they were intelligent then there wouldn't be so many inconsistencies and we would never figure out their lies.
I disagree. To lie convincingly... first of all, _why_ lol, it doesn't do anybody any good to misrepresent the truth, but I suppose... if it's _necessary,_ the 'best way' is to 'lie through omission,' have them draw the conclusion theirself, and have it be over something wherein the social _contagion_ over the misread situation be low, and unlikely to be cross-referenced and 'set straight.' 'Keep It Simple, Stupid:' KISS means you stick to the basic facts, and don't embellish. That way, you can adhere to a conclusion in-mind, while not *technically* giving a 'false account.' #3 is you _don't. Back. Down._ No debate, no compromise. You do *not* allow others' input to "change" your story, and that rigidity lends your side and account credence. One of the _few_ things stronger than 'morality' in others? Presence, force-of-will, and internal consistency and knowledge of the facts. Keep your emotional center within yourself? You can _technically_ say anything at all, so long as you *keep your story straight* when intending to be believed, and *change the world; do not let the world change **_you._* ...and, welcome to Narc School. 'Empaths' gone ruthless? That's us.
All narcissists are fake/empty souls, their entire being is false, they are attention seekers and have to squeeze out the energy from all those who are real, narcissist mimic and steal other people's lives, my narcissistic mother does all of those things, she has to be the center of attention all the time!! She fooled me for many years but not anymore, i know how they play the game now, im done went completely no contact.
They are actually both ..the evil that controls them is VERY intelligent but the person himself/herself is not the sharpest tool in the Shedd ..hence why it is usually so easy for such evil to dominate them.
The grandiose stories are funny when you were there and it wasn't as dramatic as they are telling people 🤭 I just say i remember it a bit differently to that. Bless you Danish 🩷🙏
Thanks, Danish. You are 100-percent correct. The narcissist might have the ability to memorize and retain information; however, their life choices are unfortunate and pathetic.
so much thanks to the creator of the channel 🙏…! oh my 💪thanks for this particular one and many others episodes!.. this hello is from moscow russia. sending Danish and his honest subscribers 🙌🏽love peace and gratitude for wisdom and discernment …🙏 keep up please
Ok, what I'm about to say is totally beside the point of this video but it has to be said I think.... Danish looks GOOD without his glasses!!! That's not to say he looks bad with them of course!! This is the case for a lot of people I think... Their eyes are hidden behind the lenses of a pair of glasses.. Anyway, just thought I'd share my thoughts on the matter since we're so used to seeing him as a 'glasses wearer' so to speak...😁 Nice surprise indeed!! 😉 I'm starting to ramble now...enough said! Have a nice day to whoever's reading this! 😊🎉
He's a very handsome man. And a brilliant person who is NOT a narcissist. A great combo. My new favorite binge video person. I really like and benefit from his insight.❤
So spot on. Constant interruptions in conversations. They've told me that I basically don't understand how conversations are supposed to occur. You're supposed to interrupt because it's relating to what the other person said; and, yes, I'm always corrected on having used a wrong word.
Thank-you for this topic and so true. They are exhausting, they will suck all of your energy and they never shut-up. They rant on and on probably even when they are sleeping.
It was looking proper and good, and how i appeared in front of others (ie, well behaved. or else.) for me. My Mother the Matri-narc once made me walk to my friend's house, smiling all the way, yelling through the windows out at me as i walked. Like a freak, she ran through the different rooms of the house, screaming, "GET THAT SMILE ON YOUR FACE!!" For some strange reason, i must have been depressed or something... GEE, go figure!! 😂 This maniacal edict (and other great hits - some literal, to the face) were OF COURSE not recalled at all when brought to her attention, later in her final year.
Thank you, Danish and TH-cam, for showing me this during my lunch break Today! It is as if you can see what is happening in my life at this very moment. Not more than a week ago, I recognized that a narcissist in my life thinks they're able to deceive me by their sneakiness. I concluded that although they may think they're being sneaky, they will not outwit my cleverness, insight, and foresight. Also within the same timeframe, a coworker is not accepting that they're doing [certain accounting tasks] incorrectly. It seems their ego is more important than the quality and accuracy of our data entry and end result. Since lunch break is over, I must return to doing my accounting tasks correctly. 😉
Sociopaths and psychopaths are truly intelligent, that's what makes them so terrifying, that is why so many narcissists want you to think they are one of the two. when they realise they can't manipulate you they try to intimidate you
@@miss_8thwonder sociopaths and psychopaths? Alot of them are very intelligent but not in the way most of us think when we think of geniuses, cunning and good at ambushing and planning. Narcissists are just good at charming and intimidating you, but suck at orchestrating
My ex-husband used to correct my words and say that I used poor grammar. He interrupted my stories regularly and always made me feel stupid and unimportant. Those were the good days when he didn't lose his temper and break things, hit me, yell, and belittle me. This post really hit home.
You just described my pos mother. Whenever I tried to talk with her in my efforts to bond, all she'd do was interrupt me to correct my grammar, or a word I mispronounced...I always felt she was a disgusting, dead soul inside...and she and my sisters all weaponized my innocence and even mental health struggles caused by them.
I have experienced all of them. You're right, the 3rd topic is the craziest. My narcissist loves to tell people he has cancer, when he does have a blood disease that COULD turn into cancer, but isn't yet.Btw he's said this for 4 years and only got the blood disease diagnosis a few months back. It breaks my heart when he talks about his "cancer" in front of a friend who has stage 4 leukemia and has had over 150 chemo treatments. Pure evil!
We human beings are a lot more alike than different. For example one day while visiting someone in a medical facility one of the nurses present asked me, - What were you doing when touching her? I only answered back who I was to my loved one there. A few weeks later I found out in school that what I did there was only one of the exact same very basic care comforting by making the person in a stage there feel acknowledged as a person technique being promoted by a top professional in care to people in that kind of care facility. I didn't think anything of that day until watching this video. All of us are important. Narcissists want everyone to believe they are far more important and far more capable than the rest of us. I barely passed that course while often feeling sick during that term thereby ending up with not good enough marks in it to hold up for credit toward completing the program of study I am in.
My narc would deliberately use different words to express himself and then get mad at you if you could not decipher the code words he used. This caused major confusion among people who were trying to understand what he was saying.
They may believe they are intelligent. But they believe a lot of things 😂 My mother would only play scrabble with us as children because she knew she could win. She won every time, of course. I wanted to play fun games. I felt stupid. I didn't enjoy playing with her. It's like she always has to prove she is the best at everything.
Funny/ not funny that you used tos example my father used to do the same , even card games as well I learnt at an early age that Snap was only a card game where I got physically hurt as well 💯, he even hurt my children too physically and emotionally, ( I'm glad he found a new source of supply 3rd wife ,yet I feel so sorry for her , as she has become the new slave / and doesn't speak English fluently,so she may never know who and what he is truly capable of unlike those he had to discard)
@@Sophie-ur2qb yes Sophie, she is also such a beautiful kind person, who really deserves better , he has been learning Spanish,for yrs however b4 he had met her in another part of south America yet funnily enough had been /was seeing a different woman whom he either met online as well and went to Chile to meet , and that r' ship ended rather abruptly,never found out exactly what happened thou ( maybe she was smart and saw those red flags ) there's been so many secrets and lies from him , yet a few of us in the family have realised he ran to another country and married as soon as possible for a reason too 💯
@@tanialeslie1807hope you can and will help 3rd w, keep open communication for her escape. You are excellent witness for her proof to get free. Hope she lives.
In my house, amongst other things..it was a silent agreement to always 'remember' to tell her 'how good the meal was that she prepared'...it was a silent cue and we felt obligated to tell her, not because it came out of joy or love...
Some narcissists are really vulnerable and fall into the trap of more clever people that offers them: the ultimate business opportunity, the ultimate deal in real state or ultimate love and or pleasure I have found that out in people I know with narcissistic personality.
This is so true! My ex would be obsessed with all these different real estate programs that cost thousands all for him to not finish it because the next big thing caught his attention to buy. He lived out of his car because of it and claimed that he was happier because he was investing in himself.
I love this video because it says the same thing I am always saying under my breath when a narcissist deceives me and gets me again and I can't do anything but take the hit. I call them "idiot".
If someone tells you the same story about themselves each time you're with them they might be a narcissist you cant caught them if they never tell you anything new about themselves
I have been in a narcissistic relationship for 4 years. Unfortunately I realised it after I left, moved far away from him. It's been 3 years since and I am still struggling with pain. They're unbelievable creatures..manipulative, egocentric, unfaithful, shameless and liars.
OMG...I always thought of my Mom as a predator. Always on the lookout for victims. As a child I used to be appalled by her manipulation of others. She figured I am aware of her insidious nature and hated me for it...but had to guise the hatred in front of others but put me down when she caught me on my own
actually, I loved one female Coverted Narasist,She constantly comparing with others, continuously scolding me without any reason, really I don't know eventhough I exhibit good behaviour she always criticise me , blocking me , continuously ghosted,now also she ghosted, due to her torture I failed 2 competative exams ,she talks with other persons very nicely,she shows no interest to talk with me,due to overthinking I got skin problems ,no sleepnights but I unable to leave her
@@miha39688 starting she showed me more love and affection,I am huge fan her affection,so sudden what happened really don't know,she stops talking with me, literally scolding me , blocking me ,later I found that maybe she left me, after 2,3 days she is extra nice to me ,talks with me very nice ,the next day she started scolding and blocked me , really can't understand,she is praising herself,when I am in big problem she is the first person ghosting me ,not lift my phone, really can't understand what's going on, actually my charector is I didn't get any anger on her , without any reason she criticise me,maybe I think that when I am in patience she will definitely change,but she didn't, after following sir's TH-cam channel,then I realised her problem,now there is no depression for me , because entire relationship I am so loyal to her ,love her and worship like goddess but she only not understanding 😞
This is when you heal you will realize it’s very easy to say no once you also realize what self respect is self love and nobody should love you less than you love yourself. You have to learn what self love is and it will be easy to say “enough I’m gone”
I was married to my now deceased narc 34 years....he was, at best, functional illiterate. (When he was trying to get early retirement w/ SSA the person called for the interview with him. He handed me the phone.) When I explained he was functional illiterate to her I mentioned we have to tell him how to spell words, my daughter laughed in the background and said what she's told him how to spell. The person asked if that was my daughter and I said yes. He got his retirement first try. He was 58.
100% correct! After a few rounds of 'discussion, I just threw my hands up and said talk to the wall! Also I told him if it doesn't pertain to you it doesn't exist. He knew better than to attack my diction. I have an amazing command of the English language and he knew it. LOL! One win for me!
My ex- narc was never educated past 6th grade due to the chaos in his life. I have three degrees, including two masters; very successful business owner when I met him, expert in my field. And yet, when I met him, he immediately began the work of telling me how incompetent and un knowledgeable I was, deemed himself the expert in my field. Nine years of me being denigrated, insulted- all while he pretended to know what he was doing to my entire professional community. My biggest work has been rebuilding my self-esteem. After he left me by having an affair sign one of my employees and leaving the country with her.
Same as they are not intelligent - they are empty. You are contionously putting out content that the narcissist has some grasp of "evil energies", that they can do BAD THINGS to you without physical contact, just by controlling these energies. You cannot be more wrong about this part of the topic - the rest you preach I'm fully with you and your insights are great.
Danish, my heart is broken 💔 because of a narcissist..they lied bigtime & i was discarded horribly. When I attempted to confront & had a real conversation about what happened, they sidestepped, manipulated & evaded the truth. It was unfair & horrible...they painted me as a narcissit..I still have deep feelings for them. Unsure of how to move on as they're denying their feelings for me. She hid the fact she was married until perceived rejection. She made a move then pretended she didnt.
They come across as intelligent but once you see through them, you realise how stoopid they really are. Because when you finally leave them, cut them off and go no contact, they still use the same tactics to try and get you back. That’s when you know you’ve won and you can look at them with pity or indifference. It’s very liberating.
You aren’t allowed to say one sentence, or they’re interrupting you, shushing you, ignoring you, but they can go off onto a grandiose story, ong! They go on and on and on and you’re supposed to shut up and listen it’s insanity provoking
You know someone is stupid when they continue to do the same stupid things over and over again. There is no learning from your mistakes when you are narcissistic.
They repeating same lies, gaslighting, blaming and then becomes victim when we question them about their wrongdoings. They keep us hooked in the vicious cycle of abuse by future faking and apologies when in reality things only gets worse, no improvement can be seen.
😳😳😳😳 My husband does what your dad did.. I listen to hours on end (litteraly 3 + hours without me saying 1 word) of his work stories. How he was the hero to a customer and all his coworkers faults.
One time I was coming home excited to tell my mother some good news. I came home and was about to tell her, when she noticed the zipper in my purse was open. She kept going on and on about how it’s unsafe for me to leave my bag unzipped and the happy mood was completely ruined for the good news. She didn’t even care about that. I couldn’t believe it.
I learned living with my partner/Narcissist he only wants you to listen to his long stories and basically its like he is having a conversation with himself because he looks surprised or angry if I make a comment. Or I am ALWAYS wrong. Now I just check out and go to the beach in my head..Lol. So sad
My husband loves to point out misspelled words... My brother is dyslexic. My husband loves to point out the misspelled words he texts.. My brother is very smart but struggles with the dyslexia.. It's my husbands little bashes at my family to show his family is superior..
#3--is my next oldest brother to a tee. He makes up stories that cannot be qualified, of how he is a super smart hero in some ridiculous scenario or another. Most of his stories take place 30-40 years ago and it's pathetic for me to hear them because I know he's full of crap.
No. I have the same, but I have empathy. I have some TRULY ridiculous stories that sound unbelievable. Fortunately I have a wonderful husband who has witnessed too many of the stupid things that I do and we can laugh hysterically at ourselves.
He’s gotta come over to irritate me whether washing dishes( needs to drink water or wash hands) /to showering ( needs use of bathroom at that moment) also they will do anything for attention to pretend coughing to continual farting.
My ex always had a story we heard before, but he always told it when you had something going on and was venting. Especially when his kids were talking. Id ask, why do u always have to tell a story about you instead of just listening. It was like him almost saying you haven’t been through anything and my story is worse. Like a victim competition.
I have always questioned my reality of being narcissisti bc of periodically exhibiting some of these traits at times, but I always question where to draw the line with this other friend who will talk for hours upon hours without stopping, absolute data dumping, and the only way is to interrupt him, with of course him getting mad at you interrupting for that .01% . So I wonder who is at fault here, and is there ever a point when interrupting is necessary?
Them got damn intreuptions omfg! Then turns the fukin conversation to themselves!! And when she does this her excuse is " lemme say this before i forget" ugh its so annoying and ridiculous
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Another habit I have been on the receiving end of is when they take other people's clever ideas, insight or witty lines and try to pass them off as their own at a later date, having forgotten that the person they stole from was actually you.
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You too!
But they are so dead and unresponsive when they hear your idea.
That was the case getting pictures of family members colorized.
I'm waiting for the other suggestions to materialize too. he he
@@franksimmons9242 'Dead and unresponsive' because they don't want to give you any credit. They want to take credit instead for themselves.
1. Typical copycats. Will even copy the way u talk to people.
2. Will make silly interruptions during conversations, usually total change of subject.
3. Love for grandious stories; example "I was smarter than all my colleagues in my class etc.
Making fun of others flaws & performance.
Will talk trash to demean others and end up wearing a demonic smile and you're expected to smile back and maintain eye contact.
Danish, u said it all. Facts indeed.
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Sometimes the subtle means narcissist(s) use when they are trying to find excuses to be demeaning and cruel to others are so bizzare they are unbelievable and so cannot be talked about to others later. Nursing school is one place where that sort of thing takes place too. I saw a TH-cam channel run by a nurse who had survived nursing school who was warning people ahead of time about that sort of thing.
Eye opener, first meetup with narc mother. Exactly same communication style. Mind blown. Ran out of there, gotta run, look at the time! ☠️
True, but also very sincere adhd people interrupt for the opposite reason that you said something very exciting to them and they want to bond over a shared understanding. Please be gentle to us
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True intelligence is the ability to apply gained knowledge that has been researched as fact, and the ability to adapt to any changes of those facts, including the ability to admit you were incorrect.
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without daring to be incorrect and admitting that there is no learning indeed.
Exactly.. They can not do that.
They try to correct you (even embarrass) in front of people they want to impress.
Yes. The corrections that you mentioned are bizarre things and show how low they are to even mention.
Ummm, you ever been in the military? Sometimes when you're speaking ignorance you will get corrected with no concern about your feelings. Try not speaking things that prompt correction. Not everyone is a narcissist just because you got corrected in front of people. 🤣
Serial manipulators...
All senses have to be awakened when u are around them...
So well said! Why they can be so exhausting. Amazing how without being conscious the defense system begins to take energy to fight the enemy just like the internal immune system.
Cunning indeed but far from intelligent
Stupid!
I realized this when I detected my narc manager. Sadly, what passes for intelligence in this society is to blame. I realize you want to be mad at the narc, but it’s the people who buy into their bs, I feel some kind of way about. It’s like all you have to do to sway people is the superficiality that narcs exude and others will follow them right off the top of the mountain… never ever questioning, where are we heading? And never testing the answers they get… just going with the flow… right into their own demise.
You get that
That’s exactly how I see them and call them. They aren’t intelligent, but cunning, like animals.
The Narcissist is anything but Intelligence , heck they are not smart at all .
The lack, of foresigt, insight and empathy. AND SELFESTEEM 📝
No wonder 🤔🫨🚔
Lower emotional IQ, than any animal 🐐.. and spelling is partly off as well 🕊️
@@ClothedinRighteousness-w6h They don't develop any talents or even tap into inherent wisdom
Everything you mentioned is so true. I can't get two words out of my mouth before he either interrupts or just turns and walks away as though I am not speaking to him. He continually corrects me and always "teaches" me how to do everything the right way. 😅
My dad is the same, its hard work, I have given up having a conversation with him
Uugghh! I feel your pain and frustration! My narcissistic spouse does this. I barely speak anymore because he always cuts me off and talks at me. I literally have to raise my voice and say, "Let me finish," if it's something I have to discuss with him. It's horrible!
He tries to finish my sentences as if you knows what I’m going to say
What an asshole
@@larklittle1191speak for you like you're not standing there before you answer or during your answer.
Decades ago, long before I was aware of narcissism, I figured he was not intelligent, but had an animal cunning.
Very interesting comment, contemplated and have to agree! 👍🏻💐
@@Stardustpal25 aw, flowers for me? You are sweet
Always the hero OR the victim of every senerio. Never ever wrong. Great video. Thank you!
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They are always My, Myself an I
When there hasn't been a conflict with another person, they'll just make something up so that they can play the victim, or another one is there's an incident has a bad outcome that they then over exaggerate so the person that's badly affected by it not only has to deal with the fallout of the incident, but also has to deal with the lies the person has spread and gossiped about, too.
I have heard him using my words and phrases when on the phone to others to seem more intelligent than he is.
When I am sharing my feelings on things that have happened in my life, it becomes a competition! Like a few days ago I was telling him how hard it was do deliver the mail on foot, with the FL Sun, then the rain, and of course worrying about dogs. Many ppl... especially women just can't hang.. or don't want to. In my case, it was my only option at the time with the money that I made without a degree. Well.. right in the middle of it.. he goes.. have you ever dug ditches?? like why tf WOULD I ever dig ditches for work?! Of course not! Well according to him.. that was much harder to do. This is the first time I EVER heard him mention any job where he dug ditches.. I think it's a lie. Always "one-up-manship".
Since i've born into a huge narcissist family - even after i left them at a young age - i've been a Narc Magnet all my life. As much as i LOVE intelligence my exprerience with these narcs that they are extremely stupid. I had more natural intelligence as a 3 yr old than these adults. But lots of them were the programmed robotic types that they were unable to come up with anything on their own other than their "programmed" deceit and fake copycat personalities... 😢
Bless you! I'm a narc Magnet as well for 50 years, wondering why I was born: for my mom and sister to react their frustrations upon me and for being financially robbed by a pretend to be Tunis friend €5.000,-?
recognizably
They definitely lack common sense. 🙄
After 32 years with a covert narc....it was my turn to tell him, he is not the sharpest crayon in the Crayola box. After months of smirking, underlying anger and passive aggresion.......he suddenly left, never to be seen or heard of again. Oops. Enough was enough. Peace out.
Congrats!
That’s great! Mine would just say. Why are you being so mean?
I love you! Yet I’ve heard a million times “You’re elevator doesn’t go to the top floor does it? Not much oxygen in your little world is there? Or How’s the oxygen in your little world?” And of course all of the Sharpest knife Brightest bulb sayings!
You called him out?Girl he ain't coming back 😂😂😂
@@movingsaudade6028 I was so calm with a cocktail in my hand. Messed with the wrong girl. He ain't coming back, 3 years later. Narcs are cowards.
When you fact check them and say where did you get this information, they say I don't know.
And that’s a literal statement. If you want a good laugh (or an awkward situation), ask the interrogatory questions. They have NO IDEA why they do what they do.
To lie convincingly you have to remember what you told who.. if they were intelligent then there wouldn't be so many inconsistencies and we would never figure out their lies.
I disagree.
To lie convincingly... first of all, _why_ lol, it doesn't do anybody any good to misrepresent the truth, but I suppose... if it's _necessary,_ the 'best way' is to 'lie through omission,' have them draw the conclusion theirself, and have it be over something wherein the social _contagion_ over the misread situation be low, and unlikely to be cross-referenced and 'set straight.'
'Keep It Simple, Stupid:' KISS means you stick to the basic facts, and don't embellish. That way, you can adhere to a conclusion in-mind, while not *technically* giving a 'false account.'
#3 is you _don't. Back. Down._ No debate, no compromise. You do *not* allow others' input to "change" your story, and that rigidity lends your side and account credence. One of the _few_ things stronger than 'morality' in others? Presence, force-of-will, and internal consistency and knowledge of the facts. Keep your emotional center within yourself? You can _technically_ say anything at all, so long as you *keep your story straight* when intending to be believed, and *change the world; do not let the world change **_you._*
...and, welcome to Narc School.
'Empaths' gone ruthless? That's us.
@@normanclatcher but the stories must add up and be the same every time. With the narcs I know it does not. This when the gaslighting comes in.
Yes they hate specific thought out questions
All narcissists are fake/empty souls, their entire being is false, they are attention seekers and have to squeeze out the energy from all those who are real, narcissist mimic and steal other people's lives, my narcissistic mother does all of those things, she has to be the center of attention all the time!! She fooled me for many years but not anymore, i know how they play the game now, im done went completely no contact.
They are actually both ..the evil that controls them is VERY intelligent but the person himself/herself is not the sharpest tool in the Shedd ..hence why it is usually so easy for such evil to dominate them.
Which evil controls them?
The Narci is the farthest from normal of any Psyche type and ANYTHING can set them off..
The grandiose stories are funny when you were there and it wasn't as dramatic as they are telling people 🤭 I just say i remember it a bit differently to that.
Bless you Danish 🩷🙏
I am amazed at the clarity and authenticity of your vlogs. In my opinion, you are the best on TH-cam. Everything is so relatable and spot on.
Thanks, Danish. You are 100-percent correct. The narcissist might have the ability to memorize and retain information; however, their life choices are unfortunate and pathetic.
so much thanks to the creator of the channel 🙏…! oh my 💪thanks for this particular one and many others episodes!.. this hello is from moscow russia. sending Danish and his honest subscribers 🙌🏽love peace and gratitude for wisdom and discernment …🙏 keep up please
Hello from England ❤
Hello from Seattle, WA. Praying for Russia to be free of War. 💙🌻🇺🇸🇺🇦🇺🇲🇺🇲
Ok, what I'm about to say is totally beside the point of this video but it has to be said I think.... Danish looks GOOD without his glasses!!! That's not to say he looks bad with them of course!! This is the case for a lot of people I think... Their eyes are hidden behind the lenses of a pair of glasses.. Anyway, just thought I'd share my thoughts on the matter since we're so used to seeing him as a 'glasses wearer' so to speak...😁 Nice surprise indeed!! 😉 I'm starting to ramble now...enough said! Have a nice day to whoever's reading this! 😊🎉
He's a very handsome man. And a brilliant person who is NOT a narcissist. A great combo. My new favorite binge video person. I really like and benefit from his insight.❤
Isnt he just so HOT ??? Damn and just look at that mouth, full sexy lips, so manly ❤
So spot on. Constant interruptions in conversations. They've told me that I basically don't understand how conversations are supposed to occur. You're supposed to interrupt because it's relating to what the other person said; and, yes, I'm always corrected on having used a wrong word.
Thank you for your hard work, consistently helpful lessons. I have a few neighbors over for tea while we watch and discuss each upload. 🌻💙🇺🇸
Thank-you for this topic and so true. They are exhausting, they will suck all of your energy and they never shut-up. They rant on and on probably even when they are sleeping.
4:15 True .They Copy and imitate others. Even slight facial expressions.
It was looking proper and good, and how i appeared in front of others (ie, well behaved. or else.) for me. My Mother the Matri-narc once made me walk to my friend's house, smiling all the way, yelling through the windows out at me as i walked. Like a freak, she ran through the different rooms of the house, screaming, "GET THAT SMILE ON YOUR FACE!!" For some strange reason, i must have been depressed or something... GEE, go figure!! 😂 This maniacal edict (and other great hits - some literal, to the face) were OF COURSE not recalled at all when brought to her attention, later in her final year.
this helped me realise I have a narcissistic 'friend', thank you danish you really said it all facts! this is why I subscribed to your channel.
Habits is a kind name for their weirdnesses, I'd probably have more of a "Oh what is it now!" Type of outlook upon what's going on with them!
Thank you, Danish and TH-cam, for showing me this during my lunch break Today! It is as if you can see what is happening in my life at this very moment.
Not more than a week ago, I recognized that a narcissist in my life thinks they're able to deceive me by their sneakiness. I concluded that although they may think they're being sneaky, they will not outwit my cleverness, insight, and foresight.
Also within the same timeframe, a coworker is not accepting that they're doing [certain accounting tasks] incorrectly. It seems their ego is more important than the quality and accuracy of our data entry and end result.
Since lunch break is over, I must return to doing my accounting tasks correctly. 😉
Sociopaths and psychopaths are truly intelligent, that's what makes them so terrifying, that is why so many narcissists want you to think they are one of the two. when they realise they can't manipulate you they try to intimidate you
But they aren't intelligent it is just animalistic selfishness behaviour
@@miss_8thwonder sociopaths and psychopaths? Alot of them are very intelligent but not in the way most of us think when we think of geniuses, cunning and good at ambushing and planning. Narcissists are just good at charming and intimidating you, but suck at orchestrating
My ex-husband used to correct my words and say that I used poor grammar. He interrupted my stories regularly and always made me feel stupid and unimportant. Those were the good days when he didn't lose his temper and break things, hit me, yell, and belittle me. This post really hit home.
You just described my pos mother. Whenever I tried to talk with her in my efforts to bond, all she'd do was interrupt me to correct my grammar, or a word I mispronounced...I always felt she was a disgusting, dead soul inside...and she and my sisters all weaponized my innocence and even mental health struggles caused by them.
When its your idea its 'ridiculous'. When they later have the exact same idea it 'so smart'.
I have experienced all of them. You're right, the 3rd topic is the craziest. My narcissist loves to tell people he has cancer, when he does have a blood disease that COULD turn into cancer, but isn't yet.Btw he's said this for 4 years and only got the blood disease diagnosis a few months back. It breaks my heart when he talks about his "cancer" in front of a friend who has stage 4 leukemia and has had over 150 chemo treatments. Pure evil!
We human beings are a lot more alike than different. For example one day while visiting someone in a medical facility one of the nurses present asked me, - What were you doing when touching her? I only answered back who I was to my loved one there. A few weeks later I found out in school that what I did there was only one of the exact same very basic care comforting by making the person in a stage there feel acknowledged as a person technique being promoted by a top professional in care to people in that kind of care facility. I didn't think anything of that day until watching this video. All of us are important. Narcissists want everyone to believe they are far more important and far more capable than the rest of us. I barely passed that course while often feeling sick during that term thereby ending up with not good enough marks in it to hold up for credit toward completing the program of study I am in.
Don't give in. Take it again, and you'll find you have overcome many things with experience. Be your best self and continue learning. ❤
My narc would deliberately use different words to express himself and then get mad at you if you could not decipher the code words he used. This caused major confusion among people who were trying to understand what he was saying.
Again NAILED IT!!! I divorced that!!
Danish you tell the absolute truth your character is strong!
They may believe they are intelligent. But they believe a lot of things 😂
My mother would only play scrabble with us as children because she knew she could win. She won every time, of course. I wanted to play fun games. I felt stupid. I didn't enjoy playing with her. It's like she always has to prove she is the best at everything.
Funny/ not funny that you used tos example my father used to do the same , even card games as well I learnt at an early age that Snap was only a card game where I got physically hurt as well 💯, he even hurt my children too physically and emotionally, ( I'm glad he found a new source of supply 3rd wife ,yet I feel so sorry for her , as she has become the new slave / and doesn't speak English fluently,so she may never know who and what he is truly capable of unlike those he had to discard)
@tanialeslie1807 he sounds.. awful 😰 how cruel to use someone because they can't speak the same language! 💔
@@Sophie-ur2qb yes Sophie, she is also such a beautiful kind person, who really deserves better , he has been learning Spanish,for yrs however b4 he had met her in another part of south America yet funnily enough had been /was seeing a different woman whom he either met online as well and went to Chile to meet , and that r' ship ended rather abruptly,never found out exactly what happened thou ( maybe she was smart and saw those red flags ) there's been so many secrets
and lies from him , yet a few of us in the family have realised he ran to another country and married as soon as possible for a reason too 💯
@@tanialeslie1807hope you can and will help 3rd w, keep open communication for her escape. You are excellent witness for her proof to get free. Hope she lives.
In my house, amongst other things..it was a silent agreement to always 'remember' to tell her 'how good the meal was that she prepared'...it was a silent cue and we felt obligated to tell her, not because it came out of joy or love...
Some narcissists are really vulnerable and fall into the trap of more clever people that offers them: the ultimate business opportunity, the ultimate deal in real state or ultimate love and or pleasure I have found that out in people I know with narcissistic personality.
This is so true! My ex would be obsessed with all these different real estate programs that cost thousands all for him to not finish it because the next big thing caught his attention to buy. He lived out of his car because of it and claimed that he was happier because he was investing in himself.
I love this video because it says the same thing I am always saying under my breath when a narcissist deceives me and gets me again and I can't do anything but take the hit. I call them "idiot".
If someone tells you the same story about themselves each time you're with them they might be a narcissist you cant caught them if they never tell you anything new about themselves
I have been in a narcissistic relationship for 4 years. Unfortunately I realised it after I left, moved far away from him. It's been 3 years since and I am still struggling with pain. They're unbelievable creatures..manipulative, egocentric, unfaithful, shameless and liars.
My narc mother in law only spoke Spanish. I speak very little Spanish. She thought by saying whatever ever louder would help 🙄 so stupid
OMG...I always thought of my Mom as a predator. Always on the lookout for victims. As a child I used to be appalled by her manipulation of others. She figured I am aware of her insidious nature and hated me for it...but had to guise the hatred in front of others but put me down when she caught me on my own
Wow, wow, you are talking about my narcissist brother.
actually, I loved one female Coverted Narasist,She constantly comparing with others, continuously scolding me without any reason, really I don't know eventhough I exhibit good behaviour she always criticise me , blocking me , continuously ghosted,now also she ghosted, due to her torture I failed 2 competative exams ,she talks with other persons very nicely,she shows no interest to talk with me,due to overthinking I got skin problems ,no sleepnights but I unable to leave her
Why are you unable?.
@@miha39688 starting she showed me more love and affection,I am huge fan her affection,so sudden what happened really don't know,she stops talking with me, literally scolding me , blocking me ,later I found that maybe she left me, after 2,3 days she is extra nice to me ,talks with me very nice ,the next day she started scolding and blocked me , really can't understand,she is praising herself,when I am in big problem she is the first person ghosting me ,not lift my phone, really can't understand what's going on, actually my charector is I didn't get any anger on her , without any reason she criticise me,maybe I think that when I am in patience she will definitely change,but she didn't, after following sir's TH-cam channel,then I realised her problem,now there is no depression for me , because entire relationship I am so loyal to her ,love her and worship like goddess but she only not understanding 😞
This is when you heal you will realize it’s very easy to say no once you also realize what self respect is self love and nobody should love you less than you love yourself. You have to learn what self love is and it will be easy to say “enough I’m gone”
Trauma bond
You can teach a 5 yr old to manipulate, although that would be disgusting. True intelligence is having emotional intelligence and self awareness.
I was married to my now deceased narc 34 years....he was, at best, functional illiterate. (When he was trying to get early retirement w/ SSA the person called for the interview with him. He handed me the phone.) When I explained he was functional illiterate to her I mentioned we have to tell him how to spell words, my daughter laughed in the background and said what she's told him how to spell. The person asked if that was my daughter and I said yes. He got his retirement first try. He was 58.
They mimic the person they are very envious off… and them they talk very negative about you lol so fake
100% correct! After a few rounds of 'discussion, I just threw my hands up and said talk to the wall! Also I told him if it doesn't pertain to you it doesn't exist. He knew better than to attack my diction. I have an amazing command of the English language and he knew it. LOL! One win for me!
My ex- narc was never educated past 6th grade due to the chaos in his life. I have three degrees, including two masters; very successful business owner when I met him, expert in my field. And yet, when I met him, he immediately began the work of telling me how incompetent and un knowledgeable I was, deemed himself the expert in my field. Nine years of me being denigrated, insulted- all while he pretended to know what he was doing to my entire professional community. My biggest work has been rebuilding my self-esteem. After he left me by having an affair sign one of my employees and leaving the country with her.
Same as they are not intelligent - they are empty. You are contionously putting out content that the narcissist has some grasp of "evil energies", that they can do BAD THINGS to you without physical contact, just by controlling these energies. You cannot be more wrong about this part of the topic - the rest you preach I'm fully with you and your insights are great.
Why do you say he's wrong about that?! My nh has monitoring spirits
@@pamelacave5515 can you expand on the "monitoring spirits" so that i can tell you what's wrong?
They Hate experts. They never listen or learn from them. They refuse to recognize anyone else's expertise.
Yeah, 100% right I’m living with one!
Everything you said is 100percent true
Danish, my heart is broken 💔 because of a narcissist..they lied bigtime & i was discarded horribly. When I attempted to confront & had a real conversation about what happened, they sidestepped, manipulated & evaded the truth. It was unfair & horrible...they painted me as a narcissit..I still have deep feelings for them. Unsure of how to move on as they're denying their feelings for me. She hid the fact she was married until perceived rejection. She made a move then pretended she didnt.
They come across as intelligent but once you see through them, you realise how stoopid they really are. Because when you finally leave them, cut them off and go no contact, they still use the same tactics to try and get you back. That’s when you know you’ve won and you can look at them with pity or indifference. It’s very liberating.
Yes they don't have feelings ...sometimes they lack memory...they r moody....today a things is good tomorrow it will change
You aren’t allowed to say one sentence, or they’re interrupting you, shushing you, ignoring you, but they can go off onto a grandiose story, ong! They go on and on and on and you’re supposed to shut up and listen it’s insanity provoking
Through my narc I finally opened up to god. Meeting the devil was a blessing in disguise fr
You know someone is stupid when they continue to do the same stupid things over and over again. There is no learning from your mistakes when you are narcissistic.
They repeating same lies, gaslighting, blaming and then becomes victim when we question them about their wrongdoings. They keep us hooked in the vicious cycle of abuse by future faking and apologies when in reality things only gets worse, no improvement can be seen.
😳😳😳😳 My husband does what your dad did.. I listen to hours on end (litteraly 3 + hours without me saying 1 word) of his work stories. How he was the hero to a customer and all his coworkers faults.
OMG my mother Always corrected my pronunciation. She was often wrong.
Very well explained sir, yes very true.
lol. I bet they really hate being called stupid. 😂
“Professsing to be wise, they have become fools.”
Lying and manipulation are the easiest thing to do on earth, as they take advantage of another weakest human
Narcissistic cannot change really
only nature can grow, divinely
I have known too many narcissists in my life, my mother is the biggest one. Everything you are saying is 100% true.
One time I was coming home excited to tell my mother some good news. I came home and was about to tell her, when she noticed the zipper in my purse was open. She kept going on and on about how it’s unsafe for me to leave my bag unzipped and the happy mood was completely ruined for the good news. She didn’t even care about that. I couldn’t believe it.
My dad is a complete idiot but a very good narcissist
I learned living with my partner/Narcissist he only wants you to listen to his long stories and basically its like he is having a conversation with himself because he looks surprised or angry if I make a comment. Or I am ALWAYS wrong. Now I just check out and go to the beach in my head..Lol. So sad
They lack nothing they choose to ignore others feeling
Lying and manipulation are the easiest thing to do on earth, as you take advantage of another weakest human
I can relate to N°3.
True, Danish, but it is sad that so many people don't realize it. Means that many ordinary people are stupid, too.
Even during my shortlived relationship i experienced all 3.
5:16 exactly
Narcissists are gamma males in socieal hierarchy after alpha and beta , sigma males..... They are little feminine characters.....
My husband does all the things he complains of others doing...
So true
They have criminal intelligence!!
My previous boss literalllyy!! 😂...... If you pay attention you can see their sh** clearly! So draining to deal with them!!!!
My husband loves to point out misspelled words... My brother is dyslexic. My husband loves to point out the misspelled words he texts.. My brother is very smart but struggles with the dyslexia.. It's my husbands little bashes at my family to show his family is superior..
#3--is my next oldest brother to a tee. He makes up stories that cannot be qualified, of how he is a super smart hero in some ridiculous scenario or another. Most of his stories take place 30-40 years ago and it's pathetic for me to hear them because I know he's full of crap.
Ive never seen a 60 year old get fired from 3 jobs in 1yr and blame it on the employer!
Uh-oh, I have tons of life experience and awesome stories. Is that bad?
No. I have the same, but I have empathy. I have some TRULY ridiculous stories that sound unbelievable. Fortunately I have a wonderful husband who has witnessed too many of the stupid things that I do and we can laugh hysterically at ourselves.
He’s gotta come over to irritate me whether washing dishes( needs to drink water or wash hands) /to showering ( needs use of bathroom at that moment) also they will do anything for attention to pretend coughing to continual farting.
They dont know where to draw the limit for their horrible behaviour
Exactly old cycles of lies, blaming, manipulation gets repeated everytime with no regrets on their face.
My ex always had a story we heard before, but he always told it when you had something going on and was venting. Especially when his kids were talking. Id ask, why do u always have to tell a story about you instead of just listening. It was like him almost saying you haven’t been through anything and my story is worse. Like a victim competition.
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7:05 My eldest toxic narc bro. He'd immediately repeat the mispronounced word in a "scolding " tone.
I have always questioned my reality of being narcissisti bc of periodically exhibiting some of these traits at times, but I always question where to draw the line with this other friend who will talk for hours upon hours without stopping, absolute data dumping, and the only way is to interrupt him, with of course him getting mad at you interrupting for that .01% . So I wonder who is at fault here, and is there ever a point when interrupting is necessary?
They play being intelligent but if you observe for a while they aren’t too smart they try to be but it’s really obvious they aren’t
Them got damn intreuptions omfg! Then turns the fukin conversation to themselves!! And when she does this her excuse is " lemme say this before i forget" ugh its so annoying and ridiculous
Danish must’ve been through my whole marriage to the narc as an invisible spirit! He knows this clown to a T! 👏🏼😄🤡
Bhaiya aap plzz hindi me bhi vedio banaiye hindi bolne valo ko samajh me aayega 🙏🙏
I would love a session in Urdu so my so my monster narc husband could listen and understand what he really is
By the way he left 6 months ago and I’m free alhumdulilla 🙏🏼
Inke paas English audience hai mainly.