The PARENTIFICATION of Dijonay Jones 🍼🍼🍼
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- My reaction to Dijonay Jones of The Proud Family always having to watch her 8 siblings who are outrageous. Penny always had Bebe and Cece but this takes it to another level. Let's discuss this down below. Please don't forget to comment, like and subscribe. Thank You!!!
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Edit: I kept saying Dijonay had 8 siblings when she really had 9. That makes the points even stronger 🙃
It kinda does, lol she makes 9, honestly whoever knows this show, they understand, good video, you give the show justice
Do an episode on when Penny wishes her siblings were old enough to take care of themselves. That one would really scar a kid. Knowing that her parents literally love them more and would let them do whatever they wanted but always put penny down. The end literally has penny being the only one remembering that it happened so she would have to live with that knowledge the rest of her childhood and even adult life.
parents like Dijonay's do this and while they're out 'grocery' shopping, they come back with 'Hey ready for sibling number 9?' and it's just plain irresponsible for the whole family
Knowing damn well they didn't even want baby #5
They seem pretty neglectful. They even lied about the reason they were going out. They wanna party instead of take care of the kids they CHOSE to have.
Makes me wonder how they afford enough food for everyone
@@edatheowllady9518 Food stamps and government assistance
@@edatheowllady9518sadly its normally just buy cheap stuff and let the big sibling worry about it while they get stuff for themselves
Supernanny dealt with the topic of parentified kids. One literally fainted from exhaustion. Another developed panic attacks. As a CPTSD person who endure parentification, most psychologists believe it can cause or contribute to TRAUMA. No joke. That's why it shouldn't be normalized.
I remember that episode 😔 the mother was out of her mind
I was literally one of the kids who was heavily parentified. It really ruined my desire to have children and turned me into a child free anti natilist.
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Same.
@sissysovereign1294 same. I love them but I do not want any
I genuinely think it contributed to my cptsd symptoms 😅
I would love to feel bad for her if the writers didn’t make her so annoying. They could’ve made her someone to relate to
Hopefully they fix that in the new season 👀
@@TonyTurner I think its good to have imperfect characters. It gives them room to grow. Not to mention they were in middle school / jr high in the OG show, most middle schoolers are insufferable. Thats why in the show everyone had their moments of awfulness, even the "good" characters like Zoey. It was to show that everyone can be sucky at times but they're still your friend, and have good moments too. Perhaps they could've shown them grow more, but I think they were fine as they are.
If characters start perfect they're boring, theres no room to grow. In modern shows its too common to have alot of the cast be basically Mary Sues, even in the villain. Too sympathetic, not really a villain. No where to go...Then when they try to fix it later by adding character flaws it makes them seem terrible from starting good and going bad.
@@trl2151 uh, you do know that a character can be likable and still be have flaws right? It’s not you can’t have both. And while Dijonay has problems, she’s also a really bad friend in general, as she often leaves Penny for the popular crowd, even if it would benefit her to stay with her friend from childhood.
@@trl2151 that's the thing...she never grows(Lacienga too)
@@TonyTurner tbh she got better in the reboot...but ppl still crap on her for the past series... harder on her than laci...who is actually worse
I agree that Dijonay's parents doesn't care for her or her siblings. Maybe that why when we see how Dijonay take care of her siblings is just put on headphones and let them run wild. It does feel like Dijonay wishes she was an only child. Like i can see Dijonay blames her siblings and even her parents for how she acts and is in life, but that not an excuse.
Right, she's like a prisoner in her own home. That would make a great episode for the reboot
@@TonyTurner I agree. If the reboot wants to hits harder topics then oversize family should be some talk about. It is hardly talk about and explore the topic.
As a childhood trauma survivor, you do have to be responsible for not passing it on to others. Ya gotta break the cycle.
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No, it's not an excuse, but it _is_ information that's good to keep in mind for our own judgments. It doesn't make her less terrible in my eyes, but at least I can come to a better conclusion about her. Honestly hope they never have some sort of "flash forward to the future" segment thing at the end of it all that cartoons sometimes do where she's doing the same damn thing to kids of her own, even if it would track for this kind of mistreatment. Would rather have a moment of "my new therapist is working out for me" because this kind of thing is going to take therapy.
A couple of things:
1) Thank you for speaking out against foster parents or adoptive parents who won't stop taking on more kids. People act like it's this courageous, honorable thing. It can be, but most of the time, it's not, and I'm saying that from experience.
2) I feel like it's not even that Dijonay's parents can't take care of their kids, it's that they don't want to. They seem to have this attitude like oh, someone else will do it, I don't feel like it right now. I see that kind of thing a lot, and I feel like, man, that's your kid. You made that kid. The kid got no say in any of this, and now you're treating them like a chore? You're just going to pawn them off on the other kid you don't want to take care of, who also has no say in any of this? How do you sleep at night?
Yup. My mom is a respite care provider for military families with special needs kids, and the parents are VERY ungrateful since they don’t have to spend a dime for childcare. There’s this couple who adopted four kids, and the youngest one had her tonsils removed the day before my mom went to sit. The adopted mom ran out to go to work before even giving her the necessary medication. (She expected my mom to do even though she’s not allowed to administer medications at her level) This kid got really aggressive and refused to eat anything before my mom finally had to call the girl’s mom back and leave.
In regards to how both girls feel about having to be constantly stuck babysitting their siblings, the frustration flows differently. Penny got to enjoy being a only child for over a decade before the twins came into the picture. Dijonnay on the other hand might have had two or three years before being outnumbered.
And as bad as Oscar and Trudy can be for put the twins on Penny, at least they realized they weren't her responsibility, the Jones are completely irresponsible and they should have started taking precautions after baby three of four. It's a miracle Dijonnay has any sense at all with the way things are going at her home.
I get such a kick out of Tony’s never-ending supply of different Aaliyah shirts!
Nameing your kid hot sauce is wack
I once knew a girl who had like 10 other siblings and was the middle child so she hardly got seen other than at school and like 14 people apparently lived in that one house
Wowww
With the show talking about serious topics all the time, I'm surprised they've never done a CPS episode or two yet with Dijonay. They could actually do that. They could also make Dijonay a better person/character with it too. Have her stand up to her parents or something. There's been no solution so far for this. It's just been a bit of a joke (like Dijonay.) I really hope they do _something_ like that for season 3.
I never understood the "let's have ten + kids" thing. Just two or three can be a lot for some families. Children are expensive and need proper care. (Some more than others.) I'm the youngest so I can't really relate to being the oldest kid though lol.
I’ve seen plenty of Reddit stories of Parents either parentifying the oldest child or parents just emotionally and financially supporting the one kid while only half heartedly supporting the other children, favouritism parents.
In the case of Dijon my theory is that since her parents are so busy with either jobs or other stuff they make Dijon babysit, putting everything on her, and since the children are noisy and obnoxious, that no babysitter would watch the children, Dijon would be the only person acceptable for the position, and she’s most likely to picking up her parents entitlement, and her sisters rebelliousness and showing the same sassy attitude towards her friends whenever they get put In a bad situation, like the time she basically shamed Zoey since she was only asked out because she is white. Dijon took offence to that even though she already had a boyfriend.
She doesn’t want to play second fiddle but to have the spotlight all the time despite how it’ll hurt others.
I feel like there is such a massive difference between people having tons of kids and/or only prioritizing certain ones versus folks who have children that were unplanned or...I don't want to say unwanted, but from unwanted or unfortunate circumstance. Thank you so much for talking about this and bringing more depth to light on Dijonay's character and home life.
It would be nice to see more character development for Dijonay. Something that makes her character feel multi-dimensional. I feel like if they did this and showed this it wouldn't justify how she treats her friends, but maybe it would explain it. We could maybe root for her more if we had the background? Or we could see how she changes?
Yes, we really do need to look into Dijonay’s home life more. Maybe have Sugar Mama come over and take care of her siblings.
Thing is Suga Mama can’t stand Dijonay. In the original series, she was the one who kept telling Penny that Dijonay is a “fake” friend.
suga mama would riot if she saw dinonay's home life
With that many kids they should have an adult taking care and helping.
She probably started being loud just to be able to have her siblings hear her which is a lost cause because they most likely not even listen
I'm an only child of a nurse, and what I did gather from this - mostly from hearing my mom's unfiltered commentary (heck I got in trouble in school for not having a filter :D) - As you said 'it's not an excuse' but, from what I've seen when it comes to situation like Dijonay, there's always a choice; she had the choice not to be a back stabber. She had the choice not to ditch Penny. She had the choice not to do...*motions to her throughout the series* she does it anyway. In the end, 14+ Is old enough to know actions have consequences and I'm more amazed Penny hadn't dropped her after the boy band fiasco or when Dijony outed Maya's gay parents despite Penny saying "YOU CAN'T TELL ANYONE!" Again. Dijony had choices and her home life while I can somewhat sympathize as parentification is abuse, no-one can say "Oh well it's because of the 9 little siblings is why she acts out-" No. Having Nine Siblings is not why the hell she outed some stranger's family. Having Nine Siblings is not why she backstabs Penny time and time again. I personally think Dijonay would've been the same if she were an only child.
Maybe not, it sounds like she’s not being parented herself. Her parents seem totally irresponsible.
Nah. I respectfully disagree. She was so busy looking after others kids when she was a kid herself. She never learnt right from wrong because her parents seemed negligent. Also there is so much competition in those families with lots of kids and little parenting! Sometimes they get along but other times it’s every person for themselves.
My family has a long history of having more than 4 kids. I notice that the generations who had more than 3 siblings, tend to have low contact, no contact or a toxic version of "family loyalty". Most of them show clear signs of childhood emotional neglect and abuse. I found that I personally, value close intimate bonds with people, so I only plan to have 2 kids. More than 2 becomes a situation where it is impossible to meet all of their emotional needs as children. I know I can be a great mother to 2 kids. More than that is irresponsible of me. Also, I will have made the babies, so I should be the primary caregiver. Not my oldest child.
I have 2 siblings and we're low-contact, but it's probably more related to living so close to extended family.
I'd like to see an episode where the Jones family gets a visit from CPS.
It would be a sad episode though. CPS walking in, investigating, taking the children away and Dijonay included. The parents look at each other’s face with joy and scream “Las Vegas Here We Go!” I’ll be really disgusted and sad. That would mean that the Proud family has to go to court to get Dijonay released into their custody. At least until she graduates school and turns eighteen years. Seeing another side of Dijonay adjusting to the Proud’s family rules would be interesting and her progression into adulthood.
Oldest of a big family here. Lots of love and support from both parents. I had niche interests growing up and didn’t really get the attention I wanted, but I never felt taken for granted, and I made sure the younger kids turned out right, helping teach and stuff. Now my younger siblings are all interested in the same things I liked growing up, because I helped raise them and passed on my interests. Big families can be amazing, but they require a lot of work and a lot of love from everyone, parents and kids alike
The episode where Penny is locked out by Trudy would have been better if it was about Dijonay and her relationship with her parents and siblings.
Penny might grow up to hate Bebe and Cece because she had to give up her childhood to take care of them. The kids don't deserve to be hated but that's typically what happens.
If I had kids I'm not allowing them to babysit at all so they won't grow up to hate their younger siblings
😅I don't have problem with hating kids or your younger siblings
I mean I don’t think baby sitting the younger siblings. But for maybe 1-2 hours once every month. But not to the magnitude penny and Dejonee.
Honestly I would just make it a money thing. Like a 'Hey, If I go to this cycle class on Tuesday evening, would you mind watching your little brother? I'll give you $20'
It's a good way to teach responsibility, but it should be their choice.
Oh she probably already does. There was an episode in the original show that outright proved to penny that her parents and suga mamma loved them more than penny. Letting them do what they want, wear what they want (calling penny plain as an excuse for not letting her wear a mini skirt), giving them money every time they left the house, etc. Even suga mamma throws penny to the side. When the episode ends, only Penny remembers what happened and what the adults did. That would mess a kid up!
How do her parents just have 10 kids!? wtf
It may seem like an exaggeration for the show but this actually happens‼
Could've gotten a vasectomy.
It's actually really common where I live. In highschool almost all my classmates came from families of seven, ten or thirteen. Even my family has a family of five kids
My paternal grandparents got married as teens and 14 kids.
@@Jay-gurlI have 1 sibling from both parents and a sister from a different mom and that’s it-
The one thing that Penny and Dijonay have in common.
Hi, I love your videos, but I have a few notes.
I am a Foster Parent and familiar with a lot of experience with this topic.
First, "parentification" is a form of neglect/abuse but is NOT when children help take care of younger ones. It is a term for when the child becomes the parent in the relationship with the parent. It is when the parent leans on the child for emotional needs, financial needs, etc. Raising your younger siblings is not necessarily parentification but they can go together. I don't see it with Dijonay though.
Also, while I agree there are families who have more kids than they should, a little acknowledgement that large families aren't exclusively neglectful and harmful would have been nice.
Especially because MOST foster families do NOT do it for the money and that stereotype is very harmful to those of us trying to help neglected and abused children.
You still have great points, I promise this isn't hate, just some things you might not be aware of. Love your content!
Thank You‼ There's a lot more I could have elaborated on but edited out. I do have to acknowledge that there are many parents who take care of many children without neglecting any and are able to provide them with the essentials.
I’ve been watching these proud family videos from this guy none stop for days now, I don’t know why I love watching these so much😂
Thank You ‼
If the show or the shows characters were all anthropomorphic animals Dijonay and her family would be rabbits with the play on rabbits reproduce a lot. But that would make the family even more bigger.
That was originally the pilot of the Loud House with Lincoln being a bunny with 25 sisters.
Real my parents had 6 kids both my mom and auntie said im a "sorry ahh sister: cause i dont watch them and babysit them all day even when theres ADULTS around like do yall JOB and LEAVE ME ALONE!!!
Not against people having a lot of kids or raising a bunch of kids. Am against parents that have big families and neglect them. There is nothing wrong with having a big family as long as everyone is loved and cared for, but if you know or think you might become neglectful if you have a lot, it might be best to avoid having that many. Some people are meant to have a lot of kids and some people aren't. If you feel like you should wait before having more, you probably should. With every child you bring home, you better prepare to be responsible for and nurturing for and provide the needs for and love and guide. And don't judge or criticize people for having a lot of kids or very few kids or somewhere inbetween or none. As long as everyone in the family is loved and cared for, that's all what matters.
This. If you have that many don't neglect.
@@92JazzQueenUnfortunately, many tend to, there's too many true crime stories of this sort of thing.
There's no humanly way possible for one adult to take care of a few kids at a time. There's a reason that day cares have child limits.
I just finished having my youngest cousins over when they came over with my uncle. He came back from Pennsylvania and brought them with him. Just like he used to do when he had his own place, he continuously left me with them. Look, I understand the parents need a break and their older sister probably used to need one too, but it was just messed up how we would always go over there and I was expected to hang with them while the others had actual fun. I was a teen myself snd I still feel like, I should have at least been compensated for my time. They kept telling me they would pay me to do things and I didn't see a dime. I was the parent when the parents needed a break in their own home and I didn't even get to consent to it. It was expecially messed up when one of them got into something or got hurt and I was blamed for not watching them close enough. I came here to hang out with EVERYBODY, not watch everybody's kids.
It could be, but it might also have to with other factors too like culture, class, education and several other subjects as well.
I’m wondering if disonay is pushing back because in the autism episode she talks about basil watching her siblings so I wonder if he’s being pushed to help too
I had to babysit on my own 16th bday. I'm 38. I'll never forget!
Wowww😮
Having too many kids knowing you cant financially or emotionally provide is abuse. Period. America shouldve passed a law of limiting on this by now. Raising a child is very hard i mean youre raising another life. All children should be able to live their childhood happily with no parentification. And yeah aboit dijonay i feel like thats another add on to her stereotype
Honestly, this was the reason I could never COMPLETELY hate Dijonay. I’m the eldest of five kids, I’m also unlucky enough to be the eldest daughter and my dad ran off when I was 12. Parentification, playing bad cop and being the nagging “no fun” parental figure while being asked “why can’t you just leave home and have your own life?” is second nature.
I like to think that as insufferable as Dijonay is, her behaviour is a mixture of her basically being forced to be older than she is, so therefore she thinks she’s all that like she’s grown, and her trying to have control and be herself as much as she can when she’s outside her stressful home environment.
Obviously that’s not an excuse and it’s not a great coping mechanism, but she’s a kid. She doesn’t know better and her parents are far from role modelling better for her.
Good discussion
Thanks‼
Just came and i haven't seen the whole vid-
But even if shes selfish, because of her siblings (Most probably wanted to be above them because of the attention they got-)
I am an older sister and when i was much younger i was sometimes jealous. It doesn't give Dijonay the right tho for her to bombard Penny with all her siblings.
(Mind yall im still watching the vid at the time im watching so just an opinon ;)💖
True it seems like Dijonay has no boundaries with her friends like Penny because her parents had none with her. It's a free for all in Dijonay's household.
Quite true. I feel as if her parents are the main problems
And the point were u mentioned how because girls like thats parents don't give them attention so they turn to young men made me think of Sticky😅🤔
Just a theory, GOD bless💖
OH AND ALSO living in a hotel with my siblings and parents TOOK THE LIFE OUTTA ME i used to be so happy when i was younger but as time when on all i started to do was sleep i didnt wanna interact with anybody i just wanted to stay on my phone my parents called me lazy and i didn't even defend myself i was just so tired all the time i told my parents and they said it was the phones and my sleep schedule even the times were i went to bed early and woke up early i was STILL tired
The only this i ever wanted in my life was my own personal space i remember in elementary i always had to lie to my "friends" about where i live cause i was embarrassed about it. Its not fair. I shouldn't have to struggle cause my parent's poor decisions and i cant even fix it i feel a husk of a person at this
I never had a friend inside my house EVER. It was forbidden. I was the oldest of the second set in a single parent household that was in deep poverty. I hate to say it, but my mother was a pack rat so on top of sharing my room with my siblings I shared it with more and more of my mother's things until I literally had to climb over stuff to slide into a hole to get into my bunk bed. Seriously! I would tell her not to bring home more stuff, but there was always a plan and a project for the item and the list of "plans" kept growing and things would literally rot in the yard because she didn't do the plan for the items first like she should have.
@@oblitusunum6979 I'm so sorry to hear that :( I just don't understand how some people can have kids do that to them and not see a problems
My mom was the oldest of 4 (between her parents) and she had to “help” raise her other siblings that she didn’t ask for and was volun-FORCED to do. She sought for her own independence and would do nearly anything for it (like joining the military, but was blocked from doing so because of her father; then became a police officer, which he still didn’t approve of at the time, but she got to live out her dream until her recent passing last September from cancer).
Much like Dijonay, my mom meant well, but her actions came off as selfish [at times] because she’d step on who ever she needed to in order to gain / maintain independence. I feel as though I mirror BOTH of them because while I only have the ONE [older] sibling, I became an afterthought so they could focus more on him and it was mostly to my detriment AND expense (for lack of better words).
Thanks for sharing that ‼
In my opinion, you can have a big family if you are a responsible and know you are up for it. I do think some oversized families have irresponsible parents but there are others where the parents have a good head. There are legit questions about birthing kids and just squandering on your oldest but on the other hand there are people who can be judgemental about big families and assume the worst without question. I say plan with oldest about watching sublings or even better dont hurt for an adult sitter to watch because maybr your oldest is ready for all that and again is still a minor.
I'm the youngest out of 6 kids and i remember feeling really bad for my oldest sister because our parents made her babysit all of us 24/7 and we struggled a lot financially growing up. When my older siblings got older and started having kids they started putting my nieces and nephews on me 24/7 just like my parents did to them and now i can't stand being around little kids for too long and i am planning on getting sterilized so i never have to worry about pregnancy or raising kids.
One thing though in that episode djonnay did pay them to be bad for penny and sided against her when she tried to get in penny's graces. I ❤ even they know what their sister did was messed up.
I was parentified growing up tbh. I feel the pain it sucks being stuck being the parent as a kids yourself.
As cruel as thid may sound, some people in the world just shouldn't have kids, refardless of good intentions.
Dijonay's mama was the original Keke Wyatt 🤣Did Dijonay have a father that was present? I can't recall a father ever being mentioned. I think she came from a single parent household. Most likely she has a different father from her siblings and I'm sure her siblings had different fathers too. Mama popping out babies for every man that she gets with. Reminds me of the movie Claudine.
Lol they showed the father in the clip with The Chang Triplets
I was parentified at 7 years old - told they were trying again for their ideal child since I "wasn't that" - then the 'ideal child' was left to be raised by the 7-year old because dad was working and mom was drunk.
I grew up with a guy who was the oldest of 7 and yes he and his (1st) younger brother were often put in charge. His parents were NOTHING like Dijonay’s parents.
I actually have exactly 8 siblings and I had to take care of my siblings at a young age, since im third oldest. Also the atenttion from my parents was lacking a lot. So I can easily relate to Didoney
Okay I understand that Dijonay has 9 siblings and yes I understand why she act like this but Im not a parent myself but I know ho hard it is to take care a kid let alone 9 kids including Dijonay and I know its not compared to Oscar and Trudy's parentification on Penny have to take care of Bebe and Cece but I know that Oscar and Trudy had many oppertunities Just to watch the kids but Compared to both Nor Dijonay and Penny Don't have much of a choice or Against their will But the difference is Oscar and Trudy have many People they know or close to Them can Watch the Twins Like Sugar Mama, Papi, Heck, Even Felix and Dijonay's Parents dont have any relatives or people they know or even a babysitter can watch the 9 siblings its kinda sad But I feel bad for Penny and Dijonay have to saccurfies their freedom or there adolance to take care of their siblings I mean they don't mind but Its like unexpected or On the Daily basis
My family’s (Aunts and uncles 2) Gave me the nickname family babysitter. That went on till I was 20 and had a mental breakdown over how stressed and unheard I felt. I couldn’t do anything and I wasn’t even the oldest. Only changed when I cut them off and decided to do what was best for me. Still doesn’t excuse Dijonay’s actions but her parents are to blame for most of it.
Well in my opinion unless your rich and you have a big pay job like a lawyer, a surgeon (I think that's considered rich?)a singer,a rapper that makes big time rich money.
I say go forward to have many kids as long as you want but if you can't afford something with like for example 5,6,7,8,9 or 10 kids?!
Don't do it, handle kids is a big responsibility and every child deserve to be love from the parents but if you have too many please don't make more children if you can't afford the money to take care of one.
As for Dijonay,I kinda feel sorry for her,I can't image dealing with that many siblings, I'm happy to only have one.
But I do want more information on the characters background besides the proud family.
So I hope I do see that probably.
I have five sibling and growing up before my older siblings moved out as much as i love them. we fought over everything, and when they left, i helped raise my younger siblings
Hariyanna Hook has talked about this before!
With Dijonay or just in general?
@@TonyTurner both 🙏
I'm the oldest of 4, I'm 2 and half years older than my brothers and 9 years older than my sister. I was mostly responsible for her. Actually I had to stay with my mom in the hospital the day after because dad was called into work late. I helped with my sister all night and even got her ready and into the car the next day cause mom had to drive. The first couple of days I can't even remember where my mom and dad even where for most of the time during them. The first day I remember being in the living room with my sister and my dog helping keep an eye on her. I know dad was sleeping since he worked nights. But I also ALWAYS had to watch cousins and cousins kids. And very similar to both sets of parents in the show, they'd just tell you out of nowhere. No heads up about it or anything. Family reunions were the worst because I was "mature minded" for my age, I was always put in charge of watching all the kids, even ones my age. I had to sit and watch them play and I couldn't because I had to watch them. Which is why I don't have kids now and don't ever want any at 32.
It sounds like you've had enough of being a parent and now choose to be child free.
@@eldergeek6077 Yes I'm quite happy with just my cats, rats and turtle :)
While it may suck and technically be abusive to do this it does not excuse the behaviors of that girl. Im sorry but i would have kicked her out of my friend group YEARS before if she treated me like this. People can pity her all they want but it doesn't excuse her choices and actions.
As bad as Penny has it with her siblings, Dijonay seems to have it even worse.
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I relate to Dijonay. I was only the oldest of three, and my siblings were only three and eight years younger than me, but it was still a disaster to be left home alone with my younger brother. I started getting so angry at my parents for doing absolutely nothing for watching my siblings, even when they were home, and I was so depressed and angry all the time. It ruins you too. I longed for attention so badly that I clung desperately to anyone who gave you any, and I got into a lot of toxic relationships that way.
I don’t think you can have a large family (4+ kids) without making life hard on the children, unless you have more than two parental figures or guardians and don’t make the kids babysit if they don’t want to.
Tbh I was curious how Dijonay managed to get a means to spend time with friends despite having more siblings than Penny does. Then it came to me that considering the siblings are running around the house even when she's there in the house, she could just as easily leave the house and spend time with her friends that way because she's used to the typical pattern enough that she knows being there or not while her siblings cause chaos in the house wouldn't change anything.
Wasn't that point of the original Bebe's Kids sketch? Robin Harris was criticizing parents like "Bebe" who have too many kids and then don't raise them.
I grew up on Bebé's kids and didn't realize until I was older how bad of a parent bebe was or how Tameka enabled her. I grew up around single mothers who worked hard and relied on people to help them so I thought that was the case.
But then I saw that scene again when they go back to her place. The empty apartment with nothing of the 3 kids' around, the bare fridge, and the note.
She wasn't working late, she was out having her own fun while pushing her kids onto her friend.
And it hurts me to know that there are people like that. Hell I personally know one. She wanted a baby so badly, she was always so good with kids. And finally she was able to have 1, only to post on social media how much she missed her party girl lifestyle. She wanted to do both. She couldn't. So when the choice came between her kid and being the party girl she picked party girl, dumped her child on her mother and is basically a weekend morning mom who only takes pictures with her child to post about mom life on Facebook. Mildly resents her kid for 'ruining her body'.
Ive never had my own room...ever. im 16 and had to share a bed with my 5 other siblings for YEARS most of my life only reason im not sharing with then is cayse we moved in with my auntie which is hell and now i sleep on the floor..with 1 other sibling now so...yay ig
Genuinely
don’t like Dijonay at all as a person.
I totally understand she acts out to compensate for the fact she’s not paid attention to at home and lacks privacy but she is always SO quick to screw over anyone and everyone if it benefits her.
There have been a few episodes where the same happens to her but she never learns from it and goes “huh maybe i shouldn’t stab my friends in the back and expect someone to not do the exact same thing to me”
Not only that but you’d think bc she’s seen Penny’s parents do the same parentification to her, Dijonay would be somewhat sympathetic or try to help bc she understands how sucky that situation is
like she always has a backup babysitter on speed dial or someth n that’s why she’s always able to get stuff done, and in exchange she usually gives her lunch money or has a secret cash stash in the house
or it would be a point of conflict
“oh im sorry penny, that you have to look after TWO kids and not 8, must be super hard!”
plus i imagine she could have SO many problems with how her parents parent her siblings. Like not knowing how to sooth them or properly discipline them, bc dijonay finally figured out how to get all of her siblings to behave but her parents messed everything up
hell there could be an episode where Dijonay finally CALLS OUT HER PARENTS and makes them take care of the kids for once!!
that could be a whole plot for an episode!
or one where it turns out her parents have been receiving money from dijonay’s grandparents and have been pocketing the money for date nights, but that was actually supposed to be used on the kids for groceries n clothing and to pay Dijonay for babysitting her siblings
So she tells her grandparents and they move her in with them until her parents pay back everything or they stop giving money and decide to move in/make dijonay move in with them
there’s just so much that can be done with her and her family but they’re sleeping on it…
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I have empathy for Dijonay. She's expected to carry the burden of raising her siblings. Their parents are evil if you ask me. She deserves to live a normal and carefree life. Her siblings as well. You can clearly see their household is reeked with hostility and filth!!! It gives me a lot of awareness with things like this. Plus, it shows a lack of responsibility. People need to have standards and badass mentalities. Not this utter nonsense. There's nothing wrong with babysitting however......parents need to provide unconditional love and protection for their child or children.
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I’m the youngest of five, so I didn’t experience taking care of younger siblings. However, a lot of my friends had younger siblings - one had a lot of fostered and adopted siblings that were cared for very well. But folks who just spit baby after baby after baby into the world are super selfish and mind-numbingly stupid.
Parents shouldn't have more kids than they can raise without turning the oldest into babysitters. Usually any more than 4 is too much.
I'll be honest... I know everyone dislikes dijonay but even though she is sometimes a bad friend and annoying, looking at it objectively I really connect with her character. As a kid I went through this same thing, me and my sisters all squeezed into one tiny bedroom, no space of your own, being forced to babysit and take care of them and it being my "duty" because of my parents issues with alcoholism and neglect. I really want to see them turn it around for dijonay because at heart it's clear she's going through some stuff, I really hope they do a full episode exploring that side of her home life. I'm not defending dijonay, but it kind of seems like she latches onto drama and causes issues in the same way that a lot of kids act out when they're neglected, whatever gets you attention is attention at the end of the day, even if it's negative attention.
Parents like hers always get on my nerves cuz its always for some weird religious or selfish reason and even if they do have the means to support them all financially there's no way all of them kids are supported emotionally or feel any sense of privacy. I was friends with a girl in this sort of family in primary school and although she was super smart and outgoing she often seemed kinda exhausted from her home life.
My mom is the youngest of 10 children. Her oldest brother and sibling is almost 20 years older than her. Her oldest sister, who's just a bit younger than her oldest brother, used to have to watch her sometimes and I can confirm my oldest aunt has a bit of disdain for my mom and my grandma. Like to the point my mom is the only one to take care of my grandma. There's a lot of unresolved anger stemming from my grandma having 10 kids, especially for my oldest aunt. It's really sad to see honestly
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@@cartoonishclaude oh wow, I am so not up to date. I'll have to take a peek
Many parents can't even properly raise a single kid. It's just plain impossible to have both enough time and money as parent to take care of more than three kids. Anything above is just plain irresponsible cause you know that these parents are simply not present in their kids lives and either their oldest kids or a babysitter takes all of the parenting responsibilities.
2:48 It used to be pretty common for people in the past to have lots of kids and typically, the older kids were parentified.
7:29 Yeah and there have been some very vile stories about child abuse and child homicide from books like "How To Train Up A Child". The people who wrote those books, well, they had no business having kids, especially with all the adopted non-white kids that were adopted from overseas and even their own. Who thinks it's a good idea to spank an infant's behind with a plastic tube? Debbi and her husband do!
Both of my parents (Dad: baby of, born in 54 & mom: 2nd to last, born 65) grew up as 1 of 6 kids in their families; I’ve never asked or heard too many tales, but I’m sure they’ve got/had stories about it.
Did they really treat the Chang triplets like the three kids were one person during the student exchange program
amazing video
my best friend had to take care of her baby sister and i was just like … wow she literally called my best friend MOM i was sooo gagged
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As a 32 year old, watching other people have babies all around them, one of the worst things you can do as a human is MAKE THE CHOICE to make ANOTHER human, for the sole purpose of making said human raise ones after it.
"Why did you have me?"
"Because I wanted a child to love."
"So you made 6?"
"Honey, 7. You."
"No. I'm Mom, Dad, and the one who answers when school calls. I am not 7. I wasn't even 1."
… I hate to bring up these implications, but we’ve SEEN Penny babysitting the twins.
We’ve SEEN Penny being forced to babysit Dijonays siblings.
We’ve even SEEN strong signs of the Chang triplets taking care of Dijonays siblings…
… we’re ASSUMING even here that Dijonay actually does any actual babysitting.
Just saying Dijonay ditched Penny in the one time I know of where she’s tasked with taking care of them, are we even willing to just give her the benefit of the doubt that she doesn’t do that REGULARLY…?
Micheal wanted 12 kids
Atleast he take care of it as responsibility if he don’t just have/adopted kids or don’t
Yep
My mum is the eldest of 7 children and her mother (my grandmother) is the middle daughter of 15 siblings now don't get me wrong my grandmother (my mum's mother) was from the era where birth control wasn't really around until after WWII and made easy until the 50s and since I am in the UK we didn't get the pill or condoms until 1956 and if you were able to afford them. Abortion in England wasn't legalise until the Abortion Act 1967 where after months of debating in April 1968 the bill was made but the weeks of pregnancy termination wasn't legalise until 1990 in the UK which were between beginning to no later then 28 weeks. Abortions in England are still a choice for the woman to make and not feel bad for getting pregnant or having the baby or not keeping the baby.
Now grandparents stop having children after their 7th child was born January 1970 and that was their choice as my grandmother decided on birth control pills by her GP and that was it. Again these are decision of the woman. Sure people like having a big family and in era big families were the norm but sadly the eldest would be made the extra parent along with the second and third borns helping and sadly with America now making abortions illegal. Some couples are forced into keeping the child or giving them up to adoption as birth control is much more expensive then it was back in the 1950s and no offence to anyone American but the fact that medical isn't free it is getting harder and harder families to not be able to afford children but to get afford birth control and then making the eldest babysit 8 to 10 siblings.
My grandmother when she was 12 years old had to help look after the youngest 7 children once she was old enough to help with cleaning, napping (diapers) changing, suing, washing up and cooking and the list going on. It was a miracle she and my grandfather even got to go on dates let alone get married and have their children. Question and answer is what is the USA going to do to help families. Nothing because they don't care as children are being threaten in schools with gun violence. Sorry Tony.
yeah i raised ALLLLLL my siblings and the thing is my parents were even home and id be babysitting, changing diapers, making bottles....late nights staying up all night trying to rock a baby to sleep at 4 am having to miss school while she goes to work and my dad sleeps in -__-
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I’m thankfully an only child, but growing up my friend had siblings, all younger than her. It was usually her responsibility to look after at least one if she was spending time with a friend. Otherwise she’d have to watch 3. Which is why one of her brothers (he was around 9) was usually with when we hung out. He was also a little snitch if you didn’t bribe him with candy, and half the time he still snitched anyway!
He also made a big point to eat a bowl of Cheerios in water whenever I came over?? Why?? Not to mention he’d pour the water in first.
I’m not friends with her anymore, mostly because she moved away, but also because she kept a long distance boyfriend in my town and also got another boyfriend in the town she moved to. Neither were informed of the other, and I don’t want a friend like that.
Do you think her constantly having to watch over her younger siblings (and maybe her parents failing marriage that they were somehow really good at hiding) made her turn out the way she did?
You know I think I lost track of how many siblings I might actually have, because I'm scared evey time my mom tries to contact me(I think I have at least 6 half siblings, however objectively doctors telling her, she shouldn't have children, that they said that for "health" reasons, doesn't change a sexism, &other discriminatory words undertone that was somehow still around during the 80's &90's for actually hospitals) &something of a trick question, if a mother is over-emotional, then how can it be that their child has the personality of a Vulcan?
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Yeah true that
Occassional babysitting is fine. The kids should also be compensates for the work with money. If its a daily thing the kids absolutely need to be paid for that time. The kids also shouldn't be doing the majority of the work when it comes to their siblings.
Some parents can raise a large family without the help of their kids. But too many get burnt out at two or three. Their oldest should never be another parent.
"Oldest child, you're amazing; do these chores and watch your sibling for free because we want to spend babysitter money on OUR fun." And if your parents happen to be younger siblings, FUCK.
Also Is that John witherspoon vocing Dijonay's Dad?
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She doesn't sit still 😹
And/or adultification?
I have 6. Siblings 4 brothers and 2 Sisters. I am the second oldest
I love her siblings, especially the smart ones. The bad one not so much. Lol..but i hated the 3rd story espsiode bc she was wrong in that episode smh. Smh.
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having more than a certain number of kids (3-6 depending on the situation) is just straight up abusive ESPECIALLY if its on purpose. some families have alot of kids because of lack of education and low access to birthcontrol etc. but other purposely have over 10 or even over 20 kids and thats just blatant child neglect.
That's leaning into judgemental generalizing
No, it’s the truth. You can’t adequately care for 10+ kids emotionally, physically or financially, especially if they are conceived out of wedlock by multiple partners such as in the case of Nick Cannon.
It’s highly irresponsible and selfish as a parent to have more children than you can realistically care for in the long-term without parentifying your eldest children.
No, it’s the truth. You can’t adequately care for 10+ kids emotionally, physically or financially, especially if they are conceived out of wedlock by multiple partners such as in the case of Nick Cannon.
It’s highly irresponsible and selfish as a parent to have more children than you can realistically care for in the long-term without parentifying your eldest children.
No, it’s the truth. You can’t adequately care for 10+ kids emotionally, physically or financially, especially if they are conceived out of wedlock by multiple partners such as in the case of Nick Cannon.
It’s highly irresponsible and selfish as a parent to have more children than you can realistically care for in the long-term without parentifying your eldest children.
@@AnonymousC-lm6tc nick cannon ain't everyone.
My brother and his wife have 6 kids, all of which were born each year successively before they even got married. The scenes with Dijonay's siblings was mild compared to these kids. They were born out of a series of unfortunate events. Long story short, a one night stand led to an accidental pregnancy, which was kept for religious reasons. They got together to try and make it work, and each successive pregnancy was the irresponsible result of antibiotics inhibiting birth control. Basically, each was an accident. All in all, though, they're good kids. In isolation. If you take them away from the others, they're quite polite and well-behaved. But in a group, they're absolute monsters.
Additionally, the parentification I see was (and sadly remains) absolutely and grossly rampant. AND sexist, too. The oldest is a boy, and the second-oldest was the only girl until the 6th was born. And that poor little girl was made to take care of the babies born after her, changing diapers and making bottles since she was barely out of diapers herself. While her older brother didn't ever have to lift a finger.
Ive known friends in high school who had tons of siblings and parents like this. I never really understood, even though i had to watch my younger sister a lot. My mom was a single parent who either worked two jobs or double shifts and still couldn't afford a sitter. I have an older brother and two older (all teenaged) cousins living with us, but they never cared to help with anything and just ate up all the food and caused problems for my mom. But when my mom was home she took over being the parent, because she knew that was her job since we all where her kids. She never just up and left to party or whatever. She hardly went out at all unless she was working or picking up extra hours. For the longest time i didnt understand all of that till i had kids of my own and had to do the single parent thing. Thank god i had my mom there to watch my kids, because i never had enough money for a sitter... but at some point my mom couldnt watch my kids, they where a lot older with my oldest being 14 at the time, and i had to leave them home alone to go work. But always when i got home i immediately took the over parenting from my oldest and made them do their kid thing. I never wanted my oldest to deal with having to watch/parent their younger sib, but because im poor and sinlge parent didnt have much choice after my mom couldnt watch them any more. I only have two kids, btw lol. i stopped after my second and divorced from my ex. I didnt want more or have to deal with the drama of half sibs or step dads/kids and all of that, but mostly i didnt want to put my kids throw more drama then divorced parents and a being raised by a single mom. I also knew i was going to struggle and be poor and i wanted to raise the kids i did have with as much as i could. So i stopped at two and just did my single mom thing.
My sister has a lot of kids: 3 step sons, 2 sons of her own, and two daughters with her current husband. Lots of kids! 😅 but her and her husband make damn sure that none of the older ones are stuck watching the younger ones. They never have to babysit any of the little ones. If they do watch them its only for like a few minutes maybe an hour at most if both parents cant help it and they always give who ever watches any of the littles a treat or some cash or something. But they rarely do because my sister works from home, our mom lives with them, and dad is super parent/husband mode when he gets home from work. They arent rich or even well off, but they are middle classish?? I dont know how that works, lol. 😅 but they do have to budget their money well to care for all the goons in their house, lol. But they have decided to stop as well.
So i honestly dont see why some poeple, well off or poor, keep having kids when they arent mentally/emotionally and/or financially prepared for it... there's no excuse now a days. Sorry if it sounds harsh, but its true. Its just dumb and irresponsible and cruel as well to kid they dump the responsibility on because they're being selfish and dont want to handle it themself.