I feel like social media contributes to this idea that everybody else but you has it under control. Matt's attitude is one of the positive and honest ones. We need more Matts!
It is the fear of being vulnerable and getting judged that keeps us all from talking about mental health issues. And that makes us all thinks that we're losers for struggling because nobody else seems to struggle.
The more people are open about it, the better. It opens the doors knowing that you're not alone, and seeing how others face their problems is a breathe of fresh air rather than "just go see a therapist brah!".
Tomorrow I am going to visit my psychologist again after 6 months , which I stopped in between . Now I understood I want some help for my anxiety and stress .
What I really appreciate about this video is that there is no "extra drama" added to it. You sit down and you openly share the way you're feeling at the moment. That's it. It's simple and honest. Thank you for sharing
Yeah it is great! You’ll have plenty of energy to conquer the rest of your day and crush your goals, and beginning tomorrow you can be to reduce the amount of caffeine you drink consistently mitigating the feeling of your anxiety🙂 it’s it great when you teach yourself or learn to always think of a positive perspective, people see failure at the worst possible result, I see it as you’re improving, or you stop wasting your valuable time and pursue something that is meaningful
Daniel Mendez my anxiety is made worse by talking about it an aknowledging it. People always say talk to someone but that didn’t work for me. I had to start back just living life normally even if it felt like shit
You just moved, took a trip, changed your whole life. If this didn't trigger an anxiety flare up, I'd think you were a robot. I remember when I got a promotion and moved to a house at the same time. I had insomnia, and I was exhausted all the time. I told a friend I couldn't understand why I was so overloaded when this was exactly what I wanted. She told me "Change is stressful, even when if it's good change" So remember that and take it easy.
This... I needed this so much! Got dumped by my girlfriend, graduated from school, starting an internship in 2 weeks and turned 19. Everything of that happened the last 4 months. And it gave me anxiety and depression.
This comment opened up a whole new way of thinking about my anxiety. I hate change especially when its completely opposite to what i had planned even if its a good thing.
When I open about my anxiety, I get laughed at because I’m still young and I shouldn’t have to worry about anything because I’m single. I’m almost in tears as I write this.
I always have a difficult time explaining how i feel to people. And when i finally explain how i feel, i always feel misunderstood. Feeling the same afterwards... Meditation, gratitude and practicing affirmations and realising that you are completely normal relieves you from a lot of stress. I hope you are doing well today.
Sometimes it's harder when you're young because you don't have the experience of how to deal with it. I had much worse anxiety when I was 19-20 than now that I'm 24. it takes time to know yourself. It will get better and better if you work on it :-)
I have had anxiety since I was 7. I am super lucky to have had access to a therapist, but I went through three years without hardly any help. Nobody takes a 7 year old with anxiety seriously. And it only got worse. But I'm doing better now. If you have any mental issues, PLEASE TRY THERAPY!
@TheMaikiller I think it's a great simplification in terms of understanding the thought process. When you're anxious (which is what I suffer from) everything you worry about is literally hypotheticals, and forward thinking. Its a lot of what-ifs and dreading of things to come. I don't experience depression, but from people I've spoken to, the weight you feel is based on things that have happened or are happening. Like, it's based on conclusions rather than hypotheticals. So to simplify this, anxiety is based on unknowns, and depression is based on the knowns. They're closely linked. BUT, you're right, you can't fix this just by "thinking differently" or "accepting the past"
Wow. Huge respect for the vulnerability you are brave enough to show all of your followers. This is what makes your channel incredible. Keep it personal, it is awesome getting to know you!
What I learned from dealing with anxiety is that the physical symptoms are often related to the way you breath. Stress/panic can cause you to take shallow breaths, putting you in a state of hyperventilation (dizziness, tingling in the lips, hands or feet, headache, weakness, fainting). Recognising this and learning to control your breath can really help you regain.
@@MaartenDeckers That's why meditation can be incredibly helpful when dealing with panic attacks. Because it makes you more aware of your breath. Not only during the practice but in general.
I feel you 100%. Been through this over the last 1 1/2 years including derealization, depression but mostly anxiety and worrying all day..and it will get better, it got better. Even if there is no hope at all at some point. Keep going man, great content!
For me it’s this constant struggle against my own thoughts “ok do I have anxiety” “No I’m just overthinking” “Stop blaming your unwillingness to work through your problems on anxiety” and it’s just confusing and tough at times, because sometimes you just can’t convince yourself to stop even though you know you’re going crazy.
@@curiousgeorge6921 It becomes a negative feedback loop. The only way to break out is to embody what we want to become and avoid looking at the future through the lens of past experiences.
Things that have helped me manage my anxiety: • seeing a counselor/therapist that can help me identify what I’m feeling, why I’m feeling it, and how to cope with these feelings. • having friends that will not shame you or dismiss your anxiety. They will help you through the really tough moments and rejoice with you through the victories. • Yoga, yoga, yoga. Helps me breath and release the tension I’m holding. • Allowing myself to take s l o w moments. Drinking tea. Reading a book. Sitting outside. One thing at a time❤️
The moment you said palms are sweaty and we both sang along to the lyrics, I wished I could subscribe to you twice. 😂 Thank you for all that you do, Matt.
I'm dealing with anxiety for the 1st time in my life right now - started a few weeks ago. It is hard to accept this loss of control over my own mental state, and the way it affects my physical state. Thanks for sharing.
My anxiety is related to the constant feeling that I should be doing more and that I am underachieving, despite the fact that the past year I have grown consistently both personally and profesionally.
That's so true. I feel like I'm stuck although I'm constantly making progress. And that's a never ending loop where I think that I should've done more.
anxiety hides other issues, like wanting to be in control of everything and obsessions are useful to us so we don't need to fix shit we need to fix for real. LOVE THIS VIDEO. thank you!
Hi Matt, thank you for sharing this. Anxiety gets me sometimes too, I feel overwhelmed and how you said it ,,without of control." Sometimes it helps me feel my body, I mean to be in the body not in the head. e.g. I´m laying in my bed worrying about tomorrow tasks and work, and how early I have to get up and be fresh .... knock knock - here is your anxiety! So it helps me realize - I´m NOW laying in my bed, feel how cushy it is, smell the sheets, lay my hand on my belly and feel the breath... And it helps me calm my anxiety mind. Greetings from Czech republic and again, thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts :)
I also have anxiety and the book that was recommended by my therapist: "The Happiness Trap" by Russ Harris has completely changed my life. I could not recommend it more. Thank you for the video.
Maude Beauchemin thank you for recommending a book, I’ll have to check it out. I’m kinda going thru some stuff with other people as well and this could help :)
Matt, I had it pretty bad a couple of years back so I just wanted to share what helped me personally, in order of importance: - Started boxing (your stress levels go UP when sparring with someone, then plummet down after the session, and the amazing thing is, they stay down. This could be any sport that's physical, and also confrontational) - Went to therapy - Stopped drinking coffee - Got into nature more often I notice you drink a lot of coffee - it's real, try cutting it out. Hope you get better man and thanks for sharing, love your vids
Thomas Alex Norman I was the same and that helped me too, I also recommend meditation or just exercising mindfull breathing and reducing amount of done things, just giving yourself time for resting, for not doing anything, charging batteries and reducing overstimulation
Do you think therapy was a major factor in you strengthening your mind? How long after you quit caffeine did you see things get better? Just curious. I had 2 panic attacks beginning of June, since then I’ve quit smoking weed carts and caffeine all together. I’ve also been put on Prozac by my doctor. Just wondering if I can attribute some of this severe anxiety to quitting those 2 drugs cold turkey. I’m also moving and looking to change jobs so I know that can be a factor even though I’m excited about moving.
@@RolandKoller90 If you're thinking about therapy i'd do it, it usually can only be a positive thing, at least to try for a few months. Hard to say, because I did a bunch of things at the same time (that which I said above), so can't be sure of any which one is was that helped specifically
Things that have helped ne through some tough times: 1: Acceptance. Accept the feelings, let them flow don’t try to push it away 2: Routine. A routine of healthy meals and exercise, things that make you happy, which leads to the key to winning over the anxiety: CONFIDENCE. If you feel confident in your life situation and body, you almost always win the battle when feelings of anxiety starts coming. Another way I go about this is that feelings of anxiety can be a way for the body to tell you to slow the f*ck down. So if you start feeling it, take a day off, sleep like a baby, watch movies, relax. The day after will be 100 times better. Great content, you’re a big inspiration to me! Peace🤘🏻
Acceptance is the only thing that will cure it and yeah you heard it right cure, not manage. A channel that helped me grasped acceptance was WondeBro i have came a super long way. But anxiety can be a beast yeah but with commitment and retraining your brain you can overcome anxiety
I never realized I had anxiety until my second semester of college when everything just seemed to be going downhill. Top that with depression and you have an emotional wreck. I was crying all the time not wanting to be in school anymore and constantly worrying about the safety and wellbeing of my family. I am glad I was able to realize what was going on and went to counseling before it got worse. Thank you for sharing!
Damn this is crazy, whenever I feel stressed or worries I always think of how Matt D'Avella seems to have it sorted. It's refreshing to know that everyone can feel this way
2019 had a rough start for me. My brother almost died and my mom broke her leg while on a trip, so I couldn’t see her for some weeks and had to make things work at home alone. My best friend attempted suicide and I broke up with my (then) gf. Two of my pets died. I was in a really bad space mentally. But nothing is permanent. I healed. We need to process things and sometimes it’s hard. Our mind are so complicated but that’s kind of the beauty of it. You are not alone. Thanks for being so honest and inspiring
i recently moved as well, and I have been struggling with so much anxiety. Getting into new routines, my whole world feels shifted. Thanks for sharing this!
@_Abir22 bro i used to live like that its an illusion , i realised that i did not born to be scared or to be occupied by anxiety , i was born to be fearless and happy
Matt, in a weird sort of way i'm really glad you shared this. I have suffered with acute anxiety all my life, and over the summer (in Australia) i had numerous amounts of panic attacks, which seemed like they happened for no aparent reason. Stumbling across your videos, they helped, minimalism was introduced into my life and i suddenly felt like it could help. I cleaned out my bedroom (still living with my parents // film school student) and it helped me. I just want to say thank you, your openess and willingness to share has made me feel, well, not so alone. I really look up to you and you're a cool guy Matt. Just know, it really truly does get better. From your friend, Aaron :)
I've had some severe anxiety that prevented me from getting out of my bed, two weeks ago. The thing that changed was when I realized it was just a matter of time. Time for me to get through it, because everything changes, but also time for myself. Turns out stressing about responsibilities was driving me crazy, so I just started to take time to get proper rest, to be with myself and do the things I truly enjoy. The anxiety has reduced a ton after that. Also, I have two mantras for dealing with overthinking. "Whatever happens, happens" (Cowboy bebop reference), and "Change what you can change, and learn to accept what you can't change". Despite the nature of impermanence, we have to learn to accept that we can't change some things, and that's ok. Hope some of these help you dude. I can only feel empathy and appreciation for the vulnerability. Thanks for sharing those.
I have this as well that drives me away from the things that I love because of the responsibility that comes with it. Tbh I don’t know how to handle it and cater the issue from within. I’ve been having this problem for a few years now. What do you do regularly to brave yourself to take the responsibility? Do you have any books/some reading you can recommend me to calm this symptoms down?
Realisation is the best. I appreciate the open conversation. I'm only 17 and im watching your channel and i've actively taken most of the things in your videos and i'm grateful. I'm learning how to develop self-control over my phone and the simplicity found in our daily lives. Keep doing you! #gratefulness
“If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.” ― Lao Tzu I hope this helps
WoW!! This is exactly me. I have been dealing with anxiety since I was 21, but when I moved into my parent's house five months ago after three years to take a break from my full-time job, out of nowhere, I started having severe panic attacks. And also about the fights, even minor turbulence scares the life out of me. The thing is, even those people who really want to help me don't understand what I feel when I am having an episode.
anxiety can be so overwhelming, our minds can be so skilled at convincing us what is true or what isn't... i went through a period of severe anxiety and one thing i was very afraid of in that time were the mice in our house... i was afraid they'd jump me in my sleep... to the point where i slept with the lights on, felt things moving on my legs but when i looked nothing was there... knowing that is scary. but it's also powerful! we can *use* our minds to shape the reality we desire! anything is possible :)
Anxiety is definitely something to be aware of. Especially when in stressful environments like business. Something I will be covering on my TH-cam channel as well, thank you so much for the amazing video Matt! :)
Thank you for sharing so honestly. Showing ones vulnerability is sometimes so hard but often so important. If you feel you need a holiday or otherwise take it easy - just do it. Your audience will be here, because we're not going anywhere!
Thank you so much for posting this. Anxiety can be incredibly isolating and it feels so good to hear that other people have the same symptoms and you are not, in fact, dying.
when im around good friends and good people, it helps...but where i live now, i have no one. i am here by myself, no family around, and i freak tf out. also super depressed
Hey there, I've been going through the same thing for a few years now, so it means a lot to hear you talk about this so openly because I would've never guessed you to be an anxious person. From your minimalist lifestyle to outgoing personality, you seemed very relaxed and 'regular,' so I'm happy to see you speak out about this as a form of therapy. It not only gives others the comfort that we're not alone, but we also get to see someone cope with it and tell us how he's doing it. Moving can be scary and starting over in a new place can very well feel like you're dying. I've been there with any change in the norm. You'll make it out the other side, we all do, but thanks again for sharing your experience.
Let the uncertainty of what you are going through become the fuel to help slingshot you forward. Come to grips with your thoughts and reality; meditate on it. Then use that positive (and negative) energy that comes from it to motivate you forward. I'm no therapist and can't even admit that I struggle with anxiety or depression but when I have those thoughts that you described, I try and re-centralize that energy toward the good in my life. Thanks for your honesty and vulnerability Matt!
Personally have never had anxiety but working in the medical field I have dealt with my fair share of anxious people. Big props to being open about your anxiety! Something which isn't talked about a lot!
I never thought that you can ever get anxious. I always looked up to you with all hopes. But now more respect to you for speaking up about this. This often happens and I didn't knew how to exactly get out of it. An anxiety takes over your inner own, disables you and oppresses finally. But there's always a hope in mind that pulls it out of the dark well. Keep speaking up about mental health. Tq
Anxiety is all about your nervous system and your capacity of it to adapt to your world. If you push too hard on adaptation (work, sport, worrying...) and do not overcompensate with some rest, there you're getting anxiety. It's your body telling you to slow down. You have to overcompensate to get back to normal. (good sleep, massage, sun..)
“If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.” Lao Tzu
This is a lie because I have MDD Mayor depression disorder and I don’t get depressed because of the past , I don’t get depressed about anything. I just feel depressed and thats is , feeling like my heart aches and feeling sluggish for no reason. Wanting to die because I don’t want to feel the pain of depression. So yeah thats not true but its catchy haha.
My panic attacks are diffrent everytime, although usually they are triggered by something, i have had attacks while lying in bed trying to fall asleep. scariest thing ever! so glad i have not had one in public.. Things are much better now!!! I have not had an attack in over 5 months now…* Here’s how => 4PanicAndAnxietyCure.blogspot.com
I've experienced severe anxiety for the first time in my life this past weekend (I am 22). What a coincidence that you just now talk about it. Although my anxiety stopped for the most part (I faced the situation and talked to the regarding person), the insight in your situation and the perspective you have on this topic actually helped me quite a lot. Thanks for opening up, that's brave!
Vulnerability is part of yourself, your true self, when you’re putting out content. Vulnerability is key for chasing your dreams and becoming a loving person. Keep going man
It's incredibly brave for you to be so open and honest about your anxiety. It's something that I'm so so glad I asked for help with. Over the last few months, I've been getting better. And it helps so much to see people I look up to, like you, be able to have a conversation about it. It's okay to have anxiety. Hope you're having a good day x
Thanks for sharing this Matt, I have struggled really badly with Anxiety for about 4 years now. Watching your videos have helped me immensely over the past year. Keep plugging away at life, it will ease and get better. Thanks for opening up with this, it helps all of us that have similar struggles to know that we are not alone.
Be real Be awesome Be you I have the same challenge in my life. And this is a challenge you have to take with love and compassion. Stand tall my friend.
This EXACT thing happened to me just this past week- 50/50 new business/ job, travel, time constraints, slipping gym routine- I felt detached, sick and confused. This video articulated it perfectly- a major help in itself. This video really helped calm things
Thank you for this video Matt. We always assume that people who have everything under control could control their emotions as well. But that’s not always the case. Thank you for being honest about it.
Thank you for being transparent with us Matt. Dealing with creapling anxiety is scary thing, for me it helped to realize that it's okey to feel that way. When ever you get anxiety attack, just tell your self, "Okay this is anxiety, this storm will pass" , dont try to fight it, just let it pass. Especially after all you been, it's normal to feel that way.
As soon as he said "palms are sweaty", my mind went down the 8 mile route and then all of a sudden Matt said "mum's spaghetti" and I started laughing out of shock
Tq for talking about this. It is a sensitive issue and you are really lucky to have Natalie. A listening ear is one of the most wonderful gift a person could give to someone
Very helpful. I’ve had and currently have bad anxiety right now and the way you’ve describe your anxiety is exactly what I’m feeling. I feel that’s the most important thing is to recognize your not alone and that there’s people dealing with the same thing and people are here to help. For anyone with anxiety don’t wait to talk to someone just do it hopefully they will listen.
"Im not crazy, Im allergic to this apartment" haha. Thank you for sharing. This was a perfect "anxiety" thought. I was convinced for years that I had a lung condition. and I had my Doctor run a pulmonary function test (again) to prove to me (again) that no, I can breathe, my lungs are great, its just anxiety.
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Dang sorry to hear that man. You always seem like a guy who just has everything so together. So I appreciate the openness and vulnerability
Thanks Matti :)
I feel like social media contributes to this idea that everybody else but you has it under control.
Matt's attitude is one of the positive and honest ones. We need more Matts!
Leonardo Almeida fax
Noone has it all together :) But it's OK, we're humans :)
It is the fear of being vulnerable and getting judged that keeps us all from talking about mental health issues. And that makes us all thinks that we're losers for struggling because nobody else seems to struggle.
*_“Our anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strengths.”_*
Love!♡
I don’t get it
Nice one😉
@@juliomunoz3772 Worrying will not remove tomorrow's sorrow but will only remove the strength you have to live your today
The more people openly discuss mental illness, the easier it gets to remove the negative stigma surrounding them. We can all be okay.
The more people are open about it, the better. It opens the doors knowing that you're not alone, and seeing how others face their problems is a breathe of fresh air rather than "just go see a therapist brah!".
So true!
Tomorrow I am going to visit my psychologist again after 6 months , which I stopped in between . Now I understood I want some help for my anxiety and stress .
Hope it goes well❤
@@davidparkinson6372 thank you
What I really appreciate about this video is that there is no "extra drama" added to it. You sit down and you openly share the way you're feeling at the moment. That's it. It's simple and honest. Thank you for sharing
I really appreciate this approach as well. It makes it seem like such a "normal" conversation to have, which is important.
Spot on! Exactly what I felt as well.
*_I feel my anxiety stems not from thinking about the future, but from wanting to have absolute control of it_*
100%, I *want* things to work out I *want* to live a fulfilled life but worrying stops me from starting on an uncertain path.
Life Progress - a channel for introverts control is right👌
When he said “Mum’s spaghetti” i was done 😂 I lover his sense of humour and honesty 🙏🏾 thank Matt!!
RT hahahahahah
"Knees weak, arms are heavy; mom's spaghetti" BOOM demonetized.
Chace McLees he doesn’t do ads on vids though.... I know this could be a r/woooooosh but I still wanted to state this.
@@otakudoomer646 I won't r/woooooosh you.
@@otakudoomer646 there is a subreddit for people that reference subreddits outside of reddit LOl. Don't worry I won't post you on there hahah
Raag Shah but I will ;)
Tip! Anxiety is worsened by caffeine. If possible try a coffee hiatus until the anxiety subsides
Great thing i just took an expresso in the morning and another in the afternoon
Yeah it is great! You’ll have plenty of energy to conquer the rest of your day and crush your goals, and beginning tomorrow you can be to reduce the amount of caffeine you drink consistently mitigating the feeling of your anxiety🙂 it’s it great when you teach yourself or learn to always think of a positive perspective, people see failure at the worst possible result, I see it as you’re improving, or you stop wasting your valuable time and pursue something that is meaningful
Daniel Mendez my anxiety is made worse by talking about it an aknowledging it. People always say talk to someone but that didn’t work for me. I had to start back just living life normally even if it felt like shit
Daniel Mendez 1000%
I had 2 espressos today and mannn I’m dying
Feels like 1000 daggers are flying towards me and I have to dodge them all
@Daniel Mendez same for sugar!!
You just moved, took a trip, changed your whole life. If this didn't trigger an anxiety flare up, I'd think you were a robot. I remember when I got a promotion and moved to a house at the same time. I had insomnia, and I was exhausted all the time. I told a friend I couldn't understand why I was so overloaded when this was exactly what I wanted. She told me "Change is stressful, even when if it's good change" So remember that and take it easy.
This... I needed this so much! Got dumped by my girlfriend, graduated from school, starting an internship in 2 weeks and turned 19. Everything of that happened the last 4 months. And it gave me anxiety and depression.
@bladesdna- this is the best comment I have ever read. I had experienced the same.
This comment opened up a whole new way of thinking about my anxiety. I hate change especially when its completely opposite to what i had planned even if its a good thing.
I believe this is know as Adjustment disorder. You guys can read it up in the DSM5 if you’re interested
We need more men to be open about mental health! Thank you for sharing ❤️
Morgan Spring louder for the people in the back!
Morgan Spring ♥️
Palms are sweaty, knees weak arms are heavy. I love your sense of humor. 😂
That's simple humour
I hope yall get the Eminem reference and dont shoutout at matt for his humourous line itself :D
M P of course everyone knows it is reference from Eminem 🤦🏼♂️
FURY Ł Brenton T but i like it 🤷🏼♂️
@@dinass3254 But it's so obvious and overused.
When I open about my anxiety, I get laughed at because I’m still young and I shouldn’t have to worry about anything because I’m single. I’m almost in tears as I write this.
I always have a difficult time explaining how i feel to people. And when i finally explain how i feel, i always feel misunderstood. Feeling the same afterwards... Meditation, gratitude and practicing affirmations and realising that you are completely normal relieves you from a lot of stress. I hope you are doing well today.
Sometimes it's harder when you're young because you don't have the experience of how to deal with it. I had much worse anxiety when I was 19-20 than now that I'm 24. it takes time to know yourself. It will get better and better if you work on it :-)
keep your head up... we all struggle together. But be thankful to have the possibility to be part of the life on earth for a while :)
I have had anxiety since I was 7. I am super lucky to have had access to a therapist, but I went through three years without hardly any help. Nobody takes a 7 year old with anxiety seriously. And it only got worse. But I'm doing better now. If you have any mental issues, PLEASE TRY THERAPY!
@@TGDreaming I'm 18 and I can figure out how to deal with anxiety especially when you have parents who do not acknowledge that it actually there.....
A professor once told me Anxiety is fear of the future and Depression is fear of the past.
Kermit Kardashain that’s so true
Maybe
and that's a bunch of crap
Lol and when you have both?
@TheMaikiller I think it's a great simplification in terms of understanding the thought process. When you're anxious (which is what I suffer from) everything you worry about is literally hypotheticals, and forward thinking. Its a lot of what-ifs and dreading of things to come. I don't experience depression, but from people I've spoken to, the weight you feel is based on things that have happened or are happening. Like, it's based on conclusions rather than hypotheticals. So to simplify this, anxiety is based on unknowns, and depression is based on the knowns. They're closely linked. BUT, you're right, you can't fix this just by "thinking differently" or "accepting the past"
Bro, you're an inspiration man. Having bipolar depression myself, I appreciate you being open about your anxiety.
@Arra Aww thank you:]
Eminem’s lyrics in the video was perfect 😂
2:21.
200th
It was great 😂😂😂
Haha 😂
Eminem's lyrics are the ultimate cure for anxiety.
Wow. Huge respect for the vulnerability you are brave enough to show all of your followers. This is what makes your channel incredible. Keep it personal, it is awesome getting to know you!
Respect
We don't talk enough about the physical aspects of anxiety and panic. It can feel exclusively physical when really it is just your brain freaking out.
No joke my hands get so hard to move I can't play video games or guitar even when it's completely without consequence
I always somehow convince myself that I’m having a heart attack. My left shoulder tightens up, chest hurts, and it’s uncomfortable to breath.
@@trevorgcasey I get that too. And my hands get so shakey that I can't even open a bottle of water. It's truly frightening.
What I learned from dealing with anxiety is that the physical symptoms are often related to the way you breath. Stress/panic can cause you to take shallow breaths, putting you in a state of hyperventilation (dizziness, tingling in the lips, hands or feet, headache, weakness, fainting). Recognising this and learning to control your breath can really help you regain.
@@MaartenDeckers That's why meditation can be incredibly helpful when dealing with panic attacks. Because it makes you more aware of your breath. Not only during the practice but in general.
I feel you 100%. Been through this over the last 1 1/2 years including derealization, depression but mostly anxiety and worrying all day..and it will get better, it got better. Even if there is no hope at all at some point. Keep going man, great content!
You're hitting home with this one. This is a subject I feel most people are ashamed to admit but we all go through. Great vid!
For me it’s this constant struggle against my own thoughts “ok do I have anxiety” “No I’m just overthinking” “Stop blaming your unwillingness to work through your problems on anxiety” and it’s just confusing and tough at times, because sometimes you just can’t convince yourself to stop even though you know you’re going crazy.
@@Tater_Toot It's a constant struggle, but you must find a way to quiet the mind and get comfortable with the uncomfortable.
I was suicidal for years...i came to realize the more ignorant we are the more anxious we get....
@@curiousgeorge6921 It becomes a negative feedback loop. The only way to break out is to embody what we want to become and avoid looking at the future through the lens of past experiences.
@@ojavier760 no the only way out is expanding your perspective about reality by new knowledge
Get better soon! Building habits that don't depend on a specific location is very helpful 👌
But how ironic is it that we don't live in the future, or the past? We only live in the now.
Things that have helped me manage my anxiety:
• seeing a counselor/therapist that can help me identify what I’m feeling, why I’m feeling it, and how to cope with these feelings.
• having friends that will not shame you or dismiss your anxiety. They will help you through the really tough moments and rejoice with you through the victories.
• Yoga, yoga, yoga. Helps me breath and release the tension I’m holding.
• Allowing myself to take s l o w moments. Drinking tea. Reading a book. Sitting outside. One thing at a time❤️
"Just trust me, your reality is not gonna be like this forever"
The ending hits my anxiety point. Thank you for sharing Matt🔥
The moment you said palms are sweaty and we both sang along to the lyrics, I wished I could subscribe to you twice. 😂 Thank you for all that you do, Matt.
Create a 2nd account & then sub to him again, I guess :p
Don't press subscribe twice or you'll unsubscribe lol
Support him on Patreon then.
Props for speaking out. We need more people to do so. Mental health is SUCH an important topic
I'm dealing with anxiety for the 1st time in my life right now - started a few weeks ago. It is hard to accept this loss of control over my own mental state, and the way it affects my physical state. Thanks for sharing.
My anxiety is related to the constant feeling that I should be doing more and that I am underachieving, despite the fact that the past year I have grown consistently both personally and profesionally.
Ciocan Vlad I feel the same way, now it's like consistent brain fog for me too
Relatable.
That's so true. I feel like I'm stuck although I'm constantly making progress. And that's a never ending loop where I think that I should've done more.
Relatable 😴😴😴
Watching a video of yours, brings me in some kind of meditative state. Calming, relaxed, honesty & transparency. Thank you for opening up!
Yess, every time when I'm stressed or fed up with humanity i watch his videos and everything goes back to normal
2:24 Continues with the Palms are sweaty joke until mom's spaghetti
Me: Ah i see you are a man of culture as well.
Shafikh T loved this line...
Exactly !
anxiety hides other issues, like wanting to be in control of everything and obsessions are useful to us so we don't need to fix shit we need to fix for real. LOVE THIS VIDEO. thank you!
Sharon Selene that makes no goddamn sense.
Sharon Selene Yoo This!!! @flexnflyofficial
Nicolas Melia cause you’re not thinking about what she said...what she said can actually be true for some
Anxiety kills my stomach. Never really understand the “anxiety hurts” until recently
Bruh for real!
Anxiety hurts ! So does depression!
Thisss
"palms are sweaty, knees weak, arms are heavy, mom's spaghetti"
You won 😂
Marco Cardinali I was so pleased that he went down the lyrics route as soon as I heard “palms are sweaty” ha!
oh my god I started to laugh so hard
I've dealt with anxiety since I was a child. I'm so grateful that you posted this. Thanks Matt! 🙏
I needed this as a reassurance that theres nothing wrong with having anxiety. Thank you Matt 🙏🏽
Hi Matt, thank you for sharing this. Anxiety gets me sometimes too, I feel overwhelmed and how you said it ,,without of control." Sometimes it helps me feel my body, I mean to be in the body not in the head. e.g. I´m laying in my bed worrying about tomorrow tasks and work, and how early I have to get up and be fresh .... knock knock - here is your anxiety! So it helps me realize - I´m NOW laying in my bed, feel how cushy it is, smell the sheets, lay my hand on my belly and feel the breath... And it helps me calm my anxiety mind.
Greetings from Czech republic and again, thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts :)
Michaela Kubes good idea for calming down!
I also have anxiety and the book that was recommended by my therapist: "The Happiness Trap" by Russ Harris has completely changed my life. I could not recommend it more. Thank you for the video.
Maude Beauchemin thank you for recommending a book, I’ll have to check it out. I’m kinda going thru some stuff with other people as well and this could help :)
Maude Beauchemin I’m reading this book online and it’s helping me thank you 😊
I've had both depression and anxiety and I found anxiety was harder to handle in general...
Same it feels like you have some problem inside of you as your thoughts are racing very fast...
Yea was like that but depression is a weird feeling
Olivia B I’ve had anxiety, depression, and an eating disorder and having them all at the same time was HELL.
@@mr.beancouldbreakmyspleen643 wow I'm so sorry to hear that! Hope you're doing okay now
I agree, I find it much harder to handle. xx
You’re not alone. I struggle with it too. Feel better! 🙏🏻
Matt, I had it pretty bad a couple of years back so I just wanted to share what helped me personally, in order of importance:
- Started boxing (your stress levels go UP when sparring with someone, then plummet down after the session, and the amazing thing is, they stay down. This could be any sport that's physical, and also confrontational)
- Went to therapy
- Stopped drinking coffee
- Got into nature more often
I notice you drink a lot of coffee - it's real, try cutting it out. Hope you get better man and thanks for sharing, love your vids
Thomas Alex Norman I was the same and that helped me too, I also recommend meditation or just exercising mindfull breathing and reducing amount of done things, just giving yourself time for resting, for not doing anything, charging batteries and reducing overstimulation
*for doing nothing
Do you think therapy was a major factor in you strengthening your mind? How long after you quit caffeine did you see things get better? Just curious. I had 2 panic attacks beginning of June, since then I’ve quit smoking weed carts and caffeine all together. I’ve also been put on Prozac by my doctor. Just wondering if I can attribute some of this severe anxiety to quitting those 2 drugs cold turkey. I’m also moving and looking to change jobs so I know that can be a factor even though I’m excited about moving.
@@RolandKoller90 If you're thinking about therapy i'd do it, it usually can only be a positive thing, at least to try for a few months. Hard to say, because I did a bunch of things at the same time (that which I said above), so can't be sure of any which one is was that helped specifically
Every time I get extremely anxious, I come back to this video and watch it again.
Thank you, Matt.
It takes courage to share vulnerabilities with the world.
You are brave Matt.
Also, I love your jacket
I have anxiety too...its very scary often☔️ thank u for sharing your journey! lots of love from Germany!
A big hug I have anxiety as well
@Reaber Saadi Thank u, i will try it
@@sandrapereira2282 Awww a big hug back... you are not alone
I'm with you man. Struggling with social anxiety. Wünsche dir alles gute✌🏼
@@insjen Ich danke dir, wünsche ich dir auch! hab übrigens dein Profilbild als Wallpaper ✌🏼
Things that have helped ne through some tough times:
1: Acceptance. Accept the feelings, let them flow don’t try to push it away
2: Routine. A routine of healthy meals and exercise, things that make you happy, which leads to the key to winning over the anxiety:
CONFIDENCE.
If you feel confident in your life situation and body, you almost always win the battle when feelings of anxiety starts coming.
Another way I go about this is that feelings of anxiety can be a way for the body to tell you to slow the f*ck down. So if you start feeling it, take a day off, sleep like a baby, watch movies, relax. The day after will be 100 times better.
Great content, you’re a big inspiration to me!
Peace🤘🏻
Acceptance is the only thing that will cure it and yeah you heard it right cure, not manage. A channel that helped me grasped acceptance was WondeBro i have came a super long way. But anxiety can be a beast yeah but with commitment and retraining your brain you can overcome anxiety
Thank you for these tips!!! I need to take a day off
Well i cant let my feelings out
When I talk about my anxiety I always say that I live with it. I don't suffer from it. It's small but how we talk about things matters.
I never realized I had anxiety until my second semester of college when everything just seemed to be going downhill. Top that with depression and you have an emotional wreck. I was crying all the time not wanting to be in school anymore and constantly worrying about the safety and wellbeing of my family. I am glad I was able to realize what was going on and went to counseling before it got worse. Thank you for sharing!
To me.... breath and meditation helps me a lot. Also to write down all the feelings I have in the moment.
Stay strong Matt !!
Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for the vulnerability, Matt. This conversation was great and I hope that you feel better.
He’s Nervous but on the surface he looks calm and ready... I think you just inspired my next recipe: Mom’s Spaghetti 🍝
Damn this is crazy, whenever I feel stressed or worries I always think of how Matt D'Avella seems to have it sorted. It's refreshing to know that everyone can feel this way
2019 had a rough start for me. My brother almost died and my mom broke her leg while on a trip, so I couldn’t see her for some weeks and had to make things work at home alone. My best friend attempted suicide and I broke up with my (then) gf. Two of my pets died. I was in a really bad space mentally. But nothing is permanent. I healed. We need to process things and sometimes it’s hard. Our mind are so complicated but that’s kind of the beauty of it.
You are not alone. Thanks for being so honest and inspiring
i recently moved as well, and I have been struggling with so much anxiety. Getting into new routines, my whole world feels shifted. Thanks for sharing this!
Anxiety can be brutal.
I used to get social anxiety and sweats would follow.
Highly embarrassing.
Personally CBD is what helped me.
CBT right ??!
@_Abir22 bro i used to live like that its an illusion , i realised that i did not born to be scared or to be occupied by anxiety , i was born to be fearless and happy
Aejaz ahmed are u stoopid bruhh
@@aejazahmed7768 Perhaps he means CBD oil , some anxiety sufferers benefit from it
@@2FlyyENT likewise
Matt, in a weird sort of way i'm really glad you shared this. I have suffered with acute anxiety all my life, and over the summer (in Australia) i had numerous amounts of panic attacks, which seemed like they happened for no aparent reason. Stumbling across your videos, they helped, minimalism was introduced into my life and i suddenly felt like it could help. I cleaned out my bedroom (still living with my parents // film school student) and it helped me. I just want to say thank you, your openess and willingness to share has made me feel, well, not so alone. I really look up to you and you're a cool guy Matt. Just know, it really truly does get better.
From your friend,
Aaron :)
I've had some severe anxiety that prevented me from getting out of my bed, two weeks ago. The thing that changed was when I realized it was just a matter of time. Time for me to get through it, because everything changes, but also time for myself. Turns out stressing about responsibilities was driving me crazy, so I just started to take time to get proper rest, to be with myself and do the things I truly enjoy. The anxiety has reduced a ton after that.
Also, I have two mantras for dealing with overthinking. "Whatever happens, happens" (Cowboy bebop reference), and "Change what you can change, and learn to accept what you can't change". Despite the nature of impermanence, we have to learn to accept that we can't change some things, and that's ok.
Hope some of these help you dude. I can only feel empathy and appreciation for the vulnerability. Thanks for sharing those.
I have this as well that drives me away from the things that I love because of the responsibility that comes with it. Tbh I don’t know how to handle it and cater the issue from within. I’ve been having this problem for a few years now.
What do you do regularly to brave yourself to take the responsibility? Do you have any books/some reading you can recommend me to calm this symptoms down?
Realisation is the best. I appreciate the open conversation. I'm only 17 and im watching your channel and i've actively taken most of the things in your videos and i'm grateful. I'm learning how to develop self-control over my phone and the simplicity found in our daily lives. Keep doing you! #gratefulness
Dying is a waste of time
-Matt D'Avella,2019
Lmao😂
Dying is not minimalistic enough
#Edgy 😂😂😂😭♥️
Making the world more minimal by having less people
“If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.”
― Lao Tzu
I hope this helps
Ash Propan thank you for sharing.
I struggle/live with anxiety as well, and I’m so glad you made this video. Thank you for this.
Thank you for using your platform to help so many Matt x you're not alone!
" If it's going to happen it's going to happen"
- Wise words from Matt
WoW!! This is exactly me. I have been dealing with anxiety since I was 21, but when I moved into my parent's house five months ago after three years to take a break from my full-time job, out of nowhere, I started having severe panic attacks. And also about the fights, even minor turbulence scares the life out of me. The thing is, even those people who really want to help me don't understand what I feel when I am having an episode.
2:23 I think you just cured my anxiety 😂❤️
Thanks for the ❤️ Matt. Love your content 👍🏾
Eminem ?
anxiety can be so overwhelming, our minds can be so skilled at convincing us what is true or what isn't...
i went through a period of severe anxiety and one thing i was very afraid of in that time were the mice in our house... i was afraid they'd jump me in my sleep... to the point where i slept with the lights on, felt things moving on my legs but when i looked nothing was there...
knowing that is scary. but it's also powerful! we can *use* our minds to shape the reality we desire! anything is possible :)
Anxiety is all in your head and it’s all real
shut up
High five man! 😅 I'm feeling the same recently, let's get through this together🤜🏻🤛🏼 and we'll overcome💥
Anxiety is definitely something to be aware of. Especially when in stressful environments like business. Something I will be covering on my TH-cam channel as well, thank you so much for the amazing video Matt! :)
Connor Chapman definitely worth being aware of. I didn’t know how controlling it can be with some people...
Thank you for sharing so honestly. Showing ones vulnerability is sometimes so hard but often so important. If you feel you need a holiday or otherwise take it easy - just do it. Your audience will be here, because we're not going anywhere!
At 2:25 I thought we were about to get the music video of the decade! Lol
But seriously- thank you for sharing. This was super raw and real
When you suffer before its necessary, you suffer more than necessary.
Thank you so much for posting this. Anxiety can be incredibly isolating and it feels so good to hear that other people have the same symptoms and you are not, in fact, dying.
When I moved my anxiety was sky high. Took nearly a year to feel like home again! I don’t like change 😜
Exercise and interacting more with friends helped me deal with my anxiety a little. Also hugs.
John Smith That’s one of the main things that I decided to provide for travelers. It really is helpful. @flexnflyofficial
John Smith I agree 100% this helps me a lot too especially now preparing for college
when im around good friends and good people, it helps...but where i live now, i have no one. i am here by myself, no family around, and i freak tf out. also super depressed
'Also hugs'. Beautiful.
*sends online hugs*
Hey there, I've been going through the same thing for a few years now, so it means a lot to hear you talk about this so openly because I would've never guessed you to be an anxious person. From your minimalist lifestyle to outgoing personality, you seemed very relaxed and 'regular,' so I'm happy to see you speak out about this as a form of therapy. It not only gives others the comfort that we're not alone, but we also get to see someone cope with it and tell us how he's doing it. Moving can be scary and starting over in a new place can very well feel like you're dying. I've been there with any change in the norm. You'll make it out the other side, we all do, but thanks again for sharing your experience.
Let the uncertainty of what you are going through become the fuel to help slingshot you forward. Come to grips with your thoughts and reality; meditate on it. Then use that positive (and negative) energy that comes from it to motivate you forward. I'm no therapist and can't even admit that I struggle with anxiety or depression but when I have those thoughts that you described, I try and re-centralize that energy toward the good in my life. Thanks for your honesty and vulnerability Matt!
Personally have never had anxiety but working in the medical field I have dealt with my fair share of anxious people.
Big props to being open about your anxiety! Something which isn't talked about a lot!
I never thought that you can ever get anxious. I always looked up to you with all hopes. But now more respect to you for speaking up about this. This often happens and I didn't knew how to exactly get out of it. An anxiety takes over your inner own, disables you and oppresses finally. But there's always a hope in mind that pulls it out of the dark well.
Keep speaking up about mental health. Tq
you have your breath, thats what I do when I have anxiety, I focus on inhale and exhale. It sounds silly, but It helps me.
Great content Matt!
Anxiety is all about your nervous system and your capacity of it to adapt to your world. If you push too hard on adaptation (work, sport, worrying...) and do not overcompensate with some rest, there you're getting anxiety. It's your body telling you to slow down.
You have to overcompensate to get back to normal. (good sleep, massage, sun..)
“If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.”
Lao Tzu
Noor Play so im living at past and future at same time xd
This is a lie because I have MDD Mayor depression disorder and I don’t get depressed because of the past , I don’t get depressed about anything. I just feel depressed and thats is , feeling like my heart aches and feeling sluggish for no reason. Wanting to die because I don’t want to feel the pain of depression. So yeah thats not true but its catchy haha.
But I constantly worry about my past, present and about my future lol so anxiety is a milkshake of everything
My panic attacks are diffrent everytime, although usually they are triggered by something, i have had attacks while lying in bed trying to fall asleep. scariest thing ever! so glad i have not had one in public.. Things are much better now!!! I have not had an attack in over 5 months now…* Here’s how => 4PanicAndAnxietyCure.blogspot.com
Depressed and anxious - you live in a void.
I've experienced severe anxiety for the first time in my life this past weekend (I am 22). What a coincidence that you just now talk about it. Although my anxiety stopped for the most part (I faced the situation and talked to the regarding person), the insight in your situation and the perspective you have on this topic actually helped me quite a lot.
Thanks for opening up, that's brave!
Vulnerability is part of yourself, your true self, when you’re putting out content. Vulnerability is key for chasing your dreams and becoming a loving person. Keep going man
It's incredibly brave for you to be so open and honest about your anxiety. It's something that I'm so so glad I asked for help with. Over the last few months, I've been getting better. And it helps so much to see people I look up to, like you, be able to have a conversation about it. It's okay to have anxiety. Hope you're having a good day x
I feel like a lot of creators having anxiety with the pressure to keep creating and the fear that it can all go away
wow... just wow. On your channel, you always look so put together. Best of luck to you man!!
Thanks for sharing this Matt, I have struggled really badly with Anxiety for about 4 years now. Watching your videos have helped me immensely over the past year. Keep plugging away at life, it will ease and get better. Thanks for opening up with this, it helps all of us that have similar struggles to know that we are not alone.
I love your vídeos. Thank you for showing your “real” feeling. Makes me feel normal as an anxiety person
Why does anxiety happen? Unlike normal feelings of anxiousness, this seems completely irrational
But you are normal!
💖
Be real
Be awesome
Be you
I have the same challenge in my life. And this is a challenge you have to take with love and compassion. Stand tall my friend.
This EXACT thing happened to me just this past week- 50/50 new business/ job, travel, time constraints, slipping gym routine- I felt detached, sick and confused. This video articulated it perfectly- a major help in itself. This video really helped calm things
Matt, your work has been extremely inspiring. Keep up the good work, please. Lots of love.
Never clicked so fast on a video. Massive respect!
Sameeeee
Same!
Luka Srbič me too
Thank you for this video Matt. We always assume that people who have everything under control could control their emotions as well. But that’s not always the case. Thank you for being honest about it.
You described me 100% about the plane journey.
miss l c I hope I’ll be able to see you at one of our classes at the airport. People like you are the reason I created my company. @flexnflyofficial
My man... honestly just describing the script of everytime I fly on planes... ❤️ you got this Matt!!
Thank you for being transparent with us Matt.
Dealing with creapling anxiety is scary thing, for me it helped to realize that it's okey to feel that way. When ever you get anxiety attack, just tell your self, "Okay this is anxiety, this storm will pass" , dont try to fight it, just let it pass.
Especially after all you been, it's normal to feel that way.
"mum's spaghetti" xD Loved the eminem easter egg ^^
Great video Matt :) And good luck !
As soon as he said "palms are sweaty", my mind went down the 8 mile route and then all of a sudden Matt said "mum's spaghetti" and I started laughing out of shock
@@francis_n same here lol
Wow, dude. Just went through exactly the same thing, down to the allergy thing in a newly renovated apartment. Thanks for this! 💪
Tq for talking about this. It is a sensitive issue and you are really lucky to have Natalie. A listening ear is one of the most wonderful gift a person could give to someone
Just what I needed to hear now. Thanks for opening up Matt! Hope you feel better soon.
Very helpful. I’ve had and currently have bad anxiety right now and the way you’ve describe your anxiety is exactly what I’m feeling. I feel that’s the most important thing is to recognize your not alone and that there’s people dealing with the same thing and people are here to help. For anyone with anxiety don’t wait to talk to someone just do it hopefully they will listen.
Great job explaining this Matt. Anxiety is no joke.
"Im not crazy, Im allergic to this apartment" haha. Thank you for sharing. This was a perfect "anxiety" thought. I was convinced for years that I had a lung condition. and I had my Doctor run a pulmonary function test (again) to prove to me (again) that no, I can breathe, my lungs are great, its just anxiety.