Many people dont give negative about their mother, just because what other people would think and say, what kind of child he/she is. Reality is very different. Sadly, Truth is bitter.
My mother let me down very badly. When she found out that I was being abused by my husband, she did not help me, and left me there. She even actively prevented me from meeting a lawyer when I tried to help myself on my own. Today I have severe PTSD.
Feel soo Sad for you dear.. ❤ ..Do take the necessary help and therapy needed to heal urself..Yea, I too have toxic parents.. They are seriously sick and pathetic.. Better to b alone than with such people. I was molested by my bro in law and no one took a stand, on top of that my own mother gaslighted me, blamed put false allegations on me! I have seriously no trust on my own family now.. My father too is kind of abusive too. Can't discuss or confront any issues in this house..either made to shut my mouth or told me to leave d house. It doesn't lead to any solutions. I pray to get out soon away from all this shitty people! Only God we can put our faith on..You will come out all of this strongly..im damn sure..God bless..Take care ❤🙏
@@vyaptimehra So true..its soo sad and toxic to be around such people..Same like mine does..i feel the same..I don't share anything too and never will. Only as required . These people are narcissistic as I researched in TH-cam, most characteristics do match. They might understand, but dey just don't care what u go through or for ur feelings. They never validate genuinely, don't take accountability of their wrong doing,dont acknowledge..So fake they r. They project a very goody picture to outside people showing how nice they are..but are very bad to people who stay with dem, especially those are vulnerable and honest. They see you as an extension of themselves,not as another human being with emotions,opinions etc..They are self obsessed creeps..Only know to manipulate ,control & use people. They are actually 'wolves in sheep's clothing'. They'll be nice to you one moment, then treat u badly the next..Better to stay away, as it badly effects our mental health.. Tc dear.. God bless❤🤗🙏
aaj sab rishte money pe depend karte h yaha tak ki aap apne maa baap ko bhi kharid sakte h, mere kam salary hone ki wajah se meri ijjat nahi h jabki mere koi buri aadat nahi h wahi mere cousion jo mujse jyada salary pate h aur aaiyashi karte h unki tarafdari sab karte h
Sorry but I will give you no sympathy. Is your low salary due to poor health or poor intelligence ? If yes, then you have a genuine excuse. Not having any bad habits is good for your own health and future. It's not an ornament that you can show off. And if you don't have an excuse from above , then the bitter truth is you're lazy. Stop being jealous or just accept that you're lazy 😊
नमस्कार सर ,आपकी सभी बाते बिल्कुल सच है,सच में बहुत कड़वाहट भर गई है,लगता है,की जिंदगी में गलतियों के सिवाय कुछ नहीं किया,और बीता समय लौट नही सकता,अब अपनी बात रखती हूं,तो पतिदेव को लगता है,पर निकल आए है,विनाशकाले विपरीत बुद्धि जैसी कहावतें सुनने को मिलती हैं।पर कहते है न इंसान अपनी जिंदगी में हर अच्छी या बुरी चीज का जिम्मेदार खुद होता है,वो सच मैने स्वीकार कर लिया है,तो कड़वाहट थोड़ी कम हो गई है
I can relate to this so much. Even she had a toxic mother and never took a stand for her. The inlaws were pathetic and so was my father for a long time. She also suffered mental illness for a few years but came out so stronger and and open mined that I can't tell how lucky I am to have her as my mother. Yes she has accumulated that bitterness but she has rightly motivated me to never take that in and stay independent both emotionally and financially. She will always be there for me even if the world turns against me unlike her own mother. So proud of her
Any mother who truly and unconditionally loves her family will always receive back the love.There is no scope for bitterness....Law of Karma plays everywhere.
Sir, I want to cry every time I listen to your videos. EACH WORD IS TRUE. I am a daughter and a daughter in law. I was able to take care of my mom's toxicity, because I knew her. From last 15 years I have been trying to cope with the toxicity of my mom-in law. But no one, her husband or her son want to co-operate, except her daughter. The result is that toxicity is so much worse now, I become the punching bag. At every opportunity she vomits her toxicity on me, which is crumbling me emotionally. Which is affecting my work (I am a Professor in US), affecting my relationship with my husband and having dire consequences on the upbringing of my kids. Sir, please address these issues in detail. I will be very grateful. People need to hear this SHIT.
You are not alone. Be strong. If kids are suffering, you have to make physical distance with them no matter the consequences. It's harder to do than knowing what to do. I know. Love and prayers for you 💖
You are financially independent, just stay separate from your husband for a while make him understand that its unbearable for you, take kids with you. Husbands will never change until it affects them directly, they don't care about their wives suffering. Help yourself.
uncle aap ki aik baat bhut pasand aayii mujhai ki jis ghar mai maa khush nahi hoti vo ghar kabhii tarakii nahi kar pataa .. duniyaa ka sabsai piyaara rishta maa sai hota hai i love my mom
In my childhood we were a middle class family with 3 daughters and 1 son and giving education to everyone broke my dad and mother gave in physical efforts to run the home and push us for pursuing education diligently and not only they suffered but also never had any wish of their own to fulfill. Now we all are grown ups and gradually doing better professionally at least I being the eldest one propose things to my siblings to do for our parents and set-up rules make everyone follow. At least we try to give them comfort which money can buy as we all stay away from home. I myself speak to my mother everyday 2-3 times and listen to everything she says as I understand having spent her younger days on raising us and never having a life of her own, she is now all alone at this age. My brother is working from home now and he mocks my mother ok didi is calling now start with your complaints. But women in old age need some rest and someone to talk to openly and vent their heart out as you said they can't go out alone and my dad prefers to watch TV when at home after coming from work and he sometimes goes out with his saadu bhais to have his dose of gupshup and my mom is left all alone at home. So I ask my mother to teach some chores to my brother which is useful to help his wife when he gets married. I simply love your channel sir as I have the same thought process and try to implement it in my family 🙏
Mothers must also find a good support outside the family like friends or self-help groups where they can speak out financial or emotional concerns. Good video, as always 🙏🏽
Yes, it's important to have your your social circle. It's not healthy to expect that all your needs will be met by the family. Even though being a mum is a very special identity, you need to have more identities other than being a mother. Most importantly, depend on yourself to fulfill your own needs.
Nobody outside will listen to your problems, build your circle in your families. Do not take financial advice from your circle, it will be mostly bullshit, instead look for experts on TH-cam
Mothers in the house need to be cherished by family. They feel lonely thats the reason they are bitter. Now they should be allowed to do whatever hobbies she wants to pursue.
Very true , thanks for explaining in such a positive and correct way, otherwise giving them labels like frustrating, cheap , and laughing at them gives them more sadness
My mother is very Strict par sirf ladkiyo ke liye.Mujhse rudely aur roughly baat krna aur bewajah mujhpe chillana to jaise shuru se hi hai unka.kitna bhi kar du unke liye.. that's never enough.bewajh insult krna,Bina kisi baat k aadat hai unki nd mere bhaiyon ko bht respect nd pyar se treat krti bcz wo ladke hain jabki wo waisa kuch nhi krte.Har waqt mujhme kamiyan nikalna , demotivate krna aur sbke samne insult krna.Ab to jaise koi hope nahi bachi mujhme..Bht kuch krti hun unke liye,jb bhi jarurt hoti hai hamesha main khadi rhti hun but wo kbhi khush nhi hoti mujhse..Aur hamesha kehti hain k Karte hain to bete hi, betiyan kbhi nhi krti, nalayak hoti hain..isse jyada painful kuch nahi hai meri life me.Bht koshish ki unse acha rishta rakhne ki,unhe samjhane ki, lekin wo nahi samjhna chahti kyunki main ladki hu aur unka kehna hai k ladkiyo ka lagam kas kar rakhna chahiye..unhe hadd me rehna chahiye.Now I am in my 30's .. unmarried.. aur mere parents mujhe kahi jane nahi dena chahte kyuki unke liye Ghar ka kaam jyada jaruri hai
Hello sir, I am so glad I discovered your channel. The content is truly mind-blowing. I am watching all your videos slowly one by one. All these social aspects I have felt n thought about all my life you articulate and present so well. You are a true social revolutionary and reformer. Brilliant and a genius. Hats off to you for presenting the truth in such a straight forward and no nonsense way. Also love your sense of humour. 🙏🙏
Good one sir, atleast someone is talking. Yes we are all going to live for atleast another 20 years more. Being engaged is important for mental health. When the nest becomes empty,life purpose is questioned in mind.
Very true indeed. My mother also took many pains in raising us. And also had to do so much domestic work in those times. Very good video telling the truth of our mother life.
True , well said. Family members need to be sensitive towards mothers needs both emotional and financial requirement. Thank you for the video. This discussion will help us .
I think one problem is that in India we do not give any importance to adult learning. All classes are only for those who are below 30. Older women should invest in self improvement. Learn art, learn public speaking, Learn a game like chess, join some physical activity besides Yoga.
Sir you have understood the mindset of us women very well. So now it's our turn to implement what you have suggested. It's good for our mental satisfaction.👍🙏🙏
Bitterness ka silsila kaise khatam hoga.. You are very right ki betiyon ki mummy Kam bitter hain but jo beton ki mummy hain woh zyada bitter hain and sense of entitlement zyada hai.. I m a working woman myself..married for last 8 years..both my mother and mother in law have had almost the same pattern of troubles and pain in their life.. but the way of dealing them with now is totally different.. Pichle 8 saal se main aur mere husband,meri mother in law ko khush karne ki koshish karte karte thak gaye hain...from monthly money to gifts to physical work..I have been doing it all..but woh khush hi nahi hoti..kuch bhi Kar lo ..ghar me shaanti hi nahi rehne deti woh..woh tabhi khush hoti hain jab woh mujhe torture Karen aur saare family members unko usme support Karen..uss chakkar me humari zindagi aur life k itne saal barbaad ho rahe hain.. Aur main khud ab bitter ho gayi hoon..I can feel change in myself..from a happy person I have become negative and sad.. Unke sath rehte hue kuch solution nikalo toh woh hone nahi deti and Agar shaanti k liye separate hone ka bolo toh husband ko torture ki I did so much for you and u are a bad son wala emotional torture .. Jo bhi unki zindagi thi achi ya buri..usko cost hum dono husband wife chuka rshe hain..it has become like a loan jo kbhi khatam hi nahi hota.. She is the leader of the family now..father in law,mere husband aur main Sab unke ghulaam..and Agar ghar me shaanti chahye toh unki sahi galat sab baatein karni padegi wanna ghar me ashaanti...silent blackmail .. My point is we agree she has been a victim..but when the victim starts misusing the past to victimize others what to do..how do I save myself and stop myself from becoming another such monster..
Ditto same story hai meri , lekin humare yahan 1 step aage kaand ho gaya hai , main apne bete ko leke alag ho gai hu aur husband ko to itna pareshan kar dia uski maa ne ki vo foreign bhag gaya hai ,Mil is on her own now
My Goodness! These MILs are bent to destroy families. I have been going through this from last fifteen years. This time, my PILs were living with us for 6 months in US, I finally opened my mouth after 5.5 months of continuous torture day in day out, on top of a very stressful job. As a result, I had to leave my own home, my two year old daughter, till they left for India. And the tags I get is that I am not an obedient DIL, I am very proud of my education. I cannot get along with people. Well F**K! Yes how would a unicorn get along with donkeys!
@rachna chaturvedi -the only way to save yourself is to stop pleasing her and accept the fact that no matter what you do she is not going to be happy. Happiness hai he ni uski life main.. jo khud Khush ni hai wo dusre ko kya khush krega Don't afraid to stay separately...saath main rehke bhi you are suffering.
Sir, I believe your advice and perspective would be incredibly valuable for Youngsters today as they navigate their way through life and work towards building a successful future. I would love to see you create a series of videos aimed at offering guidance and wisdom to the youth of today. Your insights and advice on various topics such as education, career development, personal growth, and life skills would be greatly appreciated. I believe it would be an excellent resource for young people to access as they navigate life's challenges and opportunities. Thank you for all you do and I look forward to your future content.🙏❤
Sir isme ek chij aap bol sakte hain ki aajkal achhe achhe tours travels wale ladies special tours bhi lekar jaate hain. Family wale tours main bhi akeli lady ko bheja jata hai. Mumbai main to bahot ladies jate hai. Twin sharing basis per room sharing hoti hai. Yeh tour two types ke hote hain.Nature lovers ke liye alag. Spiritual tours alag. Jiski jo marji woh lady wahan jaker apne jaise Anya logon ke saath enjoy ker sakti hai
Sir I have been loving listening to your videos so far. They are very practical and relatable. Please also make curse of being elder sibling and sibling rivalry because my sibling and I have too many differences. I want to understand your take on it. Thank you
Respected sir, I'm from Mumbai. I really like to watch your video... What topics you take for discussion... And with solutions.... keep it up sir... Gratitude 🙏🎊
Sir mere shabdo me aapke liye sirf ek hi shabd hai aap mahan hai,aap jis tarike se samaz me dukhti Nas ko pakad rahe hai wo shayad koi birla hi kar sakta hai
Pls also make a video on same age group ladies who took lot of responsibility, worked hard both at home and office without proper support of husbands like now. Atleast now people know they have to support their partner.
Sir Aaj ki mil apni legacy bahu ko nahi Dena chahti. Wo educated working bahu to lekar aati hai par unki Sochi Abhi bhi before independence wali hai. Sir aap ek social reformer hain jo aise issues ko address karte hain.
Bilkul sahi baat hai, per sacrifice ke sath sath ladies ko self development n self care per bhi dhyan dena chahiye.Humara self ke liye bhi koi farz hona chahiye.Bitterness tabhi badhti hai jab hum khud ko neglect karte hain.Jo khud khush nahin hai ,wo dusron ko kush kaise dekh payega.Hume kis baat se khushi milti hai ye humse badh ker kaun jaan sakta hai? Isliye kisi ka wait na karen ki koi aapko platter per rakh ker khushi paros dega, khud hi kadam badhayen ,log help karne ke liye taiyar baithe hain.
Mother s whether....strict, traditional...... always have uncondtional love,....'.choti choti khushiyaan " bahut बड़ी होती हैं...... थोड़ा सा प्यार n care....... मां....mothers love is uncondtional 💓...
Why do u think so dear mam, now u must be in a better financial condition than before.....please take help of maids in housework or take care of aged inlaws
Some mother's don't encourage their child's dreams and marry the guy/girl of their choice .Don't love anyone too much..Real LOVE is who will stand by you irrespective of position
This is why you don't marry unless you have enough cash to buy your own home, have your own job, and lead your own life especially as a woman. And never to someone significantly earning more than you.
Sir Nas pakad rahe ho aap .Naman hai aapko .ye wohi Kar sakta hai jinhone khub khub consultation Kari ho logo ki.
Many people dont give negative about their mother, just because what other people would think and say, what kind of child he/she is. Reality is very different. Sadly, Truth is bitter.
"Purpose doondh le " is the best message
हम ऐसे नहीं थे पर वक्त के साथ कड़वाहट कब घुल गई पता ही नहीं चला बहुत अच्छा टापिक है आपको कोटि कोटि धन्यवाद 🙏
My mother let me down very badly. When she found out that I was being abused by my husband, she did not help me, and left me there. She even actively prevented me from meeting a lawyer when I tried to help myself on my own. Today I have severe PTSD.
Feel soo Sad for you dear.. ❤
..Do take the necessary help and therapy needed to heal urself..Yea, I too have toxic parents.. They are seriously sick and pathetic.. Better to b alone than with such people. I was molested by my bro in law and no one took a stand, on top of that my own mother gaslighted me, blamed put false allegations on me! I have seriously no trust on my own family now.. My father too is kind of abusive too. Can't discuss or confront any issues in this house..either made to shut my mouth or told me to leave d house. It doesn't lead to any solutions. I pray to get out soon away from all this shitty people!
Only God we can put our faith on..You will come out all of this strongly..im damn sure..God bless..Take care ❤🙏
@@vyaptimehra So true..its soo sad and toxic to be around such people..Same like mine does..i feel the same..I don't share anything too and never will. Only as required . These people are narcissistic as I researched in TH-cam, most characteristics do match. They might understand, but dey just don't care what u go through or for ur feelings. They never validate genuinely, don't take accountability of their wrong doing,dont acknowledge..So fake they r. They project a very goody picture to outside people showing how nice they are..but are very bad to people who stay with dem, especially those are vulnerable and honest. They see you as an extension of themselves,not as another human being with emotions,opinions etc..They are self obsessed creeps..Only know to manipulate ,control & use people.
They are actually 'wolves in sheep's clothing'. They'll be nice to you one moment, then treat u badly the next..Better to stay away, as it badly effects our mental health.. Tc dear..
God bless❤🤗🙏
Feel very sorry. Be strong & take the required step.
Believe in God!
The creator loves us...we all his creation
aaj sab rishte money pe depend karte h yaha tak ki aap apne maa baap ko bhi kharid sakte h, mere kam salary hone ki wajah se meri ijjat nahi h jabki mere koi buri aadat nahi h wahi mere cousion jo mujse jyada salary pate h aur aaiyashi karte h unki tarafdari sab karte h
Bitter truth of life.
Agree
Parents treat their kids like employees considering their return on investment. Better return means more respect.
Sahi kaha brother
Sorry but I will give you no sympathy. Is your low salary due to poor health or poor intelligence ? If yes, then you have a genuine excuse. Not having any bad habits is good for your own health and future. It's not an ornament that you can show off.
And if you don't have an excuse from above , then the bitter truth is you're lazy. Stop being jealous or just accept that you're lazy 😊
नमस्कार सर ,आपकी सभी बाते बिल्कुल सच है,सच में बहुत कड़वाहट भर गई है,लगता है,की जिंदगी में गलतियों के सिवाय कुछ नहीं किया,और बीता समय लौट नही सकता,अब अपनी बात रखती हूं,तो पतिदेव को लगता है,पर निकल आए है,विनाशकाले विपरीत बुद्धि जैसी कहावतें सुनने को मिलती हैं।पर कहते है न इंसान अपनी जिंदगी में हर अच्छी या बुरी चीज का जिम्मेदार खुद होता है,वो सच मैने स्वीकार कर लिया है,तो कड़वाहट थोड़ी कम हो गई है
🙏🙏🙏 I'm 51.. mother of 2 sons...n want to say....u just nailed it
I can relate to this so much. Even she had a toxic mother and never took a stand for her. The inlaws were pathetic and so was my father for a long time. She also suffered mental illness for a few years but came out so stronger and and open mined that I can't tell how lucky I am to have her as my mother. Yes she has accumulated that bitterness but she has rightly motivated me to never take that in and stay independent both emotionally and financially. She will always be there for me even if the world turns against me unlike her own mother. So proud of her
Sir ji ... चरण स्पर्श kya baat .....
शत प्रतिशत सही है!
Any mother who truly and unconditionally loves her family will always receive back the love.There is no scope for bitterness....Law of Karma plays everywhere.
Sir, I want to cry every time I listen to your videos. EACH WORD IS TRUE. I am a daughter and a daughter in law. I was able to take care of my mom's toxicity, because I knew her. From last 15 years I have been trying to cope with the toxicity of my mom-in law. But no one, her husband or her son want to co-operate, except her daughter. The result is that toxicity is so much worse now, I become the punching bag. At every opportunity she vomits her toxicity on me, which is crumbling me emotionally. Which is affecting my work (I am a Professor in US), affecting my relationship with my husband and having dire consequences on the upbringing of my kids. Sir, please address these issues in detail. I will be very grateful. People need to hear this SHIT.
Husband will never understand that his parents especially mother is toxic. I'm facing the same situation. Now we are in 8th year of marriage.
You are not alone. Be strong. If kids are suffering, you have to make physical distance with them no matter the consequences. It's harder to do than knowing what to do. I know. Love and prayers for you 💖
mere sath bhi yahi kahani chal rhi h ,pichhle 14 sal se,bahna😢😢
Don't live with mother-in-law. Thats the only way.
You are financially independent, just stay separate from your husband for a while make him understand that its unbearable for you, take kids with you. Husbands will never change until it affects them directly, they don't care about their wives suffering. Help yourself.
uncle aap ki aik baat bhut pasand aayii mujhai ki jis ghar mai maa khush nahi hoti vo ghar kabhii tarakii nahi kar pataa .. duniyaa ka sabsai piyaara rishta maa sai hota hai i love my mom
In my childhood we were a middle class family with 3 daughters and 1 son and giving education to everyone broke my dad and mother gave in physical efforts to run the home and push us for pursuing education diligently and not only they suffered but also never had any wish of their own to fulfill. Now we all are grown ups and gradually doing better professionally at least I being the eldest one propose things to my siblings to do for our parents and set-up rules make everyone follow. At least we try to give them comfort which money can buy as we all stay away from home. I myself speak to my mother everyday 2-3 times and listen to everything she says as I understand having spent her younger days on raising us and never having a life of her own, she is now all alone at this age. My brother is working from home now and he mocks my mother ok didi is calling now start with your complaints. But women in old age need some rest and someone to talk to openly and vent their heart out as you said they can't go out alone and my dad prefers to watch TV when at home after coming from work and he sometimes goes out with his saadu bhais to have his dose of gupshup and my mom is left all alone at home. So I ask my mother to teach some chores to my brother which is useful to help his wife when he gets married. I simply love your channel sir as I have the same thought process and try to implement it in my family 🙏
Rula diya. I understand this point and always try to do whatever possible for my mom.
Mothers must also find a good support outside the family like friends or self-help groups where they can speak out financial or emotional concerns. Good video, as always 🙏🏽
Not a realistic solution at all
Yes, it's important to have your your social circle. It's not healthy to expect that all your needs will be met by the family. Even though being a mum is a very special identity, you need to have more identities other than being a mother. Most importantly, depend on yourself to fulfill your own needs.
Nobody outside will listen to your problems, build your circle in your families. Do not take financial advice from your circle, it will be mostly bullshit, instead look for experts on TH-cam
@ Mandar Dahake,
Agar husband care na kare to koi friends and family ka help kaam nahi aata, especially for mental issue.?
Mothers in the house need to be cherished by family. They feel lonely thats the reason they are bitter. Now they should be allowed to do whatever hobbies she wants to pursue.
Yes. But her husband and sons put this responsibility on her daughter in law cause they don't wanna do anything.
Very true , thanks for explaining in such a positive and correct way, otherwise giving them labels like frustrating, cheap , and laughing at them gives them more sadness
My mother is very Strict par sirf ladkiyo ke liye.Mujhse rudely aur roughly baat krna aur bewajah mujhpe chillana to jaise shuru se hi hai unka.kitna bhi kar du unke liye.. that's never enough.bewajh insult krna,Bina kisi baat k aadat hai unki nd mere bhaiyon ko bht respect nd pyar se treat krti bcz wo ladke hain jabki wo waisa kuch nhi krte.Har waqt mujhme kamiyan nikalna , demotivate krna aur sbke samne insult krna.Ab to jaise koi hope nahi bachi mujhme..Bht kuch krti hun unke liye,jb bhi jarurt hoti hai hamesha main khadi rhti hun but wo kbhi khush nhi hoti mujhse..Aur hamesha kehti hain k Karte hain to bete hi, betiyan kbhi nhi krti, nalayak hoti hain..isse jyada painful kuch nahi hai meri life me.Bht koshish ki unse acha rishta rakhne ki,unhe samjhane ki, lekin wo nahi samjhna chahti kyunki main ladki hu aur unka kehna hai k ladkiyo ka lagam kas kar rakhna chahiye..unhe hadd me rehna chahiye.Now I am in my 30's .. unmarried.. aur mere parents mujhe kahi jane nahi dena chahte kyuki unke liye Ghar ka kaam jyada jaruri hai
if you able to work than run away from home and start job if not start to learn to work
Hello sir, I am so glad I discovered your channel. The content is truly mind-blowing. I am watching all your videos slowly one by one. All these social aspects I have felt n thought about all my life you articulate and present so well. You are a true social revolutionary and reformer. Brilliant and a genius. Hats off to you for presenting the truth in such a straight forward and no nonsense way. Also love your sense of humour. 🙏🙏
Kitna sahee kaha aapne..Hatts off to U..👌👌🙏🙏🙏🙏
Good one sir, atleast someone is talking. Yes we are all going to live for atleast another 20 years more. Being engaged is important for mental health. When the nest becomes empty,life purpose is questioned in mind.
Apki videos dekhkar man ko sukoon milta hai bahut. You are real motivational speaker
🙏🙏great wisdom n courage Sir to say about mothers economically slavery inspite being educated were made to serve
Good video Amit Sir.. you just didn't stop at the problem but addressed their issues with practical solutions
Bahot himmat hai apmae sach bolnae ki👏👏
Khoob Bhalo video मेरा जीवन में बहुत काम आएगा नीरज बंगाल से हूं मैं s33 है पर मेरा जीवन में इतना बड़ा बढ़िया वीडियो आज तक नहीं देखा
Very nice video sir..my mom has struggled throughout her life and is still struggling hard..this video is dedicated to her🙏
100% हर बात सत्य है गुरु जी,,,आपको अपने लक्ष्य में विजय जरूर मिलेगी हम लोग अपने मे सुधार ला रहे है आप के विडियो देख कर
7:50 The word you were about to say was DESPONDENT. Despondent: demoralised 😶
Very true indeed. My mother also took many pains in raising us. And also had to do so much domestic work in those times. Very good video telling the truth of our mother life.
Thanks for sharing Sirji....Jacket badhiya lag rahi hai.
True , well said.
Family members need to be sensitive towards mothers needs both emotional and financial requirement.
Thank you for the video.
This discussion will help us .
Bahut, Sahi,very practical things are happening in the families
This channel deserves 1 million + subscribers.
I think one problem is that in India we do not give any importance to adult learning. All classes are only for those who are below 30. Older women should invest in self improvement. Learn art, learn public speaking, Learn a game like chess, join some physical activity besides Yoga.
Agreed
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Sir.u are great....u always hit the hammer on the head, ☺️🙏🙏
Wonderfully explained ...no words
बिलकुल सही बात है, एकदम सत्य। 100% true.
Really mind blowing series Sir, i am pevilaged to be a part of this channel. 100 percentage Sir true sir.
We need more videos on relationship series🎉
Great Sir, we can change our society. You are really helping society🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 you are 100% right 👍👍
True ...tears in my eyes
Sir you have understood the mindset of us women very well. So now it's our turn to implement what you have suggested. It's good for our mental satisfaction.👍🙏🙏
Completely agreed with your point sir. No one noticed this or even talking about the same
Thank you Sir for making this video
Bahot hi relevant video👌
Perfect analysis of the situation , Sir ji.....
🎉 DHANYAVAD Guru ji.
Relationship series is absolute clarity giver
Bitterness ka silsila kaise khatam hoga..
You are very right ki betiyon ki mummy Kam bitter hain but jo beton ki mummy hain woh zyada bitter hain and sense of entitlement zyada hai..
I m a working woman myself..married for last 8 years..both my mother and mother in law have had almost the same pattern of troubles and pain in their life.. but the way of dealing them with now is totally different..
Pichle 8 saal se main aur mere husband,meri mother in law ko khush karne ki koshish karte karte thak gaye hain...from monthly money to gifts to physical work..I have been doing it all..but woh khush hi nahi hoti..kuch bhi Kar lo ..ghar me shaanti hi nahi rehne deti woh..woh tabhi khush hoti hain jab woh mujhe torture Karen aur saare family members unko usme support Karen..uss chakkar me humari zindagi aur life k itne saal barbaad ho rahe hain..
Aur main khud ab bitter ho gayi hoon..I can feel change in myself..from a happy person I have become negative and sad..
Unke sath rehte hue kuch solution nikalo toh woh hone nahi deti and Agar shaanti k liye separate hone ka bolo toh husband ko torture ki I did so much for you and u are a bad son wala emotional torture ..
Jo bhi unki zindagi thi achi ya buri..usko cost hum dono husband wife chuka rshe hain..it has become like a loan jo kbhi khatam hi nahi hota..
She is the leader of the family now..father in law,mere husband aur main Sab unke ghulaam..and Agar ghar me shaanti chahye toh unki sahi galat sab baatein karni padegi wanna ghar me ashaanti...silent blackmail ..
My point is we agree she has been a victim..but when the victim starts misusing the past to victimize others what to do..how do I save myself and stop myself from becoming another such monster..
True. I can understand what u must be going through.
Ditto same story hai meri , lekin humare yahan 1 step aage kaand ho gaya hai , main apne bete ko leke alag ho gai hu aur husband ko to itna pareshan kar dia uski maa ne ki vo foreign bhag gaya hai ,Mil is on her own now
My Goodness! These MILs are bent to destroy families. I have been going through this from last fifteen years. This time, my PILs were living with us for 6 months in US, I finally opened my mouth after 5.5 months of continuous torture day in day out, on top of a very stressful job. As a result, I had to leave my own home, my two year old daughter, till they left for India. And the tags I get is that I am not an obedient DIL, I am very proud of my education. I cannot get along with people. Well F**K! Yes how would a unicorn get along with donkeys!
@rachna chaturvedi -the only way to save yourself is to stop pleasing her and accept the fact that no matter what you do she is not going to be happy. Happiness hai he ni uski life main.. jo khud Khush ni hai wo dusre ko kya khush krega
Don't afraid to stay separately...saath main rehke bhi you are suffering.
Sir, I believe your advice and perspective would be incredibly valuable for Youngsters today as they navigate their way through life and work towards building a successful future. I would love to see you create a series of videos aimed at offering guidance and wisdom to the youth of today. Your insights and advice on various topics such as education, career development, personal growth, and life skills would be greatly appreciated. I believe it would be an excellent resource for young people to access as they navigate life's challenges and opportunities. Thank you for all you do and I look forward to your future content.🙏❤
Lack of sensitivity towards others expectations
Very true related to all indian women
EXCELLENT ANALYSIS. THANKS 😊
Great thought
Gazab, kal main same bat bol rha tha sir, ladko keparents vs girls
The ladies of this age group who are/we're working are also in same condition
U are very great great sir
Very true sir ekdam sahi observation 👍
Thank you sir. For this drishti
True, very true sir.Thank you very much sir
It's very true Sir...
Sir isme ek chij aap bol sakte hain ki aajkal achhe achhe tours travels wale ladies special tours bhi lekar jaate hain.
Family wale tours main bhi akeli lady ko bheja jata hai.
Mumbai main to bahot ladies jate hai.
Twin sharing basis per room sharing hoti hai. Yeh tour two types ke hote hain.Nature lovers ke liye alag.
Spiritual tours alag.
Jiski jo marji woh lady wahan jaker apne jaise Anya logon ke saath enjoy ker sakti hai
Bilkul right topic sir,🙏
Very true 🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊
Sir I have been loving listening to your videos so far. They are very practical and relatable.
Please also make curse of being elder sibling and sibling rivalry because my sibling and I have too many differences.
I want to understand your take on it. Thank you
Very nice video and thanks for sharing your thoughts
Respected sir, I'm from Mumbai. I really like to watch your video... What topics you take for discussion... And with solutions.... keep it up sir... Gratitude 🙏🎊
Sir mere shabdo me aapke liye sirf ek hi shabd hai aap mahan hai,aap jis tarike se samaz me dukhti Nas ko pakad rahe hai wo shayad koi birla hi kar sakta hai
Very well said sir .
Pls also make a video on same age group ladies who took lot of responsibility, worked hard both at home and office without proper support of husbands like now. Atleast now people know they have to support their partner.
Mast topic hai sir
Sir Aaj ki mil apni legacy bahu ko nahi Dena chahti. Wo educated working bahu to lekar aati hai par unki Sochi Abhi bhi before independence wali hai. Sir aap ek social reformer hain jo aise issues ko address karte hain.
Bilkul sahi baat hai, per sacrifice ke sath sath ladies ko self development n self care per bhi dhyan dena chahiye.Humara self ke liye bhi koi farz hona chahiye.Bitterness tabhi badhti hai jab hum khud ko neglect karte hain.Jo khud khush nahin hai ,wo dusron ko kush kaise dekh payega.Hume kis baat se khushi milti hai ye humse badh ker kaun jaan sakta hai? Isliye kisi ka wait na karen ki koi aapko platter per rakh ker khushi paros dega, khud hi kadam badhayen ,log help karne ke liye taiyar baithe hain.
Mother s whether....strict, traditional...... always have uncondtional love,....'.choti choti khushiyaan " bahut बड़ी होती हैं...... थोड़ा सा प्यार n care....... मां....mothers love is uncondtional 💓...
I like ur topics always..ur words are true..ur way of talking is grt
This video is so relatable....I always used to wonder why my mom gets angry so easily
So true 👍 what ever you have said.
Whatevet u said is very true with my life and i m still suffering. I m 48 years and staying with my inlaws with two kids aged 20 and 16
Why do u think so dear mam, now u must be in a better financial condition than before.....please take help of maids in housework or take care of aged inlaws
@@kusumrastogi5672 agr inlaws angrejon ke time ke hon tb
Very well said,sir
Some mother's don't encourage their child's dreams and marry the guy/girl of their choice .Don't love anyone too much..Real LOVE is who will stand by you irrespective of position
Valueable ideas as always. Thanks and regards.
I am crying to listen you 😭 correct hai
5.41 mein bahut sahi bole
Very relevant video
Very well said sir🙏
Thanku for understanding us
Excellent video
Very nice True 👌
Well said for mothers. Like all your vedios
🙏 Very True Sir
Very true. Nice
This is why you don't marry unless you have enough cash to buy your own home, have your own job, and lead your own life especially as a woman. And never to someone significantly earning more than you.
Excellent
This is best chanel
Great Topic Sir.
Painted true picture of Indian middle aged women
Very good analysis
Perfect right
Namaskar sir 🙏 Very heart touching videos.Very informative videos 🤠🤠