When I was in Japan, I dated a woman four yrs older than me. I was in my late 20's and she was in her 30's. But I was always the one to lead. Not that I wanted to, its just that she was always shy. So sometimes I would get her to choose a restaurant or place of interest. These things help build confidence in a person. They say, a relationship is to help each other grow. And to learn from one another.
Age gap not an issue if she knows you in person. It is an issue if meeting online. It’s one of few things girl resort to when they don’t have much info about you.
Over in the West, you'll see our scenes are trending this way as well. Age gaps in successful relationships were just 4-5 years apart 2 decades ago; they are now around 15 years on average apart.
1) guys prefer young girls regardless of their own age 2) girl cares about age so far as she lacks other info. Girl uses it as a pre-filter on dating app since she doesn’t have much other info. If she already meets you, it’s not a big concern so long as you are cool and do not look like her dad.
"Tatemae" testimonials, not "honne". I met this girl Yuriko, she got married in Japan then moved to Vancouver alone to study English for a few months. When she came back, her husband had become addicted to gambling. She contemplated her choices, and decided not to help him rehab, not to help him thorough the recovery journey, no, she just up and left for Vancouver again. Perhaps it's not a man's age that matters, but rather his utility.
Smart woman. He probably wasn't interested in rehab, and she realized it was /her utility to him/ (in terms of paying for his gambling addiction) that was being scrutinized. Contemplating all this led her to a sound decision.
Please ask women from ages 26-40. I feel as though this video asked the wrong set of people, at least for the majority of curious viewers. No way I'd ever be interested in a 15 year old, or their opinions.
True. And as a guy who turned 50 yesterday, I'd like to hear from some ladies in their 40s somewhere. I'm beginning to wonder if that's just an impossibility at this point.
its very dangerous to assume that older guys/women are in control of their emotions and are patient as these girls describe. You can meet a man who's 19 and also meet a boy who's 39
Dating older men doesn't mean they are matured enough to handle a relationship. I dated a man 12 years age gap but I discovered he followed so many single mom and followed sexy girls in bikini on instagram and other dating apps, my mistake was waited for him to change for 3 years. We only talk once in a month or sometimes several months passed, we dated once in a month too. You cannot change a man. He will change for the person that he truly love. After that, I met my special partner 2 years younger than me, we avoid fighting and arguing, we support each other always. Now going 4 years happily and strong 😊
@@riddlerzzzzz the guy wasn’t good looking enough otherwise she would have let lots of stuff slide . Women often come up with excuses when they’re not physically attracted to you …the younger guy does the same but bc she’s attracted she made the relationship work
@@akuseru85that's bs. You can also fall in love with an older or younger men or women but mostly you are around the same age +- 5 years. It's not a question about age at all today. Also doesn't make a sense because you would just lose a lot of potential love partners or chances to get lucky in general.
What the age difference boils down to is if she really wants a relationship that'll last and if she has children will he be there to help raise and give her all his love ❤
I wish people were a bit less judgmental because it doesn’t seem to cause as much problems as people believe with these types of relationships. If they both are safe, know what they are doing and what they are getting themselves into who are we to judge 🤷♂️ I very rarely hear it being a problem in my country.
So asking a 15 year old girl these questions is not questionable ?? lol finding out she’s 15 and then continuing to ask how much older and her respond even above 8 years and above is not disturbing at all 😅
15 year old Japanese is a woman, it is not the West, they mature wayyyy faster, do not forget in school they are taught about gratitude and how to clean etc
That’s a garbage fantasy. I’ve worked in school exchange programs and Japanese teen girls are just not emotionally stable at 15-They also tend to be more sheltered than Western kids. The few that are more mature often come from elite families who are not likely to let an older foreigner Date their precious daughter. Forget it!
I think that the image here is that younger men can't lead or are immature. I believe that there are younger men that can actually lead and are more emotionally intelligent than some older men. After all, I guess it depends on the person.
I am 34 i can date easily 20 year old japanese girls but i prefer 26 women to be honest. Because i look young for my age this is why i prefer 20s, i don't think this is creep at all, it's only 8 year age gap. And i have the looks, asian girls find me cute, attractive and they're very feminine loyal not like those other modern women 304. Thanks for the video.
Really funny interview, I have appreciated the sincerity of all the girls. As a senior and foreigner I am happy to know that there is still hope 😅if I have enough “okane” 💰I mean…true😇?? I am joking.
I'm 50. I wish you could have spoken with Japanese women in their 30s to get their opinion. There is no way I could have truly benefited from the opinions of these women. Good effort, thank you.
Although it seems like quite a few girls want to be taken care of, there are also quite a few who like more equality too. I forget that compared to the west even a small age gap is often taken seriously in many Asian cultures
I'm a 40-year-old white guy living in Tokyo, and while most of the women I meet are around my age or older, I recently met an 18-year-old girl and went on a date with her. We saw a movie, went to dinner, then bowling, and afterwards I asked if she wanted to go to my place because it was only one stop away, and she agreed. She stayed at my place for almost 24 hours and we had fun. We met again a few weeks ago and went to Disneyland and were holding hands, cuddling, she would rest her head on my chest and shoulders, etc., so it was like gf/bf, but afterwards she wouldn't come back to my place because she said she had plans the next day. Anyways, she said in Japanese to "let her stay at my place again," to which I said "Anytime is good, like tonight, tomorrow, then next day, etc.," with a tongue-sticking-out smiley face, and I was subsequently left on "read" after that. I messaged her again two weeks later after no reply, and she replied the next day, but hasn't read or responded to my message in 4 days, so I guess she just isn't interested anymore. Not sure why though since Disneyland was fun and seemed like it was a good time for her as well. It's sad, and I can't stop thinking about her, but maybe she just found someone younger or more attractive or whatever. Or maybe she was just curious what being with a foreigner was like and decided it was not for her. Who knows. Point is, even older men can still date with younger women, though it's probably not super common as that was the first time I had been with someone that young before. I guess I just got lucky.
Being clingy and always available is unattractive, you offered yourself to her in a way that meant she can have you anytime she wants, which is boring for them.
@@bloodyangel1 I am not speaking for anyone, I am not a woman nor a spokesperson for women, I simply said what I assume could've happened according to your comment, which I draw from my own experiences and accounts of others. When you are readily available and offer yourself to someone like that then that someone will not have you in high regard. You won't be exciting, you won't be interesting, you basically make yourself their pet. Even if you are excited, even if you wanna spend every day with that person, keep yourself in check and play it cool, let things come to you. That doesn't mean you should play "hard to get", it simply means that being overeager can ruin things very quickly.
@@MrReese hmm, I see. I'm sure there's truth to that, though I don't know if it's the same reason that the girl in my comment is ignoring me or not. She hasn't read my last message in almost a week despite being active on the app that we met on (HelloTalk), and posts on there as well. So I won't pursue her anymore, but I also don't think she will message me anymore either, so I will just sadly give up and move on as there's probably nothing more I can do to salvage the relationship.
@@bloodyangel1 The world we live in today is vastly different to what it used to be like 20+ years ago. Today, connections are made quickly and are dissolved quickly, people have become throw-away goods and there is no accountability for actions anymore. Ghosting is normal and it's a disgusting thing to do. Instead of just telling someone what's up they just ghost you. In my opinion you have dodged a bullet there.
Interesting theme but, in my opinion, interviewees are way too young to have a realistic vision of their romantic future. I bet that most of them are still virgins so how can they consider having a relationship with someone 10 years older? And how about this 15 years older girls who would date a 12 years old boy 😅?! You’d better interview more experienced women 😁
Yes I watched this video. I have one concern. The concern is Japan should start investing in military. I am from India, live in USA , but because I care for Japan I suggest Japan start to build a reasonable high tech military. Maybe form a joint mission with India or USA or both. Develop hypersonic etc. Yes I love your videos. You got a nice personality. You can make lots of videos, like place to visit in Japan , where and how to get tourism guides. Also can you also make videos why Japanese seem to invest more in USA then their own stock market.
Younger guys simply don't have the means to usually support woman, it's not until about 30 guys start to build enough skill sets in their life to be able to earn decent money to support a woman or family. Dating younger guys because they are cute shows how emotionally immature some of these young woman have become. No wonder Japan is a world leader in a declining population.
@@achishaler9245 There is no such thing, someone had to build the cities, infrastructure, keep it running etc. Without people it's all starting to fail, good example is the free Akiya homes, which local councils want foreigners to buy because they need the tax to pay for infrastructure to keep things going and not run down. Without replacing the population many small towns are dying. It's only easy now because it's all been built in the past, mostly by men but without new generations it slowly collapses.
@@tronwars7130 Yeah, that actually makes sense. I was kinda just talking about today though. I understand what the future can hold for Japan. It is none the less easier for a 20 year old today to live alone and make their own money in Japan than it is for an American for instance.
@@achishaler9245 Yep, people need each other, always have, it's ok for a few rich elites to promote this idiot idea that we can all be independent but for all of human history the majority by far have needed each other. The US isn't doing well, they have a real division in society now and huge debt, that great role models for people anymore.
as an 18 year old with no experience i deeply agreed with this. Dating early in your life can be exciting but it comes with a compromise. I feel like people should get more life experience and become matured as a person first before getting into relationships. In my opinion i think it would help more with having a stable and long term relationship, because love is not enough. It's a big part but there's more things that is needed in relationships which is developed by having more experience in life. My comment might be an absolute doo doo here so yea
When I was in Japan, I dated a woman four yrs older than me. I was in my late 20's and she was in her 30's. But I was always the one to lead.
Not that I wanted to, its just that she was always shy. So sometimes I would get her to choose a restaurant or place of interest.
These things help build confidence in a person. They say, a relationship is to help each other grow. And to learn from one another.
Great video... Can you do a interview on asking older women how old they would date.. Thanks 😊
I was thinking the same thing!
Please find older women (30-40 years old) to ask these questions.
Age gap not an issue if she knows you in person. It is an issue if meeting online. It’s one of few things girl resort to when they don’t have much info about you.
And its usally less of an issue to the girl who is in the relationship but other girls around gossip and talk soo much crap about the guy.
Over in the West, you'll see our scenes are trending this way as well. Age gaps in successful relationships were just 4-5 years apart 2 decades ago; they are now around 15 years on average apart.
Its because chad is attracted to much younger girls and girls dont care about yoyr age as long as you are CHad (yamada ryosuke)
money talks,
Your wrong. Dating is not 15 year difference as a normal. Not saying there is anything wrong with it but your just making numbers up.
@@RobertDniroLHCthat is not a sucessful relationship. Thats just getting pumped and dumped.
1) guys prefer young girls regardless of their own age
2) girl cares about age so far as she lacks other info. Girl uses it as a pre-filter on dating app since she doesn’t have much other info. If she already meets you, it’s not a big concern so long as you are cool and do not look like her dad.
"Tatemae" testimonials, not "honne".
I met this girl Yuriko, she got married in Japan then moved to Vancouver alone to study English for a few months.
When she came back, her husband had become addicted to gambling.
She contemplated her choices, and decided not to help him rehab, not to help him thorough the recovery journey, no, she just up and left for Vancouver again.
Perhaps it's not a man's age that matters, but rather his utility.
"Perhaps it's not a man's age that matters, but rather his utility." %100! This is what really matters for us. Best to accept it and be aware.
Smart woman. He probably wasn't interested in rehab, and she realized it was /her utility to him/ (in terms of paying for his gambling addiction) that was being scrutinized. Contemplating all this led her to a sound decision.
Please ask women from ages 26-40. I feel as though this video asked the wrong set of people, at least for the majority of curious viewers.
No way I'd ever be interested in a 15 year old, or their opinions.
fr and a 15yo saying theyd be ok with a 25yo is insane.
True. And as a guy who turned 50 yesterday, I'd like to hear from some ladies in their 40s somewhere. I'm beginning to wonder if that's just an impossibility at this point.
its very dangerous to assume that older guys/women are in control of their emotions and are patient as these girls describe. You can meet a man who's 19 and also meet a boy who's 39
Perfectly said. You can even examples of that in the video.
Yes, but most likely, the "men" who are 19 are not mature compared to the older men.
First time coming across your video... love your energy and bubbly personality!
Dating older men doesn't mean they are matured enough to handle a relationship. I dated a man 12 years age gap but I discovered he followed so many single mom and followed sexy girls in bikini on instagram and other dating apps, my mistake was waited for him to change for 3 years. We only talk once in a month or sometimes several months passed, we dated once in a month too. You cannot change a man. He will change for the person that he truly love. After that, I met my special partner 2 years younger than me, we avoid fighting and arguing, we support each other always. Now going 4 years happily and strong 😊
People change. They get worse
What? You think following sexy girls on Instagram is immature?
@@riddlerzzzzz the guy wasn’t good looking enough otherwise she would have let lots of stuff slide . Women often come up with excuses when they’re not physically attracted to you …the younger guy does the same but bc she’s attracted she made the relationship work
Your man is with his mom. That's what you are to him, a mother figure. Men do not go for older women unless there is something wrong with the wiring.
@@akuseru85that's bs. You can also fall in love with an older or younger men or women but mostly you are around the same age +- 5 years. It's not a question about age at all today. Also doesn't make a sense because you would just lose a lot of potential love partners or chances to get lucky in general.
I’m 77. My Japanese wife is 56. We’ve been married 15 years. Age isn’t a problem for us.
What the age difference boils down to is if she really wants a relationship that'll last and if she has children will he be there to help raise and give her all his love ❤
I wish people were a bit less judgmental because it doesn’t seem to cause as much problems as people believe with these types of relationships. If they both are safe, know what they are doing and what they are getting themselves into who are we to judge 🤷♂️
I very rarely hear it being a problem in my country.
Honami's english is so cute lol.
You can never really trust what women say in these interviews. It would all go out the window if they found a guy they liked.
ほなみさん、いつもありがとうございます👍👍
I was not expecting some of these answers 😂 I won't judge but damn its very different 😅
That poofy coat you’re wearing is really cute
I always think the 10 year gap is the most normal as an extreame but anything above that is just strange.
So asking a 15 year old girl these questions is not questionable ?? lol finding out she’s 15 and then continuing to ask how much older and her respond even above 8 years and above is not disturbing at all 😅
This is Japan, the rules are different 😅 not that Im endorsing
Same thought, I was like you really just gonna skip that mile stone 😨
I guess the culture difference
15 year old Japanese is a woman, it is not the West, they mature wayyyy faster, do not forget in school they are taught about gratitude and how to clean etc
That’s a garbage fantasy. I’ve worked in school exchange programs and Japanese teen girls are just not emotionally stable at 15-They also tend to be more sheltered than Western kids. The few that are more mature often come from elite families who are not likely to let an older foreigner Date their precious daughter. Forget it!
I think that the image here is that younger men can't lead or are immature. I believe that there are younger men that can actually lead and are more emotionally intelligent than some older men. After all, I guess it depends on the person.
I am 34 i can date easily 20 year old japanese girls but i prefer 26 women to be honest. Because i look young for my age this is why i prefer 20s, i don't think this is creep at all, it's only 8 year age gap. And i have the looks, asian girls find me cute, attractive and they're very feminine loyal not like those other modern women 304. Thanks for the video.
最初でおっしゃいた英語に虜れれちゃったからお姉さんの年齢差はどれぐらいでしょうか
Really funny interview, I have appreciated the sincerity of all the girls. As a senior and foreigner I am happy to know that there is still hope 😅if I have enough “okane” 💰I mean…true😇?? I am joking.
I'm 50. I wish you could have spoken with Japanese women in their 30s to get their opinion. There is no way I could have truly benefited from the opinions of these women. Good effort, thank you.
I agree. These 20 yr olds don't know much about real relationships. 2-3 year difference, c'mon,give me a break!
Why is every street video in Japan have to be in Shibuya? Can we have one from, say, Ginza? How about Ueno?
I guess in Japan it's not weird to ask a 16 year old girl, on camera if they'd want to date a rich 30 year old man.
cool jacket.
I thought you were Higashimura Mei
Although it seems like quite a few girls want to be taken care of, there are also quite a few who like more equality too. I forget that compared to the west even a small age gap is often taken seriously in many Asian cultures
日本より西洋の方が未成年への性的被害多いじゃん
I'm a 40-year-old white guy living in Tokyo, and while most of the women I meet are around my age or older, I recently met an 18-year-old girl and went on a date with her. We saw a movie, went to dinner, then bowling, and afterwards I asked if she wanted to go to my place because it was only one stop away, and she agreed. She stayed at my place for almost 24 hours and we had fun. We met again a few weeks ago and went to Disneyland and were holding hands, cuddling, she would rest her head on my chest and shoulders, etc., so it was like gf/bf, but afterwards she wouldn't come back to my place because she said she had plans the next day. Anyways, she said in Japanese to "let her stay at my place again," to which I said "Anytime is good, like tonight, tomorrow, then next day, etc.," with a tongue-sticking-out smiley face, and I was subsequently left on "read" after that. I messaged her again two weeks later after no reply, and she replied the next day, but hasn't read or responded to my message in 4 days, so I guess she just isn't interested anymore. Not sure why though since Disneyland was fun and seemed like it was a good time for her as well. It's sad, and I can't stop thinking about her, but maybe she just found someone younger or more attractive or whatever. Or maybe she was just curious what being with a foreigner was like and decided it was not for her. Who knows. Point is, even older men can still date with younger women, though it's probably not super common as that was the first time I had been with someone that young before. I guess I just got lucky.
Being clingy and always available is unattractive, you offered yourself to her in a way that meant she can have you anytime she wants, which is boring for them.
@@MrReese are you speaking for Japanese women, or just women in general?
@@bloodyangel1 I am not speaking for anyone, I am not a woman nor a spokesperson for women, I simply said what I assume could've happened according to your comment, which I draw from my own experiences and accounts of others.
When you are readily available and offer yourself to someone like that then that someone will not have you in high regard. You won't be exciting, you won't be interesting, you basically make yourself their pet.
Even if you are excited, even if you wanna spend every day with that person, keep yourself in check and play it cool, let things come to you. That doesn't mean you should play "hard to get", it simply means that being overeager can ruin things very quickly.
@@MrReese hmm, I see. I'm sure there's truth to that, though I don't know if it's the same reason that the girl in my comment is ignoring me or not. She hasn't read my last message in almost a week despite being active on the app that we met on (HelloTalk), and posts on there as well. So I won't pursue her anymore, but I also don't think she will message me anymore either, so I will just sadly give up and move on as there's probably nothing more I can do to salvage the relationship.
@@bloodyangel1 The world we live in today is vastly different to what it used to be like 20+ years ago. Today, connections are made quickly and are dissolved quickly, people have become throw-away goods and there is no accountability for actions anymore. Ghosting is normal and it's a disgusting thing to do. Instead of just telling someone what's up they just ghost you. In my opinion you have dodged a bullet there.
I'm 25 years of age and I would date a 20 year old Japanese cutie 🥰.
I'm mega rich
So what youre saying is.,, there are exemptions.
It’s all about security. Seems simple to me.
Take a walk in shinjuku and you’ll see how old they’ll really go. Very disturbing
woah. 1st girl is only 15 yrs old?
she looks 25
Japanese women are so cute.
Interesting theme but, in my opinion, interviewees are way too young to have a realistic vision of their romantic future. I bet that most of them are still virgins so how can they consider having a relationship with someone 10 years older? And how about this 15 years older girls who would date a 12 years old boy 😅?! You’d better interview more experienced women 😁
You have to ask older peole for sure.
Is there an older rich guy interested in you and you are trying to validate your choice Honami-san? Go for it I say!!😊
...I'm concerned 😭 parents, please pay good attention to your underage children and educate them
I was concerned too but if you will live in japan you will get to know these children have a lot of self discipline, so don’t judge them.
Why are you trying to act like you're "concerned" about them, as if Japan is America?
Do you know something about *cultural differences* ?
@@retroman5432Oh here come the groomers that want to be able to date 15 year olds
@@retroman5432Why do you think that US is always at the center of the world?
Now ask about how young a woman can date japanese boys. No?
Yes I watched this video. I have one concern. The concern is Japan should start investing in military.
I am from India, live in USA , but because I care for Japan I suggest Japan start to build a reasonable high tech military.
Maybe form a joint mission with India or USA or both. Develop hypersonic etc.
Yes I love your videos. You got a nice personality.
You can make lots of videos, like place to visit in Japan , where and how to get tourism guides.
Also can you also make videos why Japanese seem to invest more in USA then their own stock market.
Honami lost a lot of weight 😓 pls eat more, I think you look better with more weight.
That 15yo saying she has no problem dating a 36yo man... in the eyes of the law and morals it's going to be a problem 😬
Younger guys simply don't have the means to usually support woman, it's not until about 30 guys start to build enough skill sets in their life to be able to earn decent money to support a woman or family. Dating younger guys because they are cute shows how emotionally immature some of these young woman have become. No wonder Japan is a world leader in a declining population.
I think in Japan it is way easier for everyone to support themselves.
@@achishaler9245 There is no such thing, someone had to build the cities, infrastructure, keep it running etc. Without people it's all starting to fail, good example is the free Akiya homes, which local councils want foreigners to buy because they need the tax to pay for infrastructure to keep things going and not run down. Without replacing the population many small towns are dying. It's only easy now because it's all been built in the past, mostly by men but without new generations it slowly collapses.
@@tronwars7130 Yeah, that actually makes sense. I was kinda just talking about today though. I understand what the future can hold for Japan. It is none the less easier for a 20 year old today to live alone and make their own money in Japan than it is for an American for instance.
@@achishaler9245 Yep, people need each other, always have, it's ok for a few rich elites to promote this idiot idea that we can all be independent but for all of human history the majority by far have needed each other. The US isn't doing well, they have a real division in society now and huge debt, that great role models for people anymore.
as an 18 year old with no experience i deeply agreed with this. Dating early in your life can be exciting but it comes with a compromise. I feel like people should get more life experience and become matured as a person first before getting into relationships. In my opinion i think it would help more with having a stable and long term relationship, because love is not enough. It's a big part but there's more things that is needed in relationships which is developed by having more experience in life. My comment might be an absolute doo doo here so yea
A 15-year-old who said dating a 25 or 30 year-old is okay...that wouldn't even be legal here. That is some scary stuff.
1:22 ayyyy I just turned 25
Ur weird bro
You shouldn't be interviewing babies she most likely still has Malibu barbie at her house!!!
Well, I’m from Russia and I’m 17 years old now, but a year ago I had a lot of Lego until I sold it
@@bizaxi2929 Why would anyone sell lego
@@bizaxi2929 😂 cute. But don't sell them. Keep them for your future children haha
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