It was a jab at the bridal company. Considering 'nude' to be "white' or light complexion. So most blacks would not be considered 'nude' in this case @@Vero2yu
@@VirgoValley Do not call a stranger ''bruv, bruh, bro'' and so on bcz a stranger is not a sibling, family, friend at all. Secondly the term ''bruv, bruh, bro'' are male words, meaning for males only, so for that reason too it can not be used since I am a female and not a male. Bye. Lame boy.
You know, it takes more white people like this to speak out about the insanity of how people of color are treated in this country. Kudos to you and may you have a happy and loving life with your partner.
And yet when we get tired of companies/institutions not doing right by us and we choose to make products for ourselves, educate ourselves about our history or start our own businesses we're told we are being divisive. Whatever.
It's the same for white people, should they require a different colour than white, they will have to pay extra. This guy has never worked one day in his life in tailoring. Coloured lining are just more expensive than black, white, beige that are neutral. He thinks he has achieved something great. The media are on him. His fiancée's better watch out where she is stepping on. HE HAS CERTAINLY NOT ADDRESSED RACISM BUT HIS OWN EGO. In the insane society we are now made to live in, people are jumping on the first train without checking whether it's going to hell! Just have to read the comments to realise the mindset of most. No wonder: people are eating the same junk food, watching the same junk tv shows and news, sleep walking, ideologised, mesmerised, mixing up, on drugs... What a mess!
That's is what I was thinking! I'd be throwing in matching skin tone this & that for every customer. Are they people in the business of selling dresses or owners of dresses on display?
Most people don’t know how to do that or find a black own bridal place. If there are any black owned bridal shops this is not common or easy to find. The issue is the bridal industry and them being racist, unfair and taking advantage of minorities, and how they need to change. Any bride should be able to shop at any bridal store and not go through this. It’s going to take videos like this and exposure to put them on blast. When the pressure is on and there is public outcry that’s when change may come. This hasn’t been exposed enough. I’m black, have been married and never knew this. I got a dress from a regular bridal shop, but didn’t need the extra pieces. Never knew this!
They’re just as expensive. You guys aren’t considering the fact that anytime something has to be dyed different than the standard color it’s going to cost more money. Where the company went wrong was not explaining this in a professional manner.
I'm disgusted with myself for never giving this type of treatment a thought. Thanks to the bride and groom for bringing it to my attention. Have a long and happy marriage.
We're all limited by our own world view. We broaden it by listening and empathizing when others share theirs, which you are doing. No need to be "disgusted" with yourself as long as you keep growing.
She’s beautiful. A gorgeous couple. Congratulations!! I’m looking forward to human beings choosing to treat each other better and being more inclusive and welcoming to each other.
How alarming indeed! We had Covid-19 in 2020 for one year and a half with so many people dying. Wasn't it more alarming? He seems to be a Zoomer, from the Generation Z; they are easily offended.
Fabric has different colors. I know it stinks, but yes, you have to pay for the additional fabric to be cut. Many of those nudes don't match most skin tones. Beige Nude wouldn't match a lot of women that are very pale or super tan. They should just put it into the price and not bother the bride with this additional detail.
It seems like they over charge for everything especially when your skin tone is involved, i'm glad she has someone to have her back. discrimination is real only when they get called out or their money is affected that's when they want to change things around for a second. Sigh!
If someone want to change it after, especially just bcz of money, that is people who need to go bankrupt lol. They often do not change it bcz of money, not for anything real, soo.
I don’t understand why it’s not a color that is hard to find it’s brown there are lot’s of thing’s that are brown it’s ridiculous and unfair to charge more for brown‼️‼️
That's sad, but I guess the designers are responsible for this. I don't really know how the business works but to what I heard in a tv show, white is the cheapest color to make if you make colored fabrics into something that's extra but in this case under garments should be available to all color tones. This is really sad.
Yes, white hardly has to be colored, so it’s going to be cheaper than all the other colors which can vary in price due to the pigments used. The brown nude fabric being more expensive is because it’s a custom color. There are ways to get around the higher cost though.
I side with this couple, because it's not about the standard "white skin matching" being the free undergarment and the darker undergarment being an extra cost. It's how they informed her while trying on the dress. And they should apologize because of that fact and offer to make her "undergarment skin color match" free specifically in her case. In the future inform brides that either all undergarments matches are free or there is a standardized cost across the board for it before any bride tries on a wedding gown in their store.
I agree for the most part, but we don't know the full story.. for example, does the standard white undergarment work for darker skin tone as well (meaning does it compromise the overall appearance once the dress is fitted on you)? If so, it may have just been a cost decision to standardize the undergarment to match the dress color throughout the store. Than it makes sense that the store is at least allowing customers the option to customize the undergarment for an extra price (for those that care for that level of customization). I on the other hand can care less and wouldn't take it personally.
I agree they didn't treat her right, and I think they should have a third option for darker skin tones. I don't see anything wrong with them charging extra since it has to be ordered first before they make it. I don't know maybe it's more expensive to make the undergarments using darker fabrics, but that would just be me. I don't really know enough to judge anyone.
I totally agree with them. All skin colors are beautiful and worthy, companies need to consider all not just one. No group needs to come up with their own company to accommodate themselves. If their group were excluded they will also scream holy hell too. But, they tend not to have that experience in America only those with melanin in their skin do. How silly is that?
so the thing is beige is probably the standard color from manufacturing which is why it would be free. to either lighten or darken it would cost time and money. this isn't them being biased or racist they're just making smart business sense... there are actually people being treated badly she isnt one of them
That's so wrong. I would have walked out. I can buy a dress from some non-terrible business. And telling you the "nude" aka pale skinned one is free was just extra crappy. What's the name of that place so we can boycott?
You’d be boycotting for no reason. It’s standard for custom dye jobs to cost more. So if you want a lighter or darker fabric than the standard option it’s going to cost more. This lady is complaining about something that is beyond the shops control. Her real grievance is with the fabric and dye industry.
I would stop complaining and capitalize on a business opportunity because if this is clearly an issue, it'll be a successful one?... lemons just made your lemonade!
It wouldn’t be successful because there are black owned shops that already offer darker nude fabrics. The thing they don’t tell you is that they already included the price for a custom dye job in the bill. This shop was honest about it. You guys have to keep in mind that if you want something lighter or darker it’s going to be an extra cost because it’s either going to be a custom dye job, or if the fabric is already dyed it’s going to be more expensive.
It’s just the business’s way of making more money in the name of custom made just like the designer wear or accessories which charges exorbitant prices in the name of qualitative brand name.
Oh please. Did they say all that in the store? Or march back to the store to demand a refund, Or were they like "sure, here you go!" and complain later on tik tok for the clout?
White/beige nude is usually the standard color for most bridal undergarments. So yes if you wanted something in a different flesh tone (regardless of it was lighter or darker) it’s going to cost more because they’d either have to dye it themselves or outsource it to be died by someone else for a proper color match. Based upon what the bride said the rep said, it doesn’t sound like the woman was trying to be racist but tell her, her options. For the bridal industry to make an array of shades out the gate for brides especially when you consider fabric and production costs it’s not cost effective for them to do that unless there’s an additional charge. It would be smart however depending the bridal shop/retailer to directly pair up with companies that do make/create varied shaded undergarments for them to offer brides. While it probably won’t be free they can at least be some sort of discount or a buy one get one free deal.
The issue isn't the cost, the issue is the attitude behind choosing one as "the standard" and then making her feel like she's "different" in a negative way. That she's an inconvenience, that they have to do "extra" in order for her to have the dress work for her as she is. Put yourself in her shoes - she's up there in a really vulnerable and tender moment, and you get told you have to "pay extra" for WHO YOU ARE. That's just awful - and you can hear the impact in her voice. The sales associate wasn't "trying" to be racist, but she lacked empathy - she could have very easily waited until the bride was back in her normal clothes, one on one without everyone looking at her, and said something like; "I am assuming you would like the cups to match your skin tone, we know beige doesn't work for most people, this company offers two colour options - one in beige, one in brown, and charges $X for the brown cups. We also have a seamstress on hand who could help match a colour and replace them for you." That's a very different experience - even if the company itself has not included the price for the brown cups the same as the beige, it would have been a very different experience for her. We also don't live in a world or a country where everyone has the same skin tone - hispanic people and black people in the US make up about 20% each approx - that's about 40% of people that will need a darker tone than the beige they chose as the "standard." I don't have percentages for this, but even if the 60% white was 100%, the beige DOES NOT WORK for a large portion of "white" people - we either need a lighter shade and or a cool toned colour. Not to mention the approx 5% asian population who often have similar needs - either lighter or darker. As a guesstimate, that is well over 50% of the population that needs a DIFFERENT colour to the beige that they have chosen as standard. If we assume 50% of people are cool toned, and take the 60% white statistic (not adding up to 100%), that's 75% of the population that needs a different colour than beige. That is by FAR NOT the "majority" and therefore doesn't even make sense business wise. So why is she, and everyone else who needs a different colour, being treated as "other"? That's the problem. I am one of the MANY people who "nude" does not and has never worked for. I can tell you as someone who has never been actively bullied for my skin tone, although I have received "comments" about being pale, it feels extremely dehumanizing to see a beautiful dress or shoe or makeup, see it called "nude" or have it be the lightest/darkest colour they offer and have it not work for me, while sales associates try to "make a sale" anyway, saying it looks "fine" even though I can tell it does not. "Nude" as a design is supposed to create a certain effect, and when it is a noticeably different colour to your skin tone it does not create that effect, it changes the design completely or makes you look ill. To dismiss someone's experience like this is extremely dehumanizing, it's gaslighting, and POC experience not only these moments hundreds of times, but also actively get bullied and targeted as well. I tear up when I find something that does not work for me and someone is trying to gaslight me into agreeing that it's "fine." Now imagine that plus also memories and trauma for actively being bullied as well. We need to have more empathy for each other. And stop trying to insist that everything is "fine" when it's very clearly not. She is telling you her experience. We need to listen to each other.
*No one can ''make you feel weird'' as in if she or others feel weird that is from own feelings and nothing more. Can be caused by others of course, but you feel weird bcz You feel it loool, but whatever. Lol.* *Insecurities should stop.*
It was very difficult to watch and when she came in to the frame to wave and smile…during a time he is showing his “outrage” came off a bit bully’ish on their part.
Standard in ballet shoes is black, though, so i don't understand that. As far as bridal garments, makes no sense to charge more. Different colored undergarments are everywhere. Wondering if this shop was taking advantage or if its all shops .
For women, the standard color was pink....an offshoot of flesh tone. The trend for people of color dyeing them a different color is recent, like maybe the 2000s. I was born in 1959. Non-white underwear has not always been 'everywhere', and to this day white is definitely cheaper. Until recently, getting a multi pack of black, like you could white, was damn near impossible.
It make sense because the shop has to either custom dye the piece, or the company they buy the already dyed fabric from is going to be more expensive than the standard color because it required more dye. Fabrics and dyes are more expensive the more you change the color.
it is not right for sure that there is an upcharge for darker colors. In this video it is said, by the couple, that the bride- to-be responded to the the salon associate she would take the nude and dye them. However, on Tamron's show she said she paid the upcharge for the darker color? th-cam.com/video/x701QgdpTo8/w-d-xo.htmlsi=fdGQgaRWsyaFZOBz. I'm confused, did anyone else catch that?
Umm no. According to actual statistics “by the 10th year of marriage…Black wife/White husband marriages are 44% less likely to end in divorce than White wife/White husband couples over the same period”
*First error is ''having to dye the clothing'' in different color. Like, stop being so insecure about what skin tone you have when it is what you are meant to have. Same with gender, for all those delusional ''Trans'' people, should accept what is reality and there is no need to change anything. All the colours are great so wear whatever, orange, yellow and so on.*
So we should just put up with it? I'm one of those women who it doesn’t fit because I'm pale, and it is distressing to put on an outfit, have it be called "nude" and have people tell you "it's fine" when it's clearly not and completely ruins the illusion and therefore design of the dress. It's not even about paying someone to make the changes - it feels dehumanizing to be categorized as "not nude" (it feels like they're saying not human - they’re telling you you're something "other") and "somone not worth thinking about and including." That's how it feels. It's just awful, and I've been on the verge of tears just like this lady many times. Have some empathy for your fellow humans please.
*Pink, Yellow, Orange, Green, all the colours are great and one does not ''have to'' change the clothing they have. That is their own choices, not a must, so that insecure sickness is just stupid. In my opinion. She chose to change it, nobody could force that, soo.*
This needs to be changed for sure but she is embarressed?? She's crying? Come on. It needs to change but this poor me victim narative needs to change too.
I dislike people like you who invalidate other people's experiences because it's never happened to you. Would you like to share what has made you feel humiliated, hurt or out of the flow, so we can mock you and tell you how ridiculous you are being? Come on, or do you lack the courage this young woman did?
@@allegrap1054 Was she really? Or does she just want attention? It’s known that anytime you want a lighter or darker color than the standard color it’s going to be more expensive. Her get upset by this isn’t the shop’s fault. It’s just a reflection of how expensive dye is. It would have been the same thing if she went to a black-owned shop. The darker nude fabric would have costed more and that cost would have been passed on to the cost of the dress. That’s just how it is.
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So glad he stood up for his fiancee.
I didnt know all these years that walking around as a black person, I could walk around without any clothes on and I would not be considered nude.
What are you even talking about? Explain that comment?
@@Vero2yu- if ANYONE walks around without clothes on they are NUDE (aka Naked).
It was a jab at the bridal company. Considering 'nude' to be "white' or light complexion. So most blacks would not be considered 'nude' in this case @@Vero2yu
@@Vero2yuum put context clues together bruv, it’s not hard to understand her statement, it’s pretty straightforward.
@@VirgoValley Do not call a stranger ''bruv, bruh, bro'' and so on bcz a stranger is not a sibling, family, friend at all. Secondly the term ''bruv, bruh, bro'' are male words, meaning for males only, so for that reason too it can not be used since I am a female and not a male. Bye.
Lame boy.
You know, it takes more white people like this to speak out about the insanity of how people of color are treated in this country. Kudos to you and may you have a happy and loving life with your partner.
And yet when we get tired of companies/institutions not doing right by us and we choose to make products for ourselves, educate ourselves about our history or start our own businesses we're told we are being divisive. Whatever.
It's the same for white people, should they require a different colour than white, they will have to pay extra.
This guy has never worked one day in his life in tailoring. Coloured lining are just more expensive than black, white, beige that are neutral.
He thinks he has achieved something great. The media are on him. His fiancée's better watch out where she is stepping on. HE HAS CERTAINLY NOT ADDRESSED RACISM BUT HIS OWN EGO.
In the insane society we are now made to live in, people are jumping on the first train without checking whether it's going to hell! Just have to read the comments to realise the mindset of most. No wonder: people are eating the same junk food, watching the same junk tv shows and news, sleep walking, ideologised, mesmerised, mixing up, on drugs... What a mess!
That's just wrong! We are a biracial family and if something like this happens I'll speak up.
So, sorry sweetie, you had to go through that ❤
This is just an opportunity for black and brown people to capitalized on and make our own bridal dresses.
Why would anyone get married?
That's is what I was thinking! I'd be throwing in matching skin tone this & that for every customer. Are they people in the business of selling dresses or owners of dresses on display?
Or go to diverse women owned businesses. I never knew something like this existed!
@@dianev6180 surprise! America is racist
Most people don’t know how to do that or find a black own bridal place. If there are any black owned bridal shops this is not common or easy to find. The issue is the bridal industry and them being racist, unfair and taking advantage of minorities, and how they need to change. Any bride should be able to shop at any bridal store and not go through this. It’s going to take videos like this and exposure to put them on blast. When the pressure is on and there is public outcry that’s when change may come. This hasn’t been exposed enough. I’m black, have been married and never knew this. I got a dress from a regular bridal shop, but didn’t need the extra pieces. Never knew this!
There are black owned companies for this and there are black wedding dress designers. We need to take our money there.
They’re just as expensive. You guys aren’t considering the fact that anytime something has to be dyed different than the standard color it’s going to cost more money. Where the company went wrong was not explaining this in a professional manner.
Glad you found a champion in this man
Good for you, for speaking up on this 👍❤
I'm disgusted with myself for never giving this type of treatment a thought. Thanks to the bride and groom for bringing it to my attention. Have a long and happy marriage.
We're all limited by our own world view. We broaden it by listening and empathizing when others share theirs, which you are doing. No need to be "disgusted" with yourself as long as you keep growing.
She’s beautiful. A gorgeous couple. Congratulations!! I’m looking forward to human beings choosing to treat each other better and being more inclusive and welcoming to each other.
He'll make a wonderful husband 😢
This is alarming news and I didn’t realize this is going on in 2020’s
How alarming indeed! We had Covid-19 in 2020 for one year and a half with so many people dying. Wasn't it more alarming? He seems to be a Zoomer, from the Generation Z; they are easily offended.
Fabric has different colors. I know it stinks, but yes, you have to pay for the additional fabric to be cut. Many of those nudes don't match most skin tones. Beige Nude wouldn't match a lot of women that are very pale or super tan. They should just put it into the price and not bother the bride with this additional detail.
Apparently people nowadays don’t understand that white is the absence of color and that’s why the standard is white lol Has nothing to do with race
This woman is very beautiful, i feel like she could be in a beauty pageant.
If we have to accommodate overweight folks…we should accommodate folks with biologically given trait.
This is beautiful and I hope it illicits change! ✨💋
I love how her Hubby stood on business and she chilling like ‘get em honey’ 😂❤️
It seems like they over charge for everything especially when your skin tone is involved, i'm glad she has someone to have her back. discrimination is real only when they get called out or their money is affected that's when they want to change things around for a second. Sigh!
If someone want to change it after, especially just bcz of money, that is people who need to go bankrupt lol.
They often do not change it bcz of money, not for anything real, soo.
SMH…. You’re beautiful, this is another one of the issues that most people just don’t get, when they say everything in America is fine.
I don’t understand why it’s not a color that is hard to find it’s brown there are lot’s of thing’s that are brown it’s ridiculous and unfair to charge more for brown‼️‼️
And indeed change the name. They should say "would you like matching skin tone undergarments?" and then make those items available.
That's sad, but I guess the designers are responsible for this. I don't really know how the business works but to what I heard in a tv show, white is the cheapest color to make if you make colored fabrics into something that's extra but in this case under garments should be available to all color tones. This is really sad.
Yes, white hardly has to be colored, so it’s going to be cheaper than all the other colors which can vary in price due to the pigments used. The brown nude fabric being more expensive is because it’s a custom color. There are ways to get around the higher cost though.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809Apparently most people don’t know this and instead want to cry discrimination
I side with this couple, because it's not about the standard "white skin matching" being the free undergarment and the darker undergarment being an extra cost.
It's how they informed her while trying on the dress.
And they should apologize because of that fact and offer to make her "undergarment skin color match" free specifically in her case.
In the future inform brides that either all undergarments matches are free or there is a standardized cost across the board for it before any bride tries on a wedding gown in their store.
How much extra did it cost? (I'm just curious. This is not for me to be like "oh, it's not that much")
I agree for the most part, but we don't know the full story.. for example, does the standard white undergarment work for darker skin tone as well (meaning does it compromise the overall appearance once the dress is fitted on you)? If so, it may have just been a cost decision to standardize the undergarment to match the dress color throughout the store. Than it makes sense that the store is at least allowing customers the option to customize the undergarment for an extra price (for those that care for that level of customization). I on the other hand can care less and wouldn't take it personally.
I agree they didn't treat her right, and I think they should have a third option for darker skin tones. I don't see anything wrong with them charging extra since it has to be ordered first before they make it. I don't know maybe it's more expensive to make the undergarments using darker fabrics, but that would just be me. I don't really know enough to judge anyone.
Sad to say..this happens a lot
Baby girl there is your idea for a Business!!!!!!
Why not say the name or the place?
It should be with extra cost.
Was this in Canada? Did this happen in Canada? January 2024.
Kudos for the husband for speaking up for her. Glad she found her prince charming. Too often we stay silent. Being silent is being complicit.
They are not married so, he cannot be her husband.
How many times have you remained silent?
I totally agree with them. All skin colors are beautiful and worthy, companies need to consider all not just one. No group needs to come up with their own company to accommodate themselves. If their group were excluded they will also scream holy hell too. But, they tend not to have that experience in America only those with melanin in their skin do. How silly is that?
so the thing is beige is probably the standard color from manufacturing which is why it would be free. to either lighten or darken it would cost time and money. this isn't them being biased or racist they're just making smart business sense... there are actually people being treated badly she isnt one of them
You got it. This isn’t the store fault. It’s the reality of how expensive dye is. The more you use, the more expensive.
What about wedding dresses that aren't white? Are the undergarments also nude?
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I am sorry you were put in that situation. That really sucks! I hope you continue to challenge that organization!
Charge everyone!!!
That's so wrong. I would have walked out. I can buy a dress from some non-terrible business. And telling you the "nude" aka pale skinned one is free was just extra crappy. What's the name of that place so we can boycott?
You’d be boycotting for no reason. It’s standard for custom dye jobs to cost more. So if you want a lighter or darker fabric than the standard option it’s going to cost more. This lady is complaining about something that is beyond the shops control. Her real grievance is with the fabric and dye industry.
This is disgusting. These people are desperate for attention.
I would stop complaining and capitalize on a business opportunity because if this is clearly an issue, it'll be a successful one?... lemons just made your lemonade!
It wouldn’t be successful because there are black owned shops that already offer darker nude fabrics. The thing they don’t tell you is that they already included the price for a custom dye job in the bill. This shop was honest about it. You guys have to keep in mind that if you want something lighter or darker it’s going to be an extra cost because it’s either going to be a custom dye job, or if the fabric is already dyed it’s going to be more expensive.
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It’s just the business’s way of making more money in the name of custom made just like the designer wear or accessories which charges exorbitant prices in the name of qualitative brand name.
No it’s not. It costs more money to custom dye fabric than it does to go with the standard option. That’s just how it is.
MORE BIRACIAL COUPLES!!!! MORE BIRACIAL COUPLES!!!!
Oh please. Did they say all that in the store? Or march back to the store to demand a refund, Or were they like "sure, here you go!" and complain later on tik tok for the clout?
Period stick up for yo wife boo boo
White/beige nude is usually the standard color for most bridal undergarments. So yes if you wanted something in a different flesh tone (regardless of it was lighter or darker) it’s going to cost more because they’d either have to dye it themselves or outsource it to be died by someone else for a proper color match.
Based upon what the bride said the rep said, it doesn’t sound like the woman was trying to be racist but tell her, her options.
For the bridal industry to make an array of shades out the gate for brides especially when you consider fabric and production costs it’s not cost effective for them to do that unless there’s an additional charge.
It would be smart however depending the bridal shop/retailer to directly pair up with companies that do make/create varied shaded undergarments for them to offer brides. While it probably won’t be free they can at least be some sort of discount or a buy one get one free deal.
The issue isn't the cost, the issue is the attitude behind choosing one as "the standard" and then making her feel like she's "different" in a negative way. That she's an inconvenience, that they have to do "extra" in order for her to have the dress work for her as she is.
Put yourself in her shoes - she's up there in a really vulnerable and tender moment, and you get told you have to "pay extra" for WHO YOU ARE.
That's just awful - and you can hear the impact in her voice.
The sales associate wasn't "trying" to be racist, but she lacked empathy - she could have very easily waited until the bride was back in her normal clothes, one on one without everyone looking at her, and said something like; "I am assuming you would like the cups to match your skin tone, we know beige doesn't work for most people, this company offers two colour options - one in beige, one in brown, and charges $X for the brown cups. We also have a seamstress on hand who could help match a colour and replace them for you."
That's a very different experience - even if the company itself has not included the price for the brown cups the same as the beige, it would have been a very different experience for her.
We also don't live in a world or a country where everyone has the same skin tone - hispanic people and black people in the US make up about 20% each approx - that's about 40% of people that will need a darker tone than the beige they chose as the "standard." I don't have percentages for this, but even if the 60% white was 100%, the beige DOES NOT WORK for a large portion of "white" people - we either need a lighter shade and or a cool toned colour. Not to mention the approx 5% asian population who often have similar needs - either lighter or darker.
As a guesstimate, that is well over 50% of the population that needs a DIFFERENT colour to the beige that they have chosen as standard. If we assume 50% of people are cool toned, and take the 60% white statistic (not adding up to 100%), that's 75% of the population that needs a different colour than beige. That is by FAR NOT the "majority" and therefore doesn't even make sense business wise. So why is she, and everyone else who needs a different colour, being treated as "other"? That's the problem.
I am one of the MANY people who "nude" does not and has never worked for. I can tell you as someone who has never been actively bullied for my skin tone, although I have received "comments" about being pale, it feels extremely dehumanizing to see a beautiful dress or shoe or makeup, see it called "nude" or have it be the lightest/darkest colour they offer and have it not work for me, while sales associates try to "make a sale" anyway, saying it looks "fine" even though I can tell it does not. "Nude" as a design is supposed to create a certain effect, and when it is a noticeably different colour to your skin tone it does not create that effect, it changes the design completely or makes you look ill. To dismiss someone's experience like this is extremely dehumanizing, it's gaslighting, and POC experience not only these moments hundreds of times, but also actively get bullied and targeted as well.
I tear up when I find something that does not work for me and someone is trying to gaslight me into agreeing that it's "fine." Now imagine that plus also memories and trauma for actively being bullied as well.
We need to have more empathy for each other.
And stop trying to insist that everything is "fine" when it's very clearly not.
She is telling you her experience.
We need to listen to each other.
*No one can ''make you feel weird'' as in if she or others feel weird that is from own feelings and nothing more. Can be caused by others of course, but you feel weird bcz You feel it loool, but whatever. Lol.*
*Insecurities should stop.*
So they did what people always do....make a cringy tiktok about it.
It was very difficult to watch and when she came in to the frame to wave and smile…during a time he is showing his “outrage” came off a bit bully’ish on their part.
Go shop somewhere else
Standard in ballet shoes is black, though, so i don't understand that. As far as bridal garments, makes no sense to charge more. Different colored undergarments are everywhere. Wondering if this shop was taking advantage or if its all shops .
For women, the standard color was pink....an offshoot of flesh tone. The trend for people of color dyeing them a different color is recent, like maybe the 2000s. I was born in 1959. Non-white underwear has not always been 'everywhere', and to this day white is definitely cheaper. Until recently, getting a multi pack of black, like you could white, was damn near impossible.
It make sense because the shop has to either custom dye the piece, or the company they buy the already dyed fabric from is going to be more expensive than the standard color because it required more dye. Fabrics and dyes are more expensive the more you change the color.
Name the store or it didn't happen.
VERY, VERY slow news day at Good Morning America.
it is not right for sure that there is an upcharge for darker colors. In this video it is said, by the couple, that the bride- to-be responded to the the salon associate she would take the nude and dye them. However, on Tamron's show she said she paid the upcharge for the darker color? th-cam.com/video/x701QgdpTo8/w-d-xo.htmlsi=fdGQgaRWsyaFZOBz. I'm confused, did anyone else catch that?
If this affected so many women then why did it take soooooo long for this to hit the news?
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#thisisAmerica
somehow she's a victim...this is pathetic.
He's childish for an adult man, 40% of mixed race marriages end in divorce.
Umm no. According to actual statistics “by the 10th year of marriage…Black wife/White husband marriages are 44% less likely to end in divorce than White wife/White husband couples over the same period”
Reported for obvious racism
*First error is ''having to dye the clothing'' in different color. Like, stop being so insecure about what skin tone you have when it is what you are meant to have. Same with gender, for all those delusional ''Trans'' people, should accept what is reality and there is no need to change anything. All the colours are great so wear whatever, orange, yellow and so on.*
Pick other dress, It's really simple
But beige nude doesn't fit many fair skinned people either, so..
So we should just put up with it? I'm one of those women who it doesn’t fit because I'm pale, and it is distressing to put on an outfit, have it be called "nude" and have people tell you "it's fine" when it's clearly not and completely ruins the illusion and therefore design of the dress. It's not even about paying someone to make the changes - it feels dehumanizing to be categorized as "not nude" (it feels like they're saying not human - they’re telling you you're something "other") and "somone not worth thinking about and including." That's how it feels. It's just awful, and I've been on the verge of tears just like this lady many times. Have some empathy for your fellow humans please.
*Pink, Yellow, Orange, Green, all the colours are great and one does not ''have to'' change the clothing they have. That is their own choices, not a must, so that insecure sickness is just stupid. In my opinion. She chose to change it, nobody could force that, soo.*
This needs to be changed for sure but she is embarressed?? She's crying? Come on. It needs to change but this poor me victim narative needs to change too.
Yes, she’s embarrassed and hurt because she was made to feel uncomfortable and “different” at a very special moment.
I dislike people like you who invalidate other people's experiences because it's never happened to you. Would you like to share what has made you feel humiliated, hurt or out of the flow, so we can mock you and tell you how ridiculous you are being? Come on, or do you lack the courage this young woman did?
@@allegrap1054 Was she really? Or does she just want attention? It’s known that anytime you want a lighter or darker color than the standard color it’s going to be more expensive. Her get upset by this isn’t the shop’s fault. It’s just a reflection of how expensive dye is. It would have been the same thing if she went to a black-owned shop. The darker nude fabric would have costed more and that cost would have been passed on to the cost of the dress. That’s just how it is.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809Definitely attention. This is how people get attention nowadays
I think there are so many shops why choose this one and make a content ? Attention hoo