@@wanjiruciru6237she doesn’t need to feel grateful. She’s entitled to know the truth. Shes entitled to feel however she wants about her adoption. Adoptee voices need to lead the conversation surrounding adoption. The system is broken and only adoptees can fix it.
This one just made me sob. As an adoptee so relatable. It was so beautiful to see the parallels with a sister on each side too. For those making judgments about the birth mom or adoptee, understand that adoption is a very complicated experience and try to hold their experiences in compassion rather than judgment
Life is never fair, Simona. I was always ANGRY about not being given up for adoption and being brought up by parents who didn't care about me or love me even though they were my biological parents.
This is a voice that rarely gets heard… When your birth parents are sadistic and cruel, it ruins your entire adult life and there’s never a silver lining g to wonder about or go and find! There are no uplifting groups or helpful organizations like this for us … I mean outside of Trauma labels, toxic mental health communities and their endless online discussions about their c-ptsd and accusations of personality disorders. Childhood becomes a hostage situation, where you are called ungrateful and ignorant for voicing any wish to live elsewhere. I cannot think of a bigger red flag than a child who refuses to go home from school or visits elsewhere… the amount of cheek turning was spectacular. A lot of these orphanages and adoptive parents are clearly so kind. Many of us were not given this chance at a better life or home. Or loved. I was kept out of spite and my ability to form relationships destroyed. Navigating human interaction and social connection will always remain a minefield.
I heard about these orphanages and Romania many years ago and was so disgusted by the photographs that people brought back. I don't know if she fully understands how incredibly lucky she was to get adopted so quickly.
I’ve seen videos of those Romanian orphanages too. Absolutely sad, terrible places, where children were neglected, starving, and not given the love or mental stimulation that babies and children need. Simona is a very fortunate woman to have two mothers who love her so much, and the selfless love of her birth mum gave her the opportunity of the life she’s had in NZ I’m so happy that they’ve all found each other and I hope she also finds her birth father and there’s a happy ending there as well.
I really hope that Simona studies the horrendous history of the 20th century in Romania in detail. She doesn't really grasp what could have happened to her and how developmentally deprived and stunted she would have ended up being without the adoption. The circumstances in these Romanian orphanages were absolutely detrimental to the health and development of the infants and toddlers abandoned there. She owes her life to her birth mother and everything else she received to her adopted family.
Jcmunich1 oh, get off your high horse! Did you actually read what I wrote or did the suggestion she learn about the details of her horrendous situation in the orphanage she suffered in make you jump to the conclusion that I criticize her search for her birth family? How about facts instead of outrage?
@@jckonstanz you sound like Greta Thunberg "How dare you?" Please read what I wrote and deal with facts, not your feelings. I never said that she should not have looked for her birth mother. But her mother and her family saved her health and possibly her life. Circumstances in Romanian orphanages were absolutely horrible and detrimental to the children, no food, no affection, living in unheated buildings etc. Many documentaries were produced after the end of communism in Romania. I don't know when circumstances improved and how much. Once Simona really grasps this maybe she understands that the adoption into this family was the best thing that could have happened to her. Her adoptive mother is incredibly loving, generous and supportive, a real mother. And don't jump to conclusions again, implying that I am saying that her birth mother is not a real mother. She did the best she could under terrible circumstances. You might profit from educating yourself about facts, too.
@jcmunich1 honestly If you look at what happened to Irish children who were adopted by American couples from the magdaline laundries. It is so important to know the history of why kids were adopted. It helps families on both sides . Tbf this documentary does not go in the history of how women were forced to have babies.
As a mom of an adopted son from Bulgaria, I would support 100% my son meeting his biological family. He has not shown interest in meeting them but if he did I would support him. I would only worry about him being hurt if they disappointed him or rejected meeting him...that would be my only concern. Btw, if he did love them and become close to them I would not feel threatened because I am secure in his live for me as his Mom (like Simona's mom). ❤
Absolutely agree…. I was worried for my biological daughter to meet her father and in the end she was hurt and disappointed… the pain is immense to see your child go through that
He might be afraid that he would hurt you by looking for them. If YOU bring it up, maybe he would reveal his feelings. Sometimes the biological parents are not so great.
What a blessing to meet even the grandmother! The adoptive mother is such a strong woman, and a true friend to her daughter. She helped even herself learn about Simona's past. Felicitari tuturor celor care-au fost implicati!
We adopted our youngest daughter from an orphanage in Kazakhstan when she was nearly four years old. Our daughter is now 27 and to this day, I am so grateful to our daughter’s biological mother for giving our daughter life and for allowing us to be her family. I tell our daughter that her biological mother must have been an incredible woman to do this. I love and admire this woman I will never know.
Quite a few Romanian adoptees from those orphanages were severely abused and had major adjustment issues, and those were the success stories. Such a tragedy all around.
Wow, so glad she got to meet her BM, can’t believe the similarities between Simona and her grandmother. Amazing adoptive mum too. May God bless you all and bring you much joy and peace.
This brought tears to me...such deep emotion for Simona and her birth Mum. Also for her new half-sisters ! All praise to her.loving Kiwi Mum.. Wonderful story..
I had tears streaming down my face when they were in the church together with the actual priest that baptized her. It's a lovely story and I'm so happy for Simona and her mums.
So emotional for everyone. Ive cried too. It is sad that people have to make decisions like this. Im so glad she did not have to stay in that orphanage.
Im about to go back to Romania in two weeks to meet my family for the first time. never had contact and just learned about them tonight. I hope when I meet my family there wont be so many tears
I knew another family that the new man of the house hated one of the children because she wasn't his. When I heard that Maris had to give Simona up because her new husband didn't want to raise another man's child my blood boiled. it reminded me how Gary treated Charlotte. Honestly, its not the child's fault. They didn't ask to be born.
It is not made clear how much the situation in Romania impacted this family, it seems Maria was working, but seemed like things were still very tough, and i guess if you are struggling to feed all of the children it might seem like a better choice at the time. It also isn't clear whether Maria would have any power to go against her husband's wishes if it had him who made that decision
I absolutely love how her mom huged SIMONE. She waited all these years to hug her baby again mom was so happy to see her. Now she is going to have her baby back and a beautiful grandson.
It’s no wonder she grew up angry about being removed from her birth country, with other kids highlighting her being different from them, telling her she should go back, etc.
Great video Daniel. Really enjoyed it. Charlie is always a laugh. Brandon sure doesn't waste any time. Ha! You can probably start the girls time to give birth-date down by the time you and Dejay get back home. Brandon will already have them bred. Can't wait to see those babies. Talk about some beauties. Packs and Fancy will enjoy all that grass at the merch bldg. We'll you'll have a lot going on. At least Dejay will be busy at merch bldg with her time. It'll make the months fly by faster before she has new babies. How far fetched is it that one of the girls could have twins? Is that even a possibility? That would be cool!! But she'd never allow them to leave the farm. Well, I'll get off that topic and let you get back to your editing. Have a great evening. Sending love to all the family from NC. God bless you all.
You should feel extremely grateful that you got adopted and not left in that horrific orphanage … you may not have a life at all had you been left, with what they did with those children was hideous.
It must behard to know that you were given wonderful opportunities and a way out of a horrible situation, but at the same time wonder what might have been if a few decisions that were made by others had been made differently. I'm sure she knows that she should be greatful,but at the same time feel angry with a world that put her in that position where it was so in the first place.
I was a hair dresser at kid's cut and knew a child adopted from Romania they called him Miles do to miles they traveled to get him He was such a great little joy of a boy. I always wondered what happened with him.
That was freaking beautiful I hope everyone reading this Keeps an eye on what happened to that beautiful country at that time, How it affected generations, let's all make sure it never happens again especially after the last few years 🥰 love too everyone
For some reason it hurts my heart alittle for the Mom (the TRUE Mom, adoptive Mom) everytime they call Simone's birth Mom, Mom. There's nothing wrong with it, I just know that deep down that's got to sting a bit.
For those who don't understand , Family Constellations has the answers on why people need to find their origins,their roots ,that what they are actually . Those orphanages were not an exception . Many countries can be "proud" of such terrible systems..... Children are the victims of horror stories everywhere on this planet, no exceptions. Paedophile victims of all walks of life ,from the richest to the poorest can confirm that "distinguished " members of the society (priests and others)did to them the unthinkable .Even boarding schools were ,maybe still are horror places for the most.Nuns were in so many cases perpetrators instead of educators........
In Serbia during the 90-ies many babies were stolen from their parents. When a mother gives birth they would usualy stuff her with drugs and painkillers Then they would say to the mother :"your baby died" They wouldn't give the baby's body to the parents to burry it. They just said that the hospital does that. And the first days the cross with the baby's name would be on the grave spot where the baby was burried. But later the other cross were put there and the parents were told that that's not their child's burial place. The papper work from the hospital would be lousy filled. They were throwing their blame from one to another. Many parents are still looking for their children. In one show, once, a woman that usedtobe a flight atendant said that in those years some woman, few of them were often fly to Romania and Bulgaria with little babies who would be sleeping throughout the entire flight. All that was very suspicious to them but they were shut up by the bosses. Told to not to ask to much. And to not to pray where they shouldn't. It is painfull to see theese people crying and not knowing where their children were sold off to. There was probobly some ilegal chain of adoption service off of wich so many people gained profit.
The same happened here in Ireland. My mother's first child, my brother, was adopted without her knowledge. Given to another family by the nuns. My mother was told he had died. She only discovered he was alive about 5 years ago and she's an old woman now.
it is an insult to the adoptive mother to refer to her as anything other than a 'real' mother. There is a birth mother and an adoptive mother, and they are BOTH real mothers.
Simona maybe should be grateful she was adopted out of there - it was deplorable conditions. Children were left by the thousands, they weren't all lucky to grow up in an adoptive home. Francis and her husband saved her. She has the ability to have a great life. And she is a whole person even if she couldn't see it that way. You tell your mind how to see it, not let your circumstances dictate it for you. Self love is equally important. It isn't found in others, it is found within. It becomes your unsinkable strength so, that if things go south elsewhere in life, you don't allow yourself to go south with it. We create our own reality with our own thoughts and actions. Glad she found her Romanian roots. 🙏💫❤💥
Thank you Lady Theotokotos for bringing Simona back to her biological family. I pray Simona will be able to embrace both of her families. Thank you Simona's guardian's angel. ☦️
Agreed. Being bullied by people outside your adopted family doesn't justify you to blame it on the people that saved, raised, provided, supported and loved you.
@@LORGSW6 agree, and kids bully for all sorts of reasons. I was a full-blooded local native, and got bullied because of my appearance. If its not one thing it's another. so wrong of her to take that as truth, that she didn't belong and worse to resent her mother for bringing her there.
@daniell...I would think she was expressing everything she trully felt, including that hurtful part about being Taken from her country. The adopted mother undestand her although it hurts her. Later that young woman Will undertand how she was saved instead of "Taken", I hope so for the sake of both, her and the adoptive mother. ejarvis157
I am an adult adoptee who was removed from my birth home at 4 years of age and put into foster care with my two older half-siblings. Our adoption was a closed adoption. As an adult, I found my entire birth family after hitting a lot of brick walls. I disagree with this show in bringing Simona to another country without having first seen the birth family and finding out if they wanted contact. I've watched a couple of other "finding lost relatives" type shows, and this seems to be the norm of just going without making positive contact first and confirming they want contact. I know from firsthand experience what it's like to have birth family members who do not want contact no matter how much I, as the adoptee, may want it. It is so very painful. But I also get it and respect the decision. No one knows the full circumstances of why a birth family gives up a child (or children) for adoption. Most times, it's because of poverty, young age at pregnancy, infidelity, abuse, drugs/alcohol, thinking they have no other choice, etc. I think shows like these need to be respectful and make contact first between all parties involved before having an adoptee travel thousands of miles to meet someone who may not want contact. I am fortunate that though my birth half-brother from my birth father's side of the family did not wish to remain in contact with me, my 1st cousins did. When I found my birth mother's family, I contacted my half siblings I was raised with (we were all three adopted into the same home) if they wanted contact with her family. My brother did, and my sister did not. I honored my sister's wishes. I think these shows just need to be mindful that not everyone wants contact and they have very deep personal reasons for not wanting to do so, especially if the children that were placed for adoption were older kids. There's a lot of emotional scarring on all sides.
Iv got family somewhere in Romania there was a slavik girl found in or near Birmingham England of my ancestors no name yet but I know my Romanian ancestors where the first Romanian farmers and were Roma and also most of the Balkans Hungary Bulgaria ect stainbank Lombard wallace or Crawford are the family names if anyone reconises thoes names let me know
So the birth mom choose a man over her child, that's so sad and pathetic and kinda unforgivable. She had younger kids by this man but gave away a child she had already been raising , all because of this man not wanting her. He would have been kicked out, not my child . I know she wants to meet her birth mom but does she fully understand her birth mom gave her away just to keep a man ,who she didn't end up staying with.
This is such an embarrassing part of our country’s history. I myself who was born and raised in Romania can’t believe this because I’ve never heard of something crazy like this. Romanian families love and protect their children. She might be a Gypsy and they are many careless with their children. Many highly educated people come from Romania. 🇷🇴 It’s unfair that something like this is shown on tv to put my country down.
We are not careless with our children. Why steal our children and then begrudge the care of them. Steal ours and then abandon your own!!! If Romanian children were neglected our Romani children didn't stand a chance😢
adoptions from Romania were highly problematic, and eventually all adoptions to the US were shut down due trauma, violence, and having to return children because they had been so traumatized.
I’m confused… it sounds like she gave her daughter up because the man she married didn’t want to raise someone else’s kid… and then to be put in that god awful orphanage not knowing if she would get adopted…. Please correct me if I’m wrong… if I’m not… there is something very flawed with this woman!!!
@@someone3187 i would have to rewatch, but i think that Maria said she "split from her husband", so not 100% on whether it was her who left or if he walked out? Maybe she did leave, it's always possible he was abusive etc, and she ended leaving one "bad" relationship for another one that was also "bad", as those cycles also happen where women go from one abusive relationship to another. Maybe she thought this one would provide for her and her children better? She may not have seen what was coming with political situation at that time, and the then need to re-marry? Would need to have a better idea of time-line. Things change and people make decisions the best they can with the information they have and what they understand of it at the time. Maria seems to be fairly uneducated and unlikely to have ever been in a position of privilege, so I'm not sure it is completely fair to judge her without the whole story. Maybe she was just looking out for herself, but i really don't get that from what they showed
@@BlackStump172 BS… she’s been working at the same place ever since she gave up that child so she had the means to support her self and that child yes she goes on to marry a man has two more children. Now he’s gone and guess who still supporting the children
you should be very thankful to your adopted mom never say you feel more like a family in Romania,than in the place of your adopted family, that would hurt your adopted family,,if they don't adopt you, what happened to you now
I felt so sorry for the adopted mum.. what a lovely lady.
Indeed,I hope the adopted daughter appreciates the love she got
...she loved this adopted Daughter so much and wants her to hace closure.
She’s fine. Her daughter is entitled to know her birth family.
@@wanjiruciru6237she doesn’t need to feel grateful. She’s entitled to know the truth. Shes entitled to feel however she wants about her adoption. Adoptee voices need to lead the conversation surrounding adoption. The system is broken and only adoptees can fix it.
This one just made me sob. As an adoptee so relatable. It was so beautiful to see the parallels with a sister on each side too. For those making judgments about the birth mom or adoptee, understand that adoption is a very complicated experience and try to hold their experiences in compassion rather than judgment
Amen
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Life is never fair, Simona.
I was always ANGRY about not being given up for adoption and being brought up by parents who didn't care about me or love me even though they were my biological parents.
This is a voice that rarely gets heard…
When your birth parents are sadistic and cruel, it ruins your entire adult life and there’s never a silver lining g to wonder about or go and find!
There are no uplifting groups or helpful organizations like this for us …
I mean outside of Trauma labels, toxic mental health communities and their endless online discussions about their c-ptsd and accusations of personality disorders.
Childhood becomes a hostage situation, where you are called ungrateful and ignorant for voicing any wish to live elsewhere. I cannot think of a bigger red flag than a child who refuses to go home from school or visits elsewhere… the amount of cheek turning was spectacular.
A lot of these orphanages and adoptive parents are clearly so kind.
Many of us were not given this chance at a better life or home. Or loved. I was kept out of spite and my ability to form relationships destroyed.
Navigating human interaction and social connection will always remain a minefield.
I heard about these orphanages and Romania many years ago and was so disgusted by the photographs that people brought back. I don't know if she fully understands how incredibly lucky she was to get adopted so quickly.
I’ve seen videos of those Romanian orphanages too. Absolutely sad, terrible places, where children were neglected, starving, and not given the love or mental stimulation that babies and children need.
Simona is a very fortunate woman to have two mothers who love her so much, and the selfless love of her birth mum gave her the opportunity of the life she’s had in NZ
I’m so happy that they’ve all found each other and I hope she also finds her birth father and there’s a happy ending there as well.
But it wasn't so quickly, was it. She was the oldest in her group and already three.
Her adopted mother is awsome❤
This woman is a sweet person who deserves to have adopted a child. ❤ She just wants her daughter happy. Nothing else matters.
Th the saint
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I really hope that Simona studies the horrendous history of the 20th century in Romania in detail. She doesn't really grasp what could have happened to her and how developmentally deprived and stunted she would have ended up being without the adoption. The circumstances in these Romanian orphanages were absolutely detrimental to the health and development of the infants and toddlers abandoned there. She owes her life to her birth mother and everything else she received to her adopted family.
How dare you tell someone who you don’t know how to behave. You have no idea how much adopted children wish to know their roots.
Jcmunich1 oh, get off your high horse! Did you actually read what I wrote or did the suggestion she learn about the details of her horrendous situation in the orphanage she suffered in make you jump to the conclusion that I criticize her search for her birth family? How about facts instead of outrage?
@@jckonstanz you sound like Greta Thunberg "How dare you?" Please read what I wrote and deal with facts, not your feelings. I never said that she should not have looked for her birth mother. But her mother and her family saved her health and possibly her life. Circumstances in Romanian orphanages were absolutely horrible and detrimental to the children, no food, no affection, living in unheated buildings etc. Many documentaries were produced after the end of communism in Romania. I don't know when circumstances improved and how much. Once Simona really grasps this maybe she understands that the adoption into this family was the best thing that could have happened to her. Her adoptive mother is incredibly loving, generous and supportive, a real mother. And don't jump to conclusions again, implying that I am saying that her birth mother is not a real mother. She did the best she could under terrible circumstances. You might profit from educating yourself about facts, too.
I definitely think that Europeans probably were more aware of the politics of what was going on.
@jcmunich1 honestly If you look at what happened to Irish children who were adopted by American couples from the magdaline laundries. It is so important to know the history of why kids were adopted. It helps families on both sides . Tbf this documentary does not go in the history of how women were forced to have babies.
She is so lucky to have found her mother !
She is luckier to have had been rescued and loved by her parents
This is the only show that makes me cry every time
As a mom of an adopted son from Bulgaria, I would support 100% my son meeting his biological family. He has not shown interest in meeting them but if he did I would support him. I would only worry about him being hurt if they disappointed him or rejected meeting him...that would be my only concern. Btw, if he did love them and become close to them I would not feel threatened because I am secure in his live for me as his Mom (like Simona's mom). ❤
Absolutely agree…. I was worried for my biological daughter to meet her father and in the end she was hurt and disappointed… the pain is immense to see your child go through that
You seem like a wonderful person! God bless your heart 💜
He might be afraid that he would hurt you by looking for them. If YOU bring it up, maybe he would reveal his feelings. Sometimes the biological parents are not so great.
The lady who adopted her is a wonderful ladyy.
Simona's adoptive mother is such a great mom!
What a blessing to meet even the grandmother! The adoptive mother is such a strong woman, and a true friend to her daughter. She helped even herself learn about Simona's past. Felicitari tuturor celor care-au fost implicati!
It is the most beautiful reunion I have ever seen. Simona’s birth mom is the best I ever seen.
Hope they keep in touch for ever.
I love the maternal affection given instinctively by both women ❤❤❤ absolute love!
I hope she meets her full brother, and dad? that would be special.
This was truly an exceptional story
We adopted our youngest daughter from an orphanage in Kazakhstan when she was nearly four years old. Our daughter is now 27 and to this day, I am so grateful to our daughter’s biological mother for giving our daughter life and for allowing us to be her family. I tell our daughter that her biological mother must have been an incredible woman to do this. I love and admire this woman I will never know.
Quite a few Romanian adoptees from those orphanages were severely abused and had major adjustment issues, and those were the success stories. Such a tragedy all around.
Not a dry eye in the audience. So beautiful!
I cry like a baby. I hope day I'll find my son too and have a happy ending like you.
I love the sweet adoptive mother, Happy to see her daughter founding her bio mom, supporting her on this journey.
Happy ending ❤❤❤❤
This show always makes me bawl like a baby!!! Just beautiful and beautifully done ❤
Wow, so glad she got to meet her BM, can’t believe the similarities between Simona and her grandmother. Amazing adoptive mum too. May God bless you all and bring you much joy and peace.
This was one of the most in-depth stories on these types of shows that I have seen! What an awesome story.
This brought tears to me...such deep emotion for Simona and her birth Mum. Also for her new half-sisters !
All praise to her.loving Kiwi Mum..
Wonderful story..
Both of her mothers cared very much about Simona and wanted her to have the best future possible. Hopefully she comes to realize that.
What a beautiful reunion! So emotional 😭’
I am in tears to see the re union of mother and daughter.
Simona's is a joyful reunion indeed with two loving mums, all her sweet sisters, and a grandmother too.💙😊
Wow didn’t think I’d cry What a wonderful beautiful story!
Beautiful story with a heartwarming ending. Happy for Simona.
This is so beautiful and heartwarming to watch. There is so much love between these lovely people. Bless you all.
I had tears streaming down my face when they were in the church together with the actual priest that baptized her. It's a lovely story and I'm so happy for Simona and her mums.
So emotional for everyone. Ive cried too. It is sad that people have to make decisions like this. Im so glad she did not have to stay in that orphanage.
How fortunate is Simona to have two Mom’s ❤ that love her so much !!!! I miss my Mom so much !!!!❤️
Thanks!
Thank You
Hope it all turns out for both families ♥️😘🇨🇦
She was Blessed with an amazing mom that raised her eell, very obvious there close. Good Bond's ❤🫂🙏🏽💙
God bless you for giving us this story. The two mothers are wonderful. Mothers are such special people
And let's not forget the sisters that love her so much, too.😀
Im about to go back to Romania in two weeks to meet my family for the first time. never had contact and just learned about them tonight. I hope when I meet my family there wont be so many tears
I knew another family that the new man of the house hated one of the children because she wasn't his. When I heard that Maris had to give Simona up because her new husband didn't want to raise another man's child my blood boiled. it reminded me how Gary treated Charlotte. Honestly, its not the child's fault. They didn't ask to be born.
Its a cultural thing, and more common than you think.
It is not made clear how much the situation in Romania impacted this family, it seems Maria was working, but seemed like things were still very tough, and i guess if you are struggling to feed all of the children it might seem like a better choice at the time. It also isn't clear whether Maria would have any power to go against her husband's wishes if it had him who made that decision
I cried so much and it was a lovely story
I have been watching these videos for a while and this is the first video that made me really emotional. I’m glad everyone is happy. ♥️🙏
Beautiful😍😍✨❤ story. Mom's daughter meet again.
"Abandoned her" are pretty strong words for bio mom.
This one has me in tears!
I absolutely love how her mom huged SIMONE. She waited all these years to hug her baby again mom was so happy to see her. Now she is going to have her baby back and a beautiful grandson.
if she waited all these years to hug her baby, then why did she refuse to meet her at the beginning?
That bought me to tears what a lovely sep mum lovily family im pleased for her xx
What a lovely episode to watch. Thank you so much.
This is my FAVORITE Lost and Found!
Amazing program💕
It’s no wonder she grew up angry about being removed from her birth country, with other kids highlighting her being different from them, telling her she should go back, etc.
They think she's Romani! So many were taken from their families by the Romanian government!!!
Great video Daniel. Really enjoyed it. Charlie is always a laugh. Brandon sure doesn't waste any time. Ha! You can probably start the girls time to give birth-date down by the time you and Dejay get back home. Brandon will already have them bred. Can't wait to see those babies. Talk about some beauties. Packs and Fancy will enjoy all that grass at the merch bldg. We'll you'll have a lot going on. At least Dejay will be busy at merch bldg with her time. It'll make the months fly by faster before she has new babies. How far fetched is it that one of the girls could have twins? Is that even a possibility? That would be cool!! But she'd never allow them to leave the farm. Well, I'll get off that topic and let you get back to your editing. Have a great evening. Sending love to all the family from NC. God bless you all.
I love this show and live seeing ppl reunited with their birth parents. ❤ It's such a beautiful thing
You should feel extremely grateful that you got adopted and not left in that horrific orphanage … you may not have a life at all had you been left, with what they did with those children was hideous.
It must behard to know that you were given wonderful opportunities and a way out of a horrible situation, but at the same time wonder what might have been if a few decisions that were made by others had been made differently. I'm sure she knows that she should be greatful,but at the same time feel angry with a world that put her in that position where it was so in the first place.
@@naesynaenae9385 no one put her in that situation other than a selfish mother
@@teresanoel4035 that's untrue and deeply unkind.
@@apebass2215 what is unkind that a selfish mother gave her up
Judgemental people like you are the worst.
I was a hair dresser at kid's cut and knew a child adopted from Romania they called him Miles do to miles they traveled to get him
He was such a great little joy of a boy. I always wondered what happened with him.
I wonder if they are still in touch with each other today. Wish I could find out
Simona, welcome home!
Love of Mom 😢
I'm in same situation. Left at 3. Wish I had money to see my family
I hope you can. I'm also adopted, I'm hoping to go to my country and see them
I Allways watch the danish program sporløs IT is about the same as this show ,and i Allways cry .When seeing them
That was freaking beautiful I hope everyone reading this Keeps an eye on what happened to that beautiful country at that time, How it affected generations, let's all make sure it never happens again especially after the last few years 🥰 love too everyone
For some reason it hurts my heart alittle for the Mom (the TRUE Mom, adoptive Mom) everytime they call Simone's birth Mom, Mom. There's nothing wrong with it, I just know that deep down that's got to sting a bit.
catherineervin, I feel the exact same way. It seemed that Samona was ungrateful, but I know she loved them both. Just kind of strange.
@@karenquick8737Ungrateful to which mother. I think the adopted mother got the pain of her not knowing why she was given up
Birth mother is not mother. Person who has been through ups and downs sickness and heartbreak with love is MOM
I think her adoptive mom just wants to see her daughter happy.
@@Aleka1943 Yes
The love of a mother in the very worst conditions
Would love an update on these Only Human programmes
What a GREAT video!
Years of jou for all ❤❤
so bea tiful to see 😍
For those who don't understand , Family Constellations has the answers on why people need to find their origins,their roots ,that what they are actually . Those orphanages were not an exception . Many countries can be "proud" of such terrible systems.....
Children are the victims of horror stories everywhere on this planet, no exceptions. Paedophile victims of all walks of life ,from the richest to the poorest can confirm that "distinguished " members of the society (priests and others)did to them the unthinkable .Even boarding schools were ,maybe still are horror places for the most.Nuns were in so many cases perpetrators instead of educators........
In Serbia during the 90-ies many babies were stolen from their parents. When a mother gives birth they would usualy stuff her with drugs and painkillers
Then they would say to the mother :"your baby died"
They wouldn't give the baby's body to the parents to burry it. They just said that the hospital does that. And the first days the cross with the baby's name would be on the grave spot where the baby was burried. But later the other cross were put there and the parents were told that that's not their child's burial place. The papper work from the hospital would be lousy filled. They were throwing their blame from one to another. Many parents are still looking for their children. In one show, once, a woman that usedtobe a flight atendant said that in those years some woman, few of them were often fly to Romania and Bulgaria with little babies who would be sleeping throughout the entire flight. All that was very suspicious to them but they were shut up by the bosses. Told to not to ask to much. And to not to pray where they shouldn't. It is painfull to see theese people crying and not knowing where their children were sold off to. There was probobly some ilegal chain of adoption service off of wich so many people gained profit.
The same happened here in Ireland. My mother's first child, my brother, was adopted without her knowledge. Given to another family by the nuns. My mother was told he had died. She only discovered he was alive about 5 years ago and she's an old woman now.
@@MVK123 those damn criminals
@@MVK123They had no Christian love . To them those mothers were wicked sinners . Such horrible pain .
@@MVK123That’s so sad, did she get to meet him.
No, this is not an illegal adoption system.
Romania was also enrolled in a pedophile supply system .
She has a real
Mother. A adopted mother who has been looking after her
I feel like she is going to uproot her life from New Zealand and head to Romania
it is an insult to the adoptive mother to refer to her as anything other than a 'real' mother. There is a birth mother and an adoptive mother, and they are BOTH real mothers.
@@wanjiruciru6237...she would do it out of knowlege, she dies not know she belongs to New Zeland and her adopted mother. If not good luck to her.
When she said 'i have a sister' i felt bad for her adopted sister actuallly 😢
Wow amazing 😢😄
Awesome,, definitely would like to meet my biological mother
My friend mandika was adopted from an orphanage in Romania when she was 4 on good Friday.
I love Romania!
Simona maybe should be grateful she was adopted out of there - it was deplorable conditions. Children were left by the thousands, they weren't all lucky to grow up in an adoptive home. Francis and her husband saved her. She has the ability to have a great life. And she is a whole person even if she couldn't see it that way. You tell your mind how to see it, not let your circumstances dictate it for you. Self love is equally important. It isn't found in others, it is found within. It becomes your unsinkable strength so, that if things go south elsewhere in life, you don't allow yourself to go south with it. We create our own reality with our own thoughts and actions. Glad she found her Romanian roots. 🙏💫❤💥
Happy for both families 😅
Thank you Lady Theotokotos for bringing Simona back to her biological family.
I pray Simona will be able to embrace both of her families. Thank you Simona's guardian's angel. ☦️
David Lomas pronounces Ceaușescu (Chou-shes-koo) as Chauchesky like it's a Slavic name. lol
I feel really bad for the mother who adopted her. She seems ungrateful for her. She would have nothing without them. She looks like Natalia grace.
Agreed. Being bullied by people outside your adopted family doesn't justify you to blame it on the people that saved, raised, provided, supported and loved you.
@@LORGSW6 agree, and kids bully for all sorts of reasons. I was a full-blooded local native, and got bullied because of my appearance. If its not one thing it's another. so wrong of her to take that as truth, that she didn't belong and worse to resent her mother for bringing her there.
@daniell...I would think she was expressing everything she trully felt, including that hurtful part about being Taken from her country. The adopted mother undestand her although it hurts her. Later that young woman Will undertand how she was saved instead of "Taken", I hope so for the sake of both, her and the adoptive mother. ejarvis157
I am an adult adoptee who was removed from my birth home at 4 years of age and put into foster care with my two older half-siblings. Our adoption was a closed adoption. As an adult, I found my entire birth family after hitting a lot of brick walls. I disagree with this show in bringing Simona to another country without having first seen the birth family and finding out if they wanted contact. I've watched a couple of other "finding lost relatives" type shows, and this seems to be the norm of just going without making positive contact first and confirming they want contact. I know from firsthand experience what it's like to have birth family members who do not want contact no matter how much I, as the adoptee, may want it. It is so very painful. But I also get it and respect the decision. No one knows the full circumstances of why a birth family gives up a child (or children) for adoption. Most times, it's because of poverty, young age at pregnancy, infidelity, abuse, drugs/alcohol, thinking they have no other choice, etc. I think shows like these need to be respectful and make contact first between all parties involved before having an adoptee travel thousands of miles to meet someone who may not want contact. I am fortunate that though my birth half-brother from my birth father's side of the family did not wish to remain in contact with me, my 1st cousins did. When I found my birth mother's family, I contacted my half siblings I was raised with (we were all three adopted into the same home) if they wanted contact with her family. My brother did, and my sister did not. I honored my sister's wishes. I think these shows just need to be mindful that not everyone wants contact and they have very deep personal reasons for not wanting to do so, especially if the children that were placed for adoption were older kids. There's a lot of emotional scarring on all sides.
I cant understand Simonas anger at her adoptive mother, she saved her from a life of misery in that orphanage
I’m overwhelmed that you went through the verbal style abuse in New Zeland.
Ty for not just covering celebrities. Because not everyone cares where they are from of they are American.
I love this channel but please can we get rid of the background music. It spoils it all.
I noticed how her and her birth mom’s hair was the same colour.
I CANNOT imagine a woman giving her child away
Iv got family somewhere in Romania there was a slavik girl found in or near Birmingham England of my ancestors no name yet but I know my Romanian ancestors where the first Romanian farmers and were Roma and also most of the Balkans Hungary Bulgaria ect stainbank Lombard wallace or Crawford are the family names if anyone reconises thoes names let me know
So the birth mom choose a man over her child, that's so sad and pathetic and kinda unforgivable. She had younger kids by this man but gave away a child she had already been raising , all because of this man not wanting her. He would have been kicked out, not my child . I know she wants to meet her birth mom but does she fully understand her birth mom gave her away just to keep a man ,who she didn't end up staying with.
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God works in a mysterious way. He hears and answers our prayers, in his own time and in his own way.
This is such an embarrassing part of our country’s history. I myself who was born and raised in Romania can’t believe this because I’ve never heard of something crazy like this. Romanian families love and protect their children. She might be a Gypsy and they are many careless with their children. Many highly educated people come from Romania. 🇷🇴 It’s unfair that something like this is shown on tv to put my country down.
We are not careless with our children. Why steal our children and then begrudge the care of them. Steal ours and then abandon your own!!! If Romanian children were neglected our Romani children didn't stand a chance😢
adoptions from Romania were highly problematic, and eventually all adoptions to the US were shut down due trauma, violence, and having to return children because they had been so traumatized.
I’m confused… it sounds like she gave her daughter up because the man she married didn’t want to raise someone else’s kid… and then to be put in that god awful orphanage not knowing if she would get adopted…. Please correct me if I’m wrong… if I’m not… there is something very flawed with this woman!!!
She had to survive somehow and perhaps this marriage was her only choice .
You probably cant imagine what the situation was like then in Romania.
She chose to be with a new man and to have his children. She could have chosen to stay with her previous son and daughter and not date a new man.
@@someone3187 i would have to rewatch, but i think that Maria said she "split from her husband", so not 100% on whether it was her who left or if he walked out? Maybe she did leave, it's always possible he was abusive etc, and she ended leaving one "bad" relationship for another one that was also "bad", as those cycles also happen where women go from one abusive relationship to another. Maybe she thought this one would provide for her and her children better? She may not have seen what was coming with political situation at that time, and the then need to re-marry? Would need to have a better idea of time-line. Things change and people make decisions the best they can with the information they have and what they understand of it at the time. Maria seems to be fairly uneducated and unlikely to have ever been in a position of privilege, so I'm not sure it is completely fair to judge her without the whole story. Maybe she was just looking out for herself, but i really don't get that from what they showed
@@BlackStump172 BS… she’s been working at the same place ever since she gave up that child so she had the means to support her self and that child yes she goes on to marry a man has two more children. Now he’s gone and guess who still supporting the children
you should be very thankful to your adopted mom never say you feel more like a family in Romania,than in the place of your adopted family, that would hurt your adopted family,,if they don't adopt you, what happened to you now
400 children at one time in there !!!!!!!!
Are you kidding me ?!?!?
Do these people not know about birth controll or pulling out , geeeeeesh!!!!!
Caută informații despre România comunistă înainte de a judeca...habar nu ai despre ce vorbești...
Ceausescu banned all birth control
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She seems quite ready to ditch her adoptive family and move to Romania...just a feeling I'm getting
I agree.