7 Things YOU MUST DO to Fight FEAR & INTIMIDATION... when PEOPLE STARE at YOU
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- Eye contact is a major display of intimidation. It provokes fights and enforces dominance. This week we discuss how to defend yourself against this form of social aggression when people are looking for a fight. It's all very simple psychology. Try this simple trick it works.
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Years ago, in my early 30s when my blood ran hotter I was at a bar with an older female cousin, both of us drinking for a few hours. We both grew up in NYC and she was particularly street smart. We were sitting at a U shaped bar and across from me a guy wearing a cowboy hat and I caught each others' eye and started staring at each other, neither one breaking the stare. It felt like it was heating up and both of us were ready to go for it. My cousin saw what was going on and gave the bartender $5 and said "Give that guy across the bar a beer on us and tell him we like his hat." When he got the beer he smiled at us and tipped his hat and all the bad vibe evaporated. My cousin said to me, "Billy, we just bought that guy for $5." And she was right, instead of an ugly night we were able to continue a nice evening between 2 cousins and I even thought that if we had a problem with someone else at the bar that guy with the hat would've helped us. It was a nice lesson in deescalation.
Sounds like you nearly got yourself a boyfriend that night
@@nakkaduguy with the hat was 100% gay
@@S.O.A_Zero without doubt 😆
@@nakkadu I hesitated to post this. I meant it to be a lesson in the value of deescalation when possible. The result was that 3 people got to return home in peace that night, instead of possible life changing injuries, as well as entry into the long process of sorting things out legally. But you met my expectations and validated my hesitation as some keyboard warrior who makes numbskull comments from afar. Good job.
@@shevetlevi2821my man……. This is a fucking awesome story and phenomenal lesson. A phenomenal way to deescalate a possible altercation at a bar as well.
I commend you for posting this. Don’t allow anyone of these miserable dorks to make you hesitate to share your thoughts and or share a situation like this that can genuinely teach a lesson. Like you said, you knew some keyboard warrior would comment some embarrassing shit and that’s just how it is. It’s more surprising to see no miserable, negative, losers in social media comments today.
So whether you shared your story or not, one of these losers would be making loser comments. Good lessons like this should always be shared. Much love brother. 🤝🏼🫡💪🏼
I'm always surprised when a simple willingness to engage disarms an aggressor. Thanks for stating it so well.
My pleasure!
That's because half the time the bully doesn't want to take on someone who is prepared to defend incase they lose the bully wants an easy target.
A clear sign that the one who initiates the aggression, is usually all bark and no bite.
Great video!
I avoid prolonged eye contact because it locks you into tunnel vision missing sucker punches and multiple attackers.
My eyes triangle potential attackers.
Eyes > hands > friends > then walk away but look at eyes again to look over shoulder to make sure distance is maintained.
Scanning everything is a nice way to avoid escalating the eye contact, but also being aware of your surroundings.
I’ve always thought any dude that wants to fight over staring has a huge inferiority complex.
Got body slammed in a fight. Pulled myself up and smiled at him. I could see the fear creep into his eyes. He ran away. He could have finished me with a slap. Total bluff.
you showed fearlessness. that is scary to insecure people trying to dominate you in real situations. train hard to protect yourself physically. you probably do.
I got hit by some coward who was bigger than me in a mosh pit at a concert. He rocked me, but when I didn't fall from it and returned my cocked head back straight, he melted back into the crowd as soon as I looked for him.
I say this again, one of the best and useful youtube channels, better than all the rubbish out there. You know what, people dont just stare to intimidate and rob you, it happens everywhere and in every situation ie, supermarket workers, chicken shop workers, public transport, public places, uber mini cab drivers do it, car drivers do it, cyclists, some people in the gym, there's idiots, creeps, weirdo's and strangers everywhere, especially in London as its a big multi cultural city with 8 million people. Keep up the great work, I have been following you for years. Dr Mark Phillips, I salute you!
Im always always telling my family to " be aware of your surroundings " 👍🏻
Man's world: 99% of fights never actually happen, as long as you show you're willing to fight back. Simple "ok let's go" actually got me out of trouble many times.
Great advice!! I've noticed a simple nod of the head is very effective to a person who aggressively stares at you, then ignore them but keep them in your peripherals until you get a distance away, better to be safe then get stabbed or shot from a weaker opponent!
very true and often use it myself.
Yep good advice.
Yep, sometimes they just want to be acknowledged
I do that when i catch eyes with most ppl. Respectful acknowledgement.
A little nod as greeting also helps a lot in my experience
yup. most prefer a friendly outcome. it helps to know yourself first
Nodding downward ✔ Nodding upward ❌
@@jahk603 yes, right. Thanks :)
Yepp. Use that occasionally when I run into fools. Usually it comes down to them being triggered by something about your looks or behavior (could be correlated to past events in their life) and it makes them insecure and uncomfortable. People either react with aggression or run away.
@@jahk603that’s actually a really good point, that I hadn’t thought about before.
Fear and intimidation are tactics that work very well on those who allow themselves to be afraid and intimidated.
LOL. I find smiling causes most people to back off.
@@waynesworldofsci-tech good way to get sucker punched too.
Intimidation is an art form, it's used in sports
@waynesworldofsci-tech
You are right! I always do this excited/evil smile!
@@sullyx5142it’s for weaklings
General rule of thumb in any self defense situation - keep a safe distance - distance buys you time, time gives you options👍🏽
Excellent share. Non fighter here, and I believe maintaining your control of emotions is the biggest challenge.
To tell you as an experienced street fighter, keep the target distant and your brain wired in this way: “i’m ready to attack”, so your body is ready, is for me the most important thing when encountering a stranger that is aggressive towards me.
And communication: “keep your distance!” and even backed up by pushing when the target gets to close…
My motto: when somebody acting aggressive towards me and coming at me, if he can fight or not, i am fully (100%) ready to fight. I underestimate no one ☝🏼 10:15
What do you do if your older with health conditions and can no longer back yourself I have torn ligament in one knee and older injury in the other one I have to carry a weapon just to protect myself in Australia because it's become so violent thanks to our pweak government
@@davidbrett1958what part of australia are you in that's become so violent? Cause I certainly don't see that.
@luker.6555 Tasmania near Hobart I want to move but affordability and waiting on health systems that are moving at a snail pace ti get surgeries I don't feel safe and I personally have good reason not too
@@davidbrett1958 oh Tassie... i thought you said part of Australia.. 😂 Just joking. I haven't been too Tassie. Sounds rough. Wish you luck getting out of that situation. There's still most of Aus where you can go to feel safe. Good luck friend.
Many years ago I worked a late shift for London Transport finishing at 1am. I was walking home and on the opposite side of the road was another walker of a stocky build. For some reason I sensed a feeling of foreboding.. I casually glanced at him and he looked at me and his demeanour changed. I was slightly ahead in distance and within a few more yards had turned left into the road where I lived. I did not look back but I knew he had crossed the road. I could hear his presence getting closer. I walked in the middle of the deserted road. I did not want to put myself into a situation where I could be attacked between parked cars or thrown into some front garden. I was now closer to where I lived. With one hand I felt for my house key and made sure it was in the correct position to fit the door lock. His footsteps behind me was closer than ever. I suddenly turned to my right, quickened my pace and within seconds opened and then slammed the door shut. I rushed upstairs to the top floor of the HMO bedsit where I was then staying. I entered but did not switch on the light as I did not want to give away my exact location. I peered out of the top floor window to the street below. There he was, returning back from where he came. I was lucky as I don't think I would have been able to defend myself against a man with such a physical build especially as I am a below knee amputee. To this day, I still ask myself what if I had lived a bit further on. Would I still be here to tell the tale??
whether you knew it or not - that key could have been a good weapon to eyes, temple and throat😊.
Had a larger guy angry at me in public a while back. He started closing in, so I started moving laterally, sort of prowled around. Met his eyes and had a little smile, but glanced aside at other people and objects around (gauging environmental weapons). Everything he said, I took a second, and gave a response that I gauged to be polite but not meek. Pretty quickly changed his tune.
I love this channel! I get it is more for "fighter guys", but I learn and confirm a lot of great tips from the videos. To the stare... years ago I was in the Meatpacking District in NYC with a friend. We were paying the bill from a large group and were the last to leave. The car service was not out front as they should have been and the two of us were standing alone in a rather dicey spot. My firend said to me, "don't look, but there is a group of guys over there eying us and I think we are gonna get robbed or worse., I told her to look for a cab or car service coming down the street, very calmly pull out her phone and call the restaurant to come open the door. I turned around and stared right at them. I figured we were gonna survive or die, so better do something. I did the look away thing and looked back at them. Standing my ground in my 4" heels. It really threw them. Not what they expected. They stayed across the street and in the time they were trying to figure out WTF, our car pulled up out front and the restaurant door opened. So, it all worked out. Could have gone south just as easily, but it really was the time that the stare bought us, that allowed us to get the F out of there. For anyone who wondered why I didn't have my friend call 911, this was the 90's in NYC. The cops aren't showing up for a "maybe". Know your options, you may have more than you think. Thanks again for the video.
Thank you for watching.
Absolutely spot on!
Actually, a good example of "stare game" can be seen in the classic movie "The Man of the East" with Terence Hill with two options: (a) staring "as if the enemy is already done for" and (b) "smiling as if everything is already resolved in advance". ))) Though it presented in a kind of humorous way there but there is a lot to it too.
Living in london my whole life, I have become used to people giveng me evils etc , more time I have been through it all before, from having knives pulled and people reacting sensitively to me looking at them, I thimk its just important you keep your common sense at all times, especially as a man and just knowing what can potentially happen especially with the kinds of weapons these teenagers carry these days London has become a dangerous place
Yes not worth dying over another insecure male!
Pretty sad the world has got to this point man
@@12tribes61that’s right. Insecurity, fear, weaknesses, social outcasting is what leads these “men” to want to attack people. Where I do security work one guard nearly got stabbed by a group of young guys simply for “building street credit”. I had a deep think about this “taking a man’s life that’s doing his job, not prepared, making his wife a widow and his children fatherless” it makes my blood boil knowing that these scumbags exist and we decent folk aren’t banning together and “cleaning out this trash” from our cities and towns
Grew up on a council estate in Manchester. As I was short compared to my peers (5foot8) I was constantly getting hit first by people. Learnt very quickly to gauge a situation so that I could remove myself from it. Also started going to the gym and learnt judo and boxing for a few years. I’m about 78 kilos, so not a big guy but I’m fit and as you say,and I’m a big believer, predators don’t like the prey to fight back. And growing up where I did, I can fight dirty if I have to. I’m 54 now and after 20+ yrs in the armed forces I’m a different person now o the one I was as a boy. But I like the quiet confidence the things I’ve done have given me. Like the channel and the advice you give. 🤙🏻
excellent advice mate. about eye contact. so damn true. in fact it is one of the primary keys to survival on the streets anywhere in the world. your self protective psychology and eye contact linked with it, are number one to deterring potential attackers and bullies. Used it countless times over the decades. I train to physically to be able to back it up if need be (essential in case someone calls your bluff), but there is nothing better than either neutralising a threat through direct eye to eye visual communication or more often scaring the usual bullies off. people who prefer to cower and completely avoid eye contact are in big trouble on the streets. it is a kind of jungle out there.
Outstanding and true!
The professor always has the best videos on all those subtle and not-so-subtle situations one may find oneself in. Indeed, the best advice. Thank you, Professor.
All these years and that smile still gets me every time, brilliant.
Many years ago I was friendly with a very dangerous guy. He wasn't physically large, but I've seen bigger guys back down due to the look in his eyes. He didn't start fights, but rarely did anyone mess with him.
You’re giving wise advice.
It’s amazing how many situations are avoidable by being situationally aware, and deescalating with confidence.
Plus, I happen to look like a biker, even though I’m not one. When I go into the seedy side of town, I present with confidence, and nobody Fuchs with me.
Thanks for keeping us on our toes my friend Excellent advice as always Be well and Stay Frosty 👍👍
Thank you Sir
Perfect example is from The Wire - Michael vs Marlo staredown scene. Marlo got instant respect for Michael's silent but confident staredown, where as the security guard who approached and challenged Marlo aggressilvely in another scene got a different reaction because he stepped to him and was talking too much. The Michael vs Marlo staredown scene is on youtube if you haven't seen it.
Ive learnt a few physical things from you over the years but my god ive learnt some psychology. I love your videos and the depth and real life hypothetical examples. Keep up the great work!
I worked as a DJ in a night club and found myself in these expected situations a few times. One of the bouncers at the club told me if I get into a situation that they can't help me right away, was to do most of what you explained in the video. It actually worked...amazing advice.
I've saved this video to show my older children as this is correct on all key points. Thank you pal 🏴
"don't know mate, it hasn't got a lable" ....great line.
😂😂😂
I escaped twice using manipulation: eye contact, realize they (yes they were more than 2 every time against one woman alone) are not going to let me go, look behind the group, , spotted 2 people talking together without paying attention to us, eye contact again, then look away and make a big smile and say "hi!" as if I knew the people behind.
they evaporated like magic at the moment I started talking to the strangers. I didn't lie. "sorry to bother you, but there are a couple of men annoying me, can I stay here a little?". the 2 times I did this, the agresser left in less than 1 minute and I could go back home safely.
it's something easier to do for women, I know, because we are less expected to be agresser ourselves, so people interact easily with us. but it's very useful to know. if there are people around you, you can use them to intimidate your agresser by giving the impression that you are NOT isolated.
thank you for the tips!
Thank you for sharing your experience.
Another great ploy is to act like you suddenly received an urgent text. Look at your phone and then immediately walk quickly away from the threat towards something safer.
@@bpdono if they are determined, or bored to death, they will follow you. the first time it was a quick action, the second time, they were in a car, I was walking and they followed me 10min long as I was crossing the street and changing direction. it was in the middle of the day, there was a lot of people, and cars, and yet they kept making u-turn and follow me. the only safe move was to pretend meeting a friend. yeah some men have no self-respect.
Controlling your blink rate is extremely important. Blinking is a very clear sign of fear.
The other interesting spin off from this is the association effect: by acting less scared you can actually make yourself less scared, and controlling your blink rate is a powerful association tool. Also, breathe deeply in your belly. Just one deep belly breath can be enough to get you feeling centred and ready.
Pay attention to these signs in the third party. Are they blinking fast? Are their eyes darting around? Are they breathing with their upper chest? (Look for the shoulders rising and falling) All signs of stress.
I love your videos brother! True power is controlling any situation. These days, especially in the states, most of these clowns are carrying a gun. Never engage with a coward with a weapon.
Distance is probably the biggest thing people underestimate. Know your range of punch distance. If someone is inside your range you need to react.
Perfect yes, range management always, don’t allow that to be violated, if they do you preemptive react. The first step to a sucker punch is being in violation of inside striking range.
Agree with all your points mark, today i try to take the measured approach and remain cool, calm and collected which usually defuses a potentially violent confrontation( however in my younger years) especially in certain areas of london there were times i had no-other choice but to use a preemptive strike, which saved my life on several occasions !!!
I’m glad you clarified it’s ok when ice cream is involved. Great video, as always.
😂... Thanks for watching!
These are all great suggestions! I haven’t trained in a long time, nor have I even been close to getting into a fight since my early 20’s. I became very good at deescalation after I earned my 1st degree black belt. Basically everything you recommended, I did naturally. Remaining calm & in control, not escalating the situation. Also, still being defensively responsible without making it super obvious. It really works!
Thank you for sharing your insight.
My pleasure!
I usually find that putting up both hands in a 'passive stance'- side on-making sure that your leading arm is up far enough to put your shoulder into the 'philly shell' is enough to both defuse the situation and protect yourself simultaneously.
Oml I lost it at 'dunno mate it hasnt got a label' 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I am 100% using that in some shape or form!
An old friend of mine a great martial artist once said to me.If you stay out of shitty places and stay away from shitty people you can avoid a lot of shit in your life and you will rarely need to use voilence.
That's so true... if you wait long enough in a barbershop you'll get a haircut lol 😂
😂😂😂😂...for the 1%
I was parked at a local empty reserve after a workout & someone pulled in a few spaces over, I could feel them looking so I looked back, he looked away 1st. He drove off then came back walking up to my door 2metres away, I stayed in my car but opened the door a bit asked what he needed. He asked if I rang him, & what did I want to talk about. He looked fit & had a rough face. He rambled a bit, i said I can’t help him & closed my door without locking it. He walked back to his car, stood at his door staring for a few more minutes. I looked up occasionally to meet his eyes, then back to my phone. He didn’t look happy. I drove off casually a bit later.
He must’ve been butthurt he had looked away 1st and drove back to try & confront me. I think I did the right thing after watching your video & actually thought of your channel as I drove home. I didn’t want to escalate things by recording him as he stood near my door, but took a pic of his plates as I drove away. I should’ve check his hands for weapons more, as he was near my door, but was mostly looking at his face at that point. He also didn’t know if I had a weapon on me. Dumb move by him to escalate something from nothing.
Great video / advice as always, with the priceless "I can take your head off" smile at the end. Thank you!! 😂
I was in a bar in London, a guy standing next to me was giving bad vibes and then started being verbally abusive to me, I said to him “ You don’t want to pick on a ex Marine like that”( By the way I’m not an ex Marine ), he said “ Ohh you’re an Marine are you” very aggressively, I replied “ Yes I used to live in a fish tank “ , he started laughing his head off and bought me a beer, he was quite a nice guy actually.
Right you are . I haven’t seen you for a long time.
I love how the channel is called Fight science but the Ego gets checked at the door.
The biggest thing I had to learn was to keep my anger under control. I’ve never started a fight but I’ve finished plenty. Now that I’m older and once I hit 6’ 1” so I don’t give the appearance of easy prey so that helps. Keeping calm, self defense and firearm training are all beneficial to keeping one’s head.
Great advice for fighting and life.
A few weeks ago there was an incident between me (62) and lad late 20's early 30's. I agree with all of your points except my order is different. I studied martial arts.
I close the space on 2 and at 3 i get myself positioned to give myself a quick response advantage. I pause and hold that position before turning my back on the aggressor. In that incident the aggressor walked away when I turned my back. With my back turned my spacial awareness kicks in looking for objects I can use for instance watching the aggressors reflection behind me in the self checkout screen in front of me. The martial arts training never leaves my mind.
What I have noticed in the last 10-15 years, bullies are not alone anymore, they are at least 2 or 3 without you knowing, mind your surroundings during an altercation...
This is funny, I had this yesterday. I grew up fighting, and have fought in pretty rough situations. I'm older, now, and dude yesterday would have made short work of me. He'd probably hurt a bit, but I wouldn't have won that scrap. I did do all the things you are talking about, and then funny enough I find your video in my feed while looking at cooking videos for my wife's birthday. He had his business name on his truck, and it was a character name from a movie, and made me laugh a bit. Easy as that a guy might snap on you. He left me alone.
“What you boggin’ at mate” ?!?! Well in my 50+ years living just outside London , can’t say i’ve ever heard that one !!! Might use it going forward though ;)
Great subject. Im sure many of us encounter this situation in our lives at some point.
I once worked on a job site with this bloke who was both useless and trouble making.
One day we were in the first aider's quarters,and in a front of the first aid bloke,this turd said to me out of the blue that he would knock me out.
I have this energy about me,(due to having had a tough life) that some people find challenging and unnerving.
in this instance it was this troubled bloke,I didn't have a plan of action,but I just reacted naturally as I always do when threatened.
The way in which I reacted was combative,which is a result of nature and nurture,(having being beaten in the family home since I can remember)the moment he said it my eyes instantly became narrowed,and I replied "I'd love to see that" he didn't respond,and was uninterested in a challenge.
The first aid bloke quickly jumped in and intervened,it was de-escalated quite quick,but I was itching to deck this turd.
The first aid bloke thanked me later for not hammering this prick,and said to me I saw your eyes changed right away,and thought you were going to batter him,he looked visibly shaken,moral of the story is show them who you are if your up for a scrap,they'll shit themselves and go home.
Confidence is really hard to fake though. I think that trying to act confident in a situation where you’re not (and maybe shouldn’t be) is more harmful than helpful, on average.
People with ill intentions really like weak vulnerable people who can be manipulated into stepping up.
If you feel fear, that’s your brain trying to tell you that you might be in some serious trouble. People sometimes do the opposite thing from what their fear is telling them, just so they can tell themselves they aren’t scared.
Good point about eye contact though.
I do like watching you’re videos mate
For someone brand new to the job (security and/or life in general) you give some get simple tips
I’ve worked in security for over 20 years now and all over the world too
I just do and react accordingly but we have new lad come (and go) all the time and I know they would benefit by watching fame of you’re videos
Thank you
Keep up the great work
Bro....have you ever even been in a fight? I mean WTF?! Who the hell would want to fight you? You're so chill and your voice is so freaking soothing that if YOU were to bump into ME, I'D apologize and buy YOU a drink!! 😂😂
Content is always Gold on this channel.
Great insight Sifu and I've used these steps plenty of times in my line of work, dealing with the public.
Being in control, on and off eye contact and showing confidence is a great way to de-escalate most situations
I use poor eyesight as a way to both de-escalate and make space . If they ask what I'm looking at I say "Sorry , thought you were my buddy Mike , I think I need glasses man! I'm getting old!" And if they get too close I ask them to step back because I'm nearsighted . Neither are true but it's a way to switch the focus. My ace in the hole is an old Roy Rogers line he would use when drunk and somebody tried him. "Buddy, you don't want to mess with me . See I've been in 32 fights, and I lost them all. So the way I see it I'm long overdue for a win. "
Love this! Thank you for adding Sir.
Hello.. so the 1st point you made, I actually call it "projecting strength" its the same principle. I tell my children this all the time. if or when they may need to use it at some time or another, as it will get people out of a tricky situation. I also tell them to stand up for themselves as I won't always be present or around for ever. Literally stand for something or fall for everything.
I have been of more then few streets fights.. sometimes even with more opponents. This advice is 100% accurate... sometimes even I get 1st punch, but after my little reaction and eye contact and my posture suggest, that will be hard fight. So aggressor will come down and walk away.
Same here. I was once attacked by sixteen boxers mma and street fighter afficionados that was tough but I came through 😂nados.
Thanks for sharing
@@ciararespect4296What in the world..? How did that happen, man? Good Lord...
The one thing that I always assess is stance and position of hands because it's a great indicator of that person's level of training or lack thereof, good presentation.
Agreed. Shows their intention.
I few months ago, i had the "classic" situation on the train from work back home - Guy sat close (almost cloth to cloth) next to me on the bench and was yapping excessively loud and aggressive on his phone - It was dark outside so the train neon light served a good reflection on the window ahead of us where i fixated the guy in the mirror. He noticed me looking and i spiced my look with a little confident ( dont even think about it) smile - His loud yapping simmered down after 2 stops and in the end, he stood up, shook my hand in farewell and left the train.... Sometimes it can be so easy.
Nope.
I am 40y o and I constantly have an issue, people usually sees me as weak because I behave as a child or I dont display dominant behaviors... some have tried to dominate me, and I tell them either not to to do x thing or stop their current behavior... they usually ignores me and the next thing they experience is me over them hitting hard af; after that they usually get afraid of me, I dont understand why they keep puahing up to those levels of confrontation... even when they are the ones they try to bully me...
The look and glance away has worked for me as a deescalation. Lock for second, so they know you are paying attention and glance away. Just enough that they are still in your view but no eye contact for long. Generally they stop looking.
Sounds all good and logical with the right wording. But quickly proves to be not all too universal and rather risky if actually used in reality.
Most of these things can give the impression of seeking a fight, being arrogant or simply not acknowledging someone who might already have some serious self esteem issues, a heated temper and probably a shitty day that boosts aggressiveness. You're giving them a reason to fight, just because you want to not look weak.. which imo is what makes you prove your own weakness.
Ignore it, move on, it usually is that simple.
Exceptions will always exist, but there rarely ever will be someone standing in your way, leaving you no way out without massaging each other's eyes with your own.
If the person considers you weak enough to be a target, that doesn't just vanish because of where your eyes go.
They could literally have a weapon boosting their confidence, but sure, try your luck assuming they are always insecure, don't know how to fight and act superior.. might just prep that swiss cheese costume for next halloween while being offered potential extra holes.
Cats are similar in a sense with looking away/closing their eyes, but it is in passive situations; a cat will only avert its gaze from a person if it's comfortable with that person or in control of its environment. A cat staring at you doesn't necessarily mean distrust, as they have a natural predatory instinct to look at anything that moves.
Very good information but, how do you stay calm, you are in that position, you normally avoid conflict and then the tunnel vision and adrenaline kicks in, its a challenge to think complexities, you barely take in the rant of the aggressor the words fade out and just become noise. What techniques can you use to reduce the chances of the fright response?
Great advice ! Thanks!
I do love an ice cream 🍦 😂 in all seriousness some great points mate 💪👊
I have a rule of thumb, the moment things go wrong in the littlest way. Another .ab can't get close up on me, I position myself and create space. See the danger ahead of time
Many thanks for the advices , so true. I think also that the way we are walking in the street for exemple is maby the most important stategy to avoid conflicts. In the wild aven the lion avoid to attack a strong and healthy springbok
Remember the aggressor is the most insecure one! You have an advantage over this!
You always give the most awesome advice. Thank you.
You are so welcome
Look at nothing but see everything.
This content is so useful. Stare and Improper eye contact can trigger violence and i see very many people can not handle this situation. Thankyou so much and i hope you make more video about this content
But I have 1 more question: There is a view that when predators stare at someone they are expecting a response, if we look at them it will be a reason for them to pick a fight with us because they will see us as disrespectful. respect them or say we are entering their world. Do you have any thoughts on this opinion?
Had that situation once in a bus. Guy was pissed that the woman he sat next to (apparently his ex) didn't want to do anything with him anymore. So he got up, because he wanted to get out of the bus the next station anyway. But before the bus arrived at the next station, he stood right in front of me, eye balling me... I looked back, but broke up it up and ended the nonverbal conversation as you said.
There was plenty of space between us, so no reason to create more. He was holding his arms over his lower belly, which I would interprete as non-aggressive body language. But combined with the eyeballing it's basically provoking me to do the first offensive move, like saying something.
After a few moments he lost his tension and looked elsewhere too. Not sure why he was looking for a fight as it wasn't my fault that he lost the race for the woman.
One thing that bothers me though is that those fellas have a rep of being hot heads that can't control themselves. Does anything think that the guy would eyeball Hafthor Bjornsson?
Back in the day, there were numerous times where i was confronted by ppl tryna be intimidating, a couple of those times were with two ppl at a time, which makes them feel bigger I'd imagine. When ppl act like this, all i see is a weak B so, without even conciously doing it, i naturally don't get intimidated. I always explain it to ppl like, if my reaction was akin to "oh, nah, it's ok mate, i don't want any problems" then those ppl would likely try something seeing it as a sign of fear/weakness. My instincts don't even go there cos i don't have any respect for ppl like that. I just find it hilarious that when I've naturally reacted as i do, which is chill yet idgaf and i aint buying their act, they just don't know how to react and end up looking dumb af.
I also walk a predestined path and have all the faith in God possible, so that factors in. I'm all for self-defence but i don't start nothing. I'd say i react in the way i do cos i know the only ppl who could be having a problem with me are looking to find 1 and they aint ish.
Fantastic advice.
Thank you my friend.
My pleasure!
If a guy you don’t know is coming towards you to get in your face; how soon do you counter with punches? You don’t know this guy, he may be drinking or drugged; he enters my personal space not to come and shake my hand but…I don’t think I would wait to find out…so out of protecting myself self;I should punch, counter…am I wrong? Peace, Sal
Very well done, mate. Well said indeed.
Thank you Sir.
Great advice mate thanks. 😎👍
Thank you Sir 🙏🏾
This is on point!!!!!
Always good content thanks.
I've saved this video, please do more of the psychology in preparation before trouble/fight..
No one else that I'm aware of does these type of video.
💯 its an ego battle, which I try not to get involved in..So you have to be prepared to fight either way with this type of confrontation?
Thank you. Don't fight in Ego Battles, they are very dangerous for safe decision making.
When you look away, look to the side or up. This is to avoid the submissive gesture of looking down. Unless your intention is to actually convey submissiveness (maybe that's a good idea if someone is brandishing a weapon or threatening a hostage or something). You should remember this in all interactions, not just potentially threatening ones.
You should even remember this when you are walking alone. Don't stare at the ground like someone who had their spirit beaten out of them!
As a kid I was hanging out with two friends setting off firecrackers by a swingset. We each had about 10-20 firecrackers, when these local bullies ran up over the hill nearby and charged at the playground. They were there to steal our firecrackers and intimidate us.
The two kids I was with bolted in fear, I just stood there and looked at the group of bullies as they ran up, showing no fear. They approached me, I think there were 3 of them, they were a good foot taller than me and teenagers, while I was about 11 years old and short. They asked me if I had any firecrackers, I very casually said that I had a few of kind, and then purposely offered them some of them. I did not act scared at all offering them, but just like I wanted to share the fun. They didn't know what to do with me not being scared, so they just said "Nah", then they turned and ran down the hill and into the trees chasing my two friends.
After I met up with my friends a few minutes later, they said they had been pushed around and had all their firecrackers stolen.
Truth is, most bullies have been bullied to learn the behaviour, i.e. made to feel powerless, so they want to do the same to others. But if you don't act scared, bullies just don't know what to do with you!
This is a great video, it's all practical stuff.
"RABBIT PUNCH." Its also, strangely, a VERY satisfying punch to deliver. It surprises you for a second just how powerful that short cocked arm is and its instantaneous positive results. However, it wont always end there, some people can take a lot of extreme abuse. A weapon before the initial defense move wears off is a great way to be sure its all over. I learned my emergency glass breaker on my Schrade tac knife handle is a great way to drive home this fight should be over now before theres a need for the blade. Nyny Bronx, 2019 and that message was received👍
Oh dear. There's always one armchair warrior with no real understanding or experience. How sad.
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Thanks for the wisedom and power !!!
Thank you Sir
A little nod will do the trick and always wear sunglasses.😎👍🏻
Well i was ever attacked from the side while i was looking into some antique stuff in a crowded situation so i never saw it comming and dont know why i got attacked either. Did not get knocked out btw. But i never saw my attacker when i fell i got a big sheet over my head and it took some 30 secs to get out of it.
I always go for a smile and a head nod. At the end of the head nod I look where their hands are at
Amazing video & notes taking for my next CPI class. I work at county jail as a nurse. When they eye fk me, I looked at them, then I stare at their feet. It throws them off completely every time 😅
Eye fu@k you?? I love your choice of words.
Fantastic video with fantastic advice.
Thank you so much. 🙏🏾
Thanks mate.
Very informative video thank you very much for your content.I had the last years a lot sticky situtations but last week was surprisinh me.When i left the Tram someone was shouting behind my back but i did not realise him.I didnt keep the door open and he completly flipped out and tried to attack me.But thanks to a couple of tips by you i managed the distance good and could overwhelm him by a precise punch.Not always there have to be eyecontact with you and the bad guy.
Oh look, another story that never happened.
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Excellent tutorial, thanks Sifu
My pleasure!
Yesterday two guys cut the line at a shop and pushing me away. I was calm but it was hard and I asked him is it to difficult to get the concept of a Line? He starts arguing, I didn’t see you, i stopped talking and stared in his eyes without talking. It helped, he said so go then!
Great stuff!