Men Do Most of The Work in The Relationship
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ก.ย. 2024
- The idea that men do most of the work in a relationship is a stereotype and not an accurate representation of healthy and equitable partnerships. In healthy relationships, both partners contribute to various aspects of the relationship, including emotional support, communication, decision-making, household responsibilities, and more.
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Relationships are built on mutual respect, understanding, and collaboration. The distribution of work and responsibilities should be based on the preferences and strengths of both individuals, rather than being dictated by gender roles or stereotypes.
Notice how when he’s telling his side the women instantly try to find a way that he’s wrong instead of taking it at face value.
Because he is wrong. Even research studies found that a majority of the relationship labor falls on women, whereas men defer to "weaponized incompetence" or "gender roles".
exactly
Facts
I swear they piss me off with that bs
@@SkRo0L3w5ePiss me the h3ll off
Rico’s on point with this one…
most of the men that go hard for their women and children never get the recognition or the grace they deserve.
Very good point. Im glad he brought up the one sided men as well. The endless frustration woman feel, this driving force of feminism comes from the one sides man. Present outside the home. Maybe he gets up early everyday, busts his ass at a construction job, but then comes home and drops the ball being present in the home. These guys give the men who do both a bad rep, and it’s most men unfortunately. Woman look to men to lead, so when he’s only leading outside the house with provision, but not enough protection inside, these are where the sources of these feminist woman come from.
@@tylergary5953 I agree %100
The chicks gaslight & start talking about “why do you think you deserve praise for the bare minimum” but they the ones who want stk for the first date 🤣. Women have ruined relationships
@@tylergary5953 part of the convo that’s missing is that a lot of those women don’t leave the men any room to lead inside the home.
You can’t have what you’re not willing to receive.
@@tylergary5953the problem is not that the men are not present in the home, the problem is they aren't present the way the vvoman wants them to be. The biggest difference between a father and mother, is Dad knows how to say no, and momma doesn't because she is worried about being liked by the children. Vvomen create a workload for themselves, clothes don't have to be washed on Tuesday only. I know everyone here got clothes that last more than 7 days, things can be done when there is time to do them
Rico's problem is that he's doing too much. Those women don't respect a "good man" who helps around the house. They view it as a weakness and not a strength.
They view it as a weakness until they are around 38 wondering why she's lonely and have no real options outside of sexual ones
“What do you want me to do?”…If you can’t see the clothes are dirty, the house is a mess, there’s no food in the fridge, there’s no toilet paper, no dinner cooked, and the yard needs cut and beds need weeded…don’t worry about it, I got it. I personally only want willing assistance. I shouldn’t have to direct you.
@@kellyellis2981 she will make her own man have to ask or beg for sex. But upset when a man says F the house work lmao
@@kellyellis2981 if you gotta do everything, and get zero help you chose poorly... Inside vs outside, I got the outside you got the inside... We good
Thats a clown response, if your having all those kind of problems you chose wrong. Men know how to live by themselves and can do all of that before you enter the picture. Stop dating bums and losers but at the same time, you have to date them because you need control him, you cant control a brother like myself who is making paper.@@kellyellis2981
most of the sistas in my family dont do yard work, split cleaning , split the cooking, split the child care, dads do all the sports, and she do most of the yelling
What are ypu going to do about. You see all the red flags. Or are you going to let it get worse passing it to the next generation.
Word
Yell this. Women full of it man. We out here working. They just talk louder. Get more air time for bs.
Right, practically useless.
It's better than no woman at all and doing it all by yourself , but once you date a traditional woman from another culture, then no you won't go back to sistas
I was him some 20yrs ago. If his woman is like that now she not going to change. You’ve spoiled her to your own detriment. She doesn’t see you as a human being. She will continue to pull more and more out of you. You’ve made yourself a super hero in her eyes. Now, if you do anything less than what you’re capable of she going to treat you as if YOU are the weak link. Eventually you’ll reach your breaking point then she’ll use your children and the threat of the child support system as a weapon to keep you working for her.
Big facts here
This is what I love about the Internet, we didn't get hardcore truth based on experience before social media came about and men were able to tell their side. Thanks brother...
True story my current divorce situation
These women on this panel said a whole lot just to say nothing at all.
😂 As usual!
I loved this segment, I learned a lot and it wasn’t toxic. This felt warm and wholesome. I’ve learned Rico finally accept his girlfriend and is a super dad. Amanda still ditzy and wants to be saved but it seems like she’s learning. This segment made alot of sense. The camera people didn’t add their 2 cents in for once. There was a one mic space finally, very enjoyable. I hope the future segments are like this. I was finally comfortable watching this.
Lord knows I would hate to be dealing with someone not accepting me, yet they were OK with me being the unwed mother of their child...
Women don't understand a argument isn't normally about a specific item. Its normally about respect. Women try to devalue these things to "arguing over bread" its not the bread. Lol
Preach
They know that they’re childish and wanna do absolutely nothing while being completely catered to
Facts! My ex didn’t do shit! Didn’t want to help with chores, didn’t want to cook, didn’t even check the damn mail when I was out of town for work! Shit was annoying.
Exactly I worked came home cooked cleaned and handled the kids she worked at night and I would have to come home and cook I’m like wtf
They want the truth wrapped in hearts heavenly scents and rainbows....You better not hand them the flat blanket truth....
Why would I want children when people complained about taking care of them? Why would I want marriage if there is no consistency on both parties?
80 years ago marriage and relationships were not this complex. Something is broken with this construct....
Bc now when women get pregnant chances are she won't know who the father is exactly.
He's right men do the most and aren't appreciated especially bw
Most of what yall love is couch and games when yall get home, he already said men typically dont do both roles. Bye.
Yes he’s right but we know this coming in , they not goin change
Y'all really believe in these unfounded lies 😅 Do y'all read the stats like y'all claim? *_Do you even know how?_* Other groups literally feel sorry for BW because of what they've witnessed/ heard from BM.
@@Stephthegreatlionfailed statistics show black men are the most active fathers on earth take your bullshit somewhere else lady
Gotta delegate the responsibilities regardless of the, "Grace." Both gotta put in the work for things to get done. "Teamwork"
Its not 50/50
@@mrworkowt5419 Of course not, but if you're not trying to keep a balance, there's a problem.
Why is it that when the guy makes a valid point, one of the ladies has to say something over the top in an attempt to discredit his point. "Well she is doing SEVEN different job simultaneously...", really? So, even though Rico is the provider and etc, what he just said/asked for wasn't worthy of his lady's attention because she hypothetically has SEVEN different jobs simultaneously. Why is there instant rejection to something understandable?
They hate it when men are right. Truth be told a lot of our women started this gender war. They won’t admit it tho.
Women will never understand... You can literally tell and show them eeeeeeeverything you've been doing for years and their response will be... "well i cleaned the bathroom last week while i was on my cycle" 🤦🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️... It completely goes over their head. They discredit and wave off things that a good man does and uplift what they do to the HIGHEST degree. Just look at how these women reacted when he told them his story... They was like: "yeh yeh yeh but what did you do? Did you consider her?" INSTANTLY sided with her
This is why as a man you should always focus on you first! Always
Women will do 100 percent to get the man impressed but 50 percent to keep the man happy.
Whew!
Pin this to the top!!
After they get the 💍…..they be like….GOTCHA😂😂🙄
That’s why you marry a woman who desire to be a wife & desire to take care of her family
@@jmar385 I think every women desires to be a wife. But very few stand on it's responsibilities prior to actually becoming one. This never making her one
It still amazes me that people tap in to hear unmarried peoples opinion on dating issues and looking for solutions.
When that woman said graces aren’t “owed” to the fathers that’s when I knew she’s not marriage minded. When you love someone and appreciate them, you feel like you owe them certain things for all they do for you, and vice versa.
We need to stop letting unmarried and uncommitted people provide opinions on shit they have no clue about.
Love is a verb an action word, it's what a person does that shows that you love them and the feeling of being loved is the result of those actions. The feeling of butterflies comes from the physical/sexual attraction to another person and people get this confused with the feelings of love. 💯
I'm with you. A lot of women don't fully get it unfortunately.
But the definition of a good man is a man with good morals & character...that treats you right. Simple!
That’s what happened to me in 2 marriages. When my twins graduate in 2 years, there will be three people leaving that glorious day.
Just being the person to say it bluntly , women were given too much freedom without consequence
There are alot of good men. Do not let these woman fool you. There are plenty of men that do both sides. Take care of the household financially and take care of the kids. Please stop this narratives that there are not alot of good men.
She made it about power when the brother said he just needed a little help and understanding. It’s really disingenuous and selfish when women want a man to do everything and only bring their presence and think that’s enough that’s not true love or respect 🤷🏾♂️
They don’t listen to understand they listen to respond
Need to be right gotta win the argument loud and wrong don’t matter all that matters are her feelings
4:52 You made a feminine argument and opened the door for that rebuttal 5:24.
To say that most men aren't good because they don't run their house like yours is arrogant at best, narcissistic at worst. Never make an argument based on yourself or by throwing others under the bus to make yourself look better, it always backfires.
You can tell Rico is a new father, bro that’s regular sh*t
Never deal with women who've spent their lives keeping score. She will do things with the expectation that you're obligated to return the sentiment. A woman is truly for the man who has the desire and want to do nice things for her.
LADIES, Fk what you liked or didn't. LADIES YOU OWE A MAN MORE GRACE.
Should be more Likes and Comments by now… this is Meat !!!❤ For all of us that want Long lasting relationships
This begs the question of what work is a woman expected to do in a relationship? She usually wants the most yet contributes very little. When men get trapped in relationships, they’re basically agreeing to take care of another adult. Men don’t NEED relationships. It’s really more of a favor to the woman unless the guy is faking love for a place to stay. When a man is providing and protecting, his efforts are usually unappreciated and being a workhorse for her is to be expected. Somehow in relationships only the woman’s thoughts feelings and opinions are considered and whatever the man thinks are completely disregarded and seen as invalid. Why is that? More often than not, a man will honor his lady and be very appreciative of her and say I would be nothing without her. How often do women say they have a great man and REALLY appreciate what he does for her? With a lot of women it’s all about me me me me me. So if the woman is constantly thinking about herself and he’s always thinking about her then where does that leave the man? Some men are starting to catch on which is why a lot of women are trying to have hot girl summers at 50 years old and still living single. It just ain’t a 90’s kinda world no mo’.
Tbh nowadays as a man you kind of have to get with a woman that worships the ground you walk on to actually be treated right in the relationship. The woman you have to chase after to get is always going to make you keep jumping thru hoops when you're with her
@@mrmoe110I been stopped doing that… 2023 and forward, we jump thru no hoops for a woman…
@@steadmoney3431 right. Case in point: Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith. She never really wanted him but he wore her down and convinced her to give him a chance. The results of that have been going viral the last few years.
I think in the beginning with Rico it looks like they're both working very hard and they're both very exhausted. It sounds like he is trying his best. One thing I think he could work on because I don't know everything is knowing when so slow down in helping before he taps out and gets upset. Probably both of them could agree to call for help from grandma when that time is coming up for them both. It's nice that they have some help. It sounds like they are both overworking themselves at this point in time.
Woman in the middle = I'm very difficult
Woman on the right dropping jewels!!! You should marry your BESTFRIEND!!!!!!
The problem with chicks they have a serious selfish mindset once u start doing more of anything in a relationship like for instance like cooking u cook a few times now she wants to leave the cooking all up to u they r seriously only focused on maintaining their looks that's where they put their most effort in it's sad not all of them but to many of them an the panel of women r BIAS KNOW THAT
Damn Rico. This sounds like my situation. I’ll work 6am yo 6pm and then come play with kids: they always fall asleep on me and put them to bed and watch them at night because they’re 10 months…. I’m also the bread winner.
The women don't care about your feelings and they want you to care about theirs.
I’ll never be with a woman I have to argue / debate about everything with .
Never again
This is hilarious. She claimed there was a power struggle in his home, but once he said she owes him grace she brought out a power struggle tactic talking about "women dont owe you no more grace. She can give more grace if she wants to"
Good luck to those in relationships! I’m glad I’m single. Relationships r way too complicated for me to withstand. Ain’t got time to be battling with a woman I’m providing for and protecting smh. This is why two working parents do not work.. his story is proof of that
Yes you OWE the men who take care of things inside and outside grace
Erin was speaking facts especially the pie chart part
Most women don't understand at this pace they're going to grow old without a husband.
Not enough Black men are marrying for that to be the omen you're trying to make it 🙄 And the research studies show that single women far the best in terms of happiness, fulfillment, and longer life
@@Heyu7her3hell no
Women do not realize how good they got it... Ladies , be quite please.
My wife works day shift and I work night shift.
She has to be at work by 8am and I have to be at work by 6pm.
We have two kids ages 1 and 2.
So, she comes home feed them, bath, and put the down for the night. I come home; feed them and then try to negotiate with them to go back to sleep. So, that I can sleep.
Yet, my wife acts like she’s getting the short end of the deal!
I’m tempted to try and put them on my sleep schedule and seeing how she will deal that!
Couples who share households chores are 50% likely to divorce than those who dont
Totally agree
First, get out of the societal gender war between men and women and be present in your individual relationship. It's not my job to figure out women as a group because that doesn't exist. My job is to figure out the woman that I'm with and establish a working partnership between me and her, which takes flexibility, honesty, commitment, and communication.
"partnership"??
That's a cop out and sticking your head in the sand, people are tuning in and reanalyzing their relationships for a reason now.
Considering there is no black community, baby mama culture is celebrated, and black women are the most single and least married, this needs to be discussed so we can fix black people. Unless you want us to remain at the bottom.
@renzopaterson153 Honesty, commitment, and communication is a "cop out?" What type of relationship do you conduct? Without the things aforementioned, you definitely can't have a healthy relationship. You should re-read my text and learn what it takes to be in a healthy relationship as a man.
Try telling this god himself
Basically he's saying men don't have the capability to multitask ??? And the women are quick to take accountability for basically being the recipient of the men willing to do everything
Yeah, all women should be getting men more respect.
Because when you ladies are living with these men . Most of them are paying majority of the bills they cover the maintenance in the house and the home improvement and the work outside of the house.. and they are the ones who gets up on the vehicles, and fix what needs to be fixed. And those men takes you out to expensive restaurants of your choice.. these ladies get treated every holiday. Birthday Christmas Valentine’s Day Sweeties day &
Mother’s Day. Wow.. sound like the man has a lot on his plate. Would you ladies like to trade places?
Rico is the last person to take any relationship advice from… ANY😂
Preach
Stop getting into relationships without communicating putting the hard topics on the table before getting your heart body and feelings involved
Yes, owe. You expect this man to literally forfeit his life for you and you respond with entitlement and ungratefulness? The audacity and the disrespect!
men do more tangible work, women do more intangible work but both are equally important to the balance
Completely agree with ol boy i had some of same problems in my relationship
Sounds like there needs to more planning, delegation, and understanding. Your duty is your duty. A man should have the fortitude to complete ALL tasks in a relationship. However, your duties are based on your capacity to handle them. This is why you have a spouse, so you can balance out the capacity to complete your duties to each other. If you have the capacity to give more, then do so. If you feel you are overexerting yourself in your duties, then there needs to be a shift. Relationships are beautiful when egos are put aside, and you are willing to love, respect, and work through obstacles.
Everyone here said something Chi when it was in a positive or the negative it was something he to take away from it. And the God is 100% right. With a Goddess in the middle fail to realize is or chose to ignore is that she doesn’t care that God is giving 100% whatever she wants and desires or demands of him that’s what she expects. And if she doesn’t get everything she wants, she does not care about the exhaustion that God has gone through from fighting the world making the money and doing everything she doesn’t care. And with that mentality she will be a bag lady she will be a cat lady or a dog lady she’s going to be by her self because no guy who has self-respect is going to put up with her disrespectful nature toward him sacrificing everything not only for himself but as well as for her.
What’s the goddess on the right she got a lot more experience understanding and wisdom. Nearly everything she said she was 100% on. Except for this one bit. She dismissed love, that means she doesn’t genuinely wholesome know what love is. It’s not that love is not enough. Everyone saying it is speaking a complete contradiction to the Bible in the message about the Bible it’s not the religious purpose get it out your mind. When I said love never fails love is every positive aspect that is good wholesome likable it’s lovable it’s strong it is true it never fails. So she can see she fails to see that being able to maintain a relationship with a friend stand from the core value of love. But she fails to see simultaneously that same core value in a friendship is what is needed in a relationship to last forever. Able to get through the good times able to enjoy the good times and overcome the bad times.
Maybe what she said in regards to her current husband was a mistake. But more often than not, the mouth speaks what the heart feels. So her talking about still searching for her husband when she gets married, she is not currently with the god of her dreams, with the God she respects, with a guy who she is willing to be completely submissive for. It’s negotiable for her. And that is not good.
When you find a goddess who is willing to sacrifice any friendship relationship, for the God she is in a relationship for or withthat is a Goddess worth dying for. Because she’s showing you with her actions. Respect.
Goddesses need to appreciate the sacrifice of Gods for her and the family.
Facts without even watching it lol.
Man the fact this man saying he tired and he needs his woman to pick up the slack ...they don't understand
These women's responses are exhausting
Literally they proved his point, with their response. He mentioned a specific example where he has done more than most men they are exposed to, and even after that they still need to “control” the verbiage used… he can’t even talk the way he wants… literally women feel an all or nothing mentality these days and offer half of not a quarter of effort.
As a man I fight for the people I love....not like.
When women really understand that we will die for them and realize whatever they do would never add up to that ,they would understand or haave more empathy for the plight
Fellas if learn anything from this guy its this ITS NEVER ENOUGH ... whatever you do is mever enough in a LTR accept it also its not what the message is its HOW THE MESSAGE is conveyed and how it makes HER FEEL
They see him describe an actual situation. Then hypothesize his wife doing 7 things at once. If he working himself to the bone she is NOT doing 7 things at once. It’s shit like this that makes it real hard to hold off these white girls from my son who is about to be a fighter pilot. I’m trying my best to get him to hold on for a good black woman. I’m starting to let him live. It’s not worth it.
Women have lost their ability to be considerate! Period. Yes grace is owed, just like protection is owed to you. Women see themselves as doing 7 jobs.....like okay..you man is also doing several jobs as well. Be understanding and considerate
I need a podcast where it’s men only discussing these things, women just can’t have straight forward convos
Women believe that they are assets to men in relationships but don’t understand that for a man with his sh*t together he’s taken on a liability by being in a relationship.
Women don’t go into relationships with solid men embodying a “how can I be a help meet to this man” mindset; it’s vice-versa.
This is why the same “good women” can’t verbalize what makes them such, as well as, why they find the “what do I bring to the table” question so offensive.
The level of confusion in this panel is mind blowing
Who is people to say love isn’t enough when god said if you don’t have love you have nothing. Let’s not forget love cover a multitude of sin I mean I can go on in on about how important love is.
Wow… after the man explain how it was these females still trying to find a way saying it’s his fault
As well as arguing the semantics of his word choices. Its absolutely ridiculous.
These chicks keep moving the goal post. They were honest they just say they want to do nothing when they get home and expect a man to pick up everything
You tell your girl to go get the bread and she questions you, that’s mad.
60:40 is okay. 95:5 isn't
How ya braids start in the middle of your head 😂
Women be trying to make it like watching and taking care of kids is so hard
Most women would gas lightchu sayin that’s nagging
Woman that have to or choose to work are usually worthless in a relationship. They cant seem to do both. Ive found that control is the only way to have a healthy relationship. Men must over pay for submission these days. They arent built like they use to be. Take her off her job and give her a new one. That new job is you.
The two cohost show they don't listen.
What is she talking about??! Dating with a “purpose” doesn’t exclude love. It just means dating with the intentions of leading to a lifelong relationship/marriage. It doesn’t mean purpose vs. love.
She’s just talking to be talking.
I’m pretty sure you were meaning to use the word resonating and NOT resignation g. Resignate/resignating has no definition.
Lol. He said he took responsibility for the kids 2 days. She worked as well he was gone for 5 days. So who had the kids those 5 days. Lmao. He mad.
he payed all the bills still. She isn't paying the bill like he's paying it. he went beyond on the regular and the times where he felt it was it wad being appreciated. he said na.
He gave her 2 days off while he took none or did u listen? He worked 5 days nonstop, then comes home and takes over what shes doing to gi e her rest....then when he asked her to do somthing she didnt want to.
If i just used allllll my strength to grab all the groceries except the bread…. Please grab the bread so i dnt have to go all the way dwn the stairs just for bread… A man will carry most of the load fill in when ur needed so u dnt burn him out
Key word his Girl not his wife😂🥴🫣
But she dinged grace? So yall just gonna ignore the part where he said he knows she had the kids while he was gone so even tho he was tired he handled the kids for the next two day. I guess that's not grace. Man it's never enuff
Women talk shit they dont mean. In the thick of it, you will find the real her.
Women don’t honor consideration they don’t understand it because they don’t giver it
You owe that man ladies or someone else will do it ijs
These arnt the type of woman men are checking for
This is dumb stuff childish. When you lead a woman gone fall in line, if she doesn’t move on quickly
Rico you trippin!!!
But women don’t have that same grace for they man as they do they friend.
Still don’t understand what men are supposed to be lol
Bro it amazes me how women will reach for the most depths to make a wrong right. It’s like reaching when throwing up and your stomach is empty… nothing but yellow stuff! I stopped watching when he gave the Bread analogy. She was trying to make bring the damn bread in the house a negotiable issue!!!🤮🤮🤮🤮🤣
No you owe us mfs 5:52
When it comes to kids, it shouldn't be who does more who does less? It's a duty whether you're tired exhausted. It's just what it is it's reality
Ladies stop justifying and listen to what this man is saying.
Women do nothing in a relationship 😤
A bunch of lost single people trying to rehash thousands of years of relationship work. Title fixed.
They missed the point 🤦🏾♂️
Does the money off of these videos ease the mental drain of having these conversations with unequal accountability participants over and over?
Men should stop reasoning with women on these pods they not even hearing you.
The deflection why u TALKN to me like this …. Cause u didn’t get it the1st time when it was said nicely 🕺🏾 Same message different delivery The second one got her attention in a negative manner so now she shuts down 🤦🏾♂️😫