You probs have enough info on tackling the task you have to do. I'm with you on procrastinating i need to do some overdue work fr it weighing on my psyche. I had written this to say that I understand how procrastination is difficult and the desperate want to stop procrastinating.
give yourself time. You don't want to transition out of these videos too soon. If you watch them all twice, then you may unlock your potential as a high procrastinato- I mean, high performer
Try the focus go technique. Pick the very next thing you need to do that you're putting off and visualise yourself doing that task. You'll find your mind will come up with reasons some valid/some not as to why you can't do said task. Get clear on these thoughts and work through them (Some might be actual tasks that need completing before the main task and some things might just be limiting beliefs). It's an exercise in self awareness to help combat procrastination.
I do two things that help. 1) I internalize that I have to get this task done. Things will get worse and harder if I don’t do this thing. 2) Break the task down into trivially easy steps. If I have to write something, step one is opening the program. Step two is writing my name on the paper. Step three is labeling all the sections I need to do. By then I’ve built enough momentum that I can actually start doing the work. That’s what works for me, anyway.
Not getting down on myself for not writing for 4 hours and instead being proud of myself for writing 15 minutes more than yesterday is how I finished my book.
Giving yourself time aka being kind to yourself If you put too much pressure on yourself, you'll procastinate more often, If you keep focusing on the end goal rather than the small tasks, the end goal will become overwhelming and you'll procastinate Less pressure ironically leads to more success, everything in life is counter intuitive hahahha
As a software engineer I like to start the day slow and reflect on my goals for the day. If I just sit down and say "time to work" I sometimes feel overwhelmed with the totality of the work. When I'm feeling resistance to chip away at my goals I just focus on the next hour. What do I want to do this hour? How should I disconnect for a few moments and give myself credit for following through? Take a stretch, maybe take a short walk and feel the sun, grab a drink. Then back at it again. When you are worried about deadlines or following through the best way to avoid it is to do as I just said above. Its easier to decide to do something for 10min or an 1hr than to commit to a whole day at once.
1. Decide what is that task. 2. Leg go of the Guilt (and any negative emotion) that is stopping you. 3. See it in a finished state, NOW. Now your motivated, now go and START.
It's hard to take your time when you're constantly force-fed the idea that your time is running out and life is so short. Getting used to the idea that worrying about your time running out takes time, otherwise you waste even more time not spending the time to work on it
It does running out. Succesful people can afford being slow, it's cause and effect. And then again, you ask them successers, and all they say is how the work hard all the time. Go figure.
What is a waste of time? Being busy is just as wasteful as doing nothing. You could end up so busy, you don't realize time is passing to enjoy any of it. You could be so idle, that you don't experience anything. The only true waste of time I believe is doing things non-deliberately or unconsciously. We get sucked into patterns and perspectives of life from others who wish to steal that resource. That is a huge waste of time.
He didn't say it is easy. He clearly said the opposite. It is very hard to give yourself time. If it was easy, most people would do "the right thing" most of the time. Which is not the case.
@@hamsteratemyhomework618 Life is full of suffering. So, the death seems to be a reward at some point. I feel happier as years go by. And it is not depression or stuff. Just tranquility.
this is absolutely true. so many times i do something without giving it another thought and then i realize if i thought for a couple minutes longer i could have done that original thing and 3 additional one's extremely efficiently.
As someone with ADHD and someone with addiction in the family, I've always tried to stay busy as a coping mechanism. Idle hands is what I taught myself growing up. Now I'm realizing how destructive it was because I'm constantly, anxiously, rushing around my life, ignoring my body and mind.
Do you feel like ppl sometimes say stuff like that ("being a degenerate"), so others immediately disagree with them and prop them? 🤔 I've just known a lot of folks to do this, and it's so aggravating
@@Lĺllllll-p4dfirst of all i doubt he cares about stuff like that and second of all if you know about his college years then you’ll know he’s pretty much right to call himself a degenerate
@eebbaa5560 I'm not saying he has to care, the comment wasn't explicitly for him, but rather ppl who know others who have done this. Maybe he was a degenerate, but just by mentioning it, it still elicits a kindhearted response as a result, generally speaking, almost automatically, which seems a bit emotionally manipulative. I don't even care myself much about this, I was just pointing a thought out :)
This is so real, I feel like my life used to be so fast paced, and like particularly in my driving habits, I was so impatient. I made a lot of positive changes that have made me a generally happier person, and all of the sudden, I have patience for other people, and I don’t find myself in as much of a rush all of the time.
Think we fool ourselves into a feeling of getting shit done when we hurry to things. Look at me im so productive and fast. :D saving all this time and shit
@@faeray1016It’s hard to explain because it feels like a barrier to me. Keeping me from wanting to learn a specific things that I love. It makes me anxious to think about neuroscience and stuff I binge learned. I’m also neurodivergent so I’m not sure of that plays a part.
@@PrinceOfTheSoundWell i can offer an example. So after having some “experience on some special substance” i got extremely motivated to go buy art supplies and buy a huge variety. Binged watch videos over art, bought books to teach me how to draw. I had a short time where i was tackling it pretty hard and making some decent artwork. But then i started to notice that in order to make the art i really wanted to, it was going to take alot of work and practice. Day in day out. I even started disliking my own drawings if they didnt come out how i wanted them. Looking back as to why i couldnt relax and accept the process was because in the back of my mind. I had been putting off so many things that failing at my artwork meant i would have to invest more time that i didnt have. I felt like i was wasting my time because i could be doing something more important. So right now ive been focusing on checking everything else off my list. So that when i do finally sit down to draw. I can do so with a relaxed mind
What I found this is, at least to me, is that I'm scared about not understanding it. I go in and when the first hurdle pops up about trying to understand this topic, a lot of thoughts come up telling me I'll never be able to understand this, this is too hard, why am I even trying. The fear kinda feels like it's the easiest way for my body to ward me away from learning new things.
Whats helping me at the moment is that procrastinating was a form of dealing with stress that I made myself because Im procrastinating and not working xD I had to learn to relax properly and that I am even allowed to relax. And now I watch 1-2 videos, or play an hour and can switch to work without feeling pressure or stress.
I procrastinate but I call it procrastiplanning. I have a difficult time initiating tasks but the entire time I'm not getting up and doing whatever task, I'm planning the most efficient way to complete the task in my head. Honestly, it's efficient and the execution goes so much more smoothly.
that is such a good idea, usually when i procrastinate i dont even want to think about the task because it makes me uncomfortable (which is usually why i procrastinate in the first place) but thinking about it in kinda like a step-by-step how would i start and complete this task it would probably help make the idea of doing the task more manageable and less stressful
but when does that just become, thinking instead of doing? Everyone waits for the perfect condition before starting. But fail to realise, starting is the perfect condition.
I struggle a lot with planning. Because I have no idea how long something will take and what I could technically achieve in day. It is a bit frustrating.
This is very true one example is when i have classes at 9:00 am I wake up at around 4:00 am and just so Do nothing 40 minutes into waking up i very slowly do my morning routine from making coffee, taking a dump, taking a bath and then changing to my uniform in school but i never knew that was already a form of procrastination i just thought that my mind prefer things to do slowly because it keeps me focused similar to how a car engine is slowly being heated up from a cold start
Yes true, and don't let the naysayers put you off.. Like when I found out I could paint, and settle into it and paint for hours into the night and morning I started doing 2 paintings a month and mainly giving them to family or friends.. But after a while of talking about it with my ex I told her it was disappointing she could only say "it's nice". After discussing things she said that I'd never become a painter. She just didn't see anything special in it and only believes in hard work and standard jobs. But seeing as I probably have ADHD finding a healthy obsession that I can put my mind to for hours is certainly valuable.. We are poor at understanding our own and other people's psychology. Side note: if you have ADHD they say stop trying to fight it. So transitions for the sake of doing something new/novel and interesting is better than all the self criticism and ruminations about not being able to do anything and getting nothing done.
The problem is no one lets you have time. Every attempt to give myself time (as I have always hated rushing) has been met with massive resistance, whether it was school, work, or even leisure.
@@skypeace2234That’s great if you’re self employed and self-directed, but if you have a job or you’re in school you HAVE to abide by external requirements or risk either losing your job or failing school. If you have anyone that depends on you like a spouse or kids, they also impose time requirements.
I totally feel that, but I've found that I feel that the most when I am rushing around, trying to be as efficient as possible with my time. When I slow down and think about what I need to do next instead of cutting out my transitions to buy back some time, it actually feels like I have more time to get things done, which is weird. Your commitments are what they are, and you should definitely still have respect and pride in what you do for work and school. However, your time outside those things should be 100% yours, and it's important to respect yourself enough to hold that boundary, to use that time on things that are truly valuable to you, and to take the time to figure out what those truly valuable things are.
It’s like being on autopilot. In my brain, mindfulness feels like wasting time,like less productive,on slow mode,gotta get rid of this way of thinking as it seems I’m never really present in the current activity.
My successful transitions: Jolt from a nightmare Sprint to the bathroom Fall down the stairs Speed-dial the emergency room Crash on the ECG Run from my medical bill
I spent years jumping around like this. Up front, it seemed more efficient to cut transitions down to a minimum, but it was really my brain highjacking my love of efficiency to stop me from thinking about what I actually needed to do. I've just started living more slowly and mindfully, and it's helped me be dramatically more productive. While I relapse here and there, slowing down my transitions gives me time to conciously think about what I should be doing with my time. This not only knocks me out of my "go go go" dopemenergic cycle, but it also increases the value of doing these necessary tasks, making it even easier to choose doing them over other distractions in life.
"The high performers are the ones who give themselves a lot of time to work up to something. Whereas people who were low performers, less successful, have very [small/rapid] transitions." That's amazing. I was so disappointed in myself because I would get up about 2.5 hours before work every day to study for my class, but really I'd only get an hour of studying in. But, that's an hour. That's not too bad. I just accepted it that my brain likes to avoid working, and I gave myself that time to ease into studying. "If that's what it takes to get an hour of progress, then do that. What's the alternative?" 🤯 Mind blown. I'm really grateful I saw this short. Thanks, Doc!
I'm certainly mindful of doing this. I've realized that preparation is key to say, cooking for instance. I'll manage to prep everything I need to cook over the course of an hour. I think this has helped me to learn to cook more efficiently and my food has been complimented on several times at this point, very encouraging. Now, I must prepare to negotiate with my neurotic side. 😅
I wish you good luck in your endeavour of trying to focus on your career, Mike. Just keep a few things in mind: 1. Trying too hard often ruins things. We love your content for what you've done so far, so while trying to better it is a good intention, make sure the original recipe stays the same 2. Give yourself time to rest from your work too, once burnout hits, it hits HARD and it's not fun 3. Feed your spirit/soul through the things you love, so while you mentioned competing is postponed, make sure you do things such as jiu jitsu and spending time with your family and whatever else makes you happy. Take care Mike, we appreciate you
All my life I've wanted to do things slowly, with patience and consideration. Give myself time to process what's going on. And now as I've gotten older and been through the education system and the modern workplace, I feel as if I've been pulled away from that further and further, right up to the point I no longer know what it is to live life in the "slow" gear. All information merely passes me by and after it's gone I find I haven't really even engaged with it at all. It's a "wham-bam-thank-you-mam" scenario, but in the scale of my recent life. How could one not feel disconnected in this situation? It's learning out of it all that's tough.
This is so me. It’s like I need that pressure to really get started. I know it’s going to be stressful but somehow I love it and I always perform great when under pressure.
Sometimes I can only do what's good for me if I stop thinking about it (aka 123 rule, immediately jumping out of my rut and get working). I get so paralyzed just thinking about it.
@@cat-des650 i think they mean that when they remember a task that they have been procrastinating, instead of thinking about whether or not they should do the task and end up procrastinating more, they count to 3 and then immediately start doing the task without thinking about it too much
@@cat-des650 A mini countdown for yourself to get you start working immediately. I use it when I find myself rotting away on instagram reels. I notice my guilt and anxiety and count down by 3. At the end of the countdown I put my phone down and get working. No overthinking. It works for me because it leaves no time for me to coddle myself. Like, man I've had a tough day (not really), let's watch one more.
When confronted with an overwhelming task, you have two options. Fight or flight Flight is what causes avoidance behavior and procrastination. Fight is what allows people to execute their tasks.
I've lost friends because of this. Granted, I may over analyze things. But, I'd rather know all the facts before jumping it a decision. But I am also very capable of making spur of the moment decisions and change plans and move things around quickly to adapt based off the knowledge I have.
During that “time” we are letting our ideas cook. When we proceed, we do so with a clear vision. What makes it successful is that, because we let it cook, it we run into an unanticipated speed bump, we recover easily.
"Give yourself time". I do the exact opposite. I stress everything I do even if it's like putting on clothes and many times I multitask to get a few extra seconds. A while back I basically went to work, came home to do homework and slept, and during that time I was so mad a day wasn't 48h.
I find that I gradually procrastinate. In that, say I should be doing something, but then I watch TH-cam shorts for like 10-15 minutes. Nothing long, but long enough for me to be like I should have been doing that thing I was supposed to do. Then I think that I have already wasted some time, so what is another 5 more minutes of wasted time and then I go back to what I was doing to procrastinate myself. Then I do this a few more times. Eventually 30 minutes to an hour goes by and then what I think I do is that I am like if I stop doing the mindless unimportant activity and start doing what I was supposed to be doing then I am admitting to myself I have wasted a good amount of time, but if I continue to procrastinate then I do not have to accept that. Eventually usually something comes up where I am forced to change my activity whether it is go to work or its so late I have to go to bed. In reality if I just stopped in the first 10-15 minutes and accepted I wasted time then I would be more productive and feel better about myself. My endless procrastination definitely decreases my self confidence because it feels like I am not in control of my life as I have a tough time to just do the things I am supposed to be doing.
No wonder why I never win any social related competition I joined. I never gave myself time to relax, it's always "oh my god they only give us 1 week, how am I gonna go this" and stayed up all night doing it and failed
I call this "percolating." It could be an idea, a plan, a solution, a project, a paper, or even a mundane chore. I let it ruminate, or percolate in my brain, kind of like letting the engine warm up in a car. I envision how best to complete the task, contemplate consequences or next steps thereafter. The time this takes absolutely depends on the task. Sometimes it's just a few minutes while I make a cup of tea or get ready for the day. Some ideas have to percolate for days while I do other things. I'm not procrastinating, I'm just not ready for it, yet. I have a portion of my planner that is just a place to jot down tasks that I think of while something else is percolating. I don't want to interrupt the process, after all!
That's because those people are actually concious about their actions, the people that are rapidly doing those transitions are just on an autopilot state that they have to overcome, but that s ok aswell, its just a chapter.
I was rushing to get ice water for my hard working volunteers, because I hadn’t gotten to work early enough to do it before they got thirsty. So: rushing. I stepped on a walnut in my haste and sprained my ankle and had to send all the volunteers home while I got driven to the ER. But! There’s measured and thoughtful and thorough, and sometimes you just need to pull the trigger and stop naval gazing
yet multitasking is preferred by many management systems in work environments. The first notable event for me was when the air traffic controllers were denied control of their need to take a break between bouts of intense focusing.
I've always felt bad about taking time to do things inside of "hoping into" or "jumping into" stuff. Feels like wasting time with transitions. But it's not like I help it
Take action. That's it, one foot in front of the other. Success is not being rich and telling people how they can be rich on youtube and regurgitating the same stuff its Helping people and the most important thing you can achieve in this world and most never will is piece of mind.
The slow build up is super real. Going to the gym or the library now every day after work thanks to my amazing encouraging friends. Going to start online school next month. I waited 2 months before even enroling. I have just been studying on TH-cam videos, but doing it at the library is so much better for my self esteem and my habits than doing it in bed. I hired a college counselor and they believe I'll be able to get my first 4 year degree in one year. Fixed my old study habits before going back to school. I am seeing phisical improvements because of my consistency in the gym. I did it all my self and while I "could have" done it all on my own, I never WOULD have done it without my amazing friends.
When I think about doing my work, which I should be doing, I get anxious and almost panic. this results in me avoiding the work I need to do and to procrastinate
Yes very common to overthink a simple task & catastrophise it, so it becomes an overwhelming task. Overthinking about all the things that can go wrong with a task, project or relationship- leaves us paralysed.
Instead of playing a game for 4 hours and then attend to your real life needs like a squirrel on cocain fighting against the clock, dedicate plenty of time to care for your needs with presence and mindfulness
It was pretty difficult for me too, but what I got from this is that before you do something, you should reflect on it to determine whether you’re making a good decision or a bad decision. Is what you’re about to do a good choice or a bad choice? Why? If you act without considering the pros and cons, you’re more likely to make the wrong choice in the end.
@@SK-yx7hm exactly. Slice up some organic fruits and make a free range egg omelet rather than storming to the shop to buy breakfast burrito. Or take a bubble bath that helps you tune in to your emotional healing process rather than hoping in the shower to quickly get back to work or game escape.
@MaddSpazz2000 explained this well, ”No not really, he's saying to allow yourself some time to work up to doing stuff. Mentally prepare yourself to do something else, don't just jump from activity to activity instantly”. And I would say to allow yourself at least 5 minutes between tasks so that you're certain that is the task that you want to do and not because you're bored or hungry. Take care man✌️
At what point does it evolve into higher efficiency? For my job I have a lot of time constraints that while they dont necessitate quick movements and fast transitions, those are what allow me to be the highest performing and most accurate/thorough person on the team. I have the same amount of mistakes as everyone else so at some point this is no longer true in my understanding
Tammy Peterson was talking about it recently how "the birth control" affected her mentality when she was young woman. She wasnt aware of any danger, because the pills caused she was more risky... she would put herself in a risky situations, without selfwareness. She had depressions and when she stopped taking the pills she got better. Then she started to take the pills again and her personality completelly changed. Jordan Peterson noticed it too. She noticed the same attitude with modern women, that if thye take "birth control pills" these women put themselves in risky situations without realising it, flirting with strangers...engaging a risky situations. the pills are altering the hormonal cycle,the microbipom of the guts,it affects the serotonin release, but also the mindset.
When I did a task I didn't want to do, there is usually a "Fuck it" right before I start. Too much thought have gone into it now wanting to do it that I'm done thinking about it. Also a few curse words thrown in there doing that annoying task.
Studies show that multi-tasking is correlated with decreased productivity. There is no transition and every time we switch from one task to another like working on a project, then checking and answering your emails, reacting and responding to a slack message, getting distracted by all the notifications while you have 10 tabs open on your browser and jumping into back-to-back Zoom calls with no break till 6pm. Despite multi-tasking and having no transition have been proven inefficient and unproductive, why do we continue to do it?
Meditate in the morning. 5 minutes does wonders. 3 minutes. Something. Put the practice in. It feels annoying af but it sort of should be because you're "working out/training" your mind to be able to lift loads like task switching and focus. You'll notice it during the day. Might only be one moment you realize you're just going and on your shit. Sometimes that's it, sometimes it makes you pumped and you are able to keep it going. Thinking about something while you're thinking about something or doing something while you're doing something is exhausting and nonsensical. One and then the other and then the next.
I'm not religious but I'm going to church tomorrow. it's a slow, simple mindset where everyone is praying shame to be acknowledged. it's stuff like this that actually helps my studies. slow shit from time to time
This might be true but ultimately people in the corporate leadership positions do not necessarily possess this characteristic, nor they value employees who tend to take time to produce long lasting things. They want results yesterday.
So basically slow (ADD) vs fast (ADHD) behavior. Weird both can have disadvantages, but you're saying with being slow I could become successful one day? I believe in it too! I "just" need to finish creating my game.
Hold on guys, I'm on my 50th "how to stop procrastinating" video, I'm sure I'll have a breakthrough soon enough
You probs have enough info on tackling the task you have to do.
I'm with you on procrastinating i need to do some overdue work fr it weighing on my psyche.
I had written this to say that I understand how procrastination is difficult and the desperate want to stop procrastinating.
give yourself time. You don't want to transition out of these videos too soon. If you watch them all twice, then you may unlock your potential as a high procrastinato- I mean, high performer
Try the focus go technique. Pick the very next thing you need to do that you're putting off and visualise yourself doing that task. You'll find your mind will come up with reasons some valid/some not as to why you can't do said task. Get clear on these thoughts and work through them (Some might be actual tasks that need completing before the main task and some things might just be limiting beliefs). It's an exercise in self awareness to help combat procrastination.
I do two things that help. 1) I internalize that I have to get this task done. Things will get worse and harder if I don’t do this thing. 2) Break the task down into trivially easy steps. If I have to write something, step one is opening the program. Step two is writing my name on the paper. Step three is labeling all the sections I need to do. By then I’ve built enough momentum that I can actually start doing the work.
That’s what works for me, anyway.
Do you have a summary of what the 50 videos say?
Not getting down on myself for not writing for 4 hours and instead being proud of myself for writing 15 minutes more than yesterday is how I finished my book.
Giving yourself time aka being kind to yourself
If you put too much pressure on yourself, you'll procastinate more often,
If you keep focusing on the end goal rather than the small tasks, the end goal will become overwhelming and you'll procastinate
Less pressure ironically leads to more success, everything in life is counter intuitive hahahha
I wonder how long it took in total... Must be years, but looks like it was worth the result.
As a software engineer I like to start the day slow and reflect on my goals for the day. If I just sit down and say "time to work" I sometimes feel overwhelmed with the totality of the work. When I'm feeling resistance to chip away at my goals I just focus on the next hour. What do I want to do this hour? How should I disconnect for a few moments and give myself credit for following through? Take a stretch, maybe take a short walk and feel the sun, grab a drink. Then back at it again. When you are worried about deadlines or following through the best way to avoid it is to do as I just said above. Its easier to decide to do something for 10min or an 1hr than to commit to a whole day at once.
This is beyond helpful. I'm screenshotting your comment. Thank you for sharing :)
1. Decide what is that task.
2. Leg go of the Guilt (and any negative emotion) that is stopping you.
3. See it in a finished state, NOW.
Now your motivated, now go and START.
🎉🎉🎉
Underrated comment. Letting go of the guilt let me get started just now.
ooh we got something here lads, chop chop back 2 work
It's hard to take your time when you're constantly force-fed the idea that your time is running out and life is so short. Getting used to the idea that worrying about your time running out takes time, otherwise you waste even more time not spending the time to work on it
Especially terrible when you are raised on the desperate rush that adults have to live with and unintentionally pass that stress down to kids
It does running out. Succesful people can afford being slow, it's cause and effect. And then again, you ask them successers, and all they say is how the work hard all the time. Go figure.
What is a waste of time? Being busy is just as wasteful as doing nothing. You could end up so busy, you don't realize time is passing to enjoy any of it. You could be so idle, that you don't experience anything.
The only true waste of time I believe is doing things non-deliberately or unconsciously. We get sucked into patterns and perspectives of life from others who wish to steal that resource. That is a huge waste of time.
He didn't say it is easy. He clearly said the opposite. It is very hard to give yourself time. If it was easy, most people would do "the right thing" most of the time. Which is not the case.
@@hamsteratemyhomework618 Life is full of suffering. So, the death seems to be a reward at some point. I feel happier as years go by. And it is not depression or stuff. Just tranquility.
this is absolutely true. so many times i do something without giving it another thought and then i realize if i thought for a couple minutes longer i could have done that original thing and 3 additional one's extremely efficiently.
As someone with ADHD and someone with addiction in the family, I've always tried to stay busy as a coping mechanism. Idle hands is what I taught myself growing up. Now I'm realizing how destructive it was because I'm constantly, anxiously, rushing around my life, ignoring my body and mind.
"when I was a degenerate" lol
Right? Lol definitely not.
Do you feel like ppl sometimes say stuff like that ("being a degenerate"), so others immediately disagree with them and prop them? 🤔 I've just known a lot of folks to do this, and it's so aggravating
@@Lĺllllll-p4dfirst of all i doubt he cares about stuff like that and second of all if you know about his college years then you’ll know he’s pretty much right to call himself a degenerate
@eebbaa5560 I'm not saying he has to care, the comment wasn't explicitly for him, but rather ppl who know others who have done this. Maybe he was a degenerate, but just by mentioning it, it still elicits a kindhearted response as a result, generally speaking, almost automatically, which seems a bit emotionally manipulative. I don't even care myself much about this, I was just pointing a thought out :)
@@SemekiIzuio You don't know his life story, do you?
This is so real, I feel like my life used to be so fast paced, and like particularly in my driving habits, I was so impatient. I made a lot of positive changes that have made me a generally happier person, and all of the sudden, I have patience for other people, and I don’t find myself in as much of a rush all of the time.
Think we fool ourselves into a feeling of getting shit done when we hurry to things.
Look at me im so productive and fast. :D saving all this time and shit
Facts. Sometimes i tell myself to physically move in slow motion. Something about it just helps.
The more I learn about stuff I’m interested in the more scared I get of it.
This is exactly what happens to me too.
@@PrinceOfTheSound I find it interesting too. What about it makes you feel scared?
@@faeray1016It’s hard to explain because it feels like a barrier to me. Keeping me from wanting to learn a specific things that I love. It makes me anxious to think about neuroscience and stuff I binge learned. I’m also neurodivergent so I’m not sure of that plays a part.
@@PrinceOfTheSoundWell i can offer an example.
So after having some “experience on some special substance” i got extremely motivated to go buy art supplies and buy a huge variety. Binged watch videos over art, bought books to teach me how to draw.
I had a short time where i was tackling it pretty hard and making some decent artwork. But then i started to notice that in order to make the art i really wanted to, it was going to take alot of work and practice. Day in day out. I even started disliking my own drawings if they didnt come out how i wanted them.
Looking back as to why i couldnt relax and accept the process was because in the back of my mind. I had been putting off so many things that failing at my artwork meant i would have to invest more time that i didnt have. I felt like i was wasting my time because i could be doing something more important.
So right now ive been focusing on checking everything else off my list. So that when i do finally sit down to draw. I can do so with a relaxed mind
What I found this is, at least to me, is that I'm scared about not understanding it. I go in and when the first hurdle pops up about trying to understand this topic, a lot of thoughts come up telling me I'll never be able to understand this, this is too hard, why am I even trying. The fear kinda feels like it's the easiest way for my body to ward me away from learning new things.
Whats helping me at the moment is that procrastinating was a form of dealing with stress that I made myself because Im procrastinating and not working xD
I had to learn to relax properly and that I am even allowed to relax.
And now I watch 1-2 videos, or play an hour and can switch to work without feeling pressure or stress.
I procrastinate but I call it procrastiplanning. I have a difficult time initiating tasks but the entire time I'm not getting up and doing whatever task, I'm planning the most efficient way to complete the task in my head. Honestly, it's efficient and the execution goes so much more smoothly.
that is such a good idea, usually when i procrastinate i dont even want to think about the task because it makes me uncomfortable (which is usually why i procrastinate in the first place) but thinking about it in kinda like a step-by-step how would i start and complete this task it would probably help make the idea of doing the task more manageable and less stressful
That's literally just overthinking.
but when does that just become, thinking instead of doing? Everyone waits for the perfect condition before starting. But fail to realise, starting is the perfect condition.
I struggle a lot with planning. Because I have no idea how long something will take and what I could technically achieve in day. It is a bit frustrating.
It's more like ADD (slow) than ADHD (fast)
This is very true one example is when i have classes at 9:00 am I wake up at around 4:00 am and just so
Do nothing 40 minutes into waking up i very slowly do my morning routine from making coffee, taking a dump, taking a bath and then changing to my uniform in school but i never knew that was already a form of procrastination i just thought that my mind prefer things to do slowly because it keeps me focused similar to how a car engine is slowly being heated up from a cold start
So you are doing it in the right way, slowly...
Yes true, and don't let the naysayers put you off.. Like when I found out I could paint, and settle into it and paint for hours into the night and morning I started doing 2 paintings a month and mainly giving them to family or friends.. But after a while of talking about it with my ex I told her it was disappointing she could only say "it's nice". After discussing things she said that I'd never become a painter. She just didn't see anything special in it and only believes in hard work and standard jobs.
But seeing as I probably have ADHD finding a healthy obsession that I can put my mind to for hours is certainly valuable..
We are poor at understanding our own and other people's psychology.
Side note: if you have ADHD they say stop trying to fight it. So transitions for the sake of doing something new/novel and interesting is better than all the self criticism and ruminations about not being able to do anything and getting nothing done.
The problem is no one lets you have time. Every attempt to give myself time (as I have always hated rushing) has been met with massive resistance, whether it was school, work, or even leisure.
Dear bro (or sister)😊
"The problem is no one lets you have time.". The problem is putting others decide about your time. ❤
@@skypeace2234That’s great if you’re self employed and self-directed, but if you have a job or you’re in school you HAVE to abide by external requirements or risk either losing your job or failing school. If you have anyone that depends on you like a spouse or kids, they also impose time requirements.
I totally feel that, but I've found that I feel that the most when I am rushing around, trying to be as efficient as possible with my time. When I slow down and think about what I need to do next instead of cutting out my transitions to buy back some time, it actually feels like I have more time to get things done, which is weird.
Your commitments are what they are, and you should definitely still have respect and pride in what you do for work and school. However, your time outside those things should be 100% yours, and it's important to respect yourself enough to hold that boundary, to use that time on things that are truly valuable to you, and to take the time to figure out what those truly valuable things are.
Just be financially secure enough to give yourself time first.
'Just' do that, ah, brilliant advice, grand time, lovely job. Horrid.@@NorthonBruce
It’s like being on autopilot.
In my brain, mindfulness feels like wasting time,like less productive,on slow mode,gotta get rid of this way of thinking as it seems I’m never really present in the current activity.
Perhaps it's that the slow transitions indicate a presence of mind throughout tasks.
You just articulated what i feel every moment. Thanks a ton.
My successful transitions:
Jolt from a nightmare
Sprint to the bathroom
Fall down the stairs
Speed-dial the emergency room
Crash on the ECG
Run from my medical bill
I spent years jumping around like this. Up front, it seemed more efficient to cut transitions down to a minimum, but it was really my brain highjacking my love of efficiency to stop me from thinking about what I actually needed to do.
I've just started living more slowly and mindfully, and it's helped me be dramatically more productive. While I relapse here and there, slowing down my transitions gives me time to conciously think about what I should be doing with my time. This not only knocks me out of my "go go go" dopemenergic cycle, but it also increases the value of doing these necessary tasks, making it even easier to choose doing them over other distractions in life.
"The high performers are the ones who give themselves a lot of time to work up to something. Whereas people who were low performers, less successful, have very [small/rapid] transitions."
That's amazing. I was so disappointed in myself because I would get up about 2.5 hours before work every day to study for my class, but really I'd only get an hour of studying in. But, that's an hour. That's not too bad. I just accepted it that my brain likes to avoid working, and I gave myself that time to ease into studying. "If that's what it takes to get an hour of progress, then do that. What's the alternative?" 🤯 Mind blown. I'm really grateful I saw this short. Thanks, Doc!
I'm certainly mindful of doing this.
I've realized that preparation is key to say, cooking for instance.
I'll manage to prep everything I need to cook over the course of an hour. I think this has helped me to learn to cook more efficiently and my food has been complimented on several times at this point, very encouraging.
Now, I must prepare to negotiate with my neurotic side. 😅
Your requests have already been denied😂🎉
I wish you good luck in your endeavour of trying to focus on your career, Mike. Just keep a few things in mind:
1. Trying too hard often ruins things. We love your content for what you've done so far, so while trying to better it is a good intention, make sure the original recipe stays the same
2. Give yourself time to rest from your work too, once burnout hits, it hits HARD and it's not fun
3. Feed your spirit/soul through the things you love, so while you mentioned competing is postponed, make sure you do things such as jiu jitsu and spending time with your family and whatever else makes you happy.
Take care Mike, we appreciate you
Very true. Loved this video.
All my life I've wanted to do things slowly, with patience and consideration. Give myself time to process what's going on. And now as I've gotten older and been through the education system and the modern workplace, I feel as if I've been pulled away from that further and further, right up to the point I no longer know what it is to live life in the "slow" gear. All information merely passes me by and after it's gone I find I haven't really even engaged with it at all. It's a "wham-bam-thank-you-mam" scenario, but in the scale of my recent life. How could one not feel disconnected in this situation? It's learning out of it all that's tough.
Scrolling to the next short without a slow transition is probably why i've been so lazy lately. I seriously need to stop scrolling
Gold from Dr K as usual. I'm convinced slow living is where it's all at !
This is so me. It’s like I need that pressure to really get started. I know it’s going to be stressful but somehow I love it and I always perform great when under pressure.
You R the coolest psychiatrist. I luv how you give examples from your own life that you nonchalantly say that make me laugh out loud.
Sometimes I can only do what's good for me if I stop thinking about it (aka 123 rule, immediately jumping out of my rut and get working). I get so paralyzed just thinking about it.
wut is 123 rule bro
It's when you don't give yourself time to think about procrastinating, you just count to 3 and do it@@cat-des650
@@cat-des650 i think they mean that when they remember a task that they have been procrastinating, instead of thinking about whether or not they should do the task and end up procrastinating more, they count to 3 and then immediately start doing the task without thinking about it too much
@@cat-des650 A mini countdown for yourself to get you start working immediately. I use it when I find myself rotting away on instagram reels. I notice my guilt and anxiety and count down by 3. At the end of the countdown I put my phone down and get working. No overthinking. It works for me because it leaves no time for me to coddle myself. Like, man I've had a tough day (not really), let's watch one more.
@@clubpenguingirlish exactly!!
When confronted with an overwhelming task, you have two options.
Fight or flight
Flight is what causes avoidance behavior and procrastination.
Fight is what allows people to execute their tasks.
this is genius. THANK YOU!!!! Very interesting idea
how did i not realize this myself… holy shit this is really helpful
This is absolutely brilliant
Interesting to listen to, we’ll done from Australia 😎
Moral of the story, showers are bad
We breaking the cycle with this one 🗣️🗣️🗣️🙌🙌🔥🔥🔥
I've lost friends because of this. Granted, I may over analyze things. But, I'd rather know all the facts before jumping it a decision. But I am also very capable of making spur of the moment decisions and change plans and move things around quickly to adapt based off the knowledge I have.
During that “time” we are letting our ideas cook. When we proceed, we do so with a clear vision. What makes it successful is that, because we let it cook, it we run into an unanticipated speed bump, we recover easily.
"Give yourself time". I do the exact opposite. I stress everything I do even if it's like putting on clothes and many times I multitask to get a few extra seconds. A while back I basically went to work, came home to do homework and slept, and during that time I was so mad a day wasn't 48h.
I multitask because its more stimulating and therefore i get less distracted and less bored
but week is 168h
I find that I gradually procrastinate. In that, say I should be doing something, but then I watch TH-cam shorts for like 10-15 minutes. Nothing long, but long enough for me to be like I should have been doing that thing I was supposed to do. Then I think that I have already wasted some time, so what is another 5 more minutes of wasted time and then I go back to what I was doing to procrastinate myself.
Then I do this a few more times. Eventually 30 minutes to an hour goes by and then what I think I do is that I am like if I stop doing the mindless unimportant activity and start doing what I was supposed to be doing then I am admitting to myself I have wasted a good amount of time, but if I continue to procrastinate then I do not have to accept that. Eventually usually something comes up where I am forced to change my activity whether it is go to work or its so late I have to go to bed.
In reality if I just stopped in the first 10-15 minutes and accepted I wasted time then I would be more productive and feel better about myself. My endless procrastination definitely decreases my self confidence because it feels like I am not in control of my life as I have a tough time to just do the things I am supposed to be doing.
No wonder why I never win any social related competition I joined. I never gave myself time to relax, it's always "oh my god they only give us 1 week, how am I gonna go this" and stayed up all night doing it and failed
I always think I am running out of time but I think logically....
I found it to be true 😢
I call this "percolating."
It could be an idea, a plan, a solution, a project, a paper, or even a mundane chore. I let it ruminate, or percolate in my brain, kind of like letting the engine warm up in a car. I envision how best to complete the task, contemplate consequences or next steps thereafter.
The time this takes absolutely depends on the task. Sometimes it's just a few minutes while I make a cup of tea or get ready for the day. Some ideas have to percolate for days while I do other things. I'm not procrastinating, I'm just not ready for it, yet.
I have a portion of my planner that is just a place to jot down tasks that I think of while something else is percolating. I don't want to interrupt the process, after all!
What i've heard: "procrastinate more cause that means you're high performer and you will succeed in life"
That's because those people are actually concious about their actions, the people that are rapidly doing those transitions are just on an autopilot state that they have to overcome, but that s ok aswell, its just a chapter.
This correct, and I've never heard it elsewhere!
Time is the ultimate healer
I literally learned cybersecurity in one week and I am considered a high performer.
I was rushing to get ice water for my hard working volunteers, because I hadn’t gotten to work early enough to do it before they got thirsty. So: rushing. I stepped on a walnut in my haste and sprained my ankle and had to send all the volunteers home while I got driven to the ER.
But! There’s measured and thoughtful and thorough, and sometimes you just need to pull the trigger and stop naval gazing
This seems like it's specifically contrary to being quickly decisive which is also a trait of successful people.
yet multitasking is preferred by many management systems in work environments. The first notable event for me was when the air traffic controllers were denied control of their need to take a break between bouts of intense focusing.
Good stuff. I work with ADHD adults and they're very guilty of this but seem to enjoy slow game nowadays for a change.
yes this is true, small habits to build it up
I've always felt bad about taking time to do things inside of "hoping into" or "jumping into" stuff. Feels like wasting time with transitions.
But it's not like I help it
trauma made my mind fast and hyper vigilant. it's so hard to control my thoughts.
that's actually really subtle and smart
Every time you give dota examples makes me laugh 😂
Take action. That's it, one foot in front of the other. Success is not being rich and telling people how they can be rich on youtube and regurgitating the same stuff its Helping people and the most important thing you can achieve in this world and most never will is piece of mind.
Mindfulness is one hell of a tool
Slow and steady wins the race
Do one small thing to achieve big things
The slow build up is super real. Going to the gym or the library now every day after work thanks to my amazing encouraging friends. Going to start online school next month. I waited 2 months before even enroling. I have just been studying on TH-cam videos, but doing it at the library is so much better for my self esteem and my habits than doing it in bed. I hired a college counselor and they believe I'll be able to get my first 4 year degree in one year. Fixed my old study habits before going back to school. I am seeing phisical improvements because of my consistency in the gym. I did it all my self and while I "could have" done it all on my own, I never WOULD have done it without my amazing friends.
@@titusjames4912 you absolutely cannot earn a 4 year degree in a single year at any reputable institution.
It saves time to stick to one thing because the transitions take time.
The best decisions of my life have been spur of the moment.
So it's totally cool to be in the bathroom working up to a shower while it's running and I'm on my phone. Awesome. 😂
Nah my transitions are so long it *is* the procrastination
I started investing in options and this makes so much sense
How does this apply to stopping procrastination?
When I think about doing my work, which I should be doing, I get anxious and almost panic. this results in me avoiding the work I need to do and to procrastinate
I feel u bro😢
Yes very common to overthink a simple task & catastrophise it, so it becomes an overwhelming task. Overthinking about all the things that can go wrong with a task, project or relationship- leaves us paralysed.
What are you supposed to be doing in between? Or are you just supposed to walk slower?
Sooo true. I never thought of it like this.
“There’s a correlation between rapid transitions and doing the wrong thing” is so getting clipped out of context😂
i was going to drive to the store to get some beer, now I'm gonna walk.
I notice in Dr Ks vids, he is always adjusting his hair 😊
Thank you!
Can someone explain this to me more practically please, I did not understand it.
People have tiny attention spans I guess
Instead of playing a game for 4 hours and then attend to your real life needs like a squirrel on cocain fighting against the clock, dedicate plenty of time to care for your needs with presence and mindfulness
It was pretty difficult for me too, but what I got from this is that before you do something, you should reflect on it to determine whether you’re making a good decision or a bad decision. Is what you’re about to do a good choice or a bad choice? Why? If you act without considering the pros and cons, you’re more likely to make the wrong choice in the end.
@@SK-yx7hm exactly. Slice up some organic fruits and make a free range egg omelet rather than storming to the shop to buy breakfast burrito. Or take a bubble bath that helps you tune in to your emotional healing process rather than hoping in the shower to quickly get back to work or game escape.
@MaddSpazz2000 explained this well,
”No not really, he's saying to allow yourself some time to work up to doing stuff. Mentally prepare yourself to do something else, don't just jump from activity to activity instantly”.
And I would say to allow yourself at least 5 minutes between tasks so that you're certain that is the task that you want to do and not because you're bored or hungry.
Take care man✌️
At what point does it evolve into higher efficiency? For my job I have a lot of time constraints that while they dont necessitate quick movements and fast transitions, those are what allow me to be the highest performing and most accurate/thorough person on the team. I have the same amount of mistakes as everyone else so at some point this is no longer true in my understanding
me: *spends 20 minutes taking a shower to avoid doing a task*
Great advice! Next short ⬇️
Tammy Peterson was talking about it recently how "the birth control" affected her mentality when she was young woman.
She wasnt aware of any danger, because the pills caused
she was more risky... she would put herself in a risky situations, without selfwareness.
She had depressions and when she stopped taking the pills she got better.
Then she started to take the pills again and her personality completelly changed. Jordan Peterson noticed it too.
She noticed the same attitude with modern women, that if thye take "birth control pills"
these women put themselves in risky situations without realising it, flirting with strangers...engaging a risky situations.
the pills are altering the hormonal cycle,the microbipom of the guts,it affects the serotonin release, but also the mindset.
Scrolling shorts = rapid transitions
In other words, when you procrastinate, you are more likely to make impulsive decisions
You're right but that's also how I talk myself out of shit is taking way to long to just go for it 🤷 lol the balance is so hard
Is there a link to the longer episode that this is from? I need this idea flushed out more.
@@mrydobon just click on the title under the name healthy gamer at the bottom. It has a arrow next to it.
I think the full episode is "why free will holds you back"
When I did a task I didn't want to do, there is usually a "Fuck it" right before I start. Too much thought have gone into it now wanting to do it that I'm done thinking about it. Also a few curse words thrown in there doing that annoying task.
Would this imply that a commute is good for productivity cause you give yourself time to start work?
I will take a look at this video tomorrow
Studies show that multi-tasking is correlated with decreased productivity. There is no transition and every time we switch from one task to another like working on a project, then checking and answering your emails, reacting and responding to a slack message, getting distracted by all the notifications while you have 10 tabs open on your browser and jumping into back-to-back Zoom calls with no break till 6pm. Despite multi-tasking and having no transition have been proven inefficient and unproductive, why do we continue to do it?
Meditate in the morning. 5 minutes does wonders. 3 minutes. Something. Put the practice in. It feels annoying af but it sort of should be because you're "working out/training" your mind to be able to lift loads like task switching and focus. You'll notice it during the day. Might only be one moment you realize you're just going and on your shit. Sometimes that's it, sometimes it makes you pumped and you are able to keep it going. Thinking about something while you're thinking about something or doing something while you're doing something is exhausting and nonsensical. One and then the other and then the next.
I'm not religious but I'm going to church tomorrow.
it's a slow, simple mindset where everyone is praying shame to be acknowledged.
it's stuff like this that actually helps my studies. slow shit from time to time
What video is this? I want to hear his example on high performers so I can better understand
New game idea, when you get a Dr. K video, watch it, and then close the app.
problem is that we HAVE to transition quickly because we don't have the extra time due to working way too many hours.
True. Working many hours leads to success. Working too many hours leads to failure.
This might be true but ultimately people in the corporate leadership positions do not necessarily possess this characteristic, nor they value employees who tend to take time to produce long lasting things. They want results yesterday.
My ADHD is nodding to this.
So basically slow (ADD) vs fast (ADHD) behavior. Weird both can have disadvantages, but you're saying with being slow I could become successful one day? I believe in it too! I "just" need to finish creating my game.
it takes me a full hour to do my full shower routine 😭🙏 (can get it in 10-20 if i’m in a hella rush)
Where is the full video?